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  • Krista Williams & Lindsey Simcik: When Friendship Is a Business Superpower | Entrepreneurship | E353

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    0:00:03 How did being an entrepreneur, like, change you on your journey?
    0:00:04 Being an entrepreneur is not easy.
    0:00:06 The entrepreneur has a different type of mindset.
    0:00:09 The number one thing that you can remember and accept in life
    0:00:12 is that your friendships are going to change, and that’s okay.
    0:00:14 We started recording on our closet floors.
    0:00:17 It was not perfect. It was not organized.
    0:00:19 It was a mess, but it felt so right.
    0:00:22 So if we had waited to start until we got a studio,
    0:00:25 had the business all set up and the strategy right,
    0:00:26 like, we would have never started.
    0:00:27 A lot of people want to be an entrepreneur
    0:00:29 for the idea of what being an entrepreneur
    0:00:32 is, they kind of see what’s happening online on social media.
    0:00:34 They’re like, oh, you work from home,
    0:00:36 or you work on the beach, or it’s sexy.
    0:00:38 It’s not like that.
    0:00:42 Why do you feel like most of these business marriages don’t work?
    0:00:44 If we just love each other, this will be fine, right?
    0:00:46 But then you get into the marriage, and you’re like,
    0:00:47 oh, this is a lot of work.
    0:00:49 The most important thing that people need to look for
    0:00:52 in relationship for entrepreneurs is
    0:00:55 when we first started, I was so insecure about it.
    0:00:58 But I think what I realized was that as an entrepreneur,
    0:01:01 you’re meant to, if I know if I can make this much here,
    0:01:03 if you give me 40 hours a week, like, watch me.
    0:01:06 Like, there’s no limits how much money I can make.
    0:01:08 If you guys go do your own things,
    0:01:10 do you get jealous or competitive ever?
    0:01:12 It’s all going to come out right now.
    0:01:31 Young and Profiters, welcome back to the show.
    0:01:34 Today, we’ve got an in-person episode
    0:01:37 with Krista Williams and Lindsay Simczyk,
    0:01:39 who are the hosts of the Almost 30 podcast.
    0:01:42 Now, this is a podcast that they started nine years ago
    0:01:44 on their closet floor.
    0:01:47 Now, it’s one of the top podcasts in the world.
    0:01:49 They’ve got a thriving online community.
    0:01:52 They’ve got so many different revenue streams.
    0:01:54 They’ve built an incredible business around their podcast.
    0:01:56 So in this episode, we’re going to talk all about that.
    0:01:58 We’re going to talk about career pivots,
    0:02:01 the pivotal period of your Saturn return
    0:02:04 right before your 30s, and how you can navigate that.
    0:02:06 We’re also going to talk about relationships,
    0:02:09 work marriages, and so much more.
    0:02:10 We get really deep in this conversation.
    0:02:12 I think you guys are going to love it.
    0:02:14 Without further delay, here’s my conversation
    0:02:15 with Krista and Lindsay.
    0:02:18 Welcome to Young and Profiting Podcast, Krista and Lindsay.
    0:02:19 Thank you.
    0:02:21 We’re so excited to have you guys.
    0:02:21 So excited.
    0:02:24 So as I was researching for this interview,
    0:02:27 I found out that you guys say that you’re in a marriage.
    0:02:30 And you guys recently joined the App Media Network.
    0:02:32 You know that I also have a business partner, Jason.
    0:02:34 I always feel like we’re married,
    0:02:37 even though we’re not romantically married.
    0:02:40 But talk to me about why you guys call yourself a marriage
    0:02:42 and what does that really entail?
    0:02:46 When you’re in business with your best friend, especially,
    0:02:50 there are so many layers to the dynamic.
    0:02:52 And in a marriage, as you know, when you get married,
    0:02:57 you share finances, you share just deep growth
    0:02:59 and learning in all aspects of your life.
    0:03:01 And when you become entrepreneurs as best friends,
    0:03:05 you start to share finances first and foremost.
    0:03:07 And then you get into the deep work
    0:03:11 of becoming confident, successful entrepreneurs,
    0:03:16 which requires you to really look at every aspect of yourself
    0:03:19 and every aspect of how you are in a relationship.
    0:03:22 So Krista and I have been through therapy.
    0:03:23 Oh my gosh.
    0:03:24 Through coaching.
    0:03:29 We have had really, really hard conversations about finances,
    0:03:31 about our vision for the future,
    0:03:34 about what’s working and what’s not working.
    0:03:39 And so there have been many times where like the lines are blurred.
    0:03:42 I’m like, I kind of want to be more of your friend right now.
    0:03:43 Yeah.
    0:03:44 But we’re in a business conversation.
    0:03:45 Yeah.
    0:03:45 And vice versa.
    0:03:50 So it’s been something we always have to actively participate in
    0:03:51 and actively work on.
    0:03:52 Yeah.
    0:03:53 If you think about our marriage,
    0:03:55 almost 30 is our baby.
    0:03:55 Yeah.
    0:03:56 So with parents,
    0:03:59 sometimes we prioritize almost 30,
    0:04:00 our baby over our relationship.
    0:04:04 And so we’re more in that role of the parents of our baby
    0:04:05 than we are as friends.
    0:04:08 And so it’s sometimes felt like we’ve lost sight of friendship
    0:04:09 because we’re so focused on the business
    0:04:11 and the growth of the business.
    0:04:13 And we also have to focus on aligning our dreams
    0:04:14 and visions for the future.
    0:04:14 Yeah.
    0:04:15 In a marriage,
    0:04:17 you have to continue to come back to like,
    0:04:17 where are we going?
    0:04:18 How are you feeling?
    0:04:19 Where are we going?
    0:04:21 And we have to do that all the time.
    0:04:22 So whenever people want to start businesses
    0:04:23 with their best friends,
    0:04:26 I’m always hesitant to tell them to do so
    0:04:30 because most of the time it fails when people do that.
    0:04:31 And we’ve been really lucky.
    0:04:32 We put in the work during the process
    0:04:35 and it’s been the most beautiful relationship of my life,
    0:04:36 but it’s not easy.
    0:04:37 Wow.
    0:04:39 I love that you guys are sharing this with us
    0:04:40 because it’s so interesting.
    0:04:44 Why do you feel like most of these business marriages
    0:04:47 with your best friends don’t work?
    0:04:48 What makes you guys work?
    0:04:50 So I think for most of us,
    0:04:52 the ideas that we were told about marriage
    0:04:54 were from Disney movies,
    0:04:54 were from media,
    0:04:56 were these ideas of marriage and relationships
    0:04:59 that are not actually real or supportive
    0:05:00 of healthy dynamics and relationships.
    0:05:01 You know,
    0:05:04 we could essentially be in an unhealthy marriage forever,
    0:05:05 she and I.
    0:05:06 But what we want for our lives
    0:05:07 is to be happy,
    0:05:08 to be fulfilled,
    0:05:09 to do something great.
    0:05:11 So now we came into our relationship,
    0:05:12 our marriage,
    0:05:14 with the idea of marriage being something
    0:05:14 where you sacrifice,
    0:05:16 you’re not in alignment,
    0:05:17 you don’t speak your truth,
    0:05:19 you don’t ask for what you want,
    0:05:21 you don’t create something amazing.
    0:05:23 And so a lot of people go in with that thought,
    0:05:25 like this will just work without work.
    0:05:26 Yeah.
    0:05:27 I went into my previous marriage,
    0:05:28 I was married,
    0:05:29 and I kind of had that idea,
    0:05:31 if we just love each other,
    0:05:32 this will be fine, right?
    0:05:33 But then you get into the marriage,
    0:05:33 and you’re like,
    0:05:35 oh, this is a lot of work,
    0:05:36 a lot of checking in with myself,
    0:05:37 checking in with you,
    0:05:39 realigning our values.
    0:05:41 And so if you go into a business partnership
    0:05:44 without checking in on the relationship,
    0:05:45 checking in on the values,
    0:05:47 checking in on the direction of where you’re going,
    0:05:48 it’s not going to work.
    0:05:49 Something’s going to happen,
    0:05:50 you’re going to build up resentment,
    0:05:53 and you’re probably going to end up breaking up.
    0:05:54 I think the most important thing
    0:05:55 that people need to look for
    0:05:57 in relationship for entrepreneurs
    0:05:59 is being able to communicate.
    0:06:00 Just like a marriage,
    0:06:01 the number one thing in relationship
    0:06:02 is communication.
    0:06:04 You need to be talking about
    0:06:04 how you’re feeling,
    0:06:05 what’s coming up for you,
    0:06:06 what you want,
    0:06:07 where you want to go,
    0:06:08 what works for you,
    0:06:09 what doesn’t work for you.
    0:06:11 And we’ve really focused on our communication
    0:06:13 and communicating respectfully
    0:06:15 and with love and with intention.
    0:06:16 And that’s been the biggest thing
    0:06:17 that’s really kept us together.
    0:06:19 That’s so interesting.
    0:06:20 Talk to me about the communicating
    0:06:22 with love and respect.
    0:06:24 So if you guys are having a disagreement,
    0:06:25 how do you guys approach it?
    0:06:28 Yeah, we coined this phrase
    0:06:29 called clearing conversations.
    0:06:32 So this practice where
    0:06:34 there’s usually something funky in the air.
    0:06:36 We’re kind of feeling like something is off
    0:06:39 and we will schedule a walk.
    0:06:40 And a walk,
    0:06:42 because I think sitting down
    0:06:42 across from each other,
    0:06:43 staring into each other’s eyes
    0:06:45 can be very intense
    0:06:48 and kind of activate the body
    0:06:51 in a way that doesn’t really support honesty
    0:06:53 and flow in a conversation.
    0:06:55 So oftentimes we’ll go on a walk.
    0:06:56 We’re moving our bodies.
    0:06:58 We’re next to each other
    0:07:00 and we’re able to look at each other,
    0:07:01 but also like give each other a break.
    0:07:05 And our intention in these clearing conversations
    0:07:07 is to bring truth and respect,
    0:07:09 to be a great listener
    0:07:13 and really have it be an experience
    0:07:14 of us against the problem
    0:07:16 rather than Krista’s the issue.
    0:07:17 We got to get to the bottom of it.
    0:07:19 And that’s really helped us
    0:07:21 because we all have egos.
    0:07:22 It’s a thing.
    0:07:24 And so when you approach a problem,
    0:07:25 it’s easy to be like,
    0:07:27 you know, you did this to me
    0:07:29 and you made me feel this way.
    0:07:30 But in these clearing conversations,
    0:07:33 we are very intentional to use I statements.
    0:07:34 The story I’m telling myself
    0:07:36 is that you don’t care
    0:07:38 about this part of the business
    0:07:40 and I have to take it all on by myself.
    0:07:42 And in sharing these I statements,
    0:07:45 I’m able to see under the hood
    0:07:48 of like what’s been turning in Krista’s mind.
    0:07:50 And then I’m able to say,
    0:07:52 oh, wow, if I believe that,
    0:07:53 I would be feeling that way too.
    0:07:56 And it just gives us an opportunity
    0:07:57 to not only share our experience,
    0:07:58 but then to listen.
    0:08:00 You know, I think both of us
    0:08:01 are really great listeners
    0:08:02 and we listen with our heart
    0:08:04 rather than our minds
    0:08:05 thinking of what to say next.
    0:08:07 So the clearing conversation,
    0:08:09 I think, is essential for any friendship,
    0:08:10 any business partnership,
    0:08:13 any marriage as a standard in a relationship.
    0:08:16 So I got a chance to get to know you guys
    0:08:17 because we were doing negotiations
    0:08:18 for Yap Media.
    0:08:20 You just joined my network,
    0:08:21 which is just so exciting.
    0:08:21 We’re so excited.
    0:08:24 And it seems like you guys
    0:08:25 wear totally different hats.
    0:08:27 Like I remember at one point,
    0:08:28 Lindsay was like,
    0:08:30 I’m going to handle the contract stuff
    0:08:31 and you have your own stuff
    0:08:32 that you’re handling.
    0:08:32 So talk to us about
    0:08:34 how you divide the labor
    0:08:35 and how you think of that
    0:08:36 with your company.
    0:08:37 Yeah, I think getting clarity on that
    0:08:38 is really important
    0:08:40 for any business in general
    0:08:42 and for really any business partners,
    0:08:42 especially.
    0:08:43 For us,
    0:08:45 the way that we delegated roles
    0:08:46 happened naturally,
    0:08:48 but happened very early on.
    0:08:49 So my experience was in the corporate.
    0:08:51 I worked in finance management consulting
    0:08:53 and I actually was doing
    0:08:55 some brand deals on the side
    0:08:56 as a blogger.
    0:08:58 And Lindsay was an actress.
    0:08:59 She worked at SoulCycle.
    0:09:00 She was an amazing performer.
    0:09:01 She knew a lot about production.
    0:09:02 She knew a lot about performance.
    0:09:04 She brought a lot to the table
    0:09:05 from the aspects of the business
    0:09:06 of creativity
    0:09:08 that I didn’t really have access to.
    0:09:09 So early on,
    0:09:09 I was like,
    0:09:10 I’m going to take on more
    0:09:11 of the business strategic part
    0:09:13 because that’s where I was living before.
    0:09:14 So I actually had it backwards.
    0:09:15 You’re part of the business.
    0:09:15 Got it.
    0:09:15 Okay.
    0:09:17 And then Lindsay brought
    0:09:18 more of the creativity.
    0:09:20 So when we started building the business,
    0:09:23 it was like both of us working together
    0:09:23 and then we saw
    0:09:25 where we were fitting naturally
    0:09:26 and we claimed the domains.
    0:09:27 And over the years,
    0:09:29 we had to reclaim domains
    0:09:29 of where we are
    0:09:30 and where we work
    0:09:32 because we were trying to overlap
    0:09:33 for quite a bit
    0:09:34 and that doesn’t really support us.
    0:09:34 You know,
    0:09:35 it doesn’t really help for us
    0:09:37 to both be two cooks in the kitchen.
    0:09:39 So I’m more strategy.
    0:09:40 I’m more of the partnerships.
    0:09:42 I’m more of the overall ideas
    0:09:42 that we have
    0:09:43 that move the business forward.
