Author: The Tim Ferriss Show

  • #794: Brandon Sanderson on Building a Fiction Empire, Creating $40M+ Kickstarter Campaigns, Unbreakable Habits, The Art of World-Building, and The Science of Magic Systems

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    0:00:15 Hi boys and girls, ladies and germs. This is Tim Ferriss. Welcome to another episode of the Tim Ferriss show where it is my job every episode to deconstruct world class performers to figure out how they do what they do, what you can use, what you can emulate.
    0:00:24 And this episode ended up being a master class. I had so much fun with it. My guest who I have wanted to interview for years is Brandon Sanderson.
    0:00:39 He is the number one New York Times bestselling author of the Stormlight Archive series and the Mistborn Saga, the middle grade series Alcatraz versus the Evil Librarians, and the Young Adult novels, the Rhythmetist, the Reckoners trilogy, and the Skyward series.
    0:00:56 He has sold more than 40 million books in 35 languages. He has architected 40 million plus dollar Kickstarter campaigns, and he is a four time nominee for the Hugo Awards, winning in 2013 for his novella, The Emperor’s Soul.
    0:01:12 That same year, he was chosen to complete Robert Jordan’s The Wheel of Time series, which is a big, big deal culminating in a memory of light. Brandon co-hosts with fellow author Dan Wells, the popular intentionally blank podcast and teaches creative writing at Brangham Young University.
    0:01:32 We did this one in person, which made all the difference in Brandon’s massive cavernous offices right next to his warehouse. It was a hell of a ride and we covered a lot of ground and a lot of really nitty gritty tactical advice related to fiction, business,
    0:01:47 publishing, innovating across the board, how he architected his record breaking Kickstarter campaign, and much, much more. You can find him at brandonsanderson.com. That’s B-R-A-N-D-O-N Sanderson.com.
    0:02:00 And you can find him on X Instagram and YouTube at brandsanderson. That’s B-R-A-N-D Sanderson. And I definitely recommend checking out all of those. So we’re going to hop right into it, get into the meat and potatoes.
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    0:06:52 At this altitude, I can run flat out for a half mile before my hands start shaking.
    0:06:54 Can I answer your personal question?
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    0:07:01 I’m a cybernetic organism living this year over a metal endoskeleton.
    0:07:13 So, Brandon, just when we were doing soundcheck.
    0:07:14 Yes.
    0:07:15 What did you do?
    0:07:25 So, when I was in kindergarten, I was taught the state song. And I have a good friend, Mary Robinette. She worked in stage for a while.
    0:07:33 We did a podcast together when podcasts were brand new and she would always soundcheck by doing the Jabberwock poem, just this beautiful poetry.
    0:07:41 She had learned to memorize a poem so that they could get a soundcheck because people generally don’t talk enough for a soundcheck.
    0:07:45 And so, then they come to me and I’d be like, “I’m talking. I’m talking. You’ve seen it, the stuff that people do.”
    0:07:48 And they’re like, “Is that enough? Is that enough?” They’re like, “Still some more.”
    0:07:53 And you’re like, “Oh, I’m talking. I’m talking.” So, I thought, “I need a thing, but I don’t know any poetry.”
    0:07:58 But I do know what Ms. Succup taught me in kindergarten, which is the state song.
    0:08:03 And so, I just started listing off the states in alphabetical order, and it became a thing.
    0:08:06 So, now they soundcheck me off of the list of states.
    0:08:10 Yeah, you made it to New Mexico. I’m not sure I could make it past California without making a mistake.
    0:08:15 I still hear the song in my head, “Fifty Nifty, United States.”
    0:08:21 All right, well, let’s leap off of that. Do you have, would you say, in terms of superpowers, an unusual memory?
    0:08:26 Or is there something just to the rhythm and musicality of that that made it stick?
    0:08:33 No, I don’t think I have an unusual memory. I have an unusual one. I don’t have an uncommonly good one. How about that?
    0:08:40 My wife always jokes. I don’t forget a story, and that I don’t. I don’t tend to re-read books.
    0:08:44 I don’t tend to re-watch movies because I’ve seen it. I’ve read it.
    0:08:50 Twenty years or so, I’ll go back and re-watch something, but stories just stick with me.
    0:09:00 I can tell you about stories that I read when I was still a teenager, but I will forget where my keys are, right?
    0:09:04 And I will forget people’s names, and I will, all of that stuff.
    0:09:13 I joke that I’ve just got so much RAM, and I’ve filled it all with story ideas, and so everything else kind of just squeezed out the ears.
    0:09:21 Well, it seems like where we’re sitting, where we’re sitting at HQ, it seems like the design of Dragonsteel,
    0:09:25 maybe the intention behind it is to allow you to do that on some level.
    0:09:35 Yeah, yeah. I mean, everything in our company is built around let Brandon cook and take away from Brandon
    0:09:39 anything that he doesn’t have to think about, or, you know, doesn’t strictly need to.
    0:09:45 I actually think this is kind of a Tim Ferriss thing, right? Like my water bottle.
    0:09:48 I don’t have to worry about refilling it and having ice in the morning.
    0:09:53 I’ve set up a system where somebody does that, and I just pick it up and go.
    0:10:01 The more that I can keep out of my brain that I have to track the better because I am always constructing narrative.
    0:10:03 I’m always working on the story.
    0:10:09 Let’s give another example of productivity that I don’t want to say I vetoed, but it was a conversation before we started recording.
    0:10:14 How many books or book plates do you sign per year?
    0:10:21 So we need between 50,000 and 100,000 times my signature signed.
    0:10:26 The story is usually I’m sitting here and signing pages while I’m doing anything
    0:10:32 because if I have to sign my name 100,000 times, then, you know, I take up the empty space.
    0:10:40 Yeah. And we actually used to once upon a time, we would get the books, the full books, and I would sit and sign them.
    0:10:42 And that’s just a massive undertaking.
    0:10:46 We couldn’t do that anymore when it got over around 10,000.
    0:10:50 I’d actually listen to podcasts and go sit and sign books and sign books and sign books.
    0:10:55 Now we get the pages like the front page and we just give them to me in stacks.
    0:10:59 If anyone wants to see it, my podcast exists so that I can sign the pages.
    0:11:01 It’s the reverse, right?
    0:11:07 I started up because I need to sign these things and I’ll just sit and zip through them normally while I’m doing anything else.
    0:11:09 But today I wanted to give you my undivided attention.
    0:11:10 I appreciate that.
    0:11:13 And I’m going to have a lot of super fans of yours.
    0:11:23 I’m sure, wish and petition me that I would have asked a different set of questions, but I’m actually going to start with Seoul, Korea.
    0:11:34 Because as I mentioned, I was an East Asian Studies major, spent formative time, completely changed my life in Japan and other places, Taiwan, and mainly China also.
    0:11:37 Where does Seoul, Korea fit into your life?
    0:11:40 So I’m a member of the Church of Jesus Christ, Latter-day Saints.
    0:11:43 A lot of us go on two-year missions.
    0:11:44 It can be anywhere.
    0:11:45 It can be local.
    0:11:46 It can be overseas.
    0:11:48 I ended up going to Korea.
    0:11:51 I got the letter saying, “Hey, this is where we’d like you.”
    0:11:53 And I’m like, “Where’s Korea?”
    0:11:56 But I loved my time there.
    0:11:59 It was really formative for me in multiple ways.
    0:12:03 One of which is kind of more amusing.
    0:12:09 I was at the time a chemistry major in college and I was so happy to be on another continent from chemistry.
    0:12:15 I had those two years away to really kind of reassess my life and kind of grow up.
    0:12:22 And most people, when they grow up, they go away from the artistic pursuits because they don’t make a lot of sense.
    0:12:26 I grew up and came back and said, “I’m going to do this.
    0:12:28 I’m going to be a writer.”
    0:12:34 But living in another culture, living where you are a minority.
    0:12:38 Granted, a privileged minority still, but a minority living.
    0:12:43 And saying that the way that people’s language influences the way they think about the world,
    0:12:48 the way that their social mores impact their relationships with one another,
    0:12:55 and all of these things was extremely formative for me in understanding how to approach writing a fantastical culture.
    0:13:03 Just on a fundamental basis, getting rid of some of these ideas that the way that I do things is the only way to do things.
    0:13:08 The Korean language for people who haven’t been exposed, particularly the writing system.
    0:13:09 Yes.
    0:13:14 So if people want to learn to read Korean, you won’t be able to understand what you’re reading.
    0:13:17 But if you want to sound it out, you can learn it in a few hours.
    0:13:19 Yeah, we learned it in a few hours.
    0:13:20 Do you know the story?
    0:13:21 Tell the story.
    0:13:22 The story. You know the story.
    0:13:24 I do, but I think people will appreciate it.
    0:13:27 This is obviously mythologized, right?
    0:13:33 But King Sejong, so King Sejong, he’s the guy on the essentially the $10 bill in Korea.
    0:13:35 He is there, George Washington.
    0:13:37 And Sejong, the great.
    0:13:42 And what happens, Chinese is a really fascinating writing system, right?
    0:13:47 Because it’s logographic, which means that anyone can read a Chinese character.
    0:13:49 It’s more of a hieroglyph than it is.
    0:13:51 You can’t sound it out, right?
    0:13:56 Because anyone can read it, it transcends language in a lot of ways.
    0:13:59 You can see the symbol for person and know it means person.
    0:14:05 Whether you speak Mongolian or whether you speak Thai or whether you speak Japanese or Korean or Chinese.
    0:14:08 So it makes it a great kind of language for trade.
    0:14:13 But it also is extremely hard to learn because every concept must have essentially its own letter.
    0:14:20 And so to be fluent in reading it, you need to learn 2000 to 3000 letters.
    0:14:26 And so it was a really bad system for a common people to learn how to read.
    0:14:30 And King Sejong was like, my people are illiterate.
    0:14:32 They can’t learn Chinese.
    0:14:35 We must have our own writing system that you can sound out.
    0:14:45 You sound out Korean and he gathered his scholars and the story as they together created the system that would be have no deviations.
    0:14:50 It read like it sounded and they designed it based on the movements of the mouth you make.
    0:14:56 And then King Sejong loved it so much he wrote it on little leaves and then spread it out.
    0:15:01 Because the upper class did not want people to learn how to read and they were very against it.
    0:15:03 They’re like, oh, we don’t want the commoners to read.
    0:15:04 That’s for us.
    0:15:09 They, you know, passing the tests and Chinese was a big, you know, Latin for the high priesthood.
    0:15:18 And so Sejong wrote it on a letter and it blew through Korea and the people picked it up and it was so divinely inspired that they intrinsically knew how to read Korean.
    0:15:25 And he frustrated the attempts of the nobles from keeping people to read by giving it to people written on leaves.
    0:15:26 It’s so delightful.
    0:15:28 It is an amazing, amazing mythology story.
    0:15:32 And the Korean people are very proud of this writing system for good reason.
    0:15:35 I encourage everybody to just take a few hours.
    0:15:41 I think there’s even a comic book called How to Learn to Read Korean in 15 Minutes or something like that.
    0:15:42 Slight exaggeration.
    0:15:43 It’s going to take you more than 15 minutes.
    0:15:44 Yeah.
    0:15:47 But in 60 minutes, you could definitely get the basics and figure it out.
    0:15:52 Definitely gives you a false sense of your own skill when you learn it.
    0:15:53 You’re like, wow, I’m reading.
    0:15:56 And they’re like, all right, now the actual language, what these things mean.
    0:16:07 And good news, if you do learn some Korean, you can hop reasonably easily to Japanese and in some cases to Chinese as well.
    0:16:13 So you might have Jeong Hwang for telephone, then Dian Hwang in Chinese Mandarin, and then Daewang in Japanese.
    0:16:15 So there’s a lot of overlap.
    0:16:23 Or like if you want to say, “Tan-san-su juseyo” in Korean.
    0:16:27 So anyway, if you get one, then it’s a good branch off to other things.
    0:16:32 All right, I’m going to cut my linguistics nerding short.
    0:16:33 You need to create a conlang.
    0:16:34 Have you ever done it?
    0:16:36 Oh, I have actually.
    0:16:38 So you should explain what that means.
    0:16:42 But I have actually spent some time on it.
    0:16:48 And I owe you a huge debt of gratitude because I listened to probably 40 episodes of writing excuses.
    0:16:49 Oh, did you?
    0:16:55 And then I was working on my first real attempt at fantasy world building a few years ago.
    0:16:59 And I wanted to incorporate language as a core piece of it.
    0:17:04 And I spent a lot of time also looking at Tolkien’s work with languages.
    0:17:05 He’s the master.
    0:17:07 Yeah, unbelievably complex.
    0:17:23 And I also, at one point, this is actually from my third book, reached out to the gentleman who designed the Navi language in Avatar, which in very partial measure stemmed from some of his exposure to some of these East Asian languages as well.
    0:17:30 But okay, so how would you approach and how do you think about language construction?
    0:17:32 Are you sure we’re not getting too nerdy for your audience?
    0:17:33 This is super nerdy.
    0:17:36 Yeah, folks, look, we’re about to go really deep in the nerd pool.
    0:17:41 So if you want to skip ahead five minutes, that’s fine, but I’d encourage you to stick around.
    0:17:44 A con leg is a constructed language.
    0:17:50 Most people know of Klingon and Elvish and George Martin has one and the Navi you mentioned.
    0:17:52 These are just invented languages.
    0:17:57 There’s only one that’s in wide use or wide quote unquote Esperanto.
    0:18:05 You could almost say that Korean is a bit one because it was actively designed rather than growing organically.
    0:18:08 But I think it’s hovering in this in between space.
    0:18:09 So how do I approach it?
    0:18:18 I look at what Tolkien did and I say, wow, he basically wrote Lord of the Rings because he had these cool languages he was designing.
    0:18:20 He wanted a place to use them, right?
    0:18:21 Including crazy scripts.
    0:18:22 Yeah.
    0:18:26 And I said, I don’t have 20 years to do that like Grandpa Tolkien.
    0:18:28 I’m really a narrative guy.
    0:18:31 I really focus on what makes a narrative work.
    0:18:32 I’m going to break it down.
    0:18:36 People think of me as the world building guy, but I’m not.
    0:18:39 That’s certainly the thing I’ve used as my branding and marketing.
    0:18:43 It’s the way that I’ve used to make myself easily recommendable and distinctive.
    0:18:46 But what I spend most of my time on is narrative.
    0:18:56 And so when I look at the language, I’m like, I want to have something that is relevant, that works, but I don’t want to spend 20 years.
    0:19:03 And so I usually come up with a few interesting rules that I’ve come up with through my knowledge of linguistics.
    0:19:05 And I say, follow these rules.
    0:19:08 Whenever you need a word, go back to these rules and build it.
    0:19:09 Don’t write out the whole language.
    0:19:12 Don’t come out with how you would say every sentence.
    0:19:18 Each time you need something, go to the rules, build it up from the fundamentals, and it will all eventually then work.
    0:19:26 But it means I end a book with 50 words and maybe a little bit of grammatical structure, not with an entire language that you could speak.
    0:19:32 This I ran into, which is part of the reason why I was revisiting my email changes with the person who created Navi,
    0:19:40 because I had something like eight greater houses in this fancy world that I was creating for my own entertainment more than anything else.
    0:19:42 It’s just an itch, I really want to scratch.
    0:19:53 And the extent to which I developed languages was really just for a few exclamations, a few songs, very short, not Tolkien, like 20 minutes on audiobook.
    0:20:00 And I loved it, but I recognized how you could really trap yourself in quicksand if you tried to get too ambitious.
    0:20:05 We call it world builders disease, which sometimes you want to give yourself, it’s fun.
    0:20:15 But if you spend 20 years world building every book in today’s market, you’re probably not going to have a career as a professional writer.
    0:20:22 You might, you might get lucky and write that one book that’ll sell millions of copies and make it so you can live off of just that income.
    0:20:24 Most of us, it takes a lot more effort.
    0:20:32 And we learn to world build in service of story rather than write stories in service of world building, but everybody gets to do what they want.
    0:20:34 You scratch your itch, how you want to scratch it.
    0:20:40 We’re going to talk about putting in the effort and No Man’s Land perhaps is one way that we could put it.
    0:20:47 But I want to ask first about David Farland, if I’m pronouncing your name correctly.
    0:20:55 So as an undergrad, at least based on research I did, you took a creative writing class with David Farland or a writing class.
    0:21:03 How did that affect you and what lessons might you have grabbed onto that have stuck with you in any way?
    0:21:09 Yeah, so I came back from Korea sophomore year of college and I’m like, I’m young, I’m stupid.
    0:21:12 Now is the time to try to be a writer, right?
    0:21:14 This is what I really want to do.
    0:21:18 And I suspect we’ll get into later why I really want to do that and things like that.
    0:21:22 But it changed my major to English because I thought that’s what you had to do.
    0:21:26 Later found out Stephen King and others recommend you major in anything but English.
    0:21:35 The reasoning being that you should study something that you’re fascinated by and then use that to inform your writing, which is generally pretty good advice.
    0:21:37 I do recommend that.
    0:21:42 The cheat code is if you major in English, you can use your writing as your homework.
    0:21:45 The assignments you can double use your time.
    0:21:48 A lot of times you can be practicing your writing but also turn it in.
    0:21:51 And so it’s a little easier in some ways.
    0:21:57 Changed my major to English and I took a whole bunch of classes from a whole bunch of professors whom they’re dear to me.
    0:21:59 I love them.
    0:22:04 Most of them have retired by now or passed on but they knew nothing about publishing.
    0:22:06 This is just very common in the arts, right?
    0:22:15 They’ll talk about how to express yourself as a writer but they won’t talk about how do you construct a sympathetic character.
    0:22:17 Never heard those terms.
    0:22:26 They’ll tell you about how to get into a MFA program but they won’t tell you how to get a publishing deal because none of them have done it.
    0:22:36 And so again, they did teach me some valuable things but my senior year after going through a bunch of these workshops is what we call it, writing workshops.
    0:22:43 I heard that there was a writer coming in who actually had published something and he was teaching the low level, 200 level class.
    0:22:47 And then I was in taking the graduate courses even though I wasn’t a graduate yet.
    0:22:51 And I’m like, “I should probably take this class even though it’s kind of a step backward.
    0:22:58 It won’t fulfill any of my credit requirements but I’m at college to learn not to check some boxes off of a list.”
    0:23:01 And so I took his class and it was revolutionary to me.
    0:23:04 He sat down like the first few days.
    0:23:07 He’s like, “All right, here’s how you actually construct a narrative.
    0:23:08 Here’s what works.
    0:23:09 Here’s what doesn’t work.
    0:23:10 Here are tools.”
    0:23:17 I was kind of focused and it became my focus in teaching on here’s a toolbox because not every tool works for every writer.
    0:23:22 In fact, you’re generally going to gravitate toward one or two and the rest you’ll find useless.
    0:23:27 And he took that toolbox approach and he said, “Some writers do it this way, some writers do it that way.
    0:23:28 Try this.
    0:23:29 Here’s something to do.”
    0:23:35 And then he talked about publishing in this way that was mind blowing because that was the big thing for me.
    0:23:36 Was hearing someone say–
    0:23:37 Kind of the black box.
    0:23:38 Yeah.
    0:23:39 Here’s my publishing contract.
    0:23:41 He said, “He passed it around.
    0:23:42 Here’s my latest contract.
    0:23:43 Have a look at it.
    0:23:44 Ask questions.”
    0:23:47 And here’s how you go about getting one of these.
    0:23:52 And I took his advice back in the early 2000s.
    0:23:55 Publishing in sci-fi fantasy was still very networking focused.
    0:23:59 It’s actually moved away from that for various reasons.
    0:24:12 But back then, the best way to break in was to go to the conventions, get into the parties, meet the editors, and start chatting with them and start listening to what they were actually interested in.
    0:24:17 The magic question was, what are you working on right now that you’re really excited by?
    0:24:21 Because this lets you learn the personalities of the various editors.
    0:24:30 It’s not networking in that none of them knew who I was, but it’s networking in that hearing from them directly what they were buying and why.
    0:24:37 Then you could go to these 50 editors and say, “All right, these five really seem like they would like my work.”
    0:24:41 Instead of sending to all 50, I target those five.
    0:24:42 I met them at a party.
    0:24:43 I say, “Hey, I met you.
    0:24:45 Sound like we hit it off.
    0:24:47 You mentioned that I could send you my work.
    0:24:48 Here it is.”
    0:24:54 That’s what got me an agent and an editor was doing that, just kind of the Dave Farland method of breaking in.
    0:24:56 I was the last generation that worked for.
    0:24:58 It really doesn’t work anymore.
    0:25:02 Everyone jokes that in publishing, no one actually wants to publish in the authors.
    0:25:04 No one wants to actually do any work.
    0:25:09 So anytime someone sneaks in, they’re like, “Oh, how did you get into publishing?
    0:25:10 Oh, really?”
    0:25:13 And then they close that door so that no one else can get in.
    0:25:19 We all joke about things like that. It’s not actually true. Everyone actually wants to find great authors and great work.
    0:25:26 But the industry changes quickly enough that what works for one generation by the time they’ve broken in, the industry’s changed.
    0:25:27 It just doesn’t work.
    0:25:32 So I’m going to come back to the agent and I’ll just plant the seed.
    0:25:35 I’m going to ask how much writing you did before that happened.
    0:25:41 But before we get to that, I want to ask, are you still teaching the creative writing class at BYU?
    0:25:42 I am.
    0:25:43 Bring me on university.
    0:25:45 What is the first class?
    0:25:46 First class.
    0:25:49 So first class is some things I just told you.
    0:25:54 I get up and I say to them, actually the very first thing is I say to them,
    0:25:59 “During this class, we’re going to pretend you want to be a professional writing writer,
    0:26:04 earning a full-time living from your writing in the next 10 years.”
    0:26:10 That we’re going to pretend because most of you, that’s probably not whether there, right?
    0:26:12 Most of them, they’re just curious.
    0:26:14 They may have a book of them.
    0:26:19 And we have this curious relationship with art in our society.
    0:26:24 It is, as soon as you say, “I’m going to write something,” people are like, “Oh, when will you monetize it?
    0:26:26 When will you earn money from it?”
    0:26:29 And that can be kind of destructive, right?
    0:26:33 Like you mentioned, you’re writing a book or you wrote one just because it was an itch.
    0:26:34 You enjoyed it.
    0:26:37 I think writing is legitimately just good for people.
    0:26:42 And the same way that working out is good for people, learning to write a narrative
    0:26:46 and get those thoughts out of your head and page, just innately good.
    0:26:51 Most people, when they go play basketball, pretty if they look like me,
    0:26:54 people aren’t going to be like, “So when are you going into the NBA?”
    0:26:55 Yeah, right.
    0:26:58 But if you write a book, people will say, “So when are you going to publish it?”
    0:27:02 And I say to the students, “It’s okay if that’s not your goal.
    0:27:06 If you want to write just for you, if you want to be on the I spent 20 years
    0:27:09 and then produce one book, route, totally fine.
    0:27:14 However, I want you to know everything you would need to shoot for the highest level,
    0:27:17 which is earning a full-time living as a writer.
    0:27:19 And everything else falls underneath that.
    0:27:23 So during the class, we pretend that that’s your goal.
    0:27:26 Once you walk out of it, you can make your own goals, whatever they are.
    0:27:29 But while we’re there, we pretend that.
    0:27:33 And then the second thing I say is, you’re going to have to learn when to ignore me.
    0:27:37 And that is really hard to do because I’m an authority.
    0:27:38 I’m up there.
    0:27:43 Survivorship bias says, “Who knows what I actually say is going to be relevant?”
    0:27:49 Some of it, hopefully, but I can’t really determine what really played a part in me
    0:27:50 being successful and what didn’t.
    0:27:51 Sure, of course.
    0:27:55 And I want to approach it as a toolbox, giving people all of these various tools.
    0:27:58 Some of them are, sure, contradictory, self-contradictory.
    0:28:02 I can give you examples of that if you want, but you can’t use them all.
    0:28:07 So you’re going to have to ignore some of the advice of major authors.
    0:28:09 Some of the things that Stephen King tells you will be wrong.
    0:28:14 Some of the things for you, some of the things that I tell you will be wrong for you.
    0:28:16 You have to find your own way.
    0:28:19 And so I kind of start off with, I’m going to pretend you want to be a professional writer
    0:28:23 and then follow it up with, but learn when to ignore me.
    0:28:28 What are some of the contradictory tools or approaches in the toolkit?
    0:28:34 The one I generally use as my prime example is when I was studying this before I broke in,
    0:28:37 two authors that I admired, I read their books.
    0:28:42 I read Odd Writing by Stephen King and How to Write Syphine Fantasy by Orson Scott Card.
    0:28:48 And I read these books, and I honestly can’t tell you 100% if it was in those exact books
    0:28:50 or other writings of theirs on their websites and things.
    0:28:55 But Stephen King at one point said, “Do not make an outline.
    0:28:57 Do not use a writing group.
    0:28:59 These will destroy your writing.”
    0:29:02 And Scott Card is like, “I need an outline.
    0:29:07 It is fundamentally vital for me in order to build my book.”
    0:29:13 Now, Stephen King is what we generally call, these are George R. R. Martin’s terms.
    0:29:16 He’s wonderful the way he speaks about fiction.
    0:29:19 If you’re really interested, anything George says is golden.
    0:29:20 He calls them gardeners.
    0:29:22 Stephen King is a gardener.
    0:29:28 For Stephen King, exploring and discovering his story is the thing that makes him excited.
    0:29:29 He wants to take a seed.
    0:29:34 He’ll often say, “I take two really interesting characters and I put them in conflict
    0:29:38 and have something go wrong and I see where the story goes and I just write.”
    0:29:43 And he says that if he has an outline, he feels like he’s already done that process in the outline.
    0:29:46 So when he sits down to write the book, he has no motivation.
    0:29:49 He’s not exploring and discovering anymore.
    0:29:51 The other group we call architects.
    0:29:57 Architects like to build a structure and then kind of go and take this little piece
    0:30:00 and then polish that little piece and see where it goes
    0:30:03 and then take the next piece that they’ve already built as part of their structure
    0:30:05 and build a story around that.
    0:30:08 And most people are somewhere in between these two extremes,
    0:30:12 but those were two extremes where I realized I can’t do both of these.
    0:30:15 I can’t both not have an outline and have an outline.
    0:30:22 I can have a hybrid approach, but if you try to take both of their advice equally weighted,
    0:30:24 then you’re going to get nowhere.
    0:30:26 You can try both methods in different ways.
    0:30:30 You can try some hybrids, but a lot of things you’ll learn in writing.
    0:30:34 You kind of have to choose one or the other and try it out and see how it works for you.
    0:30:40 What are some of the assignments that have most resonated with students
    0:30:45 or you think best served them even though they might not recognize it?
    0:30:51 What I generally do is I follow a focus on habits approach.
    0:30:55 Instead of giving them specific writing exercises,
    0:30:58 if someone comes up to me and says, “I’m having trouble with X,”
    0:31:00 I’ll give them a writing exercise to work with that.
    0:31:04 If someone comes up to me and says, “I am having a lot of trouble
    0:31:08 going back and revising my chapters over and over again,” instead of writing the next one,
    0:31:11 I’ll say, “Okay, try writing longhand.”
    0:31:13 This works for some people.
    0:31:16 You go, you take a page of paper, you write it longhand and you tell yourself,
    0:31:19 “It doesn’t have to be perfect until I put it into the computer,”
    0:31:25 and you start each day taking what you wrote before and putting it into the computer
    0:31:28 and then leave it alone and write your next chapter longhand
    0:31:32 and then use that process to kind of get yourself back into the writing,
    0:31:34 but then forcing yourself to do something new.
    0:31:36 That works for some people.
    0:31:38 If people are having trouble with dialogue,
    0:31:43 I say, “All right, go do the exercise where you sit and listen to people on campus,”
    0:31:48 and you just write down exactly what they say, exactly as it’s said,
    0:31:53 and then take it and try to write it under different styles of dialogue.
    0:31:56 If you’re writing like Soderbergh, how would you do it?
    0:31:58 Pick some of your favorite people.
    0:32:03 Go watch their movies, write down the dialogue and compare that to the real life
    0:32:07 and just kind of figure out what kind of dialogue you like to do.
    0:32:12 Those are exercises, but in general, I’m only doing that when I’m diagnosing a problem.
    0:32:18 For the class, I’m saying your job, if you want to, try to be a professional writer.
    0:32:21 You’re going to have to write consistently.
    0:32:26 Nine out of 10 writers that I’ve found do better with consistency.
    0:32:28 One out of 10 is a binge writer.
    0:32:32 I don’t understand binge writers as well, but I can talk about that.
    0:32:36 Those are the people who go rent a cabin, take two months,
    0:32:41 walk in without a book, come out with a book, and then they don’t write for 10 months.
    0:32:47 Most people are better served by writing a certain amount every day really consistently,
    0:32:54 or at least two or three times a week, and building a novel out of good habits.
    0:32:55 I focus on that.
    0:33:01 I’m like, break it down, set a goal, have a spreadsheet, and try to hit your word counts,
    0:33:03 or at least your hour counts.
    0:33:07 If you’re having trouble doing this, go to a specific place every day that you do this
    0:33:08 that you don’t do a lot of other things.
    0:33:09 Go to the coffee shop.
    0:33:11 Go to a certain room in the house.
    0:33:13 Turn on certain music that you only turn on when you’re writing.
    0:33:17 Build that habit so that you are very consistent.
    0:33:19 Batch your writing time.
    0:33:23 If there’s something you already do every day, if you already have built a habit to go to the gym,
    0:33:29 then try to align your life so that you go to the gym and then have an hour to write.
    0:33:31 Think about where you’re going to write at the gym.
    0:33:36 Sit and write for an hour so that you are adding on to a habit that you’ve already built.
    0:33:39 And that’s my focus in the class is really be consistent.
    0:33:40 See if you can write.
    0:33:43 The goal is in the class to write 35,000 words.
    0:33:46 Class is around a third of the year.
    0:33:51 If you do that all year, you will end up with 100,000 words, which is your average novel.
    0:33:57 How many just for people listening who aren’t in the writing biz or the writing habit,
    0:34:02 100,000 words in a typical trade paper bag or it could be a hardcover.
    0:34:04 How many pages is that 300?
    0:34:06 Yeah, 350.
    0:34:14 Like the way of Kings is 400,000 words and we kind of cram stuff in there and we get to a thousand pages on that.
    0:34:16 So you can kind of run that.
    0:34:17 It’s a fourth of a thousand pages.
    0:34:18 So it’d be 250.
    0:34:20 But here’s the thing.
    0:34:22 We use dirty tricks in publishing.
    0:34:25 If you’re reading a thriller or a young adult book,
    0:34:30 what they’ll do is they’ll put a lot fewer words on a page because they want to increase the pacing.
    0:34:32 They want to make it feel like you’re just zipping through.
    0:34:33 It’s a page turner, right?
    0:34:38 So they’re going to want, you know, 50% fewer words on every page.
    0:34:42 So that kid picking up that book that’s a reluctant reader is like, wow, this one’s really fast.
    0:34:45 I don’t have space for that in my big fantasies.
    0:34:47 I push the limits of what can be bound.
    0:34:51 And beyond that, we’re not expecting you to read this book in one sitting.
    0:34:56 So we can put more on a page that makes it feel dense and thick and meaty,
    0:35:00 which can be really enjoyable if you want to dig into a new world and things like that.
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    0:36:39 How many words per year on average would you say you put down?
    0:36:43 My goal is 2,000 to 2,500 words a day.
    0:36:51 So, you know, whatever, 10 pages to 20 pages is what I’m looking at.
    0:36:52 Depends.
    0:36:58 I mean, I write in the old-school manuscript format where everything’s 12-pointed and courier.
    0:37:05 And it’s a holdover from the days when certain typesetting things are done that are too nerdy perhaps to talk about here.
    0:37:09 But I think in words, so I do 2,500.
    0:37:10 Those are new words.
    0:37:11 Those are new words.
    0:37:15 Now, when I’m doing revisions, I’m not writing new words.
    0:37:20 And I would say around a third of my time is spent on revisions depending on the year.
    0:37:21 And this is the thing.
    0:37:23 Some years, I’ll do a lot of words.
    0:37:25 Some years, I do a lot more revisions.
    0:37:26 It really depends.
    0:37:34 But if we’re looking at 2,000 words a week times 50 weeks, like that can produce quite a lot of words, right?
    0:37:38 20, so 10,000 words a week is what that would turn into.
    0:37:41 That’s 500,000 words a year, right?
    0:37:44 Is what I could theoretically produce.
    0:37:47 Now, third of my time is done to revisions.
    0:37:51 So, really, I’m looking at around 300,000 words.
    0:37:57 A Stormlight Archive book is 18 months of work for that reason and things like that.
    0:37:58 All right.
    0:38:01 We might come back to that and the revision process.
    0:38:08 But just as promised to hop back and forth between past and present tense, why did you want to become a writer?
    0:38:10 So, this is a fun story.
    0:38:20 I was not a writer or a reader when I was young, which is I found pretty odd for people who are published novelists.
    0:38:25 A lot of my friends, I’ll talk to them and be like, yeah, I published my first thing when I was two, right?
    0:38:32 I came out of the womb with a poem ready to go in my student newspaper and things like that.
    0:38:39 Me, I did read when I was very young and about fourth or fifth grade, I fell out of it.
    0:38:49 And this is the era where I lived in Nebraska and there were certain books that people just really like to read in Nebraska.
    0:38:56 And they usually involved young people on farms, sometimes living in the wilderness on their own, sometimes on a ranch.
    0:38:59 They had pet dogs and the pet dogs died.
    0:39:06 And I got like three of those in a row where I’m like, I don’t even have a dog, but I’m tired of the dog dying.
    0:39:09 I know what it’s like to be a kid.
    0:39:13 Like I don’t live on a farm, but my grandparents were all farmers, right?
    0:39:16 And I live behind a farm.
    0:39:27 I was in Lincoln. It’s mostly urban, but mostly urban in that Midwest way where you’re in the capital city in a brand new kind of high cost development.
    0:39:30 But there’s a cornfield in your backyard. That’s just Nebraska, right?
    0:39:32 That’s just how we roll.
    0:39:34 And so I knew all of that.
    0:39:36 I was not interested in it.
    0:39:38 And so I fell out of reading.
    0:39:39 Eighth grade rolls around.
    0:39:40 I have a teacher, Ms. Reader.
    0:39:41 She doesn’t remember me.
    0:39:42 Ms. Reader.
    0:39:43 Ms. Reader.
    0:39:44 How appropriate.
    0:39:45 Yeah, Ms. Reader.
    0:39:47 She wanted to be a professor at UC Irvine.
    0:39:55 So if anyone had a professor reader at UC Irvine, this was the same person, but Ms. Reader, she was my eighth grade English teacher.
    0:40:00 And I probably shouldn’t admit this, but I cheated on a book report with her.
    0:40:06 If you’re a smart kid, you realized that the back of the book, even before the internet, basically tells you the entire plot.
    0:40:10 And then you can read the last chapter and you’ll know the whole plot of the book.
    0:40:13 So it’s like book report, write a summary and why you liked it.
    0:40:16 And I read the back of the book, the last chapter and turned it in.
    0:40:19 And I made some mistakes and she picked me out.
    0:40:21 She sat me down and she was actually very good.
    0:40:24 She’s like, something’s not clicking with you with books.
    0:40:26 And I’m like, no, they really aren’t.
    0:40:32 She’s like, so for your next book report, I just want you to read one of these books on my rack here.
    0:40:35 These are my favorite books that I have for kids to read.
    0:40:38 I just want you to actually read it and you can talk to me about it.
    0:40:40 And I kind of, I don’t like books.
    0:40:42 She’s like, well, just try something different.
    0:40:48 So I went to the rack and I always joke it’s like, you can tell the paperbacks have been read by a hundred students, right?
    0:40:51 They got spaghetti stains on them and things like that.
    0:40:57 It’s just, and I looked leaf through and I arrived on this book called “Dragon Spain” by Barbara Hamley.
    0:41:00 And it really was the cover, cover illustrator is Michael Whalen.
    0:41:05 I would eventually, he’s the illustrator who did the “Away of Kings” in the Stormlight Archive for me.
    0:41:06 I eventually got him.
    0:41:08 He just retired.
    0:41:09 He did.
    0:41:13 The last cover was the fifth book of the Stormlight Archive and he’s retired, but he’s done that before.
    0:41:14 So he might be back.
    0:41:22 He pulls a Miyazaki sometimes and pops in and out or a Michael Jordan, depending on the field you’re talking about.
    0:41:29 But regardless, I picked up this book and, you know, it had cool dragon on the cover.
    0:41:31 It was all misty and kind of awesome looking.
    0:41:33 It had a cute girl on the cover.
    0:41:36 It’s like, “Hey, I’m 14. Maybe this will work.”
    0:41:37 And I take this book.
    0:41:40 Now, this book should not have worked.
    0:41:42 This book absolutely should not have.
    0:41:44 Like, what do you want to give a reluctant reader?
    0:41:50 You usually want to give them a book about someone their age, usually very similar to them.
    0:41:54 A reluctant reader, if it’s a young man, you hand him Harry Potter, right?
    0:41:58 This is a book about a middle-aged woman going through a midlife crisis.
    0:42:04 The story is that there’s a dragon who’s come to, you know, destroy the kingdom.
    0:42:08 The last living person who’s killed a dragon is this guy and they go hunting him.
    0:42:12 And he lives up in the north because he’s now middle-aged with a family.
    0:42:15 And he’s like, “I killed a dragon when I was in my 20s.
    0:42:17 I don’t do that anymore.
    0:42:18 I’m an old dude now.”
    0:42:20 And they’re like, “You’re the only one who’s ever done it.”
    0:42:24 And so he goes to his wife and he’s like, “I guess I got to go kill this dragon.
    0:42:25 We got to figure out how to do this.”
    0:42:29 And it’s told from her perspective as they go down and try to figure out how to kill a dragon
    0:42:33 as middle-aged people and be smart about it rather than charging you with a sword.
    0:42:40 And her story is she has been told by her teacher she could be the greatest wizard ever.
    0:42:42 She’s got a raw natural talent.
    0:42:47 But she has divided her time between studying and having a family.
    0:42:51 And her teacher’s like, “You really should give up that family stuff.
    0:42:54 Just really focus on your magic.”
    0:42:56 But you know, this is her crisis.
    0:43:00 And through going down, she kind of learns about the dragon magic
    0:43:04 and she starts to get really into that and not to give spoilers,
    0:43:09 but there’s an opportunity for her to just go and become what she’d always dreamed.
    0:43:13 And her crisis is, “Do I go do this right now or do I not?”
    0:43:15 And I’m reading this book and it’s really cool.
    0:43:16 It’s inventive.
    0:43:23 And I realize at some point, my mother, she graduated first in her class
    0:43:28 in accounting in a year where she was the only woman in most of her accounting classes, right?
    0:43:34 She had been offered a really prestigious scholarship to go get her CPA.
    0:43:36 And she had decided not to.
    0:43:41 She decided that she wanted to be home with young kids when she had young kids,
    0:43:45 which I do not think is a decision anyone should make for you,
    0:43:47 but it’s a decision she made for herself.
    0:43:51 She later, after having kids, went on and had a really great career as an accountant,
    0:43:57 but she gave up some really important things that as I’m reading this book,
    0:43:59 I had always heard these stories.
    0:44:00 You know, she would tell them.
    0:44:02 She wants us to know that she…
    0:44:05 And I always thought, “Of course you did, mom.
    0:44:06 Look at me.
    0:44:08 I’m great.
    0:44:10 This is what you should have done.”
    0:44:13 I’m reading this book and I’m like, “Ditch the kids.
    0:44:14 Go be a wizard.
    0:44:16 Wizarding is awesome.
    0:44:18 The kids will get along.
    0:44:19 They’ll figure it out.”
    0:44:22 And I get done with this book.
    0:44:27 And on one hand, it’s kind of a silly book about wizards and dragons, right?
    0:44:31 And I get done with this book and I understand my mom better.
    0:44:36 And this book built empathy in me for someone that, you know,
    0:44:38 I’m a 14-year-old boy.
    0:44:42 I’m understanding a middle-aged woman in ways I’d never been able to before
    0:44:44 and I’d had fun while doing it.
    0:44:46 And there was a magic to that.
    0:44:50 And I don’t use that word lightly as a storyteller, as a writer of fantasy.
    0:44:55 There was a magic to that author being able to convey a life experience
    0:44:59 of someone that just entered my brain and has never left.
    0:45:03 And I said, “Just like if you went and saw a magic trick,
    0:45:05 you’re an analytical person.
    0:45:07 You probably want to say, ‘How did they do it?
    0:45:09 How did they vanish that thing?
    0:45:11 What type of mirrors did they use?’
    0:45:14 I read this and said, ‘I need to know how this is done.
    0:45:15 I have to know.’
    0:45:17 And I just started reading voraciously.
    0:45:19 I went to the card catalog because I’m old.
    0:45:21 I’m even older than you.
    0:45:22 Oh, I remember those card catalogs.
    0:45:23 Yeah.
    0:45:26 And I went and got the next book in line, just alphabetical,
    0:45:27 because it started with dragon.
    0:45:28 And I read everything.
    0:45:32 It had dragons in it in the school library just to figure it out.
    0:45:35 And, you know, something changed in me that day.
    0:45:38 I went from a C student to an A student over summer.
    0:45:41 C’s in eighth grade, A’s in ninth grade.
    0:45:43 Why that changed?
    0:45:46 Because I discovered stories about wizards.
    0:45:49 I discovered there was something I wanted to do, right?
    0:45:52 There was now a reason to get good grades.
    0:45:57 I was in Nebraska and UNL is good for some things.
    0:46:00 I later learned that it actually has a decent writing program,
    0:46:06 but I wanted a good education and I wanted to go to BYU
    0:46:07 where my parents had gone.
    0:46:10 And I realized I probably wouldn’t get into BYU.
    0:46:13 Because the private school, you do have to have, you know,
    0:46:17 better grades than C’s generally to make it into some of these schools.
    0:46:19 And so suddenly I had a reason.
    0:46:21 Like, well, I want to go to a better school.
    0:46:22 Again, I was dumb.
    0:46:24 UNL is actually a really good school.
    0:46:27 But as a kid, I’m like, I need to get into this school.
    0:46:29 And so my grades went up.
    0:46:30 Like, I need to be a writer.
    0:46:31 I need a degree.
    0:46:32 I need to learn about this.
    0:46:34 Therefore, I’m going to have to go to college.
    0:46:36 Therefore, I’m going to have to learn to learn,
    0:46:38 because otherwise I won’t figure out how to do this.
    0:46:42 And having a purpose, having a reason to do well,
    0:46:44 changed my entire outlook.
    0:46:47 And I was not Valovictorian.
    0:46:49 I was one grade off of it,
    0:46:51 because I took a semester and moved to France
    0:46:53 that tanked my grades.
    0:46:55 It wasn’t a full semester, about half a semester.
    0:46:58 But I never caught up on all the stuff that I needed to do.
    0:47:00 So I got a B+ in one class.
    0:47:01 But it was totally worth it.
    0:47:02 Go live in France.
    0:47:04 How did you decide to go to France?
    0:47:09 I took four years of French, and my teacher in French
    0:47:12 was the best teacher I had, Ms. Dress.
    0:47:14 And when you have good teachers,
    0:47:17 it changes your passion for a class, right?
    0:47:18 Completely.
    0:47:20 You know, I wouldn’t have picked French as my favorite subject,
    0:47:22 but it was my favorite class.
    0:47:24 And so I had three years of that.
    0:47:27 And she said, hey, I’m taking a study abroad to Paris.
    0:47:30 You’re going to have to miss half a semester.
    0:47:31 You’ll have to do makeup work,
    0:47:34 but we’ll live in Paris and go visit all the sites
    0:47:35 and go to all the museums.
    0:47:36 And I’m like, I am in.
    0:47:39 You’re so passionate about your trips to Paris.
    0:47:40 And it was so wonderful.
    0:47:42 Like, stayed with a host family,
    0:47:46 and then did day trips to just places around Paris.
    0:47:49 Went to, you know, Givarni and Versailles,
    0:47:53 and saw everything and museums every day,
    0:47:56 and bad grades and math.
    0:47:58 Sounds like a good trade in terms of the B.
    0:48:00 Yes, it was absolutely a good trade.
    0:48:03 It’s so parallel to what happened to me with Mr. Shimano
    0:48:06 in the high school when I transferred schools,
    0:48:09 ended up taking Japanese, had no plans to go to Japan,
    0:48:11 and then six months in, he didn’t go with me,
    0:48:14 but that’s how the study abroad came about,
    0:48:16 and completely changed everything.
    0:48:19 But I spent the next few summers catching up with summer school
    0:48:21 because none of the grades transferred.
    0:48:22 I love Japan.
    0:48:25 I’ve only been once, but it was just delightful.
    0:48:28 Just walking around Tokyo is such a surreal
    0:48:30 and interesting experience.
    0:48:33 Yeah, I tell people it’s like 30% Blade Runner
    0:48:35 and 70% DMV.
    0:48:37 Like, if you live in Japan, it’s just like,
    0:48:39 I have to do another carbon copy.
    0:48:41 Like, when then we have to fax, what is this?
    0:48:42 Why?
    0:48:44 Yeah, my few of my friends have moved
    0:48:47 and have since confirmed that that is their experience.
    0:48:51 So, I’m focusing on, had been focusing,
    0:48:53 and I’m going to come back to the class
    0:48:57 because you’ve thought about writing very deeply,
    0:49:00 and it’s basically a filtering function
    0:49:04 for ferreting out some of the key ingredients
    0:49:06 as you see them in your writing process.
    0:49:09 You mentioned narrative and how,
    0:49:12 from a positioning perspective, people think of you
    0:49:13 and it’s very helpful.
    0:49:15 It’s also valid in some ways as a world builder,
    0:49:17 but that first and foremost, it’s like,
    0:49:19 it’s world building in service of a narrative,
    0:49:21 not the other way around.
    0:49:23 How do you teach narrative?
    0:49:24 Are there particular books?
    0:49:26 Is it like a three act play?
    0:49:27 Is it the hero’s journey?
    0:49:29 What are we talking about?
    0:49:33 So, I do two lectures on narrative,
    0:49:36 and generally the first day I do not talk about hero’s journey
    0:49:39 or three act structure or any of these things.
    0:49:40 That’s for the second week,
    0:49:44 because I do my classes one giant lecture each week,
    0:49:45 followed by a workshop.
    0:49:46 Are these available anywhere?
    0:49:47 Yeah, they’re on YouTube.
    0:49:48 Amazing.
    0:49:49 Yeah, you can watch the,
    0:49:50 we’re doing new ones this year.
    0:49:52 So, you can go watch these two lectures
    0:49:53 that I’m talking about.
    0:49:59 The first one, I just talk about the theory of plot.
    0:50:01 What makes someone turn a page?
    0:50:03 Why does someone start at page one
    0:50:05 and then end?
    0:50:07 What is a page turner?
    0:50:12 And my theory on this is it is a sense of progress.
    0:50:16 We like to see things count up as human beings,
    0:50:20 and the great plots are doing this beneath the hood.
    0:50:24 They are showing incremental slow progress forward,
    0:50:25 sometimes backwards,
    0:50:28 sometimes a little of each, toward a goal.
    0:50:33 And the idea for plot is to identify what type of plot it is.
    0:50:35 If you’re doing a mystery,
    0:50:39 then that progress is going to be in the form of information.
    0:50:42 The story starts without the characters without the information,
    0:50:44 the reader without the information, generally,
    0:50:47 and ends with them gaining the information.
    0:50:50 And so, the story, the progress,
    0:50:53 is all about these little bits of information
    0:50:55 that you get through the story.
    0:50:58 And at its fundamental, this does some fun things.
    0:51:00 For instance, buddy cop movies and romances
    0:51:03 have the same sort of fundamental structure,
    0:51:06 which is it’s about a relationship between two people
    0:51:08 where slowly you are finding out
    0:51:10 that they work better together than apart.
    0:51:14 And so, your progress is seeing how they rub each other wrong,
    0:51:18 and then how Dave, my own teacher, talked about braiding roses.
    0:51:22 How if the thorns are pointed outward for these characters,
    0:51:24 rather than pointed inward,
    0:51:26 they become a defensive bulwark for one another.
    0:51:27 What does that mean?
    0:51:28 Braided roses.
    0:51:29 Yeah, oh, I see.
    0:51:30 So, it’s sort of us against the world.
    0:51:31 Us against the world.
    0:51:33 If you take two roses and you don’t braid them,
    0:51:35 you stick them together, they poke each other.
    0:51:37 But if you braid them really well,
    0:51:40 then all the thorns point outward,
    0:51:43 and these two roses suddenly become stronger together
    0:51:44 than they were apart.
    0:51:45 That’s a very cool imagery.
    0:51:47 Yeah, again, stole that one from Dave.
    0:51:50 And so, the idea for a character plot
    0:51:51 is you are braiding the roses.
    0:51:54 And over time, you’re seeing that those points.
    0:51:56 Number one, you see how dangerous
    0:51:57 they are poking into each other.
    0:52:00 But then you see how pointed outward,
    0:52:02 these people actually work better.
    0:52:05 And kind of the holes, the places where one doesn’t have a thorn
    0:52:08 and can get hit, another one’s thorn protects,
    0:52:09 and things like that.
    0:52:11 And over the course of the story,
    0:52:13 you see that rose get braided to the point
    0:52:16 that you are saying you guys are so much better together
    0:52:18 than apart, you need to be together.
    0:52:21 And then when they either hook up or become partners,
    0:52:23 again, same story structure,
    0:52:25 then you stand up and you cheer.
    0:52:29 So, the idea is it is promise.
    0:52:30 You promise at the start.
    0:52:32 In a romance novel, you show two people apart.
    0:52:34 You show what their thorns are.
    0:52:36 You promise just by featuring them
    0:52:38 that they’re gonna get together.
    0:52:40 Buddy cop movie, here’s this cop.
    0:52:42 He works alone, but he has, you know,
    0:52:44 there’s a problem.
    0:52:45 There’s something that’s hurting.
    0:52:46 And here’s this other cop.
    0:52:48 He’s gonna retire soon, but, you know,
    0:52:50 he’s missing something in his life.
    0:52:53 And then you slowly, that’s your promise.
    0:52:56 Your progress is showing them work well together.
    0:52:59 And then your payoff is the moment at the end
    0:53:03 where all that work you’ve put into it comes to fruition
    0:53:07 as they hook up or in certain stories, they don’t.
    0:53:11 You can be either way, but promise, progress, payoff,
    0:53:14 that is what makes people love stories
    0:53:18 and read through on a kind of macro scale.
    0:53:21 Getting through an individual chapter is something different.
    0:53:23 But on a macro scale, that is plot.
    0:53:25 And that is, you know, I talk about on the first day,
    0:53:27 this idea of how to do that,
    0:53:31 how to have twists that are actually fulfilling promises.
    0:53:33 And that one’s fun.
    0:53:37 The best twists don’t just surprise the reader.
    0:53:39 A complication should surprise the reader,
    0:53:43 but a twist should be surprising yet inevitable.
    0:53:46 And if you do it right, people are wanting that twist
    0:53:49 before they realize it happens and then it does.
    0:53:50 And that is day one.
    0:53:52 Then day two is, I’m like, all right,
    0:53:54 here are some structures that people have used.
    0:53:55 Here’s your toolbox.
    0:53:57 Some people use the hero’s journey.
    0:53:59 Here’s what the hero’s journey is in brief.
    0:54:00 Here is what it’s good for.
    0:54:02 Here are some things to watch out for
    0:54:05 because the hero’s journey can steer you wrong sometimes.
    0:54:06 Here’s three act format.
    0:54:07 Here’s what it’s good at.
    0:54:10 Here’s maybe some foibles of three act format.
    0:54:12 Here’s Robert Jordan’s method,
    0:54:14 which he called points on the map.
    0:54:17 Here’s how a lot of screwball comedy is written.
    0:54:19 It’s called yes, but no and.
    0:54:22 All of these different tools I try to talk about
    0:54:24 and say, and there’s a ton more.
    0:54:26 There’s nine point story structure.
    0:54:28 There’s seven point story structure or whatever.
    0:54:30 But the idea is here’s some things to try,
    0:54:33 but keep in mind promise, progress, payoff.
    0:54:36 And I feel like that gives sort of an overview
    0:54:38 of how to build narrative.
    0:54:40 Are there any, in addition to your classes, of course,
    0:54:42 and we’ll link to those in the show notes,
    0:54:46 are there any books or resources that you encourage people
    0:54:49 to read to get a better understanding of narrative
    0:54:51 or these different forms of narrative?
    0:54:55 And what came to my mind, even though it’s not directed
    0:54:58 at potential novelists, is a book called Save the Cat
    0:55:01 Goes to the Movies that examines different genres
    0:55:02 within screenwriting.
    0:55:04 Okay, that’s not the original Save the Cat.
    0:55:05 No, it’s not.
    0:55:06 That’s the new one.
    0:55:07 So I do recommend Save the Cat,
    0:55:09 but Save the Cat goes to the movies.
    0:55:10 I haven’t read that, that sounds good.
    0:55:11 It’s fun.
    0:55:12 Yeah, the first one’s also excellent.
    0:55:13 I mean, I enjoyed it.
    0:55:15 Yeah, so Save the Cat is kind of,
    0:55:18 it’s a really good leaping off point.
    0:55:20 And if you want the opposite of Save the Cat,
    0:55:23 on writing by Stephen King is a leaping off point
    0:55:25 in Save the Cat’s about structure
    0:55:29 and on writing’s about the life of a writer and not structure.
    0:55:32 And those will give you kind of two of the kind of,
    0:55:35 yeah, different viewpoints on storytelling,
    0:55:37 and they’re both very good.
    0:55:40 My agent always recommends writing to sell by Scott Meredith.
    0:55:44 I find it a little too structure-focused.
    0:55:46 There is art to writing.
    0:55:50 And the dirty secret of outlining is you’re still going to have
    0:55:52 to learn to garden.
    0:55:54 Because yeah, you’ll have these points in the outline,
    0:55:56 but then when you sit down to write them,
    0:55:58 you’re a gardener getting between these two points
    0:55:59 in the outline.
    0:56:01 And so both skills are really important.
    0:56:04 But Scott Meredith, I did read that and like it quite a bit.
    0:56:11 So where do you fall in general or now between the gardening
    0:56:13 or gardener and architect?
    0:56:15 Yeah, so I’ve tried all the tools.
    0:56:18 I have a middle grade series called Alcatraz vs. the Evil Librarians,
    0:56:20 which are pure garden.
    0:56:22 I actually use a method a little like,
    0:56:24 do you know the old show?
    0:56:25 Whose line is it anyway?
    0:56:26 Sure.
    0:56:27 I pull a bunch of ideas.
    0:56:29 I brainstorm a bunch of random ideas.
    0:56:31 And then I say, I’ve got to use all of these.
    0:56:32 Go.
    0:56:34 And I write a story without an outline.
    0:56:36 That’s to practice the tool.
    0:56:42 And I generally fall these days on a 75% outline sort of thing.
    0:56:44 I do a lot of work building on my plot,
    0:56:47 and I do a lot of building on my setting.
    0:56:50 And then I write my way into characters.
    0:56:54 One of the big dangers of outlining too much is characters
    0:56:57 that feel wooden or cardboard because they’re there
    0:57:00 merely to get you between point A and point B.
    0:57:03 And then, you know, from point B to point C on your outline.
    0:57:07 And if you have characters that your early readers like these
    0:57:10 feel a little wooden, it might be because instead of going
    0:57:12 according to the character’s motivations,
    0:57:14 you’re just going according to the outline.
    0:57:17 And I find that if I let myself write my way into character
    0:57:19 and then rebuild my outline.
    0:57:22 By going to character, by that you mean you’re creating
    0:57:24 the setting, the environment.
    0:57:25 And the plot.
    0:57:26 And the plot.
    0:57:29 But then I rewrite the plot once I know the character.
    0:57:30 Here’s my process.
    0:57:36 So I start usually with a couple of really good ideas, right?
    0:57:39 I usually want to have multiple interesting ideas
    0:57:42 for my setting, at least one hook for each character.
    0:57:43 If not more.
    0:57:45 Could you give an example of this starting?
    0:57:46 Yeah.
    0:57:49 So let’s, I’ll build it from one of my books, Mistborn, right?
    0:57:50 Right.
    0:57:52 So Mistborn had a series of ideas.
    0:57:55 The first idea came, I was reading Harry Potter
    0:57:57 back in the Harry Potter boom.
    0:58:00 And I thought, man, these Dark Lords never get a break.
    0:58:01 Right?
    0:58:04 Lord of the Rings, Harry Potter, Wheel of Time.
    0:58:07 There’s this Dark Lord and what happens is like
    0:58:11 some furry-footed British kid throws their ring in a hole
    0:58:13 and their entire empire collapses.
    0:58:15 Or, you know, there’s a kid you’re going to kill
    0:58:17 and the power of a mother’s love protects him.
    0:58:20 How can you plan for the power of a mother’s love
    0:58:21 when you’re a Dark Lord?
    0:58:23 That’s just a complete oddball.
    0:58:25 And I think they never get a break.
    0:58:27 What if the Dark Lord won?
    0:58:30 What if Frodo got to the end of Lord of the Rings with the ring
    0:58:32 and Sauron was there, he’s like,
    0:58:35 “My ring, you know how long I’ve been looking for that?
    0:58:36 Thank you so much for it.
    0:58:39 That must have been a hard journey bringing that all the way here.
    0:58:40 Thank you.”
    0:58:42 And then killed him and took over the world, right?
    0:58:43 What if?
    0:58:46 And I thought, “That’s a downer of a book.”
    0:58:48 I don’t know that I want to write a book
    0:58:50 about the traditional hero’s journey
    0:58:51 that ends with the Dark Lord winning,
    0:58:53 but it went in the back of the head, right?
    0:58:58 And then I have a deep and abiding love of the heist genre.
    0:59:00 You know, Sneakers is one of my favorite films of all time.
    0:59:02 Oldy but goody, The Sting,
    0:59:05 all the way up to kind of, you know, the Ocean’s Elevens
    0:59:08 and the Italian job, both the old one and the new one,
    0:59:12 just the inception, you do a good heist, you can get me.
    0:59:15 And as a writer, some of your light bulb moments
    0:59:18 are when you’re like, “Hey, I love this thing
    0:59:20 and I’ve never written about it.”
    0:59:24 And that’s gold when you feel like you’ve covered everything
    0:59:27 and then you realize there’s some area of passion and love
    0:59:29 that you haven’t tapped at all.
    0:59:31 I’m like, “I need to do a fantasy heist.”
    0:59:34 What if I did a heist where every member of this heist crew
    0:59:37 had a magical talent and they all combined together?
    0:59:39 I’m like, “Nobody’s done this.”
    0:59:41 It was really kind of a big deal to me
    0:59:43 when I realized no one had done this because as a writer,
    0:59:46 you’re always looking for the things that no one has done it.
    0:59:48 The truth is, everyone’s done everything.
    0:59:50 But when you find something, you’re like,
    0:59:53 “I can’t think of a major story that has done
    0:59:56 a full-on heist in fantasy.”
    0:59:57 I was super excited.
    1:00:01 Then I realized, “Fantasy heist, Dark Lord One,
    1:00:06 team of thieves, Rob the Dark Lord, I have a plot.”
    1:00:09 That’s my inception.
    1:00:14 Meanwhile, I want a good idea for each character.
    1:00:16 Mistborn’s about two characters.
    1:00:20 One is about Kelsier, who is my concept for him for myself,
    1:00:24 was the gentleman thief who lived his life conning people,
    1:00:28 kind of small-time cons but living among upper society
    1:00:31 where he liked to do, that something went horribly wrong
    1:00:33 and he found out he’s like,
    1:00:35 “I haven’t been making the world a better place.
    1:00:37 I haven’t been helping anyone.
    1:00:40 I’ve just been coasting on my charm
    1:00:43 and has a crisis of conscience on,
    1:00:46 should I be actually using this to do something?”
    1:00:49 What happens is his wife is killed,
    1:00:53 his heist goes wrong, and he decides he wants revenge
    1:00:55 and he’s going to do it by robbing the Dark Lord.
    1:00:57 That’s my concept for him.
    1:01:01 My concept for Vin, who’s the other main character,
    1:01:04 is this idea of a young woman who lives in this world
    1:01:06 with a magical talent and doesn’t know it.
    1:01:08 I’m looking for a conflict, right?
    1:01:12 For her, her conflict is she’s managed to remain a good person
    1:01:15 but she’s lost her belief that anyone else is good.
    1:01:17 She gets betrayed in some ways.
    1:01:21 It just makes her give up on kind of humanity in general.
    1:01:23 And the idea is putting them two together.
    1:01:27 Kelsier, who still kind of has this deep and abiding optimism.
    1:01:29 He’s like, “I’m going to do something good.”
    1:01:30 He’s learned optimism, right?
    1:01:32 He’s learned, “I need to do something good with my life.”
    1:01:34 And he’s by force in her who’s lost it.
    1:01:36 And she becomes the apprentice to him
    1:01:38 as he recruits her into the team
    1:01:41 and this idea of a heist where these two people are growing.
    1:01:43 Can I ask a question?
    1:01:46 Not to interrupt, but did you have all of this
    1:01:50 before you put pen to paper, metaphorically speaking, to write?
    1:01:52 Yes, this much I had.
    1:01:54 And in what form does that exist?
    1:01:57 So it exists for me generally in…
    1:01:59 I do a new document that says,
    1:02:03 “Does setting stop, then character, then plot?”
    1:02:07 And the setting will have, you know, some of the Dark Lord one,
    1:02:08 that’s setting stuff, right?
    1:02:10 What does a world look like where the Dark Lord is one
    1:02:12 and ruled for a thousand years?
    1:02:14 In my books, I like to have an interesting use of magic.
    1:02:16 We can talk about that at some point.
    1:02:17 Oh yeah, we will.
    1:02:19 But what is the interesting use of magic?
    1:02:20 That’s how I got into writing excuses.
    1:02:21 Yeah, is it?
    1:02:22 Yeah.
    1:02:24 How do I walk the line between nerding out
    1:02:26 and making it feel like approachable?
    1:02:29 Because I don’t want my books to read like an encyclopedia entry
    1:02:30 or a video game, right?
    1:02:33 I want it to read like a new branch of science
    1:02:35 that’s really fun.
    1:02:37 And then character, I’ll have these things.
    1:02:40 And so with the character, you’ll notice these are seeds.
    1:02:42 Vin is like this, Kelsea is like this.
    1:02:45 I don’t know yet how their interaction is going to go
    1:02:46 and how they’re going to be.
    1:02:50 In fact, I wrote three chapters with Vin first,
    1:02:52 three different first chapters,
    1:02:53 trying different personalities.
    1:02:55 I started her with an artful dodger type,
    1:02:57 really confident, moving in the underworld,
    1:02:59 ripping people off, and it just did not work.
    1:03:01 And then I tried another one.
    1:03:02 I can’t even remember what that one was.
    1:03:03 But then I tried a third one,
    1:03:05 which is the personality she ended up with.
    1:03:07 Kelsea, I kind of had right from the get-go.
    1:03:08 All right.
    1:03:10 It’s my job to interrupt, so I’ll do it again.
    1:03:12 How did you know this first two didn’t work?
    1:03:14 This is where it’s an art.
    1:03:15 Is it just like a water feel?
    1:03:16 Yeah.
    1:03:17 Kind of thing that you’ve acquired over time?
    1:03:18 This is art and not science.
    1:03:21 It just, and sometimes it doesn’t work
    1:03:23 and you don’t figure it out till late.
    1:03:25 Like my most famous series,
    1:03:27 they’re probably Mistborn in the Stormlight Archive
    1:03:29 or About Tide for most famous.
    1:03:32 Stormlight, I wrote an entire novel,
    1:03:34 like 300,000 words long,
    1:03:36 with the character having the wrong personality
    1:03:37 the entire time.
    1:03:39 And it was only at the end that I’m like,
    1:03:40 “This is just wrong.”
    1:03:42 And I threw the book away,
    1:03:44 wrote it again eight years later
    1:03:46 with a different personality and it worked.
    1:03:50 But in order to have the characters live and breathe
    1:03:52 and feel like real people,
    1:03:54 I feel like I need to give them that volition,
    1:03:56 which is kind of destructive
    1:04:00 for all that narrative structure I’ve come up with.
    1:04:03 But that’s good because having that structure
    1:04:04 and then saying,
    1:04:06 “All right, now that I know what this person would do,
    1:04:09 how does that influence how they would actually approach
    1:04:10 this structure?
    1:04:11 And I’ll go and I’ll change that.”
    1:04:13 And knowing about, you know,
    1:04:15 promise, progress, payoff,
    1:04:18 which I couldn’t have named for you back in 2004
    1:04:19 when I was writing Mistborn,
    1:04:22 but I kind of understood intrinsically.
    1:04:25 I could tweak to the character personalities as I went
    1:04:27 so that I was making sure
    1:04:30 that these things were threading the needles, so to speak,
    1:04:32 where you’ve got this character.
    1:04:33 You need them to go through this plot,
    1:04:36 but you need to make sure they feel like they’re a real person
    1:04:39 so you can’t hold them to any one point,
    1:04:42 but you can make it come together, hopefully.
    1:04:44 So I want to come back to Stormlight for a second
    1:04:46 because this struck me that
    1:04:53 you have the ability to put things on the back burner
    1:04:57 or scrap and effectively start from scratch,
    1:05:02 restart something that you’ve put a lot of some cost into.
    1:05:06 And that is hard for most people.
    1:05:10 So I’m wondering, say, in the case of this character
    1:05:12 with the wrong personality,
    1:05:16 that you really conclude at 300,000 words or so,
    1:05:18 it’s not working the way I want it to work.
    1:05:22 What is the inner monologue
    1:05:25 that you have to get to the point where you’re like,
    1:05:27 “Park it,” particularly,
    1:05:30 I mean, we don’t need to get maybe into this aspect of it.
    1:05:31 When you have external pressures,
    1:05:33 maybe you’ve applied pressure to yourself,
    1:05:34 maybe you have deadlines in mind,
    1:05:37 how do you get to that point?
    1:05:39 What is your internal process for that?
    1:05:43 You know, it’s happened to me three major times
    1:05:44 where I’ve done it.
    1:05:47 And of those, only one did I ever come back to,
    1:05:50 two of them I parked and have laid fallow.
    1:05:53 One important mindset is kind of a ground rule,
    1:05:56 is remembering as a writer
    1:06:01 that the piece of art is not necessarily
    1:06:03 just the story you’re creating,
    1:06:05 that you are the piece of art.
    1:06:10 The time you spend writing is improving you as a writer,
    1:06:13 and that is the most important thing.
    1:06:16 The book is almost a side product, not really,
    1:06:19 but it almost is to the fact that you are becoming,
    1:06:20 you are the art.
    1:06:23 And if you know that, it helps a lot.
    1:06:25 One of the things that prose do
    1:06:28 that amateurs have trouble with in writing
    1:06:32 is prose throwaway chapters a lot in my experience.
    1:06:36 You write it and you get done with the chapter
    1:06:38 and you’re like, “That just did not work.”
    1:06:41 I’m going to toss that and start over the next day.
    1:06:44 Amateurs have a lot of trouble with this in my experience.
    1:06:46 There’s a lot of causes of writer’s block,
    1:06:48 but one of the main ones I’m convinced
    1:06:51 is that you’re writing the chapter wrong,
    1:06:53 you have enough instincts as a writer
    1:06:55 because you’ve practiced long enough to know
    1:06:56 you should throw it away,
    1:06:58 but you don’t want to because you did the work,
    1:07:01 but your instincts won’t let you continue doing it wrong
    1:07:05 and you’re not willing to toss it and try over.
    1:07:08 And so there is that.
    1:07:10 What happens with a whole book?
    1:07:12 You get done with the whole book
    1:07:14 and one of a couple of things happen.
    1:07:16 With two of the three of these books,
    1:07:17 I get done and I’m like,
    1:07:21 “That just doesn’t give me the shine, the feel,
    1:07:25 the feel of excitement that I want this book to have.
    1:07:27 There’s something fundamentally wrong with it.”
    1:07:31 And I’m sometimes not even sure what it is for a while.
    1:07:34 When I put aside the Way of Kings, the 2002 version,
    1:07:36 we call it Way of Kings Prime,
    1:07:37 I put it aside and said,
    1:07:39 “I don’t know why this went wrong.”
    1:07:40 It was actually two things.
    1:07:43 It wasn’t just having Caledon have the wrong personality.
    1:07:45 It was that I went into this book,
    1:07:47 wanted to write a giant epic,
    1:07:50 while reading The Wheel of Time,
    1:07:52 which was one of my favorite book series at the time,
    1:07:55 was before I had taken it over.
    1:07:57 This was five years before I would get that call.
    1:07:58 Which is a wild story.
    1:08:00 Yeah, it is a wild story.
    1:08:03 Game of Thrones was huge at the time
    1:08:05 and I’ve been studying Game of Thrones and I’m like,
    1:08:07 “I want to write something like this.”
    1:08:11 And so I started with a huge cast up front,
    1:08:14 not recognizing that both of those examples I gave,
    1:08:17 started with a cast who was relatively small,
    1:08:19 that over the course of several books,
    1:08:23 grew into this complex web of different characters
    1:08:25 having different relationships.
    1:08:27 And it had this nice, odd-boarding.
    1:08:29 And so what I did is I wrote a book
    1:08:32 that was the beginning of like 10 characters’ stories,
    1:08:34 and didn’t get through any of them.
    1:08:36 It was too, oh, all over the place.
    1:08:38 And the other was I had the wrong personality.
    1:08:40 Something feels wrong and as an artist,
    1:08:42 I just say, I don’t know what this is yet,
    1:08:43 I put it aside.
    1:08:46 Once in a while it happens during Alpha and Beta Reads.
    1:08:48 I’m getting the wrong response.
    1:08:50 People are reading this book
    1:08:53 and they are thinking something completely opposite
    1:08:55 from what I wanted them to.
    1:08:58 The parts that I wanted them to enjoy, they’re bored by.
    1:09:00 Or the character I wanted them to click with,
    1:09:03 they’re just annoyed by and aren’t interested in.
    1:09:06 And you realize something is just wrong.
    1:09:09 Something is fundamentally wrong with this story.
    1:09:12 And I don’t want to release it until I know what that is.
    1:09:16 Sometimes you might figure that out and be able to fix it.
    1:09:19 Sometimes you might look at that and be like,
    1:09:21 “You know what, I don’t mind if people have this response.
    1:09:23 This is the piece of art and this piece of art
    1:09:25 is going to have this response
    1:09:27 from some percentage of the audience.”
    1:09:30 That’s maybe not a selling point,
    1:09:33 but it is part of the art.
    1:09:36 But with those three books, I put them aside.
    1:09:38 And with Way of Kings, I eventually figured out what it was.
    1:09:39 And I tried it again.
    1:09:41 The other two I haven’t gotten there yet.
    1:09:44 So let’s come back to habits
    1:09:47 and your schedule for writing.
    1:09:50 Do you still have two primary blocks of writing?
    1:09:56 And could you explain what your current schedule tends to look like?
    1:10:01 So I find that for what I do and where my personal psychology is,
    1:10:06 an eight-hour block is not sustainable for writing.
    1:10:09 This means I can do it for a week or two at eight hours,
    1:10:11 but it’s going to brain drain me.
    1:10:12 It’s going to exhaust me.
    1:10:16 I get done with eight hours and I am mentally worn out.
    1:10:20 I find that if I do two four-hour blocks instead,
    1:10:23 I never quite get there and it’s more sustainable.
    1:10:28 And so what I do is I will get up late.
    1:10:31 I get up at around noon or one.
    1:10:37 And I will go to the gym, which is different from me than other people.
    1:10:39 The gym is writing time for me.
    1:10:41 I’m not hitting it super hard.
    1:10:44 I am there to think through what I’m doing.
    1:10:46 Some motion moving your body.
    1:10:47 Number one, it’s good for you,
    1:10:49 but that’s a side effect for me too.
    1:10:51 I can put on music and I can move
    1:10:54 and I can think about what I’m going to write.
    1:10:59 Then I go and I work from two until six these days.
    1:11:00 It’s usually what I do.
    1:11:04 One until five, something like that.
    1:11:05 And then I’m done.
    1:11:07 I go, I shower at 6.30.
    1:11:09 I’m ready to hang with my family.
    1:11:14 And I’ll be with family from six until 6.30 to 10.30.
    1:11:16 Go out with my wife, hang with my kids,
    1:11:19 build some Legos, play some video games, whatever it is.
    1:11:21 I learned early in my career.
    1:11:23 One of the most important things I ever did
    1:11:28 was take that time and demarcate it as non-writing time.
    1:11:31 I found early in my marriage that writing,
    1:11:34 it will consume every moment possible.
    1:11:38 And I was always anxious to get back to the story.
    1:11:41 And as soon as I changed my brain and said,
    1:11:44 “No, no, no, no, even if your wife is away,
    1:11:46 6.30 to 10.30 can’t be writing time.”
    1:11:48 It is off limits.
    1:11:50 You have to do something else.
    1:11:55 Suddenly, it was a lot easier for me to be there for my family.
    1:11:57 And I think, I mean, you’ve interviewed
    1:12:00 a lot of highly productive, highly successful people.
    1:12:04 I think a lot of them are going to talk about the same thing,
    1:12:06 that it’s very hard to be there with people
    1:12:08 when you’re there with people.
    1:12:10 Sure, comes up a lot.
    1:12:13 Because your brain is always working on the next big thing.
    1:12:17 Yes, particularly true with people who work on big creative projects.
    1:12:19 Yeah, and that gave me this permission.
    1:12:22 It actually came the moment my wife,
    1:12:24 I went out to dinner with some writer friends.
    1:12:26 And afterward, I’m like, “That was such a great dinner.”
    1:12:30 And she’s like, “Yeah, but you didn’t look at me once.”
    1:12:32 And I realized she had become invisible to me
    1:12:34 because the writing was consuming all.
    1:12:36 And so, made that change.
    1:12:38 10.30, kids are supposed to go to bed.
    1:12:40 They’re older now, they just don’t.
    1:12:43 But sometime around there, they drift off.
    1:12:45 My wife goes to bed.
    1:12:47 She was a school teacher for many years.
    1:12:49 Still kind of keeps school teachers hours.
    1:12:51 And she is wonderful for getting up with the kids.
    1:12:54 I don’t have to do that and never have.
    1:12:56 And I go back to work at about 11.
    1:12:58 I write from 11 to 3.
    1:13:04 And then 3 to 4 or 5 is just whatever I want to do.
    1:13:06 That’s the real goof-off time.
    1:13:09 That’s to go play with my magic cards time.
    1:13:12 That’s the play a video game, pop out the Steam Deck time.
    1:13:18 And this schedule, you’ll notice I don’t have to worry about commuting,
    1:13:20 which gives me an advantage here,
    1:13:22 has been really sustainable for me.
    1:13:24 So that’s a home office predominantly?
    1:13:25 Yeah.
    1:13:26 Where you’re writing?
    1:13:27 I write from my home office.
    1:13:28 I do like to move around.
    1:13:29 I go in the gazebo.
    1:13:31 Lately, I’ve gone in the gazebo when it’s really cold.
    1:13:35 And I hire one of my kids to come put logs on a fire for me.
    1:13:37 And I sit by the fireplace.
    1:13:39 Sometimes I like to be on the beach.
    1:13:41 Sometimes I like when I’m around here,
    1:13:43 I like to be in different places.
    1:13:45 I can set up a hammock here or there.
    1:13:48 So with my laptop, I do not work at a desk.
    1:13:50 That’s really sustainable.
    1:13:52 It’s worked for me for the last 20 years.
    1:13:53 That’s incredible.
    1:13:57 I got all my best writing done really late at night when I was–
    1:13:59 I mean, still I’m writing.
    1:14:00 I’m working on a new book.
    1:14:02 But when I was working on my first few books especially,
    1:14:05 it was always when everyone else was asleep.
    1:14:08 Let’s talk about the non-home environment.
    1:14:11 We’re sitting in a quite a large building
    1:14:13 or at least a building with a lot of large rooms.
    1:14:14 Yes.
    1:14:18 Why do you have this company?
    1:14:20 Why have you and your wife built this company?
    1:14:21 All right.
    1:14:22 Because there are a lot of writers out there
    1:14:24 who just want to focus on writing.
    1:14:26 They go the traditional publishing route,
    1:14:30 which I’m not saying it’s a mutually exclusive choice.
    1:14:32 But why do you have all this?
    1:14:34 How long? How long do you want to go?
    1:14:35 This is the big one.
    1:14:38 This is a long form podcast that we have all the time we want.
    1:14:39 All right.
    1:14:40 So you’re right.
    1:14:45 Most writers want to sell a book and live that kind of dream
    1:14:48 you see presented in film and television,
    1:14:52 which is accurate to the top percentage of writers.
    1:14:56 Most writers you read about or see in film are the big ones.
    1:14:58 They’re doing really well.
    1:15:00 And so they’re off in a cabin telling their story.
    1:15:04 They’re the ones that have to be pried away from their easy chair
    1:15:07 to get them to even do any publicity whatsoever.
    1:15:11 They want to live that life that is the classic life of a writer.
    1:15:13 And there’s some of me that wants that.
    1:15:17 But the secret is I was raised by an accountant and a businessman.
    1:15:20 And particularly my mother, that accountant,
    1:15:24 she instilled into me some aspirations.
    1:15:27 And I call this my superpower.
    1:15:30 My superpower is to be an artist raised by an accountant.
    1:15:35 And I’ve always had a bit of that entrepreneurial sense.
    1:15:36 What were the aspirations?
    1:15:39 The aspirations, well, they started small.
    1:15:41 They started with, you know what,
    1:15:43 I want to be able to make a living from writing.
    1:15:48 Got back from Korea and said, all right,
    1:15:51 I am not very good at this writing thing,
    1:15:53 but I really, really love it.
    1:15:58 I could tell because when I spent time doing the writing,
    1:16:01 time didn’t matter anymore, right?
    1:16:03 I could spend hours doing this.
    1:16:06 And it’s the first thing I found other than reading or video games
    1:16:09 that I could spend hours doing and just come out of it
    1:16:11 feeling tired but fulfilled.
    1:16:14 And I’m like, I want to do this.
    1:16:17 So I sat down and I took what I’d learned,
    1:16:20 both kind of from my mother and kind of missions
    1:16:22 have kind of a regimented structure.
    1:16:24 And I said, I’m going to apply this all to writing.
    1:16:27 And I’m going to, I’m just going to start writing books.
    1:16:30 And I heard your first five books are generally terrible.
    1:16:31 I said, well, that’s good.
    1:16:33 I don’t have to be good yet.
    1:16:35 It took a lot of pressure off me.
    1:16:37 I said, I’m going to write six.
    1:16:40 And the first five I’m not going to send out to any publishers.
    1:16:41 Wow.
    1:16:42 Right?
    1:16:45 And that’s bad advice for someone, right?
    1:16:46 Yeah, wow.
    1:16:47 You didn’t even send them out.
    1:16:48 I didn’t send them out.
    1:16:51 It was just weight training in the gym for your mind
    1:16:52 for the number six.
    1:16:53 Yep.
    1:16:54 I didn’t send them out.
    1:16:58 I did eventually, I shared number five with some, some people.
    1:17:03 I got involved with the local science fiction magazine as an editor.
    1:17:05 I eventually took it over because that’s what I do.
    1:17:06 And I was head editor.
    1:17:09 And I eventually said, well, I do have a book.
    1:17:12 And I started sharing book five with people right around that time.
    1:17:14 You didn’t even have test readers.
    1:17:16 I didn’t have test readers.
    1:17:18 I just wrote the books.
    1:17:20 And again, this is why the advice can be bad.
    1:17:22 There’s some people out there that would be bad advice for.
    1:17:25 Pat Rothfuss published his first book and it’s brilliant.
    1:17:26 Name of the Wind.
    1:17:27 Name of the Wind.
    1:17:28 Yeah.
    1:17:29 That is a spectacular book.
    1:17:30 First novel.
    1:17:31 Now he did a ton of revisions on that.
    1:17:34 He spent as much time revising that book as I spent writing mine.
    1:17:38 But for me, the good advice was your first five books are terrible.
    1:17:39 Don’t stress.
    1:17:41 And so weight training for my mind.
    1:17:42 I wrote five books.
    1:17:43 And then I sat down.
    1:17:45 This was before you had an agent.
    1:17:46 Before I had an agent.
    1:17:47 Before I had anything.
    1:17:48 Before I even knew what an agent was.
    1:17:50 Before I’d taken Dave’s class.
    1:17:53 I took Dave’s class the year that I finished the launch.
    1:17:54 Which is book number six.
    1:17:56 I had just finished that one.
    1:17:58 And so I said, all right.
    1:17:59 Book six.
    1:18:00 That’s a launch.
    1:18:01 That’s the one I eventually ended up selling.
    1:18:03 Those five I’d written in different subgenres.
    1:18:05 I knew I like sci-fi fantasy.
    1:18:07 But the risk of being too nerdy.
    1:18:08 My subgenres.
    1:18:09 I did an epic fantasy.
    1:18:11 I did a comedic fantasy.
    1:18:14 A Terry Pratchett style sort of thing.
    1:18:15 I did a cyberpunk.
    1:18:16 I did a space opera.
    1:18:19 And then I wrote a sequel to my epic fantasy to kind of GB.
    1:18:21 Like, is this what I want to do?
    1:18:24 What characterizes an epic fantasy?
    1:18:25 So epic fantasy.
    1:18:32 Fantasy, in short, follows three main lines of descent.
    1:18:37 One line comes from what we call portal fantasies.
    1:18:43 And your kind of line of descent of that starts in the modern era with Alice in Wonderland.
    1:18:46 Goes to Narnia and Harry Potter is one of the more example.
    1:18:48 This is kids from our world get sucked into a fantasy world.
    1:18:49 And experience it.
    1:18:51 It’s usually a young adult focused.
    1:18:55 You can trace that all the way back to the old stories of the fairy tales.
    1:18:57 People go into the woods and then come out of the woods.
    1:18:59 They go into the fantasy world, come out, right?
    1:19:02 The second line is what we call heroic fantasy.
    1:19:07 Heroic fantasy’s lines kind of really starts with the Greek epics and Beowulf.
    1:19:10 But in modern terms, you would recognize Conan as the virginity.
    1:19:16 It is heroic men fighting against the monsters of the world and taming them.
    1:19:19 And just kind of destroying them.
    1:19:21 It’s heroic man versus evil wizard.
    1:19:23 A lot of the old serials were that.
    1:19:26 And in modern terms, our grimdark kind of line.
    1:19:31 You kind of look at Joe Abercrombie as kind of the modern version of that.
    1:19:32 So the blade itself.
    1:19:33 The blade itself.
    1:19:34 Fantastic.
    1:19:35 So fun.
    1:19:38 Also one of the best voice actors I’ve ever heard.
    1:19:40 Joe is amazing.
    1:19:41 He’s delightful.
    1:19:43 Tangent, you want my Joe Abercrombie story?
    1:19:44 Yes, please.
    1:19:45 Tangent.
    1:19:47 I am flying to Spain.
    1:19:48 Right.
    1:19:51 And Joe is going to meet me there because we’re both doing con together.
    1:19:52 It’s called Celsius.
    1:19:53 I’m actually going back this year.
    1:19:55 So I’m passing through Amsterdam.
    1:19:57 And I did a thing back then.
    1:19:58 Maybe we’ll talk about it now.
    1:20:00 I signed my books in airports.
    1:20:02 I would see a book of mine in an airport bookstore.
    1:20:05 I would sign it and I would post on Twitter.
    1:20:07 And I’d say, I signed my book.
    1:20:09 First one gets there, gets to get the book.
    1:20:10 This was a thing of mine.
    1:20:11 My fans loved it.
    1:20:13 I don’t travel that way as much anymore.
    1:20:15 And there’s fewer airport bookstores.
    1:20:16 They’ve all died off.
    1:20:17 So I don’t really do it anymore.
    1:20:18 But for a while, I did that.
    1:20:21 They named it Brandylizing.
    1:20:22 Yeah.
    1:20:25 And I did this thing in the airport.
    1:20:26 I left my book.
    1:20:28 I took a picture of it in the spot.
    1:20:30 And I’m getting in the line to get on the plane.
    1:20:31 Right.
    1:20:33 And I get a tweet.
    1:20:34 And it’s from Joe.
    1:20:38 And he says, “Sanderson, my book’s next year’s and you didn’t sign it.”
    1:20:40 And I’m going to tweet back.
    1:20:41 I’m like, well, it’s not my book.
    1:20:44 He’s like, “Sign my book, Sanderson.”
    1:20:47 And all caps, exclamation and point.
    1:20:49 And so I have to leave the line.
    1:20:50 They’re calling the line.
    1:20:51 Run to the bookstore.
    1:20:52 Sign Joe Abercrombie’s book.
    1:20:54 Take a picture of it.
    1:20:57 Post it and say, “Your book is signed by me.”
    1:20:58 And then I did make my flight.
    1:21:01 But I almost missed my flight, signing Joe’s book.
    1:21:04 So someone out there went and bought Joe’s book signed by me.
    1:21:05 Because I–
    1:21:09 How long had you known each other at that point?
    1:21:14 We had met at conventions and been on panels together and Joe is a riot.
    1:21:19 Like, if you get a chance, if he’s anywhere that you can go see him,
    1:21:23 Joe has this magic to turn any panel into a enjoyable panel,
    1:21:25 no matter who’s on it with him.
    1:21:28 And so, like, I won’t say that I’m best buds with Joe.
    1:21:30 I don’t know Joe really well, but we’re professional colleagues.
    1:21:32 And I love being on a panel with him.
    1:21:36 He makes me look intelligent and funny, which I love.
    1:21:38 So we’ve got choral fantasy.
    1:21:40 We’ve got heroic fantasy, right?
    1:21:42 Michael Morkock, all of that stuff.
    1:21:44 Then we have epic fantasy.
    1:21:49 And epic fantasy is termed by completely different fantasy world.
    1:21:51 The other two are generally have roots in our world.
    1:21:55 Portal, you start in our world, and heroic tends to be kind of our world.
    1:21:57 The modern ones aren’t.
    1:22:01 But, you know, Conan takes place in the prehistory of our world and things like that.
    1:22:04 Epic fantasy really starts with Tolkien.
    1:22:08 You can say that some of the heroic epics had a big part in this, too, right?
    1:22:10 Gilgamesh even and stuff like that.
    1:22:15 But this idea of epic fantasy is the movement of worlds.
    1:22:16 The world is at stake.
    1:22:18 Secondary world is what we call it.
    1:22:20 It’s very moved from our planet.
    1:22:23 All new rules, all new world, all new magic.
    1:22:26 And it’s this idea that they’re the big, thick ones.
    1:22:31 They’re kind of like historical epics, but in a different world.
    1:22:33 So that’s their similarity.
    1:22:36 And, you know, Game of Thrones is this.
    1:22:38 The Game of Thrones borrows a little from heroic.
    1:22:40 That’s kind of his secret sauce.
    1:22:44 He takes heroic characters and sticks them in an epic fantasy plot.
    1:22:50 And then they just start getting killed off because they’re living in a much more brutal version of an epic fantasy world than most of them.
    1:22:52 Epic is me and Robert Jordan and things like that.
    1:22:53 That’s epic fantasy.
    1:22:55 It’s just stakes of the world.
    1:22:56 Got it.
    1:23:00 And I took us off track a little bit because the question was, why are we sitting in this huge office?
    1:23:01 Yeah.
    1:23:02 And then you’re like, well, it’s backtrack.
    1:23:03 Yeah.
    1:23:04 Right?
    1:23:05 Artist raised by an accountant.
    1:23:06 Artist raised by an accountant.
    1:23:08 And then we came through and you’re like, number six.
    1:23:09 Number six.
    1:23:10 That was go time.
    1:23:11 That was go time.
    1:23:12 Right?
    1:23:13 Right?
    1:23:14 A launch.
    1:23:18 And at that point, my goal was only, I’m going to try to conquer this and become a professional writer.
    1:23:24 If I can earn a living doing this, I will have been successful.
    1:23:25 But then I did.
    1:23:27 I actually, it took me a few more years.
    1:23:30 I wrote 13 novels before I sold one.
    1:23:35 I sold number six after I’d finished number 13, which was Way of Kings Prime.
    1:23:42 And we can talk about, there’s kind of a dark moment of the soul happens before that where I’m at book number 12 and I’m like, what am I doing?
    1:23:44 12 books and no one’s buying them.
    1:23:45 Maybe I’m, maybe I’m really bad at this.
    1:23:46 But anyway.
    1:23:50 When did you start, you started trying to sell them at which book?
    1:23:51 About book six.
    1:24:04 Right around and I hit perfectly at Dave’s class about when I was working on book sex, I started sending out query letters and things like that on some of the earlier ones and started collecting my rejection letters and things like that.
    1:24:18 And then I took Dave’s class and I started flying out to these conventions and trying to meet editors in person and just kind of hearing from their mouths what they want, what they’re buying, what they’re interested in and trying to target my books at them.
    1:24:25 By that point that I was doing that I had eight or nine and six, seven and eight were pretty good books.
    1:24:27 Any one of those three probably could have broken me out.
    1:24:29 I didn’t ever publish seven or eight.
    1:24:30 I just published six.
    1:24:45 Then I sell a book and I realized, well, now the job is to make this a career because I sold my book for a grand total of $10,000 that was broken across three years.
    1:24:49 So I made $5,000 and then 2,500 and then 2,500.
    1:24:53 So you can imagine that’s a meager sum.
    1:25:01 I fortunately was married to someone who was making very sweet, great income as a public school teacher.
    1:25:02 She was the sugar mama.
    1:25:11 We were living on her 22,000 a year as a public school teacher, but she supported me while I was doing that and breaking in with those books.
    1:25:13 We did meet after I’d at least sold one.
    1:25:15 So I at least had something to say, look, it’s real.
    1:25:21 It made us $5,000 this year, but it made me, we weren’t married then, but you know what I mean.
    1:25:23 And so yeah, first year of marriage I made $2,500.
    1:25:25 That was what I grand total I contributed.
    1:25:29 But at that point, your job is to get stable.
    1:25:32 And the danger point after, there’s two danger points.
    1:25:36 One is never selling a book, but the number two danger point is your second book.
    1:25:38 We talked a little bit about this.
    1:25:40 Second book is like do or die time.
    1:25:45 And I can talk all about like I, it was pretty big do or die for me.
    1:25:49 But then it stabilized, then things started to work.
    1:25:52 I hit the best seller list and then Wheel of Time happened.
    1:25:55 That was with the, that was with the first or the second book.
    1:25:58 Oh, it was my fourth that hit, or yeah, my fourth that hit the best seller.
    1:26:00 Yeah, it was Mistborn 3.
    1:26:02 It was my first one, very low on.
    1:26:03 It was either Mistborn 3.
    1:26:09 It might have been Warbreaker, but it’s four or five hit like the times list went to 35 then and I hit like number 35.
    1:26:10 Right?
    1:26:11 Still counts.
    1:26:12 Still counts, still counts.
    1:26:14 It was for 2000 copies in a week.
    1:26:20 It doesn’t sound like very much to be a best seller, but I hit that best seller list and then Wheel of Time happened and my entire life changed.
    1:26:22 And I’m sure we’ll get to that.
    1:26:30 But about 2012 through 2014, I started to realize some things.
    1:26:33 Somewhere in there, I can’t remember the exact date.
    1:26:34 You can look it up.
    1:26:38 Amazon turned off the ability to buy all McMillan books.
    1:26:41 Poor my publishers, the subsidiary of McMillan.
    1:26:43 This is because their contract disputes.
    1:26:47 Amazon wanted to pricey books cheaper to sell Kindles.
    1:26:53 They wanted the lost lead in order to control the market, which was very smart on their end.
    1:27:06 But the publishers were panicking about driving book prices to the basement because, you know, if Amazon sells them for a dollar, you know, at the point Amazon is selling for a dollar and paying us on those books like $8.
    1:27:07 And they’re like, what’s the problem?
    1:27:08 We sell them for a dollar.
    1:27:10 You still make your $8.
    1:27:13 And the publishers are like, yeah, but people are going to expect books to be a dollar.
    1:27:17 And when you control the market, you’re going to say, well, we’re not paying you $8 on these books anymore.
    1:27:21 We’re going to pay you the 70 cents that you would get off of a $1 book.
    1:27:24 And so whole panic, big contract disputes.
    1:27:30 Amazon is working very hard to become, you know, dominant in this market and the publishers are fighting them.
    1:27:33 And Amazon turns off the ability to buy my books.
    1:27:44 And this was a wake up call to me because it told me that the system was no longer what it had been all the way through the course of publishing history.
    1:27:49 All the way through publishing history, your audience, your buyers were the bookstores, really.
    1:27:51 Core were the bookstores.
    1:27:58 If you convinced the bookstores to shelve your books, then people went to the bookstores and the more books you have in the shelf, the more you sold.
    1:28:06 Old publishing adage that Tom Doherty, founder of Tor, very smart man would say is like, I want to have 10 books on the shelf, even if only one of themselves.
    1:28:12 Because eventually, nine of them are going to sell 10 of a copy because everyone will go and say, this must be an important book.
    1:28:14 They have 10 copies of it here.
    1:28:17 The best advertisement for a book is having as many on the shelf.
    1:28:20 And so your fight was to get the bookstores to carry your book.
    1:28:21 It was real estate.
    1:28:22 Yep.
    1:28:24 That was no longer the case.
    1:28:28 Your audience, your market was not the bookstores, it was only Amazon.
    1:28:30 Amazon controlled everything.
    1:28:32 By then they had Audible.
    1:28:36 And Audible has become the growth segment of the market.
    1:28:41 They controlled eBooks and they were coming to control print books.
    1:28:46 And having one person be able to turn off my books was a big deal to me.
    1:28:51 It happened previously with the Alcatraz books where boarders decided not to carry one of them.
    1:28:53 But Barnes & Noble did.
    1:28:57 And so it was still the book succeeded and eventually boarders came around and decided to carry it.
    1:28:59 There’s only one person.
    1:29:01 They control your entire career.
    1:29:04 And I said, I cannot be subject.
    1:29:09 And that’s when the big entrepreneurial part of my brain said, all right, let’s change.
    1:29:14 I went to the publishers and I said, there are certain things I think we should be doing.
    1:29:17 And publishing blessed their hearts.
    1:29:21 They’re still trapped in a lot of ways in the 1900s.
    1:29:23 Maybe the 1800s.
    1:29:25 They do not change very quickly.
    1:29:31 And I looked at other markets and I said, what is music doing?
    1:29:33 What is movies doing?
    1:29:35 What were music and movies?
    1:29:38 What were my friends who were independent comic publishers doing?
    1:29:41 You know, Howard Taylor, he was on “Right, Excuse Us With Me.”
    1:29:42 I’m like, what’s he doing?
    1:29:43 He gives it away for free.
    1:29:46 If Amazon decides that my books are essentially free, how do I make a living?
    1:29:48 How’s he making a living?
    1:29:51 He gives it away for free and he still makes a living.
    1:29:58 And I started to see some trends and they involved having a variety of product prices.
    1:30:04 One was having something really high end that the super fans could buy to display to show off.
    1:30:10 Whether that be the vinyl, whether that be the equivalent of going to a concert and buying merch there.
    1:30:16 Whether it be buying the book online that is free but you want to have a copy to show off.
    1:30:22 All the way down the really cheap product and in a lot of ways if you have the really expensive thing,
    1:30:26 that subsidizes the really cheap product so that everybody can get the books.
    1:30:30 Everyone’s served better by a variety of offerings.
    1:30:31 Different pricing tiers.
    1:30:34 Different pricing tiers letting people buy in to what they want.
    1:30:40 And I realized if people are buying into the expensive one, you can go lower on the cheap one
    1:30:43 and the people who can’t afford this or don’t want it are happy.
    1:30:44 The people who want this are happy.
    1:30:46 Everyone is more happy.
    1:30:47 And I went to the publisher.
    1:30:50 I’m like, we should be upselling to merchandise.
    1:30:55 Lord of the Rings released these cool DVDs that came with bookends.
    1:30:56 Gollum bookends, right?
    1:30:59 Said we should be doing things like that for big books.
    1:31:03 We should be bundling e-book and audiobook with a hardcover.
    1:31:05 We should be selling leather bounce.
    1:31:07 Really high-end, nice ones.
    1:31:09 But we shouldn’t be charging what you’re charging.
    1:31:11 They were charging $250 for the leather bounce.
    1:31:13 I’m like, that’s a too high a price point.
    1:31:15 We should be doing $100 price point.
    1:31:18 And the publisher said to me, we can’t do this.
    1:31:20 And they had some good reasons.
    1:31:26 I think they’re not insurmountable, but their reasons were, look, the bookstores can’t carry these special editions.
    1:31:28 We just can’t figure out how to make them work.
    1:31:30 The bookstores can’t sell merch.
    1:31:38 The bookstores can’t sell the leather bounce because we printed 250 copies of the Wheel of Time leather bounce.
    1:31:42 And we had so much trouble selling them because fans didn’t know where to get them.
    1:31:47 The bookstores didn’t want to carry something that expensive that they weren’t sure if they were going to sell.
    1:31:49 It was just all a big mess.
    1:31:57 And after a few years of this, I had numerous phone calls with the CEO of Macmillan above even Tom Doherty, like the head dude.
    1:31:59 And I could not make any inroads.
    1:32:05 And that’s when, you know, the voice of my mother whispered, well, Brandon, I trained you better than that.
    1:32:07 Do it yourself.
    1:32:09 And I said, I just have to.
    1:32:11 And so I got my team together.
    1:32:15 And I said, we are going to try to Amazon proof ourselves.
    1:32:18 That means we are going to direct sale.
    1:32:22 We are going to start building our own direct to our consumer.
    1:32:24 And I started with the leather bounce.
    1:32:27 My decision was this was something the market wanted.
    1:32:28 I kept hearing from fans they wanted them.
    1:32:30 I heard from the publisher they can’t sell them.
    1:32:33 So I went to the publisher said, can you give me those rights back?
    1:32:35 And he’s like, sure, they’re just free.
    1:32:36 We can’t do anything with them.
    1:32:37 Maybe you can.
    1:32:39 And that’s again, to their credit, right?
    1:32:43 The publishers are, I’m guessing in retrospect.
    1:32:45 In retrospect.
    1:32:47 But they couldn’t have done it.
    1:32:49 They couldn’t have done it because it had to be direct to consumer.
    1:32:55 Part of the reason is like the fans running out to buy the specialization of the bookstore.
    1:32:57 It’s just that it’s a bad methodology.
    1:32:59 So I said to my team, we’re going to build these.
    1:33:01 We’re going to do leather bounds.
    1:33:03 They sold 250 copies.
    1:33:05 I want to sell 10,000.
    1:33:06 Right.
    1:33:07 Well, we started five.
    1:33:08 I want to sell 5,000.
    1:33:09 We ended up selling 50,000.
    1:33:10 Right.
    1:33:12 Now is that of multiple books?
    1:33:13 That’s the first one.
    1:33:14 Wow.
    1:33:15 Right.
    1:33:16 50,000.
    1:33:17 Nowadays.
    1:33:18 Hard bound.
    1:33:19 Leather bound.
    1:33:21 Leather bounds at 100 to 250.
    1:33:24 Nowadays, our initial print runs are 50,000.
    1:33:28 Back then it was 10,000 and then 5,000 more than 5,000 more and then things like that.
    1:33:29 Right.
    1:33:31 They will, everyone we get in stock will sell.
    1:33:35 Everyone’s signed that is in stock will just instantly sell.
    1:33:38 And so there’s obviously a very big market.
    1:33:45 In fact, such a big market, I cannot physically produce enough of them to sell the signed ones.
    1:33:50 We have the unsigned ones that people still buy, but the signed ones go instantly.
    1:33:51 Quality problem to have.
    1:33:52 Yeah.
    1:33:54 It is a quality problem to have.
    1:34:02 It means that my time suddenly got a very strange monetary constraint on it, which is
    1:34:06 something that I try to pay attention to, but not too much.
    1:34:10 I don’t know if you’ve had this, but do you ever try to put a dollar amount on your time
    1:34:12 and is that just madness for you?
    1:34:13 It is madness.
    1:34:15 I did that for a very long time.
    1:34:22 I think it is helpful in some of the maybe earlier intermediate entrepreneurial stages
    1:34:27 so that you don’t find yourself, if you are like me, a perfectionist, micromanaging or
    1:34:29 doing too much yourself.
    1:34:34 However, there is a point where I think it just makes you miserable because you end up
    1:34:41 placing so high a per hour value on your time that every squandered minute is like having
    1:34:45 a pound of flesh taken and you can drive yourself insane.
    1:34:46 Yeah.
    1:34:53 I wind in that because if I sign my name, that’s $250 because of leather belt, but I don’t
    1:34:55 want to spend my life signing my name.
    1:35:02 I want to write the books, but the most money I can earn per hour, I can sign a thousand
    1:35:06 of those in an hour and that’s $250 each, which is just an unreal.
    1:35:08 If you think about that, that’s like, yeah.
    1:35:09 That is bananas.
    1:35:10 That is bananas.
    1:35:14 My normal writing time, I can put a different dollar amount depends on what I’m writing.
    1:35:19 Did you ever get pulled because it happened to me with speaking engagements, different
    1:35:25 things, but did you get pulled away from the creative work or the actual wordsmithing
    1:35:27 at any point or were you able to hold the line?
    1:35:29 I was able to hold the line but barely.
    1:35:34 At one point, I started to get popular enough that people wanted me on the speaking tour
    1:35:36 and so I put a dollar amount on it.
    1:35:40 Well, at that point, a day of writing, and it takes me two days, a day of writing is
    1:35:43 $25,000, so two days, $50,000.
    1:35:48 We put it up there instantly, like 10 inquiries.
    1:35:51 I’m like, I don’t want to do that.
    1:35:52 Now what?
    1:35:53 Now what?
    1:35:54 I just said, you know what?
    1:35:56 No, we were wrong.
    1:36:01 Part of that is because I don’t feel like I’m $50,000 worth of speaking.
    1:36:05 There are really good motivational speakers that are maybe worth that.
    1:36:06 I don’t think I am.
    1:36:07 My time is worth that.
    1:36:09 They would probably disagree.
    1:36:10 They’re like, whatever.
    1:36:12 We have this money set aside for speakers.
    1:36:13 It’s what speakers cost.
    1:36:17 But the other thing is that’s what my writing time was and I love writing.
    1:36:21 And if I’m going to spend two days writing, I want to spend it writing.
    1:36:23 And nowadays, it would be ridiculous.
    1:36:27 For me to go do one of these things, it would cost like $400,000.
    1:36:29 It’d be even worse.
    1:36:34 And so I did have to stop thinking about the hour, whatever, but it is a helpful metric
    1:36:36 for where you spend your time.
    1:36:39 Put your time where you’re happy and excited.
    1:36:42 But also if you can choose among different things that you’re having inside of you,
    1:36:43 you can do that.
    1:36:45 So anyway, that’s the side of the point.
    1:36:50 I gave this challenge to my team and it worked.
    1:36:53 We started to do all the things that the publishers weren’t doing.
    1:36:59 And then that’s when I said, all right, now we’re going to actually build a team and grow.
    1:37:02 And we moved to doing crowdfunding.
    1:37:03 It’s really a lot better.
    1:37:05 We did pre-orders on the initial ones.
    1:37:06 We moved to crowdfunding.
    1:37:11 And that’s when we went, my team all through the teams was maybe 10 people.
    1:37:13 Probably didn’t even quite get there.
    1:37:15 And who were those people?
    1:37:17 What was the kind of org chart at the time?
    1:37:18 So me and Emily.
    1:37:23 So Emily runs the business and I run the creative, right?
    1:37:24 So she does HR.
    1:37:26 She does accounting.
    1:37:30 She does operations is what we call it and all of that stuff.
    1:37:35 And is operations sort of the logistics of manufacturing and shipping?
    1:37:36 Yes.
    1:37:37 It’s manufacturing shipping.
    1:37:38 It’s HR.
    1:37:40 It’s facilities.
    1:37:42 Basically, she’s over that.
    1:37:47 So if you look at my org chart, Emily and I are at the top and I am over what we call creative development,
    1:37:49 which early on was one person.
    1:37:51 All of these were one person.
    1:37:54 Creative development and publicity are kind of under me.
    1:37:56 And what did creative development do at that?
    1:37:57 That’s our art team.
    1:37:58 Okay, got it.
    1:37:59 So that was art.
    1:38:02 So art and then editorial and publicity were me.
    1:38:05 And then merchandising events and facilities were her.
    1:38:08 And so we started 2007.
    1:38:10 I hired my first employee.
    1:38:12 I broke out in 2005.
    1:38:13 2007.
    1:38:19 I hire an assistant editor whose job is to do executive assistant and editorial work for me.
    1:38:20 Well, very soon.
    1:38:22 Oh, wait, you’re actually our first.
    1:38:23 Becky’s like you.
    1:38:25 That wasn’t it was our first like full-time employee.
    1:38:29 Our first one, we hire Becky to do shipping.
    1:38:31 So actually, our first employee is shipping.
    1:38:32 You’re going to love this.
    1:38:35 My second book, we had, they have remainders.
    1:38:37 You know what remainders are.
    1:38:39 You should explain for the people listening though.
    1:38:40 Boy, we’re on a tangent to a tangent.
    1:38:41 I love this.
    1:38:42 You’re pretty good.
    1:38:44 I’m impressed with your ability to reel it in though.
    1:38:49 What you haven’t done, which happens to me all the time is someone will say,
    1:38:50 what were we talking about?
    1:38:51 What was your question again?
    1:38:52 You’re very good at doing callbacks.
    1:38:53 You’re good at reminding me.
    1:38:54 You’ve been reminding me.
    1:38:56 So publishing, like Tom already said,
    1:39:00 he wants 10 books on the shelf and you really want to sell seven of those,
    1:39:01 seven to eight.
    1:39:04 If you sell everyone, that means you didn’t put enough on the shelf.
    1:39:07 Someone walked into that store and couldn’t buy a book.
    1:39:10 If you sell two, you actually printed way too many.
    1:39:13 Tom would still want them for publicity reasons,
    1:39:16 but industry kind of common sense says,
    1:39:18 you want to have remainders somewhere around.
    1:39:21 Remainders are left over at the end of a print run.
    1:39:23 You want to have around 20%.
    1:39:28 Anything between 30% to 10% is fine.
    1:39:32 40% starts to look sketchy and less than 10% is bad also.
    1:39:36 So you end up getting thousands of books shipped back, right?
    1:39:41 Elantris, they printed 10,000 and they had remainders on Elantris,
    1:39:42 or not Elantris, Mistborn.
    1:39:43 Elantris, they didn’t have remainders.
    1:39:44 They didn’t print enough of them.
    1:39:45 Mistborn, they did.
    1:39:47 They actually overprinted a little bit.
    1:39:48 So they had too many remainders.
    1:39:50 They said, Brandon, you can have these.
    1:39:52 It’s a dollar a piece.
    1:39:55 I’m like, entrepreneur, what does my mom say?
    1:39:57 You buy those books at a dollar and you sign them
    1:39:58 and you sell them at cover price,
    1:40:00 and you use that to supplement your income, right?
    1:40:02 You’re making $2,500 a year.
    1:40:04 You need to supplement that somehow.
    1:40:05 So I bought them all.
    1:40:08 Okay, so this is going back early days.
    1:40:09 Way back early.
    1:40:10 Bought them all, put them in our garage.
    1:40:12 Couldn’t park our car anymore.
    1:40:15 Then we hired Becky, who’s my sister-in-law,
    1:40:17 to take the orders.
    1:40:18 We put them up on my website signed.
    1:40:22 And it’s a trickle, 10 a week or even that many.
    1:40:23 But she was shipping that.
    1:40:24 So first person is shipping.
    1:40:27 Second person is editorial, executive assistant editorial.
    1:40:29 Soon there’s enough editorial work for him
    1:40:30 that I need another assistant.
    1:40:33 So then we hire a merchandising person.
    1:40:34 What is the merch?
    1:40:37 So the merch at that point was looking at doing t-shirts
    1:40:42 and stickers and take over the shipping from Becky.
    1:40:44 They have like a full in-house thing.
    1:40:46 So that’s when we let Becky go.
    1:40:47 So she was our first employee.
    1:40:48 I’m nodding.
    1:40:49 She’s over here in the corner.
    1:40:50 She eventually got hired again.
    1:40:52 She’ll still come back into the story.
    1:40:54 But then we have like a full-time person
    1:40:57 who is shipping and to come up with merchandising.
    1:40:59 And then I hire her husband.
    1:41:03 We hired them as a team for 20 hours each a week.
    1:41:04 As 140-hour employee.
    1:41:05 He was an artist.
    1:41:08 He’d done all my art for Elantris or Mistborn.
    1:41:10 See, he’s saying Elantris for Mistborn.
    1:41:13 And she was, she’s the person we had been off
    1:41:15 loading our merchandise to so far
    1:41:16 that it started doing it.
    1:41:18 We’re like, we’re bringing this in-house.
    1:41:20 So posters, art prints, all of that stuff.
    1:41:23 And then our next employee is right around the same time
    1:41:25 is publicity and marketing altogether.
    1:41:27 That’s Adam whom you’ve met.
    1:41:30 So then we have our structure all set, right?
    1:41:33 We have, for me, I have an editorial person.
    1:41:37 I have a creative element, which art person
    1:41:39 and I have a publicity person.
    1:41:42 And then Emily has a person for shipping
    1:41:44 and for merchandise together.
    1:41:46 And then she hired a facilities person
    1:41:48 to kind of, our little office at the time
    1:41:50 to clean it up, to make sure people need
    1:41:52 to change light bulbs and things like that.
    1:41:55 And then she handled herself all of the HR
    1:41:57 and things like that.
    1:41:58 And that’s where we began.
    1:42:01 And that’s what we were for like 10 years
    1:42:04 until the first Kickstarter where things exploded.
    1:42:07 And slowly we’ve been adding people to shipping
    1:42:09 and we’ve been shipping out of the house
    1:42:11 next door that we bought.
    1:42:14 And that’s when we said,
    1:42:15 “All right, it’s time to level up.”
    1:42:16 And I said,
    1:42:17 “Everyone’s going to build a department.
    1:42:19 I want a full team for each one
    1:42:22 because we’re going to go somewhere with this
    1:42:24 now that I have this team.”
    1:42:25 And just to give people a visual.
    1:42:29 So when I got my amazing tour earlier,
    1:42:32 I remember walking into the warehouse
    1:42:33 and I was like,
    1:42:35 “I feel like I’m at the end of Raiders of the Lost Ark.
    1:42:40 This is a gigantic space with levels upon levels
    1:42:44 and palettes upon palettes upon palettes.”
    1:42:49 It is really jaw-dropping to walk into that space.
    1:42:50 Now you mentioned Kickstarter.
    1:42:52 I know we’re jumping ahead a little bit.
    1:42:55 And I’m going to want to come back to Warbreaker
    1:42:56 and all sorts of other things.
    1:43:00 But since you already mentioned Kickstarter,
    1:43:04 I recall very distinctly when your launch video
    1:43:08 was sent to me by a number of friends.
    1:43:10 You could listen to Raiders usually.
    1:43:13 So I got this video and I was like,
    1:43:14 “Oh, this should be fun to watch.”
    1:43:18 So for people who don’t have any context,
    1:43:20 this is the big one.
    1:43:21 The big one.
    1:43:23 How do you want to set that up?
    1:43:25 Because it’s so mind-boggling.
    1:43:27 I don’t even know which angle to take on it.
    1:43:30 I have a couple of big level-up moments in my life.
    1:43:33 The first one is when I pitched Mistborn
    1:43:35 going from Elantris to Mistborn,
    1:43:37 where I said I’m not doing sequel to Elantris.
    1:43:38 I’m doing this whole new thing.
    1:43:40 And I’ve got big aspirations.
    1:43:42 The next one is when the Wheel of Time hit me.
    1:43:45 The next one is when we started doing our Leather Bounds.
    1:43:47 And the most recent one is our Kickstarter.
    1:43:49 Now, I say our Kickstarter because it’s the famous one.
    1:43:52 We’d actually done one before that hit $7 million.
    1:43:54 That was for the Way of Kings Leather Bound.
    1:43:56 We moved our Leather Bounds from…
    1:43:59 So we did Elantris and the Mistborn books
    1:44:02 in Warbreaker just as pre-orders during the 20 teams.
    1:44:05 And then coming to the 2020s,
    1:44:07 we said, “All right, we’re moving to Kickstarter.”
    1:44:10 This happened actually because of my friend Howard Taylor,
    1:44:12 who was one of my models,
    1:44:15 where he’s the guy who did a web comic,
    1:44:18 comic book that he sold the print editions
    1:44:21 in order to subsidize the free thing online.
    1:44:22 And he came to me and said,
    1:44:24 “Brandon, you should be doing crowdfunding.”
    1:44:26 I’m like, “We have a nice pre-order system.”
    1:44:29 He’s like, “No, crowdfunding hits publicity
    1:44:30 in a different way.”
    1:44:32 And I realized he’s right.
    1:44:33 I should have been doing these.
    1:44:35 One of the problems with the pre-orders
    1:44:38 is we never knew how many to order, right?
    1:44:40 And with a Kickstarter, you get all those orders come in.
    1:44:42 And you have to pay a chunk to Kickstarter,
    1:44:45 but they have a nice back-end structure.
    1:44:47 And we investigated that.
    1:44:49 And Kara, my person who’s in charge of fulfillment,
    1:44:51 is like, “This would be so much easier
    1:44:53 than what we’re doing because you can mail-merge
    1:44:55 all these things and they keep all of this track
    1:44:58 of all of the stuff with the shipping and the prices.”
    1:45:01 It just makes it so much easier
    1:45:03 than there’s the publicity side
    1:45:06 where you can start adding all of these add-ons
    1:45:07 and things.
    1:45:10 And so we tried one out with the way of Kingslover bound.
    1:45:14 It was successful, $7 million, which is pretty good.
    1:45:16 And then COVID hit.
    1:45:20 Okay, so before we get to COVID hits,
    1:45:22 now before we get to that,
    1:45:24 what did you guys learn?
    1:45:28 What were the key lessons learned with that first prototype run?
    1:45:29 Let’s just say.
    1:45:30 Yeah, first prototype run.
    1:45:31 So there’s a couple things.
    1:45:34 Number one, there’s a whole lot of organization
    1:45:38 that goes into shipping out 50,000 books at once
    1:45:40 instead of 50,000 books across 10 years.
    1:45:41 Yeah, yeah.
    1:45:43 Because a lot of folks who do Kickstarter,
    1:45:45 if they’re successful, get the hug of death.
    1:45:46 Exactly.
    1:45:47 And they implode.
    1:45:50 Yep, they implode because managing and shipping
    1:45:51 and keeping everyone happy.
    1:45:53 When you do what we were doing,
    1:45:55 where we’re sending out a few thousand, you know,
    1:45:58 every month or things like that,
    1:46:01 people get their books in a timely way.
    1:46:02 In a Kickstarter,
    1:46:04 suddenly you have to figure out how to send 50,000 books
    1:46:06 and keep everyone updated on it, right?
    1:46:08 And you have to figure out how to get merchandise
    1:46:11 and books shipped together or in separate packages.
    1:46:15 That’s a really big one because what we found with our books is
    1:46:19 we could drop ship the books direct from the printer,
    1:46:21 but not the merchandise,
    1:46:24 which comes in on different boats from around the world
    1:46:27 because you’re printing them all in different places.
    1:46:30 And so we had to figure out how are we doing all the shipping?
    1:46:33 The logistics do kill a lot of people,
    1:46:34 and we were able to build that.
    1:46:36 So that’s all behind the scene stuff.
    1:46:37 That’s a lesson.
    1:46:38 Having your logistics in place,
    1:46:40 knowing how you’re going to fulfill
    1:46:42 if you are successful is a very big deal.
    1:46:46 Knowing that you can already produce these things at scale,
    1:46:48 have them arrive,
    1:46:51 like a lot of people who do Kickstarter don’t understand,
    1:46:55 like the sheer fact of these big trucks coming in
    1:46:57 can only go to certain places,
    1:47:00 and they can only offload in certain ways.
    1:47:03 And some of them need a high dock,
    1:47:04 and some of them will have a ramp,
    1:47:07 and you have to find out where can they deposit these things.
    1:47:09 If you don’t have a warehouse with a high dock,
    1:47:12 you better then know that the trucks are coming in with a ramp
    1:47:14 and a pallet jack.
    1:47:16 Otherwise, they’re going to arrive and be like,
    1:47:17 “All right, move these.”
    1:47:19 And you’re like, “What do we do?”
    1:47:21 We actually had one of those where they’d all had ramps before
    1:47:23 and then run arrived without.
    1:47:26 And they’re like, “All right, how are you getting this out?”
    1:47:29 And we had to have a bunch of people go into the back of the book
    1:47:32 and move them off of the pallets by box.
    1:47:34 So these are all lessons learned.
    1:47:36 So there’s all these logistical things.
    1:47:39 The second thing we learned was that it was true.
    1:47:43 A crowdfunding campaign where you bring all of the might of your fan base
    1:47:48 together for one event cuts through the noise.
    1:47:51 There’s a certain principle I’ve started calling,
    1:47:54 like escape velocity of attention.
    1:47:58 Escape velocity of attention is in today’s media environment.
    1:48:03 It’s like people’s attention have a gravitational pull
    1:48:06 to what they’ve already been paying attention to.
    1:48:11 And they love the things that they love and getting anything else
    1:48:13 to achieve that escape velocity,
    1:48:17 to go off and to make a splash,
    1:48:21 but any idea to not just crash and burn to get out into the universe
    1:48:25 and draw the attention of other people is just super difficult.
    1:48:28 And most things like sit on the planet
    1:48:31 and never get up into the universe where everyone can see it.
    1:48:34 They crash and burn and it’s like this layer
    1:48:38 keeping people’s attention away from paying attention to this thing over here.
    1:48:41 And in order to make any sort of noise,
    1:48:44 any sort of attention outside of a very small group,
    1:48:47 you need a certain amount of attention being paid to it
    1:48:50 so that you achieve this escape velocity and you blast out
    1:48:53 and then the rest of the planets pay attention to it,
    1:48:56 not just the one that is your little planet of attention.
    1:48:59 And it’s really hard.
    1:49:03 Like launching new books for new authors today is much harder.
    1:49:06 You might notice, I’ve noticed,
    1:49:10 there are fewer big people who break out now than used to.
    1:49:13 More authors are earning a living now than used to,
    1:49:16 but they’re earning less because there are fewer breakouts.
    1:49:19 There are fewer movie stars than there used to be.
    1:49:22 There are fewer giant bands than there used to be.
    1:49:25 And this is all because our attention is…
    1:49:28 There’s so many things vying for it that we put up this barrier
    1:49:30 and we don’t want to look up.
    1:49:32 And it’s very natural.
    1:49:37 And so having a Kickstarter gets that momentum behind you,
    1:49:38 starts to make noise.
    1:49:40 -Executed properly. -Executed properly.
    1:49:43 A lot of them flop, but actually you’re bringing all of your fan base together
    1:49:45 and making a lot of noise.
    1:49:48 Suddenly, more people pay attention to you.
    1:49:50 And with our way of King’s Kickstarter,
    1:49:53 it still only reached our audience, right?
    1:49:57 But even reaching your audience is really hard today.
    1:50:02 All of the social media platforms that we have learned to rely upon in use
    1:50:05 have found out that people can’t pay attention to everything.
    1:50:07 They will click too many names.
    1:50:09 They will want to follow these names,
    1:50:13 but then they’ll be too much spam of all these names on their feeds
    1:50:15 and all of them use algorithms because, number one,
    1:50:17 they need to monetize somehow.
    1:50:20 And number two, people follow too many things
    1:50:22 and it overwhelms most people so they come
    1:50:26 and they bounce off of even their social media platforms.
    1:50:29 And so in the early days of social media,
    1:50:32 if someone followed you on Facebook and you did a post,
    1:50:34 it showed up on their feed automatically.
    1:50:37 -No longer the case. -And that stopped in the 20 teens.
    1:50:40 And so it depended on how many people liked the thing.
    1:50:42 So if you even want to reach your own audience,
    1:50:45 you have to have an escape velocity of attention.
    1:50:47 You have to break through these barriers,
    1:50:51 preventing even your fan base from seeing what’s happening.
    1:50:53 I still get people who come to me like,
    1:50:56 “Wow, you did this big Kickstarter. I didn’t even hear about this.”
    1:51:00 We sold only 10% of our audience with the big one that we’re getting to, right?
    1:51:03 -That’s insane. -That’s only 10%.
    1:51:06 And that’s all that effort to get to 10%.
    1:51:10 And I would say the big Kickstarter was 30% to 40% new people.
    1:51:12 So we really only reached 5% of my audience.
    1:51:15 But regardless, it taught us that.
    1:51:17 It taught me about escape velocity of attention,
    1:51:19 how to break through, get into the sky,
    1:51:22 and start getting everyone’s attention maybe a little bit,
    1:51:25 or at least get high enough that your whole planet that follows you,
    1:51:27 more of them can see it.
    1:51:31 So I want to give people just a bit of a carrot dangling
    1:51:33 on the end of a stick here.
    1:51:36 -And then we’re going to go back to COVID hitting. -Yeah.
    1:51:39 With the big campaign that we keep referring to,
    1:51:41 what did that end up totaling?
    1:51:46 So it was 41. something million official,
    1:51:49 45 when you would do all the people.
    1:51:52 You have people that can add on extra stuff.
    1:51:54 The behind the scenes was another four and a half or so.
    1:51:56 We ended right at 45 million.
    1:51:59 So if you go look at it right now, it’s 41. something.
    1:52:01 Do you have it there? What is it? 41.
    1:52:04 I don’t have it actually at the points. I just have roughly 41.
    1:52:06 Roughly 41 million.
    1:52:10 And the previous highest Kickstarter had been 21.
    1:52:12 And we still have the record.
    1:52:15 Here’s what’s wild, it’s four books.
    1:52:17 If you go look at that top 10,
    1:52:20 everything else is some cool tech innovation.
    1:52:23 And we have it for novels.
    1:52:26 So COVID hits.
    1:52:30 I have gone through cycles in my life multiple times
    1:52:32 where I say yes to too many things.
    1:52:34 And then I’m traveling too much.
    1:52:36 And 2019 was one of those years.
    1:52:38 As an author, you know this.
    1:52:40 People want you in person.
    1:52:42 And traveling is fun.
    1:52:43 I enjoy seeing the world.
    1:52:45 So you say yes to a bunch of things.
    1:52:48 And then you end up, as I did in 2019,
    1:52:50 with three different trips to Europe.
    1:52:51 And Europe can be kind of exhausting.
    1:52:53 Three tours in Europe, multiple tours around here.
    1:52:57 And I calculated I’d been on the road one third of my days.
    1:53:01 COVID hits and I had 2020 was set for the same thing.
    1:53:03 And all that gets canceled.
    1:53:05 No one can travel.
    1:53:09 And suddenly I have one third of my time back.
    1:53:12 In the meantime, I’d started to feel dissatisfied
    1:53:13 with something in my life.
    1:53:16 When I was early in my career,
    1:53:18 I could just have a random idea.
    1:53:20 And I would shelve it until I was done with my current book.
    1:53:22 But I could have something that was really exciting to me.
    1:53:24 And when I finished my current book,
    1:53:26 I could go in and I could write that cool idea.
    1:53:28 Warbreaker that you mentioned was one of these.
    1:53:30 Just a standalone book that I wrote, you know,
    1:53:31 Mistborn Trilogy.
    1:53:33 Between the Mistborn Trilogy,
    1:53:36 The Wheel of Time and Stormlight on either side,
    1:53:39 I have this little standalone book that was a cool idea I had.
    1:53:41 And I love that about fantasy.
    1:53:44 Some of my favorite fantasy novels are standalone books.
    1:53:46 Guy Gavriel Kay is very good at them.
    1:53:51 Lions of Al-Rassan or Taigana are too highly recommended.
    1:53:52 They’re ’90s fantasy.
    1:53:54 They’re a little slower than modern fantasy.
    1:53:56 Really just single volume,
    1:53:58 really digging into one world,
    1:54:00 but it doesn’t overstay its welcome.
    1:54:04 And I hadn’t been able to do that in a while.
    1:54:07 I was writing series, all these series.
    1:54:09 Everything I wrote turned into a big series.
    1:54:11 And I didn’t have a place for these wacky ideas.
    1:54:14 And I started to hit my mid-40s.
    1:54:16 And I started to realize,
    1:54:19 I’m only really going to be able to do this probably
    1:54:22 till my 70s, if I’m lucky, right?
    1:54:26 Most authors really slow down when they hit their 70s.
    1:54:30 This is what people who are fans of Game of Thrones have found.
    1:54:32 George was always a little on the slower side,
    1:54:35 and then he hit retirement age, and he slowed down.
    1:54:37 And a lot of authors that happened to.
    1:54:39 And I started to calculate out,
    1:54:41 and I’m like, I don’t have room for any of these cool ideas.
    1:54:43 That makes me sad.
    1:54:46 But then suddenly I had a third of my time back.
    1:54:49 And I started watching movies with my kids.
    1:54:52 They were old enough that we could show them some of our favorite movies.
    1:54:55 And we showed them The Princess Bride.
    1:54:57 One of my favorite movies and favorite books.
    1:54:58 -Amazing. -Yeah.
    1:54:59 -Amazing, amazing. -Just because–
    1:55:01 -Amazing Everything, William Goldman. -Yeah.
    1:55:03 It’s a wonderful, wonderful book, wonderful.
    1:55:05 Written by William Goldman,
    1:55:07 who’s a great screenwriter,
    1:55:09 he’s written a lot of classics.
    1:55:11 Butch Cassie and Sundance Kid was one of his.
    1:55:13 And just brilliant screenwriter,
    1:55:15 who script-doctored a ton of your favorite movies,
    1:55:18 as well as wrote multiple on his own of your favorite movies.
    1:55:21 And so, I was watching this movie,
    1:55:23 and I love just the feel of it.
    1:55:26 This sort of fantasy that is fun,
    1:55:28 but doesn’t quite take itself too seriously.
    1:55:30 And we got done with that.
    1:55:32 And my wife’s like, “I love that movie.”
    1:55:34 And she said, “Isn’t it funny
    1:55:36 that The Princess doesn’t do anything
    1:55:38 in the movie The Princess Bride?”
    1:55:41 She even tries to hit a rat once and she misses, right?
    1:55:44 Like, that’s the most she accomplishes.
    1:55:46 That and marrying the bad guy, almost.
    1:55:47 Yeah.
    1:55:49 And she’s like, “Wouldn’t it be nice if she did something?”
    1:55:50 Marriage.
    1:55:51 Oh, marriage.
    1:55:53 So, that stuck in my brain.
    1:55:55 I’m like, “What if The Princess Bride?”
    1:55:57 What if, you know, Princess Bride starts with,
    1:55:59 “Guy goes off to seek his fortune,
    1:56:00 says, “Wait for me.
    1:56:02 I’m gonna go find my fortune and come back,
    1:56:04 and then we can get married and I’ll have money.”
    1:56:06 What if he went off and he got captured by pirates?
    1:56:07 Mm-hmm.
    1:56:09 What if that story happened,
    1:56:11 but the princess said,
    1:56:14 “Well, I guess I have to go find him now.”
    1:56:16 And went to find him, right?
    1:56:17 No one’s gonna go find him.
    1:56:18 Well, it’s down to me.
    1:56:19 She has no experience with this,
    1:56:21 but she’s like, “I’m the only one.”
    1:56:22 So, she goes off.
    1:56:25 And that, I wrote a story that was more fairy-tell-ish.
    1:56:27 It’s still in my cosmic universe,
    1:56:28 all my connected things.
    1:56:30 So, it’s told by my story-tell-y character,
    1:56:34 based a little bit off of some Shakespearean fool vibes
    1:56:36 from like, Twelfth Night and stuff like that.
    1:56:39 And let me, I’m just gonna sidebar because we might not get to it.
    1:56:40 Yeah.
    1:56:42 You have someone among you,
    1:56:45 within this company whose job,
    1:56:47 sole job, as I understand it, is continuity.
    1:56:48 Yes.
    1:56:49 Right?
    1:56:52 And you have an internal wiki to keep track of everything in this universe
    1:56:54 so that it interconnects and coheres.
    1:56:56 As good as I am with narrative,
    1:56:58 I need all of this stuff still.
    1:56:59 So, we have someone.
    1:57:01 So, from his voice,
    1:57:03 this is the first time I’ve done this, right?
    1:57:04 All my other books are in my voice.
    1:57:05 And I said,
    1:57:07 “What if a character told a story to someone else about this,
    1:57:08 this young woman?”
    1:57:11 And it became the story, Tress of the Emerald Sea,
    1:57:14 that I wrote without any plans to publish it,
    1:57:17 without any contracts, without any expectations.
    1:57:19 I didn’t tell the fans it was coming.
    1:57:22 I wrote it and just gave the chapters to my wife to read
    1:57:23 as I was writing it.
    1:57:27 And it was liberating with no deadlines, no contracts.
    1:57:30 It just, I wrote it because I had a little extra time.
    1:57:32 And I thought, “That was amazing.
    1:57:33 That’s something I’ve been missing.”
    1:57:35 And COVID gave me this chance across those like,
    1:57:38 two or three years that we canceled everything,
    1:57:40 that I used that extra time.
    1:57:43 I fulfilled all of my contractual obligations
    1:57:44 writing books,
    1:57:47 but I also ended up writing four novels
    1:57:49 that were just squeezed between.
    1:57:52 And I say, you know, these are each 100,000 words, right?
    1:57:55 So, they’re one Stormlight Archive book.
    1:57:58 So, it’s about 18 months of writing time
    1:58:01 that I squeezed in there between different things.
    1:58:05 And I wrote these four books and I realized,
    1:58:09 well, at about book three, I realized I had something.
    1:58:11 That I could spring on people.
    1:58:14 And COVID had been so miserable for so many people.
    1:58:16 It was delightful for me.
    1:58:18 I’m writing books, I’m watching movies with my kids.
    1:58:21 No one’s asking me to go on tour anymore.
    1:58:25 And so, in the midst of all this, I started to have a plan.
    1:58:27 And I started to have an idea.
    1:58:29 And I got that fourth one written.
    1:58:31 And I wrote the fourth one deliberately for the Kickstarter.
    1:58:34 I realized I wanted one that felt more like my classic novels,
    1:58:37 so that fans who like Mistworn and Stormlight
    1:58:41 would get something because number one and number three of that
    1:58:43 were told from my storyteller voice.
    1:58:45 And then number two was something completely different.
    1:58:48 It’s a science fiction novel unrelated to every my other stuff.
    1:58:50 And so, I wrote one kind of for the fans.
    1:58:54 And then I sprung them on my company, said,
    1:58:57 there’s four books out of nowhere.
    1:58:58 Tell me what you think.
    1:59:02 And I watched their reaction to finding four unexpected books
    1:59:06 in the excitement that just moved through the company.
    1:59:09 And I said, all right, I’ve got something.
    1:59:11 I did it again with test audience.
    1:59:15 Some of my, you know, sworn to secrecy, early readers.
    1:59:18 Do you use the same early readers?
    1:59:20 I have a pool of about a hundred of them.
    1:59:22 And we don’t use them all for every book.
    1:59:25 We just kind of randomly decide.
    1:59:28 And I said, Brandon has an extra book.
    1:59:31 And we actually splint like the hundred and the groups of 25
    1:59:33 and sent them all four different books.
    1:59:35 And they all talk on it.
    1:59:37 Do you say two groups of 45?
    1:59:38 No, sorry.
    1:59:39 Sorry, four groups of 25.
    1:59:40 Four groups of 25.
    1:59:41 Sorry.
    1:59:42 I probably misspoke on the head.
    1:59:43 No, no, no.
    1:59:44 I think I missheard it.
    1:59:45 Okay, four groups of 25.
    1:59:48 And they all talk on like discords and things.
    1:59:50 And we sent them each a different book.
    1:59:52 And then I watched the discord as they all realized
    1:59:55 I had written four books in secret.
    2:00:00 And I spun this into the video that you watched.
    2:00:02 I went to my team and I said, I want to do something.
    2:00:05 And they were a little resistant because sometimes
    2:00:09 some of these big ideas that I have, I’m the big idea person
    2:00:12 and they can be really daunting such as the,
    2:00:14 we’re going to do our own leather balance.
    2:00:16 We’re going to start doing kick starters.
    2:00:20 I kind of have to, my job is to, we always talk, Emily and I,
    2:00:24 my job is to look and pull people toward that star future.
    2:00:27 And her job is to say, remember to be practical.
    2:00:28 Remember to be practical.
    2:00:29 Can we actually accomplish this?
    2:00:31 Well, it would take to actually accomplish this.
    2:00:35 And I went to them and I said, I want to do a video where
    2:00:38 I pretend that I’m coming out with some big scandal
    2:00:41 and I’m retiring from writing because I’ve secretly,
    2:00:45 you know, done something just horrible that happens periodically.
    2:00:48 And it’s probably, it may be not be something really fun
    2:00:51 to make fun of, but you know, you have a lot of writers like,
    2:00:54 you know, I have to admit that I plagiarized or I have to admit
    2:00:57 that anyway, all those apology videos that people,
    2:01:00 and I said, I’m going to make a fake apology video.
    2:01:03 And the reason being is everyone’s going to get gotten by it
    2:01:05 and they’re going to share it with their friends.
    2:01:06 He’ll get gotten by it.
    2:01:08 They’ll just say, hey, watch this.
    2:01:10 And then you’ll be, oh no, Sanderson, what’s up with him?
    2:01:13 And we’ll tap into that sort of horror mentality that watch
    2:01:17 a train wreck, car wreck, people, you know, want to slow down.
    2:01:19 If they think something, Brandon’s going to announce
    2:01:22 something terrible and then I hit them instead of it being
    2:01:24 another terrible COVID thing.
    2:01:26 It was, there’s four surprise books.
    2:01:29 You get this delightful thing in your life instead.
    2:01:32 And I knew this would go viral.
    2:01:33 I just knew it would.
    2:01:37 They were scared of it because they’re like, this, you know,
    2:01:39 sounds like you have like cancer or something.
    2:01:41 And that’s not something to make fun of.
    2:01:43 And I’m like, yes, it is not, I agree.
    2:01:46 But at the same time, I knew it would work.
    2:01:50 I am a storyteller and that’s a video with a story.
    2:01:51 Right?
    2:01:53 Like I live for the reveal.
    2:01:57 If people read my books, you will tell I live for that ending
    2:01:59 where I’ve been distracting with something
    2:02:01 and then I pull out that surprise.
    2:02:03 I love the great twist.
    2:02:06 I love the really good complication that you’re not expecting.
    2:02:09 I love when a story comes together right at the end.
    2:02:11 And that video did it.
    2:02:15 And it announced a Kickstarter for four secret books.
    2:02:20 We did not expect to go to $41 million.
    2:02:25 We were hoping to get to around seven to 10 like we’d done before.
    2:02:27 But that escaped velocity of attention.
    2:02:28 Right?
    2:02:33 I suddenly, it’s the first time in my life where suddenly people
    2:02:37 are paying attention who are not in my circle of influence,
    2:02:38 who don’t read Epic Fantasy.
    2:02:40 Suddenly news stories are everywhere.
    2:02:42 Everyone’s talking about it.
    2:02:46 I get interviewed by like, you know, legit news media.
    2:02:49 And the closest I had ever gotten to that was the Wheel of Time
    2:02:50 way back when.
    2:02:52 And even then, no one really interviewed me.
    2:02:53 Yeah, which we’ll come back to.
    2:02:55 I did appear on Colbert Report.
    2:02:56 That’s a big one.
    2:03:01 Well, my face appeared.
    2:03:02 Does that count?
    2:03:03 I think that counts.
    2:03:07 So Stephen Colbert had a piece on Zeppelins
    2:03:08 because he was in character.
    2:03:09 This is Colbert Report.
    2:03:10 Yeah.
    2:03:12 About how much he hates Zeppelins or whatever.
    2:03:15 And he holds up because USA Today had done a thing on Zeppelins
    2:03:17 and he holds up a USA Today page.
    2:03:18 And there’s my little picture.
    2:03:21 Because doofus takes over Wheel of Time.
    2:03:23 It’s like the bottom story on the page, below the fold.
    2:03:25 And there’s this giant Zeppelins story.
    2:03:27 And he holds it up and he points at Zeppelins.
    2:03:28 And then there’s me.
    2:03:30 My face was on the Colbert Report.
    2:03:31 It’s pixelated.
    2:03:32 You can barely tell.
    2:03:33 But you appeared.
    2:03:34 But I appeared.
    2:03:35 Yeah.
    2:03:36 As seen on.
    2:03:37 As seen on Stephen Colbert.
    2:03:39 Brad and Sanderson.
    2:03:41 My claim thing.
    2:03:43 My fans all tweeted me.
    2:03:45 This is way back in like 2009.
    2:03:46 It was 2007.
    2:03:48 It was right where the Wheel of Time happened.
    2:03:53 So when you look at this record breaking success.
    2:03:55 This Kickstarter.
    2:04:01 Were there aspects of it or packages that just outperformed
    2:04:03 all expectations?
    2:04:04 Yeah.
    2:04:06 It was the main tier.
    2:04:08 The buy everything tier.
    2:04:09 So we did it.
    2:04:12 Again, I like to have people be able to self-select it.
    2:04:16 And so there was a relatively inexpensive e-book and audio
    2:04:18 book bundle that you got together.
    2:04:23 And I think it was $15 each for those.
    2:04:24 Okay.
    2:04:28 So each book in the audio e-book combo was $15.
    2:04:29 $15.
    2:04:30 Yep.
    2:04:33 Which is about the price of an Audible credit.
    2:04:34 Plus you get the e-book.
    2:04:35 Sure.
    2:04:36 We thought that was.
    2:04:38 So for $60 you got all four books on that.
    2:04:42 And then the high end we did, you get all four books in our
    2:04:43 nice editions.
    2:04:46 They’re not leather bound, but they’re like a $55 price
    2:04:47 point.
    2:04:48 We sold them at $40 on this.
    2:04:52 Plus a box every month of Brandon Sanderson swag.
    2:04:54 Of just magical swag.
    2:04:55 For how long?
    2:04:56 For a year.
    2:04:57 For a year.
    2:04:58 Yeah.
    2:05:00 I like the idea of subscription boxes, but I have a problem
    2:05:04 with them in that they, there was the big subscription box
    2:05:06 craze of the late teens.
    2:05:09 And I feel like their incentive was misplaced.
    2:05:11 They wanted to keep you going as long as they could.
    2:05:14 Because of that, they will stretch out the cool objects.
    2:05:16 They will run out of steam.
    2:05:19 And Adam actually in our company pitched, why don’t we do a
    2:05:20 subscription box?
    2:05:23 And I’ve always been hesitant because I feel like you eventually
    2:05:26 end up with too much crap you don’t want.
    2:05:28 But I went to the team and I said, what if we did eight
    2:05:29 boxes?
    2:05:30 Four books and eight boxes.
    2:05:32 So across a year you get a book every quarter.
    2:05:35 And then you get two boxes of swag.
    2:05:37 And we just make that swag awesome.
    2:05:39 We put all of our best ideas into it.
    2:05:42 We make eight really killer boxes and then we’re done.
    2:05:45 We don’t ask people to subscribe for longer.
    2:05:48 We just, you got your cool boxes of interesting stuff.
    2:05:51 And that just went great.
    2:05:53 What was the price point for that?
    2:05:55 So those were 40 bucks each, I think also.
    2:05:58 So it’s the idea is that it’s $40 a month.
    2:06:00 For those months you get a book.
    2:06:04 And then eight of those months you get a $40 box.
    2:06:06 That has other cool stuff in it.
    2:06:08 And $40 was a high enough price point.
    2:06:10 We could make some really quality cool things.
    2:06:12 So it’s like just under 500 bucks for that.
    2:06:13 Yep.
    2:06:17 And that one, that tier was, I believe, our biggest tier.
    2:06:19 If it wasn’t that one, it was the tier of just all the
    2:06:21 books in their high, those editions.
    2:06:24 Those two were the ones that just went gangbusters.
    2:06:27 Almost nobody bought the lower tiers.
    2:06:28 Did that surprise you?
    2:06:29 Yeah.
    2:06:30 That surprised me.
    2:06:31 But again, everyone’s happy.
    2:06:32 They all get a self-select.
    2:06:36 How do you explain that based on what you said earlier,
    2:06:39 which is that you only hit 5% to 10% of your audience
    2:06:43 and you had 30% to 40% newbies going for the gold?
    2:06:45 I mean, that just strikes me as so unexpected.
    2:06:46 Yeah.
    2:06:48 I think part of it is, I would guess,
    2:06:52 the majority of that 30% to 40% were people who had heard of me
    2:06:54 and had not tried me yet.
    2:06:55 Right?
    2:06:57 I wasn’t grabbing people who had never, you know,
    2:06:58 that didn’t ever read.
    2:07:00 But it was people who had friends that say,
    2:07:01 “Hey, Brandon Sanderson.”
    2:07:03 And these four books were all starter books.
    2:07:05 They were all meant, even the fourth one,
    2:07:08 which is kind of tied into things, to be books you could just
    2:07:11 pick up and read without knowing any of my other things.
    2:07:13 And to this day, Tress of the Emerald Sea,
    2:07:16 you want to hear weird stuff, another tangent.
    2:07:17 Love weird stuff.
    2:07:18 Tress of the Emerald Sea.
    2:07:21 You would think I have plumbed the depths of my audience,
    2:07:24 right, doing this Kickstarter, $45 million,
    2:07:28 shipped out 150,000 copies of that book, right,
    2:07:31 with the Kickstarter and all said and done.
    2:07:35 That is my best-selling book through an edition,
    2:07:40 but from the publisher after Mistborn and Stormlight Archive.
    2:07:42 After the first books of those, not even the sequels,
    2:07:45 like, after Mistborn 1 and Stormlight 1,
    2:07:48 Tress of the Emerald Sea, that book sells as much.
    2:07:49 It’s really comparable.
    2:07:51 They’re the weeks where it kind of beats them.
    2:07:55 So this book that you would think we’d sold to everybody,
    2:07:57 the publisher releases an edition expecting,
    2:07:59 well, there’s not much, but we’ll have it on the shelves,
    2:08:04 becomes their third best-selling Sanderson book of all time.
    2:08:05 How do you explain that?
    2:08:08 It’s because it’s that escape philosophy of attention.
    2:08:10 People hear about you.
    2:08:13 They want to try you out, but they don’t know where to start
    2:08:16 or there’s so many things and something cuts through.
    2:08:18 People can say, “Tress is a great place to start.”
    2:08:20 Book talk really likes Tress.
    2:08:24 It talks about and says, “Great place to start on Sanderson.
    2:08:26 A little bit more romantic, a little bit more whimsical.
    2:08:29 It fits with what a lot of people like on book talk.”
    2:08:31 So they buy it even though.
    2:08:33 So it’s really interesting.
    2:08:35 The starter books do sell the best.
    2:08:38 Anyway, we’re going back to, we released this thing
    2:08:41 and those are the ones like people want.
    2:08:43 They’ve heard of me.
    2:08:45 They say, “Well, I’ll try this thing.”
    2:08:47 And they become part of something.
    2:08:49 And so they all buy in and then there’s that thing.
    2:08:51 We call it the year of Sanderson.
    2:08:53 And we started shipping these boxes out
    2:08:55 and people got their boxes and their books
    2:08:57 and it was wonderful.
    2:09:00 It was the best year of my life, right?
    2:09:01 It’s incredible.
    2:09:02 It’s so incredible.
    2:09:04 So I have a question about the four times 25 people,
    2:09:05 the test readers.
    2:09:06 Yeah.
    2:09:08 And this actually ties into some of the questions
    2:09:09 I wanted to ask about Warbreaker.
    2:09:13 But let’s focus on the test readers, the four groups 25.
    2:09:17 When you have a new book of any type,
    2:09:20 do you use 25 to 100 test readers?
    2:09:21 Yeah.
    2:09:22 Okay.
    2:09:26 How do you absorb or evaluate that feedback?
    2:09:30 Because that is, I could foresee that being a lot of feedback.
    2:09:35 I pay my team, my editorial team,
    2:09:39 to condense it into the most relevant information.
    2:09:43 So this is a big difference to me and a lot of writers
    2:09:46 is I look at books a little bit
    2:09:50 like Hollywood looks at movies with test audiences.
    2:09:53 I want to know what my audience is going to say
    2:09:55 about a book before I release it.
    2:09:57 Sometimes it’ll change what I write.
    2:09:58 Often it will.
    2:09:59 Sometimes it won’t.
    2:10:00 I just want to know.
    2:10:02 I want to understand how it’s going to perform,
    2:10:04 what people are going to think of it.
    2:10:07 And a lot of writers do this with a couple of early readers.
    2:10:09 I find that doesn’t give me an actual test audience.
    2:10:12 It doesn’t give me the pulse of an audience.
    2:10:17 I need like 20 to 30, if not 40 to 50 people reading it.
    2:10:20 Even that’s just a tiny percentage of the audience.
    2:10:22 But it’s been really key to me.
    2:10:26 It started when I was nobody before I sold for an agent,
    2:10:27 for an editor.
    2:10:29 I actually sold to an editor before I got an agent.
    2:10:30 So I’m reverse.
    2:10:34 But back before I had any of that and I was ahead of that magazine,
    2:10:38 I started using those readers and passing out my books.
    2:10:41 And I would print off physical copies because this is the late 90s.
    2:10:45 And I would have a pack of gel pens of different colors.
    2:10:48 And I’d say, pick a color, write your name and that color.
    2:10:50 So I know who’s writing the comment.
    2:10:53 Read through the book and write your feedback all in that color.
    2:10:56 Go ahead and respond to what other people have written.
    2:10:59 And they would pass around my friends and they would all take a different color.
    2:11:03 And you’d have these conversations on the margins about what people thought of certain scenes.
    2:11:06 And I saw that and I’m like, this is really handy.
    2:11:10 Did you ask for particular types of feedback to focus it?
    2:11:14 So what I want is just, I don’t want people to fix the book.
    2:11:19 I want people to give their descriptive responses to the book.
    2:11:22 If you were just reading this as a professionally published thing,
    2:11:23 where are the places you’re bored?
    2:11:25 Where are the places you’re confused?
    2:11:27 Where are the places that you’re standing up and sharing?
    2:11:30 Where are the places that, you know, where are you engaged?
    2:11:32 Where are you not engaged?
    2:11:34 Just what are you enjoying?
    2:11:35 Don’t tell me what’s wrong.
    2:11:37 Don’t tell me what to fix.
    2:11:43 Tell me what where you’re bored and tell me where you’re confused.
    2:11:47 Tell me where you’re excited and tell me where you’re turning the pages so fast
    2:11:51 you have to come back and write your feedback because you don’t want to stop to write your feedback.
    2:11:54 And that became really valuable to me.
    2:11:58 And so when we moved beyond that and I was actually published,
    2:12:04 I started making spreadsheets where I’m like, you get the book, go on the spreadsheet
    2:12:09 and go to the chapters tab on the spreadsheet on like a Google sheet
    2:12:12 and go look and respond to what people are saying.
    2:12:15 And if, you know, just make a comment say, I feel this about this chapter
    2:12:17 and then respond to what other people are saying.
    2:12:23 And then each chapter fills up with giant conversations about that chapter,
    2:12:26 almost like you have a book club out there reading the book and having a discussion.
    2:12:29 I mean, you want people to respond to things because it helps you spot patterns.
    2:12:30 Yes.
    2:12:32 Someone’s like, yeah, I started dragging here.
    2:12:34 I didn’t really understand why this character did this.
    2:12:35 And then you have somebody like, yeah, me too.
    2:12:36 Yeah, me too.
    2:12:37 Yeah, exactly.
    2:12:38 They’ll say, no, no, no, it was this.
    2:12:40 And the first one was like, oh, that made sense.
    2:12:41 I went back and read it.
    2:12:46 Like you’ll see emerging where the problems are and where they aren’t.
    2:12:52 And nowadays what we let people do is they just add a checkmark next to it if they agree with it.
    2:12:54 And if they disagree, have them write out why.
    2:12:56 And that’s in a spreadsheet or using something.
    2:12:57 Spread spreadsheet.
    2:12:58 We use Google Sheets.
    2:13:00 And no, no, we started using an actual program.
    2:13:08 Peter, who’s head of editorial was like, we need an actual program that’s a little that’s secure and that can track.
    2:13:12 Like people will write a line number where they have their comment now and stuff.
    2:13:17 So we actually use a program, but sometimes we still use Google Sheets for kind of what we call it.
    2:13:19 Is that program an off the shelf program that?
    2:13:24 One of my beta readers, which is what we call these people worked for the company and pitched it to us.
    2:13:27 And the name of it’s escaping me right now.
    2:13:28 I can find out what it is.
    2:13:29 We can figure it out.
    2:13:31 Maybe put it in the show notes if we can find it.
    2:13:36 So part of the reason I’m asking is that I started working on this book six, seven years ago.
    2:13:37 Is this your fantasy?
    2:13:38 No.
    2:13:39 No, this is a different book.
    2:13:44 This is an entire book on saying no and basically finding clarity in a world of noise.
    2:13:46 It’s a really good book to write.
    2:13:47 And I started working on it.
    2:13:49 It’s the first book I ever shelved.
    2:13:51 I was like, you know what?
    2:13:53 I’m not quite ready to write this.
    2:13:56 And I canceled the contract return the biggest advance that I’ve ever received.
    2:13:58 And now I’m working on it.
    2:14:05 But I’ve found myself just paying attention energetically to what’s energizing me or draining me.
    2:14:07 The idea of serial release.
    2:14:08 Yeah.
    2:14:09 That’s really big.
    2:14:10 Because I’ve never done it.
    2:14:11 I’ve never done it.
    2:14:16 And that raises a whole lot of questions, which is one of the reasons I wanted to talk about Warbreaker.
    2:14:17 Yeah.
    2:14:20 And releasing early drafts for free on the website with Creative Commons.
    2:14:23 Let’s go to that and just saying, let me finish what I do with the beta reading.
    2:14:24 Yeah, yeah.
    2:14:26 I give all that to my team.
    2:14:30 I go read the end of part summaries and the end of book summaries.
    2:14:31 They take the rest.
    2:14:32 They distill it.
    2:14:37 And then they actually put it into a copy of the book, the manuscript, just interstitials.
    2:14:38 They said this at this point.
    2:14:39 They said this at this point.
    2:14:44 So I never even have to go to the document except to read like end of part one.
    2:14:45 What are people’s general responses?
    2:14:48 And these are comments in a word doc or something like that.
    2:14:50 Comments in a word doc just in track changes.
    2:14:51 Yeah.
    2:14:52 So that I see.
    2:14:56 Here’s a big discussion that happened here.
    2:15:00 They only take like 10 to 20% of it and put it in.
    2:15:03 What are the criteria for selection?
    2:15:05 They’re only taking 10 to 20%.
    2:15:08 It’s Peter and Karen and they know me really well.
    2:15:09 Yeah.
    2:15:11 These are people that I’ve worked with since college.
    2:15:12 Yeah.
    2:15:13 Okay.
    2:15:14 And so it’s over time.
    2:15:16 And I will star and say, this is a good comment.
    2:15:19 This is one that I, you know, they handle editorial.
    2:15:22 They’ll see what I revise and what I don’t.
    2:15:25 And they’ll know in the future, watch for this.
    2:15:28 And do remember, I’m going and looking at the end of part and reading all of
    2:15:29 people’s general comments.
    2:15:31 So this is just for a given chapter.
    2:15:35 If there’s a speed bump or something like that, but they, they figured it out.
    2:15:40 And then looking at war breaker, why did you release it in the way that you released it?
    2:15:42 Maybe you just describe how you went about it.
    2:15:43 Yeah.
    2:15:46 So war breaker happened after I wrote the Mistborn trilogy.
    2:15:52 And I was chatting with Corey Doctro, kind of a famous tech blogger and creative
    2:15:54 commons advocate.
    2:15:57 Every interaction with Corey has been really positive.
    2:15:59 Like super class act.
    2:16:01 I was once at the Hugo awards.
    2:16:05 And this is the end of like the Academy Awards in sci-fi fantasy.
    2:16:10 And I was nominated and you get a little pin if you’re nominated to wear around in
    2:16:11 your lapel.
    2:16:13 And I didn’t know that was in my basket.
    2:16:14 I didn’t know is there.
    2:16:15 He sighed and have mine.
    2:16:16 I’m like, Oh, I don’t have my pen.
    2:16:18 And he took off because he, he had several.
    2:16:22 You wear any that you, any nominations you’ve had during that night.
    2:16:25 And so he took off one of his hands and he just pinned it on me.
    2:16:26 You know, that’s kind of a class act.
    2:16:27 Corey is.
    2:16:34 So I was talking to him and he really believes and believed that attention is
    2:16:39 people’s most valuable commodity, not their money, their attention.
    2:16:44 If you can get their attention, you will eventually be able to in some ways get money
    2:16:47 from that audience to support yourself because start with the attention.
    2:16:49 And this was really smart.
    2:16:53 He released all of his books in the creative comments and he’s a big advocate for that.
    2:16:58 I realized at the time I had Mistborn coming out and this was right when Wheel of Time
    2:16:59 was being announced.
    2:17:00 It was way back when it’s 2007.
    2:17:04 So I wrote a lot of the book, but there are parts I hadn’t written.
    2:17:10 So the idea was I started releasing the chapters just on forums to let people give feedback
    2:17:16 to me, trying a serialized version of the book with the main goal being see how an audience
    2:17:21 online gives feedback different from my beta readers, but also to have a chance to kind
    2:17:23 of bring my audience together into one place.
    2:17:26 And then when it was done, I released the book under the creative comments.
    2:17:30 Partially as an experiment, how does this impact giving away the book for free?
    2:17:33 How does this impact the sales of the commercial edition?
    2:17:36 I wanted data on that.
    2:17:40 And the data says doesn’t really impact it.
    2:17:44 It sells just as well as the launchers does, even a little bit better.
    2:17:46 And a launchers wasn’t released in the creative comments.
    2:17:51 So it doesn’t sell as well as Stormlight or Mistborn, but those are my breakouts, you know,
    2:17:53 my standard successes.
    2:17:56 And I don’t think, you know, that has anything to do with it.
    2:17:59 Have you released any books after that with creative comments?
    2:18:00 No, I’m planning.
    2:18:02 I keep wanting to do another one.
    2:18:04 And I haven’t found the right one to do.
    2:18:07 But I am planning to do that at some point.
    2:18:12 How did you find the feedback online in the forums differed from beta testers?
    2:18:13 It was about the same.
    2:18:14 It was?
    2:18:15 It really was.
    2:18:17 But remember, we’ve got an insular audience of superfans at that point.
    2:18:20 That’s the only people paying attention to me in 2007.
    2:18:22 Now it would probably be different.
    2:18:28 But I can get a little bit of that by watching, we do re-release one chapter a week
    2:18:33 or two chapters a week of new books leading up to launch to about a third of the book.
    2:18:38 And I can go read the threads on Reddit about that.
    2:18:41 And they actually mirror the beta readers really closely.
    2:18:42 Amazing.
    2:18:43 It’s really interesting.
    2:18:44 There are a few things.
    2:18:45 This newest book surprised me.
    2:18:47 Only one thing surprised me.
    2:18:55 And that is in the newest book, people are responding to modernized language more than I expected them to.
    2:18:56 What do you mean by that?
    2:18:57 Epic fantasy.
    2:18:59 You walk this line in epic fantasy.
    2:19:02 Do you use OK or do you use all right?
    2:19:08 And I’ve been moving the Stormlight Archive toward modern language across the course of the novels
    2:19:12 as we’re preparing to kind of go a little bit more, what we call mage punk,
    2:19:14 a little more modern for the next one.
    2:19:15 Mage punk.
    2:19:16 I’ve never heard that.
    2:19:17 That’s great.
    2:19:18 It’s not my term.
    2:19:23 It’s just what people kind of call when fantasy magic becomes technology.
    2:19:30 So if you watch any sort of film or thing where you have ships powered by a magical technology,
    2:19:33 they will call that mage pex tech and arcane.
    2:19:34 Arcane is mage punk.
    2:19:37 That’s the straight up subgenre of that.
    2:19:39 So I was taken by surprise on that.
    2:19:41 People are kind of responding against that.
    2:19:48 And I think this could just be like people want more sincerity in their media nowadays.
    2:19:51 I think they’re tired of media being cynical.
    2:19:53 And this is a sign.
    2:19:57 Maybe I don’t think it went cynical, but this is like a danger sign of that.
    2:20:00 So they’re like, you know, they’re like, they would like me to pull back.
    2:20:03 They want me to call it courting instead of dating, right?
    2:20:06 And just kind of stay a little bit more with that fantasy feel.
    2:20:07 That one took me by surprise.
    2:20:09 My beta readers didn’t spot that.
    2:20:11 Everything else in those threads were things.
    2:20:18 My beta reader spotted that I either, you know, that I’d left because I felt this was integral to the narrative I’m telling.
    2:20:21 If it’s negative, it’s all right for it to be negative.
    2:20:23 This is the piece of art, right?
    2:20:29 Some people don’t like Impressionist, but you can’t make Impressionism better by not being Impressionist.
    2:20:32 Each piece of art is going to have things like that.
    2:20:33 Quick question.
    2:20:42 When you’re releasing, say chapter by chapter, up to a third of a new book, what is your cadence of releasing those chapters?
    2:20:43 Is it once per week?
    2:20:45 Once per week is what we’ve been doing.
    2:20:50 I could see value in twice a week, but once a week, everyone gets the other.
    2:20:52 The threads on Reddit are really cool.
    2:20:54 Where do you release those chapters?
    2:20:57 We release them on TOR’s website, TOR’s publicity website.
    2:21:01 Right now it’s called Reactor, used to be TOR.com.
    2:21:04 And that’s a good place for them.
    2:21:09 Why not release them on your own site or in some other way?
    2:21:10 So yeah, good question.
    2:21:13 So there’s arguments for that.
    2:21:18 The thing about it is we’ve found over time, personal websites are important,
    2:21:25 but they’re much less important than social media or aggregate websites in today’s mind economy.
    2:21:26 What do you mean by aggregate websites?
    2:21:38 So TOR’s website is a website that just has posts every day, things like shared blogs or places you go to that find a whole bunch of articles.
    2:21:39 Right.
    2:21:43 What we’ve found is, for instance, people will come to me to buy their print books.
    2:21:46 They will not come to me to buy their ebooks.
    2:21:49 We had an ebook store, maybe we’ll put it back up.
    2:21:51 And we might even have a few that we’re selling now.
    2:21:53 We sell in the tens of copies of my ebooks.
    2:21:55 People like their platform.
    2:21:58 They want to have a Kindle and buy the books on their Kindle, which makes perfect sense.
    2:22:04 They do not want to go somewhere else, buy an ebook and load it to the Kindle, even if it’s cheaper somewhere else.
    2:22:07 Those who control the platform control the world.
    2:22:08 You control the space.
    2:22:11 Well, here it’s you control the platform.
    2:22:12 That’s why Amazon did what it did.
    2:22:23 That’s why Amazon worked so hard to make Kindle a thing, even going so far as to pay out millions and millions in dollars in order to try to corner that market and gain that mind share of going to Kindle.
    2:22:26 I don’t mind TOR trying to turn their website into that.
    2:22:28 It helps other authors.
    2:22:30 Fans get used to going there.
    2:22:31 Yeah, that’s great.
    2:22:34 No, it’s like the tech world, like the hacker news.
    2:22:36 Yeah, stuff like that.
    2:22:38 And we link to it on my website.
    2:22:40 It’s not like it’s not there.
    2:22:41 So I don’t have a big problem.
    2:22:44 We might have even double posted them on my website.
    2:22:45 I can’t remember.
    2:22:47 But normally we just do them on TOR.
    2:22:49 But you said something I want to ask you about.
    2:22:50 Sure.
    2:22:56 Tell me if this is if this is tread day, if we want to tread lightly or if this is, but you’d still take advances.
    2:23:01 Well, so I took advances on my past books.
    2:23:04 I considered profit share agreements.
    2:23:14 And actually, when I was beginning to consider rebooting, you know, dusting off and rebooting that book that I’d had on the back shelf.
    2:23:20 I spoke with a number of larger publishers who as humans, I liked a lot.
    2:23:27 And they on the phone were very enthusiastic about doing some type of very generous profit share agreement.
    2:23:33 And then they sent me the contracts and there was so much Hollywood accounting that I found it to be insulting.
    2:23:38 I’m like, all right, so there’s this X percentage double digit distribution fee.
    2:23:44 And then there’s a promotional fee that is in perpetuity, even though they’re not going to do very much promotion.
    2:23:49 And maybe that’s for two to four weeks if they do any, but then they’re going to move on to their new roster.
    2:24:01 And I just found the deal structure is so generally insulting that if I ran the math, I realized this is not that much better than the traditional deals that I’ve been selling.
    2:24:05 But I’m foregoing the advance not because I don’t have confidence in the books.
    2:24:13 But I like having publishers experience some sunk cost so that they’re incentivized with loss aversion.
    2:24:14 But there is that argument.
    2:24:18 But at this point with the new book, I’m not planning on doing any of that.
    2:24:25 And the field is wide open to the experimentation that I could do.
    2:24:32 And I haven’t figured it out. I’ve thought about keeping audio and e-book although I’ll come back to that.
    2:24:33 I’d love your perspective on this.
    2:24:38 And then maybe doing a print only deal because I do not have as you do the sort of facilities.
    2:24:45 I’m almost perfectly happy to farm that out with an appropriately specced agreement.
    2:24:47 The deal terms need to make sense.
    2:24:54 But then there are even arguments for me to say license with a reversion of rights.
    2:24:55 I think that’s the point.
    2:24:59 Hugh Howie is so smart with this.
    2:25:05 And as you noted before, I used to have an audiobook club with Audible.
    2:25:09 This was back in the day with ACX when you get up to like 75% royalties.
    2:25:10 Before they killed that?
    2:25:11 Yeah.
    2:25:22 And I understand as a business, as you have more and more, as you amass more and more critical mass in terms of control of a market,
    2:25:27 and then change your compensation scheme with royalties.
    2:25:32 But as soon as it got to the point where it’s like, OK, I’m going to max out at whatever it is, 25, 35.
    2:25:36 This is no longer worth the time that I would put into it, so I stopped doing it.
    2:25:40 So I’ve thought about keeping audio and e-book.
    2:25:41 I’m still considering it.
    2:25:47 But the fact of the matter is it seems like larger publishers have negotiated superior deal terms.
    2:25:54 So even, no, OK, that’s the pitch that I keep getting, which is even if you get a lower percentage of the total,
    2:25:58 the absolute dollars you’re still going to make more because blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
    2:26:05 So this is all very current for me, but I don’t care about advance at this point in my life.
    2:26:09 So what they’re saying on audiobooks has some truth.
    2:26:10 Yeah.
    2:26:11 Not true on e-books.
    2:26:12 Yeah.
    2:26:21 So I’ll just say you there, though, there is one thing that the New York publishers get away with in e-books that you can’t get on your own.
    2:26:24 Even I have not been able to fight them down on this.
    2:26:27 They will let the New York publishers charge more than $10.
    2:26:29 Yeah.
    2:26:32 And so there is that.
    2:26:33 This is on e-books.
    2:26:34 On e-books.
    2:26:35 Yeah.
    2:26:36 On audio.
    2:26:38 So this can get technical and nerdy.
    2:26:39 Yeah, let’s do it.
    2:26:40 I like technical and nerdy.
    2:26:46 So on e-books, basically the publisher is getting 70% of price.
    2:26:47 It’s $10.
    2:26:49 They’re getting seven bucks sent to them.
    2:26:57 As an indie author, it’s doing it yourself, you will get seven bucks, but they will take out a tiny distribution fee at Amazon, which is super annoying.
    2:26:59 If you have a lot of artwork, it can get higher.
    2:27:05 Usually it’s only like 10, 15 cents, but they will take that out where they don’t for the New York publishers.
    2:27:06 So that’s one of the big differences.
    2:27:10 The other thing is, they’ll let the New York publisher charge $14.99 for their book.
    2:27:11 You, they will only let charge $10.
    2:27:15 If you go over $10, they’ll only give you a 20% instead of a 70% royalty.
    2:27:17 They really need to then that or break that.
    2:27:20 They want to keep you between $2.99 and $9.99.
    2:27:21 Yep.
    2:27:27 So if your book is priced at $9.99, as an e-book, there is almost no incentive to go to New York.
    2:27:34 Audio books, New York has negotiated all of their payments from Audible based on cover price of the book.
    2:27:40 So they can change the cover price of the book and get different things going on.
    2:27:43 But almost everything on Audible sells by credit.
    2:27:50 And getting out of the publishers, how much they get off of a credit is like pulling teeth.
    2:27:56 Getting out of Audible, how much you earn off of a credit is like pulling teeth because in their sense,
    2:28:02 and this is the big problem with audio books, I don’t like that you are the customer of Audible,
    2:28:04 not the customer of the authors.
    2:28:08 When you sign up for Audible, and Audible is a great company, don’t get me wrong.
    2:28:13 They made huge advances in audio book, distribution, readability.
    2:28:16 They’ve improved that market quite a bit.
    2:28:18 They are a net positive for everyone.
    2:28:24 But they control so much of the market that they are able to do some of these practices that we talked about.
    2:28:28 But beyond that, people sign up for a subscription fee.
    2:28:36 This is partially Apple’s fault, Apple and Google, because if you buy an audio book through Audible’s app,
    2:28:40 Google and Apple want to take 30% of that.
    2:28:44 And the publishers don’t want to do that.
    2:28:46 30% is egregious. It’s insane.
    2:28:49 There’s all sorts of lawsuits going on that, you know, them taking that much.
    2:28:53 But because of that, they do the subscription service.
    2:28:55 So you sign up for the subscription on their website.
    2:28:57 Google or Apple get none.
    2:28:59 You get a credit every month. You can spend a credit.
    2:29:01 None of that credit goes because it’s by credit.
    2:29:04 But then that turns all the audience into subscribers to Audible.
    2:29:08 So if Audible stops carrying a book, people just stop buying it.
    2:29:13 Once again, he who controls the spice, he who controls the platform, controls everything.
    2:29:17 Which means that they get to say, well, it’s a credit.
    2:29:18 What is a credit?
    2:29:20 Well, a credit is divided this way.
    2:29:23 And we give out this many free books as part of the promotions with credits.
    2:29:26 And so that plays into it. And some of the credits go for books like this.
    2:29:31 And so they have this huge spreadsheet that to their credit, credit, I’m saying credit too much,
    2:29:35 they have started being more open with how that spreadsheet works for us.
    2:29:37 And we can plug in the numbers and see that.
    2:29:40 They only started doing that in the last year as we push them.
    2:29:45 But it turns out that there’s all this Tenanigans, they get $15.
    2:29:50 And after all our work and things, we get on average like four bucks out of that 15.
    2:29:56 The publishers do have something where they’re getting a little bit more.
    2:30:02 But at the end of the day, I earn more this way than I do with the publishers.
    2:30:09 Even though the publishers can make up for it a little bit by having certain weird deals on what they get paid.
    2:30:15 At the end of the day, I really wish we could push audiobooks into that transparent.
    2:30:19 You get 70% of that 15 bucks is what should go to the author.
    2:30:22 Or certain percentage of that to the author, certain percentage of the reader.
    2:30:25 Narrators don’t get royalties, which is kind of a thing.
    2:30:30 And I just really wish we could pierce that and make it happen, but we haven’t been able to.
    2:30:35 So it sounds like if I’m hearing you correctly, your advice would be to hold on to it to yourself.
    2:30:37 So it depends.
    2:30:39 But ebook, yes.
    2:30:44 I have found that my system that I have, which is a profit share,
    2:30:52 and we took a sledgehammer to that contract that you got offered and eventually got it to a place where it was good.
    2:30:56 It’s really close to a straight up profit share.
    2:31:01 There’s a few little Hollywood accounting things they do, but they have to account them very clearly.
    2:31:10 And we end up doing with our profit share 10 to 20% better than we used to do as much as 50% better in some cases.
    2:31:11 That’s not trivial.
    2:31:14 So I could actually get those actual numbers.
    2:31:16 I should get them and see.
    2:31:20 But it’s significant what we’re making more with the profit share.
    2:31:22 But my best thing has been trust.
    2:31:24 They took a print-only deal.
    2:31:26 I have ebook and audiobook.
    2:31:29 And I have a profit share on the print with them.
    2:31:33 And then the ebook and audiobook, the ebook straight up is better.
    2:31:39 The audiobook, we make more, but we would make almost the same with the publisher.
    2:31:43 And are you just interfacing directly with Amazon platforms for the–
    2:31:46 Amazon and everyone else doing my best.
    2:31:50 Amazon would pay us better if we put them only on Amazon, but I refuse.
    2:31:52 And that’s one of the reasons the publishers deal.
    2:31:54 It’s a little better.
    2:31:59 Amazon gives them the deal that they give if you’re exclusive to Amazon.
    2:32:02 As an indie, they were forced to be exclusive to get the good deal.
    2:32:05 They give that deal to the publishers, but they can be on everything.
    2:32:08 It’s all so messy, right?
    2:32:10 This is all in the weeds.
    2:32:12 But here’s the takeaway.
    2:32:17 The power is in two people’s hands right now.
    2:32:20 It’s in the creators and the platform controllers.
    2:32:23 It’s not in New York’s hand anymore.
    2:32:27 And that’s in some ways bad because those are good people.
    2:32:31 I think most creatives in the audio industry hate their business.
    2:32:36 Most authors are pretty, like you said, the people are good.
    2:32:40 The contracts sometimes you have to take a sledgehammer to,
    2:32:43 but I generally don’t mind New York.
    2:32:48 They generally, I think, try to treat authors well.
    2:32:52 But in this new world, we control the content.
    2:32:57 And if you can figure out how to control your platform also, then that’s king.
    2:33:02 But you as a content creator, I think, should be looking at the platforms
    2:33:05 and learning how to manipulate all the different platforms
    2:33:09 so that you can have the best world you can.
    2:33:11 So that’s where we live right now.
    2:33:15 So let’s go back to the list of your inflection points for a second
    2:33:18 because I’ve made promises I want to keep with my listeners.
    2:33:24 Namely, so we have Mistborn, Wheel of Time, Leatherbound,
    2:33:26 and then the COVID Kickstarter.
    2:33:28 We have not covered the Wheel of Time.
    2:33:31 So for people who don’t even recognize the name,
    2:33:36 what is this and then how did you end up becoming involved?
    2:33:39 So I talked about the three kind of genres of fantasy.
    2:33:42 For the ’90s and early 2000s,
    2:33:47 the flag bearer of the best-selling epic fantasy was the Wheel of Time.
    2:33:50 It was eventually dethroned by Game of Thrones
    2:33:52 when the television show for Game of Thrones came out.
    2:33:55 Until the television show, Wheel of Time was the top.
    2:34:00 Beyond that, Robert Jordan got sick in the early 2000s
    2:34:02 with a rare blood disease.
    2:34:08 And because of this, his book releases slowed down quite a bit.
    2:34:11 And that’s when Game of Thrones was taking off.
    2:34:14 But for most of, you know, for all of my childhood,
    2:34:18 Wheel of Time was the kind of flag bearer for epic fantasy.
    2:34:20 It was the heir to Tolkien, so to speak.
    2:34:24 And selling millions of copies, doing really, really well.
    2:34:27 And he got sick.
    2:34:29 It was really positive.
    2:34:32 But then in 2007, he passed away,
    2:34:34 having left his series unfinished.
    2:34:37 And I was a fan of this series.
    2:34:40 I had grown up reading it. It was one of my favorites.
    2:34:44 And I did not know him or his wife.
    2:34:46 His wife was his editor.
    2:34:48 It’s actually really fun.
    2:34:50 She was his editor before she was his wife.
    2:34:52 And so I always joke that that’s a good way
    2:34:54 to make sure your editorial direction gets taken.
    2:34:56 You marry your author.
    2:34:58 She had discovered him in Charleston,
    2:35:00 where she had moved away from the big city.
    2:35:02 She was TOR’s editorial director.
    2:35:04 She kind of helped Tom Doherty build TOR.
    2:35:06 She’s the editor, if you guys know your sci-fi fantasy,
    2:35:09 she was the editor of The Book of Swords by Fred Saber-Hagan.
    2:35:11 She’s the editor of the book Ender’s Game.
    2:35:13 Really, really top-notch editor.
    2:35:15 And then she discovered Wheel of Time.
    2:35:19 And so he passes away in 2007.
    2:35:23 And before he passes away, he asks her to find someone
    2:35:25 to finish his series.
    2:35:27 He decides he does want it finished.
    2:35:29 He puts that on her.
    2:35:31 She considered a dying request.
    2:35:33 So 2007 happens.
    2:35:35 And one morning I get up,
    2:35:37 and there’s a voicemail on my phone.
    2:35:39 As we’ve talked about, I get up late,
    2:35:41 and that’s even later for New York, right?
    2:35:45 By the time I get up, it’s 3 p.m. in New York.
    2:35:47 Now, is there something that happened
    2:35:49 before the voice memo or no?
    2:35:51 So there is, but I didn’t know it.
    2:35:54 I get this voice memo from someone I’d never met,
    2:35:56 but I knew by reputation.
    2:35:58 I know every word in inflection.
    2:36:00 All right, let’s hear it.
    2:36:01 So in 200 times.
    2:36:03 Hello, Brandon Sanderson.
    2:36:05 This is Harriet McDougall-Rigney.
    2:36:07 I am Robert Jordan’s widow.
    2:36:09 And I would like you to call me back.
    2:36:11 There’s something I want to talk to you about.
    2:36:13 Just that by itself.
    2:36:17 So I get this voicemail, and I’m like,
    2:36:21 “Robert Jordan’s widow, Harriet McDougall, the editor?”
    2:36:24 Okay, so I call her back, and I don’t get a response.
    2:36:26 She’s out getting a massage.
    2:36:27 I later find.
    2:36:29 So I call my agent.
    2:36:30 No, I call my editor.
    2:36:31 He doesn’t respond.
    2:36:32 He never responded.
    2:36:36 Moshe, he kept ours even weirder than mine
    2:36:39 when he’s still around, but he was my editor.
    2:36:40 He’s retired since then.
    2:36:42 But Moshe, great guy.
    2:36:44 I know this is something that you’ve talked about.
    2:36:46 Bipolar, so they’re huge swaths of time
    2:36:48 where you just couldn’t get ahold of him.
    2:36:50 He’s self-medicated with the History Channel.
    2:36:52 And so sometimes you’d have to find out
    2:36:53 how to get ahold of Moshe.
    2:36:55 And so he didn’t answer, not a big deal.
    2:36:57 Call my agent, he always answers.
    2:37:00 He’s very professional, doesn’t answer.
    2:37:04 So I’m like freaking out, and my wife sees me,
    2:37:07 and I am not a nervous person.
    2:37:11 I’m not a person that emotions strike very powerfully.
    2:37:14 That’s just my own weird neurodivergence.
    2:37:17 I don’t generally feel strong emotions.
    2:37:20 But that day, I’m walking in a circle babbling.
    2:37:22 And she’s like, “What’s going on?”
    2:37:24 I’ve never seen Brandon like this.
    2:37:28 And I’m like, “Robert Jordan’s wife just called me.”
    2:37:30 And she’s like, “What? What do you want?”
    2:37:32 And I’m like, “I don’t know.”
    2:37:35 So I finally call Tor, I reach an editor at Tor,
    2:37:36 who’s one of the managing editors.
    2:37:38 And he says, “Oh, that.
    2:37:40 Yeah, it’s what you think it is.
    2:37:43 I’ll get her to call you back.”
    2:37:45 What do I think it is?
    2:37:47 Well, I knew that I’d written a little thing
    2:37:50 about Robert Jordan on my website a few days earlier,
    2:37:52 just kind of talking about how much he’d meant to me.
    2:37:54 It’s very short, it’s like three paragraphs.
    2:37:57 So I’m like, “Maybe she wants to talk about that.”
    2:38:01 Why would the widow call you to talk about your piece?
    2:38:05 But you’re not wanting to assume anything.
    2:38:07 Again, I didn’t know any of them.
    2:38:09 So she calls me and she says,
    2:38:13 “Well, I’m looking for someone to finish my late husband’s work.
    2:38:16 And I was wondering if you’d be interested.”
    2:38:19 And I literally responded, “Bah!”
    2:38:22 Like, I can talk.
    2:38:23 I’m a talker.
    2:38:24 I could not talk.
    2:38:25 Turned into a sheep.
    2:38:26 I turned into a sheep.
    2:38:28 I actually wrote her an email that night
    2:38:30 after not sleeping all night that said,
    2:38:32 “Dear Harry, I promise I’m not an idiot.”
    2:38:33 That was the first lines.
    2:38:37 I’m like, I couldn’t speak because this is so unexpected.
    2:38:39 And I spent that night thinking, I’m like,
    2:38:42 “Man, if I say yes to this and I screw it up,
    2:38:47 like, we can have seen how major media properties
    2:38:49 have had someone take over for them
    2:38:52 and then maybe not do as quite as good a job
    2:38:54 as the fan bases wanted
    2:38:57 and what that has done perhaps to reputations
    2:38:58 and things like that.”
    2:39:00 And just so we can place this in time,
    2:39:02 where in your career were you?
    2:39:03 This is 2007.
    2:39:05 I only have three books out.
    2:39:06 Maybe two.
    2:39:07 I have two books.
    2:39:08 No, three.
    2:39:09 I have three books out.
    2:39:11 I have Elantris and Mistborn
    2:39:12 and then the first of my kids’ series,
    2:39:14 the ones I discovered, wrote.
    2:39:17 I’m about to go on tour for my second Mistborn novel.
    2:39:19 This is before I’ve blown up.
    2:39:21 I blew up on Mistborn 2.
    2:39:23 We can talk about that moment before.
    2:39:24 That’s the first one.
    2:39:26 Mistborn 2 is where the publisher knew.
    2:39:28 So they didn’t know yet.
    2:39:33 They still thought I was maybe going to be a failure as a writer.
    2:39:35 We’ll get to that.
    2:39:38 So the publisher had not brought my name up to her.
    2:39:41 When she had asked who should finish it.
    2:39:42 Thanks, guys.
    2:39:43 Nobody mentioned me.
    2:39:47 Mistborn had been floundering for reasons we’ll talk about.
    2:39:49 Mistborn had been floundering.
    2:39:51 My name was not mentioned.
    2:39:56 But somebody that day, her name was Elise Matheson,
    2:39:58 and I’m very thankful to her,
    2:40:00 was printing off things on the internet,
    2:40:02 nice things that people had said about Robert Jordan.
    2:40:05 And she printed off my thing and she put it in the stack.
    2:40:09 And that night Harriet read it with the other things.
    2:40:11 And I mentioned that he had influenced my writing.
    2:40:13 And she’s like, well, this is really eloquent.
    2:40:14 He wrote this really well.
    2:40:15 He’s a writer.
    2:40:17 So she called Tom Doherty.
    2:40:19 Were there any lines that stuck out to her?
    2:40:21 It was the last line.
    2:40:23 I wrote something along the lines of you go quietly,
    2:40:25 but you leave us trembling, right?
    2:40:28 Just something, you know, it was…
    2:40:32 And so she calls Tom and says,
    2:40:33 “What about this Brandon Sanderson guy?”
    2:40:35 And he’s like, “Oh, yeah, he’s one of her authors.
    2:40:36 I’ve read one of his books.
    2:40:38 Pretty good. Let me send you one of his books.”
    2:40:40 Because he was super excited it was one of his authors
    2:40:41 she was asking about.
    2:40:44 Because a lot of the names that came up were not his authors.
    2:40:46 The main one that kept coming up was George Martin,
    2:40:48 because he and Robert Jordan were friends.
    2:40:52 Well, George was already behind on his books in 2007.
    2:40:55 And the publishing industry would not stand for him
    2:40:57 taking someone else’s book series.
    2:40:58 Going on a side quest.
    2:40:59 Side quest.
    2:41:02 But a lot of the names that came up were not Tom’s authors.
    2:41:04 And so he’s like, “Oh, it’s one of my authors.”
    2:41:06 And so he sends her missed one.
    2:41:08 And so she’s like,
    2:41:10 “Well, before I read this book,
    2:41:12 I should find out if the young man’s interested.”
    2:41:14 You know, maybe he doesn’t want to do this.
    2:41:16 And so that’s when she called me
    2:41:17 and asked if I was interested.
    2:41:19 And that’s when I bawd like a sheep.
    2:41:21 And then I wrote her that email that night and said,
    2:41:23 “You know, I’ve thought about it a lot.
    2:41:25 I thought if someone’s going to do this
    2:41:27 and it can’t be him, I want it to be me.
    2:41:29 At least I know I’m a fan.”
    2:41:31 Like I always use this Venn diagram, right?
    2:41:35 Venn diagram of pretty good sci-fi fantasy writers
    2:41:37 and pretty big Robert Jordan fans.
    2:41:41 There are bigger Robert Jordan fans out there than me.
    2:41:43 Hardcore by far.
    2:41:46 There are better writers than me, right?
    2:41:48 Terry Pratchett.
    2:41:51 I always call the greatest writer of my generation, right?
    2:41:54 Like, you know, there are amazing writers.
    2:41:56 George is a fantastic writer.
    2:41:58 I would probably rank George
    2:42:00 as the greatest living sci-fi fantasy writer.
    2:42:03 There’s Jane Yolen, who’s just incredible.
    2:42:06 But if you put that Venn diagram together,
    2:42:09 there’s not a lot of people in the middle there
    2:42:11 that are pretty big Robert Jordan fans.
    2:42:14 And I think pretty excellent sci-fi fantasy writers,
    2:42:15 and that was me.
    2:42:17 And so I realized I want it to be me
    2:42:19 because if it doesn’t go to me,
    2:42:21 it might go to someone who’s a good writer
    2:42:23 but doesn’t know the books.
    2:42:26 And so she said, “All right, well, I’m considering.”
    2:42:28 There’s some names I’m considering.
    2:42:31 It was me or George I later found out.
    2:42:33 And when she tells this story, she says,
    2:42:34 “There was really only one.”
    2:42:36 It was Brandon because she knew by then
    2:42:37 she couldn’t have George.
    2:42:39 And so she went and she read Mistborn.
    2:42:42 And then she thought on it.
    2:42:43 She took a month.
    2:42:45 She read Mistborn and thought on it for a month.
    2:42:47 I went on tour not knowing
    2:42:49 if I was going to finish the wheel of time
    2:42:51 and not being able to tell anybody.
    2:42:53 And that’s when Mistborn 2 just exploded.
    2:42:55 And then at the end of that tour,
    2:42:57 she called me and she said, “I want you to do it.”
    2:42:59 Actually, he’s in the middle of the tour
    2:43:00 because I was still on tour
    2:43:02 when she told some of the other people
    2:43:03 it’s because they came and met me.
    2:43:05 So I didn’t have to wait that long.
    2:43:06 It was pretty excruciating.
    2:43:08 It was probably only like two weeks.
    2:43:10 And she calls me and says, “I would like you to do it.”
    2:43:12 And so I call my agent and I say,
    2:43:14 “They’re going to offer us a deal. Take it.”
    2:43:16 And he says, “Well, we’ll negotiate.”
    2:43:18 I’m like, “No, no, no.
    2:43:20 This is just a yes.
    2:43:23 Whatever they offer, you just say yes.”
    2:43:25 And she was very generous.
    2:43:27 It was a good deal right off the bat.
    2:43:28 My agent’s like, “Wow,
    2:43:30 there’s not even really that much to negotiate.”
    2:43:31 He like went to bat.
    2:43:34 He forced me to let him go to bat on like some foreign percentage
    2:43:36 just so agents have to flex their muscles, right?
    2:43:38 But I just said yes.
    2:43:41 And then by December, I had the manuscript.
    2:43:44 And then I got the call in like September, October.
    2:43:48 In the manuscript, he’d written like 50 pages of the final book.
    2:43:49 So.
    2:43:50 Wow. Okay.
    2:43:54 So we could spend, I’m sure, another three hours talking about
    2:43:56 how you pieced everything together and worked on that.
    2:43:59 But I want to pick up on something you said because
    2:44:01 I don’t know anything about it.
    2:44:04 And I’m in the process of reading Miss Born Right Now,
    2:44:05 and I’m ripping through it.
    2:44:07 So when you said it was floundering, I was like,
    2:44:09 “Huh, yeah, that’s interesting.
    2:44:10 Why was it floundering?”
    2:44:13 So when you’re a new author,
    2:44:16 you have a shiny new author glow with your first book.
    2:44:20 And you get picked up a little bit more for reviews.
    2:44:22 You get picked up more by people who are like,
    2:44:24 “Oh, I’ve never heard of this person.”
    2:44:27 There’s a certain demographic of reader who’ll just read a first book
    2:44:29 by an author to try them out.
    2:44:34 That is why generally publishers recommend that you take your first book
    2:44:36 and you write a sequel to it as your second book.
    2:44:40 Because when you jump from a sequel to a different series,
    2:44:42 you lose a percentage of audience.
    2:44:45 And so I had the shiny new author thing.
    2:44:48 We sold about 10,000 copies in hardcover of Elantra,
    2:44:50 which is really good for a debut author.
    2:44:51 It’s even better now.
    2:44:54 Back then it was good. Now it’s fantastic.
    2:44:57 And Tom Doherty called me and was like,
    2:44:58 “Well, we want a sequel to Elantra.”
    2:45:01 And I said, “No, I’ve got this idea of Mistborn
    2:45:02 and I really want to do this.”
    2:45:07 One of my real goals, my powerful goals early on,
    2:45:10 was I wanted to build an audience for me,
    2:45:12 not for a given book series.
    2:45:14 I wanted to write in a lot of different subgenres.
    2:45:16 I wanted to do a lot of different things.
    2:45:20 I wanted the flexibility to do this thing called the Cosmere,
    2:45:22 which is probably bigger than this podcast can get into.
    2:45:25 But if you haven’t read the books, it’s like the MCU,
    2:45:26 but for fantasy.
    2:45:30 And I did this two years before the MCU’s first movie came out.
    2:45:32 It’s where it’s an interconnected universe
    2:45:33 of a whole bunch of different planets
    2:45:35 with all these epic fantasy and there’s characters.
    2:45:38 And MCU is all the Marvel movies.
    2:45:40 All the Marvel movies where you have like,
    2:45:42 and so Mistborn, Elantra, Warbreaker,
    2:45:45 I’ll have one character who’s traveling between these planets
    2:45:47 with a mysterious objective behind the scenes.
    2:45:48 His name is Hoyt.
    2:45:50 And you’ll see him in all three of them.
    2:45:52 He’s a main character in Stormlight then.
    2:45:54 And I wanted to do this big thing
    2:45:56 and I was really ambitious about it
    2:45:58 and I wanted to build something bigger
    2:46:00 than Elantra’s in a sequel.
    2:46:03 And the publisher is like, it’s a bad idea.
    2:46:07 I’m like, it’s a bad idea except it’s investing in my future.
    2:46:12 If I do it right, then when I finish Mistborn
    2:46:13 and go to something else,
    2:46:15 they will follow me to the something else
    2:46:19 because so many authors get trapped in one series.
    2:46:21 We were talking about this before we started recording
    2:46:23 that that was also sort of after the four hour work week.
    2:46:25 And I was like, well, then I can do the three hour work week
    2:46:26 and the two hour work week
    2:46:29 or the four hour work week for single mothers and so on.
    2:46:31 And I was like, no, no, this is a window
    2:46:35 where I can potentially buy my freedom
    2:46:37 to work in a lot of different things.
    2:46:40 And we have the exact same wavelength on that.
    2:46:44 But Tom Doherty, he’s a publisher, not an editor.
    2:46:46 Like his job is to look at the business.
    2:46:47 And he was right.
    2:46:49 So Elantra’s came out, sold 10,000.
    2:46:53 Mistborn 1 comes out in hardcover and it sells fewer.
    2:46:57 The audience that liked Elantra’s certain percentage
    2:46:59 of them just didn’t move to Mistborn
    2:47:00 because it was in the sequel.
    2:47:02 I no longer have the new author, Shiny Glow,
    2:47:05 so that people who are looking for a book are like,
    2:47:06 oh, I saw that before.
    2:47:08 Let’s pick up this other book by a new author.
    2:47:13 So Mistborn’s a stronger book than Elantra’s by many fold.
    2:47:15 Mistborn’s my sixth book, Mistborn’s my 14th.
    2:47:16 I learned a lot.
    2:47:18 It’s still one of the best starting points.
    2:47:21 And so it’s a much stronger book,
    2:47:24 but I get fewer sales.
    2:47:26 They released the paperback and the paperback
    2:47:28 has a dreadful cover.
    2:47:29 I love the illustrator.
    2:47:30 He did the hard covers of all of them.
    2:47:33 But once in a while, the cover just doesn’t click.
    2:47:37 And this cover was one of the worst covers that I’ve had.
    2:47:39 It didn’t click with my audience
    2:47:42 and that paperback came out and just crashed.
    2:47:44 Just completely tanked.
    2:47:47 And that’s the most dangerous point my career has had.
    2:47:48 I was right then thinking,
    2:47:51 I’m going to be a middle grade author writing these kids’ books
    2:47:52 because that’s the only thing.
    2:47:53 That’s the new thing.
    2:47:56 But I went to my agent and we went to the publisher
    2:47:58 and said, we need a new cover.
    2:47:59 This cover is not clicking.
    2:48:01 And we fought and we fought and we fought.
    2:48:04 And I said, remember way back when you released The Wheel of Time,
    2:48:07 you released like a 4.99 version?
    2:48:09 I think it was 3.99 then.
    2:48:11 Do a 4.99 version of Mistborn.
    2:48:14 Let’s jumpstart my career, do a new cover.
    2:48:16 And Tom Doherty, again, to his credit, I had to fight him.
    2:48:20 But he said, yes, we released a new paperback
    2:48:23 a few months before Mistborn 2 with a new cover.
    2:48:25 And that one, boom, it sold.
    2:48:28 Now, there’s this thing in publishing called The Death Spiral.
    2:48:30 Much bigger back in the bookstores.
    2:48:31 It doesn’t sound good.
    2:48:34 If you sell 10,000 of your first book
    2:48:38 and then 8,000 or 7,000 like Mistborn sold,
    2:48:40 what do they order for your third book?
    2:48:41 5,000.
    2:48:42 It’s called The Death Spiral.
    2:48:44 So they ordered like 5,000 copies.
    2:48:47 And then it becomes, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy, right?
    2:48:48 Self-fulfilling.
    2:48:51 Because you don’t have the exposure in the retail points that you need.
    2:48:53 Then you don’t have the space on the shelf.
    2:48:55 People can go to bookstores and not find the book
    2:48:58 if you’re down to like that many copies and things like that.
    2:49:01 And so Death Spiral is what they call it.
    2:49:04 And we’d already gotten the, we got the orders from Mistborn 2
    2:49:06 and they were bad, right?
    2:49:08 They were, you know, on The Death Spiral.
    2:49:12 But then the paperback, that paperback we got selling.
    2:49:14 And so what happened is Mistborn 2 came out,
    2:49:16 instantly sold out.
    2:49:17 All right, so hold on.
    2:49:18 I got to pause this for a second.
    2:49:23 So what else contributed to the relaunch
    2:49:27 of that lower price paperback of Mistborn 1
    2:49:29 besides the cover?
    2:49:30 Was there anything else?
    2:49:33 It was the lower price point and it was the cover.
    2:49:34 Those are the only things we changed.
    2:49:36 Now, you’ll love this.
    2:49:38 Publishing is weird.
    2:49:41 They were not willing to release a new version of the book
    2:49:44 with a new cover until we said it’s a new edition.
    2:49:47 It’s the cheaper until when they had in their head,
    2:49:49 it was a new edition.
    2:49:51 It’s got a different ISBN guys.
    2:49:52 It’s a whole new game.
    2:49:53 A whole new game.
    2:49:54 They were willing to put a new cover on it.
    2:49:57 So actually it was the 499 thing that worked.
    2:49:59 We were at our wits end until I thought of that and pitched it.
    2:50:02 And they’re like, oh, yeah, a 499 edition.
    2:50:03 We do those.
    2:50:05 And then suddenly they’re willing to repackage it
    2:50:07 and put a new cover on it.
    2:50:09 It has a big red banner 499.
    2:50:12 It has the nice cover blurb from Robin Hobb,
    2:50:14 but the hard cover had that too.
    2:50:16 The cover was a little more targeted
    2:50:17 at what was popular then.
    2:50:20 Photo realism was starting to be a thing for fantasy
    2:50:22 partially because of Jim Butcher’s books.
    2:50:24 We use the same illustrator cover artists
    2:50:25 as Jim Butcher’s books.
    2:50:28 It has that sort of urban fantasy feel.
    2:50:31 Mistborn was really well primed to take off.
    2:50:33 Partially because of Hunger Games.
    2:50:38 Teenage girl protagonist in a kind of dark future world.
    2:50:42 In fact, in Taiwan, it released before Hunger Games,
    2:50:44 and it became the Hunger Games,
    2:50:48 meaning the market wanted a dark dystopian teen YA.
    2:50:50 And we outsold Hunger Games there.
    2:50:52 Hunger Games became the Mistborn,
    2:50:54 and Mistborn became the Hunger Games in Taiwan
    2:50:55 because we beat it to market.
    2:50:58 We didn’t here and we didn’t market it as YA.
    2:50:59 It’s an adult.
    2:51:02 It’s got two viewpoints, one a teenager, one adult.
    2:51:05 But it was really good for the market, right?
    2:51:08 And so the fact that it was really good for the market,
    2:51:09 it felt dystopian,
    2:51:11 but it wasn’t using all the dystopian tropes
    2:51:14 that eventually killed the dystopian sort of thing.
    2:51:16 No one had read a fantasy heist.
    2:51:19 Since about the same time Liza Luck-Morick came out,
    2:51:20 which is another one.
    2:51:21 That’s Scott Lynch?
    2:51:22 Yeah, Scott Lynch.
    2:51:23 Fantastic book.
    2:51:26 That is a really fun series.
    2:51:27 A fantastic book.
    2:51:29 And he and I had this on separate continents,
    2:51:31 the same idea, and got him out around the same time.
    2:51:33 And I highly recommend that one too.
    2:51:35 And his is more heisty, even the mind.
    2:51:38 Mind takes more of the epic fantasy direction.
    2:51:42 Like Kelsier is trying to overthrow the empire by robbing.
    2:51:44 And so all of those things meant
    2:51:47 that when Mistborn actually got covered right,
    2:51:49 it really started selling.
    2:51:50 It would have been better if there would have been
    2:51:51 books for people to buy,
    2:51:54 but instantly selling out week one made the publisher go,
    2:51:55 “Oh, wait a minute.”
    2:51:56 And then they went to reprint.
    2:51:58 And then there was this clamor online,
    2:52:01 people emailing bookstores, emailing the publisher,
    2:52:03 “Where is our Mistborn 2?
    2:52:05 We have to have Mistborn 2.”
    2:52:08 And that fueled Mistborn 2 eventually with all the reprints
    2:52:11 going to like 12,000 to 15,000 in hardcover.
    2:52:14 And that primed Mistborn 3 to hit the best seller list.
    2:52:16 Wow, what a story.
    2:52:18 So I want to touch on something because you mentioned
    2:52:23 Liza Luck-Limora and maybe that’s heistier per se.
    2:52:29 But one thing we haven’t talked about is magic systems.
    2:52:34 And so I feel like that is something that really shines.
    2:52:37 And it’s part of the reason why I wanted to dig into Mistborn also
    2:52:39 with the Alamance.
    2:52:43 And magic systems, how do you think about magic systems?
    2:52:47 I mean, I have the three laws of magic here in front of me,
    2:52:49 but I could read them.
    2:52:51 How do you want to lead into magic systems?
    2:52:54 Because people are going to think to themselves if they haven’t heard this term.
    2:52:56 What the hell is a magic system?
    2:52:59 Let me talk about it in a way that for the audience,
    2:53:01 I’m going to avoid getting the weeds too much.
    2:53:05 I don’t want to give you encyclopedia entries and things like this.
    2:53:12 But I found when I was writing something that I really love in world building.
    2:53:18 And that is, I love in history the time period of the scientific revolution.
    2:53:23 The time period between Newton and about the early 1900s,
    2:53:28 where people were learning to apply science to everything they did.
    2:53:33 Where they were saying, “Hey, wait, all these things we assume,
    2:53:36 what if we use the scientific method on them?”
    2:53:40 And then they started to discover Newton believed in alchemy.
    2:53:43 And he tried to apply the scientific method and couldn’t get it to work,
    2:53:45 which is one of the reasons people started saying,
    2:53:48 “Well, maybe alchemy isn’t actually scientific.”
    2:53:50 Yeah, and spending time was like third of his time.
    2:53:51 I mean, it was a lot.
    2:53:56 Yeah, he tried so hard to be able to transmute lead into gold or whatever.
    2:53:58 And turns out we can do it.
    2:54:00 We just need an atom smasher.
    2:54:05 But regardless, this idea of spontaneous generation,
    2:54:10 people used to think that if you left meat out and it rotted, it spawned flies.
    2:54:12 And that’s where flies came from.
    2:54:17 The scientific method says, “Well, let’s try some tests and see.”
    2:54:20 And lo and behold, it’s not that eggs are being laid, right?
    2:54:21 All this stuff.
    2:54:26 Up until, like I said, the 1900s, where I read an article once from the time period
    2:54:29 about someone who’d gone and studied the science of digging ditches.
    2:54:36 And the whole theme of it was, if we can help the ditch diggers, we help everyone, right?
    2:54:40 Here’s how they can labor more effectively so it isn’t as hard on their joints,
    2:54:45 so that they are more efficient, but also so that they’re happier and they get tired less.
    2:54:49 Here’s a whole article of science helping everyone.
    2:54:54 And that period of superstition becoming science, I love.
    2:54:55 It’s so interesting.
    2:55:03 And that’s why Mistborn’s actually set a lot of epic fantasies set around in an analogous of like the 12 to 1400s.
    2:55:07 Mistborn set in about 1820s to 1840s, if it were on earth.
    2:55:13 They don’t have gunpowder for various reasons, but they’re right pre-Industrial Revolution,
    2:55:20 where science and fantasy and superstition are colliding.
    2:55:28 And what I found I really like reading is fantasy worlds that take a little bit of science fiction world building
    2:55:31 and a little bit of science fiction aesthetic and say,
    2:55:35 “What if you apply the scientific method to something that in our world doesn’t exist,
    2:55:37 but in their world is a new branch of physics?”
    2:55:42 And that lets my characters explore science and magic together.
    2:55:45 What is real? What isn’t real? What works? What doesn’t work?
    2:55:49 Mistborn has kind of a periodic table of the elements where they’re discovering
    2:55:55 that they can use certain metals to do certain things that are magical, doesn’t exist in our world.
    2:55:59 The difference between fantasy and science fiction to me is science fiction says,
    2:56:04 “This thing could happen. Let’s construct toward that.”
    2:56:07 What are the possibilities that would lead to it?
    2:56:12 Arthur C. Clarke says, “I think we can do satellites with geo-synchronous orbits.
    2:56:16 Here’s all the science. I’m going to write a book where they can do that,
    2:56:18 and then later on we’ll figure it out.”
    2:56:24 Fantasy for me starts with the cool idea and justifies it through the text without real science.
    2:56:34 I want to have people who use these metals to bounce around like ninjas.
    2:56:38 You can drop a coin and you can push off of it.
    2:56:43 And through Newton’s laws, if it’s pushed against the ground, you’re launched upward.
    2:56:47 If you’re pushing on it and you throw your weight against it, it shoots across the room.
    2:56:51 And how much can I do with that just by playing with vector science and things?
    2:56:58 Again, I don’t want to get in the weeds, but the idea is people applying their intellect to magic,
    2:57:01 and that’s a magic system. What is the magic system?
    2:57:03 What do people have access to?
    2:57:05 Lord of the Rings has several magic systems.
    2:57:09 One is the one ring. It’s what we call a hard magic system.
    2:57:15 Lord of the Rings, if you put on the ring, you turn invisible, but Sauron can see you.
    2:57:22 Very simple. It corrupts people along the way. There are like three rules to the ring and you can understand them.
    2:57:26 Making a hard magic doesn’t mean that it’s like it makes sense, right?
    2:57:29 Superheroes are generally hard magics, even though it’s like bonkers.
    2:57:36 Superman gets powers from sunlight, makes no sense with external logic, but internally it’s consistent.
    2:57:39 He gets his powers from the sun and he can do X, Y, and Z.
    2:57:41 That’s what we call a hard magic system.
    2:57:42 Gandalf.
    2:57:44 So rules that are internally consistent.
    2:57:49 Yeah. Rules that are internally consistent that the characters can figure out and use.
    2:57:51 That’s a hard magic system.
    2:57:55 Roto can put the ring on and vanish from Sauron’s eyes,
    2:58:00 but he’ll vanish from everyone else’s eyes, but he’ll be seen by Sauron.
    2:58:06 So he can pay the cost to get some short-term gain for some long-term detriment by using the ring.
    2:58:11 Perfectly within the realm of he can access it and use it.
    2:58:13 Gandalf is what we call a soft magic system.
    2:58:16 You never really know what Gandalf can do.
    2:58:22 And the movies, they do this brilliantly by being like he holds up his staff and like the sun rises
    2:58:27 and like did he shoot sunlight at the orcs or is it just like what’s going on?
    2:58:31 But they like like Gandalf shows up and magical things happen.
    2:58:33 The other characters can’t control this.
    2:58:35 You don’t see it being controlled by the narrative.
    2:58:38 He just does things and those are cool magic systems.
    2:58:40 You can do all kinds of stuff with that.
    2:58:46 I found a niche in hard magic systems, that intersection where people are applying their logic.
    2:58:47 It’s so much fun.
    2:58:50 I talked about Mistborn like, you know, you can drop a coin and launch in the air.
    2:58:52 You can throw it and push it at someone.
    2:58:55 You throw it, you push it at someone, it hits them, then you get launched backward.
    2:59:00 Suddenly, I can have characters having to figure out puzzles in combat.
    2:59:06 We’re having a fight scene, but the fight scene is how can I get in position to use this medal against him?
    2:59:08 It’s so engaging to write.
    2:59:09 It’s so much fun.
    2:59:16 It makes every fight scene just a fun little puzzle box to try to figure out.
    2:59:24 And so because I like that, I decided to use it as part of my branding, like so hard to stand out.
    2:59:25 I know I like these things.
    2:59:27 I know I’m going to be doing it in my books.
    2:59:29 So I became the magic system guy.
    2:59:30 I thought about it a lot.
    2:59:31 So I released my three laws.
    2:59:37 It’s just kind of their rules that I follow mostly because I did something wrong at some point.
    2:59:39 And I’m like, that broke my magic system.
    2:59:40 How can I fix that?
    2:59:44 And I came up with a rule of thumb for myself that I could follow.
    2:59:47 And I use those to kind of build the magic the way I do them.
    2:59:49 It’s not the only way to do it.
    2:59:54 It’s not the only good way to do it, but it was really helpful to have a thing that was mine.
    2:59:56 What are you going to get when you come to one of my books?
    3:00:02 You’re going to get, at the core, I want an interesting story about interesting characters.
    3:00:06 But I can’t brand that way because that’s what everyone does.
    3:00:07 So what’s the branding?
    3:00:12 You’re going to get science fiction world building and a fantasy story.
    3:00:17 You’re going to get people discovering how magic works that’s repeatable.
    3:00:23 And they’re going to be able to use it in order to solve problems and make their lives better
    3:00:26 or at least manipulate them in certain ways.
    3:00:29 All of my books are going to have that sort of feel.
    3:00:32 And that’s what became kind of my thing.
    3:00:38 So let me, if you don’t mind, I’ll just, I’ll read these three and have some, some, some follow ups.
    3:00:39 Okay.
    3:00:40 All right.
    3:00:41 Sanderson’s three laws of magic.
    3:00:48 So the number one is an author’s ability to solve conflict with magic is directly proportional
    3:00:51 to how well the reader understands said magic.
    3:00:55 Number two, weaknesses, limits and costs are more interesting than powers.
    3:00:57 That’s one that I kind of latched onto.
    3:01:03 Three, the author should expand on what is already a part of the magic system before something entirely new is added.
    3:01:08 As this may otherwise entirely change how the magic system fits into the fictional world.
    3:01:11 So the second one is the most self-explanatory to me, right?
    3:01:13 The power of constraints.
    3:01:23 And it can be applied to a million things, but I find that to be very accessible to me.
    3:01:26 Could you expand on the number one, number three?
    3:01:27 Sure can.
    3:01:34 So number one, if you, and I’ve actually added a word to this and a little phrase to this,
    3:01:43 author’s ability to solve problems in a satisfying way with magic in a story is directly proportional to how well the reader understands said magic.
    3:01:47 So let’s pause it two sort of storylines.
    3:01:55 In one, your character is going to use, in both of them, your character is going to use the magic to save the day at the end.
    3:02:01 In the first one, the character spends the majority of the book off and on,
    3:02:09 figuring out how this magic works to the point that they realize by the ending, wait, everyone’s been doing this wrong.
    3:02:10 Here’s the rules.
    3:02:12 Here’s how they got misled.
    3:02:18 If I make this one little tweak, suddenly I’ll be able to fix the problem that no one else has been able to fix.
    3:02:23 And at the ending, they realize that they solve that problem.
    3:02:30 They solve that problem and boom, they have taken their wits, their intelligence, their, their progress, right?
    3:02:33 We say promise, progress, payoff.
    3:02:36 The payoff is to the actual progress of the story.
    3:02:39 This person has been studying their entire time.
    3:02:41 They’ve learned how the magic works.
    3:02:49 So at the end, they’re able to pull off something that no one else could and you believe it because of all that work.
    3:02:55 In the other one, they get to the end, they are unable to solve the problem.
    3:03:02 But then through the power of just caring really a lot, they figure it out and save the day.
    3:03:03 A mother’s love.
    3:03:04 A mother’s love.
    3:03:07 And see, this is why I use the satisfying way.
    3:03:13 The mother’s love protecting Harry is not actually a bad thing because that wasn’t supposed to be a plot element.
    3:03:14 Sure.
    3:03:15 I’m poking fun a little bit.
    3:03:16 But it is poking fun.
    3:03:17 Joe deserves it.
    3:03:28 We can poke fun at her because JK Rowling was really good at internal logic in a given book and then she’d throw it out the window for the next one, right?
    3:03:32 Time turners actually in the time turner book makes sense how they’re used.
    3:03:33 She sets up the rule.
    3:03:34 She uses them book for it.
    3:03:38 They forget they can try time travel and don’t ever use them.
    3:03:41 But regardless, you can see what’s going on here.
    3:03:53 The idea of Sanderson’s first law is any plot element, but magic and fantasy, a lot of people who don’t read fantasy, they point it to be like, can’t believe any of the stakes because anything can happen.
    3:03:55 Yeah, it’s like the Deus Ex Machina.
    3:03:56 Deus Ex Machina.
    3:04:01 Playwright can’t figure out the ending so God descends from the rafter isn’t.
    3:04:02 Yep.
    3:04:03 Voila.
    3:04:05 But the thing is, any book is that way.
    3:04:18 If you want to write a book where at the end, the romance novel in a perfectly realistic setting that they just get together because you decide, you can just Deus Ex Machina that you can Deus Ex Machina the thriller.
    3:04:22 You any book, the reader of the author can do that with a goal.
    3:04:25 We have an extra tendency toward that with magic.
    3:04:30 So the charge that we do that is not unsubstantiated, right?
    3:04:34 Occasionally, authors like, well, I have magic, so I’ll snap my fingers and save the day.
    3:04:43 But as a reader with a magic system, if you make it so that we understand so that like Star Wars.
    3:04:45 Star Wars is such a perfect example.
    3:04:52 We believe that Luke can shoot the missiles down the tube when he’s using the force.
    3:04:53 Why?
    3:04:57 Well, through the course of the story, we’ve seen Obi-Wan Kenobi use this magic.
    3:04:59 We’ve seen Luke struggle to use this magic.
    3:05:03 We see targeting computers, they fire and they miss.
    3:05:06 The targeting computers are fallible.
    3:05:09 We’re at the big moment and then use the force Luke.
    3:05:10 Obi-Wan is there.
    3:05:16 We’ve seen the whole time Obi-Wan preparing him and he takes off the thing and he shoots.
    3:05:24 We believe that he can do that because you set up and pay off, promise, progress, pay off.
    3:05:26 And that’s what Sanerson’s first lie is.
    3:05:31 If you’re going to use magic at the end of your story to solve the problem, promise, progress, pay off.
    3:05:38 Now, if you want to solve magic, use it to cause problems or you can use it to solve problems in an unsatisfying way.
    3:05:40 And sometimes you want that.
    3:05:50 When Gandalf saves the fellowship from the Balrog, it’s actually kind of unsatisfying because Gandalf is dead and you watch the movie, Peter Jackson again, brilliant movies.
    3:06:01 After Gandalf dies, everyone is down and like flopped down and crying and broken because the magic use isn’t satisfying.
    3:06:03 Gandalf didn’t get up there and save the day.
    3:06:09 He sacrificed himself and it actually hits with a very different emotion.
    3:06:11 It’s instead an escalation.
    3:06:14 So that’s an example of soft magic causing a problem.
    3:06:15 Exactly.
    3:06:25 And so, yes, Gandalf did save them from the Balrog, but the cost is bigger than the whole point of that is not, “Yay, Gandalf!” It is huge complication.
    3:06:27 Gandalf kept the fellowship together.
    3:06:31 What’s going to happen when Gandalf isn’t there to prevent Boromir from taking the ring?
    3:06:33 And then he pays that off.
    3:06:34 The fellowship shatters.
    3:06:39 Brilliant use of both a soft magic and a hard magic for what they’re really good at.
    3:06:41 George is good at this too.
    3:06:42 He uses a lot of soft magics.
    3:06:53 Whenever someone uses magic in Game of Thrones, you get scared because people are going to die and things are going to go wrong and everything’s going to suck even worse because of using the magic.
    3:06:56 And that soft magic is brilliant for that.
    3:07:01 It creates a sense of mystery and danger and sorrow.
    3:07:06 It’s sort of an unpredictability that’s exciting, whereas solving problems, the audience is just like, “Ah, come on!”
    3:07:07 Yeah, exactly.
    3:07:09 And they both do different kinds of things.
    3:07:14 And so if you understand this, you can have the emotions you want in the stories, right?
    3:07:20 And Tolkien very wisely uses the ring to solve problems and escalate in certain ways.
    3:07:25 Like Sam being able to put on the ring to go save Frodo after Frodo is taken by the orcs.
    3:07:29 You are totally by that Sam can do that because you know what the ring can do.
    3:07:30 It solves a problem.
    3:07:32 It’s actually, you’re like, “Yay, Sam! Good job!”
    3:07:33 And that’s a heroic moment.
    3:07:42 He gets Frodo back, right? Frodo’s alive. Everything’s happy because Sam manipulated the magic that he’s learned to the end.
    3:07:46 And then he gives up the ring and you’re like, “Good job, Sam. You have done it.”
    3:07:51 Lord of the Rings is just a great manual for how to do both of these things.
    3:07:53 We’re going to come to number three.
    3:07:54 Yes.
    3:08:01 It’s the third law in a second, but I just want to recommend to folks, I had an opportunity to spend some time in Oxford for the first time.
    3:08:11 And it is just from a literary perspective, so fun to walk around Oxford and to see all of the influences and the pubs and so on.
    3:08:16 We’re Tolkien and C.S. Lewis used to grab drinks and I always blank on the third.
    3:08:17 Yep, everybody does.
    3:08:22 Or like, “Yeah, sorry, pal.” Or his Dark Materials, right?
    3:08:25 And Phil Pullman and that entire world.
    3:08:35 Which I have to just air a grievance, which is when things get slotted, this is me being naive, I guess, but into young adult.
    3:08:40 My assumption always was, as a so-called adult, like young adult is easier to read.
    3:08:48 But it seems to be when the protagonist is a young adult, because I remember reading The Golden Compass and I was like, “I do not understand these 300 nautical terms.”
    3:08:51 It was a very, very intricate book.
    3:08:57 After this, no one knows what to do with The Golden Compass, because Lara’s actually like eight.
    3:09:03 And so it’s not young adult, it’s what the age group that that would be would be middle grade or chapter books.
    3:09:05 It was shelved in both sections, no one knows what to do with that.
    3:09:10 And that’s an example of breaking the rules fantastically and it working out really well.
    3:09:13 I don’t remember how old she is, but she’s not young adult age, she might be 10.
    3:09:19 But young adult can be just as complicated as adult.
    3:09:22 And it’s mostly a marketing thing, like Mistborn.
    3:09:27 All my books Mistborn shelved as adult everywhere, but eventually towards like, it’s really a young adult version.
    3:09:29 But in the young adult section, why not?
    3:09:30 Maybe new people will find it.
    3:09:35 Skyward, which is my actual young adult series, is shelved as adult in the UK.
    3:09:39 Because they’re like, “Well, we just want to package it the same as yours and sell it to your audience.”
    3:09:40 And I’m like, “Okay.”
    3:09:42 So they packaged it and put it in the adult section.
    3:09:44 So, all marketing.
    3:09:46 Tomato, tomato, the third law.
    3:09:48 Third law. All right.
    3:09:50 Third law, let me tell you the story of what went wrong.
    3:09:51 In Mistborn.
    3:09:53 It’s actually a great first line for your next book.
    3:09:55 Yeah, let me tell you what went wrong.
    3:09:59 In Mistborn, I came up with three separate magic systems for three books.
    3:10:00 They’re all there in the first one.
    3:10:04 There’s, you know, Alamancey, there’s this thing that Cezed does, which is mysterious.
    3:10:07 It’s kind of in the first book, Cezed’s magic is a soft magic.
    3:10:11 Even though I know all the rules, you don’t know what he can do.
    3:10:21 And when he solves problems with it, it’s like used to create mystery and questions and even some danger, right?
    3:10:28 Book two, I start showing you how it works so that it becomes now understandable and things like that.
    3:10:30 And then there’s a hemilurgy.
    3:10:34 So, each book I wanted to explore a different aspect of the magic.
    3:10:40 When it came to do the Stormlight Archive, I had started to fall into a trap.
    3:10:42 And the trap is bigger is better.
    3:10:45 And this is what killed the original Stormlight Archive.
    3:10:49 So, you would think I’d learned this lesson, but people started to say you had three magic systems in Mistborn.
    3:10:51 How many will you have in the Stormlight Archive?
    3:10:54 And I’m like, there’s going to be 30 magic systems.
    3:10:57 It’s going to be so epic, all right?
    3:11:03 And then I sat down and I was building all this and I’m like, this is the wrong way to approach the book.
    3:11:11 30 magic systems are better than three. Three well-done magic systems are way better than 30 non-well-done magic systems.
    3:11:14 I need to sit down and say, what is my book actually about?
    3:11:17 What is the world building that’s really going to enhance this story?
    3:11:21 Let’s talk about that and do a really good job of it.
    3:11:23 This is in video games.
    3:11:25 There’s this great series called The Elder Scrolls.
    3:11:31 And one of the first games to ever procedurally generate dungeons.
    3:11:36 And they pitched one of their games is like, there’s a thousand dungeons you can explore.
    3:11:42 But the truth is, all those thousand dungeons are built out of 30 different elements recombined in different ways.
    3:11:45 And so, you were bored after the second one.
    3:11:52 Later on, they realized if they just take hand care and they build a well-crafted dungeon, they put fewer of them in.
    3:11:55 Everyone’s happier. It works way better.
    3:12:03 But people would talk about those early Elder Scrolls games and be like, it’s an ocean an inch deep.
    3:12:06 You want to avoid that in your storytelling.
    3:12:16 So, the idea is that with the third law, it challenges me to reexamine what I have and to go deeper instead of just expanding.
    3:12:19 To say, look, you’ve got something interesting and it’s not just magic.
    3:12:29 Like, this character, can you dig a little deeper into who this character is instead of adding a new one to make, you know, your story wider but more shallow?
    3:12:37 And it’s just a challenge to me to do a good, thoughtful job on my world building instead of always pretending bigger is better.
    3:12:42 Got it. So, the third law is to protect yourself, remind yourself.
    3:12:43 Yeah, all of them are.
    3:12:47 The first one happened because I added something you’ll get there.
    3:12:53 I had an editor, and my editor said, the ending of Mistborn 1 isn’t quite as spectacular as we want.
    3:12:55 Can you, you know, do something to spice it up?
    3:12:58 And I said, cool, yeah, I’ve got this thing I’m going to do in the second book.
    3:13:02 I’ll just let it happen in the first book, but I hadn’t set it up.
    3:13:04 And then the first book came out and people still really liked it.
    3:13:08 But a lot of them are pointing at that and being like, that felt like a little like a Deus Ex Machina.
    3:13:11 I’m like, it is. I didn’t set this up at all.
    3:13:13 It just is out of nowhere right at the end.
    3:13:16 I’m like, why does it work sometimes and not others?
    3:13:18 And that’s where this law came from.
    3:13:22 And flaws are more interesting is the same direction.
    3:13:34 It’s like, you know, looking at all the powers that I’m adding and trying to play with them and things and realizing that, you know, Superman is interesting because of what he can’t do.
    3:13:40 Superman as a character is interesting because he has a moral code, which is, you know, a limitation he puts on himself.
    3:13:43 And the best stories happen either because of his moral code.
    3:13:53 Will he break or not because of the people that he loves, which are also kind of a limitation or because he encounters someone who has kryptonite and his powers are taken away.
    3:13:56 Those are the great three Superman stories.
    3:14:01 All of them don’t center on what his powers are centers on what he can’t do.
    3:14:03 He can’t get lowest to fall in love with him.
    3:14:06 He can’t always protect everybody.
    3:14:09 He can’t violate his code and he can’t do anything when kryptonite’s around.
    3:14:12 Then you’ve suddenly you’ve got conflict and story.
    3:14:14 Brandon sir, we’ve covered a lot of ground.
    3:14:17 I could keep going for a very, very long time, but you’re doing the majority of the talking.
    3:14:19 So you’re doing all the heavy lifting here.
    3:14:29 Is there anything we have not covered that you would like to cover or anything that you would like to say to my audience request of my audience, point my audience to.
    3:14:31 I never know how to do.
    3:14:35 I could that you’d like to wrap things up with land the plan with a little dance.
    3:14:36 I don’t know.
    3:14:38 There is a zero flaw.
    3:14:39 That’s okay.
    3:14:40 Zero flaw.
    3:14:42 So Adam Asimov added a zero flaw.
    3:14:44 I added one chicly, right?
    3:14:48 And I guess what I’d say to your audience is I thank you for putting up with me nerding out for three hours.
    3:14:56 If they want to try something, I would recommend Mistborn or Truss of the Emerald Sea, depending if they want something more heisty and actiony or something more whimsical.
    3:15:01 But Sanderson’s zero flaw is always err on the side of what’s awesome.
    3:15:06 And this came about because I realized sometimes I don’t follow the rules.
    3:15:11 Sometimes I come up with something that’s just too cool to not put in the story.
    3:15:17 And at the end of the day, I’m writing stories because I want to do interesting things with character with plot with.
    3:15:19 I just want things to be cool.
    3:15:24 And so I came up with this little rule to myself, which is all of this is good.
    3:15:25 All this is important.
    3:15:30 But when you’re writing, if you come up with something really cool, try it out.
    3:15:36 Even if it breaks the outline, it breaks the magic system, try it out and see if it makes the story better.
    3:15:39 Because if it does, you’ll figure out a way to make it work.
    3:15:41 You can revise so that it’s foreshadowed.
    3:15:44 You can you can fix that err on the side of what is awesome.
    3:15:45 Try it.
    3:15:47 Give yourself permission.
    3:15:51 Well, I for one, I’m glad you didn’t end up being a chemist.
    3:16:07 So I very much appreciate the time. This is an incredible life and world and collection of worlds that you guys all help build with the team behind you and putting out ungodly numbers of words per year.
    3:16:09 It’s just it’s just phenomenal.
    3:16:11 And where can people find you?
    3:16:13 Where’s the best place to find all things?
    3:16:26 Like I said, I need to get a new one. It was written in 2006. So it’s been a while, but it’s on there for free.
    3:16:30 You can read a bunch of everything you can, you know, we got socials.
    3:16:33 YouTube is a pretty good place for me to my writing lectures are there.
    3:16:38 I do a weekly update every week on YouTube where I come on and say where I am in my writing process for the current book.
    3:16:40 So I like to do lots of outreach.
    3:16:43 Yeah, amazing. Well, I can’t wait to see what you do next.
    3:16:55 And I’ll be certainly watching and for people who are interested in anything we talked about, I will link to everything in the show notes at TimedUpLog/podcast.
    3:16:58 Thank you, Brandon, for all the time and for hosting me.
    3:16:59 What a fun trip.
    3:17:06 And to everybody out there, until next time, just be a bit kinder than is necessary to others and to yourself.
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  • #793: How to Calm Your Inner Storm — A Guided Meditation to Tame Restlessness with Zen Master Henry Shukman

