Kristen Butler: Could Your Comfort Zone Be Your Biggest Advantage? | E309

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0:01:09 I was depressed.
0:01:10 I was bankrupt.
0:01:14 I was filled with negativity and fear and doubt.
0:01:16 That’s what rock bottom felt like.
0:01:19 But there was such a transformation that I was eating healthy.
0:01:21 I was feeling fulfilled.
0:01:23 I was loving life.
0:01:26 I’m like, if I could boil it down to one thing, what would it be?
0:01:29 It was the power of positivity.
0:01:35 The comfort zone is where positivity can truly thrive.
0:01:42 So many people advocate for constant discomfort as growth, but chasing discomfort actually
0:01:45 chains us to discomfort.
0:01:50 I’ve found so much success thriving in my comfort zone and expanding it than constantly
0:02:06 being in survival mode.
0:02:08 Young and Profiters, welcome back to the show.
0:02:12 If you’re tuning into this podcast, it is highly likely that you’re a high-achieving
0:02:13 entrepreneur.
0:02:17 And as a high-achieving individual, you are always trying to seek discomfort.
0:02:21 You are always trying to change, to grow.
0:02:24 And we’ve all heard the saying, no pain, no gain.
0:02:25 Many of us live by this saying.
0:02:29 However, my guest today is going to dispel all of that for us.
0:02:34 She feels that constantly chasing discomfort is extremely unhealthy and leads to things
0:02:36 like burnout.
0:02:41 And she believes that we should strive to stay in our comfort zone as opposed to our complacent
0:02:43 or survival zone.
0:02:47 So she’s going to be dispelling this myth to us all today, something that we’ve heard
0:02:50 over and over again, even here on this podcast.
0:02:54 I’m interested to hear what she has to say about staying in our comfort zone and how
0:02:58 that works when we want to achieve such big, audacious goals.
0:03:00 All of us young and Profiters.
0:03:03 Kristin Butler is a best-selling author.
0:03:04 She’s an influencer.
0:03:09 She’s also the CEO and founder of Power of Positivity.
0:03:11 She hit rock bottom in 2009.
0:03:13 She lost everything.
0:03:18 And at that point, she turned to Positivity to turn her life around and has been sharing
0:03:23 her knowledge and wisdom about how to live a more positive, happy life ever since.
0:03:26 Without further ado, here’s my conversation with Kristin Butler.
0:03:30 Kristin, welcome to Young and Profiting Podcast.
0:03:31 Thank you so much, Hala.
0:03:32 It’s such a pleasure.
0:03:37 I’m so excited to chat with you and to provide value to the young and Profiters.
0:03:39 I’m so excited for this conversation, too.
0:03:41 I love to talk about Positivity.
0:03:46 I’m the podcast princess, but you are the Positivity princess, so I’m excited to have
0:03:48 you on the show.
0:03:53 But I did learn that your childhood wasn’t all that positive, especially probably when
0:03:55 you look back on your childhood.
0:03:59 So can you talk to us about what it was like growing up for you and what that experience
0:04:00 was like?
0:04:01 Yeah, absolutely.
0:04:02 You know, I grew up in Pennsylvania.
0:04:09 It was a small town, and my mom was single, and we had four kids, so we grew up in poverty.
0:04:15 And it was definitely tough because I spent most of my early childhood with my grandparents,
0:04:21 and once I hit school and I started to get feedback from other students about the clothes
0:04:26 that I was wearing and the way that I was coming to school every day, I started to realize
0:04:27 something must be wrong.
0:04:33 I’m not like the other kids, because inside, I always had these rose-colored glasses.
0:04:34 I loved life.
0:04:35 I was happy.
0:04:39 I was positive, and I didn’t really realize I was poor until I started hitting school and
0:04:41 getting that comparison.
0:04:51 So very early on, I realized I’ve got to change my circumstances, and how do I do that?
0:04:55 And teachers would say, you’ve got to step out of your comfort zone.
0:04:58 Nothing grows in your comfort zone.
0:05:01 Nothing good comes from your comfort zone, and that was something that I heard pretty
0:05:06 often from teachers, my grandfather that I really looked up to.
0:05:13 And so I adopted this adage of step out of your comfort zone at a pretty early age, just
0:05:15 because I wanted to change my circumstances.
0:05:18 I didn’t want to be in this situation.
0:05:21 I had so many goals and dreams in my heart.
0:05:26 And so, of course, you wanted to get out of your comfort zone, make those dreams a reality,
0:05:27 but let’s step back a little bit.
0:05:32 So you were growing up, before elementary school, it was like ignorance was bliss for
0:05:33 you.
0:05:34 You didn’t even know anything was wrong.
0:05:35 You were just happy.
0:05:38 And then you went to school, you got all this negative feedback.
0:05:42 How did that carry with you later on?
0:05:44 How did you carry those emotions?
0:05:46 What did you feel about yourself?
0:05:52 What was your mindset like because of the external negativity that you kept facing as a kid?
0:05:55 When we’re kids, we’re just in our own little world.
0:05:56 We’re happy.
0:05:57 We’re confident.
0:06:01 At least most kids I know that are raised in decent environments.
0:06:02 They’re happy.
0:06:03 They’re positive.
0:06:08 And then we start to look on the outside and start to take in the feedback that other people
0:06:09 are giving us.
0:06:14 And what happened to me was I was taking that feedback as truth.
0:06:19 And sure it was truth in my current circumstance, but it wasn’t what I felt in my heart.
0:06:23 And I rejected it for a very long time.
0:06:30 But then I think when I hit teenage age, I really started to take that in as truth.
0:06:35 And I would just stuff it down like, you know, I can push through this.
0:06:37 This isn’t who I am.
0:06:39 And I would just work harder.
0:06:40 I would try harder.
0:06:41 I would study more.
0:06:48 I would do things that would take me out of my comfort zone because where I was wasn’t
0:06:49 comfortable as it was.
0:06:52 And so I thought, okay, I want to change these circumstances.
0:06:55 I’m going to just push through.
0:06:59 So let’s talk about when you first discovered the power of positivity.
0:07:05 Was it one event that happened in your life or was it slow accumulation of events?
0:07:09 I didn’t really know that much about a positive mindset.