    0:09:44 And Lindsay is so helpful
    0:09:45 with the creativity.
    0:09:46 She’s so helpful
    0:09:48 with the relationship with the team.
    0:09:50 She’s a great communicator with the team.
    0:09:51 So there’s just stuff
    0:09:52 that she’s naturally good at
    0:09:53 that she brings to the business.
    0:09:53 Yeah.
    0:09:54 Do you guys,
    0:09:56 have you ever heard of Mind Pump,
    0:09:56 the podcast?
    0:09:57 Yes, of course.
    0:09:57 Okay.
    0:09:59 So Adam Schaefer came on my show.
    0:09:59 Love them.
    0:10:00 And it’s four guys
    0:10:01 that talk about fitness,
    0:10:02 health.
    0:10:03 And he was telling me
    0:10:05 that they’re invested
    0:10:07 in all of their businesses together
    0:10:08 outside of just the podcast.
    0:10:11 So they all invest in real estate,
    0:10:11 stocks.
    0:10:13 One of them wrote a book.
    0:10:14 They all get royalties
    0:10:16 even though they did nothing for the book.
    0:10:17 And they’re just embedded
    0:10:18 in business together
    0:10:20 no matter what the endeavor is.
    0:10:22 So how do you guys look at it?
    0:10:24 I saw you have like a new YouTube channel.
    0:10:26 If you guys go do your own things,
    0:10:27 how do you think about it?
    0:10:29 And do you get jealous
    0:10:30 or competitive ever?
    0:10:32 It’s all going to come out right now.
    0:10:33 I know, honestly.
    0:10:35 You know, I’ve been thinking about this.
    0:10:38 Well, I think what’s so interesting,
    0:10:40 you know, when we started almost 30,
    0:10:40 we were going through
    0:10:42 a very specific time in our life
    0:10:43 and the show has evolved
    0:10:44 as we have evolved.
    0:10:46 And I think with that evolution too
    0:10:49 comes our own very unique gifts
    0:10:51 and how they want to be expressed
    0:10:51 in the world.
    0:10:54 So Krista has an incredibly successful
    0:10:55 coaching business,
    0:10:56 retreat business,
    0:10:58 and so many of her gifts
    0:11:00 that could not be truly fully expressed
    0:11:01 in Almost 30
    0:11:02 are now being expressed
    0:11:03 through those businesses.
    0:11:05 And I’m exploring this new season
    0:11:07 of my life of motherhood
    0:11:08 and what that might look like
    0:11:10 in a community and brand sense.
    0:11:11 So thankfully,
    0:11:13 we’ve always just been
    0:11:14 very, very supportive of the other.
    0:11:17 I think where the conversation
    0:11:18 comes in between us is,
    0:11:20 okay, we’re in a season right now,
    0:11:21 currently in real time
    0:11:24 of being very full on with the book
    0:11:24 and Almost 30.
    0:11:26 And candidly,
    0:11:27 I don’t have a lot of energy
    0:11:29 to pour into New Mom on the Block
    0:11:30 or anything like that.
    0:11:33 And so we’ve had moments
    0:11:34 where we’re like,
    0:11:35 okay, we’re deciding to be full on.
    0:11:36 We’re going to kind of pull back
    0:11:38 on our other things a little bit
    0:11:40 and just really be focused here.
    0:11:42 And I think that’s important
    0:11:43 and important to share
    0:11:45 what’s tough about this
    0:11:46 and what you’re struggling with
    0:11:47 in your own lanes
    0:11:48 of your own business.
    0:11:50 Because I think we can create stories
    0:11:51 in our heads
    0:11:53 about do they want to like
    0:11:54 go pursue that fully
    0:11:56 and like what’s going to happen
    0:11:57 with Almost 30
    0:11:57 or, you know,
    0:11:59 there’s just a lot of stories
    0:12:00 we can create
    0:12:01 or meaning that we can make
    0:12:02 out of something
    0:12:03 that is not really true.
    0:12:04 So again,
    0:12:05 it all comes back
    0:12:06 to that communication.
    0:12:07 Yeah, and I feel like it would
    0:12:08 only benefit the business.
    0:12:10 You know, her succeeding
    0:12:11 or me succeeding
    0:12:12 is only benefits our business
    0:12:13 that we have together.
    0:12:14 But I think what’s been
    0:12:15 really beautiful about the way
    0:12:16 that we’ve evolved
    0:12:18 is we’ve always been like sovereign.
    0:12:19 You know, I think early on
    0:12:20 we were just doing
    0:12:21 everything together.
    0:12:23 We were so just embedded
    0:12:23 in one another
    0:12:25 and we kind of had moments
    0:12:25 where we’re like,
    0:12:27 okay, we are aware
    0:12:28 that this could be for a season.
    0:12:29 This could be for a time period
    0:12:30 in our life.
    0:12:31 We don’t want to be
    0:12:32 so naive to think
    0:12:33 that we’re going to want
    0:12:34 to be in business
    0:12:36 and financial business together
    0:12:37 for the rest of our lives.
    0:12:38 So investing in each other’s
    0:12:39 businesses in that way,
    0:12:40 we have put money
    0:12:41 into things together.
    0:12:42 We have made investments
    0:12:43 in businesses together
    0:12:45 that are longstanding.
    0:12:45 But it’s like,
    0:12:48 I don’t think for me personally
    0:12:49 it feels truthful for me
    0:12:50 to be embedded
    0:12:51 with one person forever
    0:12:53 financially or dream-wise.
    0:12:54 I just like to do
    0:12:55 a lot of things.
    0:12:55 I like to create
    0:12:56 a lot of different things.
    0:12:57 I like to be my own person.
    0:12:58 I never want to be
    0:12:59 boxed in anywhere.
    0:13:01 So that type of business model
    0:13:02 wouldn’t really feel good for me.
    0:13:04 But Almost 30 has helped us
    0:13:05 as a foundation
    0:13:07 show us what we’re good at
    0:13:08 and show us what our audience
    0:13:08 wants more of.
    0:13:09 For motherhood,
    0:13:11 obviously they’re going to see her.
    0:13:12 She’s an amazing mother.
    0:13:13 She’s built an amazing family
    0:13:14 around that.
    0:13:15 So they want more from her
    0:13:15 in that.
    0:13:16 So she’s like,
    0:13:16 okay, cool.
    0:13:18 I’m noticing this thing
    0:13:19 that Almost 30 is providing for me.
    0:13:20 What can I do more of in that?
    0:13:21 Yeah.
    0:13:22 For me, it’s the coaching and retreats.
    0:13:23 How can I build more of this?
    0:13:25 And so it just allows us
    0:13:26 to be more robust
    0:13:26 of who we are
    0:13:27 and evolve in the business
    0:13:29 and pour more into the business
    0:13:30 because we’re happier.
    0:13:30 Yeah.
    0:13:31 You know, if you’re kind of just
    0:13:32 looking to the business
    0:13:34 to feed and satisfy
    0:13:35 every one of your creative needs
    0:13:36 or pursuits,
    0:13:38 that doesn’t feel true for me.
    0:13:40 I think having creativity spark
    0:13:40 and then going
    0:13:42 where it needs to go
    0:13:43 is what I like to do instead.
    0:13:44 I like that you guys
    0:13:45 are doing your own things
    0:13:47 outside of just Almost 30
    0:13:48 because you have been doing this
    0:13:49 for what, nine years now?
    0:13:52 Has there ever been a moment
    0:13:53 where you’re like,
    0:13:54 I just don’t think
    0:13:55 we can do this anymore?
    0:13:56 Was there ever like
    0:13:57 a struggling point?
    0:13:59 Because I know in entrepreneurship
    0:14:00 around the seven-year mark
    0:14:01 gets really tough.
    0:14:03 Did you guys have a tough moment?
    0:14:04 You know what’s funny
    0:14:05 is we’ve been honest
    0:14:06 with each other
    0:14:08 about what life looks like
    0:14:08 past Almost 30,
    0:14:10 but we’ve never had a moment
    0:14:11 where we fought
    0:14:12 or something happened
    0:14:13 where we wanted
    0:14:14 to throw in the towel.
    0:14:15 Like we’ve always been
    0:14:16 very conscious
    0:14:17 about where this process is
    0:14:17 and thankfully
    0:14:18 we have a book coming out.
    0:14:20 So like the book feels
    0:14:21 like such a beautiful rounding
    0:14:22 of the 10 years
    0:14:23 we’ve been doing this.
    0:14:25 It’s like all of our life’s work.
    0:14:26 So we’ve really trusted that
    0:14:28 and I think it’s normal
    0:14:29 to feel like quitting,
    0:14:30 but it’s actually just weird.
    0:14:32 I think that’s what happens for me
    0:14:34 when I’m expressing myself creatively
    0:14:36 in other aspects of my life
    0:14:36 and I’m not holding
    0:14:37 this relationship
    0:14:38 to be the only thing
    0:14:39 that sustains me.
    0:14:41 It’s just like romantic relationships.
    0:14:42 If she’s supposed
    0:14:43 to be everything to me,
    0:14:44 if Almost 30 is supposed
    0:14:45 to be everything to me,
    0:14:46 I’m not going to be satisfied.
    0:14:46 Yeah.
    0:14:47 I need other things.
    0:14:48 I need other people.
    0:14:49 I need other creative outlets
    0:14:51 and because we’ve both done that,
    0:14:52 we both feel satisfied
    0:14:52 and we come back
    0:14:53 to the relationship
    0:14:54 excited to be here.
    0:14:55 Yeah.
    0:14:56 So let’s talk about
    0:14:57 how Almost 30 started
    0:14:58 because I think
    0:15:00 there’s a lot of life lessons
    0:15:00 that we can learn
    0:15:01 in that in itself.
    0:15:03 So tell me about
    0:15:04 how you guys first met
    0:15:05 and came up with the idea
    0:15:06 to start the podcast.
    0:15:06 Yeah.
    0:15:08 So we crossed paths
    0:15:09 at around 27.
    0:15:11 In our late 20s,
    0:15:12 we were going through it.
    0:15:14 The story goes
    0:15:16 that a mutual friend of ours
    0:15:17 introduced Krista and I
    0:15:18 because Krista wanted
    0:15:19 to audition for SoulCycle.
    0:15:23 SoulCycle was a very popular
    0:15:24 trendy workout at the time.
    0:15:25 I was an instructor
    0:15:27 and we got connected
    0:15:29 and I remember the day
    0:15:30 we scheduled a FaceTime.
    0:15:31 Krista scheduled a FaceTime
    0:15:33 and said,
    0:15:33 you know,
    0:15:34 I want to audition
    0:15:35 for SoulCycle.
    0:15:36 I would love to
    0:15:37 just pick your brain,
    0:15:38 understand the process
    0:15:40 and I was happy to do it.
    0:15:42 I was really loving
    0:15:43 my time at Soul
    0:15:45 and just for anyone
    0:15:46 to want to do it,
    0:15:46 I was like,
    0:15:46 yeah,
    0:15:47 it’s amazing.
    0:15:48 Let’s do this.
    0:15:49 So when we had our FaceTime,
    0:15:50 I was like,
    0:15:50 she’s cool.
    0:15:52 Like this felt natural.
    0:15:53 This felt like flow,
    0:15:54 you know,
    0:15:55 and that didn’t happen for me.
    0:15:57 And so we stayed in touch
    0:15:59 and through her process
    0:15:59 of auditioning,
    0:16:01 she didn’t end up getting it,
    0:16:01 but it connected us.
    0:16:03 And then eventually
    0:16:03 she moved to LA
    0:16:05 where we could see
    0:16:06 more of each other
    0:16:08 and really understand
    0:16:09 on a deeper level
    0:16:10 what each other
    0:16:11 was going through.
    0:16:11 And it was a lot.
    0:16:13 We were having
    0:16:14 relationship reckonings.
    0:16:16 We were at war
    0:16:16 with our bodies
    0:16:17 in different ways.
    0:16:18 We were running ourselves
    0:16:19 into the ground.
    0:16:21 We were individuating
    0:16:22 from our family
    0:16:24 and some of our friend groups
    0:16:25 that we no longer
    0:16:26 really felt aligned with.
    0:16:28 It was this upheaval
    0:16:30 that felt like
    0:16:31 everything was crumbling,
    0:16:32 to be honest with you.
    0:16:34 And a lot of people
    0:16:34 go through this
    0:16:35 in their late 20s.
    0:16:36 We wrote a book about it.
    0:16:37 It’s no joke.
    0:16:39 And what we found
    0:16:39 in our friendship
    0:16:40 was this comfort
    0:16:42 and just this healing
    0:16:42 and being able
    0:16:43 to talk about it.
    0:16:45 And so Krista came to me
    0:16:46 one day.
    0:16:47 We were at Bulletproof Coffee,
    0:16:48 which is a cafe.
    0:16:49 I love day fast for you.
    0:16:51 That was one of my favorite spots
    0:16:52 that unfortunately
    0:16:53 does not exist anymore.
    0:16:54 I know.
    0:16:56 And she was like,
    0:16:56 you know,
    0:16:57 I feel like we could
    0:16:58 start a podcast
    0:16:59 talking about the things
    0:17:00 that we’ve been talking about
    0:17:02 just on a daily basis.
    0:17:02 I was like,
    0:17:03 yeah, I’m so down.
    0:17:04 I’ve always been someone
    0:17:06 that if you bring me
    0:17:06 a creative project,
    0:17:07 I’m like, let’s do it.
    0:17:09 And I never really think about
    0:17:10 if it’s going to be a thing.
    0:17:11 If it lights me up,
    0:17:12 I’m down.
    0:17:14 So we started recording
    0:17:15 on our closet floors,
    0:17:17 sometimes in Krista’s
    0:17:18 studio apartment in Venice,
    0:17:20 next to like laundry
    0:17:21 and whatever.
    0:17:22 there was no,
    0:17:23 was there a light in there?
    0:17:24 There was no oxygen.
    0:17:25 I know that.
    0:17:26 It wasn’t video back then.
    0:17:26 No.
    0:17:28 Even when I started in 2018,
    0:17:29 no video.
    0:17:29 No video,
    0:17:30 which was the dream.
    0:17:31 Yeah, it was so much better.
    0:17:33 I miss that because you just
    0:17:34 got to focus on the content.
    0:17:35 Same.
