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0:00:04 Hello, boys and girls, ladies and germs. This is Tim Ferriss. Welcome to another episode of
0:00:10 the Tim Ferriss Show. And this conversation is a long overdue conversation. I have been wanting
0:00:15 to make this happen for quite some time. My guest today, Cyan Bannister, is a general partner at
0:00:21 Long Journey Ventures, an early stage venture capital firm. She was also an early investor in a few
0:00:26 names you might recognize, Uber, SpaceX, DeepMind, Flexport, a firm and has invested in more than
0:00:32 100 companies. She was most recently at Founder’s Fund. I was actually an LPN Founder’s Fund way
0:00:39 back in the day. A top tier fund in San Francisco, you can subscribe to Cyan’s substack at uglyduckling.substack.com.
0:00:47 Her writing is great. I would recommend subscribing. And you can find her online, at least on X,
0:00:54 the artist formerly known as Twitter, at CyanTist, one of the best handles I’ve seen, C-Y-A-N-T-I-S-T.
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0:06:09 I’m a cybernetic organism living this year over a metal endoskeleton.
0:06:18 Sayon, nice to see you.
0:06:19 And good to see you.
0:06:26 So we just listed off, I’m using the Royal Way, some very impressive names. And certainly I would
0:06:35 consider you one of the top angel investors of many vintages, not just one across quite a few
0:06:43 different time periods. But it didn’t start off that way. You weren’t the child of Tim Draper
0:06:51 or anything leading to athertine at age seven, things along these lines. Could you take us back
0:06:55 to homelessness in your life and how that factors in?
0:07:04 I was raised on the Navajo Reservation in Northern Arizona. And I had an extraordinary
0:07:10 education. And I think I was incredibly lucky to have been educated there because I have about
0:07:15 the equivalent of an eighth or ninth grade education. And the reason for this is due to
0:07:20 circumstances outside of my control, I became homeless off and on when I was 13, and then
0:07:27 homeless officially when I was 15 and became a ward of the state of Arizona. And this was because
0:07:34 my mother, she had a very difficult time keeping children in her house past the age of 13. My
0:07:40 sister was removed from the house when she was a teenager. My brother was removed when he was a
0:07:49 young boy. So to dive into a couple of things you mentioned, and if you don’t want to cover any
0:07:54 of this, we don’t need to. But the first is, I suppose, a question a lot of listeners will have
0:08:00 on their mind, which is what was it like for you growing up on a reservation? What are some of the
0:08:05 memories that stand out or characteristics that stand out?
0:08:13 Well, first of all, I am white. And so being on a reservation, I was a minority. And it gave me a
0:08:20 really unique perspective around being a minority. When I was a kid, I thought I was an albino Indian.
0:08:26 I just thought that I’d lost my melanin. And the other kids treated me the same. Because when
0:08:30 you’re a child and you’re small, you don’t know anything about racism. You don’t know anything
0:08:35 about being another. You start to notice these things. But you definitely don’t treat each other
0:08:41 differently. But as we started to get older, that’s when the name-calling started. That’s when
0:08:48 a little bit of the bullying started from other kids. And I can only suspect that they learned
0:08:54 this at home. Or they witnessed it someplace else because it certainly was not something they were
0:09:02 born with. And I’m happy that I experienced this because there is a lot of prejudice in this world.
0:09:06 And I would say there’s probably a lot more prejudice than there’s actually racism.
0:09:14 But experiencing that really taught me what it’s like to walk in those shoes and made me hyper
0:09:20 aware of it when I became an adult. The other thing is the culture is just a really rich culture.
0:09:26 And it’s very different than any other place you could ever live. I really recommend that people
0:09:31 visit the Navajo Reservation or any of the reservations that allow visitors. Because
0:09:38 it’s hard to believe that that’s in America. Because there’s this amazing swath of land
0:09:47 with a old, ancient culture that they preserve. And there’s just a lot of things that happen
0:09:51 there that you can’t experience any other place. And it’s right here if you’re in America and you’re
0:09:58 backdoor. And so being able to go and experience a ceremony or get a guided tour down a canyon
0:10:03 is something that I really recommend that everybody do. But when I was little, there were no guides.
0:10:09 I would just walk down into canyons and explore ruins. And the kids and I would run free and wild.
0:10:15 It was a very different time. But I also have a little bit of an accent. I don’t know if you notice
0:10:20 it. But if you go to the Navajo Reservation, you will see that people speak the way I speak.
0:10:27 And there’s just not a lot of variation in my tone. And then it just sort of goes up and down
0:10:32 in a certain way that’s very specific to that region. It’s created some confusion for me because
0:10:41 culturally, I am Native American. And that has always been bizarre when I moved to a place where
0:10:47 people didn’t understand our customs and the things that we respected and the holidays that
0:10:53 we observed or the customs that we had are just not anything that anybody I went to school with
0:10:59 after I left the reservation even understood. So I’ve always felt like an outsider no matter where
0:11:06 I am. And I think that’s been wonderful and incredible for my career. You can certainly look
0:11:11 at that and have kind of a victim mindset about it. But I took the opposite path, which was,
0:11:17 you know, this is what makes me special is that I don’t fit in wherever I am.
0:11:24 You can have a lot of questions about that. And before I get there, and this is again referring
0:11:29 to something you mentioned, that your mom had a hard time keeping kids in the home. What are some
0:11:33 of the reasons why kids were removed from the home by the state or otherwise?
0:11:41 My sister was removed first, but I was told a lie about her removal. I was told that she
0:11:49 ran away from home and was right after my brother was born. And we went out trick or treating.
0:11:53 And my child, mine remembers it as having the next day, but maybe it wasn’t the next day. But my
0:12:00 sister’s room was vacant and empty. And suddenly my little brother was in it. And I was expected to
0:12:06 just roll with it. And when I asked where she was, I was told she doesn’t want to live here anymore,
0:12:12 and she ran away. But reality was quite different. About a year later or so, I went to go visit my
0:12:17 grandparents and discovered that that’s where my sister had been the whole time. And my mother was
0:12:23 afraid that she was going to hurt the new baby. That your sister would harm the new baby. Yeah,
0:12:28 that my sister would harm the baby. And I don’t know where this fear comes from. There was nothing
0:12:34 rational about it. From my point of view, there wasn’t enough room for another kid. And so we
0:12:41 had to make room, and suddenly one was just replaced with the other. And that was very weird,
0:12:46 because my sister was my best friend in the world. She looked after me. We were incredibly close,
0:12:50 and then she was just ripped away. Luckily, I bonded with my brother. I could easily see how
0:12:57 that could have gone south, where I would have been filled with disapproval or I would be upset
0:13:03 about having that situation. But he was just really lovely, and I love my brother. But when my
0:13:08 brother was three years old, he was removed from the house next. And that was in a really contentious
0:13:16 divorce where a custody battle happened. And then my mother tried to implant false memories
0:13:24 with me. She had us try to perjure ourselves in court. And I really feel that this is when my
0:13:31 mother and I completely fell out. I refused to testify against my stepfather and accuse him
0:13:37 of abuses that she tried to plant in my memory. And I think this is important to highlight,
0:13:45 because a lot of people don’t talk about female abuse. They talk about usually men. But my mother
0:13:52 was incredibly abusive in very interesting ways. It wasn’t screaming, it wasn’t hitting, it was
0:14:00 neglect, and it was these social manipulations. And unknown to me out of my mother’s truck,
0:14:07 and it was still moving when she made the ask for me to lie in court. And I jumped out of the
0:14:11 truck and I rolled on the ground and I ran and I ran and I ran and I ran and I ran until I could
0:14:16 find a phone. And I called the number that I had on me for our child psychologist that
0:14:21 I had no idea was court appointed. I thought it was just someone my mom was having me see,
0:14:26 and that I could confide in him. And I called him and told him what my mother had asked me to do,
0:14:34 which was to lie about my stepfather molesting me, which he did not. And it all happened very
0:14:40 quickly after that. My brother was removed pretty much in the next 48 hours from the home,
0:14:45 and she lost custody of him. Now, why she didn’t lose custody of me, I still remains a mystery,
0:14:51 because I was the last child in the house. That made me like the sole focus of her ire after that.
0:14:57 And I’m also the kid who, you know, refused to fall in line and tell a lie.
0:15:02 And so we were at odds with each other. It just was never the same after that.
0:15:08 And we moved to Flagstaff, Arizona. She quit her job on the reservation as a teacher and decided to
0:15:15 become a scientist. So before this, she had an MFA in arts. And I suspect that she wanted to get
0:15:20 another degree in science because the man that she had divorced was a scientist. She wanted to
0:15:25 prove that she is intelligent. My mother is incredibly intelligent. One of the smartest
0:15:30 people I’ve ever met in my life. So I don’t know why she had to prove this to anybody.
0:15:35 But she went back to school and started taking up many jobs. So she would have one or two jobs
0:15:40 and go to school full time. And at that point, I was pretty much left to my own devices.
0:15:46 And she would come home after work. And that’s usually when I would get kicked out,
0:15:53 or she’d be angry with how I didn’t clean or keep the house. And it was just a constant cycle of
0:15:57 being kicked out, the police getting called, me getting picked up by the police, ending up in
0:16:01 jail sometimes. It’s a horrible system for kids, by the way, if we want to get into that topic,
0:16:08 into foster care and into group homes. But eventually, they had enough of this.
0:16:16 So she left me for a summer. And basically, she decided to go take a position at Lawrence
0:16:21 Livermore, a summer job or a summer research position. And she wanted me to come with her,
0:16:26 but I had to go to summer school and I had to stay in school if I was going to graduate.
0:16:32 Because home life was really, really bad. And so I told her about my desire to stay home and
0:16:40 she said no. But the next thing that happened, I did not expect, which is I came home from school
0:16:46 and discovered a $20 bill on the countertop with a note that said, “Good luck.” And her stuff gone.
0:16:51 And so the landlord showed up and basically said, “You can’t stay here.” And so I went out on the
0:16:57 street and the most miraculous thing happened. A lot of my life is a series of miraculous things
0:17:03 where people have stepped in at just the right moment to help me. And there was a woman who was
0:17:09 my friend Becky from band class. It was her mother who saw me sitting on the street corner crying and
0:17:12 she pulled her car over and she said, “What’s going on?” And I just started mumbling to her about
0:17:18 what was going on and she just said, “Get in.” And she took me home. I had no idea that Becky’s
0:17:25 dad was the general manager of Walmart. I had a nasty shoplifting habit as a young teenager.
0:17:31 And that Walmart I hit up a few times and I will never forget coming into that home and seeing that
0:17:37 man who was opening his home to me and really questioning my life choices and moral decisions
0:17:44 at that moment really taught me a really valuable lesson I never stole again. And this family took
0:17:49 me in and they tried to actually get custody of me. They tried to go to the court systems and
0:17:56 become my forever home. But my mother got back and she has this racket that she runs where
0:18:04 you have these kids and they’re really useful for free education, for free child care, for free housing.
0:18:09 And so we lived in student housing and if you don’t have a kid, you can’t live in student housing.
0:18:13 You can’t have a nice house. You have to live in a dorm room. So when she came back,
0:18:18 she got me back and that’s when the cycle of kicking me out started all over again.
0:18:24 And eventually I got picked up by a police officer named Officer Pratt. That’s actually
0:18:29 something I would love to find through this podcast if I can find Officer Pratt. Officer Pratt
0:18:35 probably did one of the most single important things in my life in helping me. He picked me up
0:18:38 and brought me to the courthouse because he arrested me several times.
0:18:40 And this is in Flagstaff?
0:18:44 Yeah, in Flagstaff. He did something he’d never done before and he took me to Dairy Queen
0:18:48 and he let me get whatever I wanted. And I was like, “Well, this is weird.”
0:18:53 And then he took me to the courthouse and then he paraded me into the courthouse and he let me
0:18:57 sit where the judge sits. And I was like, “This is very strange.” And he said, “Would you like some
0:19:02 spaghetti?” And he brought me spaghetti. And I’m like, “Why everybody’s being so nice to me?”
0:19:07 And then this woman came in and she introduced herself and she told me she was my public defender.
0:19:11 And I was confused about a lot of this terminology because I didn’t understand what I needed to
0:19:16 be defended from. Like, what did I do as a public? I remember thinking like, “I don’t know what this
0:19:22 means. None of this.” It’s like cosplay as far as I’m concerned. But they basically told me like,
0:19:27 “When the judge comes in, you are to stand. You are to say your honor. You are to say,
0:19:33 yes, your honor. No, your honor. And you are to sit.” And that’s it. Just behave yourself.
0:19:36 We got the rest. And I’m like, “Okay, but I don’t understand what’s going on.”
0:19:41 And then my mother came into the right of the courtroom and I’m on the left. And I look at
0:19:47 her and she never looks at me. And the judge came in and it all happened again. This stuff
0:19:52 happened so fast and time just, I don’t know, it’s hard to explain, but it changes. It like
0:19:56 dilates. But he looked at me and he said, “Syand, do you want to live in a cardboard box for the
0:20:01 rest of your life?” And he held up some book, which I assume is a book of the law. I had no
0:20:06 idea what he was holding up. And I said, “No, I do not want to live in a cardboard box.” And he
0:20:10 was like, “Is there anything in this book that tells you that you are above the law?” And I said,
0:20:15 “No, your honor, I’m not above the law.” And then he looked at my mother and he said,
0:20:18 “Do you want this child anymore?” And she said, “No, I do not.”
0:20:25 And the gavel just came down and he said, “The power invested in him and all that stuff.” And
0:20:31 basically said that I was now a ward of the state of Arizona. And what that means in
0:20:36 Arizona, it is not emancipation. It’s you get assigned a probation officer and you’re treated
0:20:41 like a criminal. If you want to live on your own, which is very, very difficult to do if you can
0:20:45 imagine at 15, there’s not a lot of people that will hire you. Not people will rent to you,
0:20:51 you can’t sign a contract either. They basically said you have 24 hours to find a place to live,
0:20:56 otherwise you end up in a group home. And the rules of living on your own are you have to
0:21:00 be in at nine o’clock, there’s a curfew, you’re not allowed to have boys over, you’re not allowed
0:21:04 to have marijuana, you have to work and you have to go to school. And then the strangest one of all
0:21:08 was you had to have a gallon of milk in your fridge at all times because they would show up and that
0:21:14 was like sign of adulting is if you can buy a gallon of milk and keep it fresh in your fridge
0:21:19 before the expiration date. It was the strangest thing. But I walked out of that courtroom.
0:21:25 I saw my mom again twice after that, but I didn’t see my mom leave and she never looked at me.
0:21:30 She just exited out some other door and that was the end of my mother.
0:21:37 And suddenly I’m a quote unquote independent person, not quite an adult. I go out and sit
0:21:43 on the curb and I remember looking up at the sky and I said, “Oh, sky, what do I do? What now?”
0:21:48 Because they gave me 24 hours to find a place to live. They said, “If you don’t find a place to
0:21:53 live, you know, you’re going into an unfortunate circumstance.” And so I went through my mental
0:21:59 map of how many friends did I have that were adults? And this one woman named Pam just came
0:22:04 in crystal clear and I said, “I’m going to walk to Pam’s. I’m going to ask her if I can stay there
0:22:09 and that’s going to give me some time.” And so I walked over there, knocked on the door,
0:22:14 “Pam, can I stay here?” She had no problem. She said, “Come in.” She gave me a corner on the floor.
0:22:18 I didn’t have a mattress. She said, “I recommend you get a pillow, but here’s a blanket.”
0:22:23 And that became my home. I think you’re going to see over and over. I didn’t see it then. I see
0:22:29 it now looking back at all of these precious moments where a person does something extraordinary
0:22:37 at just the right time. And that’s what Pam did. And I had my first home and that was in Flagstaff.
0:22:41 It was next to the train tracks. So it was a very strange home. It rumbled a lot.
0:22:45 And we got into a lot of shenanigans with the train because we were young and dumb, but
0:22:52 it was a great home. What helped save you or put you on the trajectory
0:23:00 to where you are today, given those starting conditions, let’s call it. So you’re sleeping
0:23:07 on the floor, at least to begin, at Pam’s house. Looking back, what do you think were the
0:23:17 critical moments, decisions, anything at all, if you had to point to one or a few things that
0:23:24 helped to bend the arc of your life to not go to a terrible place? Because I could see how many
0:23:31 people, with the experience you just described, could end up junkies, could end up dead, could
0:23:40 end up who knows, but certainly not operating at a very high level and with some very good reasons,
0:23:45 neglect, trauma, fill in the blank. So what are some of the things that saved you?
0:23:49 Well, I don’t know if you’ve ever seen those crusty punk kids that hang out on
0:23:54 Hayton Ashbury or you see them in every city that has any kind of population and they’re usually
0:23:59 sitting around a record store on the ground with a dog. Yeah, sure, of course. Yeah. Well,
0:24:06 I was one of those kids and I fell into that group in Flagstaff. There was a group of
0:24:13 wanderers who came in and took me under their wing and started teaching me the way of the streets,
0:24:17 because before this, I was thrust onto the streets and I was on my own and I did my best.
0:24:20 You know, I would stay under people’s beds, I would sleep in playgrounds,
0:24:27 I would find any place I could stay. But once I met some people who are a little more professional
0:24:33 and had a little more time under their belt at homelessness, I started to learn that there’s
0:24:40 a whole world out there of really interesting ways to get by. For example, you know, there’s
0:24:46 coffee houses that have creamer and creamer is relatively free and it has fat and calories in
0:24:50 it and they have sugar and honey. And if you get those things and you put them in a cup,
0:24:55 you can have a pretty nutritious meal. So there’s things like that. Once you’re homeless, you can
0:25:00 never be unhomeless. It’s really strange. Every time I walk around at a conference or anything,
0:25:05 I see all the waste. I see if I were a homeless person, I could come and I could have this,
0:25:11 no matter where I’m at. It’s really interesting. But before I got this house, there was a time where
0:25:18 I was homeless and hitchhiking. And my boyfriend at the time who was one of these crusty punk kids,
0:25:24 he goes by the name Cuddles, they all had these funny names. And he and I decided we were going
0:25:29 to hitchhike to New York. We got it in our heads from, at the time, Phoenix. I was in Phoenix.
0:25:36 We set out leaving from a coffee shop in Tempe, Arizona and ending up in Hema Springs, New Mexico.
0:25:43 We never made it to New York. Instead, we ended up in a hippie commune where they basically
0:25:50 had us bury pipe to justify our stay there. And then at the time, they had psilocybin spores.
0:25:53 I don’t know if they still do that or if they’re still around. I don’t want to get them in trouble.
0:26:00 But that’s how they made their income. And we lived in this little teeny tiny trailer in the
0:26:05 dead of winter. At some point, I got homesick. I couldn’t take it anymore. I was just like,
0:26:11 I need to go back to Arizona. I need to be in familiar territory. This is a very strange place
0:26:17 to be. And there was constantly different people showing up. Sometimes the police would come and
0:26:22 raid the place because there were people giving illegal tattoos. It was just nonstop stuff.
0:26:28 I wanted to be away from it. So I talked to my boyfriend into hitchhiking back to Arizona.
0:26:33 And I almost died on that return trip. A lot of times, you’re very lucky if you hitch a ride
0:26:37 where someone takes you the full way. Usually, you get like these little partial ways and you
0:26:41 have to stand on this, you know, somewhere and then someone takes you another segment and another
0:26:47 segment. Well, we got dropped off on one side of Albuquerque, New Mexico. And we had to walk
0:26:52 from one side to the other and cross a river. But crossing a river as a homeless person is
0:26:57 actually not that easy because a lot of the roadways don’t have sidewalks. So we were contemplating
0:27:02 some seriously dangerous things. We were thinking about looking around for flotation devices,
0:27:07 like how are we going to get across this river, you know? And eventually, we didn’t have a map.
0:27:11 We just walked and walked and walked until there was a pedestrian way, which we finally found.
0:27:17 And the reason why this is weird is that it was so cold. So we were desperate to find heat,
0:27:22 to find some place where we could sleep for the evening and having no luck. Eventually, we did
0:27:26 make it to the other side of the river to the side where we would need to get a car heading
0:27:32 towards Flagstaff. And we holed up in a denny’s and we did that for quite some time. But eventually,
0:27:36 during a shift change, they were just like, you got to get out of here. And we went and slept
0:27:43 in a dumpster outside of a gas station. And eventually, when the sun rose, we went out to
0:27:48 the highway and we stuck our thumbs out and nobody would stop. But this RV apparently had gone,
0:27:55 I didn’t notice it, but had gone by several times. And he stopped. And he opened the door and he said,
0:28:03 “I’m going to save her, but I guess you’re along with the package. But God told me to save her.”
0:28:06 Now, what required saving? What was your condition at the time?
0:28:12 I was developing hypothermia. So I was on the side of the road and I started to fall asleep
0:28:17 and I was getting really warm. It’s not a good sign. I was getting really warm and very sleepy
0:28:22 and happy. And if you’re in a very cold place where it’s below freezing and you start to feel
0:28:28 those things, that is like a very dangerous warning sign. And he stopped at just the right time when
0:28:34 I thought I was going to lose consciousness and it was just gone. It was over for me. And he pulled
0:28:40 me along with cuddles into the RV and they put blankets around me. They did whatever they knew
0:28:45 how to do because they didn’t understand what to do when someone has hypothermia. And gave me hot
0:28:51 chocolate and just the next thing I know, I wake up in Flagstaff. This guy took me all the way home.
0:28:58 And he just told me that it was God that told him. And at the time, I didn’t believe in God.
0:29:03 I had no reason to believe in God. And my attitude towards God, if there was one,
0:29:11 was how could a God do this to me and do this to other people and allow these atrocities to exist
0:29:15 in the first place. So I just thanked him. I was like, you know, I’m so glad that God
0:29:22 spoke to you. Thank you so much. And that put me again on an interesting trajectory because
0:29:29 when I experienced homelessness again after that, I decided I didn’t want to rely on other people.
0:29:37 I think the whole experience taught me how my life was just so dependent on spare changing and the
0:29:43 kindness of others. And I needed to come up with a way to provide for myself. And I didn’t know
0:29:50 how. I was underage. I couldn’t work, you know, minimum wage and age requirements. I have a
0:29:55 controversial view on them. I’m not saying that people should have child labor, but I am saying
0:29:59 that it draws a line. And sometimes it’s the difference between life and death for a lot of
0:30:06 people. And for me, I almost died many times because I couldn’t eat or couldn’t have a place to sleep.
0:30:11 And I was cold and just you have to get very, very resourceful. I had to figure out something.
0:30:17 So what I started doing was there’s these donation centers where people donate clothes or they donate
0:30:23 books or things like that. And I found a place that allowed homeless people to take three things
0:30:27 every day. So you basically check in and you’re allowed to take three items. And I would go in
0:30:31 and find items that I could sell to Buffalo Exchange or I could take to a bookstore.
0:30:37 So Buffalo Exchange is a fair to describe. There’s one probably a few miles from where I’m sitting
0:30:44 right now. A vintage clothing store where folks can come in and buy various pieces of used clothing.
0:30:48 Is that a fair description? Just for people who don’t know it.
0:30:52 Yeah. But I developed a really good eye for what people like to buy at the time.
0:30:57 And this was in Tempe, Arizona, where there’s college kids. And so college kids throw out the
0:31:01 coolest stuff. The books were great too, because you could get a really nice premium on books
0:31:06 if you could find a good textbook or something like that. But my job was to make $2 a day.
0:31:12 If I could make $2 a day, I could afford a bagel, cream cheese. If I was lucky in 99 cent whopper.
0:31:17 And if I was extra lucky, I got a bowl of rice and some vegetables for my favorite Vietnamese
0:31:23 joint over on Mill Avenue. And that was all that mattered during the day. And once you were done
0:31:29 with that task, you just got to lay around, swim in fountains, walk around, take creamers from
0:31:35 coffee shops. I mean, life was grand, but the seeds of self-reliance were planted then. And I honestly
0:31:41 think the beginnings of my love for capitalism. Because then somebody taught me how to make
0:31:46 jewelry, hemp jewelry in particular, and gave me some hemp jewelry and some beads.
0:31:50 Taught me how to braid them. And I made some really beautiful jewelry. And I would go from
0:31:53 table to table. I was one of those people that would annoy you during dinner or
0:31:59 coffee when you’re out on a date and guilt you into buying a necklace. And I would sell them. And
0:32:04 eventually I made enough money to pay for rent. The other interesting thing that I want to bring
0:32:10 up during this as well is I have two mothers. So when I speak about my mother, there’s my mother
0:32:15 who gave birth to me. But there’s also this guy, Cuddles, the homeless guy’s mother,
0:32:22 who had basically adopted me. And eventually I moved in with her. When I arrived with her,
0:32:26 I couldn’t look you in the eye. I would always look at my feet. I couldn’t make eye contact.
0:32:29 I would not be able to have this conversation that you and I are having, Tim. It just wouldn’t
0:32:36 have happened. I would shiver constantly. I was a mess. But she looked at me and she said,
0:32:39 “You’re going to look at me when I talk to you. You’re going to stand up straight.
0:32:44 You’re going to wear respectable clothing. You’re going to bathe. You’re going to brush your teeth.
0:32:50 You’re going to do all the things that your other mother didn’t do and didn’t tell you to do.”
0:32:56 And she’s my mother to this day. She always gets upset when I talk about mother because she’s like,
0:33:03 “That’s not me. That’s not me.” But she’s the most amazing woman. And I still am in touch with her.
0:33:07 And I just was really lucky to have found a boyfriend who had an amazing mother.
0:33:12 And you might wonder why was he homeless? Some people are homeless because they romanticize it.
0:33:16 I was out there because I had to be there, but he was out there because he read Jack Kerouac or
0:33:20 something. I was just going to say like Dharma Bums or something. Yeah. He probably just read
0:33:26 Dharma Bums and was like, “I’m heading out.” So his situation was totally different. And he brought
0:33:33 me home to meet his mother. This is scandalous today, but he was 19. I was 15. And she was like,
0:33:40 “Oh my gosh. What are you doing? This kid is… She’s a kid.” But she saw my situation and
0:33:47 she saw what I was going through. And he saved me in so many ways. He was my protector. He was
0:33:51 my bodyguard. Like you said, I could have ended up on drugs. I could have ended up dead. I could
0:33:57 have ended up… I was in squat houses where people were shooting a heroin, but he kept me away from
0:34:03 all of this stuff. And I’m not sure what possessed him to because at first I wasn’t even his girlfriend.
0:34:11 I was just his tag along buddy that hitchhiked with him and slept in squats with him. But eventually,
0:34:15 we became something. And then he just looked after me and another special person who just
0:34:20 did something really incredible for me. But when I was on the streets selling necklaces,
0:34:25 I also took up a little hobby of spray painting clothing with stencils. And I learned how to
0:34:31 silk screen. And that’s when I met my first customer, his name’s Chris Collins. And I had
0:34:37 put my t-shirts and my patches that I was making of some DIY punk rock bands. So I was really into
0:34:42 these like British punk rock bands at the time. And I see this guy walk by with a jumpsuit and he’s
0:34:48 wearing a patch from this band called Crash. I don’t know if you’re familiar with any of the old
0:34:54 punk bands from the 70s. But it said, “The nature of your oppression is the aesthetic of our anger.”
0:35:00 I remember exactly what it says. And I stopped him and I said, “Hey, I made that.” And he turned
0:35:04 around and he sees this homeless chick and he’s like, “Yeah, prove it.” And I said, “Well,
0:35:09 you bought it at either East Side Records or you bought it at one of these places that I would
0:35:14 consign them at.” And he said, “You’re right. That was where I got it.” So he sat down with me and
0:35:18 he explained that his mother ran a sign shop. But the most important thing that he did was
0:35:27 he asked me to come and spend time with him on his computer. And I was like, “Computers are portable
0:35:31 now. This is weird. I didn’t know you could do that.” And I blew them off for a while. But
0:35:35 a month later or so, I saw him at a coffee shop and he was on a laptop and it was my first time
0:35:40 ever seeing a portable computer. And it was like, I don’t know, I was in heaven. And I came over to
0:35:44 him and I said, “Well, what can we do with this?” And he says, “Well, what can’t you do with it?”
0:35:49 He’s like, “Let’s go get online and I’ll show you.” So we found a place to do dial-up connection.
0:35:54 And I remember hearing a modem for the first time and he started showing me this thing called IRC
0:35:59 and how I could meet friends from all over the world. And back then there wasn’t a search engine.
0:36:04 So there was like linked sites that you had to go to and you had to like discover content.
0:36:11 But I knew that no matter what it took, I had to be a part of that world. So he and all of his
0:36:16 hacker friends basically started wooing me over to their side. They’re like, “You don’t want to
0:36:22 hang out with these crusty punk kids. You don’t want this life. You want to learn about Unix and
0:36:28 you want to do this stuff with us. You want to be a hacker chick.” And so they basically encouraged
0:36:34 me to be bigger, to think bigger, and to start reading and start studying. And they bought me
0:36:40 books and they got me my first computer. Again, I credit people, magical moments where people just
0:36:45 sort of step into my life at just the right moment. And me paying attention, if you will, if I had a
0:36:51 part to play in this, is paying attention when those moments arrive and seizing them.
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0:38:07 by Wealthfront. So let me hop around a little bit because I want to bring us a little closer
0:38:13 to the current day, and we’re probably going to bounce back and forth. But the curiosity
0:38:20 that you exhibit, the ability to, I don’t want to say put yourself in the right place at the
0:38:27 right time, but somehow increase the surface area to which that type of experience can stick,
0:38:34 seems to also translate to how you have, I don’t even know if this is the right term to use,
0:38:40 but sourced some of your very successful angel investments. Some of them don’t seem to travel
0:38:45 what we might consider a typical Harvard Business School case study type of path.
0:38:50 So could you share just a few of those so that people get a taste?
0:38:56 Yeah, I’ll start with Uber. The Uber story is really fascinating because it starts with a thesis. So
0:39:02 they all start with a thesis, and then eventually, I’m just going to say maybe the universe just
0:39:06 puts the people in front of me, and I have to recognize the right in front of me. Obviously,
0:39:12 you can walk the other way, you can be asleep to what’s being presented. But I developed a thesis
0:39:22 around the taxi medallion system, and I was fairly libertarian, I still am, and was thinking about
0:39:28 how when I go out to get a taxi and it’s a rainy day or it’s busy outside, why wasn’t I getting one?
0:39:33 Every time I would get into a taxi, I would ask them, what is your day like? As soon as you get
0:39:38 your car, what happens? And they were like, well, I’m already $200 in debt, and I’ve got to make $200,
0:39:43 and I’ve got a, there’s a clock ticking because I have to return the car at a certain time. And
0:39:47 this is why they were driving around like bats out of hell. Everybody would complain about taxi
0:39:51 drivers and how they drove, it’s because they were racing a clock, they were already in debt.
0:39:55 And then I asked them, I said, well, do you own this taxi? And he said, no, you know, we rent them,
0:39:59 we have to pick them up and pay for them. There’s a guy that has the medallion, and this is the
0:40:05 first time I learned about a medallion, which is a license that somebody owns that allows you to
0:40:10 operate that car. And it got to the point where these medallions were worth millions of dollars
0:40:14 in some cities. They were worth that much in New York, and in San Francisco, they were worth a
0:40:20 lot in LA, they were worth a lot. And so what happens is your retirement plan is you rent out
0:40:25 your medallion to someone who doesn’t have a medallion, and you just make money while you sleep.
0:40:30 And that’s pretty much the whole plan of taxi drivers everywhere at the time. And I started
0:40:37 thinking about how it was unfair, this system, just kind of like how I thought minimum wage was
0:40:42 unfair, because if you create a line, that means that only certain people can cross it,
0:40:44 and some people are privileged and some people are not.
0:40:49 Just not to leave that hanging. So minimum wage unfair, just another line or two,
0:40:55 meaning that you should be able to charge less and get paid less if you want that to be the
0:41:00 case, or that it should be higher. When I started working, minimum wage was $3.15 an hour,
0:41:07 and I would have gladly cleaned your toilet bowl for 25 cents, because 25 cents is half a bagel.
0:41:16 Again, I think we need to allow homeless people and people who are in those lower financial or
0:41:22 economic realms to make decisions for themselves, because they actually, we know how. We know where
0:41:26 that 25 cents goes and how we’re going to use it. We are very, very acutely aware of every
0:41:33 scent in our lives. And there were so many jobs I wasn’t allowed to have. Now, I did end up working
0:41:37 at a record store where they did pay me under the table, but think about that. We shouldn’t have to
0:41:43 break laws. That person shouldn’t have to do something illegal in order for me to make money.
0:41:48 Great. I don’t want to take us too far afield of the through line, but thank you for that.
0:41:48 No problem.
0:41:55 All right. So coming back to the unfair aspects of the medallion system.
0:42:01 The medallion system is incredibly unfair, and I started thinking about how could you disrupt
0:42:08 taxis? And I didn’t have a clear answer actually. What happened was I was staying at a hotel in
0:42:14 San Francisco at the time, and I asked for them to arrange a car for me to SFO. And so they arranged
0:42:20 a literary car, and there was a guy named Roger. And when he picked me up, he told me, he said,
0:42:23 he got to know me, and he ended up giving me several rides to the airport. But one day he
0:42:28 picked me up, and he handed me a card for a gentleman named Ryan Graves. And he said,
0:42:33 I don’t know anything about investing, but if I were an angel investor, I would put my money
0:42:40 into this company. I’m driving for them. And basically, it’s a black livery car on demand.
0:42:44 You just text this phone number, you get a car. And I was like, well, how many drivers are there?
0:42:48 And he goes, well, how many only what? It’s just me. And I was like, well, how’s it work?
0:42:51 And he said, well, they’re paying me by the hour. And I was like, huh, that’s interesting. And he
0:42:57 hands me the card. And at the time, I only invested in companies that were in the Bay Area,
0:43:01 because it’s the ecosystem that I understand. It was how I could actually help founders when
0:43:07 they went to raise more money. You want to be kind of locally centric now that after the pandemic,
0:43:13 that’s less true. So I just kind of ignored the card. But the next ride, he brought it up again.
0:43:17 The next ride, he brought it up again. I started having a collection of Ryan Graves cards.
0:43:26 But then I went to Hawaii to this event held by August Capital called the Lobby. And at the lobby,
0:43:30 this conference is centered around the most important discussions happen
0:43:36 by the pool or in a hot tub or in a lobby. And there’s content, but it’s an
0:43:40 unconference. The content is every person there is capable of giving a speech.
0:43:45 So I was at this event, and everybody kind of retired to this very large hot tub. There’s
0:43:50 about 20 people in the hot tub. That’s a huge hot tub. It was big. It was big. And I got in there,
0:43:59 and Travis Kalanit was in the hot tub. And I observed him. And he had a very distinct demeanor
0:44:05 that I had not seen in any founder. He had a lot of gravitas. If there was someone who was king
0:44:09 of the hot tub that night, it was him. If he was managing the hot tub, it was him. You could just
0:44:16 tell this is a person who’s going to lead. And he declared in the hot tub that he was working at
0:44:20 some company called Red Swoosh, but now he was on the bench where he started a company called
0:44:25 Red Swoosh and sold it. He was on the bench and looking for his next thing. And if you’re an
0:44:32 investor, a lot of what we do is it’s kind of like reporters or hackers with zero day wares.
0:44:37 You’re looking for secrets. We are on the hunt for secrets, for insights that nobody else knows
0:44:41 about. Then I got invited to a dinner with him, and I observed him some more. I observed how he
0:44:48 talked to people at the dinner table, the opinions that he had. And I just thought this person’s
0:44:53 remarkable. I don’t know what he’s going to do, but I’m going to watch him. About three weeks
0:44:59 after or maybe a month after this lobby thing, Jason Calcanus held this event called Open Angel
0:45:06 Forum. And at the time, he was sharing his deal flow because it was very much a, you know,
0:45:11 there were party rounds. People would get together, pool in money, and a lot of things were done at
0:45:15 the earliest stages just by angels. Now institutions are getting into this game, but in the beginning
0:45:22 it was just individuals. And I see Travis get up and pitch this Uber cab thing that my driver’s
0:45:27 been telling me about. And I took it as a sign from the universe or whatever. And I wrote to
0:45:33 my husband and I said, “We need to invest in Uber cab today, right now.” And he was like,
0:45:40 “How much?” And I said, “75k.” And he said, “Fine. Get us in. Get us a meeting.” So I got us a meeting
0:45:46 and they ratcheted us back to 50. But we were the second, there were only two individuals that
0:45:50 were able to put that much money in at the time. So it was pretty sizable for that round.
0:45:57 And I really credit Roger because had he not flagged this for me, had I not paid attention
0:46:03 to Travis in the hot tub, keep in mind Ryan’s still the CEO. I just realized there was something
0:46:08 about him and there’s no way he’s going to just raise money for this company. He’s becoming the
0:46:14 CEO. Ryan, at the time, Ryan Graves that you mentioned was CEO of Uber. Yeah. And wonderful
0:46:18 man too, but he became the CEO. Oh, he’s great. Yeah, he’s great. Great guy. I have a couple
0:46:24 of questions, but I want to share just a few anecdotes for people to add some color also,
0:46:30 because a lot of folks are familiar with Uber, but they don’t know the Red Swoosh story. And
0:46:34 I’m going to get some of the details wrong, but I’ll just share two things related to Travis,
0:46:42 often called TK by folks. So Travis with Red Swoosh created this company that became very
0:46:48 quickly sort of an enemy of all these huge music and entertainment companies because it was, think
0:46:54 of it as not quite an abster, but it produced to that amount of blowback. And he got served with
0:47:02 some type of lawsuit, which was like $250 billion or something. Not a good day. So then he has to,
0:47:07 this actually may have been the predecessor to Red Swoosh, shuts it down because he doesn’t have
0:47:12 any choice, starts a new company, which I believe is Red Swoosh, then goes back to all the people
0:47:21 who hated him and sued him and makes them customers. So just let that settle in. Like what type of
0:47:26 stage magic and charisma and sales abilities required to do that? Okay, so he did that.