0:07:14 When I grew up, we surely didn’t talk about it, at least in my family and in my circle.
0:07:22 And it wasn’t until my early twenties when I hit rock bottom, it was after one struggle
0:07:26 after another, cycles and cycles of burnout.
0:07:29 Like I said, it was someone who was living by the adage of great things never come from
0:07:30 your comfort zone.
0:07:36 And so I was achieving great things, but then I was also burning out.
0:07:39 And when I hit rock bottom, I was depressed.
0:07:41 I was anxious.
0:07:42 I was obese.
0:07:43 I was bankrupt.
0:07:49 I was putting everything into my work to try to change my circumstances from being poor
0:07:50 little Kristin who didn’t have much.
0:07:55 I didn’t want to be a victim, but here I found myself as a victim.
0:07:57 I was bedridden for two weeks straight.
0:08:02 I actually had a successful business that I lost because I couldn’t keep up with all
0:08:08 of my orders because I was constantly pushing myself and I couldn’t sustain the momentum
0:08:11 that it took to get there.
0:08:14 So my mind was overthinking.
0:08:17 I was filled with negativity and fear and doubt.
0:08:18 It was so bad.
0:08:19 I didn’t even want to brush my teeth.
0:08:22 I didn’t even care about getting out of bed.
0:08:25 That’s what that rock bottom felt like.
0:08:30 And I had to start looking at things from a more positive perspective, like, well, at
0:08:35 least I have a bed to sleep on, at least I have a roof over my head.
0:08:40 There are people that still care, even if it didn’t feel like it in that moment.
0:08:46 And so I started to think more positive, I started to read positive quotes, started
0:08:49 to prioritize gratitude.
0:08:54 And it really helped me to start getting out of bed, to start doing things that I loved
0:08:58 again, start calling family and friends.
0:09:04 And that’s where I really got passionate about positivity and a positive lifestyle because
0:09:07 it can really pull you from any dark place.
0:09:11 I really like what you said about how you needed to just be thankful for things that
0:09:13 you take for granted.
0:09:16 And that really helped pull you out of this rut because it could always be so much worse.
0:09:21 It actually reminds me of a funny story that I’ll share that happened to me a couple of
0:09:23 weeks ago.
0:09:26 So I have pretty bad eyesight, like really bad eyesight.
0:09:29 Without contacts, I’m technically, no, and I’ve never really shared this on the podcast.
0:09:32 I’m technically legally blind without contacts.
0:09:33 I’m like negative nine, negative 10.
0:09:38 But I pop my contacts in and I can see perfectly and it’s 2024 and I wear contacts and life
0:09:39 is good.
0:09:46 But I was feeling just negative about the fact that I had bad eyesight and I was at a family
0:09:51 barbecue and I was talking to my aunt and uncle, asking them about LASIK.
0:09:53 And it wouldn’t work fully for me.
0:09:57 Then I made a joke that when it’s time for me to go to bed, I just take out my contacts
0:10:00 because I’m blind anyway, so it’s time to go to bed.
0:10:02 So that’s how I make myself go to sleep.
0:10:04 And I was like just like being negative about myself.
0:10:09 Then in the morning, I woke up and as usual, I put in my contacts.
0:10:14 One of my contacts fell and I didn’t know where it went, but then I just put another
0:10:18 contact in and then I was having trouble seeing that day.
0:10:24 And I remember telling my coworkers, my employees, guys, I don’t know what’s going on.
0:10:25 I can’t keep both my eyes open.
0:10:30 I can’t focus with both of my eyes open and I got so worried.
0:10:35 I started texting my family, I ended up going to the doctor and thinking something was really
0:10:36 wrong with my eyes.
0:10:37 I was like, did I have a stroke last night?
0:10:39 Like what the hell happened?
0:10:43 I go to the doctor, she asked me to take out my contacts and I had two contacts stuck to
0:10:44 each other.
0:10:51 And I was the laughing stock of the office, but the reason why I told this story is because
0:10:59 it immediately humbled me where I was like, you know what, God, thank you for my eyesight.
0:11:03 Thank you for making me born in 2024 where I can wear contacts in my whole life.
0:11:04 I had contacts.
0:11:09 It never mattered that I had bad eyesight because I just got to wear contacts since I was a
0:11:10 little girl.
0:11:11 It didn’t matter.
0:11:13 Nobody even knows I have bad eyesight.
0:11:17 And so then I just started being like, well, I need to be more grateful.
0:11:21 Life could be so much worse and my eyes could even be worse.
0:11:27 So I just wanted to say it’s always good to like step back and realize that life could
0:11:29 just be so much worse.
0:11:33 You should be grateful even to just have a place to sleep like you were saying.
0:11:34 Yeah.
0:11:40 It’s like you have to experience that extreme, that other side sometimes to feel grateful.
0:11:44 Not always, but it definitely helps, you know, to have that perspective.
0:11:45 Yeah.
0:11:50 So why did you decide to create a whole community around positivity?
0:11:52 Why did you want to share this message to the world?
0:11:53 Great question.
0:12:02 You know, going from broke and broken to happy and thriving, I knew that if I could do it,
0:12:03 so could others.
0:12:08 When starting Power of Positivity 15 years ago, I was just a freelancer at the time and
0:12:12 I was managing social media accounts for my clients.
0:12:15 I’ve loved social media since I was 15.
0:12:20 And so I was doing work I loved and Facebook just came out with pages and I was making
0:12:24 pages for my clients and I’m like, I should make myself a page.
0:12:28 But here I am trying to prioritize work life balance and I’m like, okay, I’m not going
0:12:32 to make it about work because I knew that if I made it about work, then I would just
0:12:34 be working more.
0:12:37 And so I’m like, okay, I’m going to make this about a passion.
0:12:42 I got to thinking and reflecting and I’m like, what about my transformation that’s been
0:12:46 happening because I was like half this person that I was, I was eating healthy, I was feeling
0:12:49 fulfilled, I was loving life.
0:12:53 And I’m like, if I could boil it down to one thing, what would it be?
0:12:55 And it wasn’t just a positive mindset.
0:12:57 It was a positive lifestyle.
0:12:59 It was the power of positivity.
0:13:00 And that’s where it started.