    0:17:35 Yeah.
    0:17:36 And you just get to rip.
    0:17:37 Yep.
    0:17:38 Like I really miss those days.
    0:17:41 And we were on like a $15 recorder
    0:17:42 just thinking like, okay.
    0:17:43 Sometimes we would record
    0:17:45 on the notes app on our phone.
    0:17:45 Yeah.
    0:17:46 I love that.
    0:17:47 Just have like four episodes
    0:17:48 on the notes app on our phone.
    0:17:50 I was listening the other day
    0:17:50 to like one
    0:17:51 and they were just,
    0:17:54 we’d have friends fake call in
    0:17:55 to the podcast
    0:17:56 and ask for advice.
    0:17:57 Like they’d be like someone,
    0:17:57 we’d be like,
    0:17:58 ask about this.
    0:17:59 And they’d be like,
    0:17:59 hey, I’m Lauren.
    0:18:00 I’m a listener.
    0:18:00 And they were like,
    0:18:01 not a listener.
    0:18:03 It was like someone that we paid,
    0:18:05 like the guest was like my ex
    0:18:06 and his friends.
    0:18:06 And we would just sit
    0:18:08 in these horribly sounding
    0:18:09 conference rooms
    0:18:11 with the worst sound ever,
    0:18:11 just echoing.
    0:18:13 Everyone’s all over the place.
    0:18:13 Yeah, dude.
    0:18:14 It was crazy.
    0:18:15 And just like talk.
    0:18:16 It was not perfect.
    0:18:17 It was not organized.
    0:18:18 It was very just.
    0:18:19 Mess.
    0:18:20 It was a mess,
    0:18:21 but it felt so right.
    0:18:22 We were just moving.
    0:18:24 We were being moved
    0:18:27 by the experience itself.
    0:18:28 So if we had waited,
    0:18:30 we had waited to start
    0:18:31 until we got a studio
    0:18:31 and like,
    0:18:32 you know,
    0:18:33 had the business all set up
    0:18:34 and the strategy right,
    0:18:36 we would have never started.
    0:18:36 Yeah.
    0:18:38 And so as we took action,
    0:18:39 that moved us.
    0:18:39 We were like,
    0:18:40 oh, this feels good
    0:18:41 or oh, this doesn’t feel good.
    0:18:42 Then we took another step.
    0:18:44 So it was really imperative
    0:18:45 that we started
    0:18:46 before we were ready.
    0:18:46 Yeah.
    0:18:48 Because we got so much intel.
    0:18:50 And in 2016,
    0:18:51 September 2016,
    0:18:52 we launched the podcast.
    0:18:53 Amazing.
    0:18:54 It is very different
    0:18:55 than it is today,
    0:18:57 but that’s the story of things.
    0:18:58 People don’t realize
    0:19:00 that you can just evolve over time.
    0:19:02 Like my podcast cover
    0:19:03 has changed 10 times.
    0:19:04 Oh, I want to see that.
    0:19:05 Oh my gosh.
    0:19:06 What was the worst?
    0:19:07 I used to have like
    0:19:08 these cartoons of me.
    0:19:09 We did.
    0:19:12 We had two seasons of cartoons.
    0:19:13 Yeah.
    0:19:13 Two cartoons.
    0:19:15 The one was like creepy.
    0:19:15 Yeah.
    0:19:16 One was like alien.
    0:19:17 I don’t even know.
    0:19:18 Because those were hot
    0:19:18 back in the day.
    0:19:20 Those were real innovative.
    0:19:21 Oh my gosh.
    0:19:23 Your cartoon was probably so cute.
    0:19:24 It was cute.
    0:19:24 But like, yeah,
    0:19:27 I had crazy colors at one point.
    0:19:28 Even the topic evolved.
    0:19:29 It went from careers
    0:19:30 to entrepreneurship.
    0:19:32 And your story reminds me
    0:19:32 of Jenna Kutcher,
    0:19:34 who’s also in my network.
    0:19:35 She started her podcast
    0:19:36 in her car.
    0:19:36 Yes.
    0:19:38 Because it was the only quiet place
    0:19:39 because she had dogs
    0:19:40 and they would bark in the house.
    0:19:41 So she used to record
    0:19:43 her episodes in her car
    0:19:45 with her Apple iPods.
    0:19:46 Yeah.
    0:19:47 Same with you guys.
    0:19:49 One of the top female podcasters
    0:19:50 in the world now.
    0:19:51 And you guys started
    0:19:51 in your closet.
    0:19:52 Right?
    0:19:54 So you can evolve over time.
    0:19:55 It doesn’t have to be perfect.
    0:19:56 You don’t need perfect equipment
    0:19:58 or even a perfect idea.
    0:19:59 I think that’s what
    0:20:01 when I work with women
    0:20:02 or any business owners,
    0:20:03 I’m oftentimes
    0:20:04 when they’re showing me
    0:20:05 everything that they’re like,
    0:20:06 here’s my Pinterest board.
    0:20:08 I’ve got the Instagram handle.
    0:20:09 I’ve got this.
    0:20:10 And they’ve got all the aesthetic.
    0:20:10 And I’m like,
    0:20:11 I love you girlies.
    0:20:13 But oftentimes that’s procrastination
    0:20:14 for actually doing the thing.
    0:20:15 And I’m like,
    0:20:16 you can have the full package,
    0:20:18 the perfect package.
    0:20:19 But if you don’t have the audience,
    0:20:20 if you don’t have the consumer,
    0:20:21 like what are we even doing here?
    0:20:21 Yeah.
    0:20:23 And I think I’m always someone
    0:20:24 that’s a fan of building,
    0:20:25 building it well
    0:20:26 and getting the reactions
    0:20:27 from people.
    0:20:27 Because you’re like,
    0:20:28 okay, what do people,
    0:20:29 I’m going to build it.
    0:20:30 What do you guys feel about this?
    0:20:31 Okay, cool.
    0:20:31 We’re going to go here.
    0:20:32 We’re going to go here.
    0:20:33 Like on the beginning
    0:20:34 of the business,
    0:20:35 people wanted to be in person.
    0:20:36 So we went on tour.
    0:20:38 We did live in-person events.
    0:20:39 And then we like evolved from there.
    0:20:41 And so rather than just staying in your house
    0:20:42 and building something,
    0:20:45 how can you really bring it out into the world
    0:20:46 and be with it as it’s evolving
    0:20:47 and be okay with that process?
    0:20:48 Get your reps in.
    0:20:49 Yes.
    0:20:51 So you guys were working full-time jobs
    0:20:53 when you started the podcast.
    0:20:55 How did you balance your time
    0:20:56 and what advice do you have
    0:20:57 for other people
    0:20:59 who want to start a side hustle podcast,
    0:20:59 whatever it is,
    0:21:00 while they’re working?
    0:21:02 I have so much respect and love.
    0:21:03 So for anyone,
    0:21:04 this is me talking to you,
    0:21:05 I love you so much
    0:21:06 that’s working a full-time job
    0:21:08 and wanting to pursue your passion
    0:21:08 and your business
    0:21:10 and that thing that you’re doing.
    0:21:12 Because for me and most of my life
    0:21:13 in the corporate world,
    0:21:15 I had this burning sensation
    0:21:16 and desire to do something with my life,
    0:21:17 to be creative,
    0:21:18 to create,
    0:21:20 to be my own boss,
    0:21:22 to live a life that felt different,
    0:21:23 that felt different
    0:21:24 than the corporate life was giving me.
    0:21:27 And so when I moved to Los Angeles,
    0:21:29 I had quit to pursue blogging full-time.
    0:21:30 So I was like,
    0:21:32 I’m going to be a blogger full-time.
    0:21:33 I had no plan,
    0:21:34 no purpose.
    0:21:35 I wasn’t making money.
    0:21:37 And that,
    0:21:38 obviously,
    0:21:39 you don’t start making money
    0:21:39 from not making money.
    0:21:42 So I had to get a serving job.
    0:21:43 I was babysitting.
    0:21:43 I was nannying.
    0:21:45 I was doing odds and ends jobs
    0:21:46 at like 80 hours a week.
    0:21:47 I was like,
    0:21:47 okay,
    0:21:49 I can’t do 80 hours a week
    0:21:50 and make so little.
    0:21:51 So I was like,
    0:21:51 I have to go back
    0:21:52 to the corporate world.
    0:21:54 I failed at being a blogger.
    0:21:55 I failed at doing entrepreneurship.
    0:21:57 And I was really bummed.
    0:21:58 And it took me a long time
    0:21:59 to find another job.
    0:22:00 I’d been in debt
    0:22:00 at that point.
    0:22:02 But I was like,
    0:22:02 okay,
    0:22:02 let’s do this.
    0:22:04 So I got back to working
    0:22:04 in the corporate world.
    0:22:05 That’s when I met Lindsay
    0:22:08 at that beginning of that point.
    0:22:09 And it was beautiful
    0:22:09 because that job
    0:22:10 in the corporate world
    0:22:11 that I worked
    0:22:12 in digital marketing
    0:22:14 not only supported me financially,
    0:22:15 but supported me
    0:22:15 in learning skills
    0:22:16 that I could apply
    0:22:17 to almost 30.
    0:22:19 but just really was something
    0:22:20 that I’m so grateful for.
    0:22:21 I don’t think I showed up
    0:22:22 as the best employee.
    0:22:23 I wasn’t someone
    0:22:24 that I don’t think
    0:22:25 you’d want to hire
    0:22:26 because I was so obsessed
    0:22:27 with almost 30.
    0:22:27 Yeah.
    0:22:29 But it was such a beautiful aspect
    0:22:29 of what we did.
    0:22:30 But what we would do
    0:22:31 is in the morning,
    0:22:32 Lindsay and I would talk
    0:22:33 on my way to work
    0:22:34 to downtown Alain Traffic.
    0:22:35 We’d plan for the day.
    0:22:36 We’d talk about things
    0:22:37 that were going on,
    0:22:37 social media,
    0:22:39 planning for the podcast.
    0:22:40 At my lunch break,
    0:22:41 I would answer
    0:22:42 almost 30 emails.
    0:22:43 I would do almost 30 social.
    0:22:45 We would figure out
    0:22:46 what we were doing with guests.
    0:22:47 At the end of the day,
    0:22:48 either she and I
    0:22:48 would meet and record
    0:22:50 or we would do something
    0:22:50 related to the podcast.
    0:22:52 So it was really something
    0:22:52 that on the weekends,
    0:22:53 during the week,
    0:22:55 we were just fully immersed
    0:22:56 and focused in the business.
    0:22:57 And it was just giving us
    0:22:57 so much life.
    0:22:59 Like it was just feeding us
    0:22:59 in this way
    0:23:01 that I had never been fed before.
    0:23:02 So while I was definitely
    0:23:04 burning myself out
    0:23:05 and I wasn’t very healthy
    0:23:06 at that point,
    0:23:07 it just felt really right
    0:23:08 and it felt really good.
    0:23:09 And it was sustaining me
    0:23:10 in a way,
    0:23:11 in a purpose way
    0:23:12 that I wanted so badly
    0:23:13 to be sustained in.
    0:23:14 So even though
    0:23:16 I was just going so hard,
    0:23:17 I felt this feeling
    0:23:18 that I hadn’t felt ever.
    0:23:20 And I felt this drive
    0:23:20 to purpose
    0:23:21 that just felt
    0:23:23 and moved me
    0:23:24 in a way I hadn’t been.
    0:23:26 Sometimes you need
    0:23:26 to sacrifice
    0:23:28 and work really hard
    0:23:29 and it’s just for a season.
    0:23:30 Yes.
    0:23:31 I also started my podcast
    0:23:32 as a side hustle.
    0:23:33 So I was working
    0:23:34 two years in corporate
    0:23:35 while starting this podcast.
    0:23:36 I started my company
    0:23:38 as a side hustle
    0:23:39 and I didn’t quit my job.
    0:23:40 I had 30 employees
    0:23:41 all around the world
    0:23:42 and I still
    0:23:43 didn’t quit my job.
    0:23:43 Wow.
    0:23:44 It was during COVID
    0:23:46 so I got away with a lot.
    0:23:47 So it was like
    0:23:48 the summer of COVID,
    0:23:49 the first summer
    0:23:51 and I just built this business.
    0:23:51 I was making over
    0:23:52 six figures a month
    0:23:53 in my agency,
    0:23:55 my social agency at first
    0:23:57 and I still was nervous
    0:23:59 to be an entrepreneur again.
    0:23:59 Wow.
    0:24:00 So I didn’t quit my job
    0:24:01 until I was like
    0:24:03 really knew
    0:24:04 that I was going to be safe
    0:24:04 and that everything
    0:24:05 would be okay.
    0:24:07 When did you guys feel like,
    0:24:08 oh my gosh,
    0:24:09 we don’t need to work
    0:24:10 full-time jobs anymore.
    0:24:12 this has really taken off.
    0:24:13 When was that moment
    0:24:14 for you guys?
    0:24:15 For two years,
    0:24:16 we juggled our full-time jobs
    0:24:18 with Building Almost 30
    0:24:20 and in the beginning,
    0:24:21 Krista had these existing
    0:24:22 relationships with brands
    0:24:23 because of her blog,
    0:24:24 which was amazing
    0:24:25 and really taught us
    0:24:27 how to build
    0:24:28 a working relationship
    0:24:29 with a brand
    0:24:31 and really make it personal
    0:24:32 and I don’t think
    0:24:33 that exists as much
    0:24:34 in podcasting anymore
    0:24:36 but it was a beautiful time
    0:24:37 where we could talk
    0:24:37 to a brand
    0:24:38 and say,
    0:24:39 what are your goals?
    0:24:40 How can we help you
    0:24:41 with your goals
    0:24:43 and really make it collaborative
    0:24:45 and so after two years
    0:24:47 of being in that flow,
    0:24:48 we were able
    0:24:50 to sustain ourselves.
    0:24:51 It was scary
    0:24:52 definitely to quit.
    0:24:53 I think you quit in June,
    0:24:54 I quit in December.
    0:24:55 So six months later,
    0:24:56 I quit
    0:24:59 and we had a team
    0:24:59 to sustain.