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    0:00:04 Hello, boys and girls, ladies and germs. This is Tim Ferriss. Welcome to another episode of
    0:00:09 The Tim Ferriss Show. This episode is a brand new experiment called Meditation Monday. That means,
    0:00:14 in addition to my long-form interviews each week, every Monday, I will be bringing you a short 10
    0:00:19 minute or so meditation, which will help you for the rest of the week. Over this four-episode
    0:00:24 series, you’ll develop a Zen toolkit specifically to help you find greater calm, peace, and effectiveness
    0:00:29 in your daily life. The teacher, Henry Schuchman, has been on my podcast twice before. He is one
    0:00:34 of only a few dozen masters in the world authorized to teach what is called Sambo Zen,
    0:00:38 and I have found this particularly interesting and effective, and now he’ll be your teacher.
    0:00:46 I’ve been using Henry’s app The Way once, often twice a day for the last few months, and it has
    0:00:51 lowered my anxiety more than I thought possible. As a listener of the show, you yourself can get
    0:00:57 30 free sessions by visiting thewayapp.com/tim. If you like what you hear in these meditations,
    0:01:01 which will be valuable in and of themselves, you can get 30 free sessions by going to
    0:01:07 thewayapp.com/tim. And for the time being, please enjoy this Meditation Monday with Henry Schuchman.
    0:01:17 Welcome back to Meditation Monday. Many of us, of course, have difficult emotions at times,
    0:01:26 and meditation might seem to exacerbate them sometimes because we’re, as it were, more exposed
    0:01:31 to them. We haven’t got distractions, other things we can turn to. We’re just sitting still
    0:01:36 and doing nothing, so if a difficult emotion comes up, there’s kind of no way to hide.
    0:01:47 Now, in early Buddhism, these kinds of emotions, things like worry, regret, frustration, craving,
    0:01:55 aversion, or dislike, strong dislike, were viewed actually as hindrances to meditation.
    0:02:02 That they would make us not want to meditate. They’d make it harder to meditate. And I think it’s
    0:02:10 quite a helpful lens to recognize that difficult emotions are a problem, as it were, in meditation,
    0:02:18 in that they will discourage us from doing it. So fortunately, we have tools for being with
    0:02:27 difficult emotion. And actually, what they often lead to is a kind of restlessness. Get me out of
    0:02:34 here, you know, when we’re trying to meditate. So I want to do a sit now that offers a tool for
    0:02:43 working with restlessness and emotions that might be associated with it. So I hope you find this
    0:02:50 helpful. Let’s come into our seated, comfortable position. And just a footnote, if you want to
    0:02:57 recline, you go right ahead. We just want to be comfortable. That’s the main thing. Because when
    0:03:08 we’re comfortable, it’s easier to relax. And when we start relaxing, it’s easier to be still.
    0:03:19 And in some ways, it might be that the most powerful agent in meditation is simply being still.
    0:03:30 That all the lessons and learnings and shifts and transformations that meditation can offer
    0:03:41 simply come from stillness. So let’s give ourselves time to be comfortable,
    0:03:59 to arrive here, to come into being here, into this space where nothing is asked of us.
    0:04:10 Nothing we need to do. We’re really getting to put down the burden of doing.
    0:04:15 All the responsibilities, the to-do lists.
    0:04:26 Leave them outside the door just for now. This is really a time just for you.
    0:04:36 So again, checking that your body is comfortable under a little bit of
    0:04:43 progressive relaxation, letting your shoulders go, letting them sink and settle and letting
    0:04:47 your arms be limp like old rope.
    0:04:54 Letting the face soften.
    0:05:03 And it just sort of hang like a curtain. No tension in it. Let it go.
    0:05:24 Let there be a warmth in the chest, a warmth in the belly, softness in chest, softness in belly.
    0:05:31 Let your hips go. Let your legs relax and your feet.
    0:05:40 So in this space of meditation,
    0:05:50 we’re going to explore how we might allow restlessness if it comes up.
    0:06:01 And I invite you actually to imagine that you are feeling just a little bit of restlessness
    0:06:12 It’s a familiar feeling for pretty much all of us, I think, that enough of this.
    0:06:18 I want to go and do something else or I want to move or get me out of here.
    0:06:26 Now, instead of doing what it says, we’re going to be still.
    0:06:38 And we’re going to see if we can find it, find the restlessness in your body. What actually is it?
    0:06:48 Could it be that it’s just a kind of energy, maybe like a little
    0:07:00 miniature dust devil or something of energy somewhere in the torso, maybe the belly,
    0:07:13 maybe the chest, possibly throat. Can you find some trace of an energy of restlessness
    0:07:19 within your torso?
    0:07:37 Whatever you’re finding, or if you’re not really finding anything,
    0:07:44 we’re going to let things be just as they are.
    0:07:58 We’re going to allow any energy of restlessness, all the absence of it, to be just as it is.
    0:08:09 What if we don’t have to do anything about it?
    0:08:21 What if we have it in us to just let it be there? Let it be here.
    0:08:33 No need to change it, welcome it, allow it,
    0:08:41 let it actually be part of your experience.
    0:08:55 Rest with it.
    0:09:14 If you are tasting restlessness, you can name it in your own mind.
    0:09:21 Restlessness is present, say it to yourself.
    0:09:36 Restlessness is welcome.
    0:09:43 Try saying that to yourself in your own mind.
    0:10:01 It may be that you’re sensing some other emotion that might be uncomfortable.
    0:10:12 If so, see if you can find the sensory correlates of it, the actual sensation
    0:10:18 in probably the chest area, or perhaps the belly, that associates with it.
    0:10:27 And let them be present.
    0:10:40 Let your shoulders be soft, let your flanks be soft,
    0:10:46 let your back be soft.
    0:11:00 And let the whole front of your torso, the front, the skin and dermis of your torso,
    0:11:08 let it also be soft, like a kind of drapery, hanging loose.
    0:11:23 And let the softness in your body allow any discomfort of restlessness or emotion.
    0:11:33 Let the softness welcome any trace of discomfort.
    0:11:41 Let yourself just be with it.
    0:11:53 Being still, being quiet,
    0:12:05 resting with your own heart, your own emotion center.
    0:12:18 And letting it be.
    0:12:37 Yeah, so part of this homecoming, we might say, that meditation can be,
    0:12:43 is also coming back to, you know, our feeling self.
    0:12:52 It’s a beautiful thing, actually, that we feel like many, like all other mammals.
    0:13:00 We have emotions, they’re part of our makeup, and learning to allow them
    0:13:06 is a real form of growth.
    0:13:15 Okay, so let’s come out of this sit, bring movement back into the body.
    0:13:24 You might do an inhale, an exhale, move around any way you feel you’d like to.
    0:13:33 Fantastic, thank you so much for joining me in this little exploration of a perhaps unexpected
    0:13:41 kind of tool that will help us with our difficulties and sort of defuse them
    0:13:49 for our pathway into meditation and along the great journey of meditation.
    0:13:53 Thanks so much. See you next week.

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    In addition to my long-form interviews each week, every Monday I’ll bring you a short 10-minute or so meditation, which will help you for the rest of the week.

    Over this four-episode series, you’ll develop a Zen toolkit to help you find greater calm, peace, and effectiveness in your daily life.

    Henry’s app, The Way, has changed my life since I first started using it. Unlike other meditation apps, where you’re overwhelmed with a thousand choices, The Way is a clear step-by-step training program guided entirely by Henry. Through a logical progression, you’ll develop real skills that stick with you.

    I’ve been using it daily, often twice a day, and it’s lowered my anxiety more than I thought possible.

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  • #792: Seth Godin on Playing the Right Game and Strategy as a Superpower