0:13:07 I was just sharing quotes and affirmations and tips that were helping me and I was hoping
0:13:10 that it could help someone else.
0:13:12 And did that community grow very large?
0:13:16 Talked us about how receptive people were to that idea.
0:13:20 It really started to take off today.
0:13:26 We have multiple pages under power of positivity, but we have over 58 million followers globally
0:13:27 on social media.
0:13:32 Our website, power of positivity.com has had over a billion views.
0:13:34 It was just consistent action.
0:13:39 I think when you show up every single day and you’re there for people, they rely on
0:13:40 that.
0:13:43 So that’s what I credit a lot of it to.
0:13:44 Yes, there was passion.
0:13:45 Yes, there was love.
0:13:46 Yes, there was skill.
0:13:52 I have a journalism background, but it’s really the energy behind something that can
0:13:53 grow it so quickly.
0:13:56 You know how it is with your community.
0:14:00 It’s the passion and that desire inside to help people.
0:14:01 Yeah, totally.
0:14:04 So you just mentioned that you’re an entrepreneur at heart.
0:14:08 We’ve got a lot of entrepreneurs listening in on the show.
0:14:11 And one thing that entrepreneurs have trouble with is self-care.
0:14:14 We tend to care for others.
0:14:15 We have employees.
0:14:16 We have clients.
0:14:20 A lot of the times we’re the breadwinners in our families and we care about everybody
0:14:25 else and we often don’t really think about our own self-care.
0:14:27 Why do people struggle with self-care?
0:14:30 Why do we need to care about self-care?
0:14:32 Self-care isn’t selfish.
0:14:33 It’s essential.
0:14:34 Think about it.
0:14:39 It’s the fuel that powers our ability to care for others.
0:14:40 We’ve got to nurture ourselves.
0:14:42 We’ve got to fill our cup.
0:14:45 I found that was essential in my journey.
0:14:50 In fact, I love talking about self-care because it goes so deep.
0:14:54 We can say surface level, it could be going to the spa, right, or getting your nails done
0:14:57 or going for a long walk or going to the gym.
0:15:02 But really, in my journey, and I share this in the key to positivity, there’s four pillars
0:15:04 of self-care.
0:15:08 And we need to nurture every single one to really create that balance in our life.
0:15:13 And that’s physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual.
0:15:19 If we want to deepen our purpose, if we want that real work-life balance, we need to remember
0:15:22 these four potentially on a daily basis.
0:15:26 If you’re just getting started, maybe on a weekly basis, to really make sure that we’re
0:15:32 filling our cup and allowing our well-being to happen through our actions and then pouring
0:15:34 over to others.
0:15:38 I know that one part of self-care that you talk about is finding your comfort zone.
0:15:42 And you talk a lot about this in your latest book, The Key to Positivity, also in other
0:15:44 books that you have.
0:15:50 And you have a take on comfort zones that’s very different from even me and other people
0:15:51 that have been on the show.
0:15:57 But you actually don’t encourage us to constantly be chasing discomfort.
0:16:04 So talk to us about why chasing discomfort isn’t actually the solution to living a really
0:16:05 successful life.
0:16:10 What I talk about is similar to stepping out of your comfort zone, but it’s not exactly
0:16:11 and it’s a mindset shift.
0:16:19 When I was focused on constantly living outside of my comfort zone for success, I found that
0:16:24 chasing discomfort actually chains us to discomfort.
0:16:31 And I know that so many people advocate for constant discomfort as growth.
0:16:38 But I find that it’s essential to balance our life and to embrace discomfort as a transformative
0:16:42 ally, but also know that we need that balance.
0:16:48 Because research shows that chasing discomfort creates stress, chronic stress and burnout.
0:16:54 I think recently you had Dr. Aditi on the show and she was talking all about burnout
0:16:56 and stress and overwork.
0:17:03 So instead, I like to focus on advocating for nurturing an environment that allows you
0:17:09 to challenge yourself in a healthy way by creating smaller, more incremental steps that
0:17:15 are sustainable, where you can bridge yourself to your goals and expand your comfort zone
0:17:17 instead of stepping out.
0:17:24 Stretching it and knowing that you have this safe space with a regulated nervous system
0:17:32 to create and to be and to stretch and actually grow at the same time.
0:17:35 Talk to us about these three zones of living that we might bounce around throughout our
0:17:36 life.
0:17:37 Yeah.
0:17:43 In the book, I talk about the three zones of living and a lot of what we talk about
0:17:47 as the comfort zone I found was actually the complacent zone.
0:17:48 Because think about it.
0:17:54 When people are stuck and they’re not willing to grow, are they actually comfortable?
0:17:55 Truly.
0:17:57 They’re not.
0:17:58 They are afraid.
0:18:00 They are full of negativity.
0:18:02 At least I know for me, that’s where I was.
0:18:04 I was not comfortable at all.
0:18:09 In fact, I was working so hard to try to find comfort eventually.
0:18:15 And so that’s the complacent zone where you feel stuck, overwhelmed, and you’re afraid
0:18:16 to grow.
0:18:21 You might be doing Netflix and chill, but what are you ignoring in your life?
0:18:25 And that’s a really negative zone to be in, would you say?
0:18:26 Yeah.
0:18:28 You’re full of negative emotions.
0:18:34 You’re afraid to even change anything because who knows, it could be worse, right?
0:18:36 Life could get worse than what it already is.
0:18:41 And so you kind of get used to this discomfort that you’re living in.
0:18:44 And that’s when we tell people to get out of their comfort zone.
0:18:47 They’re not comfortable, of course, obviously.
0:18:50 And so the second zone is the survival zone.
0:18:55 And you find yourself in the complacent zone after you’ve been in the survival zone for
0:18:56 so long.
0:18:58 This is where we’re burning out.
0:19:04 We are finding success, but we are also finding so much failure.
0:19:10 We’re so chaotic, we’re burnt out, we’re exhausting ourselves, we’re working too hard.
0:19:14 And this is where I spent a lot of my life when I was constantly living outside of my
0:19:15 comfort zone.
0:19:16 I was in the survival zone.
0:19:21 I was trying to make things work, but I had a dysregulated nervous system.
0:19:25 What kind of effort was really going into the overwork that I was doing?