    0:25:01 These are things
    0:25:02 that we definitely
    0:25:03 had to plan for
    0:25:05 and we would tell
    0:25:07 anyone who’s building
    0:25:09 a business on the side
    0:25:10 that not to take the leap,
    0:25:12 not to just do it
    0:25:13 without understanding
    0:25:14 the financial consequences
    0:25:16 or the risk
    0:25:18 because if you are
    0:25:20 focused on surviving
    0:25:23 and like making money
    0:25:24 to support your team
    0:25:25 or the resources,
    0:25:27 then you’re probably
    0:25:28 not going to be creating
    0:25:30 in a way that feels
    0:25:31 really in flow
    0:25:32 or aligned
    0:25:33 because you’re coming
    0:25:35 from that place of fear.
    0:25:35 Yeah, yeah.
    0:25:37 So it was important for us.
    0:25:38 I think when I first quit
    0:25:38 my job to pursue
    0:25:39 blogging full-time,
    0:25:41 I just thought it was like cute.
    0:25:41 I was like,
    0:25:42 oh, I’m just going to see
    0:25:43 what happens.
    0:25:44 I’m going to see
    0:25:45 where the universe meets me.
    0:25:47 And then in the second part,
    0:25:47 I was like,
    0:25:48 you know what’s cute?
    0:25:48 Forecasting.
    0:25:50 And like seeing
    0:25:51 how much revenue
    0:25:52 we have coming in
    0:25:53 for the next six months
    0:25:53 and seeing how much
    0:25:54 we’re spending
    0:25:55 and seeing how much
    0:25:55 I need to earn
    0:25:56 to feel good
    0:25:56 and seeing how much
    0:25:57 you need to earn.
    0:25:57 It’s like,
    0:25:59 I think it really asked
    0:26:00 and called for me
    0:26:01 to step into a new level
    0:26:02 of truth
    0:26:03 and a new level
    0:26:04 of clarity
    0:26:05 that I didn’t really
    0:26:06 give myself before.
    0:26:06 With money,
    0:26:07 I was just,
    0:26:08 I didn’t want to look at it.
    0:26:09 And now I was like,
    0:26:10 how can I really see clearly
    0:26:11 what we’re doing
    0:26:13 and how we want to do this
    0:26:14 and how we want to live?
    0:26:15 Because if you want to plan,
    0:26:16 you have to be able
    0:26:17 to be with money
    0:26:18 in a way that’s neutral,
    0:26:19 be in a money
    0:26:20 in a way that’s loving,
    0:26:21 be with money
    0:26:22 in a way that’s supportive
    0:26:23 of your goals.
    0:26:24 And I think my reframe
    0:26:25 of that of being like,
    0:26:26 this money is what’s
    0:26:27 going to sustain my life.
    0:26:28 How can I look at it
    0:26:29 with respect
    0:26:30 and get really clear
    0:26:32 about what’s going on
    0:26:32 rather than just
    0:26:33 putting it to the wind?
    0:26:34 Yeah.
    0:26:35 But there was one moment
    0:26:35 I remember
    0:26:37 we were in our full-time jobs.
    0:26:38 We got asked to speak
    0:26:39 at this event
    0:26:40 and we hosted the event
    0:26:41 the full day.
    0:26:42 And I remember
    0:26:42 the amount
    0:26:43 that they paid us
    0:26:45 to speak at one session
    0:26:45 was the same
    0:26:47 as my bi-weekly paycheck.
    0:26:48 And I was like,
    0:26:49 in this one hour,
    0:26:50 I was myself.
    0:26:51 I had so much fun.
    0:26:52 I didn’t have to put on.
    0:26:53 I wasn’t faking it.
    0:26:54 And in the corporate world,
    0:26:55 I felt like I was faking it.
    0:26:56 I felt like I was putting
    0:26:57 on a mask every day.
    0:26:58 I felt like I had to be
    0:26:59 someone I wasn’t.
    0:27:00 And I was like,
    0:27:01 I know if I can make
    0:27:01 this much here,
    0:27:04 if you give me 40 hours a week,
    0:27:04 watch me.
    0:27:05 There’s no limits
    0:27:06 how much money I can make.
    0:27:08 And so that moment
    0:27:09 for me was like the unlock
    0:27:09 where I was like,
    0:27:10 no, it’s time.
    0:27:11 I love that.
    0:27:13 What was your moment?
    0:27:14 For me?
    0:27:15 Yeah, when you were like,
    0:27:15 it’s time.
    0:27:17 I remember that I found out
    0:27:18 I was going to be
    0:27:19 on the cover
    0:27:20 of Podcast Magazine.
    0:27:22 It was January 2021.
    0:27:24 And I was like,
    0:27:25 oh my God,
    0:27:27 people know me so much
    0:27:27 in my podcast
    0:27:28 that they want me
    0:27:29 to be on the cover
    0:27:30 of Podcast Magazine.
    0:27:31 And I was like,
    0:27:32 I have all these employees.
    0:27:34 The other moment was
    0:27:36 I hired my first U.S.
    0:27:37 full-time employee
    0:27:39 and she quit her job
    0:27:40 to work for me.
    0:27:41 And I was like,
    0:27:42 I got to at least
    0:27:43 quit my job now.
    0:27:43 Yeah.
    0:27:45 like I can’t have
    0:27:46 a full-time.
    0:27:46 Yeah.
    0:27:49 So it was an amazing moment.
    0:27:49 Being an entrepreneur
    0:27:50 is so awesome.
    0:27:51 But to your point,
    0:27:53 knowing that you can
    0:27:54 actually sustain yourself
    0:27:56 and not just like
    0:27:57 jumping out the window.
    0:27:59 And sometimes that takes
    0:28:00 a season of sacrifice
    0:28:01 and a season of just
    0:28:03 waking up super early
    0:28:04 and working late nights.
    0:28:06 And then you’ll be safe.
    0:28:08 And to your point,
    0:28:08 be able to create
    0:28:10 without all this stress
    0:28:12 because you’re living
    0:28:13 paycheck to paycheck.
    0:28:14 Now, you guys have done
    0:28:16 an incredible job
    0:28:18 growing a loyal audience.
    0:28:18 Like it’s not normal
    0:28:20 to achieve the type of success
    0:28:21 that you guys have achieved
    0:28:22 in podcasting.
    0:28:24 So how do you think
    0:28:25 about your audience?
    0:28:26 I think we’ve aligned
    0:28:27 this community
    0:28:29 because we were able
    0:28:31 to be so open
    0:28:32 from the get.
    0:28:32 You know,
    0:28:33 we were ourselves
    0:28:35 probably to a fault
    0:28:36 if you listen back
    0:28:36 to old episodes.
    0:28:38 But I don’t think
    0:28:39 a lot of people
    0:28:39 were doing that
    0:28:40 back then
    0:28:42 in the podcasting space.
    0:28:43 And especially
    0:28:45 speaking to women
    0:28:46 our age
    0:28:47 who were just going
    0:28:48 through so much
    0:28:48 and feeling alone.
    0:28:49 You know,
    0:28:50 I think we were speaking
    0:28:52 to that experience.
    0:28:52 We were speaking
    0:28:53 to the highs
    0:28:54 and the lows
    0:28:55 and to give them
    0:28:56 the resources
    0:28:58 and the confidence
    0:29:00 to take the next step forward
    0:29:00 I think was
    0:29:02 probably more powerful
    0:29:03 than we could ever
    0:29:04 truly comprehend.
    0:29:06 And what we found
    0:29:06 was that
    0:29:07 our ability
    0:29:09 to be more
    0:29:10 than a podcast
    0:29:12 was very important
    0:29:13 in our growth.
    0:29:14 So what that looked like
    0:29:16 was hosting events
    0:29:17 early on
    0:29:17 and saying,
    0:29:18 hey,
    0:29:18 we’re going to be
    0:29:19 hosting an event
    0:29:20 at the SoulCycle
    0:29:21 in Santa Monica.
    0:29:22 We want all of our
    0:29:24 listeners in the local area
    0:29:25 to come.
    0:29:26 We would sell it out.
    0:29:28 We would hang out afterwards.
    0:29:30 And slowly but surely
    0:29:31 this in-person effect,
    0:29:33 we started to understand
    0:29:34 the power of it.
    0:29:35 We were able
    0:29:36 to hear their stories.
    0:29:36 We were able
    0:29:37 to hug them.
    0:29:38 We were able
    0:29:40 to really understand
    0:29:41 the impact of the show
    0:29:42 and that would
    0:29:43 then influence the show.
    0:29:44 So they’ve always
    0:29:45 been a part
    0:29:47 of our success
    0:29:48 and not in that
    0:29:48 literal sense of,
    0:29:49 yeah,
    0:29:49 they’re our listeners.
    0:29:50 They’re the numbers.
    0:29:51 But it’s more so
    0:29:52 they’ve influenced
    0:29:53 the type of content
    0:29:53 that we create.
    0:29:54 They influence
    0:29:55 our next decision
    0:29:57 and what we want
    0:29:58 to provide for them.
    0:30:00 So they have been integral
    0:30:01 and I think they feel that.
    0:30:02 I think they feel that
    0:30:03 in the way that we talk
    0:30:04 to them on the show,
    0:30:05 in our content.
    0:30:07 Do you think the events
    0:30:08 help spread word of mouth?
    0:30:09 Because I feel like
    0:30:11 there’s so much connection
    0:30:12 even with me
    0:30:13 when I do webinars
    0:30:15 and even though
    0:30:15 it’s virtual,
    0:30:17 I feel like I get super fans
    0:30:18 so I couldn’t even imagine
    0:30:20 if I had my listeners
    0:30:21 in a live event.
    0:30:22 The best.
    0:30:23 So do you feel like
    0:30:24 that really helped
    0:30:24 you guys grow
    0:30:25 in the beginning?
    0:30:26 I think, you know,
    0:30:26 people,
    0:30:27 it’s not like we were
    0:30:28 the first people to tour
    0:30:29 but like it was just
    0:30:31 in 2016, 2017, 2018.
    0:30:32 It was just a different world.
    0:30:33 Yeah.
    0:30:33 It’s like podcasting
    0:30:34 really from 2020
    0:30:36 has started to become
    0:30:36 what it is.
    0:30:36 Yeah.
    0:30:37 It’s more like show-based.
    0:30:38 It’s more touring.
    0:30:39 Yeah.
    0:30:39 And so we were touring
    0:30:41 just in this really native way.
    0:30:43 Like it was a world tour
    0:30:44 but it was just super native.
    0:30:45 We’d bring on guests.
    0:30:46 We’d talk to people in person
    0:30:48 and having that in-person connection
    0:30:50 was so instrumental.
    0:30:51 Not only because
    0:30:52 we could learn from them
    0:30:53 and be with them
    0:30:53 and listen to them
    0:30:55 but it was also like
    0:30:56 created this social media moment
    0:30:59 online that was growing us
    0:30:59 in a way,
    0:31:00 in a marketing way
    0:31:01 that I don’t think
    0:31:02 we would have had before.
    0:31:04 It was creating this moment
    0:31:05 for people that were almost 30
    0:31:06 that were struggling
    0:31:07 that were like having their time.
    0:31:08 So I think that was
    0:31:09 instrumental to our growth.
    0:31:11 I think what we did there
    0:31:13 is what I always say
    0:31:14 with audience growth
    0:31:15 is you always want to lead
    0:31:15 and listen.
    0:31:17 So we led by being like
    0:31:17 you know what,
    0:31:18 we’re going to go on tour
    0:31:19 and then we listened to them
    0:31:20 like what do you guys
    0:31:21 want to see from us?
    0:31:22 What do you want more of?
    0:31:23 You can’t be fully listening
    0:31:24 all the time to your audience
    0:31:25 because then you’re not
    0:31:26 who you are.
    0:31:27 The reason why your audience
    0:31:27 is with you
    0:31:28 is because you’re a leader
    0:31:29 and you are someone
    0:31:31 that is leading in culture.
    0:31:32 You’re leading in
    0:31:33 whatever it is
    0:31:34 that you’re an expert in
    0:31:35 but you do have to listen to them
    0:31:37 because they’re incredibly important.
    0:31:38 They are the reason
    0:31:39 why you exist
    0:31:40 and why you are
    0:31:40 making money
    0:31:41 in the way that you are.
    0:31:43 So it’s such a balance
    0:31:44 of just finding that balance
    0:31:45 between leading and listening
    0:31:46 with your audience
    0:31:47 so that you can stay
    0:31:47 in your sovereignty
    0:31:48 and who you are
    0:31:49 but also really connect with them
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    0:31:52 Yeah, fam.
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    0:36:37 and she does
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    0:36:48 you’re my friend.
    0:36:50 She really cares
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    0:36:52 and she says that
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    0:36:56 you come off
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    0:36:59 So she tries to make
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    0:37:01 with her audience.
    0:37:02 Is there anything
    0:37:04 in terms of
    0:37:05 the way that you speak
    0:37:06 to your audience
    0:37:07 that you guys
    0:37:08 are really intentional about?
    0:37:10 Yeah, I love that.
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    0:37:21 It’s like,
    0:37:22 how can I make this
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    0:37:25 that’s also impactful?
    0:37:26 But for me,
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    0:37:32 I think when people
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    0:37:42 But I think there’s
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    0:37:47 You know,
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    0:37:48 where I was going
    0:37:48 through my divorce
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    0:37:52 of our lives
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    0:38:09 as authentic as we can
    0:38:09 to who we are
    0:38:10 in the moment
    0:38:11 and hoping that
    0:38:13 people can really see
    0:38:15 themselves in us
    0:38:15 and our struggle
    0:38:16 and what we’re going through
    0:38:18 and find relatability
    0:38:19 in it and find inspiration
    0:38:19 where they can,
    0:38:21 but overall feel less alone.
    0:38:23 So something that happens
    0:38:23 to me,
    0:38:25 which I think we probably
    0:38:25 have in common,
    0:38:27 is my show name
    0:38:29 will sometimes cause confusion
    0:38:30 with my audience.
    0:38:31 So people will be like,
    0:38:32 Don’t get me started.
    0:38:33 I’m too old
    0:38:34 to listen to Young and Profiting.
    0:38:35 And I’m like,
    0:38:36 no, we’ve got listeners
    0:38:37 of all ages.
    0:38:38 It’s just Young at Heart.