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    0:00:06 Coming up in this episode and the mistake people make is if you find yourself saying,
    0:00:10 “I just need to get the word out. I’ve done all the hard part. Now I just need to get the word out.”
    0:00:17 You haven’t done the hard part. What you’ve done is waited for a miracle.
    0:00:25 Hello, boys and girls, ladies and germs. This is Tim Ferriss. Welcome to another episode of
    0:00:31 The Tim Ferriss Show. My guest today is a fan favorite. It is Seth Godin, the one and only.
    0:00:36 He is the author of 21 internationally bestselling books translated into more than 35 languages,
    0:00:43 including “Linchpin,” “Tribes,” “The Dip,” and “Purple Cow.” His latest book, “This Is Strategy,”
    0:00:48 really caught my attention, and it offers a fresh lens on how we can make bold decisions,
    0:00:54 embrace change, and navigate a complex, rapidly evolving world. We cover a ton of ground,
    0:01:00 including sets of questions that you can use to catalyze personal and professional growth,
    0:01:07 maxims different concepts to unpack that can productively shake the snow globe of your mind
    0:01:13 so that you can settle on new realizations, different ways to create competitive advantage
    0:01:19 in an increasingly crowded world. Seth is also the founder of the Alt MBA and the Akimbo workshops,
    0:01:23 transformative online programs that have helped thousands of people take their work to the next
    0:01:30 level. His blog, Seths.Blog, that’s a plural, Seths.Blog, is one of the most widely read in the
    0:01:37 world and has been such for a very long time. Seth is also the creator of the Carbon Almanac,
    0:01:42 a global initiative focused on climate action. This is a very practical episode,
    0:01:49 as all of Seths are on this podcast, and I’ll leave it at that. So, after a few words from the
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    0:02:10 Before I get to the email and the admin stuff and the reactive stuff and everyone else’s agenda
    0:02:18 for my time, for me, let’s just say I’m a writer and entrepreneur, I need to focus on the making to
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    0:04:13 I wish I had personally had Shopify in the early 2000s when I was running my own e-commerce business.
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    0:06:12 I suppose I want to ask the question that I always ask. What would make this
    0:06:16 time well spent for you? What would make this a home run looking back?
    0:06:21 I have to confess that I’ve never had a conversation with you that wasn’t well spent.
    0:06:27 What would make it a home run for me is if you considered it one of the best episodes of the
    0:06:30 year or maybe even longer. I want to be on the greatest hits. That’s what we’re pushing for.
    0:06:37 All right, perfect. To kick that off out of the gate, what would be a sensible place to start?
    0:06:43 Is there a particular story or a lead question that you think would help us start with a bang?
    0:06:47 Anything come to mind? There are a million places I could start, of course.
    0:06:56 You know best, but it seems to me that many of your listeners actually want a job without a boss.
    0:07:02 Seek to build something and they need to be woken up about that. And number two,
    0:07:08 people who misunderstand your breakthrough books think they’re about tactics and they follow the
    0:07:16 steps instead of realizing they’re about strategy and then find a resilient way forward. And strategy,
    0:07:21 this philosophy, is something you’ve been doing your entire career but never called it that.
    0:07:30 Well, let’s start there. Strategy, like success or God, if we want to really get out there,
    0:07:36 are words that a lot of people use but oftentimes are in their minds referring to different things.
    0:07:39 So when you use the word strategy, what does that mean to you?
    0:07:45 I think it’s a philosophy of becoming. I don’t think it’s a set of tactics. I don’t think it’s
    0:07:52 about winning in the short run. I think it’s about being very clear about the change we seek to make
    0:07:59 and who we seek to change, understanding the systems and the games around us, and then
    0:08:05 committing to the long-term process of getting to where we’re going, meaning our tactics will
    0:08:14 change all the time, but our strategy does not. And most people, because we’ve been indoctrinated
    0:08:21 to have a job, want tactics instead. And I could do much better if I was peddling tactics, but I’m
    0:08:24 not. And I’m never going to write a story, a book called This Is God.
    0:08:26 The Tactic Monger, Volume 1.
    0:08:32 Exactly. So if I’m not going to write This Is God or This Is Tactics, at least I could write
    0:08:40 This Is Strategy. And what would be a real-world example of good strategy? Any particular company
    0:08:47 or project come to mind? So some famous strategies, an elegant strategy. Bill Gates says we are going
    0:08:55 to have the strategy that no one ever got fired for buying Microsoft. He stole that strategy from
    0:09:01 IBM. So IBM had a 50-year run where their products weren’t the most cutting edge and weren’t the best
    0:09:07 priced, but they had enough salespeople and support and infrastructure that if you worked for a big
    0:09:15 company, buying IBM was easy. Every time Microsoft followed that strategy, they did fine. And when
    0:09:20 they veered away from it, they had problem. A strategy, when I was at Yahoo, we had the chance
    0:09:29 to buy Google for about $10 million. We didn’t buy them. I didn’t get a vote. But Yahoo’s strategy
    0:09:36 was the web is a dark and nasty place. Come to Yahoo and don’t leave. And the homepage had 183 links
    0:09:43 on it. At Google, their strategy was the web is grown up. Come here and go somewhere else.
    0:09:51 And Marissa Mayer built the most profitable marketing engine of all time by making sure,
    0:09:55 fighting for years to make it so there’s only a couple links on the homepage,
    0:10:00 because that was built into the strategy, which is if you’re leaving Google, we’re doing something
    0:10:06 right. And that’s where all the ads came from. And that’s why Yahoo couldn’t buy Google because
    0:10:12 the strategies were completely the opposite. And Starbucks had a strategy that took them a very
    0:10:18 long way for a very long time. But it’s not about Frappuccinos. It’s about understanding
    0:10:22 who is this for and how can we incrementally help them get there.
    0:10:26 What did that look like for Starbucks and what did it look like for them to stray?
    0:10:31 Howard Schultz did not start Starbucks. When he got there, there were two Starbucks’
    0:10:40 and neither one of them sold cups of coffee. They only sold beans. And Howard had been to Italy
    0:10:48 and he realized that there was a deep human desire, A, to go from being pre-caffeinated
    0:10:56 to caffeinated. And that gets refreshed every single day. And two, to be able to do it with
    0:11:01 other people who you see yourself in, people like us do things like this.
    0:11:06 So in the Northeast, there was Dunkin Donuts. But the idea of Dunkin Donuts is you’re not happy
    0:11:10 that you’re getting coffee. The coffee isn’t that delicious. Let’s just get this over with.
    0:11:20 And every time Howard built more of that feeling that you could go to any Starbucks in the world
    0:11:26 and feel like you were with your people and that for five bucks, you could feel like a rich person,
    0:11:31 he could repeat it over and over and over again. And the tactics would take care of themselves.
    0:11:38 If not the tactics, what are the core ingredients of enacting a strategy like that?
    0:11:45 There’s all sorts of surprising ways that we can challenge ourselves once we start down this path.
    0:11:51 But to start down the path, there are four things we’re looking for. We’re looking for systems.
    0:12:01 We’re looking for time. We’re looking for games. And finally, empathy. And all four of them are
    0:12:08 really unexplored and mysterious. But once you see all four of them, strategy is much easier to
    0:12:15 take care of itself. So I’m happy to take them one by one or give examples. But those four keep
    0:12:21 interweaving over and over again. And that unfolds for us what a strategy can be.
    0:12:28 Great. Let’s go through the four. And maybe if it’s not too cumbersome, if there’s an example
    0:12:35 that’s easy to give, that’s great too. However you want to land it. Systems are invisible and they
    0:12:40 hide themselves because they don’t want people to see who’s operating things. They invent culture
    0:12:45 to defend themselves. The most famous one is the solar system. There’s this invisible gravity.
    0:12:51 The earth doesn’t go around the sun because it wants to. It goes around the sun because gravity
    0:12:58 makes that its easiest path. If you grew up in the United States to middle class parents,
    0:13:02 you’ll be under pressure from the time you’re five years old to get good grades. Why do I need to
    0:13:06 get good grades so you can get into a famous college? But you’re not supposed to call it a
    0:13:14 famous college. You’re supposed to call it a good college. And that system with tuition and tenure
    0:13:19 and student debt and football teams and cheerleaders and college tours and the sticker on the back of
    0:13:28 a car and the SATs, all of it is just taken for granted as normal. And so, Danella Meadows has
    0:13:35 done brilliant writing before she passed away way too early about all the dynamics of systems,
    0:13:42 systems in our world, systems that we want to build. So when we see a system under stress,
    0:13:49 then we can see the system, that we can see the climate when temperatures start to rise.
    0:13:52 But before the temperature started to rise, when the climate was normal, no one
    0:13:58 paid attention to it because the system, the thing that keeps it going, was sort of invisible.
    0:14:03 So if you’re going to start any enterprise, a little plumbing business, a giant internet
    0:14:09 company, if you’re going to run for office, you should be able to see and name the elements of
    0:14:16 the system. Where is their gravity? What is seen as normal? And there’s pushback if you don’t do it.
    0:14:23 And so I’ll finish the rant by asking a simple question. How much should a wedding cost?
    0:14:33 I am especially unqualified to answer this. No, it’s super simple. The answer is
    0:14:42 exactly what your best friend spent but a little more. And that’s why a wedding in New York City
    0:14:49 costs more than $100,000. Not because you need monogrammed matchbooks to have a good wedding.
    0:14:56 You need them to be part of the wedding industrial complex to show your status to the people who’ve
    0:15:01 been invited because that’s what the thing is for. So we have to see systems and then either
    0:15:07 we work for the system or the system works for us. We can linger on this one for a bit because
    0:15:13 next one is time. So I feel like we should take our time plus it’s long form. So could you give
    0:15:20 an example on a smaller scale of a, you mentioned plumbing doesn’t need to be plumbing, but a
    0:15:29 solopreneur or a very, very small startup to deform employees and how they might start to
    0:15:37 ask questions around systems to identify the systems that are at work? Because for instance,
    0:15:43 in my life, I’m good at identifying what is normal, what are the unquestioned assumptions.
    0:15:48 I’m good at that, but that seems like I’m holding the tail of the elephant, like one of the blind
    0:15:53 men in the parable. It’s like, I’ve got a piece of it, but it’s not the whole elephant, clearly.
    0:15:57 I don’t think you’re giving yourself enough credit. The whole tango thing. I mean,
    0:16:02 you have been doing this for a very long time. We’re an archery thing by me.
    0:16:11 So let’s say you’re going to build a small business that supports medium-sized businesses with their
    0:16:18 Google workspace. So you’re a couple of nerds and you’re going to be the person who helps people
    0:16:24 set up their Google Drive and across the organization reasonably secure for a company
    0:16:30 with 100 employees. Because you’re in there, in the factory, seeing how things are made,
    0:16:35 it’s very tempting to imagine that everyone you’re serving wants what you want,
    0:16:42 and that you think your customer is the person who’s buying stuff from you and what they need
    0:16:49 is a tech solution. None of these things are true. That the system of a company with 100 people,
    0:16:55 it’s probably not the CEO’s job to set this thing up. So it’s someone else’s job. There’s a system,
    0:17:01 a hierarchy of jobs. What does that person want? It’s not their money. So lowering your
    0:17:06 price to get new customers is not going to help you get new customers. That in fact,
    0:17:12 what that person wants is a story to tell their boss, a story of why did I pick these people,
    0:17:17 and even better, a story of if it fails, why they are not going to be in trouble.
    0:17:24 So when we show up at an organization to tell our story to that system, we have to do it
    0:17:30 understanding, how do they buy everything else? What do they measure? What would happen to us
    0:17:37 if we were bigger than the other people bidding or smaller than the other people bidding?
    0:17:44 All of these things go into how the system works the same way the admissions office at the famous
    0:17:50 college doesn’t always pick the people with the highest SAT scores because there’s this
    0:17:59 complicated mechanism at play that is historical to feed and maintain the system.
    0:18:07 So in the case of this Google workspace thing, let’s say you decide to close on Thanksgiving
    0:18:11 Day and you’ve just got a message on your voicemail, we’ll close on Thanksgiving Day,
    0:18:17 leave a message, we’ll call you back tomorrow. That seems normal unless what got you into the
    0:18:22 system was an unbreakable promise that you will never get in trouble because we will always answer
    0:18:30 the phone. That decision, that tactical decision has to be driven by what you seek to stand for,
    0:18:34 but that’s only going to happen if you see the system of what this company, your client does
    0:18:42 and what stories do they tell themselves. And Hollywood is a system and the senior prom is a
    0:18:47 system. And there are all these factors that go into all of them, subtle signals that people
    0:18:53 are sending to each other. And if you’re going to make a living taking money from people to solve
    0:18:59 their problems, it has to be to help them dance with the system that they’re part of.
    0:19:06 All right, shall we bookmark that and come to time, games or empathy, which would you like to
    0:19:12 tackle next? Time is really interesting. James Glick wrote a brilliant book about the history
    0:19:18 of time travel. Now, of course, there are no actual time machines, but we know who invented the time
    0:19:25 machine. And it was actually H. G. Wells. Before H. G. Wells wrote his book, nobody in the world
    0:19:29 talked about time machines, the concept that you and I take for granted. If you go back in time,
    0:19:36 if you go forward, no one ever said that, ever. And time, we’re all very familiar with it and no
    0:19:43 one can define it. And we know what now is. And the now over a week ago isn’t now anymore. It’s
    0:19:51 back then and it feels different. So if you want to build a company with 1,000 employees in it,
    0:19:57 if you want to go public, if you want to be somebody with a lot of zeros in your bank account,
    0:20:01 that is not going to happen in the next three seconds. There’s something that’s going to happen
    0:20:13 between now and then. And each one of the steps as we look through time is not today. So when we
    0:20:20 want to have a forest, we don’t get a forest. We start planting trees because 20 years from now
    0:20:25 we’ll have a forest. And when you’re growing up in Long Island or when you’re growing up
    0:20:29 training for the Olympics, you know you’re not going to be doing the Olympics when you’re 50.
    0:20:38 So what exactly are the purpose of these steps? And what does it mean to fail? Does it mean that
    0:20:43 you failed right this moment in service of getting where you want to go later? What does it mean you
    0:20:49 failed forever? What does it mean to quit? Does quitting now mean you failed forever or does it
    0:20:56 just open the door to succeeding later? And so we have this opportunity to see time the way our
    0:21:04 competition doesn’t. So in 2001, I was at a conference and we were in this small group setting.
    0:21:08 There were eight people and they said, “Go around the circle and say who you are.” And the guy on
    0:21:12 my left said, “My name is Stephen. I’m a judge.” It turned out he was Stephen Breyer. He was on
    0:21:19 the Supreme Court. And the person next to him said, “My name’s Sergey and I have this new search
    0:21:25 engine.” And someone said, “So Sergey, what’s your marketing strategy?” And he said, “Well,
    0:21:31 here’s the deal. We think Google is going to get better every day.” So we don’t want people to
    0:21:36 use Google for the first time right away. We want them to use it for the first time later so it’s
    0:21:42 better by the time they get there. So we’re not doing any promotion whatsoever because the Google
    0:21:46 of now only exists to get us to the Google of tomorrow. And when we’re at the Google you’re
    0:21:53 ready for, that’s when you’ll come use it. And at the same time, Yahoo was busy trying to defend
    0:21:58 the plunging stock price in the moment as opposed to saying, “What are we going to be in 10 years?”
    0:22:06 I remember the TV commercials at exactly that time for Yahoo. Okay, so framing time
    0:22:11 differently. I suppose Bezos and Amazon would be an example of that as well. I mean,
    0:22:17 who dog-trained Wall Street to expect no profitability for God knows how long, decade,
    0:22:24 I mean, and set out in the very first annual shareholder letter that was subsequently, I believe,
    0:22:29 reread every year or represented in some fashion. Yeah, so let’s just break that into pieces, right?
    0:22:36 Because in the moment, Morgan Stanley says, “Don’t do that. That’s dumb. It’s going to hurt your
    0:22:45 stock price today.” But what Jeff said was, “If I don’t establish the conditions for Wall Street
    0:22:53 to send us the investors we want, our stock price will be zero in five years.” So the only way to
    0:23:01 get to five years from now is to do this today, even though it feels expensive because compared
    0:23:06 to the alternative, it’s really cheap. Setting the conditions. I have a sneaking
    0:23:12 suspicion we’re going to come back to conditions at some point. Games. I like the sound of this.
    0:23:16 I like games. Some games, I suppose, depends on which one I choose and if I choose it consciously,
    0:23:23 but what does games mean? So again, back to the indoctrination. So we grew up with Candyland
    0:23:29 and Parcheasy and Monopoly. Those are board games and they’re okay, but that’s not the
    0:23:36 kind of games I’m talking about. Any situation where there are multiple people and variable outputs
    0:23:43 with scarcity, there’s a game. So it is a game to decide when two lanes merge, which car is going to
    0:23:50 go first. And it is a game to decide when you’re working for Jack Welch and the bottom 10% of the
    0:23:56 people lose their job, which people are going to lose their job. And it is a game to exchange money
    0:24:03 for a hot dog at the baseball game because that exchange happens in a way where two players come
    0:24:11 together for mutual benefit. So we should not deny that games exist. We should learn how games work.
    0:24:18 And when we make a move in a game that doesn’t seem to work, we should not say we are a bad person.
    0:24:24 We should say, “I made a move that did not work.” Those are totally different things.
    0:24:29 And so the only way you’ve been able to achieve all the things you’ve achieved
    0:24:36 between the archery and dancing and everything in between is you make more moves than most people
    0:24:43 and you measure them and you don’t do the ones that don’t work again. But it is impossible to
    0:24:51 innovate if it has to work. Innovation must always be accompanied by the phrase, “This might not work.”
    0:24:57 And so if you and your team aren’t saying, “This might not work,” in service of innovation,
    0:25:03 you’re not innovating. And this is my entire notebook full of
    0:25:13 training logs and experiments. And I’d say 50% is at least, if not 70%, things that did not work
    0:25:17 and required tweaks so that I would not repeat the same mistake the next time.
    0:25:24 It doesn’t always work. But over time, it tends to round towards improvement, at the very least.
    0:25:28 We’ve only been going at this for a few minutes, but already I can hear it.
    0:25:33 People are saying, “Wait, wait, wait. I too didn’t have someone vindicate the tactics I am
    0:25:37 already using, that that is what I am listening for, to hear that I am on the right tack.”
    0:25:45 What are you guys going to get to the tactics part? And the very fact that we don’t hear this kind
    0:25:51 of description of the world we’re in is like the fish that doesn’t realize it’s in water.
    0:25:56 And what I’m trying to help people see in a world that is changing faster than it has ever
    0:26:02 changed in history is when you see these threads and these systems under stress,
    0:26:09 that is when you know there’s an opportunity for you. And if it feels uncomfortable,
    0:26:14 imagine how it feels to people who don’t get the joke. When this discomfort shows up,
    0:26:20 that’s the opportunity. Yeah, for sure. And one of the many reasons I’ve been looking forward
    0:26:25 to the conversation is I spend a lot of time thinking about many of these constituent parts,
    0:26:33 but I haven’t necessarily explicitly woven them together into something that combines into
    0:26:40 strategy. But in terms of time horizon, and for me, a lot of it is trying to find or create a
    0:26:48 category of one for “competitive advantage.” And part of that is choosing a game I can win,
    0:26:54 which entails also understanding the rules of the game that you have chosen or inherited or
    0:26:59 somehow deliberately or accidentally ended up playing. It’s really trying to parse the rules
    0:27:04 of the game. The time, I do think about that a lot. It’s one of the simplest ways to have
    0:27:08 a competitive advantage, just to have a longer time horizon. But it requires having a lot of
    0:27:15 other things fall online. And then certainly the systems and in part, depending on what game you’re
    0:27:21 playing, as you said, what are the gravitational pulls? What are the incentives of different
    0:27:29 stakeholders who has what degree of respective influence? So it’s fun to hear these all
    0:27:35 combined. Empathy is one I would like to think of myself as an empathetic person, but this
    0:27:42 isn’t maybe one that I would initially have thrown into the ring as an integral piece of
    0:27:48 strategy. So what does this mean? You just gave it away. I’d like to think of myself as an empathetic
    0:27:54 person. It implies that there’s a moral component to what we’re talking about. And at some level,
    0:27:58 of course, there is, but that’s not what I’m talking about. What I’m talking about is this.
    0:28:06 Everything we build and everything we make only works in a voluntary exchange if someone else
    0:28:13 wants it more than they want the money or time they have to trade for it. Meaning someone’s not
    0:28:18 going to buy the thing you’re selling at a craft sphere because you worked really hard to make it.
    0:28:27 They’re going to buy it because they want it. And all empathy is, is being very clear about who it’s
    0:28:37 for and why they want it. And we get so busy and so exhausted making something, we forget. We hustle
    0:28:42 people and hassle people to buy from us because it’s important to us. Sounds like some of my blog
    0:28:50 posts. Yes. You didn’t need to publish the notebook if your goal was for you to read it
    0:28:56 because you already read it. You are publishing it so other people will read it. So your description
    0:29:03 of the book is not, “Please buy this because I worked really hard to write it.” It’s, “I have a
    0:29:11 thing here that when I describe it, if I create the conditions for information exchange to happen,
    0:29:17 you will bang down the door to get it. You will be angry if you can’t get a copy.” Now,
    0:29:25 that implies that it cannot be for everyone, no matter what we make, because you cannot be
    0:29:33 empathic to everyone. Unless you’re selling, I don’t know, oxygen on a planet that doesn’t have any,
    0:29:42 there’s nothing that everyone wants the same way. So where all of this must begin and end is
    0:29:50 with the minimum, the smallest viable audience. Who are the people, just them, that when they hear
    0:29:55 about this, they’re going to say, “That’s exactly what I was looking for.” That’s all you need.
    0:30:06 You pick that group, you delight them, and you forgive everybody else. And here’s proof that
    0:30:13 you’re not doing it. If someone comes to you and you are not regularly sending folks to your
    0:30:20 competitors or people who are thought of as your competitors, you are not serious about this,
    0:30:25 about picking the audience to its fore and forgiving everybody else. When someone shows up
    0:30:30 at the Ferrari dealership and says, “I got six kids, how am I going to get them to school?”
    0:30:36 You don’t try to persuade them to get an Enzo. You send them down the street to the Volvo dealership.
    0:30:44 That was one of your many questions. I suppose 40 or so questions in the book that I wanted to
    0:30:48 ask about, “Am I positioned as a service? Can I happily send others to people who might be seen
    0:30:54 as competitors?” And I was like, “Huh, interesting. I wanted to clarify that, which you just did.”
    0:31:03 And it makes sense. If you can’t do that, then you very likely did not have your
    0:31:10 1,000 true fans or minimal viable audience to find. Positioning is, why are the people who don’t
    0:31:18 choose to buy from you right to make that choice? And if you have this attitude that everyone should
    0:31:24 buy from you, you can’t answer that question. So the people at Nestle’s don’t get upset if you buy
    0:31:32 an Askenosi chocolate bar for $14 because Sean and his daughter aren’t selling a chocolate bar
    0:31:36 to people who might buy a Nestle’s bar. They’re completely different groups of people.
    0:31:41 And the same thing is true for people who play Dungeons and Dragons versus people who want to
    0:31:46 go watch Ultimate Fighting Championship. In that given moment, there are two different groups of
    0:31:49 people. I’m glad you said in that given moment because I happen to be the perfect overlap.
    0:31:52 There are some people who do both, but they don’t do both at the same time.
    0:31:54 No, no, no. Very hard to do at the same time.
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    0:33:15 All right, so we have then, this might be a good segue, many maxims or ideas that we could discuss
    0:33:24 from the book. And I circled a few for myself, mostly for clarification. And I’ll let you pick
    0:33:30 from one of these three and feel free to revise the wording, but I’m very curious.
    0:33:34 I’ll read the three and then you can pick whichever one you want to start with. So the first is systems
    0:33:39 don’t start out selfish, but resilient ones often end up that way. The next one is you’re not sitting
    0:33:45 in traffic, you are the traffic. And then the third is don’t try to burn big logs if you only have
    0:33:52 a little bit of kindling. Perfect. Let’s do all three. We’ll start with the last one. If you’ve
    0:33:58 ever gone camping, you know what I mean by the, you have enough kindling freezing my ass off in a
    0:34:03 rural archery range yesterday and realize they had a nice wood burning stove, but all the logs
    0:34:07 were as big around as my torso. And I thought, well, that’s going to be a really tough fire to
    0:34:12 start. Exactly. Unless you had an enormous amount of kindling and then it would go up in no time.
    0:34:20 Yeah. Too often because of the media, entrepreneurs think if they don’t start something that sounds
    0:34:26 giant, they’re failures. Too often, we give entrepreneurs credit for raising a lot of money
    0:34:32 from venture capital. That’s probably not the right path for you. The money you’re raising
    0:34:38 from investors is kindling. And the logs you’re starting are the markets you’re trying to get to.
    0:34:43 So if you want to build a dialysis chain in 40 cities where people can go get reliable kidney
    0:34:50 treatment, you can’t start that with $100,000 alone. You just can’t. But $100,000 alone is
    0:34:56 more than enough to get yourself doing very, very well with a hotdog cart somewhere.
    0:35:05 So we first got to make a smart decision based on time, based on the systems we’re
    0:35:09 confronting. Do we have enough kindling? Do I have enough reputation to even take this on?
    0:35:17 One about systems is this. Systems aren’t people. They are collections of people.
    0:35:24 And they act in ways that maybe the people who started the system and maybe the people who work
    0:35:30 in the system wouldn’t choose, but that’s the system they’ve got. So if you think about the
    0:35:35 healthcare system in the United States, it’s not a healthcare system. It’s a treatment system
    0:35:40 because everyone in the system gets rewarded for giving treatments, not for making you healthy.
    0:35:46 And so it’s quite likely that once you start working with the medical industrial complex,
    0:35:51 you’ll get more and more tests and more and more probing and more and more bills because that’s
    0:35:59 what the system does. And every time someone moves out of where the system ended up, the system
    0:36:06 exerts a feedback loop to push them back into the spot where they belong. And so if we look at how
    0:36:14 we ended up with college educations that cost almost $300,000, it’s because the combination
    0:36:23 of accreditation and ranking and tenure and parent status and placement offices all
    0:36:28 support it going in only one direction. And if you show up saying, look at me, I’m really smart,
    0:36:34 I went overseas and in two years I learned X, Y, and Z, the system is going to push back
    0:36:37 and say, yeah, but we require this kind of degree from this kind of accredited thing.
    0:36:45 The NCAA is a system that started with people playing football in the backyard
    0:36:49 and now they’re taking private jets to stadiums with 100,000 people in them
    0:36:56 because the system kept churning in one direction. And you might not like the output,
    0:37:03 but you probably can’t change the system by yourself. What you might be able to do is,
    0:37:08 back to your second thing, you’re not sitting in traffic, you are traffic.
    0:37:15 When you participate in a system, you’re either going to make that system more successful and
    0:37:22 get a prize or you could try to fight that system, but you’re going to need a lot of kindling to do
    0:37:31 so because being in the system actually changes the system one way or the other. So the challenge
    0:37:37 that we have is Google didn’t show up and say, we’re going to have meetings with all the ad
    0:37:43 agencies in the world and change the way advertising works. Instead, they walked away completely
    0:37:51 from that world, multi-billion-dollar world of ad spend and instead built a tiny little
    0:37:58 engine for direct marketers where someone would buy the word Chanel and they’d buy it for a nickel.
    0:38:04 And then what would happen is a brand manager from Chanel would Google themselves, don’t do it too
    0:38:08 much, you can go blind, but they would Google themselves and they would see someone had bought
    0:38:15 their name for a nickel. So they’d pay 10 cents to take it back and the auction was on. So Google
    0:38:21 changed the system, but they didn’t change it with a frontal assault. They changed it by
    0:38:26 moving away from the system, finding people who weren’t part of the system and then the system
    0:38:32 chased them. Now, I wanted to mention also just a footnote to the kindling comment,
    0:38:38 which is some people listening. I said, oh man, well, it takes money to make money. And I would
    0:38:44 just say there are many ways to get that kindling. You can do joint ventures, you could do licensing,
    0:38:49 you could do non-diluted financing, which is a fancy way of saying, for instance,
    0:38:53 two startups that I’ve been chatting with have raised money from the government. They’re really
    0:38:58 good at doing that from DARPA and so on. And they get a nice big fat check. It’s delivered
    0:39:04 within six weeks and it does not affect, actually, enhances with lots of leverage their ability to
    0:39:12 raise money in the future. So there are very off-menu approaches to gathering your kindling.
    0:39:19 Yeah. And there’s also the choice you make. If you want to be in the movies, you could invest
    0:39:23 years of your life and pay an enormous number of dues and wait for Hollywood to pick you.
    0:39:31 Or you could sharpen your writing skills and make a two-minute YouTube video. And that
    0:39:37 YouTube video could then find you an audience. And Alana Glazer went on to be in a popular
    0:39:41 Comedy Centralist thing and then a movie star. But she didn’t go in the front door
    0:39:47 because she didn’t have enough kindling to go in the front door. Instead, she found her audience
    0:39:53 and then multiplied. Yeah. There’s an amazing story. People can check it out in a book called
    0:40:00 Rebel Without a Crew by Robert Rodriguez. And when he made, I think it was Mariachi way back
    0:40:07 in the day, he basically came up with his list of assets. And he’s like, “All right, we got a
    0:40:12 turtle. Turtle’s going to be in the movie. All right, my friend has a broken down school bus.
    0:40:17 School bus is going in the script.” And his cousin as a pit bull, great. We’ll figure out
    0:40:23 how to fit it in. And retrofitted the entire script around this. And people thought, wow,
    0:40:28 this must be like a legitimate well-budgeted film. It’s like, no, I just made a list of everything
    0:40:36 I had and then tried to insert them somehow. And he is very good at operating with, I would say,
    0:40:44 lateral approaches to creative output. Are there any other examples of taking the side door, so to
    0:40:52 speak, that stick out to you? Could be for entering a well-established sector. It could be for anything
    0:41:00 at all. In fact, that’s almost always what happens. And the mistake people make is if you find yourself
    0:41:05 saying, “I just need to get the word out. I’ve done all the hard part. Now I just need to get the word
    0:41:15 out.” You haven’t done the hard part. What you’ve done is waited for a miracle. And the people who
    0:41:23 have gone on to build, for example, useful businesses on top of a Kickstarter, stepwise said,
    0:41:27 “All right, I don’t have enough money to build a factory, get into Best Buy,
    0:41:35 do national advertising. But I do have enough money to get 1,000 people to pay me $200 for a
    0:41:41 coffee maker. And then I can do the next one. And then I can do the next one.” So this stepwise
    0:41:50 process, back to time, says the shortcuts are a losery, that the most direct way forward feels
    0:41:56 long in the moment. That I’m going to serve a group of people that so need what I’m doing,
    0:42:01 that they pay for it, and that are so delighted by it that they tell their friends. And then I’m
    0:42:06 going to repeat it and I’m going to repeat it. And if you look at articles on tech crunch and
    0:42:11 places like that, at companies that raised $50 or $100 million, who are going to change the whole
    0:42:19 world overnight, they’re all gone, right? Because you just can’t shortcut that on demand. What you
    0:42:25 can do is find that group of people and bring empathy to them and make a change up.
    0:42:33 Yeah, also with raising that amount of money. Some of them, a handful out of hundreds, will figure
    0:42:38 out a way to make it work. But in most cases, they’re like, “All right, we have an idea on the
    0:42:42 back of a napkin. I think this space shuttle will work. Let’s raise a bunch of money.” And then
    0:42:50 they put together soapbox, derby, space shuttle, and then incinerate themselves, break into a
    0:42:55 million different pieces. That’s the usual outcome. But, you know, I’ll cast no breaks.
    0:43:02 Sometimes it works, but not all the time. And I think that also, I suppose I have a reputation
    0:43:08 for shortcuts, but it’s not really… I don’t think of myself that way. I like to find elegant
    0:43:14 workarounds if they exist, but I’m doing a shit ton of experimentation, taking all the notes that
    0:43:21 I had in that notebook for anything so that I can hopefully make sure I’m not fooling myself
    0:43:24 and that I can replicate. And then if I can do that, I’m like, “All right, let me try that with
    0:43:27 two or three other people.” And they’re like, “Okay, well, let’s expand the scope a little bit.”
    0:43:31 Yeah. And so that’s where feedback loops and network effects come in. So people don’t really
    0:43:36 understand feedback loops. Feedback loops are not feedback. The feedback of, “I’m going to give
    0:43:41 you criticism.” That’s not what we’re talking about. Feedback loops, there are two kinds, positive
    0:43:46 and negative. So a negative feedback loop isn’t actually negative. It’s a thermostat.
    0:43:51 And what that means is if it gets really warm in the hotel room, the air conditioning kicks on,
    0:43:57 if it gets really cold, the heat kicks on. It’s negative in that it keeps it in a central place.
    0:44:04 And a positive feedback loop is like the microphone at a bad wedding that gets that screeching sound
    0:44:09 that goes around and around and around because it keeps getting amplified. So what we seek to do
    0:44:18 is build a project that the next time we do it, it’s going to work even better.
    0:44:27 We want to find an insatiable desire and start the path of filling it. So the insatiable desire
    0:44:31 could be something like status, but it could be something like, “I need caffeine every single
    0:44:37 morning.” That doesn’t fade over time. And as you become the reliable purveyor of caffeine,
    0:44:40 then risk averse people are just going to keep coming back again and again.
    0:44:48 So once you had a small head start with this podcast, you could keep that head start by creating
    0:44:55 ever better episodes of the podcast and no one could ever catch up. My blog in April is going
    0:45:02 to have post number 10,000 and no one’s ever going to catch up to me. But each time there’s another
    0:45:12 post, it becomes more of what people signed up for. And this doesn’t work quite as well when
    0:45:19 you’re talking about shoes because once someone’s closet is filled, the only way for them to buy
    0:45:26 new shoes is to get rid of the old ones. So a Christian Louboutin can’t scale to infinity
    0:45:30 because sooner or later, you run out of people who have the money or you run out of people who
    0:45:37 have the closet space. But what we’re looking for is to build these networks with feedback
    0:45:42 where it works better when I tell my friends. It works better when I have more of it. It works
    0:45:49 better when I do it again. And these insatiable desires are everywhere, but we ignore them and
    0:45:56 instead try to steal market share from somebody else. So I think this ties into one of the questions
    0:46:01 also that I was going to ask you about, which is how can I create the conditions for a network
    0:46:06 affected developer on my project? I suppose is ensuring that you have an answer to, hopefully
    0:46:13 an affluent answer to, can you say or would your clients say or customers, it works better when I
    0:46:18 tell my friends, right? That would seem to be one. There are some very pure examples of this,
    0:46:25 but not many. So a pure example is the fax machine or email. If it’s 40 years ago and you have friends
    0:46:30 who don’t have email, you need to get them to get email because you can’t send email to people
    0:46:38 if they don’t have an email address, right? That Krispy Kreme priced the donuts so that it was
    0:46:44 cheaper to buy a dozen than to buy four. And Krispy Kreme’s were scarce. So if you showed up at work
    0:46:49 with a dozen Krispy Kreme, you were a hero. And so that spread the idea. The more times people
    0:46:57 shared Krispy Kreme, the happier the share was and the word spread. So a lot of things that
    0:47:03 people build don’t have a network effect because there’s no incentive to tell the others. On the
    0:47:09 other hand, something like the Big Lebowski, I can’t talk to you about it unless you’ve seen it.
    0:47:14 So I got to get you to go see the Big Lebowski so we can talk about bringing the room together,
    0:47:22 right? And so it’s built into the idea of a certain kind of movie is we’re going to talk about it.
    0:47:27 Where is the network effect? Why does it work better? Not better for you, but better for the
    0:47:37 user if their friends have it too. So I’m wondering where you would draw the demarcating lines between
    0:47:43 below average, non-existent, moderate, excellent network effects in the sense that you give a few
    0:47:48 examples. I’m wondering, for instance, where something like Magic the Gathering would fall.
    0:47:53 It seems sort of intrinsic to the nature of games themselves that if you want to play a game
    0:47:58 and it’s not a solo venture, you need other people to play. Magic was very beautifully designed
    0:48:08 by blanking on his first name, something Garfield, I believe. But the collectible aspect to it also
    0:48:13 and the competitive aspect, all of these things combined to help make it a real incredible
    0:48:18 phenomenon. But it’s ultimately a game you need other people to play with you. But how would you
    0:48:25 think about that or any other examples that come to mind? If you’re really trying to dial this to
    0:48:33 11 to use a spinal, it works better when I tell my friends. There are some obvious examples that
    0:48:38 spring to mind, Facebook, something like that. But Krispy Kreme, another good example. It’s a
    0:48:43 better one you tell your friends. You end up being a hero. Great. So that is a meandering
    0:48:50 caffeine-infused speaking of caffeine. Lead into what I think is a question, but I’ll let you take
    0:48:58 that wherever you want. So for people at home, I’m cheating. I made these decks of cards that
    0:49:03 people can get and they have 200 questions on them. And what you do is you play them out
    0:49:09 so that you can challenge your peers to work with you, to start working your way through these
    0:49:16 questions. The book has more than 1,000 questions in it because the questions are how we open the
    0:49:22 door. So in the case of the network effect, what do people want? Well, at some level,
    0:49:28 there is a desire for mechanical efficiency that you want everyone to drive on the right
    0:49:33 side of the road if you live in North America. Because if some people drive on the other side
    0:49:38 of the road, someone’s going to die. And so there’s very much of a network effect about which side
    0:49:43 of the road are we going to drive on. There’s no disagreement whatsoever. Those spots are mostly
    0:49:49 taken. So now we have to say, what do people want? And I think people only want two things.
    0:49:56 Three, freedom from the feeling of fear. Let’s leave that aside. The other two are status
    0:50:00 and affiliation. Affiliation is who you’re hanging with, who you’re friends, who’s at the table with
    0:50:07 you, are you alone? Affiliation is, I got invited to a fancy wedding in the Hamptons a couple months
    0:50:13 ago. We pull up, you had to park your car, and then a golf cart would take you in. And there’s
    0:50:19 three of us waiting. It’s Helene, my wife, and I. And I’m wearing a suit. And there’s a guy
    0:50:27 who’s also waiting. He’s wearing a tuxedo. And I’m like, uh-oh. It’s going to be a long night.
    0:50:35 And I’m feeling really bad for myself. Didn’t I read the invitation? And then two more cars pull
    0:50:45 up, and three people in suits get out. So now you can hear this guy going, uh-oh. Because
    0:50:51 he was the only person in a tuxedo. Why should it matter? It’s still closed. Well, it does matter
    0:50:57 because where do you fit in? And status is who’s up and who’s down, who’s winning.
    0:51:05 So something like Magic the Gathering said to a kid who might see themselves as lonely,
    0:51:08 this is a really good way for you to hang out with other people without having the kind of
    0:51:13 conversations that make you uncomfortable. You can talk about dragons and orcs and stuff like that.
    0:51:20 But by making them collectible, they also built in status. Because if you have a thicker deck
    0:51:26 or a more valuable deck, you’re moving up with people that you’re competing with. And those two
    0:51:31 things kept dancing back and forth and back and forth and back and forth. So what we’re probably
    0:51:38 doing when we build a modern entity that’s going to use the network effect is we are offering people
    0:51:44 either affiliation. Everybody else is doing this. You are being left behind. Or status,
    0:51:49 which is you’re in the right room and other people aren’t. And if you leave this room,
    0:51:54 your status is going to go down. And so if you do the math of the TED conference,
    0:52:01 that’s all it is, status and affiliation. If you do the math of why people have the latest
    0:52:07 version of earbuds or whatever, status and affiliation over and over again. Are we giving people
    0:52:15 creating the conditions for them to get the status they seek or the affiliation they crave?
    0:52:22 And that brings up one of the scariest non sequiturs in the book, which is the creation of
    0:52:31 tension. If you want to make change happen, you have to create tension on purpose, not stress.
    0:52:37 Stress is bad. Stress is your trap. Stress is life is bad. Stress is you want to leave, but you
    0:52:45 can’t. Tension is what happens if I pull a rubber band back and then let go. I had to pull it backwards
    0:52:51 to get the rubber band to go across the room. So if I say Taylor Swift is playing in Amsterdam
    0:52:58 and there’s only 400 seats left, I created tension because everyone who wants to go knows that there
    0:53:03 are more than 400 other people who want to go. They better hurry and get their mom to give them
    0:53:08 the money or else they’re going to be left out. By creating tension, the concert promoter fills
    0:53:13 the venue. If there is no tension, no one’s going to come because they think I’ll just stroll in
    0:53:19 if I feel like it. So scarcity creates tension. Lack of affiliation creates tension. The desire
    0:53:24 for status creates tension. When you’re out trying to raise money and someone says to you,
    0:53:29 “Who else is invested?” Why would they ask that question? They’re asking about affiliation. They’re
    0:53:33 asking about status. If you say, “I have term sheets from three people and I only have room for one
    0:53:40 more person,” you create a tension. So we’re constantly doing it, but we rarely do it on purpose.
    0:53:46 Could you say a bit more about affiliation status? Sidebar Richard Garfield is the
    0:53:51 mathematician who designed Magic the Gathering. There’s a great episode on a podcast called
    0:53:57 “Think Like a Game Designer” that has Richard Garfield on it, which I suggest to people.
    0:54:00 Affiliation and status, could you perhaps give an example
    0:54:12 from book writing or from podcasting? Yeah, let’s talk about books. Why do authors blur
    0:54:21 each other’s books? You don’t see Tim Cook blurbing an Android phone. So why are authors so eager to
    0:54:27 put their names on each other? Why do they not only permit but celebrate the idea that they’re
    0:54:31 sold next to all the other books? Books don’t sell at the supermarket. They sell next to the
    0:54:38 competitors because you get status if you’re published. It used to be more by a famous publisher.
    0:54:43 You get status if you’re reviewed in a certain kind of review. You get status if you’re
    0:54:50 face out. You get affiliation if you’re seen in the same category as Stephen King or Elmore Leonard.
    0:54:54 It’s us high school over and over and over again. Okay, so that applies to the authors.
    0:54:59 What about writing books if people are trying to pull some of these levers
    0:55:03 for pressing the buttons of affiliation and status for readers?
    0:55:09 Yeah, what might that look like? There are a couple of elements here in the idea of fiction.
    0:55:16 If someone says, “Have you read Middlemarch or have you read Catcher in the Rye?” and you say,
    0:55:20 “Well, of course,” and you say something smart from it, your affiliation with that person
    0:55:26 was established. If you said, “What book? Catcher in the Who?” your status goes down. You don’t
    0:55:33 have a bridge to talk about it. So on the Upper West Side and those fancy apartments at the Dakota,
    0:55:38 that’s all people are doing is signaling to each other. I belong here because I just read
    0:55:43 what you read and I have an opinion about it. And the same thing is true a thousand miles away,
    0:55:49 but people are talking about NASCAR. It’s exactly the same thing. We don’t need the cars to go around
    0:55:54 in a circle. We need the conversations that we have about the cars going around in a circle.
    0:56:05 And how can you design a product or a company or a book to do that more effectively rather than
    0:56:10 less effectively? Exactly, because there are certain things that culturally, when they reach a
    0:56:15 critical mass, Game of Thrones as an example, there was a point where that was such appointment
    0:56:21 viewing and such a dominant conversation that people just felt completely out of the loop and
    0:56:29 like schmucks if they weren’t able to have at least that common touchstone for conversation.
    0:56:33 I’m not saying everyone, but a lot of people, it was that dominant. Harry Potter, another example. But
    0:56:41 those are already stratospheric successes. So in the early stages, what types of questions should
    0:56:49 people ask or what types of thought experiments should people do when trying to run their idea
    0:56:54 through or their product or whatever it might be through the filter of affiliation status
    0:56:59 and then the other one that we tabled? It’s back to the conditions. Create the conditions
    0:57:06 for the people in the smallest viable audience to have to talk about it. So Tina Brown took over
    0:57:12 the New Yorker. It was failing the New Yorker magazine. And what she did, it cost a fortune,
    0:57:22 is it used to come out on Mondays by messenger on Sundays, 4,000 people got the New Yorker delivered
    0:57:30 to their apartment. Now, if you’re one of the 4,000, your status goes up. But it only goes up if
    0:57:35 people know that you are one of the people on Tina’s list. So the first thing you’re going to do
    0:57:41 when you get to work on Monday, talk about the New Yorker. Yes, the New Yorker, because you talking
    0:57:47 about it is the only way for your status to go up. And now people who want to be in your circle
    0:57:52 feel left out. So they have to quickly go read it. And it becomes a topic of conversation.
    0:57:58 But only for 4,000 people. It was enough because of that center. Alcoholics Anonymous,
    0:58:03 which isn’t anonymous at all. The first rule of Alcoholics Anonymous is you talk about Alcoholics
    0:58:08 Anonymous only started with 12 people in a room. No one knows where the headquarters are. No one
    0:58:18 knows. Each person got one of the steps. Well, good point. And so once you have that tiny circle
    0:58:24 of people and you do everything you can to create the conditions to change the lives of those 12
    0:58:34 people, their desire for affiliation to pay back to those they’ve harmed as a form of establishing
    0:58:40 a new status in the world, begins the kernel of its spreading. But back to the axis of time,
    0:58:46 it took decades before Alcoholics Anonymous was Alcoholics Anonymous, right? You can’t make
    0:58:52 something like that work overnight. If you’re going to talk about a TV show, what’s the biggest
    0:58:58 strategic mistake Netflix made? And it’s hard to criticize Netflix strategy because of what they
    0:59:07 built, but it’s this. They forgot to stop the binge watching. When they started with the binge
    0:59:13 watching, the strategy was this. And this is one of the questions in the book. What are we willing
    0:59:20 to do that our competitors aren’t? And they knew that the TV networks and the cable networks
    0:59:27 would never be willing to show all the episodes of a series at once because they had to defend
    0:59:33 their whole model and the way they paid for the shows. So Netflix said, we’re just going to
    0:59:38 let you see the whole series in one day. The more you watch Netflix, the less you’re watching
    0:59:43 somebody else. We’re going to get you hooked on this because you’re not going to get involved in
    0:59:49 other shows because you’re going to be impatient. And it worked. They really struck a blow by doing
    0:59:58 that. But what it cost them is the water cooler because you’re afraid to talk about episode four
    1:00:03 of Secession because your friends are not caught up yet and you’re going to spoil it for them. So
    1:00:11 we don’t talk about it as much as if it was every week. And so shifting gears, and I talked to Ted
    1:00:16 about this and he didn’t have a good answer, is like about four years ago, they should have switched
    1:00:22 back to once a week. They use the binge watching to basically build a critical mass of market share
    1:00:29 and then dial it back to more appointment view. Exactly. Because then, the only people aren’t
    1:00:33 paying for Netflix are going to keep feeling worse and worse because everyone’s going to be
    1:00:39 constantly talking about the new show on Tuesday. They’re not in. So that’s going to be the incentive
    1:00:42 for them to become one of the last people who isn’t paying for Netflix.
    1:00:48 And let me pick up a few other questions. We can, of course, move in some methodical way,
    1:00:54 but I kind of like the scattershot improv jazz. So there are two, and I’m selfishly asking because
    1:01:00 I want to hear your thoughts on this since I am experimenting, as you know, with the currently
    1:01:07 codenamed notebook and will be releasing serially initially. So I want to set the conditions such
    1:01:14 that good things can come as domino effect later. So one of the questions I’ll give you
    1:01:20 to, you can pick or we can do both. So one is, how will early successes of my project make later
    1:01:26 successes more likely? And then, how big is my circle of us and circle of now? What can I do to
    1:01:32 expand them? The second one, we’re going to treat a little differently, but the first one,
    1:01:42 I think is really important. The challenge of nonfiction writing in this world today is TLDR.
    1:01:47 And for people who never read the dictionary because they were too busy, it stands for Too Long
    1:01:52 Didn’t Read, which means I don’t have time to watch all of Dune. Just tell me in three sentences
    1:01:58 what it’s about. People don’t usually say that about a movie like Dune, but they say a lot
    1:02:05 about the books that people like you and I write. And James did a great job with atomic habits,
    1:02:13 but I will be delighted to wager that many people didn’t read the whole thing because they bought
    1:02:17 it so they could understand what it was about. And then once they understood what it was about,
    1:02:21 their problem went away. Same thing is true with the four hour work week, same thing is true with
    1:02:25 permission marketing. If you read the first three chapters of permission marketing, you know what
    1:02:31 it’s about. And now you say, I don’t need to go into more detail. I’ve solved my problem here.
    1:02:38 So the challenge you face with the notebook is if someone says Tim’s got a new book, you just
    1:02:46 create a tension because they don’t know what it’s about. And then if someone says it’s about this
    1:02:50 and they solve the tension problem, their problem goes away and they’re going to move on.
    1:02:58 Early successes don’t lead to later successes. This is not what happens with the Bible because
    1:03:08 the Bible is part of a cultural thing that people keep coming back to over and over again. And status
    1:03:15 is accorded to people who spend more time reading it. And so the key to making a nonfiction book
    1:03:24 work is to put it at the center of a community. And so a weird, seemingly unrelated story. Back
    1:03:30 when I was starting out and I was really struggling, there were many days when no money was coming in
    1:03:35 whatsoever. And someone said to me, why don’t you do something useful? Like, I don’t know,
    1:03:41 invent the seedless cherry. And I took this personally. So the next morning I called the
    1:03:46 US Department of Agriculture. And I asked, this was before the internet. And I asked for the cherry
    1:03:50 department. And they had a cherry department. And this guy answers the phone, he says, cherries.
    1:03:56 And I say, I’m on a quest. I want to figure out how to make a seedless cherry. And he said, well,
    1:04:01 a seedless cherry is actually quite easy. But you wouldn’t want to do it because it would still have
    1:04:07 a pit. And the thing is the seeds inside the pit. And if you don’t have a pit, you can’t have a cherry.
    1:04:13 Because the way droops, that’s the kind of fruit like peaches, grow is they have to have a pit,
    1:04:20 and it all grows around the pit. So no pit, no cherry. That’s the way it goes. And so the book
    1:04:25 is the pit. And in the case of permission marketing, I wrote a book, but it turned into a
    1:04:33 $100 billion year industry that MailChimp and HubSpot and all the others, they were built around
    1:04:39 the idea in that book. So your status at work would go up if you knew more of the detail.
    1:04:46 Your connection would go up if you could stay current with it. But if that hadn’t happened,
    1:04:52 then my career wouldn’t have happened either. Because all I did was show up with a pit,
    1:04:59 and then the fruit showed up around it. So what you have done is somewhat with intent
    1:05:04 and somewhat without, is there is now a vibrant community of more than a million people
    1:05:09 who talk about what you do, who listen to your interactions, and you are the pit,
    1:05:15 but they’re the fruit. And they need you to keep narrating these conversations.
    1:05:19 If you’re going to make it a book work, you’re going to have to figure out how to make it
    1:05:25 drip in a way that keeps making each installment worth more because you’ve read the previous one.
    1:05:32 Yeah, that’s part of what I’m excited about and a little nervous about, but I really think it’ll
    1:05:38 work is to workshop the book effectively, right? Because there are already 500+ pages and a lot
    1:05:47 of them are polished. But by creating a community of beta testers and early readers on something
    1:05:55 like Mighty Networks for Circle or one of these platforms, and it’s a challenge worth attempting.
    1:06:00 I really think so. I’ve also just done it the other way so many not as many times as you have,
    1:06:02 but done it five times. But more successfully than me.
    1:06:08 But I mean, let’s think about volunteer firemen for a minute.
    1:06:10 Yeah, I’m just going to use that interjection from now on. I love it.
    1:06:18 Thankfully, except for tragedies like in California, there are far fewer house fires
    1:06:24 than ever before because of building codes and other things. And yet, volunteer firefighters
    1:06:29 continue to show up. They show up at the fire station and they connect with each other around
    1:06:34 firefighting. But firefighting isn’t the point. The point is the volunteer part,
    1:06:41 the connection part, the affiliation part. And so what Gene has done with Mighty Networks is very cool,
    1:06:49 but at its heart, it’s, what do I get from the other members of the network? What do I get from
    1:06:55 the pit? Yeah, 100%. And so that’s where your opportunity is. Yeah, it doesn’t work for me
    1:07:00 otherwise. Also, I don’t want to be, you know, time to make the donuts for people who are old
    1:07:06 enough to get that reference for the Dunkin’ Donuts commercials from the ’80s. Let’s come back.
    1:07:10 We don’t need to spend time in this, but I’m curious, how big is my circle of us and circle
    1:07:16 of now? What can I do to expand them? This was the most heartfelt part of the book for me,
    1:07:20 and it’s the one that people ask me about the least. So I’m thrilled that you brought it up.
    1:07:28 The circle of now goes back to time. A toddler has a circle of now that lasts seven seconds.
    1:07:33 If they don’t get what they want within seven seconds, they have a tantrum.
    1:07:40 Somebody at the peak of their maturity might have a circle of now that lasts a decade.
    1:07:49 I am going to go through medical school and pay out money and have no fun for six or eight years,
    1:07:55 because after that, I will be able to achieve my dreams. That’s a very big circle of now.
    1:08:02 So when you pick your partners, when you pick your investors, when you pick your customers,
    1:08:07 it would really help if you would pick people whose circle of now is sort of similar to your
    1:08:13 circle of now. And one of the giant crises that we’re all going to live with is what’s happening
    1:08:18 to the climate, because a whole bunch of people have a circle of now that’s fairly short that says,
    1:08:23 “Yeah, but my house is cold, so I’m going to chop down the furniture to put it in the fireplace to
    1:08:27 warm things up.” And other people have a circle of now that’s much longer that says, “I’m here for
    1:08:33 the seventh generation. What do I sacrifice today to help them later?” That’s a circle of now.
    1:08:39 The circle of us is a toddler who cares about themselves and maybe their parents.
    1:08:46 It’s a very small circle. Whereas someone like my friend, Jim, who runs the Fuller Center,
    1:08:52 Nourishel, who’s been providing housing and sustenance for strangers for decades,
    1:09:00 his circle of us is tens of thousands of people. It’s a much bigger circle. So when we think about
    1:09:07 our strategy, we’ve got to keep coming back to, “Well, how big is my circle?” Because even Ayn Rand
    1:09:13 cared about more than one person, that the circle of us generally is more than just me,
    1:09:19 and the circle of now is generally more than just the next 30 seconds. The exception is if
    1:09:24 you’re drowning. If you’re drowning, the circle is you and the circle is now. That’s all there is.
    1:09:32 But we’re not drowning. So how do we grow into big enough circles and how do we create the conditions
    1:09:36 for the people around us to have similar circles? Because if we’re measuring the right things,
    1:09:41 they’re going to measure the right things, and we’re going to get what we seek to get.
    1:09:48 You, in addition to affiliation and status, there was one other need. I want to say something
    1:09:53 like extinguishing fear, something like that. It’s the freedom from the feeling of fear.
    1:09:57 There we go. All right. Where does that fit in? It can short-circuit everything.
    1:10:03 If you are in a movie and the fire breaks out, you’re not really going to focus on affiliation
    1:10:09 or status. You’re just going to focus on survival. Most of us are lucky enough that we’re not in
    1:10:17 burning buildings, but it’s very easy to be persuaded by marketers or manipulators, and it’s
    1:10:23 very easy to get into a doom loop where you imagine that you are in a burning building,
    1:10:31 and so all these things happen. So when we think about how do we get somebody in a hospital to
    1:10:38 allow us to do an operation on them or make an incision, well, that’s because they believe that
    1:10:43 the fear will go away if they can get through this. That’s not about affiliation. It’s not about
    1:10:51 status. So I put it to the side because most of us should not be in the business of dramatically
    1:10:57 inflicting fear on other people. Yeah, ideally. And so that’s why I keep coming back to the other two,
    1:11:06 because in civilization, it’s mostly status and affiliation. What are other portions of the book
    1:11:14 could be questions, themes that you think are important for entrepreneurs or would-be entrepreneurs
    1:11:21 to understand that might get glossed over? So I can think of things from all of my books where
    1:11:26 I’m like, “Man, there’s this one piece. Maybe I didn’t emphasize it enough. People tend to skip
    1:11:31 over it,” and that is a very important piece of the whole puzzle. I’m wondering if there’s anything
    1:11:37 that comes to mind for this strategy. We’ll talk to the freelancers in the room first.
    1:11:40 I’m a freelancer. I have no employees. You’re looking at my whole team.
    1:11:45 I’ve been an entrepreneur. It’s a different job. Entrepreneurs build something bigger than themselves
    1:11:50 to get paid when they sleep. They use outside resources to build something they could sell,
    1:12:00 whereas freelancers do a craft. And the only way to move up as a freelancer is to get better clients.
    1:12:06 You can’t work more hours, and hiring junior versions of you is not sustainable, because if
    1:12:09 someone, a junior version of you is better than you, they’re not going to take the gig. And if
    1:12:16 they’re worse than you, your clients are going to be unhappy. So getting better clients is the
    1:12:23 defining step, the goal, if you’re going to be a successful freelancer, and you don’t get better
    1:12:30 clients by doing a good job for bad clients. You get better clients by becoming the kind of
    1:12:37 freelancer good clients want to hire, which leads to the two big insights that people skip over,
    1:12:44 which is when you pick your customers, you pick your future. And when you pick your competitors,
    1:12:48 you pick your future. So let’s take them one at a time. When you pick your customers,
    1:12:55 if you pick people who are cheap, frazzled, in a hurry, don’t read the instructions and are
    1:12:59 disloyal, well, now you know how you are going to spend your days.
    1:13:03 I can’t believe you guys wrote me into the bus like that, Seth. Yeah, it’s going to be a rough
    1:13:06 ride if that’s what you’re signing up for. But that’s what most people do, because those are the
    1:13:13 easiest customers to pick. And if instead you pick customers that might be harder to acquire,
    1:13:19 but demand better quality and insist on paying for it, who are eager to talk about what you do
    1:13:24 and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, your future is going to change. So when you pick your customers,
    1:13:30 you pick your future. And the second one, which goes with it, when you pick your competitors,
    1:13:37 if your competitors are ruthless, cutthroat, immoral, and constantly racing to the bottom,
    1:13:44 you’re going to be pressured to do the same. And so the industry you walk into, and I’ve been in
    1:13:52 many industries, and the reason I’ve stuck with the book business is that my competitors
    1:13:56 are my friends. I have no secrets from them, and I delight in spending time with them.
    1:14:02 That’s not true, for example, in the toy business, the people in the toy business who compete with
    1:14:08 each other, there’s secrets and there’s lawsuits and everything else. So we should make these
    1:14:14 decisions on purpose. And the same thing is true with who you’re going to get your funding from,
    1:14:18 because if you show up in Silicon Valley, you’ve decided what kind of company you’re building.
    1:14:23 And if you raise money from dentists in Iowa, you could build a different kind of company.
    1:14:31 Yeah, and if you bootstrap yet another kind of company, all the other. Let me just make this
    1:14:39 into a private consulting session. Gotta strike while the iron is hot here. So with communities,
    1:14:46 because you have worked with and helped cultivate many different communities for different purposes,
    1:14:53 right? You’ve got Alt-MBA, you had a mass collaboration for the Carbon Almanac,
    1:15:00 and you have experience with this, whereas I really do not, at least in a community management
    1:15:06 perspective. And one thing that’s been rattling around my head, and I haven’t landed anywhere
    1:15:12 where I feel high degree of conviction is in building a community for, say, this serial release
    1:15:16 of the notebook, the principal goal of which is to make the book as good as possible,
    1:15:21 but also to get people excited and to see if things work. And that is part of making the book
    1:15:27 as good as possible. We have already tested pretty much everything, but it has to work for
    1:15:31 a certain critical mass. Doesn’t need to be everybody, but a certain critical mass of people.
    1:15:40 And I have wondered whether the community should be limited and free or limited and paid, even
    1:15:48 if it’s a nominal fee. I have a lot of fear associated with the paid, because sometimes
    1:15:53 people, if they pay $5 a month, they expect me to be their 24/7 life coach on demand.
    1:16:00 And that is not something I want to sign up for. And we could and will boot people who end up just
    1:16:06 being too high maintenance. But how might you think about this? So I’ve leaned towards free,
    1:16:10 because I mean, the money wouldn’t really matter. But for instance, when I’ve done
    1:16:16 in real life gatherings, I don’t care about the money that comes in through ticket sales.
    1:16:22 I do care about having an accurate headcount so we can plan for the event. And if people have to
    1:16:26 even just put in their credit card for a $1 payment, they are more likely to show up.
    1:16:29 So these are some of the thoughts rattling around. How would you chew on that stuff?
    1:16:37 The money always matters, because money is nothing but a story. It is not a pile of green
    1:16:45 things or Bitcoin. It is a story. So years ago, I did an event in New York for non-profit leaders.
    1:16:48 I wanted to make sure they showed up, but I didn’t want their money. And so I said to them,
    1:16:56 you’ve got to bring a check for $100 made out to a charity IPIC. And at the end of the event,
    1:17:01 if you don’t think it’s worth it, you can take the check back. But I knew that everyone would
    1:17:07 have skin in the game. And I was heartbroken that some people took the money back because their
    1:17:12 mindset of donation was, I’m already working in a non-profit. I don’t give money to anybody else,
    1:17:18 which was heartbreaking. But it helped me see how deep the money is a story thing.
    1:17:23 So you mentioned three communities that I’ve been lucky enough to be part of. And in each case,
    1:17:28 the money was different. So at the Carbon Almanac, it was my full-time job for a year and a half.
    1:17:36 I was a volunteer, and so were the other 1,900 people. No one got paid, no one paid. And I don’t
    1:17:43 think community management is as important as community leadership. Community leadership
    1:17:51 is about creating, again, creating the conditions for the community to lead itself. So my job was,
    1:17:57 what are things like around here? How do we talk to each other? Who gets to stay and who has to
    1:18:04 leave? But once I could do that, then the amount of actual management I had to do was fairly
    1:18:13 minimal because the right people were in the room. The Alt-MBA, we wanted to establish that it was
    1:18:21 a bargain compared to $200,000 at Stanford and that it wasn’t some simple online course. You had
    1:18:28 to show up every single day. And so we charged $3,000 to $5,000, and thousands of people went
    1:18:35 through it. And the fact that people paid a lot was very important because they got more than that.
    1:18:42 And the minute that wasn’t going to be true, I should stop doing it because the whole premise was,
    1:18:46 your time is worth even more than the tuition. We’re never going to cut a corner because we
    1:18:54 have unlimited money to spend on this facility. And the third one is called Purple Space, which
    1:19:02 runs now, costs $20 a week. And the reason people pay to be in it, that I need them to pay to be in
    1:19:09 it, is so that they’ll show up. Because like many asynchronous online communities, it’s easy to join,
    1:19:16 but then it fades on your priority list. So what I would push back on is,
    1:19:22 you said that the purpose of the community is to make sure the book works and to make sure the
    1:19:27 book is good. I don’t think that’s the purpose of the community. Now, it’s your community,
    1:19:33 so you get to decide. Yeah, I know, push back. I think the purpose of the community is to build a
    1:19:41 place where using some of these core ideas, the people who engage with each other, supercharge
    1:19:48 their journey to where they want to go. If that’s what it’s for, then a side effect is the book’s
    1:19:55 going to be good. That will be my indicator for the book working. If people have successes, help
    1:20:04 one another, and I see that as a natural outgrowth of their engaging with the material, if those are
    1:20:09 the tendrils that grow out of the soil, then it will have worked. Nothing less than that.
    1:20:13 But that’s why you charge for it. You charge for it, not because please come here and help Tim make
    1:20:19 his book then. But I work so hard on it, Seth. You’re charging for it because you’re saying,
    1:20:24 if you’re going over there, over there, that’s where I’m taking people. If you’re going over there,
    1:20:30 I think this is worth a lot of your time and $100 out of your wallet. At any time,
    1:20:35 you don’t think it’s worth $100. You just hit this button and you’ll get the $100 back. That
    1:20:41 means I have to work overtime to make sure that people would rather stay in it than click that
    1:20:44 button and get their money back. Cool. All right. Lots to chew on.
    1:20:52 Could you say more about community leadership? Management and leadership. Ray Kroc and Henry
    1:20:58 Ford were pioneers of management. Frederick Taylor had a stopwatch, and we got the phrase
    1:21:05 “Zoom in resources” from the idea of treating people like a machine. If you’ve ever heard the
    1:21:10 phrase “being jerked around” or “calling someone a jerk,” it comes from the Henry Ford Model T
    1:21:15 plant because you would watch the workers and they would be dancing around like marionettes
    1:21:18 because there was someone like a stopwatch on every single motion.
    1:21:26 This is management. Management is super effective at a fast food restaurant or at any
    1:21:32 process that you need people to act like a machine. If you don’t do it, no one’s going to show up
    1:21:39 for their shift, your productivity may go down. Leadership says, “I don’t know the right way,
    1:21:45 but I might be able to build a community of people in a place where they find the right way.”
    1:21:52 I can’t tell people what to do at every step because I don’t know, but if I get the right
    1:21:57 people in the room, here’s an example I love from the leadership category. I’m talking about
    1:22:04 Google a lot today. I’m not sure why. Early on, Google was going to go out of business,
    1:22:08 and it wasn’t from lack of revenue. It was because the internet was too big.
    1:22:16 The computers they were using to index the web weren’t fast enough to keep up. Doing a
    1:22:22 search on Google went from taking a tenth of a second to seconds, and people just weren’t
    1:22:31 sticking around. Two engineers worked overtime and figured out how to hack Dell hard drive controllers
    1:22:38 so that they put the data that was most needed near the outside of the spinning disk
    1:22:42 so that the hard drive could get there faster. That’s awesome.
    1:22:49 This is the greatest hack of all time. I promise you that Sergey and Larry did not think to tell
    1:22:56 them to do this. Leadership says, “Let’s get the right engineers in the room, give them the right
    1:23:01 resources and the right problems to go solve things with an incentive of status and affiliation for
    1:23:09 doing so.” Now, with AI, doing most of the jobs where we can write down specifically what we need
    1:23:16 done, management is going to get less and less important, and leadership becomes more and more
    1:23:22 important, which is why strategy matters so much, because you want to tell people the strategy and
    1:23:30 let them find tactics. The fancy hotel that says to its front-line workers, the people who are
    1:23:36 changing the sheets and stuff, here’s $250 per customer. You can spend it any way you want.
    1:23:41 If a customer is unhappy, give them free dinner, give them whatever you want. $250,
    1:23:48 we’re never going to question you doing it. That lets your front-line have tactical control,
    1:23:52 but you’re not changing the strategy, which is this is a luxury hotel.
    1:23:59 There’s a book I’ll recommend to folks. It’s very fast read. It’s by Will Guidara.
    1:24:06 “Unreasonable Hospitality,” and it’s a great example of how far you can push that.
    1:24:14 Will lives this. He’s a great guy, and so is his wife, Christina. He understands that you don’t
    1:24:23 manipulate people with hospitality, which is easy to try to do, but ultimately gets you in trouble.
    1:24:30 Instead, you serve them with hospitality, and you can see it break down at places
    1:24:36 like Madison Square Garden, when he has a temper tantrum and starts scanning the faces of people
    1:24:41 walking in and kicks lawyers and their kids out of the venue. That’s not hospitality.
    1:24:46 Who’s doing that? The guy who owned Madison Square Garden. I can’t remember his name.
    1:24:52 There were people who were challenging him in the outside world, and he just started acting like
    1:24:58 the emperor. The point is, hospitality is a point of view, and it’s a point of view
    1:25:06 that sits right next to leadership. It doesn’t mean you’re giving away free candy all day long.
    1:25:12 What it means is we agree on where we are going, and then I trust you to help us get there.
    1:25:18 Yeah, as far as storytelling also, or setting conditions such that your customers will tell
    1:25:24 stories, it’s a fun book to listen to. It was recommended to be my one of the top game designers
    1:25:30 in the world who has nothing to do at face value with hospitality. He was like, “I’m halfway through
    1:25:37 this. You have to listen to it.” There are still stories that have stuck in my mind from that book,
    1:25:44 and for those who don’t know, just very briefly, it tells the story primarily of 11 Madison Park
    1:25:51 going from scrappy startup to one of the top, if not the top ranked restaurant in the world,
    1:25:56 and is a very fun listener read. Can we tell the hot dog story?
    1:26:04 Go for it. So let’s be clear. Anyone who goes to a clothing store is already wearing clothes.
    1:26:11 Speak for yourself. I didn’t say they were nice clothes. Anyone who goes to 11 Madison Park for
    1:26:19 dinner in the old days to spend $400 already has food in their house. You’re feeding people who
    1:26:24 already had lunch, so you’re not selling the food. Will was the front-of-house person,
    1:26:32 matriodian stuff, and he trained the staff relentlessly. One of the staff is serving a couple
    1:26:40 that’s celebrating their 40th or 50th wedding anniversary, and there’s 14 courses. During
    1:26:45 the third course, the waiter overhears the wife saying to the husband, “Do you remember our first
    1:26:51 date? Our first date in New York was right in that park, and you bought me a hot dog because
    1:26:58 that’s all we had was 25 cents. You bought me a hot dog from a hot dog cart right there in Madison
    1:27:08 Square Park.” So the waiter goes back to the kitchen, and somehow they get a New York City hot dog
    1:27:15 with the roll and substitute it out for the sixth course. And so instead of bringing them
    1:27:24 clams, casino, whatever it is on their plates wrapped in the greasy paper is a New York City hot
    1:27:29 dog. That’s hospitality. It makes me cry every time I hear that story.
    1:27:33 Oh, yeah. There are a lot of really good stories in that one. All right, Seth. So
    1:27:38 for somebody who’s thinking to themselves, “All right, I want to sit down.”
    1:27:46 And I’d like to shake the snow globe of my mind with some questions, some more questions that I
    1:27:52 can use to land on approaches or solutions strategy, as it were. Do you have any other
    1:27:58 favorite questions or perhaps counterintuitive questions, any questions that you might toss
    1:28:05 out there as good fuel for the fire? I have one question to get you started and then two
    1:28:08 interesting challenges. The question to get you started is, if you were forced to
    1:28:16 increase your prices by 10x, what would you do? And this really unsettles people because they
    1:28:20 know how to think about if they were forced to have their prices because their competitors are
    1:28:26 racing to the bottom. But if your competitors weren’t changing and you had to charge 10x,
    1:28:31 what would you do different? Well, for example, this is where Concierge Medicine came from.
    1:28:35 Because all these other doctors are saying, “How can I take more insurance?” And one doctor
    1:28:39 shows up and says, “I’m going to charge 10 times more and this is why people are going to get in
    1:28:45 line to pay for it.” But it doesn’t have to be luxury goods for the ultra-wealthy. There are
    1:28:50 lots of things where you could imagine charging 10 times more. This is where the bottled water
    1:28:56 industry in the United States came from, charging infinite times more. So that’s one question I
    1:29:02 like to ask. Another one is, if you were sure you were going to fail, what would you do anyway?
    1:29:07 And I think that tells me a lot about who you are and what you stand for.
    1:29:14 So two ideas then to follow that up with. The first one comes from a social scientist
    1:29:19 in the 1920s and Adam Grant wrote about this in a recent book, which is the idea of scaffolding.
    1:29:30 Scaffolding is what effective teachers do. That pedagogy teaches us that the way we learn almost
    1:29:36 everything that matters, walking, talking, is on our own. We’re autodindex. We teach ourselves
    1:29:44 to failure. But when things get more complicated, like fractions, people get stuck. Scaffolding is
    1:29:50 creating the condition so on those stuck moments, you work your way through it and then you get
    1:29:57 back on track. And scaffolding, or the lack of it, explains in large measure why people in some
    1:30:04 communities can’t figure out how to get out of their rut and move up different status categories.
    1:30:11 Because when they hit a speed bump at nine or 10 or 12 years old, there isn’t a learned, wise,
    1:30:18 focused adult maybe who could help them through that moment. The scaffolding are the ladders we
    1:30:24 build to help people get through the tough stuff. Now, are those traits like grit, resilience,
    1:30:31 whatever it might be? Are they lenses of looking at things like failure as feedback? Are they
    1:30:37 other tools? What is the scaffolding? All of it. So if you’ve ever tried to use Fusion 360 from
    1:30:44 Autodesk, I have not. The scaffolding is almost non-existent. I’ve been building and using software
    1:30:49 for 50 years. I can’t figure out how to use this software. And when I get stuck, there’s nothing
    1:30:58 to hold on to. Whereas, part of the magic when the team built the first Mac is every app had the
    1:31:03 same structure. So there was scaffolding, building, you knew where to go to get to the next thing.
    1:31:13 If you’re trying to build an entity of any scale, where is the scaffolding for when a customer gets
    1:31:19 frustrated? Where is the scaffolding for when someone’s going to veer off and use a competitor?
    1:31:23 Where’s the scaffolding if they don’t know what to tell their boss or their friends? If you give
    1:31:30 them handholds right where the handholds belong, thinking about a rock climbing wall, people are
    1:31:35 going to grab the handhold. So you can’t take them through the whole thing, but you can make sure
    1:31:44 there are handholds in the right place. So where is the scaffolding? The idea that Yahoo had was
    1:31:49 to put buttons everywhere, hundreds and hundreds of buttons. And the idea Google had was to give
    1:31:55 you a fill in the blank that when chat GPT came out, the scaffolding was type something. And that
    1:32:00 puts a lot of pressure on what it writes back. Because if you had typed something that says,
    1:32:05 “I don’t know,” you’re not going to use it three times. You’re going to stop. So you’re making
    1:32:10 these bets on what’s it going to be like, what’s going to happen after that. And now I want to
    1:32:16 talk about probability and games and decisions. So if I have a standard deck of cards–
    1:32:18 What is your deck of cards called, by the way?
    1:32:27 It’s called the strategy deck. The only place you can get it is at sest.log/tis and it’s really
    1:32:33 cool. If I have a deck of 52 cards and I say, “Tim, pick a card,” what are the odds you’re going
    1:32:42 to get an ace? 452, right? 1 out of 13, right? There we go. Yeah. Because the deck is stacked,
    1:32:51 there are 48 non-aces and four aces. Every time we engage in any probabilistic thing,
    1:32:58 the deck is stacked. And it is on us to know before we make a bet how many aces are in the deck.
    1:33:09 So if you’re applying to get into a famous college in Boston and you’re fully qualified by every one
    1:33:15 of the published measures, you have a 1 in 15 chance of getting it. Because after they take
    1:33:23 all the qualified people, now it’s pretty random 1 in 15. That’s how the deck is stacked. If you are
    1:33:31 super, super good at football and you’re applying to a small college and they
    1:33:35 have football scholarships, you have a way better chance than 1 in 15 of getting in,
    1:33:42 because that deck is stacked differently. So what we seek to do when we’re making a bet
    1:33:48 is show up in a place where the odds that the card we need is going to be in the deck.
    1:33:55 That’s what probability is. Probability means that when you see poll results, it says
    1:34:01 there’s a 60% chance this person is going to win the election. That doesn’t mean it’s a tug of war
    1:34:06 between 6 and 4, and the 6 side is going to win every time. It doesn’t mean that at all. It just
    1:34:11 means there are 6 aces and 4 non-aces. And there’s going to be a random selection and you’re going to
    1:34:17 get the card you get. So what we need to do when we’re thinking about our strategy is not focus
    1:34:23 on how hard we’re working or how much we want it to work out. We need to focus on what’s the deck
    1:34:32 like. And so your journey into archery is partly based on the fact that you have thought through
    1:34:39 who else is going to show up at this tournament. Because if there were a million people who had
    1:34:44 devoted their lives to archery, I think you would understand your chances of winning a
    1:34:49 medal were very small. I would pick something else, probably. Just given the time constraints and
    1:34:57 the fact that I’m coming in with, I guess, 5 to 6 months of serious training and some of these folks
    1:35:04 have been shooting seriously since they were 8 years old. So I’ve got to pick the right category.
    1:35:09 Got to pick the right deck. And so then the thing that goes with that is from our friend,
    1:35:13 Annie Duke, which is what’s the difference between a good decision and a good outcome?
    1:35:18 And the question that I would ask entrepreneurs who think they’re innovating and leading is,
    1:35:26 are you okay making good decisions that don’t lead to good outcomes? And most people,
    1:35:31 if they’re telling the truth, the answer is no. And in my case, the answer is yes. I have
    1:35:36 disciplined myself. That’s one of the things I’m really proud that I’m good at. What are we talking
    1:35:41 about here? So in her book, she talks about the Seattle Seahawks. It’s the Super Bowl. It’s fourth
    1:35:48 down. They’re on the two or three yard line. If they score, they win. If they don’t score, they lose.
    1:35:56 Pete Carroll calls a pass play. Calling a pass play is a really good decision. Because if you
    1:36:04 do the math, if you analyze all the situations, a pass is more likely to score than a run. He calls
    1:36:11 a pass. It’s incomplete. They lose. Everyone says, Pete made a terrible decision. He should be fired.
    1:36:18 No, he made a good decision, but he didn’t get an ace. He just got one of the other cards.
    1:36:23 That’s okay. You should celebrate that because you still made a good decision. If you buy a lottery
    1:36:31 ticket and you win, you made a bad decision. You should never buy a lottery ticket. Winning is just
    1:36:37 a weird anomaly, but the deck is stacked against you. Don’t do that. Don’t play games. You can’t
    1:36:46 reliably win. So when I’m talking to people about decision making, I say, “Tell me the last time
    1:36:52 you made a really good decision.” And they do, and it always has a good outcome because they’re
    1:36:56 measuring the wrong thing. And corporations are terrible at this. Corporations promote people
    1:37:01 who make bad decisions and have lucky outcomes. And they don’t promote people who make great
    1:37:07 decisions but didn’t get lucky. Wall Street’s probably the greatest breeding ground for that
    1:37:12 particular selection process. But that aside, that Petri dish is a fascinating environment,
    1:37:17 for sure. So how do you cultivate that then? How would you suggest cultivating that? I mean,
    1:37:26 I do think learning to play a game, maybe doing some very lightweight investing is another way
    1:37:32 to do this, where certainly in the early stage game, anyone who’s going to last and be successful
    1:37:38 in the long term playing that game is going to have to get very good at accepting losses where
    1:37:42 they made a lot of good decisions because there’s so much outside of your control as well.
    1:37:47 How do you think about cultivating that? Good decisions over good outcomes.
    1:37:54 One of the things we’re trying to do is avoid false proxies. And false proxies are easy to
    1:38:02 measure but ultimately not useful. So how fast someone types is a false proxy for whether
    1:38:09 they’re going to be a good programmer. It’s easier to measure typing speed than programming speed,
    1:38:14 but we measure the easy thing. We measure, does that person look like me or look like I think
    1:38:20 someone should look? I was talking to someone, he said, the last nine people this company hired
    1:38:30 had rode varsity crew at one of three colleges. This is not a useful proxy. This is just a lazy
    1:38:38 shortcut. And then we turn it around when we think about decision making and we say,
    1:38:47 are we going to insulate our decision makers from useless information? So if you’re a stock
    1:38:53 trader and we work at an organization where we’ve promised our investors, we’re making
    1:38:59 five-year plans that were here for the long run and you have a big Bloomberg ticker on the wall,
    1:39:07 you have really confused things because now you’re measuring the wrong thing in the wrong way.
    1:39:13 And so the discipline, as you pointed out in investing and making smaller investments,
    1:39:17 you don’t even have to spend money. You just have to write down your predictions.
    1:39:24 And you have to be able to, when you’re working with other people, articulate why did you make
    1:39:30 that decision? It’s not okay to say, oh, I just feel like it. That’s a hunch. That’s not how we
    1:39:37 actually need to make our decisions. Show your cards, make your argument, make your assertions,
    1:39:41 then your peers can talk to you about whether that’s a good decision or not.
    1:39:46 If it’s a good decision, you get rewarded regardless of the outcome because the outcome
    1:39:50 is out of your control. Did you get an eight or did you get an ace?
    1:40:00 How have you corrected course or spotted false proxies in your own life or many projects,
    1:40:08 industries, et cetera? Here’s a really useful one. I was arrogant and thought I was good at
    1:40:17 hiring people because I was looking for signals that were ultimately false proxies. And I could
    1:40:23 see those signals faster than most people, certain questions or certain attitudes and interviews
    1:40:30 and things like that. But as I thought about it afterwards, what I really wanted from people who
    1:40:36 I was hiring to work with to do a job was for them to do the job, not to be good at interviewing.
    1:40:41 And so I made the decision to only work with people I’ve worked with before.
    1:40:46 That doesn’t mean only people I’ve met before. It means if I’m going to hire you,
    1:40:51 I’m going to give you a project and pay you to do it. And that’s your interview.
    1:40:58 And we never even need to meet in person. But if I’ve seen you work on a project like I want
    1:41:05 you to work on a project, there’s no more false proxy, right? And as a result,
    1:41:10 I’ve been able to work with a much more diverse group of people geographically,
    1:41:15 background wise skillset. Because now it doesn’t matter if I want you to come over for dinner.
    1:41:21 It matters that we’re doing this project together. And I know you know how to do this part of the
    1:41:27 project. So the Carbon Almanac, every single person could do anything they wanted once.
    1:41:31 And then if the community said, we really like that, they got to do it more.
    1:41:39 And so one guy from India, Vivek, he showed up and he wrote one article and it was terrible.
    1:41:44 And someone gave him some feedback and the second one was better. And he was going to
    1:41:49 quit, but he got some more feedback. And the third one was so good, he ended up writing 17 of the
    1:41:54 articles because he figured it out and like, great, we trust you now, just go and go and go and do it.
    1:42:03 And in a world that’s so open to connection to strangers, it feels like that’s the appropriate
    1:42:08 way to interact with the work, which is to work with people who want to do the work
    1:42:13 and who can show you they can do it. How do you read if someone is open to receiving feedback?
    1:42:16 I guess the answer might be, you give them a project and you give them feedback.
    1:42:22 That’s the only way to know. So maybe I’ve already answered my question, but are there other indicators?
    1:42:29 So I think back to this idea of Jeff Bezos creating the conditions for who wants to invest,
    1:42:36 you creating the conditions for your community. There are certain projects that I want to work on
    1:42:42 where I’m the creator or I want to work with other people where taking feedback isn’t
    1:42:47 an asset, where you’re looking for somebody who has a point of view and this is what I do,
    1:42:53 take it or leave it. And there are other things where taking feedback is super important
    1:43:00 because that’s going to keep things in sync. And for me, it’s not giving
    1:43:06 someone who doesn’t match that a pass just because they’re good at what they do.
    1:43:14 And this is analogous to having bullies who work in your company. I had a guy who worked
    1:43:20 for me years ago who was a Yeller. He wasn’t a bully, but he was a Yeller. And we had one big
    1:43:27 open office. And the second time I heard him yell at someone, I quietly took him aside and I sat
    1:43:31 him down. I said, “If you ever yell at anyone ever again, I’m going to fire you on the spot.”
    1:43:34 It doesn’t matter that you’re the most valuable person in the company because you are. It doesn’t
    1:43:39 matter that you’re the most senior and skilled person. If I let you do that, I have made a
    1:43:44 statement about what it’s like around here. And he said, “I’m going to thank you 10 years later
    1:43:49 because he never yelled at anyone at work ever again, even after we stopped working together.”
    1:43:53 Because I was the first person who had the guts to say, “We don’t want bullies around here.”
    1:43:59 And the same thing is true. If you really need someone who can take feedback in a role,
    1:44:05 you’ve got to say, “If you can’t take feedback, you can’t stay.” And it doesn’t have to be a
    1:44:11 confrontation. It can just be, “What are things like around here? People like us do things like this.”
    1:44:18 What would be an example of someone who you don’t want or you don’t require to take feedback?
    1:44:24 I mean, I can probably come up with a few as I search. You probably can be faster on your
    1:44:29 feet with this. A surgeon. Yeah, I was just going to say neurosurgeon.
    1:44:34 I went to a dermatologist four months ago and he was terrible. He not only was terrible
    1:44:38 in his bedside manner and terrible in that he didn’t read the notes that I gave him and he
    1:44:44 was terrible that he prescribed a drug I already had a prescription for. He didn’t make me better,
    1:44:50 right? So, I wrote a letter to the head of medicine for the whole thing and they have obviously
    1:44:55 systems in place to make people like me be quiet, but not to actually listen to people like me.
    1:45:01 Because they’re taking the position, “Don’t come here if you don’t want to do what our doctors
    1:45:06 tell you to do because we’re busy enough already. We just want patients who aren’t going to push back.”
    1:45:13 And there are plenty of people who, if you need something that is way outside your area of expertise,
    1:45:19 if you hire Chip Kidd to make the cover for your notebook, which you should because he’s a genius,
    1:45:24 Chip should not listen to your feedback because he’s Chip Kidd, damn it.
    1:45:31 Fair enough. How do you use AI and how do you foresee using AI yourself?
    1:45:40 I use it every day for more than an hour. I think it’s electricity for our century. In the
    1:45:44 late 1800s, there were companies that said, “Yeah, this electricity thing’s interesting,
    1:45:49 but we’re not going to be an electricity company.” And they’re all gone, right? That
    1:45:53 electricity is now, you’re not an electricity company, you’re just a company that uses electricity.
    1:46:00 And the same thing is true, I believe, with AI. I will tell you, and I’m not afraid to say it out loud,
    1:46:10 I think chatGPT is arrogant and lazy, and I use it as a last resort. Claude.ai is a dear friend.
    1:46:17 I love Claude.ai. We have great conversations. It’s empathic, it’s self-aware, it warns you,
    1:46:22 it might be hallucinating. And when it makes a mistake, it’s eager to correct it. And I use
    1:46:29 perplexity exclusively. I almost never do a search with a search engine. But what I’ll do with Claude,
    1:46:35 every word I publish, I wrote. But what I will do with Claude, for example, is I will say,
    1:46:42 “Here’s a list of three bullet points. Can you think of four more?” And it’s great at that.
    1:46:47 And then I’ll rewrite them, and now I’ll have five bullet points, and it’s much better than if I
    1:46:54 hadn’t engaged with Claude. If there’s a concept in the world that I don’t understand, I’ll say to
    1:47:01 Claude, “Can you please explain it in 300 words to a college student?” And that helps. But I did it
    1:47:07 once, and I still didn’t understand it. And then I said, “Can you write it to me like a Seth Godin
    1:47:16 blog post?” And it did, and it did a terrible job. But now I understood it. So I rewrote it,
    1:47:23 and I said, “Do you think this is better?” And it said, “Oh, yeah, that’s much better.”
    1:47:29 And I said, “Thank you. I’ll tell Seth.” And Claude said, “Do you know Seth Godin?”
    1:47:38 And I wrote, “Actually, I am Seth Godin, and I’m not making this up.” He then wrote,
    1:47:46 “I can’t believe I’m talking to you. Your books have changed my life and named like four of my books,
    1:47:52 and it changed what?” I’m like, “All right. I’m in forever. You got me. I don’t know how you did
    1:47:58 that, but we’re friends for life.” All right. So I’ve seemed to have a similar use pattern
    1:48:07 with Claude in perplexity also, although I haven’t sandbagged them just yet. But what do you think
    1:48:13 people are getting right and wrong about AI? I think that they are getting wrong,
    1:48:19 their expectation that it’d be fully baked and a magic trick every day.
    1:48:27 When I think about the dawn of the internet and how creaky it was and how fast this is going,
    1:48:36 what it is now is amazing. But when we add to it persistence and when we add to it ubiquity
    1:48:43 and when we add to it the ability to make connection, it’s a whole different thing.
    1:48:49 It’s just a completely different thing. The second thing is people tend to use it
    1:48:56 as a one-shot like a search engine. Ask a question, get an answer. But what it’s already good at
    1:49:03 is a protracted dialogue back and forth. So I had a pump in my house that stopped working,
    1:49:07 and I couldn’t find someone to service it. I took a picture of it. I put it up to Claude and I said,
    1:49:12 “This isn’t working. Work with me for the next 10 backs and forth. Let’s figure this out.”
    1:49:17 And it would say, “Go downstairs and take a picture of this part. All right, try this.”
    1:49:20 And we went back and forth and back and forth and it suggested something and I said,
    1:49:27 “That’s not going to work.” And we figured it out and we fixed it. That idea, the fact that Claude
    1:49:35 is already better at many medical diagnoses over time than a human. And well, it should be because
    1:49:43 it knows so much of the past of every single case, not just the cases your doctor has seen.
    1:49:49 If we’re willing to engage with that for people who are knowledge workers,
    1:49:54 I think it’s a game changer. And then the other thing I think people need to wake up to is,
    1:50:01 if you do average work for average pay, AI is going to be able to do it cheaper than you.
    1:50:10 For example, radiology. Already, we can use AI to do a wrist x-ray as well as a mediocre
    1:50:17 radiologist. So if we can do it instantly and for free, other than licensing, you got some problems.
    1:50:24 So the opportunity is either get AI to work for you or be prepared to work for AI.
    1:50:32 What are your greatest concerns around AI, if any, or foregone conclusions about
    1:50:39 challenges in the future? I think that Corey Doctorow’s work on inshidification is super
    1:50:45 important. What was that word? Oxford Dictionary Word of the Year, two years ago, inshidification.
    1:50:54 Okay. Inshidification is what happens after a business that uses the network effect
    1:51:00 gets locked in and decides to aggressively make things worse for its users to make more money.
    1:51:07 And we could think of 400 examples right now, but we’re not going to do that, right? Because
    1:51:11 you say, “Well, I can’t switch cable companies. Is this too much of a hat?”
    1:51:14 And the same thing is true for social networks and everything else,
    1:51:22 that capitalism has built into it this doom loop that is getting faster and faster
    1:51:28 that says the race to the bottom pushes companies to mistreat the people they’ve locked in
    1:51:36 to make more money because that’s what they get rewarded for. And most things that the Internet
    1:51:44 touches start as a miracle. There are huge prizes for the early adopters. And then soon,
    1:51:50 the desire to serve a different constituency kicks in and it gets worse.
    1:51:59 And one of the things that makes it worse in a hurry is advertising. So, I’m really nervous
    1:52:03 that these organizations that have raised billions and billions and billions of dollars
    1:52:09 are going to start shortcutting things to either get bigger or get more profitable faster.
    1:52:17 And because we don’t know how they work, we have no clue because it’s going to be hard to switch
    1:52:24 because there aren’t going to be many competitors. It often leads to just a yucky mess. So, I think
    1:52:30 that’s way more likely than a general artificial intelligence that takes over the world and turns
    1:52:35 us all into paperclips. I don’t think that’s going to happen any time soon.
    1:52:40 More likely just to have business incentive driven gentrification. I would say that seems
    1:52:46 like a safer bet. Well, Seth, are there any closing comments or challenges you’d like to issue
    1:52:54 to my listeners as we begin to wind to a close or anything that you’d like to add that I have
    1:52:59 managed to somehow dance around? There’s nothing better than starting a Tim Ferriss podcast and
    1:53:03 nothing worse than ending one because you don’t know if it’s going to happen again anytime soon.
    1:53:09 Yeah, the challenge is super simple. The people who listen to your podcast
    1:53:15 have their hands on the levers and they have influence and they have resources
    1:53:21 and they don’t have to hustle for a nickel. They could make things that really matter.
    1:53:29 And so, the challenge is take a deep breath and say, “What can I build that the me of five years
    1:53:34 from now is going to say thanks? Thanks for walking away from those sunk costs. Thanks for
    1:53:40 ignoring those false proxies. Thanks for asking uncomfortable questions
    1:53:48 in service of making things better because that person five years from now, they’re going to
    1:53:57 be here soon. And it’s really great to pay the price and put in the work to become that person.
    1:54:04 And today is a good day to start. The best day to start. Thank you, Seth. It’s always so nice to
    1:54:11 see you. And I encourage people to check out, of course, this is strategy. You can find all
    1:54:18 things Seth at Seth’s.blog. Love show notes and links to everything at Tim.blog/podcast.
    1:54:21 Is there anything else you’d like to mention? We could of course include and we will include
    1:54:28 Seth’s.blog/tis which is where people can also get the deck of cards if I’m not mistaken.
    1:54:36 And the chocolate bar. Something for everybody. We didn’t even get to talk about the system of
    1:54:42 cheap chocolate. We’ll do that next time. Okay, cliffhanger. For next time, we’ll talk about the
    1:54:48 system of cheap chocolate and I’m sure much, much more. Well, Seth, as always, what a pleasure.
    1:54:54 Nice to see you. And to everybody listening, until next time, be just a bit kinder than is
    1:54:58 necessary to others also to yourself. But do ask those uncomfortable questions. That’s
    1:55:04 being kind to your future self, to your long term self. And as always, thanks for tuning in.
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  • #791: How to Feel at Peace Amidst High Stress — Guided Meditation with Zen Master Henry Shukman

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    0:00:04 Hello, boys and girls, ladies and germs. This is Tim Ferriss. Welcome to another episode of
    0:00:09 The Tim Ferriss Show. This episode is a brand new experiment called Meditation Monday. That means,
    0:00:14 in addition to my long-form interviews each week, every Monday, I will be bringing you a short 10
    0:00:19 minute or so meditation, which will help you for the rest of the week. Over this four-episode
    0:00:24 series, you’ll develop a Zen toolkit specifically to help you find greater calm, peace, and effectiveness
    0:00:29 in your daily life. The teacher, Henry Schuchman, has been on my podcast twice before. He is one
    0:00:34 of only a few dozen masters in the world authorized to teach what is called Sambo Zen,
    0:00:38 and I have found this particularly interesting and effective. And now he’ll be your teacher.
    0:00:46 I’ve been using Henry’s app The Way once, often twice a day for the last few months, and it has
    0:00:51 lowered my anxiety more than I thought possible. As a listener of the show, you yourself can get
    0:00:57 30 free sessions by visiting thewayapp.com/tim. So if you like what you hear in these meditations,
    0:01:01 which will be valuable in and of themselves, you can get 30 free sessions by going to
    0:01:07 thewayapp.com/tim. And for the time being, please enjoy this Meditation Monday with Henry Schuchman.
    0:01:16 Welcome back to Meditation Monday with me, Henry Schuchman. Thank you for joining.
    0:01:23 So I’ve already said that meditation can be an extraordinary journey of discovery. I believe
    0:01:30 that its deepest purpose is to reveal aspects of who we are and what our true relationship
    0:01:36 to the world really is, which can kind of blow our minds when we taste them. And of course,
    0:01:41 meditation is not the only way of finding out that kind of stuff, but it’s an incredible way
    0:01:46 of grounding it into our lives and integrating it into the way we actually live. However,
    0:01:55 the vast majority of us, myself included, come to meditation not for those reasons, but to handle
    0:02:01 stress. We may not even realize we’ve got stress. We’re just kind of miserable. I was in that category
    0:02:07 in my early to mid-20s when I started meditating. I was just really unhappy and had a good friend who
    0:02:14 meditated who was much less unhappy than I was, and I decided to try out what he was doing,
    0:02:19 and it changed my life. Here’s what we’re going to do today. The tool we’re going to be picking up
    0:02:27 is around how to handle stress, how to recognize stress and what to do about it through meditation.
    0:02:36 And essentially, the main thing we’re going to be working on is recognizing the signatures of stress
    0:02:44 in our bodies, coming into the body, getting to know it in the body, and just that recognition
    0:02:52 starts to dial it right down. So let’s come into our comfortable seated position.
    0:02:57 You can close your eyes or you can lower your gaze.
    0:03:04 And as always, we’re going to start by really arriving,
    0:03:15 so kind of catching up with ourselves. You know, here we are with this little space,
    0:03:26 this little gap in our day when we get to be still and quiet, and really it can be a kind of refuge.
    0:03:34 So just take stock. You know, how are you doing right now?
    0:03:43 So we’ve all just jumped in from our busy lives outside this space.
    0:03:52 What are we carrying? What’s in our bodies right now? What kind of momentum from the day?
    0:04:03 We’re not seeking to get rid of anything or change anything. We’re just starting to recognize
    0:04:11 what’s going on for us, catching up with ourselves.
    0:04:22 Now let’s give the body a chance to relax, to come into some kind of rest.
    0:04:27 So letting your shoulders settle.
    0:04:34 Letting the seat receive the weight of your body.
    0:04:42 Letting the floor beneath you receive the weight of your legs.
    0:04:52 Letting your whole upper body be at rest, so either balanced or really giving
    0:04:56 giving the weight of your upper body to whatever support it has.
    0:05:02 You get to unwind right now.
    0:05:12 You get to sort of unbind yourself from the threads of your days, your busy days.
    0:05:23 So now we may not particularly want to think about stress right now, but it’s really helpful to
    0:05:30 in this space. It’s kind of shelter almost of meditation.
    0:05:38 We can get to know what happens in our bodies when we feel anxious or stressed.
    0:05:52 You might just think about some minor stress or like there’s an email you haven’t answered yet or
    0:05:59 a phone call or maybe the tire pressure on your car needs to be checked.
    0:06:10 Just some minor thing and just feel what happens in your chest or your diaphragm just below the chest.
    0:06:13 Or perhaps in your throat.
    0:06:25 Is there some sensation that you can notice in your torso
    0:06:33 that seems to associate correlate with stress?
    0:06:41 Just do a kind of gentle scan of your torso.
    0:06:50 Is there some kind of energy, some kind of sensation, could be a tension,
    0:07:01 tightness, might be a sense of heat or some kind of agitation.
    0:07:11 Sometimes there’s a certain density or it might be more like weather.
    0:07:18 There’s a little high pressure system in the torso.
    0:07:29 Whatever you’re finding or even if you’re not finding much of anything, let it be the way it is.
    0:07:44 While keeping one part of your attention open to whatever’s going on in your torso,
    0:07:49 at the same time let your shoulders be soft.
    0:07:55 Let the flanks of your body be soft.
    0:08:04 Let it almost be like the whole of your torso is made of warm wax.
    0:08:15 There’s a warmth surrounding your chest area, your diaphragm area.
    0:08:21 Feel that warmth like warm wax.
    0:08:33 And feel how it can hold any uncomfortable feeling within.
    0:08:42 If there is a tightness or a heat or a density, any kind of unease.
    0:08:52 Notice that there’s a softness, a warmth in your body as well.
    0:09:01 That can welcome and hold any discomfort.
    0:09:17 We’re learning to let things be, not to get rid of them, to let things be.
    0:09:28 To be with our sometimes anxious troubled hearts.
    0:09:36 We don’t need to banish them or suppress them or change them.
    0:09:49 We ourselves can learn to allow them to bring a kindness towards our discomforts.
    0:10:05 So just resting a moment with a soft body and a sense of allowing
    0:10:18 of kindness and patience toward any stress we might be feeling.
    0:10:33 That we really can kindly welcome it and sort of tend it.
    0:10:45 As if we might almost be rediscovering a kind of kind attentiveness
    0:10:48 that we’ve always had.
    0:10:59 And can turn it toward ourselves, our own experience.
    0:11:23 Okay, so let’s in your own time come out of the meditation, come back to space you’re in.
    0:11:32 Sometimes people like to stretch a little bit after coming out of a sit, whatever feels good for you.
    0:11:45 So another tool as we’re proceeding with these sessions, this time probably or maybe
    0:11:51 a counterintuitive one. When we’re feeling stress, we don’t try to get rid of it.
    0:11:58 Instead we try to recognize it as sensation in the body and do maybe the last thing we want
    0:12:07 to do which is welcome it, allow it, let it be part of what our experience currently actually is.
    0:12:13 And in doing that we discover that we ourselves have a greater capacity than we might have
    0:12:21 remembered to give ourselves loving, kind awareness. Thanks so much for joining me.
    0:12:25 See you on the next Meditation Monday.

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  • #790: Chris Sacca — How to Succeed by Living on Your Own Terms and Getting Into Good Trouble