0:47:34 And then very unrelated, but still glimpsing to the personality story. And I’m getting some
0:47:39 of the specifics wrong, but not by far. So he was at a friend’s house, I want to say in
0:47:46 Truckee. And he was playing with all sorts of people in We Tennis. And he was just slaughtering
0:47:50 everybody. Was he number one in the world or something? Well, that’s the thing. So he was
0:47:55 playing with his non-dominant hand. And then, oh, by the way, I’m like top four in the world
0:48:02 in my spare time. If you can imagine that level of competitive drive, and then you mesh this thing
0:48:07 together, and you get arguably the only person who could have helped build Uber into what it is,
0:48:13 right? I mean, really just one of a kind, fascinating, fascinating guy. Alright, so I want
0:48:20 to ask you about another one. And I’m going to potentially get the pronunciation wrong. Niantic?
0:48:24 Am I getting this right? Niantic, the makers of Pokemon Go. Pokemon Go. Okay, so how does this
0:48:31 show up? Oh, this one’s a great one. So the same Chris Collins that met me and showed me a computer
0:48:38 started playing a game called Ingress. And Ingress was this early game that came out of Google
0:48:45 that overlaid on top of the real world map, where you would team up with people and go to really
0:48:52 weird remote locations so that you could cast invisible triangles over large swaths of land.
0:48:56 I’m simplifying this because there’s a storyline behind this, but if you can imagine this, it’s
0:49:02 basically a gigantic game of green versus blue. And we were on team blue, which is called the
0:49:06 Resistance, and then team green is called Enlightenment. And we played this game and we were
0:49:10 hooked. And there were people that were so hooked, they were chartering helicopters to go to remote
0:49:16 places. And what we were creating and we didn’t realize what we were creating was Pokestops.
0:49:19 What time was this? Like what year, roughly, would you say?
0:49:22 Gosh, I’m going to get the years wrong on this. That’s okay.
0:49:27 I was an Angelist around this time that this was happening. So I want to say 2012.
0:49:29 Okay. All right, cool.
0:49:29 2011, 2012.
0:49:31 Just roughly, yeah, around there, all right.
0:49:36 So I picked up this game with my friends. We started going out every night playing Ingress,
0:49:40 doing walkarounds, and we would run into what’s really funny is people who knew you were playing
0:49:44 Ingress on the other side would come up to you and there’s some banter. People would be like,
0:49:51 oh, resistance, because we’re blowing up each other’s virtual things. And I started asking
0:49:58 myself the question, why is Google doing this? Why is Google making this game? Why are we doing
0:50:03 all this work for Google for free? They were collecting what’s called points of interest,
0:50:07 which are not mappable by cars or by sometimes satellites.
0:50:07 That’s clever.
0:50:13 So things like tombstones, where you can then take the text. And so we were going around taking
0:50:20 pictures of everything and submitting it to this database that was then used to create Pokémon Go.
0:50:26 Now, how I got involved, I thought I would invest in this company in a heartbeat if it was not part
0:50:33 of Google. And one day I get a text message from a friend and he says, they’re spinning Niantic out
0:50:38 of Google. There’s this whole weird thing called Alphabet that’s happening. And Niantic’s becoming
0:50:42 its own thing. And I was like, you’ve got to be kidding me. And I was like, if there’s one moment,
0:50:47 this is the only moment to strike where we can go put money into this thing. This is it.
0:50:52 But I didn’t know anybody at Google. I am not Google alumni. That’s probably where my network
0:50:58 is probably the least effective. And I just didn’t know how to reach this guy. But
0:51:02 I had invested in a company called Hintwater. I don’t know if you’ve ever had Hintwater,
0:51:02 but there are these…
0:51:04 I know Hintwater. Sure, of course.
0:51:09 So I invested in Hintwater and I was helping the founder set up her ticketing system.
0:51:12 She didn’t have a support. Oh, for support.
0:51:17 Yeah, for support. So she didn’t have anybody to help her set up her support
0:51:21 system. And I knew how to set up Zendesk. So I went in and set it up for her. And
0:51:26 I started noticing all of these weird messages coming in saying Ingress in the subject line.
0:51:32 And so I walked over to her and I said, why is everybody sending you emails that say Ingress?
0:51:37 And she says, well, we give out game codes on the bottle caps. And I looked at her and I said,
0:51:43 you’re kidding me. Who over at Ingress did this deal with you? And she said, John Henke,
0:51:50 the guy who runs Ingress. Can you introduce me to him? Well, sure. Why? I’m like, I just,
0:51:56 I want to go talk to him. So I emailed him and he said, come by the office in San Francisco.
0:52:01 I’d love to meet you. We’re not looking for any investment, but thanks. And so I showed up with
0:52:08 my best friend Lucas, who was also a player, and we sat at his doorstep and we waited and we waited
0:52:15 until we could get a meeting with him. And we went in and he told us flat out no at the beginning.
0:52:20 But we sat there and showed him how Lucas was a level 16 player and how many hours we had put
0:52:25 into this thing and how amazing it was because we had this insight, which is we’d heard that as
0:52:31 an April Fool’s joke, they’d put Pokemon on the map. And I had this realization that that was
0:52:37 going to be the biggest game ever. And if I could just get a check in here at just the right time,
0:52:41 it would be timed perfectly. By the time we left the office, he gave Lucas a desk and he
0:52:48 hired Lucas. And he let us both invest in the company. Okay. So let me slow this down a little
0:52:53 bit. All right. So right off the bat, no and no, no means no. All right. So by the end,
0:52:59 one of you gets hired and then you get to invest, but you’re not hired. Now I’m actually more
0:53:04 interested in your case, not the least of which because I’m interviewing you right now, but the
0:53:10 I’m going to hire you. Okay, fine. Right. Like there’s some use for that person.
0:53:14 How did you pitch becoming an investor or why did he let you invest?
0:53:21 I think that he saw that Lucas and I were going to give really valuable input on the gamer experience.
0:53:26 And if I was bringing in someone of Lucas’s caliber, who was, you know, I think employee
0:53:30 number 13 or something at Facebook, he’s a brilliant engineer. I think he thought maybe
0:53:35 I’d bring in some more brilliant engineers. So he was looking at this like the long run.
0:53:39 Right. And it’s not like you’re not putting in 10 million bucks or taking 20% of the company
0:53:44 or something at that point. Yeah, exactly. Exactly. The other thing is I couldn’t get
0:53:48 anyone else to it. Once I invested in this, I thought I got the deal of a lifetime. Angelus had
0:53:52 just started and they were allowing syndications and I wanted to syndicate this deal. And at
0:53:56 the time they were approving whether you could syndicate a deal or not. So it wasn’t just a free
0:54:02 for all. I wanted to syndicate Niantic and I was told no, because the only other investors were
0:54:07 Nintendo and Google. And they’re like, well, we don’t do corporate investors. And the other thing
0:54:12 is nobody could see, everybody told me no one’s going to walk around searching for invisible creatures.
0:54:17 And they’re like, no one’s going to play this game. And I’m like, oh, wait and see. I would argue
0:54:22 that it was probably the closest we’ve come to world peace in our lifetime is the day that Pokemon
0:54:28 Go came out. I think it was like July 6th. I remember it was right after July 4th. And I was in
0:54:34 Alaska when it was released. And even in Alaska, in Juneau, Alaska, people were running around
0:54:41 looking for invisible creatures. So that’s one of my favorite stories because it really took
0:54:47 figuring out how all the connections work to get that meeting. And then it took a lot of grit and
0:54:53 hustle to get him to let us in. And I do have a key card to Niantic. So I’m an honorary lifetime
0:54:58 employee. And I can come and go as I please. I’m kind of like a weird spirit animal there.
0:55:06 That’s awesome. All right. So we talked about Uber, side note tying Uber to Angelist after you
0:55:14 invested, goes after you invested, they ended up at some point having Uber put on Angelist.
0:55:23 And they were turned down by everyone, like 300 plus people passed on Uber because Phil in the
0:55:28 blank, right? Well, if we look at it as a percentage of the current X, Y and Z market, it makes no
0:55:35 sense. Nobody’s going to pay that much. Like these high conviction statements that obviously in
0:55:40 retrospect weren’t defensible at all. It’s very easy to come up with the reason for no,
0:55:44 because a lot of things fail. But I heard all those excuses too. I’m glad that you are
0:55:47 mentioning this because people have argued with me that Uber was the hottest thing around. And
0:55:52 I said, no, was it? Not at all. Oh, no, there were also media pieces probably on Gawker,
0:55:57 maybe on TechCrunch, but it was like the 1% ride for tech bros. And it was,
0:56:02 I mean, I don’t want to say universally, but pretty much everybody was like, this isn’t solving a
0:56:08 problem. This is just another thing for people with too much money who think this is a problem,
0:56:12 but they’re in their bubble in San Francisco. I mean, there are a million in one reasons that
0:56:16 people said it was a bad idea. People couldn’t see past the black car too. They thought that
0:56:21 one of the objections I saw is everyone doesn’t want or can afford a limo. And I said, well,
0:56:25 of course not. But that’s where it starts. Not everyone could ride in an airplane, but now everybody
0:56:31 can. That’s the way it works. Yeah, and we’ve seen this play out with Tesla in terms of launching
0:56:36 higher priced vehicles and then using that to subsidize the development of the lower cost vehicles.
0:56:41 We’ve seen this in computing. We have the Uber story. We talked about Niantic. Are there any
0:56:48 other companies from unusual places? A lot of interesting deals come out of hotels. So I was
0:56:56 at a hotel and I had time to kill and my background is in security. So I’m an engineer self-taught
0:57:01 and my friends taught me and I started getting an infosec. So I noticed some things that other
0:57:06 people don’t notice about their opsec or their security. And I got on the Wi-Fi and noticed that
0:57:12 all of these people were tethering their phones to the Wi-Fi using their real name. And I see
0:57:18 Travis K’s iPhone. And I look over in the corner and there’s Travis Kalanick. And I’m like, oh,
0:57:26 there’s Travis. And then I see K Pixel. And then I look over and I see Keith Raboy. And I see he
0:57:31 has a Pixel phone. And I’m like, oh, Keith Raboy’s Pixel. Interesting. Keep in mind their MAC addresses
0:57:36 at the time were also in the clear. Like you could track where these guys were if you were very clever.
0:57:40 But then I see this name Garrett Langley. And it’s a name I’ve never seen. So I go and Google
0:57:47 search it. And Garrett Langley is the founder of Flock Security. And there’s this mug picture of him.
0:57:54 And he’s in the current YC batch at the time. And we at Founders Fun had been thinking about
0:57:58 some of the biggest opportunities. And one of the opportunities we were considering was somebody
0:58:03 needs to come up with some sort of neighborhood camera or neighborhood association where people
0:58:08 are all pitching in and agreeing to some rules around safety and some equipment and technology
0:58:13 to enable that safety. And so I’ve started reading about Flock. And I’m like, we didn’t think about
0:58:19 OCR and license plates. We thought about cameras. This is a much better solution. So I messaged our
0:58:25 associate at the time, John Ludig, who I think is now a partner, that I’d found this guy. And he’s
0:58:28 like, oh, you know, that’s a company we’re interested in. I said, what should I do? And he’s like,
0:58:33 just walk over there, see what happens. So I walked over and I decided to play the,
0:58:37 I don’t know, the magician card, if you will. And I looked at him and I said,
0:58:41 Garrett Langley. And he said, yes. I said, I’m Saiyan Banister of Founders Fun. We’d like to
0:58:47 bring you in for a meeting. Sounded very official. You know, and he starts looking around and he’s
0:58:52 like, because YC, his batch hadn’t demoed yet. And I, he hadn’t seen it yet.
0:58:56 How do you know who I am? He was like, looking around like, how do you know?
0:59:01 And then it was killing him. And he finally asked me, he said, I’m so sorry, I need to know how
0:59:05 you know who I am. And I’m like, are you sure you want to know? And he’s like, yeah. And I said,
0:59:10 well, you tethered your phone to the Wi-Fi. And it says Garrett Langley’s iPhone. And curiosity
0:59:16 just got the best of me. And we ended up getting the last allocation of that round and sharing the
0:59:23 Series A with Bedrock. It’s now valued at over $6 billion. And I tell this story because
0:59:30 one of the things that I think makes me good at what I do and other people is identifying
0:59:36 patterns and opportunities and striking when you see them. And for whatever reason, I am gifted
0:59:42 with the ability to make these connections. So a lot of the best deals I’ve ever done
0:59:49 have these interesting things in common, which is I see something, I put the pieces together. I’m
0:59:55 like, oh, for example, hint water, bottle caps is going to get me in this deal. I had to think
1:00:01 very quickly about that. But same thing here is just, I didn’t wait. I didn’t email the guy.
1:00:05 I decided to go be a creeper. And it ended up being funny. It ended up being totally funny.
1:00:11 Yeah, totally. All right. So I want to do a post-game analysis on another deal
1:00:16 of a slightly different variety. And this is Game Crush and Lessons Learned.
1:00:21 Ah, yes, Game Crush. Could have been Twitch. Yeah, explore this.
1:00:28 Yeah, Game Crush was a brilliant business, actually. And at the time, let’s put this
1:00:34 in perspective. There was, my space was a thing still, Facebook came out and was sort of on the
1:00:40 rise. Twitch didn’t exist. Discord didn’t exist. None of that stuff existed. There were webcam
1:00:45 sites. And then there was a site I started called Ziviti. And what I saw was really interesting
1:00:52 because they brought women who were mostly women, men also played, off of my space who were a little
1:00:58 more provocative and wanted to play more provocative gaming. And so it was a way for you to pay to play
1:01:06 games with girl gamers. And it was growing like crazy and everything was fantastic. And then
1:01:12 they started getting activist investors who wanted them to get rid of the more adult and
1:01:16 nature content. This happens with company after company after company.
1:01:21 Can you explain just for folks, the activist investor, just for people who might be curious
1:01:26 as to what that is? An activist investor is someone who invests in a company and decides
1:01:32 that they want to play CEO or operator and they start telling the founders and the employees
1:01:36 what they should be doing with their company. And if you’ve structured your company correctly,
1:01:40 you can take that advice and then tell them to pound sand. But if you haven’t,
1:01:44 the power dynamics are not in your favor. I’ll just put it that way. And then there’s people who,
1:01:48 because people gave them money, they think they have to listen to them, but then they don’t.
1:01:54 And that was the situation. Got it. And for people who want a showcase of,
1:01:58 granted, a slightly different species of activist investor, I assume you’re talking
1:02:04 about venture capitalists, maybe private equity guys. But if somebody wants a great documentary,
1:02:09 watch ICON, the Restless Billionaire. If you want to see what super hardball activist investing
1:02:14 looks like, you can check that out. Okay. So please continue. An activist investor can fire you.
1:02:20 You know, that can happen too. They want to remove the sex appeal and the fringier
1:02:24 magic. Is that what’s happening? They wanted to remove the sex appeal and what made this entire
1:02:28 product special and the whole reason I invested it in the first place. They cannibalized it.
1:02:35 And so after that, Twitch took off, but they didn’t have the right tools or the right anything
1:02:42 to be a Twitch. And they had all these amazing girl streamers, which just jumped ship as soon as
1:02:46 they could go someplace where they could actually show more than what game press was allowing.
1:02:52 What were the rules? What were the constraints that the activist investors either applied
1:02:55 themselves or convinced the founders to apply? How did it change?
1:03:01 The streamers couldn’t be in various states of undress. They couldn’t even be sexy. They couldn’t
1:03:08 be in bikinis. They wanted it to be where technically, I guess, younger people could
1:03:11 get on, but it was never meant to be for kids. It was supposed to be for adults.
1:03:17 Adults with adults. And they just got weird because they wanted to make a very mainstream
1:03:22 product. They wanted to be Twitch. They weren’t onto something. It’s just that the product was
1:03:28 never, ever designed to be that. And I think that if they’d stuck to that niche, they would have
1:03:33 done quite well, incredibly well, as a matter of fact, because they could have expanded later
1:03:39 into something had they completely monopolized that audience. Because that’s what drove people
1:03:43 ultimately at the end of the day to watch Twitch is these girl streamers.
1:03:50 Yeah, that’s me. That’s like Internet 101 on some level for so many, so many different things.
1:03:58 So let me come back to Game Crush and ask, and maybe this is a dead end, but looking back with
1:04:03 hindsight 2020, were there other warning signs prior to the death knell? Were there other things
1:04:08 that you saw that maybe you overlooked or things that you observed where you’re like,
1:04:13 next time I’m going to pay more attention to that? Yeah, this was early in my investment career,
1:04:16 actually. And so I was learning a lot of lessons from that particular company.
1:04:20 The check size that I wrote was rather large for the time. I think it was like 250k,
1:04:27 which was pretty big. And the warning signs that I saw were how disorganized the company was after
1:04:34 we did the first closing of that round. They invited us to a dinner, which I brought Byron
1:04:40 Singerman and a few other people. And it was really clear that there was just leadership issues.
1:04:45 But by that point, we’d already committed capital. You’re not going to change your mind. You can’t
1:04:50 withdraw anyway. What kind of leadership issues? It was unclear who was the CEO.
1:04:56 So there were multiple founders? Yes, multiple founders, always a recipe for disaster. And
1:05:01 they were putting forth someone as the CEO, but it was really clear that he was only the CEO
1:05:07 just for the fundraise. And after the fundraise, it was a bit of a shell game. And I’ve seen this
1:05:12 happen. I learned this, interestingly, with another company, HQ Trivia, which I would argue is a much
1:05:19 bigger disaster and failure. And that was due to two founders who ultimately could not see eye to eye
1:05:26 and had a 50/50 partnership. I broke my rule where I normally never invest in a company
1:05:32 where there’s a 50/50 partnership or there’s not a clear delineation of who’s the CEO and who’s not.
1:05:37 And for a variety of reasons. Who’s the tiebreaker? Who’s the tiebreaker? Who’s actually ultimately
1:05:44 into the day? Is their fault? Who were going to all point out and blame? And with HQ Trivia,
1:05:48 there was nobody to point out and blame. As a matter of fact, it became more of a game of
1:05:54 frones for the position and was tragic. And it ended up with one of the founders dead.
1:06:01 Oh my god. Yeah. But Game Crush was a great learning lesson. I also learned that just because you
1:06:05 commit to something, if there was a period of time in there that I was able to get material
1:06:13 information as to a decision that I made may not be a good one, I have the right to say I’m not
1:06:16 investing, which is something that has been challenging for me because I don’t know if you
1:06:20 watch Game of Thrones where they say a lamester plays their debts while Banneth repays her debts.
1:06:27 You know? Yep. Now you’re saying after docs have been signed or after you’ve wired the money,
1:06:30 if the material items should have been disclosed or not disclosed. Before signing,
1:06:34 like if there was anything that I could have figured out before then, which there were some
1:06:40 little things, like some little things that were signed, I realized then I could adjust
1:06:45 and make that decision in the next investment that I did where I could try to find out more
1:06:49 information. And even if I committed before those docs were signed, it’s not done. That was a learning
1:06:54 lesson there because I always thought that my word is my bond. And if I say something verbally,
1:06:58 it’s as good as signing something. But sometimes people misrepresent things and they lie.
1:07:05 Sadly true. I have a question going back to the hemp jewelry. And I don’t want to force a narrative
1:07:11 on your story that is not true. But when you’re telling me about some of the deals you’ve sourced,
1:07:18 and I’m sure this applies to many others, there’s a certain level of proactivity and like chutzpah
1:07:28 in approaching people, cold approaches, right? Just not seemingly being overly concerned or
1:07:35 over cogitating on just being a creeper, I think, as you put it, or going for the direct contact
1:07:41 pretty quickly. Does that come in part from the kind of training on the street of making these
1:07:47 approaches to tables, making approaches to different folks, asking for things? Or were you out of the
1:07:57 box seemingly programmed to be that way? Yeah, I think being homeless taught me that a lot of
1:08:03 things that people do are suggestions. When I was homeless and I was selling necklaces,
1:08:12 one I learned about rejection. But before I did the necklaces, I also had a weird job at Greenpeace
1:08:17 for a period of time where I was a phone canvasser. And I lied about my age and they allowed me to
1:08:22 work there. So that was another funny, weird job I had. But I also did telemarketing as well. So
1:08:27 I did a lot of telemarketing when I was 17, 18. And then of course, tech support, dialect tech
1:08:31 support was a thing that I did for a while. So I spent a lot of time being rejected and being on
1:08:38 the phone and being abused in customer service. And I don’t believe in no until it’s the final no.
1:08:45 And I also think that when you’re an investor, and especially if you start to get good at it,
1:08:50 people want to hear from you. They want the opportunity for you to invest in them.
1:08:56 I’ve just never seen that anything as a barrier. To me, it’s like a sport. It’s a game. Not that
1:09:00 money is a game, but getting into the deal and winning the deal to me is a sport.
1:09:06 And you’re saying that, I’m paraphrasing here, but things that people say are suggestions,
1:09:12 something like that. What does that mean? We apply a lot of our own perception to everything
1:09:20 that everyone says around us. We make up stories that are fiction. And a lot of what people suffer
1:09:26 with today are these stories, these narratives that we tell ourselves and one another. And I’ve
1:09:32 just always felt like that’s something that someone said right now. It’s not a hard no. You know when
1:09:36 you hear a hard no. I know the difference between an objection and I just have a rebuttal for it,
1:09:42 versus a hard no. And until it’s a hard no, there’s wiggle room to get something done.
1:09:49 And so I just always felt this. And it’s interesting that you honed in on it, but it’s
1:09:55 definitely been a guiding principle in my life, which is don’t give up. Just try different approaches.
1:10:02 Maybe you didn’t ask the right way, or maybe you didn’t give the right incentives, or maybe it was
1:10:09 Monday and they’re in a bad mood. On Mondays. Exactly. Fuck Mondays. But you know, all of these
1:10:14 things are just things that we make up truths, but what if they’re not true? So you’ve got to
1:10:18 always question these narratives that you tell yourself and that other people are telling you.
1:10:23 How do you do that? I mean, is it just an instinct at this point, or is there some
1:10:31 systematic way that you do that for yourself? I meditate a lot and I practice mindfulness as
1:10:38 often as possible, and I try to remind myself to be conscious whenever I can. And being conscious to
1:10:45 me is being aware and present and being here now. And a lot of times, you’ll hear that and it doesn’t
1:10:51 really mean a whole lot until you’ve practiced mindfulness for a period of time and you start
1:10:59 to realize what now is. And so anything that I tell you happened. It’s gone. You can’t go back
1:11:04 to it. I can’t do it again. It’s a fiction that becomes something in my mind that people put
1:11:09 too much weight on that fiction. And I’m not saying that nothing matters. A lot of things
1:11:18 matter. But the human mind and the ego is so capable of spinning up fictions and creating
1:11:24 narratives that we hold as truths to the point where it leads people to paralysis.
1:11:28 The amount of time, so I’m at a convention right now, that I’ve heard people apologize to each
1:11:32 other for saying something rude in the past and the other person not even remembering it.
1:11:37 And I’m thinking about how this poor person carried around that trauma with them for how long?
1:11:41 I’ve heard it twice now because right now there’s something happening in the world
1:11:44 that I’m really excited about, though, is that people are starting to apologize
1:11:53 and starting to own being wrong for the first time in a long time. And I think one of the things that
1:12:03 I am hyper-accountable. So I take responsibility for my every action and ideally my every thought.
1:12:11 And that’s really hard for a lot of people because it’s easy to be a victim. It’s easy to
1:12:16 say that things happen to you or the circumstances. I easily could have rolled over and said I was
1:12:22 homeless. What was me? I can’t succeed in life. And instead I was like, this life is just a big
1:12:28 old game and we’ve got to play it. And a lot of it is cosplay and suggestions. When I was
1:12:31 younger, I saw these people dress up in their suits and you’re just going to realize they’re
1:12:38 grown children dressing up in suits, adulting. It’s a costume. So I look at everybody walking
1:12:41 around in their costumes with the narratives and the stories they’re telling themselves.
1:12:45 And I like to analyze it and I like to think about it a lot.
1:12:50 No, I think it’s worth, if you’re open to it, just mentioning where you are. So what is this
1:12:55 conference? Yeah. So I’m at Hereticon. It is put on by my alumni at Founders Fund.
1:13:01 You say you’re alumni, you mean portfolio company? No, the people I invested with. So
1:13:05 I was a partner at Founders Fund for four years. I got it, got it, got it. The other GPs. Yeah,
1:13:10 so the other GPs and some of the founders I’ve invested in are here. Andrew Palmer Lucky is here
1:13:16 and I invested in Andrew. And there’s a few others. There’s True Med that’s here. Mind Bloom,
1:13:21 which we invested in that does psychedelic medicine, ketamine therapy for PTSD.
1:13:25 Why is it called Hereticon, right? Heretic Conference?
1:13:33 It’s because some of the best ideas look heretical at the time. When people claim that they can do
1:13:38 something that is indistinguishable from magic, for example, they might be labeled a witch back in
1:13:43 the day. When you make a technological advancement, it is indistinguishable from what looks like
1:13:48 witchcraft sometimes. And then people, in order to get to the best possible answers,
1:13:56 we need to have debate. And so this conference is about people debating in completely oppositional
1:14:00 viewpoints. So there are people here who are hardcore atheists, there are people here who
1:14:05 read tarot cards, there are people who are anti-AI, and there’s people here who are,
1:14:09 AI is going to save the world and it might even bring the second coming of Christ.
1:14:13 It runs the gambit. I mean, it’s just so exciting. And one of the things I love about it, Tim,
1:14:21 is it really reminds me of early ’90s tech futurism, back when we thought everything was possible and
1:14:27 what we were going to build and it didn’t turn into any of that. I would argue that social
1:14:32 media and things like that did not do what we set out to make them do. But for the most part,
1:14:37 I had thought that this optimism had died because of things like Uber, because of the
1:14:44 backlash against tech people that we had become pariahs. But this has the feeling of it coming
1:14:48 back together and people are discussing the things that matter again without the fear of
1:14:53 being canceled. And I think that’s the other thing that happens here is it’s chatham house rules.
1:14:57 I think some things are leaking out on the internet, but for the most part, they’re not.
1:15:02 And you’re encouraged to be yourself and you’re encouraged to be respectful and you’re encouraged
1:15:03 to make friends across the aisle.
1:15:06 I dig it. How large is it? How many people attend?
1:15:07 There’s about 500 people.
1:15:08 Oh, that’s big.
1:15:12 And Founders Fund pays for the whole thing. So our hotel room, I’m in a hotel room right now
1:15:18 that’s paid for. Our meals are paid for. It’s just incredibly generous for them to give this gift
1:15:23 to the community. I know they source deals out of it. I know they get something out of it.
1:15:27 But at the same time, I know how much effort it takes to roll up your sleeves and do what Mike
1:15:33 Solana has done. And it’s probably my favorite conference I attend by far.
1:15:35 It’s my number one favorite place to go.
1:15:40 You mentioned a company a while back that I do want to touch on and that is
1:15:45 Ziviti. I mean, I’m reading here, right? Only fans before only fans. I do like the general
1:15:51 magic of pornography. People require a lot of background on general magic, but people can
1:15:55 look it up. Actually, at Tony Fidella on the podcast, people can dig into that to get a whole
1:16:02 bunch of background there. But why Ziviti and then what happened and what did you learn from it?
1:16:06 Can I go back to the very beginning of when I discovered my very first porn?
1:16:09 Of course. How could I say no to that?
1:16:13 Yeah, I mean, I think it goes back to that. So it’s a great story. But I got a summer job.
1:16:19 I want to say I was 11, 12. I know this is going to sound disturbing, but it’s really not.
1:16:28 I got a job watching a wolf dog, which is basically a wolf, and you don’t own a wolf.
1:16:32 Like they’re very, very wild and untameable creatures. I don’t know if you’ve been to a
1:16:34 wolf sanctuary, but you can’t let them. Yeah, I’ve been around wolves.
1:16:39 Yeah, so you know. And this guy said, okay, all you have to do is come over to my house,
1:16:42 you open the door, you go to the freezer, you get out of steak, you microwave the steak,
1:16:46 and you crack an egg on it, and you leave it in the door frame. And wolf people just show up.
1:16:51 And I was like, okay, I could do this, you know, and it was a great summer gig.
1:16:56 I love that somebody, some guy, right? It’s like, you know what I’m gonna do? I’m gonna hire an 11
1:17:03 year old and then leave this 11 year old alone with this wolf dog. Yeah. Just putting steak in the
1:17:08 doorway. Exactly. This is a great idea. Exactly. So it was… Please continue.
1:17:16 This dog shows up, and this dog is so big, and I’m so small. And they have these fierce looking eyes.
1:17:21 And this thing, I’m like, this thing could eat me. But she would come in, and she would
1:17:26 eat the steak, and she would roam around his apartment and stare at me, and then she would,
1:17:31 you know, do her thing, and then eventually leave. And then I could lock up and then go.
1:17:35 But Wolfie didn’t come, she didn’t work on a schedule. So I would go over there and sometimes
1:17:41 have nothing to do. So I started going through this guy’s drawers, his cabinets, his books,
1:17:46 his everything. There was nothing to do. It was so boring. Eventually I found
1:17:53 a Playboy magazine. And I looked in there, and I was like, that has to be the most beautiful
1:17:57 at the time. These were vintage Playboys. Depiction of the human body I had ever seen.
1:18:03 Because before this, I thought that the Sears Robux magazine was like the sexiest thing I’d
1:18:08 ever seen, the underwear section. And this was like, holy cow, this is next level. Women are
1:18:15 beautiful. And I dreamed about being beautiful like that someday. I was like, you know, I want to be
1:18:20 beautiful like that. I want to be like that someday. And beauty back then in those magazines was very
1:18:28 natural and very accessible. You could be that beauty. Whereas the beauty of Playboy later,
1:18:34 when Hefner was older, became a very inaccessible beauty. But my mother also is an art teacher,
1:18:40 and she kept around all of these books with these Chinese sculptures, where they were doing very,
1:18:46 very lewd sexual acts. And so to shock my friends at school, I would sneak these books to school
1:18:53 and show them in the locker and sometimes charge people for it. You know, come look at my porn
1:19:00 in my locker. So, you know, I really, really felt that it was a beautiful art form that deserved
1:19:05 a little more respect. And that started very, very early. When I set out to start a company,
1:19:12 at the time there was MySpace, and then there was a competitor, which became a friendly competitor
1:19:19 of mine called Suicide Girls, that had launched. And I tried to start Ziviti before Suicide Girls,
1:19:23 even. But then Suicide Girls started, and I was like, well, they’re doing a fine job.
1:19:27 I don’t need to start a company because Suicide Girls is doing most of what I wanted.
1:19:33 But what they didn’t do was, I didn’t like the financial model of how they acquired content
1:19:37 and how they treated the artists. So, what they would do is they would buy a photo shoot that
1:19:43 an artist did for $500, and you would sign a release for your likeness and your name,
1:19:48 and they pretty much owned it in perpetuity. So, if I’m cyan on Suicide Girls, I can’t be cyan
1:19:52 in anybody’s place else. And so a lot of these young women had no idea what they were signing.
1:19:58 Yeah. And then they would get famous. And then they would use these images and, you know, they had
1:20:03 stage shows and all sorts of things. This is pretty standard though. They weren’t doing anything wrong.
1:20:08 It was the industry standard. It was the Hollywood standard at the time. And I thought to myself,
1:20:14 there has to be a better way. There has to be a way where photographers and models can have a fan
1:20:20 interaction that’s meaningful, and then the fan becomes a patron of the art that they’re making.
1:20:27 And at the time, there was webcam girls. They did exist. And you could buy packages,
1:20:31 and they’ve got some portion of the package, but their micropayment system was not really a thing.
1:20:38 And so we started coming up with, we didn’t know what to call it. It was technically tipping,
1:20:43 but we didn’t want to use the word tipping with the content that we were putting on Ziviti. So,
1:20:50 Ziviti was a nude, fully nude platform with no sex acts on it, actually. And we didn’t want to
1:20:54 call it tipping because we didn’t want to equate ourselves with a strip club. We wanted to bring
1:21:01 up the class of what was happening more. So, later on, Patreon figured out it’s called patronage.
1:21:05 And Kickstarter figured out it’s called backing somebody. But we didn’t have the marketing
1:21:11 language, so we called it voting. Now, voting was a very, very confusing word of a call to action
1:21:15 for anybody because you’re not supposed to stuff a ballot box. You’re not supposed to vote multiple
1:21:21 times. But we were encouraging people to vote multiple times because each vote was basically
1:21:27 worth a dollar. And then when you cast that vote or you voted, 70% went to the artist and was split
1:21:32 between the photographer and model. Eventually, we started bringing in makeup artists and costume
1:21:38 designers. A lot of people don’t realize that a lot of these really, really beautiful photo shoots
1:21:44 involve a lot of people. There’s a lot of people there, and then the compensation chain
1:21:49 is complicated. But the person who does the hardest work is the model. So, the model is the one who
1:21:54 talks to the fans. And what I figured out was Ziviti, actually, which only fans has figured
1:21:59 out, and a lot of these other platforms figured out, is it’s not about the content at all.
1:22:03 Because over and over again, I would get told, “Why would anybody pay for this? Content’s free.
1:22:09 It’s all over the internet. There’s porn everywhere.” What isn’t free is the real human
1:22:14 interaction with the person. And we figured that out with Ziviti at the very end. But I shut down
1:22:21 Ziviti when I was at Founder’s Sun. I ran it for 10 years. We were the first company of our kind
1:22:27 to raise venture capital. And we couldn’t see eye-to-eye the board, myself, the executive team
1:22:32 on what Ziviti should be because people thought it was about beauty. It was about an aesthetic.
1:22:36 And I argued that it has nothing to do with beauty, that nobody really cares about that.
1:22:42 Because they wanted to editorialize it like Playboy. And I had this insight, which ended up being
1:22:48 right, which is anybody can be a model and anybody can make money as long as they have more than one
1:22:58 fan. And we did register a domain called Topfans. And we did experiment with what OnlyFans is.
1:23:03 But what happened is I just ran out of gas. I ran out of the ability to run that company.
1:23:09 And I was far more successful as an investor. And I was tired of fighting. I was really,
1:23:14 really tired of fighting everybody. Like, I was not allowed to be in the Apple App Store.
1:23:19 I wasn’t allowed to advertise on Instagram. I wasn’t allowed to use normal payment processors.
1:23:25 I wasn’t even allowed to have an office at WeWork. I was protested at tech conferences. There were
1:23:30 women who would come and protest me. Why would they protest you? Well, back then, it was a lot
1:23:35 more controversial to do what we were doing. And they thought that my mere presence at a conference
1:23:39 meant that I was going to pornify them in some way. Like, I was going to start taking pictures
1:23:43 of them or taking my top off or, I don’t know, I don’t know what they thought. But they thought
1:23:48 that I was going to do something. And Facebook actually asked me to come and speak to a group
1:23:53 of engineers. They had a wonderful event. And I was the headline speaker. And there was a
1:23:58 protest that happened. And they held a protest across the street. And at our event, we did nothing
1:24:01 but talk about code and engineering. And at their event, they did nothing but talk about porn.
1:24:10 To this day, laugh about. But, you know, I never envisioned Zivity becoming as big as OnlyFans,
1:24:16 though. I think OnlyFans has really proven and hit a nerve. And one could argue that maybe
1:24:22 it remains to be seen whether a product like this is a net positive for society or a net negative.
1:24:30 But we did succeed at enabling this freedom, which I still think is valuable because a lot of people
1:24:35 need this kind of freedom so that they can put themselves through school, so that they can buy
1:24:40 their first home so they can start a family. And not everybody is blessed with being able to get
1:24:45 certain types of jobs. And this gives them that flexibility. I hesitate to ask this question,
1:24:51 but I’m so curious because you’re very good at embracing your weird self and your very
1:24:58 forthright in your opinions. And you have controversial, or I should say, maybe uncommon
1:25:04 takes on things like minimum wage, what you said earlier, for instance, as one of many examples.
1:25:09 So feel free to take this question wherever you want to go, or if it’s just a bad question,
1:25:14 we can abandon it. But how do you relate to sex? Like, how do you think about sex and sexuality?
1:25:19 It’s such a broad question, but I feel like it would be neglectful of me not to ask.
1:25:23 Yeah, I love this question because we don’t talk about it enough to be honest with you. And it’s,
1:25:29 you know, along with eating and pooping and everything else that we do, sex is up there.
1:25:34 I mean, it’s how we have babies and how we express our love and how we connect with people. And we
1:25:40 don’t, it’s so stigmatized. I don’t think it should be. But I became sexually active when I was 15.
1:25:47 And despite finding the pornography and everything like that, it was later in my teenage years.
1:25:53 And I was so disappointed. I thought, why did everybody make movies and write poetry and
1:25:58 build a Taj Mahal for something so awful? And I had a very negative view of sex,
1:26:05 so negative that I started experimenting on boys. And this is maybe terrible, but this is what I did
1:26:12 is I was determined to find that one connection that was worthy of writing a poem for,
1:26:18 you know, there has to be somebody. There has to be something. And it just didn’t work. Like,
1:26:22 I would try different things. I would try different scenarios. I was like, well,
1:26:27 maybe I need to be in the racquetball corridor. I need to be over here or there. I thought it was
1:26:33 situational. And then eventually I developed feelings for somebody. And I didn’t realize that
1:26:39 that was the missing ingredient. I was like, wow, feelings for someone else. That’s the concept.
1:26:45 And I broke up with this guy immediately. So it was my first love. And it was a communist.
1:26:49 Interestingly, he still is a communist. He has the hammer and sickle on his arm and everything.
1:26:56 And I still love him to this day. And we’re still friends. But I saw myself worrying about him,
1:27:02 like where he was, what he was wearing. Did he eat? Has he slept? I started asking myself
1:27:08 all these questions that were so weird. And I just didn’t have time for them. I had to survive.