0:19:30 I was not balancing it with self care or positivity at all.
0:19:32 And I didn’t realize it, right?
0:19:36 A recent poll said that 76% of people are feeling burnt out at work.
0:19:42 We’re just constantly filling up with caffeine and in the survival zone working as hard as
0:19:45 we possibly can to make things work.
0:19:49 The third is, of course, my favorite zone, right, the comfort zone.
0:19:53 And this is the sweet spot for growth.
0:19:56 This is where positivity can truly thrive.
0:20:02 We can stretch our limits and we can grow, but it doesn’t have to be so overwhelming.
0:20:03 We’re more in the flow.
0:20:06 We’re not forcing and pushing things.
0:20:09 And this is really the key to a positive life.
0:20:11 It’s easing up.
0:20:15 It’s only doing enough work that you truly need to do and then recharging yourself because
0:20:20 then the next day you’re actually going to be more productive by doing that.
0:20:25 It doesn’t seem like it, but I’ve found so much success thriving in my comfort zone and
0:20:29 expanding it than constantly being in survival mode.
0:20:37 So give us an example of what it looks like to try to change in the survival mode and then
0:20:41 what it looks like to change and improve ourselves in the comfort zone.
0:20:45 Give us a comparing contrast so that we can really understand.
0:20:48 Survival zone and complacent zone is such a fear-based place.
0:20:54 So if you’re constantly experiencing negative emotions and your action is driven through
0:20:59 negative emotions, then that’s likely where you are.
0:21:02 In the comfort zone, your actions are driven by positive emotions.
0:21:05 And so you’re doing things because you get to do them.
0:21:06 You want to do them.
0:21:07 You’re passionate about it.
0:21:10 You know that you need to do that workout in the morning because you know it’s going
0:21:13 to make you more productive and you’re going to feel better in your body.
0:21:18 And so you’re prioritizing things for the long term instead of the short term, right?
0:21:23 And you’re taking care of your well-being knowing that it’s sustainable success instead
0:21:24 of short term.
0:21:29 So do you feel like there’s any need to have discomfort in your life?
0:21:35 I recently did the 75 Heart Challenge last December.
0:21:36 And what’s that?
0:21:37 I’ve heard it, but I don’t know much about it.
0:21:38 What is it?
0:21:40 Yes, you do two workouts a day.
0:21:42 You drink a gallon of water.
0:21:43 You read 10 pages.
0:21:46 You do one workout that’s outside.
0:21:48 There’s this long list.
0:21:52 You know, at first when my friend invited me, I thought, “Can I really do this?”
0:21:54 And then I thought, “No, I really can.
0:21:59 I can expand to that because I was already working out once a day.”
0:22:04 And it was a great challenge for me because I didn’t like being out in the cold at the
0:22:05 time.
0:22:07 And I’m like, “I want to embrace the cold.
0:22:09 I want to feel good about that.”
0:22:15 And so using positivity to overcome challenges, when I first started going outside and doing
0:22:21 my workout and I’m here in the mountains, it’s like 30 degrees, I’m like, “Actually,
0:22:24 this cold air really is calming.
0:22:25 It’s peaceful.
0:22:28 It actually is recharging me.”
0:22:34 There was so many positive effects that I was seeing, and by embracing it and using the
0:22:38 discomfort as a transformative ally, it was changing my life.
0:22:43 But before, when I was more in the survival and complacence zone, I wasn’t using discomfort
0:22:45 as a transformative ally.
0:22:47 I wasn’t feeling like, “I’m going to embrace this.
0:22:49 I’m going to find the positive.”
0:22:50 It was a more negative place.
0:22:56 And so it’s really this mindset shift of expanding your comfort zone and embracing discomfort
0:23:02 or stepping out and pursuing discomfort in that way.
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0:27:26 I love that you brought up The Cold.
0:27:29 I recently had Michael Easter on the show.
0:27:34 And he has this book called The Comfort Crisis, and he basically argues that a lot of our
0:27:40 convenience in modern life is really hurting our health and our happiness, because we just
0:27:45 live so much differently than our ancestors did, who they had to work in the fields.
0:27:49 They were in really uncomfortable situations.
0:27:55 And then now, we have so much comfort around us that life is just less fulfilling, and
0:28:01 he thinks that we need to make ourselves and force ourselves to be uncomfortable.
0:28:02 So what are your thoughts on this?
0:28:07 I love that book, firstly, because, yes, he’s talking about stepping out of our comfort
0:28:10 zone and how comfort can be a negative thing.
0:28:15 But really, when I talk about expanding your comfort zone, there’s synergy there.
0:28:18 Because we’re both advocating for growth, right?
0:28:19 The goal is growth.
0:28:21 We don’t want to stay complacent.
0:28:23 We don’t want to be lazy.
0:28:27 So for me, I’m just offering a new perspective to expand your comfort zone rather than stepping
0:28:30 out, to use it as a transformative ally.
0:28:31 And there is a difference.
0:28:34 Utilizing your comfort zone, you’re staying in your power.
0:28:37 You’re still doing things that you’ve never done before.
0:28:39 It’s just in smaller, more incremental steps.
0:28:43 And I find that when we do it this way, we don’t quit.
0:28:46 Or I would give up because I’d be like, wow, maybe I’m just not good at this.
0:28:50 Or if I failed too many times, eventually I’d just give up.
0:28:52 And so it’s really a mindset.
0:28:59 And I believe that he and I are really still leaning into growth and doing hard things,
0:29:04 but making those hard things manageable, making them part of your lifestyle.
0:29:07 For me, it’s how big can your comfort zone be?
0:29:13 A rock climber, Alex Honnold, he rock climbs free solo.
0:29:16 Horses without any harnesses.
0:29:22 And he says that he does that by embracing his comfort zone.
0:29:24 He destroys the fear.
0:29:26 He embraces and expands his comfort zone.
0:29:29 So you can literally do hard things.
0:29:32 It’s just a mindset shift.
0:29:38 So give me an example of somebody who’s changing in their comfort zone versus somebody who’s
0:29:40 stepping out of their comfort zone.
0:29:43 Even in their comfort zone, who wants to run a marathon and they set that goal, they’re
0:29:48 going to make a plan that they begin to run in small incremental steps.