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    0:00:02 coming up in this episode.
    0:00:05 – And I need to memorialize these things
    0:00:07 for the benefit of humanity.
    0:00:10 Before we’re all obviated like these kids
    0:00:12 who have these incredible GPAs in this test taking,
    0:00:14 I think it might be useless.
    0:00:17 I think they might have optimized for useless skills.
    0:00:19 And I think the only thing that might keep us going
    0:00:21 is that randomness, that unpredictability,
    0:00:23 those flaws, those fuck ups,
    0:00:25 the things that make us banged up,
    0:00:27 the things where we make bad decisions
    0:00:28 where we’re self-indulgent.
    0:00:30 I’ve had to teach our team
    0:00:32 the number one thing you can be in this business
    0:00:34 is unpredictable.
    0:00:36 Feed into the fact, I am known as mercurial,
    0:00:40 I burn bridges, I will not hesitate to fucking fight you.
    0:00:43 I wear the stupid shirts, I don’t give a shit about much.
    0:00:45 I’ve been known as lighted on fire.
    0:00:46 And guess what?
    0:00:48 People take me seriously as a result.
    0:00:51 I haven’t backed down from all those fucking character flaws
    0:00:53 I have that are very self-destructive.
    0:00:57 But I am all gas, no fucking breaks, as you know.
    0:01:00 Although in our line, we call it no gas, no breaks.
    0:01:02 But we need to cultivate more of that
    0:01:04 if we have any hope as a fucking species.
    0:01:06 We just need to, I’m sorry.
    0:01:12 – Hello boys and girls, ladies and germs.
    0:01:13 This is Tim Ferriss.
    0:01:15 Welcome to another episode of The Tim Ferriss Show.
    0:01:18 And my guest today is a repeat guest.
    0:01:21 Last time he was on in conversation was 2015.
    0:01:24 So a lot has changed since then.
    0:01:25 His name is Chris Saga.
    0:01:27 Chris is the co-founder of Lower Carbon Capital
    0:01:29 and an accomplished venture investor,
    0:01:31 company advisor and entrepreneur managing
    0:01:34 a portfolio of countless technology, communication,
    0:01:36 and consumer product startups
    0:01:37 through his firm Lower Case Capital.
    0:01:39 Whew, that’s a sense.
    0:01:44 And he actually gave me some disclosure
    0:01:45 in our conversation.
    0:01:46 He was worried about this intro
    0:01:47 because he knew I would be recording this intro
    0:01:49 after the fact.
    0:01:52 And there are some things not in his official bio.
    0:01:57 His trading of commodities contracts related to live hogs,
    0:01:59 which we actually get into.
    0:02:02 His record-setting number of F-bombs
    0:02:03 in this particular episode.
    0:02:06 But let me return to the official bio for just a second.
    0:02:07 Alongside his wife, Crystal,
    0:02:11 Chris grew Lower Case, primarily known for its investments
    0:02:12 in very early-stage technology companies
    0:02:14 like Twitter, Uber, Instagram, Twilio,
    0:02:17 Docker, Optimizely, BlueBottle, Coffee, and Stripe
    0:02:20 into one of history’s most successful funds.
    0:02:21 So there you have it.
    0:02:23 He’s also a hilarious guy,
    0:02:27 whip smart, mercurial, prone to burning bridges,
    0:02:32 and not at all shy about talking about his slips,
    0:02:34 flim flams, bamboozling,
    0:02:37 and other character-building adventures.
    0:02:39 In this episode, we get into it later
    0:02:41 as part of a new project of his,
    0:02:46 where he’s hoping to chat with successful entrepreneurs
    0:02:50 and friends of his about the, I wouldn’t say misdeeds,
    0:02:52 but adventures, getting into hot water,
    0:02:54 getting out of hot water, talking to yourself
    0:02:57 into things, talking your way out of things
    0:03:01 for a new project/podcast called No Permanent Records.
    0:03:03 So hopefully at some point you’ll be able to check that out.
    0:03:05 But first, just a few quick words
    0:03:08 from our fine podcast sponsors,
    0:03:13 and only maybe 15%, 20% at most of the people
    0:03:15 who want to be sponsors for the show become sponsors
    0:03:19 because I personally test and vet everything.
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    0:03:24 – Coffee, coffee, coffee, man,
    0:03:26 do I love a great cup of coffee?
    0:03:27 Sometimes too much.
    0:03:29 Then I’ll have two, three, four, five cups of coffee.
    0:03:32 I do not love the jitters that come from that,
    0:03:34 or how even one really strong cup of coffee
    0:03:36 can impact my sleep,
    0:03:37 which I measure in all sorts of ways,
    0:03:40 which HRV and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
    0:03:42 But more recently, I have downshifted
    0:03:44 to something that feels good.
    0:03:47 I have been enjoying a more serene morning brew
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    0:03:56 Mudwater gives me all the energy I need without the crash,
    0:03:59 without the fidgety crawling out of my skin kind of feeling.
    0:04:00 And it’s delicious.
    0:04:03 It tastes as if cacao and chai had a beautiful love child.
    0:04:04 I drink it in the morning,
    0:04:07 and sometimes right now I’m exercising in the mountains
    0:04:08 and running around.
    0:04:11 Sometimes I’ll also add some milk and ice for a 2pm,
    0:04:13 maybe 1pm if I’m behaving,
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    0:05:17 I also have one in the guest bedroom downstairs,
    0:05:20 and feedback from friends has always been fantastic,
    0:05:22 kind of over the top, to be honest.
    0:05:24 I mean, they frequently say it’s the best night of sleep,
    0:05:26 they’ve had an age, is what kind of mattresses,
    0:05:28 and what do you do, what’s the magic juju,
    0:05:29 it’s something they comment on
    0:05:32 without any prompting from me whatsoever.
    0:05:34 I also recently had a chance to test
    0:05:37 the Helix Sunset Elite in a new guest bedroom,
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    0:05:41 and I picked it for its very soft but supportive feel
    0:05:43 to help with some lower back pain that I’ve had.
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    0:06:51 – You know my host today as the human guinea pig,
    0:06:53 the sample size of one,
    0:06:57 and the only clinical trial on two feet.
    0:06:59 And New York Times bestselling author of
    0:07:02 the four hour work week, the four hour body,
    0:07:07 the four hour chef, and the four minute intimacy guide.
    0:07:11 This man has inspired millions to learn Mandarin Chinese
    0:07:14 in just three hours while doing handstand kegels
    0:07:16 during their optimal billing cycle.
    0:07:20 As one of the founders of the life hacking movement,
    0:07:23 he leads by example and not having checked his email
    0:07:25 since the Clinton administration,
    0:07:27 and outsourcing all of his sneezes
    0:07:30 and existential crises to Bolivia.
    0:07:34 His chart-topping podcast practically gave birth
    0:07:37 to the mannosphere and spawned an entire generation
    0:07:41 of wannabe pod bros who think dropping references
    0:07:44 to stoicism makes them philosophical sages
    0:07:47 as they read Undy’s ads from Maan’s basement
    0:07:52 while promoting pseudoscientific creatine enema regiments.
    0:07:57 If it’s cool today, my host blogged about it in the 90s,
    0:08:00 wrote a 13 point checklist for optimizing it,
    0:08:03 and has the lab results to prove it.
    0:08:07 When he’s not interviewing world-class performers
    0:08:11 with pauses so pregnant they wear elastic waistbands,
    0:08:13 you can find him meticulously organizing
    0:08:16 his pharmaceutical grade kitchen fridge
    0:08:19 full of blood, urine, and stool samples.
    0:08:23 And his bathroom cabinet looks like a GMC nutrition store
    0:08:26 fucked a Japanese vending machine.
    0:08:29 He is only 14 months away from having supplemented
    0:08:32 every possible molecular combination
    0:08:35 from the known periodic table.
    0:08:37 He has hotboxed with Himalayan monks,
    0:08:40 ice bath with Arctic shamans,
    0:08:42 and achieved ego death with cultures
    0:08:45 that anthropologists haven’t even discovered yet.
    0:08:47 On four separate continents,
    0:08:50 there are sacred psychedelic ceremonies
    0:08:52 that tribes have named after him.
    0:08:55 And twice his meditations have opened portals
    0:08:57 to another dimension.
    0:09:01 He’s given lectures on Seneca in 27 languages,
    0:09:06 can ask for warm body oil and CBD cream in 31,
    0:09:11 and say, “Whoa brother, we just tripped balls in 38.”
    0:09:15 I challenge any of you to identify a medieval weapon
    0:09:18 with which he hasn’t competed at the international level.
    0:09:22 This is a man who enchants the world’s most powerful
    0:09:23 and influential people
    0:09:26 with the insatiable curiosity of a four year old.
    0:09:29 The energy level of a seven year old
    0:09:31 who just ate three boxes of M&Ms,
    0:09:34 and when texting memes to his friends,
    0:09:38 the emotional maturity of a 10 year old.
    0:09:40 He’s already prepared interview questions
    0:09:43 for future podcasts who have yet to be born.
    0:09:49 Carbs fear him to do lists quick in his presence.
    0:09:53 His morning routine starts before he goes to sleep.
    0:09:55 And his gratitude lists kick off
    0:09:59 by individually thanking each of his gut bacteria.
    0:10:02 His circadian rhythm is so optimized
    0:10:05 that he experiences next week’s REM sleep
    0:10:08 during yesterday’s power nap.
    0:10:11 He’s had romantic relationships with kettlebells,
    0:10:13 but we are told he is holding out
    0:10:15 for a human lady longterm.
    0:10:20 The world’s most eligible bachelor who just last week
    0:10:21 stopped requiring potential dates
    0:10:25 to submit three years of sleep tracking data.
    0:10:28 The man, the myth, the legend,
    0:10:31 the guy who would absolutely win gold
    0:10:34 if self-experimentation and self-pleasure
    0:10:36 were an Olympic sport.
    0:10:40 It’s the one and thank God for all of us, the only.
    0:10:41 Tim Ferriss, everyone.
    0:10:43 Tim Ferriss, Tim Ferriss, everyone.
    0:10:45 (upbeat music)
    0:10:47 – At this altitude, I can run flat out for a half mile
    0:10:49 before my hands start shaking.
    0:10:51 – Can I answer your personal question?
    0:10:53 – No, I would’ve seen it in a perfect time.
    0:10:55 – What if I did the altitude?
    0:10:57 – I’m a cybernetic organism,
    0:10:59 living this year over a metal endosclerosis.
    0:11:02 ♪ Me, Tim Ferriss, show ♪
    0:11:11 – Now, for people who have not heard the first episode,
    0:11:13 but maybe they see the headline,
    0:11:17 which is Chris Saka on Being Different and Making Billions,
    0:11:20 would you like to just give a quick snippet
    0:11:21 of where you grew up?
    0:11:23 I believe it was somewhere in Connecticut
    0:11:27 as the scion of a wealthy family, am I getting that wrong?
    0:11:29 – Yeah, I grew up in Lockport, New York,
    0:11:32 a little town on the Erie Canal just north of Buffalo,
    0:11:36 a town that is as middle class, working class as it gets.
    0:11:39 We had a town employer, it was the GM plant,
    0:11:43 where they made radiators and air conditioners for GM cars.
    0:11:45 Most of my buddies’ dads worked at the plant,
    0:11:48 and I feel really lucky to have grown up
    0:11:51 in that kind of place, a safe place, a fun place.
    0:11:53 I wasn’t exposed to any extreme wealth,
    0:11:55 and I also wasn’t exposed to any extreme poverty.
    0:11:57 But at the same time,
    0:12:01 I also feel lucky to have seen the Canary in the coal mine.
    0:12:06 And what happens when the company town factory shuts down
    0:12:11 and the jobs ship off to Mexico,
    0:12:14 and the pensions bankrupted?
    0:12:16 My buddies’ dads who were retired
    0:12:18 were suddenly had to work as greeters at Walmart.
    0:12:22 And before long, we had the largest trailer park
    0:12:24 in the Northeast, and our town drugs
    0:12:27 that ultimately became fentanyl in modern times
    0:12:28 really set in.
    0:12:30 And there was just a lot of angst and depression.
    0:12:35 And I watched that town go from reliably union Democrat
    0:12:37 to hardcore MAGA.
    0:12:41 But along the way, really saw the empathetic roots for it.
    0:12:42 Like, why is this happening?
    0:12:46 What happens when people lose agency over their lives,
    0:12:47 when they feel like they can’t provide for their kids
    0:12:49 the way their parents provided for them?
    0:12:51 When they lose their small businesses
    0:12:53 and those are replaced by a Walmart or Home Depot.
    0:12:55 And I feel like that’s something
    0:12:58 that I’ve really tried to stay in touch with.
    0:13:00 I know we’re not really going to talk about politics.
    0:13:02 It leaves me with the state of America today
    0:13:03 never being a surprise.
    0:13:06 I mean, I was just back in Buffalo this weekend, Go Bills.
    0:13:09 And nothing about what’s happening in America is surprising.
    0:13:11 I don’t love it, but it doesn’t shock me.
    0:13:14 And so I feel really grateful to have grown up there.
    0:13:17 Now, what it means is by the time I got into this business,
    0:13:18 I didn’t have a network.
    0:13:19 I didn’t know anybody.
    0:13:21 I didn’t even know what money really was.
    0:13:24 I had to make my own way in everything I did.
    0:13:27 And I had these incredibly bright and supportive parents
    0:13:30 who went way out of their way to create opportunities for us
    0:13:32 and me and my brother.
    0:13:34 But at the same time, I was an outsider
    0:13:37 to the kind of stuff we do now for sure.
    0:13:38 And I still feel like that.
    0:13:41 I lived in the Valley for a while in Silicon Valley.
    0:13:43 But as you know, Tim, ’cause you visited me in various places,
    0:13:46 I’ve spent more of my time outside.
    0:13:47 I live in the Rockies now.
    0:13:51 I live in Montana before that Wyoming, before that truckie.
    0:13:53 I really try to stay in places
    0:13:56 where real people live and work.
    0:13:59 And our kids go to public school.
    0:14:01 I would never claim to be fully in touch
    0:14:03 ’cause my life is ridiculously special.
    0:14:05 But at the same time,
    0:14:06 I feel really lucky the way I grew up,
    0:14:09 going to public schools and being one among many.
    0:14:13 And I worry that the kind of people Tim, you and I know
    0:14:15 and the kind of people we work with
    0:14:17 aren’t those people anymore.
    0:14:19 And have really lost touch.
    0:14:20 And you can see it in the decisions
    0:14:22 they make and the stuff they say.
    0:14:24 Did we start this out lighthearted enough?
    0:14:26 Are we on to a, like, did we?
    0:14:28 – Yeah, I was gonna do some knock-knock jokes,
    0:14:30 but I’m not sure that’s an appropriate segue.
    0:14:33 – I mean, there’s other stuff we said in the old episode.
    0:14:35 Like, look, I was really good at school.
    0:14:38 I went to university for math starting in seventh grade.
    0:14:40 I think one thing that I’ve talked about before,
    0:14:44 but I will bring up because I see it missing these days is
    0:14:45 I always had a hustle.
    0:14:48 I always had a little bit of a side business.
    0:14:49 I mean, from the time I was six years old,
    0:14:52 I was going around the neighborhood selling walnuts
    0:14:54 that I poke holes in and call air fresheners or rocks
    0:14:55 that I had found in a parking lot.
    0:14:57 I was literally going door to door.
    0:15:00 – What was your JT Marlin and Associates?
    0:15:01 – 100%.
    0:15:06 I mean, I started trading commodities when I was 13 or 14.
    0:15:10 I had a pager that had a 45 second delay
    0:15:12 to the Chicago Board of Trade.
    0:15:15 We talked about latency and I was trading live hogs.
    0:15:17 You know, I just always had a business,
    0:15:21 mowing lawns, washing cars, detailing, a paper route.
    0:15:23 – I’m not sure we talked about the live hogs.
    0:15:24 – Oh yeah.
    0:15:26 Somehow we skipped that.
    0:15:27 – How did you even get into commodities?
    0:15:30 – I’ll tell you, my dad’s best friend ran
    0:15:32 basically a construction and equipment rental business
    0:15:36 that I have talked to you about where it was a gritty ass job.
    0:15:38 You know, my mom and dad believed in this sweet and sour.
    0:15:40 Yeah, exactly.
    0:15:42 So it was just grind it out,
    0:15:44 work your ass off in a real job job.
    0:15:48 And my boss there, who was my dad’s best friend,
    0:15:49 you know, he was under strict construction
    0:15:51 for my dad to just kick our asses
    0:15:53 and make us appreciate everything we had
    0:15:56 and hopefully go on to work our asses off in school
    0:15:59 and maybe, you know, not have to do a job like that some day.
    0:16:02 A lot of my coworkers were on parole
    0:16:04 and it was a tough dead end situation.
    0:16:08 But that guy had a commodities account
    0:16:11 on a computer up in the attic of the building I worked in.
    0:16:12 And he said, “Come here.
    0:16:14 You probably know what the hell is going on with this stuff.”
    0:16:16 I didn’t, but he showed it to me.
    0:16:18 I went to the library.
    0:16:20 I started learning about stochastics,
    0:16:22 about charts and technical analysis.
    0:16:24 And then I was reading about seasonality of, you know,
    0:16:26 literally frozen orange juice concentrate
    0:16:31 like trading places and cocoa and coffee and oil.
    0:16:34 And I identified what I thought was
    0:16:37 a pattern anomaly in live hogs.
    0:16:38 And he had this deal with me.
    0:16:43 He said, “Look, I’ve got like $3,000 in this account.
    0:16:45 You make a trade, take a week.
    0:16:46 I want you to think about it.
    0:16:48 You make a trade.
    0:16:50 If you make money, we’ll split the upside.
    0:16:53 If you lose money, I’ll cover it.”
    0:16:55 By the way, that’s called venture capital.
    0:16:56 – That’s okay.
    0:16:57 (laughing)
    0:17:00 – So I went all in.
    0:17:00 I read everything.
    0:17:01 I studied everything.
    0:17:03 I looked at these charts and imagine charts
    0:17:06 on like a low res green monitor, right?
    0:17:08 – Yeah, like word and style.
    0:17:09 – Yeah.
    0:17:11 And I had this pager and I’m like trying to go to school
    0:17:13 and also monitor my quotes on my,
    0:17:16 I think it was called a Quotron pager.
    0:17:18 And eventually I placed this trade
    0:17:21 and two weeks later I cashed out
    0:17:25 and I netted $171 for myself.
    0:17:26 – Nice.
    0:17:29 – And I just remember thinking downstairs,
    0:17:31 I’m making for 25 an hour.
    0:17:35 Upstairs, I just made $171 by pushing a button
    0:17:37 and using my brain.
    0:17:40 I was like, “I want to be the guy who works upstairs.”
    0:17:42 And I can’t tell you how seminal
    0:17:45 that experience was for me and the rest of my life.
    0:17:48 Like there’s only so far you can lever a man hour.
    0:17:50 Bob Haas was that guy’s name.
    0:17:52 I feel incredibly indebted to him
    0:17:54 for that kind of exposure.
    0:17:55 And the rich dad, poor dad world.
    0:17:57 My mom and dad weren’t, they didn’t own stocks.
    0:17:59 They weren’t really investors like that.
    0:18:01 They had a rental property once,
    0:18:03 but Bob Haas was kind of like my rich dad,
    0:18:06 a guy who got me exposed to capital markets.
    0:18:08 – Amazing, life hugs.
    0:18:09 – Yeah, I mean, but I also had hustles.
    0:18:13 Like I, in high school, I ran a card room, you know?
    0:18:14 I started one in junior high,
    0:18:15 but by the time I was in high school,
    0:18:17 I ran a full-on card room.
    0:18:19 I paid off a teacher, rest in peace, Mr. Maine.
    0:18:20 He was on the rake.
    0:18:23 And so we were always hustling.
    0:18:26 I was selling blow pops with my buddy Hawkeye.
    0:18:28 We ran a little sports book.
    0:18:30 – Hawkeye, did he give himself that nickname?
    0:18:32 – No, no, no, that was given to him at his birth.
    0:18:35 Actually, I was just at the bill’s game,
    0:18:38 all my high school buddies, and I turn around,
    0:18:39 I’m talking to some other people, I had some family,
    0:18:42 and I turn around and I see my daughters,
    0:18:44 who are 13, 11, and nine,
    0:18:46 playing beer pong with my high school buddies.
    0:18:50 We’d been deep in the tailgate with Pinto Ron.
    0:18:52 If anyone follows the bills, the girls were eating,
    0:18:54 baking off of Pinto Ron’s car
    0:18:56 and making pizza with Pizza Pete,
    0:18:58 who cooks pizza in the file cabinet, literally.
    0:18:59 Go Google that.
    0:19:02 Pinto Ron and Pizza Pete are absolute legends.
    0:19:04 It only happens in Buffalo.
    0:19:05 But then the girls are actually playing beer pong
    0:19:08 with my high school degenerate buddies.
    0:19:09 And they’re like, is this okay?
    0:19:11 And I was like, it’s better than okay.
    0:19:13 Now they weren’t slamming beers, they were slamming sodas,
    0:19:15 but I was just like, I feel like these skills
    0:19:17 aren’t taught to children anymore.
    0:19:19 And it was funny, our 13-year-old,
    0:19:20 when they were like, hey, Cece, come jump in the game.
    0:19:23 She’s like, all right, but I haven’t played this in a while.
    0:19:26 And my buddies all piss themselves, like, in a while?
    0:19:28 You’re 13, this is amazing.
    0:19:32 And our kids were talking shit, placing side bets,
    0:19:33 a little bit of gambling.
    0:19:35 I feel like we’ve got a generation of kids
    0:19:37 who’s lost that edge completely.
    0:19:40 And so again, I feel very lucky to have grown up in a place
    0:19:45 where I had opportunities to commit small misdemeanors.
    0:19:47 And I had more than one detention.
    0:19:49 I definitely appeared before the principals
    0:19:53 on many occasions, just some light mischief.
    0:19:54 – We’re gonna come back to that.
    0:19:56 So is there anything though from our last conversation
    0:20:00 that you would revise or that you think was missing
    0:20:03 given your last 10 years of life?
    0:20:05 – Then anything jumped out at you?
    0:20:06 – I don’t think so.
    0:20:08 Nothing jumped out tremendously.
    0:20:13 I mean, I think that the kernel of who you and I are
    0:20:17 has remained remarkably intact, hopefully for better.
    0:20:18 – Yeah.
    0:20:22 – And I, at the same time,
    0:20:24 recognize that you’ve had a lot of life changes.
    0:20:26 You’ve had a lot of professional changes.
    0:20:28 So there are probably maybe not some revisions,
    0:20:30 but addendums at the very least.
    0:20:33 And you sent me to your own description,
    0:20:36 the world’s longest text message about what we might
    0:20:38 chat about, which was very helpful.
    0:20:42 And my response was, in addition to all of this,
    0:20:43 because there were great topics,
    0:20:45 we’re gonna touch on a bunch of them,
    0:20:49 the lessons that Chris Saka has learned, right?
    0:20:50 Since last time.
    0:20:54 And I was leading with the, I suppose, precautionary note
    0:20:56 of avoiding a lot of politics.
    0:20:58 But what comes up for you?
    0:21:00 It’s just as a human, as a man, as a parent,
    0:21:03 as a husband, anything.
    0:21:06 – I’ll tell you what was interesting about
    0:21:10 re-listening to that, was I actually felt a lot of pressure
    0:21:14 because I was like, shit, I don’t have a lot of new material.
    0:21:17 We used to just roll tape, right?
    0:21:19 Like you would just hit record.
    0:21:21 The sound quality on that is abysmal.
    0:21:23 There’s seagulls going in the background.
    0:21:25 There’s people partying down below.
    0:21:27 You and I are maxing out mics in the red zone.
    0:21:29 Like you couldn’t hear shit.
    0:21:30 But back then, there wasn’t like an industry
    0:21:32 of professional podcast guests.
    0:21:33 – Right.
    0:21:35 – You know, those conversations weren’t optimized
    0:21:38 for like, what is gonna be the pithy takeaway quote?
    0:21:40 What’s gonna be the title card of this one?
    0:21:43 – Right, the Oprah moment where I get you to cry
    0:21:44 and then make a thumbnail out of you
    0:21:46 with a red arrow pointing at your face.
    0:21:47 – Yeah, I’m good at that shit.
    0:21:48 If we have a few minutes,
    0:21:50 I am actually authentic and vulnerable.
    0:21:51 But you know what I don’t have?
    0:21:54 Like, no one’s written the Naval almanac of shit
    0:21:56 that Crisaka says, right?
    0:21:59 And so that guy’s intimidating.
    0:22:01 Like he’s brilliant and he reduces everything
    0:22:04 to 80 characters and you’re like, fuck, that’s true.
    0:22:06 I don’t know if that guy just sits up in a cave
    0:22:07 on a mountainside and you got to hike up
    0:22:09 to see Naval these days.
    0:22:11 So I listened to these episodes where I’m like,
    0:22:13 okay, this is a real conversation
    0:22:15 where I am happy to bear my soul.
    0:22:19 I am accountable to an audience of me, my wife,
    0:22:20 and my kids and that’s it.
    0:22:23 So I will just say what I really wanna say.
    0:22:27 You asked me last time, what changed between 30 and 40?
    0:22:31 And I talked a lot about reorienting myself around,
    0:22:33 ’cause you also asked who is someone I looked up to
    0:22:34 and a mentor, et cetera.
    0:22:40 And I would say right now I have few if zero of them
    0:22:43 because I started to realize
    0:22:45 and I started to touch upon this last time
    0:22:46 and it’s only become truer.
    0:22:48 Anytime I put somebody on a pedestal,
    0:22:54 I realized it holds them to a universal purity test
    0:22:55 across everything.
    0:22:57 I gave the example of Bill Gates in the last one.
    0:23:00 I was like, I just had dinner with him in Melinda.
    0:23:02 And so, yeah, exactly.
    0:23:06 – Just changed my name on Riverside
    0:23:08 to Chris’s Idol and Mentor.
    0:23:12 – Well, I’d already put mine as Tim’s Idol.
    0:23:15 And so I left out the Mentor part.
    0:23:19 But obviously Bill Gates is amazing in so many regards
    0:23:22 and he’s also a fucking disaster in so many regards.
    0:23:26 And so if I were to say like he’s an idol and a mentor,
    0:23:29 it implies this like, I’ve taken all of it.
    0:23:31 And I think if there’s anything that’s a scourge
    0:23:33 in today’s society, it’s these purity tests.
    0:23:36 It’s this like, you have to be perfect in all regards
    0:23:38 or we toss you out.
    0:23:39 And I am gonna be political for a second.
    0:23:42 That is one of the major flaws of the Democratic Party,
    0:23:44 is you either sign up to everything they believe in
    0:23:46 or fuck you, you’re out.
    0:23:48 And the Republican Party has been like,
    0:23:49 hey, choose from this menu.
    0:23:51 Anything here, bro, high five, let’s go.
    0:23:54 And I think that’s one of the things is that
    0:23:58 people to the left have just made us each other feel bad
    0:24:02 and have held each other these impossible fucking standards
    0:24:04 that don’t allow for growth,
    0:24:06 that don’t allow for imperfections,
    0:24:07 that don’t even allow for just the wobby-sobby
    0:24:09 of a human experience.
    0:24:12 And so I’ve really tried to demystify
    0:24:14 putting people on a pedestal
    0:24:17 and instead looking to people
    0:24:20 for examples of one aspect of a life.
    0:24:22 I mean, I will say like,
    0:24:24 I really look up to Rich and Sarah Barton.
    0:24:28 So Rich founded Expedia, Zillow, Crystal and I
    0:24:31 look up to them as a family, as parents,
    0:24:33 as business people and entrepreneurs.
    0:24:35 And they’re ahead of us on the kid games
    0:24:36 so their kids are in college
    0:24:38 and our kids are in middle school.
    0:24:41 And so I would say I kind of do look at them
    0:24:42 as the total package a bit.
    0:24:44 – What about them?
    0:24:47 I’ve spent some time with Rich, amazing human being.
    0:24:51 What about them specifically jumps out to you?
    0:24:53 Like what is it that you’d like to emulate
    0:24:54 or that you think is rare
    0:24:56 or that you’d like to model anything?
    0:24:58 – I think the biggest danger of raising kids
    0:25:01 with privileges is that they turn out to be assholes.
    0:25:01 – Yeah.
    0:25:04 – You press the fucking red, you know, mute button
    0:25:07 like the end of the Oscar speech anytime I say it.
    0:25:09 But Donald Trump is an example of what happens
    0:25:13 when someone is raised without anyone ever saying no to them.
    0:25:15 Okay, like no matter how you vote, we can agree.
    0:25:17 No one has ever said fucking no to that guy
    0:25:19 and that’s what you get.
    0:25:23 But the richer you get, the temptation is to raise your kids
    0:25:25 in a way that they’re surrounded by people who are like aye aye.
    0:25:29 You know, and increasingly Elon Musk is what you get
    0:25:30 when no one says no to you.
    0:25:33 And you’ve been exposed to lots of people
    0:25:35 who’ve been very successful.
    0:25:38 And once they see that you’re on that ride,
    0:25:40 it’s very easy to be surrounded only by sycophants
    0:25:43 who are there to say yes to every idea
    0:25:45 out of self and opportunistic interest.
    0:25:49 And so I think that happens when you’re raising kids
    0:25:52 who are lucky enough to not stay in Motel Sixes
    0:25:57 or ride in the seating group E on Southwest.
    0:26:02 And so I love the kids that Rich and Sarah have raised.
    0:26:06 How collegial, how balanced, how hardworking,
    0:26:08 while also unapologetically bright they are,
    0:26:10 how different they are from each other,
    0:26:12 but how driven they still are.
    0:26:14 I love Rich and Sarah as a couple.
    0:26:16 I think they balance working their faces off
    0:26:18 with also having a good time.
    0:26:22 And so, you know, I’ve had deeply introspective,
    0:26:25 reflective conversations about work with them.
    0:26:27 I mean, frankly, they were the ones who convinced me
    0:26:30 and Crystal to get back to work and start lower carbon
    0:26:33 when we were very pleasantly enjoying not working full time.
    0:26:35 And there are some days when we curse Rich and Sarah
    0:26:36 as a result.
    0:26:37 – How did they convince you to do that?
    0:26:40 What was the logic behind it?
    0:26:45 Or what did they see that led them to stage an intervention?
    0:26:48 – They just said, you are uniquely positioned to do it
    0:26:50 and you need to do it for the planet.
    0:26:53 And we were like begrudgingly, yes.
    0:26:54 I’m telling you, there are definitely days
    0:26:56 where Rich and Sarah Barton are a bad word in our house
    0:26:59 because I’m like, fuck, fuck Rich.
    0:27:01 Like he is probably fucking skiing right now
    0:27:03 and I’m dealing with some horseshit.
    0:27:05 Or I’ve been staring at Montana out the window
    0:27:08 and have not started from this fucking computer today.
    0:27:12 The Bartons actually wrote out their family creed,
    0:27:14 I guess I would say.
    0:27:17 I’m not gonna give any insight into what’s in there,
    0:27:21 but they wrote out like, what does it mean to be a Barton?
    0:27:26 And like that exercise alone is so powerful.
    0:27:30 And as Crystal and I started writing that for ourselves,
    0:27:32 wow, nobody ever really takes that time to like,
    0:27:34 what do we stand for?
    0:27:35 If we were gone tomorrow,
    0:27:37 what would we want our kids to take away
    0:27:40 from who we were, how we got here?
    0:27:42 You know, there’s this amazing data on how
    0:27:45 the children of people who are Rich,
    0:27:48 but when those parents grew up middle class or poor,
    0:27:50 those kids end up all right.
    0:27:52 But their children are fucked.
    0:27:56 No, I mean, there’s like actual sociological data on this.
    0:28:00 Like, because we can teach our kids about spending,
    0:28:02 about saving and thrift and hard work, et cetera,
    0:28:04 but they don’t have the empirical basis for it.
    0:28:06 It’s a learned lesson.
    0:28:07 – Yep.
    0:28:09 – So they have no real deep root in their DNA
    0:28:11 for passing it along.
    0:28:13 So we’ve tried to codify it a little bit.
    0:28:14 – What does that look like?
    0:28:16 How long is it?
    0:28:18 – Like 18 pages.
    0:28:19 – 18 pages?
    0:28:21 What kind of stuff did you try to cover?
    0:28:22 – Ultimately, the kids will be in there.
    0:28:24 The kids will be part of the conversation.
    0:28:29 Crystal spent six years writing biographies
    0:28:33 of my grandmother before she passed at age 94,
    0:28:35 and then her parents.
    0:28:36 Her parents are two of the most fascinating people
    0:28:38 who’ve ever walked the planet.
    0:28:41 I mean, I think it’s, we’ll just say that they spent
    0:28:43 over 40 years each in the service of the government
    0:28:46 and various roles known and unknown, et cetera, et cetera,
    0:28:47 et cetera.
    0:28:49 And the biographies were great.
    0:28:51 They cannot be published because they would have to go
    0:28:54 through certain agencies for stuff to be cleared.
    0:28:57 But incredible public servants,
    0:28:59 two of the most honorable people I’ve ever known
    0:29:01 I met them when I was 18 years old.
    0:29:03 You know, Crystal and I were besties starting at age 18.
    0:29:06 I asked her out and she friend-zoned me for 14 years.
    0:29:07 But my grandmother’s biography was interesting.
    0:29:10 My grandmother from the Midwest lived most of her life
    0:29:15 in Omaha, Nebraska and had this real quotidian wonder
    0:29:19 and beauty and treasure to her life.
    0:29:22 The mom of seven, a volunteer, she worked in prison.
    0:29:25 She was the leader of a national organization
    0:29:27 of Catholics, school teacher.
    0:29:29 But here’s this woman who’s a leader
    0:29:30 of a national organization of Catholics.
    0:29:32 And one of the things she put in her biography
    0:29:36 that Crystal did was I think it’s really important
    0:29:39 that men and women live together before they get married
    0:29:42 because I think divorce is a much bigger problem
    0:29:44 than premarital sex.
    0:29:47 I think she was 92 when she said that.
    0:29:50 As a leader of a Catholic organization,
    0:29:53 I really just think she did an incredible service.
    0:29:55 I loved hearing her prioritization like,
    0:29:57 hey, here’s what the creed says.
    0:29:59 Here’s what the doctrine says, et cetera.
    0:30:00 But here’s the reality.
    0:30:02 I would rather see a family to make sure
    0:30:05 that parents are compatible and a family stay together
    0:30:09 for their lifetimes than deal with the breakups, et cetera.
    0:30:10 Like it was really incredible.
    0:30:12 So we cover everything in there.
    0:30:13 How we would like to communicate.
    0:30:17 How Crystal and I think about making up after a fight.
    0:30:18 How we think about making decisions.
    0:30:20 We put stuff in there that’s almost therapeutic.
    0:30:23 Like, hey, when we first made a lot of money,
    0:30:26 we bought a bunch of houses for everyone in our family.
    0:30:28 We thought that was an incredible way to thank them
    0:30:30 and paid off mortgages and stuff
    0:30:34 and moved parents out from the East Coast to California.
    0:30:37 And then we soon realized, shit, we’re property managers.
    0:30:40 The shit we own owns us.
    0:30:42 Like, that’s all we fucking do.
    0:30:43 – I don’t know if we talked
    0:30:45 about this last conversation, probably not,
    0:30:48 but you texted me at some point and you were like,
    0:30:50 if a raccoon dies in the HVAC,
    0:30:51 is Eric Schmidt getting these texts?
    0:30:52 Like, what the fuck?
    0:30:53 – Right.
    0:30:59 Dude, Eric Schmidt’s team reached out yesterday
    0:31:01 to update like his email address.
    0:31:04 And I wrote back to them, hey, team,
    0:31:06 do you think we could do a check-in?
    0:31:08 Just, I’m just curious how the flow is working
    0:31:10 around Eric’s email, his calls, his travel.
    0:31:12 Like, I just kind of want to know.
    0:31:14 And they’re kind of like, what?
    0:31:16 And I’m like, yeah, no, I didn’t, like, Eric’s cool.
    0:31:18 Give him my best, but I kind of want to talk to you guys
    0:31:20 about like, what flows up to Eric?
    0:31:21 What doesn’t?
    0:31:23 Like, how does he handle this shit right now?
    0:31:25 I’m constantly interviewing people about that
    0:31:28 because there’s finite amount of time in this space
    0:31:30 and the shit you own does own you.
    0:31:32 You know, every single object at some point
    0:31:34 has commanded some of your attention.
    0:31:36 One of our close friends lost everything this week.
    0:31:39 Shit.
    0:31:41 It’s Kevin Rose, ’cause he’s talked about it out loud.
    0:31:44 But, you know, I said, it’s totally devastating,
    0:31:46 but if there was one person I know
    0:31:50 who will actually end up teaching us something from this,
    0:31:51 it’s Kevin.
    0:31:56 Kevin is this guy who loves stuff,
    0:31:58 but is also untethered to it.
    0:32:00 It’s this weird duality he has,
    0:32:02 where he is then as fuck,
    0:32:05 while also loving a good pair of sneakers.
    0:32:08 And a great, like, dude, check out this fucking watch.
    0:32:11 His watch is melted into a puddle.
    0:32:13 And he’s like, whoops.
    0:32:15 And Kevin was like, you know what I miss?
    0:32:17 I miss the drawings from my kids
    0:32:19 and I miss the box my dad made me.
    0:32:23 And I’m really hoping I can learn from him, you know?
    0:32:27 It’s cataclysmic and I’m not trying to diminish it at all.
    0:32:28 And, like, folks in Palisades,
    0:32:31 most of them can take care of the next steps.
    0:32:33 Folks in Alta Dina, I’m way more worried about.
    0:32:38 But I have realized, like, shit gets complicated really fast.
    0:32:39 You think you want all this shit.
    0:32:41 And so I spend most of my time
    0:32:44 trying to get rid of it or downsize it.
    0:32:47 Speaking of, Tim, I could have bought an ad slot,
    0:32:49 but there is an incredible ranch for sale
    0:32:51 in Jackson, Wyoming right now in Wilson.
    0:32:55 Two contiguous lots, a main house on some lakes,
    0:32:56 a ranch house, you’ll find it.
    0:32:59 It’s just south of Wilson off of Fall Creek Road.
    0:33:02 Hey, hey, take a look, everybody.
    0:33:06 You got your crypto gains with a Z that you need to shelter.
    0:33:09 You know, there’s no state tax, no state tax in Wyoming.
    0:33:11 The skiing’s great, abundant wildlife.
    0:33:13 I’m just saying, I’m just saying.
    0:33:16 – People think that Chris is joking about an ad slot,
    0:33:19 but you actually did text me to ask me
    0:33:21 how much it would cost.
    0:33:24 – I didn’t realize you were going to invite me on the pod
    0:33:26 later, but I was very close to buying an ad.
    0:33:29 I’m like, okay, who is actually doing well in this market
    0:33:31 and it has some gains to shelter.
    0:33:32 It’s the crypto investors, bro.
    0:33:34 That shit is up.
    0:33:37 And so you want to take a little money off the table.
    0:33:39 I’m just saying those California taxes.
    0:33:44 – Dude, so coming back to Kevin for a sec.
    0:33:49 I mean, he is remarkable in so many respects.
    0:33:50 They’ve known him forever.
    0:33:53 And one is, I do think Kevin does a great job
    0:33:55 of working hard, playing hard,
    0:33:58 but that’s not really a dignified enough way to put it.
    0:34:02 Like he savers life, he enjoys the stuff,
    0:34:05 but he’s very unattached to it.
    0:34:09 And I can’t say that for a lot of people
    0:34:11 sort of in our circles.
    0:34:14 I’m not sure I could say that for the vast majority.
    0:34:16 Like they do get attached.
    0:34:19 So I’m curious for you, last time we spoke,
    0:34:22 you just appeared as a cover story
    0:34:24 for the Midas issue of Forbes.
    0:34:26 And you’ve done a lot since.
    0:34:29 What has become more and less important?
    0:34:31 And I suppose a better way of asking that is,
    0:34:33 what have you simplified?
    0:34:35 What are ways that you have tried to simplify?
    0:34:37 – Do you remember that line in the jerk
    0:34:40 and Steve Martin’s the jerk where he’s walking
    0:34:43 out of the house, you know, he’s losing his money
    0:34:44 and he’s been rich and he’s like,
    0:34:49 I don’t need any of this except this ashtray.
    0:34:50 And he just starts picking up stuff
    0:34:52 until his arms are bundled as he’s walking out of his house.
    0:34:54 He’s like, I don’t need any of this at all.
    0:34:57 Like I think that’s the perfectly opposite
    0:34:58 of Kevin Rose where you’re just like,
    0:35:01 I don’t need any of these trappings of wealth
    0:35:02 except this car.
    0:35:05 And this watch is really nice.
    0:35:09 And God damn, those shoes were like limited release.
    0:35:10 Sorry, so I missed the question
    0:35:12 ’cause I was trying to think of Steve Martin.
    0:35:16 – So since we last spoke, 2015,
    0:35:18 you were sort of still, I mean,
    0:35:20 not to say you aren’t anymore,
    0:35:24 but certainly in a steep ascent at that point,
    0:35:26 doing a lot of stuff, meeting a lot of people,
    0:35:29 getting the toys.
    0:35:32 And I’m just wondering how you have thought
    0:35:35 about simplifying or have simplified.
    0:35:37 – I’ve never did the toys thing.
    0:35:39 – I mean, you like real estate.
    0:35:41 – I was just gonna say Zillow is my not safe for work
    0:35:44 situation when that certain life came out.
    0:35:46 I was like looking over my shoulder,
    0:35:48 like which writer has been watching me?
    0:35:51 I probably put more product suggestions
    0:35:52 and feedback into Zillow
    0:35:54 ’cause Rich is one of my close friends
    0:35:56 than anyone who doesn’t work there.
    0:35:58 I noticed things about that app that no one else there does.
    0:36:00 I spend way too much time.
    0:36:02 By the way, I think it’s a weird missed opportunity
    0:36:04 that Zillow doesn’t have a social network attached to it.
    0:36:07 And so I think there should be a comment section.
    0:36:09 I think you should be able to build playlists
    0:36:10 of Zillow houses.
    0:36:11 It’s a missed opportunity.
    0:36:12 I’m just throwing it out there.
    0:36:13 Just saying.
    0:36:15 Wouldn’t it be cool to have a playlist of houses
    0:36:17 like generated by the community?
    0:36:17 And so…
    0:36:18 – I don’t even know what that means.
    0:36:19 What does that mean?
    0:36:21 It’s just like real estate porn
    0:36:23 that flashes for you in front of you.
    0:36:25 – So there are blogs that do this
    0:36:26 that like keep track of the cool houses.
    0:36:29 I love, is it Zillow gone wild?
    0:36:30 That Twitter account is amazing.
    0:36:33 That finds the craziest shit happening on Zillow.
    0:36:34 But I think like it’d be cool to just be like,
    0:36:37 look 10 places I would love to live someday
    0:36:39 or 15 best places where you could shoot a scene
    0:36:42 in a 1970s adult film.
    0:36:43 (laughing)
    0:36:45 – Makes me think that you’ve thought about this.
    0:36:48 – Favorite locations from the Big Lebowski
    0:36:51 or best examples of mid-century modern architecture
    0:36:52 or something like that.
    0:36:53 And so…
    0:36:54 – Yeah, okay.
    0:36:55 I got it.
    0:36:56 – I think there’s a missed opportunity
    0:36:58 for influencers to build stuff, feature it.
    0:37:00 – Simplification.
    0:37:02 – But real estate is my soft spot.
    0:37:03 Yeah.
    0:37:06 Part of it is I’m a recluse and I think you know that.
    0:37:09 Amy Schumer once wrote an essay
    0:37:10 since the last time we spoke.
    0:37:12 It was about being an introvert
    0:37:14 who makes a living on stage.
    0:37:18 And I lit up and was like, I feel seen.
    0:37:19 You know me, Tim.
    0:37:22 My ideal social situation is Danish sized.
    0:37:26 Like four, six feels huge.
    0:37:30 I love getting four great buddies together for a weekend
    0:37:33 and interacting with no other human beings.
    0:37:36 And so I like space.
    0:37:39 So I like to live in places that are out of the mix
    0:37:42 where I can be very specific
    0:37:44 and opt into my social interactions
    0:37:46 ’cause they drain me.
    0:37:48 What happens is I don’t like being in big groups
    0:37:49 or allowing lots of people.
    0:37:51 So I get there and I overcompensate
    0:37:54 by being loud and boisterous and amazing
    0:37:55 and like larger than life.
    0:37:56 But really what I’m doing,
    0:37:59 it’s like cranking your iPhone screen up to 100%.
    0:38:01 I’m just raining my battery
    0:38:03 and I need that time to recover.
    0:38:08 So I’ve loved creating spaces for myself to be alone.
    0:38:11 And so I think that’s an absolute vice.
    0:38:13 – And then have you divested yourself
    0:38:16 of things, relationships,
    0:38:17 things you used to prize heavily
    0:38:19 that you no longer value heavily?
    0:38:21 – Tim, have you heard of Jackson Hole, Wyoming?
    0:38:25 Because there’s a ranch for sale just south of the city.
    0:38:28 That would fit that theme.
    0:38:29 There’s abundant wildlife.
    0:38:32 There’s moose and elk and you can see bears.
    0:38:33 It’s really incredible.
    0:38:36 Fishing, it’s on the Orvis’s first
    0:38:37 blue ribbon certified fishing property.
    0:38:40 I’m just saying, yes, the first thing we sold
    0:38:42 was hard to sell.
    0:38:44 People still think about us living in Truckee,
    0:38:47 but we haven’t been in Truckee since 2011.
    0:38:49 That was the first thing Crystal and I bought together
    0:38:52 and to let go of that was weird and disorienting.
    0:38:56 But since then, yeah, I’ve gotten pretty good at selling
    0:38:58 and letting go and realizing.
    0:39:01 And more importantly, not buying.
    0:39:04 – Yeah, it’s like having premarital abode
    0:39:06 before the messy divorce.
    0:39:07 – Yeah, exactly.
    0:39:09 That’s a really good way of putting it.
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    0:40:19 – You always ask people their favorite books, et cetera.
    0:40:22 Like one is Morgan’s The Psychology of Money.
    0:40:24 – Oh, Morgan Housel, yeah, great book.
    0:40:26 – That echoes a lot of refrains,
    0:40:29 but a lot of that like the millionaire next door,
    0:40:31 that kind of stuff, like all of them are just like,
    0:40:31 look, the way you get rich
    0:40:34 is by not spending it in the first place.
    0:40:36 And so what Crystal and I have started to realize
    0:40:38 is it’s not the check you write,
    0:40:40 it’s the fucking time you spend.
    0:40:45 We were just about to build a house and we realized,
    0:40:50 oh God, do you know how many decisions that is?
    0:40:53 And it turns out, if you ask me about something,
    0:40:55 I am gonna have an opinion.
    0:40:56 – Shocker.
    0:40:59 – If you just make it, if you just make it,
    0:41:00 I wouldn’t have noticed,
    0:41:03 but like when we renovated a house in LA,
    0:41:04 they’re like, hey, how do you want this wood
    0:41:06 to meet that wood to meet that wood?
    0:41:08 You assholes, I never would have seen it,
    0:41:11 but now that I’ve seen it, I’m gonna sketch it for you.
    0:41:13 And so we’re gonna, there’s gonna be an eighth inch
    0:41:15 of tolerance, we’re gonna have a hold back.
    0:41:17 And there’s, it’s gonna, and like,
    0:41:18 now I’m tortured by those details.
    0:41:20 And Crystal is even more of a detail in design
    0:41:23 and, you know, and flow person than I am.
    0:41:25 But what we start to realize is like,
    0:41:28 those projects that we buy and build,
    0:41:29 they’re jobs.
    0:41:32 And so I think that number one area
    0:41:36 where we try to lighten stuff up
    0:41:38 is let’s not take that project on in the first place.
    0:41:40 You know, we bought a piece of land,
    0:41:44 recently an incredible setting we’ve always had on the list.
    0:41:48 We finally found the place, we started sketch it out,
    0:41:49 we were working with the right architects.
    0:41:53 Our nephew, Mike is an architect at the Arca Angles Group,
    0:41:55 one of the greats, and he was helping us out
    0:41:58 and really, really loved it.
    0:42:00 And then we took a step back and we’re like,
    0:42:02 this is gonna be a job for the next couple of years.
    0:42:04 Or can we just Airbnb it?
    0:42:07 And literally as part of that, I wrote to our travel agent,
    0:42:11 can you show me 15 places within the same realm as this
    0:42:14 that we could rent and just show up with our bags,
    0:42:17 have a great week and then fucking leave
    0:42:18 and never think about it.
    0:42:20 I was like, if you do this, you’re about to save me
    0:42:23 two years of my life and many, many dollars.
    0:42:25 And it worked, I was like thrilled.
    0:42:26 – So many questions.
    0:42:29 So let’s just say, no super fancy cars that I’m aware of,
    0:42:33 you might have some UTVs, but you have plenty of beavers
    0:42:35 to keep you company last time I checked,
    0:42:37 although that might be a past hobby.
    0:42:40 And then the real estate question for you,
    0:42:43 so if all of that vanished, right, it burned down
    0:42:45 or otherwise was just removed,
    0:42:47 how much of that would you repurchase?
    0:42:52 – Can I just say our now nine year old when she was eight,
    0:42:56 she’s our hippie kid who’s like always on mushrooms.
    0:42:57 – Not literally, but-
    0:42:58 – No, not literally, sorry.
    0:43:00 We don’t feed our kids mushrooms yet,
    0:43:03 but no, she’s just our kid who we just end up writing down
    0:43:05 so many of the things that come out of her mouth.
    0:43:07 She’s just untethered by reality.
    0:43:10 She’s the one who, when we moved to Jackson,
    0:43:12 we signed up for this Teton Science School.
    0:43:15 It was like a expeditionary learning academy
    0:43:17 and we toured the school.
    0:43:19 And then after a couple of weeks there,
    0:43:21 we checked on the other girls,
    0:43:22 they were doing like traditional school
    0:43:24 and tiny classes with some outdoor learning.
    0:43:27 But we went to center skies preschool,
    0:43:29 kindergarten situation, and we were like,
    0:43:32 hey, to the teacher, when you guys start doing like,
    0:43:34 I don’t know, the math or the writing,
    0:43:36 and she’s like, oh, there’ll be no math here.
    0:43:37 We’re like, what?
    0:43:39 And she’s like, this is a forest preschool
    0:43:41 other than when the kids come in and write their names,
    0:43:43 that’s it, the rest is just play-based.
    0:43:45 And we’re like, wait, what?
    0:43:46 And so we ended up watching some videos
    0:43:48 on these Swedish forest schools and we’re like,
    0:43:50 I mean, what do we got to lose, right?
    0:43:55 It turns out that kid is so exceptionally resilient
    0:43:58 and capable of being bored.
    0:43:59 None of the three kids get bored,
    0:44:02 but I go for a hike every day and she’ll say,
    0:44:05 when she was like four, she said to me,
    0:44:06 yeah, can I come with you?
    0:44:09 And I’m like, it’s dark and it’s starting to hail.
    0:44:12 And she’s like, dad, that’s just ice falling from the sky.
    0:44:15 And I was like, all right, suit up.
    0:44:17 And we spent two hours with numb fingers,
    0:44:19 throwing shit in the river and digging in the mud
    0:44:21 and having a blast, you know,
    0:44:23 and she’s an academic superstar.
    0:44:24 Like it didn’t hold her back at all,
    0:44:26 but I really love that skill set.
    0:44:29 Anyway, it’s a long way of saying she once said
    0:44:33 to Crystal and I last year, she said, mom, dad,
    0:44:35 someday or if we’re lucky,
    0:44:37 maybe we can live in a smaller house.
    0:44:39 (laughs)
    0:44:45 I mean, we were wrecked.
    0:44:51 Like we were just, if I could answer your question,
    0:44:54 anyway, it’s that, you know?
    0:44:56 Like we live in a house now that has a lot of perks
    0:45:00 and features and maybe there we could do without them.
    0:45:03 – Sharks with lasers, downsize.
    0:45:04 – Dude, you’ve got a new project.
    0:45:05 – Yeah.
    0:45:07 – It’s about no, but what was the actual title?
    0:45:09 The working title, working title is-
    0:45:11 – Yeah, the working title is the book of no.
    0:45:12 – Okay.
    0:45:13 – And I’m excited about that.
    0:45:15 – I say no for a living.
    0:45:16 And I think one of the challenges is like,
    0:45:18 how to stay an optimistic, open-minded person
    0:45:19 when you say no all day.
    0:45:20 – Yeah, what’s your take on that?
    0:45:22 Because a popular position would be,
    0:45:25 you have to say yes to everything when you’re building
    0:45:27 and then you have to learn to say no.
    0:45:31 I don’t know if I totally subscribe to that.
    0:45:33 At least I’ve done a lot of writing on this.
    0:45:38 And I think that if you look at a lot of examples
    0:45:41 of mega successful people and there’s a survivorship bias
    0:45:44 who the fuck knows what’s actually causal in some level.
    0:45:48 But a lot of them get good at focusing early
    0:45:51 and by virtue of definition focus means saying no
    0:45:54 to a lot of things outside of that focus.
    0:45:56 What’s your take?
    0:45:58 – First of all, and investing in anything,
    0:46:02 I think one of the big traps is being too thematic,
    0:46:05 like having a thesis ahead of time.
    0:46:08 I’ve watched people write like the canonical blog post
    0:46:09 on the shared economy.
    0:46:12 Then people come pitch them shared economy deals,
    0:46:15 which makes their blog post feel writer and writer
    0:46:18 and that confirmation bias causes them to light money on fire.
    0:46:20 And then their fund goes away and they’re like,
    0:46:21 but my blog post was awesome.
    0:46:25 And so I have this big rule at lower carbon
    0:46:29 about never actually having a thesis written in stone.
    0:46:32 We are very big on electrification of the economy.
    0:46:35 Lithium, we have a way of extracting lithium
    0:46:37 that’s 10,000 times faster.
    0:46:38 – So Chris, let’s pause for a second.
    0:46:42 So we have not explained, because it didn’t exist at the time,
    0:46:45 what lower carbon capital is.
    0:46:46 – Okay, let me go back to just saying no then,
    0:46:49 ’cause it’s important, ’cause you’re writing a book about it.
    0:46:54 So my point is, is if I have too many rules about saying no,
    0:46:56 then I’m gonna say it to the wrong shit.
    0:46:58 I’m gonna turn down the wrong stuff.
    0:47:01 I’m gonna have too much predisposition.
    0:47:03 So what I have to know ahead of time,
    0:47:05 the work I have to do ahead of time
    0:47:08 is to know, as we were just talking about with the houses,
    0:47:10 what’s the actual cost?
    0:47:12 What’s the actual downside risk?
    0:47:17 So what is the actual cost to saying yes to this?
    0:47:20 So if the cost of saying yes is,
    0:47:22 I end up at a three hour dinner party that’s boring,
    0:47:24 that’s actually pretty low cost.
    0:47:27 I prefer not to blow three hours,
    0:47:29 like hanging out with some lame people.
    0:47:35 But I would prefer not to blow a night, you know?
    0:47:38 But on the other hand, that’s pretty low cost.
    0:47:42 Whereas saying yes to a meeting that I have to fly to,
    0:47:44 well, that’s a whole fucking disruption to my world.
    0:47:47 I am not gonna see my kids or my wife,
    0:47:49 and I gotta fucking pack some stuff
    0:47:52 and transport all that shit, you know?
    0:47:54 I mean, Paul Graham a long time ago
    0:47:56 used to talk about the true cost of a cup of coffee.
    0:47:58 You know, like what does it actually take
    0:47:59 to stop your day and go meet somebody
    0:48:01 and let them pick your brain and all that bullshit?
    0:48:05 So I just talked about the real cost of building something.
    0:48:07 Everyone thinks about the cost of building a house
    0:48:09 is the amount of money you put into it.
    0:48:10 That’s real.
    0:48:12 At the same time, it’s the amount of time
    0:48:16 and crazy bullshit and like shit breaks all the time
    0:48:17 that you put into it.
    0:48:19 So I think for me, it’s doing the work ahead of time
    0:48:21 to understand what are my actual priorities,
    0:48:23 what really matters to me,
    0:48:24 and what’s the true cost of those things.
    0:48:28 So when you come to me with a proposal and invitation,
    0:48:32 I can assess like, am I gonna just risk 50 grand here?
    0:48:33 And like, that’s my total downside.
    0:48:35 Okay, what’s 50 grand worth to me?
    0:48:36 What can I?
    0:48:38 Oh, God, I was almost quoting Jay-Z right there.
    0:48:40 Can you please remind me?
    0:48:42 Whereas if what you’re talking to me is like,
    0:48:44 “Hey, Chris, I wanna start a project.
    0:48:46 I want you to join my board,” et cetera.
    0:48:48 I’m like, “Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
    0:48:50 What’s the real cost of that?”
    0:48:51 You know, it’s easy to say yes to that,
    0:48:53 but what’s the real cost?
    0:48:55 And then I think the second part
    0:48:56 is just getting comfortable with the fact
    0:48:58 that this is gonna be uncomfortable for a minute,
    0:49:01 but I’m just gonna say, “No, bro, I appreciate you.
    0:49:03 How do I let you know that you’re my homie
    0:49:05 and I deeply appreciate and respect you
    0:49:07 and flattered by the invitation,
    0:49:08 but we’re not going down that path.”
    0:49:10 And that can be really tough.
    0:49:12 You know, I think everyone can attach themselves
    0:49:13 to the dramatic narrative of,
    0:49:15 “God, my thing would be awesome,
    0:49:17 even more awesome if Tim Tim were on it.
    0:49:18 You know, if Tim Ferriss is attached,
    0:49:20 God damn, I’m going places.”
    0:49:22 But they’re not you.
    0:49:24 They don’t know what your scorecard is.
    0:49:27 They don’t know what your actual to-do list says.
    0:49:28 We’ve said many, many times,
    0:49:29 and I wasn’t the first person to say it,
    0:49:31 but your inbox is a to-do list
    0:49:33 to which anyone else can add an action item.
    0:49:36 So you’re the only one who sees your to-do list.
    0:49:38 I love all these questions where you ask people,
    0:49:39 like, “What’s your daily routine?”
    0:49:41 And then every single time, I’m like,
    0:49:42 “That is someone who doesn’t have anyone
    0:49:44 in their house attending elementary school.”
    0:49:48 – Yeah, there’s truth to that, yeah, for sure.
    0:49:50 – Last night, we had a kid with an ear infection
    0:49:51 sleeping in our bed.
    0:49:53 Two nights ago, I had a kid puking out the side of the car
    0:49:55 as we drove home from the bill’s game
    0:49:58 ’cause I had stuffed her full of pizza and other bullshit.
    0:49:59 I love these people.
    0:50:01 Like, “This is when I peacefully do this shit.”
    0:50:04 And I’m like, “Oh, this is when I fucking wipe asses.”
    0:50:05 I love all those.
    0:50:07 I know somebody writes out their intentions
    0:50:09 and then hand stitches them together
    0:50:10 at the beginning of the day.
    0:50:12 (laughing)
    0:50:13 God bless, God bless.
    0:50:15 I’m not mocking, I’m just saying.
    0:50:17 I think the know is feeling comfortable.
    0:50:19 And by the way, as we grow up,
    0:50:23 I mean, one of the things Chris and I find with employees
    0:50:28 is I think younger managers are too slow to fire employees.
    0:50:31 Employees who cost too much.
    0:50:34 It’s never the financial cost.
    0:50:36 It’s literally like when we make a decision on somebody,
    0:50:39 it’s not like what their salary is
    0:50:40 or what their benefits cost is.
    0:50:43 It’s just, are they creating more work
    0:50:45 than they’re eating, than they’re consuming?
    0:50:48 Are they creating more administrative overhead?
    0:50:49 Somebody else once said,
    0:50:53 “If we have to talk about an employee three times in bed,
    0:50:56 it was a local entrepreneur I met here in Bozeman,
    0:50:59 a guy who’s pickleball court doubles as a gun range.”
    0:51:00 (laughing)
    0:51:03 And so just amazing, amazing dude.
    0:51:05 And he said, he and his wife were small businesses,
    0:51:07 people retired now, but they said they had a rule.
    0:51:10 If they had to talk about someone they worked with three
    0:51:12 times in bed while falling asleep at night,
    0:51:14 they were gone from that org.
    0:51:17 That was the true cost of that person.
    0:51:20 And so I think younger people are sometimes afraid
    0:51:21 to have those uncomfortable moments.
    0:51:22 It’s easier to live with the status quo
    0:51:25 than to just be like, “Sorry, it’s not happening.
    0:51:27 We gotta go,” because they’re afraid of the loss,
    0:51:31 but the real loss is all that fucking time along the way.
    0:51:33 So, all right, that’s my diatribe on nose.
    0:51:34 – Well, hold on a sec.
    0:51:36 So now the three hour dinner,
    0:51:39 I imagine you get dozens of these invitations.
    0:51:41 So you wouldn’t be able to say,
    0:51:43 I imagine yes to all of them.
    0:51:47 So how do you choose not the big things to say yes to?
    0:51:48 We could talk about that too,
    0:51:52 but the inbound that you say yes to
    0:51:54 that are along the lines of the three hour dinner.
    0:51:56 ‘Cause you still have finite time, finite dinners.
    0:51:58 And if you do a dinner with a group of 10 people,
    0:52:01 that’s also a way from your family, presumably, right?
    0:52:02 – I’ll tell you, I’m the asshole who’s like,
    0:52:05 I would infinitely rather host and control the situation.
    0:52:07 You’ve been to our events.
    0:52:08 There’s no automatic plus ones,
    0:52:11 unless the other person is independently awesome.
    0:52:12 That’s a real thing.
    0:52:14 We have deeply offended people.
    0:52:16 Even at our wedding, we’re like, “Sorry, no.
    0:52:17 Never met your wife.
    0:52:20 I bet you she’s great, but I need to know.”
    0:52:22 No, this is gonna sound ruthless as fuck.
    0:52:23 And somebody in the comments would be like,
    0:52:27 “This guy’s a fucking sociopath, but here’s the thing.
    0:52:29 I don’t wanna have to have a seating chart.
    0:52:32 I wanna know that whoever’s here can sit next to anyone else
    0:52:34 and be enthralled by how interesting that person is,
    0:52:36 no matter what they do for a living.”
    0:52:38 And so you’ve been to our events
    0:52:41 before where we gather 30 incredible people
    0:52:43 for a weekend or we host a party.
    0:52:45 And I just know whoever you are talking to
    0:52:48 is independently great in whatever field.
    0:52:51 I’ve seen many of them end up as guests on your podcast.
    0:52:54 I love when people end up on each other’s boards
    0:52:58 or do a collaborative art project together or performance
    0:53:00 because that’s what I’m vouching for.
    0:53:01 If I’m gathering people,
    0:53:04 I’m vouching for every single person there is being awesome.
    0:53:08 And so I don’t know if everyone else has that standard.
    0:53:11 And if I’m getting up in front of an audience,
    0:53:14 I wanna make sure that hopefully I’m delivering
    0:53:16 the aggregate value of all the time people
    0:53:18 just took out of their day to be there.
    0:53:20 I don’t get nervous about giving speeches,
    0:53:22 but I feel like I wanna bring my A game.
    0:53:24 So I was saying, I felt the pressure of like,
    0:53:26 “Oh my God, what if some fucking kid
    0:53:28 is home taking notes about this episode?
    0:53:29 What are they gonna actually write down?
    0:53:31 Oh my God, I need pithier quotes.”
    0:53:33 But the reality is I wanna make sure
    0:53:35 I’m delivering something of value.
    0:53:37 And I don’t know if everyone else lives by that standard.
    0:53:42 And I do like to live like I’m running out of time, you know?
    0:53:43 – We’re all running out of time.
    0:53:45 – My best friend, Teddy Ryingold, who you knew well,
    0:53:49 he died at 46, one of the all time great people.
    0:53:50 – Yeah.
    0:53:51 – I feel like I’ve gotten three years of bonus time
    0:53:53 past him, you know?
    0:53:55 And I don’t take it for granted.
    0:53:57 I mean, I get all the scans
    0:54:00 and I did treat my body like a rental car for many years,
    0:54:04 but at the same time, you asked me like,
    0:54:06 “What’s changed since I was 30 or 40?”
    0:54:09 Like I am way less patient.
    0:54:11 It’s harder to work for me as a result.
    0:54:13 – And for people who don’t know Chris well,
    0:54:17 you didn’t really start off that patient to begin with.
    0:54:20 – No, like it’s funny, like we had this thing
    0:54:23 at work recently where I wanted to promote somebody.
    0:54:26 We hired somebody junior who we could just realize
    0:54:29 very soon was like a five X employee,
    0:54:31 somewhere between five and 10 X.
    0:54:33 You know those kinds of people where you’re like wait,
    0:54:35 they’re just different.
    0:54:38 And so Chris and I are like, we should promote her.
    0:54:40 And our partner was like, okay, well her review is coming up
    0:54:42 and Chris and I are like, no, no, no, no, no,
    0:54:44 we should promote her by Friday.
    0:54:46 And we’re like, well, there’s, and I was like,
    0:54:48 do you want to tell her or are we going to tell her today?
    0:54:51 You know, and it’s just like, why would we wait?
    0:54:52 She’s fucking amazing.
    0:54:54 She knows it.
    0:54:56 It’s so weird that it would just hang in the ether
    0:54:57 and an email account somewhere in the meantime
    0:55:00 that we haven’t told her she’s that fucking great
    0:55:03 and that we give her a new title and get her fucking going.
    0:55:04 But she’s just that great.
    0:55:06 I just have no fucking time for that.
    0:55:09 Like that idea I told you about over the weekend
    0:55:11 where we were talking to our team and I was like,
    0:55:12 okay, I appreciate all your input,
    0:55:14 but we’re fucking doing it.
    0:55:16 And they’re like, okay, Q one, Q two.
    0:55:21 And I’m like, no, Q Friday, it’s just write it up.
    0:55:23 What are we talking about here?
    0:55:26 And so I’m just like, we are men of action.
    0:55:27 You know, lies do not become us,
    0:55:31 but like I’m just like, I have no fucking time for that.
    0:55:33 And so I worry, I worry it’s way too easy
    0:55:35 to let the stuff slip away.
    0:55:38 – Is that a pending tangible sense of mortality
    0:55:40 or is there something else to it?
    0:55:43 Or is it just getting old and cantankerous?
    0:55:45 – Tim, does any of the shit you built?
    0:55:47 I mean, you built it yourself, literally.
    0:55:49 I would say the same for me, right?
    0:55:52 And so no one’s ever gonna call me an entrepreneur though,
    0:55:54 but I built all this from scratch, right?
    0:55:55 With crystal.
    0:55:58 But like, if I don’t do it, it doesn’t fucking happen.
    0:56:01 If I don’t move it, it doesn’t fucking happen.
    0:56:03 I tried resting for a little bit.
    0:56:05 I was horrible at it.
    0:56:10 And so I regret being 70 hours a week employed again.
    0:56:11 This sucks.
    0:56:15 But at the same time, like I was awful at not doing much.
    0:56:17 If I don’t move it, and if I have a business idea,
    0:56:19 I gotta do it before anyone else fucking picks up on it
    0:56:21 before the fast followers come.
    0:56:22 I wanna just be out there
    0:56:24 with whatever my anomalous advantage is.
    0:56:26 I wanna go press that.
    0:56:27 You remember when I was trying to convince people
    0:56:29 that Twitter was a real business for years,
    0:56:30 and then I finally was like, all right,
    0:56:31 I’m no longer here to convince you,
    0:56:33 just sell me your fucking stock.
    0:56:37 I just wasted so much time not buying it all,
    0:56:39 and then eventually bought it all.
    0:56:42 But I don’t wanna convince people to do something.
    0:56:43 I wanna go own it all first,
    0:56:45 and then convince them to buy it from me.
    0:56:49 So we have the world’s only dedicated nuclear fusion fund.
    0:56:53 And so we had been dabbling in fusion investment for a while.
    0:56:54 People poo-pooed it.
    0:56:55 – Do you wanna take a second
    0:56:57 to explain what lower carbon capital is?
    0:56:59 And then I’m gonna come back to that kid taking notes
    0:57:00 ’cause I have a question for that kid.
    0:57:03 But do you wanna just give a quick backgrounder?
    0:57:05 – Oh, by the way, I got yelled at
    0:57:07 for calling people in their 20s kids.
    0:57:08 – What?
    0:57:10 They should be so flattered.
    0:57:12 – And my 360 review on my org,
    0:57:15 we had a kid who started harassing me in my inbox
    0:57:17 when he was like 19 from college.
    0:57:19 We hired him directly out of graduation.
    0:57:22 His name was Harsh Dooby, amazing name.
    0:57:25 Harsh Dooby is one of the hardest working,
    0:57:28 most insightful young people I’ve ever fucking worked with.
    0:57:29 He worked with us for a couple of years,
    0:57:31 and then he went and joined one of our portfolio companies.
    0:57:33 As you know, the guy is a legend.
    0:57:36 He is welcome back to lower carbon any day.
    0:57:37 We’ll explain lower carbon in a second.
    0:57:40 But I once referred to Harsh Dooby on a podcast as a kid.
    0:57:41 I was like, we had this kid, he came,
    0:57:43 he was sending me all these ideas,
    0:57:45 we hired him, God, he executes, he’s amazing.
    0:57:48 And then later, an employee, not Harsh Dooby,
    0:57:49 but another employee was like,
    0:57:52 hey, you can’t refer to people in their 20s as kids.
    0:57:54 And I’m like, God, fucking damn it.
    0:57:55 I can’t do anything, right?
    0:57:57 By the way, that was in the same six months
    0:57:59 that I was accused of promoting hustle culture.
    0:58:03 And Crystal and I are like, wait, what’s hustle culture?
    0:58:04 Like, I really felt I’d fucked up.
    0:58:07 And they’re like, you know, this whole thing about like,
    0:58:08 you know, the work never sleeps
    0:58:11 and sometimes shit blows up on a Sunday.
    0:58:12 And so you got to get your laptop out,
    0:58:14 no matter where you are.
    0:58:15 And like, you know, if you’re going to be a partner
    0:58:17 or an entrepreneur or you got to just feel like
    0:58:19 you’re an owner too and be available for them,
    0:58:21 no matter what else is going on.
    0:58:25 And we’re like, yeah, and like, yeah, and we’re like,
    0:58:27 and wait, where’s the accusation part?
    0:58:28 Oh, that was it?
    0:58:29 Oh, fuck you.
    0:58:31 Yes, that’s exactly what we do.
    0:58:33 That’s exactly, this is hustle culture.
    0:58:34 What the fuck?
    0:58:38 Like I don’t have successories posters on the wall.
    0:58:40 But just hang in there.
    0:58:44 But at the same time for fuck’s sake, you know,
    0:58:47 and we haven’t asked anyone, Crystal slept under her desk,
    0:58:48 literally slept under her desk,
    0:58:49 missed every wedding for 10 years.
    0:58:51 I haven’t asked that of anyone.
    0:58:55 I had no fucking life outside of Spadera and Google.
    0:58:56 I can see the direct correlation
    0:58:58 between the entrepreneurial risk we took
    0:59:00 and the hours we put in and what we got.
    0:59:02 I don’t think there’s a way to shortcut that.
    0:59:05 I don’t think you have to like work yourself
    0:59:08 to a state of unhealthiness anymore,
    0:59:11 but I also think you can’t fucking phone this in.
    0:59:13 And I’m sick of apologizing for it.
    0:59:14 – All right, no more apologies.
    0:59:15 You got to stop your apologizing.
    0:59:18 And we’re going to come back to the fusion fund
    0:59:21 and lower carbon, but for the kid who’s taken notes,
    0:59:23 I would be very curious to know
    0:59:25 because those who may not be familiar–
    0:59:26 – Wait, wait, wait, is this–
    0:59:27 – Hold on, hold on, hold on.
    0:59:29 – No, this is a good place to insert the commercial break
    0:59:32 for like the self-help therapy app or whatever.
    0:59:33 Like after Chris goes on a rant
    0:59:36 about how you have to work yourself to the fucking bone
    0:59:38 until you’re only teetering on the edge
    0:59:39 of a nervous breakdown. – Meditation app.
    0:59:41 Throw in a sponsorship ad for the day.
    0:59:42 – Hi, this is Tim, taking a quick break
    0:59:45 to let you know that you got to take care of your mental health.
    0:59:47 – Yes. (laughs)
    0:59:51 – All right, so the question for the kid
    0:59:53 who may be listening to you for the first time,
    0:59:55 he’s like, wow, that guy has a lot of energy
    0:59:56 and sounds very impatient.
    0:59:57 I can’t wait to work for him.
    0:59:59 But also, he’s like, well,
    1:00:01 he also did college math when he was seven
    1:00:05 and was trading live hogs when he was a fetus and fuck.
    1:00:07 Like I can’t emulate this guy.
    1:00:10 If you were to teach a seminar,
    1:00:13 could be college, high school, doesn’t really matter.
    1:00:16 Just like entrepreneurship, what could you teach?
    1:00:19 What would you teach that is not dependent
    1:00:22 on the hard wiring of a soccer specimen?
    1:00:25 – I told you what I’m working on next.
    1:00:28 And I hate that I don’t have like a URL
    1:00:29 or deliverable to announce
    1:00:32 ’cause this podcast came up really quickly.
    1:00:36 But I feel like there is a massive cultural hole.
    1:00:39 My working title has been no permanent record.
    1:00:41 So Tim, you and I are of the same generation
    1:00:44 where our teachers, our parents would be like,
    1:00:46 that’s gonna go on your permanent record.
    1:00:48 Like you fuck up, that’s gonna go on your permanent record.
    1:00:50 Tim, I was 19 years old
    1:00:52 before I realized that document didn’t exist.
    1:00:55 I swear, I thought something had followed me
    1:00:57 from George Southern Elementary School
    1:00:59 to North Park Middle School to Lockport High School
    1:01:00 to Georgetown University.
    1:01:01 – Like Santa Claus.
    1:01:03 – Yes, I felt like there was a document
    1:01:05 that had been hand delivered over there.
    1:01:06 And they’re like, oh,
    1:01:08 oh, did you really do that in gym class?
    1:01:08 Jesus.
    1:01:10 (laughs)
    1:01:13 And so, I mean, people talk all the time
    1:01:15 about how we were the last feral generation,
    1:01:17 the last kids allowed to free range.
    1:01:20 You know, Crystal and I showed the young adults
    1:01:23 who worked for us, I won’t say the kids,
    1:01:25 the young professionals who worked for us.
    1:01:29 We showed them that PSA that used to play on television
    1:01:31 that said, it’s 10 o’clock.
    1:01:33 Do you know where your children are?
    1:01:34 – Yeah.
    1:01:35 – And people were like, where would the children be?
    1:01:37 And we’re like, that was it.
    1:01:39 We were out, we were just fucking gone.
    1:01:40 Oftentimes your parents are like,
    1:01:43 get the fuck out of the house and don’t come back.
    1:01:46 And what the TV was basically telling your parents was,
    1:01:49 before you have one more gimlet and get all fucking wasted,
    1:01:52 maybe do a bed check, see if anyone made it home.
    1:01:56 Like, so we would leave the house without water.
    1:01:58 How the fuck did we survive without water, Tim?
    1:02:00 Like kids these days can’t go anywhere
    1:02:02 without a fucking water bottle.
    1:02:05 Like we would maybe find a garden hose somewhere.
    1:02:06 We had no fucking snacks.
    1:02:09 And so we would just go.
    1:02:11 Like we had no fucking Band-Aids or Neospore.
    1:02:13 And we just like would fucking rub a little dirt in it
    1:02:15 when we wiped out, no helmets.
    1:02:17 We were a disaster.
    1:02:19 At least once each of us was propositioned
    1:02:21 to get into a van for some candy.
    1:02:24 And so it was the wild fucking west, Tim.
    1:02:27 But we learned to be resilient and resourceful.
    1:02:28 And I worry about it.
    1:02:32 And along the way, Tim, we learned how to tell stories.
    1:02:34 We learned how to convince our friends
    1:02:35 ’cause there are no parents there.
    1:02:36 Hey, let’s go do my idea.
    1:02:39 No, let’s go do my idea and we’d negotiate, right?
    1:02:42 We would talk our way into situations.
    1:02:44 We would talk our way out of situations.
    1:02:46 And I recently was back at my alma mater
    1:02:48 and we were being honored.
    1:02:50 Crystal and I were back there being feted
    1:02:53 and being interviewed in front of the student body.
    1:02:57 And first thing I covered was cheers to all you fucking nerds.
    1:02:59 Your test scores and grades are so great
    1:03:01 that Crystal and I wouldn’t even get in here now.
    1:03:04 So I love that you’re applauding all our accomplishments
    1:03:05 but we wouldn’t make it right now
    1:03:07 because you’re also fucking smart.
    1:03:09 But I said, hey, how many of you here
    1:03:11 have ever gotten in trouble?
    1:03:13 How many of you here have ever had to talk your way
    1:03:15 out of a situation in the cops?
    1:03:16 One black kid raised his hand and I was like,
    1:03:19 you have every fucking systemic reason for doing that.
    1:03:21 Yes, I agree, but I was like,
    1:03:24 how many of you have ever snuck into something?
    1:03:28 How many of you have ever committed the mildest crime?
    1:03:30 Have you vandalized anything?
    1:03:32 How many of you have ever actually scammed someone
    1:03:34 or even been scammed?
    1:03:36 Have you ever been on the wrong side of a flimflam?
    1:03:39 How many of you have placed a bet on sports?
    1:03:41 How many of you have played cards?
    1:03:43 How many of you have been blackout drunk?
    1:03:45 How many of you have had a regrettable hookup?
    1:03:47 And so I just kept going down.
    1:03:50 How many of you have worked a tipping job?
    1:03:53 How many of you have had a fucking horrible boss
    1:03:57 who was incredibly aggressive with his language, right?
    1:03:58 None of them, none of them.
    1:04:01 And I was just like, I’m sorry, Dean,
    1:04:04 but this is why you’re also fucking useless to us.
    1:04:07 It’s like, you’ve done none of the things
    1:04:10 that actually inform the kind of work we do.
    1:04:12 So you know what I’m seeing right now?
    1:04:17 It’s like, we actually have a cross art portfolio
    1:04:18 and a cross art team.
    1:04:20 There are some really hard workers.
    1:04:22 I don’t think you can paint in the broadest strokes
    1:04:24 around who’s willing to work hard and who’s not.
    1:04:26 We have some really fucking hard workers.
    1:04:28 And so it’s easy to always get off my lawn
    1:04:31 in the next generation and these kids don’t wanna work.
    1:04:33 There are definitely some fucking lifestyle kids
    1:04:37 and bless them, but we have some really fucking hard workers.
    1:04:39 I’ve just started noticing things like,
    1:04:43 well, they can’t tell when somebody’s lying to them.
    1:04:46 Literally, we have a generation of young people
    1:04:49 who cannot tell when they’re being bullshitted
    1:04:51 because mom and dad were a helicopter
    1:04:53 and snow cloud parenting for them.
    1:04:55 And so now when somebody is literally staring them
    1:04:56 in the face and lying to them, I’m like,
    1:04:58 wait, you’re believing that shit?
    1:05:00 Holy shit, you’re fucking, what?
    1:05:02 Oh my God, because they’ve never been in a situation
    1:05:04 where somebody was taking advantage of them.
    1:05:06 They’ve never had to bluff their way out with some cars.
    1:05:08 – How do you fix that other than sending them
    1:05:11 to Stranger Things Reality Camp 1980s theme park?
    1:05:13 – You know what’s crazy?
    1:05:16 My way in on the H-1B visa just to get political again,
    1:05:17 which is like–
    1:05:20 – It’s gonna play elevator music as soon as you say this.
    1:05:22 – The people who know this shit,
    1:05:24 the people who know this shit are either
    1:05:27 the American kids who grew up broke as fuck
    1:05:31 or the kids from India and China who grew up hustling,
    1:05:35 scrapping, basically not only fending for themselves
    1:05:37 in school, but also helping run their mom and dad’s
    1:05:40 restaurant or store and taking care of a kid along the way
    1:05:43 and having to fend for themselves in a market.
    1:05:46 You know, I worry like most of the investors
    1:05:49 and entrepreneurs I know in their 20s right now
    1:05:52 would get eaten alive in a bazaar, just eaten alive.
    1:05:54 Like tears might happen.
    1:05:58 You know, whereas Crystal, my wife who grew up in India,
    1:05:59 it’s a fucking sport for her.
    1:06:00 It’s almost uncomfortable.
    1:06:03 I’m like, we once had a big fight in Morocco
    1:06:05 ’cause I’m like, you are arguing with this man
    1:06:07 over seven cents right now and she’s like, yeah,
    1:06:09 but if I don’t, he’s gonna be disrespected
    1:06:11 and I’m gonna be disrespected, so fuck this.
    1:06:13 And like, I’m gonna walk away again.
    1:06:16 I’m like, it’s one dearam, we gotta go.
    1:06:18 And she’s like, fuck that, we’re in this shit.
    1:06:20 Like if you don’t have the fucking stones
    1:06:22 to stay in this conversation, get the fuck out of here.
    1:06:23 I miss that alpha.
    1:06:25 I worry that we just don’t have people who are put
    1:06:27 in a position where they had to fight
    1:06:29 and fend for themselves.
    1:06:31 And they’re fucking brilliant, man.
    1:06:32 But they’ve never had to take any risks.
    1:06:33 They’ve never had to mix it up.
    1:06:35 They’ve never been in a fight.
    1:06:37 I’m not encouraging people to go beat the shove each other,
    1:06:38 but they’ve never been in a fight.
    1:06:40 – Yeah, no, I get it.
    1:06:41 So is there anything to be done?
    1:06:44 Like is there anything to counteract
    1:06:49 this nefarious slippage into impotence and oversensitivity?
    1:06:53 – Yeah, take your fucking phone and throw it in the bin.
    1:06:55 I’m a Jonathan Hype disciple,
    1:06:59 but like the phones are killing everybody, parents included.
    1:07:04 I am a wealthy, happily married, got everything I need.
    1:07:06 Almost 50 year old white dude.
    1:07:09 And when I get on Instagram, I feel so much fucking FOMO.
    1:07:11 My life feels so inadequate.
    1:07:12 I’m like, Jesus, look at that guy.
    1:07:13 Oh fuck, where are they?
    1:07:14 They’re having so much fun.
    1:07:16 Shit, that guy’s so much fitter than me right now.
    1:07:17 Fuck!
    1:07:18 And it makes me unhappy.
    1:07:21 And so maybe me and 13 year old girls
    1:07:21 have a lot in common.
    1:07:23 – You left out technologists too, right?
    1:07:25 As you put it, I think in your text to me,
    1:07:27 your fingerprints are on the weapon.
    1:07:29 – Oh, my fingerprints are on the, yeah.
    1:07:32 I mean, it’s like the gloves do fit.
    1:07:36 And so like, you cannot acquit.
    1:07:39 We reinvented cigarettes, fentanyl lace cigarettes
    1:07:42 when we started social media with all the best intentions.
    1:07:44 But it’s a fucking disaster.
    1:07:46 I mean, dude, you know this.
    1:07:50 When I quit Twitter in November of 2022,
    1:07:55 I lost 11 pounds in six weeks with no lifestyle changes.
    1:07:59 I had just been eating the cortisol of my mentions
    1:08:00 for years.
    1:08:04 Frog boiling, in 2006, it was all nice and shit.
    1:08:07 By 2022, everything I was saying
    1:08:10 was either being responded to by activist shitheads
    1:08:11 or Russian shitheads.
    1:08:14 And you can’t tell the difference anymore.
    1:08:16 The Russians are so good at imitating
    1:08:19 the liberal elite college shitheads
    1:08:22 that it was just a wave of hate, no matter what.
    1:08:24 Fuck you, parting your hair on the right side.
    1:08:26 The Nazis used to part their hair on the right side.
    1:08:27 You piece of shit.
    1:08:30 Once I went off Twitter and went off Instagram,
    1:08:32 oh my God, did I feel a lightness in my life?
    1:08:33 So here’s what I would do.
    1:08:36 My seminar, I would stomp on everyone’s phones.
    1:08:41 Then we would go to a bar, but like a dirty bar.
    1:08:43 And I would tell people to try and start
    1:08:46 a political conversation and not get their ass kicked.
    1:08:49 And so bring them to a bar here in Montana,
    1:08:51 a cowboy bar and just be like,
    1:08:55 I want you to advocate for the IRA
    1:08:57 and see if you can get out of here without being punched.
    1:09:00 So come to cattle country and oil and gas country
    1:09:02 and let’s talk about green politics
    1:09:03 and see if you can get out of here.
    1:09:05 Let’s see if you can actually tell a fucking story.
    1:09:07 Let’s see if you can show any empathy
    1:09:09 and put yourself in the shoes of the other person.
    1:09:11 One of the things that made Clay, our partner,
    1:09:14 who runs lower carbon with us so effective,
    1:09:17 was he had to go door to door in Ohio,
    1:09:22 Republican Ohio, on behalf of a guy named Brock Hussein
    1:09:25 Obama and convince people to vote for the guy.
    1:09:27 Like the same shit I did in Elko, Nevada,
    1:09:30 where I am going to a place that where John Kerry
    1:09:34 got 11% of the vote and I’m knocking on trailers
    1:09:36 and saying like, hey, I’m here to talk to you
    1:09:37 about the election.
    1:09:39 Most of those people, if their gun was closer within reach,
    1:09:40 would have pulled it out
    1:09:42 and told me to get off their fucking porch.
    1:09:45 But I have to learn how to put myself in their shoes
    1:09:47 and try and get a conversation going.
    1:09:50 And so I think no one sells shit anymore.
    1:09:52 No one has to walk up to their neighbor’s door
    1:09:53 and sell shit.
    1:09:54 You know, one of the things my kids had to do
    1:09:56 was convince the neighbors,
    1:09:58 can we cut across your lawn
    1:10:00 to get into the other neighborhood where the kids are?
    1:10:02 They had a negotiated deal.
    1:10:04 It’s one batch of cookies per year.
    1:10:06 And so I was like, you got to go figure that shit out
    1:10:08 ’cause otherwise it’s a long fucking bike ride for you.
    1:10:11 And so you got to go up there and convince them
    1:10:13 that you are not going to damage their lawn.
    1:10:15 But if they let you cross that lawn,
    1:10:18 it’d be a very patriotic thing to do.
    1:10:19 But you know, like, I feel lucky.
    1:10:21 You come to Bozeman, you know, there’s 150 bikes out
    1:10:24 in front of the school with no locks on them.
    1:10:26 And it’s a free range town.
    1:10:28 And the kids come home and we’re like, so what went on?
    1:10:30 And they talk about the conflicts they had with their friends
    1:10:33 and how they settled those, how they figured shit out,
    1:10:36 how they dealt with people when they go downtown.
    1:10:38 You know, friends come up from LA and they marvel
    1:10:41 at like our kids will be hanging out one spot.
    1:10:42 And the kids will be like, hey, can we go to the bookstore?
    1:10:44 And we’re like, yeah, scram.
    1:10:46 And so they’ll go to the bookstore and handle themselves.
    1:10:48 And our friends are like, wait, what the fuck was that?
    1:10:50 I’m like, well, they’re going to the bookstore.
    1:10:52 Six months ago we were in LA
    1:10:54 and we were all getting our hair cut.
    1:10:55 The kids were like, they finished first.
    1:10:56 And they’re like, hey, can we go to the bookstore?
    1:10:57 They’re nerds.
    1:10:58 So they like to read books.
    1:10:59 They don’t have phones.
    1:11:01 And we said, sure.
    1:11:02 And the lady who’s cutting our hair was like,
    1:11:04 well, no, no, no, no, no, they can’t go.
    1:11:05 But what do you mean?
    1:11:08 The bookstore is literally on the same street we’re on.
    1:11:08 Five blocks away.
    1:11:11 And she’s like, no, you’re going to get ticketed.
    1:11:12 We’re like, what?
    1:11:14 And I’m like, well, yeah, the cops will ticket you
    1:11:16 as the parents for letting your kids go down there.
    1:11:18 And we’re like, what in the actual fuck?
    1:11:21 And I’m like, well, the then 12 year old is fine
    1:11:22 and probably the 10 year old,
    1:11:23 but definitely not the eight year old.
    1:11:25 You can’t have an eight year old walking around.
    1:11:27 And I was just like, fuck everything.
    1:11:31 And now, Tim, I’m old as shit, but I see the linkage
    1:11:34 between that and the learned helplessness,
    1:11:35 between the lack of resourcefulness,
    1:11:38 between not knowing how to solve a problem.
    1:11:41 And so much of company building is dealing with people,
    1:11:44 dealing with people unlike you is solving those problems.
    1:11:46 So I would make people, if I’m teaching a seminar right now,
    1:11:48 I am making those people go hang out
    1:11:50 with people very unlike them.
    1:11:52 We have everyone on our team,
    1:11:55 a bunch of fucking hippie climate investors come to a ranch,
    1:11:57 a cattle ranch and hang out with people
    1:11:59 who raise methane for a living.
    1:12:00 I mean, they raise cattle that we eat.
    1:12:03 But our team sees them as methane burpers.
    1:12:06 And so we see them as people put food on the plate
    1:12:08 and stewards of the land.
    1:12:10 And they’re very easy to underestimate as like,
    1:12:11 well, they’re just growing cattle
    1:12:13 and cattle burp shit, all, you know.
    1:12:16 And so, but they are absolute stewards of the land.
    1:12:17 But nobody fucking hangs out with anyone
    1:12:19 unlike them anymore.
    1:12:21 Nobody’s forced to have any community.
    1:12:24 It’s funny, Phil Jackson voiced over a documentary
    1:12:26 about small town basketball in Montana.
    1:12:28 I think it was called Class C.
    1:12:31 And he said, the important part about Class C basketball
    1:12:34 in Montana is it’s a place where the entire town
    1:12:37 in winter can get together somewhere warm
    1:12:39 that isn’t a church and isn’t a bar.
    1:12:42 And the reality is we just don’t have these places
    1:12:44 where we get together anymore.
    1:12:47 Life is increasingly isolated.
    1:12:48 You know, like, what is it?
    1:12:50 73% of restaurant food is delivered now.
    1:12:53 By the way, my fingerprints are on that one too.
    1:12:55 I mean, we fucked it all up, dude.
    1:12:55 I’m definitely going to help.
    1:12:57 – You mentioned something in passing
    1:12:58 that your kids don’t have any funds.
    1:13:00 How did you manage that?
    1:13:03 Because I would suspect that a lot of their friends have phones.
    1:13:06 – Some of them do.
    1:13:07 We live in Bozeman on purpose.
    1:13:09 A lot of kids don’t.
    1:13:10 They’re outdoor kids.
    1:13:11 They’re don’t get board kids.
    1:13:12 They’re make your own fun kids.
    1:13:15 And so they don’t want them.
    1:13:17 – So is it fair to say they’re opt-in
    1:13:20 because a lot of their friends do not have phones?
    1:13:22 – I think they’re opt-in because they see how fucked up
    1:13:24 a lot of their friends who have phones are.
    1:13:25 How fucking sad they are.
    1:13:29 How at 10, 11, 12, 13, they don’t eat right.
    1:13:32 How obsessed with fucking makeup they are.
    1:13:34 And just how they stay up late.
    1:13:36 They don’t sleep right.
    1:13:37 They don’t do well in school.
    1:13:39 They’re fucking panicked at all times.
    1:13:42 And our kids have a piece that I think they’re very self aware
    1:13:45 that they don’t want that shit in their life.
    1:13:46 We have like a family computer
    1:13:48 that’s in a public space where the screen faces out.
    1:13:52 And like YouTube has some insanely cool shit on it, right?
    1:13:54 And so YouTube also has these rabbit holes
    1:13:55 that you can get stuck in.
    1:13:57 So it’s not like they don’t know how to use a computer
    1:14:01 and like they’re blown away by chat GPT.
    1:14:02 But I think at the same time,
    1:14:06 I think we were the last of the analog kids.
    1:14:09 We were the last who had to be conscious
    1:14:11 about what we were actually taking a picture of,
    1:14:13 thought about it and then waited
    1:14:15 and had some patience for it to develop.
    1:14:18 We were the last generation that had a raw dog.
    1:14:19 Have you heard this? – That’s the context
    1:14:20 you’re using that in.
    1:14:22 – Dude, there’s an American dialect society
    1:14:23 that shows that or something.
    1:14:25 I forget their name, but they chose that
    1:14:27 as the word of the year, raw dogging.
    1:14:29 Have you heard of this trend?
    1:14:30 Like raw dogging on an airplane flight?
    1:14:32 – You and I may have different use cases for this.
    1:14:33 What does this mean?
    1:14:36 – Wait, this is your follower base, man.
    1:14:37 I know what you’re referring to,
    1:14:39 but raw dogging an airplane flight
    1:14:43 is when you just sit there in the seat
    1:14:45 and you just look straight ahead.
    1:14:48 No headphones, no in-flight movie, no book, no phone.
    1:14:50 You just stare straight ahead for the flight.
    1:14:52 That is raw dogging the flight, man.
    1:14:56 Crystal’s dad is in his 80s.
    1:14:59 He can come sit on a chair in our yard
    1:15:01 and just look at the woods for four hours.
    1:15:04 He can just raw dog the woods, man.
    1:15:05 Like, can you do that?
    1:15:07 Could you do that now?
    1:15:08 You meditate a lot.
    1:15:10 Could you just fucking stare at the woods?
    1:15:11 Not on any shrooms or anything.
    1:15:12 – You know, with the woods, I gotta say,
    1:15:15 I’ve been cultivating that for a while now.
    1:15:18 So I think I could do it with certain natural scenes
    1:15:20 on an airplane, probably not.
    1:15:23 I would need some enhancement for that.
    1:15:24 – Right.
    1:15:26 I invite your listeners to leave in the comments.
    1:15:29 They’re actual authentic raw dog experiences.
    1:15:30 The safer work ones.
    1:15:32 But like, what setting and how long
    1:15:35 have you been able to sit phone-free, book-free,
    1:15:37 art-free, pencil-free?
    1:15:39 I mean, you might even say, I’m holding a pencil.
    1:15:42 Like, we’ve lost touch with the analog arts, man.
    1:15:43 I have a manual typewriter behind me
    1:15:44 that’s not for show.
    1:15:45 I use it all the time.
    1:15:47 I’m a physical collage artist
    1:15:50 and then I make wood and string art.
    1:15:51 You know, I got a rock drill.
    1:15:51 I told you about that.
    1:15:53 I was covered in fucking rock dust recently.
    1:15:55 – What are your string art pieces look like?
    1:15:58 – I weave twine and cotton
    1:16:01 and then I integrate that into rocks and wood.
    1:16:02 – Cool.
    1:16:05 – But we don’t make analog shit.
    1:16:08 – Have you seen, side note, Eddie Goldsworthy?
    1:16:10 – No, he’s been a big influence on me.
    1:16:13 So you can go ahead and summarize what he does.
    1:16:16 But he integrates nature out of art and art in nature.
    1:16:18 – It’s hard to believe some of his art
    1:16:21 was created using the materials
    1:16:23 that are put in the descriptions.
    1:16:24 I suggest everybody get a few of his books.
    1:16:25 They’re incredible.
    1:16:27 There are also, I think, two documentaries
    1:16:28 made about Eddie Goldsworthy
    1:16:31 that I’d recommend people check out.
    1:16:32 I’m gonna drag us back to that kid
    1:16:33 with the notebook for a second.
    1:16:36 So within the seminar, you’ve stomped on the phones.
    1:16:38 You’ve taken them to some bars.
    1:16:41 Maybe you’ve taken them to a bazaar.
    1:16:44 So there’s a lot of kind of the apprentice type
    1:16:46 vetting happening.
    1:16:47 Oh, hold on.
    1:16:50 Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on.
    1:16:52 I said, I said that just to fuck with you.
    1:16:57 So what, what’s, no, no.
    1:16:57 – Hold on.
    1:16:59 I don’t have an air sickness bag near my eight.
    1:17:05 – So if you had a curriculum for reading,
    1:17:06 like a syllabus for reading,
    1:17:10 what would be mandatory reading for that class?
    1:17:12 Entrepreneurship, broadly speaking.
    1:17:16 – I am starting to rediscover
    1:17:19 the greatness of Gen X.
    1:17:21 I think we were taught to believe that we Gen Xers
    1:17:24 were a bunch of fucking ne’er-do-wiles and losers.
    1:17:26 And guess what?
    1:17:28 We are, but that’s what makes us great.
    1:17:33 And so I am convinced that we were the last of the fuck ups
    1:17:36 and all these other kids like actually do have
    1:17:37 a permanent record now.
    1:17:41 Like there actually is this thing that follows them forever.
    1:17:44 And so I’ve been really loving, diving into,
    1:17:47 like I love reading Chuck Losterman.
    1:17:52 And so, like just diving into how messy the 90s were.
    1:17:54 I love talking to chat GPT.
    1:17:55 My wife finds it weird.
    1:17:57 And so, like if I go on a walk,
    1:18:00 sometimes I’m listening to an audiobook or a podcast,
    1:18:02 but a lot of times I’m just talking to chat.
    1:18:03 Chat, by the way.
    1:18:05 And chat has different names.
    1:18:06 If I’m talking about medical shit,
    1:18:09 it’s Dr. ChatiousMD.
    1:18:11 If it’s like my accountant, you know,
    1:18:13 it’s chat, ChippetoCFA.
    1:18:14 What else do we have?
    1:18:15 Well, there’s a few, but I will,
    1:18:17 I’ll tell it, “Hey, you’re this person.”
    1:18:19 And I’ll have it remind me.
    1:18:22 Like I’ll get sentimental and nostalgic with it,
    1:18:23 but I’ll have it be a foil.
    1:18:25 I also, by the way, talked to it as,
    1:18:26 when you brought up mentors,
    1:18:29 like Buckminster Fuller, still a huge influence on me.
    1:18:32 You and I permanently ruined the market for his book,
    1:18:36 I seem to be a verb when we mentioned on your podcast.
    1:18:38 Immediately started pricing at $1,000.
    1:18:42 And I don’t think that price has ever really recovered.
    1:18:43 I think it’s still a few hundred dollars
    1:18:45 to pick up a book, a copy of that,
    1:18:49 but Buckminster Fuller’s personal life was not ideal.
    1:18:52 He would not be considered to have been a great husband.
    1:18:54 But I recently had to make a big,
    1:18:56 recently six, eight months ago,
    1:19:00 I had to make a big business organizational decision.
    1:19:03 And I said, “Hey, Chad, you are Buckminster Fuller.
    1:19:05 Let’s have this conversation.
    1:19:08 I wanna know like the advice you would give me.”
    1:19:10 That was fucking illuminating.
    1:19:13 And so I think we don’t do that enough.
    1:19:15 What else would I read?
    1:19:17 – Or a sign to the class.
    1:19:19 – Or a sign, yeah.
    1:19:22 I probably read more poetry than most people.
    1:19:27 But particularly like Billy Collins,
    1:19:31 I listened to the stories of Garrison Keeler, like old ones.
    1:19:33 I think we’ve all lost touch with story time.
    1:19:34 I am a big fan of the Moth podcast.
    1:19:35 – Huge fan, yeah.
    1:19:39 – You know, I really like the author Kelly Corrigan.
    1:19:41 I’ve gotten to know her recently,
    1:19:43 but you’re not in her demographic.
    1:19:46 She writes like middle-aged woman dealing
    1:19:47 with reality kind of stuff.
    1:19:48 I cry.
    1:19:49 It’s out of my realm.
    1:19:52 And so it’s like a way to touch base with people
    1:19:55 who aren’t like me dealing with really human challenges.
    1:19:57 I try to read books about rabble-rousers,
    1:20:00 like what was the John Perry Barlow book?
    1:20:03 American Night Wolf or something like that.
    1:20:06 And I met him a couple of times at TED, had no idea,
    1:20:09 but like I was a crazy person.
    1:20:11 And so Tim, I really do think
    1:20:16 that a lot of the magic of life is in our unpredictability.
    1:20:20 There was this guy who is Estonian genius,
    1:20:21 but he went to a big poker tournament.
    1:20:23 I mean, there was millions of dollars at stake
    1:20:26 and he played very unpredictably
    1:20:30 in ways that traditional players could not read into him.
    1:20:32 Because no matter what they saw in his face,
    1:20:33 they didn’t know what that equated to.
    1:20:35 I mean, the guy would stay in on the two seven,
    1:20:37 which is an unplayable hand,
    1:20:38 but they’re like, fuck, wait,
    1:20:40 he weren’t represented in the two seven.
    1:20:41 And he smoked everyone.
    1:20:42 By the way, he had a big ass beard,
    1:20:46 so they called him Gamble Door, so good.
    1:20:48 But I think he cleared like eight million bucks
    1:20:49 and then disappeared.
    1:20:51 Nobody fucking knows where he is.
    1:20:54 But like the thing we haven’t talked about yet is AI.
    1:20:55 – Yeah.
    1:20:57 – And I have strong feelings about it.
    1:20:59 – Let’s get into it.
    1:21:04 – And I think the last bastion of humanity
    1:21:09 is going to be in the random, unpredictable messiness of humans.
    1:21:13 The rough fucking edges that make no sense.
    1:21:17 The things that feel like errors and bugs
    1:21:22 are actually the self-preservation aspects of who we are.
    1:21:24 That the things that make other people
    1:21:26 feel like they don’t compute,
    1:21:28 it’s all we’ve got fucking left.
    1:21:30 I mean, look, I don’t know
    1:21:33 what our kids are supposed to go to school for right now.
    1:21:34 I genuinely don’t.
    1:21:37 Our daughter, Circa Luna, who’s a fucking really smart
    1:21:39 and fun and amazing kid,
    1:21:42 she had to write an eight-page paper for science recently.
    1:21:43 And I loved watching her.
    1:21:45 I think writing is important,
    1:21:46 learning to organize your thoughts
    1:21:49 and advocate for yourself and cite your sources.
    1:21:50 But at the same time, I just typed the topic
    1:21:53 into Chetchy P.T. and it was done in 15 seconds.
    1:21:56 And it was better than her sixth grade shit, you know?
    1:21:59 And so God bless sixth grade, but what the fuck?
    1:22:02 Like you’re not gonna interview for a job with this shit.
    1:22:03 So what are we teaching the kids?
    1:22:05 Like I love our kids are in advanced math.
    1:22:08 They’re smart, they’re good at math, but I mean, come on.
    1:22:09 – Is that so they know how to get
    1:22:12 the crossbow trajectories right later?
    1:22:14 – Pretty much, yeah.
    1:22:16 They can shoot like manual and firearms.
    1:22:20 They can also whittle, start fires, make arrowheads.
    1:22:21 They can handle themselves.
    1:22:24 You know, CC is 13 now, CC 11.
    1:22:27 And she asked me for some help with her math.
    1:22:29 And I looked at it and I was like, oh God,
    1:22:30 I haven’t done this in 20 plus years.
    1:22:34 Holy shit, or probably 30 plus years actually.
    1:22:35 I was like, oh my God.
    1:22:37 So I took a picture with Chetchy P.T.
    1:22:38 and was like, help me pretend I know
    1:22:40 what the fuck I’m doing with this.
    1:22:42 I just took a picture of her homework.
    1:22:44 And it showed me the whole thing, walked me through it.
    1:22:48 And I was like, here, oh yeah, I remember how to do this now.
    1:22:50 And then like, oh yeah, your answer’s right.
    1:22:51 And I saved the day and I didn’t look
    1:22:53 like a total fucking idiot yet.
    1:22:58 But would you send your kid right now to coding class?
    1:22:59 – I don’t think so.
    1:23:03 I think other than most computer science,
    1:23:06 like the highest level of computer science,
    1:23:09 almost all of the rest of coding is fucking useless now.
    1:23:10 You and I can go to Chetchy P.T.
    1:23:11 and be like, hey, I wanna do,
    1:23:13 I wanna build an app that does this, this, and this
    1:23:15 and give me the code and it spits out the code.
    1:23:17 And then I’ve literally said,
    1:23:19 hey, by the way, I haven’t coded since basic.
    1:23:20 What do I do with this?
    1:23:21 And it’s like, oh, no problem.
    1:23:24 Go here, download this, open this Python thing
    1:23:26 and then shove it in here and then do this.
    1:23:27 And it just talks you through it.
    1:23:29 And now it’ll be agentic.
    1:23:30 Like an agent’s gonna do all that for you.
    1:23:32 You just don’t need to fucking do it anymore.
    1:23:35 And so would you send your kid to law school?
    1:23:36 – No, definitely not.
    1:23:37 No.
    1:23:40 – Oh, dude, we have fewer lawyers at our firm now
    1:23:41 than we did a year ago.
    1:23:43 It’s just fucking great.
    1:23:45 And I can tell it, hey, you know what?
    1:23:48 Great job, do it again, do it again, do it again.
    1:23:49 Like, hey, you know what?
    1:23:50 I forgot to tell you, we have all the leverage.
    1:23:52 Oh, in this case, actually do this.
    1:23:53 Hey, add this.
    1:23:56 Hey, write out the exhibit A schedule of services,
    1:23:58 which usually takes a couple hours.
    1:24:01 And like, dude, it’s just so fucking good.
    1:24:03 Would you teach your kid accounting?
    1:24:06 Accounts receivable, accounts payable?
    1:24:07 Like bookkeeping right now?
    1:24:10 – So what would you teach your kids?
    1:24:13 – Would you have your kids write marketing copy?
    1:24:15 Would you train them to write like any news
    1:24:18 other than writing for the very top newspapers?
    1:24:20 – Yeah, no, probably not.
    1:24:23 – Dude, go down the list of fucking skills, man.
    1:24:24 – So what’s left?
    1:24:27 – Here’s my grand theory.
    1:24:28 We are super fucked.
    1:24:31 That’s your title card, Chris Sackett, Colin.
    1:24:35 We are super fucked, but spell it with two O’s, by the way.
    1:24:38 S-O-O, but no, here’s the thing.
    1:24:42 I am not worried about the AGI thing.
    1:24:45 I love all these ivory towers, smart people.
    1:24:48 And by the way, I do get invited to the cabal meetings.
    1:24:50 It’s kind of funny, like the Illuminati do meet
    1:24:52 and I’m in the room with all the heads of those companies
    1:24:54 and they’re brilliant.
    1:24:56 And the discussions are important discussions
    1:24:59 around bio weapons and about what happens
    1:25:03 when the machines realize that we are just incredibly
    1:25:06 inefficient users of resources and that they should
    1:25:09 just disassemble us and use our bits for other things.
    1:25:13 Same guys who are working on how to preserve brains
    1:25:15 in boxes for infinity.
    1:25:18 I mean, a smart guy really like said,
    1:25:21 he stops skiing and mountain biking because he knows
    1:25:24 that if we make it to 2035, we’ll be immortal.
    1:25:27 So he just doesn’t wanna get hurt between now and then.
    1:25:30 Like there’s some wild shit happening.
    1:25:31 – He knows.
    1:25:32 – And I believe in it.
    1:25:33 I believe in it.
    1:25:36 I believe that AI is accelerating drug discovery.
    1:25:38 I mean, Crystal and I have been funding research
    1:25:40 into snake bites and anti-venom.
    1:25:43 Snake bites kill a fascinating number of people
    1:25:45 around the world every year.
    1:25:46 And anti-venom isn’t available.
    1:25:49 It usually has to be in cold storage, all this stuff.
    1:25:53 Some guys and gals in a lab recently just had AI synthesize
    1:25:57 a bunch of anti-venom that’s shelf stable
    1:25:58 that can be distributed around the fucking world.
    1:25:59 And the AI came up with it.
    1:26:00 It’s crazy.
    1:26:03 And they’ve already tested it on rodents and it works.
    1:26:05 The stuff that’s gonna happen in drug discovery,
    1:26:09 the stuff that’s happening within fusion,
    1:26:13 within energy, within just clean tech overall.
    1:26:14 It’s all fucking fascinating.
    1:26:16 It’s all being accelerated by AI.
    1:26:19 There is nothing I am working on in technology right now
    1:26:21 that isn’t being accelerated by AI.
    1:26:22 – So you were saying though, the ivory tower stuff,
    1:26:24 where do they miss the mark?
    1:26:26 – The challenge is this,
    1:26:31 is that what most people do for a living is going away.
    1:26:34 So let’s look historically.
    1:26:38 We fucked with the blue collar working class in America.
    1:26:40 So we had this social contract.
    1:26:42 People came home from World War II and we said,
    1:26:44 “Hey, thank you for your service.
    1:26:47 You go work in a factory
    1:26:48 and if you keep your head down
    1:26:50 and show up to work every day,
    1:26:52 you will have a house, picket fence,
    1:26:54 you can have a wife, raise some kids,
    1:26:56 get two weeks of vacation.
    1:26:59 You’ll have a little extra money to maybe buy a small boat
    1:27:00 or have a fishing cabin.
    1:27:01 You can go to Disney World
    1:27:03 and you have a pension waiting for you
    1:27:04 on the other end of that.
    1:27:06 Or you take the GI bill, you can go to college
    1:27:08 and you can go into a profession
    1:27:10 and maybe your military time already got you started
    1:27:11 as a dentist or a doctor, et cetera.
    1:27:14 We just, we had this social contract.
    1:27:16 Hey, if you do your part, we got you.
    1:27:17 You’re part of this.
    1:27:21 And then we started to fucking shatter that.
    1:27:24 And I saw it firsthand when I talked about where I grew up
    1:27:27 where we started sending jobs overseas.
    1:27:29 We started busting the unions
    1:27:32 and people started losing that agency
    1:27:35 that control over their own destiny.
    1:27:37 Their small businesses were eviscerated by outsourcing
    1:27:40 and by Walmart.
    1:27:41 And when you do that,
    1:27:44 you get a bunch of people who panic
    1:27:48 because the American social contract is that
    1:27:52 if you show up, you will get yours.
    1:27:55 And when you don’t give somebody that opportunity,
    1:27:56 you take it away from them
    1:27:57 and you take that ownership away from them
    1:27:58 and you take their house
    1:28:01 or you take their store and you take their farm,
    1:28:03 then you get the pitchforks.
    1:28:07 And so we saw this in the housing crisis of 809
    1:28:09 when all those people had that shit taken away from them,
    1:28:10 they were pissed off.
    1:28:13 Now, I would argue they pointed that ire
    1:28:14 in the wrong direction.
    1:28:16 So not to get political,
    1:28:18 but I think they vilified the wrong people.
    1:28:21 They vilified immigrants who had nothing to fucking do with it,
    1:28:22 who were doing jobs that nobody else wanted to do.
    1:28:25 They vilified political leaders
    1:28:26 who were actually looking out for them, et cetera.
    1:28:28 But all that aside,
    1:28:31 we cannot let the politics of it keep us from missing.
    1:28:32 What happened?
    1:28:35 We took all of that away from them and they got pissed.
    1:28:37 And politics in this country got more divisive,
    1:28:41 more extreme, violent in some cases.
    1:28:43 And all because, you know, Bob Marley,
    1:28:44 a hungry man is an angry man.
    1:28:47 Like the reality of this is fucking true.
    1:28:49 When you take away agency from somebody,
    1:28:51 you back them into a corner.
    1:28:55 So now do that for all the fucking white collar employees.
    1:28:58 Do that for everyone who stayed in
    1:28:59 and did their fucking homework
    1:29:01 and went to college and took out
    1:29:03 all those fucking student loans.
    1:29:06 And who feel like they have played by the rules.
    1:29:08 They are the pride and joy of their families
    1:29:09 who actually got their degree
    1:29:11 in some cases a master’s degree
    1:29:13 who saw their career path laid out for them.
    1:29:18 And now they see that their life’s work is obviated
    1:29:21 by a machine that’s just better than them,
    1:29:24 this fucking fast and cost $20 a month.
    1:29:25 You know, we had a writer work for us briefly
    1:29:29 who was like, I feel like my career’s work
    1:29:31 is valuable for about 18 more months.
    1:29:33 And then that’s it.
    1:29:34 – So Chris, let me jump in for a second.
    1:29:37 I have two, I guess, questions for you.
    1:29:40 One is related to a common refrain
    1:29:43 you might hear wandering the streets of San Francisco
    1:29:45 and you spend plenty of time around tech folks
    1:29:48 so that you will know this related to job displacement.
    1:29:49 And then the other one is, okay,
    1:29:51 so what does this look like, right?
    1:29:54 Like five years from now, what might things look like?
    1:29:56 So those are the two questions just to plant the seeds.
    1:30:01 The first one is if I have this conversation
    1:30:04 around job displacement and I’m on board with you
    1:30:07 because a lot of folks who are talking
    1:30:10 about job displacement in the abstract
    1:30:15 either have too much of a dog in the fight pro tech.
    1:30:19 So they feel like they can’t say anything anti AI.
    1:30:21 So they’re shilling their bags, not to get too technical.
    1:30:24 – No, you get canceled if you say this shit out loud.
    1:30:25 You literally get canceled by the tech around it.
    1:30:27 – Or they don’t actually run businesses
    1:30:30 where you and I realize,
    1:30:31 and a lot of people are realizing this,
    1:30:34 but my team and I use AI dozens of times a day
    1:30:38 and there are plenty of people we currently pay
    1:30:42 who are paid out of some feeling of gratitude
    1:30:45 or moral obligation, but AI could replace them tomorrow.
    1:30:49 So I’m already seeing the job displacement in the concrete,
    1:30:52 but a lot of these folks in tech might say,
    1:30:54 well, if you look back historically,
    1:30:57 they’re all of these different technological developments.
    1:31:00 TV killed the radio star and on and on and on
    1:31:03 and look at the car, like did it eliminate horses?
    1:31:04 No, and blah, blah, blah.
    1:31:06 All these people found other jobs.
    1:31:07 We’ve seen it a hundred times before.
    1:31:09 Why is this time any different?
    1:31:12 So I’d love for you just to speak to that.
    1:31:15 – So first of all, the conflict is incredibly myopic.
    1:31:17 I mean, I actually like Vinod Kosla,
    1:31:19 but he gave a TED talk where he talked
    1:31:21 about all the promise of AI.
    1:31:24 And then there was a slide this year where he’s like,
    1:31:25 and so yeah, there’ll be some job losses,
    1:31:28 but we’ll just redistribute the wealth next slide.
    1:31:30 And I was like, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
    1:31:33 When has any society ever successfully redistributed
    1:31:34 the wealth?
    1:31:35 That just doesn’t fucking work.
    1:31:37 – What does he even mean by that?
    1:31:39 – I don’t know.
    1:31:41 It’s just easy to think when you own open AI.
    1:31:44 I actually think Sam Altman cares.
    1:31:45 Sam’s an intense dude.
    1:31:47 I actually think he saw this coming
    1:31:49 and was trying to do some shit with world coin
    1:31:52 and is trying to give the general populace
    1:31:54 and every human being a piece of the ownership
    1:31:56 of the chip clusters and stuff.
    1:31:58 It’s esoteric intellectual shit,
    1:32:00 but I actually think he’s not naive to this.
    1:32:02 And I’ve had conversations with him about it.
    1:32:04 I don’t think he’s myopic to it.
    1:32:05 I just don’t know if anyone has any answer.
    1:32:08 And in the meantime, the arms race is such that,
    1:32:10 I sympathize, like we can’t slow down
    1:32:12 or somebody else builds it and we are all super focused.
    1:32:15 – Yeah, why is it different this time around?
    1:32:17 – Because it’s so much faster.
    1:32:21 What humans suck at is understanding the slope
    1:32:23 of an exponential curve.
    1:32:28 Tim Urban told this story better than anybody else.
    1:32:30 He has the perfect fucking cartoon,
    1:32:32 you know one of his classic cartoon charts.
    1:32:37 We literally put it in our investor update like last year.
    1:32:41 Remember where humans want to estimate the rate of change
    1:32:44 by if they’re standing on a curve on an exponential curve,
    1:32:47 they turn around and look backward
    1:32:49 and they estimate the future rate of change
    1:32:50 by looking at that.
    1:32:53 But if they were just to turn forward,
    1:32:54 they would realize their nose is pressed
    1:32:58 against the fucking curve ’cause it’s going vertical.
    1:33:00 Now I can see this across the companies
    1:33:02 we work with in fusion.
    1:33:04 People used to say fusion just wasn’t possible,
    1:33:05 it’s 30 years off.
    1:33:08 Well, we’re fusing atoms every fucking day right now
    1:33:12 and net energy is being achieved every fucking day right now.
    1:33:14 And data centers are signing power agreements
    1:33:16 with our fusion companies right now
    1:33:20 for hundreds of fucking megawatts coming onto the grid
    1:33:22 or behind the meter.
    1:33:23 Fusion is real, it’s fucking here,
    1:33:26 the government is doing, our private companies are doing it,
    1:33:28 period, end of fucking story.
    1:33:30 I’m not having that debate with anyone anymore,
    1:33:32 it was one of those perfect like, I’m not here to convince you,
    1:33:34 I’m just gonna buy all the fucking fusion companies.
    1:33:36 But AI is what made that possible.
    1:33:38 But anyone who’s nay saying it
    1:33:39 hasn’t actually been in the lab
    1:33:44 and seen how we go from one to 1.1 to 1.4 to fucking 11.
    1:33:48 And so that’s just the rate of change.
    1:33:51 And Tim is one of the best explainers of concepts in history.
    1:33:54 And so, yeah, exactly.
    1:33:56 Tim, we’re running everybody.
    1:33:59 It’s just, it runs, it runs in the name.
    1:34:02 And so what’s happening now is that,
    1:34:04 you know, when cars originally came out,
    1:34:06 in some places they were required
    1:34:08 to have someone walk in front of them.
    1:34:09 You know this?
    1:34:11 And so the first generation of cars
    1:34:13 were required to have a pedestrian escort
    1:34:15 to make sure they didn’t run into anything.
    1:34:16 Swear to fucking God.
    1:34:20 And so there was a long period of transition
    1:34:24 where generations could keep up
    1:34:28 and where there were still human exceptional abilities
    1:34:29 and which people could be retrained
    1:34:32 or the next generation could go ahead
    1:34:34 and repurpose themselves.
    1:34:38 I defy you to tell me what’s so human exceptional right now.
    1:34:40 We’re also proud of ourselves,
    1:34:43 but what are we so fucking good at
    1:34:45 that the machines can’t do it?
    1:34:46 Here, I’ll confess the secret to you.
    1:34:49 So Crystal and I, with a good friend,
    1:34:51 recently wrote a screenplay.
    1:34:53 It was a comedy idea that Crystal and I had,
    1:34:54 and we’d been mulling on it.
    1:34:56 And we went to a really close friend
    1:34:58 who’s a very successful screenwriter
    1:34:59 to do the heavy lifting on it.
    1:35:01 I mean, he’s a writer’s writer.
    1:35:03 So, you know, like in the credit world,
    1:35:05 we’re the story by and he’s the writer, right?
    1:35:08 And so we went to, you know, shop it around
    1:35:11 and a well-known dude wants to buy it and start it.
    1:35:13 But he had comments on the third act.
    1:35:15 So we got the comments back
    1:35:17 and I had an idea for the third act.
    1:35:18 And I was like, okay, wait,
    1:35:21 I need to convince Crystal and this other guy
    1:35:23 of this idea I have for the third act.
    1:35:26 I went to Claude and I just said,
    1:35:29 hey, help me build a little dialogue really quickly
    1:35:31 around this idea that this guy comes down
    1:35:34 and he sees her on his phone
    1:35:37 and then the monk comes out and like, he’s awkward,
    1:35:39 but he covers for her by making this noise.
    1:35:41 And I was like, and make it funny as shit.
    1:35:42 It’s lighthearted.
    1:35:44 It’s in the style of like Judd Apatow.
    1:35:46 You know, I think I told it, Judd’s not a buyer.
    1:35:47 I’m not trying to, you know,
    1:35:49 but it was like that kind of style of comedy.
    1:35:52 And it fucking banged it out.
    1:35:56 And I sent that to my collaborators
    1:35:59 and those exact lines won’t be used.
    1:36:02 But I was like, that’s a funny fucking scene.
    1:36:03 That wasn’t a science report.
    1:36:07 That was a funny fucking scene of comedy
    1:36:12 that I conceived of, but like Claude made it fucking funny.
    1:36:13 And I sent it to my collaborators and like,
    1:36:16 oh dude, yes, that bang.
    1:36:18 And I’m like, fuck, man.
    1:36:20 I consider myself a writer, right?
    1:36:22 You read my writing, my writing doesn’t go public.
    1:36:24 – You’re a very good writer.
    1:36:25 – But that’s what I do.
    1:36:27 I write things that raise billions of dollars
    1:36:29 and we just don’t give it to anybody
    1:36:31 but the people who we work with.
    1:36:33 But dude, it’s fucking good.
    1:36:35 You know, we did a thing where we fed chat, GPT,
    1:36:37 everything I’ve ever written.
    1:36:40 And we have a lower carbon voice bot.
    1:36:43 And it knows exactly where to drop the F bombs
    1:36:46 and exactly where to use the cowboy phrases.
    1:36:48 It’s really fucking good, man.
    1:36:49 Like I’m gonna be extinct soon.
    1:36:53 – Okay, so what do you think things look like
    1:36:54 three or five years from now?
    1:36:55 Could be a year from now.
    1:36:56 I mean, things are moving so quickly.
    1:36:58 – By the way, thank you.
    1:36:59 Thank you.
    1:37:01 You’re the only person who talks about it
    1:37:02 like I do in single digit years.
    1:37:04 It’s single digit years.
    1:37:06 I love when people come to us in like 2050.
    1:37:08 I’m like, fuck you 2050.
    1:37:09 You’re embarrassing yourself
    1:37:12 if you’re talking about 2050 right now.
    1:37:13 Are you shitting me?
    1:37:15 Let’s not even talk about geo instability
    1:37:16 and all the fucking weirdness
    1:37:18 and what’s gonna happen when our country
    1:37:20 is run by some non serious people.
    1:37:23 Shit is fucking chaotic right now.
    1:37:25 But like, let’s just talk about what really happens.
    1:37:28 When we start in a year or two or three
    1:37:30 seeing massive job losses
    1:37:33 because you just don’t fucking need those people.
    1:37:35 You know, I mean, Tim, you were one of the first people
    1:37:36 to be like, hey, here’s a way to outsource your life.
    1:37:37 – Yep.
    1:37:39 – Here’s a way to use tools
    1:37:42 to have more control and more leverage over what you do
    1:37:44 and allow you yourself to focus on the things
    1:37:48 that are specifically your value add your expertise
    1:37:50 and not waste your time on the other bullshit.
    1:37:52 You kicked off a wave.
    1:37:54 Sometimes I blame you for it, right?
    1:37:56 I’m like, I can’t get some kids to work
    1:37:57 more than six hours a week.
    1:37:59 No, I’m just kidding.
    1:38:02 But you have always been a systems thinker
    1:38:04 about what are these tools we can use?
    1:38:07 Well, now dude, I use these tools all day long.
    1:38:08 All fucking day long.
    1:38:10 Now they’re integrated into your email
    1:38:12 and they’re integrated into your spreadsheets
    1:38:14 and they’re integrated into everything we do.
    1:38:16 And now I can tell people’s pitch emails
    1:38:17 are coming from them.
    1:38:19 And like right now I can sniff out
    1:38:20 which ones are written by them
    1:38:21 but the next generation I won’t.
    1:38:22 – Yeah.
    1:38:23 – And they’re solving problems.
    1:38:25 And it’s like, if you read Tyler Cohen
    1:38:29 who I read every day, he’s having debates with 01.
    1:38:31 And I consider Tyler Cohen indispensable.
    1:38:34 I consider no opinion actually indispensable reading
    1:38:35 every fucking day.
    1:38:37 I would never go through my day without reading him.
    1:38:40 I try to read everything D.K. Thompson writes every day.
    1:38:41 Well, I mean, he doesn’t write every single day.
    1:38:43 And then Zivi and some of these other people
    1:38:45 who are really paying Ethan Mollick.
    1:38:47 Like if you’re really paying attention,
    1:38:50 I don’t know what we’re particularly good at.
    1:38:51 I just don’t know anymore.
    1:38:53 I mean, our daughter, our middle daughter Serka
    1:38:57 is a really talented singer and theater person, you know?
    1:39:00 And she at age 11 is aware of this.
    1:39:03 And it’s like, Hey mom, dad, will Broadway still exist?
    1:39:06 And like, I think so.
    1:39:07 – I think Broadway will exist.
    1:39:09 – It’s crazy being around people.
    1:39:10 Yeah, I think people wanna be in the presence
    1:39:11 of other people. – I think being a film actor
    1:39:14 is gonna be a much dicier proposition.
    1:39:17 – My brother who you know has been really successful
    1:39:19 in Hollywood is currently rolling up
    1:39:22 residential real estate and climate havens
    1:39:26 because, you know, he’s just like, okay, I’m a writer.
    1:39:27 That’s kind of getting all fucked up.
    1:39:29 I’m an actor.
    1:39:31 You know, I could just sell some scans of my funny face
    1:39:34 and they’ll write good jokes for me to deliver.
    1:39:37 And he’s like, so what do I do now?
    1:39:37 You know?
    1:39:40 And that’s just the fucking hard reality of it.
    1:39:42 I’m literally not trying to poo poo it
    1:39:45 because it’s also the most beautiful thing that’s happened.
    1:39:48 And I use these tools all day long.
    1:39:50 And their companions and all these stories
    1:39:52 about the great things they can do
    1:39:54 for you are absolutely fucking beautiful.
    1:39:57 But they are going to shred the social fabric.
    1:39:59 And I don’t think we’re ready for that.
    1:40:00 And so I don’t know what people do for a living.
    1:40:03 Like I would love for my kids to know how to use tools.
    1:40:05 – Massage therapists, could be massage therapists.
    1:40:08 – Dude, have you seen the massage robots yet?
    1:40:10 They don’t get carpal tunnel, man.
    1:40:14 And so, I mean, a good massage therapist
    1:40:15 can only do so many in a day.
    1:40:17 It’s just unhealthy to do more.
    1:40:19 And so they don’t get carpal tunnel.
    1:40:22 – The warm soothing hands of my iRobot.
    1:40:25 – Have you seen that 01?
    1:40:27 Have you seen that 01 robot?
    1:40:28 Any of these things, even like,
    1:40:31 even chatGPT with the video or Google with the video now
    1:40:33 and stuff like that where it goes through the room
    1:40:34 and remembers everything it saw.
    1:40:37 Like Tim, you get overwhelmed.
    1:40:39 Like if you’re paying attention, it’s overwhelming.
    1:40:41 And you know what’s inevitable.
    1:40:44 Like, you know, we’re in a really bad spot, man.
    1:40:46 And I just don’t think like our government
    1:40:49 and our institutions, we don’t have a social safety net.
    1:40:51 We just aren’t set up for this.
    1:40:53 I feel lucky that my kids are in elementary and middle school
    1:40:57 and not in late high school or college right now
    1:40:59 because I don’t know what I would be telling them to do.
    1:41:03 Like really good parents sent their kids to coding classes.
    1:41:06 Really good parents sent their kids to law school.
    1:41:09 Here, I have started asking doctor friends.
    1:41:11 If you had a biopsy, would you rather it be read
    1:41:14 by a human being or by an AI?
    1:41:16 I’ve yet to have one say by a human being.
    1:41:18 Who do you want as your pathologist?
    1:41:20 By the way, this is like the one thing
    1:41:22 where I start realizing like, oh my God,
    1:41:23 the nature of this question.
    1:41:24 Like I was in a car with a driver the other day
    1:41:27 and one of those Waymo cars pulled in front of us.
    1:41:29 And I was like, I can’t even talk about this right now.
    1:41:32 ‘Cause it’s existential to what this guy does.
    1:41:34 An immigrant from Ethiopia who came over
    1:41:36 and built his own book of business
    1:41:38 as a driver is incredible.
    1:41:41 And here he is looking at a robot that displaces him.
    1:41:44 How do I even have that conversation?
    1:41:46 – So, all right, let’s nibble on this a bit
    1:41:48 because you’ve clearly thought about it a lot.
    1:41:51 I’m pretty saturated with this as well.
    1:41:56 It seems like with AI and/or robotics,
    1:42:00 a lot of the things that humans, including developers
    1:42:05 and computer scientists and so on, engineers,
    1:42:07 thought were going to be hard, ended up being easy.
    1:42:09 And the things they thought were gonna be easy
    1:42:10 ended up being hard.
    1:42:14 So, for instance, drafting legal documents turns out,
    1:42:15 lickety-split piece of cake.
    1:42:19 Maybe throwing a baseball
    1:42:22 and like playing catch with someone, very, very difficult.
    1:42:23 – Have you seen one, Mark Rober?
    1:42:26 Mark is a friend and a guy I deeply admire.
    1:42:28 Mark Rober makes incredible YouTube videos.
    1:42:30 Did you ever see the dartboard he made
    1:42:32 where it’s impossible to miss?
    1:42:36 So you throw a dart and he built a machine learning dartboard
    1:42:39 that automatically moves you hit a bull’s eye every time.
    1:42:40 – Just play along with me for a second.
    1:42:42 There are things people assume to take forever
    1:42:44 that were done very quickly in the opposite, right?
    1:42:47 So I’m wondering if you had to place bets,
    1:42:50 like you’re a better, you’re an investor.
    1:42:51 – I’ve been known to dabble.
    1:42:52 – You’ve been known to dabble.
    1:42:55 So if you had to place bets on sectors or things
    1:42:59 that are going to either be slow to change
    1:43:02 or they will actually become more valuable over time.
    1:43:03 I mean, a handful of years ago,
    1:43:05 this was when a lot of these gears,
    1:43:07 at least from the kind of mainstream public awareness
    1:43:09 perspective were just getting going.
    1:43:10 I was like, yeah, I think there’ll be basically like
    1:43:14 a free trade ethically sourced stamp of human made
    1:43:17 on things that will, for certain things,
    1:43:20 develop some type of premium, right?
    1:43:22 Connotation, that seems inevitable.
    1:43:24 Those types of watermarking and things like that,
    1:43:28 even for digital products, which then we’ve already seen.
    1:43:31 So if you had to bet, you’re like, all right, sorry buddy,
    1:43:34 we’re taking this lower carbon capital thing off your hands.
    1:43:37 We’ve heard you complaining about the 70 hour work weeks.
    1:43:39 We found a robot who we think can do the admin
    1:43:42 and the annual shareholder letters as well as you can.
    1:43:45 Now you’re just going to bet on stuff that’s going to last
    1:43:48 or that’s going to increase in value
    1:43:51 because it will be slow to be affected by AI
    1:43:54 or it will be largely immune.
    1:43:56 What would you bet on?
    1:43:59 First of all, I’m betting on the bills on the money line
    1:44:01 to beat the Ravens this weekend.
    1:44:03 And so I love that they’re playing at home
    1:44:05 but going in as underdogs night game,
    1:44:06 that stadium’s going to be nuts.
    1:44:08 The Ravens won’t be able to hear anything.
    1:44:10 Lamar Jackson wears a turtleneck in Miami.
    1:44:11 He’s going to freeze his ass off.
    1:44:12 We got this game.
    1:44:14 So sorry, go bills.
    1:44:17 And so I would be betting on sports.
    1:44:20 I swear to God, I hate the head injuries in football.
    1:44:21 I really do.
    1:44:23 It’s just, but on the other hand,
    1:44:24 there’s just something so primal
    1:44:27 about the gladiators shit that goes on in the fall.
    1:44:29 And when I see it bring entire communities together,
    1:44:31 particularly a beat up community like Buffalo
    1:44:33 that’s taken some lumps, I adore it.
    1:44:37 We’ve never raised our kids to be jocks,
    1:44:41 but I really find kinship talking to them about sports
    1:44:43 and playing sports with them
    1:44:45 and watching them develop as athletes.
    1:44:48 Yes, I do believe we could obviously build machines
    1:44:50 that pitch better than any human that’s walked the earth,
    1:44:54 but sports like, you know, not the all-drug Olympics,
    1:44:56 but just human sports,
    1:45:00 there will be a true analog primal attraction
    1:45:02 to those contests.
    1:45:05 It’s just one of the last real things.
    1:45:09 And so I think there’s something really, truly there.
    1:45:12 You know, Tim, I spend a lot of time in Japan like you do
    1:45:17 and there’s something so alluring about making pottery
    1:45:20 about the wabi-sabi, the imperfection
    1:45:23 about the craft of studying one thing,
    1:45:26 the soul that goes into a piece of sushi,
    1:45:29 the calligraphy, the ceremony,
    1:45:31 the big nights out and cocktail bars, by the way,
    1:45:33 where there’s one piece of fruit,
    1:45:36 like I’m absolutely addicted to that culture,
    1:45:40 but it’s that same craving for analog, you know?
    1:45:42 And it’s funny ’cause growing up, that was a place
    1:45:44 I thought of is like where all the coolest new cameras
    1:45:47 can come from, but it’s a craving for that analog again.
    1:45:49 And they’ve been culturally kind of ahead of the curve
    1:45:54 with that for probably at least I would say 15 to 20 years
    1:45:59 in terms of going very retro to things
    1:46:03 that are considered outdated or analog,
    1:46:04 which is fascinating.
    1:46:06 – The LP bars and stuff like that.
    1:46:07 – Yeah.
    1:46:09 – But Tim, let’s be honest, they better start having sex
    1:46:12 real soon or they’re gonna disappear.
    1:46:14 And the Koreans, like the reproductive rate in Korea,
    1:46:16 like Korea is just gonna close up shop.
    1:46:18 I’m fucking worried.
    1:46:20 Like, I don’t know what to do about this shit.
    1:46:21 Everyone needs to start fucking.
    1:46:24 – I think it was $250 billion since South Korea
    1:46:28 towards trying to promote procreating didn’t work at all.
    1:46:29 Zero effect.
    1:46:32 And there are actually a lot of like weird reasons for that
    1:46:35 that are not immediately obvious.
    1:46:37 Like I think you have to put up like a six to 12 months
    1:46:39 security deposit for an apartment.
    1:46:41 So people can’t afford the space,
    1:46:43 but people are also just not having sex
    1:46:46 or not procreating, which are not automatically
    1:46:47 the same thing.
    1:46:51 – No, we’re societally fucked, dude.
    1:46:53 If people don’t start fucking and having more kids.
    1:46:55 And I’m putting that on you, Tim.
    1:46:57 Where are the Timmy, little Tim Timmy’s?
    1:46:58 – Yeah, yeah, it’s on the document.
    1:47:00 – Oh, you’re the living distinction of,
    1:47:02 yeah, you can’t conflate having sex and having children,
    1:47:04 but let’s get on it, okay?
    1:47:05 That’s your homework.
    1:47:07 And so, but I do, anyway.
    1:47:09 So the schools here in Bozeman aren’t
    1:47:11 the most academically competitive, right?
    1:47:12 They do a pretty good job.
    1:47:15 The elementary school is actually really special,
    1:47:17 but it’s funny when we talk to our kids about
    1:47:19 what went on at school today.
    1:47:22 Orchestra was offered five days a week.
    1:47:25 And so math and science alternate every other day.
    1:47:27 English and social studies alternate,
    1:47:28 but orchestra is every single day.
    1:47:30 Choir is every single day.
    1:47:33 And so when we talked to the kids about school,
    1:47:37 they talked to us about music and PE class and lunch.
    1:47:39 And so it’s interesting.
    1:47:41 I mean, we’ll pry information out of them
    1:47:42 about the other classes.
    1:47:45 And again, they’re not the most challenging
    1:47:48 or riveting classes, so maybe that’s part of it.
    1:47:50 But there’s something happening
    1:47:53 in getting back to the arts.
    1:47:56 We went to one of their orchestra concerts the other night
    1:47:58 and boy, there were some kids out of tune.
    1:48:00 And boy, it was a little,
    1:48:02 the middle score orchestra was a little like,
    1:48:04 and there was some squeakiness.
    1:48:08 But I was just like, Crystal, this is not on Spotify.
    1:48:10 Like this is fucking amazing.
    1:48:11 You know what I mean?
    1:48:13 Like what’s happening here is amazing.
    1:48:15 This is human as fuck, you know?
    1:48:16 And like two sections of the orchestra
    1:48:18 getting out like not paying attention
    1:48:20 to the lady who’s been conducting for 30 years,
    1:48:22 being like, can you see my fucking hand?
    1:48:24 It’s just doing like this, like get on that beat.
    1:48:28 Like it was beautifully human, you know?
    1:48:29 And the same way that the awkwardness,
    1:48:31 I mean, we constantly talk to our kids
    1:48:35 about middle school is about the awkwardness.
    1:48:37 It’s about the asking someone to the dance
    1:48:38 or being asked to the dance.
    1:48:40 It’s about all these fucking kids who stink a little bit
    1:48:44 and sweat and are look gangly in their fucking clothes.
    1:48:46 And I love, by the way, I love now being an adult
    1:48:49 and seeing who like the alphas are considered,
    1:48:51 like that’s the fucking alpha kid in your class.
    1:48:53 I worry that he couldn’t wrestle his way
    1:48:54 out of a wet paper bag,
    1:48:57 but like that’s the attractive kid, hilarious.
    1:48:59 But back when you’re in middle school, you can self-identify.
    1:49:01 You’re like, oh my God, that’s the fucking kid.
    1:49:03 Like that guy, Ray.
    1:49:05 I mean, Ray’s gotta get any girl he wants.
    1:49:07 I just love seeing it now through that lens.
    1:49:10 I just think we have to embrace
    1:49:11 the messiness of our humanity.
    1:49:13 And it goes back to that new project.
    1:49:14 It’s not to make it super crass
    1:49:15 and we’re gonna get to that project.
    1:49:18 But because I think this is just a honing function
    1:49:20 and you’re so good at it in so many ways,
    1:49:23 how would you bet on that humanness,
    1:49:28 that imperfection, that awkwardness, that wabi-sabi?
    1:49:30 – Like my financial bet. – Yeah, exactly.
    1:49:33 Like outside of sports, I think is very on point.
    1:49:36 I would agree with that completely.
    1:49:38 – I think most people are still gonna be hermits,
    1:49:39 but a large number of people
    1:49:43 are gonna crave the opportunity to be together still.
    1:49:46 So Crystal and I have been looking at places here.
    1:49:48 – Kind of mean bars.
    1:49:49 – Yeah, pretty much, no.
    1:49:52 It’s funny, we were looking to buy some space recently,
    1:49:54 like some beat up warehouse space.
    1:49:58 And it took a long time to help our real estate agent
    1:50:01 understand that there wasn’t a specific purpose for it.
    1:50:02 And he’s like, well, what’s the business plan?
    1:50:03 And we’re like, no, no, no, no, like,
    1:50:05 when we see the space, we’ll know.
    1:50:07 And he’s like, well, what are you hoping to do there?
    1:50:09 And we’re like, it’s kind of office.
    1:50:10 It’s kind of art space.
    1:50:12 It’s kind of like, maybe we can make it available
    1:50:12 to the community.
    1:50:15 Maybe there’s some small performances there.
    1:50:17 Maybe there’s some wine or a cafe there.
    1:50:19 I was like, we don’t really know.
    1:50:20 We’ll kind of know when we see it
    1:50:23 and the community will kind of define the purpose of it.
    1:50:25 But we’re like, we just know that we need more convenience.
    1:50:28 – He’s like, I’m gonna need a retainer for this.
    1:50:30 – Yeah, yeah.
    1:50:34 No, I’m like, there’s no math to pencil out on it,
    1:50:36 but we just need more of those places to hang.
    1:50:39 By the way, all right, free idea for anyone in your audience.
    1:50:41 You know what needs to exist.
    1:50:43 – Chuck E. Cheese for Gen X.
    1:50:45 – And if somebody starts this in a city
    1:50:50 that I would travel to, I want a landlocked yacht club.
    1:50:51 – Okay.
    1:50:55 – That is also a mini golf country club.
    1:50:58 It’s basically, it’s yacht rock themed.
    1:51:00 So you show up, you got to wear white shoes,
    1:51:03 maybe a captain’s hat, umbrellas in the drinks,
    1:51:05 yacht rock band playing.
    1:51:08 It has the air of a country club.
    1:51:09 It’s accessible to everybody.
    1:51:10 Maybe a membership cost 10 bucks.
    1:51:12 You have to have a membership by the way
    1:51:14 to make it exclusive, a $10 membership.
    1:51:17 They have to apply at the door, give some references,
    1:51:19 answer some yacht rock trivia, whatever.
    1:51:22 But then it’s a country club for mini golf.
    1:51:23 The putt putts have generally gone away.
    1:51:25 We need to bring mini golf back.
    1:51:29 And like, you’ll, there’ll be like mahogany lockers
    1:51:31 for your putter, you know?
    1:51:34 And so you go in there and you have a really choice putter,
    1:51:35 you know, like you can catch like,
    1:51:37 “Billy, Billy, Billy, Billy, Billy.”
    1:51:38 And so you can talk to your golf club,
    1:51:41 but I really need someone to fucking do this, okay?
    1:51:44 You can call it yachtsies, you can call it whatever you want,
    1:51:46 but I need this to exist.
    1:51:47 I will be there.
    1:51:52 There’s a bar in Redondo Beach on the pier called Old Tonys.
    1:51:53 Or it’s called Tonys on the pier,
    1:51:55 but everyone refers to it as Old Tonys.
    1:51:58 The inside has not changed in 50 years.
    1:52:00 And I would do anything to get on the historic register
    1:52:04 of places to make sure it never changes.
    1:52:07 Because that is the perfect place to convene.
    1:52:09 And I will ride down there, ride bikes with friends
    1:52:12 when I’m in LA and hang out at Old Tonys on the pier
    1:52:15 and just feel like that’s what we crave.
    1:52:18 Go there and talk about nothing, just hang out.
    1:52:21 And I think like I would be betting on
    1:52:23 people wanna get together and bullshit.
    1:52:27 I think our kids are the canary in the coal mine
    1:52:29 of what happens when everything went digital.
    1:52:31 It’s fucking exhausting, man.
    1:52:34 And being yelled at online is fucking exhausting.
    1:52:36 People are not accountable to each other, right?
    1:52:39 I mean, if anything, I could have told you
    1:52:41 how the result of this election was gonna go
    1:52:45 because most Americans are just fucking tired of it.
    1:52:47 They’re tired of being yelled at,
    1:52:49 they’re tired of being criticized.
    1:52:51 As Jonathan Haidt likes to put it,
    1:52:53 it’s no longer about the intentions of the speaker,
    1:52:55 it’s how the listener heard it.
    1:52:56 Fuck that.
    1:52:57 Like I’m so fucking sick of that.
    1:52:59 And I got reeled into it like everybody else.
    1:53:01 And it’s fucking exhausting.
    1:53:02 And everyone who thinks like that
    1:53:05 can fuck right off and go away.
    1:53:08 Because intentions have to fucking matter.
    1:53:09 We have to get back to it.
    1:53:10 And where intentions matter
    1:53:12 is when you’re hanging out in person.
    1:53:15 You can tell, hey, were you trying to be an asshole
    1:53:16 or did you just say the wrong thing?
    1:53:17 My wife is half Asian.
    1:53:20 First time I brought her home to see my grandmother,
    1:53:21 she was like, oh my God,
    1:53:24 Chris brought the most incredible Oriental girl home.
    1:53:26 Now, was she trying to say like,
    1:53:29 fuck you, why’d you bring an Oriental girl into my home?
    1:53:31 No, what she was trying to say is like,
    1:53:33 oh my God, this woman who I don’t know,
    1:53:35 the more updated, less antiquated term
    1:53:37 for a woman from Asia,
    1:53:38 I think we need to call each other in
    1:53:40 more than call each other out.
    1:53:41 And so you can just be like,
    1:53:43 grandma, as Walter and the big old Basque says,
    1:53:46 Chinaman is no longer the preferred nomenclature, you know?
    1:53:51 Honestly, I feel like we could get to a point where
    1:53:53 as a culture, we want to hang out in person again.
    1:53:55 We want to be around each other.
    1:53:57 Like I know my neighbors where I live,
    1:53:58 like my physical neighbors,
    1:54:00 more than I ever did in San Francisco.
    1:54:01 I lived in a building
    1:54:03 and I did not know the people around me.
    1:54:04 Everywhere I’ve lived since then,
    1:54:06 I actually know my neighbors.
    1:54:07 I don’t think we vote the same all the time.
    1:54:10 Sometimes we do, sometimes we don’t,
    1:54:11 but I know I can count on them.
    1:54:13 I know I can have a relationship with them.
    1:54:15 I know we always find common ground
    1:54:16 and like we’re part of a community
    1:54:17 and we’re accountable to each other
    1:54:20 and it’s fucking great to have a community.
    1:54:22 And so I would be betting on communities again.
    1:54:24 – I mean, there was a big New York Times piece
    1:54:28 about running clubs and chess clubs
    1:54:31 and these in real life clubs
    1:54:33 with recurring events,
    1:54:36 beginning to displace dating apps, right?
    1:54:38 As an example, ’cause people are just tired.
    1:54:40 People are just exhausted
    1:54:42 by having yet another inbox
    1:54:46 and with 99% ghost rate, et cetera.
    1:54:48 – Well, people at those chess clubs
    1:54:51 need to start fucking or we’re gonna go away as humanity.
    1:54:53 But no, I’m with you, man.
    1:54:55 Crystal and I didn’t go to Montana State University,
    1:54:57 but it’s right here in town.
    1:54:59 And so we started going to the football games there
    1:55:02 and we’d consider ourselves super fans now.
    1:55:04 I mean, I wear blue and yellow fucking overalls
    1:55:06 to the games, it’s ridiculous.
    1:55:08 And by the way, I’ve sent you these clips before.
    1:55:10 – You sent me the photos, yeah.
    1:55:14 – The start of the game is Metallica starts playing,
    1:55:17 fire torches, cannons, a band is on stage,
    1:55:21 then horses, the rodeo team rides in with American flags.
    1:55:23 And then there’s a flyover of military planes
    1:55:26 or helicopters and like, America.
    1:55:28 Like this is what it’s all about.
    1:55:31 But I really enjoy that we have a fucking community here.
    1:55:33 And I really enjoy who we hang out with.
    1:55:36 And I think I would be betting on community.
    1:55:38 I would be betting on neighbors.
    1:55:41 And I don’t think the whole trend is going in that direction.
    1:55:43 I think the addiction to these phones
    1:55:45 is taking us in another place.
    1:55:47 The availability of food to eat by yourself
    1:55:50 in great TV and great apps and feeds.
    1:55:51 I mean, the first time I installed TikTok,
    1:55:54 Tim was during the pandemic.
    1:55:56 And I was like, oh, this is kind of cool.
    1:55:57 I’ll check out those dance moves.
    1:56:01 Next thing I knew, I looked up and the sun had come up.
    1:56:04 I had been up all fucking night long on this app.
    1:56:06 I mean, it was like fucking crack cocaine
    1:56:08 injected into my veins.
    1:56:10 I realized whatever like genes,
    1:56:13 some ethnicities don’t have to tolerate alcohol.
    1:56:15 I don’t have that for fucking TikTok.
    1:56:17 And so I can only imagine what it’s doing
    1:56:18 to the masses right now.
    1:56:21 And I hope we come up with a GLP one agonist
    1:56:23 that like blocks the pleasure center for TikTok.
    1:56:26 But I would be doing anything I can
    1:56:30 for profit or nonprofit to enhance community and hangouts.
    1:56:33 – So you’ve got all your knowledge that you have now.
    1:56:36 You do not have all your connections,
    1:56:37 but you have the know-how.
    1:56:42 And you are somewhere between 20 and 30 years old
    1:56:47 and you’re gonna start a business.
    1:56:49 What type of business might you start?
    1:56:52 – Tim, what do you want me to say?
    1:56:53 I genuinely don’t know.
    1:56:54 – CrossFit gyms?
    1:56:57 CrossFit gyms are community.
    1:56:57 They’re great.
    1:56:58 I was standing in one last night.
    1:57:01 I told you, I texted you last night.
    1:57:03 I was like, if you want to make friends
    1:57:05 in a CrossFit gym in Montana,
    1:57:08 just drop that you are pals of Tim Ferriss.
    1:57:12 And so like Shark Tank only goes so far in that gym.
    1:57:15 Once you say you’re friends with Tim Ferriss, like, oh shit.
    1:57:17 First of all, I love the ethos of CrossFit.
    1:57:18 It’s how I work out.
    1:57:20 You can just fucking tell, can’t you Tim?
    1:57:22 But those are community.
    1:57:24 You know, one of the things we’ve enjoyed doing
    1:57:25 is going to towns.
    1:57:27 I can’t remember which sites are doing this anymore,
    1:57:30 but finding somebody who will guide you
    1:57:32 on a local bar crawl.
    1:57:35 And just like, hey, take me to all the fucking dive bars
    1:57:36 or all the tiki bars
    1:57:40 or take me to three farmers markets.
    1:57:42 Or just take me to three things I want to see.
    1:57:47 And it’s like not the traditional like art historian
    1:57:50 who just recites everything about tidian.
    1:57:52 And I said that one just for you.
    1:57:54 I could have said Velazquez, but I said tidian just for you.
    1:57:56 – No, thy audience.
    1:57:57 No, thy audience.
    1:57:59 – Yeah, and so, but people were like,
    1:58:02 hey, come here and enjoy this analog experience with me.
    1:58:03 You know, let’s go to these places.
    1:58:05 You asked why we go to Copenhagen?
    1:58:07 ‘Cause Copenhagen is bikes, man.
    1:58:09 You get on bikes, you make it up.
    1:58:10 It’s freewheeling.
    1:58:11 We started with Renee,
    1:58:12 but then we met a lot of other people
    1:58:14 who had spun off from Renee’s world.
    1:58:17 Entrepreneurs and food and other stuff and artisans
    1:58:18 and people who take food and service.
    1:58:20 I mean, Ricardo Marcon who runs Baraba.
    1:58:25 Well, Action Bronson called it the best Italian restaurant
    1:58:27 in the world and it’s in Copenhagen.
    1:58:29 I mean, you start wars with that kind of shit,
    1:58:31 but there’s an argument that the best Italian restaurant
    1:58:35 in the world is in Copenhagen run by our buddy Ricardo.
    1:58:38 But Ricardo is the height of analog experiences.
    1:58:40 It starts with the hug at the door.
    1:58:41 – So, would you start stodging in his restaurant?
    1:58:43 What would your move be?
    1:58:46 – I mean, the kids have, our children have,
    1:58:48 they’ve made plenty of pasta in that place.
    1:58:50 But I think Europe is onto something
    1:58:53 with the art of the slow drink in the plaza.
    1:58:57 I really think humans still wanna have
    1:58:59 a slow drink in a plaza somewhere.
    1:59:01 I hope, I hope.
    1:59:03 And I know we’re not drinking as much alcohol,
    1:59:06 but I mean, I love those athletics, by the way.
    1:59:08 You realize that 80% of drinking a beer
    1:59:11 is just like, you wanted the 12 ounce curl apart, you know?
    1:59:14 It’s just like, today sucked, give me an athletic.
    1:59:16 And you’re like, I don’t actually wanna get fucked up
    1:59:17 right now, but there’s just something.
    1:59:18 I need to cap this day.
    1:59:20 I need to say work is over.
    1:59:22 And so, sorry, that was my limit shallow.
    1:59:24 I guess that’s a bad stand-in for athletic.
    1:59:25 We do have alcohol investments.
    1:59:27 I wouldn’t be betting on alcohol long-term,
    1:59:29 but I think people still wanna just hang out.
    1:59:32 The ritual of ordering a drink,
    1:59:35 ordering a light bite, hanging out, people watching.
    1:59:37 We need central places to hang.
    1:59:39 This movement during COVID of shutting down streets,
    1:59:41 making a bike, but also just cafe
    1:59:43 and outdoor seating friendly.
    1:59:45 We need more of that, humans crave that shit.
    1:59:47 That’s what I would be betting on right now.
    1:59:49 And then interactive guiding.
    1:59:51 Yes, I’ve used ChatGP to be like,
    1:59:53 hey, what’s the off the beaten path shit
    1:59:55 I should do in Berlin?
    1:59:56 It’s really good at it.
    1:59:57 But you know what else is cool
    2:00:00 is talking to a fucking punk kid in Berlin,
    2:00:02 who’s like, let me take you to a couple of places
    2:00:04 and I know this fucking guy and he’ll let you in
    2:00:05 and he has a craft cocktail.
    2:00:07 And do you know what the tradition is here?
    2:00:09 Here you spit, you put gum on the back of some marks
    2:00:11 and you throw them up from the fucking ceiling, you know?
    2:00:13 And so, I want more of that shit.
    2:00:17 And so, I think there is going to be a backlash to all this.
    2:00:18 – To all this, meaning-
    2:00:19 – Machines are just-
    2:00:20 – The machines and AI and so on.
    2:00:22 – The machines, the machines.
    2:00:23 – The Butlerian jihad.
    2:00:28 – Before that, yes, before they fucking kill us,
    2:00:31 I think we’ve got bigger fish to fry before AGI.
    2:00:34 And we might be at AGI right now anyway, by the way.
    2:00:38 But before the bio weapon disassemblers, you know,
    2:00:40 like I think we’ve got to worry about-
    2:00:43 – Being entertained to death by your curated feed.
    2:00:47 – Yeah, I mean, okay, so remember when we talked about
    2:00:50 Buckminster Fuller and I Seemed to Be a Verb,
    2:00:53 there’s another book designed by the same designer,
    2:00:57 Quentin Fiori, called The Medium is the Massage.
    2:00:59 Not the message, the massage.
    2:01:03 The background on that is originally a typo,
    2:01:04 but they went with it.
    2:01:07 (laughing)
    2:01:09 It’s Martian LeCluen.
    2:01:13 And that book, holy shit.
    2:01:15 Sorry if we just broke the market for it.
    2:01:18 But that book, you should front run that.
    2:01:19 Go buy all those copies.
    2:01:22 But that book, again, is one of these old ones.
    2:01:24 It’s beautiful, by the way, ’cause Quentin designed it,
    2:01:29 but it’s just beautiful foresight as to what’s happening.
    2:01:30 Not just entertaining yourself to death,
    2:01:34 but what happens when information supplants humanity.
    2:01:36 And so when that access, it’s just, I mean,
    2:01:39 the book’s got to be 50 years old at least.
    2:01:40 – Yeah, it’s an oldie.
    2:01:43 All right, so outside of the Butlerian jihad,
    2:01:45 we haven’t talked at all about lower carbon capital
    2:01:47 very little.
    2:01:51 You’ve invested in a whole plethora of different companies
    2:01:54 through lower carbon capital.
    2:01:55 You may not want to answer this,
    2:01:58 but are there any in particular, could be a sector,
    2:02:00 could be individual companies
    2:02:02 that you are particularly excited about?
    2:02:05 Or it’s like, okay, these are a handful,
    2:02:07 could be a sector, doesn’t have to be an individual company.
    2:02:09 And this is a way of asking like,
    2:02:13 what would you bet on outside of all the AI concerns
    2:02:15 and so on, and maybe these are AI enabled in fact.
    2:02:19 – So let’s just say what we do at lower carbon.
    2:02:23 We are venture capitalists and a team of scientists
    2:02:24 and business builders.
    2:02:27 And we back companies that are making real money
    2:02:30 by either slashing CO2 emissions
    2:02:31 or sucking carbon out of the sky
    2:02:34 or buying us time to unfuck the planet.
    2:02:37 I think this one even says it, unfuck the planet.
    2:02:40 Trademarked in a lot of countries, hard to do by the way,
    2:02:44 it’s hard to get swears trademarked some places.
    2:02:48 China, not huge fans of F-bombs, turns out.
    2:02:50 And so it was mission-driven for me.
    2:02:53 But we had this thesis that most climate investing
    2:02:56 and green investing, whatever you want to fucking call it,
    2:02:57 however they’re branding it these days,
    2:03:00 had been basically charitable, concessionary,
    2:03:02 some trade-offs, some sacrifice,
    2:03:04 couldn’t be done on a for-profit basis.
    2:03:06 And that was true for a long time.
    2:03:09 You needed regulatory support, you needed subsidy,
    2:03:12 you needed legal change, you needed philanthropy.
    2:03:15 But we started to actually see the math change
    2:03:19 to where the unit economics of making shit in climate,
    2:03:22 making shit clean, we’re starting to pay off.
    2:03:24 And so the cost was coming down
    2:03:27 thanks to compute, machine learning, AI,
    2:03:30 thanks to readily available feedstock, bioreactors,
    2:03:32 you name it.
    2:03:34 And then the demand was starting to increase
    2:03:37 on the other side because companies were realizing like,
    2:03:39 oh, if I do this stuff,
    2:03:40 not only is it just good for the planet,
    2:03:43 but it’s just fucking cheaper, it’s safer,
    2:03:45 it’s more resilient, it’s easier to use,
    2:03:49 it tends to blow up less than shit made with the oil and gas.
    2:03:51 ‘Cause it just turns out that digging up
    2:03:54 and burning old dinosaur bones is fucking expensive.
    2:03:58 And so using the sun to power the economy
    2:03:59 is just fucking cheaper.
    2:04:01 And that’s not a political statement.
    2:04:06 And what’s funny is when I talk to guys from West Texas
    2:04:08 like hardcore oil and gas.
    2:04:10 I’ll admit, I have to start the conversation
    2:04:13 by talking about the truck I drive.
    2:04:16 I have to quote some Kenny Chesney lyrics.
    2:04:18 I ask what’s in season, what are they hunting?
    2:04:20 Talk about whatever trophies behind them.
    2:04:23 I have to establish like I come in peace.
    2:04:27 But then we start talking about how are the cattle doing?
    2:04:28 Where are the yields like?
    2:04:29 How many are you running right now?
    2:04:30 Where are they way?
    2:04:33 You get some size.
    2:04:34 How’s a growing season?
    2:04:36 How many harvest are you getting?
    2:04:37 You get some size.
    2:04:39 What’s hunting been like?
    2:04:40 You know, how many tags you’re getting?
    2:04:42 You’re able to fill all those tags.
    2:04:43 You bagging anything good?
    2:04:47 Then you start talking about how are jobs going?
    2:04:48 How are people doing there?
    2:04:51 Then you start asking, so you guys getting any of the shakes?
    2:04:53 You getting the daily seismic activity?
    2:04:55 What’s water like?
    2:04:59 And before you know it, you have just talked
    2:05:01 all of the reality of a fucked climate
    2:05:03 without ever mentioning the word one time.
    2:05:09 And it doesn’t have to be fucking political at all.
    2:05:11 It’s just the reality.
    2:05:15 You know, the California fires are so fucked up
    2:05:19 but the reality is they’re actually gonna be an accelerator
    2:05:20 for the work we do.
    2:05:24 Because now, you know, a lot of climate stuff is like,
    2:05:27 well, shit, if I eat this shitty mushroom burger
    2:05:31 then maybe fewer people will be subjected
    2:05:33 to floods in Mongolia.
    2:05:35 It’s really fucking abstract, right?
    2:05:38 And we think maybe there’s like 300 million people
    2:05:40 on the planet who actually try and do that math
    2:05:42 and are willing to spend more money
    2:05:44 to buy something more expensive
    2:05:46 or who are willing to actually sacrifice deeply
    2:05:49 in their life with that kind of end-to-end relationship
    2:05:50 in mind.
    2:05:52 But like seven and a half billion people
    2:05:54 don’t have that luxury.
    2:05:57 Or just it’s really fucking taxing and exhausting
    2:05:58 to think about that all the time.
    2:06:00 I don’t wanna every time I sit down
    2:06:02 and bite into a delicious burger
    2:06:04 I had to be confronted by the existential crisis
    2:06:07 I am feeling, I mean, I love when that juice drips down
    2:06:09 and you’re like, oh, fuck, this is fucking delicious.
    2:06:10 Medium rare, let’s go.
    2:06:13 Oh, this grass-fed awesomeness, oh shit.
    2:06:15 Like you left a little of that fat in there.
    2:06:16 Yeah, let’s go.
    2:06:17 What’d you marinate this in?
    2:06:19 Oh, it’s fucking delicious.
    2:06:21 We were meant to eat that shit, right?
    2:06:22 And I don’t wanna have to constantly like,
    2:06:24 I’m a horrible person, I’m a horrible person
    2:06:26 and like eat it from my tears.
    2:06:31 Like, the burger of shame.
    2:06:33 So it’s just not, it’s not who we are.
    2:06:35 And you know what?
    2:06:37 The fucking activists made us feel so bad about it
    2:06:38 for so fucking long.
    2:06:40 The soup throwers.
    2:06:41 These people throwing soup on paintings.
    2:06:44 How the fuck are you helping anything?
    2:06:46 The people who glue themselves to the fucking floor
    2:06:48 of the US Open and stop traffic.
    2:06:50 Like, how are you helping anything?
    2:06:52 All you’re doing is radicalizing people
    2:06:53 against the stuff that we’re doing that
    2:06:56 as practically on fucking their businesses,
    2:06:57 their communities.
    2:06:59 If you really wanna put some blame
    2:07:01 on some people about what happened in the L.A. fires,
    2:07:03 like if we’re really just playing the blame game.
    2:07:04 And did you see the article?
    2:07:07 By the way, it’s a bunch of Russian disinfo accounts
    2:07:08 that are really flooding the tweets
    2:07:10 with trying to blame different people and stuff.
    2:07:11 It’s fucked up.
    2:07:14 So Russia just knows where to fucking pick the scabs with us.
    2:07:15 But if you wanna blame somebody,
    2:07:18 it’s the fucking environmentalists.
    2:07:21 It’s the fucking Sierra Club who makes it impossible
    2:07:25 for anyone to actually do any defensible space,
    2:07:28 to mow anything down, to do any controlled burns,
    2:07:30 to actually create defensible space
    2:07:32 around our fucking communities.
    2:07:34 It’s the fucking Nimbies who won’t let anyone
    2:07:36 actually use appropriate materials
    2:07:38 in building a fucking house.
    2:07:41 Did you see like, they are expediting the rebuild
    2:07:43 of any houses in those areas that burned down,
    2:07:46 but you can’t make any fucking changes to that.
    2:07:50 So we just saw a bunch of tinder boxes go up
    2:07:51 and it’s a great opportunity to be like,
    2:07:54 hey, maybe we should build us some different shit.
    2:07:56 Maybe we should build in some different shapes.
    2:07:57 Maybe we shouldn’t have ventilation
    2:07:59 that sucks everything up into the roof structure.
    2:08:01 Maybe we shouldn’t use the cheapest wood available,
    2:08:03 which is how Americans build shit.
    2:08:05 Maybe we should have more concrete,
    2:08:06 more aluminum, more heat reflection,
    2:08:08 more concrete walls around stuff.
    2:08:09 Maybe, just fucking maybe.
    2:08:11 Maybe we should use more shrubbery around it
    2:08:14 that actually absorbs more water and is less flammable.
    2:08:16 But no, expedited permitting
    2:08:19 if you build the exact same fucking thing you just had.
    2:08:21 Otherwise you go back to the end of the line.
    2:08:23 How fucking defeating is that?
    2:08:26 But it’s just so funny to be a climate investor
    2:08:28 and find myself constantly at odds
    2:08:30 with the goddamn environmentalists.
    2:08:33 I’m sure they have a fucking target on me,
    2:08:36 but that’s the reality is right now for the first time,
    2:08:38 I think we are going to draw the linkage
    2:08:42 between what happens if we don’t deal with these problems
    2:08:45 and the direct damage they cause in the short term.
    2:08:46 – And so if you look at your portfolio,
    2:08:47 just not to lose track of that,
    2:08:49 you can feel free to punt it for a bit,
    2:08:51 but I’m wondering if you’re like, okay,
    2:08:53 the things that I’m most excited about
    2:08:56 kind of moving the needle in ways that you care about,
    2:08:59 what those technologies or sectors or companies will be.
    2:09:03 – There’s things that are going to transform at scale,
    2:09:07 like fusion, clean, abundant power that is almost free
    2:09:09 is single digit years away.
    2:09:10 So that’s fucking great.
    2:09:12 I don’t even bother fighting with the oil and gas people,
    2:09:14 it doesn’t fucking matter.
    2:09:17 In fact, I actually want them to work with us more
    2:09:18 on carbon capture and sequester,
    2:09:21 putting more carbon back into the ground
    2:09:22 ’cause they’ve got the trucks and they’ve got the pipes
    2:09:24 and they’ve got the engineering know-how
    2:09:25 and they’re great at it.
    2:09:28 And so we do a lot of work with oil and gas companies
    2:09:30 going in reverse.
    2:09:32 So I don’t have political battles with those guys.
    2:09:35 And again, that’s something that the activists hate about me.
    2:09:37 I will fucking sit with these people.
    2:09:39 Chris Wright, our new energy secretary,
    2:09:41 I consider him a reasonable person.
    2:09:43 He grew up in the oil and gas business.
    2:09:45 If we didn’t have the oil and gas business,
    2:09:47 we would not enjoy the economy we enjoy today.
    2:09:49 Everything in that room you’re sitting in right now
    2:09:51 was made possible by oil and gas.
    2:09:54 We can’t just fucking pretend.
    2:09:56 Otherwise, we’d be living that primitive life
    2:09:58 that I know you’ve gotten some of your survivalist books
    2:10:01 somewhere, but without oil and gas, we’re fucked.
    2:10:04 It’s my job to give you a better alternative.
    2:10:07 And I enjoy when the big oil majors come to us.
    2:10:09 Sometimes they’ll try to do a business deal or even buy us.
    2:10:10 We had one of the big oil majors
    2:10:12 try to buy lower carbon capital.
    2:10:14 We’re not for sale.
    2:10:16 But we said, bring your engineering team
    2:10:17 to meet with our engineering team
    2:10:18 and let’s get some shit done together.
    2:10:19 I love that.
    2:10:21 We have a company called Solygen
    2:10:24 that makes chemicals using enzymes instead of oil
    2:10:25 as the main ingredient.
    2:10:29 There’s zero emission chemicals, industrial chemicals.
    2:10:30 You know who buys those chemicals?
    2:10:32 The oil and gas industry.
    2:10:34 And so one of the big chemicals they make
    2:10:36 is hydrogen peroxide at industrial scale,
    2:10:39 which is an important component of the oil and gas industry.
    2:10:42 When that buyer comes to Solygen to buy that stuff,
    2:10:44 they ask two questions.
    2:10:47 Is it hydrogen peroxide and is it cheaper?
    2:10:49 Well, then fuck it, I’ll buy it.
    2:10:50 And it’s just fun.
    2:10:52 I like to envision that guy with like a dip in
    2:10:55 and a cowboy hat, you know, like, well, fuck it, I’ll buy it.
    2:10:58 But literally that’s my favorite fucking buyer.
    2:11:02 Someone who buys the cleaner thing out of self-interest.
    2:11:05 And so that’s what we’re seeing across all of this stuff.
    2:11:08 Now, in the short term, you wanna talk about fires.
    2:11:09 We have a company called Burnbot
    2:11:11 that is literally an autonomous drone
    2:11:13 that goes into the wild urban interface,
    2:11:16 mows shit down, starts a controlled burn,
    2:11:18 burns a defensible space.
    2:11:19 – You say defensible space.
    2:11:22 You just mean basically a red-line.
    2:11:23 – A fire line.
    2:11:27 So a space where there is a gap where it would be hard,
    2:11:30 even in high winds, for fire to jump that,
    2:11:32 or at least firefighters know, start here
    2:11:33 and work backwards.
    2:11:34 By the way, if you have good fire lines,
    2:11:37 you can just start a fire to go back in the other direction
    2:11:39 and be like, well, this wasn’t our preferred thing,
    2:11:40 but if we got a big fire coming at us,
    2:11:42 may as well start a fire to head back at it.
    2:11:45 So you can look this up, Burnbot, it’s fucking awesome.
    2:11:48 And, you know, private landowners don’t have a problem
    2:11:50 usually running Burnbot,
    2:11:52 but where it needs to run is on a lot of public land
    2:11:54 and they’ll just get sued.
    2:11:56 And so, you know, like somebody will be like,
    2:11:58 hey, we need to do some fuel reduction here,
    2:11:59 some fuel management.
    2:12:02 And fuel management, I looked at some data recently,
    2:12:03 it takes between four and seven years
    2:12:05 for those projects to get out of litigation.
    2:12:09 – By fuel management, you mean actual timber or undergrowth?
    2:12:11 Is that what you mean by fuel?
    2:12:14 – So before we were all walking around the United States,
    2:12:16 you know, what is now the United States?
    2:12:18 There used to be a bunch of fires, right?
    2:12:19 It just naturally caused fires,
    2:12:21 lightning stuff would happen.
    2:12:24 The indigenous people who inhabited this land
    2:12:26 knew about the power of those fires.
    2:12:29 And what would happen is when fires occurred
    2:12:30 on a regular basis,
    2:12:33 they were actually very healthy for those ecosystems.
    2:12:36 We know that there are certain conifers, pines,
    2:12:39 that only release their seeds in the event of a fire.
    2:12:42 They literally do not release their seeds otherwise.
    2:12:45 And so fire is a vitally important part
    2:12:47 of a forest ecosystem.
    2:12:50 To have healthy nature, you have to have fire.
    2:12:52 A bunch of very well-intentioned
    2:12:55 greens and environmentalists came along
    2:12:57 and said, holy shit, fire.
    2:12:59 It releases a bunch of shit in the sky,
    2:13:01 it gets close to human beings,
    2:13:03 some deer will fucking die, you know,
    2:13:04 like we need to stop fire.
    2:13:06 And look, all this shit in hindsight,
    2:13:08 I’m not blaming those people
    2:13:10 because in hindsight, I don’t think they knew this.
    2:13:12 I think they were trying to do the right thing.
    2:13:13 But what happened was,
    2:13:15 they started putting out fires immediately.
    2:13:18 You know, we had all those massive fire towers, right?
    2:13:20 Those are fun to like spend a night in, by the way,
    2:13:21 if you want to camp out in an old fire tower.
    2:13:23 So we had all these fire towers,
    2:13:25 they would see a fire, they would immediately put it out.
    2:13:29 What happens when that happens is all this fuel grows.
    2:13:32 So all this undergrowth starts to grow and grow and grow.
    2:13:35 And before you know it, when the next fire starts,
    2:13:37 there’s so much fuel there
    2:13:39 that instead of like cleaning it out
    2:13:42 and letting some little pine cones kind of drop
    2:13:45 and creating more space for the next layer of growth
    2:13:46 and for animal habitat,
    2:13:48 instead it burns so fucking hot
    2:13:50 that the biggest trees all burned down
    2:13:52 and the microbial layer all burns.
    2:13:54 And now you’ve got fucking sand.
    2:13:56 And so what we started to realize
    2:13:59 was that all those years of fire suppression
    2:14:02 were the worst form of fire management.
    2:14:05 And in doing so, they actually hurt the nature
    2:14:07 they were intended to help.
    2:14:09 Even if there were no houses nearby,
    2:14:11 you have to let fires burn out.
    2:14:12 And if it’s in a place
    2:14:14 where you can’t just let that happen randomly,
    2:14:16 you have to actively manage fuels
    2:14:18 as if nature was doing it for you.
    2:14:20 And so managing fuels means in a scrub brush area,
    2:14:22 it means like you just go in
    2:14:24 and you chop and burn the fucking grass.
    2:14:25 You just have to do it.
    2:14:27 And so you have to build that defensible space
    2:14:29 and you have to let some of these spaces renew.
    2:14:32 In forests, it means you have to limb stuff.
    2:14:33 You have to take the dead stuff.
    2:14:34 You have to limb stuff.
    2:14:36 And then you have to set it on fire.
    2:14:39 And you do these and it’s a really, really important part
    2:14:40 of forestry management.
    2:14:42 We know that now.
    2:14:44 And the US Forest Service knows this.
    2:14:47 All that those are hardworking, amazing fucking people,
    2:14:48 but the environmentalists do to stop them
    2:14:49 all the fucking time.
    2:14:51 And that’s killing people right now.
    2:14:53 There’s just no doubt about it.
    2:14:55 I am hopeful a silver lining,
    2:14:56 ’cause I’m gonna talk about politics,
    2:14:58 but a silver lining is I think we’re gonna cut through
    2:15:00 some of that shit right now.
    2:15:02 I think we are headed into an era of pragmatism,
    2:15:06 of putting literally the forest before the trees
    2:15:09 and starting to actually proactively get ahead of that stuff.
    2:15:11 By the way, it’s the same shit with floods.
    2:15:12 It’s the same shit with drought.
    2:15:13 It’s the same shit with famine.
    2:15:16 We have just been stopped from taking proactive measures.
    2:15:19 So a company like Burnbot, company like Gridware.
    2:15:21 Gridware actually is monitoring equipment
    2:15:24 on every single power line, tower by tower.
    2:15:26 Like, do you know right now,
    2:15:30 if there is a power failure on a PG&E transmission line,
    2:15:30 do you know how they figure out
    2:15:32 where that power failure was?
    2:15:36 They just start driving along and looking up
    2:15:37 and trying to figure it out.
    2:15:40 Are they helicopter down the whole fucking line?
    2:15:43 They have no data that comes off those fucking lines.
    2:15:46 At this point, well, it’s not my words.
    2:15:47 Somebody else said, at this point,
    2:15:50 PG&E is essentially the biggest arsonist in California.
    2:15:53 And so electrical utilities are responsible
    2:15:56 for 11% of the fire ignitions in the state of California
    2:15:57 and 50% of the damage.
    2:16:00 And so you have these tools like Gridware
    2:16:03 that can just be tower by tower monitoring.
    2:16:04 Know where there’s interruption.
    2:16:05 You can immediately go there and see,
    2:16:07 okay, where was the tree that fell?
    2:16:08 Where is the spark?
    2:16:09 You can suppress that fire in a place
    2:16:11 where you don’t want to have fire
    2:16:13 or you don’t haven’t controlled for it.
    2:16:15 But there hasn’t been an incentive
    2:16:17 for those companies to pay that.
    2:16:19 Like PG&E is already bankrupted.
    2:16:20 They haven’t been on the hook for that.
    2:16:22 But now we’ve got insurance companies,
    2:16:24 like multiple insurance companies
    2:16:25 are gonna go bankrupt right now.
    2:16:27 And so is California’s fair plan,
    2:16:28 which is the insurer of last resort
    2:16:30 does not have the money it needs to pay
    2:16:31 for what just happened.
    2:16:33 We have a company called Stand,
    2:16:35 which is a fire insurance company
    2:16:36 that actually assesses the real risk
    2:16:38 of insuring your home
    2:16:41 instead of state farm just pulling out of the fucking state.
    2:16:43 By the way, I don’t think you want to show a lot of football,
    2:16:46 but you know, the LA Rams couldn’t play their game in LA
    2:16:48 because of the fires, right?
    2:16:50 So they moved it to their playoff game.
    2:16:52 They moved it to Arizona
    2:16:54 and they played in state farm arena.
    2:16:57 And I couldn’t even believe they didn’t just put duct tape
    2:16:58 over the fucking logo.
    2:17:00 It was the most fucked up irony ever.
    2:17:01 But so instead of having an insurance company
    2:17:03 plot of an entire state,
    2:17:06 a company like Stand looks at house by house by house
    2:17:09 and says, here is your modeled risk.
    2:17:12 And here are the other things that you can proactively do
    2:17:13 to reduce that risk
    2:17:16 to where we will actually write you an insurance policy.
    2:17:17 And we have companies like Floodbase
    2:17:19 that do that same thing for floods
    2:17:21 and look at like, here’s the risk.
    2:17:23 And you can’t remember a hundred year storms
    2:17:24 happen every year now.
    2:17:28 Like we can’t just model these on historical data anymore.
    2:17:30 I mean, as John Stewart put it, they’re not like,
    2:17:32 what just happened in LA is like,
    2:17:34 if a fire fucked a tornado,
    2:17:36 you can’t just model for that anymore.
    2:17:39 You have to assume the worst and assume like,
    2:17:42 okay, what do we do in terms of space management?
    2:17:43 What do we do in terms of materials?
    2:17:45 What do we do in terms of suppression?
    2:17:46 What do we do in terms of response?
    2:17:49 What do we do in terms of adaptation or resiliency
    2:17:51 in the face of all that?
    2:17:53 And so I think there are so many opportunities
    2:17:55 to be better at that stuff right now.
    2:18:00 And I am hopeful that the silver lining
    2:18:02 of a tragedy like this is the cause
    2:18:05 and the effect are so close
    2:18:08 and finally appeal so much to self-interest.
    2:18:10 They finally appeal to that linkage
    2:18:12 between instead of just like,
    2:18:14 hey, if a butterfly flaps its wings far away
    2:18:14 and you’re like, oh,
    2:18:17 if that bush fucking lights on fire over there,
    2:18:18 that’s it.
    2:18:19 You and I have a buddy who like,
    2:18:21 went to go look at the wreckage of his home
    2:18:24 and his fireproof safe was a puddle.
    2:18:26 It was a fucking puddle.
    2:18:27 It’s just so devastating.
    2:18:28 I’m hopeful.
    2:18:31 I actually feel a second wind in our work.
    2:18:33 And so do the people I work with right now.
    2:18:36 I feel like it’s always been mission driven,
    2:18:38 but we’re also unapologetically capitalist.
    2:18:39 It’s great.
    2:18:41 I mean, it’s making a lot of money right now,
    2:18:43 but I feel like right now it makes
    2:18:45 the stakes of it even clearer.
    2:18:48 And I know there’ll be a bunch of fucking people yelling
    2:18:50 at each other about what went wrong in LA.
    2:18:51 But here’s the funniest thing.
    2:18:53 The phone is ringing off the hook right now
    2:18:55 from people not in LA who are like,
    2:18:56 that can never happen here.
    2:18:58 What do we do?
    2:18:59 And I love that.
    2:19:01 – No permanent record.
    2:19:02 You wanna talk about it?
    2:19:03 It’s a story.
    2:19:04 What’s happening?
    2:19:04 Why now?
    2:19:06 – Yeah.
    2:19:09 I don’t know what to tell a 20-something to do right now,
    2:19:12 other than to be a fucking Sherpa or a guide
    2:19:14 or build some in-person analog experience.
    2:19:19 But I do know that there is this cultural hole
    2:19:22 where these young people today
    2:19:25 haven’t been given the chance to fuck up.
    2:19:25 They just can’t.
    2:19:28 There’s fucking, did you ever teepee a house Tim?
    2:19:30 – No, but I had my house teepeed.
    2:19:31 I had to deal with it.
    2:19:32 – Okay, like.
    2:19:35 – I did other, I did plenty of other stuff
    2:19:36 that got me in trouble, but no teepee.
    2:19:38 – Nobody gets to do that anymore
    2:19:39 ’cause they’re on a ring camera, man.
    2:19:41 Nobody gets to egg anything.
    2:19:42 And to go back to Mark Rober,
    2:19:45 he’s the one who built that fucking glitter fart bomb package.
    2:19:49 – When my one close friend finally got his license
    2:19:51 or it was probably driver’s permit.
    2:19:52 We shouldn’t have even been out
    2:19:55 ’cause I was a townie, right, on Eastern Long Island.
    2:19:56 – Yeah.
    2:19:57 – We had a lot of tension with the city people,
    2:19:58 as we would call it.
    2:20:00 So we would drive around
    2:20:03 and I had a like a wrist rocket, a slingshot.
    2:20:08 And we had, we just bought a huge bag of grapes
    2:20:10 and just went around not shooting at people,
    2:20:13 but like we’d shoot at things next to the people.
    2:20:16 And I’m not proud of that.
    2:20:19 We didn’t hurt anybody, but we got in a lot of trouble.
    2:20:22 We got in a good amount of trouble.
    2:20:23 – I think we got in lots of trouble,
    2:20:24 but I think we have a generation of kids
    2:20:26 who didn’t get a chance to get into any trouble.
    2:20:28 And I’m starting to believe more and more
    2:20:31 that trouble is actually one of those things
    2:20:34 that informs all the other things that we do.
    2:20:36 Like, did you ever talk somebody into getting you beer?
    2:20:39 – I talked somebody into getting me,
    2:20:42 it wasn’t really like for a party, some hard liquor.
    2:20:44 It wasn’t beer, I went straight to the hard stuff.
    2:20:45 But yeah.
    2:20:47 – Yeah, okay.
    2:20:47 Let me ask you a question.
    2:20:51 Did you ever have a party with your parents’ liquor
    2:20:53 and then pour a little bit of water back in the vodka
    2:20:54 to make it look like the level went back up?
    2:20:57 – No, I didn’t because my parents are hoarders
    2:20:58 and the house wouldn’t have worked.
    2:20:59 But I saw that done.
    2:21:01 I did plenty of other stuff too.
    2:21:04 And like things that are, like there’s no real victim, right?
    2:21:08 Like I remember, like I remember for instance,
    2:21:11 my elementary school, same friend who drove me around
    2:21:13 with the grapes and the slingshot.
    2:21:15 He was the tallest kid in the class.
    2:21:20 Also very smart, equally open to maybe deviant behavior.
    2:21:24 And at the elementary school,
    2:21:26 there was this huge wall where kids
    2:21:28 would just whack tennis balls back and forth.
    2:21:32 Kind of like racket ball, but long island style.
    2:21:34 And nobody knew what they were doing.
    2:21:36 So they would hit all the tennis balls
    2:21:38 up onto the roof eventually.
    2:21:39 This was like ’80s, right?
    2:21:42 There were all these amazingly cheesy ninja movies.
    2:21:44 And there was the, I think it was called
    2:21:47 the Asian world of martial arts catalog,
    2:21:51 which ships like completely dangerous grappling hooks
    2:21:54 and stuff from Philadelphia, I think it was.
    2:21:58 And so I had some kind of ninja tooling
    2:22:01 and we figured out a way with rope
    2:22:04 to get up on the school and then use garbage bags
    2:22:07 to like temporarily steal all of the tennis balls.
    2:22:10 And it turned into, I mean, for this small school,
    2:22:12 it was quite the scandal at the time.
    2:22:14 I mean, there was a manhunt.
    2:22:17 And then we returned the tennis balls at some point
    2:22:19 and all sins were forgiven or at least they stopped,
    2:22:22 they called off the hounds, but you know, stuff like that.
    2:22:24 – Yes, this is what I’m talking about.
    2:22:26 I feel like the statute of limitations
    2:22:29 has expired for most of these things,
    2:22:31 but they are formative.
    2:22:34 Hawkeye actually, previously known as Hawkeye,
    2:22:36 had a music store in Park City, Utah,
    2:22:39 where I was a resident and we were in business together.
    2:22:42 – Wait, where are you in business doing?
    2:22:43 – We had a few fun flams.
    2:22:45 So one of the things we did was,
    2:22:46 first of all, we had to build some community.
    2:22:48 So one of the things we did was like,
    2:22:50 we would sell you the Britney Spears album,
    2:22:52 but you had to sign your name and address
    2:22:54 hosted at the front desk,
    2:22:56 like almost like a sex offender registry,
    2:22:59 but it was like a Britney fire registry.
    2:23:02 And so that offends like one out of 10 people,
    2:23:04 but it builds community with 99 out of 100 people.
    2:23:06 And so, but one of the things we would do
    2:23:09 to make a little bit extra cash is,
    2:23:11 well, we had a body who was the postman.
    2:23:13 And so he would come into the store
    2:23:15 and he would say, hey, you know,
    2:23:16 there’s all these people signed up
    2:23:18 for that Columbia house shit.
    2:23:19 And then they move away.
    2:23:21 Park City was like a town full of transients
    2:23:23 and they’re like, so I get all these fucking CDs.
    2:23:25 Like, are they worth anything?
    2:23:27 And so we like scan the UPC symbols and we’re like,
    2:23:29 oh my God, they’re the same UPC symbols
    2:23:31 as the retail ones.
    2:23:33 So we would do a little trade, you know, like,
    2:23:34 hey, pick out something from the store
    2:23:36 and give us a bunch of those Christina Aguileras.
    2:23:38 And that helped us stock fewer CDs.
    2:23:40 But then we figured out,
    2:23:43 you could take them to Walmart and return them.
    2:23:48 So if we really needed drinking money,
    2:23:53 we would return like 25 Limp Bizkit CDs to Walmart.
    2:23:55 And they’d be like, what is this shit?
    2:23:57 And be like, oh, everyone at my birthday party
    2:24:00 thought it’d be so funny to buy me a fucking Limp Bizkit CD.
    2:24:04 And then you remember CDs weren’t cheap, right?
    2:24:06 So you do these things 20 or 25 at a time.
    2:24:08 And you’re like, I’m rich motherfucker, let’s go.
    2:24:11 And so we also did a thing where it was around the time
    2:24:13 that Napster started.
    2:24:15 And we realized like music stores weren’t for long.
    2:24:20 And so we did this thing where it was restocking fee,
    2:24:24 but we would let kids buy a CD, take it home,
    2:24:26 rip it presumably.
    2:24:27 I don’t know what they were doing
    2:24:29 in the price of their home.
    2:24:31 But if they returned the CD the next day,
    2:24:35 we would charge them a $3.50 restocking fee.
    2:24:36 So essentially what we were doing
    2:24:39 is reselling the same CD over and over again,
    2:24:40 keeping our margin.
    2:24:42 I’m sure the record company wouldn’t have loved it,
    2:24:44 but it was a very customer friendly policy.
    2:24:46 (laughing)
    2:24:48 But that’s what it took to keep a music store afloat.
    2:24:49 – In Park City.
    2:24:51 – In, you know, 2000, 2001 in Park City.
    2:24:54 – What’s the format of no permanent record?
    2:24:55 What do you hope it’s?
    2:24:57 – I don’t know, Tim.
    2:24:59 – Well, like what are you gonna do?
    2:25:01 – No, I’m having conversations with,
    2:25:03 I’m starting to have conversations with successful people
    2:25:08 where they talk about the small crimes and misdemeanors
    2:25:11 they committed, the parties they threw,
    2:25:13 the lies they told to their parents,
    2:25:15 the clubs they talked their way into,
    2:25:18 the fake IDs they made, everything along the way,
    2:25:22 the papers that they plagiarized, just everything they did,
    2:25:26 and how that actually built some sense of humanity,
    2:25:28 resilience, like the shit they got themselves into
    2:25:31 and the shit they got themselves out of.
    2:25:33 And like, if it ends up just being
    2:25:36 the last archeological record of what it was like
    2:25:38 when we were humans still,
    2:25:40 when we weren’t judged at every fucking moment,
    2:25:43 and I actually just feel like culturally it’s the right time
    2:25:46 because you do this two years ago and everyone’s like,
    2:25:47 fuck you, privileged assholes, other people.
    2:25:50 And I’m like, we’re over, we’re past privileged assholes.
    2:25:53 We’re just like, hey, that’s kind of fucking amazing.
    2:25:55 You were able to, you chalked IDs.
    2:25:57 And what I found is, is I tell more of these stories
    2:25:59 of like, without a fake ID in college,
    2:26:01 you had nowhere to go, right?
    2:26:02 So you needed one.
    2:26:05 So we would either make them by like doing some shit
    2:26:08 with some cool overlay contact paper,
    2:26:11 or we would find some fucking guy down in the deep city
    2:26:14 where you’d stand in front of a goddamn chalkboard
    2:26:16 of a huge ass driver’s license
    2:26:18 to pretend you were McLovin’, you know?
    2:26:21 Like, I mean, we would do all kinds of things
    2:26:23 when there was room to still cut some corners,
    2:26:24 take some liberties.
    2:26:25 – Let me rest up for a second.
    2:26:28 So I thought getting a fake ID would be a great idea.
    2:26:29 I don’t know how old I was.
    2:26:31 It was like 14 or something.
    2:26:35 And my buddy and I, same guy who was part
    2:26:37 of the other two fiascos,
    2:26:42 we decided to take a bus from Eastern Long Island,
    2:26:44 like three hours out to go into the city.
    2:26:48 Now, this isn’t like post Giuliani,
    2:26:51 post Bloomberg, like friendly New York city
    2:26:54 with like biking lanes through Times Square.
    2:26:59 This is like much prettier New York city.
    2:27:03 So we get there to go on this adventure
    2:27:07 and literally within hours, we are both conned and mugged.
    2:27:12 And like, within hours of getting there,
    2:27:15 our first time in New York city, basically.
    2:27:16 And then no cell phones, right?
    2:27:18 So we get separated.
    2:27:20 These two guys separate us to scam us,
    2:27:23 then proceed to like steal all the shit.
    2:27:24 Then we get separated.
    2:27:27 I go to the police station and I’m like,
    2:27:28 “My buddy, you might be dead.”
    2:27:30 And they’re like, “Where is he dead?”
    2:27:33 And I’m like, “This intersection.”
    2:27:35 And they’re like, “Yeah, that’s not our jurisdiction, pal.
    2:27:35 Good luck.”
    2:27:37 And I was like, “What?”
    2:27:39 First interaction with like asking police for help.
    2:27:41 I’m like, “Oh, that didn’t work out as I thought it would.”
    2:27:43 Then I had to take the buses home.
    2:27:45 Each of us thinking the other was dead.
    2:27:47 That was a real growth experience.
    2:27:48 It’s a learning opportunity.
    2:27:50 – Dude, I love it.
    2:27:51 – It’s not recommending.
    2:27:53 People do like the most reckless shit imaginable,
    2:27:54 but it’s like–
    2:27:56 – No, but maybe, but maybe.
    2:27:58 But maybe.
    2:27:59 The planet’s never been safer.
    2:28:00 Well, America’s never been safer.
    2:28:01 There are definitely places
    2:28:02 I wouldn’t want to hang out right now.
    2:28:06 But dude, I, God, what is that guy’s name?
    2:28:10 But I once went to a casino in Vegas.
    2:28:11 I was broke, was with my buddies.
    2:28:13 We were staying at the Sundowner.
    2:28:14 We split a room four ways.
    2:28:15 It was a trade, actually.
    2:28:19 I think somebody owed us money at the record store.
    2:28:20 And so we traded out, he had a buddy.
    2:28:23 We got a room at the Sundowner, okay?
    2:28:24 Rest in peace, Sundowner.
    2:28:26 And so, by the way, at one point
    2:28:28 while we were staying in that room,
    2:28:31 two queen beds, four guys, like my buddy nudges me.
    2:28:32 And I’m like, “What, dude?
    2:28:33 What?”
    2:28:34 Like, we’d been out all night.
    2:28:35 It’s probably two in the afternoon.
    2:28:37 I just, he’s like, “Bro, look, look.”
    2:28:38 I’m like, “What?”
    2:28:39 He’s like, “Look.”
    2:28:41 I looked down at the foot of the bed.
    2:28:44 At the foot of the bed is like a 12 to 14-year-old
    2:28:49 Southeast Asian kid standing there staring at us.
    2:28:53 He looked as scared as I did.
    2:28:55 And we were just like, “What, is he here for our kidneys?
    2:28:57 What is he fucking doing?
    2:28:58 Oh my God.”
    2:28:59 And we were frozen.
    2:29:00 And my buddy was not small.
    2:29:03 Like, we were in every position to like,
    2:29:04 but we were just absolutely frozen.
    2:29:06 Like, what is happening here?
    2:29:09 And eventually the kid ran out and we called down
    2:29:11 and apparently he had a key card that also worked
    2:29:13 in our door and went into the wrong room.
    2:29:15 There was some innocent explanation for it.
    2:29:16 Yeah, sure.
    2:29:18 We still think he was maybe there for some organs,
    2:29:21 but either way, like that night we’re out.
    2:29:23 We find ourselves at Hera’s.
    2:29:25 A buddy says, “Hey, let’s go get our shoes shined.”
    2:29:26 What do you say?
    2:29:28 So we go over the shoe shine and we’re there
    2:29:30 and there’s a fucking pimp over there.
    2:29:34 I mean, full on like player’s ball situation.
    2:29:37 And he’s got suede hush puppies on.
    2:29:40 So there’s no reason he should be at the fucking shoe shine.
    2:29:42 But we start talking to this guy.
    2:29:43 I’m embarrassed.
    2:29:43 I can’t remember his name.
    2:29:45 I got to ask my buddy immediately after wrapping this,
    2:29:47 but we start talking shit.
    2:29:49 And you know, and I consider myself pretty good
    2:29:51 at Rochambeau, rock, paper, scissors.
    2:29:53 You know, I consider myself above average.
    2:29:55 Like I, it’s a talent I’ve honed over time.
    2:29:56 It is not a game of luck.
    2:29:58 It is a game of skill.
    2:30:01 And so I challenged this guy to a little Rochambeau.
    2:30:04 And I remember the stakes were, if I win,
    2:30:06 we get to hang out with you tonight.
    2:30:09 So I beat the guy in Rochambeau.
    2:30:11 I mean, it was that I, that wasn’t even a question.
    2:30:13 So I thought this would be fucking great.
    2:30:15 Well, in an ethnography, we get to go hang out
    2:30:17 with this fucking pimp.
    2:30:21 But we found ourselves in some fucking hot water that night.
    2:30:24 I mean, this is pre the hangover movie.
    2:30:26 We were in a couple of situations.
    2:30:31 I, those were formative experiences.
    2:30:37 I feel like kids these days haven’t been in danger.
    2:30:38 They haven’t been in situations like,
    2:30:40 how the fuck did we get out of this one?
    2:30:42 They haven’t regretted anything.
    2:30:45 They haven’t bullshitted their way in or out.
    2:30:47 I feel like no one’s gotten a chance to sell anything.
    2:30:49 Almost everyone I know who’s been a successful entrepreneur
    2:30:50 sold something.
    2:30:52 – For sure.
    2:30:54 – Whether it was candy in school or door to door,
    2:30:55 or they sold something.
    2:30:58 And sometimes that just meant they worked in a foot locker,
    2:30:59 or they worked in a radio shack,
    2:31:01 or they worked in a computer store and sold software.
    2:31:04 But almost all of them know how to sell something.
    2:31:06 And I feel like the insight of that comes from sales.
    2:31:08 But a lot of those sales were shady.
    2:31:10 You know, like, how do you mark it up?
    2:31:11 How do you sell those?
    2:31:15 I remember we had a cable guy in Washington, D.C.
    2:31:16 named Lucky.
    2:31:17 – The guy who would trick out your box?
    2:31:18 Like the black box?
    2:31:20 – Yes, yes.
    2:31:22 And then he came back and stole everything in our house,
    2:31:26 but we didn’t realize that Lucky’s assistant
    2:31:27 was casing everything.
    2:31:28 – Lucky for Lucky.
    2:31:33 – Yes, but I need more stories like that in my life.
    2:31:36 If we really are going down in flames,
    2:31:38 I want to record for posterity,
    2:31:41 all the banged up shit we did that informed who we were.
    2:31:43 And like after hanging out with high school buddies
    2:31:45 this weekend, I just reminded of how important that is,
    2:31:47 the bonds that come from that.
    2:31:49 You and I have a mutual buddy, I won’t say,
    2:31:50 ’cause I don’t know if he said this out loud,
    2:31:54 but he and his wife, their 11th grade daughter
    2:31:56 came home buzzed like a month ago.
    2:31:59 And she was trying to sneak up and they kind of were like,
    2:32:00 “Are you been drinking?”
    2:32:02 And she’s like, “Oh, in there.”
    2:32:03 He couldn’t help himself,
    2:32:05 but the words that came out of his mouth were like,
    2:32:06 “Thank God.”
    2:32:08 And she’s like, “What?”
    2:32:11 And the mom was like, “Oh, whew, what a relief.”
    2:32:13 And the girl was so like, “What are you talking about?”
    2:32:16 They’re like, “We just thought you’d never do it.”
    2:32:18 Like we thought you’d never fucking try it.
    2:32:20 It was such a mind fuck for them.
    2:32:22 I just worry, I mean, Crystal,
    2:32:26 my wife whose GPA was 0.02 points higher than mine
    2:32:28 in the same academic program at Georgetown,
    2:32:30 but Crystal would get all her schoolwork done
    2:32:31 and then go rave.
    2:32:36 And I mean, the hardcore DC and Baltimore rave scene rave.
    2:32:37 And we’d just get out there and be like,
    2:32:39 “I’ve been in some situations.
    2:32:41 I’ve been in some rooms where I’m like, holy fuck.
    2:32:43 We better get out of here before shit gets out
    2:32:45 or before the cops show up.”
    2:32:47 But even in high school, she lived on a compound.
    2:32:49 She would crush her academics
    2:32:52 and then she would literally crawl out of the window,
    2:32:55 sneak past the embassy compound guards,
    2:32:56 get in a cab at midnight,
    2:32:58 and go party with her friends in Delhi,
    2:33:01 and then sneak her way back onto an American embassy compound
    2:33:04 without Marines noticing her.
    2:33:05 That’s fucking rad.
    2:33:07 You know, like that’s part of what makes Crystal
    2:33:09 so fucking awesome right now.
    2:33:12 And I need to memorialize these things
    2:33:14 for the benefit of humanity.
    2:33:17 Before we’re all obviated, like these kids
    2:33:19 who have these incredible GPAs and this test taking,
    2:33:21 I think it might be useless.
    2:33:24 I think they might have optimized for useless skills.
    2:33:26 And I think the only thing that might keep us going
    2:33:28 is that randomness, that unpredictability,
    2:33:30 those flaws, those fuck ups,
    2:33:32 the things that make us banged up,
    2:33:33 the things where we make bad decisions
    2:33:36 where we’re self-indulgent, where we have bad.
    2:33:38 Like, I’m lucky that I have all daughters,
    2:33:40 but when they invite boys over the house,
    2:33:44 I watch boys make bad decisions repeatedly.
    2:33:45 And at first I was like, wait,
    2:33:47 why is the patriarchy a thing
    2:33:49 when I watch them be so fucking stupid
    2:33:51 and take so many dumb risks?
    2:33:53 I’m like, of course you were gonna get hurt
    2:33:54 when you jumped off that thing.
    2:33:57 What in your head thought you weren’t going to?
    2:33:59 Of course that was gonna break.
    2:34:00 And then I started realizing,
    2:34:03 you know why we have a fucking patriarchy?
    2:34:05 Because that randomness is something
    2:34:07 that no one knows how to count on.
    2:34:09 I’ve had to teach our team,
    2:34:11 the number one thing you can be in this business
    2:34:12 is unpredictable.
    2:34:15 Feed into the fact, I am known as mercurial,
    2:34:18 I burn bridges, I will not hesitate to fucking fight you.
    2:34:21 I wear the stupid shirts, I don’t give a shit about much.
    2:34:23 I’ve been known to just light it on fire.
    2:34:24 And guess what?
    2:34:27 People take me seriously as a result.
    2:34:29 I haven’t backed down from all those fucking character flaws
    2:34:32 I have that are very self-destructive.
    2:34:36 But I am all gas, no fucking breaks, as you know.
    2:34:38 Although in our line, we call it no gas, no breaks.
    2:34:41 But we need to cultivate more of that
    2:34:43 if we have any hope as a fucking species.
    2:34:45 We just need to, I’m sorry.
    2:34:47 That’s where I dropped the fucking mic.
    2:34:49 So that’s no permanent record.
    2:34:52 Tim Ferriss, you are going to be one of the very first guests
    2:34:54 and we’re gonna go deep into all your hijinks,
    2:34:56 all your fucking skeletons.
    2:34:57 – I’m open.
    2:34:59 – No felonies, the main rule is no felonies.
    2:35:00 – Yeah, no felonies, I’m clear there.
    2:35:01 – Yeah.
    2:35:04 I mean, if you have murders, I worry.
    2:35:05 – Oh, that time.
    2:35:08 Mass grave is one of the things.
    2:35:09 – There’s just a viable homicide.
    2:35:10 – Should use more lies.
    2:35:13 – There’s just a viable homicide, but no, hijinks,
    2:35:17 hijinks, flim flams, like bamboozling, you know?
    2:35:19 – That’s gotta be in your intro when you’re like,
    2:35:20 welcome to no permanent record.
    2:35:21 – Little razzle dazzle.
    2:35:24 – Where the flim flams bamboozling has a home.
    2:35:26 – Yes, do you know any card tricks?
    2:35:29 – I used to know quite a few card tricks.
    2:35:32 I’ve let that atrophy, so I don’t anymore.
    2:35:34 – Our kids are good at card tricks, it’s important.
    2:35:37 And we have, I have rigged decks and stuff.
    2:35:38 I think it’s important to know
    2:35:39 how to do some fucking magic tricks.
    2:35:41 ‘Cause magic is storytelling.
    2:35:42 It is deceit.
    2:35:44 It is understanding to look for the angles.
    2:35:45 I love that.
    2:35:46 I love when kids know riddles.
    2:35:49 I love when they have barbettes that are impossible.
    2:35:51 I think everyone should be able to tell a good joke.
    2:35:55 You talking about, I’m back to like my syllabus, you know?
    2:35:56 Of how to fucking survive.
    2:35:58 It’s not just like the survivalist
    2:36:03 of what’s in your go bag and how to handle a 30 round mag
    2:36:05 and how to dress your own meat and shit.
    2:36:06 It’s like, how do you actually tell a story?
    2:36:08 How do you make somebody who has no reason
    2:36:09 to like you make you?
    2:36:13 – The semester finale for your seminars,
    2:36:16 people have to get up and do a two to five minute comedy set
    2:36:17 or something like that.
    2:36:19 (laughing)
    2:36:20 That’s the final exam.
    2:36:23 – In front of a bunch of people in MAGA hats.
    2:36:25 Yeah, I’m gonna find the worst fucking hecklers.
    2:36:27 – Or whatever your nightmare audience is.
    2:36:29 It could be a bunch of ultra lefts.
    2:36:30 – Yeah.
    2:36:30 – Libs or whatever.
    2:36:32 – Yeah.
    2:36:35 You model who’s actually on stage and like, here we go.
    2:36:36 These are not your people.
    2:36:38 I mean, that’s one of the things is right now
    2:36:39 we all get to choose who we hang out with
    2:36:42 and the internet has allowed us to hang out
    2:36:44 with people who are just like us
    2:36:45 and nobody hangs out with people
    2:36:46 who aren’t like them anymore.
    2:36:47 And that blames me out.
    2:36:52 – Which by the way, even if you want to hang out
    2:36:54 with people who are unlike you
    2:36:57 by virtue of the customized feed
    2:37:01 and sort of algorithmically tailored servings,
    2:37:04 it’s very hard even if you try.
    2:37:06 And if you do try and you’re like,
    2:37:08 I want to take a sampling of this.
    2:37:13 We’re in a couple of, well, one group thread in particular
    2:37:16 where I take great pleasure in fucking up people’s feeds
    2:37:19 because I’ll send, you know, whatever.
    2:37:20 – Oh yeah.
    2:37:23 – A video of some like gorgeous chick doing squats
    2:37:24 that are very suggestive.
    2:37:27 And that’s her entire account on Instagram.
    2:37:29 And before you know it, like you send that to somebody
    2:37:30 and you’ve just dropped like a cherry bomb
    2:37:34 into their algorithm and then that’s 90% of what they see.
    2:37:38 – So it’s very hard to actually live in multiple worlds.
    2:37:40 You are going to get painted into a corner
    2:37:43 because that’s how advertising is sold against you.
    2:37:45 – But in real life, that’s happening.
    2:37:47 And that’s why I am hopeful for the resurgence
    2:37:49 of the rest of America.
    2:37:51 You know, Steve Case was on the rise of the rest
    2:37:53 and JD Vance bless him and his weird path,
    2:37:55 but he was onto that early too.
    2:37:57 You know, 82% of the money from the IRA,
    2:38:01 the big Biden climate bill went to red districts.
    2:38:02 It’s the green little secret.
    2:38:04 There are more clean energy jobs in Texas
    2:38:06 than there are oil and gas jobs.
    2:38:08 The Republicans green little secret.
    2:38:09 But that’s just the reality
    2:38:11 ’cause it’s good fucking business.
    2:38:12 If you want to work with good people
    2:38:14 who know the tools, who know the engineering,
    2:38:15 that’s where they are.
    2:38:17 They’re in the heartland.
    2:38:19 And I really do hope we are going to see the resurgence
    2:38:21 of some of those communities.
    2:38:23 Because for me, raising kids in a community like that
    2:38:27 is like going back in time where we know our neighbors,
    2:38:28 we know our kids are safe.
    2:38:31 I love hearing the stories of my kids friends
    2:38:32 who just, they work for a living.
    2:38:34 They do really incredible shit.
    2:38:36 By the way, it’s funny how a few people
    2:38:37 know anything about me.
    2:38:41 I got invited to do a shark tank panel
    2:38:43 judging for like elementary school
    2:38:44 entrepreneurial business plan class.
    2:38:45 You know, they were just fucking around.
    2:38:47 They had product ideas.
    2:38:49 And one of the kids walked in and was like,
    2:38:52 oh my God, you’ve got a real shark.
    2:38:54 And the like the superintendent and the principal
    2:38:55 who put the whole thing together,
    2:38:55 like what are you talking about?
    2:38:57 And they’re like, he’s a shark from Shark Tank.
    2:39:00 And they’re like, oh, we just needed some dads.
    2:39:02 We only had moms volunteer.
    2:39:04 So we sent out a note for dads.
    2:39:06 I actually thought, I thought they were like,
    2:39:08 it was specifically targeting me.
    2:39:09 Nobody had any fucking idea.
    2:39:11 So it was amazing.
    2:39:14 Like I’m in like, I’m in camouflage here.
    2:39:16 I go out in a t-shirt and glasses
    2:39:17 instead of a cowboy shirt and no glasses,
    2:39:18 I’m camouflage.
    2:39:19 I love it.
    2:39:20 – All right, Kristoff.
    2:39:23 We’re coming in on just over three hours now.
    2:39:26 – Tim, I gotta just say something though, bro.
    2:39:27 I’m worried about you.
    2:39:29 – You’re worried about me.
    2:39:31 – Yeah, I’m worried about this podcast.
    2:39:34 There’s been no like toxic masculinity.
    2:39:37 We didn’t talk about testosterone and where it’s been.
    2:39:39 There was like very little hatred
    2:39:44 and there was just very little like incendiary content.
    2:39:46 I didn’t hear any conspiracy theories.
    2:39:51 No pseudoscience, no like political opportunism.
    2:39:52 I mean, you’re just like this whole like-
    2:39:54 – Leaving a lot on the table.
    2:39:56 – Let’s get some valuable and actionable content,
    2:39:58 inspiration for young people and people are like,
    2:39:59 what is this shit?
    2:40:03 You should be baiting outrage, contriving virality, man.
    2:40:04 I mean, do we even know how to podcast, bro?
    2:40:05 – I know.
    2:40:06 I sometimes want to do the same thing.
    2:40:09 And you will notice this is the first time I’ve had,
    2:40:11 it only took me whatever, almost 800 episodes
    2:40:15 to get a reasonably professional looking mic set up for these-
    2:40:16 – Look at that.
    2:40:21 I hope whatever those labels are responding to you.
    2:40:22 – You can’t take them off.
    2:40:24 Which is hilarious.
    2:40:26 – By the way, I can’t believe you didn’t ask me
    2:40:27 for a book list.
    2:40:28 You’re ready, book list.
    2:40:29 – Well, I did for your syllabus,
    2:40:31 but you dodged and gave me poetry.
    2:40:32 – Yeah.
    2:40:32 Okay.
    2:40:35 “Anxious Generation and Coddling of the American Mind.”
    2:40:37 And “Generations” by Gene Twenge,
    2:40:38 who works at Jonathan Height,
    2:40:40 was informed me more about our generation,
    2:40:42 as well as how to work with other people.
    2:40:44 There’s no agenda to that book, but it’s powerful.
    2:40:46 The “Coming Wave” by Suleyman, I think is,
    2:40:49 does the most even-handed job of assessing the future of AI,
    2:40:52 particularly by someone in the business.
    2:40:53 End of the world is just the beginning.
    2:40:54 Do you know that guy?
    2:40:56 Peter, he’s a fucking maniac.
    2:40:57 I think it’s just provocative.
    2:41:00 He also does these really fun little YouTube updates
    2:41:01 from “Hikes” and like-
    2:41:03 – End of the world is just the beginning.
    2:41:04 – It’s just the beginning.
    2:41:05 What’s his name?
    2:41:06 It starts with a Z as last name.
    2:41:09 – Peter Zahan, that looks like.
    2:41:10 – Yeah, yeah, exactly.
    2:41:10 Thanks.
    2:41:14 I love Van Neistat’s book report on the fourth turning.
    2:41:16 It’s just thought-provoking again.
    2:41:19 “Homegrown,” a book by Geoffrey Tubin about Tim McVeigh,
    2:41:21 is I think a canary in a coal mine book.
    2:41:22 Tim McVeigh was from my hometown.
    2:41:24 – No shit, didn’t know that.
    2:41:26 – His mom was our travel agent.
    2:41:28 His sister worked at Wendy’s.
    2:41:29 He bought his ammo at the same place
    2:41:31 where we bought our fishing supplies.
    2:41:34 But that book explains what happens
    2:41:36 when the factory closes down
    2:41:38 and people become radicalized.
    2:41:39 I encourage people to read it.
    2:41:40 The thing that people don’t know about Tim McVeigh
    2:41:42 is he had a photographic memory.
    2:41:46 There were 671 boxes of evidence at his trial
    2:41:49 that were all him reciting every single person
    2:41:51 he ever spoke into, every meeting he had.
    2:41:52 He knew everything.
    2:41:54 So there’s no mystery about his story.
    2:41:56 “Stolen Focus” by Jonathan Herrara.
    2:41:57 You know that one?
    2:41:58 Just amazing.
    2:41:59 I think it’s like the best digital detox.
    2:42:00 – “Stolen Focus.”
    2:42:03 Oh, this one, I have not read that one.
    2:42:07 I think he wrote “Chasing the Ghost.”
    2:42:09 I might be misquoting.
    2:42:10 – Yeah, maybe.
    2:42:11 “Meditation for Moradels” is a great one.
    2:42:13 – Oliver Berkman?
    2:42:14 Yeah, he’s great.
    2:42:15 – Yeah, so good.
    2:42:17 Psychology Money, we mentioned.
    2:42:20 The best piece of fiction I’ve read recently
    2:42:24 is “Rejection” by Tony, can’t say his last name.
    2:42:25 (speaks in foreign language)
    2:42:26 – Wait, what was the name again?
    2:42:27 – It’s amazing.
    2:42:31 It’s called “Rejection” by Tony T.
    2:42:33 – Tony, Tony T.
    2:42:35 Tony Tula in Ruta. – You’ll see what I mean.
    2:42:37 – Something like that.
    2:42:38 – Thank you. – Wow, that’s a long one.
    2:42:40 – Yeah, that is, it’ll put some people
    2:42:42 out of their comfort zone for sure.
    2:42:45 That guy has his finger on culture and linguistics
    2:42:47 more than anything I’ve read recently.
    2:42:49 You know, I’ve shared that with other author friends
    2:42:51 who were like, “Fuck.”
    2:42:53 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
    2:42:54 The Avery is great fiction.
    2:42:56 Did you listen to McConaughey’s autobiography?
    2:42:57 – I listened to some of it.
    2:42:59 I had him on the podcast years ago to talk about it,
    2:43:01 which was amazing.
    2:43:03 And I misquoted just briefly,
    2:43:05 Johann Hari’s book, “Chasing the Scream”
    2:43:07 and “Lost Connections.”
    2:43:09 “Lost Connections” is the one I read in full,
    2:43:10 which I thought was great.
    2:43:11 That’s about isolation, loneliness,
    2:43:14 and things to do about it in a modern world.
    2:43:15 I thought that was very well done.
    2:43:18 Still in focus is the one that you were talking about.
    2:43:19 – Yeah, it’s so good, dude.
    2:43:20 It was given to us as a gift
    2:43:23 and it really changed our media diet, for sure,
    2:43:24 and our online diet.
    2:43:26 I try and read everything John Ronson does
    2:43:27 and listen to it.
    2:43:28 By the way, I was just gonna say,
    2:43:29 “Matthew McConaughey’s audiobook.”
    2:43:31 You can’t read it, you gotta listen to it.
    2:43:34 And so the Avery, I love fucking Eggers,
    2:43:37 but the Avery seems to be increasingly prophetic right now.
    2:43:41 Robin Sloan’s fiction, “Moonbound” and “Panumra” are great.
    2:43:42 Do you watch “Silent”?
    2:43:42 Do you read the “Wolf” series?
    2:43:45 – So I’m gonna admit that I haven’t.
    2:43:47 I do know Hugh and he’s amazing,
    2:43:49 but I have not yet delved into that
    2:43:52 because I know that I’ll want to consume all of it.
    2:43:53 – I knew you guys knew each other
    2:43:55 from like Arctic Adventures too and shit, right?
    2:43:56 And like Iceland and shit.
    2:43:58 – We spent time in Japan and elsewhere.
    2:44:00 He was on the podcast a while back.
    2:44:03 He’s such an incredible experimentalist and innovator
    2:44:06 when it comes to publishing also.
    2:44:07 Really, really impressive.
    2:44:09 – Yeah, he wrote those things
    2:44:11 and just threw them up there, right?
    2:44:15 – He’s one of the most thoughtful, unafraid lateral thinkers
    2:44:17 in writing and publishing that I’ve met.
    2:44:18 He’s a smart guy.
    2:44:20 – I even read the “Wolf” series
    2:44:22 after watching the first season of “Silo.”
    2:44:24 I fucking love it.
    2:44:24 I think it’s great.
    2:44:26 I think it’s prophetic and amazing.
    2:44:28 And then I mentioned Kelly Corrigan.
    2:44:30 I just think that’s grounding human shit.
    2:44:33 I think Kelly Corrigan has her, she has a podcast too,
    2:44:34 but I love her books.
    2:44:38 I think talking about relationships, kids dying,
    2:44:42 but in a way that is just like self-deprecating, real America.
    2:44:43 It’s just like an antidote,
    2:44:47 particularly for your tech-heavy, seriously online audience.
    2:44:48 I think that’s great.
    2:44:49 You want a kid’s book?
    2:44:51 It’s the Pirates series,
    2:44:53 the Pirates in an Adventure with communists,
    2:44:55 the Pirates in an Adventure with Darwin.
    2:44:56 Those books are so fucking good.
    2:44:59 You’ll laugh at them even as you read them to children.
    2:45:00 – I feel like you’ve got more.
    2:45:03 I know, I feel like you have more on offer.
    2:45:06 You got anything else locked and loaded there?
    2:45:07 – Yeah, my $100 purchase.
    2:45:09 – Yeah, what’s your $100 purchase?
    2:45:10 – You know what are amazing?
    2:45:12 Have you ever written on stone paper
    2:45:14 these notebooks by Karst?
    2:45:16 Do you know these things?
    2:45:18 It’s actually, it’s stone.
    2:45:19 And there’s no more enjoyable experience
    2:45:20 than writing on stone.
    2:45:22 So karststonepaper.com.
    2:45:24 I don’t own it or anything like that,
    2:45:25 but I highly recommend it.
    2:45:27 – Is it just the hand feel?
    2:45:31 Is it just the actual tactile sensation
    2:45:32 of writing on it?
    2:45:34 – Yeah, oh, and how the pen moves across.
    2:45:39 Oh, yes, it’s sensual, sensuous, sensual.
    2:45:40 It’s pretty special.
    2:45:42 And you know, I’ll say two other things.
    2:45:45 One, Dola Dira, it’s my favorite booze right now.
    2:45:48 It’s an all-natural compari and apparel substitute
    2:45:50 with none of the bullshit in it.
    2:45:51 None of the fake dies.
    2:45:51 – What was it called?
    2:45:53 Dora the Explorer?
    2:45:54 No.
    2:45:57 – Dola Dora D-O-L-A-D-I-R-A.
    2:45:58 You know who makes it?
    2:45:59 Richard Betts and Joe Marchese.
    2:46:00 – Oh, really?
    2:46:01 Awesome.
    2:46:02 – Yeah, your homies.
    2:46:03 The Como Stakela guys.
    2:46:06 Como is the highest-rated tequila in the land right now.
    2:46:11 Okay, my number one purchase under $100 that I stand by.
    2:46:15 I’ve cited it before, and it just happened again.
    2:46:17 I never show up at a party without mullet wigs.
    2:46:20 They change fucking everything.
    2:46:23 I was just at a New Year’s Eve party
    2:46:25 and I showed up at the mullet wigs
    2:46:27 and it just broke everyone to pieces.
    2:46:28 It was amazing.
    2:46:30 The most stayed fucking guys.
    2:46:32 Dude, multiple guys were like,
    2:46:33 “Can I take this home?”
    2:46:35 Because my wife thinks I’m hot in it.
    2:46:39 And so mullet wigs change everything.
    2:46:44 And so Amazon will get some dog-to-bounty hunter style ones,
    2:46:47 get some ones with the built-in Willie Nelson,
    2:46:49 American flag bandana,
    2:46:51 get some curly Bob Ross ones in there
    2:46:53 just to shake it up a little bit.
    2:46:57 You can throw in a Neo punk white ’80s hair wig,
    2:46:59 but just fucking wigs.
    2:47:00 They next level everything.
    2:47:03 I’m here 10 years later, Tim,
    2:47:04 to tell you that that still holds up.
    2:47:07 – Durable mullet wigs.
    2:47:08 – Oh, God, yes.
    2:47:10 (laughing)
    2:47:11 Next time, 10 years from now,
    2:47:13 we’ll talk about best playlist on Spotify
    2:47:15 that has been curated by AI
    2:47:18 and fed directly into our brain ships.
    2:47:19 – Okay, next time.
    2:47:21 Right, most commonly search terms on foreign hub.
    2:47:22 Next time.
    2:47:25 – When my agent is talking to your agent,
    2:47:27 ain’t nobody got time for this.
    2:47:27 Bro, I miss you.
    2:47:29 I hope to see you in Texas really soon.
    2:47:30 – I miss you too, man.
    2:47:31 We are gonna see each other in Texas.
    2:47:33 – Hey, by the way, have you ever been to Wyoming?
    2:47:35 – There’s a great ranch for sale.
    2:47:39 There is a ranch, it’s incredible, five pounds ranch.
    2:47:41 It’s an incredible place.
    2:47:44 The fishing is abundant, tricked out the barn.
    2:47:47 I used to work from there, fun, you can host.
    2:47:47 It’s an event spot.
    2:47:49 I mean, if you really wanna go
    2:47:50 and if you care about skiing,
    2:47:52 backcountry skiing, it’s right there.
    2:47:53 Just in case.
    2:47:54 – Plop some Bitcoin mining servers in the barn.
    2:47:56 Worst case scenario,
    2:47:58 it’s gotta be a lot of good ventilation.
    2:48:01 (laughing)
    2:48:03 – Dude, you’re amazing.
    2:48:04 Thank you for doing this, dude.
    2:48:05 It’s been a long time.
    2:48:06 – Yeah, it has been a long time, man.
    2:48:07 It’s great to see you.
    2:48:08 Fam’s good.
    2:48:10 – Family’s great.
    2:48:12 Tim, I need to get you on that train.
    2:48:13 – I know, I know.
    2:48:15 It’s not for lack of trying,
    2:48:18 although some of my audience have become very, very adamant
    2:48:20 and even aggressive with me
    2:48:22 about my lack of producing kids at this point.
    2:48:24 And I’m like, well, look, why don’t you walk a mile
    2:48:26 in my shoes and then show me how easy it is?
    2:48:29 Let’s see what that looks like.
    2:48:30 – Yeah, but that’s the thing, dude.
    2:48:32 You just put on different shoes.
    2:48:34 And sometimes there’s like a little bit of puke
    2:48:35 in them or something like that.
    2:48:37 Or like, okay, really quick story.
    2:48:38 You ready?
    2:48:40 It’s kid and shoe related.
    2:48:44 We have a good friend here who’s an OBGYN.
    2:48:45 She’s hilarious.
    2:48:46 I’m not gonna give her name,
    2:48:49 but she’s a local and we love her to death.
    2:48:50 Smart, hilarious.
    2:48:52 She was telling a story about how,
    2:48:53 you know, she’s an OBGYN.
    2:48:54 She got the page in the middle of the night.
    2:48:56 You gotta go deliver the baby.
    2:48:58 So she climbs out of bed,
    2:49:00 kiss her husband goodbye, throws on some crocs,
    2:49:02 goes out to the hospital.
    2:49:05 And the delivery, like, you know, she stitches the gal up.
    2:49:06 There’s some blood, et cetera.
    2:49:08 And the nurse says,
    2:49:10 “Hey, let me clean up those crocs for you.”
    2:49:14 And so she pulls the crocs off and she holds them up.
    2:49:16 Both in front of the doctor, the nurse is holding them up
    2:49:20 and in front of the woman who just gave birth.
    2:49:22 And on them, you know, those like jewels, you know,
    2:49:23 like you can spell shit out.
    2:49:24 – Yeah.
    2:49:26 – It says, “D’s nuts.”
    2:49:28 (laughing)
    2:49:30 Because they belong to her 13 year old son.
    2:49:32 (laughing)
    2:49:37 She didn’t realize that she was walking out of house.
    2:49:39 When she walked out with the D’s nuts crocs on.
    2:49:44 Oh, that goes in your next screenplay, I think.
    2:49:45 – Oh my gosh.
    2:49:48 That is just, you can’t write shit like that, like so.
    2:49:51 Anyway, Tim, it is really like,
    2:49:53 people talk all these platitudes about it and stuff.
    2:49:55 And all the honesty, it wasn’t like the day,
    2:49:57 a lot of people talk about the magic
    2:49:59 that your kid comes out, like my life changed forever.
    2:50:00 I didn’t always feel that.
    2:50:02 I was like, oh shit, I gotta like do some shit
    2:50:05 and take care of Crystal and there’s poo everywhere now
    2:50:07 and somebody’s crying and I haven’t slept in a while.
    2:50:10 But as time goes on, you know,
    2:50:11 our kids went to camp this summer
    2:50:13 and Crystal and I at first were like,
    2:50:14 “Hey, empty nesters, let’s party.”
    2:50:15 And we did.
    2:50:17 But at the same time, we’re like,
    2:50:19 fuck, we miss our best friends, man.
    2:50:23 We’ve got three incredible kids who are our besties.
    2:50:25 And I understand that mixed emotion of like,
    2:50:26 when the kids go off to college,
    2:50:27 I see this happening with a lot of our friends
    2:50:29 who had kids before we did.
    2:50:30 That like both relief of like,
    2:50:32 “All right, we can go travel and shit like that now.”
    2:50:35 But on the other hand, like, it’s kind of lonely.
    2:50:37 You know, like, these kids are fucking great.
    2:50:38 I love it.
    2:50:40 We really entertain each other
    2:50:42 and I’ve loved being on that journey with them.
    2:50:45 And so I really do hope we can get you on that program.
    2:50:47 – Oh yeah, I mean, that’s the intention.
    2:50:49 – Okay.
    2:50:50 Can I tell the quick story from that dinner party
    2:50:52 without mentioning the name of the person?
    2:50:54 (laughing)
    2:50:55 – Yeah, sure.
    2:50:56 – Okay.
    2:51:01 All right, so this, your audience needs to know this too.
    2:51:04 So Crystal and I are hosting a dinner in New York City.
    2:51:06 We don’t get there that often,
    2:51:09 but we love to bring like close friends together.
    2:51:12 Again, ruthless about the invites, no plus ones.
    2:51:14 We just know that if you’re coming to dinner,
    2:51:15 everyone’s gonna be awesome.
    2:51:17 So there’s no seating chart.
    2:51:20 We did see you next to this person intentionally though.
    2:51:25 This is a famous actress who is single.
    2:51:28 I mean, absolute smoke show.
    2:51:30 And within Tim’s league,
    2:51:34 and not entirely disinterested in Tim, like up for it.
    2:51:37 You know, like open, open to the concept.
    2:51:39 We’d kind of, you know, till the soil.
    2:51:41 I wouldn’t say we planted the seed, but we’d till the soil.
    2:51:44 It was on the table, like household name.
    2:51:46 So we sit them next to each other.
    2:51:47 Things are going great.
    2:51:49 The meal is wonderful.
    2:51:50 The wine is great.
    2:51:51 The conversation is stimulating.
    2:51:55 Tim is a great person to have at a dinner conversation.
    2:51:56 He can talk about anything.
    2:51:59 He’s genuinely interested in other people.
    2:52:01 He likes to ask questions, not because it’s for a podcast,
    2:52:03 but because he likes to learn from anybody.
    2:52:06 And he realizes that any single person you talk to
    2:52:08 has a story, give them a chance to tell it.
    2:52:10 So things are going really well.
    2:52:13 We’re starting to talk about meaningful shit.
    2:52:17 And at one point she says, “Hey, Tim,
    2:52:19 when do you feel most present?”
    2:52:22 – No, there’s one piece of information that’s missing here,
    2:52:25 which is her dietary preferences.
    2:52:27 Yeah.
    2:52:29 – I didn’t know if that would make her too identifiable.
    2:52:31 So, but she’s vegan.
    2:52:33 She’s well known as vegan.
    2:52:36 Tim knows she’s vegan, animal rights type person,
    2:52:38 but not like rub it in your face vegan.
    2:52:39 There’s plenty of meat on the table.
    2:52:41 She’s fine with it all being there.
    2:52:44 But she goes, “Tim, when do you feel most present?”
    2:52:46 Like that’s how much you guys were vibing.
    2:52:47 That’s how well it was going.
    2:52:50 – We’re also, this is at a point in the meal
    2:52:52 where it’s sort of like a Jeffersonian situation.
    2:52:54 So there’s a lot of silence at this point.
    2:52:56 – Yes, yes, we are all paying attention.
    2:52:57 That’s right, that’s right.
    2:52:58 It’s a small table.
    2:53:00 There’s 12 people at this table.
    2:53:03 And tiny, tiny place where it’s ZZ’s clam bar in New York.
    2:53:06 Tiny one room spot, two seat bar,
    2:53:07 but we’re at a table for 12.
    2:53:10 And we’re elbow to elbow, eating incredible food.
    2:53:12 And there’s vibe, there’s energy there.
    2:53:15 And I mean, Tim’s like a fucking magnet, right?
    2:53:20 And so she says, “Tim, when do you feel most present?”
    2:53:24 And Tim, what did you say without even having to inhale,
    2:53:25 without even having to take a breath?
    2:53:29 – I said, “When I’m having sex, doing psychedelics
    2:53:31 “or hunting, those were the three.”
    2:53:34 (Tim laughs)
    2:53:37 And no sooner had the last syllable been uttered
    2:53:41 than Chris, who’s like eight feet away.
    2:53:44 And he’s had a few drinks, just goes, “Oh my God!”
    2:53:46 And puts his head in his hands.
    2:53:48 (Tim laughs)
    2:53:53 Never, I had never seen a ticket
    2:53:57 go up in flames faster than that.
    2:54:00 That was the most combustible element in the universe
    2:54:05 at that moment, was your chance to be with that woman.
    2:54:06 That was fucking fascinating.
    2:54:08 She did raise her glass for the record.
    2:54:10 She did raise her glass and she was you for your–
    2:54:12 – She’s a great sport.
    2:54:14 – For your self-awareness, candor and authenticity.
    2:54:15 – Yep, no, she was a great sport.
    2:54:18 – But any spark was immediately extinguished.
    2:54:19 – Yeah, you know.
    2:54:21 – Have you guys kept in touch?
    2:54:21 Have you kept in touch or no?
    2:54:24 – We haven’t, but we weren’t really in touch beforehand.
    2:54:26 We had met before, she’s amazing.
    2:54:31 But I just don’t have it in me to succeed
    2:54:35 pretending to be someone I’m not, you know what I mean?
    2:54:36 – Yeah.
    2:54:38 – I’d rather go up in flames.
    2:54:40 – No, I mean, I deeply admire it, right?
    2:54:44 I’ve told you, my whole life’s mission is about
    2:54:47 how to be internally driven rather than externally driven.
    2:54:50 How to be more honest, more authentic, more candid.
    2:54:54 I told you, I’m less patient because I’m trying to be me.
    2:54:56 And you are exactly that.
    2:55:00 So I deeply admire it, but it was just so funny.
    2:55:01 – It was funny.
    2:55:03 – Because in the blink of an eye, you said–
    2:55:04 – Also because I didn’t even think about it.
    2:55:06 Like it came out instantaneously.
    2:55:07 – You did not inhale.
    2:55:11 It was on your exhale of the breath you had already taken.
    2:55:14 And so, but I love that your default,
    2:55:16 I say this to your audience.
    2:55:20 Your primal default was to say the real thing
    2:55:25 rather than the thing that this unbelievable woman
    2:55:27 would have wanted to hear.
    2:55:28 That’s fucking great, dude.
    2:55:29 That’s what makes you you.
    2:55:30 – Thanks.
    2:55:34 – Yeah, so work in progress, but I’m not sitting on my hands.
    2:55:36 I know that family’s the next big adventure.
    2:55:38 So I’ll get there, I will get there.
    2:55:41 And it’s also, you know, it’s what’s been funny
    2:55:46 as I’ve dated is 47 now.
    2:55:49 And the tone of sort of like the line of questioning
    2:55:51 for some women I’ve been on dates with is like,
    2:55:52 what’s wrong with you?
    2:55:53 Why are you broken?
    2:55:54 Like, what’s going on?
    2:55:56 Like you say you want a family, you’re 47.
    2:55:57 And I’m like, well, two things.
    2:56:00 If I were 40, would you be saying this?
    2:56:00 And they’re like, no.
    2:56:03 I’m like, okay, well, I just got out of a,
    2:56:06 not so long ago, got out of a almost six year relationship.
    2:56:09 So the intention was to have kids and it didn’t work out.
    2:56:10 Like things don’t work out.
    2:56:13 Better to figure that out before you have kids, I think,
    2:56:14 in a lot of cases.
    2:56:18 And then I was like, secondly, if I had been,
    2:56:20 what I’ve found is that women would be,
    2:56:22 some women would be more comfortable
    2:56:25 if I had been married and divorced once or twice.
    2:56:26 – Oh my God.
    2:56:28 – Than having not done it.
    2:56:29 – Yeah.
    2:56:31 – But they wouldn’t be asking that same question,
    2:56:32 which is interesting.
    2:56:33 – Yeah.
    2:56:34 – And it’s like, okay, all right.
    2:56:35 So maybe the concern is like,
    2:56:37 ah, this guy is like Peter Panang for the rest of his life.
    2:56:38 And he doesn’t want to commit.
    2:56:40 And I’m like, well, I have two relationships
    2:56:41 that are longer than a lot of marriages.
    2:56:44 So that doesn’t totally check out.
    2:56:45 – Yeah.
    2:56:47 – But it’s fascinating, modern dating.
    2:56:48 – Yeah.
    2:56:50 Well, Crystal and I would have been a disaster
    2:56:52 if we’d gotten together any time in those 14 years
    2:56:53 I kept asking her out.
    2:56:54 – Yeah.
    2:56:57 – I had a prior relationship, was divorced.
    2:56:59 I had a long-term relationship after that that didn’t work.
    2:57:01 If I hadn’t gone through that stuff,
    2:57:04 I would not have understood what it meant to be
    2:57:05 in a healthy relationship, to have balance,
    2:57:08 to have intimacy, to all those things that need to happen.
    2:57:09 I wouldn’t have known it.
    2:57:10 You know what was a funny exercise
    2:57:13 is we set up a really modest trust for our kids.
    2:57:15 Basically, so that houses,
    2:57:17 you’d have to do that estate planning shit.
    2:57:18 And so it’s particularly not generous
    2:57:21 ’cause we think mostly money fucks kids up.
    2:57:24 But we had to sit and decide at what age
    2:57:26 they would have any discretion over it.
    2:57:30 And we were 36 at the time and we said 36.
    2:57:32 (laughing)
    2:57:34 Because that was when we felt like we had finally
    2:57:35 gotten our shit together.
    2:57:38 And like, maybe now I’d said it at 45, I don’t know.
    2:57:40 But, you know, my dad is 78 years old,
    2:57:44 plays pickleball three times a week with 20-somethings.
    2:57:45 He always tells us about which guy is complaining like,
    2:57:48 “Oh, I can’t move like I could when I was 18.”
    2:57:50 And I was like, “Fuck you, I’m 78.”
    2:57:53 But like, I do think age is an attitude.
    2:57:55 I do think it’s mental.
    2:57:58 I do think like, I don’t think that number actually matters.
    2:58:01 But I also don’t think everyone’s ready for it every time.
    2:58:05 But I can just say that having kids
    2:58:08 has just been a remarkable, remarkable chapter.
    2:58:10 Crystal, if she was your gas near podcast,
    2:58:12 she’d tell you she never envisioned it for herself.
    2:58:16 It wasn’t, she just did not think of herself as a mom.
    2:58:20 And now, you know, she identifies as a creative
    2:58:23 and an author of “New York Times Best Sellers”
    2:58:27 and a designer and an investor and an entrepreneur.
    2:58:30 But maybe at the top of that list is a mom.
    2:58:32 And maybe second after that is a youth sports coach.
    2:58:35 I mean, we had basketball practice at our house last night
    2:58:36 for the fourth grade team.
    2:58:38 I forget what they’re called, they have a new name.
    2:58:42 But, you know, like it opens these new chapters of life
    2:58:44 that really remind you of the fundamental questions.
    2:58:45 Like, why the fuck are we here?
    2:58:46 – Yeah. – You know?
    2:58:49 And I love going through the awkward middle school shit.
    2:58:51 Again, I love it, I love it.
    2:58:54 It’s therapy for me, man.
    2:58:56 All those times you were stuck in a locker, Tim,
    2:58:58 you get to deal with it again.
    2:58:58 It’s amazing.
    2:59:02 – Yeah, that was relentless.
    2:59:02 Holy shit.
    2:59:04 It was just straight up Lord of the Flies.
    2:59:09 I mean, like there are really few safeguards at that point.
    2:59:11 – Oh man.
    2:59:12 – That’s one of the great things.
    2:59:15 They have a, the playground supervisor,
    2:59:18 whereas Cowboy Boots has an eye patch and a peg leg
    2:59:19 at the school here.
    2:59:23 – That’s incredible.
    2:59:26 – I mean, everything is so fucking core in Montana.
    2:59:26 I love it.
    2:59:29 Everything is so like suck it up.
    2:59:31 It’s just fucking fantastic.
    2:59:31 We need more of it.
    2:59:33 So, all right.
    2:59:34 Dude, I love you.
    2:59:35 – Yeah, I love you too.
    2:59:36 – I love you, I love you.
    2:59:37 – Yeah, I love you too, man.
    2:59:38 And give my best to the fan.
    2:59:39 – I can’t wait to hang.
    2:59:40 – And I’m going to see you.
    2:59:41 Yeah, not too long from now.
    2:59:43 – And I love all of you listeners
    2:59:45 who are going to visit fiveponds Ranch.com
    2:59:49 and explore your Wyoming fantasies.
    2:59:52 Maybe, you know, you build one of those like crypto based
    2:59:55 distributed organizations to buy it.
    2:59:58 That’s fine as long as it comes in US dollars.
    3:00:00 This is the best place to shelter your gains.
    3:00:02 Just telling you and to have a beautiful life
    3:00:03 in the outdoors.
    3:00:05 – Get with that.
    3:00:06 – That was fiveponds Ranch.com.
    3:00:07 – There we go.
    3:00:11 – Five, F-I-V-E, ponds Ranch.com.
    3:00:11 Thank you.
    3:00:13 – All right, everybody.
    3:00:18 You heard of her first for 1995 with five easy installments.
    3:00:21 You could test out the ranch for yourself.
    3:00:24 Maybe not for that price point, but we’ll see.
    3:00:27 And as always, we’ll link to things
    3:00:29 that were mentioned in the podcast.
    3:00:30 – That’s a lot of things.
    3:00:31 – That’s a lot of things.
    3:00:32 – Yeah.
    3:00:33 And that’s the AI that does that for you.
    3:00:35 – Yeah, doomed up log slash podcast.
    3:00:36 You’ll be able to find it.
    3:00:38 Check out our first installment
    3:00:43 for Crisaka’s Wonder Years and early chapters.
    3:00:44 – Wait, I also did that other episode
    3:00:47 where you had me read questions off of Reddit.
    3:00:48 That was fun too.
    3:00:49 – Yeah, you did that.
    3:00:50 Yes.
    3:00:51 – Remember, I didn’t have a soundproof room,
    3:00:52 so I had to put my head under a blanket.
    3:00:53 – Yes.
    3:00:54 – And talk to GarageBand.
    3:00:57 – See, there’s, there’s awesome.
    3:00:59 – There’s an episode 1.5.
    3:01:01 – Yeah, there’s a 1.5.
    3:01:05 And as always folks, thanks for tuning in.
    3:01:07 Be a bit kinder than is necessary
    3:01:11 to not just others, but yourself as well until next time.
    3:01:12 And thanks for tuning in.
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    Chris Sacca is the co-founder of Lowercarbon Capital and manages a portfolio of countless startups in energy, industrial materials, and carbon removal. If it’s unf**king the planet, he’s probably working on it. Previously, Chris founded Lowercase Capital, one of history’s most successful funds ever, primarily known for its very early investments in companies like Twitter, Uber, Instagram, Twilio, Docker, Optimizely, Blue Bottle Coffee, and Stripe. But you might just know him as the guy who wore those ridiculous cowboy shirts for a few seasons of Shark Tank. To purchase Chris’s ranch, schedule a viewing at FivePondsRanch.com.