1:27:12 And when you have to survive, you can’t worry about someone else’s well-being because you’re
1:27:17 drowning yourself. Like, you can’t worry about someone else drowning. Again, put your oxygen mask
1:27:23 on first. So I broke up with him and left. And I put him in a little snow globe. I like to call it a
1:27:29 snow globe of emotion because it taught me that that was possible, that someday I could love
1:27:36 someone. And maybe that person would love me back. But I didn’t have time for it then. So
1:27:43 when I got into tech, I did date. And I had some long-term relationships. And then obviously,
1:27:48 there was the homeless relationship with cuddles that lasted a long time. And my relationship
1:27:53 to sex was just kind of like it’s fun. And it’s just something you do. But it was never earth
1:27:59 shattering. It was another– I never wanted to build a Taj Mahal. And that was my bar. I was like,
1:28:07 that guy, that woman, must have been something. To erect a monument to her that is just so
1:28:15 grand. She must have been very, very good in bed is what I thought. So I got my hands on books,
1:28:25 magazines, Cosmo, everything. And it wasn’t until probably my mid-20s that my relationships to sex
1:28:30 changed. And I started having a much more positive outlook on it and enjoying it. But it took some
1:28:36 time because in the beginning, I just thought, how did the human species survive? This is just
1:28:40 awful. Because when you’re young, you don’t really know what you’re doing. Yeah, no.
1:28:46 But when you get older, you, if you’re lucky and you find the right partner, then you do.
1:28:53 So I’m going to switch gears. And I want to talk about rolling the dice, but not metaphorically.
1:28:59 Literally, I want to talk about rolling dice. And I’ll just let you take it from there because
1:29:05 I might want to spend quite a bit of time on this. Okay, dice rolling is a lot of fun.
1:29:07 How did this even come up? How did this even start?
1:29:13 Yeah, it came up during the pandemic. So during the pandemic, the world was kind of divided into
1:29:19 two camps. There was the people that were first responders, critical responders, critical infrastructure
1:29:23 for the country who had to continue to go to work. So they were in their own kind of suffering and
1:29:28 their own kind of experience of the pandemic. And then there was people who were forced to pause.
1:29:35 And I was one of the forced to pause people. And so I started reading all of this early 1920s
1:29:43 esoteric philosophy and- Hold on, hold on. How the fuck does that happen? Why that?
1:29:51 Gosh, I don’t even know where to jump off here to tell. I go in rabbit holes and I go deep down
1:29:55 these rabbit holes until I’m satisfied. And then I go down another one, another one, another one.
1:29:59 And this particular one gripped me because I was interested in mysticism.
1:30:07 And I started reading works by Alistair Crowley, which led me, which I’m sure you’re familiar
1:30:11 with him, which led me to this weird publication that he published, which also led me to a weird
1:30:18 short story called The Magic Glasses by Frank, I forget his last name. It’ll come to me later, but
1:30:23 I’ll find it. It’s really, really great. I’m making a movie based off of this short story. So it’s
1:30:29 actually a really great story and- Frank Harris? Frank Harris, yeah. So by Frank Harris, I highly
1:30:34 recommend reading this story. It’s fantastic. The rest of Frank Harris’ stuff is a little more
1:30:42 challenging. So he was a cowboy who, at the age of 14, basically ran away from home. And the
1:30:46 in vogue thing when you ran away from home in Europe was you ran off to America. Like,
1:30:51 that was your big FU. It’s like, I’m gonna go get on a ship and you’ll never see me again.
1:30:57 So he ran off to America. He ended up falling into some amazing intellectual groups of writers,
1:31:02 and he wrote one of the smuddiest books of the time called My Life and Loves, which was banned
1:31:08 worldwide. And it was an account of every single sexual encounter that this guy had. It’s a fantastic
1:31:15 book, but again, tough to read because he was also a cattle rancher. He became a cattle rancher,
1:31:20 and he ended up killing people for cattle. And it’s hard to tell what’s real and what’s fake,
1:31:24 but back at the time, this might have happened. You know, it might have been real.
1:31:30 But what led me down this rabbit hole was because I was trying to ask a very important question,
1:31:37 which is a question I hope that everybody asks, which is why are we here? Why do any of this,
1:31:43 anything that we’ve talked about at all, like what is the purpose of any of it, has been a question,
1:31:48 a rabbit hole that has continued throughout my life continues, probably will continue to the day
1:31:54 I die. It’ll be an unanswered question. I have some answers, but mostly it’s an unanswered question.
1:32:01 And I started playing with artificial constraints. It first started with my clothing. I realized
1:32:07 I can’t be like Steve Jobs. I can’t be Mark Zuckerberg. I can’t just wear a uniform and flip
1:32:11 flops and call it a day. I would feel dead inside. I just couldn’t do it.
1:32:19 How does the applying constraints relate to Frank Harris and the why are we here question?
1:32:24 The story about Frank Harris that magic glasses when you read it is about
1:32:30 trying on different perspectives and seeing the world in a new way. And if you were to be able
1:32:34 to put on a pair of magic glasses that allowed you to see the world in a magical way, would you do
1:32:41 it? And for how long would it be magical before you just relegated those glasses to your drawer of
1:32:48 all the other chalk keys and novelties that the human brain grows bored of? And I started looking
1:32:52 around at all the novelties in my life and all the things I had grown bored of and all of the
1:32:57 perspectives I had tried on and tossed into the drawer. And I started looking at my wardrobe
1:33:05 as being an interesting side effect of novelty. And so I started thinking about that story and
1:33:13 thinking about my closet. And I love clothes. I just love them. I love expressing myself with
1:33:20 clothes. I love costumes. I love cosplay. I love textures. I love fabric. I love fashion. And so
1:33:25 I’ve always had this guilt around loving these things. And so I tried to figure out how to be
1:33:33 the best minimalist maximalist I could be. And so I started playing all sorts of forcing function
1:33:40 games. And it came out of reading, you know, Gergiev and Frank Harris and Alistair Crowley
1:33:47 and all these things. Dice rolling oddly came out of all of that. So I went to my friends and family
1:33:52 and I said, I am tired of picking up my outfit every day, but I can’t get a uniform. So can you guys
1:33:59 pick a theme? And so the first theme was plaid. And I was plaid from head to toe. So everything,
1:34:04 underwear, socks, shoes, hat, gloves, it didn’t matter what it was, it had to be plaid.
1:34:10 And when you go into a store and they’re like, can I help you? And you’re like,
1:34:17 do you have anything plaid? The answer is usually I have two things, like two items of clothing or
1:34:23 three items of clothing. So it automatically forces you to not buy things and to constrain
1:34:28 yourself with this weird pattern you’ve picked for the season. And so when you say season,
1:34:34 how long are you wearing plaid for? Three months. Yeah, it was brutal. It was brutal.
1:34:39 So that wasn’t enough. I had to learn all about plaid. Like, what is plaid? Is a checker plaid?
1:34:45 You know, is gingham a plaid? What makes a plaid a plaid? It’s really fascinating. So the second
1:34:51 season I hated the most, which was polka dot. It was awful. And I’ll tell you why polka dot’s awful,
1:34:57 because most prints and fabrics, the polka dots are either printed and layered on top of the fabric,
1:35:02 but they’re never woven into the fabric. And so polka dots are usually made out of really cheap
1:35:08 fibers. So polyesters and things that are really hot and sticky and gross. So in each of these cases,
1:35:16 are you ending up with like 12 storage units full of plaid and polka dot stuff, respectively? No.
1:35:21 Okay, so it constrains the volume. It constrains the volume. And it got to the point where I mean,
1:35:24 I can’t wear a polka dot again, probably for the rest of my life. Have you ever seen me wearing
1:35:29 polka dots? Like I’ve gotten over the trauma. But plaid was one of my favorites, actually,
1:35:35 because learning how to wear mismatch plaids. But the thing that was really interesting was
1:35:39 when I’d go into a store, how people would be delighted and just light up when they saw what
1:35:44 I was wearing. They would just start laughing and giggling. And I realized that clothing could be a
1:35:49 source of joy, not just for yourself, but for other people. So it’s like minimalism plus joy,
1:35:55 or like reduce decision making and increase joy at the same time. Correct. That’s a great
1:36:00 way to distill what I’m obsessed with right now. How did the dice come into this? I don’t want to
1:36:03 cut off the story at all. After I ran this experiment for a year and a half,
1:36:08 and I learned a lot about what I like and don’t like and what kind of fashion suits me and doesn’t
1:36:13 suit me and which friends to allow to pick my wardrobe and which not to, I started looking at
1:36:18 my dining choices. And I started looking at my holiday choices and my driving choices. And I
1:36:23 started asking myself the question, do I even make good choices? Now you would think that because
1:36:28 I’m successful, the answer is yes, I make great choices. But I make choices just like any other
1:36:34 person that are ingrained choices formed out of habit. So I wanted to see what would happen
1:36:40 if I became more random. What happens if you introduce random to your life? And you start
1:36:47 to eliminate choice. Are you as successful? Are you as joyous? How much of what we do is really
1:36:54 because we’re brilliant or is because that’s just how the cards fall? Well, I have not been led
1:37:00 astray by the dice a single time. So how it works is, let’s say you and I want to go to dinner, Tim,
1:37:04 and I’m like, what do you want to eat? And you’re like, I don’t know. And we go around and we do
1:37:09 this thing that everybody does for five minutes trying to decide. So this is why I wanted to get
1:37:14 into the dice because this literally I had one of my closest friends text me yesterday. We were
1:37:18 talking about decision fatigue. And he’s like, you more than most people are exhausted and get
1:37:25 very frustrated by tasks or assignments like choosing a restaurant where there is no right
1:37:30 answer, right? Because it can chew up so much fucking time and energy and there’s so much
1:37:36 tail chasing and back and forth. Anyway, rant complete for now, but please continue. So we’re
1:37:39 trying to decide what to do for you. I can help fix this for you, Tim. I’m so excited to introduce
1:37:44 you to dice rolling. So I wear dice around my neck and I take them everywhere I go. And this gives
1:37:51 me one through 12. Obviously, you can get multi-sided dice and you can come up with all sorts of
1:37:55 different options. You can use dice to even just do coin flip type stuff because you can do odds or
1:38:04 evens. But you and I want to go to dinner. We can’t decide even on a genre. So maybe we hone in on
1:38:10 Italian like we were making some progress here. So we basically put Italian into open table.
1:38:16 We roll the dice. Whatever it lands on, we are committed. We are going to go. It doesn’t matter
1:38:21 what the reviews are. If you cared about the reviews, then you could have constrained it by
1:38:28 reviews. You set the parameters, right? But the thing is every one of these choices shouldn’t
1:38:34 take you longer than a minute. So you can move on with your life. And every time I’ve gone to
1:38:40 these places, it’s been better food than I could ever imagine. I meet random people that are so
1:38:45 incredible. I’ve gone on strange road trips where I’ve just had the most magical experiences.
1:38:52 And the list goes on and on and on and on. My life has only been improved by taking myself out of the
1:38:59 decision-making process because I am the hindrance. What other examples could you give of situations
1:39:04 in which you’d use the dice? Because there’s also a question of at what point do you introduce the
1:39:10 random? Because you could decide on genre, reviews, geography, and then before you know,
1:39:14 you’ve spent a much time on this decision anyway, and then you introduce randomness at the end.
1:39:19 The savings isn’t necessarily super great, nor is the breadth of the randomness, so to speak.
1:39:21 So what are some other situations where you might use the dice?
1:39:27 Road trips are great for road trips. So I went on a road trip one time where I rolled
1:39:33 and landed on something called Pioneer City, I think, in California, Pioneer Town.
1:39:36 And what was the list, I’m sorry, just to know how this works?
1:39:37 Thrift stores.
1:39:39 Thrift stores. So you’re like best thrift stores in the United States?
1:39:46 Yeah, in California. I had some time to kill and I was driving from Nevada through the Palm
1:39:54 Desert and then to Southern California, and so I had time. And so I put that in and I rolled,
1:39:59 I don’t know, like a 13 or whatever or 12, and it landed on this thrift store in a place called
1:40:04 Pioneer Town, which is a ghost town, Old Western Town, and then the only thing that’s there
1:40:11 is this thrift store and some weird little store that sells water. It’s it.
1:40:12 I mean, good that–
1:40:15 In a harmonica. I got a harmonica there. I still have my harmonica.
1:40:22 But I went in and the experience was spiritual for me. Like, when I roll the dice, it puts me
1:40:27 in places and it puts me in a frame of mind where anything’s possible and anything at any
1:40:33 moment can happen. And you just have to be ready for it. You have to not be thinking about what
1:40:37 you’re doing tomorrow or what you did yesterday. You’re just there. And you’re going to trust
1:40:40 that whatever the dice is going to throw at you is going to be amazing.
1:40:47 Could I see what’s around your neck again? Because as a former D&D player, I have tons of
1:40:51 experience with dice. I’m just curious, are they too separate?
1:40:55 Yeah, let me get it open for you. They’re little dice and they come out of this little cage.
1:40:57 I don’t know if you can see them.
1:40:59 Oh, yeah, I see it.
1:41:03 Yeah. And so they’re teeny tiny dice and they’re in this little cage and then the cage locks.
1:41:06 And it’s just a little locket that I carry around everywhere.
1:41:09 Okay, that’s cool.
1:41:15 And I introduced so many people to it and they’ve started adopting it. I use it for
1:41:20 giving public talks. I’ve done it for public talks, which is I’ll have the audience scream out
1:41:25 12 topics. And then whatever the dice rolls on is what I start with. And then we just go through
1:41:33 the dice. And so it’s not an order. And it makes things much more fun. Picking what movies to watch.
1:41:38 You get movie paralysis. And the one thing I haven’t done yet is make business decisions
1:41:44 with dice. But at some point, I might. I would do it probably with my own personal money,
1:41:50 wouldn’t do it with my LP’s money, old disclaimer. But interestingly, when I started
1:41:56 down this dice experiment, my friend, Penn Gillette, who’s a magician wrote a book called
1:42:02 Random at the exact same time. And that book is a bit graphic, but it involves a guy who
1:42:07 basically has to come up with a million dollars in a very short period of time. And he uses dice
1:42:11 that make all that money for him and then some. But it’s exploring the same thought experiment,
1:42:17 which is, I guess the question is, do you believe in free will or not? And boy,
1:42:23 we’re Sam Harris when we need them. Right. And how much of what we’re doing is consciousness versus
1:42:30 not. And how much of our patterns actually hinder us versus open us up to possibility.
1:42:35 I think that’s the big one. For people who might get lost like me, honestly, I’ve listened to so
1:42:40 many discussions of free will foreign against, and I can’t make heads or tails out of it. I wish
1:42:46 I were smarter. But the last question, I feel like I can wrap my head around and grok,
1:42:51 how much do our habits and patterns help us versus hinder us? That’s a good question.
1:42:56 And this is where dice rolling really comes into play. Now, I have a very hard rule, which is,
1:43:03 I never ever say, oh, I don’t want to do that. And then I don’t do it. I’m a little, if you will,
1:43:09 religious about the dice and whatever it lands on, I do no matter what. So I even do house cleaning
1:43:14 chores that I don’t want to do. And I use the dice. So I’ll put like six things on a list. And
1:43:18 maybe there’s one really fun thing that I really want to do. And then five things I really don’t
1:43:24 want to do. And the dice almost always land on the things you don’t want to do. And that’s actually
1:43:29 great because I don’t betray it. I get through the thing. And then I roll again. And then eventually,
1:43:33 at some point, I might land on that sweet treat thing I wanted to do.
1:43:40 You know, and then I’m excited. I’m like, yeah, I get to watch a movie finally after doing my
1:43:47 taxes and everything else. But yeah, I mean, I really wish people would try more things like
1:43:55 this because I think people think that the way that they are is unchangeable, that they are static,
1:44:01 that they have no ability to break their habits or form new ones. And introducing something simple
1:44:08 like this that allows you to make decisions quickly, move through life fast and then put
1:44:13 some more joy. And it just seems like a win-win-win. Yeah, I love this idea. I’m going to try this.
1:44:19 I would love if it’s possible. I don’t know who knows. Maybe I had this made by an artisan in
1:44:26 Siberia for all I know. But the la-lock-it with the dice, that would be good, right? Except for my
1:44:30 pocket or something. I could send you one of these. Oh yeah. Yeah, I would love to try one of those.
1:44:34 Yeah, they make them in San Francisco. There’s an artist that makes them and be happy to send you
1:44:39 one and get you dice rolling. That would be great. I’m in. I’m probably going to get a placeholder
1:44:45 set because I have a trip coming up this week and it’s the very last minute for me. I was just
1:44:51 kind of like, fuck it. Throw caution to the wind. I’m going on this crazy last minute international
1:45:00 trip and it’s the perfect opportunity to use dice a lot. So I’m going to try that. So you said
1:45:05 you were religious about it. So religiously random. You mentioned Pendulat who I’ve had on the podcast,
1:45:12 brilliant guy, incredible weight loss story. Oh yeah, the potato diet. And I think fair to
1:45:20 describe as a militant atheist. I think that’s a fair description. When you were talking about being
1:45:26 saved on the side of the road so long ago in this conversation, I want to say the wording you used
1:45:35 was, at the time, I didn’t believe in God because this driver brought up God. Now, to me, that implies
1:45:41 there might have been a change. There has. And interestingly, I was so nervous to call Pen and
1:45:47 tell him that I was no longer an atheist and I thought I didn’t know what to expect and he’s
1:45:52 coming out of the closet. He’s coming out of the closet. And he was so sweet about it. He said,
1:45:59 “Who cares?” He’s like, “You’re a good person and you’re a kind person.” And if you’re a little
1:46:05 woo-woo, whatever, he’s like, “I’d rather be around a good person who’s woo-woo than an unkind
1:46:14 person who’s atheist.” And he also has seen, if you look at pictures of me before my spiritual
1:46:21 change and after night and day, I am healthier. I look younger. I have more energy. I’m happier.
1:46:27 Everything has been better since I became a spiritual person. When I was an atheist,
1:46:33 everything was worse and I had a stroke. We’re going to come back to the stroke.
1:46:41 What catalyzed the spiritual change? Part of it was this weird rabbit hole I went down during
1:46:45 the pandemic of Aleister Crowley and all of these guys. For people just because you’ve invoked the
1:46:52 name Aleister Crowley a few times, could you just brief? It doesn’t have to be super factual detail,
1:46:56 but who is this person you’ve referred to a number of times? And then how on earth,
1:47:05 I mean, does that lead to the spiritual change? He’s an occultist leader who practiced what you
1:47:14 might consider witchcraft or magic. And I said magic in quotes because obviously,
1:47:18 there’s going to be atheists and people that don’t believe that what Aleister Crowley did was real.
1:47:23 He had a very big following and then a lot of fractures that came out of those
1:47:29 followings of people who are massively popular and massively controversial.
1:47:33 He was controversial because he also showed up in weird outfits and he was kind of like
1:47:39 the Nixon/Timothy/Leary dynamic and so much as Nixon saying this guy’s the most dangerous
1:47:42 person in America. I feel like Crowley also occupied a similar mind space.
1:47:46 A lot of people thought he was a Satanist and he was not. As a matter of fact,
1:47:50 a lot of what he studied was the teachings of Christ and he talked about Christ a lot.
1:47:57 And I think a lot of people don’t realize that new age stuff and occultism and all of this early
1:48:05 stuff actually is deeply rooted in monotheism and has nothing to do with Satan anyway that I could
1:48:11 discover other than they theorize that there are dark energy forces or dark spirits out there and
1:48:17 people who know how to harness dark energy. And Aleister actually worked in what we call the light
1:48:23 and so he wanted to repel people because what he was teaching wasn’t for everybody.
1:48:28 He actually didn’t want you to read his stuff. He did not want you to follow him.
1:48:30 But there’s a lot of wonky stuff in there.
1:48:33 How does this lead to Radiant Scamp?
1:48:34 Yeah, how does it lead?
1:48:35 This is the question on everyone’s mind.
1:48:42 I got my hands on every book, every movie, every everything I could find from that time
1:48:46 and I realized that people in the early 1900s were on to something.
1:48:52 They were on to something about what life is really all about.
1:48:55 And all of these great works that people wrote back then.
1:48:57 And when you say back then, just a time frame and I looked it up,
1:49:06 so Aleister Crowley was born in, she just wrote it down and then I lost track of it, 1875 died
1:49:14 in 1947. So that period of time was a wackadoodle time where people were publishing all these crazy
1:49:18 books and practicing these occult practices and running around in weird robes and looking
1:49:23 like Harry Potter and doing some psychedelics too. So some of them did psychedelics and some of
1:49:28 them did use THC or half hashish as part of their ceremonies or things that they did.
1:49:34 But a lot of it was sober and what they were trying to figure out is, is there a veil?
1:49:36 Is there something beyond what we can see and what we know?
1:49:42 And is it supernatural or can it be explained by science later?
1:49:45 And a lot of them believe that it could be explained by science later,
1:49:50 that actually it’s just undiscovered science. And I became really interested in those people
1:49:58 in particular and I really went down a rabbit hole with this author and philosopher named Gergiev.
1:50:03 And Gergiev, I believe, was Greek and his understudy was named Alspenski.
1:50:07 And Alspenski wrote a book called, I think it’s called The Curious Case of Ivan Ossokin,
1:50:14 which is what Groundhog Day is based off of. And I was studying at the time
1:50:23 kind of what made Bill Murray make the art that he makes. And without asking him,
1:50:28 I like to form my own opinions, you know, just like, what did I think it was?
1:50:31 It was really clear that, you know, I didn’t watch any of his movies until the pandemic.
1:50:35 I did a lot of stuff in the pandemic. I’ve never done, but I hadn’t seen Groundhog Day.
1:50:38 I hadn’t seen Caddyshack. I hadn’t seen any of these movies. And I just-
1:50:39 What about Bob? I hope.
1:50:44 I saw What About Bob, the man who knew two little broken flowers.
1:50:49 Like, I watched them all. And I realized that this is an artist who’s on a mission to teach us
1:50:55 something. He wants us to learn something. What is that thing? And I noticed he kept
1:50:59 repeating a phrase over and over again in a lot of his movies, which is, it just doesn’t matter.
1:51:05 Now, if you look that up, that’s a nihilistic sounding statement. It just doesn’t matter.
1:51:10 And taken on the surface, you would just assume that it was a nihilistic thing,
1:51:14 and that’s what it means. But if you go under that, and you actually
1:51:18 look at the root of the philosophy of which that statement is coming from,
1:51:24 it goes back to what we were talking about in a previous conversation about the fictions that
1:51:31 we make in our mind. And I realized that my mother is a fiction. The mother that left me,
1:51:38 that left the $20 that gave me up to the court system. I haven’t given her a chance to know who
1:51:45 she is today. I don’t even know who she is today. But I carried around this grief, this suffering,
1:51:53 this loss, this story, and I was harming myself every day by carrying that story inside of me.
1:51:58 And so I started watching this movie called The Razor’s Edge, which is based off of a novel
1:52:03 by Somerset Mom. I think that’s how you say his name. And there was a 1930s version of the movie,
1:52:07 and then there’s a version that Bill Murray did. And Bill Murray’s was very interesting to me,
1:52:16 because I believe that he agreed to make Ghostbusters II in exchange for them making this
1:52:23 movie that he wrote. The Razor’s Edge. The Razor’s Edge, yeah. And it’s a very low-budget film,
1:52:27 because they didn’t give him a ton of money to do it, and it involves many locations and
1:52:33 period stuff, and that’s all very expensive. And his acting is, you know, he’s Bill. He did a great
1:52:39 job. But at the same time, it’s not going to be the best produced film he’s ever made. But it
1:52:45 explores all of these ideas around Gergiev’s philosophy, around suffering and what suffering
1:52:52 is. And there’s a line that he says in the movie when someone he loves died, and he is trying to
1:52:59 comprehend it, and he looks at this woman who was previously his fiance. And she explains this whole
1:53:03 story, but the woman’s dead. You can’t bring her back, and he just looks at her, and he just says,
1:53:12 well, it just doesn’t matter. And in that moment, when I watched that movie, I had this energy
1:53:19 at the bottom of my spine basically shoot out the top of my head. And there was a bunch of people
1:53:24 in the room when we were watching the movie, and they all paused, you know, they paused the movie,
1:53:29 and they looked at me, and everybody said, “What was that?” And I was like, “What was what?” Because
1:53:34 I thought maybe they got chills, too. You know, maybe that line hit them hard, like it hit me
1:53:40 hard. But no, it was a singular event only for me in that moment that impacted the whole room
1:53:48 energetically, where everyone’s hair was standing on end at what just happened to me. And from that
1:53:54 day forward, nothing has been the same. It’s like a veil got lifted on the universe around me,
1:54:01 and now I see things that I never was able to see before. I am able to see art and poetry and
1:54:08 all sorts of things. It’s almost as if some sort of PTSD veil that was in my body got lifted,
1:54:13 because I started believing, or believing is a weird word, I don’t like to use that word too much,
1:54:17 but I started suspecting that there’s something bigger out there than all of us, that we’re in
1:54:21 a simulation, or we’re in some kind of something. The randomness in the dice actually taught me a
1:54:26 lot of that, because things start to get really magical, and you can’t explain it. But it’s beautiful,
1:54:31 and you’re just like, “I’m along for the ride. I’m in some weird earth school,” is what I’ve
1:54:38 determined. We’re all in earth school, and we inhabit human bodies, but we’re nothing but an
1:54:44 energy life force inside of them. And that life force does not dissipate, and it doesn’t go nowhere,
1:54:54 it doesn’t disappear. Life force does not disappear. And do you want to hear about a really strange
1:54:58 spiritual experience that I had? Because I think you’d like it. Of course I do. I mean, I’m keeping
1:55:04 track here. It’s like Crowley to Gertschiff to Aspensky to the concept of Groundhog Day to Bill
1:55:10 Murray to just as a matter. Welcome to my mind. To what seems like, I mean, I didn’t know anything
1:55:13 about this, but you’ve probably read a million things about it. Anyway, we’re going to come back
1:55:18 to the spinal thing, because it’s like, huh, that seems to be what some people might describe as
1:55:21 like a Kundalini Awakening. Some people call it Kundalini Awakening. I was just going to say
1:55:24 a Kundalini Awakening. Yeah, when I explain to people what happened to me, they go, “Oh,
1:55:28 you had Kundalini,” and I’m like, “Huh? I had no idea what happened to me.” I don’t really know what
1:55:32 that is. I’ve just heard the phrase, but you said strange spiritual experience. I do want to come
1:55:39 back to this placeholder Kundalini Awakening just to know how you now make sense of that. Maybe
1:55:44 we start there and then we can go to the other spiritual experience. Like, how do you explain
1:55:50 to yourself what happened in that instance? I thought I was losing my mind. Of course you did.
1:55:56 I had a lot of sympathy for people who have mental health issues and end up
1:56:02 in hospitals on 5150s, because I realized we’re just a hair away from being crazy every one of us.
1:56:08 And because it wasn’t just that energy that shot through me, I mean, that itself was just powerful.
1:56:12 And then the realization, the epiphany that I was carrying around this fiction
1:56:19 and that I was responsible for that fiction. I was spinning it up and my ego was spinning it up and
1:56:23 I experienced ego dissolution for the first time.
1:56:27 And- Was this at the same time that you were watching this movie?
1:56:34 Yes, it happened right afterwards. And it was very sudden and it was frankly scary. And so I
1:56:41 started getting visions of places to go, started having dreams that were predicting people calling
1:56:47 me, talking to me. I started knowing what people were going to say before they said it
1:56:53 and all sorts of strange things that I can’t explain. And like I said, maybe science someday
1:56:58 will discover that we have a form of communication as human beings as animals that we’re unaware of.
1:57:03 You know, humans can only see a certain amount of perceptible light and sound,
1:57:08 so it’s not completely out of the question that we can’t see or hear certain things that are
1:57:14 happening around us. But the veil, for lack of a better term, was lifted. And when I turned away
1:57:20 from my practice of meditation and mindfulness, that veil would come back down. When I was
1:57:25 introspective in thinking about the bigger question, which is what is the meaning of life and what is
1:57:32 my purpose in it, which it answered for me, I know what my purpose is now, before that I was adrift.
1:57:36 You know, as an atheist, I thought there was no point. We just have to be good people.
1:57:40 We have to get by. We have to love one another. I knew that love was a universal thing that we
1:57:47 should all strive for. But I didn’t have a purpose. And after this experience, I suddenly had one.
1:57:55 And my purpose is very simple, which is to spread joy, to lift other people up around me,
1:58:02 and to do my best in my own way to end poverty. Now, I’m not responsible for ending poverty.
1:58:08 I think we’re all responsible. But it informs a lot of my investment decisions now. It informs…
1:58:15 I realized I was already doing a lot of these things anyway. But I became a more service-oriented
1:58:22 person. I started becoming more a part of a bigger whole. Whereas before, I was more of an individual.
1:58:29 And now I realize that I’m part of something much bigger and much more beautiful than I ever
1:58:37 could have possibly imagined. So I’m imagining that you’ve done a ton of rating after having this
1:58:42 experience. Furthermore, I imagine you reached out to anyone you thought might be able to shed
1:58:48 light on this in some capacity and talk to those people. Let’s just say there are a bunch of people
1:58:55 listening who are Atheist, or maybe they describe themselves as agnostic, which I think is a bit
1:59:00 of a slippery term, frankly, because Atheist says, “I believe in God or gods.” And if you can’t say
1:59:06 that, then you are kind of by definition an Atheist. But I’ll let agnostic slide. People are
1:59:13 listening, and they do feel somewhat adrift or rudderless or choose your metaphor without North
1:59:20 Star in their current relating to the world. They would love to have a purpose. They would
1:59:24 love to feel like they have a purpose. What advice would you give to these people? Because it sounds
1:59:33 like I would imagine, even if they were to watch this movie, that fewer or none of them would
1:59:37 experience the same thing that you did. It’s not repeatable. You have to be in the same place.
1:59:43 So what do you do? If you’re hearing this and you’re like, “You know what? I yearn for that type
1:59:50 of purpose.” You have to face something very ugly, which is yourself. You have to look inside and
1:59:57 see who and what you really are, and then you have to love yourself, even when you don’t like what
2:00:03 you see. When people used to say practice self-love, I thought it meant go eat bonbons and go see a
2:00:10 good movie and smoke a joint. That was self-love. But it wasn’t getting me anywhere. I was like,
2:00:18 “This whole self-love thing is jive. It’s just not working out.” But I didn’t realize that self-love
2:00:25 is learning how to give yourself unconditional love. The best way I’ve learned how to give
2:00:31 yourself unconditional love is imagine yourself as a ball of light, and then take that ball of
2:00:37 light and visualize it outside of your body and cradle it like it’s a baby. Now, when you look
2:00:43 at that baby, would you hurt that baby? Would you do anything to hurt that baby or harm that baby?
2:00:50 Like, would you kill the baby? You’re just a ball of light. I think when you start looking
2:00:54 at yourself that way and you start talking to yourself, and I’m cradling right now and trying
2:01:02 to show Tim I’m my ball of light, and you start to realize that all of the things that we experience
2:01:08 are often, well, actually they all, are a simulation in our mind that we start to talk about ourselves
2:01:13 a certain way. You would never hurt a ball of light until it’s an awful piece of crap.
2:01:18 Why do we tell ourselves we’re an awful piece of crap? The other thing is that we’re the only
2:01:25 species or animal on this planet that punishes itself more than once. You know, we ruminate
2:01:31 and think constantly about what we fucked up on or how we could be better when in reality
2:01:38 we’d be better served if we just let it go. So, if you want to experience something like this,
2:01:44 and I do warn you that a lot of the stuff leads to things that can be jarring and very scary if
2:01:49 you’re not ready for them yet. There are psychological events that can happen that are sometimes
2:01:56 indistinguishable from mania and everything else. So, you just have to be careful. But I found my
2:02:01 path to this by looking inward and trying to know myself and then taking accountability for all my
2:02:07 ugliness. And once you get through that and you forgive yourself and you love yourself,
2:02:13 there’s nothing but light on the other side. But really it’s about love. You know, at the
2:02:17 end of the day, it’s about love. Well, it sounds trite. Everybody says love is the answer. Like,
2:02:23 what does that even mean? But it absolutely is the answer. If you put something metaphorically
2:02:33 speaking on a billboard, message, quote, anything to impart or display could be an image somebody
2:02:42 else’s quote to great, great masses of people. What might it be? I mean, it’s the same concept
2:02:48 that was explored in The Matrix and in lots of different fiction. It’s just to wake up. Wake up.
2:02:53 If you see it enough times, maybe you’ll understand what it means. If you wake up at a bed and you’re
2:02:59 awake, you think you’re awake, but you’re actually not. You’re in a form of sleep. And that sleep is
2:03:05 what’s called your mechanical, automaton sort of actions that you take that are in response to
2:03:13 what’s being thrown at you in the world, what nature gave to you and what nurture handed to you.
2:03:18 And you just accept it. And so you’re just sleepwalking through life.
2:03:23 And the moment you take the reins and you become the narrator of your own story and sometimes the
2:03:28 captain, then that’s when it’s a transformational change.
2:03:30 Take it.
2:03:36 And that ties back into dice rolling, right? Like, dice rolling is a way to stay awake.
2:03:41 Staying awake and staying conscious and staying present is a practice you must practice every day.
2:03:49 And if you don’t, then you just have to accept the cookie falls, how it crumbles or what are some
2:03:51 cliches? Except how the cookie crumbles.
2:03:57 You accept how the cookie crumbles, but you could introduce a little more random. You could
2:04:01 go to work dressed as SpongeBob SquarePants, as I like to say, but people don’t.
2:04:04 There’s a lot of things you could be doing that you’re not doing.
2:04:09 Another movie that actually really helped me in my life was the movie American Beauty with
2:04:15 Kevin Spacey. And I was probably in my early 20s when that came out. And I came out of the theater
2:04:21 and I sat on the floor and I said, “My life is a broken record. I’m stuck in a groove that I can’t
2:04:26 seem to get out of. I’m going to break up with my boyfriend and switch my job.” And the movie
2:04:31 inspired that. You know, art has a way of being at the right place at the right time for you.
2:04:36 And sometimes you really do need to switch things up and you need to get out of your
2:04:40 groove because you’re your own worst nightmare.
2:04:46 How did you end up and maybe you don’t know, but how did you experience a stroke?
2:04:52 And what effect did that have on you?
2:04:58 So yeah, I was at Founders Fun when it happened and I experienced it as the worst headache of my
2:05:03 life. It was a migraine on a scale of 1 to 10. It was like a 15. It was like the worst headache
2:05:10 you could possibly have. And it progressively got worse every day and the doctors just treated
2:05:14 it as a migraine because I was young. When you’re young and you’re experiencing a stroke,
2:05:18 it doesn’t make a lot of sense to people. And so they start going down this decision tree and
2:05:22 they’re like, “It obviously has to be either a cluster headache or a migraine or something like
2:05:27 that.” So I was treated for a migraine. I went to the ER. Again, they treated me for a migraine,
2:05:32 didn’t give me a CT scan. And eventually I started seeing double. I started falling.
2:05:37 I always like to say you don’t want to actually feel what gravity feels like
2:05:41 because there’s falling and you have resistance and then there’s falling with no resistance.
2:05:47 And falling with no resistance is really spooky. And so you’re standing and then you’re down. It’s
2:05:52 just like there’s nothing to keep you up. And so that started happening to me. And I went to a
2:05:59 second ER. I had to wait in the ER for six hours. But eventually, again, magical woman came over
2:06:02 and rubbed my leg and she said, “I think you’re having a stroke.” Because at this point, nobody
2:06:08 knew what was wrong with me. And she raised the alarm bell and then suddenly I was put in a CT scanner
2:06:15 and they discovered that I had what’s called a DVST, which is a deep venous sinus thrombosis,
2:06:20 which is clotting throughout the entire center of my brain and down my jugular,
2:06:25 my right jugular. And I was moments away from death by the time they found it.
2:06:33 And that definitely helped kick me off on this quest because when you’re in a hospital for a
2:06:37 couple of weeks, which I was, and you come outside, the very first thing that hits you is air.
2:06:43 Like that first breath of air. I mean, there’s air in a hospital, but there’s really no fresh air.
2:06:47 And suddenly you realize that the most important thing in the world
2:06:51 is not what you thought it was. It puts everything in perspective. It’s like, okay,
2:06:55 first it’s air, then it was the sun on my face, which brought me to my knees. Like I started
2:07:01 bawling. Because what if I never, ever got to experience the sun again? You get really grateful
2:07:08 and filled with gratitude for everything. But we’re human beings, we love novelty,
2:07:16 you go back to sleep. So I had a deep appreciation for life, but as soon as I was walking again and I
2:07:22 was somewhat normal again, I started living the same way again. And I knew that if I kept living
2:07:27 that way, I would die. What do you mean by that? It was really clear that I had put myself in this
2:07:34 position. Oh, die physically, you mean? Yeah, I put myself in this position through avoiding all
2:07:40 my suffering, avoiding my trauma, working through it, working as hard as I could, avoidance, avoidance,
2:07:46 avoidance, avoidance, avoidance. And then it came clear that I had to have some kind of therapy.
2:07:51 I had to do something because I couldn’t keep running away from this ghost of a mother. And
2:07:55 I had to find something that worked. And talking to therapists never worked.
2:08:00 psilocybin worked. psilocybin helped a lot. I did a couple of hero doses of psilocybin that
2:08:05 taught me quite a bit about myself. And they were super helpful. You know, IFS, I started looking
2:08:11 into integrated family systems and that helped a lot. But really, it was meditation and philosophy
2:08:17 that got me over the line. Whatever works, man, just go out and really study yourself and know
2:08:22 yourself. Know thyself is an important mantra for a reason, because I do honestly believe we’re in
2:08:27 school. And when you start realizing, oh, I’m in a school and all of these hard knocks in life are
2:08:35 just lessons. You think about them very differently. Who would your go-to philosophers be who helped you
2:08:43 in that period in those early chapters of this, let’s call it, awakening? And then what type of
2:08:47 meditation do you practice? What does it look like? You can tackle those in either order.