    0:38:39 And I have to kind of explain
    0:38:40 or even guests will be like,
    0:38:41 well, I’m not young.
    0:38:42 And I’m like,
    0:38:43 if you’ve seen
    0:38:44 any of my shows,
    0:38:46 almost nobody is
    0:38:47 like under 40 years old
    0:38:48 who I interview,
    0:38:49 you know?
    0:38:50 So it’s not really
    0:38:51 about being young,
    0:38:52 but sometimes I’m like,
    0:38:53 oh man,
    0:38:54 I think my name
    0:38:55 is holding me back
    0:38:56 or is turning people off.
    0:38:57 And I often think
    0:38:58 about rebranding.
    0:39:00 Have you guys thought
    0:39:01 about that at all?
    0:39:01 Especially as you
    0:39:02 are getting older
    0:39:04 or your audience,
    0:39:04 do you worry
    0:39:05 that they’re not evolving
    0:39:06 with you?
    0:39:06 Or like,
    0:39:07 talk to me about that.
    0:39:07 Yeah, I mean,
    0:39:09 it’s the most common question
    0:39:09 that we get.
    0:39:10 Yeah.
    0:39:11 What’s your podcast?
    0:39:11 I’m like,
    0:39:13 I’m almost 50.
    0:39:13 What about me?
    0:39:15 I’m almost 50.
    0:39:16 Everyone thinks
    0:39:17 they’re just as clever
    0:39:19 each time they say
    0:39:20 So we have to laugh.
    0:39:21 We have to laugh
    0:39:22 as if it’s the first time
    0:39:22 we’re hearing it.
    0:39:23 And also I bought every domain
    0:39:23 that’s almost 40.
    0:39:25 Every domain,
    0:39:25 almost 40,
    0:39:26 almost 40.
    0:39:27 Every single one.
    0:39:27 Oh, I love that.
    0:39:28 I love that.
    0:39:30 I’m a domain jerk.
    0:39:32 It’s like my pastime.
    0:39:33 I think we obviously
    0:39:34 did not think about it
    0:39:35 when we named the show
    0:39:36 that it would be
    0:39:38 as successful as it is
    0:39:39 and live the life
    0:39:39 that it’s lived.
    0:39:41 But like you,
    0:39:42 we’ve just thought about it
    0:39:44 as this is such a metaphor.
    0:39:45 You know,
    0:39:46 we’re all almost something.
    0:39:47 And that period
    0:39:48 of being almost 30
    0:39:51 is a foundational time
    0:39:52 to just build
    0:39:53 your relationship
    0:39:54 with change
    0:39:55 in a really healthy way.
    0:39:56 So you don’t have
    0:39:57 to be almost 30
    0:39:58 to listen to almost 30.
    0:39:59 But I think
    0:40:01 it is such a potent time
    0:40:02 that I hope that,
    0:40:03 especially in talking
    0:40:04 about the book now,
    0:40:05 like people will think
    0:40:06 about that time
    0:40:07 even if they’ve already
    0:40:08 been through it.
    0:40:10 and see it as such
    0:40:12 an impactful reckoning
    0:40:13 in the grand scheme
    0:40:14 of their life.
    0:40:15 But yeah,
    0:40:16 we’ve had moments
    0:40:16 where we’re like,
    0:40:17 should we rename it?
    0:40:18 Should we totally rebrand it?
    0:40:19 What do you think about it?
    0:40:20 I think about it all the time.
    0:40:21 Yeah, what’s your yes
    0:40:21 and what’s your no?
    0:40:23 I think that I will rebrand
    0:40:24 my podcast
    0:40:26 in the next year and a half.
    0:40:26 Cool.
    0:40:26 Probably,
    0:40:27 even though so many
    0:40:28 know the name,
    0:40:29 but now Yap
    0:40:30 has kind of taken over
    0:40:31 and I feel like
    0:40:32 I could just call it
    0:40:32 Yap with Hala.
    0:40:33 Oh my gosh,
    0:40:34 that’s true, Yap.
    0:40:35 And then that’s it,
    0:40:35 you know?
    0:40:37 So I think I’m slowly
    0:40:38 rebranding Yap.
    0:40:39 So like our logo
    0:40:41 used to say Young and Profiting
    0:40:42 now it just says Yap Media.
    0:40:43 Totally.
    0:40:44 So kind of rebranding to that.
    0:40:46 I could see you guys rebranding.
    0:40:46 I know.
    0:40:48 You’re allowed to evolve.
    0:40:48 Yeah, totally.
    0:40:49 It’s been for 10 years,
    0:40:49 you know?
    0:40:50 It’s like the two things.
    0:40:50 It’s like,
    0:40:52 and this is what’s hard
    0:40:52 as an entrepreneur.
    0:40:52 You’re like,
    0:40:53 okay, we have almost 30.
    0:40:54 There’s a whole audience
    0:40:55 of people to serve.
    0:40:56 Do we want to serve
    0:40:57 the almost 30 audience forever
    0:40:58 with the tools,
    0:40:58 research,
    0:40:59 insights,
    0:41:00 support
    0:41:01 for this pivotal time period,
    0:41:02 you know,
    0:41:03 that we talk about in our book
    0:41:04 and that we experienced ourselves?
    0:41:05 Or is it something
    0:41:06 that we do kind of try
    0:41:08 to reach a new audience
    0:41:09 with a different name change
    0:41:10 and it’s tough?
    0:41:11 I don’t know
    0:41:12 if it’s reaching a new audience.
    0:41:13 I think it’s allowing your audience
    0:41:15 maybe to grow with you guys.
    0:41:15 Yeah.
    0:41:17 Because do you feel like
    0:41:19 you’re getting new audience people
    0:41:20 like in and out?
    0:41:21 Or do you feel like
    0:41:22 they’re just growing with you?
    0:41:23 I don’t know.
    0:41:24 I think it’s both.
    0:41:24 Yeah.
    0:41:25 You know,
    0:41:25 I think,
    0:41:27 I think especially with the book,
    0:41:28 we’re going to get that
    0:41:29 in flux of like
    0:41:30 definitely kind of new,
    0:41:32 actual almost 30s
    0:41:34 people going through that time.
    0:41:35 But people have grown with us.
    0:41:35 I mean,
    0:41:36 we hear all the time,
    0:41:37 I’ve been with you
    0:41:38 since the beginning
    0:41:39 and they’ve been through
    0:41:40 so much with us.
    0:41:40 So it’s both.
    0:41:41 Well,
    0:41:43 I feel like with podcasting,
    0:41:44 you can definitely speak
    0:41:45 to a range of people.
    0:41:46 So I feel like it’s safe
    0:41:47 to say that you guys
    0:41:48 would be able to cater
    0:41:49 to people who are
    0:41:50 in their mid-20s
    0:41:52 till their early 60s
    0:41:53 and still be relevant,
    0:41:53 right?
    0:41:54 Yeah.
    0:41:55 The broader,
    0:41:55 the better in my opinion.
    0:41:56 When I have a man
    0:41:58 DM me that listens to the pod,
    0:41:59 like I’ll have 50
    0:42:00 that are like,
    0:42:00 what’s your outfit
    0:42:01 or what are you wearing?
    0:42:02 And I’m like,
    0:42:02 ignore.
    0:42:02 And then a man,
    0:42:03 I’m like,
    0:42:04 I really love that
    0:42:05 relationship episode.
    0:42:07 I will spend my whole day
    0:42:09 like just like
    0:42:10 when the unexpected people listen,
    0:42:11 it’s just my dream.
    0:42:12 I’m like,
    0:42:12 oh,
    0:42:13 this is my like.
    0:42:13 And like you,
    0:42:14 we have an age range.
    0:42:15 Totally.
    0:42:17 You definitely have an age range.
    0:42:17 I’m sure.
    0:42:17 Well,
    0:42:18 you guys have done
    0:42:18 such a great job.
    0:42:20 So speaking of almost 30,
    0:42:21 you’ve got this new book
    0:42:22 coming out,
    0:42:23 which I loved.
    0:42:24 Thank you for giving me
    0:42:25 a copy of it.
    0:42:27 So what was the idea
    0:42:28 behind this book?
    0:42:29 What did you want to share
    0:42:29 with the world?
    0:42:31 I think we wanted to first
    0:42:33 culminate and put together
    0:42:34 everything that we’ve learned
    0:42:35 in the process
    0:42:36 of the rock bottom
    0:42:37 that we started at,
    0:42:38 where we met,
    0:42:39 and to building two
    0:42:40 sovereign,
    0:42:41 amazing lives that we love.
    0:42:43 In your late 20s,
    0:42:44 it’s such a pivotal portal
    0:42:44 in time.
    0:42:46 And we realized that
    0:42:47 you’re not lost,
    0:42:48 you’re just becoming.
    0:42:49 And that in the process
    0:42:50 of this growth
    0:42:52 and transformation period,
    0:42:53 how can we approach it
    0:42:54 with excitement
    0:42:55 and with looking forward
    0:42:56 to the change
    0:42:57 and transformation?
    0:42:58 And I think if I would have
    0:42:59 had everything in this book
    0:43:00 when I was struggling
    0:43:01 so much with my mental health
    0:43:02 in my late 20s,
    0:43:03 I would have been
    0:43:04 so much happier.
    0:43:06 I’d be so much further in life.
    0:43:07 And I would have felt
    0:43:08 so much more at peace.
    0:43:10 That age in your 20s
    0:43:11 is unhappier
    0:43:12 and more anxious
    0:43:13 and depressed than ever.
    0:43:14 People are struggling
    0:43:15 more with their mental health
    0:43:16 than ever before.
    0:43:17 People are feeling
    0:43:17 more lonely.
    0:43:18 And our goal
    0:43:19 is to help people
    0:43:20 feel less alone
    0:43:20 in their process
    0:43:21 of awakening.
    0:43:22 And so in the book,
    0:43:23 we talk about
    0:43:24 how to support yourself
    0:43:25 through times of change
    0:43:26 and transformation.
    0:43:28 And we have research
    0:43:29 from studies.
    0:43:29 We have guests
    0:43:30 that we had on the show
    0:43:31 sharing insights
    0:43:32 and inspiration.
    0:43:34 And it’s just the guidebook
    0:43:34 for anyone going
    0:43:35 through their process.
    0:43:35 Yeah.
    0:43:36 You guys talk about
    0:43:37 this concept
    0:43:39 called Saturn Return.
    0:43:40 Now, this is a very
    0:43:41 like nerdy
    0:43:42 entrepreneurship show.
    0:43:43 We usually don’t get
    0:43:44 too like spiritual
    0:43:45 or into astrology.
    0:43:47 But I was telling you guys,
    0:43:47 I want my listeners
    0:43:48 to learn something new.
    0:43:49 I never knew about this.
    0:43:50 So talk to us
    0:43:51 about Saturn Return.
    0:43:52 Yeah.
    0:43:53 So when we learned about this,
    0:43:54 I mean, it unlocked everything.
    0:43:54 We were like,
    0:43:56 wait, actually, what?
    0:43:57 We were going through that
    0:43:58 and everyone does.
    0:43:59 So the Saturn Return
    0:44:02 is an astrological transit
    0:44:03 that happens for everyone
    0:44:05 where Saturn comes back
    0:44:06 to the place in your chart
    0:44:07 it was when you were born.
    0:44:09 And Saturn is the planet,
    0:44:10 think of it as like the dad,
    0:44:12 comes in and is like,
    0:44:12 yo,
    0:44:14 this is not working.
    0:44:16 This is not aligned.
    0:44:17 We got to look at this.
    0:44:18 We have to be truthful
    0:44:19 and honest about this
    0:44:20 and make changes.
    0:44:22 And it can feel
    0:44:23 like your life
    0:44:24 is falling apart.
    0:44:25 It can feel like
    0:44:26 everything you’ve known
    0:44:26 to be true
    0:44:28 is actually coming up
    0:44:29 for questioning
    0:44:31 in a really big way.
    0:44:32 So whether it’s your career,
    0:44:33 your relationships,
    0:44:34 your relationship with yourself,
    0:44:35 where you want to live,
    0:44:36 what you want to do,
    0:44:37 what your purpose is,
    0:44:39 it’s a very existential
    0:44:41 crisis type season.
    0:44:45 But it is also probably
    0:44:47 your greatest opportunity
    0:44:48 yet in your life
    0:44:51 to get to know yourself
    0:44:52 in a way that will be
    0:44:53 a foundation
    0:44:54 for the rest of your life.
    0:44:57 So for Krista and I,
    0:44:58 we had themes of
    0:44:59 relationships come up
    0:45:00 where I was going through
    0:45:02 a really intense breakup
    0:45:03 and I thought I was
    0:45:04 going to marry this person.
    0:45:05 I thought I would be married
    0:45:06 by the time I was 27,
    0:45:07 have kids by the time
    0:45:08 I was 29,
    0:45:09 and then we’d walk off
    0:45:10 into the sunset,
    0:45:10 whatever.
    0:45:12 And that didn’t happen.
    0:45:13 I was like,
    0:45:14 wait, so now what?
    0:45:15 You know,
    0:45:16 who am I then?
    0:45:17 Who am I without him?
    0:45:19 Who am I if this isn’t the plan?
    0:45:21 But I think what Saturn
    0:45:22 has the opportunity
    0:45:23 to show you
    0:45:24 is that,
    0:45:24 yeah,
    0:45:25 we can have a plan
    0:45:27 based on how we grew up
    0:45:28 and all the things,
    0:45:30 but there is
    0:45:32 a much more expansive
    0:45:35 plan and life for you
    0:45:37 if you lean into the unknown.
    0:45:38 So, you know,
    0:45:39 it’s a practice.
    0:45:40 It’s a practice
    0:45:42 to be able to have faith
    0:45:43 in something
    0:45:45 that you don’t know
    0:45:46 what the next step is,
    0:45:47 but I think Saturn
    0:45:49 will really teach you
    0:45:50 that that is the way,
    0:45:51 you know,
    0:45:52 that is truly the way.
    0:45:53 And that’s something
    0:45:54 that just happens
    0:45:56 every 28, 29 years,
    0:45:57 so it’s like
    0:45:59 just a few pivotal points
    0:46:00 in your life.
    0:46:00 Yeah.
    0:46:01 Maybe just like two or three.