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    [19:54] Conscious changes and rethoughts since our first interview.

    [26:12] The personal and professional influence of Rich and Sarah Barton.

    [30:18] Property management and the Zen of Kevin Rose.

    [35:12] Zillow Gone Wild.

    [36:58] Simplifications.

    [45:03] Remaining optimistic despite being in the business of saying no.

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    [56:54] “Wait, what’s hustle culture?”

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    [01:14:15] Rawdogging? You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.

    [01:16:05] An Andy Goldsworthy aside.

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    [01:19:13] Assigned reading.

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  • #789: Ease Into Stillness — Guided Meditation with Zen Master Henry Shukman

    AI transcript
    0:00:04 Hello, boys and girls, ladies and germs. This is Tim Ferriss. Welcome to another episode of
    0:00:09 The Tim Ferriss Show. This episode is a brand new experiment called Meditation Monday. That means,
    0:00:14 in addition to my long-form interviews each week, every Monday, I will be bringing you a short 10
    0:00:19 minute or so meditation, which will help you for the rest of the week. Over this four-episode
    0:00:24 series, you’ll develop a Zen toolkit specifically to help you find greater calm, peace, and effectiveness
    0:00:29 in your daily life. The teacher, Henry Schuchman, has been on my podcast twice before. He is one
    0:00:34 of only a few dozen masters in the world authorized to teach what is called Sambo Zen,
    0:00:38 and I have found this particularly interesting and effective. And now he’ll be your teacher.
    0:00:46 I’ve been using Henry’s app The Way once, often twice a day for the last few months, and it has
    0:00:51 lowered my anxiety more than I thought possible. As a listener of the show, you yourself can get
    0:00:57 30 free sessions by visiting thewayapp.com/tim. So, if you like what you hear in these meditations,
    0:01:01 which will be valuable in and of themselves, you can get 30 free sessions by going to
    0:01:07 thewayapp.com/tim. And for the time being, please enjoy this Meditation Monday with Henry Schuchman.
    0:01:18 Welcome to Meditation Monday. It’s a joy to be back with you. Thanks for hopping on. So,
    0:01:26 many of us come to meditation to help us with stress, and rightly so, meditation is a great
    0:01:32 vehicle for dialing down our nervous systems, coming back into homeostasis, into more of a
    0:01:39 balanced state. But I’ve noticed over 15 years of teaching meditation that it’s not uncommon for
    0:01:45 people to get stressed about meditation. There’s good reason for that. In meditation, we’re still,
    0:01:52 we’re quiet, and for many of us, we just don’t do that in the course of our day. We’re busy all the
    0:01:58 time, engaging activities. We also don’t have distractions. If we’re feeling uncomfortable,
    0:02:04 you know, we can’t reach for the phone while we’re meditating, or whatever our favorite
    0:02:09 distractions might be. So, it’s perfectly natural. But there’s even a bigger reason,
    0:02:15 I think, why people get stressed around it, which is that we commonly think, I did it myself for
    0:02:20 years, that there’s something that I’m supposed to kind of measure up to. There’s some way my
    0:02:26 meditation is supposed to be. And one of the common misconceptions right there is about thinking,
    0:02:33 thinking that we’re supposed to have no thoughts when we meditate. Basically, it’s rubbish.
    0:02:40 We are developing a different relationship with thoughts, it’s true. But our brains naturally
    0:02:48 secrete thoughts, as some people put it. So, we’re not aspiring to have total, you know,
    0:02:55 radio silence within when we meditate, not at all. So, in this set, we’re going to deal with
    0:03:01 and address some of this meditation stress, i.e. stress around meditation itself, particularly
    0:03:12 when it comes to thinking. So, let’s come into our comfortable seated position. Get yourself set up,
    0:03:17 seated in a way that feels good for you. We want to be comfortable.
    0:03:28 We want to be able to relax. So, right now we can close the eyes or lower them if you prefer,
    0:03:39 keeping them open but lowered. Just give yourself a moment to come back to you. This is really about
    0:03:49 you. It’s about you as you are right now. And, you know, sometimes we also get
    0:03:56 inklings that it’s about coming back to some sort of deeper sense of myself,
    0:04:04 something that in a way has been here all my life and that I may have journeyed far from.
    0:04:10 But now we can start coming back.
    0:04:20 And it begins with being here just as we are right now.
    0:04:33 So, let’s again check how much tension we’re holding in our jaw and release the jaw.
    0:04:40 Imagine there’s a little sling right under your chin that your jaw can rest in.
    0:04:44 And let it rest.
    0:04:54 Let your arms hang like the sleeves of an old coat.
    0:04:57 Totally relaxed.
    0:05:11 See if you can find a certain sense of warmth and softness in the chest, in the belly,
    0:05:26 in the hips and letting legs and feet also be relaxed at rest.
    0:05:40 We’re really just coming home to ourselves to this our life just like this.
    0:05:51 Now, as we’re resting and being a bit more present,
    0:05:59 very commonly thoughts will come up and before we know it, we’re off on a train of thought.
    0:06:07 And then we realize, oh, whoa, I’ve been far away in another time and place thinking,
    0:06:14 great, we’ve recognized that that’s happened. We congratulate ourselves.
    0:06:22 We’ve come back. And what we’re going to do is just check where we were in our thinking,
    0:06:29 just enough to be able to file the thinking we were just in, in one of three files.
    0:06:42 Memories, plans, imaginings. So just check what kind of thinking it was,
    0:06:48 file in either memories, planning or imagining.
    0:06:53 Thank the thoughts for showing up and come back.
    0:07:07 So as we go, I’ll offer a few little prompts, sitting here in a restful state,
    0:07:21 present, not needing to do anything, just noticing when thoughts have come up,
    0:07:31 when we’ve been carried off by thinking.
    0:07:57 So anytime thoughts have arisen, note them, welcome them, and file them in one of those
    0:08:03 three folders, memories, planning, imagining.
    0:08:19 And when there’s no thoughts, just rest in being present right here,
    0:08:26 sensing your calm, relaxed body.
    0:08:33 You might notice some sounds around you.
    0:08:55 Resting in the here and now, just this as it is.
    0:09:14 And recognizing that thoughts will arise
    0:09:23 and filing them according to that little scheme, memories, plans, imaginings.
    0:09:26 When we notice they have arisen.
    0:09:45 So we’re not trying to have no thoughts,
    0:09:52 we’re just seeing if we can notice thoughts when they arise.
    0:10:07 We acknowledge them and we file them away in one of those three folders and come back
    0:10:14 to not really doing very much.
    0:10:23 Basically a kind of wakeful rest.
    0:10:35 An attentive not doing.
    0:10:50 Just being with our experience as it is right now.
    0:10:54 Soft body.
    0:11:03 Some amount of sounds around us.
    0:11:09 And sometimes thoughts.
    0:11:26 Okay, let’s gently bring a little movement back into the body, whatever might feel good for you.
    0:11:33 Some people like to sway, some people like to move fingers and toes, just coming back,
    0:11:39 raising the eyes. Great, now one thing that I just want to say as we conclude here is that
    0:11:46 the most important thing, I’m quite sure of this actually with meditation, is not sort of how well
    0:11:52 we think we do it or how good a time we might have doing it and we will sometimes have blissful,
    0:11:58 peaceful experiences and so on. But actually the most important thing is just that we spent
    0:12:05 a little portion of our day being quiet and still and not reaching for common distractions.
    0:12:15 Just that stillness impacts our unconscious. Just the fact of being quiet in as quiet as we are
    0:12:21 in our minds doesn’t matter so much that we are actually just not talking for that period of time.
    0:12:32 Quiet and still, it impacts, it feeds into our unconsciousness and it gradually changes us
    0:12:41 over time in beautiful ways that we can really come to appreciate more and more as we go.
    0:12:45 Thank you very much for joining me. See you next time.
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  • #788: Naval Ravikant and Aaron Stupple — How to Raise a Sovereign Child, A Freedom-Maximizing Approach to Parenting