2:08:52 Yeah, so I try all sorts of different types of meditation apps. And none of them really stuck
2:08:59 with me. I would get hung up on people’s voices. And there’s a critic inside of us and I would
2:09:06 criticize everything. So somebody turned me on to Tibetan throat singing. And that’s what did it.
2:09:11 Did not see that coming. So are you then the one singing? Are you listening to Tibetan throat
2:09:16 singing? Both. I do both. So I chant along with the chants. I moan along with the moaning to the
2:09:26 best of my ability. I listen and I don’t do the bead counting. How did you find Tibetan throat
2:09:30 singing with someone like, you know what, I know you’ve tried everything, but try one more thing.
2:09:35 Embracing random, you know, sometimes the universe gives you if you’re paying attention exactly what
2:09:39 you need. So a friend of mine went to the Telluride Bluegrass Festival and they had some Tibetan
2:09:44 throat singers there and he brought me back a necklace. And he said, look at this necklace. And
2:09:46 it was one of the most beautiful things I’d ever seen. And I was like, well, I’m going to go check
2:09:54 these guys out. And it was a huge unlock. Huge. But again, your mileage may vary. Like, try different
2:09:59 things and see. I think the biggest mistake I made with meditation was trying to treat it like
2:10:04 a sport or it was something that I had to judge myself. I mean, you’re approaching it all wrong
2:10:08 if you’re entering meditation, I think that way. There are different kinds of meditation,
2:10:13 some that even allow and permit thoughts to flow freely. And you’re supposed to look at them and
2:10:16 pay attention to them. And then there’s types of meditations where you’re supposed to clear your
2:10:20 mind. I think people get really scared of meditation because they think of a blank canvas,
2:10:27 a blank mind, and that really scares them and frightens them. And once I got over that and I
2:10:33 started realizing that’s not the point of it, at least it wasn’t for me, I can now meditate for six
2:10:38 hours at a time. Oh my God. Oh. I’m doing my 10 minutes twice a day. I’m pretty happy with myself
2:10:42 for now. Yeah. I mean, my coworkers laugh at me because they’ll take me someplace and I can sit
2:10:49 still for an abnormal amount of time. And I think that’s when you process all of the inputs that
2:10:54 are being thrown at us, how you can synthesize the information that’s been handed to you or even
2:10:58 countered is by those moments of stillness. And so even if it’s 10 minutes a day, it’s something.
2:11:02 You know, it’s not about length of time or anything, it’s about the effort.
2:11:07 It’s not the size that matters. It’s not the size that matters.
2:11:15 So I will say also that whether it’s with exercise or meditation, any new habit or
2:11:20 something you’re trying to build as part of your new programming, the difference between
2:11:26 doing nothing and something is the biggest zero to one, right? That’s the unlock. So if you’re
2:11:31 going from not exercising to exercising, it’s like, okay, don’t set yourself up for failure,
2:11:37 making the pass/fail an hour a day. Do 10 push-ups every other day. Start there.
2:11:44 Five blocks. Same with meditation. The difference between zero and 10 minutes once a day or twice a
2:11:49 day is in terms of quality of life for me, huge, enormous. And if I want to add more time, great.
2:11:54 But what I shouldn’t do is set the pass/fail at an hour a day. And then when I don’t have an hour,
2:12:00 do not meditate. Just reduce the scale, right? Reduce the scope. What about philosophers? Any
2:12:06 folks you might point people to? I’m a big fan of Gurjeev. He’s not for everybody. And he’s very
2:12:14 confusing. A lot like Alistair Crowley or Crowley was a wackadoodle person who liked to drive people
2:12:17 away when they came up to talk to him. If he didn’t like you, he would say obscene things
2:12:26 just so you would go away. This is George Gurjeev? Gurjeev. G-U-R-D-J-I-E-F-F, Gurjeev.
2:12:32 Yeah, Gurjeev. Yeah, George Gurjeev. And one of the things he talks about is,
2:12:36 there’s a lot of things he talks about. The thing that resonated with me the most is,
2:12:43 who is the captain of your ship? Are you the captain of your ship or some rogue process?
2:12:47 I have a UNIX background, so I like to think of things as cron jobs or automated processes.
2:12:53 But there’s some rogue process running you, or are you running yourself? And I think you’ll
2:12:58 discover if you do a lot of introspective work that you are not in charge. So one of the concepts
2:13:02 that he talks about is sort of like a horse carriage. There’s a person who’s driving the horse,
2:13:08 and then there’s the horse, obviously, there’s the carriage. But there’s also the narration
2:13:14 of what’s happening. And it’s even taking control of that inner narration. Like,
2:13:18 where does that even come from? Are you in charge of that? Are you letting it run amuck?
2:13:25 Is it determining which is your ego? Is it determining where you go, what you do,
2:13:30 what’s next? Or are you doing that? So Gurjeev delves deeply into those concepts and more.
2:13:36 Al Spinsky, which is his underling, which a Russian philosopher, and I really, really recommend
2:13:42 reading him, love to think about, and again, I’m self-educated, so I say things wrong sometimes,
2:13:52 but Nietzsche, he had a concept called the eternal recurrence, which is that we’re stuck
2:13:58 in a constant loop until we learn how to be good people, and that’s the premise of Groundhog Day.
2:14:06 And it might explain deja vu. It might explain why you’ve done something and you’re like,
2:14:09 I feel like I’ve done this before, I’ve met that person before, because maybe you have.
2:14:14 And that’s what they talk about in their philosophy, and it’s pretty interesting.
2:14:19 The eternal recurrence can get super confusing. It can get super confusing.
2:14:24 It features quite heavily in the unbearable lightness of being by Mila Kondera,
2:14:31 which I highly, highly recommend to folks. And I’ll just read a quick thing about Gurjeev
2:14:38 also for folks who may be interested. So this is George Ivanovich Gurjeev born in 1867,
2:14:45 and what was formerly Russian Empire, now Armenia. And he was a philosophic, spiritual teacher,
2:14:49 composer, and dance teacher. He taught that people are not conscious of themselves and thus
2:14:54 live their lives in a state of hypnotic “waking sleep,” but that it is possible to awake into a
2:14:58 higher state of consciousness and serve our purpose as human beings. And it goes on.
2:15:02 He also has a great look. He’s got the bald head with the strong man, old man,
2:15:10 like old timey, strong man mustache. All right. So I’ll include links to the names you mentioned,
2:15:15 as well. Any particular book that you would recommend people start with if they wanted to
2:15:20 dip their toes in the water, but maybe something that’s like a gateway drug and maybe a user-friendly
2:15:26 option? What do you think? There’s a book that he has called Beasal Bub’s Tales to His Grandson.
2:15:33 Beasal Bub, that’s a word I haven’t heard in a while. All right. And then Al Spinsky’s,
2:15:39 the curious case of Ivan Ossokin, is about a guy who falls in love with a girl,
2:15:44 but he has to pursue his career because he wants to be able to provide for her.
2:15:49 So he decides to put off being with her so he can pursue his career, but he misses his moment
2:15:55 and she marries another man. And he’s so distraught that he goes to a magician, and the magician is
2:16:01 Gergiev in the book, and says, “Can you please send me back to age 11 so I can do this all over again?
2:16:06 And I will not make the same mistakes again.” And Gergiev, the magician, says,
2:16:11 “Actually, you will. You’ll do everything the exact same again because you can’t help yourself.
2:16:14 You may DBH slightly, but you’re going to end up in the same place without her.”
2:16:20 And so the guy is insistent and he sends him back to 11 years old, and sure enough,
2:16:25 he makes every mistake exactly the same. Sure as shit. Ground hard, Jay.
2:16:30 Gets back to finally to the magician who says, “Wow, you’re lucky that you made it here because
2:16:33 you could have lost me. You could have made a wrong decision along the way,
2:16:38 and then I would have disappeared too.” He goes, “What if I told you that the wedding was fake,
2:16:45 and she got married to upset you?” And he’s like, “What? She’s not married?” And he’s like,
2:16:50 “No, she’s really not married.” And he’s like, “Well, I want to run off and be with her now.” And he
2:16:55 goes, “Ah, that’ll end badly.” And he’s like, “Why?” And he said, “Because you haven’t done the work,
2:17:01 right? You’ve realized that you need to change, but you haven’t done anything to actually change.”
2:17:06 So he says, “Come with me and spend a few years with me, and then maybe you might have a chance
2:17:11 of being with her. But otherwise, all paths lead to you not being with this woman.”
2:17:15 So the movie is Groundhog Day. I believe it’s what Groundhog Day from my research is based off
2:17:21 of, is that book. But it’s just a beautiful tale, and I think that you can’t take these things
2:17:25 literally like full-on. And to be clear, when you say based on, you mean Groundhog Day, the movie,
2:17:33 not the holiday. The movie. Not the holiday, the movie. Okay. And Gurdjieff’s Wikipedia page is
2:17:38 very, very extensive, so that’s going to be my stop number one, in addition to figuring out how to
2:17:44 get some dice. Saiyan, we’ve covered a hell of a lot of ground. I am… Be wilder and faster.
2:17:47 I want to tell you about a three-foot experience I had that you don’t believe.
2:17:48 Oh, yes, of course.
2:17:54 After I had this awakening, I started getting this really weird vision of an Irish man,
2:17:59 and it was like a cartoonish Irish man, and it was hijacking me every moment. I couldn’t think
2:18:03 about anything else. It was like Lucky Charms kind of like. Yeah, like just going like this,
2:18:08 you know, like, with a fist in the air, and he’s like a fighting Irish man. He’s a caricature of an
2:18:16 Irish man. And I was like, I do not know what this means, but I’m going to go do something about it.
2:18:22 And so I went to my husband and I said, I noticed that the Celtics were playing the warriors,
2:18:27 and it was the finals in Boston. And so I made the excuse because it was the only Irish thing I
2:18:31 could think of at the time. And I went to my husband and I said, I want to go to the Celtics game,
2:18:36 and he was like, what is wrong with you? You hate basketball. That makes no sense. And I said,
2:18:41 I know, it makes no sense, but I’m getting this weird sign that I need to go to the Celtics game.
2:18:49 So he bought me the ticket. I didn’t even choose the ticket. And I had a knowing. I’m going to call
2:18:53 it a voice, which makes people worried. Sometimes they’re like, Oh, you’re hearing voices. I don’t
2:18:58 want to get locked up. But I have a knowing. I’m just going to call it a knowing that basically
2:19:03 told me that I didn’t need to bring anything with me to Boston, that everything would be given to
2:19:09 me. All I had to do was bring my wallet and my ID and just show up. So my husband brought me the
2:19:15 ticket to the game, and I show up and I go into the arena early because I have a little bit of
2:19:21 agoraphobia. I’m an introvert. And so now they don’t call them hallways at sporting arenas,
2:19:26 they call them portals. So I had to find my portal to go through my portal, which is already weird
2:19:34 in sci-fi anyway. And I go and find my seat and the whole arena is covered in chairs covered with
2:19:40 green shirts. And I’m disoriented. I call my husband, I’m freaking out. He’s like, Look, you chose
2:19:47 this adventure. You’re in it. Good luck. And he hung up on me. I was like, Ah, so I see down this aisle
2:19:50 that there’s one chair that doesn’t have a shirt on it. So I said, I’m going to go down to that
2:19:53 chair and I’m going to use that number as my reference point. And then I’m going to work out
2:19:59 from there where my seat is. I get to the chair and it’s mine. And I look around the whole arena
2:20:04 and there’s not a single other chair that doesn’t have a shirt. And I was like, Okay,
2:20:11 that’s a weird start to this trip. By itself means nothing. And all of a sudden, this song comes on
2:20:17 over the loudspeakers and usually at a basketball game, they play a song for 20 seconds. But this
2:20:21 time they played this whole song and it was Phil Collins, I can feel it in the air tonight.
2:20:28 And I have this weird superstition as a little girl that when that song came on,
2:20:31 it was going to be a good night. It was a weird superstition. It’s just everything’s going to
2:20:36 be all right because Phil Collins is here and he sings that song and it comes on the airwaves
2:20:39 and it’s just everything’s going to be okay. And it was in that moment because I’m keeping
2:20:44 in mind I’m having this Kundalini, whatever going on with me, that I realized that I wasn’t
2:20:48 completely without superstition. I wasn’t completely without belief because I still believed in Phil
2:20:57 Collins. And so then I said, Okay, well, what if I just start to be hyper present and I start
2:21:02 paying attention to what happens around me? What if I am in a simulation and this is a video game?
2:21:10 What will the video game reveal to me? Well, that’s when stuff got weird. So this guy to the right
2:21:14 of me came in and he’s wearing a Celtic shirt. And he sits down next to me and a guy to the
2:21:18 left of me comes in wearing a warrior’s shirt. The guy to the left of me stands up,
2:21:23 taught in like a military person when they do the national anthem. You can tell a little bit
2:21:29 about him because of this. You can be like, Okay, well, he might be a veteran or he’s a very least
2:21:34 patriotic. The guy to the left of me from the Bay Area didn’t stand up for the national anthem.
2:21:38 He sat it out. When Kathy Gifford got up and started talking about gun control,
2:21:43 this is the woman who was shot in Arizona, the guy on the right sat down, the guy on the left
2:21:47 stood up and started cheering. So just so I can keep them straight. Now the guy from the Bay Area,
2:21:51 the liberal guy stands up. Yeah, he stands up for gun control. The guy to the right sits down for
2:21:57 gun control. And I realized I’m in the middle of America. I’m in the middle of the great divide
2:22:00 of what divides our country. And it’s like representing and playing out right in front of
2:22:05 me with these two guys. So they started fighting over me because it started with the game with
2:22:10 the Celtics winning. And so the guy from the Celtics was talking shit to the guy from the warriors.
2:22:14 And the guy from the Warriors team was just this insufferable, entitled person.
2:22:19 Like when he showed up, he took all the green shirts and threw them. And I ended up with the
2:22:22 green shirt finally. And he’s like, I don’t need these. I’m a champion. I got plenty of… I mean,
2:22:28 he was just… Bad behavior. So the guy on the right at some point about when the Celtics start
2:22:32 losing, the Warriors start winning. He starts getting angry. And I can tell, you can just tell
2:22:36 the tension that a fist fight is about to happen. So he looks at me and he says, are you with him?
2:22:40 This is which guy? Sorry. The Celtics guy. Oh yeah, the Celtics guy. Okay.
2:22:44 Yeah. He’s like, are you with him? And I said, no, I’m not with him. And he goes,
2:22:50 well, who are you with today? And I was like, well, basketball. And he goes, what? And I said,
2:22:56 yeah, I’m here for basketball. And he looks at me like you are absolutely freaking out of your
2:23:02 mind woman. Like you bought a ticket to the finals game. The last game, you flew across the country
2:23:07 because he asked me where I was from. And you don’t even have a team? I was like, no, I don’t have a
2:23:13 team just here for basketball. So the guy on the left hears this and he goes, oh, the Moira’s guy
2:23:17 and he goes, you’re about the meta game. I get it. And I was like, what is the meta game? And he
2:23:22 starts teaching me all about the meta game. And then I get a knowing. What the fuck is the meta game?
2:23:27 Oh, it’s paying attention to like the popcorn people, the business. I see. I got it. I got it.
2:23:32 Basketball. I see. Meta within meta, within meta, within meta. You can find lots of meta games.
2:23:36 You’re into the meta game. Okay. Yeah. So I told him, I said, well, maybe I am. And so I started
2:23:44 playing the meta game with him. And the guy on the right, I got a knowing, again, a weird
2:23:50 intuition, a voice, if you will, that said, to turn around to him and tell him that their main
2:23:54 player, the Celtics, I don’t know his name, but when he comes to the Warriors and he comes to
2:23:58 the Bay Area, he brings his three-year-old son and to tell him that his favorite player is a good
2:24:03 father. And so I told him this and all of a sudden you could see all the angst and the anger in his
2:24:09 body just disappear. It just softened. And he wasn’t fighting anymore. Now, this is, I can’t do it.
2:24:15 This is the Warriors guy? Celtics guy. Sorry. Okay. So I told the Celtics guy about the Celtics player.
2:24:20 Got it. And all of a sudden, because he’s losing, I got the sense that he probably scraped together
2:24:26 money to come see his team win finally on his home turf. And it was like a dream come true for
2:24:32 him. And it wasn’t happening. And so I took a moment to give him love. And then that was it.
2:24:37 And then I thought, this can’t be the reason why I came to Boston is to start a fight between two
2:24:41 sports guys. This cannot be why I got a weird vision of an Irish guy. This cannot be it.
2:24:47 So I went back to my hotel room and I got a bottle of water and I go up to the front desk
2:24:54 and I say, can you build this to my room? Room 340. And the person behind the desk looks at me
2:25:01 and says, you don’t exist. And I said, excuse me? And they said, yeah, you don’t exist. And they
2:25:05 pulled their monitor around and tap on it. And they’re like, see, there’s nobody in that room.
2:25:09 There’s nobody in room 340. I said, I guarantee you I’m in this room. I guarantee you I have a
2:25:14 key to this room. I guarantee you I go up there. My stuff is still there unless you got rid of it.
2:25:19 And they were like, nobody’s been in this room for a week. I’m like, that’s not possible. It’s
2:25:24 just not possible. So I call my assistant and I put on speakerphone. I’m like, tell me the number
2:25:31 for our reservation. She rattles it off. The guy puts it in. Sorry, you don’t exist. And I’m like,
2:25:36 okay, this is getting weird. Well, I’m just going to go to my room where I don’t exist and what do
2:25:39 you want me to do with this water? And he said, keep it. I was like, okay, that’s really strange.
2:25:45 So I went to sleep and the next day I woke up and like any good science experiment, I went back
2:25:50 down to the front desk and there was a different person there and I grabbed a cat bar and I went
2:25:54 up to them and I said, can you put this on room 340? And they said, sure. And they said the same
2:26:00 thing again. You don’t exist. Well, that really put me on tilt because I was like, this is getting
2:26:05 weird. What do you mean I don’t exist? I was like, what do you want me to do with the candy bar?
2:26:09 Keep it. Remember, I said I went there and I had this premonition that everything would be given to
2:26:17 me. So I start walking around the neighborhood and I’m looking for another shirt. So I’ve got a
2:26:22 Celtic shirt that the guy, the lawyer’s guy threw at me, but I need another shirt for the next day
2:26:25 because I’m there for three days. So I got to find another shirt and I wanted one that wasn’t made
2:26:30 in China. So I went around from store to store to store looking at labels, finally gave up and I
2:26:36 end up at this food court and I hear Phil Collins play and that stops me in my tracks. I’m like,
2:26:41 again, you don’t normally hear Phil Collins two days in a row. That’s weird. Grandhog Day Redux.
2:26:45 Right. And so I start recording it, but all of a sudden I look over to the right of me and
2:26:51 there’s a guy dressed in all white. He’s got a white hat on, white glasses, white shirt, white
2:26:55 shoes, and I think he was wearing blue jeans. And I have this feeling that I know him. I’m like,
2:27:00 how is it possible that I know that guy? It’s not possible. I’m like, sign, stay on target,
2:27:05 find your shirt. But there was this pulling, this magnetism, this knowing, this feeling,
2:27:10 this voice. I don’t know what you want to call it once you have one of these awakenings, but it
2:27:15 is unmistakable that if I didn’t go over and talk to him, the whole point of coming to Boston was
2:27:22 for nothing. And I was like, okay, so I wandered over to this guy and he’s talking to a young man
2:27:30 and I said, I’m sorry, do you mind if I bother you? Do you know me? And he looks at me, he’s like,
2:27:34 no, I do not know you. And he looks at me like I’m crazy because I kind of am.
2:27:38 What I like is that you weren’t like, do I know you? Do you know me?
2:27:48 Do I know you? No, I said, do I know you? That’s very cyan. And he’s like, I don’t know you.
2:27:51 I’ve never met you. You don’t know me. And I was like, well, are you a VC? And he goes,
2:27:55 no. And I’m like, are you in the tech industry? No, did you ever live in the Bay Area? No. And I
2:27:59 started asking all these questions. And finally, I’m like, I’m sorry, I’m being rude. What are
2:28:04 you guys up to? And he says, well, I’m talking to my friend here because he has a startup.
2:28:08 And he’s got a company that he’s building and I’m trying to help him with it. And I was like,
2:28:12 oh, so you are in the tech. And he’s like, no, no, I’m not in technology.
2:28:16 And I was like, well, what do you do? And the guy’s like, I’m a t-shirt entrepreneur.
2:28:22 I go, no way, you’re a t-shirt entrepreneur. Okay, what kind of shirts do you make? And he says,
2:28:26 well, you can have as many as you like if you can guess what they mean. And so he lanes them
2:28:31 all out on this table. And each one of them is a different color. And in the middle of each shirt
2:28:37 is a square with another color in it. And then there’s this weird hex code and then some weird
2:28:42 Latin root name. So I deduced by looking at it that the hex code was probably a color,
2:28:46 and the Latin root name was some kind of condition. So that’s why I told him, I said,
2:28:52 gleaning from what appears to me as a condition and a color. And he goes, yes,
2:28:57 each one of these shirts represents a type of color blindness. And then he looks at me and he
2:29:04 goes, you know, we all live in different realities. And I was like, what? And that’s when the guy in
2:29:10 white says cyan banister. And I look at him and I’m like, oh, we do know each other. And he said,
2:29:17 yes, I met you in the basement at Ted several years ago, like 10 years ago, or eight years ago.
2:29:24 And there was a big party going on. And there was a bunch of people who, not even a bunch of people,
2:29:28 a handful people, I want to say like a dozen people that went into the basement to hide.
2:29:31 And I was one of those dozens people. I was down there with like Linus
2:29:33 Torvald. Hide meeting, like escape the crowds.
2:29:37 Escape the crowd. Yeah. So I’m down there with Linus Torvald and all the people who don’t want
2:29:46 to be around crowds. And this guy walked in. And all of a sudden, the movie of meeting him
2:29:49 played in my mind. And it must have played in his at the same time because we were answering
2:29:56 each other’s sentences. And I said, I was leaving because the party was still too big. And there
2:29:59 was too many people coming into the introvert space. And as I was leaving, you were coming in.
2:30:07 And I said, hi, my name’s Sian Bannister. I like your outfit. And he said, hi, my name’s Tango.
2:30:14 I like your outfit too. Is this where the introverts hang out? I said, yes, have fun. I’m leaving.
2:30:20 That was the end of our interaction. So I said, have you ever met again after that? And he said,
2:30:25 no, we’ve never hung out a single time after that. And he’s like, but it’s okay. I died five years ago.
2:30:29 And I was like, what do you mean you died five years ago? And he said, well,
2:30:33 I have a very strange heart condition. It’s a very rare heart condition that Einstein also had.
2:30:41 And the only person who could operate on me is here in Boston. And so he told me, the surgeon,
2:30:47 that he couldn’t leave Boston. And he tells me, I’m stuck in Groundhog Day. I can’t go anywhere
2:30:53 because I can’t be more than 10 minutes away from the surgeon. Otherwise, I might die. And I was like,
2:30:57 well, tell me more about this death that you had. He said, well, they had to lower my
2:31:02 heart rate. They had to stop my heart and kill me in order to do this operation.
2:31:08 So I wasn’t even sure if this guy was alive. Okay, I’m having a really weird time mentally.
2:31:13 And so I’m touching him and I’m like, are you real now? Are you alive now? Do you exist?
2:31:18 And he’s like, I’m not really sure if I exist or not. He goes, I always ponder this question.
2:31:22 So anyway, I take my two shirts. I go back to my hotel room.
2:31:27 I get, we exchange phone numbers, by the way. And I run the experiment again. And there’s
2:31:33 another person at the desk and I still don’t exist. And so I call my assistant and I’m like,
2:31:37 get me out of here. I think they can’t handle any more of this. I think I need to be around
2:31:43 loved ones because I’m losing my mind. And so she tries to give me a flight out and every flight
2:31:50 she books me on gets canceled. So I messaged a spiritual friend of mine. And I say, I’m in Boston.
2:31:54 What do I do? And he says, you might enjoy a duck boat ride.
2:31:57 Good spiritual advice.
2:32:03 Right. And so I get angry. I’m like, I’m not going on a duck boat in this condition
2:32:09 with my mind doing all this weird stuff. Are you crazy? And my assistant says,
2:32:12 well, you never have not listened to him before. Why are you not listening to him now?
2:32:16 So I was like, fuck it, get me a ticket to a duck boat. So she gets me a ticket.
2:32:20 And if you go to these duck boats in Boston, it’s first come first serve. You don’t get to
2:32:25 choose your duck boat. You just get on a duck boat, you know, but it’s the next duck boat is yours.
2:32:31 So I get on this duck boat and there’s nobody on it. And so I take a seat that looks like
2:32:35 it’s made for a single person and it’s facing sideways. So it’s not facing front or back.
2:32:40 And it’s definitely not the captain. It’s not the wheel. So I take that seat and this guy gets on
2:32:47 the boat and he says to me, are you the new narrator? And I looked in and I said, no. And he
2:32:51 goes, well, unless you want to narrate, you got to get out of my seat because that’s where I sit.
2:32:56 And I was like, okay, where did I sit? And he’s like, right in front of me, sit right in front of
2:33:01 me. I said, okay. So then the captain gets on and the captain drives the car until it becomes a boat
2:33:08 and all these families file on and suddenly he’s got a microphone and this guy starts talking to
2:33:14 only me. Only me. It’s like everyone on the boat disappears. And he looks at me and he says,
2:33:21 when you think that you’re so important or so big and your ego starts getting the best of you,
2:33:29 go to the planetarium. You know, realize that you’re part of a galaxy among galaxies and you’re
2:33:35 just a little piece of dust clinging to a rock. And he starts telling me story after story. And
2:33:39 but what was really interesting was that he started breaking down Gergiev’s philosophy
2:33:43 on a boat. What? Yeah. And I was like, this is getting really strange.
2:33:46 And I’d love to know what the rest of the people were thinking too. They were just like,
2:33:52 what the fuck did I pay for? Yeah. Well, I don’t think, I think they were going back to sleeping.
2:33:54 I think they were asleep and they really weren’t paying attention to anything he was saying.
2:34:00 They were just like, he was moaning, droning on to them. But for me, he was dropping like
2:34:03 troop bombs. So we’re about to go in the water and he looks at me and he goes,
2:34:10 are you ready to be baptized? And I said, I think so. Yeah, sure. Let’s do this. And he’s like,
2:34:15 okay, great, because there’s a decision in life where sometimes you have to relinquish control,
2:34:21 you have to surrender to someone else or to something higher. And right now is that moment
2:34:27 where you can get off this boat and be on dry land. But once we’re in the water, I’m in charge.
2:34:35 You are no longer in charge. Can you surrender? And I was like, I surrender? And we go into the
2:34:42 water in the sun. Remember I told you that the sun was the second thing after air? The sun hits
2:34:49 my face and I just start sobbing. And it felt like being baptized. It felt like I was being touched
2:34:57 again by something profoundly beautiful, profoundly reaffirming of life, profound about my purpose
2:35:04 and my place in this world. And then he pulls up to a mental health institution in Boston.
2:35:08 I don’t know if you’ve seen this building, but it’s like this horrible, brutalist building.
2:35:13 He pulls up to it in the amphibious duck boat. Yes, in the amphibious duck boat.
2:35:21 Okay. So the boat pulls up to this mental health institution. And he says to us,
2:35:28 you know, sometimes you’re just having a conversation with God or with the universe
2:35:32 or whatever. And you’re on a spiritual path, but people think you’ve lost your mind and you’re
2:35:36 crazy and they lock you up in that place. And he goes, I don’t know how you’re going to get better
2:35:42 if that happens. And he said, but there’s beauty everywhere and it’s hidden in plain sight. And
2:35:47 if you look at that building long enough, something really pretty will emerge from it.
2:35:52 And then he started using kind of like a kidlike voice, which triggered all the children on the
2:35:58 boat to go, a frog. And I was looking at this building and not seeing a frog. And I was like,
2:36:02 okay, I’m looking for the frog. I’m looking for the frog. And all of a sudden, a frog emerges
2:36:07 from the building. And once you see it, you can’t unsee it. So if you go to Boston, look for the
2:36:11 frog building, there’s a frog that shoots out of the building. And then you’re like, wow,
2:36:16 there was a frog there the whole time. And he explains to me, he said, you know, when we’re
2:36:22 children, we see all this magic. We’re plugged into it. We’re part of the source. And as we get
2:36:26 older, we start cosplaying, obviously, and start putting on these costumes. And we start telling
2:36:33 ourselves these lies. And we lose touch of this magic that’s just right there in plain sight.
2:36:40 Because we become calcified to it. And when we got back to the duck boat, he asked me to stay.
2:36:45 My first instinct is a woman is I’m being hit on. So I’m like, oh, crap.
2:36:50 So I’m the last person off because I was the first person on. So I’m like, I have no way.
2:36:53 I always do like threat assessments. I’m like, shit, how do I get out of here? I’m stuck.
2:36:57 And so I’m like, what is the worst that could happen with this guy? Like,
2:37:01 I’ll just stick around and talk to him. He could be interesting. So I get off the boat.
2:37:08 He asked me to wait. He says, wait on this bench. And I said, okay. And then I watched him for 45
2:37:12 minutes, go to each individual person that worked at this duck boat company and hold their hand
2:37:17 and thank them for showing up that day. Thank you for driving the boat and giving it 100%.
2:37:21 Thank you for taking the tickets and giving it 100%. He goes on and on and on and on.
2:37:26 And then he eventually gets back to me and I said, are you a manager? And he’s like, no.
2:37:30 And he looks at me and he says, why are you here? And I’m like, well,
2:37:35 a spiritual guide of mine told me I needed to go on a duck boat ride. And clearly I did.
2:37:41 And then the voice, the knowing happened and it said to tell him something, which is
2:37:47 ask him why he’s a duck boat narrator. So I did. I said, why are you a duck boat narrator?
2:37:52 And he said, well, I have ADHD and I’m a comedian and I can’t hold down a job. And
2:37:57 I started doing this job because a friend of mine was a duck boat narrator. And I got hooked
2:38:04 because I started telling stories that I hoped would improve a family’s life one tour at a time.
2:38:12 If I could reach one person a day, I feel like I’ve done the work. I feel like I’ve done great work.
2:38:19 Then I have a purpose in this world. And then the voice says, tell him he’s doing God’s work.
2:38:25 So I’m like, I don’t know what I’m supposed to tell you this, but you’re doing God’s work.
2:38:32 And then tell him that someday his wife will understand. And when I did that,
2:38:39 this man welled up and cried. And the voice said, his tears are not for you.
2:38:46 You need to leave now. So I said, your tears are not for me. Sorry, I gotta go. I’m gonna leave this
2:38:52 place. And that’s when he said, you’re beautiful. He said, you are really beautiful. And the voice
2:38:59 says, I’m just a mirror. You’re the beautiful one. And when I got back to my hotel, they suddenly
2:39:07 knew who I was. And I was able to leave. But until that point, I did not exist. And I was in this
2:39:13 weird time work of weird events that kept happening, like the person dressed in all white.
2:39:18 And things were just being given to me. Things being given to me happened for a few weeks after
2:39:22 that. Like people were giving me sandwiches and giving me necklaces and giving me really weird
2:39:28 stuff. And the only thing that I can think of is that when you have a spiritual experience like
2:39:31 this, you just show up in the world differently. You’re more inviting. You’re more open.
2:39:35 You know, I’m trying to think of the science. At the end of the day, I like to think about
2:39:41 science and how this all could work. And I think there’s probably an explanation for it. But
2:39:47 ultimately, I think we’re connected on some sort of a level that we don’t quite understand because
2:39:53 we just don’t understand it. But I just wanted to share that story because it’s one of many
2:39:57 stories that has happened to me since I watched that movie. That’s just one of you many.
2:40:05 And the miraculous thing about Tango is Tango texted me and he’s now traveling the world.
2:40:10 He had amnesia and the encounter with me brought back all of his memories.
2:40:14 What? That’s wild. Yeah.
2:40:23 Amazing life you laid. You and your husbands. And what a broadly and intensely curious life
2:40:30 you have led. Curious not in the like raise an eyebrow strange sense, but curious in the very
2:40:41 literal sense of engaging with things around you and seeking out the things that stick out,
2:40:46 seeking out the things that blend in. I’ve just been struck over and over again by how
2:40:53 relentlessly curious you are. I think that is a virtue. I think that is, I think that is a real
2:40:58 virtue. Cyan, this has been an incredible conversation we’ve covered a lot more than I expected to.
2:41:07 And is there anything else you’d like to leave my audience with, point them to request of them
2:41:12 anything at all that you’d like to add before we wind to a close?
2:41:18 Yeah, I’m writing a book. You mentioned my sub-stack in the beginning and my sub-stack, if you go and
2:41:22 read it, it’s free. You don’t have to pay. The only reason why I charge anything is if anyone
2:41:26 wants to leave a comment, they have to pay to leave a comment. So if you’re going to be unkind,
2:41:32 you’ve got to pay me. I learned that from Ziviti. But what it is is it’s source material for my
2:41:38 book and it’s me remembering things like a child, the story about my mother and the $20 bill is in
2:41:46 there. There’s all these stories in there. And it’s me doing this search internally for
2:41:50 how I could be a better person and how I can show up in this world in a better way.
2:41:55 So I recommend, a lot of people get a lot out of it. There’s a lot of stories that you might
2:42:01 resonate with. I love hearing from people. And when I get the feedback that a story resonates,
2:42:06 I incorporate it into the actual physical book. So I am working on a book and I’m about halfway
2:42:14 done with it. And so my call to the audience is to keep encouraging me to finish it and
2:42:20 to keep encouraging me to write on Substack because I get disheartened. I get sad sometimes
2:42:28 writing these stories. I’m human. But I think that I want to write a story that isn’t about
2:42:35 business, but it is about philosophy. And it is about some of the lessons that I’ve learned. But
2:42:39 I found that in order for philosophy to really hit home, you can’t be obvious. So you have to tell
2:42:47 a tale. And so it’s a tale of my life. But hopefully at the end of it, it unlocks something inside of
2:42:52 you, the reader, that helps you in some way in the way that the razor’s edge helped me.
2:42:57 If I can have one razor’s edge moment with a human being, I will feel like I have
2:43:03 really achieved something in life. Uglyduckling.substack.com. Why Uglyduckling?
2:43:07 My mother was very devastatingly beautiful, and at least I thought so.
2:43:15 And I think that that beauty gave her, it opened a lot of doors for her and also allowed her to
2:43:22 manipulate people with her beauty. And she tried a weird, tough love approach with my sister and I,
2:43:27 and she basically told us we’re ugly. And she said, “You’re very ugly, so you better be smart
2:43:32 because you’re not going to find a good man if you’re not smart. And if you don’t find a man,
2:43:37 at least you can provide for yourself.” And when you hear that as a little girl,
2:43:42 I took it to heart and it definitely gave me a sense of dysphoria. It detached me from my body.
2:43:47 And I just thought I was just the ugliest creature that ever lived. But she told me
2:43:55 that someday I’d find my swans because I was just an ugly duck among ducks searching for my swans.
2:44:00 And I didn’t know what it meant, you know? She kept telling me this. And so
2:44:07 really, it’s about overcoming the fear of that narrative and looking for my swans.
2:44:12 I am turning into a swan. I mean, the person you’re talking to right now is becoming a swan,
2:44:17 finally, and shedding that narrative and shedding that story. And so that’s why it’s called ugly
2:44:27 knuckly. Well, I think of you as a swan and I can see it. And I’m so grateful for the time that
2:44:32 you’ve offered in this conversation and the stories that you’ve shared and the vulnerability
2:44:38 that you’ve showed. So thank you for that very much. And thank you, Tim. Thank you for all that you
2:44:42 do and for opening people up and for sharing stories. And you’re clearly on a mission,
2:44:48 and you have a purpose, a really great purpose. And I want to hear about, after you do dice rolling
2:44:52 for a while, because I know you take things to the next level. You know, you don’t half-ass do
2:45:00 anything. So I want to see what comes with your dice experiments. Yeah, for sure. I will gladly
2:45:08 share. And there’s a lot to explore here. For people listening, there’s a lot that we will be
2:45:16 linking to in the show notes, as always, at TimDopLog/podcast. Cyan, C-Y-A-N, Cyan Bannister,
2:45:24 @scientist, C-Y-A-N-T-I-S-T, on xandelseforuglyduckling.substack.com. Check it out. I’ve been very
2:45:30 impressed with your writing and encourage people to take a look and to continue encouraging you to
2:45:37 write more. And for everybody who is tuned in, I’ll give you my usual sign off, which is, until
2:45:42 next time, be just a little bit kinder than is necessary, not only to others, but also to yourself.
2:45:49 Thanks for tuning in. Hey, guys, this is Tim again. Just one more thing before you take
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2:47:22 tested by people from NASA and all over the place. And one thing in that book was athletic greens. I
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0:00:10 the Tim Ferriss Show. And this conversation is a long overdue conversation. I have been wanting
0:00:15 to make this happen for quite some time. My guest today, Cyan Bannister, is a general partner at
0:00:21 Long Journey Ventures, an early stage venture capital firm. She was also an early investor in a few
0:00:26 names you might recognize, Uber, SpaceX, DeepMind, Flexport, a firm and has invested in more than
0:00:32 100 companies. She was most recently at Founder’s Fund. I was actually an LPN Founder’s Fund way
0:00:39 back in the day. A top tier fund in San Francisco, you can subscribe to Cyan’s substack at uglyduckling.substack.com.
0:00:47 Her writing is great. I would recommend subscribing. And you can find her online, at least on X,
0:00:54 the artist formerly known as Twitter, at CyanTist, one of the best handles I’ve seen, C-Y-A-N-T-I-S-T.
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0:01:27 and now it elevates automatically, more on that in a second. First, Pod for Ultra can cool down
0:01:32 each side of the bed as much as 20 degrees Fahrenheit below room temperature, keeping you
0:01:36 and your partner cool, even in a heat wave. Or you can switch it up depending on which of you is
0:01:42 heat sensitive. I am always more heat sensitive pulling the sheets off, closing the windows,
0:01:47 trying to crank the AC down. This solves all of that. Pod for Ultra also introduces an adjustable
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0:02:59 December 14. Way back in the day, in 2010, I published a book called The Four Hour Body,
0:03:06 which I probably started writing in 2008. And in that book, I recommended many, many, many things.