0:29:53 So weekly, they might run just a few miles and then they build up.
0:29:59 But when someone’s outside of their comfort zone, they might just erratically run.
0:30:03 I’ve seen people prepare, you know, and they’re like, okay, I’m going to do five miles.
0:30:04 I’m going to do 10.
0:30:08 And then they might have an off week because they’ve pushed themselves too far.
0:30:09 And there’s no balance.
0:30:11 It’s very chaotic.
0:30:15 Someone in their comfort zone, they are using positivity to their advantage.
0:30:17 They might have affirmations.
0:30:21 They might visualize about the outcome of their race.
0:30:27 And so it’s a very balanced place of achieving your goals versus just I’m going to push myself
0:30:28 into this discomfort.
0:30:34 I am going to go to the extreme and see how far I can take it.
0:30:40 And so many of us are actually creating in our comfort zone and expanding in this healthy,
0:30:42 balanced way, and we don’t even realize it.
0:30:43 Okay.
0:30:44 This makes a lot more sense.
0:30:46 I’m getting it now.
0:30:52 So can you talk to us about how can we tell if we’re overworking, if we’ve gone from hard
0:30:53 work to overwork?
0:30:56 I really love Wallace Waddles.
0:31:04 And he talks about a successful life is doing all the work that we can do today and not doing
0:31:06 tomorrow’s work today.
0:31:10 And so giving our best effort and doing all we can today, and that’s always stuck with
0:31:14 me because I think before when I would burn out, I was always trying to do tomorrow’s
0:31:18 work or heck, even the rest of the week’s work in a day, I was trying to see how much
0:31:21 work I could really get done.
0:31:26 And so being in tune with your body, knowing when you might need to take a five minute walk
0:31:31 outside to get some fresh air, knowing when you might need to do a workout in the morning
0:31:36 before you begin work, whatever it is for you that’s going to help you bring more well
0:31:40 being to the work that you’re doing, you’re going to be more positive, you’re going to
0:31:42 be more passionate about it.
0:31:47 And you’re probably going to be way more productive because you’re not overworking yourself.
0:31:54 So you have this great analogy of comfort zones and you compare it to a home.
0:31:57 Can you talk to us about this sea pyramid that you have?
0:32:04 The sea pyramid is the foundation of creating your life from comfort and positivity, and
0:32:08 it stands for safety, expression, and enjoyment.
0:32:14 This is closely related to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, but it applies to our daily life
0:32:16 and we can even use it in our work.
0:32:21 So safety is really about making sure that you have a safe environment.
0:32:26 And this goes a lot to all of the research and work that you hear now about having a
0:32:28 regulated nervous system.
0:32:35 It’s so hard to pursue and to grow if you’re not feeling safe in your body, if you’re not
0:32:37 feeling safe in the environment.
0:32:39 And so that’s really foundational.
0:32:44 If you want to feel good in life, feel safe, prioritize that.
0:32:50 When I started really doing nervous system work and tuning in to how I felt in different
0:32:56 situations or with even different work, it really helped me to see that, okay, when I’m
0:33:00 comfortable in my body, when I’m comfortable in my environment, I do so much better.
0:33:02 I’m so much more creative.
0:33:03 I’m in the flow.
0:33:05 I don’t have to force ideas.
0:33:07 And so safety is foundational.
0:33:09 That was really interesting.
0:33:14 What did you find out about your own nervous system and what feelings are you striving
0:33:20 for that you feel are healthy versus not healthy when you know my nervous system is not right
0:33:21 right now?
0:33:26 You know, I think really getting into your body, there’s so many distractions that keep
0:33:28 us out of our body.
0:33:32 So when you find out how to get into your body and truly feel it, feel the sensations
0:33:37 in your fingers and in your face and in your muscles, you can know when your nervous system
0:33:38 is dysregulated.
0:33:43 You might feel tingly, your heart might beat a little faster.
0:33:44 Everyone’s different.
0:33:50 And so knowing when you feel calm, I’d love to have lavender with me.
0:33:56 I breathe lavender or in between meetings, when I’m like, I’ve had too many meetings.
0:33:57 I’m not feeling good.
0:34:03 I’ll go outside for a walk and just truly knowing, okay, how do I feel?
0:34:07 And negative emotions are always going to give you that signal or those sensations in
0:34:10 your body if your nervous system isn’t regulated.
0:34:14 And then there’s so many different things that we can do to get regulated.
0:34:18 I love gratitude for that same thing because it’s like, okay, I’m not feeling so good right
0:34:19 now.
0:34:21 How can I feel good in this moment?
0:34:26 And just taking a few deep breaths, focusing on two or three things that I’m grateful for
0:34:32 in that moment can really bring that balance and that peace back in your body.
0:34:34 So the second is expression.
0:34:43 And this is really about being your most authentic self and living in a way that honors you and
0:34:44 your preferences.
0:34:46 And this has a lot to do with setting boundaries.
0:34:52 I wasn’t someone who set enough boundaries around myself or around others, around how
0:34:54 much work I was doing.
0:35:00 And so the second layer is learning to express yourself and learning to know your own preferences
0:35:07 and then communicating those preferences to the outside world, which is so important.
0:35:09 And then the third one is enjoyment.
0:35:16 And if you don’t have the other two, it’s really hard to truly authentically enjoy life,
0:35:17 right?
0:35:21 Because if you’re dysregulated or you don’t even have healthy boundaries or know your
0:35:27 preferences, how can you truly authentically enjoy life and that that’s doing things that
0:35:32 you love every day that are going to fill your own cup, not somebody else’s.
0:35:37 And speaking of enjoyment, I know that you have a lot of tips to live a happier life.
0:35:39 You have something called an enjoyment jar.
0:35:41 Tell us about that.
0:35:46 An enjoyment jar is very much like a gratitude jar, except it’s going to boost your mood
0:35:49 in a way that gets you to take action.
0:35:56 You want to create this enjoyment jar by putting activities that you truly love in that jar.
0:36:00 And so once you have that jar created, and you don’t even have to put that many things
0:36:04 in there over time, you can add them in as you think of them.
0:36:05 Don’t overthink it.
0:36:11 But when you need that pick me up, when you’re just having one of those days and you’ve got
0:36:17 some time, go in there, just randomly pick one out, spontaneity is so fun sometimes.