    0:46:02 Hopefully three.
    0:46:02 Yeah.
    0:46:03 Hopefully three times
    0:46:05 if you live along that.
    0:46:05 Yeah, Brian Johnson,
    0:46:06 you’re four.
    0:46:07 I’m kind of like sad
    0:46:08 that I missed mine
    0:46:09 and I didn’t know about it.
    0:46:10 I wonder what was happening
    0:46:11 when you were 27 to 30.
    0:46:13 I shut down my blog
    0:46:14 and got my MBA
    0:46:15 and went into corporate.
    0:46:15 There you go.
    0:46:16 Because I felt like
    0:46:17 I needed to grow up.
    0:46:18 I felt like,
    0:46:19 oh, I needed to grow up.
    0:46:20 Yeah.
    0:46:20 I need to like
    0:46:22 take care of myself.
    0:46:22 Yep.
    0:46:23 No more games.
    0:46:24 Your prefrontal cortex is also
    0:46:26 coming online during that time.
    0:46:26 So your prefrontal cortex
    0:46:28 is actually responsible
    0:46:29 for you making decisions like that
    0:46:30 where you’re like,
    0:46:31 I’m going to be more thoughtful.
    0:46:32 I’m going to be more strategic.
    0:46:34 I’m going to be more diplomatic
    0:46:35 about how I’m spending my time.
    0:46:37 So it’s not only like
    0:46:38 the Saturn return period,
    0:46:39 but there’s a lot of brain development
    0:46:40 that’s happening
    0:46:42 that changes how you operate
    0:46:43 with life in the world
    0:46:44 where you’re like,
    0:46:44 okay,
    0:46:46 now with my prefrontal cortex online
    0:46:47 and becoming conscious,
    0:46:49 how am I going to approach relationships?
    0:46:50 Yeah.
    0:46:52 How am I going to approach my career?
    0:46:53 How am I going to approach my friendships?
    0:46:55 And there’s just so much change happening
    0:46:59 that it’s just can feel like a washing machine
    0:47:01 if you’re not really being mindful of it.
    0:47:02 And if you don’t have the permission
    0:47:04 to see it as an opportunity
    0:47:05 to lead you to a better life.
    0:47:05 Yeah.
    0:47:07 You were just talking about friendships.
    0:47:08 And I know in your book,
    0:47:09 you talk a lot about
    0:47:10 making sure you’ve got
    0:47:12 the right people around you.
    0:47:14 Talk to us about your advice
    0:47:14 related to that.
    0:47:15 Yeah.
    0:47:16 I think especially for entrepreneurs,
    0:47:17 I mean,
    0:47:18 the entrepreneur journey,
    0:47:20 you in my perspective,
    0:47:21 and this could be wrong.
    0:47:22 So I was in corporate
    0:47:23 and being an entrepreneur,
    0:47:25 the entrepreneur has a different type of mindset.
    0:47:27 You have a different type of set of values
    0:47:28 and priorities.
    0:47:30 And so it can be hard actually
    0:47:30 as an entrepreneur
    0:47:31 to relate to people
    0:47:32 in the corporate world,
    0:47:32 I think.
    0:47:35 So just thinking about that
    0:47:36 for your entrepreneur audience,
    0:47:38 just really understanding
    0:47:38 that your friendships
    0:47:39 are going to change.
    0:47:41 I think the number one thing
    0:47:41 that you can remember
    0:47:42 and accept in life
    0:47:43 is that your friendships
    0:47:44 are going to change
    0:47:45 and that’s okay.
    0:47:46 I think for me for so long,
    0:47:48 I felt so much shame
    0:47:49 that I didn’t have
    0:47:50 the same four girlfriends
    0:47:52 that I grew up with
    0:47:54 and it wasn’t Sex and the City
    0:47:55 and it wasn’t Girls
    0:47:57 and it wasn’t like every movie
    0:47:57 that I saw
    0:47:59 where everyone was best friends
    0:48:00 with the same people
    0:48:01 for their entire lives.
    0:48:02 I had friends come in and out,
    0:48:03 I had changes,
    0:48:04 I had transitions
    0:48:06 and that actually was a good thing.
    0:48:07 That was showing
    0:48:08 how I was changing,
    0:48:09 how I was evolving,
    0:48:10 how I was prioritizing
    0:48:11 different things
    0:48:12 like not drinking
    0:48:12 or partying
    0:48:14 or my business
    0:48:14 or spirituality.
    0:48:16 And so accepting
    0:48:16 that friendships
    0:48:17 will change
    0:48:18 is number one.
    0:48:19 I think number two,
    0:48:20 seeing friendships
    0:48:21 as a vehicle
    0:48:21 for your growth
    0:48:22 just as deep
    0:48:24 as your romantic relationships
    0:48:24 is huge.
    0:48:26 My romantic relationships
    0:48:28 have been so powerful for me
    0:48:29 but my friendships
    0:48:30 have been such a place
    0:48:31 for growth
    0:48:32 and support
    0:48:32 and love
    0:48:34 and now I see
    0:48:34 my friendships
    0:48:35 as equal
    0:48:36 to my romantic relationships.
    0:48:38 They really see me,
    0:48:38 they hear me,
    0:48:39 they’ve been with me
    0:48:41 and women especially
    0:48:42 in women relationships.
    0:48:43 the way that we can see
    0:48:44 and support one another
    0:48:46 is just next level.
    0:48:46 Yeah.
    0:48:47 I love that you’re saying that
    0:48:48 because I know that
    0:48:49 in my 20s
    0:48:50 when I was in relationships,
    0:48:52 I’d be the type of girl
    0:48:52 that would be
    0:48:54 not prioritizing my friendships.
    0:48:56 I would just get sucked
    0:48:57 into my relationship.
    0:48:59 I’m sorry I’m with him.
    0:49:00 We all have to do that.
    0:49:00 Like I can’t do that,
    0:49:01 you know,
    0:49:01 and then you lose
    0:49:02 your friendships,
    0:49:03 then you break up
    0:49:04 and then you realize
    0:49:04 like oh crap.
    0:49:05 Yes.
    0:49:07 I did not do a good job
    0:49:08 being a good friend
    0:49:09 and now I don’t have
    0:49:10 any friends
    0:49:11 because I was prioritizing
    0:49:11 my boyfriend
    0:49:13 and all this kind of stuff
    0:49:14 and now I look at
    0:49:16 my girlfriend relationships
    0:49:17 as actually sometimes
    0:49:18 more important
    0:49:20 than my romantic relationships
    0:49:21 because they’ll be with me
    0:49:22 no matter what.
    0:49:23 They’re not going to go
    0:49:24 fall in love
    0:49:25 with somebody else.
    0:49:28 They can’t cheat though.
    0:49:28 They’ll hang out
    0:49:29 with the other girlfriend.
    0:49:30 You’re like what are you guys doing?
    0:49:31 I’ll never forget that.
    0:49:32 My mom after getting divorced
    0:49:33 she was like
    0:49:34 you don’t never lose
    0:49:34 your girlfriends.
    0:49:35 she’s like your girlfriends
    0:49:36 are just so important
    0:49:38 and you know I love men so much
    0:49:39 but the texture and richness
    0:49:40 of my life
    0:49:42 has been so benefited
    0:49:44 by deep female friendships
    0:49:45 and relationships
    0:49:46 and being an entrepreneur
    0:49:47 is not easy.
    0:49:48 You meet up against
    0:49:49 limiting beliefs
    0:49:50 and mindset
    0:49:51 like setbacks
    0:49:52 all of the time.
    0:49:53 You have fear,
    0:49:54 you have overwhelm,
    0:49:55 you have stress,
    0:49:55 you’re putting yourselves
    0:49:56 out there,
    0:49:58 you’re doing cringe things
    0:49:59 and so to have cheerleaders
    0:50:00 in your corner
    0:50:01 or have people
    0:50:02 that really see you
    0:50:02 and support you
    0:50:04 has kept me going.
    0:50:05 100% of the way.
    0:50:06 And I think
    0:50:07 in the Saturn return period
    0:50:08 for those friendships
    0:50:11 that are for that lifetime vibe
    0:50:13 they require that update
    0:50:14 you know
    0:50:14 because you’re kind of
    0:50:15 working on like
    0:50:16 old patterns
    0:50:17 you’re working on
    0:50:19 old everything
    0:50:21 and so if you feel
    0:50:21 like you’re changing
    0:50:23 most likely your friend
    0:50:24 is changing too
    0:50:25 but you both are holding on
    0:50:25 to how the friendship
    0:50:26 has always been.
    0:50:27 So I think
    0:50:28 with a select few
    0:50:29 in my life
    0:50:29 I’ve had to
    0:50:31 just have like
    0:50:32 a come to Jesus
    0:50:33 moment of like
    0:50:33 hey this is actually
    0:50:34 what’s important
    0:50:34 to me right now
    0:50:35 or this is what
    0:50:37 I have capacity for
    0:50:38 because sometimes
    0:50:39 for example
    0:50:39 in friendships
    0:50:40 you don’t see
    0:50:41 each other as much
    0:50:42 maybe because
    0:50:43 you’ve gotten married
    0:50:44 or maybe you’ve moved
    0:50:45 maybe you don’t
    0:50:46 touch bases often
    0:50:47 and we can make
    0:50:47 so much meaning
    0:50:48 out of that
    0:50:49 and so if you have
    0:50:49 a conversation
    0:50:50 where it’s like
    0:50:50 listen
    0:50:51 I would love
    0:50:52 for when we connect
    0:50:53 it’s just really quality
    0:50:54 and we’re able
    0:50:55 to be really present
    0:50:57 I think
    0:50:58 that is super
    0:50:59 super important
    0:50:59 because
    0:51:01 I don’t know
    0:51:01 about you
    0:51:02 but anytime
    0:51:03 I would change
    0:51:04 within a romantic
    0:51:04 relationship
    0:51:06 my then boyfriend
    0:51:06 would be like
    0:51:08 man you’ve changed
    0:51:08 you know
    0:51:08 would have such
    0:51:09 a problem
    0:51:10 with change
    0:51:13 and then with
    0:51:13 friendships
    0:51:14 I always felt like
    0:51:14 oh gosh
    0:51:16 I can’t change
    0:51:16 because then
    0:51:17 they’re going to
    0:51:18 feel a type of way
    0:51:18 so I’m just giving
    0:51:19 people permission
    0:51:20 to change within
    0:51:21 their relationships
    0:51:22 and have actual
    0:51:24 conversations about it
    0:51:25 I think is really important
    0:51:26 for everybody
    0:51:27 tuning in
    0:51:27 whether they’re a man
    0:51:28 I actually have a lot
    0:51:29 of male listeners
    0:51:31 so whether they’re
    0:51:32 men
    0:51:32 women
    0:51:34 if they’re thinking
    0:51:35 about a career change
    0:51:37 a career pivot
    0:51:37 how should they
    0:51:38 think about it
    0:51:39 I think
    0:51:40 that rumbling
    0:51:42 happens for a lot
    0:51:42 of people
    0:51:43 where like
    0:51:44 you are at
    0:51:44 a job
    0:51:44 that you’ve been
    0:51:45 at for a while
    0:51:45 maybe
    0:51:46 most likely
    0:51:47 you’re really good
    0:51:48 at what you do
    0:51:49 you get rewarded
    0:51:50 for that
    0:51:50 you are maybe
    0:51:51 on a path
    0:51:52 where you have
    0:51:53 an upward trajectory
    0:51:54 but there’s
    0:51:55 something within you
    0:51:56 that just says
    0:51:57 I think there’s
    0:51:57 something more
    0:51:58 and I think
    0:51:59 I want to pursue
    0:51:59 something else
    0:52:00 or you know
    0:52:01 something else
    0:52:01 does light me up
    0:52:02 and I would love
    0:52:02 to see what
    0:52:03 would happen
    0:52:04 and so
    0:52:05 I think
    0:52:06 first of all
    0:52:07 you have to get
    0:52:07 really clear
    0:52:08 about that
    0:52:09 is there
    0:52:10 is there an opportunity
    0:52:11 to pivot
    0:52:13 within the actual
    0:52:14 company
    0:52:15 that you’re in
    0:52:15 because it’s maybe
    0:52:16 just a feeling
    0:52:17 of what you’re doing
    0:52:18 is it no longer
    0:52:18 aligned
    0:52:19 is there another
    0:52:20 position at the company
    0:52:22 if it’s a bit
    0:52:23 more than that
    0:52:23 and you actually
    0:52:24 want to pursue
    0:52:25 something else
    0:52:26 which we both
    0:52:26 have done
    0:52:27 many times over
    0:52:28 I think it’s
    0:52:29 getting clear
    0:52:30 about how do
    0:52:30 I want to feel
    0:52:31 on a day-to-day basis
    0:52:33 what really
    0:52:34 lights me up
    0:52:34 asking those
    0:52:36 questions
    0:52:37 about the feeling
    0:52:38 part of it
    0:52:39 logistics will come in
    0:52:40 but I had to
    0:52:41 get clear
    0:52:42 that what was
    0:52:43 moving me
    0:52:44 in that direction
    0:52:45 came from like
    0:52:46 this place
    0:52:46 rather than
    0:52:47 the overanalyzing
    0:52:48 of everything
    0:52:49 if that makes sense
    0:52:52 so when I pivoted
    0:52:52 for example
    0:52:53 from pursuing
    0:52:55 my acting career
    0:52:56 to the podcast
    0:52:57 I had to make
    0:52:58 a conscious pivot
    0:53:00 I could no longer
    0:53:01 do both
    0:53:02 and I think
    0:53:02 for me
    0:53:03 the question
    0:53:03 was how do
    0:53:04 you want to
    0:53:04 feel on a
    0:53:05 day-to-day basis
    0:53:06 and I wanted
    0:53:06 to feel like
    0:53:07 I was creating
    0:53:09 I was creating
    0:53:10 literally something
    0:53:11 but also my future
    0:53:12 and with acting
    0:53:12 I was waiting
    0:53:13 to be chosen
    0:53:15 so it made it