0:03:14 First generation continuous glucose monitor and cold exposure and all sorts of things that have
0:03:20 been tested by people from NASA and all over the place. And one thing in that book was athletic
0:03:26 greens. I did not get paid to include it. I was using it. That’s how long I’ve been using what is
0:03:32 now known as AG1. AG1 is my all in one nutritional insurance. And I just packed up, for instance,
0:03:38 to go off the grid for a while. And the last thing I left out on my countertop to remember to take,
0:03:45 I’m not making this up, I’m looking right in front of me, is travel packets of AG1. So rather
0:03:49 than taking multiple pills or products to cover your mental clarity, gut health, immune, health,
0:03:55 energy, and so on, you can support these areas through one daily scoop of AG1, which tastes great,
0:03:59 even with water. I always just have it with water. I usually take it first thing in the morning,
0:04:03 and it takes me less than two minutes in total. Honestly, it takes me less than a minute.
0:04:08 I just put in a shaker bottle, shake it up, and I’m done. AG1 bolsters my digestion and nutrient
0:04:14 absorption by including ingredients optimized to support a healthy gut in every scoop. AG1 in
0:04:20 a single-serve travel packs, which I mentioned earlier, also makes for the perfect travel companion.
0:04:25 I’ll actually be going totally off the grid. But these things are incredibly, incredibly
0:04:28 space-efficient. You could even put them into book, frankly. I mean, they’re kind of like bookmarks.
0:04:34 After consuming this product for more than a decade, I chose to invest in AG1 in 2021 as I
0:04:39 trust their no-compromise approach to ingredient sourcing and appreciate their focus on continuously
0:04:46 improving one formula. They go above and beyond by testing for 950 or so contaminants and impurities
0:04:51 compared to the industry standard of 10. AG1 is also tested for heavy metals and 500
0:04:57 various pesticides and herbicides. I’ve started paying a lot of attention to pesticides. That’s
0:05:03 a story for another time. To make sure you’re consuming only the good stuff, AG1 is also NSF
0:05:07 certified for sport. That means, if you’re an athlete, you can take it. The certification process
0:05:12 is exhaustive and involves the testing and verification of each ingredient and every
0:05:17 finished batch of AG1. So they take testing very seriously. There’s no better time than today to
0:05:23 start a new healthy habit. And this is an easy one, right? Wake up, water in the shaker bottle,
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0:06:09 I’m a cybernetic organism living this year over a metal endoskeleton.
0:06:18 Sayon, nice to see you.
0:06:19 And good to see you.
0:06:26 So we just listed off, I’m using the Royal Way, some very impressive names. And certainly I would
0:06:35 consider you one of the top angel investors of many vintages, not just one across quite a few
0:06:43 different time periods. But it didn’t start off that way. You weren’t the child of Tim Draper
0:06:51 or anything leading to athertine at age seven, things along these lines. Could you take us back
0:06:55 to homelessness in your life and how that factors in?
0:07:04 I was raised on the Navajo Reservation in Northern Arizona. And I had an extraordinary
0:07:10 education. And I think I was incredibly lucky to have been educated there because I have about
0:07:15 the equivalent of an eighth or ninth grade education. And the reason for this is due to
0:07:20 circumstances outside of my control, I became homeless off and on when I was 13, and then
0:07:27 homeless officially when I was 15 and became a ward of the state of Arizona. And this was because
0:07:34 my mother, she had a very difficult time keeping children in her house past the age of 13. My
0:07:40 sister was removed from the house when she was a teenager. My brother was removed when he was a
0:07:49 young boy. So to dive into a couple of things you mentioned, and if you don’t want to cover any
0:07:54 of this, we don’t need to. But the first is, I suppose, a question a lot of listeners will have
0:08:00 on their mind, which is what was it like for you growing up on a reservation? What are some of the
0:08:05 memories that stand out or characteristics that stand out?
0:08:13 Well, first of all, I am white. And so being on a reservation, I was a minority. And it gave me a
0:08:20 really unique perspective around being a minority. When I was a kid, I thought I was an albino Indian.
0:08:26 I just thought that I’d lost my melanin. And the other kids treated me the same. Because when
0:08:30 you’re a child and you’re small, you don’t know anything about racism. You don’t know anything
0:08:35 about being another. You start to notice these things. But you definitely don’t treat each other
0:08:41 differently. But as we started to get older, that’s when the name-calling started. That’s when
0:08:48 a little bit of the bullying started from other kids. And I can only suspect that they learned
0:08:54 this at home. Or they witnessed it someplace else because it certainly was not something they were
0:09:02 born with. And I’m happy that I experienced this because there is a lot of prejudice in this world.
0:09:06 And I would say there’s probably a lot more prejudice than there’s actually racism.
0:09:14 But experiencing that really taught me what it’s like to walk in those shoes and made me hyper
0:09:20 aware of it when I became an adult. The other thing is the culture is just a really rich culture.
0:09:26 And it’s very different than any other place you could ever live. I really recommend that people
0:09:31 visit the Navajo Reservation or any of the reservations that allow visitors. Because
0:09:38 it’s hard to believe that that’s in America. Because there’s this amazing swath of land
0:09:47 with a old, ancient culture that they preserve. And there’s just a lot of things that happen
0:09:51 there that you can’t experience any other place. And it’s right here if you’re in America and you’re
0:09:58 backdoor. And so being able to go and experience a ceremony or get a guided tour down a canyon
0:10:03 is something that I really recommend that everybody do. But when I was little, there were no guides.
0:10:09 I would just walk down into canyons and explore ruins. And the kids and I would run free and wild.
0:10:15 It was a very different time. But I also have a little bit of an accent. I don’t know if you notice
0:10:20 it. But if you go to the Navajo Reservation, you will see that people speak the way I speak.
0:10:27 And there’s just not a lot of variation in my tone. And then it just sort of goes up and down
0:10:32 in a certain way that’s very specific to that region. It’s created some confusion for me because
0:10:41 culturally, I am Native American. And that has always been bizarre when I moved to a place where
0:10:47 people didn’t understand our customs and the things that we respected and the holidays that
0:10:53 we observed or the customs that we had are just not anything that anybody I went to school with
0:10:59 after I left the reservation even understood. So I’ve always felt like an outsider no matter where
0:11:06 I am. And I think that’s been wonderful and incredible for my career. You can certainly look
0:11:11 at that and have kind of a victim mindset about it. But I took the opposite path, which was,
0:11:17 you know, this is what makes me special is that I don’t fit in wherever I am.
0:11:24 You can have a lot of questions about that. And before I get there, and this is again referring
0:11:29 to something you mentioned, that your mom had a hard time keeping kids in the home. What are some
0:11:33 of the reasons why kids were removed from the home by the state or otherwise?
0:11:41 My sister was removed first, but I was told a lie about her removal. I was told that she
0:11:49 ran away from home and was right after my brother was born. And we went out trick or treating.
0:11:53 And my child, mine remembers it as having the next day, but maybe it wasn’t the next day. But my
0:12:00 sister’s room was vacant and empty. And suddenly my little brother was in it. And I was expected to
0:12:06 just roll with it. And when I asked where she was, I was told she doesn’t want to live here anymore,
0:12:12 and she ran away. But reality was quite different. About a year later or so, I went to go visit my
0:12:17 grandparents and discovered that that’s where my sister had been the whole time. And my mother was
0:12:23 afraid that she was going to hurt the new baby. That your sister would harm the new baby. Yeah,
0:12:28 that my sister would harm the baby. And I don’t know where this fear comes from. There was nothing
0:12:34 rational about it. From my point of view, there wasn’t enough room for another kid. And so we
0:12:41 had to make room, and suddenly one was just replaced with the other. And that was very weird,
0:12:46 because my sister was my best friend in the world. She looked after me. We were incredibly close,
0:12:50 and then she was just ripped away. Luckily, I bonded with my brother. I could easily see how
0:12:57 that could have gone south, where I would have been filled with disapproval or I would be upset
0:13:03 about having that situation. But he was just really lovely, and I love my brother. But when my
0:13:08 brother was three years old, he was removed from the house next. And that was in a really contentious
0:13:16 divorce where a custody battle happened. And then my mother tried to implant false memories
0:13:24 with me. She had us try to perjure ourselves in court. And I really feel that this is when my
0:13:31 mother and I completely fell out. I refused to testify against my stepfather and accuse him
0:13:37 of abuses that she tried to plant in my memory. And I think this is important to highlight,
0:13:45 because a lot of people don’t talk about female abuse. They talk about usually men. But my mother
0:13:52 was incredibly abusive in very interesting ways. It wasn’t screaming, it wasn’t hitting, it was
0:14:00 neglect, and it was these social manipulations. And unknown to me out of my mother’s truck,
0:14:07 and it was still moving when she made the ask for me to lie in court. And I jumped out of the
0:14:11 truck and I rolled on the ground and I ran and I ran and I ran and I ran and I ran until I could
0:14:16 find a phone. And I called the number that I had on me for our child psychologist that
0:14:21 I had no idea was court appointed. I thought it was just someone my mom was having me see,
0:14:26 and that I could confide in him. And I called him and told him what my mother had asked me to do,
0:14:34 which was to lie about my stepfather molesting me, which he did not. And it all happened very
0:14:40 quickly after that. My brother was removed pretty much in the next 48 hours from the home,
0:14:45 and she lost custody of him. Now, why she didn’t lose custody of me, I still remains a mystery,
0:14:51 because I was the last child in the house. That made me like the sole focus of her ire after that.
0:14:57 And I’m also the kid who, you know, refused to fall in line and tell a lie.
0:15:02 And so we were at odds with each other. It just was never the same after that.
0:15:08 And we moved to Flagstaff, Arizona. She quit her job on the reservation as a teacher and decided to
0:15:15 become a scientist. So before this, she had an MFA in arts. And I suspect that she wanted to get
0:15:20 another degree in science because the man that she had divorced was a scientist. She wanted to
0:15:25 prove that she is intelligent. My mother is incredibly intelligent. One of the smartest
0:15:30 people I’ve ever met in my life. So I don’t know why she had to prove this to anybody.
0:15:35 But she went back to school and started taking up many jobs. So she would have one or two jobs
0:15:40 and go to school full time. And at that point, I was pretty much left to my own devices.
0:15:46 And she would come home after work. And that’s usually when I would get kicked out,
0:15:53 or she’d be angry with how I didn’t clean or keep the house. And it was just a constant cycle of
0:15:57 being kicked out, the police getting called, me getting picked up by the police, ending up in
0:16:01 jail sometimes. It’s a horrible system for kids, by the way, if we want to get into that topic,
0:16:08 into foster care and into group homes. But eventually, they had enough of this.
0:16:16 So she left me for a summer. And basically, she decided to go take a position at Lawrence
0:16:21 Livermore, a summer job or a summer research position. And she wanted me to come with her,
0:16:26 but I had to go to summer school and I had to stay in school if I was going to graduate.
0:16:32 Because home life was really, really bad. And so I told her about my desire to stay home and
0:16:40 she said no. But the next thing that happened, I did not expect, which is I came home from school
0:16:46 and discovered a $20 bill on the countertop with a note that said, “Good luck.” And her stuff gone.
0:16:51 And so the landlord showed up and basically said, “You can’t stay here.” And so I went out on the
0:16:57 street and the most miraculous thing happened. A lot of my life is a series of miraculous things
0:17:03 where people have stepped in at just the right moment to help me. And there was a woman who was
0:17:09 my friend Becky from band class. It was her mother who saw me sitting on the street corner crying and
0:17:12 she pulled her car over and she said, “What’s going on?” And I just started mumbling to her about
0:17:18 what was going on and she just said, “Get in.” And she took me home. I had no idea that Becky’s
0:17:25 dad was the general manager of Walmart. I had a nasty shoplifting habit as a young teenager.
0:17:31 And that Walmart I hit up a few times and I will never forget coming into that home and seeing that
0:17:37 man who was opening his home to me and really questioning my life choices and moral decisions
0:17:44 at that moment really taught me a really valuable lesson I never stole again. And this family took
0:17:49 me in and they tried to actually get custody of me. They tried to go to the court systems and
0:17:56 become my forever home. But my mother got back and she has this racket that she runs where
0:18:04 you have these kids and they’re really useful for free education, for free child care, for free housing.
0:18:09 And so we lived in student housing and if you don’t have a kid, you can’t live in student housing.
0:18:13 You can’t have a nice house. You have to live in a dorm room. So when she came back,
0:18:18 she got me back and that’s when the cycle of kicking me out started all over again.
0:18:24 And eventually I got picked up by a police officer named Officer Pratt. That’s actually
0:18:29 something I would love to find through this podcast if I can find Officer Pratt. Officer Pratt
0:18:35 probably did one of the most single important things in my life in helping me. He picked me up
0:18:38 and brought me to the courthouse because he arrested me several times.
0:18:40 And this is in Flagstaff?
0:18:44 Yeah, in Flagstaff. He did something he’d never done before and he took me to Dairy Queen
0:18:48 and he let me get whatever I wanted. And I was like, “Well, this is weird.”
0:18:53 And then he took me to the courthouse and then he paraded me into the courthouse and he let me
0:18:57 sit where the judge sits. And I was like, “This is very strange.” And he said, “Would you like some
0:19:02 spaghetti?” And he brought me spaghetti. And I’m like, “Why everybody’s being so nice to me?”
0:19:07 And then this woman came in and she introduced herself and she told me she was my public defender.
0:19:11 And I was confused about a lot of this terminology because I didn’t understand what I needed to
0:19:16 be defended from. Like, what did I do as a public? I remember thinking like, “I don’t know what this
0:19:22 means. None of this.” It’s like cosplay as far as I’m concerned. But they basically told me like,
0:19:27 “When the judge comes in, you are to stand. You are to say your honor. You are to say,
0:19:33 yes, your honor. No, your honor. And you are to sit.” And that’s it. Just behave yourself.
0:19:36 We got the rest. And I’m like, “Okay, but I don’t understand what’s going on.”
0:19:41 And then my mother came into the right of the courtroom and I’m on the left. And I look at
0:19:47 her and she never looks at me. And the judge came in and it all happened again. This stuff
0:19:52 happened so fast and time just, I don’t know, it’s hard to explain, but it changes. It like
0:19:56 dilates. But he looked at me and he said, “Syand, do you want to live in a cardboard box for the
0:20:01 rest of your life?” And he held up some book, which I assume is a book of the law. I had no
0:20:06 idea what he was holding up. And I said, “No, I do not want to live in a cardboard box.” And he
0:20:10 was like, “Is there anything in this book that tells you that you are above the law?” And I said,
0:20:15 “No, your honor, I’m not above the law.” And then he looked at my mother and he said,
0:20:18 “Do you want this child anymore?” And she said, “No, I do not.”
0:20:25 And the gavel just came down and he said, “The power invested in him and all that stuff.” And
0:20:31 basically said that I was now a ward of the state of Arizona. And what that means in
0:20:36 Arizona, it is not emancipation. It’s you get assigned a probation officer and you’re treated
0:20:41 like a criminal. If you want to live on your own, which is very, very difficult to do if you can
0:20:45 imagine at 15, there’s not a lot of people that will hire you. Not people will rent to you,
0:20:51 you can’t sign a contract either. They basically said you have 24 hours to find a place to live,
0:20:56 otherwise you end up in a group home. And the rules of living on your own are you have to
0:21:00 be in at nine o’clock, there’s a curfew, you’re not allowed to have boys over, you’re not allowed
0:21:04 to have marijuana, you have to work and you have to go to school. And then the strangest one of all
0:21:08 was you had to have a gallon of milk in your fridge at all times because they would show up and that
0:21:14 was like sign of adulting is if you can buy a gallon of milk and keep it fresh in your fridge
0:21:19 before the expiration date. It was the strangest thing. But I walked out of that courtroom.
0:21:25 I saw my mom again twice after that, but I didn’t see my mom leave and she never looked at me.
0:21:30 She just exited out some other door and that was the end of my mother.
0:21:37 And suddenly I’m a quote unquote independent person, not quite an adult. I go out and sit
0:21:43 on the curb and I remember looking up at the sky and I said, “Oh, sky, what do I do? What now?”
0:21:48 Because they gave me 24 hours to find a place to live. They said, “If you don’t find a place to
0:21:53 live, you know, you’re going into an unfortunate circumstance.” And so I went through my mental
0:21:59 map of how many friends did I have that were adults? And this one woman named Pam just came
0:22:04 in crystal clear and I said, “I’m going to walk to Pam’s. I’m going to ask her if I can stay there
0:22:09 and that’s going to give me some time.” And so I walked over there, knocked on the door,
0:22:14 “Pam, can I stay here?” She had no problem. She said, “Come in.” She gave me a corner on the floor.
0:22:18 I didn’t have a mattress. She said, “I recommend you get a pillow, but here’s a blanket.”
0:22:23 And that became my home. I think you’re going to see over and over. I didn’t see it then. I see
0:22:29 it now looking back at all of these precious moments where a person does something extraordinary
0:22:37 at just the right time. And that’s what Pam did. And I had my first home and that was in Flagstaff.
0:22:41 It was next to the train tracks. So it was a very strange home. It rumbled a lot.
0:22:45 And we got into a lot of shenanigans with the train because we were young and dumb, but
0:22:52 it was a great home. What helped save you or put you on the trajectory
0:23:00 to where you are today, given those starting conditions, let’s call it. So you’re sleeping
0:23:07 on the floor, at least to begin, at Pam’s house. Looking back, what do you think were the
0:23:17 critical moments, decisions, anything at all, if you had to point to one or a few things that
0:23:24 helped to bend the arc of your life to not go to a terrible place? Because I could see how many
0:23:31 people, with the experience you just described, could end up junkies, could end up dead, could
0:23:40 end up who knows, but certainly not operating at a very high level and with some very good reasons,
0:23:45 neglect, trauma, fill in the blank. So what are some of the things that saved you?
0:23:49 Well, I don’t know if you’ve ever seen those crusty punk kids that hang out on
0:23:54 Hayton Ashbury or you see them in every city that has any kind of population and they’re usually
0:23:59 sitting around a record store on the ground with a dog. Yeah, sure, of course. Yeah. Well,
0:24:06 I was one of those kids and I fell into that group in Flagstaff. There was a group of
0:24:13 wanderers who came in and took me under their wing and started teaching me the way of the streets,
0:24:17 because before this, I was thrust onto the streets and I was on my own and I did my best.
0:24:20 You know, I would stay under people’s beds, I would sleep in playgrounds,
0:24:27 I would find any place I could stay. But once I met some people who are a little more professional
0:24:33 and had a little more time under their belt at homelessness, I started to learn that there’s
0:24:40 a whole world out there of really interesting ways to get by. For example, you know, there’s
0:24:46 coffee houses that have creamer and creamer is relatively free and it has fat and calories in
0:24:50 it and they have sugar and honey. And if you get those things and you put them in a cup,
0:24:55 you can have a pretty nutritious meal. So there’s things like that. Once you’re homeless, you can
0:25:00 never be unhomeless. It’s really strange. Every time I walk around at a conference or anything,
0:25:05 I see all the waste. I see if I were a homeless person, I could come and I could have this,
0:25:11 no matter where I’m at. It’s really interesting. But before I got this house, there was a time where
0:25:18 I was homeless and hitchhiking. And my boyfriend at the time who was one of these crusty punk kids,
0:25:24 he goes by the name Cuddles, they all had these funny names. And he and I decided we were going
0:25:29 to hitchhike to New York. We got it in our heads from, at the time, Phoenix. I was in Phoenix.
0:25:36 We set out leaving from a coffee shop in Tempe, Arizona and ending up in Hema Springs, New Mexico.
0:25:43 We never made it to New York. Instead, we ended up in a hippie commune where they basically
0:25:50 had us bury pipe to justify our stay there. And then at the time, they had psilocybin spores.
0:25:53 I don’t know if they still do that or if they’re still around. I don’t want to get them in trouble.
0:26:00 But that’s how they made their income. And we lived in this little teeny tiny trailer in the
0:26:05 dead of winter. At some point, I got homesick. I couldn’t take it anymore. I was just like,
0:26:11 I need to go back to Arizona. I need to be in familiar territory. This is a very strange place
0:26:17 to be. And there was constantly different people showing up. Sometimes the police would come and
0:26:22 raid the place because there were people giving illegal tattoos. It was just nonstop stuff.
0:26:28 I wanted to be away from it. So I talked to my boyfriend into hitchhiking back to Arizona.
0:26:33 And I almost died on that return trip. A lot of times, you’re very lucky if you hitch a ride
0:26:37 where someone takes you the full way. Usually, you get like these little partial ways and you
0:26:41 have to stand on this, you know, somewhere and then someone takes you another segment and another
0:26:47 segment. Well, we got dropped off on one side of Albuquerque, New Mexico. And we had to walk
0:26:52 from one side to the other and cross a river. But crossing a river as a homeless person is
0:26:57 actually not that easy because a lot of the roadways don’t have sidewalks. So we were contemplating
0:27:02 some seriously dangerous things. We were thinking about looking around for flotation devices,
0:27:07 like how are we going to get across this river, you know? And eventually, we didn’t have a map.
0:27:11 We just walked and walked and walked until there was a pedestrian way, which we finally found.
0:27:17 And the reason why this is weird is that it was so cold. So we were desperate to find heat,
0:27:22 to find some place where we could sleep for the evening and having no luck. Eventually, we did
0:27:26 make it to the other side of the river to the side where we would need to get a car heading
0:27:32 towards Flagstaff. And we holed up in a denny’s and we did that for quite some time. But eventually,
0:27:36 during a shift change, they were just like, you got to get out of here. And we went and slept
0:27:43 in a dumpster outside of a gas station. And eventually, when the sun rose, we went out to
0:27:48 the highway and we stuck our thumbs out and nobody would stop. But this RV apparently had gone,
0:27:55 I didn’t notice it, but had gone by several times. And he stopped. And he opened the door and he said,
0:28:03 “I’m going to save her, but I guess you’re along with the package. But God told me to save her.”
0:28:06 Now, what required saving? What was your condition at the time?
0:28:12 I was developing hypothermia. So I was on the side of the road and I started to fall asleep
0:28:17 and I was getting really warm. It’s not a good sign. I was getting really warm and very sleepy
0:28:22 and happy. And if you’re in a very cold place where it’s below freezing and you start to feel
0:28:28 those things, that is like a very dangerous warning sign. And he stopped at just the right time when
0:28:34 I thought I was going to lose consciousness and it was just gone. It was over for me. And he pulled
0:28:40 me along with cuddles into the RV and they put blankets around me. They did whatever they knew
0:28:45 how to do because they didn’t understand what to do when someone has hypothermia. And gave me hot
0:28:51 chocolate and just the next thing I know, I wake up in Flagstaff. This guy took me all the way home.
0:28:58 And he just told me that it was God that told him. And at the time, I didn’t believe in God.
0:29:03 I had no reason to believe in God. And my attitude towards God, if there was one,
0:29:11 was how could a God do this to me and do this to other people and allow these atrocities to exist
0:29:15 in the first place. So I just thanked him. I was like, you know, I’m so glad that God
0:29:22 spoke to you. Thank you so much. And that put me again on an interesting trajectory because
0:29:29 when I experienced homelessness again after that, I decided I didn’t want to rely on other people.
0:29:37 I think the whole experience taught me how my life was just so dependent on spare changing and the
0:29:43 kindness of others. And I needed to come up with a way to provide for myself. And I didn’t know
0:29:50 how. I was underage. I couldn’t work, you know, minimum wage and age requirements. I have a
0:29:55 controversial view on them. I’m not saying that people should have child labor, but I am saying
0:29:59 that it draws a line. And sometimes it’s the difference between life and death for a lot of
0:30:06 people. And for me, I almost died many times because I couldn’t eat or couldn’t have a place to sleep.
0:30:11 And I was cold and just you have to get very, very resourceful. I had to figure out something.
0:30:17 So what I started doing was there’s these donation centers where people donate clothes or they donate
0:30:23 books or things like that. And I found a place that allowed homeless people to take three things
0:30:27 every day. So you basically check in and you’re allowed to take three items. And I would go in
0:30:31 and find items that I could sell to Buffalo Exchange or I could take to a bookstore.
0:30:37 So Buffalo Exchange is a fair to describe. There’s one probably a few miles from where I’m sitting
0:30:44 right now. A vintage clothing store where folks can come in and buy various pieces of used clothing.
0:30:48 Is that a fair description? Just for people who don’t know it.
0:30:52 Yeah. But I developed a really good eye for what people like to buy at the time.
0:30:57 And this was in Tempe, Arizona, where there’s college kids. And so college kids throw out the
0:31:01 coolest stuff. The books were great too, because you could get a really nice premium on books
0:31:06 if you could find a good textbook or something like that. But my job was to make $2 a day.
0:31:12 If I could make $2 a day, I could afford a bagel, cream cheese. If I was lucky in 99 cent whopper.
0:31:17 And if I was extra lucky, I got a bowl of rice and some vegetables for my favorite Vietnamese
0:31:23 joint over on Mill Avenue. And that was all that mattered during the day. And once you were done
0:31:29 with that task, you just got to lay around, swim in fountains, walk around, take creamers from
0:31:35 coffee shops. I mean, life was grand, but the seeds of self-reliance were planted then. And I honestly
0:31:41 think the beginnings of my love for capitalism. Because then somebody taught me how to make
0:31:46 jewelry, hemp jewelry in particular, and gave me some hemp jewelry and some beads.
0:31:50 Taught me how to braid them. And I made some really beautiful jewelry. And I would go from
0:31:53 table to table. I was one of those people that would annoy you during dinner or
0:31:59 coffee when you’re out on a date and guilt you into buying a necklace. And I would sell them. And
0:32:04 eventually I made enough money to pay for rent. The other interesting thing that I want to bring
0:32:10 up during this as well is I have two mothers. So when I speak about my mother, there’s my mother
0:32:15 who gave birth to me. But there’s also this guy, Cuddles, the homeless guy’s mother,
0:32:22 who had basically adopted me. And eventually I moved in with her. When I arrived with her,
0:32:26 I couldn’t look you in the eye. I would always look at my feet. I couldn’t make eye contact.
0:32:29 I would not be able to have this conversation that you and I are having, Tim. It just wouldn’t
0:32:36 have happened. I would shiver constantly. I was a mess. But she looked at me and she said,
0:32:39 “You’re going to look at me when I talk to you. You’re going to stand up straight.
0:32:44 You’re going to wear respectable clothing. You’re going to bathe. You’re going to brush your teeth.
0:32:50 You’re going to do all the things that your other mother didn’t do and didn’t tell you to do.”
0:32:56 And she’s my mother to this day. She always gets upset when I talk about mother because she’s like,
0:33:03 “That’s not me. That’s not me.” But she’s the most amazing woman. And I still am in touch with her.
0:33:07 And I just was really lucky to have found a boyfriend who had an amazing mother.
0:33:12 And you might wonder why was he homeless? Some people are homeless because they romanticize it.
0:33:16 I was out there because I had to be there, but he was out there because he read Jack Kerouac or
0:33:20 something. I was just going to say like Dharma Bums or something. Yeah. He probably just read
0:33:26 Dharma Bums and was like, “I’m heading out.” So his situation was totally different. And he brought
0:33:33 me home to meet his mother. This is scandalous today, but he was 19. I was 15. And she was like,
0:33:40 “Oh my gosh. What are you doing? This kid is… She’s a kid.” But she saw my situation and
0:33:47 she saw what I was going through. And he saved me in so many ways. He was my protector. He was
0:33:51 my bodyguard. Like you said, I could have ended up on drugs. I could have ended up dead. I could
0:33:57 have ended up… I was in squat houses where people were shooting a heroin, but he kept me away from
0:34:03 all of this stuff. And I’m not sure what possessed him to because at first I wasn’t even his girlfriend.
0:34:11 I was just his tag along buddy that hitchhiked with him and slept in squats with him. But eventually,
0:34:15 we became something. And then he just looked after me and another special person who just
0:34:20 did something really incredible for me. But when I was on the streets selling necklaces,
0:34:25 I also took up a little hobby of spray painting clothing with stencils. And I learned how to
0:34:31 silk screen. And that’s when I met my first customer, his name’s Chris Collins. And I had
0:34:37 put my t-shirts and my patches that I was making of some DIY punk rock bands. So I was really into
0:34:42 these like British punk rock bands at the time. And I see this guy walk by with a jumpsuit and he’s
0:34:48 wearing a patch from this band called Crash. I don’t know if you’re familiar with any of the old
0:34:54 punk bands from the 70s. But it said, “The nature of your oppression is the aesthetic of our anger.”
0:35:00 I remember exactly what it says. And I stopped him and I said, “Hey, I made that.” And he turned
0:35:04 around and he sees this homeless chick and he’s like, “Yeah, prove it.” And I said, “Well,
0:35:09 you bought it at either East Side Records or you bought it at one of these places that I would
0:35:14 consign them at.” And he said, “You’re right. That was where I got it.” So he sat down with me and
0:35:18 he explained that his mother ran a sign shop. But the most important thing that he did was
0:35:27 he asked me to come and spend time with him on his computer. And I was like, “Computers are portable
0:35:31 now. This is weird. I didn’t know you could do that.” And I blew them off for a while. But
0:35:35 a month later or so, I saw him at a coffee shop and he was on a laptop and it was my first time
0:35:40 ever seeing a portable computer. And it was like, I don’t know, I was in heaven. And I came over to
0:35:44 him and I said, “Well, what can we do with this?” And he says, “Well, what can’t you do with it?”
0:35:49 He’s like, “Let’s go get online and I’ll show you.” So we found a place to do dial-up connection.
0:35:54 And I remember hearing a modem for the first time and he started showing me this thing called IRC
0:35:59 and how I could meet friends from all over the world. And back then there wasn’t a search engine.
0:36:04 So there was like linked sites that you had to go to and you had to like discover content.
0:36:11 But I knew that no matter what it took, I had to be a part of that world. So he and all of his
0:36:16 hacker friends basically started wooing me over to their side. They’re like, “You don’t want to
0:36:22 hang out with these crusty punk kids. You don’t want this life. You want to learn about Unix and
0:36:28 you want to do this stuff with us. You want to be a hacker chick.” And so they basically encouraged
0:36:34 me to be bigger, to think bigger, and to start reading and start studying. And they bought me
0:36:40 books and they got me my first computer. Again, I credit people, magical moments where people just
0:36:45 sort of step into my life at just the right moment. And me paying attention, if you will, if I had a
0:36:51 part to play in this, is paying attention when those moments arrive and seizing them.
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0:38:07 by Wealthfront. So let me hop around a little bit because I want to bring us a little closer
0:38:13 to the current day, and we’re probably going to bounce back and forth. But the curiosity
0:38:20 that you exhibit, the ability to, I don’t want to say put yourself in the right place at the
0:38:27 right time, but somehow increase the surface area to which that type of experience can stick,
0:38:34 seems to also translate to how you have, I don’t even know if this is the right term to use,
0:38:40 but sourced some of your very successful angel investments. Some of them don’t seem to travel
0:38:45 what we might consider a typical Harvard Business School case study type of path.
0:38:50 So could you share just a few of those so that people get a taste?
0:38:56 Yeah, I’ll start with Uber. The Uber story is really fascinating because it starts with a thesis. So
0:39:02 they all start with a thesis, and then eventually, I’m just going to say maybe the universe just
0:39:06 puts the people in front of me, and I have to recognize the right in front of me. Obviously,
0:39:12 you can walk the other way, you can be asleep to what’s being presented. But I developed a thesis
0:39:22 around the taxi medallion system, and I was fairly libertarian, I still am, and was thinking about
0:39:28 how when I go out to get a taxi and it’s a rainy day or it’s busy outside, why wasn’t I getting one?
0:39:33 Every time I would get into a taxi, I would ask them, what is your day like? As soon as you get
0:39:38 your car, what happens? And they were like, well, I’m already $200 in debt, and I’ve got to make $200,
0:39:43 and I’ve got a, there’s a clock ticking because I have to return the car at a certain time. And
0:39:47 this is why they were driving around like bats out of hell. Everybody would complain about taxi
0:39:51 drivers and how they drove, it’s because they were racing a clock, they were already in debt.
0:39:55 And then I asked them, I said, well, do you own this taxi? And he said, no, you know, we rent them,
0:39:59 we have to pick them up and pay for them. There’s a guy that has the medallion, and this is the
0:40:05 first time I learned about a medallion, which is a license that somebody owns that allows you to
0:40:10 operate that car. And it got to the point where these medallions were worth millions of dollars
0:40:14 in some cities. They were worth that much in New York, and in San Francisco, they were worth a
0:40:20 lot in LA, they were worth a lot. And so what happens is your retirement plan is you rent out
0:40:25 your medallion to someone who doesn’t have a medallion, and you just make money while you sleep.
0:40:30 And that’s pretty much the whole plan of taxi drivers everywhere at the time. And I started
0:40:37 thinking about how it was unfair, this system, just kind of like how I thought minimum wage was
0:40:42 unfair, because if you create a line, that means that only certain people can cross it,
0:40:44 and some people are privileged and some people are not.
0:40:49 Just not to leave that hanging. So minimum wage unfair, just another line or two,
0:40:55 meaning that you should be able to charge less and get paid less if you want that to be the
0:41:00 case, or that it should be higher. When I started working, minimum wage was $3.15 an hour,
0:41:07 and I would have gladly cleaned your toilet bowl for 25 cents, because 25 cents is half a bagel.
0:41:16 Again, I think we need to allow homeless people and people who are in those lower financial or
0:41:22 economic realms to make decisions for themselves, because they actually, we know how. We know where
0:41:26 that 25 cents goes and how we’re going to use it. We are very, very acutely aware of every
0:41:33 scent in our lives. And there were so many jobs I wasn’t allowed to have. Now, I did end up working
0:41:37 at a record store where they did pay me under the table, but think about that. We shouldn’t have to
0:41:43 break laws. That person shouldn’t have to do something illegal in order for me to make money.
0:41:48 Great. I don’t want to take us too far afield of the through line, but thank you for that.
0:41:48 No problem.
0:41:55 All right. So coming back to the unfair aspects of the medallion system.
0:42:01 The medallion system is incredibly unfair, and I started thinking about how could you disrupt
0:42:08 taxis? And I didn’t have a clear answer actually. What happened was I was staying at a hotel in
0:42:14 San Francisco at the time, and I asked for them to arrange a car for me to SFO. And so they arranged
0:42:20 a literary car, and there was a guy named Roger. And when he picked me up, he told me, he said,
0:42:23 he got to know me, and he ended up giving me several rides to the airport. But one day he
0:42:28 picked me up, and he handed me a card for a gentleman named Ryan Graves. And he said,
0:42:33 I don’t know anything about investing, but if I were an angel investor, I would put my money
0:42:40 into this company. I’m driving for them. And basically, it’s a black livery car on demand.
0:42:44 You just text this phone number, you get a car. And I was like, well, how many drivers are there?
0:42:48 And he goes, well, how many only what? It’s just me. And I was like, well, how’s it work?
0:42:51 And he said, well, they’re paying me by the hour. And I was like, huh, that’s interesting. And he
0:42:57 hands me the card. And at the time, I only invested in companies that were in the Bay Area,
0:43:01 because it’s the ecosystem that I understand. It was how I could actually help founders when
0:43:07 they went to raise more money. You want to be kind of locally centric now that after the pandemic,
0:43:13 that’s less true. So I just kind of ignored the card. But the next ride, he brought it up again.
0:43:17 The next ride, he brought it up again. I started having a collection of Ryan Graves cards.
0:43:26 But then I went to Hawaii to this event held by August Capital called the Lobby. And at the lobby,
0:43:30 this conference is centered around the most important discussions happen
0:43:36 by the pool or in a hot tub or in a lobby. And there’s content, but it’s an
0:43:40 unconference. The content is every person there is capable of giving a speech.
0:43:45 So I was at this event, and everybody kind of retired to this very large hot tub. There’s
0:43:50 about 20 people in the hot tub. That’s a huge hot tub. It was big. It was big. And I got in there,
0:43:59 and Travis Kalanit was in the hot tub. And I observed him. And he had a very distinct demeanor
0:44:05 that I had not seen in any founder. He had a lot of gravitas. If there was someone who was king
0:44:09 of the hot tub that night, it was him. If he was managing the hot tub, it was him. You could just
0:44:16 tell this is a person who’s going to lead. And he declared in the hot tub that he was working at
0:44:20 some company called Red Swoosh, but now he was on the bench where he started a company called
0:44:25 Red Swoosh and sold it. He was on the bench and looking for his next thing. And if you’re an
0:44:32 investor, a lot of what we do is it’s kind of like reporters or hackers with zero day wares.
0:44:37 You’re looking for secrets. We are on the hunt for secrets, for insights that nobody else knows
0:44:41 about. Then I got invited to a dinner with him, and I observed him some more. I observed how he
0:44:48 talked to people at the dinner table, the opinions that he had. And I just thought this person’s
0:44:53 remarkable. I don’t know what he’s going to do, but I’m going to watch him. About three weeks
0:44:59 after or maybe a month after this lobby thing, Jason Calcanus held this event called Open Angel
0:45:06 Forum. And at the time, he was sharing his deal flow because it was very much a, you know,
0:45:11 there were party rounds. People would get together, pool in money, and a lot of things were done at
0:45:15 the earliest stages just by angels. Now institutions are getting into this game, but in the beginning
0:45:22 it was just individuals. And I see Travis get up and pitch this Uber cab thing that my driver’s
0:45:27 been telling me about. And I took it as a sign from the universe or whatever. And I wrote to
0:45:33 my husband and I said, “We need to invest in Uber cab today, right now.” And he was like,
0:45:40 “How much?” And I said, “75k.” And he said, “Fine. Get us in. Get us a meeting.” So I got us a meeting
0:45:46 and they ratcheted us back to 50. But we were the second, there were only two individuals that
0:45:50 were able to put that much money in at the time. So it was pretty sizable for that round.