0:36:23 I love to plan and I love my calendar, but spontaneity can really bring that joy back
0:36:24 into our life.
0:36:29 And so it’s an activity that I really love to prioritize.
0:36:33 And talk to us about how you’ve been able to change your self-image.
0:36:37 Like you told us, you were picked on when you were younger.
0:36:41 How did you transform the way that you actually think about yourself, and do you have any
0:36:43 exercises for that?
0:36:48 One of the biggest ways that I have transformed my self-image was through affirmations.
0:36:53 I don’t know if you love affirmations, but we’re already telling ourselves things.
0:36:55 We already have affirmations about ourselves.
0:36:56 We just don’t even realize.
0:37:02 And so what it first looked like was me writing down some of the negative things that I was
0:37:04 thinking about myself.
0:37:07 It was like, wow, I don’t love myself.
0:37:10 I think these horrible things about me.
0:37:13 And it was no wonder that my life was what it was.
0:37:18 And so one of the things that I started early on was mirror work.
0:37:24 And what that is, it started by Louise Hay, is looking at yourself in the mirror and reciting
0:37:25 your affirmations.
0:37:32 And it can be a really emotional thing to start because if you don’t love yourself or
0:37:36 you think very negative things about yourself, which a lot of people do and they don’t realize,
0:37:42 it can be hard to look at your own eyes and tell yourself that you are enough or that
0:37:48 you love yourself, but it’s so transformative and it can change things, change the way you
0:37:52 look at yourself in a matter of days by doing it as long as you’re consistent.
0:37:59 And so I really believe in creating a few affirmations for yourself, even just three,
0:38:01 the opposite of what you think of yourself.
0:38:06 So if you hate yourself, then you want to say that I love myself.
0:38:10 If you don’t believe you’re enough, you want to say, I am enough.
0:38:15 If life feels chaotic, then create an affirmation around peace.
0:38:17 I am full of peace.
0:38:21 Whatever it is for you, we’re all different, but when you really recite those affirmations
0:38:27 on a consistent basis, it starts to change the way that you feel about yourself, the
0:38:31 way that you look at yourself, the way that other people look at you, the way that they
0:38:33 feel about you.
0:38:39 And when you’re consistent over time, you can completely transform the way you think
0:38:41 and the way other people treat you.
0:38:44 It’s incredible and it’s free and it’s easy to do.
0:38:46 It’s just, you have to be consistent with it.
0:38:52 Yeah. I remember when I was 19 and I learned about the law of attraction and positivity
0:38:54 and I started to get into affirmations.
0:39:00 What I did is that I would actually record affirmations and then I would use voice notes
0:39:02 on my phone.
0:39:04 And then when I was driving, I’d replay it.
0:39:09 When I was getting ready, I’d replay it and I brainwashed myself and I would say really
0:39:12 silly things like, I’m the prettiest girl in the world.
0:39:18 People are attracted to me like a magnet and it just improved my self-confidence so much
0:39:24 and to your point, it improved the way that people perceived me because I walked around
0:39:28 with a different energy and with a different sense of confidence and that in itself is
0:39:29 very attractive.
0:39:34 So even if you don’t look any different, you might be sleeping better.
0:39:40 You might have just a more rested face and look more relaxed and approachable and you’re
0:39:45 actually perceived differently when you think positively about yourself and I just feel
0:39:47 like people don’t realize that.
0:39:51 When I feel like crap and I’m in a bad mood, I never get hit on, I never get, you know
0:39:52 what I’m saying?
0:39:55 But like if I’m feeling great, like everybody wants to talk to me.
0:39:57 So it’s just funny to think.
0:40:02 I think as kids, we think that just certain people have confidence or a certain way and
0:40:03 that’s their personality.
0:40:07 But what I’ve found is that it’s really not your personality.
0:40:12 It’s just might have been what you heard around you or just the way that you were being and
0:40:15 you can always change your beliefs and change the way that you’re being.
0:40:19 And so affirmations are just such a quick way of doing that and giving yourself confidence,
0:40:21 especially if you feel like you don’t have it.
0:40:25 I also love how you’ve paired the mirror exercise with showering.
0:40:28 Can you tell us about that?
0:40:36 So when I take a shower, I visualize the negativity, anything that has happened during that day
0:40:41 that wasn’t ideal or I was feeling a certain way that wasn’t ideal, I just let it go down
0:40:42 the drain.
0:40:44 And it’s such a healing thing.
0:40:47 And then afterwards I do my mirror work because it’s so convenient.
0:40:52 I love to double up on my habits and habit stack in that way.
0:40:56 What are the ways that you infuse gratitude in your life?
0:41:02 Early on, I was one of those people write 10 things down on a piece of paper that you’re
0:41:04 grateful for, right?
0:41:07 And if you’re consistent, that really works.
0:41:10 For me, I was consistent and that really worked well.
0:41:16 And anyone starting with affirmations, I would totally recommend starting in that way, especially
0:41:21 if it feels awkward, even just looking around and writing down what you’re grateful for.
0:41:28 But taking it a step deeper and being specific about what you’re grateful for, putting detail
0:41:35 into it and really diving in in a way that you start to feel the gratitude because it’s
0:41:39 truly the feeling that’s the transformative part.
0:41:44 And when you make it a habit, for me, when I made it a habit over and over, it just became
0:41:51 who I was in the fact of you just wake up happier, feeling grateful for, wow, I love the view
0:41:52 out the window.
0:41:56 It looks beautiful, even if it’s raining, you find ways to enjoy it.
0:41:59 Looking in the mirror, looking at yourself, looking at certain things you’re doing, thinking
0:42:01 about the day and preparing.
0:42:07 And so you’re living and feeling that state of gratitude throughout the day.
0:42:13 I learned something from Michael Jervis and it’s something I’ve been saying pretty often
0:42:16 on the podcast because it’s really helped me.
0:42:22 He’s got this 90 seconds before you get out of bed, gratitude practice, where as soon
0:42:27 as you wake up, first thing that you do is what am I grateful for?
0:42:32 And when I wake up, especially lately, I’m Palestinian, I’ve got a lot of negative thoughts
0:42:36 going around with the genocide happening, everything like that.