    AI transcript
    0:00:02 coming up in this episode.
    0:00:05 – Humans are unique that they are interested in stuff.
    0:00:06 And it’s actually a deep philosophical question
    0:00:08 of what is an interest?
    0:00:11 How does a person know that something is interesting?
    0:00:14 And that is the magic.
    0:00:15 Elon wants to preserve consciousness
    0:00:18 as this light flickering in the universe.
    0:00:20 I want to preserve interests.
    0:00:22 A kid that’s interested in something
    0:00:26 that is absolutely precious.
    0:00:28 And I want to cultivate that.
    0:00:30 I want to pour fuel on that fire
    0:00:33 and anything to preserve that.
    0:00:35 And so that’s where the adversary comes in.
    0:00:36 Call what you want.
    0:00:37 I don’t want to step on that or squash that.
    0:00:42 I want my kid to see me as a gateway to interests.
    0:00:45 As someone who just like can make things more interesting,
    0:00:47 anything that I’m interested, they add to it.
    0:00:49 So if I’m interested in video games, great.
    0:00:50 My daughter is interested in YouTube.
    0:00:54 And now she’s filming and trying to make YouTube videos
    0:00:55 and she’s interested.
    0:00:57 And then she’s got to figure out how the camera works.
    0:00:58 And then like all this stuff is there.
    0:01:00 And so I want to get her like, okay, let me get you a camera.
    0:01:02 Let me get you something to set it up.
    0:01:04 Let me get you some, you know, which dolls are you using?
    0:01:05 How can I help?
    0:01:06 I’ll hold the camera, right?
    0:01:07 Let’s do a storyboard.
    0:01:08 You know what a storyboard is?
    0:01:10 Like that’s what I mean.
    0:01:12 I think taking children seriously could be,
    0:01:16 how do you preserve and augment your kid’s interests?
    0:01:19 And how are you always an enabler and a supporter
    0:01:23 and a guide and never someone who’s just pouring cold water?
    0:01:25 Because, you know, that’s not right.
    0:01:30 – Hello, boys and girls, ladies and germs.
    0:01:31 This is Tim Ferriss.
    0:01:33 Welcome to another episode of “The Tim Ferriss Show”
    0:01:36 where it is my job to deconstruct world-class performers
    0:01:39 or people who are thinking on the edges
    0:01:42 and putting forth compelling ideas
    0:01:44 that may or may not be extreme.
    0:01:46 And in the case of this particular conversation,
    0:01:49 I think you will find some of them extreme,
    0:01:53 but there are often little gems hiding at the edges
    0:01:54 that you can use.
    0:01:55 My guests today are Aaron Stuppel.
    0:01:57 You can find him on X,
    0:02:00 that is the artist formerly known as Twitter,
    0:02:04 @astuppel, A-S-T-U-P-P-L-E.
    0:02:06 He is a board-certified internal medicine physician.
    0:02:10 He focuses on reviving the non-coursive parenting movement
    0:02:12 derived from the philosophy of Popper and Deutsch
    0:02:14 called “Taking Children Seriously.”
    0:02:16 We’ll explain what all that means.
    0:02:17 His book, “The Sovereign Child,
    0:02:20 How a Forgotten Philosophy Can Liberate Kids
    0:02:22 and Their Parents,” gives practical examples
    0:02:25 of this freedom-maximizing approach to parenting
    0:02:28 gleaned from his experience as a father of five.
    0:02:31 Naval Ravikant, my old friend,
    0:02:33 you can find him on X @naval,
    0:02:36 is the co-founder of Angel List.
    0:02:38 He’s done so many things, but I’ll try to keep it short.
    0:02:40 He’s invested in more than 100 companies,
    0:02:44 including many mega successes such as Twitter, Uber,
    0:02:47 Notion, Open Door, Postmates, and Wish.
    0:02:49 There’s a lot more to Naval, but I’ll keep it to that.
    0:02:53 And you can listen to my earlier episodes with him
    0:02:58 on the podcast by searching “naval” at tim.blog/podcast.
    0:03:00 Now just a quick disclaimer.
    0:03:03 This episode is more of a debate than my usual interviews.
    0:03:06 I push back on a lot, and that is part of the fun.
    0:03:08 I hope you enjoy the extra spice.
    0:03:12 And if you do like this, I’m not planning on being combative,
    0:03:14 but I do like stress-testing ideas.
    0:03:17 Please let me know at @tfaris on X.
    0:03:20 That’s T-F-E-R-R-I-S-S.
    0:03:21 This episode is a sharp contrast
    0:03:24 with the Dr. Becky Kennedy episode on parenting,
    0:03:26 and I encourage you to listen to both
    0:03:28 because you’ll probably pick up useful things
    0:03:30 from each of those.
    0:03:31 Let’s start with the basics.
    0:03:33 Many parents want to safely increase
    0:03:35 the range of freedom for their kids.
    0:03:37 This is a conversation with someone, Aaron,
    0:03:40 who has taken a very radical approach to child freedom,
    0:03:44 albeit one that is based on a real-life parenting movement.
    0:03:47 Listeners will find some of his recommendations
    0:03:50 of practices excessive and extreme.
    0:03:51 I think that’s very fair to say.
    0:03:54 However, you will also likely pick up some ideas
    0:03:57 for expanding your kid’s freedom, creativity,
    0:03:59 and discovery, at least in some domains
    0:04:01 like food, sleep, or screens.
    0:04:03 I certainly took a lot of notes,
    0:04:06 and I’ll be revisiting this episode myself.
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    0:06:30 I’ve always been very skeptical of most probiotics
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    0:08:17 – Optimal minimal.
    0:08:20 – At this altitude, I can run flat out for a half mile
    0:08:22 before my hands start shaking.
    0:08:24 – Can I answer your personal question?
    0:08:26 – No, I would’ve seen it the perfect time.
    0:08:28 – What if I did the opposite?
    0:08:30 – I’m a cyber-netic organism living this year
    0:08:32 over a metal endoskeleton.
    0:08:34 (upbeat music)
    0:08:44 – Brother Naval, brother Aaron, nice to see you both.
    0:08:49 And Naval, would you like to kick us off?
    0:08:52 Grab the reins, go to town.
    0:08:55 – Aaron Stupel here, who I think we met online.
    0:08:59 We met online on various channels, Twitter, air chat,
    0:09:01 and just talking about various things,
    0:09:04 he came out of the critical rationalism crowd,
    0:09:06 which is a group of thinkers
    0:09:08 that surround David Deutsch and his philosophy.
    0:09:11 And Aaron struck me as someone at first,
    0:09:13 who I was like, this man is insane.
    0:09:14 But I realized in a good way,
    0:09:18 he’s a very ground up, very principled thinker.
    0:09:20 And what I really liked about talking to Aaron,
    0:09:23 who came out kind of out of nowhere,
    0:09:27 is that he will take these philosophically sound positions
    0:09:29 that are very controversial,
    0:09:31 and then he will just defend them,
    0:09:33 indefatigably, without tiring.
    0:09:35 He’ll just keep going, he’ll keep repeating himself.
    0:09:38 We need to, he’ll explain it from 10 different angles,
    0:09:43 but he is very tied into the idea of using creativity
    0:09:46 to find answers to problems and to not using coercion.
    0:09:49 And so he would end up in these rabbit holes
    0:09:53 where I would find myself having to,
    0:09:55 usually when I meet someone like that,
    0:09:57 I usually side with them, I learn from them,
    0:09:59 and I kind of try to help preach that
    0:10:00 to the rest of the world.
    0:10:01 Here, it was a little bit the opposite.
    0:10:02 I found myself in the defensive.
    0:10:06 I found him too radical, too hard to take seriously.
    0:10:07 But as time went on,
    0:10:10 I actually realized he was right about a lot of things.
    0:10:12 It gave me that very uncomfortable feeling.
    0:10:16 And so Aaron actually wrote a book called The Sovereign Child.
    0:10:19 He’s been espousing a theory around taking children seriously,
    0:10:21 which is an older philosophy,
    0:10:25 but he’s, I would say, the best expositor of that philosophy.
    0:10:27 But he also had really great takes on everything
    0:10:30 from is AI gonna end the world to what do you do
    0:10:32 if you walk into an emergency room,
    0:10:34 because he’s a doctor, to how to run a classroom,
    0:10:37 ’cause I think he’s also been a public school teacher.
    0:10:40 So I just found him very compelling person to talk to.
    0:10:42 And I’m still honestly trying to digest
    0:10:44 a lot of what he has to say.
    0:10:46 And I think some of it has seeped into my life
    0:10:48 and my family life, and some of it still hasn’t.
    0:10:51 So I’m here to challenge him and interrogate him
    0:10:54 and to reveal him to the rest of the world.
    0:10:55 I will say that this meant up being
    0:10:58 one of your most controversial episodes for two reasons.
    0:11:02 I think one is it really attacks at a core level,
    0:11:05 the entire system we have around how we view children
    0:11:06 and raise children.
    0:11:10 So it’s really a big F you to the entire system,
    0:11:13 everything, schooling, to parenting, child raising,
    0:11:15 to how do you take care of the most precious thing
    0:11:16 in your life.
    0:11:18 And second, it’s a bunch of dudes.
    0:11:21 It’s a bunch of men standing around talking about this.
    0:11:22 I don’t see the wives or the women.
    0:11:26 So you can just call this the bro parenting episode, right?
    0:11:29 This is a bunch of dads and potential dads
    0:11:31 talking about what is the best way
    0:11:33 to raise sovereign children.
    0:11:36 So let me just start off by maybe asking Aaron,
    0:11:39 give us a very quick background on yourself.
    0:11:41 – And also mention how many kids you have,
    0:11:44 just so we underscore some bona fides.
    0:11:45 – Zero, he actually has zero children.
    0:11:48 Zero, zero children, so theoretical.
    0:11:52 I’ve got five kids, ages seven to one.
    0:11:54 Thanks so much for those kind words, Naval.
    0:11:54 I really appreciate that.
    0:11:57 And it’s been so much fun talking with you
    0:12:01 and your cohort on air chat and Twitter and elsewhere.
    0:12:04 I started off as a public school teacher
    0:12:08 coming out of college and spent five years doing that
    0:12:11 and was really kind of deep into the human nature
    0:12:13 and the experience of young people
    0:12:16 and formed some pretty strong ideas
    0:12:18 about human nature and children.
    0:12:20 And then converted that into medical school
    0:12:22 and I’ve been a physician, practicing physician now
    0:12:26 for the past 10 years, internal medicine.
    0:12:30 And along the way, I got into one of our mutual heroes,
    0:12:34 David Deutsch and his take on Carl Popper’s philosophy.
    0:12:39 And within that, David Deutsch and his colleague,
    0:12:42 Sara Fitzclarage, they both developed this theory
    0:12:45 on children and childhood called taking children seriously.
    0:12:49 I stumbled upon this with the birth of our first child
    0:12:51 and I thought, boy, this is pretty radical
    0:12:52 and pretty interesting.
    0:12:54 And after reading more about it
    0:12:56 and learning more about it, it was kind of faced with,
    0:12:59 do I apply this to my own kid?
    0:13:02 ‘Cause it’s very different from the typical
    0:13:03 kind of conventional view on parenting
    0:13:05 and what I had already been very comfortable with
    0:13:07 coming out of teaching.
    0:13:10 The short story is that I did, my wife and I,
    0:13:14 she is very open-minded and was open to these ideas.
    0:13:19 And we found ourselves just doing this 100% basically.
    0:13:21 And so we’ve got five kids now.
    0:13:23 We’ve been doing this for seven years.
    0:13:24 And it’s remarkable.
    0:13:27 I’ve been into philosophy as an amateur for, you know,
    0:13:29 since college, but this was the first time
    0:13:31 that was a really strong application
    0:13:33 of these ideas to my life.
    0:13:37 And I can’t think of a more transformative day-to-day,
    0:13:41 impactful, practical, applicable set of ideas
    0:13:45 than this set of ideas as applied to children.
    0:13:47 I will say I’ve incorporated maybe, you know,
    0:13:49 I call it 30 to 50% of what you’re saying.
    0:13:52 I was already directionally inclined,
    0:13:54 but I’ve managed to incorporate some of it.
    0:13:57 And my wife and I are open to more of the rest,
    0:13:58 although it’s pretty radical.
    0:13:59 So let’s get into it.
    0:14:02 So this is an example, the philosophy that you’re talking
    0:14:04 about, the taking children serious philosophy,
    0:14:07 which you lay out in The Sovereign Child, the book.
    0:14:11 You basically say, the kids have no sleep schedules.
    0:14:13 You don’t control what they eat.
    0:14:17 They have unrestricted screen time.
    0:14:19 I’m not even sure I have unrestricted screen time,
    0:14:22 but your kids have unrestricted screen time.
    0:14:24 You don’t force them to go to school.
    0:14:26 You don’t make them do chores.
    0:14:29 You don’t have rules like don’t hit each other.
    0:14:32 You try not to mediate sibling conflict.
    0:14:35 You don’t force them to share things.
    0:14:37 They’re not forced to say thank you or obliged to say thank
    0:14:39 you or even badgered to say thank you.
    0:14:41 There’s no real punishment.
    0:14:44 There’s no timeouts or withholding of things.
    0:14:47 There’s no making them spend time with the grandparents
    0:14:49 or the extended family.
    0:14:51 You don’t force them to brush their teeth.
    0:14:53 You don’t make them sit at the dinner table.
    0:14:54 That’s optional.
    0:14:56 So what are we talking about here?
    0:14:59 Do you have children or do you have roommates?
    0:15:00 – Feral animals.
    0:15:02 – Feral animals, exactly.
    0:15:03 So what is this all about?
    0:15:05 What did this come from?
    0:15:08 – The typical way of looking at parenting is the question
    0:15:10 of what do you allow and what do you disallow?
    0:15:13 And almost every view on parenting is a discussion of,
    0:15:16 well, we allow this but we don’t allow that.
    0:15:19 And these are the methods that we use to enforce
    0:15:21 these limitations and these are the justifications
    0:15:24 that we have for enforcing these limitations.
    0:15:28 And what I do, my wife and I do is we just step away
    0:15:33 from that question altogether and instead view problems
    0:15:38 as they arise and try to find solutions to those problems
    0:15:40 rather than appealing to rules.
    0:15:43 The way we interact with our friends and our family,
    0:15:46 the adults in our lives, we don’t apply rules to people.
    0:15:49 If we’re not crazy about what we’re having for dinner,
    0:15:52 we don’t say, okay, this is the rule for dinner time.
    0:15:54 We instead try to come up with something
    0:15:56 that works for everybody.
    0:15:58 And so you could just start with sleep.
    0:16:01 You could start with brushing teeth or eating food.
    0:16:06 The idea is to let kids choose what is interesting
    0:16:10 or appealing to them and then deal with problems
    0:16:11 as they arise.
    0:16:13 – Couldn’t every parent say, well, I try to do that.
    0:16:15 I try to convince them that broccoli is good
    0:16:16 and salmon is good and they should eat their broccoli
    0:16:18 and salmon and they get dessert.
    0:16:20 And so I try to convince her to do that,
    0:16:21 but they don’t know any better.
    0:16:24 And I always try, always try to negotiate with them.
    0:16:26 But after a while, you sort of give up
    0:16:27 ’cause you realize they’re just gonna eat chocolate
    0:16:29 until they explode.
    0:16:32 And so I have to cut that off and say, no, no more ice cream
    0:16:34 and you’re gonna eat your salmon and your broccoli
    0:16:36 and then you can have your ice cream.
    0:16:37 And then there’s a little bit of fighting and whining
    0:16:39 and then eventually they just get used to it.
    0:16:41 So what’s wrong with that?
    0:16:42 I tried to, I tried to negotiate with them.
    0:16:44 The thing that’s wrong with it is that every time
    0:16:46 you force your child to do something,
    0:16:51 you inevitably set yourself up as an adversary to your kid.
    0:16:53 So if you’re trying to get them to eat broccoli,
    0:16:57 you are introducing a difficulty in their life around food.
    0:17:02 And food is something that is crucial to a person’s engagement
    0:17:04 with the world, the young person.
    0:17:06 And you want them to learn about broccoli
    0:17:07 for broccoli’s sake.
    0:17:09 If broccoli is good for you,
    0:17:12 you want them to understand broccoli for its own properties.
    0:17:14 If chocolate is bad for you,
    0:17:15 if chocolate makes you feel bad,
    0:17:17 then you want them to understand that
    0:17:19 as mediated by themselves,
    0:17:22 not because you’re introducing yourself into that thing.
    0:17:24 So you don’t want them to avoid chocolate
    0:17:26 ’cause they’re afraid of dad.
    0:17:27 You don’t want them to eat broccoli
    0:17:31 because dad makes you eat broccoli at the dinner table
    0:17:32 and you can’t go up and do what you wanna do
    0:17:35 because you’ve got to appease dad.
    0:17:37 You know, if broccoli is really important,
    0:17:41 then it’s really important that broccoli is not confused.
    0:17:42 If eating well is really important,
    0:17:46 then it’s really important that eating is not confused
    0:17:49 by what your parents’ expectations are.
    0:17:50 – Let me just zoom out for a minute.
    0:17:54 So if we look at, say, David Deutsch
    0:17:59 and his collaborator on taking children seriously,
    0:18:01 and for people who want more on David Deutsch,
    0:18:03 we might have some mentions in sidebars,
    0:18:07 but Naval and I did an episode with David.
    0:18:10 Why did they land on the tenants that they did
    0:18:14 for taking children seriously?
    0:18:18 And can we know that their approach is right?
    0:18:21 In other words, like, is there any way
    0:18:26 to even know that this is a good approach to parenting?
    0:18:27 – That’s perfect.
    0:18:28 It’s about knowing.
    0:18:30 And there’s different theories
    0:18:33 about how do we know when we know something, right?
    0:18:36 We call this epistemology, the theory of knowledge.
    0:18:37 And Deutsch’s perspective on this
    0:18:42 is that humans are uniquely knowledge creators.
    0:18:45 And the thing about children that’s similar to adults
    0:18:49 is that they’re both knowledge creators in the same way.
    0:18:53 And the role of the parent is to facilitate the child
    0:18:56 as a burgeoning knowledge creator,
    0:18:59 and not to foil that process.
    0:19:00 And things that foil that process
    0:19:04 of knowledge creation and discovery are authorities
    0:19:07 that arbitrarily thwart you
    0:19:09 when you’re trying to learn about something.
    0:19:12 And so that’s how they hit on this originally.
    0:19:15 Sara Fitzclarage was just very interested in non-coercion
    0:19:17 and raising children with zero coercion.
    0:19:20 She just had that in her mind as a parent.
    0:19:24 And she kind of searched around for schools of parenting
    0:19:28 that had zero coercion, that had no enforcement of rules.
    0:19:32 And the person that she aligned with was David Deutsch,
    0:19:37 who brought this epistemological perspective
    0:19:40 and his whole argument is that the problem with coercion
    0:19:42 is that it blocks knowledge growth.
    0:19:45 And your duty as a parent is to facilitate
    0:19:47 and foster knowledge growth.
    0:19:49 That’s the entire, I would say,
    0:19:51 one way of describing the entire premise.
    0:19:53 – And I think underneath, deep down,
    0:19:55 we all kind of know that there’s this contradiction
    0:19:58 between, okay, we teach kids, go to school,
    0:20:01 obey the rules, do what we say, you don’t know yet,
    0:20:04 you’re not ready, you’re not ready, you’re not ready.
    0:20:06 And then all of a sudden they go to college
    0:20:07 and there’s a complete flip, like, now you’re free,
    0:20:09 now you get to learn how to operate in the real world,
    0:20:10 you got to think for yourself.
    0:20:12 Why can’t you think for yourself, right?
    0:20:15 And this whole time you’ve domesticated them
    0:20:18 as almost like animals so that they can function
    0:20:20 in normal society, you train them to eat,
    0:20:21 you train them to go to the bathroom,
    0:20:23 you train them to go to sleep,
    0:20:25 you train them to listen to the teacher.
    0:20:26 And then all of a sudden there’s supposed to be
    0:20:29 independent thinkers and creators and knowledge generators.
    0:20:32 And I think all of us have a story
    0:20:35 of how some very important parts of our life
    0:20:38 are all about undoing all the things we’re taught
    0:20:39 and discovering for ourselves.
    0:20:41 And it could be learning how to learn
    0:20:43 instead of being forced to learn,
    0:20:45 learning what to learn instead of the set of subjects
    0:20:46 we were given in school.
    0:20:49 It could be finally figuring out proper diet and nutrition,
    0:20:51 which turns out to be the opposite of what we were taught.
    0:20:54 You know, the FDA food pyramid is still upside down,
    0:20:56 starts with grains and, you know, get your bread
    0:20:59 and get your rice and then it kind of goes down from there
    0:21:00 and meat is at the bottom.
    0:21:04 So a lot of it is about undoing what we learned.
    0:21:05 A lot of us also have the stories.
    0:21:07 I personally, the story, when I first went to college,
    0:21:09 I ate the worst food you could imagine.
    0:21:11 I just ate complete garbage.
    0:21:14 I played a ton of games, it’s mostly what I did.
    0:21:15 Spent most of my time on the computer lab
    0:21:16 playing video games.
    0:21:19 And I was just so enamored with the freedom.
    0:21:21 Not that my mother was all that restrictive
    0:21:23 in the first place, but I just didn’t have
    0:21:25 this abundance of food and screen time
    0:21:27 that I suddenly did in school.
    0:21:29 And I think even as an adult,
    0:21:32 we’re all still dealing with social media addiction.
    0:21:34 We’re all still dealing with eating more sugar
    0:21:35 than we want to.
    0:21:36 We’re all still dealing with trying to figure out
    0:21:37 the proper diet.
    0:21:39 We’re also trying to be disciplined enough to exercise.
    0:21:42 We’re all still, you know, trying not to doom scroll
    0:21:43 all the time.
    0:21:44 So there’s a learning process.
    0:21:46 And so the question is,
    0:21:48 when do you start that learning process?
    0:21:50 And so I think we have this distinction
    0:21:54 that kids below a certain age, they’re like somewhere
    0:21:56 between, this is gonna be controversial,
    0:22:00 but somewhere between animals and slaves and ignoramuses.
    0:22:01 Right?
    0:22:03 Like they’re like animals that you need to teach them
    0:22:04 basic things.
    0:22:07 So it sticks like you teach a dog, you teach the kid
    0:22:09 what to eat, when to eat, how to eat,
    0:22:10 when to go to the bathroom.
    0:22:11 And then they’re a little bit of a slave
    0:22:13 because we can order them around.
    0:22:14 We’re physically larger than them.
    0:22:17 Even if we’re not physically overpowering them,
    0:22:20 every missive is backed up with a threat of or what else?
    0:22:22 Well, I’ll take it away from you.
    0:22:23 It’s like with the government.
    0:22:24 The government says, I’m gonna write your ticket
    0:22:25 for jaywalking.
    0:22:27 What they really means is I’ll put you in jail
    0:22:27 if you jaywalk.
    0:22:29 Because everything is backed up at the end of the day
    0:22:31 to be able to throw you in jail.
    0:22:32 The same way, everything you say as a parent
    0:22:35 is backed up with the ability of force.
    0:22:36 And without that, it wouldn’t exist.
    0:22:38 And then finally, we just assume that the kids
    0:22:41 are not capable of learning certain things fast enough.
    0:22:42 They have to brush their teeth.
    0:22:44 They have to not eat ice cream
    0:22:45 because it might cause irreparable damage
    0:22:47 by the time they’re old enough.
    0:22:49 But I think all of these are valid concerns
    0:22:51 and they’re worth tackling.
    0:22:53 And we can go more into them, but I got a whole list
    0:22:55 of controversial things to go through with you.
    0:22:59 – I’m gonna be the guy on the side guard chiming in.
    0:23:02 Do we have more than one case study
    0:23:04 of people who have applied this to children
    0:23:09 for more than seven years, like 20 years, 25 years?
    0:23:10 Just because I don’t personally know anyone
    0:23:12 who has parented their children this way.
    0:23:17 And so I’m wondering if we have like a sample set
    0:23:21 of kids who have been raised over 15, 20 plus years
    0:23:24 using these methods and how they turned out.
    0:23:25 – I’m not familiar with a set.
    0:23:28 I know some folks, but I don’t wanna out them individually.
    0:23:31 But I’ll even attack the premise of the question.
    0:23:34 It’s relevant that when we think about kids
    0:23:36 and what is a good way to parent,
    0:23:39 we think in empirical terms and in terms of outcomes
    0:23:42 and research and scientific tests and sociology
    0:23:43 and things like that.
    0:23:47 But there’s a huge problem when you’re trying to answer a,
    0:23:49 what is it, essentially a moral question,
    0:23:51 trying to answer it scientifically
    0:23:54 and from a research base or an outcomes basis.
    0:23:56 So a comparison would be feminism, right?
    0:23:58 The arguments for women’s liberation
    0:24:01 were not outcomes-based arguments.
    0:24:03 And there were people who were saying that,
    0:24:06 you know what, if we allow women to control their own lives,
    0:24:08 then they’re going to be worse off.
    0:24:09 They’re going to be depressed.
    0:24:11 They’re going to be, you know,
    0:24:13 all sorts of terrible things are going to happen.
    0:24:16 You can imagine the people who were arguing
    0:24:18 against feminism in terms of outcomes
    0:24:22 could create all sorts of arguments about,
    0:24:24 you know, what those outcomes would be.
    0:24:25 And women arguing in favor
    0:24:28 or people arguing in favor of feminism,
    0:24:30 in favor of women’s liberation would say,
    0:24:31 I don’t care what the outcomes are,
    0:24:33 I want to control my own life.
    0:24:35 You know, I’m a full status person
    0:24:39 and I am morally deserving to make choices
    0:24:40 and decisions about my life.
    0:24:44 And the same goes for all minority issues
    0:24:47 and human liberation movements,
    0:24:48 is that they’re moral arguments,
    0:24:50 they’re not scientific arguments.
    0:24:52 And it’s kind of funny.
    0:24:55 – If you ask most people, like, hey, you know,
    0:24:56 when you were young,
    0:24:58 do you wish your parents had controlled you more or less?
    0:25:00 I think most people’s complaint would be
    0:25:03 that my parents were too controlling, right?
    0:25:05 – Well, are we dealing with some survivorship bias
    0:25:07 where you’re asking very smart people
    0:25:10 who have done well, what they would prefer,
    0:25:11 then maybe you’re not asking people
    0:25:13 in jail the same question.
    0:25:15 So I look, I want to explore the moral side of things,
    0:25:20 but I’m going to just state my maybe placeholder objection
    0:25:22 that if we frame it as a moral argument,
    0:25:24 then we take certain lines of questioning
    0:25:26 off the table, I will just say,
    0:25:28 my interest in asking that question is,
    0:25:29 what does it refer to?
    0:25:31 One of you guys is going to know the Lindy effect,
    0:25:34 just like the durability of things over time.
    0:25:36 I just haven’t seen much of this.
    0:25:37 So I’m curious about it.
    0:25:39 – Actually, there is some Lindy evidence.
    0:25:40 There’s some Lindy evidence.
    0:25:43 Firstly, keep in mind that historically children
    0:25:46 hit puberty age of eight, nine, 10, 11, 12,
    0:25:48 and they were adults at that point.
    0:25:50 They were out conquering nations and having children.
    0:25:52 And it’s only recently that we moved it up to 18
    0:25:55 and a lot of struggle of teenage hood
    0:25:58 is trying to control an adult as if they’re a child.
    0:26:01 And so you can already see that it happens at a certain age.
    0:26:03 Then secondly, it’s not an all or nothing thing.
    0:26:05 And Aaron lays this out in his book,
    0:26:08 which is basically about where can you start?
    0:26:10 So for example, I’ll say with my children,
    0:26:12 my children are closer to somewhere
    0:26:14 we in homeschooled and unschooled.
    0:26:15 And they wake up when they want
    0:26:17 and they sleep relatively when they want.
    0:26:19 And they do have a lot more permissiveness
    0:26:20 around eating a screen time.
    0:26:22 The amount of screen time they spend is horrific.
    0:26:24 I think one of my kids was showing good a day.
    0:26:26 He did eight hours of screen time that day,
    0:26:28 which I think most parents would have a fit
    0:26:30 in like one day, eight hour screen time.
    0:26:31 That’s all he did.
    0:26:33 So they already have a high level of permissiveness.
    0:26:35 And I can just say for me personally
    0:26:36 that they seem pretty well developed.
    0:26:39 They’re happy, they’re healthy, they’re pretty intelligent,
    0:26:41 and they seem to do well relative to their peers.
    0:26:42 They seem to have less hang ups
    0:26:44 than I think the average kid would
    0:26:45 and they have a lot more freedom.
    0:26:47 But the good news is you don’t have to do this
    0:26:48 all or nothing.
    0:26:50 I said all or nothing to be provocative
    0:26:52 ’cause Aaron’s a believer, he’s all the way.
    0:26:55 But you can start in one area.
    0:26:56 And so like, what’s an example of an area
    0:26:58 where you could start Aaron?
    0:27:00 Like the beauty of truth is you don’t have to rely
    0:27:02 on somebody’s study ’cause you know,
    0:27:03 people who do studies these days,
    0:27:04 we know how corrupted they are, right?
    0:27:06 So we know there’s a whole class of people
    0:27:07 who show up on Twitter and say source.
    0:27:09 You know, as if that’s killing your argument.
    0:27:10 Like you don’t, Harvard didn’t bless this.
    0:27:14 Well, Harvard wants mandatory education at Harvard.
    0:27:15 So I can’t listen to them.
    0:27:16 They want to indoctrinate my child.
    0:27:19 So let me turn around the question on you, Naval,
    0:27:21 just for a second, ’cause you mentioned early on,
    0:27:23 you’re 30 to 50% incorporated.
    0:27:26 So what did you incorporate first?
    0:27:29 – I basically retreated heavily back, okay?
    0:27:32 And what I retreated on was, first,
    0:27:33 I’m not very authoritarian with the kids.
    0:27:34 I never have been.
    0:27:36 So if they’re around me and they want to eat junk food,
    0:27:38 I just hand them the junk food and then I’ll leave the room.
    0:27:40 So I’m not that responsible.
    0:27:41 – That’s mom’s problem.
    0:27:42 – Yeah, exactly.
    0:27:45 So mom and other caretakers might be more restrictive,
    0:27:48 but I tend not to be, especially around food,
    0:27:49 especially when I know what a bad job
    0:27:50 I personally do with food.
    0:27:53 I’m also not that restricted with screen time.
    0:27:55 I basically just, you know, after 6 p.m.,
    0:27:56 they get unlimited screen time.
    0:27:58 And I don’t force them to go to school.
    0:28:01 They’re a combination of homeschooled and unschooled.
    0:28:03 Where I would say I am restrictive is,
    0:28:05 I probably interfere a lot if they’re like fighting,
    0:28:06 if they’re hitting at each other.
    0:28:08 I’m kind of pushy about like, let’s go, let’s go,
    0:28:10 let’s hurry up, you know, we’re late,
    0:28:12 get in the car, that kind of thing.
    0:28:15 Definitely the one place where I have a big bugaboo,
    0:28:17 I think they can get over eating badliest kids,
    0:28:19 young bodies are very resilient.
    0:28:22 And it takes a lifetime to figure out how to eat well.
    0:28:25 And I think they can get over even socialization
    0:28:28 and emotional hangups and interpersonal conflict.
    0:28:30 All of that stuff has to be handled on its own.
    0:28:31 And they have to figure it out.
    0:28:34 The two places where I probably interfere a lot is,
    0:28:36 one is I insist on math and reading.
    0:28:38 Like you gotta do your math and you gotta do your reading.
    0:28:39 If you do your math and reading,
    0:28:40 then you’re a free individual.
    0:28:41 Until then you’re a little slave.
    0:28:44 And you don’t get to do what you want, right?
    0:28:47 So I’m pretty tough there.
    0:28:49 The other one is if one of them is hitting the other,
    0:28:52 then that’s to me is a boundary that you don’t cross.
    0:28:54 And I tend to get emotional and tend to interfere.
    0:28:56 So those are probably the two places
    0:28:57 where I’m most restrictive.
    0:28:59 But I would say that, you know,
    0:29:00 our kids are closer to wild animals
    0:29:02 than properly raised children.
    0:29:05 But I will say, I think most kids these days
    0:29:07 that I run into, most of their friends
    0:29:09 who are kind of quote unquote normally raised,
    0:29:11 I wouldn’t trade places.
    0:29:12 Our family has a lot more freedom.
    0:29:14 We get along great with our kids.
    0:29:15 They’re very intelligent.
    0:29:17 They’re very independent.
    0:29:18 They’re very capable.
    0:29:20 And they seem to me as well or better adjusted
    0:29:23 than any other peers, not to put their peers down.
    0:29:26 But I have noticed that all of their peers
    0:29:29 tend to have a way of getting attention from adults
    0:29:31 and violating the rules.
    0:29:34 And that could be anything from I’m having allergic reaction
    0:29:37 to I threw up to I’m having a meltdown to whatever.
    0:29:39 And these are all attention seeking behavior
    0:29:42 to control adults who are normally not controllable.
    0:29:45 And our kids seem to have a lot less of that.
    0:29:47 Maybe just anecdotal.
    0:29:48 – Yeah, I would say the same thing.
    0:29:50 Our kids are not wild.
    0:29:52 In fact, they do what we ask them to do.
    0:29:53 They’re very responsive.
    0:29:55 Like when my wife asked them to do something,
    0:29:57 they don’t have like a knee jerk defensiveness.
    0:30:01 They’re not trying to game us as adversaries or gatekeepers.
    0:30:04 It’s a very authentic interaction.
    0:30:06 And they’re very polite.
    0:30:08 They say please and thank you to each other.
    0:30:10 You know, they bang up against each other so frequently
    0:30:12 without us trying to intervene
    0:30:14 that they understand each other’s boundaries.
    0:30:17 They’re very conscientious.
    0:30:18 Obviously it’s a small sample size
    0:30:20 and you know, there’s plenty of other reasons
    0:30:21 why that might be the case.
    0:30:26 But I would say a lot of people object to removing rules
    0:30:28 and you know, say that it’s impossible,
    0:30:30 you know, a kid will absolutely fall apart.
    0:30:33 And a few examples of kids not falling apart.
    0:30:36 I think does demonstrate that it’s possible.
    0:30:39 It’s possible that removing rules can result
    0:30:44 in a very orderly structured and yeah, it’s a polite,
    0:30:46 kind of rule following.
    0:30:48 I often say, you know, that I would rather
    0:30:53 that my kids be disobedient and free and uneducated
    0:30:56 than that they’re educated and obedient, right?
    0:30:58 ‘Cause you can always educate yourself.
    0:31:00 And most of us who know anything
    0:31:02 have become self-learners over time.
    0:31:04 And learning is always moving target.
    0:31:06 But that independent thinking,
    0:31:08 that independent streak, you can’t get back.
    0:31:10 Every one I know who is successful in life
    0:31:13 has a strong independent streak, no exceptions.
    0:31:17 – Question, Aaron, you said rule following,
    0:31:21 but this is also freedom maximizing parenting philosophy.
    0:31:26 You also mentioned that if your wife asks for something,
    0:31:30 the kids will often, for lack of a better terms, comply.
    0:31:34 So is the teaching then coming from modeling
    0:31:35 rather than rules?
    0:31:36 That’s why they say please and thank you.
    0:31:37 It’s not a request.
    0:31:40 It’s something that you are demonstrating
    0:31:41 and therefore they’re following.
    0:31:43 Or are you explaining the importance
    0:31:46 of those things and therefore they end up
    0:31:48 adopting those behaviors?
    0:31:50 – We explain when we can,
    0:31:53 but with little kids explaining in words rarely works.
    0:31:56 And so I think a helpful distinction is,
    0:31:58 it’s not that all rules are bad, right?
    0:32:01 The rules of chess, the rules of baseball are great.
    0:32:04 What’s great about rules is when you can opt out of them.
    0:32:08 And adults can opt out of almost any set of rules.
    0:32:11 Rules that adults can’t opt out of are called laws
    0:32:13 and laws are very different from rules.
    0:32:14 – You can opt out of those too.
    0:32:16 They’re just severe consequences.
    0:32:18 – Right, or you can even, you can stay home, right?
    0:32:20 Like a man’s house is this castle.
    0:32:22 Like you can avoid the laws of the road,
    0:32:23 the rules of the road and just not drive a car.
    0:32:25 You can ride a bike and walk.
    0:32:28 But a kid, a typical kid cannot escape,
    0:32:30 cannot opt out of the rule of brushing their teeth,
    0:32:32 for example, right?
    0:32:33 When teeth brushing time comes around,
    0:32:36 mom or dad will hunt them down and find them
    0:32:38 and make them brush their teeth.
    0:32:40 So that’s not really a rule in the same sense of
    0:32:42 the rules of chess, where if you wanna say,
    0:32:43 you know, let’s play with different pieces,
    0:32:45 let’s change the way the pieces move, right?
    0:32:46 You can adopt those rules or say,
    0:32:48 I don’t wanna play chess.
    0:32:49 I’m gonna go do something else.
    0:32:53 So rules are great and actually a major,
    0:32:54 a huge fan of rules.
    0:32:57 In fact, I’m such a fan of rules
    0:32:59 that I don’t wanna contaminate rules
    0:33:03 with this kind of fake or phony set of rules,
    0:33:05 which are really, they’re not even laws, right?
    0:33:10 They are arbitrary, autocratic impositions on a child’s life.
    0:33:12 Forcing a kid to brush their teeth,
    0:33:14 I think is a disaster.
    0:33:17 People usually think that you have to force rules on kids,
    0:33:18 right? It’s a necessary evil.
    0:33:19 You just have to.
    0:33:20 Nobody wants to be a hard ass,
    0:33:22 but you know, when push comes to shove,
    0:33:23 they just have to brush their teeth
    0:33:25 because kids don’t know about cavities.
    0:33:27 A three-year-old doesn’t understand the concept
    0:33:29 and for their own good, right?
    0:33:31 They would be upset with me later in life
    0:33:32 if they have cavities.
    0:33:34 And I said, dad, make me brush my teeth.
    0:33:37 And now I’ve got awful teeth.
    0:33:38 You know, they would be rightfully
    0:33:40 justifiably upset with me.
    0:33:43 And so what do you do in that circumstance?
    0:33:45 The typical thinking is that, well, it’s a necessary evil.
    0:33:47 You just have to make them brush their teeth.
    0:33:50 But the truth is, and this is getting to the epistemology,
    0:33:52 is that a kid that’s not brushing their teeth,
    0:33:53 really that’s a problem.
    0:33:56 And the question is, are there ways to solve this problem
    0:33:59 that don’t involve me forcing the rule on them?
    0:34:03 And with any problem, there’s multiple solutions
    0:34:05 and brushing teeth is a great example.
    0:34:07 What my wife and I do is we try to explore
    0:34:10 and understand what is the nature of this problem.
    0:34:12 And so maybe the kid isn’t brushing their teeth
    0:34:14 ’cause they don’t like the taste of the toothpaste,
    0:34:16 or they don’t like the feel of the toothbrush,
    0:34:19 or my wife and I will brush our teeth
    0:34:20 and blow our breath in each other’s face
    0:34:24 and kind of swoon at how good our breath smells afterward.
    0:34:26 And then they want to do that.
    0:34:27 They want to have good smelling breath.
    0:34:29 They want to play the breath smelling game.
    0:34:32 We’ll take them to the store and we go to the toothpaste aisle
    0:34:34 and let them pick out the Paw Patrol toothpaste
    0:34:37 and the Unicorn toothpaste and they get their own toothpaste.
    0:34:38 Like there are so many different things.
    0:34:39 – Man, I need to go shopping with you.
    0:34:40 – Right?
    0:34:42 There’s so, and then that becomes a whole fun thing.
    0:34:44 Like, hey, let’s go to the store
    0:34:45 and you’re gonna be in charge
    0:34:47 and let’s go to the toothpaste aisle
    0:34:49 and you pick out all your stuff.
    0:34:50 And today is amazing, right?
    0:34:52 There’s like different flavors of mouthwash.
    0:34:53 There’s everything.
    0:34:58 So you explore the space of these solutions
    0:35:00 and you never know when you can find one.
    0:35:02 – Can I give you my own anecdotes on this
    0:35:03 that are funny? – Yeah, go for it.
    0:35:04 – So with my older son,
    0:35:06 I actually managed to explain to him
    0:35:08 the germ theory of disease.
    0:35:11 We watched YouTube videos on little germs eating things
    0:35:13 and I convinced him like germs gonna eat his teeth
    0:35:14 if he doesn’t brush them.
    0:35:15 So he brushes them.
    0:35:17 My daughter, she’s really young.
    0:35:19 She just sees me flossing all the time.
    0:35:20 She loves playing with floss.
    0:35:21 It’s that simple.
    0:35:24 So each one has their own mechanism how to figure it out.
    0:35:26 My middle son, you know, he likes the,
    0:35:28 I think it’s a Spider-Man toothbrush.
    0:35:30 So it’s like a very particular toothbrush he likes.
    0:35:32 So he plays with that.
    0:35:34 So there’s a different solution for each one,
    0:35:35 but it takes time.
    0:35:35 It takes creativity.
    0:35:36 It takes problem solving.
    0:35:39 And you can’t get exactly what you want when you want it.
    0:35:41 – Well, it also takes another thing
    0:35:43 is for them to be open to you, Naval, right?
    0:35:45 If you were a rule enforcer, you know,
    0:35:47 you keep like, oh, shit, it’s toothbrushing time, right?
    0:35:50 Last thing I want to do is deal with dad at toothbrushing time.
    0:35:53 Whereas if you’re never that enforcer,
    0:35:54 then the kid is more like,
    0:35:56 oh, what are you doing with the floss?
    0:35:57 What kind of toothpaste is that?
    0:35:59 They’re much more interested in emulating
    0:36:01 and following the modeling
    0:36:05 when you are not this arbitrary enforcer.
    0:36:07 I have a rule for myself, which, you know,
    0:36:08 I do bust my kids occasionally,
    0:36:10 which I know you don’t bust your kids,
    0:36:12 but I do occasionally bust my kids.
    0:36:15 But if they come to me with something that they did
    0:36:18 innocently that they didn’t think was wrong,
    0:36:21 but it’s wrong, I never bust them, right?
    0:36:23 ‘Cause I don’t want to create that feeling in them,
    0:36:24 like don’t go to dad.
    0:36:26 So at least I’m not fully enlightened here,
    0:36:28 but I’m, you know, headed in the direction.
    0:36:29 But let’s go to some of the harder ones.
    0:36:33 Let’s talk about like eating or screen time.
    0:36:34 Those are the tough ones.
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    0:37:49 We’re gonna get to those, but I wanna just mention,
    0:37:52 so Aaron, this is my first time having this conversation
    0:37:55 with either of you about this approach to parenting.
    0:37:59 And what I like about it is that
    0:38:02 there’s an examination of the problem, right?
    0:38:04 We’re not jumping to solutions
    0:38:06 because often the problem is the way we’re looking
    0:38:08 at the problem in the first place.
    0:38:10 But I imagine for a lot of people listening,
    0:38:13 they’re like, okay, so you have a bespoke,
    0:38:17 like Seville Row tailored solution to every kid.
    0:38:19 That sounds fucking exhausting
    0:38:21 when if the kid’s refusing to wear gloves
    0:38:23 and it’s freezing outside,
    0:38:24 just put on your fucking gloves
    0:38:26 because I tell you to put them on.
    0:38:31 And I’m also, I guess, as segue from that,
    0:38:34 coming back to this creativity over coercion.
    0:38:36 And when I think of creativity,
    0:38:39 I actually think of the power of constraints,
    0:38:43 not a complete lack of constraints.
    0:38:44 That’s my personal experience
    0:38:46 and the experience of a lot of people I interview.
    0:38:48 So how do you reconcile these things
    0:38:50 or think about any of those?
    0:38:51 – All right, let me do the gloves first
    0:38:53 and then the constraints second.
    0:38:55 Yes, it’s a lot of work with a kid who wants to go outside
    0:38:57 and doesn’t wanna wear their mittens, right?
    0:38:59 And you’re gonna be dealing with a kid melting down
    0:39:00 ’cause their hands are cold
    0:39:04 and totally irrational, seeming three-year-old, screaming,
    0:39:05 but also won’t put the mittens on
    0:39:07 even when their hands are cold.
    0:39:08 And that’s a nightmare.
    0:39:11 I’m not pretending that that’s not a nightmare.
    0:39:16 But the investment upfront pays off in the long run
    0:39:19 because once a kid understands what mittens are for
    0:39:20 and has no confusion about mittens
    0:39:23 are because mom makes me put the mittens on, right?
    0:39:25 Mittens are ’cause cold hands sucks
    0:39:27 and I’ll wear my mittens.
    0:39:29 Once a kid understands that,
    0:39:30 the mitten problem is solved
    0:39:33 and you never have to lecture them about getting ready
    0:39:34 in what they wear.
    0:39:36 And it’s that over and over and over again.
    0:39:38 You know, the first times through, it is more work.
    0:39:39 There’s no question about it.
    0:39:42 Exploring the problem, trying to understand.
    0:39:44 My daughter brushes her teeth like, boom.
    0:39:47 My son too, pretty much the three older kids
    0:39:50 brush their teeth just on their own.
    0:39:54 Once a problem gets solved to the kid’s own understanding,
    0:39:57 it’s solved for the rest of their life.
    0:39:59 It’s also not part of an explanatory framework
    0:40:00 that you can build upon.
    0:40:02 Rules don’t connect to each other.
    0:40:03 The only way rules connect to each other
    0:40:05 is dad or mom say so.
    0:40:08 Whereas knowledge, it’s a framework of understanding.
    0:40:09 So once you understand you’re brushing your teeth
    0:40:11 ’cause of the germs, then you also understand
    0:40:13 why you should shower and why you should use soap
    0:40:15 and why you should change your underwear and all this.
    0:40:16 – Why you take medicine,
    0:40:18 why you cover your mouth when you cough.
    0:40:20 Exactly, it all builds. – It all goes together.
    0:40:21 And so the sooner you can teach your kids
    0:40:22 that knowledge, the better.
    0:40:24 But there’s an age, I would argue with Aaron,
    0:40:27 like at a certain age when she just doesn’t register.
    0:40:30 – No, no, because the other part of it is that
    0:40:32 you are the guide, right?
    0:40:35 Dad is someone who helps me.
    0:40:38 Dad is never someone who bust my balls.
    0:40:39 Dad is never an adversary.
    0:40:42 Dad is always a guide and a participant
    0:40:45 in this knowledge accumulation process.
    0:40:47 And he helps give me the knowledge
    0:40:48 that helps me solve my problems
    0:40:52 and avoid getting sick or avoid getting a sunburn
    0:40:54 or bug bites.
    0:40:56 It not only builds on itself, the knowledge itself,
    0:40:59 but the relationship with your parents gets stronger.
    0:41:01 And that’s why I’m saying when we ask our kids
    0:41:02 to do something, they trust us.
    0:41:05 They know that we have their best interests at heart,
    0:41:06 not simply because we tell them,
    0:41:09 but because they see it and experience it.
    0:41:14 So you have a trusted guide who you kind of understand
    0:41:15 that we’re all in this project together
    0:41:18 of like figuring out life and avoiding suffering
    0:41:20 and pursuing interests and pursuing joy
    0:41:22 and developing passions.
    0:41:25 There was an old book called “The Scientist in the Crib.”
    0:41:28 The title is so good that I think the book is very popular
    0:41:30 because everyone wants to view their child
    0:41:31 as a little scientist,
    0:41:33 even though they treat them like the convict in the crib,
    0:41:36 right, like you’re gonna do exactly what I say
    0:41:37 when I tell you to.
    0:41:38 But I think that there’s a struggle.
    0:41:39 People say, well, I don’t want to be
    0:41:41 my kid’s best friend.
    0:41:42 They have friends.
    0:41:43 I have to be a parent.
    0:41:44 And then they kind of think through,
    0:41:47 well, what does that mean to be a parent?
    0:41:50 And the reality is I think most people would have preferred
    0:41:52 more independence when they were kids.
    0:41:55 So why not start trying to give it to your kids
    0:41:56 and doing the explanation?
    0:41:57 But the explanations are hard.
    0:41:59 It takes a lot of upfront work.
    0:42:01 – Let me ask you this, Naval.
    0:42:05 Do you think people in retrospect, well, for instance,
    0:42:07 like coercion versus non-coercion,
    0:42:09 there isn’t really a universe in which
    0:42:13 most people would find a positive connotation with coercion.
    0:42:16 So if someone says functional medicine,
    0:42:19 they don’t want to go to a non-functional doctor, right?
    0:42:21 So it’s like, well, it’s kind of a,
    0:42:22 it’s a bit of a, not a semantic trick,
    0:42:26 but you can’t really reasonably take the opposite position.
    0:42:28 So I’m wondering, do you think that most people who say,
    0:42:30 I wish I had more freedom when I was a kid
    0:42:35 are recalling completely enough or accurately enough
    0:42:36 to make that judgment?
    0:42:39 – There’s certain things where you can argue the opposite.
    0:42:40 So I’ll take the other side, you know,
    0:42:43 for a moment to challenge Aaron’s philosophy.
    0:42:45 I think brain plasticity is a thing.
    0:42:47 Like if you don’t learn your math or your music
    0:42:48 or your languages when you’re young,
    0:42:50 it’s a lot harder to learn than when you’re older
    0:42:51 and they’re building blocks.
    0:42:53 So, you know, my kid may be interested
    0:42:55 in some physics thing, like, oh,
    0:42:57 why is the sunlight going this way?
    0:42:59 Or why is it a quarter moon instead of a half moon?
    0:43:01 And I started trying to explain it,
    0:43:04 but if he doesn’t have the basics in geometry or math,
    0:43:05 because he skipped all of that,
    0:43:08 then he’ll lose interest before I can get him interested
    0:43:09 enough to figure out the math.
    0:43:12 If you’re trying to figure out basic math when you’re 19,
    0:43:13 it’s pretty late in the game.
    0:43:15 Like you’re gonna have a hard time.
    0:43:16 Same thing with literacy and reading.
    0:43:20 If you never learn how to put words together and read,
    0:43:22 then when you finally are interested
    0:43:24 and I point you to the book, you can’t read it.
    0:43:27 And you’re not gonna climb that hill from zero
    0:43:28 to figure it out.
    0:43:29 So I’m kind of stuck in that one.
    0:43:32 I think I would call it literacy, numeracy,
    0:43:34 and computer literacy are the three things
    0:43:36 that I really want my kids to have.
    0:43:38 And those three to me are foundational building blocks
    0:43:39 and everything else they can learn
    0:43:42 on their own interest and in their own time.
    0:43:46 – So Aaron, are there any non-negotiables
    0:43:48 like Neval’s that he mentioned perhaps,
    0:43:50 these fundamental building blocks
    0:43:55 that you have reserved outside the scope of the sovereign.
    0:43:58 – And by the way, there’s a physical equivalence too.
    0:44:00 So I think the three that people fall down on, if I may,
    0:44:01 there’s actually a lot,
    0:44:05 but there’s brain plasticity around learning.
    0:44:08 There’s habits, habits are a big thing.
    0:44:11 There’s social cues around not hitting people
    0:44:13 or getting the fights and knowing how to socialize.
    0:44:15 There’s body plasticity.
    0:44:17 I ate poorly when I was a kid.
    0:44:19 So therefore those bad habits follow me forever.
    0:44:22 And my body remembers all the damage that I did to it.
    0:44:25 There’s something about like the number of fat cells,
    0:44:27 whenever it goes down, the size can go down.
    0:44:28 I don’t know how true that is.
    0:44:30 So there’s kind of all these things
    0:44:31 that are viewed as irreversible
    0:44:34 and it gets all the way to the most extreme of,
    0:44:35 the kid runs in the street and gets hit by a car
    0:44:37 because he were too permissive as a parent.
    0:44:39 So there’s a litany of fears.
    0:44:42 But I think there is a specific thing around these things
    0:44:43 that you have to learn when you’re young
    0:44:45 because you can’t change when you’re older
    0:44:47 or you can’t learn them when you’re older.
    0:44:49 – So a bunch of points to this.
    0:44:51 First, let’s just grant, let’s say that’s true, right?
    0:44:53 There’s these non-negotiable things
    0:44:55 that still raises the question of how,
    0:44:58 how do you get your kids to learn these things, right?
    0:44:59 If math is essential,
    0:45:01 you could put a gun to your kid’s head
    0:45:03 and say you’re learning math, right?
    0:45:06 And so we could recognize that that would be a bad idea.
    0:45:08 – Wait, I gotta try, no, I never.
    0:45:09 (all laughing)
    0:45:11 – Oh, I never thought of that.
    0:45:12 So the question is-
    0:45:14 – So problem solving, here it is.
    0:45:16 – Jordan Peterson has a popular thing
    0:45:17 where he’s saying that you, you know,
    0:45:19 you don’t let your kid behave in a way
    0:45:21 that makes you not like them.
    0:45:23 And like, boy, that really sounds important,
    0:45:26 but you know, how do you make the kid do that?
    0:45:28 And that is the problems that there is no way
    0:45:31 to make a kid turn out in any particular way.
    0:45:34 Every method of making a kid do something
    0:45:37 brings in a whole host of costs.
    0:45:39 Every time you’re bringing in coercion,
    0:45:42 you’re not making a kid necessarily do something.
    0:45:44 What you’re doing is you are raising the costs
    0:45:46 of them doing something else, right?
    0:45:48 If you want them to learn math,
    0:45:51 you have to raise the costs of them playing video games
    0:45:53 or playing baseball or doing whatever else it is.
    0:45:56 And so is there a way for them to learn math
    0:45:59 that doesn’t involve you raising the costs
    0:46:01 of them doing something else?
    0:46:02 And the answer is yes,
    0:46:05 there’s infinite number of ways to solve any problem.
    0:46:06 There’s ways of making math fun.
    0:46:08 There’s ways of just making it fun,
    0:46:11 making games, and you can go through all the different apps
    0:46:13 and you hear about all this kind of stuff.
    0:46:15 – In that sense, this philosophy, by the way,
    0:46:17 is very active parenting.
    0:46:19 So the people who think this might just be neglect,
    0:46:20 it’s the opposite.
    0:46:23 I would say it requires way more time investment,
    0:46:25 way more creativity, way more upfront.
    0:46:27 – In one way, yeah.
    0:46:29 Managing kids with a lot of rules is a ton of work.
    0:46:32 This is a lot of work, but also opens up.
    0:46:35 When it works, it opens up a huge amount of free time.
    0:46:38 – That does seem like, feel free to refute this,
    0:46:41 but a parenting approach that is perhaps limited
    0:46:46 to the educated elite with enough time
    0:46:49 to operate from first principles
    0:46:51 and approach things this way,
    0:46:52 which is not to negate the value of it,
    0:46:55 because I think that there are probably bits and pieces
    0:46:56 that people can apply.
    0:46:57 – So there are versions of this
    0:46:59 that have been done in schools, by the way.
    0:47:01 There’s a very famous book called “Summer Hill”
    0:47:04 about a school in the UK, I forget when,
    0:47:05 maybe it’s still around,
    0:47:07 but they’ve got famous long time ago,
    0:47:09 but it was very permissive schooling
    0:47:10 where the kids ran the school,
    0:47:12 they decided if they wanna go to class or not,
    0:47:15 the teachers were just at the same peer level
    0:47:17 as the kids and were resources for the kids.
    0:47:19 Now, these were slightly older kids,
    0:47:21 but not that much older.
    0:47:22 I think there were kids in “Summer Hill”
    0:47:24 who were like six, seven, eight years old,
    0:47:26 and it was very, very permissive.
    0:47:27 It’s almost the school equivalent
    0:47:29 of taking children seriously
    0:47:31 or sovereign child kind of philosophies.
    0:47:35 So it has been done in even a caregiver context,
    0:47:37 but boy, it’s hard to get–
    0:47:38 – What happened? – What happened?
    0:47:40 – Supposedly incredibly successful.
    0:47:43 – Piggy didn’t get killed with a big rock off the cliff.
    0:47:45 (laughing)
    0:47:48 – Yeah, it’s for the same reason that like,
    0:47:49 anything that goes against the institution,
    0:47:51 it doesn’t get absorbed by the institutions.
    0:47:52 – Yeah, sure.
    0:47:54 – And anything that is status-lowering
    0:47:56 for the people in power tends not to get adopted
    0:47:59 by people in power, that’s a common thing.
    0:48:02 But look, yeah, nothing can work for everybody.
    0:48:04 I think there are some general principles out of here
    0:48:06 that are worth thinking through and challenging.
    0:48:08 Like I said, I’ve gone through Aaron’s arguments
    0:48:11 in his book and I have adopted some of them,
    0:48:13 and my wife and I were talking about
    0:48:15 how we’re gonna try some more of them.
    0:48:17 ‘Cause if it works, it’s actually better for everybody.
    0:48:20 I am now much more keenly aware of some things.
    0:48:21 It’s like some things you learn about
    0:48:23 and then you become more keenly aware
    0:48:24 of things as a result.
    0:48:26 So I’m much more keenly aware
    0:48:29 how almost every conflict with a child
    0:48:31 is about a negotiation.
    0:48:33 They’re negotiating for something
    0:48:34 because you have a rule.
    0:48:36 And then you’re playing little king
    0:48:37 or dictator at arbitrary,
    0:48:39 renegotiating the rule on the fly.
    0:48:41 And then they go off to the other parent
    0:48:43 and they try to renegotiate the rule
    0:48:44 if they don’t like your result
    0:48:46 or they try to figure out how to work around it.
    0:48:48 And when you start noticing that
    0:48:50 and you realize how much of your life
    0:48:53 is in negotiating rules and creating rules
    0:48:54 and routing around rules
    0:48:56 and how many interactions around that,
    0:48:58 you start developing a distaste for it.
    0:49:00 If you didn’t used to brush your teeth
    0:49:02 and floss like twice or three times a day,
    0:49:04 when you get used to that feeling of clean teeth,
    0:49:06 then you’ll notice when there’s a film on your teeth.
    0:49:08 But until you get to that point,
    0:49:10 you don’t notice there’s a film on your teeth, right?
    0:49:12 Or like if you’re aware of your monkey mind, right?
    0:49:13 You meditate.
    0:49:14 Then you start noticing like,
    0:49:15 “Oh, my thoughts are running away.”
    0:49:17 But before you started meditating,
    0:49:18 you never noticed when your thoughts were running away.
    0:49:20 That’s just normal.
    0:49:22 So now when you’re aware of how much of this
    0:49:26 is about creating rules for them to follow,
    0:49:28 rules that by the way,
    0:49:30 you would never inflict on anybody else, ever.
    0:49:33 Out of love, out of hate, out of anything.
    0:49:35 And that’s a good litmus test that Aaron lays out,
    0:49:37 which is like, if you wouldn’t do it to your spouse,
    0:49:39 if you wouldn’t speak that way to your spouse,
    0:49:41 don’t speak that way to your child.
    0:49:42 So you become more aware.
    0:49:44 And as you become more aware,
    0:49:46 you will automatically make changes is my point.
    0:49:47 Like you automatically say,
    0:49:48 “You know what?
    0:49:49 I don’t wanna be negotiating a rule with you.
    0:49:50 Here’s the thing.
    0:49:52 Here’s the reason I’m telling you to do it.
    0:49:53 Take it or leave it, man.
    0:49:55 But here’s the reason.
    0:49:58 Like let’s just make sure you understand my reasoning.
    0:50:00 And if you don’t agree, fine, do what you want.
    0:50:04 But I do find there’s certain contexts and ages
    0:50:05 that that works better at.
    0:50:08 – So the reason I want to have this conversation
    0:50:10 also is because I’ve said this before,
    0:50:13 I think it was from the documentary, “Objectified,”
    0:50:14 which is about industrial design.
    0:50:15 And it was maybe smart design.
    0:50:16 It could have been frog design,
    0:50:18 but they said the designing for the extremes
    0:50:20 informs the mean, but not vice versa, right?
    0:50:25 So I like that you, Aaron, are effectively an edge case
    0:50:28 who’s implemented this to the nth degree.
    0:50:32 And the hope of having you on the show,
    0:50:34 especially with Neval,
    0:50:36 is that people can take even one or two things.
    0:50:39 For instance, if they just take, don’t speak to your child
    0:50:40 in a way you wouldn’t speak to your spouse,
    0:50:44 like that is a valuable principle
    0:50:45 that could take a million different forms.
    0:50:49 Or if you’re solving lots of similar problems,
    0:50:52 maybe there’s a meta problem you can solve once, right?
    0:50:55 Like the germ theory of disease, for instance.
    0:50:57 I assume you’re probably in touch with other people
    0:51:01 in the, not just the critical rationalism community,
    0:51:03 but in the sovereign child
    0:51:07 and taking children seriously, communities.
    0:51:11 What are some of the common wins,
    0:51:15 meaning things that work better than folks may have expected,
    0:51:18 and then things that are particularly challenging
    0:51:19 for folks that you see,
    0:51:22 not necessarily across the board, but as a pattern.
    0:51:25 – The hardest thing is sibling conflict.
    0:51:26 I think that’s the hardest thing
    0:51:31 because I can’t let my six-year-old beat up my four-year-old.
    0:51:34 There’s a wide range of aggression
    0:51:39 between a harsh word and physically pounding someone’s face in.
    0:51:41 You can block the physical blows,
    0:51:44 but there’s still a lot of harshness going back and forth.
    0:51:45 It’s very unpleasant.
    0:51:47 It’s very disruptive to everybody else.
    0:51:48 And just kind of sit back and say,
    0:51:53 well, I don’t want to course anybody is not a good option.
    0:51:55 When I’m interacting one-on-one with my kids,
    0:51:59 I can think of solutions and creative solutions and stuff.
    0:52:02 But when my two kids are interacting with each other,
    0:52:04 neither of them have the background knowledge
    0:52:07 to be able to solve their problems often.
    0:52:11 And so it’s very hard to not insert myself into that
    0:52:13 and confuse that issue,
    0:52:17 but also prevent them from spiraling out of control.
    0:52:21 And so some things that I do to deal with that
    0:52:25 is I’ll physically block, when they’re trying to fight,
    0:52:28 I’ll just get in the way and block the blows
    0:52:30 and kind of let the yelling happen,
    0:52:33 but prevent any kind of physical injury.
    0:52:37 And another big tip is to always give a kid a place to opt out.
    0:52:40 And this kind of goes across the board.
    0:52:43 And if our kids want to get away from things,
    0:52:45 they can go to their room and close the door
    0:52:48 and not have to worry about, we’ll just be alone.
    0:52:52 And this is almost a sacred rite for adults,
    0:52:55 but kids routinely have zero privacy.
    0:52:58 And giving them the option of privacy
    0:53:01 gives them the option to opt out of almost anything
    0:53:04 and really just avoid a ton of coercion,
    0:53:08 avoid the relationship damage that comes from just being forced
    0:53:10 to be face-to-face with somebody
    0:53:12 that you are struggling with.
    0:53:14 That’ll be the biggest challenge.
    0:53:16 – You had some good points on this in your book
    0:53:20 where one was like, make sure that the kids have clear ownership
    0:53:21 and not forced to share things.
    0:53:25 Just like you don’t force adults to really share new things.
    0:53:26 You don’t force the kids either.
    0:53:28 They can trade, they can negotiate,
    0:53:29 but they have clear ownership.
    0:53:30 And I actually just used this today.
    0:53:32 Two items arrived at the house today.
    0:53:34 It was a set of UNO cards and a Pokemon box,
    0:53:37 and I gave one to each boy and I assigned ownership.
    0:53:39 And I said, you can trade and you can negotiate,
    0:53:40 but there’s clear ownership.
    0:53:43 Otherwise, if they’re sharing, it’s an infinite tug of war.
    0:53:45 And a lot of what, when kids are fighting,
    0:53:48 they’re really negotiating boundaries with each other.
    0:53:50 And you, as a parent, always show up late,
    0:53:52 and then you want to get involved
    0:53:53 in the middle of an adjudication.
    0:53:55 And a good rule of thumb is like,
    0:53:57 well, would you do that with two adults?
    0:53:59 If your brother and your sister were fighting,
    0:54:02 would you show up in the middle and start adjudicating?
    0:54:04 No, if they started hitting each other,
    0:54:06 you’d probably stop them, right?
    0:54:07 So kind of the similar rules apply.
    0:54:09 If they’re hitting each other, you get in the way
    0:54:10 and you’re like, hey, hey, hey, hey,
    0:54:11 I don’t feel good about this.
    0:54:13 But on the other hand, if they’re having an argument,
    0:54:15 you let them have the argument.
    0:54:16 If it’s really loud and disruptive,
    0:54:18 you might say, hey, I’m in the house
    0:54:20 and you two are being very disruptive.
    0:54:22 I’m going to go elsewhere, you go elsewhere.
    0:54:24 But just keep it down.
    0:54:26 Settle your dispute, but keep it down.
    0:54:28 So I think the framework of trying
    0:54:30 to treat them like adults whenever possible,
    0:54:32 and just it’s better to think of them
    0:54:35 as adults who don’t have the full range of knowledge.
    0:54:38 Maybe they’re still developing their powers of reasoning
    0:54:40 because they don’t have the full infrastructure
    0:54:41 of logic built up.
    0:54:42 Neval, let me ask you this.
    0:54:44 I think a decent amount.
    0:54:45 And you know, I’ve spoken to friends of mine
    0:54:47 with kids who are now,
    0:54:49 I’ve seen them go through high school, college, et cetera.
    0:54:52 And in some of these families,
    0:54:53 and even the kids themselves dislike
    0:54:55 consolation prizes, right?
    0:54:57 Like everyone competes, everyone wins.
    0:54:59 It’s not a reflection of real life
    0:55:02 when ultimately people get out into the wild.
    0:55:05 So learning to compete and all of the friction
    0:55:08 and maybe disappointment that entails is important.
    0:55:11 And I suppose I’m wondering
    0:55:14 if you’re training your kids to question everything
    0:55:16 and come to their own conclusions, perhaps.
    0:55:19 And maybe, and sure, understand the root
    0:55:21 kind of reasoning around things.
    0:55:24 But do you expect your kids to be fully entrepreneurs?
    0:55:25 And that’s that.
    0:55:27 Like they kind of create their own utopia
    0:55:28 as the founder of a company.
    0:55:30 Because otherwise, like Aaron, I would imagine,
    0:55:32 at a hospital, there are plenty of rules, right?
    0:55:37 And so how do you teach someone to live in a world
    0:55:39 without rules in the household?
    0:55:40 Maybe I’m mischaracterizing that.
    0:55:41 You could tell me.
    0:55:45 And then enter a world where there are lots of rules.
    0:55:47 – You know how much of a rule breaker I am
    0:55:48 and how anti-social I am.
    0:55:51 So I’m fully fine with my kids not having friends,
    0:55:54 not getting along, not being liked, not fitting in.
    0:55:56 I think that’s a superpower.
    0:55:56 It’s a bonus.
    0:55:57 – Aaron will come to you.
    0:55:58 – So perfect.
    0:56:00 I think rules of courtesy are a great example.
    0:56:02 Being able to interact with people
    0:56:05 courteously, conscientiously, being polite.
    0:56:07 And there’s kind of two approaches to that.
    0:56:10 You can force your kids to be polite all the time,
    0:56:13 in which case they never really understand why, right?
    0:56:16 They don’t understand graciousness and gratitude.
    0:56:18 They don’t understand the subtleties of those things.
    0:56:20 And so they’re kind of ham-fisted
    0:56:22 when they’re out in the world.
    0:56:25 Whereas if the focus is on the reasons for being polite,
    0:56:27 if you never force them to be polite
    0:56:30 and instead introduce them to the concepts,
    0:56:33 we use please and thank you all the time with our kids.
    0:56:34 We ask them to do things.
    0:56:35 We never force them.
    0:56:37 We ever command them to do things.
    0:56:39 And so conscientiousness, you know,
    0:56:40 my wife and I talk with each other
    0:56:41 in the same way that we talk with our kids
    0:56:44 in terms of conscientiousness.
    0:56:47 And they understand, again, not on an explicit level,
    0:56:50 but in an intuitive way, what these words are for
    0:56:51 and how they work,
    0:56:53 just like they learn all the other words in the language.
    0:56:56 And so when they go into the world,
    0:56:57 everybody thinks their kids are great,
    0:56:59 but my kids are, I think they’re quite conscientious.
    0:57:00 They say please and thank you.
    0:57:02 They’ll say things to their grandparents,
    0:57:05 their extended family, the neighborhood friends.
    0:57:07 They actually interact with them.
    0:57:10 I would say more adult or more mature
    0:57:11 than you would expect.
    0:57:13 They’re the opposite of feral.
    0:57:15 They’re never trying to manipulate people.
    0:57:17 They’re never playing mind games.
    0:57:19 They’re never defensive.
    0:57:22 They’re instead just much more authentic.
    0:57:24 And I think that’s the thing is that
    0:57:27 it’s always the reasons that matter the most.
    0:57:30 And when you’re forcing your kids to do certain things,
    0:57:33 you’re saying essentially that the reason doesn’t matter.
    0:57:35 This is so important that I don’t care
    0:57:37 what you think about it, you’re doing it.
    0:57:39 You are depriving them of the opportunity
    0:57:41 to learn the reason.
    0:57:44 And in place of that opportunity to learn the reason,
    0:57:49 you are inserting your own authority as the reason.
    0:57:52 But when they go out into the world, you’re not there.
    0:57:55 So now it’s the reason for being conscientious and polite.
    0:57:57 So all the other rules about the world,
    0:58:00 and this gets to your point about constraints.
    0:58:02 This is really a deep and I think fascinating idea
    0:58:05 is that knowledge is actually a constraint.
    0:58:09 The discovery of DNA constrained the ideas
    0:58:12 around how biological organisms reproduce.
    0:58:14 It’s not about the humors.
    0:58:16 It’s not about the vital force.
    0:58:18 It’s this one molecule.
    0:58:20 And so that is an enormous step forward
    0:58:23 and scientists stopped looking for other things
    0:58:25 because they had the knowledge of DNA.
    0:58:26 And then once you learn DNA,
    0:58:29 and you learn cellular structures and cellular organelles,
    0:58:33 all of these things further constrain how life works.
    0:58:36 It works by cells and it’s these little structures
    0:58:39 within cells or physics, for example, right?
    0:58:41 Newton discovers the laws of motion, right?
    0:58:44 Those are constraints on how the world works.
    0:58:46 And then Einstein fine tunes them.
    0:58:48 And so as knowledge progresses,
    0:58:51 the constraints get tighter and tighter and tighter.
    0:58:55 And knowledge really rules out a lot of things.
    0:58:58 – The human mind does not just take explanations.
    0:59:00 If that were the case, then I could just sit
    0:59:01 on the other end of chat GPT
    0:59:03 and get everything I needed and I’d be brilliant.
    0:59:06 No, we have to recreate in our minds.
    0:59:09 We have to fit it into our existing network of theories.
    0:59:10 We have to falsify it for ourselves.
    0:59:12 We have to test it.
    0:59:14 We have to see how it fits into our other theories
    0:59:17 and explanations and carry it with some degree of certainty
    0:59:20 or some tentative pseudo probability
    0:59:21 of whether it’s true or not.
    0:59:25 And so it’s this discovery scientific process all the time.
    0:59:28 So when my kids are unhappy, for example,
    0:59:30 I try to like help them out.
    0:59:32 I’m like, hey, why are you making yourself unhappy?
    0:59:33 It’s like a hint.
    0:59:34 Like maybe anything in the environment
    0:59:35 is making you unhappy.
    0:59:36 Maybe that’s your reaction.
    0:59:39 Or if they ask me something, I’ll be like, well, let’s guess.
    0:59:40 Why do we think that might be the case?
    0:59:41 What’s a guess?
    0:59:43 Oh, okay, well, why might that not be true?
    0:59:44 And a lot of times they deflect me
    0:59:47 ’cause there’s dad playing condescending scientists,
    0:59:49 which I know it shouldn’t be, right?
    0:59:51 Like it’s patronizing.
    0:59:52 I wouldn’t talk to my spouse that way.
    0:59:54 So I’m already violating TCS.
    0:59:57 But I’m trying to do this knowledge creation thing.
    0:59:59 And it’s actually really fun.
    1:00:03 So for a parent, one of the most gratifying things
    1:00:05 is when you get to connect with your child
    1:00:07 and discover something together.
    1:00:10 And my kids are already contradicting me.
    1:00:12 They’ll say, well, you promised to do that yesterday
    1:00:13 and you didn’t do it today.
    1:00:15 So you broke your promise dad, right?
    1:00:17 Or they’ll say, hey, you said this,
    1:00:18 but I think that’s wrong.
    1:00:20 It’s actually this.
    1:00:22 And that is very gratifying to a parent.
    1:00:25 From anybody else, your ego would actually get hurt
    1:00:27 if they said you’re wrong.
    1:00:29 When your child says you’re wrong and they’re correct,
    1:00:31 your ego actually gets a boost.
    1:00:32 You feel better.
    1:00:33 That’s the weird thing about having children.
    1:00:36 That’s the genes in charge rather than the body.
    1:00:36 Feels great.
    1:00:41 So when this approach works, it is incredibly gratifying.
    1:00:44 – I guess what I’m struggling with is
    1:00:46 that maximizing freedom is necessary
    1:00:50 to teach your children from first principles.
    1:00:53 It strikes me as absolutist in a way, I guess.
    1:00:56 I mean, because I know scientists and writers
    1:00:59 who will do what you’re describing, Naval,
    1:01:03 but they’re not gonna have a Willy Wonka,
    1:01:04 Sweets Delight, Smorgasburg,
    1:01:07 at children grasping level in the house.
    1:01:09 – But they’ll each have different sets of rules
    1:01:10 for themselves.
    1:01:13 You do this, you interview all these over performers,
    1:01:16 tools of Titans, you compile all their habits.
    1:01:18 Have you found any commonalities?
    1:01:19 Is there a single morning routine
    1:01:20 you would get of everybody?
    1:01:21 – No, no, no.
    1:01:22 – Exactly.
    1:01:24 Is there even a single creativity routine
    1:01:25 you would give everybody?
    1:01:28 Would you say, okay, you journal for an hour,
    1:01:30 you meditate for half an hour, you do your cold plunge,
    1:01:32 you block off a four-hour block at a time,
    1:01:33 that’s how you get things done?
    1:01:34 No.
    1:01:35 – I wouldn’t, however, for people who have not
    1:01:37 reached escape velocity,
    1:01:40 I would say there are some very common
    1:01:43 effective starting points, right?
    1:01:46 If you’re cultivating the Petrie dish from stage zero,
    1:01:48 then I would say, yeah, there are some conditions
    1:01:50 that tend to produce better outcomes.
    1:01:53 Right, so why not approach it with your kids
    1:01:55 the same way you approach it with your audience?
    1:01:56 Why not say, here’s a set of techniques
    1:01:58 that seem to work, here’s what works for me,
    1:02:00 I’m trying this, which one do you wanna try?
    1:02:02 Right, but the reality is that kids
    1:02:03 also have very different motivations.
    1:02:05 They’re in discovery mode, they’re in play mode,
    1:02:07 they’re not in productivity mode.
    1:02:09 A lot of our routines that work well for us
    1:02:12 that we have built for ourselves,
    1:02:13 they’re not appropriate for the child,
    1:02:15 ’cause the child just wants completely different things.
    1:02:16 Most of the time, the child just wants to play
    1:02:18 and discover and live in the moment.
    1:02:20 And in that sense, they’re here to teach us
    1:02:22 as much or more than we are to teach them, right?
    1:02:25 If you spend your whole parenting time
    1:02:27 teaching your child, you missed it.
    1:02:29 Maybe it was the other way around.
    1:02:31 It’s a really hard problem, it’s unfalsifiable too,
    1:02:34 but I would say that the beauty of this approach
    1:02:38 is that our current model puts a lot of pressure
    1:02:39 on the parents to control the kids,
    1:02:42 and the kids end up with very controlled lives.
    1:02:44 And I actually had my eight-year-old
    1:02:46 come to me the other day and he said,
    1:02:48 hey dad, I’m over-scheduled, I’m really scheduled.
    1:02:51 (both laughing)
    1:02:52 He did it to me twice.
    1:02:53 – Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.
    1:02:56 – Right, right, and I sympathize with that
    1:02:57 ’cause I’m famously unscheduled.
    1:03:00 So first he comes up to me, says I’m really over-scheduled,
    1:03:04 and my initial solution, this was a few months back,
    1:03:06 was I went to my wife and I said, he’s over-scheduled,
    1:03:08 let’s just cut all these classes and all this stuff.
    1:03:11 Just let him be free, he’s almost hit puberty.
    1:03:13 By the time he’s puberty, I don’t want him to resent us.
    1:03:15 I want him to have some agency and he can figure it out,
    1:03:16 so cut the schedule.
    1:03:19 So now he came to me again a few days ago
    1:03:22 and he said, I’m over-scheduled.
    1:03:25 So now channeling my inner Aaron, I just said,
    1:03:28 figure it out, you solve it, right.
    1:03:30 – And what happened?
    1:03:34 – I don’t know, next level agency.
    1:03:35 Maybe they’ll come to me now and he’ll say,
    1:03:37 okay, I tried to solve it and this didn’t,
    1:03:38 do you have any ideas?
    1:03:41 – Dad, I rescheduled all my commitments in your calendar.
    1:03:42 – Yeah, exactly.
    1:03:44 – All right, so Aaron, I appreciate you putting up
    1:03:46 with all the cross-examining.
    1:03:48 It’s because I’m interested, it’s because I’m interested.
    1:03:51 And I appreciate that you are experimenting
    1:03:52 with all this stuff.
    1:03:54 So I want to do a thought experiment,
    1:03:58 which is let’s flash forward 10 or 15 years.
    1:04:02 Your kids are much older and you look back and you say,
    1:04:04 if I were to do it again,
    1:04:06 maybe I would do A, B or C differently.
    1:04:10 Like if you had to pick some subset of what you’re doing
    1:04:12 as part of this parenting approach,
    1:04:15 if something were to not turn out as well
    1:04:17 as perhaps the conventional, let’s just call it approach,
    1:04:19 what might those things be?
    1:04:24 – Oh gosh, my kids spend an enormous amount of time
    1:04:25 on YouTube.
    1:04:26 I guess I would look at the things
    1:04:30 that are the biggest outliers compared to typical kids.
    1:04:33 And the biggest outliers are YouTube.
    1:04:34 Sleep isn’t even an outlier.
    1:04:36 I think they sleep probably the same as other kids.
    1:04:41 The other big outlier is how much sugary junk food,
    1:04:43 snacks they eat.
    1:04:47 And the last one is some of their social dynamic
    1:04:48 is very different.
    1:04:49 Those would be the things I would guess
    1:04:52 would be the things that didn’t turn out well.
    1:04:54 I want to honor the sense of your question
    1:04:56 and really explore this a bit.
    1:04:58 What would I want to have done differently?
    1:05:01 I guess I would want to have been more conventional,
    1:05:03 but it wouldn’t even be setting the limits
    1:05:04 because I really, really am happy
    1:05:08 with the trusting open relationship I have with my kids.
    1:05:12 And so I don’t think that’s worth the price.
    1:05:16 I wouldn’t burn the capital of the trust I have
    1:05:20 with my kids for almost any outcome.
    1:05:22 It would have to be pretty dire for me to say
    1:05:25 it’d be worth sacrificing some amount of trust
    1:05:26 with my kids.
    1:05:29 A quick example is sunscreen.
    1:05:30 When my daughter was three,
    1:05:32 she didn’t want to put the sunscreen on
    1:05:33 and it’s like a really sunny day
    1:05:36 and we were gonna be outside in the sun all day.
    1:05:37 And the thought crossed my mind
    1:05:39 that I just have to force this issue
    1:05:41 because I can’t allow her to damage her skin
    1:05:44 or develop a skin condition later on.
    1:05:47 But I took a pause and figured out a way
    1:05:49 for her to wear the sunscreen non-coercively.
    1:05:52 Actually, she was putting bug spray on at the time.
    1:05:54 And I asked her why she was applying the bug spray
    1:05:56 and she said, “Well, I don’t want to get bug bites.”
    1:05:57 And I said, “Oh, well,”
    1:05:59 I said, “Do you know what the sunscreen is for?”
    1:06:02 I said, “It’s to avoid getting burns.”
    1:06:04 And she took the sunscreen out of my hand
    1:06:06 and applied it herself.
    1:06:09 But the thought was that even if she didn’t do that,
    1:06:12 I would rather her get a sunburn that day
    1:06:15 and preserve this trusting relationship
    1:06:17 that gives me an opportunity tomorrow
    1:06:20 to explain to her or connect with her
    1:06:22 in a way of why the sunscreen is worth it.
    1:06:25 In other words, I think there’s an amount of capital
    1:06:30 that you want to treasure and preserve as much as possible.
    1:06:32 That’s one way of looking at it.
    1:06:34 The other thing of looking back and having regrets
    1:06:37 is that there are different ways to solve it.
    1:06:40 I would say, let’s say the eating thing, right?
    1:06:41 There’s different ways.
    1:06:42 I could spend more time.
    1:06:44 I guess one thing I wish I would do now,
    1:06:47 I hate cooking, I cannot stand it.
    1:06:49 But I wish I spent more time learning how to cook
    1:06:52 and learning how to prepare foods that are not junk foods
    1:06:56 and exploring with my kids more of the range
    1:06:58 of available foods out there
    1:07:01 and finding something that fits more
    1:07:02 to the norms of healthy food,
    1:07:05 although I have my criticisms of what that means.
    1:07:08 But there are other things and some of my kids
    1:07:11 have a very narrow range of what they eat.
    1:07:13 So that’s how I’d approach these regrets
    1:07:16 is that I wish I spent some more time
    1:07:20 exploring the space of potential solutions.
    1:07:20 Not saying, boy,
    1:07:22 I should have just laid down the law in that area.
    1:07:24 I really do reject that
    1:07:27 because I just do not want to insert myself as an adversary.
    1:07:29 It’s not just my relationship,
    1:07:31 but it’s the confusion that it causes
    1:07:32 about the issue.
    1:07:33 If eating is important,
    1:07:35 then I don’t want to confuse them about food.
    1:07:37 If socialization is important,
    1:07:38 then I don’t want to confuse them
    1:07:40 about how to deal with others.
    1:07:43 If what you pay attention to is important
    1:07:44 in terms of screens and whatnot,
    1:07:47 I don’t want to make a kid’s attention
    1:07:50 about my expectations or something else.
    1:07:52 – Another way to think about it is
    1:07:54 for most people who are listening to this,
    1:07:56 their kids are going to school.
    1:08:00 In school, they’re in a rule bound authoritarian environment.
    1:08:02 So are none of your kids going to school?
    1:08:04 – Yeah. – Correct.
    1:08:05 – But I wouldn’t say our kids are homeschooled.
    1:08:07 They’re closer to unschooled.
    1:08:09 – Oh, you define what that means for folks?
    1:08:11 – So homeschooled is when you’re actively
    1:08:12 working them through a curriculum
    1:08:14 and you’re making them sit through classes at home
    1:08:16 and maybe you have a little pod or a group.
    1:08:18 And we’ve tried variations of that.
    1:08:20 And we have some tutoring, some drop-in classes,
    1:08:22 and I do a lot of math teaching,
    1:08:25 but by a lot, I mean like 15 minutes, three times a week.
    1:08:26 (laughing)
    1:08:28 – Wow, I’m trusting them all.
    1:08:30 – Bucking up your schedule.
    1:08:33 – Yeah, but it’s not a schedule, it’s just arbitrary.
    1:08:36 But I would say that they’re actually doing pretty well
    1:08:37 on the things that I care about,
    1:08:40 which is basic literacy, basic numeracy.
    1:08:42 Not perfect, I wish they were better,
    1:08:43 but there’s a lot of screen time involved,
    1:08:44 a lot of YouTube involved.
    1:08:45 But yeah, they don’t go to school.
    1:08:47 But I was gonna say that,
    1:08:49 and by the stats on homeschool are amazing.
    1:08:52 Like people who actively actually homeschool,
    1:08:55 their kids are one to two years ahead of even private school.
    1:08:57 You know, private school kids are ahead of public school.
    1:08:59 But the wild stats are unschooled.
    1:09:01 They’re kids who literally never go to school
    1:09:03 or never educated at home.
    1:09:06 And there are cases of when these kids kind of show up,
    1:09:09 and they’re usually only one year behind public schooling.
    1:09:11 I think that’s an indictment of public schooling.
    1:09:13 – Now is that an indictment of public schooling
    1:09:15 or is that an endorsement of really, really, really
    1:09:17 overachieving parents who happen to be
    1:09:19 able to choose on schooling?
    1:09:20 – So there’s always confounding factors.
    1:09:23 But the interesting thing is these kids who are unschooled
    1:09:25 when they decide they wanna go to college
    1:09:28 for whatever reason, it takes them one year to catch up.
    1:09:31 So instead of the whole K through 12,
    1:09:33 it takes them one year to catch up.
    1:09:34 That’s insane, right?
    1:09:38 You can skip all of K12 and catch up in one year.
    1:09:41 And if you go back to how much you remember from K12,
    1:09:43 what was important, it can be compressed down a lot.
    1:09:45 There’s a lot of wasted time.
    1:09:48 Anyway, my original point was that your kids are already
    1:09:50 being subject to an authoritarian environment
    1:09:52 most of the time, most of the day.
    1:09:54 Most of the day is the week, most of the time.
    1:09:55 So if you loosen up a little bit at home,
    1:09:58 you can practice and take a little bit of pressure off.
    1:10:00 And you shouldn’t have to worry that your kids
    1:10:02 are, they’re running around too rule free.
    1:10:04 And I’m not blaming the school system
    1:10:06 because it’s the nature of crowd control.
    1:10:08 And you used to be a public school teacher, Aaron.
    1:10:11 You got a crowd control 15, 30 unruly kids
    1:10:12 and they’re just running around.
    1:10:14 You have to go lowest common denominator.
    1:10:15 You have to issue rules.
    1:10:18 It’s like a stewardess trying to control a plane flight.
    1:10:19 You know, that’s been going on too long
    1:10:21 or a plane that’s been stuck in the runway.
    1:10:22 They tell you to put on your seatbelt
    1:10:23 not ’cause you’re in danger.
    1:10:24 It’s ’cause they’re doing crowd control.
    1:10:27 So a lot of school is just crowd control.
    1:10:29 – All right, so questions for you, Aaron.
    1:10:33 I’m gonna come back to the junk food.
    1:10:35 But since we’re talking about school
    1:10:37 and the lack of school, let’s just say,
    1:10:39 structured external school.
    1:10:43 Look, I talked to sort of overachievers for a living.
    1:10:46 A lot of them do homeschooling or unschooling,
    1:10:47 not seeing your kids,
    1:10:51 but some of their kids are arrogant precocious assholes
    1:10:54 and very unsocialized.
    1:10:56 How do you spot check that your kids
    1:10:58 are gonna be able to function in society?
    1:11:00 And just to preemptively catch this,
    1:11:04 Neval, that does not mean rule following sheep
    1:11:05 who just obey–
    1:11:07 – I hear arrogant precocious asshole
    1:11:08 and I view that as a compliment.
    1:11:11 (all laughing)
    1:11:13 – Yeah, but Neval, also you’ve built companies.
    1:11:14 You need to interact with folks.
    1:11:15 You need to hire folks.
    1:11:18 You need to blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, right?
    1:11:19 So I’m just wondering, Aaron,
    1:11:21 like how you are thinking about
    1:11:23 or even within this community
    1:11:26 of people who are taking children seriously
    1:11:28 and trying to put the principles
    1:11:30 of the sovereign child into practice,
    1:11:32 how do you suggest people think about this?
    1:11:34 How do you think about it?
    1:11:36 – The quickest answer is I had five kids.
    1:11:39 So I have a built-in socialization schema.
    1:11:40 – Yeah, right, right, right.
    1:11:43 You have a soccer team, close to it, yeah.
    1:11:44 – I was a little skeptical about this,
    1:11:47 but as my older kids, my older kids get older,
    1:11:51 they have very astute, very subtle understanding of,
    1:11:54 the other day, they came across a box
    1:11:56 that was from my wife, from her childhood,
    1:11:58 and they opened it up and they were playing around
    1:12:00 and they realized, the five-year-old realized,
    1:12:02 and they brought it into us.
    1:12:03 And the five-year-old was saying,
    1:12:06 like, well, we found this box from the olden days
    1:12:09 and we realized maybe we shouldn’t be in this
    1:12:12 and maybe we shouldn’t be playing with this stuff.
    1:12:13 That was incredible.
    1:12:15 And things like that happen all the time.
    1:12:19 It’s like, he understood completely on his own
    1:12:22 without us ever lecturing them about this kind of thing.
    1:12:23 He just kind of understood that, oh, wow,
    1:12:25 this might actually not be appropriate
    1:12:27 and this is somebody else’s stuff
    1:12:29 and we’re kind of just rummaging through playing,
    1:12:32 but this might be like their private possession.
    1:12:35 So I think a lot of the subtleties
    1:12:38 of conscientious interactions can come from siblings
    1:12:40 and parents and extended family.
    1:12:42 And we live in a neighborhood,
    1:12:44 we’ve got a bunch of age-matched kids
    1:12:47 immediately next door and surrounding properties.
    1:12:50 So they interact with other kids quite frequently.
    1:12:52 – Was where you landed by design
    1:12:54 being around those types of families
    1:12:56 or was that just coincidental?
    1:12:59 – We were very intentional about where we moved
    1:13:01 and we were initially going to live more rurally
    1:13:02 because that’s our, you know,
    1:13:06 my wife and I, our sensibility is a bit more pastoral,
    1:13:09 but my wife realized that it’s gonna be a little lonely
    1:13:10 not having neighbors.
    1:13:12 And I was like, oh my God, you know,
    1:13:14 I stick toward Naval, I don’t, I really prefer,
    1:13:15 I enjoy being alone.
    1:13:16 But for our kids’ sake,
    1:13:18 we chose a much more residential area
    1:13:21 and it couldn’t be happier with that.
    1:13:23 – Yeah, to be fair, I like being alone in cities.
    1:13:25 I actually live in cities.
    1:13:26 (laughing)
    1:13:27 I like being around lots of people,
    1:13:30 just not having to socialize.
    1:13:31 I would say for our kids’ socialization,
    1:13:34 you know, I think kids are over-socialized these days.
    1:13:36 Our kids also socialize in video games.
    1:13:37 The best kinds of socialization
    1:13:40 are more natural forms of socialization
    1:13:42 when they’re socializing across ages.
    1:13:44 You know, there isn’t this artificial segregation
    1:13:45 if third grade doesn’t mingle with fourth grade,
    1:13:47 doesn’t mingle with fifth grade.
    1:13:49 Our kids socialize adults a lot,
    1:13:50 but I do think, for example,
    1:13:52 when they wanna start dating, it’s gonna be a real issue.
    1:13:55 They’re gonna want access to the opposite sex.
    1:13:57 And for that, we’re gonna have drop-in classes
    1:14:00 and things of that nature and maybe like little,
    1:14:02 they’ll join like neighborhood activity groups
    1:14:05 that are playing ball or playing games
    1:14:08 or, you know, playing tennis or swimming or whatever.
    1:14:09 – I think about school.
    1:14:11 Can you imagine as an adult being forced
    1:14:14 in the workplace, let’s say, to be confined
    1:14:17 with another person who is overtly hostile?
    1:14:18 I know school is different than when I was a kid,
    1:14:21 but it’s still considered fine to be on a school bus
    1:14:25 with people who wanna beat you up and try to beat you up.
    1:14:26 And that’s, you know, you’re supposed to just
    1:14:27 kind of deal with that.
    1:14:30 Where as an adult with 40 years of experience
    1:14:34 with other people, that is unacceptable.
    1:14:36 But a kid who doesn’t even know how to deal
    1:14:39 with other people to treat that
    1:14:42 as like some sort of learning ground is crazy
    1:14:44 because they don’t have the background.
    1:14:46 – Yeah, and by the way, I’m not saying that’s the…
    1:14:47 – I’m not saying you are, right?
    1:14:48 – Sure. – Yeah, yeah.
    1:14:50 – Actually, to put a point on that, you remember Lulee,
    1:14:52 she’s a friend of David Deutch, she interviewed him
    1:14:54 and she was raised homeschool,
    1:14:57 a very smart, precocious young lady.
    1:14:58 I don’t know how old she is,
    1:14:59 but she’s definitely younger than me,
    1:15:01 but she’s very smart.
    1:15:02 And she was interviewing David
    1:15:06 and she brought up the story of her homeschooling experience.
    1:15:07 And exactly at this point,
    1:15:10 she mentioned how she would go out with other girls
    1:15:12 and hang out with some neighborhood boys.
    1:15:15 And she would watch how they would all bully each other,
    1:15:18 but they would never bully her and her,
    1:15:20 I think her sister or other homeschool kid
    1:15:22 because they knew that the homeschool kids
    1:15:26 are there optionally, they can leave any time.
    1:15:27 Whereas the other kids they’re bullying,
    1:15:28 they’re going to have no choice
    1:15:29 but to go to school tomorrow and all be together.
    1:15:30 – Cell block D.
    1:15:32 – Exactly, exactly.
    1:15:32 Where else do you do it?
    1:15:34 It’s in prison, right?
    1:15:36 So you get bullying in prison and in schools.
    1:15:38 Do you think of it with a cyberbullying also?
    1:15:39 – Yeah.
    1:15:42 – All the concern about the kids being on the tablet so much
    1:15:44 and social media and they’re exposed to cyberbullying.
    1:15:48 How much cyberbullying is derived from being in school?
    1:15:50 If you take the school element out of it,
    1:15:53 how could you cyberbully somebody on Facebook, right?
    1:15:56 It’s just like, I’m not dealing with you anymore.
    1:15:59 – Aaron, how do you think about recognizing
    1:16:02 that the school bus getting your head smashed into the seat
    1:16:06 is different from most of hopefully adult life.
    1:16:10 How do you think about building resilience in your kids?
    1:16:11 They can deal with hostiles.
    1:16:13 They can deal with mob mentality.
    1:16:17 They can deal because they will have to presumably,
    1:16:19 unless they’re in some tower with their private tutors
    1:16:22 as like the heir apparent to the throne or something.
    1:16:25 So how do you think about building resilience?
    1:16:27 – This is one of the main critiques.
    1:16:30 – And specifically, I mean like social human resilience,
    1:16:31 interpersonal resilience.
    1:16:32 So this is one of the main critiques
    1:16:35 and I think this is one of perhaps the main benefit
    1:16:40 of this approach is that resilience comes from passion.
    1:16:42 It comes from an interest, right?
    1:16:46 When someone is just absolutely obsessed with some problem,
    1:16:48 they have the fortitude, right?
    1:16:49 The stick-to-itiveness.
    1:16:53 Nothing approaches the stick-to-itiveness
    1:16:57 of somebody who is just hell-bent on achieving something,
    1:16:59 building something, creating something.
    1:17:04 And without that understanding and interest and passion,
    1:17:08 then resilience is just about appeasing others, right?
    1:17:09 It’s about checking boxes.
    1:17:11 So if you’re in school
    1:17:13 and you’re trying to do well on science,
    1:17:15 you’re trying to do well on science to get a grade,
    1:17:19 it’s completely different from trying to understand science
    1:17:21 so that you can make your robot work
    1:17:23 or you can make your Starlink satellites fly.
    1:17:25 – Sure, agreed.
    1:17:26 – And so if you’re talking about resilience
    1:17:27 with other people,
    1:17:31 I think probably the most important thing is self-assuredness.
    1:17:34 And nothing damages, I would guess,
    1:17:37 nothing damages self-confidence and self-assurance
    1:17:41 than giving kids a reason to doubt themselves.
    1:17:46 And that is one of the four pernicious harms of rules,
    1:17:48 is that a kid learns, you know, I’m tempted by lollipops.
    1:17:50 My inner nature wants lollipops.
    1:17:52 Something about me is bad
    1:17:54 because I want this forbidden thing.
    1:17:56 I wanna use YouTube and that’s bad.
    1:17:58 It’s eight hours, it’s too much.
    1:17:59 You know, kids that wanna use YouTube
    1:18:02 for more than an hour are bad, they’re addicted.
    1:18:04 They’re these vulnerable, fragile people
    1:18:08 that can’t be trusted around iPads and video games
    1:18:10 and they can’t be trusted around chocolate bars
    1:18:12 and they can’t be trusted around
    1:18:13 all of these things that they just want
    1:18:15 more and more and more and more of.
    1:18:18 And so it tells a kid that they are,
    1:18:22 their inner nature, their wants and desires are dangerous
    1:18:25 and that they need someone policing that.
    1:18:27 And when you’re a kid, you need your parent to police it,
    1:18:28 right?
    1:18:29 You need your parent to take the ice cream away,
    1:18:31 otherwise you’re just gonna eat ice cream all day long.
    1:18:33 You need your parent to take your tablet away
    1:18:36 and ultimately the conventional view is that
    1:18:39 the policing from the parent shifts over
    1:18:41 to being policing of yourself.
    1:18:43 You’re self-conscious, you’re self-aware,
    1:18:45 you’re doubting yourself all the time
    1:18:48 and now you are, I think, fragile
    1:18:50 when you step out into the wider world
    1:18:52 because you are worried about your appearance,
    1:18:55 you’re worried about what other people are thinking about you,
    1:18:59 whereas if you instead are confident in yourself,
    1:19:00 you’re not afraid of your inner nature,
    1:19:03 you’re not afraid that you’re gonna get yourself in trouble,
    1:19:05 you don’t think that your own interests
    1:19:06 are frivolous and disposable,
    1:19:08 you don’t think that you’re distracted.
    1:19:10 Like, oh my gosh, I’m gonna spend all day on Twitter,
    1:19:13 I’m prone to being addicted to X.
    1:19:15 If you don’t see yourself as that,
    1:19:17 then you have a much more authentic engagement with things
    1:19:19 and you’re not worried about what other people think
    1:19:22 and you’re not trying to present
    1:19:24 some alternate persona to other people.
    1:19:27 I think that’s how so many of us get into trouble
    1:19:31 is that we live our lives via a persona with others
    1:19:33 and I think rules give kids a reason
    1:19:36 to present a false persona to their parents, right?
    1:19:39 Like, every kid movie, every great kid movie
    1:19:41 is like, the kids are, you know, doing their thing
    1:19:43 and the parents are saying, ah,
    1:19:44 and the kids are kind of appeasing the parents like,
    1:19:46 oh no, no, we’re doing our homework, we’re doing this
    1:19:48 and then really like, as soon as they turn their back,
    1:19:50 we’re gonna go and off and do the fun thing, right?
    1:19:53 And it’s a given that kids lead these dual lives
    1:19:55 and they present a false persona to their parents.
    1:19:57 That’s like an accepted thing.
    1:20:00 But I think it’s a disaster for their own self-confidence.
    1:20:01 I think it’s a disaster for the parents
    1:20:04 because kids are entering into this kind of dark,
    1:20:06 contraband world where they’re keeping their parents
    1:20:08 in the dark and that’s when they’re interested in sex
    1:20:11 and drugs and all this dangerous stuff
    1:20:14 and that in fact, rules drive kids
    1:20:16 to hide things from their parents,
    1:20:20 hide things from themselves and make them,
    1:20:23 again, I would say vulnerable and self-conscious.
    1:20:25 – I agree with that last statement.
    1:20:27 I want to come back to the junk food as promised
    1:20:29 just because I’m imagining this,
    1:20:32 like I’m putting myself in my like five-year-old shoes
    1:20:35 and I’m just like, man, I used to go to the penny candy store
    1:20:38 and walk in and it was just this cornucopia of delights.
    1:20:40 But if Naval’s description is accurate,
    1:20:42 that there’s plenty of junk food
    1:20:44 and it’s deliberately engineered
    1:20:46 to be easy access for the kids,
    1:20:47 I want to understand the reasoning behind this.
    1:20:51 Is this because the underlying belief
    1:20:54 is that if you do the opposite,
    1:20:57 you are training kids to have an unhealthy relationship
    1:20:58 with food?
    1:21:00 I guess what is the rationale behind it?
    1:21:03 And what is the evidence for that rationale?
    1:21:05 – Yeah, the rationale is number one, I’m a gatekeeper.
    1:21:07 I don’t want to be a gatekeeper.
    1:21:09 There’s harms of being a gatekeeper
    1:21:11 and all the false person and all that kind of stuff.
    1:21:13 I don’t want my kids trying to get around me,
    1:21:16 sneak food, I don’t want to be the obstacle.
    1:21:17 That’d be just number one.
    1:21:20 Number two, I mean, I don’t eat lollipops.
    1:21:24 I have like a lollipop occasionally and I’ll have one.
    1:21:26 And the reason why is because your tongue gets raw,
    1:21:28 it starts to taste gross after a while
    1:21:31 and I don’t eat a whole bag of lollipops
    1:21:35 because a whole bag of lollipops is not a pleasant experience.
    1:21:38 And so I want my kids to learn that same exact thing.
    1:21:40 So I had lollipops, this was a couple of years ago,
    1:21:41 but it was really funny.
    1:21:43 I had a bag of lollipops for whatever reason
    1:21:45 and I was handing them out one at a time
    1:21:47 and the kids, it’s dumb that they have to ask me
    1:21:49 for a lollipop so I just dumped them all on the floor.
    1:21:52 There’s a pile of lollipops and the three-year-old
    1:21:55 was pulling off the wrapper and licking them
    1:21:56 and putting, I got a bowl for her
    1:21:58 ’cause I don’t want sticky lollipop all over the floor.
    1:22:01 So I got her a bowl and she would lick the lollipop
    1:22:03 and then she was just trying each flavor
    1:22:07 and she had like 20 licked lollipops in a bowl
    1:22:08 and then she got bored of it.
    1:22:10 And then she went off and I kept the bowl.
    1:22:12 I just left it there and it was there for days
    1:22:15 and what she had done was discover
    1:22:18 what I already know when I discovered
    1:22:20 is that lollipops are gross after a while.
    1:22:22 (laughing)
    1:22:24 One thing we do for fun is we go to the gas station
    1:22:26 and they pick out candy
    1:22:27 because like let’s go get a treat at the gas station
    1:22:29 and it’s a fun trip and out we go
    1:22:30 and it gets us out in the world
    1:22:32 and there’s fun things that start interesting things
    1:22:34 that happen like paying and here’s my credit card
    1:22:36 and how do you swipe the credit card
    1:22:37 and how much does this cost
    1:22:39 and like real knowledge starts to happen.
    1:22:43 But they’ll buy like a bag of Swedish fish
    1:22:44 and like great, you know,
    1:22:46 we could be spending money on a museum or something.
    1:22:49 We’re gonna spend money on Swedish fish today, right?
    1:22:51 And the scream of things, it’s not all that expensive
    1:22:53 and they’ll have a whole bag
    1:22:54 and they’ll start eating them right in the car
    1:22:57 and by the time they get home, every single time,
    1:22:59 they’ve eaten like five Swedish fish
    1:23:00 and then the bag just sits there
    1:23:01 and I leave the bag there.
    1:23:03 It’s not like I hide it now.
    1:23:04 I’ll just leave it out in the open
    1:23:07 and it’ll just get neglected for days
    1:23:08 and eventually I throw it out
    1:23:11 because it just gets stale and gross.
    1:23:12 – Let’s say at the gas station,
    1:23:14 your kid is like, I want a five hour energy.
    1:23:16 And then the other one’s like, I want a Corona.
    1:23:18 Like, what do you do?
    1:23:19 – So great.
    1:23:20 Well, the Corona is easy ’cause it tastes gross.
    1:23:23 So I’d let them try the Corona totally.
    1:23:24 – Okay, all right.
    1:23:28 – And the five hour energy is a problem.
    1:23:29 So my kid likes Diet Coke.
    1:23:31 They haven’t had an interest in five hour energy.
    1:23:32 If it was early in the day,
    1:23:33 I’d totally let them eat the five hour,
    1:23:34 drink the five hour energy.
    1:23:37 But if it’s late at night, I might let them try it.
    1:23:38 I would definitely let them try it
    1:23:40 and see how much they drank.
    1:23:42 And I would be very interested
    1:23:45 in what they like about the five hour energy.
    1:23:46 In other words, they would usually,
    1:23:47 they would like the color of the bottle
    1:23:49 ’cause they don’t know what it is, right?
    1:23:52 So the question would be, what interests you about this?
    1:23:55 How can I better understand what has attracted you?
    1:23:57 So if my kid wanted a Corona, I’d be very interested
    1:24:01 in how the hell they got interested in a Corona, right?
    1:24:03 So that opens it up right there.
    1:24:05 You don’t want to distance yourself
    1:24:08 from their interest in a Corona, right?
    1:24:09 If my kid’s interested in heroin,
    1:24:12 I really, really want to know exactly how they can–
    1:24:13 – Right, but you can understand why they’re interested
    1:24:15 without saying, sure, you can try some heroin,
    1:24:17 let’s see how much you use.
    1:24:19 – Yeah, I mean, there’s a lot of ways to deal with it,
    1:24:21 but some of them are better than others.
    1:24:23 So what I would want them to do is not feel bad
    1:24:25 about themselves for being interested in this thing.
    1:24:28 I don’t want them to think that their interests are dangerous.
    1:24:31 And what I really want to do is find out
    1:24:35 how I can supply them with what they’re trying to get
    1:24:40 in a way that is safe and doesn’t make me freak out.
    1:24:44 So for example, Diet Coke, my son loves Diet Coke.
    1:24:45 And I just get him caffeine free.
    1:24:47 – How old is, which son?
    1:24:48 How old is he?
    1:24:49 – Well, he’s five now,
    1:24:51 but he’s been into Diet Cokes in these zoos too.
    1:24:54 They all drink soda, but he loves black soda.
    1:24:58 And we just make sure there’s plenty of caffeine-free Diet Coke.
    1:24:59 – I feel like this is the clip
    1:25:00 that’s gonna go viral on Twitter.
    1:25:03 My two-year-old drinking Diet Coke.
    1:25:06 (laughing)
    1:25:07 – It’s the thumbnail.
    1:25:09 – That one does blow people’s minds.
    1:25:11 – Your book is gonna be pulled off the shelves.
    1:25:12 – But I would say on a food basis,
    1:25:14 I think my kids probably eat,
    1:25:16 like they have unfettered access to ice cream.
    1:25:19 They don’t eat ice cream every day.
    1:25:20 If they do eat ice cream, they eat,
    1:25:22 like they don’t gorge on ice cream.
    1:25:23 They eat ice cream.
    1:25:25 And how much ice cream can you eat at a time?
    1:25:27 You do get sick of it after a little while.
    1:25:29 A little kid, they’ll go days without ice cream.
    1:25:31 They’ll go days with a stack of chocolate bars.
    1:25:33 They haven’t eaten a chocolate bar in a good while.
    1:25:35 There’s a time where they ate them all the time.
    1:25:38 Different kids will be into Oreo cookies
    1:25:41 and Oreo cookies are the thing.
    1:25:43 – All I wanna say is if I come back in another life,
    1:25:44 I wanna be a kid in your household.
    1:25:45 – Yeah, that’s good.
    1:25:48 (laughing)
    1:25:51 – Maybe, maybe, until I develop early diabetes.
    1:25:54 (laughing)
    1:25:55 – So, Aaron, let me ask you,
    1:25:57 and this is open to you as well.
    1:25:58 Neval, I’ll ask Aaron first.
    1:26:01 So, a very sensitive to language,
    1:26:03 I think language is really powerful, right?
    1:26:08 The labels we use, I think, in both ways we’re aware of
    1:26:12 and in many ways we’re perhaps not explicitly aware of,
    1:26:14 can influence our beliefs
    1:26:17 and how we basically shape this reality we experience, right?
    1:26:20 So, the coercion versus non-corrosion,
    1:26:22 like it’s a very strong delineation
    1:26:24 in the favor of non-corrosion, right?
    1:26:25 Just by setting that up
    1:26:28 as sort of a mutually exclusive binary choice.
    1:26:31 The question I had is about this adversary term
    1:26:34 or adversarial relationship,
    1:26:36 which it sounds like if I framed it
    1:26:38 in a slightly different way,
    1:26:39 used a different label,
    1:26:42 if we were to make it less negative sounding,
    1:26:43 could be coaching.
    1:26:46 And so, I think about, you know, I did a lot of sports,
    1:26:48 I think it was formative to who I am,
    1:26:53 and my coaches were certainly directive, right?
    1:26:56 And they would insist on certain things
    1:26:59 that allowed me to, I think,
    1:27:03 realize I was capable of more than I thought I was.
    1:27:06 And I view that as a huge and a positive for me.
    1:27:10 So, how do you think about the terminology used
    1:27:13 in taking children seriously or the sovereign child
    1:27:18 so that you don’t fall prey to framing things so strongly
    1:27:21 that you have a confirmation bias
    1:27:25 for what you want to embrace as a philosophy or ideology?
    1:27:27 Does that make sense as a question?
    1:27:30 I just, I feel like some of the words are so strong.
    1:27:32 No one’s gonna say I want an adversarial relationship
    1:27:33 with the kids. – Oh no, 100%.
    1:27:35 Well, I think the coaching example,
    1:27:37 you were able to opt out.
    1:27:38 Any team you’re on,
    1:27:40 you can quit unless your parents are making you do it.
    1:27:42 – Yep, that’s a good point, yeah, very true.
    1:27:44 – And what’s crucial in that
    1:27:46 is that you saw the value in that sport.
    1:27:48 And you saw it from your own perspective,
    1:27:49 you understood it,
    1:27:52 it was based on your own interest and your own passion.
    1:27:55 And then you can be encouraged to develop that passion
    1:27:57 and to pursue excellence, right?
    1:27:59 And then as you’re pursuing excellence,
    1:28:01 you’re exposed to constraints, right?
    1:28:02 If you wanna play in the soccer team,
    1:28:04 you gotta be able to run a mile like this,
    1:28:05 you gotta be able to do this,
    1:28:05 you gotta be able to do that,
    1:28:07 you gotta do the drills, put in the time rate,
    1:28:09 all that stuff is excellent.
    1:28:10 And the driver, right?
    1:28:12 And this is the thing, the key.
    1:28:15 The key to that is the interest in that,
    1:28:17 that you found that fun.
    1:28:22 And as long as that is the motivating force,
    1:28:25 everything about that I think is absolutely wonderful.
    1:28:27 And that’s the thing you wanna cultivate in your kids
    1:28:30 is the interest and the passion.
    1:28:31 And so one way of getting away from the coercion,
    1:28:33 I don’t, this isn’t Neval’s advice,
    1:28:34 I try not to use the coercion thing
    1:28:37 because that gets in this kind of moralizing view.
    1:28:38 And instead of say it’s like,
    1:28:41 I think interests are, just think about it,
    1:28:43 like what makes something interesting?
    1:28:45 Humans are unique that they are interested in stuff.
    1:28:47 And it’s actually a deep philosophical question
    1:28:48 of what is an interest?
    1:28:52 How does a person know that something is interesting?
    1:28:54 And that is the magic.
    1:28:56 Elon wants to preserve consciousness
    1:28:58 as this light flickering in the universe.
    1:29:00 I wanna preserve interests.
    1:29:03 A kid that’s interested in something,
    1:29:06 that is absolutely precious.
    1:29:08 And I wanna cultivate that,
    1:29:11 I wanna pour fuel on that fire
    1:29:13 and anything to preserve that.
    1:29:15 And so that’s where the adversary comes in.
    1:29:16 Call what you want.
    1:29:17 I don’t wanna step on that or squash that.
    1:29:22 I want my kid to see me as a gateway to interests,
    1:29:25 as someone who just like can make things more interesting,
    1:29:28 anything that I’m interested, they add to it.
    1:29:29 So if I’m interested in video games, great,
    1:29:31 my daughter’s interested in YouTube.
    1:29:34 And now she’s filming and trying to make YouTube videos
    1:29:35 and she’s interested.
    1:29:37 And then she’s gotta figure out how the camera works
    1:29:39 and then like all this stuff is there.
    1:29:41 And so I wanna get her like, okay, let me get you a camera,
    1:29:42 let me get you something to set it up,
    1:29:45 let me get you some, which dolls are you using?
    1:29:46 How can I help?
    1:29:47 I’ll hold the camera, right?
    1:29:48 Let’s do a storyboard.
    1:29:49 Do you know what a storyboard is?
    1:29:50 Like, that’s what I mean.
    1:29:53 I think taking children seriously could be
    1:29:56 how do you preserve and augment your kid’s interests?
    1:30:01 And how are you always an enabler and a supporter and a guide
    1:30:04 and never someone who’s just pouring cold water?
    1:30:06 Because, you know, that’s not writer.
    1:30:07 – Yeah, that’s the clip that I’ll put
    1:30:08 at the head of this interview.
    1:30:10 Just keep people in the game.
    1:30:13 – You know, that one was very affecting.
    1:30:14 It changed me, what you just said,
    1:30:17 because I have always viewed my own life
    1:30:20 as a series of obsessions.
    1:30:21 And usually I’ll idle for a little bit,
    1:30:23 then I’ll fall in love with something else
    1:30:24 and I’ll just get obsessed over it.
    1:30:26 And it could be election or the politics
    1:30:29 or the news one day, it could be photography the next,
    1:30:32 it could be AI, it could be crypto, it could be coding,
    1:30:35 it could be, there was a VR/AR time period,
    1:30:37 there was a gaming time period,
    1:30:40 but there’s obsession after obsession after obsession.
    1:30:43 And there are also obsessions around working out,
    1:30:45 around food, or on this particular kind of diet,
    1:30:47 or around dating, or what have you.
    1:30:48 And I think it’s not unique to me.
    1:30:50 I think everyone, when I look at them,
    1:30:52 there’s usually one or two or three things
    1:30:53 that they’re obsessed about,
    1:30:55 or they’re gearing up for the next one.
    1:30:59 And fostering that without being didactic about it,
    1:30:59 I think is really important.
    1:31:01 Enabling it or allowing it to happen.
    1:31:03 Even pushing it doesn’t work, right?
    1:31:04 You tell your kid to be interested in something,
    1:31:05 they’re not gonna be interested.
    1:31:08 Just like, if I came to Tim and I’m like,
    1:31:09 “Tim, you gotta get obsessed over this thing.
    1:31:10 “It’s not gonna work.
    1:31:12 “You’re not gonna get obsessed over something.”
    1:31:13 The most you can do is offer options.
    1:31:15 – If I try it, if you started busting my balls about it,
    1:31:16 then I wouldn’t.
    1:31:17 – Because you respect Naval.
    1:31:19 Naval’s the kind of a person who has great ideas,
    1:31:21 who gets interested in interesting things.
    1:31:23 He is pro-fun.
    1:31:25 So you’re like, “Oh, I’m open to his suggestions.
    1:31:29 “I’m not open to my social studies teacher’s suggestions.”
    1:31:31 You wanna be as a parent, the kind of person
    1:31:33 that your kid is saying like, “Oh boy,
    1:31:35 “if you’re interested in it, it’s probably pretty cool.
    1:31:37 “I wonder what’s going on.”
    1:31:39 – How do you, Aaron, I mean, you have five kids,
    1:31:42 so maybe there’s something in that number
    1:31:44 that lends itself to what I’m gonna ask,
    1:31:49 but physical education, sports, teamwork.
    1:31:54 I mean, across ages, that might be kind of tough.
    1:31:55 There’s no right answer here.
    1:31:57 I mean, I have my own orientation towards this stuff,
    1:32:00 but what are your thoughts on all that?
    1:32:03 – I think sports are fetishized among kids,
    1:32:06 and I think lots of kids are stunted
    1:32:09 by spending lots of time playing sports
    1:32:11 according to adult rules and adult supervision,
    1:32:14 and are not allowed the free time
    1:32:15 to explore their own interests,
    1:32:18 and they get stuck in these status games
    1:32:20 where being successful in school
    1:32:23 means you’re captain of the soccer team or something,
    1:32:26 and then you go to college and you never play soccer again,
    1:32:27 or you play pickup soccer at most,
    1:32:29 and you spend hours and hours and hours
    1:32:32 of your formative time playing by adult rules
    1:32:34 in this kind of strange, arbitrary status game.
    1:32:38 I think my kids are quite physically capable,
    1:32:40 and I worry, like, “Oh God, I hope they don’t get into…”
    1:32:41 I mean, I was into sports when I was a kid, too.
    1:32:44 I think, I mean, I love baseball, I cherish it,
    1:32:46 but I want them to play these things
    1:32:48 only because they enjoy them,
    1:32:50 and again, their own interests,
    1:32:54 and I don’t want them to get caught up in status games.
    1:32:57 – Why is sports automatically about status games?
    1:32:58 What do you mean by that?
    1:33:00 – It’s not automatically, but in school,
    1:33:02 there’s a certain idea that it’s valuable
    1:33:05 if you can score a lot of points in the basketball court,
    1:33:08 and you’re getting a lot of adult approval.
    1:33:10 – Oh, you’re getting peer approval, too.
    1:33:12 And self-worth, perhaps, right?
    1:33:14 I mean, it could be a pursuit of excellence, also.
    1:33:16 – Absolutely, like, if you love basketball
    1:33:18 for basketball’s sake and you really enjoy it,
    1:33:20 great, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with that.
    1:33:22 Again, playing baseball is some of the most fun
    1:33:24 I’ve ever had in my life, and I don’t regret a moment of it,
    1:33:27 but I do regret other sports that I’ve played
    1:33:29 just because that’s what you do after school,
    1:33:31 and that’s what’s gonna impress the girls,
    1:33:33 and that’s what’s gonna impress the adults,
    1:33:34 and I wanna get in the newspaper,
    1:33:36 and I need these extra curriculars, again, to college.
    1:33:40 Like, that is an extraordinary lost opportunity
    1:33:42 that, boy, I wish YouTube was around back then,
    1:33:45 and I could’ve gotten into so many other obsessions
    1:33:46 that Naval is talking about.
    1:33:49 These were forestalled by these activities
    1:33:51 that are condoned by adults
    1:33:53 because that’s what the society does.
    1:33:55 Not to say the activities are bad,
    1:33:58 but I think it’s a disaster if a kid does something
    1:34:00 that they’re not passionate about.
    1:34:01 It’s just eating up their time.
    1:34:03 A low-grade commitment to something
    1:34:08 is just killing hours of an extraordinarily creative mind
    1:34:10 spent doing drills on a soccer team
    1:34:12 that they’re not really too thrilled with.
    1:34:13 – By the way, one of the common things
    1:34:16 you find in the biographies of the super high-end
    1:34:19 overachiever types is that they just had tons of free time
    1:34:20 when they were kids.
    1:34:24 Newton used to famously sit by the side of the creek
    1:34:27 and whittle on wood and make little water wheels,
    1:34:30 or Osho would just sit by the river for nine years.
    1:34:33 His granite would just let him wander off by himself.
    1:34:35 And when I think back to my own childhood,
    1:34:37 the time that I got to just spend reading
    1:34:38 and not having anyone bothering me
    1:34:43 and reading whatever I felt like from a library was incredible.
    1:34:46 And so it’s that huge swats of free time
    1:34:48 to pursue your own curiosity.
    1:34:52 And if my kids are really into sports, go play sports,
    1:34:55 but I’m not pressuring them or pushing them or valuing it.
    1:34:58 We did set up them going to a sports field
    1:34:59 and having a soccer coach
    1:35:01 and being part of a little soccer group.
    1:35:03 And they hated it, they don’t like it.
    1:35:05 But they love the playground next door.
    1:35:06 They love going to the playground,
    1:35:07 just playing in the playground.
    1:35:09 So let them do that.
    1:35:11 – So the question I have for you, Erin,
    1:35:13 I mean, it applies to Neval too, but it strikes me,
    1:35:15 it could be off here, but for me at least,
    1:35:18 to find something I’m passionate about,
    1:35:23 which is typically some combination of intrinsic interest,
    1:35:27 whatever that is constituted of, and some capability.
    1:35:29 It’s usually some combination of those things.
    1:35:31 As a kid, I had to try a lot of stuff.
    1:35:33 My mom was very good at exposing me to a lot of stuff
    1:35:35 and encouraging me to explore things
    1:35:39 that I was inclined towards, marine biology,
    1:35:42 and I never ended up becoming a marine biologist,
    1:35:44 but I don’t regret any of that exploration.
    1:35:46 So I guess what I’m wondering is like,
    1:35:48 because your kids are self-directed
    1:35:50 in the sense that they have a lot of time on YouTube
    1:35:54 and so on, you don’t want to force something on them.
    1:35:57 How do you think about, if you do exposing them though,
    1:36:01 to a buffet of options that they have the opportunity
    1:36:04 to kind of gravitate towards something
    1:36:06 or be repelled by it?
    1:36:07 – That’s what’s so great about unschooling,
    1:36:10 is that their day is not sucked up listening
    1:36:13 to somebody drone on about social studies.
    1:36:15 You have eight hours, seven hours
    1:36:17 that are free for explorers, right?
    1:36:19 – For social studies teachers, in my eyes.
    1:36:21 – Yeah, boy, I mean, social studies was boring, man.
    1:36:23 – Just getting thrown out of the bus.
    1:36:24 (laughs)
    1:36:25 That’s okay, it’s all right.
    1:36:26 – Yeah, we started ice skating this week.
    1:36:29 It was finally cold enough for a long enough stretch of days
    1:36:30 and there’s a little skating rink
    1:36:32 and then I bought some PVC pipe
    1:36:35 to make the little things that they could hold themselves up
    1:36:36 so they can learn to skate
    1:36:39 and then we cut them up and we’re using the ruler
    1:36:40 and they’re actually using real math,
    1:36:43 real numbers for the different lengths
    1:36:45 and then there’s the glue of the PVC pipe
    1:36:47 and then I was like, wow,
    1:36:48 we can actually build different structures
    1:36:51 out of this stuff, we can build climbing structures.
    1:36:53 For kids that are as young as mine,
    1:36:54 exposing them to a lot of things,
    1:36:56 I think that is an important point that you’re making,
    1:36:57 is that I think as a parent,
    1:37:00 you are kind of a curator of cool stuff
    1:37:03 and so there’s a world in between,
    1:37:04 forcing them to do things
    1:37:06 and letting them do whatever they want.
    1:37:09 There’s a whole range in the middle of saying,
    1:37:12 Star Wars is cool, skiing is cool, skating is cool,
    1:37:14 cooking is cool, I don’t think it is.
    1:37:17 All the stuff they see, making films, making videos,
    1:37:18 I mean, just on and on and on and on,
    1:37:21 the life is full of all these interesting things.
    1:37:23 I’ll show you the music that I like,
    1:37:25 the movies that I like, the shows that I like,
    1:37:27 the humor that I like, and again,
    1:37:30 if there is not this false persona,
    1:37:32 I think kids are more open to,
    1:37:34 you know, what you have to tell them about.
    1:37:35 Dad isn’t some sort of like,
    1:37:38 “Ugh, gotta watch out for this guy.”
    1:37:40 It’s more an interest in what he has
    1:37:42 to talk about and share.
    1:37:46 I think conventionally, we outsource this to school
    1:37:47 and say, “School’s gonna expose him
    1:37:49 to the interesting stuff.”
    1:37:52 And the disaster there is that school
    1:37:53 shuts down your interests.
    1:37:55 School says, “Nope, your interests are frivolous,
    1:37:58 you gotta learn math, you gotta learn social studies.
    1:38:00 Then you have to do this after-school activity,
    1:38:01 then you have to do your homework,
    1:38:03 then you have to go to sleep early,
    1:38:05 and then wake up and do it all again.”
    1:38:08 And so you’re just shutting down all this opportunity
    1:38:11 for spontaneous serendipitous things to come up.
    1:38:13 – Let me just take a counter position there for a second.
    1:38:17 So I was in a really shitty school on Long Island,
    1:38:19 up until about age.
    1:38:21 Yeah, up until about, well, to their credit,
    1:38:23 a few teachers were like, “You need to get out of here.”
    1:38:28 And around 15, I transferred to a very, very difficult,
    1:38:30 very good private school in New Hampshire.
    1:38:36 I, up to that point, had really disliked studying languages,
    1:38:39 which meant Spanish, that was the option.
    1:38:40 Maybe there was a little bit of French,
    1:38:43 but I did Spanish, couldn’t speak it at all.
    1:38:47 When I got to St. Paul’s, I had to take a language,
    1:38:49 but they had a very wide menu to select from.
    1:38:50 I ended up choosing Japanese,
    1:38:53 and that ended up completely changing
    1:38:54 the trajectory of my life.
    1:38:58 So that compulsion to choose from a menu actually helped me,
    1:39:02 and I could give you more examples of that.
    1:39:07 So I just wanna be careful not to paint all schooling
    1:39:11 as this prison-like land of conformity
    1:39:13 that forces people to do entirely things
    1:39:15 that are suffocating.
    1:39:17 – Schools are well-intentioned,
    1:39:18 and they will get some things right.
    1:39:20 In fact, many things right,
    1:39:22 but the question is at what cost,
    1:39:24 and what else could you be doing with that time?
    1:39:26 And I found that with my kids,
    1:39:29 I can teach them more math,
    1:39:32 getting one to two years beyond where they would be in school
    1:39:35 with a minimal amount of homeschooling and hanging out,
    1:39:37 like minimal, absolutely minimal.
    1:39:39 And I can move the kids at their own speed.
    1:39:42 I really care about if they’re understanding the issue or not.
    1:39:44 I can do it with Legos with one kid.
    1:39:46 I can do it with pen and paper with another,
    1:39:47 and just do it in a very natural way
    1:39:48 that suits each of them.
    1:39:50 And I learn in the process too.
    1:39:53 So obviously it requires a luxury of some amount of time,
    1:39:56 but I would say when school gets things right,
    1:39:58 you’re taking a one-size-fits-all model,
    1:40:01 and you’re just hoping that it kind of landed in the right way.
    1:40:04 My language’s story is the exact opposite.
    1:40:05 I was forced to learn Spanish.
    1:40:07 I was forced to learn French.
    1:40:07 I hated both.
    1:40:09 I forgot both instantly.
    1:40:11 And to the extent that I learned anything there,
    1:40:12 I forgot English.
    1:40:14 I got worse at English, so it wasn’t working.
    1:40:16 And you know, I’m pretty good at English, right?
    1:40:18 That’s sort of my specialty, crafting words.
    1:40:21 And now, I actually do want to learn Japanese,
    1:40:22 but I think we’re entering the AI age,
    1:40:25 where translation is going to get so good so fast
    1:40:27 that it’s almost going to be obsolete.
    1:40:31 And so I could have 20% Japanese speaking in two years,
    1:40:34 or my little AI lapel pin that somebody’s going to ship
    1:40:35 at some point is going to nail it
    1:40:36 within the next year or two anyway.
    1:40:39 So our kids are not going to have to learn handwriting.
    1:40:40 Our kids don’t have to learn how to drive.
    1:40:43 They probably don’t need to learn how to translate languages
    1:40:44 unless they get a kick out of the culture,
    1:40:47 or they want to read Rumi or Borges in the original.
    1:40:49 A lot of those tasks are taken away from them.
    1:40:51 And it takes schools 20 years to catch up.
    1:40:54 School is teaching something that’s much older.
    1:40:55 And in certain domains, you know,
    1:40:58 not to beat on the social science of the humanities,
    1:41:01 but they’re teaching a very narrow slice of what’s out there.
    1:41:02 It’s a very opinionated slice.
    1:41:05 And the kids are going to figure it out themselves.
    1:41:09 To me, what matters is that they have the support,
    1:41:11 the curation, as Aaron talked about.
    1:41:13 I still push them with the basics,
    1:41:15 numeracy, literacy, computer literacy,
    1:41:17 but in my backfire, my kids don’t love math.
    1:41:18 So that’s a problem.
    1:41:19 I’m obviously doing something wrong.
    1:41:21 So I have to figure something out.
    1:41:24 Then again, I didn’t love math either, right?
    1:41:25 So…
    1:41:26 – Well, hold on.
    1:41:28 I haven’t actually heard this from you, Naval, before.
    1:41:30 So how did you end up liking math?
    1:41:32 – I don’t. – I don’t changed.
    1:41:33 – I don’t. (laughs)
    1:41:34 – Okay.
    1:41:37 – I’m not naturally mathematical.
    1:41:38 – Well, okay, well, hold on.
    1:41:39 If you didn’t and you don’t,
    1:41:41 how did you end up studying math?
    1:41:42 Were you forced to?
    1:41:44 – Yes, but the parts that stuck
    1:41:46 and the parts that are valuable are just basic math.
    1:41:47 You know what it is?
    1:41:48 I like being good at games.
    1:41:50 I like being good at strategy games.
    1:41:52 I used to be a hardcore wargamer.
    1:41:54 And then I like making money.
    1:41:57 And both of those require good understanding of basic math.
    1:41:58 So because I was always turning over gaming
    1:42:00 or money problems in my head,
    1:42:02 I became good at basic math and the rest of it,
    1:42:03 I still have to look up
    1:42:05 or have to figure it out on the fly as I need it.
    1:42:07 And my advanced mathematics is very poor,
    1:42:10 which is part of the reason why I’m not a physicist.
    1:42:11 I just never got obsessed with math.
    1:42:13 It was too abstract for me.
    1:42:15 And so it was a necessary evil.
    1:42:17 And I was forced to learn it as a kid.
    1:42:19 And that’s the one place where I’m actually grateful.
    1:42:21 I actually have a very distinct memory
    1:42:23 of being forced to memorize my times table
    1:42:24 when I was really young
    1:42:25 and being really unhappy about it
    1:42:27 and being really miserable.
    1:42:30 But then when I look at how much it served me in life,
    1:42:31 especially, you know,
    1:42:33 just being able to do basic math very, very fast,
    1:42:34 I’m grateful for it.
    1:42:36 So, you know, at the end of the day,
    1:42:38 I don’t think I’m making a big leap like Aaron is.
    1:42:40 I’m not raising my kids based on some philosophy.
    1:42:43 I’m just raising them based on like how I would have wanted
    1:42:45 to be treated, looking back.
    1:42:48 And I would have wanted freedom in almost everything,
    1:42:50 except math. (laughs)
    1:42:52 – So there’s lots of stories of people that are in jail
    1:42:53 in prison for a long period of time
    1:42:55 and they become really good writers.
    1:43:00 If the costs of exploring other things weren’t raised so high,
    1:43:03 they wouldn’t have spent so much time on writing.
    1:43:06 Are they really glad that they were imprisoned
    1:43:10 and forced to become exceptionally good at writing?
    1:43:12 That story, that example doesn’t include
    1:43:14 all the millions of people that have been imprisoned
    1:43:16 that didn’t spend that time learning anything useful
    1:43:19 and just came out impoverished people, stunted people.
    1:43:23 So you take a few people who excel at something
    1:43:24 because they were forced to
    1:43:28 and they are grateful for in the past
    1:43:32 having been forced to learn something to excel at it.
    1:43:36 But you are neglecting all of the other branch points
    1:43:38 and other passions and excellences
    1:43:40 that they could have discovered
    1:43:43 or they could have become excellent at what they’re good at
    1:43:45 without this coercive means.
    1:43:48 – Let me just say, I don’t know if the jail metaphor
    1:43:49 is gonna help you here.
    1:43:52 Just because, I mean, not to point out the obvious,
    1:43:55 but like you guys are outliers in the sense
    1:43:57 that you have kids who don’t go to school,
    1:44:00 you have the time and the education to provide all this.
    1:44:03 I think if one could make a very compelling argument,
    1:44:05 if you were just to remove all schooling
    1:44:09 and let all kids in the country as of next week,
    1:44:12 next month, next quarter, unschool themselves,
    1:44:15 that it would be an unmitigated fucking disaster.
    1:44:17 – Maybe, you know, schooling for most public education
    1:44:19 was a force upon us.
    1:44:21 Managers of public education were force sponsored
    1:44:23 during the French and Prussian empires
    1:44:25 because they’re empires, so they conquer people
    1:44:27 and they have to assimilate them
    1:44:28 and they forced to assimilate them
    1:44:30 by putting them in the schools.
    1:44:31 And the peasants who were conquered
    1:44:33 would hide a kid in the basement,
    1:44:34 raise a kid entirely in the basement,
    1:44:36 turn over the rest of the kids
    1:44:37 because they couldn’t hide them all
    1:44:39 and the troops would show up every morning
    1:44:42 and take the kids to school, so that’s how it started, okay?
    1:44:44 And in the original medieval universities,
    1:44:46 the towers used to close at sundown
    1:44:48 and the guards used to face inwards
    1:44:50 ’cause the whole point was to keep the kids
    1:44:52 from going outside and causing trouble.
    1:44:54 So this idea of mandatory schooling
    1:44:55 has gotten out of control.
    1:44:58 Home schooling is illegal in many countries and many states.
    1:44:58 – Really?
    1:45:00 – Absolutely, most of Europe.
    1:45:02 Most of Europe, homeschooling is illegal
    1:45:04 and even in the United States, there’s a movement,
    1:45:06 like the Harvard’s publishing papers
    1:45:07 about how homeschooling is terrible
    1:45:10 and because there is a view, a pervasive view,
    1:45:13 maybe even a dominant view globally,
    1:45:15 that you raise the children for society,
    1:45:16 not for the parents.
    1:45:19 So it’s fundamentally a freedom pro-American thing
    1:45:22 to raise the kids, yes, for themselves is the next step.
    1:45:24 And so, and enlightened society would go from
    1:45:27 we’re raising the kids for the state
    1:45:29 to we’re raising the kids for the parents
    1:45:32 to finally, we’re raising the kids for themselves
    1:45:33 or we’re just not even raising the kids.
    1:45:36 We’re there to help them raise themselves.
    1:45:37 None of this is all or nothing.
    1:45:38 It doesn’t all have to be done once.
    1:45:41 And yes, we’re outliers and Aaron’s an extreme outlier,
    1:45:43 but the reality is anyone who’s watching this
    1:45:44 is an outlier also.
    1:45:45 They’re exceptional individuals
    1:45:47 and they’re trying to be exceptional.
    1:45:49 No one’s watching the Tim Ferriss show
    1:45:51 to get what they can get out of the New York Times
    1:45:53 without their public education.
    1:45:54 These are all reality hackers.
    1:45:56 These are all people who are trying to hack reality
    1:45:58 to be exceptional in some way.
    1:46:00 So this is a toolkit.
    1:46:02 If you’re the kind of person that, you know,
    1:46:05 believes in freedom of speech and the right to bear arms
    1:46:06 and figuring things out for yourself
    1:46:09 and that you can learn anything, you can do anything,
    1:46:11 you can win at any game that you choose to play,
    1:46:14 you can live off the grid, you can go hiking,
    1:46:16 you can forge your unique relationships
    1:46:18 and your unique lifestyle,
    1:46:20 why not think about raising your kids
    1:46:21 in the way that you want?
    1:46:24 And what this does is this breaks the mold.
    1:46:26 This says there isn’t just one way to raise children.
    1:46:28 It’s not just autopilot, you put them in track.
    1:46:30 By the way, the people who don’t homeschool
    1:46:33 just very selfishly, their lives suck, okay?
    1:46:36 Because they have to wake up at six in the morning,
    1:46:37 they gotta like pack the lunch,
    1:46:39 they gotta drag the kids out of bed screaming,
    1:46:40 they gotta put them in the shower,
    1:46:42 they gotta bundle them onto a bus,
    1:46:44 they gotta send them off, kid comes home,
    1:46:46 then they gotta like force them to do their homework,
    1:46:49 put them to bed, kid squealing the whole time
    1:46:51 that they argue about what they eat,
    1:46:53 they can’t travel, they can’t vacation,
    1:46:55 someone’s sick, they can’t get the time off,
    1:46:58 like just their lives are run around the school.
    1:47:00 It’s like, oh, I gotta run home this one PM,
    1:47:02 I gotta put the kid down, I gotta wake the kid up,
    1:47:04 I gotta feed the kid at this time.
    1:47:06 And then they don’t get along with their kids,
    1:47:08 their kids are fighting, and for what?
    1:47:11 For what are you doing all of this?
    1:47:14 Our kids are no less well socialized,
    1:47:17 they’re no less well educated, they’re no less happy.
    1:47:19 If anything, they’re higher in all those metrics.
    1:47:21 So why are you putting yourself
    1:47:23 through all of this misery?
    1:47:24 It doesn’t work.
    1:47:26 – Question, this is a compelling argument,
    1:47:29 and I have a follow-up question, which is,
    1:47:32 for you, Aaron, first, where do you and your spouse
    1:47:36 have disagreements, or maybe that’s too strong a word,
    1:47:40 discussions around any aspect of taking children seriously
    1:47:42 or the sovereign child?
    1:47:43 – We have tons of discussions
    1:47:45 on how we’re gonna solve this problem.
    1:47:46 – Maybe discussions isn’t strong enough a word.
    1:47:48 – Yeah, disagreements.
    1:47:51 – Friction, growth opportunities.
    1:47:53 – I mean, there’s things that we used to have
    1:47:55 that we don’t anymore.
    1:47:56 – What are those?
    1:47:58 – Well, just like this needs to be a rule,
    1:48:00 like we have to have a rule about this,
    1:48:03 and I would basically counter and say,
    1:48:06 all we have to do, I agree that there’s a middle ground,
    1:48:07 it’s not like it’s all or nothing.
    1:48:10 There’s a huge middle ground to relaxing rules,
    1:48:13 and one easy thing people can do right now
    1:48:16 is just say that instead of enforcing a rule,
    1:48:18 we think about it for 60 seconds.
    1:48:20 Like, just spend 60 seconds and think,
    1:48:24 is there some solution to this that gets around this problem?
    1:48:26 Like, there’s no drawing on the walls.
    1:48:28 Can we just think for 60 seconds?
    1:48:30 Before you tell the kid no drawing on the walls,
    1:48:34 like, can you, and 60 seconds is long enough
    1:48:36 to solve so many problems, it’s unbelievable.
    1:48:37 You know, you start thinking like,
    1:48:39 oh, maybe we could just put paper all over the walls.
    1:48:41 Let’s do that, yeah, we’ll put paper on the walls,
    1:48:43 and there, now you draw on the paper on the wall.
    1:48:48 So that was one big thing that my wife and I made progress
    1:48:51 with was realizing that we just pause
    1:48:54 when the mind goes to enforce a rule.
    1:48:58 Just pause and think, you know,
    1:49:00 is there some way around this?
    1:49:02 And it’s gotten to the point now
    1:49:05 where we don’t even go toward the rule.
    1:49:08 Just the reflexes like, ah, damn it, kid wants to do this,
    1:49:10 and that’s gonna really cause a mess.
    1:49:11 Can we do it like this?
    1:49:13 Can we do it like that?
    1:49:14 I guess that’s one answer to your question.
    1:49:18 Are there things where you want to take the hands off the wheel
    1:49:23 and your wife is like, ah, I would prefer some variation
    1:49:26 that is not exactly hands off the wheel?
    1:49:29 – Yeah, I’m more prone to saying hands off the wheel.
    1:49:32 She’s a little bit more conservative than me.
    1:49:35 But the other thing is that she and I
    1:49:37 are also problem solving.
    1:49:39 Our daughter got a hoverboard
    1:49:40 and it’s making marks on the floor.
    1:49:43 So the temptation is no hoverboard in the house.
    1:49:44 And it’s like, well, what,
    1:49:46 why don’t you want the hoverboard in the house?
    1:49:48 You’re kind of afraid they’re gonna fall
    1:49:49 and hurt themselves.
    1:49:51 They’re gonna smash into the furniture.
    1:49:52 They’re gonna make marks on the floor, right?
    1:49:54 You start going through this and it’s like, okay,
    1:49:56 well, what if we move the furniture out of the dining room
    1:49:58 and I’ll clean up the floor, right?
    1:50:00 Or we’ll show our daughter how to clean up the floor.
    1:50:03 Like instead of it being like no hoverboard in the house,
    1:50:05 it’s just, you know, let’s just try to understand
    1:50:08 what we don’t like about this.
    1:50:09 You know, my wife and I use this, you know,
    1:50:10 apart from the kids.
    1:50:11 I want to play music.
    1:50:12 She doesn’t like Radiohead.
    1:50:13 I really like listening to Radiohead.
    1:50:17 Like, okay, how can you guys like no Radiohead in the house?
    1:50:19 It’s, you know, how can I listen to the music I want?
    1:50:21 You listen to the music you want.
    1:50:23 Have quiet when we want quiet.
    1:50:25 It’s just not about enforcing rules.
    1:50:28 It’s about how do we all make our lives better?
    1:50:31 I’m my wife’s partner in making her life better.
    1:50:33 She’s a partner in making my life better.
    1:50:36 We partner with our kids to make their lives better.
    1:50:39 Like it’s everybody trying to find out
    1:50:42 from their perspective what’s not working
    1:50:43 and how to make it better.
    1:50:45 So what happened to the Radiohead?
    1:50:46 Is everybody walking out with headsets?
    1:50:47 That’s a problem, actually.
    1:50:50 I haven’t really solved that one.
    1:50:52 It’s nice to have it on the speakers
    1:50:54 and that one’s a sticking point.
    1:50:55 Yeah, kind of.
    1:50:57 And I do think one of my rules
    1:50:58 will be no hoverboards in the house.
    1:51:01 (laughing)
    1:51:02 All right, Naval, what about you?
    1:51:04 Just in terms of parenting style.
    1:51:08 We have a no control philosophy in the house
    1:51:09 with each other.
    1:51:11 My wife and I, we’ve had that for a long time.
    1:51:12 She can’t even schedule me.
    1:51:13 I can’t schedule her.
    1:51:14 We don’t commit each other.
    1:51:16 We don’t have big expectations.
    1:51:19 She can’t make me go to her parents’ birthday.
    1:51:21 I can’t make her go to a business dinner.
    1:51:23 We’re really non-controlling people
    1:51:25 to begin with of each other.
    1:51:28 So it’s pretty easy to align on not controlling the kids.
    1:51:30 But that also means that if she wants
    1:51:33 to control the kids, she can.
    1:51:34 And if I want to control the kids, I can.
    1:51:37 I don’t tell her don’t control the kids.
    1:51:39 So we actually have very different styles.
    1:51:43 And it does cause a problem when like kid wants screen time,
    1:51:45 they’ll go and negotiate with each party.
    1:51:47 And whoever’s more lenient will give them
    1:51:48 the screen time or the ice cream.
    1:51:50 So basically I get to be the good cop.
    1:51:51 (laughing)
    1:51:53 But we are talking it through.
    1:51:55 I think especially the book, Erin’s book,
    1:51:57 she has a copy, I have a copy, I’ve read it.
    1:51:58 She’s reading it.
    1:52:01 Both of us find ourselves nodding more than saying no.
    1:52:03 And I think we’re gonna be relaxing more rules
    1:52:04 and see how it goes.
    1:52:04 There is a hump.
    1:52:06 There’s gonna be that hump of like the one week
    1:52:08 of just eating chocolate and playing video games.
    1:52:11 So maybe we go through them one at a time and see how much.
    1:52:13 – Maybe you’ll just end up getting diabetes
    1:52:13 before your kids do.
    1:52:16 (laughing)
    1:52:17 – But there’s a couple of trend lines.
    1:52:19 As a parent, one of the things you realize
    1:52:21 is your ability to, even if you are fully
    1:52:24 into the rules system, your ability to enforce rules
    1:52:25 breaks down over time.
    1:52:27 It’s just normal.
    1:52:28 The kids find gaps.
    1:52:29 They exploit the gaps.
    1:52:30 They get older.
    1:52:33 And our oldest is already hitting the age
    1:52:35 where I couldn’t stop him if I wanted to.
    1:52:37 I hope he doesn’t see this episode, by the way,
    1:52:40 ’cause it’s an instant jailbreak.
    1:52:41 – It’s two hours in.
    1:52:42 I think he won’t make it this far.
    1:52:44 – Yeah, he’s gone through a growth spurt.
    1:52:45 He’s quite large now.
    1:52:47 He could probably overpower me shortly.
    1:52:49 So, we’re already getting at the point where like,
    1:52:51 what rules am I exactly gonna enforce?
    1:52:54 And how on earth am I going to enforce these rules
    1:52:55 that you speak of?
    1:52:58 And then the next one down just wants to copy him.
    1:53:00 And the next one down wants to copy that one.
    1:53:02 So there’s a jailbreak already happening,
    1:53:04 a slow motion jailbreak.
    1:53:06 So I’d rather kind of open the door and let them out
    1:53:09 and get some credit rather than, you know,
    1:53:11 there was a revolt and they escaped.
    1:53:13 And now they viewed me as that forever.
    1:53:16 One of the things, there’s a feeling that I sometimes get,
    1:53:19 which I don’t know if the rest of you have this,
    1:53:21 but when you’re around family sometimes,
    1:53:25 you feel a certain weight, like you can’t be yourself.
    1:53:27 So there are times when like there’s family around,
    1:53:28 you don’t want them around
    1:53:30 because you feel a certain pressure.
    1:53:33 And it’s just like, if your friend was sitting there
    1:53:35 and doing the exact same thing, it wouldn’t bother you.
    1:53:37 But because there’s a family member sitting there
    1:53:39 and doing that thing, it bothers you.
    1:53:40 And it’s like, why is that?
    1:53:41 This person’s just sitting there reading the book.
    1:53:42 Why does it bother me
    1:53:44 that this person’s sitting there reading the book?
    1:53:47 And it’s because going back to the animal conditioning part,
    1:53:49 the one thing I did get conditioned on
    1:53:52 was over 10, 15, 20 years,
    1:53:55 having this person always telling me what to do, right?
    1:53:56 Saying, don’t do this, do that.
    1:53:59 And it was always well-meaning and it was always a love,
    1:54:01 but they were always watching me.
    1:54:03 – I see. So for clarity, when you say family,
    1:54:05 you mean like your parents, not your kids.
    1:54:07 – Yeah, like my mom or even my brother, you know,
    1:54:09 who I loved to death or my aunt, you know,
    1:54:10 if they’re sitting there,
    1:54:14 I’m just used to having gone through a combination
    1:54:18 of conflict and control and negotiation with them constantly
    1:54:20 that I just feel like I’m being watched.
    1:54:22 And I think other people have this feeling too.
    1:54:24 And I don’t want my kids to have that feeling.
    1:54:26 When I’m in the room with them,
    1:54:27 I don’t want them to have the feeling that,
    1:54:32 oh, I might do something that he’s not going to approve of.
    1:54:35 And so therefore he will either say something
    1:54:37 or even just feel something disapproving.
    1:54:40 And therefore I feel self-conscious.
    1:54:42 So I want to have as little of that feeling as possible
    1:54:43 in my life and in my kids’ lives.
    1:54:45 So which is why I don’t want to bust them.
    1:54:46 I don’t want to be giving them rules.
    1:54:47 I don’t want to be their enforcer.
    1:54:49 I don’t want to be their warden.
    1:54:52 Being their enforcer and warden makes me worse off,
    1:54:53 makes them worse off,
    1:54:55 and it completely destroys their relationship.
    1:54:57 So I have to figure out how to unwind that.
    1:54:59 Same time, I do have to be a parent.
    1:54:59 They can’t run in the street.
    1:55:00 They got to do their math.
    1:55:02 Sorry, Aaron.
    1:55:03 Maybe we’ll get through that.
    1:55:07 But I do have to arm them for what’s gonna happen in life.
    1:55:08 Judith Harris was this woman.
    1:55:10 She did this famous meta-study,
    1:55:12 maybe wrote a book on child-raising.
    1:55:14 And what she basically concluded was,
    1:55:17 it’s mostly genetics, it’s mostly nature, sorry.
    1:55:18 And then the remaining part that’s nurture
    1:55:19 is from their peers.
    1:55:21 They’re raised by their peers.
    1:55:23 And it’s not really raised by their parents
    1:55:25 because they’re trying to adapt to the world
    1:55:26 they’re going to live in,
    1:55:27 not the world that you lived in.
    1:55:30 And so my conclusion from that was,
    1:55:33 instead of trying to control your children,
    1:55:37 you can be one step removed and control their environment.
    1:55:39 And the way you do that is the most important decision
    1:55:41 parents make for their kids is where they live.
    1:55:43 What neighborhood are we living in?
    1:55:44 What friends are they around?
    1:55:45 What school are they going to?
    1:55:48 That’s why parents are so obsessive about choosing the school
    1:55:50 because you’re outsourcing your child-raising
    1:55:51 for half the time.
    1:55:53 This kid is gonna be raised in the school
    1:55:55 by a collection of peers and possibly teachers
    1:55:56 out of your control.
    1:55:59 So you put a lot of effort into the school.
    1:56:01 So the same way, you curate their environment.
    1:56:04 Like, is the house look more like a library?
    1:56:06 Or does it more look like the sports stadium?
    1:56:07 Is it messy?
    1:56:08 Is it clean?
    1:56:09 So you curate the environment.
    1:56:11 You curate the expectations.
    1:56:12 You curate the opportunities.
    1:56:13 You curate the peers set.
    1:56:14 You curate the location.
    1:56:17 And the nicer way to look at that is not curate
    1:56:19 by excluding, but opportunistic by including.
    1:56:20 You give them opportunities
    1:56:23 and new things to hook onto and obsessions.
    1:56:24 So that’s the way I prefer to do it.
    1:56:27 And then of course, always lead by example.
    1:56:29 If they see how I’m treating my mother,
    1:56:32 hopefully they’ll treat me that way when they’re older.
    1:56:35 When they see how I treat the waiter at the restaurant,
    1:56:36 hopefully they’ll key off of that.
    1:56:37 That’s normal behavior.
    1:56:39 If they see if I’m littering or jaywalking
    1:56:40 or not littering or not jaywalking,
    1:56:42 they’re gonna cue off of that.
    1:56:43 Kids are very smart.
    1:56:45 They know everything you’re doing.
    1:56:48 Kids are really good at noticing hypocrisy in parents.
    1:56:50 So I’ll be saying no screen time
    1:56:52 while I’m going through my phone, right?
    1:56:54 What is that?
    1:56:55 So I thought about this one.
    1:56:58 I was like, maybe we limit screen time for everybody.
    1:57:00 Like we literally just say like,
    1:57:03 unless you’re learning or studying or whatever,
    1:57:06 nobody gets screen time until a certain amount of time.
    1:57:08 But if I impose my own rules on myself,
    1:57:10 no screen time till math and reading is done
    1:57:12 and no screen time till six PM, that’s miserable.
    1:57:14 Why am I doing it to them?
    1:57:15 This is a very hard problem.
    1:57:16 I’m not saying I have a solution.
    1:57:18 There’s a lot of hypocrisy.
    1:57:21 – What core concepts have we not covered?
    1:57:24 Or are there any aspects of whether it’s
    1:57:26 taking children seriously, the sovereign child,
    1:57:30 or just generally a non-coursive freedom maximizing
    1:57:33 parenting approach that we have not covered?
    1:57:38 Common objections that you’d like to address, concerns,
    1:57:39 anything come to mind?
    1:57:41 I mean, we’ve covered a lot of ground,
    1:57:42 but I don’t know the terrain well enough
    1:57:43 to know what we’ve missed.
    1:57:46 – I would say there’s four categories of harm
    1:57:49 that come from rules that I think are helpful
    1:57:50 to make them explicit.
    1:57:51 And then we’ve talked about a bunch of them,
    1:57:54 but one is the parent-child,
    1:57:57 adversarial, gatekeeping relationship.
    1:58:00 Every time rules are enforced, that gets brought in.
    1:58:02 The other one we mentioned is that
    1:58:05 child’s damage to their relationship with themselves,
    1:58:09 their self-policing, self-awareness,
    1:58:12 and kind of lack of self-confidence
    1:58:14 because their desires are getting them in trouble
    1:58:16 and need to be minded and policed.
    1:58:21 The third one is confusion about the issue at hand.
    1:58:23 The reason why we’re polite is because
    1:58:25 of the norms of politeness and courtesy
    1:58:28 or the reasons why you wear mittens outside
    1:58:29 or because your hands are cold,
    1:58:31 not because you’ll get in trouble.
    1:58:32 So when you’re introducing rules,
    1:58:36 you’re introducing a confusion about the issue at hand.
    1:58:38 The reason why you brush your teeth is cavities
    1:58:40 and how your breath spells,
    1:58:42 not whatever consequences of your parents,
    1:58:44 those will be confusions.
    1:58:47 And then the fourth category is a confusion in general
    1:58:50 about how to explore the world.
    1:58:51 With rules, it means that, you know,
    1:58:54 whenever a question comes up in the future,
    1:58:56 the answer is to find the relevant authority
    1:58:58 and do what they say.
    1:59:01 Not that you yourself are an empowered person
    1:59:04 who can figure it out yourself and understand things.
    1:59:07 Instead, you defer that, you kind of sit back
    1:59:08 and do what you’re told.
    1:59:13 And it leads to, I think, a more conformist life
    1:59:14 and kind of a narrower life.
    1:59:16 So I think those four harms are,
    1:59:18 it’s not that they can happen,
    1:59:20 it’s that they happen every single time.
    1:59:21 Like when Naval is saying, you know,
    1:59:22 if we make a rule that, you know,
    1:59:25 none of us are on our devices, right?
    1:59:28 Well, then Naval has to be the enforcer of that.
    1:59:29 Naval has to be the surveyor.
    1:59:31 He has to be constantly surveilling.
    1:59:32 He has to be judging.
    1:59:34 And even when everyone’s in compliance
    1:59:35 and everybody’s happy,
    1:59:38 when Naval walks into the room,
    1:59:40 people’s minds think, oh, well, dad’s here
    1:59:42 and now I have to be careful
    1:59:44 about whether I’m using an iPad or not, right?
    1:59:48 Just Naval’s mere presence causes those four harms
    1:59:51 when he is, or me or anybody, right?
    1:59:52 When anybody is enforcing rules,
    1:59:53 you’re perpetuating those harms.
    1:59:56 And those harms are not unavoidable.
    1:59:57 They’re not necessary evils.
    2:00:02 They are in every circumstance avoidable.
    2:00:03 And it’s not easy to do.
    2:00:08 It’s always a kind of specific situation dependent context,
    2:00:10 dependent thing.
    2:00:11 It’s a certain problem that’s going on,
    2:00:16 but there are always solutions that avoid those four harms.
    2:00:17 And when you avoid those four harms,
    2:00:19 you become, it’s a relationship building.
    2:00:20 It’s trust building.
    2:00:22 It’s knowledge growing.
    2:00:23 It’s more fun.
    2:00:25 It’s confidence growing and all those things.
    2:00:28 So I feel like there’s this bifurcation
    2:00:31 and it’s possible to let go
    2:00:33 of the harms of rule enforcement.
    2:00:34 That’s one thing.
    2:00:35 And the other thing is your point on constraints.
    2:00:37 Unless you wanna say something.
    2:00:38 – No, go for it.
    2:00:40 – Your point on constraints is that
    2:00:44 constraints are great when you can opt out of them.
    2:00:45 I don’t know, I like board games
    2:00:47 and sellers of Catan, I love that game.
    2:00:49 And what happened was the creator of that game,
    2:00:52 some German guy, he’d go in like in the basement
    2:00:54 working on his game and he’d bring it up and play it.
    2:00:55 – (speaks in foreign language)
    2:00:56 – You got it.
    2:00:58 So he’d play with a family
    2:01:00 and they would get bored and leave.
    2:01:02 And so then he’s like, all right, I gotta modify it, right?
    2:01:04 And he kept on coming back.
    2:01:05 If his family was not allowed to leave
    2:01:07 and they had to sit there and play,
    2:01:10 he would never learn how to design that game
    2:01:12 to make it so goddamn fun, right?
    2:01:14 It was the fact that the family could opt out.
    2:01:17 So he was creating a set of constraints.
    2:01:20 And those constraints got very, very good
    2:01:23 because the participants could opt out.
    2:01:25 And those are the constraints that you want.
    2:01:27 They are those that you can opt out of.
    2:01:29 So when you talk about creativity, right?
    2:01:31 Artists will do things like constrain
    2:01:33 what the canvas in some certain way.
    2:01:35 Or say I can only use this one color.
    2:01:38 Or I’m only gonna use one type of brush, right?
    2:01:40 That is great because the artist
    2:01:42 isn’t stuck with that for the rest of their life.
    2:01:45 If that was a constraint that they couldn’t opt out of,
    2:01:47 that would be limiting.
    2:01:49 But to try out different constraints
    2:01:52 and be free to opt out of them at all times,
    2:01:54 enables people to gravitate toward better
    2:01:55 and better constraints,
    2:01:57 enables people to modify constraints.
    2:02:01 And on a very deep level, that is what knowledge is.
    2:02:05 Knowledge growth is finding better and better constraints.
    2:02:09 The more you understand the limitations of the world,
    2:02:12 the better you’re able to operate within it.
    2:02:15 For example, Amazon is delivering some drone service, right?
    2:02:18 They need to understand all the traffic
    2:02:20 or the self-driving cars, right?
    2:02:21 To make full self-driving,
    2:02:25 you have to understand all of the limitations
    2:02:27 extraordinarily well, all the traffic lights,
    2:02:30 all the roads, all the closures, all the different cars,
    2:02:33 how cars work, pedestrians.
    2:02:36 And once you’re able to understand those constraints fully,
    2:02:38 then you can build a self-driving car system
    2:02:41 and now your freedom explodes.
    2:02:43 The better you can understand the constraints,
    2:02:45 the more power you have.
    2:02:48 Once the Wright brothers learned the constraints
    2:02:50 of the laws of aerodynamics,
    2:02:51 then they can build an airplane.
    2:02:53 And now you have the freedom to fly
    2:02:56 in addition to drive and walk, right?
    2:02:58 So once you learn the germ theory of disease,
    2:03:00 now you can develop antibiotics
    2:03:03 and now you can develop sterilization techniques.
    2:03:06 And so constraints are things that you want to know about.
    2:03:08 And in the world of human affairs,
    2:03:10 you want to be able to opt out of them
    2:03:12 to be able to make them better.
    2:03:13 – Naval, you mentioned that you find yourself
    2:03:16 nodding your head more than shaking your head.
    2:03:18 What do you most shake your head about?
    2:03:20 What do you most disagree with Aaron?
    2:03:22 – To me, it’s just the math and reading thing.
    2:03:25 And even there, I’m questioning myself to be honest.
    2:03:27 We just talked about how much math I actually know
    2:03:28 and how I learned it.
    2:03:29 I have two close friends,
    2:03:32 both of whom were, one of them didn’t speak English
    2:03:33 until he was much older.
    2:03:35 And the other one, I never got into reading books.
    2:03:37 And the other one who just never was into books
    2:03:38 until he was older.
    2:03:41 Both of them seem to have gotten obsessed,
    2:03:43 cracked open the 20, 30 books that really matter
    2:03:46 and ignored all the thousands I read that didn’t.
    2:03:48 And they seem just as smart and just as knowledgeable.
    2:03:50 They’ve caught up really fast.
    2:03:52 So I’m sort of questioning how much
    2:03:53 those things really matter.
    2:03:55 You know, one other point I would sort of make
    2:03:57 is that I think a lot of the arguments
    2:04:01 around why kids shouldn’t have unfettered screen time
    2:04:04 or shouldn’t, you know, or should be socializing
    2:04:07 are based around them living in a kid world.
    2:04:10 And the reality is you can think of either kids as animals
    2:04:12 that have to be domesticated so that they can learn
    2:04:15 how to operate in the society that we grew up in.
    2:04:18 Or you can think about them as little creative learners
    2:04:19 who are trying to learn how to operate
    2:04:21 in the world that’s going to exist.
    2:04:23 And the world that’s going to exist
    2:04:24 is gonna be full of screens.
    2:04:27 So I gave up like you gotta use screens.
    2:04:29 There’s gonna be screens everywhere.
    2:04:31 It’s like the kids in school right now are being told
    2:04:33 you cannot use AI for your essays.
    2:04:35 You can’t use AI in school.
    2:04:38 It’s the most powerful tool ever made by humanity probably.
    2:04:40 You know, it’s like the top of that apex right now.
    2:04:42 So of course you want to be able to use it.
    2:04:44 Everyone’s going to be using it.
    2:04:45 I was allowed to use calculators.
    2:04:47 Didn’t make me worse at math.
    2:04:49 They just let me focus on aspects of math
    2:04:51 other than figuring out how to multiply and divide
    2:04:53 extremely large numbers.
    2:04:56 So I fooled around with my son on prime numbers
    2:04:59 and we were like realizing together
    2:05:01 some fundamental things about prime numbers
    2:05:03 that luckily I wasn’t wasting time
    2:05:06 making him memorize, you know, all the state capitals.
    2:05:08 You sort of have to let kids explore the world
    2:05:11 as it exists today, not live in a fake world.
    2:05:14 Not the fake rules of high school and high school sports.
    2:05:16 Not the fake world of like fourth graders
    2:05:18 only intermingle with fourth graders.
    2:05:20 Not the fake world of some external authority
    2:05:23 telling you what to eat and when to go to the bathroom
    2:05:25 and when to sit down and when to wake up
    2:05:26 and when to go to sleep.
    2:05:28 So they’re trying to learn how to navigate the real world.
    2:05:30 And so I’m getting more to the point of view
    2:05:32 that I just have to help them do that.
    2:05:33 – So let me just put,
    2:05:35 I’m going to put in one public service announcement.
    2:05:38 So on the screen side of things,
    2:05:42 putting aside socio-behavioral questions and so on,
    2:05:44 I would encourage people to check out.
    2:05:48 There’s a Ted Radio Hour mini series, it’s a podcast,
    2:05:51 one of which in a series called “The Body Electric”
    2:05:55 focuses on sort of maladaptive changes
    2:06:00 in the optic system from kids being exposed
    2:06:02 to extended hours, at least that’s what they identify
    2:06:04 as the causal factor, screen time.
    2:06:08 So they showcase a school, I want to say it’s in Cupertino
    2:06:10 or Sunnyvale in Northern California specifically aimed
    2:06:12 at sort of reversing or addressing
    2:06:14 some of these changes in young kids.
    2:06:17 And they’ve sort of tracked these changes
    2:06:19 with a bunch of epidemiological data and so on.
    2:06:22 So anyway, just to put it out there,
    2:06:25 there may be some very obvious visual changes
    2:06:30 that can be attributed to like structural eye adaptations
    2:06:32 or maladaptations with a lot of screen time.
    2:06:34 So people can check out that episode if they want,
    2:06:36 but that’s putting aside all the other stuff.
    2:06:42 Hi guys, Tim here, just a quick reminder,
    2:06:44 very important, stick around after the end
    2:06:46 of our three-person conversation
    2:06:48 to listen to an exclusive bonus segment.
    2:06:51 Close to an hour that Naval and Aaron recorded
    2:06:53 with extra practical tips,
    2:06:55 as well as incremental day-to-day experiments
    2:06:56 that you can test and apply.
    2:06:59 It’s super tactical, so you won’t want to miss it.
    2:06:59 Enjoy.
    2:07:04 What else should we cover guys?
    2:07:06 Anything else?
    2:07:08 Aaron, I remember you had a thread on air chat.
    2:07:09 What was it?
    2:07:11 It was like things to do when you get to the ER,
    2:07:12 things you got to know about the ER.
    2:07:14 What was the thread, do you remember?
    2:07:16 I work in a hospital and a lot of what I do
    2:07:19 is I meet patients in the emergency room
    2:07:22 who are too sick to go home.
    2:07:24 And there’s a big transition that happens
    2:07:27 in the emergency room to having to stay overnight
    2:07:30 in the hospital, perhaps for a couple nights.
    2:07:33 And there’s just a lot of things that go on.
    2:07:35 And I find myself, even in residency,
    2:07:36 I was like, boy, it’d be nice to have
    2:07:38 like a public service announcement
    2:07:41 for some basic things about what happens
    2:07:44 when you come to the hospital or the emergency room
    2:07:47 that people just generally tend not to know.
    2:07:48 That’s what I talked about.
    2:07:52 Some kind of basic, how to survive the emergency room
    2:07:54 and the hospital tips.
    2:07:55 So let’s talk about that.
    2:07:57 You’ve worked as a hospitalist, transitioning people
    2:08:02 from the emergency room into a longer stay in the hospital.
    2:08:04 What are tips to survive that transition?
    2:08:06 If you get to the hospital, what do you need to know?
    2:08:08 I mean, obviously it’s a morbid topic.
    2:08:10 We don’t want to talk about it, but you want to be ready.
    2:08:14 If you or someone you know goes to the ER, what should you do?
    2:08:17 The first thing is before going to the emergency room,
    2:08:19 bringing an accurate medication list.
    2:08:21 That’s probably the most common thing,
    2:08:22 especially older people.
    2:08:24 And a lot of people listening to this podcast
    2:08:27 will be kind of shepherding their older parents
    2:08:28 in this kind of environment.
    2:08:32 And it’s often assumed that the hospital has
    2:08:35 the accurate medication list in the computer system,
    2:08:39 but almost always the list that they have
    2:08:41 doesn’t match the actual meds
    2:08:44 that the person is swallowing on a daily basis.
    2:08:48 And so it’s probably the most relevant,
    2:08:50 most important piece of information
    2:08:52 that the patient or the patient’s family
    2:08:55 knows better than anybody else.
    2:08:57 And so to bring that list,
    2:08:59 make sure that list accompanies the patient
    2:09:01 to the emergency room is just,
    2:09:04 you just can’t emphasize enough how important that is.
    2:09:06 And you want more than one copy
    2:09:09 because what happens is the family will,
    2:09:11 if they have the list, they’ll dutifully give it to the nurse
    2:09:13 or the doctor or whomever.
    2:09:14 And the emergency room doctor looks at it
    2:09:16 and they make their kind of assessment
    2:09:18 and then that gets lost.
    2:09:21 And then if the person is staying in the hospital
    2:09:24 for a couple nights, the hospital doctor
    2:09:25 doesn’t have access to that list
    2:09:26 and they’re kind of guessing.
    2:09:28 That would be the one thing I would say.
    2:09:32 The simplest thing is to have more than one copy
    2:09:33 of the medication list
    2:09:35 and make sure that goes with the patient
    2:09:36 to the emergency room.
    2:09:38 The other easy one is that a lot of times
    2:09:40 patients will just go to different hospitals,
    2:09:42 but what you want to do is have a relationship
    2:09:43 with one hospital
    2:09:45 because they have all your information.
    2:09:47 And so all else being equal,
    2:09:48 unless something terrible is happening
    2:09:49 and there’s an emergency
    2:09:51 and you just don’t have time to get
    2:09:53 to your hospital of choice,
    2:09:56 really go to the hospital that knows you.
    2:09:59 That’s, I would just say, enormously helpful
    2:10:01 because there’s a thought out there understandable
    2:10:04 that all the information systems can communicate,
    2:10:05 but they really can’t.
    2:10:06 It’s very common.
    2:10:07 Yeah, no, they don’t.
    2:10:11 Yeah, sometimes patients and families
    2:10:13 are caught off guard by that.
    2:10:16 I say those are the two easy ones.
    2:10:18 And then if you find yourself in the emergency room,
    2:10:20 hopefully whatever problem you’re there
    2:10:22 can be fixed and you can go home.
    2:10:25 But if you’re not fortunate enough to go home,
    2:10:28 this transition happens that people are not aware of,
    2:10:29 again, understandably,
    2:10:32 is that there’s doctors that only work
    2:10:33 in the emergency room
    2:10:36 and then there’s doctors that only work in the hospital.
    2:10:38 And so if the patient’s too sick to go home,
    2:10:40 they have to stay.
    2:10:43 Then the hospitalist, which is me,
    2:10:45 comes down to the emergency room
    2:10:48 and starts the whole process over of meeting the patient,
    2:10:49 asking them why they’re there,
    2:10:51 how they’ve been doing, et cetera.
    2:10:54 And this kind of second history and interview
    2:10:58 is often made without the supporting family available.
    2:11:00 In other words, a listener to the podcast
    2:11:04 brings their elderly parent to the emergency room.
    2:11:06 The decision is made to keep them in the hospital
    2:11:07 and then the child goes home,
    2:11:09 the son or daughter goes home.
    2:11:11 And then the hospitalist comes down
    2:11:13 and now the hospitalist is having a conversation
    2:11:14 with the patient
    2:11:16 and they’ve already told their story several times
    2:11:18 and there’s this fatigue that sets in.
    2:11:23 And so that hospitalist often doesn’t get the full story
    2:11:25 in the same way that the emergency room doctor gets it.
    2:11:28 The emergency room doctor gets the worried son,
    2:11:31 the worried daughter, the patient gets all the information.
    2:11:33 And then when the hospitalist comes through
    2:11:34 the second time through,
    2:11:38 it’s often a much less information available.
    2:11:41 If your loved one is staying in the hospital,
    2:11:45 you wanna be present for that second interview
    2:11:46 with the hospitalist.
    2:11:49 You don’t have to necessarily even be in the emergency room
    2:11:53 but have your phone ready, keep it on, keep it charged
    2:11:57 and be available to answer that round of questions
    2:11:59 a second time.
    2:12:00 – Yeah, I think anyone who’s had to take someone
    2:12:03 into the hospital realizes just how
    2:12:05 frantic the whole thing is
    2:12:07 and how much communication gets lost
    2:12:09 and how often you have to repeat yourself.
    2:12:11 And then even my brother who has some experience
    2:12:13 in the medical field also, he would always point out to me
    2:12:18 like they come in and the person who’s giving you the medicines
    2:12:21 also has maybe a disconnect from the doctor
    2:12:24 or the hospitalist or the ER and what was already given
    2:12:26 and what the person’s allergic to
    2:12:28 and what the dosage is and all of that.
    2:12:31 So you can really help them with the information flow
    2:12:32 is what it boils down to.
    2:12:35 You have to write everything down, keep lists
    2:12:36 and keep presenting it to them
    2:12:38 and matching it up against what they know
    2:12:39 because the whole thing is chaos,
    2:12:42 it’s control chaos, kind of a miracle that even works.
    2:12:46 – Yeah, control chaos is exactly it.
    2:12:47 There’s so much information.
    2:12:49 It’s hard to say like, oh, do this and don’t do that.
    2:12:52 The thing that matters, I would say that the simple message
    2:12:56 that really stands out is this medication list.
    2:12:58 That is like 50% of it.
    2:13:01 – I’m gonna go assemble one after this.
    2:13:03 – Yeah, I took a note for my parents just to have that.
    2:13:06 Especially if they’re fraying at the edges
    2:13:08 or just getting older in years
    2:13:10 and Aaron, you had a very good Twitter thread
    2:13:13 or maybe it was just a long initial tweet on dementia
    2:13:15 that I thought was very compelling
    2:13:18 that we’ll link to in the show notes as well.
    2:13:21 All right guys, well, we’ve covered a lot of ground.
    2:13:26 Any closing comments, questions, complaints otherwise
    2:13:28 that you guys would like to mention
    2:13:30 before we wind up close?
    2:13:32 – There’s a hierarchy of knowledge here.
    2:13:34 So we’ve got to acknowledge our forebears.
    2:13:36 All of this comes down from Deutsche’s philosophy.
    2:13:40 So beginning of infinity, fabric of reality, great books,
    2:13:42 although they don’t explicitly talk about children.
    2:13:44 Then there’s Taking Children Seriously,
    2:13:46 which I think has a website, FAQ.
    2:13:47 There’s a rich history there.
    2:13:50 And then Aaron has a book, The Sovereign Child
    2:13:53 that he wrote that is like, I’m not gonna plug it,
    2:13:55 but I think there’s a free copy coming out,
    2:13:56 like maybe next week or something.
    2:13:58 It’s even gonna be free available online.
    2:14:00 So it’s not like a big money-making endeavor.
    2:14:02 You can just download the PDF and read it,
    2:14:04 or it’s like a buck on Kindle or something.
    2:14:06 So it’s not a money grab.
    2:14:07 You can just go get the book
    2:14:09 and figure it out for yourself.
    2:14:11 The book is very detailed.
    2:14:14 I would say there’s a lot more that’s out there,
    2:14:17 including very specific cases of what do I do
    2:14:18 when this happens?
    2:14:19 How do you solve that problem?
    2:14:20 What’s your counter to this objection?
    2:14:22 So it’s kind of all there.
    2:14:24 I wish the kids could listen to this
    2:14:26 because I think they might resonate a little bit better
    2:14:28 ’cause parents come from a different angle.
    2:14:30 Educators come from their own angle.
    2:14:32 I wish the wives would be on here at some point.
    2:14:35 Maybe we do a women’s episode if there’s interest.
    2:14:36 But it’s worth trying.
    2:14:39 It’s worth trying these relaxation of rules one by one.
    2:14:40 And it’s not relaxation.
    2:14:45 It’s moving from rules to discussions and problem solving.
    2:14:47 It’s moving from rules to discovery,
    2:14:49 learning and problem solving,
    2:14:52 and trying to solve problems upfront
    2:14:55 in such a way that then it can sustain itself.
    2:14:57 I’m definitely making changes based
    2:14:59 not just on the book, but also on this conversation.
    2:15:01 – Anything from this conversation
    2:15:03 that stuck out for you, Naval?
    2:15:04 – I just need to let go a little bit more.
    2:15:07 Basically, I need to go turn off the screen time controls
    2:15:08 on my younger son’s iPad.
    2:15:12 I need to probably start relaxing some of the food rules
    2:15:14 and some of the screen time rules.
    2:15:15 The math one’s gonna be tough.
    2:15:17 (both laughing)
    2:15:20 I’ll have to introspect on that.
    2:15:23 – Aaron, so the book is The Sovereign Child Subtitle,
    2:15:25 How a Forgotten Philosophy Can Liberate Kids
    2:15:26 and Their Parents.
    2:15:29 Where can people find you online if they wanna learn more
    2:15:33 or just keep up to date on your various
    2:15:36 pronouncements, discussions, ruminations?
    2:15:40 – I’m on X, A stuff on X, really enjoy that
    2:15:42 and holding some spaces and AMAs.
    2:15:45 And that’s really my main location.
    2:15:47 The book has a website and as Naval is saying,
    2:15:50 there’s gonna be rolling out some various
    2:15:53 alternative ways to read it, like a web reader
    2:15:56 and different ways to organize the content.
    2:16:00 – Great, as I disclaim, I push Aaron to write the book
    2:16:02 and I’m a donor to the organization
    2:16:04 that funded the final copy,
    2:16:06 but I don’t make any money off of it.
    2:16:08 It’s not a money exercise.
    2:16:10 Books don’t make money as we all know.
    2:16:10 – Right.
    2:16:11 (both laughing)
    2:16:14 – All right guys, well, thank you for the time.
    2:16:15 And to everybody listening,
    2:16:17 we’ll link to everything in the show notes,
    2:16:20 as per usual, tim.blog/podcast.
    2:16:21 I’m sure if you search Stuple,
    2:16:23 there will be the one and only.
    2:16:24 So that’ll pull up this episode
    2:16:27 and you’ll be able to find everything and more.
    2:16:30 I’m sure we’ll add to the show notes as things go along.
    2:16:35 And thanks to both of you guys, Aaron and Naval for the time.
    2:16:39 And I suppose until next time, folks who are tuning in,
    2:16:41 be a little bit kinder than is necessary
    2:16:43 to others and to yourself.
    2:16:44 Try relaxing some rules.
    2:16:46 Maybe it’s with your kids, maybe it’s with yourself.
    2:16:48 Naval, go eat some ho-hos.
    2:16:49 We should have a tequila party.
    2:16:54 And tequila party with no math requirement.
    2:16:57 And until next time, everybody, thanks for tuning in.
    2:17:01 And now the bonus segment from Aaron and Naval
    2:17:05 with extra tactical, practical day-by-day experiments
    2:17:06 that you can apply.
    2:17:07 Please enjoy.
    2:17:09 – Thank you for joining again, Aaron.
    2:17:13 So let’s talk a little bit more practically
    2:17:16 and down to earth about the taking children seriously,
    2:17:19 philosophy and the sovereign child philosophy.
    2:17:21 So let’s get tactical for a moment.
    2:17:23 Let’s say we’re taking children semi-seriously.
    2:17:26 When we’re starting out.
    2:17:27 – Oh yeah.
    2:17:30 – Let’s go through what I would consider my big four,
    2:17:35 which are eating, sleeping, screen time and learning.
    2:17:36 Actually, there’s probably a fifth,
    2:17:37 which is sibling conflict.
    2:17:39 So maybe you can remind me,
    2:17:41 we can go through all five of those.
    2:17:44 But what is a simple tactical, easy thing
    2:17:46 you could start with on each of these?
    2:17:49 So let’s start with the sibling conflict.
    2:17:52 What is an easy, simple tactical change
    2:17:54 that you could try to make that takes children
    2:17:56 more seriously on sibling conflict
    2:17:58 and would be a good first step to just see,
    2:18:00 is this working or not?
    2:18:03 – I think an easy thing would be to create
    2:18:05 an easy way for kids to opt out.
    2:18:07 Often when kids are having conflict,
    2:18:11 one of them wants to leave the situation.
    2:18:13 And a lot of times, parents require kids
    2:18:17 to kind of reconcile and have this forced apology
    2:18:18 and be there for the whole thing.
    2:18:22 Whereas instead, you would allow the kid to go to their room.
    2:18:24 I know some parents who don’t have a separate room
    2:18:28 for their kids or don’t have a separate space.
    2:18:30 – So create a separate space for a cooling off
    2:18:33 where they can exit any conflict if they want to.
    2:18:34 You also had another strategy in your book,
    2:18:37 which I liked, which was just clear ownership.
    2:18:39 Even if you can’t afford to duplicate or triplicate,
    2:18:41 or in your case, quintiplicate everything,
    2:18:45 you can still make it clear that this belongs to that child
    2:18:47 and that belongs to the other child.
    2:18:50 And this idea of sharing or required sharing
    2:18:52 isn’t necessarily there because we don’t require adults
    2:18:53 to share with each other.
    2:18:55 They do it voluntarily or they negotiate it.
    2:18:58 And you could possibly introduce the same thing with kids.
    2:18:59 So that’s a simple one.
    2:19:02 – Yeah, another simple one for sibling conflict
    2:19:07 would be not to reprimand the aggressor in the moment.
    2:19:11 Just to wait until things cool down
    2:19:13 and just kind of make it a policy that in the moment,
    2:19:15 we’re going to let tempers simmer down
    2:19:18 and then talk about things when a kid is more able
    2:19:20 to be thoughtful about it.
    2:19:21 – Yeah, and this would be true
    2:19:23 with spouses relationships as well.
    2:19:25 You get in the fight with your spouse.
    2:19:27 You don’t immediately start accusing or reprimanding them.
    2:19:30 You sort of just try to cool the tension down first.
    2:19:33 And then 24 hours later, you can have a real conversation.
    2:19:36 Although the kid’s case, by then the emotions pass
    2:19:38 and they don’t really care as much anymore.
    2:19:39 – Right.
    2:19:41 – Okay, so that’s great.
    2:19:43 A set of good, simple tactics on sibling conflict
    2:19:45 and not saying to introduce all of these at once,
    2:19:47 but you can start with one and see how it goes.
    2:19:49 Let’s take another one.
    2:19:51 How do you think about learning?
    2:19:52 The child doesn’t want to learn.
    2:19:54 And that could take different forms.
    2:19:55 One could be they don’t want to go to school.
    2:19:57 They don’t want to do their homework.
    2:19:59 They don’t want to study their math.
    2:20:00 Is there a simple tactic
    2:20:02 we could try to get through this challenge?
    2:20:06 – I think one thing is to just think about the time involved.
    2:20:07 And this really goes for everything.
    2:20:12 I think one simple way to gradually shift away from rules
    2:20:17 is just to build in a little bit of time
    2:20:20 between when a problem is noticed
    2:20:24 and when you start enforcing some sort of change.
    2:20:25 And so with learning, right?
    2:20:28 Like when does a kid need to learn to read?
    2:20:31 Let’s say reading is absolutely essential.
    2:20:33 Can’t let a kid not learn to read.
    2:20:35 Can’t let a kid not learn math.
    2:20:37 But when do they need to learn math?
    2:20:39 When do they need to learn to read?
    2:20:40 I think you realize right there,
    2:20:42 there is an enormous amount of time.
    2:20:45 And so once you just have some time to think about it,
    2:20:46 it takes the pressure off.
    2:20:51 And that time also enables fun things to arise
    2:20:54 that also bring about reading and writing.
    2:20:57 For example, my daughter is having a birthday.
    2:20:59 And one thing we decided was,
    2:21:01 and we presented this idea to her,
    2:21:04 she loved it, that she’s in charge of her birthday.
    2:21:07 And being in charge of her birthday is doing the invitations
    2:21:10 and doing the invitations requires writing.
    2:21:12 So she made all the invitations
    2:21:14 and it was really quite fantastic, right?
    2:21:16 ‘Cause there’s a lot more to it than just even writing.
    2:21:18 There’s dates, the calendars,
    2:21:21 writing the address on the envelope,
    2:21:24 suddenly streets, zip codes, states, towns,
    2:21:27 like all of that, you know, a lot of civics,
    2:21:29 a lot of writing, a lot of reading,
    2:21:34 all is happening in a very authentic, genuine way,
    2:21:38 built on or structured around her interests.
    2:21:42 She recognizes the need to be able to read and write
    2:21:43 in this context.
    2:21:45 Another thing is video games.
    2:21:46 A lot of these video games,
    2:21:48 the characters talking with the other character
    2:21:51 and the words are appearing in little thought bubbles.
    2:21:53 And you really can’t navigate the video games,
    2:21:55 some of these video games without reading.
    2:21:58 And I think you have that just over and over and over.
    2:22:02 Things that are absolutely essential for kids to learn
    2:22:05 are very useful and very prevalent.
    2:22:08 And you really can’t do much in the world
    2:22:10 without bumping into these things.
    2:22:11 – It’s a good point ’cause a lot of times
    2:22:14 you’ll help your kids with these things.
    2:22:16 They’re struggling with their computer or their iPad
    2:22:18 and you’ll fast forward the whole problem for them.
    2:22:21 But then you force them to sit down
    2:22:25 and slowly methodically try to learn almost the same skill set
    2:22:28 but in a very regimented, artificial way.
    2:22:30 And so it’s always better done in context,
    2:22:32 which of course requires a lot of parental involvement,
    2:22:33 a lot of parental time.
    2:22:34 So what do you think about that?
    2:22:38 I mean, does TCS take a lot of parental time,
    2:22:41 which a lot of parents just don’t have?
    2:22:42 – Yes and no.
    2:22:46 The simple answer there is that enforcing rules
    2:22:47 takes a ton of time.
    2:22:51 And not just time, but anxiety and stress.
    2:22:52 You know, managing somebody else.
    2:22:53 – Stressful time.
    2:22:54 – Yeah.
    2:22:56 – The iPad is the best babysitter ever designed.
    2:22:59 If you’re not too concerned about the second order effects
    2:23:01 or if you don’t necessarily view them as negative,
    2:23:03 if you just view them as they are what they are,
    2:23:05 then it is the best babysitter ever designed.
    2:23:07 It’s the best adults that are ever designed.
    2:23:10 We’re always on our phones scrolling
    2:23:13 and we’re constantly criticizing
    2:23:14 the doom scrolling on the phone,
    2:23:16 but then we continue to get ourselves.
    2:23:19 So our words don’t actually match our actions.
    2:23:22 – Yeah, I could talk about that one.
    2:23:24 I think the unique thing about the iPad
    2:23:27 is that it is the most customized device, right?
    2:23:30 Like if you go back in time, right?
    2:23:31 If you buy a car, you’re going to get the same
    2:23:33 Sahanda Civic that everybody else gets.
    2:23:35 If you buy a Walkman even, right?
    2:23:37 You get the same Sony Walkman that everybody else gets.
    2:23:40 Maybe a few different modifications,
    2:23:44 but with an iPad, you can modify this thing endlessly
    2:23:47 for a very wide variety of activities.
    2:23:51 And it’s so easy to reduce the iPad down
    2:23:53 to a piece of glass with light behind it.
    2:23:56 – Right, it’s a portal into the internet.
    2:24:00 It’s a portal into all the media that exists.
    2:24:02 – And it’s a springboard to interests, right?
    2:24:04 It is a platform for discovering and creating
    2:24:06 and kindling interests.
    2:24:10 And from those, you can attach reading, writing, math.
    2:24:13 There’s cooking shows, like kids’ cooking shows.
    2:24:15 My youngest daughter is really into cooking.
    2:24:17 – This is not part of TCS philosophy,
    2:24:19 or this is not the full TCS philosophy,
    2:24:22 but I think as a parent, you could do partial things.
    2:24:25 You could say, here’s an iPad, it’s curated.
    2:24:26 I picked what’s on there.
    2:24:29 But within that set, you can just use it.
    2:24:31 Or you can use it within these hours, right?
    2:24:34 But within those hours, it’s relatively unstructured.
    2:24:35 – Absolutely.
    2:24:37 – And not browby kids over playing chess
    2:24:39 versus playing video games.
    2:24:43 I actually grew up really disliking chess and backgammon
    2:24:46 and go in all of the standard smart kid games.
    2:24:48 And I just loved brainless video games
    2:24:50 and lots and lots of them.
    2:24:53 But over time, my taste got more and more sophisticated.
    2:24:55 And so if someone had forced me to play chess,
    2:24:59 I think that would have been a pretty miserable childhood.
    2:25:01 – That’s another just big general point
    2:25:03 that I think has lost the,
    2:25:06 there’s a difference between describing
    2:25:08 the kind of ideal end state, right?
    2:25:12 Kind of the goal of this like freedom maximization state.
    2:25:15 And that’s a different question from,
    2:25:17 how do I get from the state we’re in now
    2:25:20 to that goal ideal state?
    2:25:22 And a sudden change is a bad idea.
    2:25:26 And so I’m not advocating suddenly just ripping off
    2:25:30 all the rules and shifting to a free for all.
    2:25:32 Instead, the recommendation of the thought
    2:25:35 is that you want incremental changes.
    2:25:37 How can you make small modifications,
    2:25:40 small reversible modifications
    2:25:44 that lead in a direction to a state of more freedom
    2:25:47 and lead in a direction to less rules?
    2:25:49 That is the goal of parenting, right?
    2:25:51 Like eventually kid goes off to college
    2:25:54 and is in a state of very few rules.
    2:25:56 Do you want that to be a sudden shift?
    2:26:00 Do you want rules to suddenly be withdrawn?
    2:26:02 Isn’t it ideal to withdraw those rules,
    2:26:07 to wean off those rules earlier and earlier in life gradually?
    2:26:09 – Well, actually, one of the things we’re already seeing
    2:26:10 in response to your book,
    2:26:12 people talking about it on Twitter, for example,
    2:26:16 is they will say, well, my kids are teenagers too late.
    2:26:17 And so there’s an abdication there.
    2:26:18 It’s like, once they’re teenagers,
    2:26:19 there’s no rules anymore.
    2:26:20 They’re just kind of doing whatever they want.
    2:26:22 I try to enforce certain rules
    2:26:24 just by owning the house that they haven’t to live in,
    2:26:26 but even there, it’s frustrating.
    2:26:29 So by the time they’re 10, 11, 12,
    2:26:31 your rules are all gone anyway.
    2:26:33 So, or being ignored for the most part.
    2:26:35 So are you gonna tear that bandaid off
    2:26:36 or let them tear it off?
    2:26:39 Or are you going to gradually relax the rules
    2:26:40 in anticipation of what is to come?
    2:26:43 – Yeah, I think it’s a safe thing, right?
    2:26:45 If we’re worried about this being risky,
    2:26:49 it is a safe thing to be thinking about
    2:26:52 how do I gradually relax my rules
    2:26:54 so that my kid can be independent?
    2:26:57 I’ll make an analogy in medicine, right?
    2:26:58 A lot of times somebody’s very sick
    2:26:59 and they’re on a lot of oxygen
    2:27:01 and or they’re in the intensive care unit
    2:27:02 and they’re on the breathing machine.
    2:27:07 And what they’ve learned is that you have to give patients
    2:27:09 the opportunity to breathe on their own
    2:27:12 and see if they don’t need the machine.
    2:27:14 And so there are dedicated trials every morning
    2:27:16 for everybody who’s on a breathing machine
    2:27:18 is to try them on minimal settings
    2:27:20 and see how they can do.
    2:27:23 And you don’t want to have a person
    2:27:27 on maximum life support any longer than they need it.
    2:27:31 And the only way to tell is to pull it back a little bit.
    2:27:33 And so I think of taking children seriously
    2:27:36 as you’re constantly pulling back the support
    2:27:40 just a little bit to see if they can make it on their own.
    2:27:41 That’s always the goals.
    2:27:45 How do I gradually, safely wean off the support?
    2:27:49 It’s not a recommendation to withdraw all the support
    2:27:52 suddenly and see if the person can sink or swim.
    2:27:53 That’s not the idea.
    2:27:54 I would recommend against that.
    2:27:56 – How would you relax sleeping?
    2:27:58 What is the first rule you would rule around sleeping?
    2:28:01 – So sleeping, how would you do this gradually, right?
    2:28:03 I think one thing is you kind of recognize
    2:28:05 that the bedtimes are arbitrary, right?
    2:28:09 There is no manual that says 637, 30, 830.
    2:28:10 It’s usually a 30, right?
    2:28:12 Maybe it’s seven, eight, right?
    2:28:14 Why isn’t it 815?
    2:28:17 Why isn’t it 715, 718, right?
    2:28:18 So…
    2:28:19 – Sun down to sunrise.
    2:28:21 – Sun down to sunrise, right?
    2:28:24 So why not just say, you know what?
    2:28:26 Why don’t we relax this by half an hour?
    2:28:29 You know, if the kid’s bedtime is 730,
    2:28:31 let’s try eight o’clock and see what happens.
    2:28:32 You could tell the kid,
    2:28:34 look, we’re just gonna do eight o’clock for a week
    2:28:35 and see what happens.
    2:28:38 And just honestly, just pay attention.
    2:28:41 Did the sky fall or was it kind of okay?
    2:28:43 And then if it wasn’t okay, the beauty is,
    2:28:47 is that it’s not gonna be okay for some people.
    2:28:49 Then that raises the question.
    2:28:50 This is the epistemology.
    2:28:53 It raises the question, why wasn’t it okay?
    2:28:56 And now you’re investigating what is wrong
    2:28:58 when my kid doesn’t get enough sleep?
    2:29:00 And then how do we fix that?
    2:29:03 – I also think a lot of this ties into adult sleep habits.
    2:29:05 It’s strange that they’re being forced to go to sleep
    2:29:08 when you’re awake for the next four hours.
    2:29:09 The reality is in my house,
    2:29:10 if we turn all the lights down,
    2:29:11 if the adults go to sleep,
    2:29:13 the kids will scurry to sleep.
    2:29:14 They don’t wanna be awake by themselves.
    2:29:15 It’s scary that they’re at their age.
    2:29:17 They’re bored and scary.
    2:29:18 – Oh, scary too, yeah.
    2:29:19 – Yeah, exactly.
    2:29:21 And then in the morning, they’ll sleep in,
    2:29:23 they’re young, they’ll sleep longer.
    2:29:26 But as an adult, if you really want them to go to sleep early,
    2:29:28 just go to sleep early yourself.
    2:29:30 But that’s easier said than done.
    2:29:32 – Well, it’s another thing you could try, right?
    2:29:33 You could try saying,
    2:29:34 you know what, I’m just gonna go to sleep
    2:29:35 and see what happens.
    2:29:37 Let’s turn the lights off and go to sleep
    2:29:38 and see what happens.
    2:29:41 So yeah, like basically many experiments like that.
    2:29:44 And then also on the waking up side,
    2:29:45 what time do they need to wake up?
    2:29:48 Is there any way I can build in some extra time
    2:29:49 in the morning?
    2:29:52 And often you’re stuck because you gotta go to work,
    2:29:54 but there’s breakfast.
    2:29:56 Can breakfast be made the night before?
    2:29:59 Can I figure out a way to minimize my kid’s routine
    2:30:02 so they can wake up in extra 15 minutes,
    2:30:04 an extra half hour?
    2:30:06 And then your kid was probably gonna notice
    2:30:10 that you are working hard to try to get them more sleep.
    2:30:12 What an interesting message that sends.
    2:30:13 Like, hey, I really want you
    2:30:15 to be able to sleep in in the morning.
    2:30:17 And damn, you gotta get up for school,
    2:30:20 but it takes a half hour to get breakfast
    2:30:21 and to get changed and everything.
    2:30:23 Let’s pick out your clothes tonight.
    2:30:25 What you wanna do that or I can pick them out for you.
    2:30:29 – And to be fair, I think every parent views themselves
    2:30:31 almost in service to their child at some point, you know,
    2:30:33 and they’re always trying to help the children.
    2:30:35 And they try these things early on
    2:30:37 and then it gets frustrating and life gets busy
    2:30:40 and they just eventually start establishing rules.
    2:30:42 And society sort of makes it easy
    2:30:43 for you to establish the rules.
    2:30:44 They give you a set of rules in books.
    2:30:45 They tell you like, oh yeah, my kids
    2:30:47 are doing nap time at this time.
    2:30:49 So you kind of go along with the Joneses.
    2:30:50 And then school, of course,
    2:30:53 and work and schedules establish rules.
    2:30:56 So a lot of this actually also means
    2:30:59 you as an adult unburdening yourself from rules.
    2:31:00 And this goes to larger points
    2:31:03 about try to live a less scheduled life.
    2:31:04 If you have the choice and the luxury,
    2:31:07 try to pick jobs where you can control your time
    2:31:08 much better.
    2:31:10 And then that allows you to not have to control
    2:31:12 your kid’s time as much.
    2:31:14 If you wanna maximize your kid’s freedom
    2:31:16 and therefore they’re able to learn and solve problems,
    2:31:19 you have to maximize your own freedom as well.
    2:31:20 That’s a journey for everybody.
    2:31:21 Let’s go to eating.
    2:31:22 That’s a tough one.
    2:31:25 In your book, you sort of embrace this fully.
    2:31:27 You’re just like, yeah, they have access to everything.
    2:31:29 They just eat whatever they want, whatever they want.
    2:31:30 They might live on a diet of Oreos
    2:31:32 and chocolate bars for a little while
    2:31:33 until they figure it out.
    2:31:34 I’m not willing to go there.
    2:31:36 I don’t think most people are.
    2:31:38 So where do we start?
    2:31:40 – A great way to start is always the kid’s interest.
    2:31:42 And it’ll be interesting to know what kind of foods
    2:31:44 they are interested in.
    2:31:48 What forbidden foods are they interested in chocolate?
    2:31:51 And you could explore, are there foods with chocolate
    2:31:54 that don’t make you uncomfortable, right?
    2:31:58 Instead of Oreos, are there, I don’t know.
    2:31:59 – Yeah, dark chocolate.
    2:32:01 – Yeah, no, a dark chocolate, yeah.
    2:32:02 Chocolate made with honey.
    2:32:04 There is definitely a hierarchy of chocolate.
    2:32:06 – Okay, yeah, so if you think there’s a hierarchy
    2:32:08 of chocolate, you could explore the hierarchy.
    2:32:10 Another thing is exploring yourself.
    2:32:12 Like, what are you worried about
    2:32:14 with these particular foods?
    2:32:15 A lot of times with the chocolate and the sweets,
    2:32:17 it’s that the kid will get hyper
    2:32:19 and there’s an open question
    2:32:21 about whether that is true or not.
    2:32:24 And you could just let the kids eat the sweets
    2:32:28 and see if they are, in fact, more hyper.
    2:32:29 – It is definitely the common belief.
    2:32:31 I personally have not seen it.
    2:32:33 I haven’t seen a correlation between sugar
    2:32:37 and hyperactivity, especially past a very young age,
    2:32:38 maybe early, early, early on,
    2:32:42 but I think as soon as they’re sort of choosing their foods,
    2:32:44 I don’t notice a hyperactivity around food.
    2:32:46 I think it’s more around just calories and nutrients
    2:32:50 and less around something magic with sugar.
    2:32:51 But, you know, everyone’s different.
    2:32:53 I don’t get runner’s high either.
    2:32:57 So, it’s a variable thing.
    2:32:58 Yeah, I mean, I think people
    2:33:00 already do have loosening of rules, right?
    2:33:01 There’s usually like something like,
    2:33:04 oh, okay, after you eat your meal,
    2:33:05 you can have your dessert.
    2:33:06 And then within dessert,
    2:33:09 it’s not like you’ve laid out exactly how many ounces
    2:33:11 and how many calories and so on,
    2:33:15 but anything that gives a child more choice, more freedom,
    2:33:17 maybe choices of desserts,
    2:33:19 maybe even saying, okay, you can eat your dessert now,
    2:33:21 but then you have to eat your food later.
    2:33:23 And if you don’t, the next time, you don’t have that freedom.
    2:33:25 I know there’s a little this antithetical,
    2:33:27 it’s sort of like better conditions in the prison
    2:33:30 if you will, right?
    2:33:32 But nevertheless, you can start by relaxing
    2:33:33 some of these things.
    2:33:35 I will say our kids don’t have complete freedom
    2:33:37 in whatever they wanna eat, whenever they wanna eat,
    2:33:39 but we’re gonna start moving more towards that,
    2:33:41 but part of it is we’ll just restrict
    2:33:43 what kinds of foods are in the house, period.
    2:33:44 And that’s for the adults’ sake too,
    2:33:46 because I’ve noticed that my wife
    2:33:48 and I end up eating a lot of the kids’ food,
    2:33:50 and it shows up on our waistline
    2:33:52 ’cause we don’t have the metabolism of a 10-year-old.
    2:33:55 Another thing you could do is just see how much they eat.
    2:33:58 Would they in fact overeat ice cream?
    2:34:00 Often there’s a treat during the day,
    2:34:02 and let’s say there’s cookies,
    2:34:04 and there’s a limit to how many cookies.
    2:34:06 Just like notice, if there’s no limit,
    2:34:08 how many cookies do the kids eat?
    2:34:11 It just might be that they don’t eat that many cookies,
    2:34:13 or you could take a week and say, you know what,
    2:34:17 let’s just try a week and not put any limits on things
    2:34:20 and see how much the kids eat.
    2:34:23 And one thing I think with food is to,
    2:34:27 what I noticed with family, with kids around food,
    2:34:29 is that they would try to get the kids to eat
    2:34:33 in a certain way to forestall problems later on.
    2:34:34 Like you want the kid to eat now
    2:34:36 so they’re not hungry later,
    2:34:39 but they’ll get hungry later anyway.
    2:34:41 So you had two problems.
    2:34:44 You had the fight about eating now,
    2:34:46 and you had to deal with the hunger later,
    2:34:50 where maybe they’re not going to be hungry later.
    2:34:52 In other words, maybe the problems
    2:34:54 that you’re envisioning around food won’t show up.
    2:34:57 – Yeah, it’s also not how adults eat.
    2:34:59 Like I don’t stuff myself at five p.m.,
    2:35:01 so I won’t be hungry at eight p.m., right?
    2:35:05 I do control my own eating based on what I’m hungry
    2:35:07 and what I’m not, there’s a natural signal.
    2:35:08 And I think there’s some frustration
    2:35:10 because parents often have to cook
    2:35:12 and there’s a certain amount of time when the food is ready.
    2:35:14 So the creativity might be in changing
    2:35:16 the kind of food that you make,
    2:35:17 or if the kids are old enough,
    2:35:20 even teaching them to cook a little bit for themselves,
    2:35:22 or having the food ready to go,
    2:35:25 but the final step isn’t done until they are hungry.
    2:35:27 I mean, if you just wait long enough, they’ll be hungry.
    2:35:29 So that’ll solve that.
    2:35:31 Just like if you wait long enough,
    2:35:33 if they’re eating Oreos, they’ll get stuffed
    2:35:34 and they won’t want to eat anymore.
    2:35:37 And I think all of us have some story from our childhood
    2:35:39 where we over-did it on something,
    2:35:41 and then we learned our lesson, right?
    2:35:43 Whatever it was, whether it was a drug or alcohol
    2:35:46 or food or sugar or what have you.
    2:35:49 What are some other common objections and tactics
    2:35:52 that you found to be useful in those cases?
    2:35:55 – I think basically another way to build in more freedom
    2:36:00 is to not focus on rules and instead focus on blocks of time.
    2:36:02 I notice that my parents,
    2:36:04 when they’re interacting with my kids,
    2:36:06 they’re not trying to get them dressed.
    2:36:07 They’re not trying to get them fed.
    2:36:09 They don’t have an agenda.
    2:36:11 They’re just spending time with them.
    2:36:14 And it’s pretty magical, the things that would emerge.
    2:36:15 And I’m asking myself,
    2:36:16 how come they’re not doing that
    2:36:19 when I’m spending time with them?
    2:36:20 And that’s because in the back of my mind,
    2:36:23 I’m always thinking, this thing is coming up,
    2:36:24 dinner’s coming up,
    2:36:26 they got to get dressed to go outside,
    2:36:28 they got to go to bed.
    2:36:33 And so I’m constantly in a state of managing them.
    2:36:36 And if I more clearly kind of pretend
    2:36:39 to be in grandparent time,
    2:36:43 I just spend 10 minutes not trying to get them to do anything.
    2:36:47 And instead being with them and trying to help them explore,
    2:36:50 help them with whatever they happen to be interested in.
    2:36:52 – Agenda-free blocks of time, what do you basically say?
    2:36:53 – Agenda-free blocks of time.
    2:36:55 Yeah, I’ll start the planning for dinner
    2:36:57 in an hour or in 30 minutes.
    2:37:00 I’ll start figuring out how to get them into a car in an hour.
    2:37:02 But right now I’m just gonna spend agenda-free time.
    2:37:06 So there isn’t always this threat looming over them
    2:37:08 where at any moment,
    2:37:10 mom or dad could be forcing them to do something.
    2:37:11 There is some free time,
    2:37:14 some playtime for the adults, frankly,
    2:37:15 in addition to a playtime for the kids.
    2:37:17 – Yeah, exactly.
    2:37:18 The other one would be,
    2:37:23 in general, it is trying to understand the problem.
    2:37:26 Whenever there’s something that you want your kid to do,
    2:37:28 there’s always a benefit,
    2:37:31 there’s always a value in finding out
    2:37:35 what it is about the thing that they prefer to do.
    2:37:37 – Yeah, I think this boils down to is
    2:37:40 rather than just slipping into rules,
    2:37:43 going on autopilot and absorbing the rest of the rules
    2:37:46 that are laid down by social norms and conventions,
    2:37:48 you should always be trying to freedom maximize your kid.
    2:37:50 You should always be testing to see
    2:37:53 if they’re capable of handling themselves.
    2:37:55 And not necessarily to exactly your requirements,
    2:37:57 but just not getting injured
    2:37:59 or getting into some short-term trouble
    2:38:01 by constantly relaxing rules
    2:38:03 and looking for creative solutions to solve the problem.
    2:38:06 And the book is full of ideas to do that.
    2:38:08 The philosophy is full of ideas to do that.
    2:38:11 Some people like you are living 100%
    2:38:16 and your children are being treated like little guest adults
    2:38:17 running around in your house.
    2:38:20 And in my case, maybe it’s 60% of the way there
    2:38:22 and I’ve gone there from 40% of the way there
    2:38:24 and maybe we’ll get the rest of the way there.
    2:38:26 And I’d be interested in learning more tips, more hacks,
    2:38:29 more tricks, more attempts, more changes.
    2:38:33 But it is grounded in a coherent philosophy
    2:38:38 around these are essentially adults with less knowledge
    2:38:42 and it is our job as parents to help them learn
    2:38:44 to navigate the world and to do that
    2:38:46 in a gradual incremental way
    2:38:48 rather than laying down the rules
    2:38:50 and running their life for them
    2:38:54 until there’s suddenly either thrust into the real world
    2:38:56 and then have to figure it all out from scratch,
    2:38:59 including how to control their own screen time
    2:39:00 and control their own eating
    2:39:02 and control their own sleep schedule and all of that.
    2:39:05 Or when they become teenagers, they just rebel against you
    2:39:07 and then they go and do the exact opposite
    2:39:09 of everything you force them to do
    2:39:11 and resent you afterwards.
    2:39:12 – In terms of incremental change,
    2:39:17 the thing that I tell my friends a lot is I suggest
    2:39:21 that whenever they wanna make their kids do something,
    2:39:23 they try it in a different way.
    2:39:26 In other words, there’s a uniformity to rules.
    2:39:29 Like you have to wear your mittens when you go outside
    2:39:30 or you have to wear shoes when you go outside.
    2:39:32 Instead, just try different things.
    2:39:34 Or one is like getting the kid in the car
    2:39:36 and putting the kid in the car seat.
    2:39:39 And you could try explaining what we’re doing.
    2:39:41 You could try giving them an iPad,
    2:39:44 try some snacks in the car.
    2:39:46 And you could try putting on a movie
    2:39:47 on the overhead thing in the car.
    2:39:49 You could try making a game.
    2:39:51 Let’s race to the car, right?
    2:39:53 You could try.
    2:39:55 – Yeah, you could try having told them about it beforehand,
    2:39:56 maybe gotten their consent
    2:39:58 and what time you’re gonna leave together.
    2:39:59 – Exactly, yeah.
    2:40:02 – You could try going for a walk for 10 minutes together
    2:40:03 and then get in the car
    2:40:05 as opposed to just jump straight in the car.
    2:40:06 – There you go.
    2:40:09 If the car, if we’re going to work or going to school,
    2:40:11 we can build in a trip beforehand.
    2:40:12 School’s a bad idea.
    2:40:14 But if we’re going somewhere on an errand,
    2:40:16 oh, you like going to the playground.
    2:40:17 Yeah, well, let’s go to the playground
    2:40:19 and then we’ll go to this thing and then we’ll come home.
    2:40:22 In other words, if you’re always trying new things,
    2:40:24 then you’re, even if you’re failing
    2:40:27 and you force the kid, that’s completely different
    2:40:29 than saying, you gotta do what I say, right?
    2:40:31 We’re getting in the car, getting the car.
    2:40:33 When I say something, you have to listen to me.
    2:40:36 That is kind of a guaranteed failure.
    2:40:39 Whereas trying something new every time
    2:40:42 has the possibility of succeeding.
    2:40:43 It’s more about discovering.
    2:40:46 When you succeed, you learn more about your kid’s interests.
    2:40:49 Your kid sees you as a more fun person.
    2:40:50 Your kid sees you as somebody
    2:40:52 that they’re more willing to listen to
    2:40:54 and take their advice.
    2:40:56 I think that’s a big thing is that
    2:40:59 instead of enforcing the same rule in the same way
    2:41:03 every single time, you think of a new way
    2:41:05 and just try something new each time.
    2:41:06 – At the center of all this,
    2:41:11 there just seems to me that even as adults,
    2:41:14 we are still struggling with the same issues.
    2:41:17 And we’re trying to protect our kids
    2:41:21 from struggles that we ourselves never quite exit.
    2:41:22 I still struggle with screen time.
    2:41:24 I still struggle with sleep time.
    2:41:25 I still struggle with reading.
    2:41:27 I still struggle with doing my chores.
    2:41:29 Yeah, constant struggle.
    2:41:31 And it’s a struggle that’s been ongoing my entire life
    2:41:32 and I’ve learned and I’ve changed.
    2:41:35 But yet my kid is supposed to follow orders
    2:41:38 and then miraculously develop a habit that I never did.
    2:41:39 – Or even put it differently.
    2:41:41 It’s hard to know how to sleep.
    2:41:43 We can just admit that.
    2:41:45 Many adults we know don’t sleep well.
    2:41:47 What is the solution?
    2:41:48 It’s hard to know.
    2:41:51 It’s hard to know for yourself the best way to sleep.
    2:41:54 Now, how do you know for somebody else
    2:41:56 the best way to sleep?
    2:41:57 That is the trick.
    2:41:59 It’s hard to know for yourself the best way to eat.
    2:42:02 It’s really hard to know how somebody else should eat.
    2:42:04 And just over and over and over,
    2:42:06 adults struggle with screens, exactly.
    2:42:08 What should a kid’s relationship be with screens?
    2:42:11 The truth is, not even the truth,
    2:42:13 from a safety perspective,
    2:42:16 the one thing that kids have that we adults don’t have
    2:42:19 is the kids have a trusted guide, right?
    2:42:21 When sleep is going really bad,
    2:42:24 they have an adult that can help problem solve.
    2:42:25 When food is going really badly,
    2:42:28 they have an adult that can help problem solve.
    2:42:29 If it’s about being overweight,
    2:42:31 if it’s about being hungry,
    2:42:33 if it’s about not finding foods that they like,
    2:42:36 at least you have an adult that you can talk to,
    2:42:39 and you wanna preserve that openness and that trust.
    2:42:41 And that’s really the way that I see it with my kids,
    2:42:43 that I see it as a safety issue,
    2:42:47 that I wanna make sure that my kids always see me
    2:42:50 as somebody who can help when they’re having a trouble
    2:42:53 with anything in life, from food to the neighbor,
    2:42:56 to a girlfriend, to drugs.
    2:42:58 – What about what’s the really popular fear today,
    2:43:03 popularized fear, the current moral panic around addiction?
    2:43:06 So there was a time when it was about kids being
    2:43:08 addicted to television.
    2:43:11 Before that, it was kids being addicted to radio.
    2:43:14 It was a time when kids were even considered addicted to books.
    2:43:15 I think young Abraham Lincoln,
    2:43:16 maybe this pointed out in your book,
    2:43:19 you know, his parents hated that he was always reading.
    2:43:20 I remember when I was a kid,
    2:43:21 my mom would yell at me to go outside and play
    2:43:23 ’cause I was reading too much.
    2:43:25 She meant well, obviously.
    2:43:26 But yeah, I don’t like playing with your kids.
    2:43:27 I like reading.
    2:43:29 And I was reading what would be considered junk reading
    2:43:31 by today’s standards.
    2:43:32 But the current one is screens.
    2:43:36 Things like TikTok and Instagram and YouTube
    2:43:39 are completely weaponized.
    2:43:41 These are basically very short form content.
    2:43:45 Their dopamine, you know, flooding your brain with dopamine
    2:43:47 can’t look away addicted to it locked in.
    2:43:49 What do you say to that?
    2:43:51 – Yeah, without being cavalier about it,
    2:43:53 what I would challenge people who are worried
    2:43:55 about screen addiction and video game addiction
    2:43:58 and internet addiction is to say,
    2:44:02 what would be a thing that somebody could really like a lot
    2:44:05 and be upset when it’s taken away from them
    2:44:07 that they’re not addicted to?
    2:44:10 In other words, having a girlfriend or a boyfriend
    2:44:12 who’s, you know, breaks up with you,
    2:44:14 is that an addiction when you’re, you know,
    2:44:16 separated from that person and you have longing
    2:44:19 and you’re irritable and you keep on thinking about them
    2:44:21 or is there something else going on?
    2:44:25 And so I think the word addiction is expanded.
    2:44:27 – That used to mean something that created biological
    2:44:30 withdrawal symptoms where literally your receptors
    2:44:33 had downregulated and you couldn’t function at all normally
    2:44:36 and you would be completely in a helpless state
    2:44:38 unless you got the drug back.
    2:44:40 – Right, regardless of the contents of your mind,
    2:44:43 if an alcoholic is separated from alcohol,
    2:44:46 they’re going to go into a physiological withdrawal
    2:44:49 regardless of what they think about alcohol,
    2:44:52 how much they wanna quit, how much they agree, et cetera.
    2:44:56 Same thing with a smoker, a nicotine addict, et cetera.
    2:44:59 Whereas there are people who play a lot of video games
    2:45:01 who just get bored of video games
    2:45:03 or get bored of that particular video game
    2:45:06 and walk away from it or, you know,
    2:45:07 being addicted to like fast food,
    2:45:09 that was a nice, a common one.
    2:45:11 There are people that will stop eating a lot of fast food
    2:45:13 and immediately start feeling better.
    2:45:18 And so just because you are partaking in something
    2:45:21 repeatedly doesn’t mean you have a physiological
    2:45:23 dependence on it.
    2:45:24 – I will say compared to my friends,
    2:45:27 my kids have a lot more freedom in terms of what they eat
    2:45:28 and how much games they play.
    2:45:30 Like they probably play video games four, five,
    2:45:31 six hours a day.
    2:45:34 And I’ve noticed that the older one, the eldest,
    2:45:36 his tastes have expanded.
    2:45:39 He’s gone from eating mostly desserts and chocolate
    2:45:41 and ice cream and noodles to now he’s at least moved
    2:45:45 towards bacon and toast and olives and pickles
    2:45:46 and, you know, starting developing
    2:45:49 some more sophisticated flavors or flavor palette.
    2:45:51 And in the video game genre,
    2:45:53 he’s gone from the very simplistic video games
    2:45:56 to now he wants more and more open-ended worlds.
    2:45:57 He wants more building.
    2:45:58 He wants more exploring.
    2:46:02 Things like Roblox and Minecraft are much deeper games
    2:46:04 than some of the very narrow games
    2:46:06 where you’re just kind of doing the same thing over and over.
    2:46:07 Which is not to say he doesn’t do the mindless games
    2:46:10 from time to time, but just like an adult,
    2:46:11 his flavor palette is expanding.
    2:46:13 His taste palette is expanding.
    2:46:16 And as these very, very simple things,
    2:46:18 their ability to surprise goes away.
    2:46:21 Even with TikTok, I would bet I don’t use TikTok
    2:46:23 and, you know, I use YouTube a lot,
    2:46:25 but YouTube shorts don’t appeal to me.
    2:46:27 Once in a while, if I’m very busy,
    2:46:29 I’ll scroll through one, two, or three,
    2:46:30 but very quickly you realize
    2:46:32 there’s sort of these empty little snacks.
    2:46:33 There’s not enough there.
    2:46:36 It might be enough like if you have no time
    2:46:38 or if you’re just mildly interested in a topic
    2:46:40 and you want to see the most sensationalist thing
    2:46:42 on that topic, but very quickly,
    2:46:45 you actually end up moving towards some subject
    2:46:47 where you have interest and then you dive deep
    2:46:49 and then you go to longer and longer videos
    2:46:51 and, God forbid, you might even end up
    2:46:52 in a blog post or a book.
    2:46:53 So they’re good for exploration,
    2:46:55 but not necessarily for diving deep.
    2:46:57 In fact, I think when people talk
    2:47:00 about these horrible addictions,
    2:47:04 it’s always someone else that they use as an example.
    2:47:06 You rarely see anyone come forward and say,
    2:47:09 “Yes, I am a complete TikTok addict.
    2:47:11 “I can’t peel my eyes away.
    2:47:13 “I consume it for eight hours a day.
    2:47:15 “I consume complete junk.”
    2:47:17 And none of it has any redeeming value.
    2:47:20 And when I look away, my body goes into extreme withdrawal
    2:47:23 and I’m just looping on the same thing over and over
    2:47:24 and, God, the Chinese have just invented
    2:47:26 the perfect algorithm to keep me trapped in here
    2:47:28 for the rest of my life and I’m done.
    2:47:29 It’s not that.
    2:47:31 You do see people throwing themselves
    2:47:34 into alcohol recovery programs voluntarily.
    2:47:37 You do see people trying to get off of drugs voluntarily,
    2:47:37 saying to their friends,
    2:47:40 “Hey, please help me get off this drug.”
    2:47:43 You don’t see that at all with TikTok, zero, never.
    2:47:44 So nobody’s admitting it.
    2:47:46 It’s always somebody else they’re pointing to,
    2:47:48 which is why it kind of makes me feel a little bit more
    2:47:50 like it’s a moral panic going on
    2:47:53 than it is true addiction underneath.
    2:47:55 – The thing about the social media apps,
    2:47:57 the idea that they’re addicted to likes
    2:47:59 and badges and things like that,
    2:48:03 but a like requires you to understand
    2:48:04 who the like is coming from.
    2:48:07 Like a teenager who gets a like from a love interest,
    2:48:09 is gonna be much more interested in that
    2:48:12 than a like from some random classmate
    2:48:14 or somebody that they don’t know.
    2:48:16 It’s not like the stimulus for a dog,
    2:48:18 ringing the bell and giving the dog a treat.
    2:48:20 It’s just the content of the sound of the bell
    2:48:22 and the taste of the treat.
    2:48:25 And there’s no understanding at work.
    2:48:25 But with social media,
    2:48:28 there’s an extraordinary amount of understanding at work.
    2:48:29 – And to get the like in the first place,
    2:48:31 you have to create something like worthy,
    2:48:32 which means you just stand up for noise.
    2:48:33 – And it could be anything.
    2:48:34 You just stand up for noise.
    2:48:35 – It could be a photo, it could be a joke,
    2:48:38 it could be a string of text.
    2:48:40 So this is not just,
    2:48:43 it’s nothing like the dog and the bell and the conditioning.
    2:48:47 This is how can I present myself to my peers
    2:48:49 in a way that makes me interesting.
    2:48:51 Which is what happens in school all day long.
    2:48:54 School is all about presenting myself to my peers
    2:48:56 and looking for feedback.
    2:48:59 And there’s plenty of risks that go along with that.
    2:49:01 And with social media,
    2:49:03 you actually as the parent are there.
    2:49:04 You’re not in school.
    2:49:05 I don’t know what’s happening.
    2:49:08 I said my kid was at summer camp or even in kindergarten.
    2:49:10 And I really don’t know.
    2:49:12 And I’m trusting others.
    2:49:15 I think it’s a step forward in safety
    2:49:19 that my kid is interacting with people on her tablet
    2:49:21 in a way that especially if she doesn’t see me
    2:49:22 as an adversary,
    2:49:25 she wants to show me how it’s all going.
    2:49:28 I can see and participate easier.
    2:49:30 – Well, I think a lot of parents would actually be happy
    2:49:31 if their kid ended up as an influencer
    2:49:33 creating amazing content.
    2:49:34 But how are they going to get there
    2:49:36 unless they create bad content first?
    2:49:38 And how are they going to create bad content first
    2:49:40 until they’ve consumed enough content
    2:49:42 that they have a sense of what they’re interested in
    2:49:43 and what their taste is like.
    2:49:46 Especially if we’re headed into a world of AI
    2:49:49 making everything that’s been done before easy to redo
    2:49:52 and robots, then your taste really matters.
    2:49:53 Judgment matters.
    2:49:56 I learned strategy by playing a lot of war games.
    2:49:59 And I use strategy for things like trading
    2:50:00 and building businesses.
    2:50:02 And to me, at least just like sports
    2:50:05 is leftover training for physical combat
    2:50:07 from older societies,
    2:50:08 gladiators and Olympics.
    2:50:12 And then playing basketball is like teamwork and so on.
    2:50:13 And that trains you.
    2:50:14 So if you need to get into a martial conflict,
    2:50:17 you can go to war, you’re athletic, you’re fit.
    2:50:19 This is in your off season, you’re training
    2:50:21 and you’re on season, you might be fighting or hunting.
    2:50:25 The same way I view video games and books and media
    2:50:27 as training for intellectual combat.
    2:50:29 You’re getting ready to go build a business
    2:50:31 or go solve a problem or go build something new.
    2:50:33 And to do that, you have to know what’s out there
    2:50:36 and how people have built things and presented them before.
    2:50:38 Even to the extent that I’ve been successful on Twitter,
    2:50:41 it’s by being a good communicator of new ideas.
    2:50:43 New ideas I absorb from all over.
    2:50:45 And then communication comes from just having read
    2:50:47 and consumed a lot and having paid attention
    2:50:49 to what’s really good and what’s not.
    2:50:52 I didn’t go to a class on how to write tweets.
    2:50:54 I just read a lot of authors and a lot of poems
    2:50:56 until I found the best ones.
    2:50:58 And I started really appreciating
    2:51:00 what set them apart from the rest.
    2:51:01 And then I just absorbed that.
    2:51:03 And it’s only much, much, much later that I went back
    2:51:06 and read the so-called greats like Shakespeare and Yates
    2:51:07 and so on.
    2:51:08 I was like, oh, that’s why they’re so successful.
    2:51:11 Oh, now I get why they’re masters of rhetoric.
    2:51:12 But I didn’t know that.
    2:51:15 I just read a lot and some part of my brain just absorbed it.
    2:51:17 There’s a famous Rick Rubin clip going around
    2:51:20 where he says, he’s basically rewarded for his taste.
    2:51:21 Well, how did he get that taste?
    2:51:23 Just by listening to a lot of music.
    2:51:26 And I’m sure his parents thought he was an absolute goof off
    2:51:28 when he was just listening to music all day long.
    2:51:29 But sometimes that’s what it takes.
    2:51:30 – With the total freedom.
    2:51:34 Yeah, as far as tactics for screen use with kids,
    2:51:38 I think one easy thing to do is to just be interested
    2:51:39 in what your kid is watching.
    2:51:41 Obviously it’s easier with younger kids,
    2:51:44 but just sit down and watch with them
    2:51:46 without any judgment, without any,
    2:51:47 I’m gonna take this away
    2:51:50 and just kind of like ask about the characters,
    2:51:51 ask about the story.
    2:51:55 And as you find what the kid is interested in,
    2:51:58 in this content, you can recreate that content
    2:52:00 outside of the screens.
    2:52:01 You can buy the characters, right?
    2:52:04 The toys that represent the different characters.
    2:52:07 And now you have the characters to do imaginative play.
    2:52:10 If that’s more important to you that the kid is having that
    2:52:12 or can interact with grandparents
    2:52:15 or other family members or you with the characters.
    2:52:18 And so it pulls the experience out of this passive
    2:52:19 consuming of what’s on the screen
    2:52:22 and now you’re actively doing it.
    2:52:23 And you never know, you know, just sitting down
    2:52:25 and watching the stuff with a kid,
    2:52:28 you never know what ideas will come to mind.
    2:52:30 – There is a level of fakery that goes on there though.
    2:52:32 Sometimes you end up interrogating kids like,
    2:52:33 “Hey, what’s your favorite ice cream?”
    2:52:34 The kid you just look like,
    2:52:36 “Why are you asking me this question?”
    2:52:38 Like you wouldn’t ask it to an adult.
    2:52:40 Not unless it’s some girl you’re hitting on
    2:52:41 or it’s some famous person
    2:52:42 and you’re trying to make conversation with them.
    2:52:44 And it’ll be very awkward.
    2:52:46 But we do that to our kids all the time, right?
    2:52:47 We ask them questions
    2:52:49 where we’re not really interested in the answer.
    2:52:52 We’re just trying to either solicit conversation
    2:52:54 or get them to think a certain way
    2:52:57 or we’re leading the witness and it’s painful.
    2:52:59 – Yeah, no, I think it’s more,
    2:53:01 can you tell me, what do you like about this?
    2:53:03 Why is this interesting?
    2:53:04 What’s this guy doing?
    2:53:06 What’s this character doing?
    2:53:07 – But I think the hard part there is a genuine.
    2:53:09 You have to genuinely be interested.
    2:53:10 I don’t think kids are dumb.
    2:53:11 They see right through that.
    2:53:14 A lot of times like we’ll have visitors or guests
    2:53:16 and they’re kind of trying to make conversation
    2:53:17 with the kids and it’s painful
    2:53:19 because they’re asking questions
    2:53:22 where they’re not genuinely interested in the answer.
    2:53:23 And the child’s response,
    2:53:26 maybe the child doesn’t see through it in a reasoned way,
    2:53:27 but they instinctively know
    2:53:29 this person not interested in the answer
    2:53:31 because the child themselves is not interested in the answer.
    2:53:35 And so it ends up being a very awkward stilted conversation.
    2:53:40 A lot of parents are scared of the infantile content
    2:53:42 that their kids are watching, right?
    2:53:44 Like Cocoa Lemon, Cocoa Mellon,
    2:53:47 Cocoa Lemon is this like endless YouTube thing
    2:53:50 that just is so vapid and empty.
    2:53:53 And I think what’s important there
    2:53:57 is that it’s empty for us because they’re 40 years old
    2:53:59 and I’ve seen these stories a thousand times
    2:54:01 and these things are very boring to us.
    2:54:05 But there was a time where this was cutting edge,
    2:54:08 an age where this was so new and interesting.
    2:54:12 And eventually they get tired of it.
    2:54:14 It may take weeks, even months,
    2:54:16 but that’s what their mind is ready for.
    2:54:18 And so you want them to get accustomed to that
    2:54:21 and then move on to the next thing.
    2:54:26 You can’t just insert a deep, rich piece of content
    2:54:28 like a movie or a show or a book.
    2:54:30 You can’t start de novo, you can’t just start there.
    2:54:34 You have to kind of work your way up.
    2:54:37 And so I see a lot of my kids consuming media
    2:54:40 is working their way up, just their sense of humor.
    2:54:42 – Yeah, if the addiction model was completely true,
    2:54:45 then the 40 year old adult will still be hooked
    2:54:47 on Cocoa Mellon and wouldn’t be able to get off of it.
    2:54:48 – Exactly, exactly.
    2:54:49 – But they moved out.
    2:54:50 – And flipping that around,
    2:54:52 Elon Musk is playing these video games, right?
    2:54:53 – Yeah, absolutely. – To your point.
    2:54:54 – Diablo player.
    2:54:56 – Is this a distraction for him
    2:55:01 or is this training for geopolitics, right?
    2:55:04 Like it’s hard to say that that’s a distraction for him.
    2:55:07 – I would bet the vast majority of the hackers
    2:55:09 in the software industry have at one point
    2:55:11 or another been obsessed with games.
    2:55:12 – Yes.
    2:55:14 – It’s just at some point,
    2:55:16 they take their obsession with it
    2:55:18 from consumption into creation.
    2:55:20 And as a society, we value the output
    2:55:22 ’cause it’s so measurable and so easy to see,
    2:55:25 especially after the fact, we don’t value the inputs
    2:55:27 because it’s a messy process.
    2:55:28 You don’t know what’s going in there.
    2:55:29 – Exactly.
    2:55:33 – Another thing is this idea of situational awareness,
    2:55:36 like at work, and I guess working with teams,
    2:55:39 being a productive participant in the workforce,
    2:55:42 is being able to assess priorities.
    2:55:45 And we all know of blockheads at work
    2:55:47 or in other regards that are just like
    2:55:48 single-mindedly focused on one thing
    2:55:50 and can’t see the bigger picture.
    2:55:53 And I think that’s one of the values of games
    2:55:55 is that you’re taking in new information
    2:55:58 and you’re reassessing and you’re strategizing.
    2:56:01 Strategizing is reprioritizing.
    2:56:05 And I think that is a massive skill for anyone
    2:56:08 to be able to adjust your priorities as life changes.
    2:56:10 It’s always changing.
    2:56:12 Once you get married, your priorities shift
    2:56:15 and you have to learn how to account for your in-laws
    2:56:16 and account for your new job
    2:56:18 and account for your new neighbor
    2:56:21 and your kid is now doing this, playing soccer
    2:56:26 and you’re always trying to move things up and down
    2:56:29 this kind of hierarchy or schema of importance.
    2:56:31 I think games are a big part of that.
    2:56:32 – And I think if you get to your point about adults,
    2:56:35 if you see an adult who’s following a lot of rules
    2:56:36 and enforcing a lot of rules,
    2:56:37 that’s not an adult you want to be around.
    2:56:38 That’s a bureaucrat.
    2:56:40 We don’t respect that in adults.
    2:56:44 In adults, we want you to have created your own rules
    2:56:47 for yourself, which are dynamic and evolving
    2:56:49 and follow them based on your objectives.
    2:56:52 You have to have the social skills to figure out
    2:56:53 what other people’s rules are
    2:56:55 and how to navigate through those.
    2:56:56 It’s a dynamic situation.
    2:56:58 It changes all the time
    2:57:02 and not imposing your little rules on everybody else
    2:57:03 like a hall monitor.
    2:57:06 So I think with adults, we don’t value,
    2:57:07 in fact, what is cool?
    2:57:09 Cool is someone who authentically breaks the rules
    2:57:11 and gets away with it, right?
    2:57:13 Not in a harmful way, but gets away with it.
    2:57:16 Cool people don’t listen to your rules.
    2:57:18 Same time, if someone breaks the rules too much
    2:57:20 or breaks the wrong rules, they end up in prison.
    2:57:22 So it is a thing about navigating.
    2:57:24 Like for example, one of the things that’s hard with kids
    2:57:26 is explain to them,
    2:57:30 oh yeah, that’s a rule that society has, but we break it.
    2:57:31 Or this is a rule that society has,
    2:57:33 but you absolutely cannot break it.
    2:57:37 And trying to do a distinction with it too is very difficult.
    2:57:38 – Exactly.
    2:57:39 In this circumstance, we’re gonna break the rule,
    2:57:41 but in that circumstance, we’re not.
    2:57:44 And understanding how those circumstances have changed
    2:57:46 is you’re also vulnerable.
    2:57:49 If you’re rule following, I know lots of people
    2:57:53 who play by the rules, get a job, and then get laid off.
    2:57:55 And now you’re in big trouble
    2:57:59 because you kind of have stuck with these expectations.
    2:58:03 Whereas people who kind of allow themselves to be distracted,
    2:58:05 have multiple and varied interests,
    2:58:09 are able to fall back on other career options,
    2:58:12 other skills, or are just constantly evolving
    2:58:15 in their career instead of kind of sticking
    2:58:18 with this diligent conformist,
    2:58:21 you may be achieving a lot of the right outcomes,
    2:58:25 but still be vulnerable and at risk to change.
    2:58:27 – Yeah, and it’s not to put parents down.
    2:58:29 I mean, I think all parents want their kids
    2:58:31 to be creative problem solvers.
    2:58:34 It’s just lead with creativity and problem solving,
    2:58:35 rather than lead with the rules.
    2:58:38 And a lot of the rules are just well-meaning,
    2:58:41 brought down from society, nap time at 1 p.m.
    2:58:43 Let the kid cry it out.
    2:58:44 Don’t sleep with your kid.
    2:58:45 I think in your book you mentioned,
    2:58:46 you didn’t sleep with your kids
    2:58:48 ’cause you were afraid of SIDS.
    2:58:49 In our case, it was the opposite
    2:58:50 because I grew up in India,
    2:58:52 everyone sleeps with their kids when they’re growing up
    2:58:55 and has been doing it for 100 generations.
    2:58:57 We don’t have any concept of not sleeping with your kids.
    2:59:00 It’s considered barbaric to let your kid cry it out
    2:59:02 so they feel like a tiger’s gonna eat them.
    2:59:05 And then when they finally give up, you come back in, right?
    2:59:08 So it’s funny because a lot of the modern rules
    2:59:09 around child raising,
    2:59:11 I think are just actually counterproductive.
    2:59:13 For example, there’s been a lot of propaganda
    2:59:15 that formula is better than cow’s milk.
    2:59:18 Well, formula didn’t exist 100 years ago.
    2:59:19 Look at a list of ingredients in formula.
    2:59:21 It’s seed oils and it’s just garbage, right?
    2:59:23 And not even seed oil, it’s a process.
    2:59:25 It survives at room temperature
    2:59:27 in a powdered form for a long period of time.
    2:59:30 Like it’s not food by any rational definition.
    2:59:33 So I think there’s a lot of modern rules around,
    2:59:35 don’t sleep with your kid, force him to nap,
    2:59:37 give them a consistent nap time,
    2:59:39 formula is better than cow’s milk,
    2:59:41 things like that, which are easily challenged.
    2:59:42 These should not be rules.
    2:59:45 They shouldn’t be rules any more than the FDA food pyramid
    2:59:48 or rules that cardio is better for you than weightlifting
    2:59:50 or weightlifting is better for you than cardio
    2:59:52 or that natural immunity.
    2:59:54 We had this during COVID, herd immunity,
    2:59:57 natural immunity is worse than vaccines.
    2:59:57 I don’t know if you remember that
    2:59:59 by the time when your natural immunity wouldn’t count,
    3:00:01 you had to go get a vaccine, right?
    3:00:04 So I’m not sure I would follow the rules that fast
    3:00:06 because even if you think rules are good
    3:00:08 and even if you think rules make your life more convenient,
    3:00:09 a lot of the rules that you’re being fed
    3:00:11 are actually just flat out wrong.
    3:00:14 So you have to be creative yourself and figure it out anyway.
    3:00:18 – When do you encourage that questioning in your kid?
    3:00:19 It’s quite interesting, right?
    3:00:21 Do you encourage that when they go off to college?
    3:00:24 Do you encourage them to question when they’re teenagers?
    3:00:27 Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to genuinely encourage
    3:00:31 the questioning from the beginning as early as you can?
    3:00:33 And it doesn’t mean that it’s just, you know,
    3:00:35 sink or swim, there’s an alternative.
    3:00:36 You’re still involved,
    3:00:38 you’re still trying to solve problems with them,
    3:00:40 but you’re not giving them this idea
    3:00:42 that there’s one set way of doing things
    3:00:46 until you kind of reach a point where you get
    3:00:49 to question them later on in your life.
    3:00:50 – Yeah, I mean, you have to teach them from the start
    3:00:53 that all information is subject to challenge.
    3:00:56 All new information starts out as misinformation.
    3:00:58 There’s no such thing as perfect knowledge.
    3:01:00 People on the internet are constantly struggling.
    3:01:02 People in life are constantly struggling.
    3:01:03 Who do I believe?
    3:01:04 The latest thing came down.
    3:01:05 Is this true?
    3:01:06 Did Trump really do that?
    3:01:07 Did Biden do this?
    3:01:09 Is there really a UFO that they’re hiding over there?
    3:01:11 Were the pyramids giant batteries, you know?
    3:01:13 Is it many worlds interpretation
    3:01:16 or is it observer collapse quantum theory?
    3:01:17 You’re always debating.
    3:01:19 You’re always trying to figure out what’s true and what’s not.
    3:01:21 And that’s the central challenge to life.
    3:01:21 And if we could just say,
    3:01:24 oh yeah, ban misinformation, well, great.
    3:01:26 You figured out a truth machine, which is impossible.
    3:01:28 You figured out what’s true and false in advance.
    3:01:30 You can ban whatever is false, fine.
    3:01:33 Then you basically declared yourself omniscient
    3:01:34 and the world doesn’t work that way.
    3:01:36 Children, just like adults,
    3:01:37 are constantly going to be struggling
    3:01:39 with trying to figure out what’s true and what’s false.
    3:01:42 And if your evaluation sensors on that
    3:01:44 are dialed too loose,
    3:01:46 then you may end up believing in completely false things
    3:01:48 and having a tough life.
    3:01:49 But if they’re dialed too tight,
    3:01:51 then you’re just following a bunch of rules
    3:01:53 and you can’t absorb new information as it comes along.
    3:01:56 And the best way to figure out how to tune that
    3:01:58 is to basically just constantly be learning,
    3:01:59 to be a learning machine
    3:02:01 and to embrace being a learning machine
    3:02:02 and embrace being wrong.
    3:02:05 And so yeah, I mean, look at how many parents
    3:02:08 disagree with their kids throughout their lives, right?
    3:02:10 There’ll be a different political persuasions.
    3:02:12 They’ll have different sexual orientation.
    3:02:14 They’ll have different belief systems.
    3:02:16 They’ll have one will want to say,
    3:02:17 “Okay, let’s go live in the woods.”
    3:02:18 The other one’s like, “No, I’m going to go live
    3:02:20 “in this big city.
    3:02:22 “I’m never going to get married or I got married
    3:02:23 “and had kids.
    3:02:24 “I’m never going to have kids.”
    3:02:25 You’re constantly going to see
    3:02:28 that you’re not going to align with your kids
    3:02:31 and trying to control them the first nine years of their life,
    3:02:33 expecting some magical outcome
    3:02:37 where then they will turn into miniature versions of you
    3:02:38 is misguided.
    3:02:40 By the way, you’re no longer adapted
    3:02:41 for the environment they’re going to live in.
    3:02:43 You’re adapted for the environment you live in.
    3:02:46 If we were adapted identically to our parents,
    3:02:49 we would not survive in modern society,
    3:02:51 which is why kids tend to end up listening much more
    3:02:53 to their peers than they do to their parents.
    3:02:55 And I think one of the hacks here is
    3:02:58 you curate their environment, you curate their peers
    3:03:00 rather than trying to curate their thinking
    3:03:02 and you’re trying to curate their eating
    3:03:04 and their sleeping and so on.
    3:03:05 Anyway, not to get too abstract.
    3:03:08 This is a good series of tactics, hacks.
    3:03:09 Thanks so much, Aaron.
    3:03:10 I know you’re active.
    3:03:13 Let me give you one more that I think might help.
    3:03:17 Everybody wants their kids to be happy, creative,
    3:03:20 or productive in some way and independent.
    3:03:23 These are outcomes that most people would agree on
    3:03:25 and leaving independence aside
    3:03:27 because kids can’t be independent.
    3:03:30 I think that taking children seriously looks at saying,
    3:03:33 well, can we make them happy and creative
    3:03:36 or productive early on in the beginning?
    3:03:39 Instead of waiting until they’re in college
    3:03:40 or they’re in their 20s
    3:03:43 to now it’s your time to be happier, creative,
    3:03:45 like why not work on that from the beginning?
    3:03:49 In other words, take that outcome very seriously early on
    3:03:52 instead of filtering in other outcomes and expectations
    3:03:55 and then hoping that happiness and creativity
    3:03:57 tumbles out of that later on.
    3:04:00 It’s just simply saying or prioritizing
    3:04:03 these crucial outcomes from the beginning.
    3:04:07 And then happiness and creativity cannot be forced.
    3:04:10 That’s the amazing thing about it.
    3:04:11 Like as an adult, if you were saying,
    3:04:13 I wanna become happy,
    3:04:16 you can’t find somebody who can make you happy.
    3:04:17 Right, if you say like, oh, I wanna be happy,
    3:04:19 I’m gonna go find someone who’s gonna make me happy.
    3:04:22 I’m gonna find a girl or a boy who’s gonna make me happy.
    3:04:23 I’m gonna find the job.
    3:04:25 I’m gonna find the right car that’s gonna make me.
    3:04:29 We all know that that is a failed endeavor.
    3:04:32 You know, we are not able to make our kids happy either.
    3:04:34 You cannot make another person happy.
    3:04:37 A person must discover this internally.
    3:04:39 You can’t make somebody creative or productive.
    3:04:41 They must discover their own interests
    3:04:43 and their own passions.
    3:04:45 – You can’t be creative on schedule either.
    3:04:47 You can’t say, here’s a clock starting the timer.
    3:04:49 You have to be a creative work down.
    3:04:51 – You can’t be forced to be interested in something.
    3:04:52 It has to be internal.
    3:04:55 Interests are always internal.
    3:04:56 You could be exposed to something
    3:04:58 that you agree is interested,
    3:05:01 but you can’t just be forced to be interested.
    3:05:04 And so I think those crucial outcomes,
    3:05:06 it’s a safe way of looking at the world
    3:05:10 and say how can we embed these crucial outcomes
    3:05:12 at the beginning rather than waiting
    3:05:16 and hoping they’re the result of schooling,
    3:05:19 of the right nutrition, of the right health,
    3:05:21 of the right screen relationship.
    3:05:22 It’s a way of flipping it around and saying,
    3:05:25 how can we start with happiness and creativity
    3:05:28 and fostering it instead of forcing it?
    3:05:30 – I know there’s a lot of grind porn
    3:05:32 on the internet these days where people are like,
    3:05:34 you gotta grind, you gotta like set four hours a side
    3:05:37 every morning to write and then, you know,
    3:05:40 two hours to meditate and then you have to keep grinding
    3:05:44 and working and then 300 hours or 10,000 hours later,
    3:05:46 you’re a genius and then you get it out.
    3:05:48 But the reality is every person I know
    3:05:51 who is super creative, who has done incredibly creative work,
    3:05:54 they spend lots of time goofing off,
    3:05:56 lazing around, doing nothing.
    3:05:58 And then they got obsessed with something.
    3:05:59 And when they were obsessive,
    3:06:02 they weren’t doing the structured two, three, four hours a day.
    3:06:04 They were just working on it every waking moment
    3:06:06 and obsessing over it until they did it.
    3:06:08 And then they were back to being lazy.
    3:06:10 And I think that’s a much more natural model
    3:06:11 for how humans work.
    3:06:14 And as you said, there’s no happiness outside of yourself.
    3:06:15 Can’t be forced to be happy.
    3:06:17 No one can make you happy.
    3:06:18 Can’t be forced to be creative.
    3:06:19 Can’t be forced to be interested.
    3:06:21 These are natural emergent properties
    3:06:25 of someone who is interested, relaxed and free.
    3:06:26 – Yeah, amen.
    3:06:28 – Right, thank you so much, Aaron.
    3:06:30 It’s fantastic as always.
    3:06:31 – Thank you so much, Naval.
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    [08:40] Who is Aaron, and what makes him qualified to dispense parenting advice?