    0:53:15 so clear
    0:53:16 that that pivot
    0:53:18 was right for me
    0:53:19 to completely
    0:53:19 let go of
    0:53:20 the acting
    0:53:21 and pursue
    0:53:22 the podcast
    0:53:23 full-time
    0:53:23 and let that go
    0:53:24 something that
    0:53:24 you just said
    0:53:25 like really
    0:53:25 spoke to me
    0:53:26 the fact that
    0:53:26 you were basically
    0:53:27 saying I’m in
    0:53:28 control now
    0:53:29 I’m not going
    0:53:30 to wait to get
    0:53:30 chosen
    0:53:31 and I feel
    0:53:31 like with
    0:53:32 entrepreneurship
    0:53:32 that is
    0:53:34 such an amazing
    0:53:34 part of
    0:53:35 entrepreneurship
    0:53:35 that you get
    0:53:36 to control
    0:53:36 your life
    0:53:37 I dealt
    0:53:38 with like a lot
    0:53:38 of rejection
    0:53:39 I was rejected
    0:53:40 by radio
    0:53:41 and TV
    0:53:42 and satellite
    0:53:42 radio
    0:53:42 and then I
    0:53:43 started my podcast
    0:53:45 and did great
    0:53:45 you know
    0:53:47 and so I’d love
    0:53:47 and so I’d love
    0:53:48 to hear from you
    0:53:49 of how did
    0:53:49 being an entrepreneur
    0:53:51 change you
    0:53:52 mentally
    0:53:53 spiritually
    0:53:54 how did it
    0:53:55 change you
    0:53:55 on your journey
    0:53:57 it helped me
    0:53:57 become more
    0:53:58 of who I came
    0:53:58 here to be
    0:53:59 to be honest
    0:53:59 it gave me
    0:54:01 the tools
    0:54:01 it gave me
    0:54:02 the friction
    0:54:02 it gave me
    0:54:03 the feedback
    0:54:04 to allow me
    0:54:04 to be who
    0:54:05 I came here
    0:54:05 to be
    0:54:06 and that was
    0:54:06 someone that’s
    0:54:07 using her voice
    0:54:08 someone that’s
    0:54:08 standing in her
    0:54:09 power
    0:54:09 someone that knows
    0:54:10 what she wants
    0:54:11 someone that’s
    0:54:12 clear on where
    0:54:12 she’s going
    0:54:14 and someone that
    0:54:15 has to meet
    0:54:16 every growth edge
    0:54:17 I feel like
    0:54:18 in the corporate
    0:54:18 world
    0:54:19 I was just
    0:54:20 spending a lot
    0:54:20 of my time
    0:54:21 and my energy
    0:54:21 towards someone
    0:54:22 else’s vision
    0:54:23 that I didn’t
    0:54:24 really even align
    0:54:24 with in the first
    0:54:24 place
    0:54:26 and I was there
    0:54:26 for money
    0:54:27 probably out of
    0:54:28 fear of not
    0:54:28 having money
    0:54:29 or not having
    0:54:29 purpose
    0:54:30 and when you’re
    0:54:31 an entrepreneur
    0:54:32 you’re putting
    0:54:32 all your eggs
    0:54:32 in your own
    0:54:33 basket I guess
    0:54:34 and I feel like
    0:54:35 it’s really just
    0:54:36 helped develop me
    0:54:37 as a better person
    0:54:38 because the more
    0:54:39 clear I am
    0:54:40 with my relationships
    0:54:41 within business
    0:54:42 within my
    0:54:43 personal life
    0:54:44 the more
    0:54:45 business I’ll get
    0:54:45 the more
    0:54:46 business will grow
    0:54:47 and it’s been
    0:54:48 so powerful
    0:54:48 you know I
    0:54:49 couldn’t see my
    0:54:50 life being any
    0:54:50 other way
    0:54:51 but self-led
    0:54:52 and self-made
    0:54:53 through entrepreneurship
    0:54:54 and I’m so glad
    0:54:55 for it
    0:54:56 what about you
    0:54:56 Lindsay
    0:54:58 to be honest
    0:54:58 when we first
    0:54:59 started I was
    0:55:00 so insecure
    0:55:00 about it
    0:55:01 because I
    0:55:01 didn’t have
    0:55:01 a corporate
    0:55:02 background
    0:55:03 I came from
    0:55:05 being my own
    0:55:05 I suppose
    0:55:06 entrepreneur
    0:55:07 in my acting
    0:55:08 life where
    0:55:08 even though I
    0:55:09 was waiting
    0:55:09 to be chosen
    0:55:11 I was having
    0:55:13 to self-motivate
    0:55:13 every day
    0:55:14 to go on
    0:55:15 auditions
    0:55:16 to meet
    0:55:16 agents
    0:55:17 meet casting
    0:55:18 directors
    0:55:18 so I had
    0:55:19 that experience
    0:55:20 within me
    0:55:20 as far as
    0:55:21 entrepreneurship
    0:55:22 goes but
    0:55:23 when it came
    0:55:23 to the business
    0:55:25 side I just
    0:55:26 felt so insecure
    0:55:27 but I think
    0:55:28 what I realized
    0:55:29 was that as
    0:55:29 an entrepreneur
    0:55:30 you’re meant
    0:55:32 to really
    0:55:33 double down
    0:55:34 on your gifts
    0:55:34 you know
    0:55:35 and you will
    0:55:36 learn everything
    0:55:37 else along the
    0:55:38 way you know
    0:55:38 I’ve learned
    0:55:38 so much
    0:55:39 about business
    0:55:40 and just
    0:55:40 doing it
    0:55:41 and making
    0:55:41 mistakes
    0:55:41 and learning
    0:55:42 from Krista
    0:55:44 so it’s
    0:55:44 been really
    0:55:45 important for
    0:55:46 me to
    0:55:47 acknowledge
    0:55:48 the insecurities
    0:55:48 around what
    0:55:49 I don’t
    0:55:49 know
    0:55:51 but actually
    0:55:51 that’s not
    0:55:52 where my
    0:55:53 focus is
    0:55:53 meant to go
    0:55:53 you know
    0:55:54 my focus
    0:55:54 is meant
    0:55:55 to double
    0:55:55 down on
    0:55:56 what I’m
    0:55:56 really good
    0:55:57 at and
    0:55:58 really step
    0:55:58 in there
    0:55:59 because especially
    0:55:59 in a partnership
    0:56:00 you know
    0:56:01 we’ve come
    0:56:02 together so well
    0:56:02 like a puzzle
    0:56:03 where like
    0:56:04 my strengths
    0:56:05 are something
    0:56:05 that fit
    0:56:06 perfectly
    0:56:06 in the puzzle
    0:56:07 and then Krista
    0:56:08 fills in her
    0:56:08 strengths
    0:56:08 where I’m
    0:56:09 kind of
    0:56:09 like lacking
    0:56:10 so it’s
    0:56:11 it’s been
    0:56:11 really really
    0:56:12 beautiful
    0:56:12 but entrepreneurship
    0:56:14 has given me
    0:56:15 just a lot
    0:56:15 of confidence
    0:56:17 in every aspect
    0:56:17 of my life
    0:56:18 you know
    0:56:18 I think
    0:56:19 when I
    0:56:20 think about
    0:56:22 starting over
    0:56:23 in any way
    0:56:24 I think about
    0:56:25 almost 30
    0:56:25 you know
    0:56:26 I just always
    0:56:27 reference that
    0:56:27 experience
    0:56:28 of just
    0:56:29 building something
    0:56:29 from
    0:56:30 nothing
    0:56:31 building it
    0:56:32 from an
    0:56:32 idea
    0:56:33 and I’m
    0:56:33 like
    0:56:34 oh yeah
    0:56:34 I can
    0:56:35 do this
    0:56:35 yeah
    0:56:35 you know
    0:56:36 it’s like
    0:56:37 it really
    0:56:38 adds to
    0:56:39 that well
    0:56:40 of confidence
    0:56:41 that you have
    0:56:41 for the rest
    0:56:42 of your life
    0:56:43 I love that
    0:56:44 so one of my
    0:56:44 last questions
    0:56:45 for you guys
    0:56:46 if somebody
    0:56:47 is almost
    0:56:48 an entrepreneur
    0:56:50 they have the
    0:56:50 idea of becoming
    0:56:51 an entrepreneur
    0:56:52 they’re in this
    0:56:52 transition period
    0:56:53 they might be
    0:56:53 working a corporate
    0:56:54 job
    0:56:56 what is your
    0:56:57 advice to how
    0:56:57 they should
    0:56:58 treat this period
    0:56:59 and their
    0:56:59 next steps
    0:57:01 this is my
    0:57:02 personal belief
    0:57:03 but I feel like
    0:57:03 a lot of people
    0:57:04 want to be an
    0:57:04 entrepreneur
    0:57:05 for the idea
    0:57:06 of what being
    0:57:06 an entrepreneur
    0:57:07 is
    0:57:08 they kind of
    0:57:08 see what’s
    0:57:09 happening online
    0:57:09 on social media
    0:57:10 they’re like
    0:57:10 oh you work
    0:57:11 from home
    0:57:11 or you work
    0:57:12 on the beach
    0:57:13 or it’s sexy
    0:57:14 like there’s a lot
    0:57:15 of entrepreneurship
    0:57:15 I think especially
    0:57:16 too earlier
    0:57:18 in the previous
    0:57:18 times that was
    0:57:19 like girl bossy
    0:57:20 and made everything
    0:57:21 really really sexy
    0:57:22 and fun
    0:57:23 and like really
    0:57:23 instagrammy
    0:57:24 and marketing
    0:57:25 and it’s not
    0:57:26 like that
    0:57:26 it’s the most
    0:57:27 challenging thing
    0:57:28 that you’ll do
    0:57:28 and it has
    0:57:29 made me
    0:57:30 so insecure
    0:57:31 at times
    0:57:31 and so low
    0:57:32 at times
    0:57:32 and so unsure
    0:57:33 of myself
    0:57:34 at times
    0:57:35 but it’s also
    0:57:36 been so powerful
    0:57:37 so I would check
    0:57:37 first what is
    0:57:38 the actual desire
    0:57:39 because I think
    0:57:39 entrepreneurship
    0:57:40 doesn’t happen
    0:57:41 I think your
    0:57:41 creativity
    0:57:42 and your idea
    0:57:42 happens
    0:57:43 I think you
    0:57:44 build what
    0:57:44 you want
    0:57:44 to do
    0:57:45 you become
    0:57:45 who you want
    0:57:46 to be
    0:57:46 you create
    0:57:46 what you’re
    0:57:47 here to do
    0:57:48 and then you
    0:57:48 become an
    0:57:48 entrepreneur
    0:57:49 so I think
    0:57:50 it should be
    0:57:50 led by something
    0:57:51 that comes
    0:57:51 internally
    0:57:52 like something
    0:57:53 that you feel
    0:57:53 like has to
    0:57:54 exist in the
    0:57:54 world
    0:57:55 so I think
    0:57:56 waiting until
    0:57:56 you have that
    0:57:57 calling
    0:57:58 that like desire
    0:57:59 that you feel
    0:57:59 it in your gut
    0:58:00 yes you’re like
    0:58:01 this needs to exist
    0:58:02 I need to create
    0:58:03 this thing
    0:58:03 because it doesn’t
    0:58:05 exist and I feel
    0:58:05 like my life
    0:58:06 sucks without it
    0:58:07 my life isn’t as
    0:58:08 good without it
    0:58:08 so I think
    0:58:09 waiting until
    0:58:10 you’re so called
    0:58:11 that the things
    0:58:11 that come up
    0:58:13 and the how
    0:58:13 of it all
    0:58:14 just goes away
    0:58:15 so when your why
    0:58:16 is so strong
    0:58:17 your how
    0:58:18 just it doesn’t
    0:58:18 even matter
    0:58:19 how it happens
    0:58:20 like our passion
    0:58:21 and obsession
    0:58:22 with our connection
    0:58:23 and really
    0:58:24 finding this
    0:58:25 reason to help
    0:58:25 people feel less
    0:58:27 alone drove us
    0:58:28 to like stay up
    0:58:28 late at night
    0:58:29 invest money
    0:58:30 and take the
    0:58:31 risk and so
    0:58:32 what I would say
    0:58:33 is find that
    0:58:33 thing or wait
    0:58:34 for that thing
    0:58:35 or look intently
    0:58:36 at the world
    0:58:37 a little differently
    0:58:37 with a different
    0:58:38 lens to see
    0:58:39 what is needed
    0:58:40 and then create
    0:58:41 that
    0:58:42 any thoughts
    0:58:43 yeah I think
    0:58:44 I mean your
    0:58:45 business that you
    0:58:45 start will be
    0:58:46 your mirror
    0:58:47 and so it’s
    0:58:48 I think imperative
    0:58:49 from the get
    0:58:49 to understand that
    0:58:50 this will bring
    0:58:50 up a lot
    0:58:51 about you
    0:58:52 and what you
    0:58:53 are bringing
    0:58:54 to the table
    0:58:55 and so for me
    0:58:56 it’s about having
    0:58:57 a therapist
    0:58:57 you know having
    0:58:59 like resources
    0:59:00 and tools
    0:59:01 so that I can
    0:59:01 come to each
    0:59:03 moment as aware
    0:59:03 and as conscious
    0:59:04 as possible
    0:59:05 it’s not always
    0:59:05 going to be perfect
    0:59:08 but how you do
    0:59:08 one thing is how
    0:59:09 you do everything
    0:59:10 and I think
    0:59:10 with a business
    0:59:12 for me it was
    0:59:13 showing me
    0:59:14 where I could
    0:59:14 really step
    0:59:15 into my worth
    0:59:16 it was showing
    0:59:16 me you know
    0:59:17 how I could
    0:59:17 become a better
    0:59:18 communicator
    0:59:19 in all aspects
    0:59:20 of my life
    0:59:21 so I think
    0:59:22 to be prepared
    0:59:23 for that
    0:59:23 and maybe even
    0:59:24 set yourself up
    0:59:26 by having a coach
    0:59:26 or a therapist
    0:59:27 from the get
    0:59:28 I know it’s an
    0:59:28 investment
    0:59:29 but it’s the most
    0:59:30 worthwhile investment
    0:59:31 I’ve ever made
    0:59:32 and helps me
    0:59:33 both in business
    0:59:34 and personal
    0:59:34 yeah
    0:59:35 it’s a good one
    0:59:35 what would you say
    0:59:37 so somebody’s
    0:59:38 about to become
    0:59:38 an entrepreneur
    0:59:39 I really like
    0:59:40 your advice
    0:59:41 of why are you
    0:59:42 doing this
    0:59:43 is it because
    0:59:44 you just want
    0:59:44 to make money
    0:59:45 is it because
    0:59:46 you feel like
    0:59:47 being an entrepreneur
    0:59:48 has some clout
    0:59:48 with it