0:42:41 So I wake up and a lot of the times, first thing I think about is, oh my God, what kids
0:42:43 did they kill today?
0:42:46 That’s literally the first thoughts that I think about when I wake up.
0:42:52 So this has helped me because I’m able to be like, all right, you had that thought, but
0:42:53 what are you grateful for?
0:42:58 And then he says, visualize three things that you want to get done today.
0:43:00 And then you get out of bed.
0:43:06 And the third thing is to just sit with yourself for a moment and then you get out of bed.
0:43:10 I just love that because I feel like a lot of us are like this.
0:43:14 As soon as you wake up, even if you weren’t dreaming about your problem, let’s say you’re
0:43:15 going through a breakup.
0:43:19 As soon as you wake up, oh my God, I’m back to reality.
0:43:21 I had a breakup or whatever it is.
0:43:25 This helps you reset and make sure you start off your day on the right foot.
0:43:27 So I loved that.
0:43:29 Oh, I really love what you just mentioned.
0:43:33 That was really great because when you start your day in a grateful way, it just shifts
0:43:35 the energy.
0:43:43 I know another way that you suggest that we do hard things, grow, change is to expand
0:43:44 ourselves.
0:43:48 So not only expand our conference zones, but expand our personalities.
0:43:53 Just like Beyonce did with Sasha Fierce, I think Ethan calls this the Batman effect.
0:43:54 Talk to us about that.
0:44:03 In the book, I talk about expanding yourself and really embracing that next level version
0:44:04 of you.
0:44:10 There are so many people that have done this, like you said, Beyonce, Marilyn Monroe.
0:44:16 What I did was, okay, who is that version of me that is ideal?
0:44:18 And that’s where Positive Christine came.
0:44:20 I’m like, okay, if they’re doing it, I’m going to do that.
0:44:21 This is Positive Christine.
0:44:27 And it’s really true when you do this, when you name your expanded self, you step into
0:44:32 that person and you can really become them much quicker.
0:44:37 And so I tell people to really visualize who that person is.
0:44:38 Be specific.
0:44:43 In fact, actually, the more specific you are, the better because that’s your preferences.
0:44:44 That’s your desires.
0:44:45 That’s what you want.
0:44:47 That’s where the passion comes from.
0:44:50 This isn’t some kind of silly gimmicky thing, right?
0:44:56 This is really you growing and becoming that next level version.
0:45:00 And to embody that person, you need to really give it a character.
0:45:02 And so name that person.
0:45:06 Think about what they’re wearing, where they’re going, what are they buying?
0:45:08 How do they feel?
0:45:12 Because let’s be honest, we’re human and we’re going to have bad days.
0:45:13 We’re going to have bad moments.
0:45:17 We’re going to have feelings where we’re like, OK, that’s not me.
0:45:19 I can’t even identify with that.
0:45:24 But if you spend a lot of time naming this person and visualizing about this next level
0:45:27 version of you, you can actually attain it.
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0:50:18 So I think my favorite part of your book and idea in your book was this idea of luminaries
0:50:19 and gluminaries.
0:50:23 I thought that was really cute and I thought that it made a lot of sense.
0:50:27 So talk to us about surrounding ourselves with the right people and how we can tell
0:50:30 if we’re with luminaries or gluminaries.
0:50:34 And if there’s a place for both of these types of people in our lives.
0:50:39 We all hear that we become the five people that we surround ourselves with, right?
0:50:45 But this is taking it a little deeper where really looking at the people in our lives and
0:50:52 if we’re someone who in a lot of you listening are people who love growth and love expansion,
0:50:57 the truth is that when we grow, we outgrow the people around us.
0:51:00 And it’s just part of life if they’re not growing with us.
0:51:01 It’s not a negative thing.
0:51:03 It’s just we’re vibing out, right?
0:51:06 And so I had to really look at my life.
0:51:11 The people in my life who are luminaries, the people who are lighting me up, they are supporting
0:51:12 my growth.
0:51:16 They’re supporting my journey and that next level version of who I am.
0:51:19 They don’t see it as, oh, you’re changing, right?
0:51:21 They see it as a positive.
0:51:23 And so those are luminaries.
0:51:29 But in contrast, and I call this luminaries, but there are people who they don’t want you
0:51:30 to change.
0:51:35 They’re afraid of you becoming something different because they’re clinging to the person that
0:51:36 you are.
0:51:40 But if you’re someone that loves growth, you need to be around people who are going to
0:51:41 support that growth.
0:51:47 And so luminaries, they might be negative, they might drain your energy.
0:51:50 There might be a trauma bond that actually brought you together.
0:51:56 There’s so many things that could be part of a gluminary relationship, but it’s important
0:51:58 for us to identify that.
0:52:00 And sometimes someone can be a luminary and then a gluminary.
0:52:05 I mean, we ourselves can do that as well to other people, but it’s important to acknowledge
0:52:11 it so that we can say, okay, this relationship might have helped me with this trigger or this
0:52:14 thing I was going through and we were trauma bonding in that moment.
0:52:22 But I’ve outgrown that now, and it’s okay to outgrow that relationship and to pursue
0:52:23 other relationships.
0:52:28 And it can be any kind of work, friendship, relationship, whatever.
0:52:33 I just found that when I upleveled my relationships, my life upleveled.
0:52:36 And so sometimes it wasn’t what I was doing that was holding me back.
0:52:39 It was the people and the environment that I was around.
0:52:44 Do you feel like there’s a way to transform somebody from a gluminary to a luminary?
0:52:48 Like if you just have a productive conversation like, hey, I don’t want to talk about what
0:52:49 happened anymore.
0:52:54 I don’t like talking about this topic, but I want to have a healthy relationship with
0:52:55 you.
0:52:57 Let’s just move forward with these boundaries or something.
0:52:58 Is there a way to do that?
0:53:00 I love that you said that.
0:53:01 Yes.
0:53:02 I’m so big on boundaries.
0:53:05 And I talk about boundaries in the book and you’re exactly right.
0:53:10 Communication is everything, but some people aren’t willing to truly communicate and meet
0:53:11 you at that level.
0:53:17 And so sure, if they are more negative in your life, but you want to keep them, you
0:53:22 love them, maybe their family, have those conversations, those tough conversations are
0:53:23 so important.