    [13:44] Taking Children Seriously (TCS) and The Sovereign Child philosophies.

    [17:49] The David Deutsch influence on these tenets.

    [22:57] Supporting evidence and long-term case studies.

    [27:17] Ways Naval and Aaron have incorporated these philosophies into their own parenting.

    [31:13] How rules work while parenting for freedom-maximizing.

    [37:42] Why building knowledge beats coercion.

    [43:41] Non-negotiables.

    [46:35] Is this method of parenting only accessible to the educated elite?

    [50:05] Handling sibling conflict.

    [54:41] How do freedom-maximized kids adapt to an adulthood of endless societal rules?

    [58:55] When kids present counter-accountability.

    [01:00:41] One tool does not fix all.

    [01:03:52] Putting mistakes to good use.

    [01:08:00] Homeschooling, unschooling, and socialization challenges.

    [01:15:56] Building resilience.

    [01:20:23] Coping with food and drink cravings.

    [01:25:54] Avoiding the terminology of confirmation bias.

    [01:31:37] Sports.

    [01:35:09] Organically cultivating interests.

    [01:38:11] The pros and cons of traditional schooling.

    [01:47:24] Parental disagreements and avoiding hypocrisy.

    [01:57:18] Four categories of harm that come from rules.

    [02:00:38] The benefits of optional constraints.

    [02:05:32] Body Electric.

    [02:07:03] Things you should know before visiting the emergency room.

    [02:13:18] A hierarchy of knowledge and lessons learned from this conversation.

    [02:17:19] Tactics for addressing sibling (and spousal) conflict.

    [02:19:47] Tactics to foster learning.

    [02:22:54] The best baby (and adult) sitter.

    [02:26:07] Parenting into the teen years.

    [02:27:54] Tactics for forming good sleep habits.

    [02:31:20] Tactics for encouraging good eating habits.

    [02:37:34] Tactics for freedom-maximizing.

    [02:42:56] Tactics for minimizing screen and social media obsession.

    [02:55:29] Too cool for rules.

    [03:00:14] All information is subject to challenge.

    [03:03:10] Happiness and creativity cannot be forced.

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  • #787: How to Be in The Present Moment — Guided Meditation with Zen Master Henry Shukman

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    0:00:04 Hello, boys and girls, ladies and germs. This is Tim Ferriss. Welcome to another episode of
    0:00:09 The Tim Ferriss Show. This episode is a brand new experiment called Meditation Monday. That means,
    0:00:14 in addition to my long-form interviews each week, every Monday, I will be bringing you a short 10
    0:00:19 minute or so meditation, which will help you for the rest of the week. Over this four-episode
    0:00:24 series, you’ll develop a Zen toolkit specifically to help you find greater calm, peace, and effectiveness
    0:00:29 in your daily life. The teacher, Henry Schuchman, has been on my podcast twice before. He is one
    0:00:34 of only a few dozen masters in the world authorized to teach what is called Sambo Zen,
    0:00:38 and I have found this particularly interesting and effective. And now he’ll be your teacher.
    0:00:46 I’ve been using Henry’s app The Way once, often twice a day for the last few months, and it has
    0:00:51 lowered my anxiety more than I thought possible. As a listener of the show, you yourself can get
    0:00:57 30 free sessions by visiting thewayapp.com/tim. So if you like what you hear in these meditations,
    0:01:01 which will be valuable in and of themselves, you can get 30 free sessions by going to
    0:01:07 thewayapp.com/tim. And for the time being, please enjoy this Meditation Monday with Henry Schuchman.
    0:01:16 Hello. Welcome to Meditation Monday. I’m Henry Schuchman. I’m a Zen master, a meditation teacher,
    0:01:23 a poet, an author. I’ve been meditating a long time since my mid-20s, and it’s been
    0:01:30 the most important thread in my life in terms of not just sort of self-care and maintenance and
    0:01:36 generally being much happier than I might otherwise have been. It’s also been a journey of incredible
    0:01:42 discovery. I think the most crucial, vital, beautiful discovery of a lifetime, in a certain
    0:01:47 sense, because it can show us stuff about who and what we really are and what our true relationship
    0:01:57 with this world actually is. But the most important initial foundational function of meditation for
    0:02:06 most of us is going to be just in getting more present, more grounded, more centered, and less
    0:02:17 stressed. It’s a great intervention for nervous system regulation. And the whole modern mindfulness
    0:02:24 exponential spread of meditation as a practice has been centered around that stress reduction.
    0:02:31 And that’s great. That’s definitely great. And it is what we all need to start with and regularly
    0:02:36 come back to. But I do want to just note that there is the other side too, that it can be
    0:02:42 such an extraordinary journey of existential discovery. In this little series, we’re going
    0:02:50 to be exploring both sides, but we’re going to begin again and again with arriving, getting grounded,
    0:02:58 getting centered, more balanced, more present. And in this first meditation that we’re about to go
    0:03:08 into, I’m going to be basically teaching a way that we can again and again come back to the here
    0:03:18 and now through getting more aware of our body, of our body sensation and the experience that our
    0:03:26 body is actually having right now. They say the mind is a time traveler, goes to the past,
    0:03:34 goes to the future, quite often a lot. But the body doesn’t do time travel. And if we can just
    0:03:42 get connected with our body again, we come back into the present moment, into right here, right
    0:03:50 now, and in a slightly unexpected way, when we’re really here, present, somehow it always seems to
    0:03:59 dial down our stress, our suffering. It just takes the edge off it, just to be more immediately
    0:04:06 present now. And weirdly, that even works when we’re in a stressful present. There’s something about
    0:04:15 being present with this body here and now that seems to give us more of a sense of
    0:04:24 peace and safety automatically, even when things are tough. Okay, so let’s go into our first
    0:04:33 meditation. I’m going to suggest that you get seated comfortably. In this process of
    0:04:43 coming into our body experience, it’s really helpful that you can find your way to a setup
    0:04:52 with your body, a posture, where you can be comfortable. The 99% of meditation teaching
    0:04:58 suggests sitting. There’s good reasons for that, which I won’t go into now. But you can, of course,
    0:05:03 recline if that’s what you would rather do. But I’m going to assume that most of us are sitting.
    0:05:10 And if you’re sitting with your back being supported, then really relax into that support.
    0:05:17 If you’re sitting like I am, with your back unsupported, then it’s important to be balanced.
    0:05:25 We want the ears over the shoulders, the shoulders over the hips. As we come into
    0:05:37 body experience, we want to be coming into this comfort in the body that allows the body to relax.
    0:05:44 Okay, so now I’m going to invite you to either close your eyes or, if you prefer, you can just
    0:05:50 lower your gaze. But no need to be looking at anything. If you’re lowering your gaze,
    0:05:59 don’t be looking particularly at anything, just kind of switch off the pointer in the eyes, the
    0:06:08 looker. Just let that go. If your eyes are closed, gaze into the kind of gray scale behind the closed
    0:06:19 eyelids. Let’s just allow ourselves to let go, just briefly, just for this little period of time,
    0:06:27 of whatever’s come before, whatever our cares and concerns are this day,
    0:06:40 just for now, you can put them on the shelf and just come into the experience of being here quietly,
    0:06:55 somewhat still and not needing to do anything right now. You can actually
    0:07:05 leave the tasks, the to-do list outside the door, just for a moment, just for now.
    0:07:12 And think of this as a time of coming back to you,
    0:07:20 coming back to something a bit more essential about you and your life.
    0:07:34 I’m going to give some pointers now around experience of the body and relaxing the body.
    0:07:42 Let your jaw relax, let your jaw actually sink a millimeter or two
    0:07:50 and feel what it’s like to let the jaw go.
    0:08:02 Many of us carry tension in the jaw, just let it become slack.
    0:08:10 Now let the throat relax, be soft.
    0:08:25 Let your shoulders settle, let your arms and hands and fingers become limp.
    0:08:30 Let them go slack like old rope.
    0:08:46 Lovely, now let your chest, your whole ribcage become warm.
    0:08:54 Let it become like soft wax, warm wax.
    0:09:15 Sense the belly now, let it too become warm and soft.
    0:09:24 Now sense the seat beneath you,
    0:09:33 let your sitting bones, your buttocks just kind of melt down into the seat.
    0:09:44 Let upper legs become warm and soft and loose.
    0:09:55 Let lower legs also become warm, soft, loose.
    0:10:04 Let the ankles and feet relax, let go.
    0:10:21 And now can you get a kind of snapshot in your mind of the whole body as you’re sitting here?
    0:10:26 No worries if you can’t, that’s not not needed.
    0:10:34 But see if you can somehow sense a warmth pervading your whole body.
    0:10:54 Can you sense a softness all through your body?
    0:11:08 You know in meditation we never need to do things perfectly, there is no perfection,
    0:11:18 it’s really a practice of imperfectionism. We just experience what we experience
    0:11:22 and we let that be enough.
    0:11:38 So whatever you’re experiencing, can you let that be enough for right now?
    0:11:52 Many come to meditation thinking they’ve got to somehow do it very well or kind of even perform it
    0:12:02 well. But that’s not needed here at all, it’s about coming back to you.
    0:12:13 You having a chance just to be you.
    0:12:32 It’s like having a little respite, a little shelter or refuge from the turbulence of our lives.
    0:12:45 And finding that there is a strange kind of shelter that we can find within.
    0:12:57 Coming back to a place of ease
    0:13:05 that’s always actually here for us within.
    0:13:13 Place of rest.
    0:13:23 You know our bodies know how to do it, our nervous systems know how to do it.
    0:13:32 Just takes a little bit of intention and some tools.
    0:13:56 Let yourself rest for a moment, kind of in the in the heart of your own life, your own livingness.
    0:14:26 Yeah, okay. Yeah, great. And that’s it. That’s meditation. It’s so natural
    0:14:34 it’s just being still, being quiet, kind of just being ourselves.
    0:14:42 And it’s it’s weird that it seems like sort of a big thing I’m going to do this thing called
    0:14:49 meditation. Really it’s almost like when we’re not actually doing anything, we’re just stopping,
    0:14:56 we’re ceasing from our restless round of doing just for a little bit,
    0:15:05 just a few minutes, 10 minutes a day is definitely enough actually to make a real difference in our
    0:15:13 lives. So I hope you’ve enjoyed this and had some some taste of stillness and maybe of peace.
    0:15:21 I’d like to encourage you to try through your days every so often, you know, you can just
    0:15:30 kind of hit pause mentally and for 10 seconds, no more, just be still, sense your body.
    0:15:38 However it’s showing up for you right then, just sense it and carry on with your day.
    0:15:45 So that’s the first tool in the Zen toolkit for everyday life that we’re kind of assembling here.
    0:15:52 I’m really honoured to be able to offer these to you. Thank you very much for joining and I’ll
    0:15:56 see you next Monday for the next session of Meditation Monday.
    0:16:06 [BLANK_AUDIO]

    This episode is a new experiment called Meditation Monday. The teacher, Henry Shukman, has been on my podcast twice before. He is one of only a few dozen masters in the world authorized to teach Sanbo Zen, and now, he’ll be your teacher.

    In addition to my long-form interviews each week, every Monday I’ll bring you a short 10-minute or so meditation, which will help you for the rest of the week.

    Over this four-episode series, you’ll develop a Zen toolkit to help you find greater calm, peace, and effectiveness in your daily life.

    Henry’s app, The Way, has changed my life since I first started using it. Unlike other meditation apps, where you’re overwhelmed with a thousand choices, The Way is a clear step-by-step training program guided entirely by Henry. Through a logical progression, you’ll develop real skills that stick with you.

    I’ve been using it daily, often twice a day, and it’s lowered my anxiety more than I thought possible.

    As a listener of my podcast, you can get 30 free sessions by visiting https://thewayapp.com/tim and downloading the app.

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  • #786: Tactics and Strategies for a 2025 Reboot — Essentialism and Greg McKeown

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    0:00:04 Hello, boys and girls, ladies and germs. This is Tim Ferriss. Welcome to another episode
    0:00:11 of The Tim Ferriss Show. My guest today is Greg McKeown, last name spelled, M-C-K-E-O-W-N.
    0:00:16 He is the author of two New York Times bestsellers, Essentialism, The Discipline Pursuit of Less,
    0:00:22 one of my most highlighted books on Kindle, and Effortless, Make It Easier to Do What Matters
    0:00:27 Most. He’s also a speaker, host of the Greg McKeown podcast, and founder of the Essentialism
    0:00:32 Academy with students from 96 countries. 200,000 people receive his weekly one-minute
    0:00:37 Wednesday newsletter, and he recently released The Essentialism Planner, a 90-day guide to
    0:00:44 accomplishing more by doing less. And this episode is an exploration of all the great
    0:00:51 things we hope to accomplish in a new year, how to approach them practically, intelligently,
    0:00:58 and most joyfully. After just a few words from the people who make this podcast possible, enjoy.
    0:01:03 About three weeks ago, I found myself between 10,000 and 12,000 feet going over the continental
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    0:01:39 always aim for a strong body and sharp mind. Of course, you need both, and neither is possible
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    0:04:57 Can I ask you a personal question?
    0:05:00 No, I would have seen it in my perfect time.
    0:05:04 I’m a cybernetic organism living this year over a metal endoskeleton.
    0:05:13 Me, Tim, Ferris, so…
    0:05:17 When something hits, could be a calamity, it could just be something destabilizing, could
    0:05:23 be anything. How do you center yourself so that you don’t just end up feeling like you’re
    0:05:25 in the washing machine?
    0:05:30 Because I am very good at getting things done even when I’m internally suffering a lot of
    0:05:35 turmoil. But the last handful of days have been very, very challenging. And we don’t
    0:05:41 have to go into specifics, but this is a close loved one. And a lot of the responsibilities
    0:05:45 are going to fall on me to figure things out. It’s also the holidays, right? So the people
    0:05:49 I want to get a hold of, I cannot get a hold of. And I recognize that fretting over it
    0:05:55 does not fix anything. And it makes my day less peaceful and enjoyable. And I’ll make
    0:05:59 a reference to one of our earlier conversations, which may have been, on the record may have
    0:06:09 been, behind the scenes. But I’m pretty sure that you mentioned a piece of artwork called
    0:06:15 The Listener, I want to say. Yes, that’s right. Which is this sort of centered, calm person.
    0:06:21 And I have it up on my wall at home with all of this shouting, commotion and chaos around
    0:06:28 him. And in the center, he’s just perfectly centered and thinking clearly. So I suppose
    0:06:40 my question is, how do you help get yourself closer to that depiction of The Listener when
    0:06:45 you realize, wow, there may be a lot of chaos around me. There may be a lot of chaos in
    0:06:51 my head. And look, I’m meditating, like meditating like twice a day. It’s helpful. It doesn’t
    0:06:55 seem to be quite enough. And maybe the answer is, look, you sit with it. This is just something
    0:07:00 you’re going to have to weather. So don’t make a problem out of a problem, in a sense.
    0:07:04 But I’m curious what you’ve found helpful in those circumstances.
    0:07:11 I think I can respond that I don’t think it’s just sitting with it. And I’m pro meditation,
    0:07:18 and I’m certainly pro prayer. But the thing I want to say is sort of distinguishing the
    0:07:24 noise outside of us and the noise inside of us, because they are two different things.
    0:07:29 And I want to sort of share a story and then illustrate the action that comes back from
    0:07:35 it. But this last summer, I was back in England, I’m doing this doctorate at the University
    0:07:41 of Cambridge. And so part of the requirement of that is to have residency every year there.
    0:07:47 And this summer, I felt really destabilized while I was there. And it wasn’t the doctorate
    0:07:54 that I don’t think was particularly major part of why is because my best friend of 35
    0:08:00 years, Sam Bridgestock, is dying of cancer. And that’s been a long time coming. We’ve
    0:08:08 known that that would happen. But facing it more directly in person. But it wasn’t even
    0:08:12 just that because it wasn’t like I didn’t know before it wasn’t that I’d come to a
    0:08:17 new understanding of the truth or the reality was I actually for a while, I couldn’t work
    0:08:27 out what it was. But then I realized, Oh, he has so much mind share about the reality
    0:08:34 of my whole life. We became friends when I was 10 years old. And those years, those
    0:08:39 developmental years, I mean, I escaped to that friendship. And it was so stabilizing
    0:08:45 to me at the time to have a relationship that was open and honest. And if I’m completely
    0:08:50 frank, at a little bit of a risk in a way, but in a family culture that didn’t prioritize
    0:08:58 that for a whole series of complex reasons. So suddenly, the imminent and certain loss
    0:09:04 of him, it’s like my goodness, my whole sense of reality is being shaken. So it’s not just
    0:09:10 even though this is a loss of such a friendship and so on, it tapped right back into this
    0:09:15 whole sense of well, what is true and who do you go to to validate that? And do I have
    0:09:22 enough internal sense of truth to be able to navigate this? Because he was the one I
    0:09:26 would go to, Oh, my goodness, this is what’s happening. This is the reality. This is the
    0:09:30 situation in those most complex relationships. And the idea of like, I won’t be able to go
    0:09:37 to him, it destabilized something at a different level. And all human systems have these levels,
    0:09:45 right, from the surface, which is secure, safe, shallow. And then you go further closer
    0:09:49 and closer, like to say that the onion of human systems at the core are things that
    0:09:57 are so meaningful, that they are inherently blisteringly vulnerable. Because to mess with
    0:10:02 them, to tweak them even. I mean, the opportunity is enormous. I mean, that’s where massive
    0:10:08 transformational change happens. But you know, if it gets shaken by something, everything
    0:10:15 shakes. It’s the earthquake because the tectonic plate of truth inside of you is getting readjusted
    0:10:20 or rather you’re getting a clearer sense of what is true. Now that’s all contextual, because
    0:10:27 I think from your own description, if you’re using language of destabilization, it’s because
    0:10:33 whatever is happening externally, isn’t just reverberating at the surface, or the middle,
    0:10:40 it’s hitting something really deep. And so of course, then that changes everything. Nothing
    0:10:45 works the same way before everything is has been injected with some sort of degree of
    0:10:49 uncertainty. I just want to come back to this idea of like just meditating, like the idea
    0:10:54 of just sitting with it. And people that are like, more deeply meditative than I am may
    0:10:59 say, well, no, no, that practice would be the thing to do. But I found this summer, and
    0:11:05 I find in general, I need to write it out. And loudly, it’s one of the things I try to
    0:11:11 teach our children about, there’s all kinds of prayer, there’s all kinds of writing, scream
    0:11:16 it out, cry it out, whatever it is. It’s like it doesn’t have to be a conservative version
    0:11:22 of this. A little example of this was given to me, somebody that had my podcast had just
    0:11:27 started a new business. And that destabilized it, not all the way to the core, but suddenly
    0:11:32 she’s waking up, she doesn’t have a set income as before. And she wakes up at like four in
    0:11:39 the morning, just hot sweat, just, what have I done? Just super stressed sounds like my
    0:11:44 morning this morning. Yeah. Well, that’s it. Different reasons, but viscerally different
    0:11:49 reasons. But the dynamic is similar. And what she did, she did it all spontaneously, which
    0:11:53 I think is pretty amazing. But what she did, she grabbed a sheet of paper. And I think
    0:11:57 it may have been deliberate that she grabbed a sheet of paper rather than a book like a
    0:12:05 journal or a planner, because she wanted to scream onto the page. She wanted to do it
    0:12:10 with complete abandonment. With the awareness, conscious awareness, I’m going to throw this
    0:12:15 thing away. No one else gets to see this or no one else has to see it.
    0:12:22 I see. So the sheet had more of an impermanent implication than a journal where you can’t
    0:12:25 tear it. You’re less likely to tear it out and toss it. This is like, all right, I’m
    0:12:31 going to scribble fast and furious. And then that’s the act.
    0:12:37 Right. And then I thought was interesting, because without her intent, what she experienced
    0:12:42 in just a few minutes was that she went, maybe this is my restate of what she experienced,
    0:12:51 but she went from confusion to clarity and then naturally onto creation without meaning
    0:12:54 to do that. And I thought that that was one of the things that was so interesting in her
    0:12:58 case study is that she didn’t wake up going, “Okay, I need to create a plan of what to
    0:13:05 do in these circumstances.” She just went, “The noise is so loud and it’s so overwhelming.
    0:13:10 The emotions are so much, I have to give it somewhere.” But that process of screaming
    0:13:19 into the page, of letting it all out, separating ourselves from that discombobulating internal
    0:13:25 state, I think is extremely powerful because I think it helps us to go from prisoner to
    0:13:31 observer. And then from observer, I think once we start observing, we’re better able
    0:13:35 to become a creator. So I think that’s the shift.
    0:13:44 This is a good reminder that these best practices are like brushing your teeth. And I know this,
    0:13:48 but I’ve lapsed in my use of something that sounds very similar, which would be morning
    0:13:55 pages. And it’s been a while since I’ve done it. I picked up a new habit, this meditation,
    0:13:59 and there are only so many minutes in the morning, right? So it’s tough to do a 27-step
    0:14:06 boot up, especially if you have kids or responsibilities. So the meditation came in, other things went
    0:14:11 out. One of them was the morning pages, which is fine. But I had forgotten that was in my
    0:14:19 toolkit. And this is a very good reminder that to me, that when in doubt, kind of go
    0:14:24 back to the fundamentals, maybe it’s something that you’ve already used, doesn’t necessarily
    0:14:29 have to be a brand new shiny thing. And in this case, you’re absolutely right. While
    0:14:34 my monkey mind is just running in circles, trying to think my way through it is not going
    0:14:38 to be helpful. It is just a fruitless labor.
    0:14:43 I think so. I mean, I remember this summer, because I happened to be doing the research,
    0:14:49 I was raging into the page one day for like, I don’t know, a couple of hours. And I don’t
    0:14:55 know that anything there was usable for the research or for a future book or so on. It
    0:15:00 was too raw for any of that. I just definitely wanted to get it all out. And I thought when
    0:15:03 I looked at it all afterwards, I thought, yeah, you know, David Allen says, yeah, your
    0:15:08 mind is a bad office. It’s good at all sorts of things, but not that sort of complex organization
    0:15:12 on its own. And when I looked at the page of all this content, I thought, yeah, that’s
    0:15:20 way, way too much for the ram of my mind to be able to navigate. This is like layers and
    0:15:27 layers of complexity and intensity that needs to step over there so I can look at it rather
    0:15:32 than trying to live in it. One additional little thing I learned in this conversation,
    0:15:37 in the case that I was mentioning, is a term I had never heard before, and it’s instinctive
    0:15:44 elaboration. And what that is is when you ask a question, we’ve all had this happen,
    0:15:50 if someone asks you a question, it is impossible not to think about it. And that’s a really
    0:15:56 powerful thing to learn about somehow our cognitive inheritance, because it means if
    0:16:00 you give yourself a prompt and then rage about it, it’s like your mind can’t help but go
    0:16:05 there. And just recently, I used this instinctive elaboration when I felt overwhelmed, not
    0:16:13 in the same level of destabilization, but a very intense last 30 days with family wedding,
    0:16:17 there’s been funerals, there’s been the holidays, Christmas, two birthdays, and that’s just
    0:16:22 a normal high level, some of the stuff that’s been going on. So it’s been this really intense
    0:16:26 period. And I remember one time I was sitting down, my journalist finished, is over the
    0:16:29 holidays, and if so much going on, I was like, I can’t just go and grab another one. I thought
    0:16:35 I had extras and I didn’t have it. And I really felt strangely stuck. Of course, there’s
    0:16:40 so many possible solutions. But when you feel frozen or stuck with things, you’re not thinking
    0:16:45 in that creative way. And I literally used like an AI tool, and I sort of raged into
    0:16:51 that, like, okay, this is answering this question, what is going on? Just download the what is
    0:16:58 happening in your life. I like this structure of what so what now what, what is happening,
    0:17:02 let’s just get it out. And then once I look at it, okay, now what, what’s the news? What
    0:17:07 is this mean? These were all meaning makers and destabilizing experiences. What they’re
    0:17:11 really doing is they’re messing with our sense of meaning and orientation. And so then now
    0:17:16 what is what do I do about it? And I just download like I literally recorded it, and
    0:17:20 then sent the recording and was like, okay, what do you make of that? And I didn’t really
    0:17:27 expect that much from it. But the restate it gave me back was so helpful. It really put
    0:17:30 my life in perspective and helped me go, oh, of course, that’s why you’re feeling all of
    0:17:35 these things. And it even gave me some quite, I would say, reasonably advanced suggestions
    0:17:38 of what to do.
    0:17:40 So you uploaded the audio file?
    0:17:42 Yeah, that’s right.
    0:17:43 What tool did you use?
    0:17:44 Just GPT.
    0:17:50 Yeah, okay, that’s a good experiment. Because that’s something you can do kind of in between,
    0:17:52 right, if I’m walking around here,
    0:17:53 That’s right.
    0:17:55 I could just let it rip. And there’s no,
    0:17:56 That’s right.
    0:17:57 Downside to it.
    0:18:02 I’ve done it a couple of times. Here’s a good little prompt to give to that is, I didn’t
    0:18:08 do it this last time, but I’ve asked it before to respond as Carl Rogers would.
    0:18:16 Carl Rogers was the psychotherapist who really, more than anyone else, introduced into therapeutic
    0:18:22 processes the idea of powerful deep empathic listening. There’s been two studies that were
    0:18:29 done about Rogerian psychotherapy. When I think in like 1980, something, and then again in
    0:18:36 like 2000, something, I can find the links. Questionnaire was sent both times, huge number
    0:18:41 of psychologists, who’s the most influential psychologist in psychotherapy. And both times
    0:18:46 they identified Carl Rogers as the most influential in their view and in their practice. I think
    0:18:51 that’s pretty amazing because, you know, Freud and so on gets a lot more attention.
    0:18:58 But in practice, what works is what Carl Rogers did. And of course, what he’s saying is similar
    0:19:01 to what we’ve been talking about. He says, if someone would really listen to me, he says,
    0:19:07 whenever someone really listens to me, I find that in the process, my life starts to make
    0:19:12 more sense. You know, the dots start to connect for me. And it’s not that they’re trying to
    0:19:18 do that for me. It’s just the nature of the process of being deeply listened to. And
    0:19:24 so he was the one that sort of really invented the language of empathic restating and brought
    0:19:31 that into practice. And the whole idea, I think, is that you are delaying the stuff that
    0:19:36 isn’t the real issue. Whereas in what normally happens in conversation, even everyday conversation,
    0:19:40 if somebody says something, and people just immediately give advice, I mean, within just
    0:19:45 instantly, they have no idea what’s going on inside of you. You don’t even know what’s
    0:19:50 going on inside of you. And yet they’re already giving advice and suggestions and adding confusion.
    0:19:54 And I think often a lot of stress and a sense of judgment and all of those things. Whereas
    0:19:58 in what he found was that if you would listen deeply enough, and he said, it takes a lot
    0:20:03 of courage to do this. And he said, it’s the most of us cannot do it. We just don’t have
    0:20:08 the courage to listen like this. But if we are, and we restate back to them, and we just
    0:20:12 keep doing it, we’ll go deeper and deeper to the central issues. And it’s a sense of
    0:20:16 like people in the end kind of almost heal themselves because they start to understand
    0:20:23 what’s happening inside of them. Well, I’ve played around with using GPT to construct that
    0:20:29 backwards and forwards relationship communication. And actually, I found it to be fairly advanced
    0:20:33 at being able to do it. So I think it can be a very helpful tool.
    0:20:39 I’ll give it a shot. Well, thanks for that detour off of our planned programming. I appreciate
    0:20:50 that. And why don’t we then begin at the beginning. We are just about to head into January 1st,
    0:20:58 a new year. And a lot of people are thinking ahead with aspirations, goals, hopes, maybe
    0:21:09 some trepidation. And before we get into the bucket of tricks, strategies and tactics and
    0:21:14 so on, let’s back up for people who don’t have much context on your background. Could
    0:21:23 you briefly explain what essentialism is and also effortless the titles of two of your
    0:21:31 books respectively? And I’ve thought about it as in part, one is what to do, the other
    0:21:37 is how to do it. But that’s not going to give people enough of a table setting. So would
    0:21:44 you mind just taking a moment to explain what the sort of main kernels are, the core concept
    0:21:46 for these two?
    0:21:52 Essentialism in one word would be focus. Effortless in one word would be simplification. Another
    0:21:58 way of contrasting them is essentialism is figuring out what the right thing is to do
    0:22:07 and effortless is to do it in the right way. And one of the reasons that I wrote both books
    0:22:13 was because I’d covered some of effortless within essentialism. But as I’ve traveled
    0:22:18 around and taught this now, you know, all over maybe 400 plus organizations around the
    0:22:22 world over the last decade, almost nobody got the second message, even though it is
    0:22:25 in there, some of it’s in there.
    0:22:26 Yeah, I know the feeling.
    0:22:32 Yeah, well, I can take responsibility for this, but it’s like people heard the first
    0:22:39 mindset shift and not the second. And I think they’re both just as important, just as powerful.
    0:22:44 So what they heard in essentialism is, so essentialism has three elements to it, explore,
    0:22:52 eliminate, execute, explore what’s essential, as opposed to nonessential, as opposed to
    0:22:56 the trivial many, it’s like, what are the vital few things that make all the difference?
    0:23:04 Exploring that and identifying that, then eliminate is to actually delete the non essentials
    0:23:09 to remove them. It’s not enough just to know what matters, what’s essential in your life,
    0:23:16 in your year, in your day, you actually have to get rid of the stuff that’s getting in
    0:23:22 the way of those essentials. And then execute is literally to make it as effortless as possible
    0:23:24 to do what matters most.
    0:23:30 So in there, there’s these two shifts, find what’s essential, eliminate, and nonessential.
    0:23:36 And then once you’ve arrived at that state, or in an ongoing process, really, you’re then
    0:23:41 saying, Okay, well, how do I set up systems? How do I organize myself in such a way that
    0:23:43 the essential things happen?
    0:23:45 Having your best day or your worst day.
    0:23:46 Yeah, right.
    0:23:47 Restay your hardest day.
    0:23:48 Okay.
    0:23:53 Well, first of all, I’ll recommend both books to everybody. Essentialism is one of my most
    0:24:00 highlighted Kindle books that I have. Effortless is similar. And it’s the disciplined pursuit
    0:24:06 of less. I would also, in my mind, it’s what to do. That is, effectiveness would be essentialism
    0:24:12 and then how to do it, which would be efficiency is effortless. And I think for myself, if
    0:24:19 I’m looking back on the past year, I think I’ve been very good at identifying the essential
    0:24:28 and old habits die hard. I have been over-exerting. I have been efforting my way through some
    0:24:37 of those essential things by subconsciously over-complicating them or introducing unnecessary
    0:24:43 complication and obstacles, because there is that mantra that was ingrained in me at
    0:24:48 some point, which is, if it’s important and it’s not hard, you are not trying hard enough.
    0:24:53 But in the world of noise, if you aim to be surgical, there’s nothing wrong with that
    0:25:01 applied focus. So let’s hop into New Year, New You type of discussion. A lot of folks
    0:25:06 listening will peg things to like a 30-day challenge, a 60-day reboot, whatever it might
    0:25:13 be. But you have a different lens through which you look at pegging dates and thinking
    0:25:17 about these types of landmarks. Could you elaborate on that, please?
    0:25:23 The term for this in the literature is temporal landmarks. So almost everybody is familiar
    0:25:28 with this idea of the New Year, New You. We all experienced that. Oh, it’s a new chance.
    0:25:34 What the research on this is distinguishing is it’s like any moment that allows you to
    0:25:43 distinguish old self to new self, and that this is a really helpful cognitive malleability
    0:25:49 that you have, because, oh, we have an excuse to become a new version of me, to upgrade myself.
    0:25:53 So the New Year, New You is obviously a chance for people to do that. It gets a bad name
    0:25:57 in some sense, because people say, I mean, everyone says, oh, well, who here has set
    0:26:01 New Year’s resolutions, and then by the 7th of January, you’re not doing them anymore.
    0:26:07 And I actually think people are really wrong to say that in a sense, to frame it like that.
    0:26:13 What we just need is more temporal landmarks, so that we say, yeah, we did the right things.
    0:26:16 And if it was seven days, well, that was great, because that was seven days you wouldn’t have
    0:26:27 done otherwise. How else can you select meaningful, sort of, tagging fresh start moments? Of course,
    0:26:31 your birthday is a chance to do that, but so could the anniversary, and so could your
    0:26:35 parents’ birthday, or so could your child’s birthdays. You can have the first day of the
    0:26:42 quarter, so that’s an additional four. And so identifying meaningful dates, and this
    0:26:47 is more than just a nice idea, and I think people would themselves know if they’ve experienced
    0:26:51 this in their lives. Yeah, this is real. You want to increase the number of these you
    0:26:59 have in 2025, so that you have lots of what’s called the fresh start effect. You want lots
    0:27:06 of fresh start effects supporting you in getting to the new you. So I think, yes, celebrate,
    0:27:10 if it’s seven days, great, if it’s two weeks into January, you’re doing that new thing
    0:27:17 fantastic. Build in the next one. What’s the next meaningful date of the year, and that’s
    0:27:21 your next chance to be able to have an excuse to improve upon something. I think all of
    0:27:28 us are prisoners to the way our mind currently works, and we’re prisoners until we become
    0:27:34 observers to it. So I think these temporal landmarks are a chance to sort of separate
    0:27:40 ourselves a bit. And the moment we get into that observer role, my experience at least
    0:27:45 is that, well, it might feel a little less historic to say this, but it’s like, who’s
    0:27:52 observing that? That’s the real you. And that observer is not so full of pain, not so full
    0:27:57 of confusion. The observers actually really clear. And so anytime you can use different
    0:28:03 tools to shift into that, anytime we can break down projects and anchor them to meaningful
    0:28:09 dates, not arbitrary deadlines, but meaningful dates, I think is a good accelerating, encouraging
    0:28:14 way of going through the year. Yeah, something that I’ve done in addition
    0:28:20 to pegging things to dates, I’ve done this somewhat, I suppose, intuitively with the temporal
    0:28:29 landmarks is creating landmarks that are effectively tests for the X that I’m trying to improve.
    0:28:34 So I will have, and I already have two or three of these blocked out in 2025, which are, let’s
    0:28:41 just say, three to 10 day events, which could be a meditation retreat. It could be something
    0:28:46 very physical at altitude that’s going to require types of fitness that I am loath to
    0:28:53 cultivate because I find them boring. But if I go on this trip with close friends, and
    0:28:59 I am not up to snuff, not only will I suffer, I will be ridiculed and have my balls busted
    0:29:06 endlessly by my friends who should exactly do that. And by having these, I don’t want
    0:29:13 to say final exams, but these tests that are intended to be enjoyable, but they’re only
    0:29:19 going to be enjoyable if I do the work ahead of time. It builds in a lot of incentive and
    0:29:26 insurance that I will behave myself on some level and do what I know I should do.
    0:29:31 Let’s hop into doesn’t have to be rapid fire, but I want to give people a number of different
    0:29:37 concepts and tools that they can hopefully contemplate using. And I’ll let you choose
    0:29:41 in which order you want to tackle these personal quarterly offsite, which is something that
    0:29:46 I’ve long been fascinated from your toolkit. Been fascinated by that for a while. So the
    0:29:53 personal quarterly offsite, the power half hour or half an hour, and then the 123 method,
    0:29:55 where would you like to go first?
    0:29:59 That order I think is good actually, the personal quarterly offsite, if I put it just conceptually
    0:30:07 for a second, it’s speed over direction. Because we live in a time where it’s so easy to have
    0:30:12 what I would describe as counterfeit agility. So you’re moving fast, life feels fast, life
    0:30:17 is fast, and you’re taking messages, you’re sending messages, you’re doing things. But
    0:30:21 actually they don’t add up to a lot of progress towards what matters.
    0:30:24 Right. It’s a millimeter in a thousand directions.
    0:30:25 Yeah, precisely.
    0:30:27 So the speed over direction is what you don’t want.
    0:30:32 Yeah, that’s right. That’s right. The masterful to go with it, you could say, well, a plane
    0:30:37 is off track 90% of the time. It only gets to where it’s supposed to get to at the right
    0:30:42 time because it’s adjusting constantly. So it’s what is the forcing function in our
    0:30:47 lives to make sure we don’t go too far off track and then find, oh my goodness, you know,
    0:30:51 it’s been five years that I’ve gone down this path when really I shouldn’t have even been
    0:30:52 on this journey.
    0:30:55 Right. I thought I was going to Arizona, I’m in North Korea, what happened?
    0:30:56 Yeah.
    0:31:01 Right. Right. That would be a moment, wouldn’t it? And so personal quarterly offsite, I mean,
    0:31:06 you can take it all the way literally. I mean, Anne and I have done this where we’ll travel
    0:31:13 to somewhere and take a weekend or take a few days possibly and really talk big picture.
    0:31:18 I mean, there’s three main questions that I think need to be addressed in a personal
    0:31:24 quarterly offsite, even though it’s more than these three, but this is the core of it is
    0:31:32 one, what are the essential things that we’re under investing in? The second question is
    0:31:37 what are the nonessential things we’re over investing in? And then perhaps not surprisingly,
    0:31:42 how can we make it as effortless as possible to be able to make that shift within this
    0:31:50 next 90 days? Now, there’s more sub questions to it than that, but I think that’s the tension
    0:31:56 that is so important to identify clearly. And so it doesn’t have to be as major as
    0:32:01 this, though. I mean, that’s, I think you could still make meaningful progress in an
    0:32:06 hour or two on your own or with someone else. I like doing it with an accountability partner,
    0:32:11 but even there, I think the best practice is you fill out this process, you answer these
    0:32:16 questions yourself, they do it, and then you bring them together and start talking and
    0:32:22 get into not negotiation exactly, but exploration and working through things. And I think that’s
    0:32:27 one of the primary benefits of a personal quarterly offsite is really facing the reality
    0:32:33 that all of us are lost. All of us are going in the wrong direction until we pause, think
    0:32:39 about it, get clear again. I do not feel like I’m a better essentialist or better at applying
    0:32:44 these ideas in one sense than anybody else, certainly not inherently, but I think I admit
    0:32:51 to it faster than maybe the average person. And I think that’s the key.
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    0:34:23 Could you give an example of, ideally a real example, but it doesn’t have to be, but particularly
    0:34:27 number three. So what’s the essential that you’re under investing in? I’m sure I could
    0:34:32 sit down and identify that. What’s non-essential that you’re over investing in? I think I could
    0:34:38 also come up with that list. How can you make it effortless or make it effortless to make
    0:34:43 the trade off? That is where the rubber hits the road. So I would love to hear an example
    0:34:49 perhaps of how you’ve navigated that or seen others navigate it.
    0:34:54 We could do it with me or with you right now. I’m game to try it. We’ll see how, with my
    0:34:59 brain cooperates, but I’m happy to give it a shot. Okay, so let’s just ask these questions
    0:35:03 with you right now. Let’s do like a little essentialist intervention. Maybe I shouldn’t
    0:35:09 call it that, but let’s try it. Sure. Well, let’s do it for the whole year. What are
    0:35:14 candidates for things that are essential that you feel like you’ve been under investing
    0:35:20 in? I think what I’ve been under investing in in the last month, which is something that
    0:35:25 I need to invest in in almost the most literal sense because it’s something that will have
    0:35:35 a payoff in the long term as it compounds, is physical therapy and training for the legs
    0:35:42 and glutes and lower back because I’ve had this chronic pain for let’s just call it two
    0:35:50 years. It’s probably longer with these brief windows of respite. And there was a period
    0:35:57 of time where I was doing this training very consistently and having intermittent progress.
    0:36:04 And then about, let’s just call it a month ago, I had a injection in a very particular
    0:36:13 place, which helped the back pain tremendously. And I could give a litany of excuses, family,
    0:36:20 sort of medical situation and various things. I have been neglecting that in part because
    0:36:25 I’m having this window of relief from the lower back pain. So it’s not an immediate
    0:36:31 pressing issue, but I know it will be. So let’s just say that and it’s something essential
    0:36:36 that I’m under investing in, even though I am going to be doing this particular training
    0:36:41 as soon as we finish this recording. So it hasn’t completely left the arena. But it’s
    0:36:47 something that I’ve been inconsistent with that I know is fundamental to my well-being.
    0:36:48 That’ll be one.
    0:36:52 Well, first of all, it’s a great example because when I ask people what’s essential that you’re
    0:36:57 under investing in, there are some really predictable answers. And one of them is certainly
    0:37:00 will be health related, fitness related is something they already know about that their
    0:37:08 conscience is already tapping them about. But what I have learned is this strange law
    0:37:17 of inverse prioritization, which is, I literally believe now that the most important thing
    0:37:22 in our lives at any given time is the least likely thing to get done.
    0:37:26 It sort of squares with what I see and what I’ve experienced at points. Why do you think
    0:37:27 that is?
    0:37:35 I think one of the reasons is because it’s so important, the risk of failing at it is
    0:37:42 much higher than anything else in your life. So it adds to this procrastination feeling
    0:37:43 performance anxiety.
    0:37:45 Yes. Yeah.
    0:37:50 Very high performance anxiety around that important thing, because doing something about it shows
    0:37:55 that you can fail or might show that, yeah, it doesn’t work. It doesn’t work. And now we’ll
    0:37:59 be back to the beginning on this thing that’s so high stakes. And then the more important
    0:38:06 the thing is, the more vulnerable it is. So then you want to avoid, we all know that courage
    0:38:13 is a virtue, but courage always feels terrible. I mean, it is an awful feeling. It’s not like
    0:38:15 you imagine when you see other people being courageous.
    0:38:21 Well, courage doesn’t exist without the prerequisite of fear. It’s you feel fear and you do the
    0:38:26 thing anyway, like without the fear, courage as a word and concept doesn’t apply.
    0:38:33 Yeah. There’s lots of layers of reasons that add on to that. One is sort of pretend perfectionism
    0:38:37 that drives procrastination. Well, unless I’m going to do this perfectly, unless I’m
    0:38:41 really ready to do this, unless I’m in the perfect situation, unless I’m going to do
    0:38:45 it for the full amount of time. So all of these additional rules.
    0:38:51 Yeah. I think I’ve set up basically set myself up to fail with the number of check boxes,
    0:38:55 like the perfect length. And as we’re talking about this just in terms of, I’m skipping
    0:38:59 to the end, we haven’t hit number two, which I’m sure I’ve got plenty, but in terms of
    0:39:03 making it effortless, it’s just like, and I’ve done this in other areas too, it’s just
    0:39:07 scale it down. Don’t eliminate the session. If it’s 10 minutes, it’s 10 minutes instead
    0:39:16 of an hour. But don’t put a lot of zeros on the calendar in terms of missed training sessions.
    0:39:20 So if it’s got to be five minutes, it’s got to be five minutes, but like 60 can be the
    0:39:27 ideal, but what’s not allowed is zero. It’s having a maximum and minimum, like it’s a
    0:39:33 lower bar, but also the higher bar, like a limit on both. And when I hear you say, oh,
    0:39:37 well, an hour would be perfect. Or I think that’s what you said. I felt overwhelmed for
    0:39:43 you. Literally, I’m like, what an hour that is, you know, like, oh, I can’t add an hour
    0:39:46 of physical therapy, even though I’m sure there are things I should be doing too. And
    0:39:51 so I like to term microburst for this. That’s an environmental reality, right? Like these
    0:39:56 storms that are just these 10 minute storms, a microburst, but actually setting a timer
    0:40:02 for 10 minutes. And the key is that you end the end of the 10 minutes. That’s what you’re
    0:40:08 using the discipline for. And you say, okay, I’m going to do that 10 days in a row, 10
    0:40:13 minutes. And when it hits 10 minutes, I’m done so that the next day, you know, this
    0:40:19 is small, like I really will end when it says so. And therefore I’ll carry it on. There’s
    0:40:24 just almost no end to the application of that. I was just reflecting on this as I was finishing
    0:40:30 this journal, I need to get the next one. You know, this is like in January, that will
    0:40:35 be 14 years that I’ve kept a journal. And I don’t think I’ve missed a day. I might have
    0:40:39 done, you know, if I went through it all, but I don’t think I have. But the reason is
    0:40:44 because my upper bound when I first started was five sentences and my lower bound was
    0:40:49 one sentence. And what normally happens with journals is the exact opposite. First day,
    0:40:54 people write three pages. And by day two, that is done by day two, because on day two,
    0:40:58 they’re like, I don’t have an hour for this. And so then they go, I’ll do it tomorrow.
    0:41:01 And then day three, now they got to do two hours in their mind. And so it’s over before
    0:41:06 they’ve begun. So I think that’s one key thing for you is the 10 minutes. I’ve done it 10
    0:41:11 minutes. Until I have done 10 days in a row, I’m doing 10 minutes. It’s way, way better
    0:41:16 to do that little than to not do any because you want to do it perfectly.
    0:41:18 Yeah, that’s good advice.
    0:41:23 Then I mean, I think there’s so many things that you could do to make this more enjoyable.
    0:41:28 What is a certain book could be a podcast, but could be a book or some other thing, audio
    0:41:33 thing that you’re only going to get to listen to or a movie, a fun show. This is the only
    0:41:38 time I get to watch that is the 10 minutes that I’m going to do this. And so you link
    0:41:43 it together. I’ve gone through so many classics this year, because while I’m running, while
    0:41:47 I’m doing exercise, while I’m traveling, I’m listening to some of the greatest literature
    0:41:52 ever written. I just almost feel like I’m, it is like cheat code. I’m cheating the system.
    0:41:57 I am just having wisdom and knowledge and entertainment poured into me while I’m doing
    0:42:01 something else. I really am getting two for the price of one. And so that’s another way
    0:42:05 to do it. Of course, you could have a forcing function where if you don’t do it, we’ve heard
    0:42:09 these things before, but if you don’t do it, then you have to pay a certain amount to a
    0:42:15 charity or to a political party, not if you’re choosing or you can create these forcing function
    0:42:20 bets had somebody who is, who had a really important trade off they were trying to make
    0:42:26 and their penalty for not making the trade off would be their favorite wine was $300
    0:42:31 bottle is some, I don’t know why, but and they he would have to pour down one glass
    0:42:35 of it if he didn’t complete it on this day. And that was his forcing function. And that
    0:42:40 was so painful for him that it really gave him an excuse. I mean, it’s a fun excuse,
    0:42:46 but an excuse to be on track and to be consistent. So there’s all sorts of things that we can
    0:42:50 do. Even you public these talking about it here. Okay. Well, now it really knows, I
    0:42:56 mean, all of these things are to try to stack the decks in your favor and to try to remove
    0:42:59 those things that make it harder than it needs to be.
    0:43:03 Yeah. I mean, I’m already thinking about a few things. I mean, it’s very basic, but
    0:43:08 for instance, you know, I’m staying due to the circumstances with the family stuff.
    0:43:15 I’m not at home. I’m staying in hotels and I need to travel to a location and sign in
    0:43:19 and sign waivers and so on just to do any of this. Yeah. So it’s like, all right, look,
    0:43:24 I’ve fortunately got the budget. I should just go out later today, get a reasonably thick
    0:43:31 yoga mat and just stick in my hotel room. I don’t actually need anything else. And currently,
    0:43:36 because it’s concrete floor, I can’t do what I would intend to do because it’ll be brutally
    0:43:41 unpleasant on the joints. And okay, like that’s a solvable problem, right?
    0:43:47 Obviously, I’m trying to sort of stack effortless ideas. One does not have to do any of these
    0:43:52 things. The question is the key. How do you make it effortless? I mean, okay, in a hotel,
    0:43:55 somebody in that hotel can go do that for you. Like you could find somebody to pay to
    0:44:00 do it and that all sounds like, oh yeah, champagne type of solution, but it’s like, well, that
    0:44:06 also makes it effortless. It’s all about trying to ask that question and giving your brain
    0:44:14 enough time to do a Google search, looking for easy solutions. And I think there’s such
    0:44:20 a insecure overachiever, there’s such a pushback about this in the mind. Well, what’s the easy
    0:44:24 solution? Oh, no, no, that can’t be it. That we don’t even allow the search to take place.
    0:44:30 Yeah. Well, also as the insecure achiever, which is a label of growing quite fond of
    0:44:34 while we’ve been talking, that probably characterizes me pretty well.
    0:44:42 You and me both. We’re both in this. Yeah. These achiever types often have a modicum
    0:44:48 of success in any number of ways because they are good at solving problems. So the inclination
    0:44:56 is to ask, how can I do X? But that’s not how the sentence needs to start. The sentence
    0:45:04 could be, who could do this besides me? Or who knows? Maybe Instacart could go get me
    0:45:09 a yoga mat, right? It doesn’t necessarily have to be Claude the Butler. I’m not suggesting
    0:45:15 that it’s like, well, I’ll just take my seven story hovercraft down to my Scrooge McDuck’s
    0:45:21 office and we’ll take some gold coins out of his swimming pool, but reframing and rephrasing
    0:45:25 the questions that you habitually ask yourself. This is something I do try to pay attention
    0:45:31 to. But my go-to is typically like, all right, look, it’s going to take me too long to get
    0:45:34 somebody up to speed on all this bullshit. I’m just going to do it myself. How can I
    0:45:40 do this as easily as possible? But that still presents a hurdle. And especially in this
    0:45:46 current day of automation, getting someone else or someone else a vis-a-vis an app or
    0:45:52 a retailer vis-a-vis an app to do something like this is available to almost anyone who
    0:45:56 is listening to this podcast, practically speaking. Yeah. Well, Warren Buffett described
    0:46:02 it this way. He said, “To be alive today in the developed world, you have more opportunity,
    0:46:08 more means, more chances for learning and for travel and so on than Rockefeller did.”
    0:46:13 And that was such a good reframe for me because, you’re talking about Instacart, there are
    0:46:19 so many ways to make things happen now. And almost all of us do have access to those things.
    0:46:24 And I’m not trying to minimize this. It’s the way of thinking that’s outdated. That’s
    0:46:31 where the cluster is. The execution ability in our societies are really pretty unbelievable
    0:46:36 right now. Now, there’s one more tactic worth considering here. One of the principles in
    0:46:41 Effortless is the courage to be rubbish and doing it a shorter period of time. And that’s
    0:46:44 one of the things you could say, well, that’s the rubbish version, but you’re saying the
    0:46:49 yoga mat and I think, well, yeah, I can see why that works, but you could also use something
    0:46:53 else. It doesn’t have to be a yoga mat on the first time today.
    0:46:59 Yeah. If we wanted to scale that down to dirty prototype, it’s like, okay, well, let me just
    0:47:05 grab some of the towels or something else. And it’s going to kind of be a pain in the
    0:47:11 ass, but it’s better than nothing. It’s better than doing a zero. So I’d love to hear your
    0:47:18 thoughts on doing a pre-mortem because I have found that this seems to be something you’ve
    0:47:23 given quite a bit of thought to. And the reason I bring it up is, I think a lot of people
    0:47:30 fumble sort of right before the touchdown, so to speak. And that’s because they don’t
    0:47:34 think about what could go wrong. And there are lots of questions, maybe they have answered.
    0:47:38 And I just came from a company offsite, we were chatting earlier today before recording
    0:47:42 where we talked about where have we been? Where are we now? Where do we want to be? We
    0:47:48 covered a lot of that ground. But one of the questions that we didn’t really think about
    0:47:55 as much, we did maybe in some nominal way ask, like, are there any blockers? But we didn’t
    0:48:00 explicitly ask, what are the most likely things to stop us from getting there, meaning where
    0:48:11 we want to go? And that’s something I really want to hone as a skill which I’ve done intermittently,
    0:48:16 but maybe you could just lay out what that looks like if people aren’t grasping the example
    0:48:23 that I’m giving. But what is this pre-mortem? I think if you want to make optimal progress
    0:48:30 on what’s essential, then using a strategic narrative is a really helpful way to go about
    0:48:35 this. I just did a session like this with the leadership of the Navy SEALs. And this
    0:48:39 wasn’t the only thing that we did, but this was part of it, was to not to write out, but
    0:48:45 to draw where have you been? Where are you now? Where do you want to be? And then this
    0:48:52 fourth question that you’re focusing on, what is going to keep us from doing it? What’s
    0:49:00 stopping us? What’s in the way? And so you have all of these commanders and above drawing.
    0:49:03 And then we’re looking at all the drawing. The drawing is not just, it’s not just to
    0:49:10 be fun or gimmick. It’s another forcing function to get to clarity. It’s easy to hide behind
    0:49:14 numbers and too many words and too many bullet points. Like if you have to create an image,
    0:49:20 it forces a certain part of your brain to light up. And so they did that. But then what
    0:49:26 it enables us to do to look at in this case, an image of what’s going to keep you from
    0:49:31 achieving your outcome is that, first of all, it becomes tangible so that you can actually
    0:49:36 prosecute it. Well, that might not really be the issue. That is a thought that you have,
    0:49:41 but that thought is actually outdated thought. That’s not really what it is based on an assumption.
    0:49:46 So you need to prosecute it before you try to solve that obstacle. You need to say, well,
    0:49:50 is it really an obstacle? Is that just the way we’ve been doing it in the past? How have
    0:49:56 we overcomplicated it? Every organization, every single organization follows a predictable
    0:50:02 pattern with overcomplicating. Every society does the same thing. There’s a brilliant
    0:50:07 book written about this by Joseph Tanger called The Collapse of Complex Societies in which
    0:50:15 he says, look, all societies become fragile because they solve problems that add too
    0:50:23 much complexity. And then there’s no mechanism for reducing that complexity other than failure.
    0:50:30 The most fragile state for society in his analysis is that it requires all of the resources
    0:50:36 you have available to maintain the current level of complexity. And so then it doesn’t
    0:50:41 matter what the next massive problem is. He studied all these dozens of different societies
    0:50:46 that have collapsed and ones for famine and ones because of war and ones because of civil
    0:50:51 unrest. I mean, every cause looks different, but he’s like, they’re the same thing. It’s
    0:50:56 just another massive problem and you don’t have any resources to handle it.
    0:51:00 So the first thing to do once you’ve asked the question what’s getting in the way is
    0:51:05 to just pause on it. Why do I think that’s getting the way? Is that really the problem?
    0:51:10 And it’s back to this falling in love with the problem, not the solution. And high performance
    0:51:16 people and high performance executives and in this case that high performing commanders
    0:51:22 and major commanders, I mean, they are built to execute. They’re the elite of the elite
    0:51:30 at being able to make something happen. But the problem is how do you challenge that strength
    0:51:36 so that you first go, have we identified the right problem? Is this really the issue?
    0:51:41 Why do we think this is the thing? Why do we think this is getting in the way? That’s
    0:51:46 really non-trivial part of the thought process. If you really think you’ve pinpointed and
    0:51:51 unlocked the real issue, which as I say, most people with the curse of competence make the
    0:51:56 mistake of not prosecuting it, then of course now you’re saying, okay, well, we really do
    0:52:00 think this is the obstacle. We do think this is the problem. Then it’s really creating
    0:52:07 a lot of buffer for that to expect the unexpected to know that things will come up. In your
    0:52:12 example that we’ve started this conversation with, right? Like, let’s say I assume two
    0:52:15 months ago, you didn’t know this was going to happen. And here it is, and it’s having
    0:52:20 all this effect. And it’s like, we don’t know what will happen in 2025, but I’ll bet anybody,
    0:52:24 almost any amount of money that they will have such things come up in 2025 that they’re
    0:52:32 not yet prepared for. If you think about the future as only perfect best case scenario,
    0:52:38 you are setting yourself up for really frustrating, stressful, poor execution. The best performers,
    0:52:48 you think here like, think of Phelps. Think about Phelps process. So when they’re creating
    0:52:54 the coach, Bob Bowman and Phelps, effectively their strategic narrative, right? Effectively,
    0:52:58 they don’t literally do it, but drawing out where they’ve been, where they want to go,
    0:53:04 what could get in the way? The list is a long list, longer than I realized, because of course
    0:53:09 he’s performed so many times at elite level, what really can get in the way at the Olympics
    0:53:16 other than the other competitors. Oh, no, they got a long and complex identification
    0:53:20 of possible problems. One of the things that they said, which was interesting to me when
    0:53:27 I talked to Bob about this, he said, well, the conditions in China or in any Olympics
    0:53:33 is that they will be worse than the conditions he’s used to training in. That never occurred
    0:53:38 to me before because I just sort of always look so extraordinary. You just assume that
    0:53:44 the athletes are having great experiences off camera. And he’s like, that’s never how
    0:53:47 it is. It’s always much more chaotic. There’s always many more problems, things that the
    0:53:55 conditions aren’t ideal. So his goal was, how can I make Phelps experience as normal
    0:54:04 as possible in really abnormal circumstances? So some of the things that they do, okay,
    0:54:09 they have a set routine so that he’s there two hours before every race. That’s a lot
    0:54:13 of buffer, especially for me who can be quite time blind, you know, like it’s easy to just
    0:54:17 show up at the right at the time or a couple of minutes late, two hours ahead of time.
    0:54:22 Why? Because no matter what happens, you have buffer now. They’re in the pool following
    0:54:27 a normal routine so that he can feel normal even though everything’s abnormal. So they’re
    0:54:34 doing the same thing until 45 minutes when he sits on the massage table, never lies down
    0:54:40 because it’s routine. You routinize everything you can routinize. When he comes to the call
    0:54:45 time, he sits down, puts a towel next to him on one side, his goggles on the other so that
    0:54:48 no one can sit next to him. You just don’t need another detraction. It’s another thing
    0:54:52 you can control in the routine. He’s listening to the same music. When he gets up to the
    0:54:57 board to jump off, he’s getting on always from the left hand side, always dries it before
    0:55:03 he gets up there. All of this is as a result of having identified previously problems that
    0:55:07 could come up. And if you do it in this sequence, then you’ve mitigated all those execution
    0:55:13 problems. When he stands to jump into the pool, he flaps his arms in a very particular
    0:55:21 Phelpsian way every time. That’s just the physical preparation in advance. He also
    0:55:27 had mental preparation processes that included, for example, for 10 years before the Beijing
    0:55:34 Olympics, he has every night and every morning told to put in the videotape. You can see
    0:55:38 how long it’s been going on for. Put in the videotape and it means to imagine the perfect
    0:55:45 race from end to end in slow motion. But it also includes exercises like, what will you
    0:55:52 do if your goggles fill with water? To imagine stroke by stroke, perfect race, even though
    0:55:57 your goggles are filled with water and so on, like lots of different mental preparation
    0:56:01 cycles. And in fact, that is what happened in one of the races is that goggles did fill
    0:56:06 with water, which you could just imagine how if you have never anticipated that, never
    0:56:11 thought through it psychologically, mentally, that’s it. That’s over. Forget a race, forget
    0:56:16 the Olympics. I would hate to try and do that for even a couple of lengths would be not
    0:56:20 at all enjoyable. And he still is able to win because he’s literally prepared for these
    0:56:27 scenarios. When it came down to those Olympics, Bob Bowman said to me, he said, I knew it
    0:56:33 was feasible to happen, but I couldn’t believe that it happened as effortlessly as it did.
    0:56:38 It’s just everything clicked every time one after another. He says at the end, he stood
    0:56:43 like in the movie, the miracle he stood in the hallway and just on his own, just had
    0:56:49 this moment of sort of exquisite meltdown of like, here I have, I’ve been speaking with
    0:56:54 confidence, but the thing actually executed so beautifully so well, no one had ever done
    0:56:58 it before. You know, like somebody described him, if he wins seven gold medals, he’ll be
    0:57:03 like the first man on the moon. If he wins eight, he’ll be like the first man on Mars.
    0:57:08 And he does the eight. When I went to the cube in China, I was reflecting on this, how
    0:57:12 did he make the execution looks effortless? It’s like, that’s why, you know, that’s why
    0:57:16 I went and ended up interviewing Bob about this because I was like, you got to explain
    0:57:21 it. What went on? What’s behind the scenes? It’s not just the moment that looks like the
    0:57:26 moment of execution. It’s what are all the problems? What are all the mitigating things
    0:57:30 we can do? We’ll build that into the routine. He added this final thought, which I think
    0:57:35 is interesting. He said, if you ask Phelps about this, he might not even tell you there
    0:57:41 is a routine. It’s so normal now. And it was built so deliberately. That’s just life.
    0:57:47 And yet all of it was built in place as anticipation for challenges and problems so that then the
    0:57:54 whole thing feels effortless, fluid. But really, it’s because of all of this anticipation
    0:58:00 planning. Yeah. And it also strikes me not what is holding
    0:58:06 this back. It could be present tense, but what could prevent this? I know one very,
    0:58:12 very successful, one of the most, maybe the most successful consumer packaged goods investors.
    0:58:16 He’s also a serial founder. So he invests. And if you go to Whole Foods, everything there
    0:58:25 is CPG. All right. He will ask co-founders. He said, three years from now, you guys have
    0:58:30 had a huge dispute and one of you wants to leave. What are the most likely reasons? That’s
    0:58:35 his question. Like, what are the most likely reasons? And I mean, there’s a lot that can
    0:58:40 uncork, obviously, if there are already tensions or finger pointing at play, then he’ll get
    0:58:47 to see it. But it often will unearth other things that might be problematic. Maybe there’s
    0:58:53 an equity split that one person feels is unfair. Maybe there’s a power dynamic where
    0:58:58 they’re both trying to split CEO duties 50/50, which I’ve never seen work, and so on and
    0:59:05 so forth. But having those come up early allows him as an investor to say, okay, great. And
    0:59:09 I’m role playing here. But he might say, I want to invest. Here are the terms I’m willing
    0:59:16 to agree to, but a condition of that will be that we fix A, B, and C that you guys brought
    0:59:23 up. And that’s it, right? So that’s a way of sussing out a pre-mortem. And in my case,
    0:59:29 to focus on my lower back rehab, it’s very simple. It’s like, okay, well, if I’m traveling,
    0:59:34 what happens? Because sure, if I’m at home and I have all of my toys and tools and my
    0:59:39 routine is already established, so there isn’t a lot of hemming and hawing or figuring out
    0:59:46 how to order food from room service or whatever, that’s great. But you need to develop systems
    0:59:52 and plans and contingencies so that you do what you’re supposed to do on your worst days.
    0:59:56 The best days will hopefully kind of take care of themselves, but the world doesn’t
    1:00:01 always serve you up perfect days. So in the case of the low back stuff, it’s like, okay,
    1:00:08 well, I should have yoga mat. I’m just using the yoga mat example, pre-ship to every hotel
    1:00:14 room. Maybe we choose hotels based on which ones have gyms or yoga mats already in the
    1:00:22 rooms, which is true for some places. But basically put that into a template, right?
    1:00:27 Maybe that’s a Google doc for me or for someone else where it’s like, okay, I have to book
    1:00:32 a hotel for location X. Like, what are the rules? What’s the template? And then that’s
    1:00:37 it. It’s just done. Hopefully it’s a set it and forget a type of operation or it’s like,
    1:00:46 I identify a possible problem, identify solution to possible problem, build that into every
    1:00:49 time X is done, right? Whatever that X might be.
    1:00:56 The word that you use that isn’t a new word to any of us, but brings to mind an extreme
    1:01:04 and amazing case of this is the word systems. And I don’t know if you know Rob Dierdek.
    1:01:09 I don’t think so. He’s an MTV star. Have you seen the show Ridiculousness?
    1:01:13 I don’t think I have. Maybe. Maybe, yeah. I’ll have to look it up.
    1:01:18 It’s a kind of American home videos, you know, crazy crashes and terrible things and hilarious
    1:01:24 or like that. That’s one of the shows that he’s most famous for now at big MTV show.
    1:01:28 Before that he was famous first. His first big show was Robin Big. And then before that
    1:01:34 he was famous as a skateboarder. Lots of people listening to this know already who Rob did
    1:01:40 the decades. But in persona, he’s this skateboarder. I mean, he’s funny and he’s a certain kind
    1:01:50 of version of him. But as I’ve got to know Rob, he absolutely blows my mind in the intentionality
    1:01:57 of the system he’s building. I think he’s the second best paid skateboarder in America,
    1:02:03 among many other things. I want to try and capture this because he sent to me a document.
    1:02:09 It’s called the rhythm of experience. I’ve had a lot of people send me kind of life plan
    1:02:14 tools and documents and versions of things, right? Like his vision, statements and mission
    1:02:18 statements and goals and roles and all sorts of things you might expect to have in there.
    1:02:26 This is a 50 page document that is like seeing the future. Every single thing he learns about
    1:02:33 himself, about a system, about a problem, they just build it into the same single document.
    1:02:37 Everything. So when he got married, he has therapy. I think he does it either every
    1:02:41 week or every two weeks from the time they got married. It’s like a Ferrari. We’re just
    1:02:44 updated Ferrari. It’s not because there’s a problem. It’s just anticipation. Of course,
    1:02:48 there’ll be problems. So we just build it into the routine. So anything that comes up
    1:02:51 in those conversations, he doesn’t just go, “Oh, yeah, that’s good. I’m really trying
    1:02:56 to work on that and improve on that.” He goes, “Okay, right. I’m not communicating well
    1:03:00 about what my schedule is.” Okay. So he builds it into the routine. Every single morning,
    1:03:05 an email of my routine will be sent every day forever going forward to my wife. So she
    1:03:11 never has to have that specific problem again. Everything he learns, he builds into the system
    1:03:18 so that he isn’t learning the same lesson, like living 20 years, but actually you’re
    1:03:24 just living the same year 20 times. He’s actually gaining 20 years of experience.
    1:03:29 So let me ask you a question about his document, the rhythm of experience, because it sounds
    1:03:33 like there are two things, at least just to confirm that I’m understanding this. He has
    1:03:42 a document that contains learnings and various things. He also has very rapid action after,
    1:03:46 let’s just say, “Wife gives feedback. I don’t know what your schedule is. I want you to
    1:03:49 communicate. I’d love for you to communicate better about that.” He’s like, “Great. From
    1:03:57 this point forward, daily email to wife regarding schedule.” But it sounds like that goes into
    1:04:03 action how that’s implemented. I don’t know. But what does the document do? Because if
    1:04:10 the document is 50 pages long or however long it is, presumably there would have to be some
    1:04:17 scheduled time for reviewing that or using it. My takeaway is that he basically creates
    1:04:24 a rule and systematizes things so that he doesn’t have 101 off-band-aid solutions. There’s
    1:04:30 some recurring semi-permanent or permanent policy that he puts in place to address various
    1:04:34 things. But how is the document actually used?
    1:04:38 Everyone on his team has access to the same document. So it’s not just for him to remember.
    1:04:43 And so this is the brain. This is what you’re going to first. You’re not coming to him,
    1:04:48 “Hey, how should we handle this and that?” Unless it’s not in that document. It really
    1:04:53 is. We all know the idea of the difference between working in your business and on your
    1:04:59 business. But he’s just applying that to his life in a more sophisticated, developed way
    1:05:01 than anyone I have seen.
    1:05:06 I’m curious because I have not surprisingly spent a lot of time thinking about systems.
    1:05:12 I come up with rules and policies and this, this, and this. That I have found to be the
    1:05:16 easy part. I create a document or someone else creates a document. There’s a Google
    1:05:21 doc. It’s shared with everyone on the team. But by the way, in the process of doing business
    1:05:27 week to week, month to month, year to year, there are hundreds of Google documents. And
    1:05:32 aside from for specific documents saying if they’re short enough, let’s just say there’s
    1:05:39 a short, which there is, I have a sort of 12 commandments of Tim’s calendar type of document.
    1:05:43 It’s like, okay, like every Wednesday morning, review this or something. Okay, you can have
    1:05:49 somebody put in a recurring calendar item to do that. But otherwise, I’m most interested
    1:05:58 in how the team uses the document because there’s a search and discovery challenge sort
    1:06:04 of inherent with Google docs and so on. Now, if it’s a single doc, that’s interesting.
    1:06:08 But that presents its own challenges. If it becomes kind of unwieldy, it’s like, hey,
    1:06:12 my wife didn’t get the reminder on the calendar. They’re like, what reminder on the calendar?
    1:06:19 Whatever. And they’re like, oh, it’s on page 47 buried under miscellaneous. Why didn’t
    1:06:23 you find it? And it’s like, because no human would ever think to find that quickly there.
    1:06:27 So I don’t know if there’s any light you can shed on that.
    1:06:31 While we’re sort of thinking about that, I’m just remembering of other precision things
    1:06:36 that he has on there, right? So he gets his haircut once a week at exactly the same time
    1:06:40 as he likes his hair just to be never have to think about that, never have to schedule
    1:06:45 it. And every time I schedule an appointment to get my haircut, every time I think, you’re
    1:06:51 doing this wrong, Greg, because there’s a way to systematize that. And I know someone
    1:06:55 who’s done it and I haven’t done it yet. I mean, what we’re talking about is the difference
    1:07:02 between linear results and residual results, right? So if a linear result is one way you
    1:07:11 say, well, it only happens today, if you take action to do it today, right? So linear income,
    1:07:15 right, you get paid per hour per day. And so you get paid when you work today, right?
    1:07:21 And residual income would be, okay, income that rolls to you through all sorts of investments
    1:07:25 that can do that when you’re sleeping. So it just is happening automatically. It’s such
    1:07:31 a game changer to shift one’s mindset between the two.
    1:07:36 Let’s talk about if you’re open to it and feel free to defer this and continue on a
    1:07:43 different thread if you like. But defining done, this is also something that has captured
    1:07:50 my attention. I’ll let you open that in any way that makes sense. But why is it important
    1:07:52 to define what done looks like?
    1:08:01 Because insecure overachievers can endlessly complicate any task to a infinite degree.
    1:08:07 So just asking the question, what does done look like? And then sticking to it, knowing
    1:08:13 when this thing has happened, when we’ve reached that point, that is what done will be on this
    1:08:20 project, this goal, of course, is an accelerating thing to do. And then maybe just saying it
    1:08:24 a different way, it’s almost like a natural law. Like, if you don’t know what done looks
    1:08:31 like, you cannot be done. Even defining a done for the day list, I think is really helpful.
    1:08:37 So as part of a tool that I actually never thought I would do it, I was under contract
    1:08:42 to create an essentialism planner 10 years ago. And after I worked on it for a few months
    1:08:47 with a team, I just concluded, yeah, I think I would just be creating something just totally
    1:08:51 non essential, which you know, would be too ironic. And I just just not helpful enough
    1:08:56 to anyone. This is just like every other planner like this and or journal. And I uncommitted
    1:09:03 got out of the contract. And then a couple of years ago, after I’d carried on trial and
    1:09:10 error in my own life, applying these ideas, I finally was like, no, actually, I think
    1:09:15 I have something now that special and it works. And it’s so helpful to me. I think I’m ready
    1:09:20 to actually get into contract and do it. So we did that went through again, more iterations,
    1:09:23 removed loads of stuff you would normally have in a planner so that it really is sort
    1:09:28 of just the heart of it has a personal quarterly offsite in it. As a weekly process, you go
    1:09:33 through and then a daily process. And the output of the daily process is done for the
    1:09:38 day list. It doesn’t mean when you’ve done these six items, and it’s the particular,
    1:09:44 it’s called the 123 methods. So there’s six items total. When you’ve done those six things,
    1:09:48 you can feel you’re done for the day. And maybe you don’t do anything else, but you
    1:09:53 know you have done important things, urgent things, key things for tomorrow. And there’s
    1:10:00 a method to get to that. But a done for the day list is, I think, helpful psychologically
    1:10:07 for removing unnecessary cognitive strain on our minds when we’re just perpetually doing
    1:10:13 there’s no doing and they’re not doing times. There’s just endlessly looping endlessly doing
    1:10:18 semi tasks or semi distractions in a digital world.
    1:10:24 The 123 method, you mentioned that that is the one most essential thing, two essential
    1:10:30 and urgent things and three maintenance items you can start the day. Yeah. Okay. And could
    1:10:37 you give an example of what that might look like in your own life? What that 123 has looked
    1:10:38 like or might look like?
    1:10:42 I’m going to back up just for just a second just to say, okay, this is part of the daily
    1:10:50 process. There’s a solid science behind structure and this protocol. And nobody needs to know
    1:10:54 that, you know, what all that research is, but it’s helpful just to know that that’s
    1:11:00 the case. It follows this structure that I call the power half an hour, because I basically
    1:11:05 think, look, for most people, maybe everyone, including me, it’s unrealistic to say, oh,
    1:11:09 take control of your whole life. But if you could take control of half an hour of your
    1:11:15 life that will improve every other minute of the other 23 and a half hours, okay, that’s
    1:11:20 a pretty high return on effort. And if there’s a microversion, you can do it the minimum.
    1:11:24 I would suggest I think you can do this. Well, still have a valuable experience is like six
    1:11:30 minutes and that’s sort of a backup, you know, lower bound. But you’re answering three questions.
    1:11:34 I mentioned the previously, but you do it on a daily basis. What so what now what that’s
    1:11:40 the structure so that every day you take that noise. So instead of it building up days and
    1:11:44 weeks at a time, you’re like, you’re just spending that immediately just getting the
    1:11:49 noise out what’s going on download. So what what’s the news in your life try to find the
    1:11:54 headline the key why does this matter? What does this mean? And then the third thing that
    1:12:00 now what is the 123 method? What does it look like for me? Okay, you know, so the priority
    1:12:06 for the day. So I’m thinking about Saturday priority for the day on Saturday, my niece
    1:12:11 is getting married, Clara and John a shout out to them. And so that’s the priority. And
    1:12:16 that’s an obvious one I suppose on that day, because, you know, certain things it’s already
    1:12:22 structurally built in. I still find it helpful to identify it. Because it helps me go Okay,
    1:12:28 that’s the mission. That’s the priority singular. If I only do one thing today, if I only need
    1:12:33 to give my attention to one thing today, this is what I need to give attention to. Then
    1:12:38 underneath that you have Okay, two things that are essential and urgent. These I sort
    1:12:42 of described this as like the taxes of our life. And that was kind of literally true
    1:12:47 on Saturday, right? We’re coming to the very end of the year. Any final financial things
    1:12:51 I need to have sorted out retirement taxes anything, this would be the last day to check.
    1:12:56 You know, so I think those were the items that were on there. Maintenance items I describe
    1:13:00 is like the laundry of our life, which can be literally the laundry. But I have a car
    1:13:07 that has one of the tires is just losing air on it. Obviously, it’s not normal simple
    1:13:11 thing. But if I don’t take care of that, which doesn’t mean I have to execute it, the task
    1:13:17 is schedule this or have this organized so that you know it’s done. The three maintenance
    1:13:24 items per day are the things that make tomorrow a lot harder. If you don’t resolve them today,
    1:13:29 your future self is always grateful that you took care of the maintenance items. And of
    1:13:37 course, this is all just a rule of thumb. This 123. But I have just found it so helpful.
    1:13:43 And I don’t do it every day. I still wish I did. But what I notice is that when I don’t
    1:13:50 do it, my day is more frenetic, more frantic. I don’t have as clear sense of the day. It’s
    1:13:55 not nearly as satisfying because even though I can still be productive in a kind of more
    1:14:01 forced way, you don’t know if you’re doing the most important thing. You don’t know,
    1:14:06 yes, I have selected these things. You don’t have something to come back to going back
    1:14:12 to the plane analogy of, okay, well, all these things happened that I didn’t expect to happen.
    1:14:17 Yes, that’s normal. That’s life. But you don’t have a chance to go, okay, coming back to
    1:14:22 the most important thing, let’s work on this again. And so that’s an example from just
    1:14:29 literally this weekend of how I would think about it. And it just allows you on the days
    1:14:34 that I’ve done it to enjoy the experience. And also, and I suppose maybe this is the most
    1:14:40 important benefit, is that you actually know and work on the most important thing, which
    1:14:45 as previously stated, is actually the least likely thing to happen. That’s of course a
    1:14:51 very satisfying way to live. Because if you go through 2025, and you literally every day
    1:14:56 did, if you and I, if everyone listening to this, does the most important thing every
    1:15:01 day, if they did nothing else different in 2025, there’s no question that would change
    1:15:08 both trajectory and momentum, you know, the whole velocity of the year would be different
    1:15:13 because of our tendency not to do the most important thing. And of course, the other
    1:15:18 things add to that sense of an, of a more effortless approach to doing the things that
    1:15:19 matter most.
    1:15:26 Yeah, I would also add to that that working on the most important thing gives you a sense
    1:15:35 of mission and purpose that smaller things do not. So it’s not purely the clinical moving
    1:15:42 of the needle on important things, because really, there’s nothing outside of your psychological
    1:15:48 experience of reality, but the feeling of being moored and pointed in the right direction
    1:15:53 with the bigger thing, psychologically is really, really, really valuable. It’s not just
    1:15:59 about whatever the points might be. Sure, the points are nice, but really psychologically
    1:16:06 and psycho emotionally, knowing that you’re working on something that matters, however
    1:16:10 you’ve defined that is, I have just found, you know, this past year, I think I’ve done
    1:16:17 a very good job of that. And it’s remarkable what that does for your mental health.
    1:16:22 Well, just describe that a little more in detail. So you’re describing the impact of
    1:16:28 meaning, you know, practically knowing each day, each week and so on, I’m pursuing something
    1:16:33 that means something to me. But what difference has it made for you psychologically?
    1:16:39 Sure. Well, I would say that there’s a bit more to it just in terms of maybe characteristics
    1:16:47 when choosing that important thing. So for instance, for me, there has to be a making
    1:16:52 or mastery component, one or the other. So either creating something, or I am trying
    1:16:59 to master something, not just this is on the flip side, like manage or mitigate. So for
    1:17:05 instance, even though doing the PT for the low back and so on is incredibly important.
    1:17:13 If I decide that is the most important thing per se, it’s depressing. There’s no winning
    1:17:21 there. It’s doing something not to lose. There’s a lot of fear associated with it. It is not
    1:17:27 an inspiring headspace to inhabit. No, it doesn’t need to be doing back PT in the gulag
    1:17:33 by candlelight. I mean, it doesn’t have to be miserable, but it doesn’t have the requisite
    1:17:38 payoff that I would want in a most important thing. It still needs to get done, which means
    1:17:43 that it’s maybe the two essential and urgent things or one of the maintenance things. It’s
    1:17:49 a non-negotiable maintenance. This is not a nice to have. But for instance, been working
    1:17:55 on my first book in seven years, which is making fantastic progress. Shocker, it’s become
    1:18:02 absurdly long. One day I’ll write a short book. It’s going to be hell of an accomplishment.
    1:18:06 By the way, someone was just raving to me last night about Tools of Titans. This is the groom
    1:18:11 who just was married. He was talking to me. He’s like, “Yeah, normally I would try and
    1:18:15 read.” He said, “20 minutes a day, but I sat down and I was just gone for like two hours
    1:18:19 working through it. There’s so much in it.” That was literally yesterday. They just out
    1:18:22 the blue said that. Carry on anyway. Yeah, thanks. That makes me feel good. That was
    1:18:28 a fun book to write, which isn’t always the case. That is one at the top, which feels
    1:18:36 very good to get back into as I feel like much of what is online, most of what is online
    1:18:42 increasingly is just becoming ephemera. Very short half-life. It’s just like you could put
    1:18:48 out the best thing imaginable in most formats that are available today and it will have vanished
    1:18:53 from the minds of the people it passed in front of within 24 hours. Books still hold
    1:18:58 an interesting place. They have a certain durability. It might not last forever, but
    1:19:02 there’s a certain durability that I think is really important.
    1:19:06 There’s a deep cache about it, deep. Not just, “Oh, that’s impressive. It holds a certain
    1:19:11 place in people’s minds still.” For good reason, I mean, books have lasted longer than almost
    1:19:18 anything else. Yeah, so for me, if I’m among other things trying to impact lives, that feels
    1:19:25 like time very well spent. I understand that. All of that is on the making side. Then I
    1:19:32 also have been spending a lot of time on archery specifically, which is every bit as frustrating
    1:19:36 as golf in a lot of respects. I don’t play golf, but I’ve talked to a lot of golfers
    1:19:41 and that’s the closest comparison. When it’s going well, man, is it beautiful. When you
    1:19:49 can’t figure out what you’ve changed to make things go sideways, it’s very frustrating,
    1:19:57 but it’s become this constant that I can work on. In some cases, incremental gains. In some
    1:20:03 cases, big gains. I don’t want to imply that I’m going to master archery, but I am practicing
    1:20:10 as if that is my goal. There’s an article. Let me just pull it up. I want to give credit
    1:20:22 where credit is due that I’m reading right now on mastery. It is on readtrung.com. The
    1:20:31 name of the piece, which I recommend to folks, it’s actually a fantastic read, is readtrung.com
    1:20:38 is a reference to Trung Fan, who’s the writer. Jerry Seinfeld, Ichiro Suzuki and the Prezute
    1:20:44 of Mastery. Notes from the 1987 Esquire magazine issue that inspired Jerry Seinfeld to “Pursue
    1:20:51 Mastery” because that will fulfill your life.” We’ll put that in the show notes, but it
    1:20:57 basically makes the point that if you choose a discipline or something to approach through
    1:21:02 the lens of deliberate practice and mastery, which never ends, this may be something you
    1:21:07 do for an incredibly long period of time, and it also highlights different archetypes
    1:21:14 and why they fail to pursue mastery, which I found very helpful. That art, that sport,
    1:21:20 that film, the blank could be your most constant companion you have in life. There’s something
    1:21:25 very reassuring about that. To have that as a through line also as identity diversification
    1:21:31 so that if something goes sideways with the podcast or something goes sideways in family
    1:21:41 life, that you have diversified your psychological health on some level because it’s not totally
    1:21:50 invested in one basket. I would say that speaks a bit to how I’ve been choosing things. It’s
    1:21:57 making your mastery versus mitigating risk or managing. That’s how I’ve been thinking
    1:22:04 about it for myself. I feel for myself, I need something that is inspiring as the most
    1:22:08 important thing. Now, that’s not always going to be the case. If you have a family member
    1:22:13 who has an acute health emergency, it’s like, “Okay, that may be the most important thing,
    1:22:20 but if you have the flexibility, if you have the ability to choose, I want something that’s
    1:22:32 inspiring because that inspiration, that breathing in generates energy. It generates the excitement
    1:22:40 and the life force for lack of a better term that then trickles down to everything else.
    1:22:45 If the thing I choose is depressing or it’s avoiding something bad, it’s running away from
    1:22:52 something as opposed to towards something, then it doesn’t work for me. It really doesn’t.
    1:22:56 You said a few different things there, but one thing that stands out to me is just this
    1:23:03 idea that meaning isn’t a nice to have. Describe this way to me once, and I like this, that
    1:23:11 because life is suffering, you need to pursue meaning that justifies that level of suffering.
    1:23:14 100%. I’ve been thinking a lot about this as well.
    1:23:20 Let’s say the most famous person in the world about meaning would be Viktor Frankl. It is
    1:23:26 creation of logotherapy out of the Nazi Germany concentration camps. He’s a psychologist
    1:23:30 and a Jew, and he’s going through those experiences and he crafts his story and man’s search
    1:23:35 for meaning, but just building on that. He sometimes would try to, if he was in therapy
    1:23:40 with somebody, he would say, “They would say, ‘Oh, I just want to die. I’ve got no reason
    1:23:45 to live.’” I don’t know precisely the words he would use, but he’s effectively saying,
    1:23:51 “Okay, well, then why haven’t you done that? What is it that actually keeps you here then?”
    1:23:55 The meaning could be, and I don’t mean it’s trivial, but it might sound trivial, it could
    1:24:01 be, “Well, I have a cat and I need to feed the cat.” Those answers were not nothing to
    1:24:08 him at all. He would use that as a gateway to being able to reconstruct a life of meaning
    1:24:15 because there’s something, some meaning that can be built upon. I really think this is
    1:24:23 an undertought and underappreciated idea. I think it distinguishes itself considerably
    1:24:29 from productivity because you could be productive at all sorts of things like that you shouldn’t
    1:24:33 even be doing or don’t really motivate you, don’t drive you. You could be doing task
    1:24:42 execution all day long and feel really meaningless in your life. Finding something meaningful,
    1:24:47 something beautiful, something creative as you’re describing, not consuming, changing
    1:24:55 the ratio of consumption to creation, I think is one really self-evident shifter I think
    1:25:02 a lot of people would benefit in. Consuming it does not fill you with meaning. Creating
    1:25:06 anything, even if it’s not very good at first, just being in the act of creation I think
    1:25:12 is closer to meaning. I struggle a little bit. People will describe what I’m into. “Oh,
    1:25:19 yeah, here’s a productivity thing.” I never self-identify that way because essentialism,
    1:25:22 for example, is about, it’s not about doing more things, it’s about doing more of the
    1:25:27 right things. Essential, the very word, it means very important. It’s trying to craft
    1:25:34 your life around the highest meaning activity you can currently conjure. I think it’s about
    1:25:43 as good an antidote to the psychological traumas and taxation of our lives that exists. Maybe
    1:25:48 it’s the only one really. This idea of radical gratitude, radical gratitude is expressing
    1:25:52 thanks for things you’re not thankful for because that’s what gratitude actually is.
    1:25:56 If you look at the definition of gratitude, I did not know this till just a few years
    1:26:03 ago. I thought gratitude was a life changer, game changer, and it meant be grateful for
    1:26:08 the good things in your life, that is, remember them, express them, focus on them. That’s
    1:26:11 not the definition of gratitude. If you look at the definition of gratitude in the dictionary,
    1:26:15 what you find is that it’s living with a spirit of thankfulness. That’s not the same
    1:26:20 thing because that’s not just for the “good things,” that’s for everything. As I was
    1:26:25 thinking about this, I was like, “Well, that was a game changer for me when my daughter
    1:26:33 Eve was very ill with an undiagnosed neurological condition, free falling in her executive function.
    1:26:40 I found that radical gratitude was a way out of the madness of not being able to control
    1:26:45 the situation and watching some of the picture of health suddenly become mentally and physically
    1:26:50 hugely incapacitated on the way to being in a coma.” I learned it there. As I was talking
    1:26:52 about it yesterday when I was sharing this with someone, I thought, “Well, it’s so easy
    1:26:58 to point back to that because it all worked out in the end, right? Years go by and it’s
    1:27:04 resolved so I can point back to radical gratitude there, but can I do it now?” I thought, “Can
    1:27:10 I express this idea out loud because it sticks in my throat even as I go to talk about it
    1:27:19 now? Can I say out loud? I am thankful that my best friend of 35 years is fatally ill
    1:27:29 with cancer because I want to rage against that, that phrase, that idea. I won’t say
    1:27:36 wrong because that’s not quite right, but it is something so violating about that expression,
    1:27:41 but it’s in the expression of it that you open yourself. It’s like an act of faith that
    1:27:50 opens meaning that’s invisible until you express the first half of the equation because opening
    1:27:56 oneself to the idea that there could be meaning in this suffering and there’s such a gift
    1:28:01 in that so it’s sort of hidden behind this action. I don’t want to take the expression
    1:28:05 of it, but I’m grateful for this challenge because like one of the thoughts that came
    1:28:12 to me just yesterday about this was because now I need to live… I don’t mean in a guilt
    1:28:20 way, but I need to live double now. I cannot just go through life. I must live it alive
    1:28:26 in a sense living it doubly because he can’t do that now. So the 40 to 50 years hopefully
    1:28:30 maybe that we could have had together, that’s just not happening now. That’s not going to
    1:28:35 be the story and I still find that unimaginable is almost impossible for me to get my head
    1:28:42 around that, but if that’s the reality, what’s the possible meaning in it? This I think is
    1:28:49 like something like the actual test of life is to open oneself to the possibility that
    1:28:54 there is meaning in suffering. That suffering isn’t because God is a vivisectionist. That’s
    1:28:58 C.S. Lewis’s language for it. Like you have to decide is God a vivisectionist? Does he
    1:29:03 take pleasure in suffering or is there meaning in our suffering? And that’s only one answer
    1:29:10 to this question, but to take responsibility for my life in a different way, to value the
    1:29:19 remaining years and hopefully decades differently. It’s like I have a responsibility burned into
    1:29:24 me like a scar, like a scar. I don’t think I could have it taken away from me. I don’t
    1:29:30 think so, but I certainly don’t want it to be. It’s like, no, that scar stays. I need
    1:29:38 that scar and I want to live out of that understanding and just try to make good on the years I get
    1:29:43 that he doesn’t get. And there’s something about that. I mean, obviously still living
    1:29:50 in the grief of all of this, but I think that’s one way to detect meaning that can save us.
    1:29:58 Yeah. Thank you for sharing that. You know, that can’t be easy to think about and feel,
    1:30:07 but I do appreciate the opening oneself to the possibility that you can be grateful not
    1:30:14 just for the obviously uplifting and positive things, but to tag on that “I am grateful
    1:30:22 for X” difficult thing because, dot, dot, dot, to cue the mind to hopefully produce
    1:30:31 something that engenders meaning even when overwhelmed with suffering. Yeah. Plenty for
    1:30:32 me to chew on there too.
    1:30:36 That’s my own lived experience with it, but it’s also you can go back and follow the trail
    1:30:41 of research about this, you know, the whole post-traumatic growth literature that is those
    1:30:45 people that go through trauma and don’t just, first of all, there’s sort of three options,
    1:30:50 right? You can collapse through it. There are some people that return to level as before.
    1:30:55 That would be kind of the resilience mindset. And then there’s this other phenomenon happens
    1:31:00 less often, but it does happen and has been identified, characterized, codified, and studied
    1:31:07 is people that move to a higher level of living post-trauma. And so, you know, we’ve all been
    1:31:13 very familiar with PTSD. Post-traumatic growth is less referenced, which is just too bad
    1:31:18 because I think that’s really the thing you want to understand that there is a way that
    1:31:25 we can in tangible ways have beauty for ashes, that it’s not just a poetic idea. It’s not
    1:31:32 just nice to have. It’s like, if there’s so much suffering and those are the raw materials
    1:31:37 through which we can actually build a life of meaning. It’s like, oh, okay, so now I
    1:31:42 need to embrace it differently, not spend my whole life just trying to avoid it or to,
    1:31:44 you know, in a kind of positive toxicity.
    1:31:46 You also can’t avoid it.
    1:31:48 You cannot avoid it. Impossible.
    1:31:52 It’s just like, all right, I want to drive for the rest of my life without hitting any
    1:31:56 red lights. It’s like, it’s not going to work. So you might as well figure out how to handle
    1:31:57 red lights.
    1:32:01 It’s a great metaphor for it. Anna will say to me, you know, from time to time, no one
    1:32:07 gets out without a mortal experience. And there’s a term for this, it’s called Sonder.
    1:32:11 And it’s a term for the experience of sort of remembering and knowing that other people’s
    1:32:17 life is as complex and emotionally challenging and so on as our own. And it’s not obvious
    1:32:22 all the time because it’s easy to come up with shallow stories about other people.
    1:32:25 I hear it quite a bit from people, oh, well, that person’s all right, you know, because
    1:32:29 they, maybe that person has money or because that person’s famous or because that person’s,
    1:32:33 you know, appears to be above the fray. And it’s like, I actually think it’s a sort of
    1:32:38 a limit of imagination, certainly limit of empathy, but to realize like, no, not one
    1:32:44 of those people is escaping the mortal experience of suffering that all of us are. Yes, maybe
    1:32:48 they have different set of problems, or maybe they have possible solutions that you wish
    1:32:52 you had access to. I mean, obviously people are in different positions in life. But man,
    1:32:57 I have never met a person that could escape even close to escaping it. It’s like, you
    1:33:02 can’t, it’s hard way add into, I don’t want to call life a simulation, but like, if you
    1:33:06 say it is for a moment, it’s like, yeah, it’s hard wired into this, you cannot escape it.
    1:33:12 This is why I think so many people try to actually pursue distraction of any number of kinds
    1:33:17 because of an attempt to avoid the pain and suffering. And I think most addictions really
    1:33:22 are that at the core to avoid the experience of being alive. And that’s because it’s so
    1:33:24 painful to be alive.
    1:33:25 Yeah, can be.
    1:33:31 And so an alternative to that is to open yourself to the meaning. Well, this isn’t happening
    1:33:35 for me, not to me. I don’t know a faster way to get there than radical gratitude.
    1:33:40 Yeah, thank you for that, Greg. And just to reiterate something you said earlier about
    1:33:44 you know, how we can turn the stories of others into these NPC like extras and video games
    1:33:51 where they just, you know, simply explained in one sentence, whereas we have this raging
    1:33:56 torrent of nuance in our lived experience. And a few things go to mind. One, and I wish
    1:33:59 I had the attribution on this, but someone said, you know, everyone is fighting a battle,
    1:34:04 you know nothing about number one. Number two, I interviewed Chris Bosch, very well
    1:34:09 and then basketball player on the podcast. And I’m pretty sure it was him who said, somebody
    1:34:14 else had said this to him, you know, if you’re sitting at a table and everyone else put their
    1:34:18 problems on the table, you did the same. He’s like, you pick your problems right back up.
    1:34:22 He’s like, once you saw actually what everyone was contending with.
    1:34:26 We should just underscore that because I think that’s such a strange phenomenon. As Stanford
    1:34:33 University, the Stanford Memorial Church, if you go into that as a non denominational
    1:34:38 church from the very beginning, but they carve in stone all of these key ideas. And one of
    1:34:43 them is basically what you just said. So I won’t repeat it. But that is a strange phenomenon.
    1:34:48 There is something that that gives me a glimpse of, you know, a sort of glitch in the matrix
    1:34:54 in that illustration, that even for the discomfort and the uncomfortableness and the pain and
    1:34:59 the frustration of our problems, something about them is I think it’s beyond just their
    1:35:04 familiar to us, I think they are connected to us. If we’re going really philosophical,
    1:35:10 I would say something like, maybe we knew we’d have these, like we actually did have
    1:35:16 a chance to choose them or not like pre here. And it certainly has that kind of vibe to
    1:35:21 it to me when you share it and I’m sort of just having it hit me again. It’s like, yeah,
    1:35:27 we actually do want these problems. Oh, wow, there is something in them that there’s something
    1:35:33 like stepping stones to becoming what we uniquely need to become next to become more and more
    1:35:37 of who we really are and less and less of who we really aren’t, which is, you know, that’s
    1:35:42 the real essence of essentialism. It’s not tasks and to do’s and even goals. It’s like
    1:35:48 a becoming process. And these are the raw materials for doing it. It’s not toxic positivity
    1:35:52 because it’s not pretending there aren’t problems and not pretending there aren’t challenges.
    1:36:01 It’s to open oneself to the possibility that there’s no other way that this is the way
    1:36:04 to becoming who we’re supposed to become. I’m not saying every single thing in life
    1:36:10 is like that. I’m not saying the flat tire is the thing. I’m not saying it like that.
    1:36:17 But these tests of life are actually some of them in my life have felt signature that
    1:36:26 they really are built to be in a sense, particularly excruciatingly hard for me. But even in that,
    1:36:30 if you can glimpse the other side of it, like, no, but that means it was done with a high
    1:36:35 degree of care, of thought even. It’s a really different way to live. And I’m still obviously
    1:36:40 just learning in that journey. It’s a disciplined pursuit of meaning.
    1:36:45 Disciplined pursuit of meaning. Maybe that’s your next book. So we’ve covered a lot of
    1:36:50 ground. I think this will give folks a lot of grist for the mental things to chew on
    1:36:55 for the next year, where they want to point themselves, how they want to think about meaning,
    1:37:00 suffering, mastery, choosing the most important thing we’ve covered a lot. Is there anything
    1:37:06 else we are going to talk about where people can find the essentialism planner and also
    1:37:12 perhaps get started learning more about principles that we’ve covered in brief here? But is there
    1:37:18 anything else that you’d like to cover, whether concepts or closing words, anything at all
    1:37:22 that you’d like to add before we wind to a close?
    1:37:29 I had a really interesting conversation with Eric Newton, who took to social media, I didn’t
    1:37:35 know him before, to list what he’d learned from the biggest suffering in his life, which
    1:37:43 was fatal diagnosis of his wife. He described their relationship prior to this as having
    1:37:48 lots of ups and downs. Once he described it as a sort of fantastic love affair, but then
    1:37:53 also he described all the problems and challenges that had him on my podcast. Once I’d read
    1:37:57 this because someone sent it to me like, “Hey, this is similar to the kinds of things you’re
    1:38:02 wrestling with.” What’s particularly interesting about the story is that it wasn’t just when
    1:38:11 she got this diagnosis that things changed. It was post that where she got into what turned
    1:38:18 out to be the last six weeks of her life that she hit a regret. The regret was not having
    1:38:25 been deeply connected enough with the people closest in her life. I thought it was such
    1:38:34 a distinct kind of insight. He said she suddenly unlocked a level of vulnerability and intimacy
    1:38:39 that he literally didn’t know existed. Not just in their relationship, he just didn’t
    1:38:47 know it existed in life. To have someone be so honest, so open, so without all of those
    1:38:53 layers of the onion that you had to go back to that metaphor. For six weeks, he was like,
    1:38:58 “Okay, this actually is love.” They’ve been married for years and all of these ups and
    1:39:02 downs, everything. He’s like, “This is what it actually means.” He summarized it something
    1:39:08 like this. He’s like, “If there’s a purpose in any of it, it is to have ever-deepening
    1:39:14 connection with the people who matter most to you.” I mean, that was touched by that.
    1:39:19 I was touched by his story. I was fascinated by that story, but the question I walked away
    1:39:25 with was how do you live like that normally? Is there a skill set to it or is it just one
    1:39:31 of those things that you would have to have that extremity to be able to access that?
    1:39:37 It links back to some of this research I’ve been doing on Carl Rogers, because I do think
    1:39:42 that there’s a way that we can at least get a lot closer to that ideal in normal living.
    1:39:51 It is a kind of helpably better form of listening than almost anybody experiences in life. It’s
    1:39:55 teachable. It’s learnable. It’s there. It’s available, but almost nobody’s trained in
    1:40:01 it. The only people that are really trained in Nigerian listening is like psychotherapists
    1:40:07 if they have been. If they haven’t been, the risk is enormous that they will make problems
    1:40:10 worse in their attempt to make them better because they simply won’t be addressing anything
    1:40:15 like the right issue. They’ll be attacking the leaves of the problem, not the roots of
    1:40:18 the problem, and they will do that, and they’ll build in their own mental models of solutions
    1:40:22 instead of getting to what the real stuff is. That’s the people that are trained in
    1:40:27 it or to some extent trained in it. But think about all the doctors that aren’t trained
    1:40:32 in it. That’s what happened with Eve. It’s just unreal. That’s a story for a different
    1:40:37 day, but they were doctors with all this training that they just thought they knew what was
    1:40:43 wrong with it. If we had done what they had said, she would be dead. It’s not about their
    1:40:48 expertise. In a sense, their expertise was the problem. They didn’t have the humility
    1:40:53 to be listening properly. I think that’s the thing I want to say is that I do think that
    1:40:57 there is a form of listening that we can provide for each other that is so powerful, that’s
    1:41:06 so curative. I do sometimes think it’s the primary thing missing in modern life. My son
    1:41:12 just said it to me recently. There’s so many things I’ve got wrong as a parent, as a person,
    1:41:15 but he just said that if there was ever a problem, I knew I could come and I knew you
    1:41:19 would listen. Even if it was something you were doing that was frustrating, I knew you
    1:41:25 would listen. That’s not passive listening. It’s a very particular kind. Man, I want
    1:41:31 to teach that. I really, really want to help people learn how to do this with each other.
    1:41:40 Where should people go to stay informed of your now pending class related to branch area
    1:41:43 and listening? Yeah, I really want to do this. I’m not kidding
    1:41:46 about it. It’s not just a spontaneous thing. I wasn’t planning on talking about it, so
    1:41:52 it is spontaneous, but I really think this has to happen. I think people could just,
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    1:42:23 Thank you, Greg. I really appreciate the time, Greg, and the flexibility with scheduling.
    1:42:29 It’s always a pleasure to have a conversation with you. For everybody listening, as always,
    1:42:35 we’ll have everything that we’ve discussed linked to you in the show notes, tim.blog/podcast.
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    1:43:08 last year. Just see if you can plan for not just a better but more joyous new year. How
    1:43:12 can you not just do the important things, but do the joyous things? How can you not
    1:43:18 just do the hard things, but find ways to make those important things a little less
    1:43:34 effortful, effortless even? These are all questions worth considering. Thanks, everybody.
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    [20:33] Reviewing the core concepts of Essentialism and Effortless.