0:45:57 And I really credit Roger because had he not flagged this for me, had I not paid attention
0:46:03 to Travis in the hot tub, keep in mind Ryan’s still the CEO. I just realized there was something
0:46:08 about him and there’s no way he’s going to just raise money for this company. He’s becoming the
0:46:14 CEO. Ryan, at the time, Ryan Graves that you mentioned was CEO of Uber. Yeah. And wonderful
0:46:18 man too, but he became the CEO. Oh, he’s great. Yeah, he’s great. Great guy. I have a couple
0:46:24 of questions, but I want to share just a few anecdotes for people to add some color also,
0:46:30 because a lot of folks are familiar with Uber, but they don’t know the Red Swoosh story. And
0:46:34 I’m going to get some of the details wrong, but I’ll just share two things related to Travis,
0:46:42 often called TK by folks. So Travis with Red Swoosh created this company that became very
0:46:48 quickly sort of an enemy of all these huge music and entertainment companies because it was, think
0:46:54 of it as not quite an abster, but it produced to that amount of blowback. And he got served with
0:47:02 some type of lawsuit, which was like $250 billion or something. Not a good day. So then he has to,
0:47:07 this actually may have been the predecessor to Red Swoosh, shuts it down because he doesn’t have
0:47:12 any choice, starts a new company, which I believe is Red Swoosh, then goes back to all the people
0:47:21 who hated him and sued him and makes them customers. So just let that settle in. Like what type of
0:47:26 stage magic and charisma and sales abilities required to do that? Okay, so he did that.
0:47:34 And then very unrelated, but still glimpsing to the personality story. And I’m getting some
0:47:39 of the specifics wrong, but not by far. So he was at a friend’s house, I want to say in
0:47:46 Truckee. And he was playing with all sorts of people in We Tennis. And he was just slaughtering
0:47:50 everybody. Was he number one in the world or something? Well, that’s the thing. So he was
0:47:55 playing with his non-dominant hand. And then, oh, by the way, I’m like top four in the world
0:48:02 in my spare time. If you can imagine that level of competitive drive, and then you mesh this thing
0:48:07 together, and you get arguably the only person who could have helped build Uber into what it is,
0:48:13 right? I mean, really just one of a kind, fascinating, fascinating guy. Alright, so I want
0:48:20 to ask you about another one. And I’m going to potentially get the pronunciation wrong. Niantic?
0:48:24 Am I getting this right? Niantic, the makers of Pokemon Go. Pokemon Go. Okay, so how does this
0:48:31 show up? Oh, this one’s a great one. So the same Chris Collins that met me and showed me a computer
0:48:38 started playing a game called Ingress. And Ingress was this early game that came out of Google
0:48:45 that overlaid on top of the real world map, where you would team up with people and go to really
0:48:52 weird remote locations so that you could cast invisible triangles over large swaths of land.
0:48:56 I’m simplifying this because there’s a storyline behind this, but if you can imagine this, it’s
0:49:02 basically a gigantic game of green versus blue. And we were on team blue, which is called the
0:49:06 Resistance, and then team green is called Enlightenment. And we played this game and we were
0:49:10 hooked. And there were people that were so hooked, they were chartering helicopters to go to remote
0:49:16 places. And what we were creating and we didn’t realize what we were creating was Pokestops.
0:49:19 What time was this? Like what year, roughly, would you say?
0:49:22 Gosh, I’m going to get the years wrong on this. That’s okay.
0:49:27 I was an Angelist around this time that this was happening. So I want to say 2012.
0:49:29 Okay. All right, cool.
0:49:29 2011, 2012.
0:49:31 Just roughly, yeah, around there, all right.
0:49:36 So I picked up this game with my friends. We started going out every night playing Ingress,
0:49:40 doing walkarounds, and we would run into what’s really funny is people who knew you were playing
0:49:44 Ingress on the other side would come up to you and there’s some banter. People would be like,
0:49:51 oh, resistance, because we’re blowing up each other’s virtual things. And I started asking
0:49:58 myself the question, why is Google doing this? Why is Google making this game? Why are we doing
0:50:03 all this work for Google for free? They were collecting what’s called points of interest,
0:50:07 which are not mappable by cars or by sometimes satellites.
0:50:07 That’s clever.
0:50:13 So things like tombstones, where you can then take the text. And so we were going around taking
0:50:20 pictures of everything and submitting it to this database that was then used to create Pokémon Go.
0:50:26 Now, how I got involved, I thought I would invest in this company in a heartbeat if it was not part
0:50:33 of Google. And one day I get a text message from a friend and he says, they’re spinning Niantic out
0:50:38 of Google. There’s this whole weird thing called Alphabet that’s happening. And Niantic’s becoming
0:50:42 its own thing. And I was like, you’ve got to be kidding me. And I was like, if there’s one moment,
0:50:47 this is the only moment to strike where we can go put money into this thing. This is it.
0:50:52 But I didn’t know anybody at Google. I am not Google alumni. That’s probably where my network
0:50:58 is probably the least effective. And I just didn’t know how to reach this guy. But
0:51:02 I had invested in a company called Hintwater. I don’t know if you’ve ever had Hintwater,
0:51:02 but there are these…
0:51:04 I know Hintwater. Sure, of course.
0:51:09 So I invested in Hintwater and I was helping the founder set up her ticketing system.
0:51:12 She didn’t have a support. Oh, for support.
0:51:17 Yeah, for support. So she didn’t have anybody to help her set up her support
0:51:21 system. And I knew how to set up Zendesk. So I went in and set it up for her. And
0:51:26 I started noticing all of these weird messages coming in saying Ingress in the subject line.
0:51:32 And so I walked over to her and I said, why is everybody sending you emails that say Ingress?
0:51:37 And she says, well, we give out game codes on the bottle caps. And I looked at her and I said,
0:51:43 you’re kidding me. Who over at Ingress did this deal with you? And she said, John Henke,
0:51:50 the guy who runs Ingress. Can you introduce me to him? Well, sure. Why? I’m like, I just,
0:51:56 I want to go talk to him. So I emailed him and he said, come by the office in San Francisco.
0:52:01 I’d love to meet you. We’re not looking for any investment, but thanks. And so I showed up with
0:52:08 my best friend Lucas, who was also a player, and we sat at his doorstep and we waited and we waited
0:52:15 until we could get a meeting with him. And we went in and he told us flat out no at the beginning.
0:52:20 But we sat there and showed him how Lucas was a level 16 player and how many hours we had put
0:52:25 into this thing and how amazing it was because we had this insight, which is we’d heard that as
0:52:31 an April Fool’s joke, they’d put Pokemon on the map. And I had this realization that that was
0:52:37 going to be the biggest game ever. And if I could just get a check in here at just the right time,
0:52:41 it would be timed perfectly. By the time we left the office, he gave Lucas a desk and he
0:52:48 hired Lucas. And he let us both invest in the company. Okay. So let me slow this down a little
0:52:53 bit. All right. So right off the bat, no and no, no means no. All right. So by the end,
0:52:59 one of you gets hired and then you get to invest, but you’re not hired. Now I’m actually more
0:53:04 interested in your case, not the least of which because I’m interviewing you right now, but the
0:53:10 I’m going to hire you. Okay, fine. Right. Like there’s some use for that person.
0:53:14 How did you pitch becoming an investor or why did he let you invest?
0:53:21 I think that he saw that Lucas and I were going to give really valuable input on the gamer experience.
0:53:26 And if I was bringing in someone of Lucas’s caliber, who was, you know, I think employee
0:53:30 number 13 or something at Facebook, he’s a brilliant engineer. I think he thought maybe
0:53:35 I’d bring in some more brilliant engineers. So he was looking at this like the long run.
0:53:39 Right. And it’s not like you’re not putting in 10 million bucks or taking 20% of the company
0:53:44 or something at that point. Yeah, exactly. Exactly. The other thing is I couldn’t get
0:53:48 anyone else to it. Once I invested in this, I thought I got the deal of a lifetime. Angelus had
0:53:52 just started and they were allowing syndications and I wanted to syndicate this deal. And at
0:53:56 the time they were approving whether you could syndicate a deal or not. So it wasn’t just a free
0:54:02 for all. I wanted to syndicate Niantic and I was told no, because the only other investors were
0:54:07 Nintendo and Google. And they’re like, well, we don’t do corporate investors. And the other thing
0:54:12 is nobody could see, everybody told me no one’s going to walk around searching for invisible creatures.
0:54:17 And they’re like, no one’s going to play this game. And I’m like, oh, wait and see. I would argue
0:54:22 that it was probably the closest we’ve come to world peace in our lifetime is the day that Pokemon
0:54:28 Go came out. I think it was like July 6th. I remember it was right after July 4th. And I was in
0:54:34 Alaska when it was released. And even in Alaska, in Juneau, Alaska, people were running around
0:54:41 looking for invisible creatures. So that’s one of my favorite stories because it really took
0:54:47 figuring out how all the connections work to get that meeting. And then it took a lot of grit and
0:54:53 hustle to get him to let us in. And I do have a key card to Niantic. So I’m an honorary lifetime
0:54:58 employee. And I can come and go as I please. I’m kind of like a weird spirit animal there.
0:55:06 That’s awesome. All right. So we talked about Uber, side note tying Uber to Angelist after you
0:55:14 invested, goes after you invested, they ended up at some point having Uber put on Angelist.
0:55:23 And they were turned down by everyone, like 300 plus people passed on Uber because Phil in the
0:55:28 blank, right? Well, if we look at it as a percentage of the current X, Y and Z market, it makes no
0:55:35 sense. Nobody’s going to pay that much. Like these high conviction statements that obviously in
0:55:40 retrospect weren’t defensible at all. It’s very easy to come up with the reason for no,
0:55:44 because a lot of things fail. But I heard all those excuses too. I’m glad that you are
0:55:47 mentioning this because people have argued with me that Uber was the hottest thing around. And
0:55:52 I said, no, was it? Not at all. Oh, no, there were also media pieces probably on Gawker,
0:55:57 maybe on TechCrunch, but it was like the 1% ride for tech bros. And it was,
0:56:02 I mean, I don’t want to say universally, but pretty much everybody was like, this isn’t solving a
0:56:08 problem. This is just another thing for people with too much money who think this is a problem,
0:56:12 but they’re in their bubble in San Francisco. I mean, there are a million in one reasons that
0:56:16 people said it was a bad idea. People couldn’t see past the black car too. They thought that
0:56:21 one of the objections I saw is everyone doesn’t want or can afford a limo. And I said, well,
0:56:25 of course not. But that’s where it starts. Not everyone could ride in an airplane, but now everybody
0:56:31 can. That’s the way it works. Yeah, and we’ve seen this play out with Tesla in terms of launching
0:56:36 higher priced vehicles and then using that to subsidize the development of the lower cost vehicles.
0:56:41 We’ve seen this in computing. We have the Uber story. We talked about Niantic. Are there any
0:56:48 other companies from unusual places? A lot of interesting deals come out of hotels. So I was
0:56:56 at a hotel and I had time to kill and my background is in security. So I’m an engineer self-taught
0:57:01 and my friends taught me and I started getting an infosec. So I noticed some things that other
0:57:06 people don’t notice about their opsec or their security. And I got on the Wi-Fi and noticed that
0:57:12 all of these people were tethering their phones to the Wi-Fi using their real name. And I see
0:57:18 Travis K’s iPhone. And I look over in the corner and there’s Travis Kalanick. And I’m like, oh,
0:57:26 there’s Travis. And then I see K Pixel. And then I look over and I see Keith Raboy. And I see he
0:57:31 has a Pixel phone. And I’m like, oh, Keith Raboy’s Pixel. Interesting. Keep in mind their MAC addresses
0:57:36 at the time were also in the clear. Like you could track where these guys were if you were very clever.
0:57:40 But then I see this name Garrett Langley. And it’s a name I’ve never seen. So I go and Google
0:57:47 search it. And Garrett Langley is the founder of Flock Security. And there’s this mug picture of him.
0:57:54 And he’s in the current YC batch at the time. And we at Founders Fun had been thinking about
0:57:58 some of the biggest opportunities. And one of the opportunities we were considering was somebody
0:58:03 needs to come up with some sort of neighborhood camera or neighborhood association where people
0:58:08 are all pitching in and agreeing to some rules around safety and some equipment and technology
0:58:13 to enable that safety. And so I’ve started reading about Flock. And I’m like, we didn’t think about
0:58:19 OCR and license plates. We thought about cameras. This is a much better solution. So I messaged our
0:58:25 associate at the time, John Ludig, who I think is now a partner, that I’d found this guy. And he’s
0:58:28 like, oh, you know, that’s a company we’re interested in. I said, what should I do? And he’s like,
0:58:33 just walk over there, see what happens. So I walked over and I decided to play the,
0:58:37 I don’t know, the magician card, if you will. And I looked at him and I said,
0:58:41 Garrett Langley. And he said, yes. I said, I’m Saiyan Banister of Founders Fun. We’d like to
0:58:47 bring you in for a meeting. Sounded very official. You know, and he starts looking around and he’s
0:58:52 like, because YC, his batch hadn’t demoed yet. And I, he hadn’t seen it yet.
0:58:56 How do you know who I am? He was like, looking around like, how do you know?
0:59:01 And then it was killing him. And he finally asked me, he said, I’m so sorry, I need to know how
0:59:05 you know who I am. And I’m like, are you sure you want to know? And he’s like, yeah. And I said,
0:59:10 well, you tethered your phone to the Wi-Fi. And it says Garrett Langley’s iPhone. And curiosity
0:59:16 just got the best of me. And we ended up getting the last allocation of that round and sharing the
0:59:23 Series A with Bedrock. It’s now valued at over $6 billion. And I tell this story because
0:59:30 one of the things that I think makes me good at what I do and other people is identifying
0:59:36 patterns and opportunities and striking when you see them. And for whatever reason, I am gifted
0:59:42 with the ability to make these connections. So a lot of the best deals I’ve ever done
0:59:49 have these interesting things in common, which is I see something, I put the pieces together. I’m
0:59:55 like, oh, for example, hint water, bottle caps is going to get me in this deal. I had to think
1:00:01 very quickly about that. But same thing here is just, I didn’t wait. I didn’t email the guy.
1:00:05 I decided to go be a creeper. And it ended up being funny. It ended up being totally funny.
1:00:11 Yeah, totally. All right. So I want to do a post-game analysis on another deal
1:00:16 of a slightly different variety. And this is Game Crush and Lessons Learned.
1:00:21 Ah, yes, Game Crush. Could have been Twitch. Yeah, explore this.
1:00:28 Yeah, Game Crush was a brilliant business, actually. And at the time, let’s put this
1:00:34 in perspective. There was, my space was a thing still, Facebook came out and was sort of on the
1:00:40 rise. Twitch didn’t exist. Discord didn’t exist. None of that stuff existed. There were webcam
1:00:45 sites. And then there was a site I started called Ziviti. And what I saw was really interesting
1:00:52 because they brought women who were mostly women, men also played, off of my space who were a little
1:00:58 more provocative and wanted to play more provocative gaming. And so it was a way for you to pay to play
1:01:06 games with girl gamers. And it was growing like crazy and everything was fantastic. And then
1:01:12 they started getting activist investors who wanted them to get rid of the more adult and
1:01:16 nature content. This happens with company after company after company.
1:01:21 Can you explain just for folks, the activist investor, just for people who might be curious
1:01:26 as to what that is? An activist investor is someone who invests in a company and decides
1:01:32 that they want to play CEO or operator and they start telling the founders and the employees
1:01:36 what they should be doing with their company. And if you’ve structured your company correctly,
1:01:40 you can take that advice and then tell them to pound sand. But if you haven’t,
1:01:44 the power dynamics are not in your favor. I’ll just put it that way. And then there’s people who,
1:01:48 because people gave them money, they think they have to listen to them, but then they don’t.
1:01:54 And that was the situation. Got it. And for people who want a showcase of,
1:01:58 granted, a slightly different species of activist investor, I assume you’re talking
1:02:04 about venture capitalists, maybe private equity guys. But if somebody wants a great documentary,
1:02:09 watch ICON, the Restless Billionaire. If you want to see what super hardball activist investing
1:02:14 looks like, you can check that out. Okay. So please continue. An activist investor can fire you.
1:02:20 You know, that can happen too. They want to remove the sex appeal and the fringier
1:02:24 magic. Is that what’s happening? They wanted to remove the sex appeal and what made this entire
1:02:28 product special and the whole reason I invested it in the first place. They cannibalized it.
1:02:35 And so after that, Twitch took off, but they didn’t have the right tools or the right anything
1:02:42 to be a Twitch. And they had all these amazing girl streamers, which just jumped ship as soon as
1:02:46 they could go someplace where they could actually show more than what game press was allowing.
1:02:52 What were the rules? What were the constraints that the activist investors either applied
1:02:55 themselves or convinced the founders to apply? How did it change?
1:03:01 The streamers couldn’t be in various states of undress. They couldn’t even be sexy. They couldn’t
1:03:08 be in bikinis. They wanted it to be where technically, I guess, younger people could
1:03:11 get on, but it was never meant to be for kids. It was supposed to be for adults.
1:03:17 Adults with adults. And they just got weird because they wanted to make a very mainstream
1:03:22 product. They wanted to be Twitch. They weren’t onto something. It’s just that the product was
1:03:28 never, ever designed to be that. And I think that if they’d stuck to that niche, they would have
1:03:33 done quite well, incredibly well, as a matter of fact, because they could have expanded later
1:03:39 into something had they completely monopolized that audience. Because that’s what drove people
1:03:43 ultimately at the end of the day to watch Twitch is these girl streamers.
1:03:50 Yeah, that’s me. That’s like Internet 101 on some level for so many, so many different things.
1:03:58 So let me come back to Game Crush and ask, and maybe this is a dead end, but looking back with
1:04:03 hindsight 2020, were there other warning signs prior to the death knell? Were there other things
1:04:08 that you saw that maybe you overlooked or things that you observed where you’re like,
1:04:13 next time I’m going to pay more attention to that? Yeah, this was early in my investment career,
1:04:16 actually. And so I was learning a lot of lessons from that particular company.
1:04:20 The check size that I wrote was rather large for the time. I think it was like 250k,
1:04:27 which was pretty big. And the warning signs that I saw were how disorganized the company was after
1:04:34 we did the first closing of that round. They invited us to a dinner, which I brought Byron
1:04:40 Singerman and a few other people. And it was really clear that there was just leadership issues.
1:04:45 But by that point, we’d already committed capital. You’re not going to change your mind. You can’t
1:04:50 withdraw anyway. What kind of leadership issues? It was unclear who was the CEO.
1:04:56 So there were multiple founders? Yes, multiple founders, always a recipe for disaster. And
1:05:01 they were putting forth someone as the CEO, but it was really clear that he was only the CEO
1:05:07 just for the fundraise. And after the fundraise, it was a bit of a shell game. And I’ve seen this
1:05:12 happen. I learned this, interestingly, with another company, HQ Trivia, which I would argue is a much
1:05:19 bigger disaster and failure. And that was due to two founders who ultimately could not see eye to eye
1:05:26 and had a 50/50 partnership. I broke my rule where I normally never invest in a company
1:05:32 where there’s a 50/50 partnership or there’s not a clear delineation of who’s the CEO and who’s not.
1:05:37 And for a variety of reasons. Who’s the tiebreaker? Who’s the tiebreaker? Who’s actually ultimately
1:05:44 into the day? Is their fault? Who were going to all point out and blame? And with HQ Trivia,
1:05:48 there was nobody to point out and blame. As a matter of fact, it became more of a game of
1:05:54 frones for the position and was tragic. And it ended up with one of the founders dead.
1:06:01 Oh my god. Yeah. But Game Crush was a great learning lesson. I also learned that just because you
1:06:05 commit to something, if there was a period of time in there that I was able to get material
1:06:13 information as to a decision that I made may not be a good one, I have the right to say I’m not
1:06:16 investing, which is something that has been challenging for me because I don’t know if you
1:06:20 watch Game of Thrones where they say a lamester plays their debts while Banneth repays her debts.
1:06:27 You know? Yep. Now you’re saying after docs have been signed or after you’ve wired the money,
1:06:30 if the material items should have been disclosed or not disclosed. Before signing,
1:06:34 like if there was anything that I could have figured out before then, which there were some
1:06:40 little things, like some little things that were signed, I realized then I could adjust
1:06:45 and make that decision in the next investment that I did where I could try to find out more
1:06:49 information. And even if I committed before those docs were signed, it’s not done. That was a learning
1:06:54 lesson there because I always thought that my word is my bond. And if I say something verbally,
1:06:58 it’s as good as signing something. But sometimes people misrepresent things and they lie.
1:07:05 Sadly true. I have a question going back to the hemp jewelry. And I don’t want to force a narrative
1:07:11 on your story that is not true. But when you’re telling me about some of the deals you’ve sourced,
1:07:18 and I’m sure this applies to many others, there’s a certain level of proactivity and like chutzpah
1:07:28 in approaching people, cold approaches, right? Just not seemingly being overly concerned or
1:07:35 over cogitating on just being a creeper, I think, as you put it, or going for the direct contact
1:07:41 pretty quickly. Does that come in part from the kind of training on the street of making these
1:07:47 approaches to tables, making approaches to different folks, asking for things? Or were you out of the
1:07:57 box seemingly programmed to be that way? Yeah, I think being homeless taught me that a lot of
1:08:03 things that people do are suggestions. When I was homeless and I was selling necklaces,
1:08:12 one I learned about rejection. But before I did the necklaces, I also had a weird job at Greenpeace
1:08:17 for a period of time where I was a phone canvasser. And I lied about my age and they allowed me to
1:08:22 work there. So that was another funny, weird job I had. But I also did telemarketing as well. So
1:08:27 I did a lot of telemarketing when I was 17, 18. And then of course, tech support, dialect tech
1:08:31 support was a thing that I did for a while. So I spent a lot of time being rejected and being on
1:08:38 the phone and being abused in customer service. And I don’t believe in no until it’s the final no.
1:08:45 And I also think that when you’re an investor, and especially if you start to get good at it,
1:08:50 people want to hear from you. They want the opportunity for you to invest in them.
1:08:56 I’ve just never seen that anything as a barrier. To me, it’s like a sport. It’s a game. Not that
1:09:00 money is a game, but getting into the deal and winning the deal to me is a sport.
1:09:06 And you’re saying that, I’m paraphrasing here, but things that people say are suggestions,
1:09:12 something like that. What does that mean? We apply a lot of our own perception to everything
1:09:20 that everyone says around us. We make up stories that are fiction. And a lot of what people suffer
1:09:26 with today are these stories, these narratives that we tell ourselves and one another. And I’ve
1:09:32 just always felt like that’s something that someone said right now. It’s not a hard no. You know when
1:09:36 you hear a hard no. I know the difference between an objection and I just have a rebuttal for it,
1:09:42 versus a hard no. And until it’s a hard no, there’s wiggle room to get something done.
1:09:49 And so I just always felt this. And it’s interesting that you honed in on it, but it’s
1:09:55 definitely been a guiding principle in my life, which is don’t give up. Just try different approaches.
1:10:02 Maybe you didn’t ask the right way, or maybe you didn’t give the right incentives, or maybe it was
1:10:09 Monday and they’re in a bad mood. On Mondays. Exactly. Fuck Mondays. But you know, all of these
1:10:14 things are just things that we make up truths, but what if they’re not true? So you’ve got to
1:10:18 always question these narratives that you tell yourself and that other people are telling you.
1:10:23 How do you do that? I mean, is it just an instinct at this point, or is there some
1:10:31 systematic way that you do that for yourself? I meditate a lot and I practice mindfulness as
1:10:38 often as possible, and I try to remind myself to be conscious whenever I can. And being conscious to
1:10:45 me is being aware and present and being here now. And a lot of times, you’ll hear that and it doesn’t
1:10:51 really mean a whole lot until you’ve practiced mindfulness for a period of time and you start
1:10:59 to realize what now is. And so anything that I tell you happened. It’s gone. You can’t go back
1:11:04 to it. I can’t do it again. It’s a fiction that becomes something in my mind that people put
1:11:09 too much weight on that fiction. And I’m not saying that nothing matters. A lot of things
1:11:18 matter. But the human mind and the ego is so capable of spinning up fictions and creating
1:11:24 narratives that we hold as truths to the point where it leads people to paralysis.
1:11:28 The amount of time, so I’m at a convention right now, that I’ve heard people apologize to each
1:11:32 other for saying something rude in the past and the other person not even remembering it.
1:11:37 And I’m thinking about how this poor person carried around that trauma with them for how long?
1:11:41 I’ve heard it twice now because right now there’s something happening in the world
1:11:44 that I’m really excited about, though, is that people are starting to apologize
1:11:53 and starting to own being wrong for the first time in a long time. And I think one of the things that
1:12:03 I am hyper-accountable. So I take responsibility for my every action and ideally my every thought.
1:12:11 And that’s really hard for a lot of people because it’s easy to be a victim. It’s easy to
1:12:16 say that things happen to you or the circumstances. I easily could have rolled over and said I was
1:12:22 homeless. What was me? I can’t succeed in life. And instead I was like, this life is just a big
1:12:28 old game and we’ve got to play it. And a lot of it is cosplay and suggestions. When I was
1:12:31 younger, I saw these people dress up in their suits and you’re just going to realize they’re
1:12:38 grown children dressing up in suits, adulting. It’s a costume. So I look at everybody walking
1:12:41 around in their costumes with the narratives and the stories they’re telling themselves.
1:12:45 And I like to analyze it and I like to think about it a lot.
1:12:50 No, I think it’s worth, if you’re open to it, just mentioning where you are. So what is this
1:12:55 conference? Yeah. So I’m at Hereticon. It is put on by my alumni at Founders Fund.
1:13:01 You say you’re alumni, you mean portfolio company? No, the people I invested with. So
1:13:05 I was a partner at Founders Fund for four years. I got it, got it, got it. The other GPs. Yeah,
1:13:10 so the other GPs and some of the founders I’ve invested in are here. Andrew Palmer Lucky is here
1:13:16 and I invested in Andrew. And there’s a few others. There’s True Med that’s here. Mind Bloom,
1:13:21 which we invested in that does psychedelic medicine, ketamine therapy for PTSD.
1:13:25 Why is it called Hereticon, right? Heretic Conference?
1:13:33 It’s because some of the best ideas look heretical at the time. When people claim that they can do
1:13:38 something that is indistinguishable from magic, for example, they might be labeled a witch back in
1:13:43 the day. When you make a technological advancement, it is indistinguishable from what looks like
1:13:48 witchcraft sometimes. And then people, in order to get to the best possible answers,
1:13:56 we need to have debate. And so this conference is about people debating in completely oppositional
1:14:00 viewpoints. So there are people here who are hardcore atheists, there are people here who
1:14:05 read tarot cards, there are people who are anti-AI, and there’s people here who are,
1:14:09 AI is going to save the world and it might even bring the second coming of Christ.
1:14:13 It runs the gambit. I mean, it’s just so exciting. And one of the things I love about it, Tim,
1:14:21 is it really reminds me of early ’90s tech futurism, back when we thought everything was possible and
1:14:27 what we were going to build and it didn’t turn into any of that. I would argue that social
1:14:32 media and things like that did not do what we set out to make them do. But for the most part,
1:14:37 I had thought that this optimism had died because of things like Uber, because of the
1:14:44 backlash against tech people that we had become pariahs. But this has the feeling of it coming
1:14:48 back together and people are discussing the things that matter again without the fear of
1:14:53 being canceled. And I think that’s the other thing that happens here is it’s chatham house rules.
1:14:57 I think some things are leaking out on the internet, but for the most part, they’re not.
1:15:02 And you’re encouraged to be yourself and you’re encouraged to be respectful and you’re encouraged
1:15:03 to make friends across the aisle.
1:15:06 I dig it. How large is it? How many people attend?
1:15:07 There’s about 500 people.
1:15:08 Oh, that’s big.
1:15:12 And Founders Fund pays for the whole thing. So our hotel room, I’m in a hotel room right now
1:15:18 that’s paid for. Our meals are paid for. It’s just incredibly generous for them to give this gift
1:15:23 to the community. I know they source deals out of it. I know they get something out of it.
1:15:27 But at the same time, I know how much effort it takes to roll up your sleeves and do what Mike
1:15:33 Solana has done. And it’s probably my favorite conference I attend by far.
1:15:35 It’s my number one favorite place to go.
1:15:40 You mentioned a company a while back that I do want to touch on and that is
1:15:45 Ziviti. I mean, I’m reading here, right? Only fans before only fans. I do like the general
1:15:51 magic of pornography. People require a lot of background on general magic, but people can
1:15:55 look it up. Actually, at Tony Fidella on the podcast, people can dig into that to get a whole
1:16:02 bunch of background there. But why Ziviti and then what happened and what did you learn from it?
1:16:06 Can I go back to the very beginning of when I discovered my very first porn?
1:16:09 Of course. How could I say no to that?
1:16:13 Yeah, I mean, I think it goes back to that. So it’s a great story. But I got a summer job.
1:16:19 I want to say I was 11, 12. I know this is going to sound disturbing, but it’s really not.
1:16:28 I got a job watching a wolf dog, which is basically a wolf, and you don’t own a wolf.
1:16:32 Like they’re very, very wild and untameable creatures. I don’t know if you’ve been to a
1:16:34 wolf sanctuary, but you can’t let them. Yeah, I’ve been around wolves.
1:16:39 Yeah, so you know. And this guy said, okay, all you have to do is come over to my house,
1:16:42 you open the door, you go to the freezer, you get out of steak, you microwave the steak,
1:16:46 and you crack an egg on it, and you leave it in the door frame. And wolf people just show up.
1:16:51 And I was like, okay, I could do this, you know, and it was a great summer gig.
1:16:56 I love that somebody, some guy, right? It’s like, you know what I’m gonna do? I’m gonna hire an 11
1:17:03 year old and then leave this 11 year old alone with this wolf dog. Yeah. Just putting steak in the
1:17:08 doorway. Exactly. This is a great idea. Exactly. So it was… Please continue.
1:17:16 This dog shows up, and this dog is so big, and I’m so small. And they have these fierce looking eyes.
1:17:21 And this thing, I’m like, this thing could eat me. But she would come in, and she would
1:17:26 eat the steak, and she would roam around his apartment and stare at me, and then she would,
1:17:31 you know, do her thing, and then eventually leave. And then I could lock up and then go.
1:17:35 But Wolfie didn’t come, she didn’t work on a schedule. So I would go over there and sometimes
1:17:41 have nothing to do. So I started going through this guy’s drawers, his cabinets, his books,
1:17:46 his everything. There was nothing to do. It was so boring. Eventually I found
1:17:53 a Playboy magazine. And I looked in there, and I was like, that has to be the most beautiful
1:17:57 at the time. These were vintage Playboys. Depiction of the human body I had ever seen.
1:18:03 Because before this, I thought that the Sears Robux magazine was like the sexiest thing I’d
1:18:08 ever seen, the underwear section. And this was like, holy cow, this is next level. Women are
1:18:15 beautiful. And I dreamed about being beautiful like that someday. I was like, you know, I want to be
1:18:20 beautiful like that. I want to be like that someday. And beauty back then in those magazines was very
1:18:28 natural and very accessible. You could be that beauty. Whereas the beauty of Playboy later,
1:18:34 when Hefner was older, became a very inaccessible beauty. But my mother also is an art teacher,
1:18:40 and she kept around all of these books with these Chinese sculptures, where they were doing very,
1:18:46 very lewd sexual acts. And so to shock my friends at school, I would sneak these books to school
1:18:53 and show them in the locker and sometimes charge people for it. You know, come look at my porn
1:19:00 in my locker. So, you know, I really, really felt that it was a beautiful art form that deserved
1:19:05 a little more respect. And that started very, very early. When I set out to start a company,
1:19:12 at the time there was MySpace, and then there was a competitor, which became a friendly competitor
1:19:19 of mine called Suicide Girls, that had launched. And I tried to start Ziviti before Suicide Girls,
1:19:23 even. But then Suicide Girls started, and I was like, well, they’re doing a fine job.
1:19:27 I don’t need to start a company because Suicide Girls is doing most of what I wanted.
1:19:33 But what they didn’t do was, I didn’t like the financial model of how they acquired content
1:19:37 and how they treated the artists. So, what they would do is they would buy a photo shoot that
1:19:43 an artist did for $500, and you would sign a release for your likeness and your name,
1:19:48 and they pretty much owned it in perpetuity. So, if I’m cyan on Suicide Girls, I can’t be cyan
1:19:52 in anybody’s place else. And so a lot of these young women had no idea what they were signing.
1:19:58 Yeah. And then they would get famous. And then they would use these images and, you know, they had
1:20:03 stage shows and all sorts of things. This is pretty standard though. They weren’t doing anything wrong.
1:20:08 It was the industry standard. It was the Hollywood standard at the time. And I thought to myself,
1:20:14 there has to be a better way. There has to be a way where photographers and models can have a fan
1:20:20 interaction that’s meaningful, and then the fan becomes a patron of the art that they’re making.
1:20:27 And at the time, there was webcam girls. They did exist. And you could buy packages,
1:20:31 and they’ve got some portion of the package, but their micropayment system was not really a thing.
1:20:38 And so we started coming up with, we didn’t know what to call it. It was technically tipping,
1:20:43 but we didn’t want to use the word tipping with the content that we were putting on Ziviti. So,
1:20:50 Ziviti was a nude, fully nude platform with no sex acts on it, actually. And we didn’t want to
1:20:54 call it tipping because we didn’t want to equate ourselves with a strip club. We wanted to bring
1:21:01 up the class of what was happening more. So, later on, Patreon figured out it’s called patronage.
1:21:05 And Kickstarter figured out it’s called backing somebody. But we didn’t have the marketing
1:21:11 language, so we called it voting. Now, voting was a very, very confusing word of a call to action
1:21:15 for anybody because you’re not supposed to stuff a ballot box. You’re not supposed to vote multiple
1:21:21 times. But we were encouraging people to vote multiple times because each vote was basically
1:21:27 worth a dollar. And then when you cast that vote or you voted, 70% went to the artist and was split
1:21:32 between the photographer and model. Eventually, we started bringing in makeup artists and costume
1:21:38 designers. A lot of people don’t realize that a lot of these really, really beautiful photo shoots
1:21:44 involve a lot of people. There’s a lot of people there, and then the compensation chain
1:21:49 is complicated. But the person who does the hardest work is the model. So, the model is the one who
1:21:54 talks to the fans. And what I figured out was Ziviti, actually, which only fans has figured
1:21:59 out, and a lot of these other platforms figured out, is it’s not about the content at all.
1:22:03 Because over and over again, I would get told, “Why would anybody pay for this? Content’s free.
1:22:09 It’s all over the internet. There’s porn everywhere.” What isn’t free is the real human
1:22:14 interaction with the person. And we figured that out with Ziviti at the very end. But I shut down
1:22:21 Ziviti when I was at Founder’s Sun. I ran it for 10 years. We were the first company of our kind
1:22:27 to raise venture capital. And we couldn’t see eye-to-eye the board, myself, the executive team
1:22:32 on what Ziviti should be because people thought it was about beauty. It was about an aesthetic.
1:22:36 And I argued that it has nothing to do with beauty, that nobody really cares about that.
1:22:42 Because they wanted to editorialize it like Playboy. And I had this insight, which ended up being
1:22:48 right, which is anybody can be a model and anybody can make money as long as they have more than one
1:22:58 fan. And we did register a domain called Topfans. And we did experiment with what OnlyFans is.
1:23:03 But what happened is I just ran out of gas. I ran out of the ability to run that company.
1:23:09 And I was far more successful as an investor. And I was tired of fighting. I was really,
1:23:14 really tired of fighting everybody. Like, I was not allowed to be in the Apple App Store.
1:23:19 I wasn’t allowed to advertise on Instagram. I wasn’t allowed to use normal payment processors.
1:23:25 I wasn’t even allowed to have an office at WeWork. I was protested at tech conferences. There were
1:23:30 women who would come and protest me. Why would they protest you? Well, back then, it was a lot
1:23:35 more controversial to do what we were doing. And they thought that my mere presence at a conference
1:23:39 meant that I was going to pornify them in some way. Like, I was going to start taking pictures
1:23:43 of them or taking my top off or, I don’t know, I don’t know what they thought. But they thought
1:23:48 that I was going to do something. And Facebook actually asked me to come and speak to a group
1:23:53 of engineers. They had a wonderful event. And I was the headline speaker. And there was a
1:23:58 protest that happened. And they held a protest across the street. And at our event, we did nothing
1:24:01 but talk about code and engineering. And at their event, they did nothing but talk about porn.
1:24:10 To this day, laugh about. But, you know, I never envisioned Zivity becoming as big as OnlyFans,
1:24:16 though. I think OnlyFans has really proven and hit a nerve. And one could argue that maybe
1:24:22 it remains to be seen whether a product like this is a net positive for society or a net negative.
1:24:30 But we did succeed at enabling this freedom, which I still think is valuable because a lot of people
1:24:35 need this kind of freedom so that they can put themselves through school, so that they can buy
1:24:40 their first home so they can start a family. And not everybody is blessed with being able to get
1:24:45 certain types of jobs. And this gives them that flexibility. I hesitate to ask this question,
1:24:51 but I’m so curious because you’re very good at embracing your weird self and your very
1:24:58 forthright in your opinions. And you have controversial, or I should say, maybe uncommon
1:25:04 takes on things like minimum wage, what you said earlier, for instance, as one of many examples.
1:25:09 So feel free to take this question wherever you want to go, or if it’s just a bad question,
1:25:14 we can abandon it. But how do you relate to sex? Like, how do you think about sex and sexuality?
1:25:19 It’s such a broad question, but I feel like it would be neglectful of me not to ask.
1:25:23 Yeah, I love this question because we don’t talk about it enough to be honest with you. And it’s,
1:25:29 you know, along with eating and pooping and everything else that we do, sex is up there.
1:25:34 I mean, it’s how we have babies and how we express our love and how we connect with people. And we
1:25:40 don’t, it’s so stigmatized. I don’t think it should be. But I became sexually active when I was 15.