0:53:28 If they can meet you there and they can honor those boundaries, then that’s a positive.
0:53:30 Then you guys will be growing together.
0:53:34 But unfortunately, that’s not always the case.
0:53:37 And it’s important to identify that because that can hold you back.
0:53:40 A lot of the folks listening are entrepreneurs.
0:53:42 We all have competitors.
0:53:45 How should we think of our competition in a positive way?
0:53:51 I used to think of people as competitors and then somewhere down the road, I got creative
0:53:53 and I started seeing them as compelers.
0:53:59 So instead of looking at them and being envious about what they have or wanting to beat them
0:54:06 in some way, I started to see them as compelers, that they were showing me the potential of
0:54:10 where I could go and I started to look at them in an inspiring way.
0:54:14 And I think it’s so good to do that, especially today with social media.
0:54:18 We can constantly be scrolling and feeling negative emotions for hours, depending on
0:54:21 how long you might be doom scrolling.
0:54:25 But if you can look at the people you’re following and even if they’re further along than you
0:54:28 are, that’s potential of where you can be.
0:54:32 What anybody is doing, that’s something that you can do as well and you can be inspired
0:54:33 by them.
0:54:38 You can look at what they’re doing and say, wow, that’s something that eventually I could
0:54:39 have.
0:54:41 You could befriend them, whatever it might look like.
0:54:48 But turning the competition in a positive way as a compeler really has been effective
0:54:49 for me.
0:54:56 I no longer look at other businesses that might have the same model as me or other influencers
0:55:00 as a negative and I don’t feel envious.
0:55:04 I’m cheering for them and I’m excited for them and it’s like, wow, maybe I could do
0:55:05 that too.
0:55:06 Yeah.
0:55:07 I love that perspective.
0:55:10 I always say collaboration over competition.
0:55:12 I like to just collaborate with my competitors.
0:55:15 Everybody’s my competitor now is just in my podcast network.
0:55:16 Yeah.
0:55:17 Oh my gosh.
0:55:18 And we grow together.
0:55:19 Yeah.
0:55:20 I love that so much.
0:55:21 You have to turn it into a positive.
0:55:23 That’s where the world is evolving.
0:55:25 All right.
0:55:28 So Kristen, thank you so much for joining us on the podcast.
0:55:32 I end my show with two questions that I ask all of my guests.
0:55:37 The first one is, what is one actionable thing our young and profitors can do today to become
0:55:40 more profitable tomorrow?
0:55:43 Journal about your feelings around money.
0:55:48 I would make a lot of money in my early 20s and then I would lose it.
0:55:51 And I didn’t understand why because I was working so hard.
0:55:55 But what I found out is I was carrying limiting beliefs from my past, from the people that
0:55:58 I grew up around living in poverty.
0:56:00 And I was holding on to those and I didn’t realize.
0:56:04 And so I started to journal about how I felt about money.
0:56:08 And I realized I had a lot of negative beliefs around money.
0:56:12 And I spent years swapping those and thinking more positive.
0:56:17 And now the words like rich and wealth, that feels so good to me.
0:56:22 And my business is thriving because I attract it, I allow it to stick around and I feel
0:56:23 good about it.
0:56:24 I don’t feel bad.
0:56:26 And so that’s so important.
0:56:31 Often we are doing our best and our beliefs are holding us back.
0:56:33 I love that advice.
0:56:35 And what would you say your secret to profiting in life is?
0:56:40 And this couldn’t go beyond business, just like your secret to a successful thriving
0:56:41 life.
0:56:50 I think my secret to a successful thriving life is co-creating with, I call it God, but
0:56:55 you can call it universe or divine energy, co-creating with God, because that takes the
0:56:56 pressure off of me.
0:56:58 It’s not all up to me.
0:57:00 I don’t know everything.
0:57:03 I can’t do everything, but with God, I feel like I can.
0:57:07 And so I don’t overwork because of that anymore.
0:57:12 And I pursue the goals in my heart because I know that they’re there for a reason.
0:57:17 And I know that there’s an energy on the outside that’s helping them make them come true.
0:57:18 I love that.
0:57:23 It’s sort of like your alter ego persona, but an external one that’s helping you along
0:57:24 the way.
0:57:25 Yeah.
0:57:29 So, Kristen, where can everybody learn more about you and everything that you do?
0:57:35 Oh, thank you so much, positivechristin.com, or I love to go on Instagram.
0:57:39 I’m @positivechristin, and my brand is Power of Positivity.
0:57:43 You can follow us, and we love to help and inspire our community.
0:57:44 Awesome.
0:57:46 Thank you so much, Kristen.
0:57:47 Thank you so much.
0:57:48 This was amazing.
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0:57:54 Learning to take better care of ourselves
0:57:57 can be challenging for entrepreneurs.
0:58:00 We spend so much of our time looking after the needs
0:58:04 and interests of others, from our employees to our clients,
0:58:07 that like Kristen said, we can forget to fill our own cups.
0:58:10 Sometimes that means taking a day off
0:58:12 or going to the gym for an hour.
0:58:15 Sometimes it’s as simple as taking a moment to be thankful
0:58:18 for the things that you usually take for granted,
0:58:21 like contact lenses to help you see.
0:58:24 We also hear so much about how chasing challenges
0:58:26 and discomfort can help us grow,
0:58:27 that we forget that we can also grow
0:58:30 from a place of comfort and stability.
0:58:33 So if you’re suffering from stress, burnout or anxiety,
0:58:35 then perhaps it’s best to take a step back
0:58:38 and think about how you can expand your own comfort zone
0:58:40 instead of just trying to push yourself
0:58:42 over that next obstacle.
0:58:45 Kristen had some great pointers for how to do this,
0:58:47 including by bolstering your own sense of enjoyment
0:58:49 and security.
0:58:51 Create an enjoyment jar and fill it with activities
0:58:53 that you truly love.
0:58:56 Spend some time visualizing your ideal self
0:58:59 and give yourself a new name or persona if you want.
0:59:01 And finally, try collaborating
0:59:03 with your competition for a change.
0:59:07 You may find that you can grow in a positive way together.
0:59:09 I hope you’ve grown in a positive way
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