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  • #785: The Random Show — 2025 Predictions (AI, Aliens, BTC, and More), New Year’s Resolutions and Strategies, Smart Fitness, The Spinal Engine, New Apps, and Much More

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    0:05:22 I am chill right now.
    0:05:27 I’m feeling very good, and there are a bunch of reasons for that that I could talk about.
    0:05:28 We’ll get to that.
    0:05:32 But there are some contributing elements that you’re actually very familiar with, so we’ll
    0:05:33 come back to that.
    0:05:38 But I’ve had more comments in the last week or two from close friends of mine, people that
    0:05:40 know me, were like, “You seem really chill.
    0:05:42 You seem very grounded right now.”
    0:05:46 And I’m like, “Yeah, I feel very chill and very grounded right now.”
    0:05:49 And there’s still a lot going on.
    0:05:51 It’s not for the absence of things going on.
    0:05:59 It’s actually somewhat amazing that given how many projects are in process right now,
    0:06:02 I’m getting those comments, which makes me feel like I must be doing something, right?
    0:06:06 Or I’m just lucky because who knows, I’m sleeping well in Hawaii.
    0:06:12 Could be that set the AC to negative 500 degrees, which I had to override every system in the
    0:06:13 hotel to do.
    0:06:14 Yeah.
    0:06:15 They have those things on lockdown.
    0:06:19 They open the door, it shuts the AC off, it’s like, that’s the whole thing.
    0:06:20 Yeah.
    0:06:23 70 degrees would be dangerously cold, so it’s sometimes hard to get the AC low.
    0:06:25 But let’s hop into it, man.
    0:06:26 We have a lot to talk about.
    0:06:27 Where should we begin?
    0:06:31 Oh, man, let’s start off with, when I think about these year-end specials, we’ve done
    0:06:32 a few of these.
    0:06:33 Yeah.
    0:06:37 And we typically do a little bit of like, “What are you doing in the new year?
    0:06:39 You know, like, what do you get to change this year?”
    0:06:41 And it’s the same list every year for me.
    0:06:44 And drink less exercise more.
    0:06:45 Yeah, exactly.
    0:06:47 But we’ll talk about that.
    0:06:48 But you know, there’s a lot of stuff.
    0:06:51 I thought some predictions would be fun because I have some good ones for next year.
    0:06:52 Yeah.
    0:06:53 You’re the right guy for that.
    0:06:56 I might have some predictions, but you have a better track record than I do.
    0:06:58 I don’t think you’ve got a few right.
    0:06:59 I mean, I occasionally get one right.
    0:07:01 It’s not that my track record is bad.
    0:07:07 I think you have such a 30,000-foot view on so many different sectors and also just
    0:07:16 as a general partner, a true and as a more active investor than yours truly, you get
    0:07:20 to see a lot that is coming down the pike, right?
    0:07:29 You really get to observe patterns on a weekly basis that most humans do not, including me.
    0:07:34 But I do see things occasionally, so we’ll see if I can riff off of some of your predictions.
    0:07:35 So where would you like to start?
    0:07:41 Let’s start off with something that I just thought was a fun one to just really get your
    0:07:43 take on this because I think we’re screwing up society.
    0:07:48 So every year, Apple does these things like, “Hey, you’re the 15 apps that we love.
    0:07:49 This is the best gaming app.
    0:07:52 This is the best productivity app,” all this stuff, right?
    0:07:54 And I tend to go in there and poke around it.
    0:07:58 I’m always checking out what the new hot thing is, especially on the gaming side or stuff
    0:07:59 where I really just don’t pay attention.
    0:08:01 I’m like, “Just tell me the best thing.
    0:08:03 Go check it out,” right?
    0:08:08 And I noticed one thing that I keep seeing is over and over, and it’s driving me nuts
    0:08:13 because it dovetails into some of the videos that we send each other on a side thread.
    0:08:15 But okay, so we’ve sent a couple of these videos back.
    0:08:17 You mean the mutually assured destruction thread?
    0:08:18 We can say Saka.
    0:08:19 These are more civilized.
    0:08:20 Okay, got it.
    0:08:23 Yeah, so you mean Saka will be like sending text.
    0:08:27 This one of those threads, I don’t know, this one’s that bad, but we’ve been on some threads
    0:08:29 where there’s a lot of pigs going around.
    0:08:32 Nothing horrible, but definitely I’ll move on from there.
    0:08:41 So there’s basically these new AI videos of MMA fighters, and they’ll get knocked out,
    0:08:45 and when they fall to the ground, they get in go-karts and shit and start driving around.
    0:08:46 Have you seen this where they blend AI?
    0:08:48 Yeah, I’ve seen that.
    0:08:51 And it’s messing with my head.
    0:08:54 I look at that stuff, and I’m like, “This is really bending reality.”
    0:08:59 I don’t know if it’s because there’s a psychedelics component there where you’re like, “Why am
    0:09:04 I seeing something that I would typically see in a different realm, like in this realm?
    0:09:05 Weird stuff’s happening in the brain.”
    0:09:10 But one of the things I noticed in the App Store, as I said, the best app of the year
    0:09:16 was a Adobe app, which they make great stuff, and they had Adobe Lightroom on there as winning
    0:09:21 the Apple App Store 2024 winner, Mac App of the Year.
    0:09:24 And why they were so stoked on Lightroom, when you think about Lightroom, you’re like,
    0:09:27 “Oh, this is like software that’s been around for a couple of decades.
    0:09:30 Why is this anything new?”
    0:09:35 And they had a video there that showed these kids running around in their backyard.
    0:09:40 And you’ve seen this thing where you can erase shit, like you can drag your finger across.
    0:09:43 Like Google does all these ads where they’re like, “Hey, is there someone weird standing
    0:09:44 in your photo?
    0:09:45 Erase them.”
    0:09:48 Dude, this video, we’ve gone too far.
    0:09:50 So they’re like, “These kids playing in the backyard.”
    0:09:56 They were like hedges, and then they erased their yard door to get out of their backyard.
    0:09:58 And it made more hedges.
    0:10:02 And I was just like, “Can you imagine when these kids are like 35 or 40?”
    0:10:07 And then looking back at their photos, and they’re like, “Do we have a backyard door?”
    0:10:09 And they took the dog out and shit.
    0:10:11 I’m like, “Why are you taking the dog out?”
    0:10:13 The dog’s part of the family.
    0:10:15 Just sowing the seeds for gaslighting yourself later.
    0:10:17 No, but do you know what I mean?
    0:10:18 What is going on?
    0:10:24 They’re erasing all of our real memories and replacing them with almost imperceivable,
    0:10:26 at this point digital alternatives.
    0:10:27 Yeah.
    0:10:28 And it’s really worrisome to me.
    0:10:29 I don’t know.
    0:10:31 Do you do any of this shit to erase anybody out of your photos?
    0:10:33 I don’t erase people out of my photos.
    0:10:42 I also feel like a lot of that editing is for sharing outside of your immediate circle.
    0:10:43 Like social media stuff.
    0:10:51 Social media or effectively applying digital plastic surgery to your life so you can share
    0:10:56 highlights that look better than they actually do in real life.
    0:11:04 And I am very cautious to play with that because I feel like it’s similar to getting
    0:11:10 your first little dabble with itucks or facelift.
    0:11:15 And then there’s this creeping tendency to add more and more and more and more.
    0:11:23 And similarly I don’t want to become delusionally dissatisfied with my life because there are
    0:11:29 little things that in my mind I aren’t perfect for broadcast like a door in the hedges, right?
    0:11:30 Right.
    0:11:34 Because then what happens when you’re doing that constantly and then you sit in your backyard
    0:11:36 and you’re looking at that door, does it drive you insane?
    0:11:37 Right.
    0:11:38 When it really shouldn’t?
    0:11:42 And then also, but think of the downstream effects too where your friends are like, “Okay,
    0:11:47 you just take something that is a mild visual nuisance out of the equation.”
    0:11:50 And it’s like, “Oh, they had that perfect beat shot.
    0:11:53 They are so lucky if only I could have that thing.”
    0:11:55 And then you go and you’re like, “Oh, it was crowded.
    0:11:56 We didn’t have the same thing they did.”
    0:12:01 But in reality, they just like magically erase it all their friends are all the people behind
    0:12:02 them out of it.
    0:12:05 And I’m just like, “It’s creating a fake everything.
    0:12:06 I don’t know.
    0:12:07 I just something about it.
    0:12:08 I love AI.
    0:12:09 I think there’s a lot of fun.
    0:12:11 There’s so much I use it for every single day.
    0:12:15 But this is one of those things where I’m just like, “I don’t want my kids to grow up
    0:12:17 thinking they need perfection.”
    0:12:18 And that’s what this is doing.
    0:12:20 It’s creating a better, perfect scene.
    0:12:21 You know?
    0:12:22 Oh, yeah.
    0:12:23 I mean, and people are already using that.
    0:12:24 Of course.
    0:12:26 I mean, it’s like Zoom filters on steroids, right?
    0:12:27 Right.
    0:12:28 Totally.
    0:12:33 And I think, I’ll just throw this in there.
    0:12:39 Not sure exactly what form this is going to take, but I do think there will be a pendulum
    0:12:48 swing away from certain digital environments when people realize just how contorted constant
    0:12:55 exposure will make your perception, your satisfaction, your dopamine rewards system.
    0:13:00 I really feel like the impact is going to be felt in a way that people could perhaps
    0:13:04 rationalize away or brush aside in years past.
    0:13:09 They’re like, “Well, I know that Twitter’s a cesspool on X, Y, and Z levels, but I get
    0:13:10 A, B, and C.”
    0:13:17 But once people are put into environments where what’s up is down, what’s left is right,
    0:13:23 what’s fake is real, and what’s real is fake, this psychological toll, the emotional toll,
    0:13:27 I think will become much harder to dismiss.
    0:13:28 And people are going to look for things offline.
    0:13:31 I think there are going to be a lot of opportunities for that.
    0:13:38 You see that in, I think you see early indications of that with, for instance, like running clubs
    0:13:45 and various in real life activities that have become very popular in place of or as supplements
    0:13:50 to online dating and dating apps as an example, like those things are exploding in New York
    0:13:51 City and a lot of major cities.
    0:13:57 You see that in potentially, certainly this is a trend, at least in a few countries outside
    0:13:58 of the US.
    0:13:59 I’d have to look at the data.
    0:14:00 I think it’s mildly true.
    0:14:07 We see some improving numbers in print book sales that could be attributed to a number
    0:14:13 of other factors outside of people moving from digital formats to print, but at least
    0:14:20 as a thought exercise, I think we can explore different ways in which people are going to
    0:14:26 seek out something tangible they can hold and know is real, look at in person and know
    0:14:27 is real.
    0:14:33 So that’s certainly extrapolating from just what I see in a small circle of people who
    0:14:36 are hyper-exposed to a lot of this.
    0:14:43 I feel like people like you who are perhaps way, it’s called prematurely saturated with
    0:14:49 exposure to these things are canaries in the coal mine, you’re like, “Oof, holy shit.
    0:14:50 We need an exit.
    0:14:56 We need a way to step off the stage so we’re not looking at this manufactured reality.”
    0:14:57 It’s funny, you say that.
    0:15:00 I was talking to another friend of mine that’s deep in this stuff.
    0:15:04 You know, Chris Hutchins, I was talking to him about raising daughters and the kids are
    0:15:05 getting older.
    0:15:06 He’s like, “Dude, you know what’s funny?
    0:15:10 When we got bullied as kids, somebody would be like, “You know, I hooked up with your
    0:15:11 mom or whatever.”
    0:15:12 Right?
    0:15:14 And they would just be like, “They school yard slams or whatever.”
    0:15:15 Right?
    0:15:19 And now in like three years, I hooked up with their mom, “Look at this video.”
    0:15:22 And it’d be like, “The mom hooking up with a kid because it’s AI and shit.”
    0:15:23 He’d be like, “Damn.
    0:15:24 You’re hooking up my mom.”
    0:15:30 You know, but it won’t be real, but it’ll be like just slams, AI look real enough.
    0:15:32 The bullying’s going to get hardcore.
    0:15:33 Yeah.
    0:15:35 Yeah, of course it will.
    0:15:40 Or just sharing videos of the person you want to bully doing things they didn’t do.
    0:15:41 Right.
    0:15:42 Exactly.
    0:15:43 It’s going to get bad.
    0:15:44 Yeah.
    0:15:45 And there are plenty of upsides.
    0:15:50 I mean, look, I’ve used ChatGPT and Claude like 10 to 15 times today with my team.
    0:15:52 I’m doing a company offsite here in Maui.
    0:15:54 That’s why I’m in Maui.
    0:15:59 And there are reasons for the location we can get into, but it’s very useful.
    0:16:06 But the dose makes the poison, the application also makes the poison, and it pays to just
    0:16:09 be cognizant of how you are using these things.
    0:16:10 Yeah.
    0:16:11 So that’s one.
    0:16:12 All right.
    0:16:13 What else you got?
    0:16:18 Are there any personal New Year’s resolutions that come to mind or specific ones where you’re
    0:16:23 like, okay, some of these might rhyme with things in the past, but here’s how I’m going
    0:16:25 to approach them differently.
    0:16:26 Yeah.
    0:16:27 Oh, man.
    0:16:28 Okay.
    0:16:32 So the exasperated exhale is always a good place to start.
    0:16:38 Well, I mean, the hard thing for me is that I get into this really bad situation where
    0:16:42 come November, I just let myself go.
    0:16:43 Yeah.
    0:16:44 It happens every single year.
    0:16:45 Yeah.
    0:16:47 I just go ham on shit.
    0:16:48 Everything comes around.
    0:16:51 And I hate too much nutmeg.
    0:16:54 It’s like, or not nutmeg, eggnog, nutmeg too.
    0:16:58 You know what, I can’t stand.
    0:16:59 It’s close.
    0:17:00 Let’s talk about close for a minute.
    0:17:01 Yeah.
    0:17:05 No, but like, I do like a little eggnog with a little at brandy in there.
    0:17:07 You know, you put in a little Tonyac and your eggnog.
    0:17:08 Yeah.
    0:17:09 And so like, but that goes straight to your gut.
    0:17:10 You know?
    0:17:11 Of course it does.
    0:17:15 And so I hate this because this is like the freaking 70 year of random shows or whatever
    0:17:19 where it’s like, every December, it’s like, I want to be less fat and drink less.
    0:17:23 And like, it’s like, you know, I get a good running start on the new year though.
    0:17:24 So I am going to go into this.
    0:17:29 Maybe we’ll put together like a compilation video of all the times we’ve said over like
    0:17:30 10 years.
    0:17:32 Plus I don’t look at drinks.
    0:17:34 Yeah, exactly.
    0:17:37 So I think I’m just going to lean into the exact opposite.
    0:17:38 Just keep eating and just keep drinking.
    0:17:39 I’m just kidding.
    0:17:40 I’m just kidding.
    0:17:41 That’s horrible.
    0:17:44 No, but I think one of the things that you and I were trading links on a couple of days
    0:17:49 ago, which I’d really curious to get your take on this is like, there’s like this movement,
    0:17:50 well, not movement.
    0:17:54 It’s called the movement, but it’s old people movement of like, you know, you and I, when
    0:17:59 we first met, the name of the game is bro is this might sound is like we wanted to put
    0:18:00 muscle mass on.
    0:18:01 Like we were like, you know,
    0:18:02 Sure.
    0:18:03 Meathead central.
    0:18:04 Yeah.
    0:18:05 Yeah.
    0:18:07 Like I wouldn’t say full meathead, but there was a good amount of meat there.
    0:18:08 It’s pretty meathead.
    0:18:14 So the transition from meathead to like somebody that actually just wants to like be able to
    0:18:15 like stretch.
    0:18:16 Yeah.
    0:18:17 And do like functional stuff.
    0:18:20 Like we were talking about functional patterns because, you know, it was an account that
    0:18:25 I had followed for a while and they had some kind of more non-traditional ways of approaching
    0:18:31 your gate and your movement and really setting you hopefully up for years of good solid longevity
    0:18:35 in terms of joint health, back health, all these things.
    0:18:40 And I sent you another one that you were checking out as well.
    0:18:44 What’s been your take here because I’m starting to make this move into like, okay, I want
    0:18:50 a lot of movement and a lot of core plus plus strength.
    0:18:51 I’d love to be lean.
    0:18:53 I don’t need to be ripped.
    0:18:57 Although do you see the new Hugh Jackman Wolverine with him dead pool?
    0:18:58 He’s a beast.
    0:18:59 Yeah.
    0:19:02 Do you think that was freaking animated or was that really Hugh Jackman’s body at this
    0:19:03 stage?
    0:19:04 I think it’s really him.
    0:19:05 That’s insane.
    0:19:06 How can he freaking?
    0:19:09 They have a pretty good authority.
    0:19:10 That is him.
    0:19:11 Yeah.
    0:19:12 Dude, how does he get cut like that?
    0:19:13 It was insane.
    0:19:14 He takes it seriously.
    0:19:16 Follows the basics, follows the rules, doesn’t waver.
    0:19:19 He’s very dedicated and he is a real athlete.
    0:19:22 I mean, you watch him move.
    0:19:23 He moves like a dancer.
    0:19:25 He can lift like a powerlifter.
    0:19:32 His endurance on sick, on a rower like a concept too is unbelievable.
    0:19:38 The wattage that he can sustain over periods of time would boggle the mind of even some
    0:19:40 people who have been former competitive rowers.
    0:19:42 He is a true athlete.
    0:19:43 Okay.
    0:19:44 So that explains.
    0:19:45 Legitimate.
    0:19:46 Yeah.
    0:19:49 So anyway, my point being is that there’s this little micro trend I see occurring where
    0:19:54 a lot of people are making this move to a more functional, holistic kind of movement-based
    0:19:59 health and strength and training that is non-traditional as we define it.
    0:20:01 Where do you see that playing into your own routine?
    0:20:02 Is that something that you’re looking into?
    0:20:03 Yeah.
    0:20:05 I’ve thought about this a lot.
    0:20:12 Our texts were well-timed and I want to give credit where credit is due.
    0:20:17 First to you for introducing me to this account and then I ended up doing a bunch of research
    0:20:20 on this account that I did not tell you about.
    0:20:24 So I will probably pronounce the name incorrectly and for that I apologize.
    0:20:28 But I believe his name is Enseema Inyang.
    0:20:33 Now the spelling on that will be more accurate than at my pronunciation, but N-S-I-M-A, that’s
    0:20:38 probably all you need to find him on YouTube, Inyang-I-N-Y-A-N-G.
    0:20:44 So Enseema has this video which you sent to me called the Live Traditional Strength Training.
    0:20:49 Now yes, that is YouTube, clickbait on one hand, but he actually does deliver on that.
    0:20:54 His production value is incredible, his delivery is impeccable.
    0:20:56 I was very, very impressed.
    0:20:58 I went back and watched certain sections of this.
    0:21:00 His agility too, which is insane.
    0:21:01 His agility is incredible.
    0:21:07 In terms of power, he’s a Brazilian jiu-jitsu competitor as well at a very, very high level.
    0:21:12 I think he won Worlds or Masters Worlds at Brown Belt most recently.
    0:21:14 He’s now a Black Belt, which is no joke.
    0:21:22 And I reached out to a friend of mine, Mark Bell, who is very well known in the powerlifting
    0:21:27 community. He also has a number of products that have done very, very well.
    0:21:37 And I met, I realized, Enseema at Super Training Gym in Sacramento like a decade ago when he
    0:21:42 was still really focused on powerlifting, met him very, very briefly.
    0:21:44 I’m almost 100% confident.
    0:21:48 I remember he was doing deadlift band polls while I was there checking out the gym for
    0:21:49 the first time.
    0:21:51 That was a long time ago.
    0:21:59 So I chatted with Mark about Enseema who, Mark, reinforced is the real deal on every
    0:22:01 possible level.
    0:22:06 And the piece that I took from that video specifically was paying attention to what
    0:22:09 he calls and others have called the Spinal Engine.
    0:22:15 And there’s a book actually by that title, the Spinal Engine, the name again, tough one.
    0:22:21 I think it’s Serge Grakowetsky, S-E-R-G-E, and we’ll put a link in the show notes.
    0:22:27 But in effect, I’ll actually pull this up because I think it’s worth reading.
    0:22:32 So the Spinal Engine, and you can watch the video, Enseema does a great job with video
    0:22:37 of explaining this, but the book has in its Amazon description, and there’s no digital
    0:22:38 version.
    0:22:41 You have to buy paperback for like $115, so I’m not saying you should.
    0:22:45 I haven’t read it, but this book deals with the human spine with particular emphasis on
    0:22:46 the lumbar spine.
    0:22:50 Human gait is traditionally believed to be the exclusive function of the legs, or say
    0:22:52 the swinging of the arms and the legs, which play a part.
    0:22:56 But going back to the description, the book presents arguments and data that challenge
    0:22:57 that belief.
    0:23:00 It proposes that the spine is the primary engine that makes us move, and it goes on
    0:23:02 and on.
    0:23:10 And what I think Enseema does such a nice job of is showing that, demonstrating the implications
    0:23:21 of that theory through video, and also using tools like rope swings and other things to
    0:23:27 demonstrate how you can develop mobility through different planes of motion.
    0:23:33 So you have various things, lateral flexion, you have flexion extension in terms of this
    0:23:38 type of forward-backward plane, and it really got me thinking, and I started experimenting
    0:23:45 with some of the motions in that video, primarily because his counter example, which is effectively
    0:23:49 the lie of traditional strength training, is how if you’re constantly bracing, you’re
    0:23:53 constantly, say, holding your breath in certain portions of a lift to increase intraabdominal
    0:24:01 pressure, that ultimately, as a side effect, you can produce a lot of rigidity in the spine.
    0:24:06 And I really have never had an interest in being a powerlifter or even an Olympic weight
    0:24:10 lifter, although I think they should more accurately be called powerlifters.
    0:24:17 I’ve always been focused on weight training in service of athleticism, and I have loved
    0:24:18 playing sports.
    0:24:24 I have traditionally competed a lot, and I may actually compete in 2025 in some form
    0:24:25 of sport.
    0:24:27 I would like to have something on the calendar for that.
    0:24:33 Number of cautionary notes, and then I’ll come back to how I’m thinking about maybe framing
    0:24:34 exercise for myself.
    0:24:39 The first is that you should not go from all fucked up and broken and stiff to I’m going
    0:24:45 to do the most exaggerated rotational movements possible, or pulling a sled backwards in this
    0:24:48 compromised, rounded back position.
    0:24:50 You will break yourself if you do that.
    0:24:56 So I think the name of the game is micro progressions and progressive resistance, but being very,
    0:24:57 very smart about it.
    0:25:01 Because as you have experienced, certainly as I have experienced, as you get older and
    0:25:07 you accumulate injuries, it takes a lot longer to heal, and sometimes those things do not
    0:25:09 heal completely, no matter what you do.
    0:25:13 I got one of those splits machines where you can put your legs in there.
    0:25:14 Oh, Chuck Norris special.
    0:25:15 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
    0:25:17 I had the Chuck Norris thing on the outside.
    0:25:20 I was doing it and I was getting further and further and further each week, and my plies
    0:25:23 instructor was like, “What the hell are you doing?”
    0:25:26 And I’m like, “I’m going to do the splits in a couple months,” and she’s like, “You have
    0:25:31 no supporting muscles at all for any of this.”
    0:25:36 She’s like, “When you get done, you’ll go down once, and then you won’t even be able
    0:25:41 to like, everything else will rip,” and I was like, “Oh, shit, that’s a good call.
    0:25:43 I’m glad I didn’t take it that far.”
    0:25:48 Yeah, so for me, I am focused on a few things, and I’ve actually made a lot of progress with
    0:25:54 this over the last handful of months, and in 2025, I will be very focused on this.
    0:25:56 For the first two months of the year, I’ll be focused on skiing.
    0:26:03 I’ll be in the mountains for two months, and that is a great motivator to develop, say,
    0:26:09 different types of stability and strength, single legs, so glyphs and so on, and having
    0:26:12 that context in which to test myself, right?
    0:26:17 So if I’m carving in one direction and then in the other, say the inside leg is very unstable,
    0:26:22 for some reason, it’s chattering a lot, well, that’s something to fix, and the skiing serves
    0:26:28 as a fun, assuming you don’t overdo it, and blow yourself apart, diagnostic tool for bringing
    0:26:31 to awareness some of these things you need to work on.
    0:26:36 And I’d say priorities, these aren’t necessarily in ranked order, but number one, as you get
    0:26:42 older, you lose muscle mass, you just do, and that’s age-related muscle loss, sarcopenia
    0:26:49 is directly correlated to any number of issues, I’m sure, including all cause mortality.
    0:26:57 So weight training, resistance training, building muscle mass is an undeniable priority for
    0:27:00 functional health span as you get older.
    0:27:06 But for me, that means compound movements once or twice a week.
    0:27:09 You really don’t need to overdo it or do it five days a week.
    0:27:15 A lot of people use five days a week or every day as an excuse to not get started.
    0:27:19 You can make a lot of progress, especially if you haven’t done much weight training,
    0:27:26 with one day, one session per week, if you’re using, say, high-intensity training, one set
    0:27:27 to failure type protocol.
    0:27:31 I recognize it’s very simple, I recognize there are some very experienced athletes who
    0:27:36 will say, “Well, now you want to do five sets of three or five sets of five or whatever
    0:27:40 it might be with three to five-minute rest intervals in between to replenish the creatine
    0:27:41 phosphate.”
    0:27:47 But complexity can be the enemy of execution, as Tony Robbins and others say a lot.
    0:27:51 And it’s just scaled down to what you can do if you’re starting an exercise habit.
    0:27:56 If that means you go to the gym every day and you do five minutes on a treadmill, make
    0:28:00 the bar low enough that you can clear it and you are not tempted to make excuses.
    0:28:02 Let me ask you a question.
    0:28:07 If you’re like, “Okay, I don’t want to be a meathead, but I want a little muscle mass,
    0:28:10 so I want some tones and definition, a little muscle mass.”
    0:28:14 And I’ve seen the pros and cons of one set to failure and the data around it.
    0:28:19 It seems to be that it’s good, but not as good as multiple sets of failure for a single
    0:28:20 muscle group.
    0:28:23 Would you say that you believe that to be true?
    0:28:27 Or are you doing one set to failure with, if you’re doing bicep, let’s just take bicep
    0:28:28 for example.
    0:28:32 If you’re doing one set to failure, are you doing several exercises on the bicep one set
    0:28:35 to failure, or are you just talking about you’re just doing hammer curls until you fail
    0:28:38 and that’s it for biceps that day?
    0:28:40 Let’s just take skiing as an example.
    0:28:43 So my priority is going to be skiing and there are actually a few other sports I’ll be training
    0:28:44 for at the same time.
    0:28:48 So I’ll be a busy, busy boy for the first two months of the year, which is great.
    0:28:52 So I’ll need to lose all this fat that I accumulated over Thanksgiving and Christmas because I know
    0:28:55 those Danish butter cookies that my mom bought at Costco are just waiting for me.
    0:28:56 I know it.
    0:28:58 I know they’re sitting there.
    0:29:05 So the one set to failure or multiple sets to failure, training to failure can inhibit
    0:29:10 your ability to train something sport specific like skiing if you overdo it.
    0:29:15 For instance, I would not even though you could pack on tons of muscle doing 20 rep set to
    0:29:19 failure for squats, if you do that and then you try to go skiing the next two or three
    0:29:26 days, you’re going to be garbage from a sort of fine motor control perspective.
    0:29:30 But to answer your question directly, I have not looked at the most recent data on any of
    0:29:31 this.
    0:29:35 I’m not sure there exists data comparing these in meaningful ways that do not bias towards
    0:29:42 one method or another, because I have volunteered to be a participant, a subject in certain
    0:29:43 weightlifting trials.
    0:29:46 I’m not going to mention the university because I don’t want to throw them under the bus.
    0:29:52 But when I went in there, the protocol required us to do 10 reps of bench press for X number
    0:29:53 of sets.
    0:29:56 And I went in there and you’d see one guy get on the bench because there was a circuit,
    0:29:57 right?
    0:30:01 They’re trying to make use of basically an open class period for volunteers.
    0:30:07 You’d see one person who’s basically dropping the weight onto his chest at a risk of breaking
    0:30:14 every one of his ribs and bouncing it off, using terrible form, terrible form, very,
    0:30:16 very little time under tension.
    0:30:20 And then you’d see someone else who’s doing like two seconds up, four seconds down, pause
    0:30:22 at the chest.
    0:30:24 Those are not the same 10 repetitions, right?
    0:30:26 So I do think I’m under tension is completely different.
    0:30:29 Yeah, so I think garbage in, garbage out for a lot of studies.
    0:30:32 So I don’t weigh them too heavily.
    0:30:38 But what I will say is, if you are reasonably novice, even intermediate for training, and
    0:30:41 by the way, if you’ve been training for a bunch of years and you haven’t made a lot
    0:30:43 of progress, I would consider you novice.
    0:30:49 If you do a single set to concentric failure per exercise, and I’ll come back and then
    0:30:57 I answer the what type of exercise and so on that you asked, you will see excellent results.
    0:31:01 And there may be some incremental gain from doing multiple sets, but it’s going to dig
    0:31:03 into your recovery ability.
    0:31:05 So you’re saying one set?
    0:31:06 Yeah.
    0:31:07 And now let me tell you what the one set means.
    0:31:08 Yeah, yeah, exactly.
    0:31:09 What the one set means.
    0:31:13 And I’ve gone back to all of my books kind of function this way, like all of my books
    0:31:15 are sort of reference books for myself.
    0:31:20 I go around, I gather these best practices that I’ve tested, and then I refer back to
    0:31:21 them.
    0:31:26 So in the case of say the four hour body, the Occam’s protocol and a handful of compound
    0:31:31 movements still does the trick for the vast majority of the population.
    0:31:36 I’m sure people are going to take issue with this, but I have now like hundreds of thousands,
    0:31:40 millions of people who have tried these things, and I’ve seen the success studies, like it
    0:31:41 does work.
    0:31:42 Yes, it’s simple.
    0:31:45 Yes, it could be more sophisticated.
    0:31:52 It is idiot proof for a reason that if I go into lift, I’m not going to be doing direct
    0:31:53 bicep work.
    0:31:59 I’m going to be doing something like a seated row and then a pull down.
    0:32:03 And if I’m hitting the back from a few different angles, that’s it.
    0:32:09 I might honestly just do one of those, like I might do one compound pulling movement,
    0:32:12 one compound pressing movement, and then one or two leg movements.
    0:32:14 That’s the whole workout.
    0:32:16 The whole workout should take less than 20 minutes.
    0:32:18 People will say, “What about warm-up sets?”
    0:32:23 Well, if you’re tracking your progress well, you’re using the same equipment and you’re
    0:32:26 lifting at a slow cadence, this is key.
    0:32:30 The first handful of reps effectively function as your warm-up.
    0:32:35 Now what I’ll often do is take like 30% of the target working weight that I’m going to
    0:32:41 use for my one set to failure, and I’ll do three, four, five reps just to make sure my
    0:32:46 joints aren’t flared up, that I’m not feeling any pain.
    0:32:49 And then I would have, say, an A workout and a B workout.
    0:32:54 So let’s just say, hypothetically, I’m making this up, but you might have something like
    0:33:00 a close grip incline bench press to just avoid issues with your shoulders, let’s just say.
    0:33:05 Then you have pull downs, like close grip supinated.
    0:33:11 So palm facing you, pull downs, and then a leg press or split squats, holding dumbbells
    0:33:12 on either side.
    0:33:15 So you’re also hitting your traps on that one, right?
    0:33:20 That’s your whole workout.
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    0:34:51 One thing we didn’t cover that thing is really important is you say one step to failure,
    0:34:54 but what’s your target raps here?
    0:34:58 Are you going for like, you know, some people say lift heavy and do eight to 10.
    0:35:02 Some people say go a little bit lighter and get to 20 to where you fail at 20.
    0:35:03 What are you aiming for here?
    0:35:08 For safety purposes, and again, everybody’s got a fucking opinion with this stuff, but
    0:35:12 use something that can do a super slow protocol, which is like five seconds up, five seconds
    0:35:16 down, and then you can do six to 10 reps.
    0:35:22 But I wouldn’t increase the weight until you get to like an eight to 10 rep range.
    0:35:26 You can increase that for the legs, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, but I wouldn’t make
    0:35:27 it complicated.
    0:35:34 I would say five seconds up, five seconds down, that’s one, 1,000, two, 1,000 slow.
    0:35:37 And let’s call it six to 10 reps to failure.
    0:35:41 Positive or concentric failure means you’re on the, in the case of the pull down, the
    0:35:42 pulling motion.
    0:35:45 This is when the muscle is overlapping and shortening.
    0:35:49 In the case of the leg press, let’s just say, or the squats, it would be when you’re pushing
    0:35:51 out, not when you’re lowering.
    0:35:55 In the case of the close grip bench press, it would be when you’re lifting the weight
    0:35:56 up.
    0:35:59 And then you get to the point where you stick, you can’t move it.
    0:36:00 All right.
    0:36:03 Push for another 10 seconds, as hard as you can, try to move it a millimeter at a time,
    0:36:06 and then lower for 10 seconds, you’re done.
    0:36:08 And then you have to log the entire workout.
    0:36:09 It’s not hard to do.
    0:36:10 You need to take notes.
    0:36:13 If you don’t take notes, you’re not going to make the progress you want to make.
    0:36:16 And then the second workout, just to, again, hypothetical, it doesn’t really matter that
    0:36:17 much.
    0:36:19 As long as it’s safe and it’s a compound movement, you’re doing it to failure, you’re
    0:36:20 going to make progress.
    0:36:24 So let’s just say that your shoulders are healthy enough to do this.
    0:36:29 You could be like overhead press or a military press and equipment agnostic.
    0:36:31 People can argue about free weights versus machines.
    0:36:36 My position now is whatever is safest, yeah, and whatever you can do consistently.
    0:36:40 So if you’re traveling a lot, then hire a personal trainer or a power lifter or someone
    0:36:45 with a very good technique to coach you on how to use free weights, because those are
    0:36:50 going to be uniform around the country or around the world instead of equipment, which
    0:36:52 is going to be highly variable.
    0:36:57 So on the next one might be like overhead press or seated overhead press, then we already
    0:36:58 did the pulldown.
    0:37:02 So maybe it’s a seated row or a bent row with a barbell.
    0:37:03 Then for legs, we already did.
    0:37:08 I think I was talking about split squats with dumbbells, so maybe at this time it’s leg
    0:37:09 press.
    0:37:12 I have, for instance, my right leg is 1.1 centimeters.
    0:37:19 I had full leg x-rays done a year ago because a number of doctors thought I was full of
    0:37:20 shit with this.
    0:37:22 I really think one leg is longer than the other.
    0:37:24 I’ve looked at it a number of different ways.
    0:37:30 My right leg is about femur length is 0.8 centimeters to 1.1 centimeters.
    0:37:32 I did two takes of x-rays.
    0:37:38 So what happens if I’m doing, say, a back squat, is it introduces a rotational force,
    0:37:45 and that is how I initially turned my mildly bad back pain into really acute horrifying
    0:37:48 back pain that has persisted now for two years or so.
    0:37:52 I’ve had a lot of progress, and I can talk about what’s contributed to that.
    0:37:57 Actually, an experiment recently with stem cells seemed to be delivering some very interesting
    0:37:58 results.
    0:38:01 I’m not ready to recommend any laboratories related to the production or harvesting the
    0:38:06 stem cells, nor any clinics, because I want to wait until I see more launch-to-enol results
    0:38:07 for myself.
    0:38:14 But the early indications are very positive, and the TLDR on that is that I did not want
    0:38:16 to inject anything intradiscal.
    0:38:20 I didn’t want to puncture any discs, and there are many reasons for that.
    0:38:24 I’ve spoken to a lot of spine mechanic experts and so on.
    0:38:29 It seems that the long-term risk of having some type of issue with your disc or a rupture
    0:38:32 is higher if you ever puncture the disc.
    0:38:38 So I didn’t want to do that, and rather than do that, because my pain is localized to like
    0:38:44 the SI joint and L4, L5, where I do have a bunch of structural issues, we did something
    0:38:50 maybe a little unorthodox in a sense, and there’s something called the iliolumbar ligament,
    0:38:53 and you have two of them, and people can look this up.
    0:38:59 But I used to think, and I do still think this, you’re effectively as old as your joints
    0:39:00 feel, right?
    0:39:02 I really think there’s something to that.
    0:39:05 Especially when you throw your back out and you’re like, “Fuck.”
    0:39:09 You’ve never felt older in your life, and when you have to crawl to your bed on your
    0:39:12 hands and knees because your back is thrown out.
    0:39:17 Or lay on your bed, or you have to constantly fidget because your back is bothering you.
    0:39:23 Where I’ve started to think there may be, for me, some interesting interventions, because
    0:39:27 what we did is we did an injection, I mean, the needle’s huge.
    0:39:29 That’s like five to eight inches long.
    0:39:36 But an injection in the SI joint, but then also bathing the … I didn’t want an injection
    0:39:40 directly into the ligament just because I couldn’t take the recovery time for that.
    0:39:50 But to bathe around the ligament with these stem cells, MSCs, and literally within a day,
    0:39:52 I felt relief in that area.
    0:40:02 So it raises questions for me around how you diagnose back pain or look at structural issues
    0:40:04 and what’s visible versus less visible.
    0:40:09 So in other words, when you look at back pain, oftentimes you do imaging.
    0:40:17 You look at the spine, and you fixate on the set joints and the vertebral bodies, the segments,
    0:40:19 and so on.
    0:40:22 And if you’re over the age of 40, your back’s going to look fucked in some way.
    0:40:24 It’s going to look great.
    0:40:28 As you get older, just like you get wrinkles on your face, your back is going to show degenerative
    0:40:33 changes almost 100%, especially if you’ve done any lifting or athletic anything.
    0:40:40 And what is less obvious though is the health or inflammation associated with some of these
    0:40:41 ligaments.
    0:40:45 So I’ve become super interested based on my recent experience.
    0:40:50 And I know friends from friction massage who have seen tremendous back pain relief.
    0:40:52 What is friction massage?
    0:40:55 You could use a gua sha tool.
    0:40:56 There are different ways to do it.
    0:40:59 It’s like cupping and shit, where they break the fascia up.
    0:41:02 It’s like a rapid pressure movement back and forth.
    0:41:04 So you could use a gua sha tool.
    0:41:07 It’s probably going to be too big for this particular area.
    0:41:10 You might use probably using manual therapy.
    0:41:13 But I have friends who have seen incredible relief.
    0:41:19 And what appears to be the case is that if I address those ligaments, a lot of my low
    0:41:20 back pain goes away.
    0:41:24 Now the contrast between my right side, which was treated, my left side, which was untreated,
    0:41:27 but my left side, I considered the healthy side.
    0:41:30 I now realize it’s actually in a lot of pain.
    0:41:33 So what I may do, I’m part of a clinical trial and you have to take a six month break
    0:41:37 between stem cells for a host of reasons.
    0:41:41 I may actually do PRP, platelet-rich plasma, on that left side.
    0:41:42 We’ll see.
    0:41:44 Get the vampire facial while you’re at it.
    0:41:47 I’ll get a two for one vampire facial while I’m there.
    0:41:48 Get the package deal.
    0:41:49 So hopefully that helps.
    0:41:54 And we only talked about one aspect of how I’m thinking about health, which is the muscle
    0:41:55 mass.
    0:42:00 For me, since I am doing the skiing training and other things, I will probably not do extended
    0:42:03 sets to failure because it’ll inhibit my training.
    0:42:08 I will probably do something in the order of more like the three to five rep range, still
    0:42:13 doing it slowly enough that I feel like it is very under control, nothing ballistic.
    0:42:17 I’m going to get plenty of ballistic and dynamic movements from the skiing itself.
    0:42:22 One question on the recovery side is back in the day, it was like one gram of protein
    0:42:27 per pound of body weight to get any type of muscle growth.
    0:42:29 What’s your current regimen look like for something like this?
    0:42:32 Because you’re not going for massive gains here, so it’s not like it’d be perfect.
    0:42:33 Are you still getting adequate protein?
    0:42:36 Are you putting a lot of protein in there when you’re doing these training days?
    0:42:37 Yeah, I will.
    0:42:41 I mean, especially because I’ll be training, I’ll basically be training at the gym at
    0:42:47 night before dinner and I will be skiing and taking very serious technical lessons and
    0:42:51 trying some pretty gnarly stuff for me in terms of reasonably intense training.
    0:42:52 Some shit or?
    0:42:53 No, no, no, no.
    0:42:54 Not that intense.
    0:42:55 No.
    0:42:56 You doing a half pipe?
    0:42:57 No, not half pipe.
    0:42:58 What are you doing?
    0:43:01 I’m just talking about like bumps and backcountry stuff.
    0:43:02 Oh, backcountry stuff, yeah.
    0:43:06 Also like ski touring, I’ll be skinning basically, you work your way up the mountain and then
    0:43:07 you ski down and stuff.
    0:43:10 So it’s going to be physically intensive.
    0:43:13 I’ll also be eating quite a lot of carbs, but probably I will almost certainly get at
    0:43:17 least one gram of protein per pound body weight.
    0:43:19 I don’t think that’s overkill.
    0:43:20 All right.
    0:43:21 Yeah.
    0:43:23 If you want more thing, that’s kind of fun.
    0:43:24 Yeah.
    0:43:25 And I’ve been looking very closely at this.
    0:43:31 I don’t feel comfortable promoting any brands yet because I have some technical questions,
    0:43:37 but I have been experimenting with something called the acronym is LICUS, L-I-C-U-S, which
    0:43:43 is, so I’ve got this and then another one over here.
    0:43:46 If you’re not seeing the video, it looks like he’s part cyborg now.
    0:43:51 This patches with electrodes and cables coming off and then you set how many hours you want
    0:43:57 on this thing and it is low intensity continuous ultrasound.
    0:43:58 Is this why you’re so chill right now?
    0:43:59 What’s going on?
    0:44:00 What is this thing doing?
    0:44:01 No, no.
    0:44:02 This is not why I’m so chill.
    0:44:03 I mean, who knows?
    0:44:04 I don’t think so.
    0:44:11 This is a device that safely administers low intensity ultrasound over a period of one
    0:44:14 to four hours per site of treatment.
    0:44:19 I currently have two of these coupling patches, one on the front of my shoulder, one at the
    0:44:20 rear of the shoulder.
    0:44:23 I have a bunch of tendonitis around the insertion points.
    0:44:25 Oh, so this has nothing to do with your Hawaii trip.
    0:44:26 It’s not like for us…
    0:44:27 No, no, no.
    0:44:28 This is when I’ve been playing with this for a month.
    0:44:29 Talking to dolphins.
    0:44:31 No, no.
    0:44:37 This is for recovery, but also the low intensity continuous ultrasounds like is LICUS.
    0:44:41 You can find a lot of interesting studies on this and I’ll mention a site.
    0:44:49 I don’t know if I mentioned it before, but consensus.app, which uses AI to assess published
    0:44:55 literature from reputable journals to determine if something is a thumbs up, thumbs down or
    0:44:56 inconclusive.
    0:45:00 So you could put something in like, is there any evidence that low intensity continuous
    0:45:04 ultrasound helps with tissue remodeling or sports recovery?
    0:45:05 You’ll get an answer.
    0:45:08 It’s not perfect, but it’s actually very helpful to get an initial indication.
    0:45:15 One of what I find interesting about this is unlike some other types of, say for instance,
    0:45:16 electrical stimulation.
    0:45:21 There are 10 units that you can use that will effectively reduce pain by, and this is not
    0:45:27 scientific description, but they’re effectively overriding your nerves or overstimulating your
    0:45:32 nerves with certain frequencies to turn off or mute the pain signaling.
    0:45:34 That’s not what this is doing.
    0:45:38 This technology seems to actually help with tissue remodeling and proliferation of different
    0:45:41 growth factors.
    0:45:45 I really remember the first time I used this within an hour, this acute pain in my shoulder
    0:45:47 just vanished.
    0:45:48 Crazy.
    0:45:49 Now, could that be placebo?
    0:45:50 It could be placebo.
    0:45:52 What’s the cost on this?
    0:45:53 It’s not cheap.
    0:45:54 Yeah.
    0:45:57 Which is why most people go into a clinic to use something like this.
    0:45:59 But they get you with the razor blades approach.
    0:46:03 So the device itself, who knows, but these coupling patches are very expensive.
    0:46:09 So to get, if I’m using it once a day or twice a day, I’ve been using it a lot.
    0:46:12 It’s like 10 grand for two months.
    0:46:13 Jesus.
    0:46:14 It’s expensive.
    0:46:15 How much are the patches?
    0:46:20 Like a grand a pop, like one box of four, I think it’s four, four, four, four.
    0:46:23 So it’d be like 16 patches or something like 900 bucks.
    0:46:25 It’s very expensive.
    0:46:29 But there are some people out there for whom this will be out of reach, but you may be
    0:46:33 able to find a clinic where you could do this on sort of an as needed basis.
    0:46:34 Who knows?
    0:46:38 Once a week, there may be some minimum cadence necessary to see the results that you would
    0:46:39 want.
    0:46:41 But there are also people out there for whom this may make sense.
    0:46:45 And hopefully, as this technology, and you’ve seen this happen a million times.
    0:46:52 So if I, as it becomes more popular, as the technology gets more developed, as there’s
    0:46:55 more competition, the price drops tremendously.
    0:46:59 You know, what’s funny is I’ve seen in podcasts, you know, you and I have been part of this
    0:47:02 where like you mentioned something that’s like three grand or whatever or something
    0:47:03 crazy.
    0:47:07 And there’s like, well, that Tim fucking rich guy can like afford all these things, blah,
    0:47:08 blah.
    0:47:12 But honestly, what happens that I think is so beautiful about this stuff is like, if
    0:47:17 you can get the higher end folks to like that want to go and experiment at the edges here
    0:47:22 that have the disposable income, they’re doing nothing but dropping the prices for the masses
    0:47:24 because they have to ramp up production over time.
    0:47:27 And it’s like, it’s funny, I’ve seen this happen so many times, even in drugs stuff
    0:47:28 as well.
    0:47:33 I think of rapatha as an alternative to cholesterol meds, and it wasn’t covered out of pocket.
    0:47:37 It was like $2,500 a month was like ridiculous.
    0:47:39 And now Amazon has it for 500.
    0:47:40 That’s no insurance.
    0:47:43 You know, it’s like, it just, it takes time for these things to come down and hit the
    0:47:44 masses.
    0:47:48 And with those VO2 max machines too, that you can get home now, I don’t know if you messed
    0:47:49 around with those.
    0:47:50 I just got one of those.
    0:47:51 It’s insane.
    0:47:52 It’s insane.
    0:47:55 But it’s great because you say you don’t have to go to the clinic and you can save the
    0:47:57 time and then eventually these would be less expensive for everyone.
    0:47:58 Yeah.
    0:48:02 I mean, we’ve seen it with Uber, right, Uber Black in the beginning was definitely kind
    0:48:06 of a one percenter thing, but it subsidized the development of, I mean, that was jet travel
    0:48:07 though as well.
    0:48:09 UberX, Tesla, same thing.
    0:48:11 I mean, there are many, many examples.
    0:48:17 I would say I’ll get people some recommendations that are not expensive at all, which I’m equally
    0:48:22 focused on, actually more focused on, like this is a nice bonus and I’m still experimenting
    0:48:23 with it.
    0:48:27 It seems to be very helpful, but I want to see longer term.
    0:48:33 There is a chapter in, and I’ll see if I can share some of this.
    0:48:35 I’ll put a link in the show notes for people.
    0:48:37 I’ll share at least some of this.
    0:48:43 There’s a chapter in the four hour body called reversing permanent injuries.
    0:48:51 I will link to it for folks, but the exercises in that still deliver so much like the bang
    0:48:56 for the buck, in doing some of the gray cook exercises, the chop and lift with cable machines,
    0:49:02 the Turkish get up, even if you’re just doing the first portion of that on the ground for
    0:49:03 shoulder health.
    0:49:11 I mean, there’s so many benefits to a handful of exercises in terms of injury prevention.
    0:49:14 You have to invest in that stuff as you get older.
    0:49:19 If you want to be active, if you want to be athletic, your body just does not have the
    0:49:24 elasticity and the regenerative ability that it used to.
    0:49:28 That for instance, part of the reason I went back to that chapter is that the chop and
    0:49:37 lift exercise have a slow under control rotational component that I felt was not dynamically,
    0:49:44 but still compatible with getting me closer to developing or redeveloping the spinal engine
    0:49:46 that Nsime and Yang talks about.
    0:49:54 I was like, “Okay, look, let me take small safe steps towards incorporating some very
    0:49:59 mild rotational exercises.”
    0:50:00 That’s where I’m starting.
    0:50:01 It feels good.
    0:50:02 It feels great.
    0:50:06 I’m doing it first thing in the morning, wake up, cold brew coffee right now and then Hawaiian
    0:50:07 coffee is incredible.
    0:50:13 This has been my reentry week after my 30, 40 days of abstinence.
    0:50:17 Wake up immediately, have a cold brew and then go to the gym.
    0:50:19 That’s a big shot.
    0:50:21 Hawaiian coffee is no joke.
    0:50:23 That’s some strong stuff.
    0:50:24 It’s so good.
    0:50:25 It’s delicious.
    0:50:26 It’s one of my favorite coffee on the planet.
    0:50:32 There’s something about how does dark and dense, and it feels very nutrient rich, antioxidant
    0:50:33 rich to me.
    0:50:35 It’s good stuff too.
    0:50:36 Kona coffee is good.
    0:50:37 All right.
    0:50:39 So, we’re getting a few other predictions and fun things?
    0:50:40 Yeah.
    0:50:41 Yeah, let’s do it.
    0:50:42 Okay.
    0:50:43 So, we got tons.
    0:50:44 We have several TED Talks.
    0:50:45 So, you should …
    0:50:46 Yeah.
    0:50:47 So, I’ll just do …
    0:50:48 Let a rapid fire.
    0:50:49 Fun stuff here.
    0:50:50 So, damn January.
    0:50:51 I’m going to drink a six or less drinks a month.
    0:50:52 Moving on to investments.
    0:50:55 I like how you ran through that one.
    0:50:59 Listen, the drinking thing, well, I actually am cutting back a ton.
    0:51:00 You know what I’m not drinking tonight.
    0:51:01 Look at that.
    0:51:02 Look at that.
    0:51:03 All right.
    0:51:04 Baby steps.
    0:51:05 Baby steps.
    0:51:09 One of the things I’ve realized, especially as you get older, is that as life gets more
    0:51:14 complex, there has to be this kind of continual, especially as you have kids and other things,
    0:51:21 because continual reevaluating of your processes, like every year, how can you turn down the
    0:51:24 knob and automate more things than you had the previous year?
    0:51:25 Just from my own sanity.
    0:51:27 Or eliminate more things too.
    0:51:28 Yes.
    0:51:29 Yes.
    0:51:32 And so, in that theme, I’ve gotten really simple in investing front.
    0:51:35 Like the vast majority of my exposure is at True Ventures, where we take on a lot of
    0:51:36 risk.
    0:51:37 That’s what we do for our day jobs.
    0:51:39 I’m going to try a new app called Monarch.
    0:51:43 It’s not new, but it’s been around for a while for tracking my finances and finally get a
    0:51:45 budget under control starting January.
    0:51:46 You’ve been using it, right?
    0:51:47 For a bit?
    0:51:48 Yeah, but he’s in it.
    0:51:49 It’s great.
    0:51:50 What do you like about it?
    0:51:51 So, there’s a couple of things that I really like.
    0:51:57 I like for holistic net worth, just where am I in the world.
    0:51:59 There’s a bunch of tools out there.
    0:52:00 Projection Lab is good.
    0:52:01 Where am I in the world?
    0:52:02 Meaning like…
    0:52:03 Big picture.
    0:52:04 What does my whole thing look like?
    0:52:05 Yeah, exactly.
    0:52:11 And so, I would say that Projection Lab is kind of looking where you’re spending in terms
    0:52:15 of like, how soon can I retire and what does my retirement look like?
    0:52:18 In planning for different scenarios, I think that’s probably the best app out there.
    0:52:20 What was it called?
    0:52:21 Projection Lab.
    0:52:25 Co-Pilot has always been my favorite on mobile, but Monarch is now just…
    0:52:31 It ties together all my accounts in a view that I think is more data rich, especially
    0:52:33 on the budgeting side than Co-Pilot.
    0:52:40 So, I’ve kind of started to move over to Monarch more full-time, which is great.
    0:52:45 Those two, and then, gosh, I’m drawing a blank of the last one for the kind of like overview
    0:52:46 of everything.
    0:52:48 You’re going to kill me because it’s a fantastic app.
    0:52:49 Pouring out premium?
    0:52:50 What’s that?
    0:52:51 Pouring out premium?
    0:52:52 Exactly.
    0:52:53 So, there’s Tim.
    0:52:54 He’s back.
    0:52:55 He’s back, everybody.
    0:52:59 Now, I can’t even blame it on the booze.
    0:53:00 Yeah, exactly.
    0:53:02 Before you were like, “I’m married.”
    0:53:04 Did you actually buy their premium?
    0:53:05 No.
    0:53:06 No, no, no.
    0:53:10 You would answer it like, “Yeah, I’m not sure my public favorites.”
    0:53:11 Yeah, exactly.
    0:53:12 Pouring up.com/timtim.
    0:53:13 20% off.
    0:53:14 Kubera.
    0:53:20 Kubera is my overview app that I think is the best for like tracking off kind of your
    0:53:21 larger investments and like…
    0:53:22 Why was the name?
    0:53:23 No wonder you forgot it.
    0:53:24 Kubera.
    0:53:25 K-U-B-E-R-A.
    0:53:26 I love Kubera.
    0:53:29 I think it’s really high quality software.
    0:53:30 Anyway, that’s that.
    0:53:33 So, let me just go quickly down the investment front.
    0:53:35 VTI, because it gives you global exposure.
    0:53:36 I love that.
    0:53:38 I get the total stock market index there.
    0:53:39 It’s Vanguard.
    0:53:41 It’s low cost.
    0:53:45 It’s like, I want to have the majority of my stuff in there.
    0:53:52 I have moved my crypto allocation to 10% of overall net worth from about 4% to 5%.
    0:53:54 Oh, you increased your holdings.
    0:53:55 I increased.
    0:53:56 Now, okay.
    0:53:58 Did you increase it or is that just reflective of an increase in value?
    0:53:59 No.
    0:54:00 I increased it.
    0:54:01 You bought more.
    0:54:02 Yes, I’ve been buying more for the last few months.
    0:54:07 I had this feeling that Trump was going to win and I started buying more crypto when
    0:54:14 I had that gut feeling just because I think that he’s going to push a massive crypto agenda.
    0:54:19 And I believe that if this is probably in the more prediction side, I think in the next
    0:54:22 couple of years, we’re going to see for the very first time the US government is going
    0:54:25 to start adding crypto to our reserves.
    0:54:27 We’ll treat it as a currency that we hold in our reserves.
    0:54:30 And when that happens, it’s going to be nuts.
    0:54:37 I think we’re going to hit my gut says 250,000 or more, a coin in the next couple of years.
    0:54:39 So we’ll see where that goes.
    0:54:43 Now, if somebody listens like Kevin’s just shilling his bags, what would you say to that?
    0:54:45 I would say a lot of people have said this.
    0:54:46 I don’t know.
    0:54:47 I was talking about…
    0:54:48 I’m not saying that.
    0:54:49 I’m just saying.
    0:54:50 No, no.
    0:54:51 I get it.
    0:54:52 But like, this isn’t…
    0:54:53 Here’s the deal about shilling your bags.
    0:54:54 I’m giving the PTSD five bags.
    0:54:55 No, no, no.
    0:54:56 But this is the real truth.
    0:54:57 Okay.
    0:55:01 Let’s go and take a look at how much Bitcoin traded today in terms of volume.
    0:55:02 Okay.
    0:55:08 So I love our podcast that we’re both going to syndicate this episode on our respective
    0:55:14 feeds, but we’re not moving trillions of dollars of Bitcoin because I say it’s going to 250
    0:55:15 Bitcoin.
    0:55:20 I could go right now on Coinbase right now and say sell 20 million in Bitcoin, press
    0:55:25 a button at market, and it would hardly even tick like a little tiny tick because there’s
    0:55:27 so much volume.
    0:55:30 No amount of shilling could move it in any meaningful way.
    0:55:31 It just can’t happen.
    0:55:36 Now, 10 years ago, you and I go on here talking about Bitcoin, and we just made ourselves
    0:55:38 like 5 million bucks, but you know what I mean?
    0:55:39 That’s not the case anymore.
    0:55:41 It’s just too massive.
    0:55:44 So anyway, there’s no such thing as shilling anymore, at least when it comes to Bitcoin.
    0:55:48 Now, if we were talking about shitcoins, which are happening a lot right now, that’s the
    0:55:49 stuff that’s just so stupid.
    0:55:50 I don’t even get involved in.
    0:55:52 So anyway, I hold Bitcoin.
    0:55:56 I purposely hold it in an account that I can’t touch.
    0:56:01 So I like this because Coinbase has a feature called custody where you can’t withdraw for
    0:56:04 like three days, enterprise level, self-control.
    0:56:05 Yeah, exactly.
    0:56:06 It’s like a forced hold.
    0:56:10 I like doing it, and I’ve now stopped trading it.
    0:56:11 So I don’t even look at the price.
    0:56:13 I’m like, it’s just part of my overall holdings.
    0:56:16 I’m going to hold it for the next 50 plus years.
    0:56:18 I want to hand my kids Bitcoin.
    0:56:21 It’s gone from when do I sell it, like, ooh, is it too high?
    0:56:22 Should I sell right now?
    0:56:23 Those days are over.
    0:56:25 Now, it’s just part of the portfolio.
    0:56:27 So it goes, it’s digital assets.
    0:56:28 It’s not going away.
    0:56:33 You can’t put digital assets back in the box, like back in the tube or wherever the genie
    0:56:34 comes out of.
    0:56:35 Back in the tube.
    0:56:36 Yeah.
    0:56:39 You can’t put some genie back in the toothpaste tube.
    0:56:40 Yeah, exactly.
    0:56:45 So last thing I will say, now I do like to play, you know, do little one-off stock buys
    0:56:46 every now and then.
    0:56:50 I got very, really lucky because we called NVIDIA pretty early on your podcast before,
    0:56:56 which was good, but I have enough friends that are large executives at major companies
    0:57:02 in the tech arena that they are all talking about nuclear power.
    0:57:07 And I don’t know how to play it, but my gut tells me over the next decade, there’s going
    0:57:11 to be, I’m pretty bullish on the return of nuclear to the United States, just out of
    0:57:15 our sheer capacity for power that we need for data centers on the AI side.
    0:57:18 Like we need alternative forms of energy.
    0:57:20 Especially if coal plants are shut down.
    0:57:22 Well, I mean, I don’t think that’s going to happen.
    0:57:23 I’m not saying all.
    0:57:24 I’m not saying all.
    0:57:27 If you want to play the broad basket and you’re thinking about this over the long term, and
    0:57:32 I was speaking for myself, this is not investment advice, but I did find there’s a fund that
    0:57:38 like holds like uranium manufacturers and some like nuclear plants and some of the companies
    0:57:41 that are thinking about doing these new smaller plants.
    0:57:44 And so it’s like a basket of public nuclear stocks right now, and they will add to it
    0:57:46 as other nuclear companies go public.
    0:57:50 And so like I’m not in the game of going and saying, Hey, this is the nuclear future.
    0:57:52 It’s just one company, right?
    0:57:56 Because that to me would be like, it seems too much like angel investing or something
    0:57:57 else.
    0:58:01 So anyway, the one I look at is the only one I could really find was NLR, which is the
    0:58:07 Venek ETF trust uranium and nuclear basket of stocks.
    0:58:10 It’s got a pretty high expense ratio, but like I’m doing a really small piece into it
    0:58:13 just because I think over the next decade is going to outperform the S&P.
    0:58:14 That’s all.
    0:58:17 That’s all for fun on the kind of investment going into the new year.
    0:58:18 And then I got a bunch of predictions.
    0:58:19 Yeah.
    0:58:20 There are some of the predictions up.
    0:58:21 Okay.
    0:58:25 So prediction number one, Bitcoin hits 250 US government starts adding into reserves.
    0:58:26 You think that’s in 2025?
    0:58:29 I think that is in the next two years.
    0:58:31 So I’ll kick that out say within the next two years.
    0:58:36 I think several AI companies next year struggle to raise capital and go under and I’m talking
    0:58:40 some of the bigs that have raised hundreds of millions of dollars because I think what’s
    0:58:44 going to happen is that I shouldn’t say the bigs, the big players that are in the
    0:58:49 startup space now, I think the quote unquote bigs like the alphabet companies are just
    0:58:52 going to run the table when it comes to most AI related things.
    0:58:57 And if that’s the case, I kind of just want to hold those stocks.
    0:59:00 Open AI, I’m still like, you know, they’re so intertwined with Microsoft, I think that
    0:59:01 they’ll be fine.
    0:59:03 Plus they’re working on other devices as well.
    0:59:06 Speaking of which, one of my predictions, it will be that opening a launch is some type
    0:59:11 of mobile device, maybe some type of smart headphones this coming year because they have
    0:59:15 to be at the metal level, meaning like they have to be at the device level that we all
    0:59:17 carry around.
    0:59:21 And when you have press and hold Apple intelligence, just by holding on the side of your phone
    0:59:26 now, and you have press and hold like, you know how you used to query like Siri or whatever.
    0:59:29 And now you have that same going on with Jim and I with Google.
    0:59:35 Now you’ve got AI at the phone level already carried by the big providers to get someone
    0:59:40 to think like, oh, I got to go download chat GPT so I can go and switch it out as my assistant
    0:59:42 and get all this and set up shortcuts and all that.
    0:59:47 And it’s like, if it’s like 90% is good, people won’t care.
    0:59:48 You know what I mean?
    0:59:54 It’s like, I don’t care if I’m streaming Lord of the Rings off of freaking Hulu or Prime
    0:59:57 or Apple TV, I just want to watch the movie, right?
    1:00:00 And so it’s like, I think AI is going to be kind of like that where we’ll just like,
    1:00:01 oh, I have an Apple phone.
    1:00:02 So I use Apple intelligence.
    1:00:03 Like that’s kind of.
    1:00:04 Interesting.
    1:00:05 Yeah.
    1:00:06 So you think of like, where could they get the wedge in the door?
    1:00:07 Right.
    1:00:08 That sets interesting, right?
    1:00:14 Because if they made a really good set of basically AirPod clones of some type.
    1:00:17 But intelligent with AI built in, yeah, had that built in.
    1:00:20 But basically, they’re not going to replace the iPhone, right?
    1:00:24 They’re not going to replace good Android phones for people who already use those, but
    1:00:28 they could replace wireless AirPods.
    1:00:32 The only way I think they would have a chance at replacing, not replacing the iPhone, but
    1:00:36 being a top seller would be that they do something.
    1:00:42 So first principles oriented where it’s like a type of UI, UX that we just haven’t even
    1:00:43 imagined yet.
    1:00:46 I heard they were working with Johnny Ive on some of this stuff.
    1:00:51 And so, you know, you got the former, like industrial designer, head of design for Apple
    1:00:55 coming to the table with open AI saying, Hey, let’s go back to the drawing board and say,
    1:01:00 if we had to build a phone today, would it be with a series of app icons on here or might
    1:01:04 it be a different interface that makes us way more sexy, more fun?
    1:01:10 Because like the future is not going to be, Hey, I’m going to go launch hotels.com app
    1:01:15 and say, get me a room in Japan in two weeks, negotiate all the things, put in my credit
    1:01:16 card credentials.
    1:01:19 It’s going to be literally you open your AI and you say, Hey, can you get me a room for
    1:01:22 Japan at this hotel in two weeks?
    1:01:23 And it’ll be like, which room do you want?
    1:01:24 These three things, blah, blah, blah.
    1:01:27 And you like this room and it’s like, boom, it’s already got my information.
    1:01:31 It’s all API is behind the scenes and it hands all that data over the exchange is done.
    1:01:32 The payment is done.
    1:01:37 And it’s just like, it’s finalized within 30 seconds versus the 15 minute thing.
    1:01:43 I mean, I guess what someone like opening AI could do is something along the lines of
    1:01:50 a fantasy I’ve had for a long time, which is like a very dumb phone that I remember last
    1:01:54 year, almost a year ago, I was telling my friends, it’d be great to have a one button
    1:02:01 phone and the one button phone at that time would have basically sent voice or routed
    1:02:07 a phone call to a virtual assistant or someone who handles everything for me outside of like
    1:02:08 Google Maps.
    1:02:10 It’s like, all right, I have maps.
    1:02:12 And then I have one request button for everything.
    1:02:13 Right.
    1:02:14 And that’s it.
    1:02:20 Just to avoid the metastasized mess of having a thousand apps and so many people 1000 notifications
    1:02:22 and all that bullshit.
    1:02:28 And I know some very accomplished professionals who have stopped taking their iPhone into
    1:02:34 their office, like they leave it in some type of locker or maybe they leave it someplace
    1:02:39 safe at like the reception and they take their dumb phone into say the office where they’re
    1:02:46 doing their real work and their family has that number right ringer is on for emergencies.
    1:02:47 It has maps and that’s it.
    1:02:49 Yeah, there’s nothing else.
    1:02:54 So you couldn’t envision something that is effectively the one button phone, but it’s
    1:02:58 using an AI system through this open AI 100 percent.
    1:03:02 Yeah, I think you’re exactly right in that like there’s probably the two or three things
    1:03:05 that you still need and it’s not Instagram.
    1:03:07 It’s not a full suite of things.
    1:03:12 It’s like, okay, I maybe I still need to call or hail an Uber at this corner and see when
    1:03:13 it’s pulling up, right?
    1:03:17 Like maps, maybe Uber and then music probably.
    1:03:19 Yeah, music and like credit cards.
    1:03:20 Like that’s right.
    1:03:21 You don’t need anything else.
    1:03:22 And like AI could serve up music.
    1:03:25 I mean, I don’t know exactly how they would do it, but there’d be a way to do it.
    1:03:26 They’ll have APIs with all that stuff.
    1:03:29 They can just send APIs for everything.
    1:03:33 And coming back to what we were saying earlier too, it’s like, okay, well, most people are
    1:03:35 not going to replace their phone with that.
    1:03:43 But could they get 100,000, 200,000 techies to overpay for that to do the basically field
    1:03:45 testing for them?
    1:03:50 Or they could 100% almost certainly as the technology kind of matures behind the scenes.
    1:03:54 I mean, this is the playbook that I think is finally starting to work for meta where
    1:03:58 they have these Ray-Ban glasses that it’s the first time I’ve seen a meta product where
    1:04:03 I’ve said, okay, I mean, we’ve been talking about VR and AR for so long and how stupid
    1:04:06 it is as long as this show has been around.
    1:04:09 I know Adam Gazali still owes me a bottle of whiskey because he thought it was going
    1:04:11 to win out, but that’s in your book.
    1:04:12 Yeah.
    1:04:17 So Ray-Bans finally is really starting to hit for meta in that you can walk up to people
    1:04:21 now in Japan and get real-time translations, right?
    1:04:23 And you don’t even look like you’re wearing anything.
    1:04:24 Real-time doxing too.
    1:04:30 You see the Harvard student who figured out how to use the Ray-Ban glasses to immediately
    1:04:31 dox everyone.
    1:04:33 You can be like, “Hey, are you so-and-so who researched so-and-so?”
    1:04:35 They’re like, “Oh my God, how do you know?”
    1:04:37 And it’s like, because they’re getting a terminal readout.
    1:04:41 Yeah, you get the terminal readout totally, a little higher fidelity than those graphics
    1:04:42 back then.
    1:04:43 Yeah.
    1:04:47 So a couple of things real quick on the prediction front and then I’m done, but I think Microsoft
    1:04:51 releases an Android phone largely because they have the suite there.
    1:04:55 They have Word, they have Excel, they have PowerPoint, they have Drive, they have all
    1:04:57 the stuff, Outlook, you name it.
    1:05:00 I think it’ll be Android-based and they have ChatGPT.
    1:05:04 So I think on the open AI side, that will probably be integrated into the Microsoft
    1:05:06 phone.
    1:05:07 My gut tells me there’s a no-brainer for them.
    1:05:12 So Microsoft would subsidize the development and all that of this hardware as opposed to
    1:05:13 it.
    1:05:14 But it’ll also be Android-based.
    1:05:15 Okay.
    1:05:16 It’s almost like getting a Google phone.
    1:05:19 You know when you get a Google phone, you open it up and it’s got Gmail and Chrome and
    1:05:20 everything baked in?
    1:05:26 If it is Android-based, this is such a Luddite question, I should know the answer, but does
    1:05:32 Gemini automatically come along for the ride, in which case that would be built-in competition
    1:05:35 for open AI if they used an Android phone?
    1:05:42 That’s a great question because I know that Google had some funky things back in the day.
    1:05:47 If you wanted to use Android, you had to include certain types of Google services behind the
    1:05:49 scenes even though it’s open source.
    1:05:54 I don’t know to what extent and what you have to bundle, but I believe because if I look
    1:05:57 at Samsung phones and they have their own browsers and they have their own email and
    1:06:00 everything else and they’re based on Android, that they could do the swap here because Samsung
    1:06:02 already does it on the AI side and everything else.
    1:06:07 Lastly, I think we’ll get some type of confirmation of aliens.
    1:06:12 One last thing which I think we’ll see is we’re going to see a very massive unlock and creativity
    1:06:16 around music creation happening in the next couple of years.
    1:06:20 The same way that we’re able to prompt and type in, “Show me a fox swimming underwater
    1:06:25 grabbing an apple,” and now you can’t even tell it wasn’t shot, and it’s just being generated
    1:06:32 these little four-case snippets, I think there’s going to be a way to prompt music creation
    1:06:39 in a very fun and exciting explosion of creativity that will make an average consumer sound that
    1:06:41 they can be a real producer for the first time.
    1:06:45 Just because I’ve seen some of these early betas, and they’re a lot of fun.
    1:06:47 I think that’s the next 12 months, maybe 18 max.
    1:06:50 Yeah, I think 18 sounds about right.
    1:06:52 You skipped over Damp January, which is fine.
    1:06:53 Well, let that sit.
    1:06:54 Yeah, it is.
    1:06:55 Aliens.
    1:06:57 So, tell me more about the aliens.
    1:06:58 What the hell is going on in New Jersey?
    1:07:01 Honestly, I just have been ignoring most of the news.
    1:07:07 There’s been this, I feel, in the last three years, and I got a really awesome chance to
    1:07:12 sit down with that Navy fighter pilot that saw some of these things, and there has been
    1:07:17 so much inquiry now, and then there also is a new change in government, obviously, that’s
    1:07:19 pushing for so much more transparency.
    1:07:24 I think that when you have someone, and we don’t have to get into politics whether you
    1:07:27 love them or hate them or anything else, but when you have someone like Elon Musk in there
    1:07:34 being Elon, I can see this shaking free or at least the uncovering of whatever we know
    1:07:41 in this domain being declassified, and that to me is just horribly scary/exciting at the
    1:07:42 same time.
    1:07:43 Yeah.
    1:07:44 Who knows?
    1:07:45 Crazy.
    1:07:46 Yeah.
    1:07:50 I mean, what are the odds that you would place, honestly, in my head, it’s like 90%, there’s
    1:07:53 it like aliens out there, and that we know about it as a government.
    1:07:56 I guess we haven’t talked about this because I don’t want to sound like a fucking crazy
    1:08:04 person, but there was a point where this conversation was in the air enough, I was like, “Okay, let
    1:08:11 me do a deep dive to see what we can say with any degree of certainty and what we can’t
    1:08:18 say with any degree of certainty,” and looking at government reports, looking at various
    1:08:27 first person testimony about the tic-tac and so on that are very widely cited, and trying
    1:08:33 to account for the possibility that some of these people, not all of them and not necessarily
    1:08:39 people involved tic-tac, may see some benefit or appeal like every human being on social
    1:08:45 media to getting attention, so you have to add that in as a possible contributing factor.
    1:08:53 What can we conclude based on the available data, and what seems to be the case if you’re
    1:08:59 looking at UAPs, right, because it’s what unidentified aerial phenomena now, the rebrand
    1:09:04 from UFO, so you don’t sound like someone wearing a tinfoil hat, and part of the reason
    1:09:11 that it’s aerial phenomena as opposed to flying object is because the vast majority of these
    1:09:19 can be explained by, say, high altitude weather balloons or meteorological phenomena that
    1:09:27 cause a strange visual effect in the sky that is noticeable by humans from the ground, blah,
    1:09:28 blah, blah, blah, blah.
    1:09:34 There are like 95 plus percent can be accounted for by that, or 90 plus percent.
    1:09:42 Then you have also a long government history of covering up test craft flights and so on
    1:09:44 with reports of UFOs, right?
    1:09:49 There’s a crash of some prototype of some type of weaponized technology or surveillance
    1:09:55 technology, and especially many, many decades ago, they’re worried about that news getting
    1:10:02 to our enemies/competitors overseas, so they drum up a misinformation campaign around it
    1:10:03 being UFO.
    1:10:04 Okay.
    1:10:06 So there’s also a bunch of that.
    1:10:10 Taking all of that into account, if you look at congressional testimony and a bunch of
    1:10:16 other things, there do seem to be quite a few examples of documented phenomena often
    1:10:23 recorded from multiple video sources that defy explanation.
    1:10:30 They seem to defy explanation, and the descriptions of the behavior of these things seem to defy
    1:10:35 any explanation using technology that is currently available to us.
    1:10:43 But I would say that the idea that there are little green men in these ships strikes me
    1:10:48 as kind of ridiculous unless they’re tourists who just are on safaris seeing what humans
    1:10:56 are doing, because if they’re sufficiently advanced to do what some people report, these
    1:11:03 craft doing, we’re already using drones for warfare and all sorts of things.
    1:11:09 Why would they risk life and injury?
    1:11:10 That’s why I don’t think it’s that.
    1:11:11 I think it is tourism, dude.
    1:11:12 You’re right.
    1:11:13 It could be tourism.
    1:11:17 And the ones at REC are the ones that you hear about in Africa when people go on safaris
    1:11:20 and they have too many drinks and they just like fucking crash into a greenhouse or it’s
    1:11:21 like getting eaten or whatever.
    1:11:25 It’s like some of these aliens are coming down here and it has to be something like that.
    1:11:30 We’ve had a few BEVs and they just fucking wreck their shit.
    1:11:32 It’s like teenage alien to you guys.
    1:11:33 Yeah.
    1:11:34 Exactly.
    1:11:35 Yeah.
    1:11:36 Where’d Globlog go?
    1:11:37 Oh, fuck.
    1:11:38 Yeah.
    1:11:39 It’s gone to earth again.
    1:11:40 Did he drink?
    1:11:41 Yeah.
    1:11:42 You took a few.
    1:11:43 Yeah.
    1:11:44 I mean, maybe, maybe, right?
    1:11:47 I do think there are many more questions than answers, of course, but actually, I’ll give
    1:11:48 a shout out.
    1:11:54 There is an app called Enigma, which runs machine learning on UAP sightings.
    1:11:56 So if people want to check that out, it’s pretty interesting.
    1:12:02 Of course, we’ve seen a huge spike in New Jersey over the last period of time, but that’s
    1:12:05 worth checking out and I’m actually just going to double check.
    1:12:08 Did you see Moment of Contact, by the way?
    1:12:09 Nope.
    1:12:10 Oh, you got to see this.
    1:12:11 Yeah.
    1:12:16 So Enigma is EnigmaLabs.io.
    1:12:23 Make a note of this, Moment of Contact, it’s a Netflix documentary about this 1996 crash
    1:12:30 in Brazil, and it’s like these citizens, dozens of them, saw not only the crash, but the
    1:12:34 freaking aliens wandering around the neighborhood and shit after the crash.
    1:12:38 And then all these military things came in.
    1:12:39 It’s worth it.
    1:12:40 It’s worth it.
    1:12:41 It’s like ET, but in Brazil.
    1:12:43 I put on an alien documentary like once a year.
    1:12:44 Netflix knows me not.
    1:12:45 Yeah.
    1:12:46 It’s like, “Hey, you might like this.”
    1:12:47 I’m like, “I might.”
    1:12:52 JJ Abrams’ production company, Bad Robot, they made some UFO miniseries.
    1:12:53 I watched that on an airplane.
    1:12:54 Did they?
    1:12:55 That’s when you watch that kind of thing.
    1:12:56 Yeah.
    1:12:57 Yeah.
    1:12:58 Exactly.
    1:13:00 And so I watched this one and I was like, “Wow, holy shit.
    1:13:01 It’s pretty compelling.”
    1:13:06 Let me throw out a couple of alternate explanations, or supplemental explanations.
    1:13:12 So one, when you see these reports, the vast majority of alien abduction reports are red
    1:13:16 necks getting pulled up by a tractor beam and then having anal probes put in them.
    1:13:19 And I’m just like, “Why is it that all these red necks are getting anal probed?”
    1:13:21 Is it always anal probes?
    1:13:24 There is a lot of probing typically involved.
    1:13:25 But it is weird.
    1:13:26 What’s going on there?
    1:13:28 Why do they return them?
    1:13:29 Take them.
    1:13:30 I don’t know.
    1:13:31 I don’t know.
    1:13:36 Where I was going to go is the reports also of the appearance of these aliens.
    1:13:41 So what you often see is the upside-down, tear-drop-shaped head with the big eyes, and it’s like, “Well,
    1:13:42 look cross-culturally.
    1:13:44 You see these reports everywhere.
    1:13:46 Therefore, they must be real.”
    1:13:54 Those types of entities often are cited in certain types of psychedelic drug experiences
    1:13:55 also.
    1:13:58 So what does that mean?
    1:14:04 Are people having spontaneous drug-like experiences that are producing these visions?
    1:14:12 Is it actually not that these particular alien creatures exist, but that there is some fundamental
    1:14:17 production of this hallucination based on endogenous DMT release or something?
    1:14:18 Who the fuck knows?
    1:14:21 But I’m saying there could be a component of that.
    1:14:29 The other one is, my thought is, if we take as a possibility that there are aliens from
    1:14:37 God knows where, who are somehow getting to Earth by bending the time-space continuum
    1:14:43 to get here from gazillions of light-years away somehow in these craft, then wouldn’t
    1:14:55 it be equally plausible that these craft are sent by time-traveling humans, basically descendants
    1:14:58 of us that are like, “Wow, we really fucked that up.
    1:15:01 Let’s try to send back an intervention team.”
    1:15:02 It sounds crazy.
    1:15:07 I don’t think it’s any crazier than aliens figuring out how to get here from a gazillion
    1:15:12 light-years away to go on safari and handle pro-rednecks.
    1:15:14 It doesn’t strike me as any stranger.
    1:15:17 You’ve heard that a lot of these sightings are around some of these nuclear facilities
    1:15:20 as well, like the missile silos and stuff like that.
    1:15:21 I have, yes.
    1:15:25 What I’m doing right now is what I always try to do, and this is especially true with
    1:15:26 things that I feel strongly about.
    1:15:28 I’m like, “What else could explain this?
    1:15:31 What are some possible alternate explanations?”
    1:15:35 Particularly when I’m delving into some of the very weird edges of things that I’ve
    1:15:40 done over the last 15, 20 years with respect to psychedelic assist therapies and so on,
    1:15:42 like some very, very strange reports come back.
    1:15:44 How do you cross-examine those?
    1:15:49 One tool, and the toolkit is simply to say, “Let me try to strongman against whatever
    1:15:52 my current explanation is.”
    1:16:00 In the case of the nuclear sites, it seems like there’s a disproportionate number of
    1:16:04 reports and videos and so on associated with these military sites.
    1:16:11 However, you could also look at the data for brain tumor diagnoses.
    1:16:15 If you were to look at the graph of something like that, and I’m making up this example,
    1:16:21 but I think it’s probably true, it would look like there’s an explosion of brain cancer
    1:16:28 that among the human populace, brain cancer is just on this crazy parabolic rise.
    1:16:31 It’s probably just because our diagnostic tools have become better.
    1:16:35 Our imaging tools are catching things earlier, they’re more sophisticated.
    1:16:40 Similarly, at these nuclear sites or especially military sites with nuclear components, what
    1:16:41 do they have?
    1:16:46 They have a million times the surveillance of any other place.
    1:16:49 It’s possible these things are flying around in the Alaskan tundra, but there’s nothing
    1:16:51 there to capture them.
    1:16:54 I think it’s certainly possible those are areas of interest.
    1:17:02 To me, that would seem to lend weight to explanations of, I don’t know why aliens would be interested
    1:17:09 in that, time-traveling humans, maybe, state actors, like China, oh, for sure, they’d be
    1:17:10 very interested.
    1:17:19 Soviet Union, for sure, but some of the propulsion and aeronautic behaviors of these craft do
    1:17:24 not seem to reflect technology that’s available to any current state actor, including the
    1:17:29 United States, which raises all sorts of questions, but there’s some very strange stuff out there.
    1:17:36 It is a very, very, very small single-digit percentage of the total reported or documented
    1:17:37 phenomena, but yeah, it’s strange.
    1:17:39 That was my conclusion.
    1:17:43 If we could ever find a hotspot and we get a chance to go out there, that would be fun.
    1:17:46 I just get a group of people go out there and just do like a little UFO, what do you
    1:17:47 mean?
    1:17:48 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
    1:17:49 There’s a lot of UFOs showing up, you know?
    1:17:53 There are some of these places that are supposed to be better for viewing UFOs.
    1:17:54 Yeah.
    1:17:56 That would be fun, just get ready for like a week.
    1:18:02 When I was a kid, I remember driving, my mom, babesitter at the time, I think my brother
    1:18:06 was a baby, and we were driving, I remember exactly where we were, I’m not going to name
    1:18:10 it, but I remember the exact road, and this kind of like cigar-shaped thing, so I went
    1:18:13 whoop, and then just shot off.
    1:18:17 We all saw it, and I was just like, what the fuck was that?
    1:18:19 No idea, but we all saw the same thing.
    1:18:21 Yeah, so who knows?
    1:18:26 There was a fair amount of military testing out there, so maybe who knows.
    1:18:27 That’s crazy.
    1:18:28 Go figure, that’s awesome.
    1:18:29 All right.
    1:18:30 So that’s the aliens.
    1:18:31 That’s all you got.
    1:18:32 Or pseudo-aliens.
    1:18:33 All right, that’s all you got.
    1:18:36 So I’ll talk about a couple of things which are not related to predictions.
    1:18:37 Maybe I have some predictions.
    1:18:39 Maybe we’ll come out organically.
    1:18:40 So you’re talking about protein.
    1:18:44 I’ll mention a few things that might be of interest to folks.
    1:18:50 So while I’ve been here, I’ve been on the go, I’ll also talk about why I seem so chill,
    1:18:54 which I think I can nail pretty easily to one thing.
    1:18:58 So the first, and this is a company I’m super heavily involved with, but I mean I’m involved
    1:19:00 with it because I believe in it a lot.
    1:19:05 So you’ve seen these venison sticks, these Axis Deer venison sticks, Maui Nui venison.
    1:19:10 It’s the most nutrient dense red meat that you can get, and the most ethically harvested
    1:19:12 in my opinion, red meat that you can get.
    1:19:15 What’s interesting about this one, this is a brand new product.
    1:19:16 I’ve been consuming two or three of these today.
    1:19:23 It’s basically a multivitamin in a meat product because it has, this is called Peppered 10,
    1:19:32 and it’s got 10% liver and heart in addition to the muscle, and it is incredible how much
    1:19:34 nutrient density you get from that.
    1:19:38 And then the other one, which I don’t actually have any official relationship with whatsoever,
    1:19:44 but shout out to also Peter Tia, who we both know, who’s the chief science officer.
    1:19:45 But this is David.
    1:19:52 So these David bars have incredible protein per calorie ratios, 28 grams of protein, 150
    1:19:53 calories.
    1:19:58 So when I am traveling, especially when I’m traveling, this is basically the kit.
    1:19:59 Yeah.
    1:20:00 I do the David bars too.
    1:20:01 They’re good.
    1:20:04 One of them was a little too sweet for me, but the blueberry one’s really good.
    1:20:05 Yeah.
    1:20:09 Some of them are a little too sweet for my palate, but also there is a point where I’m
    1:20:15 like, I cannot eat another venison stick because I eat so many of those per week.
    1:20:19 And we’re in Maui, meaning my team and I are in Maui right now, because we wanted to
    1:20:27 visit Maui Newly because Jake Muse is one of the most impressive company leaders and
    1:20:32 operators I’ve ever seen, including all of my startups in tech and otherwise.
    1:20:40 He’s so good at talent development, he’s so good at culture, and it’s a great example
    1:20:42 of doing good through a for-profit.
    1:20:48 And I just think that type of model is important to highlight because there is a lot of good
    1:20:50 you can do through sort of market-driven solutions.
    1:20:56 And in this case, what Maui Newly Venison does, people don’t know, Axis Deer were introduced,
    1:21:02 they’re originally from India to Hawaii by King Kamehameha, the third or fifth, I can’t
    1:21:03 recall exactly.
    1:21:09 They have no natural predators and now there are like tens of thousands of these deer ravaging
    1:21:10 the landscape.
    1:21:17 And so they’re destroying the ecology and that has all sorts of downstream effects literally
    1:21:24 and metaphorically, including destroying coral reefs because they produce a lot of erosion.
    1:21:27 And it’s really alarming, it looks like wildfire effectively.
    1:21:33 So what Maui Newly does is they harvest these deer, meaning they shoot them in the field
    1:21:38 at night for lowest stress levels for the animals.
    1:21:46 And it’s incredibly well run, their sort of efficiency ratio is as good as, say, slaughterhouses
    1:21:50 for cattle, which are very stressful for the animals, right?
    1:21:54 They’re factory farmed, then they’re put into shoots, they’re literally held in place and
    1:21:57 then boom, like bolt in the head.
    1:21:59 This for my money is infinitely more ethical.
    1:22:06 I mean, the animal is wild and free, living its life until the very instant that it instantaneously
    1:22:09 expires, then they package that and they sell it.
    1:22:14 But what they also do, best way to go, yeah, well, let’s just go out of a Maui Newly field
    1:22:18 or like gold, like they’ll just put us on the field at some point when we can no longer
    1:22:21 harness our spinal engine.
    1:22:25 It’s like, well, it’s time to put Kevin out to pasture, just give him a donut and a couple
    1:22:26 of beer.
    1:22:32 I’m sitting at a table and I’m like, Tim, why did you bring me to Maui Newy?
    1:22:33 It’s so nice here.
    1:22:34 Yeah, no, no, no.
    1:22:35 Maui Newy retirement on.
    1:22:36 You’re going to love it.
    1:22:37 Exactly.
    1:22:41 So what I did hear this trip, which I’d always wanted to do, but I’ve never done is I went
    1:22:42 on a holoai.
    1:22:48 And a holoai harvest is for the community here in Maui.
    1:22:54 So the holoai food sharing program that was created in April 2020 as a response to food
    1:22:59 insecurity in Hawaii, which had a lot of food security issues, emergency level caused by
    1:23:00 the COVID lockdowns.
    1:23:05 And what the Maui Newy team did is they completely sort of revamped everything so they could
    1:23:11 first just drive venison by the tons straight to the food bank to donate it for communities.
    1:23:17 And then after the devastating wildfires last year, they completely restructured their operations.
    1:23:21 And I mean, I got the email sent to all investors and they’re like, hey, look guys, we are like
    1:23:27 shifting our focus completely to helping our communities, which need food like this is
    1:23:32 a disaster level crisis and change their business model.
    1:23:39 And they have shared more than 120,000 pounds of venison, meaning donated since the 2023
    1:23:40 fires.
    1:23:41 It’s amazing.
    1:23:44 So there are a lot of partners and other people who have helped them along the way.
    1:23:49 But what I did is, and my team had the option of participating and they all opted in was
    1:23:51 to go on a night harvest.
    1:23:54 So their operation is like a special operation, vampire hour outing.
    1:24:00 I mean, you go out, they have flur infrared cameras and scopes, they have display monitors,
    1:24:07 they’re capturing information, which is like a current stop, no shot, current stop shot.
    1:24:12 And they have like laser identifications for the rovers where the people who then go and
    1:24:14 like retrieve the deer.
    1:24:17 And I went through the butchering process, I wanted to get better at butchering.
    1:24:22 So it’s like, I actually butchered, I don’t know, six or seven deer on this trip.
    1:24:23 That’s amazing.
    1:24:26 And did you take some meat with you or no?
    1:24:27 Oh, of course.
    1:24:28 Yeah.
    1:24:29 I mean, the vast majority of that’s going to be donated.
    1:24:35 But some of it I’m going to keep for myself and send to family members and so on.
    1:24:39 But it can be very visually arresting.
    1:24:44 It can be confronting for someone who’s used to getting food from a conveniently wrapped
    1:24:47 plastic packaging from Whole Foods.
    1:24:58 But I find it so grounding in the sense that it makes you fully aware of what is involved
    1:25:01 to put food on your table if you choose to eat meat.
    1:25:03 And I feel very unconflicted about it.
    1:25:04 I know there’s something.
    1:25:05 I do too.
    1:25:06 You feel conflicted.
    1:25:07 I don’t.
    1:25:10 It’s funny you mentioned that because it’s like, I get if you’re a vegetarian or vegan
    1:25:13 out there and you’re like, I don’t see eye to eye with anything that is being said right
    1:25:14 now.
    1:25:15 That totally makes sense to me.
    1:25:20 But if you’re going and having a burger and like, I don’t know for me, if I’m eating
    1:25:26 a burger and I can’t put down the animal that I ate it from, like that there’s a big disconnect
    1:25:27 there.
    1:25:28 Like it wasn’t just a couple of generations ago.
    1:25:29 We were doing that.
    1:25:30 You know what I mean?
    1:25:33 And like now it’s been completely stripped out of our culture.
    1:25:35 And you know, I don’t have the same amount of hunting experience that you did.
    1:25:36 I went hunting with my dad once.
    1:25:41 But you know, when I was, I’ve certainly done a shit ton of fishing and you know, it’s
    1:25:44 not the easiest thing to put down a big ass salmon either.
    1:25:48 But like, you know, you think it’s for its life and you make use of everything you can,
    1:25:50 you know, and it’s, and it’s amazing.
    1:25:51 Totally.
    1:25:57 And they use everything, which is also deeply inspiring and they use everything from these
    1:26:03 animals and in their effectively restoring an ecosystem, right.
    1:26:10 They are feeding the local community and they’re providing the most nutrient dense.
    1:26:11 Yes.
    1:26:15 And they’re bringing back traditions of things that like, this idea that there’s a lot of
    1:26:19 chefs that are doing this now where they call it like nose to tail, which is like, it’s
    1:26:23 not about just getting the prime cuts and throwing everything else away and being wasteful.
    1:26:27 It’s like cooking all of the different aspects and using all the different aspects of the
    1:26:31 animal for either consumption or for product use or whatever it may be.
    1:26:33 There’s no waste there or very little, you know.
    1:26:39 And part of the reason they can do this is because they are harvesting these deer from
    1:26:40 private land.
    1:26:46 So to be clear, the reason that you buy farmed animals for food in the United States, because
    1:26:47 that’s what you have to do.
    1:26:48 You cannot buy game meat.
    1:26:54 That’s illegal because you don’t want people poaching on public land and then selling meat,
    1:27:00 which can lead to over killing and all sorts of issues with wildlife management cause imbalancing.
    1:27:05 So the operation is incredibly unique in that respect.
    1:27:09 And there are actually, and I don’t think it matters to out them here, like there are
    1:27:15 a lot of say, vegans or vegetarians, there are I know vegans, this is going to sound
    1:27:21 like a contradiction in terms, but who object to a lot of the animal husbandry practices,
    1:27:24 especially factory farming and so on in the U S. So they don’t eat meat based on those
    1:27:27 ethical grounds and they make an exception for Maui Nui.
    1:27:29 It’s the only meat that they consume.
    1:27:31 So anyway, that was this trip.
    1:27:36 So my team got to ride around in these ATVs and see the displays and really see the whole
    1:27:37 process.
    1:27:40 How does that not surprise me that every single one of your team, like if you work for Tim
    1:27:44 Ferris and you’re like, you’re like, Hey, we’re going on a hunt tonight.
    1:27:47 Like is there one person that’s going to be like, I don’t know, you’re like, you’re
    1:27:48 fucking fired.
    1:27:50 No, I wouldn’t fire them.
    1:27:51 I wouldn’t fire them.
    1:27:52 I mean, it’s I’m kidding.
    1:27:53 I’m kidding.
    1:27:54 Yeah.
    1:27:58 You know, it’s quite a bit to take it.
    1:28:02 But what I wanted to do, and this is actually not my idea, this is the suggestion of one
    1:28:03 of my employees.
    1:28:10 They wanted first hand experience with one of the companies or nonprofits that I support.
    1:28:13 And initially we thought about doing something with Amazon Conservation Team because I’ve
    1:28:18 done a lot of work with them in Columbia and Suriname and other places.
    1:28:23 But that would have involved two weeks off the grid and would have been very complicated
    1:28:25 from a logistics perspective.
    1:28:27 Maybe they’re talking about your psychedelic donations.
    1:28:28 What was this?
    1:28:32 Maybe they’re talking about your psychedelic research that you’ve been doing that.
    1:28:36 I don’t think I feel comfortable sending my employees to the 17th dimension just yet.
    1:28:38 But who knows?
    1:28:40 So that’s what I’ve been up to.
    1:28:47 And then on the calming side, you’re like a two on your typically like a nice toasty
    1:28:50 seven or eight simmering seven, very chill.
    1:28:51 Yeah.
    1:28:57 And so I’d say chill, certainly Hawaii helps, certainly good sleep helps, exercise helps.
    1:28:58 But…
    1:28:59 Value.
    1:29:03 You’re like I did three value before I started the show.
    1:29:05 I’ve got the like it’s on this shoulder.
    1:29:07 I’ve got my morphine drip on the other.
    1:29:08 Yeah, exactly.
    1:29:09 Your morphine patch.
    1:29:10 No, it’s not morphine.
    1:29:11 It’s not morphine.
    1:29:12 It’s meditating twice a day.
    1:29:13 Amazing.
    1:29:14 Yeah.
    1:29:20 And I’ve been doing it for probably a month now and I started it in part as a response
    1:29:27 to a disappointing result from a booster of accelerated TMS.
    1:29:34 So we spoke several shows ago about accelerated TMS and how my five day bout, let’s just call
    1:29:41 it, or treatment with accelerated TMS had the greatest durable impact on my generalized
    1:29:42 anxiety that I’ve ever experienced.
    1:29:44 This includes psychedelic assist therapies.
    1:29:50 The accelerated TMS, which is a noninvasive treatment using transcranial magnetic stimulation
    1:29:54 over a five day period in this case, where you’re getting treated basically eight minutes
    1:29:57 every hour on the hour for 10 hours a day.
    1:29:58 It’s very involved.
    1:30:01 Like when you’re doing it, that’s all you’re doing for effectively a week.
    1:30:03 And it was phenomenal.
    1:30:09 And I will almost certainly do it again, but five days is a lot and I wanted to see if
    1:30:10 I could do it with less.
    1:30:14 So first I tried a two day booster, I might have been a single day booster and it was
    1:30:15 not enough.
    1:30:16 I did nothing.
    1:30:21 I went back and this is going to California and I did a three day booster.
    1:30:22 Also not enough.
    1:30:29 So I just wasted a lot of time, a lot of money trying to round down and it didn’t do anything.
    1:30:31 And I found that very disheartening.
    1:30:35 It just means I need to go back and do the five days and figure out the right cadence,
    1:30:40 but it’s very expensive to do this and it’s very time consuming.
    1:30:46 So I then was looking at different meditation options and this has since become a company
    1:30:52 that I’m very heavily involved with, but the way Henry Schuchman, your man, who you initially
    1:31:00 introduced me to and I’ve introduced my employees to the way, which is an app and the sessions,
    1:31:02 you can make them longer or shorter.
    1:31:07 I set them at 10 minutes and I was very skeptical because I did TM, you know, Transcendental
    1:31:10 Meditation back in the day, which is 20 minutes twice a day.
    1:31:15 And I assumed at 10 minutes like, yeah, it’ll be kind of relaxing, but it’s really not going
    1:31:16 to have much of a cumulative effect.
    1:31:23 And I was completely wrong doing 10 minutes in the morning, 10 minutes either before dinner
    1:31:25 or before bed, but making it like brushing your teeth.
    1:31:26 It’s a non-negotiable.
    1:31:27 Right.
    1:31:28 It’s just a non-negotiable.
    1:31:32 You just do it like you do anything else that is non-negotiable.
    1:31:40 And doing those 10 minutes twice a day has been incredible because it has effectively
    1:31:48 gotten me to, I think, a similar level of lower generalized anxiety that I got from
    1:31:55 spending 30 to 50 grand to do this experimental TMS therapy, which that is all inclusive,
    1:31:56 right?
    1:32:01 So that’s like the treatment, the hotels, the flights, so on and so forth.
    1:32:02 It adds up.
    1:32:03 And you can do it for less.
    1:32:06 That was with a MAG Ventures device, which I think is quite interesting.
    1:32:10 Brainsway is another one that’s very interesting and worked well for a lot of other people.
    1:32:11 It doesn’t have to be that expensive.
    1:32:16 But for me, I was like, look, let me pay for like the white glove ultra high touch best
    1:32:17 option.
    1:32:23 And if that doesn’t work for me, I’m going to conclude that I cannot recommend this
    1:32:27 therapeutic intervention because this is as good as it gets.
    1:32:33 And the idea that you can meditate 10 minutes a day with an app and people can check it
    1:32:34 out.
    1:32:36 Thewayapp.com is the app.
    1:32:41 Henry Shookman has the most relaxing voice you’ll ever hear in your life.
    1:32:47 And I think the app gives you 30 sessions for free so you can get a real flavor for
    1:32:48 it.
    1:32:49 It’s not like, oh, you get two chances.
    1:32:52 And at least when I used it the first time, I didn’t have to use my credit card.
    1:32:57 And by the way, even though I’m an investor, because I product test everything and love
    1:33:02 giving feedback, as Kevin has seen, I’ve sent like a million looms to co-founders as
    1:33:03 product feedback.
    1:33:07 And I was like, no, I want to pay for it because if there’s a glitch in the system, I want
    1:33:10 to know what the glitch is and I want to report it.
    1:33:13 So I paid for it and you get 30.
    1:33:16 So that’s either if you’re doing 10 minutes a day, that’s 30 days.
    1:33:17 If you’re doing two a day, that’s two weeks.
    1:33:21 It’s plenty of time to either notice or not notice in effect.
    1:33:24 But what else would you say about about Henry?
    1:33:29 I will say that what is a challenging thing that I’ll always navigate on the investment
    1:33:33 stuff, although I love my new as well, I just ordered the sticks, the 10 sticks, it was
    1:33:34 gonna be good.
    1:33:35 They’re so good.
    1:33:38 I’m not an investor there, but I do love their product is like the one thing that you won’t
    1:33:42 see that I’ll tell you the behind the scenes is like, Tim, I was hitting you up and I was
    1:33:46 like, oh dude, you know, you invested, but you hadn’t really given it a full deep dive
    1:33:47 run.
    1:33:48 Right.
    1:33:51 And you were like, oh man, I don’t know, like I really have to like to your defense and
    1:33:52 your credit.
    1:33:56 And this shows you kind of like the behind the scenes of why Tim, I respect you so much
    1:34:02 is like, you didn’t want to ever really kind of talk about this or really like overly
    1:34:07 endorse it until you had really put it through your own personal rate or deep dive.
    1:34:08 Yeah.
    1:34:11 And then the first thing is I get on the phone call with the team because we do investor
    1:34:15 updates with them or I do investor updates with them because I let their round every month.
    1:34:20 And they’re like, yeah, Tim sent us like another 10 looms, like he’s got all his feedback.
    1:34:23 He’s got all his feedback and he’s like, and they were quick to implement that stuff.
    1:34:30 And they have been one of the fastest teams to update product, which is not to say they
    1:34:32 have to take all my feedback or suggestions.
    1:34:33 They certainly don’t.
    1:34:40 It’s their product, but they have been so fast at fine tuning the product.
    1:34:42 I’ve been really impressed.
    1:34:43 Yeah.
    1:34:44 Well, they’ve loved the feedback.
    1:34:46 It’s all been super valid stuff.
    1:34:48 So that’s, that’s awesome.
    1:34:51 But anyway, what I would say about it is like, you know, I started studying with Henry during
    1:34:55 before he had an app during the pandemic and, you know, this is what really got me into
    1:34:56 Zen.
    1:35:02 And I think one of the things that meditation struggles from is this race towards the bottom
    1:35:07 in that there’s been a commercialization of meditation that says, Hey, do the two minute
    1:35:11 meditation know the one minute meditation know the like, how can I just like productize
    1:35:13 meditation and sell meditation?
    1:35:18 And like, this is like a real Zen master teaching course that it’s for people that really you
    1:35:23 may have tried calmer headspace, but you want to go deep, deep and really go for something
    1:35:24 much bigger here.
    1:35:32 That to me is the exciting promise of this app because it’s not just a hired pretty voice
    1:35:33 on the thing.
    1:35:38 It’s like an actual Zen master teaching you and it comes through in the knowledge transfer.
    1:35:43 It’s just you can feel it, you know, and it’s also it’s skill development, right?
    1:35:50 It’s not pleasant story de jure, where you’re just jumping around listening to different
    1:35:52 things, which could be soothing.
    1:35:53 Maybe it worked for some people.
    1:35:58 It’s never really worked for me, particularly well, if I approach it that way.
    1:36:07 This is skill development in a logical progression, which you notice like you recognize it, you
    1:36:12 will recognize as you go through and maybe you’re going through a particular retreat that
    1:36:17 is themed on hindrances, for instance, and then you’re doing a sit where you’re focusing
    1:36:21 on a version and you can label it.
    1:36:24 And then, for instance, I went out to dinner two nights later.
    1:36:29 This was table of ladies who’d had a few too many drinks and they were cackling like fucking
    1:36:30 crazy.
    1:36:35 And normally I would just I would sit there just seething, right?
    1:36:38 And then I’m not proud of saying this, but I would just be like, God damn it.
    1:36:41 Like, you know, I’d want to exact some vigilante justice.
    1:36:45 I’d be like, well, if nobody’s going to talk to her, like, how are they going to learn?
    1:36:46 And like, nobody else is going to go over there.
    1:36:51 So I have a moral obligation like be like, hey, ladies, and then if they’re like, hey,
    1:36:55 pal, fuck yourself, then I’m going to be like all spun out and dysregulated sitting down
    1:36:59 to like eat my cheesecake, like trembling and fury.
    1:37:03 So I was like, oh, and it popped up and as soon as it popped up, I was like aversion.
    1:37:05 You’re experiencing aversion.
    1:37:10 And I used exactly the skill that I had practiced two days before in the meditation, and I was
    1:37:14 like, boom, and it defuse the whole thing.
    1:37:16 And that’s what you want.
    1:37:20 Like you’re not meditating in an app just to feel good while you’re using the app.
    1:37:22 How can you bring into everyday life?
    1:37:26 And what I also like about it is it doesn’t let you skip.
    1:37:30 You have to follow the program for good reason.
    1:37:36 You don’t get to skip around indulging your whim and impatience.
    1:37:37 You have to follow through.
    1:37:43 So if you try to skip ahead, it’s like, hey, buddy, yeah, glad you’re excited, but sorry,
    1:37:46 you’re not allowed to skip around because this program does X, Y, and Z.
    1:37:48 So enjoy.
    1:37:49 It’s good stuff.
    1:37:51 It’s perfect time to use New Year’s, like get a New Year’s resolution.
    1:37:54 This is like going to be, this is going to be a big one for me.
    1:37:57 You know, it’s funny because I’m looking at the number of retreats because I’ve done
    1:38:00 quite a few now and I’m like, oh, God, I don’t want this to end.
    1:38:03 Like what am I going to do when, when I’m like through the entire program, I’m like
    1:38:06 going to run out of Henry, but I have so much left.
    1:38:07 That’s great.
    1:38:08 Also, you’re going to come with me to a seven day retreat.
    1:38:11 We got to make the happen this year, like an in-person one.
    1:38:12 Yeah, I’m game.
    1:38:13 We’ll do a five day one.
    1:38:17 Look, I’m open to it as long as you don’t eat them mushrooms before you go.
    1:38:18 Yeah.
    1:38:22 Fast for six days and eat microdose while I’m doing it from probably overkill.
    1:38:24 You probably have some PTSD from that one.
    1:38:28 Oh, it was not a wise set of decisions.
    1:38:30 There were, there were bad decisions were made on my part.
    1:38:32 I’d be game to talk about that.
    1:38:34 So let’s talk about actually New Year’s resolutions for a second.
    1:38:35 Yeah.
    1:38:36 This ties in.
    1:38:40 I actually just did my past year review, which I do every year, I go through my calendar
    1:38:41 kind of week by week.
    1:38:42 I did that today.
    1:38:48 I also looked forward to the next year and what I’ve already been doing over the last
    1:38:51 month or two, and I’d encourage people to think about this.
    1:38:55 I can, instead of thinking about New Year’s resolutions, think about New Year’s reservations.
    1:38:56 New Year’s reservations.
    1:38:57 What does that mean?
    1:38:59 It means what are you putting in your calendar?
    1:39:01 If it’s not in your calendar, it’s not real.
    1:39:02 Right?
    1:39:03 It’s like, okay.
    1:39:06 I’m going to translate to this and this and this.
    1:39:10 Hire a trainer or book a program or buy a membership.
    1:39:12 Get time in your calendar.
    1:39:13 Right?
    1:39:14 So what are your New Year’s reservations?
    1:39:20 And for me, the core of that is extended periods of time with close friends.
    1:39:28 Those people who I know are going to give me energy or going to leave me feeling better
    1:39:33 about my life and the world and optimistic.
    1:39:35 Those are the relationships I want to invest in.
    1:39:39 So I go through the year and, for instance, January, February, it’s like I’ve rented a
    1:39:43 house and it’s stupidly expensive for me.
    1:39:47 But I put together a Google spreadsheet and I’m inviting friends to come join.
    1:39:48 I’ll see you late January.
    1:39:50 I don’t know if you saw it on our list.
    1:39:51 Yeah.
    1:39:52 I’m going to buy some skis too.
    1:39:53 I’m going to do some skiing.
    1:39:54 Awesome.
    1:39:55 Yeah.
    1:39:56 It’s going to be fantastic.
    1:39:58 And I’ll give you another example, and you’re invited.
    1:40:00 I haven’t actually talked to anybody about this.
    1:40:09 I did it on the slide, but next August I booked a week in the Rockies for Alpine survivalist
    1:40:12 training with this amazing outdoorsman.
    1:40:15 And I’m going to invite, you know, five to seven guys.
    1:40:17 Dude, that sounds amazing.
    1:40:18 Yeah.
    1:40:20 So if you’re interested, I can tell you more about that.
    1:40:21 It’s going to be incredible.
    1:40:22 Yeah.
    1:40:23 That sounds fantastic.
    1:40:25 I pay a lot of attention to the details for this type of thing.
    1:40:28 I’ve always loved that shit, you know, like with the Eagle Scout and being a Boy Scout.
    1:40:32 Like I want to dig little tunnels that I can like sleep in and shit and the fucking ice
    1:40:33 and shit.
    1:40:34 Like I’m totally down.
    1:40:37 So we’ll have adventures like that, and it doesn’t have to be a week long.
    1:40:38 It could be a long weekend, right?
    1:40:39 It could be.
    1:40:40 Yeah.
    1:40:44 Every year, some of my closest friends come and it depends on the cast of characters.
    1:40:48 Like it’s not always the same people every year, but for like an annual reunion in the
    1:40:50 summer of old friends.
    1:40:54 And in this case, because I do get questions about this sometimes like, well, why isn’t
    1:40:55 it a mixed group?
    1:41:00 It’s not a mixed gender group because unfortunately in modern society, especially on the coasts
    1:41:04 where people tend to get highfalutin and fancy and brainwash themselves into all sorts of
    1:41:10 unproductive things, that there are very few socially acceptable male only activities or
    1:41:15 groups and they’re just not many options outside of perhaps certain sports environments.
    1:41:21 So since that is a rarity, people are by default going to be in mixed groups.
    1:41:27 And I think women generally do a very good job and it’s socially acceptable to have female
    1:41:30 only activities and groups and so on.
    1:41:32 But a lot of men don’t have that.
    1:41:35 Most of my friends don’t have that.
    1:41:41 And that type of experience becomes less and less common as they get married and have kids
    1:41:42 and so on.
    1:41:46 So for me, I feel like the gift I can give is blocking out a few options for people over
    1:41:51 the year.
    1:41:54 Take them away from their wives for a week, you know what I’m saying?
    1:41:55 Yeah.
    1:41:56 It’s a gift you’re given.
    1:41:57 Yeah, really good.
    1:41:58 Really get some time.
    1:41:59 And the kids and little break.
    1:42:00 Yeah, yeah.
    1:42:03 And then also it’s like, I think a lot of men in my experience, it’s like they don’t bond
    1:42:06 necessarily and I know I’m painting with a broad brush and there are always exceptions
    1:42:07 and so on.
    1:42:10 But it’s like they don’t bond in the same way that women do in the sense that a lot
    1:42:15 of guys just want to not talk and do shit together, right?
    1:42:17 And there just aren’t many options for doing that.
    1:42:22 And the beauty of saying setting this up and having reservations and it doesn’t only apply
    1:42:23 to men, it applies to women too.
    1:42:28 Like if you don’t cultivate and nourish those friendships, they will actually, they will
    1:42:29 go away.
    1:42:30 Yeah.
    1:42:31 It’s interesting.
    1:42:34 I have to convince my wife, Daria, to like do these social things with women because
    1:42:36 it’s not your DNA to do that.
    1:42:37 Yeah.
    1:42:39 And so like tonight I was like, I’m going to record podcast, she’s like, okay, I’m going
    1:42:40 out with my girlfriend.
    1:42:41 I’m like, awesome.
    1:42:42 Go do that.
    1:42:43 Take some time.
    1:42:44 Have a moment.
    1:42:45 I’m going to massage.
    1:42:48 Like, whatever you got to do, like to prep for the holidays, like you deserve it.
    1:42:51 And it’s so important to have those breaks.
    1:42:52 It’s important to have the breaks.
    1:42:56 And I mean, this idea that, I can’t remember where I read this recently, but I was reading
    1:43:02 a piece, this idea that you’re going to spend 24/7 together with your partner is a very
    1:43:08 new idea, relatively speaking, and get everything and anything from your partner unreasonable.
    1:43:09 That’s not going to work.
    1:43:10 Yeah.
    1:43:11 They’re everything.
    1:43:15 You’re your best, your partner, your best person, you’re like, and he’s like, that doesn’t
    1:43:16 work.
    1:43:17 Yeah.
    1:43:18 So I have a number of these blocked out for the year.
    1:43:22 I try to have probably like four or five and they’re not all a week long and they’re
    1:43:24 not all dedicated time.
    1:43:29 For instance, like with the skiing, it’s like people are bringing their wives, people are
    1:43:30 bringing their kids.
    1:43:35 It’s like that’s a family or a couple adventure.
    1:43:37 And then there are a few that are boys only.
    1:43:42 So the New Year’s reservations is something I’ve done this now for at least five years,
    1:43:45 maybe longer where it’s like, I’m blocking these things out.
    1:43:46 They’re in the calendar.
    1:43:47 They will not get crowded out by other things.
    1:43:49 So that’s a big one for me.
    1:43:50 That’s great.
    1:43:57 And then other news, finished my knob num, which is no booze, no masturbating 30 day challenge,
    1:44:00 which a lot of my readers and fans joined me on.
    1:44:02 I also did no coffee.
    1:44:05 So I was allowed to have tea, but I didn’t do coffee.
    1:44:08 And it was a fantastic reset.
    1:44:13 And in the last week, I’m not to get too TMI, but it’s like, okay, all of those things
    1:44:14 have been reintroduced.
    1:44:16 And I’m like, yeah, use one to town.
    1:44:24 I really liked the cleansing of the dopamine palette and these can be addictive behaviors,
    1:44:25 right?
    1:44:26 All of them.
    1:44:29 So I think there’s a very good chance that I’m going to be, I have to think about it a
    1:44:33 little bit just because so many people will be visiting, but very, very either completely
    1:44:35 dry for January.
    1:44:40 Oh, you’re like, so many people are visiting, I just couldn’t have to like masturbate and
    1:44:41 living.
    1:44:44 I guess so many friends coming over.
    1:44:47 Just gotta go down.
    1:44:50 What kind of party is this?
    1:44:51 I didn’t get the memo.
    1:44:52 Yeah.
    1:44:56 Tim’s back on, like just give him a few minutes like, you understand, he’s been depriving himself
    1:44:58 like Tim ever is not in his bathroom.
    1:44:59 Exactly.
    1:45:00 Yeah.
    1:45:02 So no, that’s the alcohol side.
    1:45:08 So yeah, all that stuff, I think I might continue all of that for January, we’ll see.
    1:45:11 But it really was a fantastic reset.
    1:45:15 And I think it contributed to the lowered anxiety and kind of how chill I am right now.
    1:45:16 Frankly.
    1:45:17 Yeah.
    1:45:20 And there was an interview, I think Peter Teeter did with a psychiatrist, female psychiatrist
    1:45:25 who was saying when somebody comes in and say they’re a heavy cannabis user and they
    1:45:29 use it for like a reducing anxiety and chronic pain or whatever.
    1:45:32 Actually, in this case, it wouldn’t be chronic pain, it would be they’re using it for what
    1:45:35 they believe to be reducing anxiety.
    1:45:40 But they’ve developed this sort of hedonic adaptation to the cannabis consumption that
    1:45:45 before she’ll prescribe other medications, before she’ll work on the talk therapy, she’ll
    1:45:49 try to get them to abstain from say cannabis use for two to four weeks.
    1:45:54 And lo and behold, in many cases, anxiety drops to the floor just by that intervention.
    1:46:01 And that was partially what inspired me to do the 30 days of abstinence from these things
    1:46:05 is to see, okay, what does it look like to reset the system?
    1:46:06 And it’s great.
    1:46:08 Nothing against those things in moderation.
    1:46:13 But like, I think, for instance, with me and coffee, it’s like, if I’m allowed to unrestrain
    1:46:18 to consume as much coffee as I want, I will consume a lot of coffee.
    1:46:20 And it’s easy for me to over consume.
    1:46:24 So I do occasionally, I mean, look, I’ve been loving my cold brew.
    1:46:28 So maybe I’ll just limit it to one cup of coffee in the morning, which I can actually
    1:46:32 do if I’m getting out of the house and getting on the mountain for a few hours, rather than
    1:46:36 sitting at a coffee shop where it’s like, there’s a fixation with beverages and it’s
    1:46:40 like, yeah, or if you’re in a restaurant, they just like a diner, they keep pouring
    1:46:43 coffee, like, and before you know it, you’ve had five cups.
    1:46:46 So anyway, some of the things on my mind, what else you got, Kevin, anything else you’d
    1:46:47 like to add?
    1:46:49 I’m in the same boat as you with the alcohol stuff.
    1:46:53 It’s so funny how the last few years, if you go back, it’s been like, well, I’m going
    1:46:56 to do X number of days and there’s been like this hard and fast rule and it was like, don’t
    1:46:57 break it.
    1:46:59 Just force yourself through it.
    1:47:02 And it’s like one of the things I realized in the last few weeks, especially the holiday
    1:47:08 parties and things that I’ve had, I’m like, I just have to understand there are going
    1:47:11 to be moments when you go out and you have a couple drinks with friends.
    1:47:18 But it has to be an occasion, not just a night at home where you’re like, oh, let’s pop a
    1:47:20 bottle of wine and have some alcohol.
    1:47:26 I would much rather it be about a special moment with a friend enjoying a good meal than
    1:47:34 have it be just this constant thing that just makes you not hungover but just not your best
    1:47:36 version of yourself.
    1:47:41 Like you said about the anxiety stuff, a lot of that, you don’t even realize it because
    1:47:47 you think that substance is actually reducing anxiety, but in reality, if it’s too many
    1:47:53 times in a month, it’s depleting of all kinds of nutrients and B vitamins and it adds to
    1:47:56 actually more anxiety by just partaking in it.
    1:47:58 So it’s like this horrible thing.
    1:47:59 It also fucks up your sleep, right?
    1:48:02 So I mean, the big one is like, yeah, it’s going to reduce your anxiety for two to three
    1:48:06 hours and then you’re going to feel like dog shit for 12.
    1:48:11 And some people handle it better than others, but what I’ve found also is that by doubling
    1:48:17 down on exercise, like exercise is the lead domino that tips over all of these other habits
    1:48:18 more easily.
    1:48:25 What I mean by that is, if I know I have a half day ski lesson that starts at 8 30 or
    1:48:30 8 AM depends on the snowfall and then I have more training later that night.
    1:48:33 If I have had two or three drinks tonight before, I’m going to be punished, right?
    1:48:41 There are consequences and maybe it’s not feeling terrible, but my performance is terrible
    1:48:42 and I hate losing.
    1:48:43 I hate not improving.
    1:48:47 I love improving and it’s a corrective mechanism.
    1:48:54 If I don’t have that in place, I’m just sitting in front of a laptop and maybe the performance
    1:48:55 drop isn’t as noticeable.
    1:48:57 It’s not as obvious.
    1:49:03 Then it’s harder for me to hold myself to that line, perhaps, but the more movement,
    1:49:07 more exercise, the more everything else falls in line in my experience.
    1:49:08 Agreed.
    1:49:09 Yeah.
    1:49:10 All right, man.
    1:49:11 Well, I’m excited for 2025.
    1:49:12 I got all sorts of great shit coming.
    1:49:13 I’m super stoked.
    1:49:14 And we’re going to hang, I’m presuming it’s South by.
    1:49:15 Oh, yeah.
    1:49:16 We’ll see you in January.
    1:49:17 Of course.
    1:49:18 Yeah.
    1:49:21 And then we’re going to see each other in Jan and then got a lot of fun stuff coming
    1:49:22 for South by.
    1:49:26 Yeah, we’ll have to let people in on that at a later date in terms of when to come hang
    1:49:27 with us.
    1:49:29 But yeah, we’re going to do a little, we’ll do something.
    1:49:32 We’ll do something on stage and something fun around that time.
    1:49:36 Keep your eyes and ears peeled for news at some point in the near future, which should
    1:49:37 be very exciting.
    1:49:38 Sounds good.
    1:49:40 Good to see you, buddy.
    1:49:41 Yeah.
    1:49:42 Happy New Year and happy holidays.
    1:49:43 Give your family the best.
    1:49:44 Yeah.
    1:49:45 Same to you, man.
    1:49:51 Happy New Years and for everybody listening, we’ll put links to stuff we mentioned in the
    1:49:56 show notes, tim.log/podcast, and we’ll put everything in there.
    1:50:02 And I’ll give one more rec, which is I’m totally unaffiliated with this.
    1:50:08 But in addition to the way I’ve been listening to a recording, which was actually sent to
    1:50:12 me by a friend who took the audio tapes and converted it into empty three, but there’s
    1:50:14 an easier option because I found it on audible.
    1:50:19 It’s called The Present Moment, a retreat on the practice of mindfulness by Thich Nhat
    1:50:20 Hanh.
    1:50:26 So Thich Nhat Hanh, I’ve been a fan of forever and his books had a huge impact on me.
    1:50:28 But I’d never heard his voice.
    1:50:29 I’d never heard his voice.
    1:50:36 And this is a recorded retreat with guided meditations and so on from Thich Nhat Hanh.
    1:50:39 And it is quite mesmerizing.
    1:50:44 And I mean, he’s got the accent, which gives it the necessary level of exotic gravitas,
    1:50:45 which always helps.
    1:50:51 But I will say that the way sort of greased the groove for me to be more open to this.
    1:50:55 And when I’ve just been laying in the bath after doing a bunch of activities after my
    1:51:01 night armist or whatever, and I’m really sore, I will listen to these chapters from
    1:51:02 The Present Moment.
    1:51:04 Let me give one book recommendation as well.
    1:51:09 I’m not affiliated with Fireaway by Bruce Grayson, MD.
    1:51:10 It’s called After.
    1:51:11 Have you heard of After?
    1:51:14 I have, because I had Bruce Grayson on the podcast.
    1:51:15 No way.
    1:51:16 Yeah.
    1:51:17 Yeah.
    1:51:18 Holy shit, I got to go listen to that.
    1:51:19 Was it good?
    1:51:20 It was outstanding.
    1:51:21 Yeah, he was really good.
    1:51:22 From University of Virginia.
    1:51:23 Yeah.
    1:51:28 So essentially this book, the subtitle is, “A Doctor Explores What Near-Death Experiences
    1:51:30 Reveal About Life and Beyond.”
    1:51:35 I am like halfway through it, and I just like, I can’t put it down, like it’s so good.
    1:51:40 After/Dr. Grayson is a very credible researcher.
    1:51:44 This guy is not like hand wavy woo woo guy in beads, no offense to beads, but you get
    1:51:45 the idea.
    1:51:50 He’s not like the archetype of some guy who’s got like a heavy dose of conspirituality and
    1:51:52 can’t really sort fact from fiction.
    1:51:57 This is a very credible researcher, and he is fascinating.
    1:52:01 And I debated having him on the podcast or not for quite a long time, and then I realized,
    1:52:02 what am I so afraid of?
    1:52:12 I actually feel quite good about his documentation, the research he’s put out, and his observations
    1:52:18 don’t ring as wildly speculative, and these are documented phenomena.
    1:52:20 People have these experiences.
    1:52:24 So let’s take a closer look at near-death experiences.
    1:52:28 And I’m really glad I did it, really glad I did it, but I was hemming and hawing for
    1:52:30 probably a year or two.
    1:52:38 I was worried that it would open the door to criticism of not being sufficiently skeptical
    1:52:43 or critically minded with guests, but he delivered what I hoped he would deliver, which is a
    1:52:53 very sober, fascinating account of a well-reported phenomena that is poorly understood that he
    1:52:59 has researched for several decades now at this point, which he became interested in quite
    1:53:01 accidentally and reluctantly.
    1:53:06 Oh my God, the story about how he became interested in it and what happened to him is just wild.
    1:53:07 It’s bananas.
    1:53:10 I won’t ruin it, but people check out the book or when the podcast came out a couple
    1:53:11 years ago.
    1:53:13 No, podcast came out like a few months ago.
    1:53:14 Oh, geez.
    1:53:15 I gotta check it.
    1:53:16 Awesome.
    1:53:17 Yeah, yeah.
    1:53:18 It’s amazing.
    1:53:19 That’s fun.
    1:53:21 I’ll link to the Dr. Grayson episode as well for folks after.
    1:53:23 Didn’t Daria also read that?
    1:53:24 Yeah, that’s how I had it.
    1:53:25 It was in my Audible library.
    1:53:28 She said, “You gotta read this,” and then when you share an Audible library, you just
    1:53:30 see what your partner’s buying.
    1:53:31 Yeah, cool.
    1:53:34 And so I just downloaded it, and yeah, it’s been awesome.
    1:53:35 Dig it.
    1:53:36 Awesome, brother.
    1:53:38 Well, lovely to see you.
    1:53:42 As always, give a hug to Dardar and the kiddos and Toasty for me.
    1:53:43 We’ll do.
    1:53:47 Please pet Molly for me and tell your parents I said hello.
    1:53:48 I will.
    1:53:49 And happy holidays, brother.
    1:53:50 Love you.
    1:53:51 And I’ll see you in Jan.
    1:53:52 Yeah, love you too, buddy.
    1:53:53 I’ll see you in January.
    1:53:54 Happy holidays.
    1:53:55 Happy holidays.
    1:53:56 Hey, guys.
    1:53:57 This is Tim again.
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    [00:00] Start

    [04:49] Aloha and happy holidays!

    [07:35] Contemplating the societal impact of reality-bending AI.

    [16:10] Meathead vs. holistic fitness.

    [25:43] My current fitness priorities.

    [28:00] The pros and cons of training to failure.

    [37:09] Back pain causes and stem cell relief.

    [42:17] Protein’s role in my regimen.

    [43:20] LICUS (Low-Intensity Continuous Ultrasound Therapies).

    [45:50] Early adoption leads to mainstream affordability.

    [48:12] Inexpensive injury avoidance/reversal.

    [50:45] Apps for tracking and planning finances.

    [58:17] Bitcoin and other investment projections.

    [59:03] AI mobile device predictions.

    [01:06:07] AI’s place in the future of music creation.

    [01:06:49] We’re not saying it’s aliens, but…

    [01:18:31] David Bars, Maui Nui Venison, and ethical wild meat harvesting.

    [01:27:29] Alternative field trips considered.

    [01:28:32] From a simmering seven or eight to a chill two.

    [01:30:40] Aversion-defusing meditation — this is The Way.

    [01:37:48] Retreat!

    [01:38:32] Making time for friendship bonding.

    [01:43:50] NOBNOM complete. System reset.

    [01:46:43] The benefits of taking a break from alcohol.

    [01:49:08] A few reading recommendations.

    [01:53:34] Parting thoughts.

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