1:25:47 And despite finding the pornography and everything like that, it was later in my teenage years.
1:25:53 And I was so disappointed. I thought, why did everybody make movies and write poetry and
1:25:58 build a Taj Mahal for something so awful? And I had a very negative view of sex,
1:26:05 so negative that I started experimenting on boys. And this is maybe terrible, but this is what I did
1:26:12 is I was determined to find that one connection that was worthy of writing a poem for,
1:26:18 you know, there has to be somebody. There has to be something. And it just didn’t work. Like,
1:26:22 I would try different things. I would try different scenarios. I was like, well,
1:26:27 maybe I need to be in the racquetball corridor. I need to be over here or there. I thought it was
1:26:33 situational. And then eventually I developed feelings for somebody. And I didn’t realize that
1:26:39 that was the missing ingredient. I was like, wow, feelings for someone else. That’s the concept.
1:26:45 And I broke up with this guy immediately. So it was my first love. And it was a communist.
1:26:49 Interestingly, he still is a communist. He has the hammer and sickle on his arm and everything.
1:26:56 And I still love him to this day. And we’re still friends. But I saw myself worrying about him,
1:27:02 like where he was, what he was wearing. Did he eat? Has he slept? I started asking myself
1:27:08 all these questions that were so weird. And I just didn’t have time for them. I had to survive.
1:27:12 And when you have to survive, you can’t worry about someone else’s well-being because you’re
1:27:17 drowning yourself. Like, you can’t worry about someone else drowning. Again, put your oxygen mask
1:27:23 on first. So I broke up with him and left. And I put him in a little snow globe. I like to call it a
1:27:29 snow globe of emotion because it taught me that that was possible, that someday I could love
1:27:36 someone. And maybe that person would love me back. But I didn’t have time for it then. So
1:27:43 when I got into tech, I did date. And I had some long-term relationships. And then obviously,
1:27:48 there was the homeless relationship with cuddles that lasted a long time. And my relationship
1:27:53 to sex was just kind of like it’s fun. And it’s just something you do. But it was never earth
1:27:59 shattering. It was another– I never wanted to build a Taj Mahal. And that was my bar. I was like,
1:28:07 that guy, that woman, must have been something. To erect a monument to her that is just so
1:28:15 grand. She must have been very, very good in bed is what I thought. So I got my hands on books,
1:28:25 magazines, Cosmo, everything. And it wasn’t until probably my mid-20s that my relationships to sex
1:28:30 changed. And I started having a much more positive outlook on it and enjoying it. But it took some
1:28:36 time because in the beginning, I just thought, how did the human species survive? This is just
1:28:40 awful. Because when you’re young, you don’t really know what you’re doing. Yeah, no.
1:28:46 But when you get older, you, if you’re lucky and you find the right partner, then you do.
1:28:53 So I’m going to switch gears. And I want to talk about rolling the dice, but not metaphorically.
1:28:59 Literally, I want to talk about rolling dice. And I’ll just let you take it from there because
1:29:05 I might want to spend quite a bit of time on this. Okay, dice rolling is a lot of fun.
1:29:07 How did this even come up? How did this even start?
1:29:13 Yeah, it came up during the pandemic. So during the pandemic, the world was kind of divided into
1:29:19 two camps. There was the people that were first responders, critical responders, critical infrastructure
1:29:23 for the country who had to continue to go to work. So they were in their own kind of suffering and
1:29:28 their own kind of experience of the pandemic. And then there was people who were forced to pause.
1:29:35 And I was one of the forced to pause people. And so I started reading all of this early 1920s
1:29:43 esoteric philosophy and- Hold on, hold on. How the fuck does that happen? Why that?
1:29:51 Gosh, I don’t even know where to jump off here to tell. I go in rabbit holes and I go deep down
1:29:55 these rabbit holes until I’m satisfied. And then I go down another one, another one, another one.
1:29:59 And this particular one gripped me because I was interested in mysticism.
1:30:07 And I started reading works by Alistair Crowley, which led me, which I’m sure you’re familiar
1:30:11 with him, which led me to this weird publication that he published, which also led me to a weird
1:30:18 short story called The Magic Glasses by Frank, I forget his last name. It’ll come to me later, but
1:30:23 I’ll find it. It’s really, really great. I’m making a movie based off of this short story. So it’s
1:30:29 actually a really great story and- Frank Harris? Frank Harris, yeah. So by Frank Harris, I highly
1:30:34 recommend reading this story. It’s fantastic. The rest of Frank Harris’ stuff is a little more
1:30:42 challenging. So he was a cowboy who, at the age of 14, basically ran away from home. And the
1:30:46 in vogue thing when you ran away from home in Europe was you ran off to America. Like,
1:30:51 that was your big FU. It’s like, I’m gonna go get on a ship and you’ll never see me again.
1:30:57 So he ran off to America. He ended up falling into some amazing intellectual groups of writers,
1:31:02 and he wrote one of the smuddiest books of the time called My Life and Loves, which was banned
1:31:08 worldwide. And it was an account of every single sexual encounter that this guy had. It’s a fantastic
1:31:15 book, but again, tough to read because he was also a cattle rancher. He became a cattle rancher,
1:31:20 and he ended up killing people for cattle. And it’s hard to tell what’s real and what’s fake,
1:31:24 but back at the time, this might have happened. You know, it might have been real.
1:31:30 But what led me down this rabbit hole was because I was trying to ask a very important question,
1:31:37 which is a question I hope that everybody asks, which is why are we here? Why do any of this,
1:31:43 anything that we’ve talked about at all, like what is the purpose of any of it, has been a question,
1:31:48 a rabbit hole that has continued throughout my life continues, probably will continue to the day
1:31:54 I die. It’ll be an unanswered question. I have some answers, but mostly it’s an unanswered question.
1:32:01 And I started playing with artificial constraints. It first started with my clothing. I realized
1:32:07 I can’t be like Steve Jobs. I can’t be Mark Zuckerberg. I can’t just wear a uniform and flip
1:32:11 flops and call it a day. I would feel dead inside. I just couldn’t do it.
1:32:19 How does the applying constraints relate to Frank Harris and the why are we here question?
1:32:24 The story about Frank Harris that magic glasses when you read it is about
1:32:30 trying on different perspectives and seeing the world in a new way. And if you were to be able
1:32:34 to put on a pair of magic glasses that allowed you to see the world in a magical way, would you do
1:32:41 it? And for how long would it be magical before you just relegated those glasses to your drawer of
1:32:48 all the other chalk keys and novelties that the human brain grows bored of? And I started looking
1:32:52 around at all the novelties in my life and all the things I had grown bored of and all of the
1:32:57 perspectives I had tried on and tossed into the drawer. And I started looking at my wardrobe
1:33:05 as being an interesting side effect of novelty. And so I started thinking about that story and
1:33:13 thinking about my closet. And I love clothes. I just love them. I love expressing myself with
1:33:20 clothes. I love costumes. I love cosplay. I love textures. I love fabric. I love fashion. And so
1:33:25 I’ve always had this guilt around loving these things. And so I tried to figure out how to be
1:33:33 the best minimalist maximalist I could be. And so I started playing all sorts of forcing function
1:33:40 games. And it came out of reading, you know, Gergiev and Frank Harris and Alistair Crowley
1:33:47 and all these things. Dice rolling oddly came out of all of that. So I went to my friends and family
1:33:52 and I said, I am tired of picking up my outfit every day, but I can’t get a uniform. So can you guys
1:33:59 pick a theme? And so the first theme was plaid. And I was plaid from head to toe. So everything,
1:34:04 underwear, socks, shoes, hat, gloves, it didn’t matter what it was, it had to be plaid.
1:34:10 And when you go into a store and they’re like, can I help you? And you’re like,
1:34:17 do you have anything plaid? The answer is usually I have two things, like two items of clothing or
1:34:23 three items of clothing. So it automatically forces you to not buy things and to constrain
1:34:28 yourself with this weird pattern you’ve picked for the season. And so when you say season,
1:34:34 how long are you wearing plaid for? Three months. Yeah, it was brutal. It was brutal.
1:34:39 So that wasn’t enough. I had to learn all about plaid. Like, what is plaid? Is a checker plaid?
1:34:45 You know, is gingham a plaid? What makes a plaid a plaid? It’s really fascinating. So the second
1:34:51 season I hated the most, which was polka dot. It was awful. And I’ll tell you why polka dot’s awful,
1:34:57 because most prints and fabrics, the polka dots are either printed and layered on top of the fabric,
1:35:02 but they’re never woven into the fabric. And so polka dots are usually made out of really cheap
1:35:08 fibers. So polyesters and things that are really hot and sticky and gross. So in each of these cases,
1:35:16 are you ending up with like 12 storage units full of plaid and polka dot stuff, respectively? No.
1:35:21 Okay, so it constrains the volume. It constrains the volume. And it got to the point where I mean,
1:35:24 I can’t wear a polka dot again, probably for the rest of my life. Have you ever seen me wearing
1:35:29 polka dots? Like I’ve gotten over the trauma. But plaid was one of my favorites, actually,
1:35:35 because learning how to wear mismatch plaids. But the thing that was really interesting was
1:35:39 when I’d go into a store, how people would be delighted and just light up when they saw what
1:35:44 I was wearing. They would just start laughing and giggling. And I realized that clothing could be a
1:35:49 source of joy, not just for yourself, but for other people. So it’s like minimalism plus joy,
1:35:55 or like reduce decision making and increase joy at the same time. Correct. That’s a great
1:36:00 way to distill what I’m obsessed with right now. How did the dice come into this? I don’t want to
1:36:03 cut off the story at all. After I ran this experiment for a year and a half,
1:36:08 and I learned a lot about what I like and don’t like and what kind of fashion suits me and doesn’t
1:36:13 suit me and which friends to allow to pick my wardrobe and which not to, I started looking at
1:36:18 my dining choices. And I started looking at my holiday choices and my driving choices. And I
1:36:23 started asking myself the question, do I even make good choices? Now you would think that because
1:36:28 I’m successful, the answer is yes, I make great choices. But I make choices just like any other
1:36:34 person that are ingrained choices formed out of habit. So I wanted to see what would happen
1:36:40 if I became more random. What happens if you introduce random to your life? And you start
1:36:47 to eliminate choice. Are you as successful? Are you as joyous? How much of what we do is really
1:36:54 because we’re brilliant or is because that’s just how the cards fall? Well, I have not been led
1:37:00 astray by the dice a single time. So how it works is, let’s say you and I want to go to dinner, Tim,
1:37:04 and I’m like, what do you want to eat? And you’re like, I don’t know. And we go around and we do
1:37:09 this thing that everybody does for five minutes trying to decide. So this is why I wanted to get
1:37:14 into the dice because this literally I had one of my closest friends text me yesterday. We were
1:37:18 talking about decision fatigue. And he’s like, you more than most people are exhausted and get
1:37:25 very frustrated by tasks or assignments like choosing a restaurant where there is no right
1:37:30 answer, right? Because it can chew up so much fucking time and energy and there’s so much
1:37:36 tail chasing and back and forth. Anyway, rant complete for now, but please continue. So we’re
1:37:39 trying to decide what to do for you. I can help fix this for you, Tim. I’m so excited to introduce
1:37:44 you to dice rolling. So I wear dice around my neck and I take them everywhere I go. And this gives
1:37:51 me one through 12. Obviously, you can get multi-sided dice and you can come up with all sorts of
1:37:55 different options. You can use dice to even just do coin flip type stuff because you can do odds or
1:38:04 evens. But you and I want to go to dinner. We can’t decide even on a genre. So maybe we hone in on
1:38:10 Italian like we were making some progress here. So we basically put Italian into open table.
1:38:16 We roll the dice. Whatever it lands on, we are committed. We are going to go. It doesn’t matter
1:38:21 what the reviews are. If you cared about the reviews, then you could have constrained it by
1:38:28 reviews. You set the parameters, right? But the thing is every one of these choices shouldn’t
1:38:34 take you longer than a minute. So you can move on with your life. And every time I’ve gone to
1:38:40 these places, it’s been better food than I could ever imagine. I meet random people that are so
1:38:45 incredible. I’ve gone on strange road trips where I’ve just had the most magical experiences.
1:38:52 And the list goes on and on and on and on. My life has only been improved by taking myself out of the
1:38:59 decision-making process because I am the hindrance. What other examples could you give of situations
1:39:04 in which you’d use the dice? Because there’s also a question of at what point do you introduce the
1:39:10 random? Because you could decide on genre, reviews, geography, and then before you know,
1:39:14 you’ve spent a much time on this decision anyway, and then you introduce randomness at the end.
1:39:19 The savings isn’t necessarily super great, nor is the breadth of the randomness, so to speak.
1:39:21 So what are some other situations where you might use the dice?
1:39:27 Road trips are great for road trips. So I went on a road trip one time where I rolled
1:39:33 and landed on something called Pioneer City, I think, in California, Pioneer Town.
1:39:36 And what was the list, I’m sorry, just to know how this works?
1:39:37 Thrift stores.
1:39:39 Thrift stores. So you’re like best thrift stores in the United States?
1:39:46 Yeah, in California. I had some time to kill and I was driving from Nevada through the Palm
1:39:54 Desert and then to Southern California, and so I had time. And so I put that in and I rolled,
1:39:59 I don’t know, like a 13 or whatever or 12, and it landed on this thrift store in a place called
1:40:04 Pioneer Town, which is a ghost town, Old Western Town, and then the only thing that’s there
1:40:11 is this thrift store and some weird little store that sells water. It’s it.
1:40:12 I mean, good that–
1:40:15 In a harmonica. I got a harmonica there. I still have my harmonica.
1:40:22 But I went in and the experience was spiritual for me. Like, when I roll the dice, it puts me
1:40:27 in places and it puts me in a frame of mind where anything’s possible and anything at any
1:40:33 moment can happen. And you just have to be ready for it. You have to not be thinking about what
1:40:37 you’re doing tomorrow or what you did yesterday. You’re just there. And you’re going to trust
1:40:40 that whatever the dice is going to throw at you is going to be amazing.
1:40:47 Could I see what’s around your neck again? Because as a former D&D player, I have tons of
1:40:51 experience with dice. I’m just curious, are they too separate?
1:40:55 Yeah, let me get it open for you. They’re little dice and they come out of this little cage.
1:40:57 I don’t know if you can see them.
1:40:59 Oh, yeah, I see it.
1:41:03 Yeah. And so they’re teeny tiny dice and they’re in this little cage and then the cage locks.
1:41:06 And it’s just a little locket that I carry around everywhere.
1:41:09 Okay, that’s cool.
1:41:15 And I introduced so many people to it and they’ve started adopting it. I use it for
1:41:20 giving public talks. I’ve done it for public talks, which is I’ll have the audience scream out
1:41:25 12 topics. And then whatever the dice rolls on is what I start with. And then we just go through
1:41:33 the dice. And so it’s not an order. And it makes things much more fun. Picking what movies to watch.
1:41:38 You get movie paralysis. And the one thing I haven’t done yet is make business decisions
1:41:44 with dice. But at some point, I might. I would do it probably with my own personal money,
1:41:50 wouldn’t do it with my LP’s money, old disclaimer. But interestingly, when I started
1:41:56 down this dice experiment, my friend, Penn Gillette, who’s a magician wrote a book called
1:42:02 Random at the exact same time. And that book is a bit graphic, but it involves a guy who
1:42:07 basically has to come up with a million dollars in a very short period of time. And he uses dice
1:42:11 that make all that money for him and then some. But it’s exploring the same thought experiment,
1:42:17 which is, I guess the question is, do you believe in free will or not? And boy,
1:42:23 we’re Sam Harris when we need them. Right. And how much of what we’re doing is consciousness versus
1:42:30 not. And how much of our patterns actually hinder us versus open us up to possibility.
1:42:35 I think that’s the big one. For people who might get lost like me, honestly, I’ve listened to so
1:42:40 many discussions of free will foreign against, and I can’t make heads or tails out of it. I wish
1:42:46 I were smarter. But the last question, I feel like I can wrap my head around and grok,
1:42:51 how much do our habits and patterns help us versus hinder us? That’s a good question.
1:42:56 And this is where dice rolling really comes into play. Now, I have a very hard rule, which is,
1:43:03 I never ever say, oh, I don’t want to do that. And then I don’t do it. I’m a little, if you will,
1:43:09 religious about the dice and whatever it lands on, I do no matter what. So I even do house cleaning
1:43:14 chores that I don’t want to do. And I use the dice. So I’ll put like six things on a list. And
1:43:18 maybe there’s one really fun thing that I really want to do. And then five things I really don’t
1:43:24 want to do. And the dice almost always land on the things you don’t want to do. And that’s actually
1:43:29 great because I don’t betray it. I get through the thing. And then I roll again. And then eventually,
1:43:33 at some point, I might land on that sweet treat thing I wanted to do.
1:43:40 You know, and then I’m excited. I’m like, yeah, I get to watch a movie finally after doing my
1:43:47 taxes and everything else. But yeah, I mean, I really wish people would try more things like
1:43:55 this because I think people think that the way that they are is unchangeable, that they are static,
1:44:01 that they have no ability to break their habits or form new ones. And introducing something simple
1:44:08 like this that allows you to make decisions quickly, move through life fast and then put
1:44:13 some more joy. And it just seems like a win-win-win. Yeah, I love this idea. I’m going to try this.
1:44:19 I would love if it’s possible. I don’t know who knows. Maybe I had this made by an artisan in
1:44:26 Siberia for all I know. But the la-lock-it with the dice, that would be good, right? Except for my
1:44:30 pocket or something. I could send you one of these. Oh yeah. Yeah, I would love to try one of those.
1:44:34 Yeah, they make them in San Francisco. There’s an artist that makes them and be happy to send you
1:44:39 one and get you dice rolling. That would be great. I’m in. I’m probably going to get a placeholder
1:44:45 set because I have a trip coming up this week and it’s the very last minute for me. I was just
1:44:51 kind of like, fuck it. Throw caution to the wind. I’m going on this crazy last minute international
1:45:00 trip and it’s the perfect opportunity to use dice a lot. So I’m going to try that. So you said
1:45:05 you were religious about it. So religiously random. You mentioned Pendulat who I’ve had on the podcast,
1:45:12 brilliant guy, incredible weight loss story. Oh yeah, the potato diet. And I think fair to
1:45:20 describe as a militant atheist. I think that’s a fair description. When you were talking about being
1:45:26 saved on the side of the road so long ago in this conversation, I want to say the wording you used
1:45:35 was, at the time, I didn’t believe in God because this driver brought up God. Now, to me, that implies
1:45:41 there might have been a change. There has. And interestingly, I was so nervous to call Pen and
1:45:47 tell him that I was no longer an atheist and I thought I didn’t know what to expect and he’s
1:45:52 coming out of the closet. He’s coming out of the closet. And he was so sweet about it. He said,
1:45:59 “Who cares?” He’s like, “You’re a good person and you’re a kind person.” And if you’re a little
1:46:05 woo-woo, whatever, he’s like, “I’d rather be around a good person who’s woo-woo than an unkind
1:46:14 person who’s atheist.” And he also has seen, if you look at pictures of me before my spiritual
1:46:21 change and after night and day, I am healthier. I look younger. I have more energy. I’m happier.
1:46:27 Everything has been better since I became a spiritual person. When I was an atheist,
1:46:33 everything was worse and I had a stroke. We’re going to come back to the stroke.
1:46:41 What catalyzed the spiritual change? Part of it was this weird rabbit hole I went down during
1:46:45 the pandemic of Aleister Crowley and all of these guys. For people just because you’ve invoked the
1:46:52 name Aleister Crowley a few times, could you just brief? It doesn’t have to be super factual detail,
1:46:56 but who is this person you’ve referred to a number of times? And then how on earth,
1:47:05 I mean, does that lead to the spiritual change? He’s an occultist leader who practiced what you
1:47:14 might consider witchcraft or magic. And I said magic in quotes because obviously,
1:47:18 there’s going to be atheists and people that don’t believe that what Aleister Crowley did was real.
1:47:23 He had a very big following and then a lot of fractures that came out of those
1:47:29 followings of people who are massively popular and massively controversial.
1:47:33 He was controversial because he also showed up in weird outfits and he was kind of like
1:47:39 the Nixon/Timothy/Leary dynamic and so much as Nixon saying this guy’s the most dangerous
1:47:42 person in America. I feel like Crowley also occupied a similar mind space.
1:47:46 A lot of people thought he was a Satanist and he was not. As a matter of fact,
1:47:50 a lot of what he studied was the teachings of Christ and he talked about Christ a lot.
1:47:57 And I think a lot of people don’t realize that new age stuff and occultism and all of this early
1:48:05 stuff actually is deeply rooted in monotheism and has nothing to do with Satan anyway that I could
1:48:11 discover other than they theorize that there are dark energy forces or dark spirits out there and
1:48:17 people who know how to harness dark energy. And Aleister actually worked in what we call the light
1:48:23 and so he wanted to repel people because what he was teaching wasn’t for everybody.
1:48:28 He actually didn’t want you to read his stuff. He did not want you to follow him.
1:48:30 But there’s a lot of wonky stuff in there.
1:48:33 How does this lead to Radiant Scamp?
1:48:34 Yeah, how does it lead?
1:48:35 This is the question on everyone’s mind.
1:48:42 I got my hands on every book, every movie, every everything I could find from that time
1:48:46 and I realized that people in the early 1900s were on to something.
1:48:52 They were on to something about what life is really all about.
1:48:55 And all of these great works that people wrote back then.
1:48:57 And when you say back then, just a time frame and I looked it up,
1:49:06 so Aleister Crowley was born in, she just wrote it down and then I lost track of it, 1875 died
1:49:14 in 1947. So that period of time was a wackadoodle time where people were publishing all these crazy
1:49:18 books and practicing these occult practices and running around in weird robes and looking
1:49:23 like Harry Potter and doing some psychedelics too. So some of them did psychedelics and some of
1:49:28 them did use THC or half hashish as part of their ceremonies or things that they did.
1:49:34 But a lot of it was sober and what they were trying to figure out is, is there a veil?
1:49:36 Is there something beyond what we can see and what we know?
1:49:42 And is it supernatural or can it be explained by science later?
1:49:45 And a lot of them believe that it could be explained by science later,
1:49:50 that actually it’s just undiscovered science. And I became really interested in those people
1:49:58 in particular and I really went down a rabbit hole with this author and philosopher named Gergiev.
1:50:03 And Gergiev, I believe, was Greek and his understudy was named Alspenski.
1:50:07 And Alspenski wrote a book called, I think it’s called The Curious Case of Ivan Ossokin,
1:50:14 which is what Groundhog Day is based off of. And I was studying at the time
1:50:23 kind of what made Bill Murray make the art that he makes. And without asking him,
1:50:28 I like to form my own opinions, you know, just like, what did I think it was?
1:50:31 It was really clear that, you know, I didn’t watch any of his movies until the pandemic.
1:50:35 I did a lot of stuff in the pandemic. I’ve never done, but I hadn’t seen Groundhog Day.
1:50:38 I hadn’t seen Caddyshack. I hadn’t seen any of these movies. And I just-
1:50:39 What about Bob? I hope.
1:50:44 I saw What About Bob, the man who knew two little broken flowers.
1:50:49 Like, I watched them all. And I realized that this is an artist who’s on a mission to teach us
1:50:55 something. He wants us to learn something. What is that thing? And I noticed he kept
1:50:59 repeating a phrase over and over again in a lot of his movies, which is, it just doesn’t matter.
1:51:05 Now, if you look that up, that’s a nihilistic sounding statement. It just doesn’t matter.
1:51:10 And taken on the surface, you would just assume that it was a nihilistic thing,
1:51:14 and that’s what it means. But if you go under that, and you actually
1:51:18 look at the root of the philosophy of which that statement is coming from,
1:51:24 it goes back to what we were talking about in a previous conversation about the fictions that
1:51:31 we make in our mind. And I realized that my mother is a fiction. The mother that left me,
1:51:38 that left the $20 that gave me up to the court system. I haven’t given her a chance to know who
1:51:45 she is today. I don’t even know who she is today. But I carried around this grief, this suffering,
1:51:53 this loss, this story, and I was harming myself every day by carrying that story inside of me.
1:51:58 And so I started watching this movie called The Razor’s Edge, which is based off of a novel
1:52:03 by Somerset Mom. I think that’s how you say his name. And there was a 1930s version of the movie,
1:52:07 and then there’s a version that Bill Murray did. And Bill Murray’s was very interesting to me,
1:52:16 because I believe that he agreed to make Ghostbusters II in exchange for them making this
1:52:23 movie that he wrote. The Razor’s Edge. The Razor’s Edge, yeah. And it’s a very low-budget film,
1:52:27 because they didn’t give him a ton of money to do it, and it involves many locations and
1:52:33 period stuff, and that’s all very expensive. And his acting is, you know, he’s Bill. He did a great
1:52:39 job. But at the same time, it’s not going to be the best produced film he’s ever made. But it
1:52:45 explores all of these ideas around Gergiev’s philosophy, around suffering and what suffering
1:52:52 is. And there’s a line that he says in the movie when someone he loves died, and he is trying to
1:52:59 comprehend it, and he looks at this woman who was previously his fiance. And she explains this whole
1:53:03 story, but the woman’s dead. You can’t bring her back, and he just looks at her, and he just says,
1:53:12 well, it just doesn’t matter. And in that moment, when I watched that movie, I had this energy
1:53:19 at the bottom of my spine basically shoot out the top of my head. And there was a bunch of people
1:53:24 in the room when we were watching the movie, and they all paused, you know, they paused the movie,
1:53:29 and they looked at me, and everybody said, “What was that?” And I was like, “What was what?” Because
1:53:34 I thought maybe they got chills, too. You know, maybe that line hit them hard, like it hit me
1:53:40 hard. But no, it was a singular event only for me in that moment that impacted the whole room
1:53:48 energetically, where everyone’s hair was standing on end at what just happened to me. And from that
1:53:54 day forward, nothing has been the same. It’s like a veil got lifted on the universe around me,
1:54:01 and now I see things that I never was able to see before. I am able to see art and poetry and
1:54:08 all sorts of things. It’s almost as if some sort of PTSD veil that was in my body got lifted,
1:54:13 because I started believing, or believing is a weird word, I don’t like to use that word too much,
1:54:17 but I started suspecting that there’s something bigger out there than all of us, that we’re in
1:54:21 a simulation, or we’re in some kind of something. The randomness in the dice actually taught me a
1:54:26 lot of that, because things start to get really magical, and you can’t explain it. But it’s beautiful,
1:54:31 and you’re just like, “I’m along for the ride. I’m in some weird earth school,” is what I’ve
1:54:38 determined. We’re all in earth school, and we inhabit human bodies, but we’re nothing but an
1:54:44 energy life force inside of them. And that life force does not dissipate, and it doesn’t go nowhere,
1:54:54 it doesn’t disappear. Life force does not disappear. And do you want to hear about a really strange
1:54:58 spiritual experience that I had? Because I think you’d like it. Of course I do. I mean, I’m keeping
1:55:04 track here. It’s like Crowley to Gertschiff to Aspensky to the concept of Groundhog Day to Bill
1:55:10 Murray to just as a matter. Welcome to my mind. To what seems like, I mean, I didn’t know anything
1:55:13 about this, but you’ve probably read a million things about it. Anyway, we’re going to come back
1:55:18 to the spinal thing, because it’s like, huh, that seems to be what some people might describe as
1:55:21 like a Kundalini Awakening. Some people call it Kundalini Awakening. I was just going to say
1:55:24 a Kundalini Awakening. Yeah, when I explain to people what happened to me, they go, “Oh,
1:55:28 you had Kundalini,” and I’m like, “Huh? I had no idea what happened to me.” I don’t really know what
1:55:32 that is. I’ve just heard the phrase, but you said strange spiritual experience. I do want to come
1:55:39 back to this placeholder Kundalini Awakening just to know how you now make sense of that. Maybe
1:55:44 we start there and then we can go to the other spiritual experience. Like, how do you explain
1:55:50 to yourself what happened in that instance? I thought I was losing my mind. Of course you did.
1:55:56 I had a lot of sympathy for people who have mental health issues and end up
1:56:02 in hospitals on 5150s, because I realized we’re just a hair away from being crazy every one of us.
1:56:08 And because it wasn’t just that energy that shot through me, I mean, that itself was just powerful.
1:56:12 And then the realization, the epiphany that I was carrying around this fiction
1:56:19 and that I was responsible for that fiction. I was spinning it up and my ego was spinning it up and
1:56:23 I experienced ego dissolution for the first time.
1:56:27 And- Was this at the same time that you were watching this movie?
1:56:34 Yes, it happened right afterwards. And it was very sudden and it was frankly scary. And so I
1:56:41 started getting visions of places to go, started having dreams that were predicting people calling
1:56:47 me, talking to me. I started knowing what people were going to say before they said it
1:56:53 and all sorts of strange things that I can’t explain. And like I said, maybe science someday
1:56:58 will discover that we have a form of communication as human beings as animals that we’re unaware of.
1:57:03 You know, humans can only see a certain amount of perceptible light and sound,
1:57:08 so it’s not completely out of the question that we can’t see or hear certain things that are
1:57:14 happening around us. But the veil, for lack of a better term, was lifted. And when I turned away
1:57:20 from my practice of meditation and mindfulness, that veil would come back down. When I was
1:57:25 introspective in thinking about the bigger question, which is what is the meaning of life and what is
1:57:32 my purpose in it, which it answered for me, I know what my purpose is now, before that I was adrift.
1:57:36 You know, as an atheist, I thought there was no point. We just have to be good people.
1:57:40 We have to get by. We have to love one another. I knew that love was a universal thing that we
1:57:47 should all strive for. But I didn’t have a purpose. And after this experience, I suddenly had one.
1:57:55 And my purpose is very simple, which is to spread joy, to lift other people up around me,
1:58:02 and to do my best in my own way to end poverty. Now, I’m not responsible for ending poverty.
1:58:08 I think we’re all responsible. But it informs a lot of my investment decisions now. It informs…
1:58:15 I realized I was already doing a lot of these things anyway. But I became a more service-oriented
1:58:22 person. I started becoming more a part of a bigger whole. Whereas before, I was more of an individual.
1:58:29 And now I realize that I’m part of something much bigger and much more beautiful than I ever
1:58:37 could have possibly imagined. So I’m imagining that you’ve done a ton of rating after having this
1:58:42 experience. Furthermore, I imagine you reached out to anyone you thought might be able to shed
1:58:48 light on this in some capacity and talk to those people. Let’s just say there are a bunch of people
1:58:55 listening who are Atheist, or maybe they describe themselves as agnostic, which I think is a bit
1:59:00 of a slippery term, frankly, because Atheist says, “I believe in God or gods.” And if you can’t say
1:59:06 that, then you are kind of by definition an Atheist. But I’ll let agnostic slide. People are
1:59:13 listening, and they do feel somewhat adrift or rudderless or choose your metaphor without North
1:59:20 Star in their current relating to the world. They would love to have a purpose. They would
1:59:24 love to feel like they have a purpose. What advice would you give to these people? Because it sounds
1:59:33 like I would imagine, even if they were to watch this movie, that fewer or none of them would
1:59:37 experience the same thing that you did. It’s not repeatable. You have to be in the same place.
1:59:43 So what do you do? If you’re hearing this and you’re like, “You know what? I yearn for that type
1:59:50 of purpose.” You have to face something very ugly, which is yourself. You have to look inside and
1:59:57 see who and what you really are, and then you have to love yourself, even when you don’t like what
2:00:03 you see. When people used to say practice self-love, I thought it meant go eat bonbons and go see a
2:00:10 good movie and smoke a joint. That was self-love. But it wasn’t getting me anywhere. I was like,
2:00:18 “This whole self-love thing is jive. It’s just not working out.” But I didn’t realize that self-love
2:00:25 is learning how to give yourself unconditional love. The best way I’ve learned how to give
2:00:31 yourself unconditional love is imagine yourself as a ball of light, and then take that ball of
2:00:37 light and visualize it outside of your body and cradle it like it’s a baby. Now, when you look
2:00:43 at that baby, would you hurt that baby? Would you do anything to hurt that baby or harm that baby?
2:00:50 Like, would you kill the baby? You’re just a ball of light. I think when you start looking
2:00:54 at yourself that way and you start talking to yourself, and I’m cradling right now and trying
2:01:02 to show Tim I’m my ball of light, and you start to realize that all of the things that we experience
2:01:08 are often, well, actually they all, are a simulation in our mind that we start to talk about ourselves
2:01:13 a certain way. You would never hurt a ball of light until it’s an awful piece of crap.
2:01:18 Why do we tell ourselves we’re an awful piece of crap? The other thing is that we’re the only
2:01:25 species or animal on this planet that punishes itself more than once. You know, we ruminate
2:01:31 and think constantly about what we fucked up on or how we could be better when in reality
2:01:38 we’d be better served if we just let it go. So, if you want to experience something like this,
2:01:44 and I do warn you that a lot of the stuff leads to things that can be jarring and very scary if
2:01:49 you’re not ready for them yet. There are psychological events that can happen that are sometimes
2:01:56 indistinguishable from mania and everything else. So, you just have to be careful. But I found my
2:02:01 path to this by looking inward and trying to know myself and then taking accountability for all my
2:02:07 ugliness. And once you get through that and you forgive yourself and you love yourself,
2:02:13 there’s nothing but light on the other side. But really it’s about love. You know, at the
2:02:17 end of the day, it’s about love. Well, it sounds trite. Everybody says love is the answer. Like,
2:02:23 what does that even mean? But it absolutely is the answer. If you put something metaphorically
2:02:33 speaking on a billboard, message, quote, anything to impart or display could be an image somebody
2:02:42 else’s quote to great, great masses of people. What might it be? I mean, it’s the same concept
2:02:48 that was explored in The Matrix and in lots of different fiction. It’s just to wake up. Wake up.
2:02:53 If you see it enough times, maybe you’ll understand what it means. If you wake up at a bed and you’re
2:02:59 awake, you think you’re awake, but you’re actually not. You’re in a form of sleep. And that sleep is
2:03:05 what’s called your mechanical, automaton sort of actions that you take that are in response to
2:03:13 what’s being thrown at you in the world, what nature gave to you and what nurture handed to you.
2:03:18 And you just accept it. And so you’re just sleepwalking through life.
2:03:23 And the moment you take the reins and you become the narrator of your own story and sometimes the
2:03:28 captain, then that’s when it’s a transformational change.
2:03:30 Take it.
2:03:36 And that ties back into dice rolling, right? Like, dice rolling is a way to stay awake.
2:03:41 Staying awake and staying conscious and staying present is a practice you must practice every day.
2:03:49 And if you don’t, then you just have to accept the cookie falls, how it crumbles or what are some
2:03:51 cliches? Except how the cookie crumbles.
2:03:57 You accept how the cookie crumbles, but you could introduce a little more random. You could
2:04:01 go to work dressed as SpongeBob SquarePants, as I like to say, but people don’t.
2:04:04 There’s a lot of things you could be doing that you’re not doing.
2:04:09 Another movie that actually really helped me in my life was the movie American Beauty with
2:04:15 Kevin Spacey. And I was probably in my early 20s when that came out. And I came out of the theater
2:04:21 and I sat on the floor and I said, “My life is a broken record. I’m stuck in a groove that I can’t
2:04:26 seem to get out of. I’m going to break up with my boyfriend and switch my job.” And the movie
2:04:31 inspired that. You know, art has a way of being at the right place at the right time for you.
2:04:36 And sometimes you really do need to switch things up and you need to get out of your
2:04:40 groove because you’re your own worst nightmare.
2:04:46 How did you end up and maybe you don’t know, but how did you experience a stroke?
2:04:52 And what effect did that have on you?
2:04:58 So yeah, I was at Founders Fun when it happened and I experienced it as the worst headache of my
2:05:03 life. It was a migraine on a scale of 1 to 10. It was like a 15. It was like the worst headache
2:05:10 you could possibly have. And it progressively got worse every day and the doctors just treated
2:05:14 it as a migraine because I was young. When you’re young and you’re experiencing a stroke,
2:05:18 it doesn’t make a lot of sense to people. And so they start going down this decision tree and
2:05:22 they’re like, “It obviously has to be either a cluster headache or a migraine or something like
2:05:27 that.” So I was treated for a migraine. I went to the ER. Again, they treated me for a migraine,
2:05:32 didn’t give me a CT scan. And eventually I started seeing double. I started falling.
2:05:37 I always like to say you don’t want to actually feel what gravity feels like
2:05:41 because there’s falling and you have resistance and then there’s falling with no resistance.
2:05:47 And falling with no resistance is really spooky. And so you’re standing and then you’re down. It’s
2:05:52 just like there’s nothing to keep you up. And so that started happening to me. And I went to a
2:05:59 second ER. I had to wait in the ER for six hours. But eventually, again, magical woman came over
2:06:02 and rubbed my leg and she said, “I think you’re having a stroke.” Because at this point, nobody
2:06:08 knew what was wrong with me. And she raised the alarm bell and then suddenly I was put in a CT scanner
2:06:15 and they discovered that I had what’s called a DVST, which is a deep venous sinus thrombosis,
2:06:20 which is clotting throughout the entire center of my brain and down my jugular,
2:06:25 my right jugular. And I was moments away from death by the time they found it.
2:06:33 And that definitely helped kick me off on this quest because when you’re in a hospital for a
2:06:37 couple of weeks, which I was, and you come outside, the very first thing that hits you is air.
2:06:43 Like that first breath of air. I mean, there’s air in a hospital, but there’s really no fresh air.
2:06:47 And suddenly you realize that the most important thing in the world
2:06:51 is not what you thought it was. It puts everything in perspective. It’s like, okay,
2:06:55 first it’s air, then it was the sun on my face, which brought me to my knees. Like I started
2:07:01 bawling. Because what if I never, ever got to experience the sun again? You get really grateful
2:07:08 and filled with gratitude for everything. But we’re human beings, we love novelty,
2:07:16 you go back to sleep. So I had a deep appreciation for life, but as soon as I was walking again and I
2:07:22 was somewhat normal again, I started living the same way again. And I knew that if I kept living
2:07:27 that way, I would die. What do you mean by that? It was really clear that I had put myself in this
2:07:34 position. Oh, die physically, you mean? Yeah, I put myself in this position through avoiding all
2:07:40 my suffering, avoiding my trauma, working through it, working as hard as I could, avoidance, avoidance,
2:07:46 avoidance, avoidance, avoidance. And then it came clear that I had to have some kind of therapy.
2:07:51 I had to do something because I couldn’t keep running away from this ghost of a mother. And
2:07:55 I had to find something that worked. And talking to therapists never worked.
2:08:00 psilocybin worked. psilocybin helped a lot. I did a couple of hero doses of psilocybin that
2:08:05 taught me quite a bit about myself. And they were super helpful. You know, IFS, I started looking
2:08:11 into integrated family systems and that helped a lot. But really, it was meditation and philosophy
2:08:17 that got me over the line. Whatever works, man, just go out and really study yourself and know
2:08:22 yourself. Know thyself is an important mantra for a reason, because I do honestly believe we’re in
2:08:27 school. And when you start realizing, oh, I’m in a school and all of these hard knocks in life are
2:08:35 just lessons. You think about them very differently. Who would your go-to philosophers be who helped you
2:08:43 in that period in those early chapters of this, let’s call it, awakening? And then what type of
2:08:47 meditation do you practice? What does it look like? You can tackle those in either order.
2:08:52 Yeah, so I try all sorts of different types of meditation apps. And none of them really stuck
2:08:59 with me. I would get hung up on people’s voices. And there’s a critic inside of us and I would
2:09:06 criticize everything. So somebody turned me on to Tibetan throat singing. And that’s what did it.
2:09:11 Did not see that coming. So are you then the one singing? Are you listening to Tibetan throat
2:09:16 singing? Both. I do both. So I chant along with the chants. I moan along with the moaning to the
2:09:26 best of my ability. I listen and I don’t do the bead counting. How did you find Tibetan throat
2:09:30 singing with someone like, you know what, I know you’ve tried everything, but try one more thing.
2:09:35 Embracing random, you know, sometimes the universe gives you if you’re paying attention exactly what
2:09:39 you need. So a friend of mine went to the Telluride Bluegrass Festival and they had some Tibetan
2:09:44 throat singers there and he brought me back a necklace. And he said, look at this necklace. And
2:09:46 it was one of the most beautiful things I’d ever seen. And I was like, well, I’m going to go check
2:09:54 these guys out. And it was a huge unlock. Huge. But again, your mileage may vary. Like, try different
2:09:59 things and see. I think the biggest mistake I made with meditation was trying to treat it like
2:10:04 a sport or it was something that I had to judge myself. I mean, you’re approaching it all wrong
2:10:08 if you’re entering meditation, I think that way. There are different kinds of meditation,
2:10:13 some that even allow and permit thoughts to flow freely. And you’re supposed to look at them and
2:10:16 pay attention to them. And then there’s types of meditations where you’re supposed to clear your
2:10:20 mind. I think people get really scared of meditation because they think of a blank canvas,
2:10:27 a blank mind, and that really scares them and frightens them. And once I got over that and I
2:10:33 started realizing that’s not the point of it, at least it wasn’t for me, I can now meditate for six
2:10:38 hours at a time. Oh my God. Oh. I’m doing my 10 minutes twice a day. I’m pretty happy with myself
2:10:42 for now. Yeah. I mean, my coworkers laugh at me because they’ll take me someplace and I can sit
2:10:49 still for an abnormal amount of time. And I think that’s when you process all of the inputs that
2:10:54 are being thrown at us, how you can synthesize the information that’s been handed to you or even
2:10:58 countered is by those moments of stillness. And so even if it’s 10 minutes a day, it’s something.
2:11:02 You know, it’s not about length of time or anything, it’s about the effort.
2:11:07 It’s not the size that matters. It’s not the size that matters.
2:11:15 So I will say also that whether it’s with exercise or meditation, any new habit or
2:11:20 something you’re trying to build as part of your new programming, the difference between
2:11:26 doing nothing and something is the biggest zero to one, right? That’s the unlock. So if you’re
2:11:31 going from not exercising to exercising, it’s like, okay, don’t set yourself up for failure,
2:11:37 making the pass/fail an hour a day. Do 10 push-ups every other day. Start there.
2:11:44 Five blocks. Same with meditation. The difference between zero and 10 minutes once a day or twice a
2:11:49 day is in terms of quality of life for me, huge, enormous. And if I want to add more time, great.
2:11:54 But what I shouldn’t do is set the pass/fail at an hour a day. And then when I don’t have an hour,
2:12:00 do not meditate. Just reduce the scale, right? Reduce the scope. What about philosophers? Any
2:12:06 folks you might point people to? I’m a big fan of Gurjeev. He’s not for everybody. And he’s very
2:12:14 confusing. A lot like Alistair Crowley or Crowley was a wackadoodle person who liked to drive people
2:12:17 away when they came up to talk to him. If he didn’t like you, he would say obscene things
2:12:26 just so you would go away. This is George Gurjeev? Gurjeev. G-U-R-D-J-I-E-F-F, Gurjeev.
2:12:32 Yeah, Gurjeev. Yeah, George Gurjeev. And one of the things he talks about is,
2:12:36 there’s a lot of things he talks about. The thing that resonated with me the most is,
2:12:43 who is the captain of your ship? Are you the captain of your ship or some rogue process?
2:12:47 I have a UNIX background, so I like to think of things as cron jobs or automated processes.
2:12:53 But there’s some rogue process running you, or are you running yourself? And I think you’ll
2:12:58 discover if you do a lot of introspective work that you are not in charge. So one of the concepts
2:13:02 that he talks about is sort of like a horse carriage. There’s a person who’s driving the horse,
2:13:08 and then there’s the horse, obviously, there’s the carriage. But there’s also the narration
2:13:14 of what’s happening. And it’s even taking control of that inner narration. Like,
2:13:18 where does that even come from? Are you in charge of that? Are you letting it run amuck?
2:13:25 Is it determining which is your ego? Is it determining where you go, what you do,
2:13:30 what’s next? Or are you doing that? So Gurjeev delves deeply into those concepts and more.
2:13:36 Al Spinsky, which is his underling, which a Russian philosopher, and I really, really recommend
2:13:42 reading him, love to think about, and again, I’m self-educated, so I say things wrong sometimes,
2:13:52 but Nietzsche, he had a concept called the eternal recurrence, which is that we’re stuck
2:13:58 in a constant loop until we learn how to be good people, and that’s the premise of Groundhog Day.
2:14:06 And it might explain deja vu. It might explain why you’ve done something and you’re like,
2:14:09 I feel like I’ve done this before, I’ve met that person before, because maybe you have.
2:14:14 And that’s what they talk about in their philosophy, and it’s pretty interesting.
2:14:19 The eternal recurrence can get super confusing. It can get super confusing.
2:14:24 It features quite heavily in the unbearable lightness of being by Mila Kondera,
2:14:31 which I highly, highly recommend to folks. And I’ll just read a quick thing about Gurjeev
2:14:38 also for folks who may be interested. So this is George Ivanovich Gurjeev born in 1867,
2:14:45 and what was formerly Russian Empire, now Armenia. And he was a philosophic, spiritual teacher,
2:14:49 composer, and dance teacher. He taught that people are not conscious of themselves and thus
2:14:54 live their lives in a state of hypnotic “waking sleep,” but that it is possible to awake into a
2:14:58 higher state of consciousness and serve our purpose as human beings. And it goes on.
2:15:02 He also has a great look. He’s got the bald head with the strong man, old man,
2:15:10 like old timey, strong man mustache. All right. So I’ll include links to the names you mentioned,
2:15:15 as well. Any particular book that you would recommend people start with if they wanted to
2:15:20 dip their toes in the water, but maybe something that’s like a gateway drug and maybe a user-friendly
2:15:26 option? What do you think? There’s a book that he has called Beasal Bub’s Tales to His Grandson.
2:15:33 Beasal Bub, that’s a word I haven’t heard in a while. All right. And then Al Spinsky’s,
2:15:39 the curious case of Ivan Ossokin, is about a guy who falls in love with a girl,
2:15:44 but he has to pursue his career because he wants to be able to provide for her.
2:15:49 So he decides to put off being with her so he can pursue his career, but he misses his moment
2:15:55 and she marries another man. And he’s so distraught that he goes to a magician, and the magician is
2:16:01 Gergiev in the book, and says, “Can you please send me back to age 11 so I can do this all over again?
2:16:06 And I will not make the same mistakes again.” And Gergiev, the magician, says,
2:16:11 “Actually, you will. You’ll do everything the exact same again because you can’t help yourself.
2:16:14 You may DBH slightly, but you’re going to end up in the same place without her.”
2:16:20 And so the guy is insistent and he sends him back to 11 years old, and sure enough,
2:16:25 he makes every mistake exactly the same. Sure as shit. Ground hard, Jay.
2:16:30 Gets back to finally to the magician who says, “Wow, you’re lucky that you made it here because
2:16:33 you could have lost me. You could have made a wrong decision along the way,
2:16:38 and then I would have disappeared too.” He goes, “What if I told you that the wedding was fake,
2:16:45 and she got married to upset you?” And he’s like, “What? She’s not married?” And he’s like,
2:16:50 “No, she’s really not married.” And he’s like, “Well, I want to run off and be with her now.” And he
2:16:55 goes, “Ah, that’ll end badly.” And he’s like, “Why?” And he said, “Because you haven’t done the work,
2:17:01 right? You’ve realized that you need to change, but you haven’t done anything to actually change.”
2:17:06 So he says, “Come with me and spend a few years with me, and then maybe you might have a chance
2:17:11 of being with her. But otherwise, all paths lead to you not being with this woman.”
2:17:15 So the movie is Groundhog Day. I believe it’s what Groundhog Day from my research is based off
2:17:21 of, is that book. But it’s just a beautiful tale, and I think that you can’t take these things
2:17:25 literally like full-on. And to be clear, when you say based on, you mean Groundhog Day, the movie,
2:17:33 not the holiday. The movie. Not the holiday, the movie. Okay. And Gurdjieff’s Wikipedia page is
2:17:38 very, very extensive, so that’s going to be my stop number one, in addition to figuring out how to
2:17:44 get some dice. Saiyan, we’ve covered a hell of a lot of ground. I am… Be wilder and faster.
2:17:47 I want to tell you about a three-foot experience I had that you don’t believe.
2:17:48 Oh, yes, of course.
2:17:54 After I had this awakening, I started getting this really weird vision of an Irish man,
2:17:59 and it was like a cartoonish Irish man, and it was hijacking me every moment. I couldn’t think
2:18:03 about anything else. It was like Lucky Charms kind of like. Yeah, like just going like this,
2:18:08 you know, like, with a fist in the air, and he’s like a fighting Irish man. He’s a caricature of an
2:18:16 Irish man. And I was like, I do not know what this means, but I’m going to go do something about it.
2:18:22 And so I went to my husband and I said, I noticed that the Celtics were playing the warriors,
2:18:27 and it was the finals in Boston. And so I made the excuse because it was the only Irish thing I
2:18:31 could think of at the time. And I went to my husband and I said, I want to go to the Celtics game,
2:18:36 and he was like, what is wrong with you? You hate basketball. That makes no sense. And I said,
2:18:41 I know, it makes no sense, but I’m getting this weird sign that I need to go to the Celtics game.
2:18:49 So he bought me the ticket. I didn’t even choose the ticket. And I had a knowing. I’m going to call
2:18:53 it a voice, which makes people worried. Sometimes they’re like, Oh, you’re hearing voices. I don’t
2:18:58 want to get locked up. But I have a knowing. I’m just going to call it a knowing that basically
2:19:03 told me that I didn’t need to bring anything with me to Boston, that everything would be given to
2:19:09 me. All I had to do was bring my wallet and my ID and just show up. So my husband brought me the
2:19:15 ticket to the game, and I show up and I go into the arena early because I have a little bit of
2:19:21 agoraphobia. I’m an introvert. And so now they don’t call them hallways at sporting arenas,
2:19:26 they call them portals. So I had to find my portal to go through my portal, which is already weird
2:19:34 in sci-fi anyway. And I go and find my seat and the whole arena is covered in chairs covered with
2:19:40 green shirts. And I’m disoriented. I call my husband, I’m freaking out. He’s like, Look, you chose
2:19:47 this adventure. You’re in it. Good luck. And he hung up on me. I was like, Ah, so I see down this aisle
2:19:50 that there’s one chair that doesn’t have a shirt on it. So I said, I’m going to go down to that
2:19:53 chair and I’m going to use that number as my reference point. And then I’m going to work out
2:19:59 from there where my seat is. I get to the chair and it’s mine. And I look around the whole arena
2:20:04 and there’s not a single other chair that doesn’t have a shirt. And I was like, Okay,
2:20:11 that’s a weird start to this trip. By itself means nothing. And all of a sudden, this song comes on
2:20:17 over the loudspeakers and usually at a basketball game, they play a song for 20 seconds. But this
2:20:21 time they played this whole song and it was Phil Collins, I can feel it in the air tonight.
2:20:28 And I have this weird superstition as a little girl that when that song came on,
2:20:31 it was going to be a good night. It was a weird superstition. It’s just everything’s going to
2:20:36 be all right because Phil Collins is here and he sings that song and it comes on the airwaves
2:20:39 and it’s just everything’s going to be okay. And it was in that moment because I’m keeping
2:20:44 in mind I’m having this Kundalini, whatever going on with me, that I realized that I wasn’t
2:20:48 completely without superstition. I wasn’t completely without belief because I still believed in Phil
2:20:57 Collins. And so then I said, Okay, well, what if I just start to be hyper present and I start
2:21:02 paying attention to what happens around me? What if I am in a simulation and this is a video game?
2:21:10 What will the video game reveal to me? Well, that’s when stuff got weird. So this guy to the right
2:21:14 of me came in and he’s wearing a Celtic shirt. And he sits down next to me and a guy to the
2:21:18 left of me comes in wearing a warrior’s shirt. The guy to the left of me stands up,
2:21:23 taught in like a military person when they do the national anthem. You can tell a little bit
2:21:29 about him because of this. You can be like, Okay, well, he might be a veteran or he’s a very least
2:21:34 patriotic. The guy to the left of me from the Bay Area didn’t stand up for the national anthem.
2:21:38 He sat it out. When Kathy Gifford got up and started talking about gun control,
2:21:43 this is the woman who was shot in Arizona, the guy on the right sat down, the guy on the left
2:21:47 stood up and started cheering. So just so I can keep them straight. Now the guy from the Bay Area,
2:21:51 the liberal guy stands up. Yeah, he stands up for gun control. The guy to the right sits down for
2:21:57 gun control. And I realized I’m in the middle of America. I’m in the middle of the great divide
2:22:00 of what divides our country. And it’s like representing and playing out right in front of
2:22:05 me with these two guys. So they started fighting over me because it started with the game with
2:22:10 the Celtics winning. And so the guy from the Celtics was talking shit to the guy from the warriors.
2:22:14 And the guy from the Warriors team was just this insufferable, entitled person.
2:22:19 Like when he showed up, he took all the green shirts and threw them. And I ended up with the
2:22:22 green shirt finally. And he’s like, I don’t need these. I’m a champion. I got plenty of… I mean,
2:22:28 he was just… Bad behavior. So the guy on the right at some point about when the Celtics start
2:22:32 losing, the Warriors start winning. He starts getting angry. And I can tell, you can just tell
2:22:36 the tension that a fist fight is about to happen. So he looks at me and he says, are you with him?
2:22:40 This is which guy? Sorry. The Celtics guy. Oh yeah, the Celtics guy. Okay.
2:22:44 Yeah. He’s like, are you with him? And I said, no, I’m not with him. And he goes,
2:22:50 well, who are you with today? And I was like, well, basketball. And he goes, what? And I said,
2:22:56 yeah, I’m here for basketball. And he looks at me like you are absolutely freaking out of your
2:23:02 mind woman. Like you bought a ticket to the finals game. The last game, you flew across the country
2:23:07 because he asked me where I was from. And you don’t even have a team? I was like, no, I don’t have a
2:23:13 team just here for basketball. So the guy on the left hears this and he goes, oh, the Moira’s guy
2:23:17 and he goes, you’re about the meta game. I get it. And I was like, what is the meta game? And he
2:23:22 starts teaching me all about the meta game. And then I get a knowing. What the fuck is the meta game?
2:23:27 Oh, it’s paying attention to like the popcorn people, the business. I see. I got it. I got it.
2:23:32 Basketball. I see. Meta within meta, within meta, within meta. You can find lots of meta games.
2:23:36 You’re into the meta game. Okay. Yeah. So I told him, I said, well, maybe I am. And so I started
2:23:44 playing the meta game with him. And the guy on the right, I got a knowing, again, a weird
2:23:50 intuition, a voice, if you will, that said, to turn around to him and tell him that their main
2:23:54 player, the Celtics, I don’t know his name, but when he comes to the Warriors and he comes to
2:23:58 the Bay Area, he brings his three-year-old son and to tell him that his favorite player is a good
2:24:03 father. And so I told him this and all of a sudden you could see all the angst and the anger in his
2:24:09 body just disappear. It just softened. And he wasn’t fighting anymore. Now, this is, I can’t do it.
2:24:15 This is the Warriors guy? Celtics guy. Sorry. Okay. So I told the Celtics guy about the Celtics player.
2:24:20 Got it. And all of a sudden, because he’s losing, I got the sense that he probably scraped together
2:24:26 money to come see his team win finally on his home turf. And it was like a dream come true for
2:24:32 him. And it wasn’t happening. And so I took a moment to give him love. And then that was it.
2:24:37 And then I thought, this can’t be the reason why I came to Boston is to start a fight between two
2:24:41 sports guys. This cannot be why I got a weird vision of an Irish guy. This cannot be it.
2:24:47 So I went back to my hotel room and I got a bottle of water and I go up to the front desk
2:24:54 and I say, can you build this to my room? Room 340. And the person behind the desk looks at me
2:25:01 and says, you don’t exist. And I said, excuse me? And they said, yeah, you don’t exist. And they
2:25:05 pulled their monitor around and tap on it. And they’re like, see, there’s nobody in that room.
2:25:09 There’s nobody in room 340. I said, I guarantee you I’m in this room. I guarantee you I have a
2:25:14 key to this room. I guarantee you I go up there. My stuff is still there unless you got rid of it.
2:25:19 And they were like, nobody’s been in this room for a week. I’m like, that’s not possible. It’s
2:25:24 just not possible. So I call my assistant and I put on speakerphone. I’m like, tell me the number
2:25:31 for our reservation. She rattles it off. The guy puts it in. Sorry, you don’t exist. And I’m like,
2:25:36 okay, this is getting weird. Well, I’m just going to go to my room where I don’t exist and what do
2:25:39 you want me to do with this water? And he said, keep it. I was like, okay, that’s really strange.
2:25:45 So I went to sleep and the next day I woke up and like any good science experiment, I went back
2:25:50 down to the front desk and there was a different person there and I grabbed a cat bar and I went
2:25:54 up to them and I said, can you put this on room 340? And they said, sure. And they said the same
2:26:00 thing again. You don’t exist. Well, that really put me on tilt because I was like, this is getting
2:26:05 weird. What do you mean I don’t exist? I was like, what do you want me to do with the candy bar?
2:26:09 Keep it. Remember, I said I went there and I had this premonition that everything would be given to
2:26:17 me. So I start walking around the neighborhood and I’m looking for another shirt. So I’ve got a
2:26:22 Celtic shirt that the guy, the lawyer’s guy threw at me, but I need another shirt for the next day
2:26:25 because I’m there for three days. So I got to find another shirt and I wanted one that wasn’t made
2:26:30 in China. So I went around from store to store to store looking at labels, finally gave up and I
2:26:36 end up at this food court and I hear Phil Collins play and that stops me in my tracks. I’m like,
2:26:41 again, you don’t normally hear Phil Collins two days in a row. That’s weird. Grandhog Day Redux.
2:26:45 Right. And so I start recording it, but all of a sudden I look over to the right of me and
2:26:51 there’s a guy dressed in all white. He’s got a white hat on, white glasses, white shirt, white
2:26:55 shoes, and I think he was wearing blue jeans. And I have this feeling that I know him. I’m like,
2:27:00 how is it possible that I know that guy? It’s not possible. I’m like, sign, stay on target,
2:27:05 find your shirt. But there was this pulling, this magnetism, this knowing, this feeling,
2:27:10 this voice. I don’t know what you want to call it once you have one of these awakenings, but it
2:27:15 is unmistakable that if I didn’t go over and talk to him, the whole point of coming to Boston was
2:27:22 for nothing. And I was like, okay, so I wandered over to this guy and he’s talking to a young man
2:27:30 and I said, I’m sorry, do you mind if I bother you? Do you know me? And he looks at me, he’s like,
2:27:34 no, I do not know you. And he looks at me like I’m crazy because I kind of am.
2:27:38 What I like is that you weren’t like, do I know you? Do you know me?
2:27:48 Do I know you? No, I said, do I know you? That’s very cyan. And he’s like, I don’t know you.
2:27:51 I’ve never met you. You don’t know me. And I was like, well, are you a VC? And he goes,
2:27:55 no. And I’m like, are you in the tech industry? No, did you ever live in the Bay Area? No. And I
2:27:59 started asking all these questions. And finally, I’m like, I’m sorry, I’m being rude. What are
2:28:04 you guys up to? And he says, well, I’m talking to my friend here because he has a startup.
2:28:08 And he’s got a company that he’s building and I’m trying to help him with it. And I was like,
2:28:12 oh, so you are in the tech. And he’s like, no, no, I’m not in technology.
2:28:16 And I was like, well, what do you do? And the guy’s like, I’m a t-shirt entrepreneur.
2:28:22 I go, no way, you’re a t-shirt entrepreneur. Okay, what kind of shirts do you make? And he says,
2:28:26 well, you can have as many as you like if you can guess what they mean. And so he lanes them
2:28:31 all out on this table. And each one of them is a different color. And in the middle of each shirt
2:28:37 is a square with another color in it. And then there’s this weird hex code and then some weird
2:28:42 Latin root name. So I deduced by looking at it that the hex code was probably a color,
2:28:46 and the Latin root name was some kind of condition. So that’s why I told him, I said,
2:28:52 gleaning from what appears to me as a condition and a color. And he goes, yes,
2:28:57 each one of these shirts represents a type of color blindness. And then he looks at me and he
2:29:04 goes, you know, we all live in different realities. And I was like, what? And that’s when the guy in
2:29:10 white says cyan banister. And I look at him and I’m like, oh, we do know each other. And he said,
2:29:17 yes, I met you in the basement at Ted several years ago, like 10 years ago, or eight years ago.
2:29:24 And there was a big party going on. And there was a bunch of people who, not even a bunch of people,
2:29:28 a handful people, I want to say like a dozen people that went into the basement to hide.
2:29:31 And I was one of those dozens people. I was down there with like Linus
2:29:33 Torvald. Hide meeting, like escape the crowds.
2:29:37 Escape the crowd. Yeah. So I’m down there with Linus Torvald and all the people who don’t want
2:29:46 to be around crowds. And this guy walked in. And all of a sudden, the movie of meeting him
2:29:49 played in my mind. And it must have played in his at the same time because we were answering
2:29:56 each other’s sentences. And I said, I was leaving because the party was still too big. And there
2:29:59 was too many people coming into the introvert space. And as I was leaving, you were coming in.
2:30:07 And I said, hi, my name’s Sian Bannister. I like your outfit. And he said, hi, my name’s Tango.
2:30:14 I like your outfit too. Is this where the introverts hang out? I said, yes, have fun. I’m leaving.
2:30:20 That was the end of our interaction. So I said, have you ever met again after that? And he said,
2:30:25 no, we’ve never hung out a single time after that. And he’s like, but it’s okay. I died five years ago.
2:30:29 And I was like, what do you mean you died five years ago? And he said, well,
2:30:33 I have a very strange heart condition. It’s a very rare heart condition that Einstein also had.
2:30:41 And the only person who could operate on me is here in Boston. And so he told me, the surgeon,
2:30:47 that he couldn’t leave Boston. And he tells me, I’m stuck in Groundhog Day. I can’t go anywhere
2:30:53 because I can’t be more than 10 minutes away from the surgeon. Otherwise, I might die. And I was like,
2:30:57 well, tell me more about this death that you had. He said, well, they had to lower my
2:31:02 heart rate. They had to stop my heart and kill me in order to do this operation.
2:31:08 So I wasn’t even sure if this guy was alive. Okay, I’m having a really weird time mentally.
2:31:13 And so I’m touching him and I’m like, are you real now? Are you alive now? Do you exist?
2:31:18 And he’s like, I’m not really sure if I exist or not. He goes, I always ponder this question.
2:31:22 So anyway, I take my two shirts. I go back to my hotel room.
2:31:27 I get, we exchange phone numbers, by the way. And I run the experiment again. And there’s
2:31:33 another person at the desk and I still don’t exist. And so I call my assistant and I’m like,
2:31:37 get me out of here. I think they can’t handle any more of this. I think I need to be around
2:31:43 loved ones because I’m losing my mind. And so she tries to give me a flight out and every flight
2:31:50 she books me on gets canceled. So I messaged a spiritual friend of mine. And I say, I’m in Boston.
2:31:54 What do I do? And he says, you might enjoy a duck boat ride.
2:31:57 Good spiritual advice.
2:32:03 Right. And so I get angry. I’m like, I’m not going on a duck boat in this condition
2:32:09 with my mind doing all this weird stuff. Are you crazy? And my assistant says,
2:32:12 well, you never have not listened to him before. Why are you not listening to him now?
2:32:16 So I was like, fuck it, get me a ticket to a duck boat. So she gets me a ticket.
2:32:20 And if you go to these duck boats in Boston, it’s first come first serve. You don’t get to
2:32:25 choose your duck boat. You just get on a duck boat, you know, but it’s the next duck boat is yours.
2:32:31 So I get on this duck boat and there’s nobody on it. And so I take a seat that looks like
2:32:35 it’s made for a single person and it’s facing sideways. So it’s not facing front or back.
2:32:40 And it’s definitely not the captain. It’s not the wheel. So I take that seat and this guy gets on
2:32:47 the boat and he says to me, are you the new narrator? And I looked in and I said, no. And he
2:32:51 goes, well, unless you want to narrate, you got to get out of my seat because that’s where I sit.
2:32:56 And I was like, okay, where did I sit? And he’s like, right in front of me, sit right in front of
2:33:01 me. I said, okay. So then the captain gets on and the captain drives the car until it becomes a boat
2:33:08 and all these families file on and suddenly he’s got a microphone and this guy starts talking to
2:33:14 only me. Only me. It’s like everyone on the boat disappears. And he looks at me and he says,
2:33:21 when you think that you’re so important or so big and your ego starts getting the best of you,
2:33:29 go to the planetarium. You know, realize that you’re part of a galaxy among galaxies and you’re
2:33:35 just a little piece of dust clinging to a rock. And he starts telling me story after story. And
2:33:39 but what was really interesting was that he started breaking down Gergiev’s philosophy
2:33:43 on a boat. What? Yeah. And I was like, this is getting really strange.
2:33:46 And I’d love to know what the rest of the people were thinking too. They were just like,
2:33:52 what the fuck did I pay for? Yeah. Well, I don’t think, I think they were going back to sleeping.
2:33:54 I think they were asleep and they really weren’t paying attention to anything he was saying.
2:34:00 They were just like, he was moaning, droning on to them. But for me, he was dropping like
2:34:03 troop bombs. So we’re about to go in the water and he looks at me and he goes,
2:34:10 are you ready to be baptized? And I said, I think so. Yeah, sure. Let’s do this. And he’s like,
2:34:15 okay, great, because there’s a decision in life where sometimes you have to relinquish control,
2:34:21 you have to surrender to someone else or to something higher. And right now is that moment
2:34:27 where you can get off this boat and be on dry land. But once we’re in the water, I’m in charge.
2:34:35 You are no longer in charge. Can you surrender? And I was like, I surrender? And we go into the
2:34:42 water in the sun. Remember I told you that the sun was the second thing after air? The sun hits
2:34:49 my face and I just start sobbing. And it felt like being baptized. It felt like I was being touched
2:34:57 again by something profoundly beautiful, profoundly reaffirming of life, profound about my purpose
2:35:04 and my place in this world. And then he pulls up to a mental health institution in Boston.
2:35:08 I don’t know if you’ve seen this building, but it’s like this horrible, brutalist building.
2:35:13 He pulls up to it in the amphibious duck boat. Yes, in the amphibious duck boat.
2:35:21 Okay. So the boat pulls up to this mental health institution. And he says to us,
2:35:28 you know, sometimes you’re just having a conversation with God or with the universe
2:35:32 or whatever. And you’re on a spiritual path, but people think you’ve lost your mind and you’re
2:35:36 crazy and they lock you up in that place. And he goes, I don’t know how you’re going to get better
2:35:42 if that happens. And he said, but there’s beauty everywhere and it’s hidden in plain sight. And
2:35:47 if you look at that building long enough, something really pretty will emerge from it.
2:35:52 And then he started using kind of like a kidlike voice, which triggered all the children on the
2:35:58 boat to go, a frog. And I was looking at this building and not seeing a frog. And I was like,
2:36:02 okay, I’m looking for the frog. I’m looking for the frog. And all of a sudden, a frog emerges
2:36:07 from the building. And once you see it, you can’t unsee it. So if you go to Boston, look for the
2:36:11 frog building, there’s a frog that shoots out of the building. And then you’re like, wow,
2:36:16 there was a frog there the whole time. And he explains to me, he said, you know, when we’re
2:36:22 children, we see all this magic. We’re plugged into it. We’re part of the source. And as we get
2:36:26 older, we start cosplaying, obviously, and start putting on these costumes. And we start telling
2:36:33 ourselves these lies. And we lose touch of this magic that’s just right there in plain sight.
2:36:40 Because we become calcified to it. And when we got back to the duck boat, he asked me to stay.
2:36:45 My first instinct is a woman is I’m being hit on. So I’m like, oh, crap.
2:36:50 So I’m the last person off because I was the first person on. So I’m like, I have no way.
2:36:53 I always do like threat assessments. I’m like, shit, how do I get out of here? I’m stuck.
2:36:57 And so I’m like, what is the worst that could happen with this guy? Like,
2:37:01 I’ll just stick around and talk to him. He could be interesting. So I get off the boat.
2:37:08 He asked me to wait. He says, wait on this bench. And I said, okay. And then I watched him for 45
2:37:12 minutes, go to each individual person that worked at this duck boat company and hold their hand
2:37:17 and thank them for showing up that day. Thank you for driving the boat and giving it 100%.
2:37:21 Thank you for taking the tickets and giving it 100%. He goes on and on and on and on.
2:37:26 And then he eventually gets back to me and I said, are you a manager? And he’s like, no.
2:37:30 And he looks at me and he says, why are you here? And I’m like, well,
2:37:35 a spiritual guide of mine told me I needed to go on a duck boat ride. And clearly I did.
2:37:41 And then the voice, the knowing happened and it said to tell him something, which is
2:37:47 ask him why he’s a duck boat narrator. So I did. I said, why are you a duck boat narrator?
2:37:52 And he said, well, I have ADHD and I’m a comedian and I can’t hold down a job. And
2:37:57 I started doing this job because a friend of mine was a duck boat narrator. And I got hooked
2:38:04 because I started telling stories that I hoped would improve a family’s life one tour at a time.
2:38:12 If I could reach one person a day, I feel like I’ve done the work. I feel like I’ve done great work.
2:38:19 Then I have a purpose in this world. And then the voice says, tell him he’s doing God’s work.
2:38:25 So I’m like, I don’t know what I’m supposed to tell you this, but you’re doing God’s work.
2:38:32 And then tell him that someday his wife will understand. And when I did that,
2:38:39 this man welled up and cried. And the voice said, his tears are not for you.
2:38:46 You need to leave now. So I said, your tears are not for me. Sorry, I gotta go. I’m gonna leave this
2:38:52 place. And that’s when he said, you’re beautiful. He said, you are really beautiful. And the voice
2:38:59 says, I’m just a mirror. You’re the beautiful one. And when I got back to my hotel, they suddenly
2:39:07 knew who I was. And I was able to leave. But until that point, I did not exist. And I was in this
2:39:13 weird time work of weird events that kept happening, like the person dressed in all white.
2:39:18 And things were just being given to me. Things being given to me happened for a few weeks after
2:39:22 that. Like people were giving me sandwiches and giving me necklaces and giving me really weird
2:39:28 stuff. And the only thing that I can think of is that when you have a spiritual experience like
2:39:31 this, you just show up in the world differently. You’re more inviting. You’re more open.
2:39:35 You know, I’m trying to think of the science. At the end of the day, I like to think about
2:39:41 science and how this all could work. And I think there’s probably an explanation for it. But
2:39:47 ultimately, I think we’re connected on some sort of a level that we don’t quite understand because
2:39:53 we just don’t understand it. But I just wanted to share that story because it’s one of many
2:39:57 stories that has happened to me since I watched that movie. That’s just one of you many.
2:40:05 And the miraculous thing about Tango is Tango texted me and he’s now traveling the world.
2:40:10 He had amnesia and the encounter with me brought back all of his memories.
2:40:14 What? That’s wild. Yeah.
2:40:23 Amazing life you laid. You and your husbands. And what a broadly and intensely curious life
2:40:30 you have led. Curious not in the like raise an eyebrow strange sense, but curious in the very
2:40:41 literal sense of engaging with things around you and seeking out the things that stick out,
2:40:46 seeking out the things that blend in. I’ve just been struck over and over again by how
2:40:53 relentlessly curious you are. I think that is a virtue. I think that is, I think that is a real
2:40:58 virtue. Cyan, this has been an incredible conversation we’ve covered a lot more than I expected to.
2:41:07 And is there anything else you’d like to leave my audience with, point them to request of them
2:41:12 anything at all that you’d like to add before we wind to a close?
2:41:18 Yeah, I’m writing a book. You mentioned my sub-stack in the beginning and my sub-stack, if you go and
2:41:22 read it, it’s free. You don’t have to pay. The only reason why I charge anything is if anyone
2:41:26 wants to leave a comment, they have to pay to leave a comment. So if you’re going to be unkind,
2:41:32 you’ve got to pay me. I learned that from Ziviti. But what it is is it’s source material for my
2:41:38 book and it’s me remembering things like a child, the story about my mother and the $20 bill is in
2:41:46 there. There’s all these stories in there. And it’s me doing this search internally for
2:41:50 how I could be a better person and how I can show up in this world in a better way.
2:41:55 So I recommend, a lot of people get a lot out of it. There’s a lot of stories that you might
2:42:01 resonate with. I love hearing from people. And when I get the feedback that a story resonates,
2:42:06 I incorporate it into the actual physical book. So I am working on a book and I’m about halfway
2:42:14 done with it. And so my call to the audience is to keep encouraging me to finish it and
2:42:20 to keep encouraging me to write on Substack because I get disheartened. I get sad sometimes
2:42:28 writing these stories. I’m human. But I think that I want to write a story that isn’t about
2:42:35 business, but it is about philosophy. And it is about some of the lessons that I’ve learned. But
2:42:39 I found that in order for philosophy to really hit home, you can’t be obvious. So you have to tell
2:42:47 a tale. And so it’s a tale of my life. But hopefully at the end of it, it unlocks something inside of
2:42:52 you, the reader, that helps you in some way in the way that the razor’s edge helped me.
2:42:57 If I can have one razor’s edge moment with a human being, I will feel like I have
2:43:03 really achieved something in life. Uglyduckling.substack.com. Why Uglyduckling?
2:43:07 My mother was very devastatingly beautiful, and at least I thought so.
2:43:15 And I think that that beauty gave her, it opened a lot of doors for her and also allowed her to
2:43:22 manipulate people with her beauty. And she tried a weird, tough love approach with my sister and I,
2:43:27 and she basically told us we’re ugly. And she said, “You’re very ugly, so you better be smart
2:43:32 because you’re not going to find a good man if you’re not smart. And if you don’t find a man,
2:43:37 at least you can provide for yourself.” And when you hear that as a little girl,
2:43:42 I took it to heart and it definitely gave me a sense of dysphoria. It detached me from my body.
2:43:47 And I just thought I was just the ugliest creature that ever lived. But she told me
2:43:55 that someday I’d find my swans because I was just an ugly duck among ducks searching for my swans.
2:44:00 And I didn’t know what it meant, you know? She kept telling me this. And so
2:44:07 really, it’s about overcoming the fear of that narrative and looking for my swans.
2:44:12 I am turning into a swan. I mean, the person you’re talking to right now is becoming a swan,
2:44:17 finally, and shedding that narrative and shedding that story. And so that’s why it’s called ugly
2:44:27 knuckly. Well, I think of you as a swan and I can see it. And I’m so grateful for the time that
2:44:32 you’ve offered in this conversation and the stories that you’ve shared and the vulnerability
2:44:38 that you’ve showed. So thank you for that very much. And thank you, Tim. Thank you for all that you
2:44:42 do and for opening people up and for sharing stories. And you’re clearly on a mission,
2:44:48 and you have a purpose, a really great purpose. And I want to hear about, after you do dice rolling
2:44:52 for a while, because I know you take things to the next level. You know, you don’t half-ass do
2:45:00 anything. So I want to see what comes with your dice experiments. Yeah, for sure. I will gladly
2:45:08 share. And there’s a lot to explore here. For people listening, there’s a lot that we will be
2:45:16 linking to in the show notes, as always, at TimDopLog/podcast. Cyan, C-Y-A-N, Cyan Bannister,
2:45:24 @scientist, C-Y-A-N-T-I-S-T, on xandelseforuglyduckling.substack.com. Check it out. I’ve been very
2:45:30 impressed with your writing and encourage people to take a look and to continue encouraging you to
2:45:37 write more. And for everybody who is tuned in, I’ll give you my usual sign off, which is, until
2:45:42 next time, be just a little bit kinder than is necessary, not only to others, but also to yourself.
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