    0:59:49 I feel like
    0:59:50 you need to
    0:59:51 really understand
    0:59:51 if you have
    0:59:53 a good business
    0:59:53 idea
    0:59:54 so like for me
    0:59:55 the big thing
    0:59:55 is can you
    0:59:56 make money
    0:59:58 can you get
    0:59:58 customers
    1:00:00 will people
    1:00:01 pay for this
    1:00:01 thing
    1:00:01 because a lot
    1:00:01 of people
    1:00:02 have these ideas
    1:00:03 that nobody
    1:00:03 wants
    1:00:04 and I see
    1:00:05 that time
    1:00:05 and time
    1:00:05 again
    1:00:06 I remember
    1:00:06 one time
    1:00:08 somebody was
    1:00:08 like on a
    1:00:09 webinar with
    1:00:09 me
    1:00:09 and she was
    1:00:10 talking about
    1:00:11 how she’s
    1:00:12 like building
    1:00:12 an app
    1:00:14 something about
    1:00:14 like naming
    1:00:15 your star
    1:00:16 sign
    1:00:16 or something
    1:00:17 like this
    1:00:17 and it was
    1:00:18 such like a
    1:00:19 far out there
    1:00:19 idea
    1:00:20 maybe it’s
    1:00:20 because I’m
    1:00:21 not into
    1:00:21 astrology
    1:00:22 or whatever
    1:00:22 it is
    1:00:23 but to me
    1:00:24 I was like
    1:00:24 okay
    1:00:25 is that
    1:00:25 something
    1:00:26 that you
    1:00:26 want
    1:00:26 or that
    1:00:27 other people
    1:00:28 want
    1:00:29 and so
    1:00:29 for me
    1:00:29 it’s about
    1:00:30 channeling
    1:00:31 demand
    1:00:32 not trying
    1:00:33 to create
    1:00:33 demand
    1:00:33 so find
    1:00:34 something
    1:00:34 that people
    1:00:35 already have
    1:00:35 a problem
    1:00:35 with
    1:00:36 like in
    1:00:36 a lot
    1:00:36 of people
    1:00:38 and a
    1:00:38 problem
    1:00:39 where you
    1:00:40 know how
    1:00:41 to find
    1:00:41 these people
    1:00:42 like they
    1:00:43 label themselves
    1:00:43 something
    1:00:44 they’re all
    1:00:45 hanging out
    1:00:45 in the same
    1:00:46 places
    1:00:46 they have
    1:00:46 the same
    1:00:47 titles
    1:00:47 they’ve
    1:00:48 gone to
    1:00:48 the same
    1:00:49 schools
    1:00:49 or they
    1:00:49 work at
    1:00:49 the same
    1:00:50 places
    1:00:51 because then
    1:00:52 your job
    1:00:52 is easy
    1:00:53 you just
    1:00:53 find those
    1:00:54 people that
    1:00:54 have that
    1:00:54 problem
    1:00:55 and you
    1:00:55 sell to
    1:00:55 them
    1:00:56 but I
    1:00:57 find time
    1:00:57 and time
    1:00:57 again
    1:00:58 people have
    1:00:59 solutions
    1:00:59 to problems
    1:00:59 that don’t
    1:01:00 exist
    1:01:01 or you
    1:01:02 can’t find
    1:01:02 any customers
    1:01:03 so I
    1:01:04 just feel
    1:01:04 like you
    1:01:04 have to
    1:01:05 know
    1:01:05 that your
    1:01:05 customers
    1:01:06 exist
    1:01:06 and that
    1:01:07 they actually
    1:01:07 have a
    1:01:08 problem
    1:01:08 that they’re
    1:01:09 willing to
    1:01:09 spend
    1:01:10 their money
    1:01:10 on
    1:01:12 and this
    1:01:12 solution
    1:01:13 also has
    1:01:13 to somehow
    1:01:14 increase
    1:01:14 their status
    1:01:16 in some
    1:01:16 way
    1:01:17 you know
    1:01:17 because people
    1:01:18 just buy
    1:01:19 based on
    1:01:20 increasing
    1:01:21 their status
    1:01:21 whatever it
    1:01:21 is
    1:01:22 they make
    1:01:23 every decision
    1:01:24 based on
    1:01:25 if it’s going
    1:01:25 to increase
    1:01:25 my status
    1:01:26 or not
    1:01:26 so is it
    1:01:26 going to
    1:01:27 improve
    1:01:28 my wealth
    1:01:28 are people
    1:01:28 are people
    1:01:29 going to
    1:01:29 think
    1:01:30 more
    1:01:30 highly
    1:01:30 of me
    1:01:31 if I
    1:01:31 have
    1:01:31 this
    1:01:31 thing
    1:01:32 or if I
    1:01:32 fix
    1:01:32 this
    1:01:33 problem
    1:01:33 right
    1:01:34 so it’s
    1:01:35 all based
    1:01:35 on status
    1:01:36 so it’s
    1:01:36 how does
    1:01:37 it impact
    1:01:37 their status
    1:01:38 wow
    1:01:39 you know
    1:01:41 people are
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    1:01:41 I just
    1:01:42 sometimes
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    1:01:42 wow
    1:01:43 we’re doing
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    1:01:45 of course
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    1:01:47 that
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    1:03:47 a platform
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    1:03:49 where you
    1:03:49 can pay
    1:03:49 your rent
    1:03:50 through this
    1:03:50 platform
    1:03:51 I’ve been
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    1:03:51 for over
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    1:03:56 by paying
    1:03:56 your rent
    1:03:57 on time
    1:03:57 I of course
    1:03:58 always pay
    1:03:58 my rent
    1:03:59 on time
    1:04:00 and as a
    1:04:00 result
    1:04:01 I accumulated
    1:04:01 a lot
    1:04:01 of points
    1:04:02 so much
    1:04:02 so that
    1:04:02 I’m going
    1:04:03 on a trip
    1:04:04 to Tulum
    1:04:04 for my
    1:04:05 birthday
    1:04:05 with my
    1:04:06 friends
    1:04:06 and I
    1:04:06 was able
    1:04:06 to pay
    1:04:06 for my
    1:04:07 hotel
    1:04:07 and my
    1:04:08 airline
    1:04:08 flight
    1:04:08 by using
    1:04:09 built
    1:04:10 sounds
    1:04:10 too good
    1:04:10 to be
    1:04:10 true
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    1:04:11 explain
    1:04:12 there’s
    1:04:12 no cost
    1:04:13 to join
    1:04:13 and just
    1:04:14 by paying
    1:04:14 your rent
    1:04:15 you’ll unlock
    1:04:15 flexible points
    1:04:16 that can be
    1:04:16 transferred to
    1:04:17 your favorite
    1:04:17 hotels or
    1:04:18 airlines
    1:04:19 it could even
    1:04:19 be transferred
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    1:04:20 rent payment
    1:04:21 your next
    1:04:21 lift ride
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    1:04:22 more
    1:04:23 when you pay
    1:04:24 your rent
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    1:04:24 you unlock
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    1:04:27 you earn
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    1:04:28 industry’s
    1:04:29 most valuable
    1:04:29 points on
    1:04:29 rent
    1:04:30 every single
    1:04:30 month
    1:04:31 no matter
    1:04:31 where you
    1:04:32 live or
    1:04:32 who your
    1:04:33 landlord is
    1:04:33 it doesn’t
    1:04:33 matter
    1:04:34 your rent
    1:04:34 now works
    1:04:35 for you
    1:04:36 second
    1:04:36 you gain
    1:04:37 access to
    1:04:37 exclusive
    1:04:37 neighborhood
    1:04:38 benefits
    1:04:38 in your
    1:04:39 city
    1:04:39 built
    1:04:40 neighborhood
    1:04:40 benefits
    1:04:41 are things
    1:04:41 like extra
    1:04:42 points on
    1:04:42 dining out
    1:04:43 complimentary
    1:04:44 post-workout
    1:04:44 shakes
    1:04:45 free mats
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    1:04:46 at your
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    1:04:51 ready to
    1:04:51 travel
    1:04:51 built
    1:04:52 points
    1:04:52 can be
    1:04:52 converted
    1:04:53 to your
    1:04:53 favorite
    1:04:53 miles
    1:04:54 and hotel
    1:04:54 points
    1:04:54 around the
    1:04:55 world
    1:04:55 meaning
    1:04:56 your rent
    1:04:56 can literally
    1:04:57 take you
    1:04:57 places
    1:04:58 get your
    1:04:58 next vacation
    1:04:59 for free
    1:05:00 just by paying
    1:05:00 your rent
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    1:05:02 question is
    1:05:02 what are you
    1:05:03 waiting for
    1:05:03 you’re already
    1:05:04 paying your
    1:05:04 rent
    1:05:05 start using
    1:05:05 built
    1:05:05 today
    1:05:06 and take
    1:05:06 advantage
    1:05:06 of your
    1:05:07 neighborhood
    1:05:07 benefits
    1:05:07 by going
    1:05:08 to join
    1:05:08 built
    1:05:09 dot com
    1:05:09 slash
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    1:05:12 dot com
    1:05:13 slash
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    1:05:14 join
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    1:05:15 dot com
    1:05:15 slash
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    1:05:16 and make
    1:05:17 sure you
    1:05:17 use our
    1:05:18 url
    1:05:18 so they
    1:05:19 know that
    1:05:19 we sent
    1:05:19 you
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    1:05:20 join
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    1:05:21 to sign
    1:05:22 up for
    1:05:22 built
    1:05:22 today
    1:05:24 okay so my
    1:05:25 last question
    1:05:25 that I ask
    1:05:25 all of my
    1:05:26 guests
    1:05:27 you can
    1:05:27 just answer
    1:05:28 from your
    1:05:28 heart
    1:05:33 young
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    1:05:33 profiter’s
    1:05:34 can do
    1:05:34 today
    1:05:35 to become
    1:05:35 more
    1:05:36 profitable
    1:05:36 let’s go
    1:05:37 with the
    1:05:37 business
    1:05:37 mind
    1:05:38 first
    1:05:39 I think
    1:05:40 to become
    1:05:40 more
    1:05:40 profitable
    1:05:41 a book
    1:05:41 that I
    1:05:42 love
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    1:05:42 recommend
    1:05:43 is called
    1:05:44 a happy
    1:05:44 pocket full
    1:05:45 of money
    1:05:45 have you read
    1:05:46 that
    1:05:47 it’s really
    1:05:47 really good
    1:05:48 about the
    1:05:48 relationship
    1:05:49 you can
    1:05:49 have to
    1:05:49 money
    1:05:50 and the
    1:05:50 energetics
    1:05:51 of money
    1:05:52 and it’s
    1:05:52 been
    1:05:52 incredibly
    1:05:53 profound
    1:05:54 and transformative
    1:05:54 for me
    1:05:54 I think
    1:05:55 when you
    1:05:56 think about
    1:05:56 becoming
    1:05:56 more
    1:05:57 profitable
    1:05:57 there’s
    1:05:57 so many
    1:05:57 different
    1:05:58 aspects
    1:05:58 of it
    1:05:58 related
    1:05:59 to your
    1:05:59 business
    1:05:59 but if
    1:05:59 the
    1:06:00 foundational
    1:06:01 relationship
    1:06:01 you have
    1:06:01 to the
    1:06:02 energetics
    1:06:02 of money
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    1:06:04 going to become
    1:06:05 more profitable
    1:06:05 so getting
    1:06:06 your relationship
    1:06:07 right
    1:06:07 the energetic
    1:06:08 frequency
    1:06:09 and the
    1:06:09 connection
    1:06:09 you have
    1:06:10 with money
    1:06:10 is going
    1:06:11 to be
    1:06:11 incredibly
    1:06:11 helpful
    1:06:12 when I
    1:06:12 could
    1:06:13 finally
    1:06:13 meet
    1:06:13 money
    1:06:14 and
    1:06:14 respect
    1:06:15 and love
    1:06:15 money
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    1:06:16 that I do
    1:06:16 I’m so
    1:06:17 grateful
    1:06:17 for the way
    1:06:18 money moves
    1:06:18 in my
    1:06:18 life
    1:06:19 I’m so
    1:06:19 grateful
    1:06:20 for the
    1:06:20 way
    1:06:20 money
    1:06:21 gives me
    1:06:21 freedom
    1:06:21 for the
    1:06:22 way
    1:06:22 money
    1:06:23 supports
    1:06:23 my
    1:06:23 health
    1:06:23 for the
    1:06:24 way
    1:06:24 money
    1:06:24 supports
    1:06:25 my
    1:06:26 family
    1:06:26 like
    1:06:27 I have
    1:06:27 so much
    1:06:28 respect
    1:06:29 and love
    1:06:29 for money
    1:06:29 so money
    1:06:30 loves to
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    1:06:30 me
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    1:06:33 money
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    1:06:34 to move
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    1:06:34 me
    1:06:35 and once
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    1:06:37 can move
    1:06:37 more
    1:06:37 in your
    1:06:38 business
    1:06:38 can we
    1:06:39 actually
    1:06:39 stick
    1:06:40 on this
    1:06:41 I feel
    1:06:42 like I
    1:06:42 have
    1:06:43 an
    1:06:43 incredible
    1:06:44 relationship
    1:06:44 with
    1:06:44 money
    1:06:45 sometimes
    1:06:46 I wonder
    1:06:46 I’m like
    1:06:47 how do
    1:06:47 people
    1:06:47 not make
    1:06:48 money
    1:06:48 like
    1:06:49 I feel
    1:06:49 like I
    1:06:49 just
    1:06:50 attract
    1:06:51 money
    1:06:51 left
    1:06:51 and right
    1:06:52 right
    1:06:52 like
    1:06:52 where do
    1:06:53 you think
    1:06:53 that comes
    1:06:53 from
    1:06:55 my dad
    1:06:55 was a
    1:06:55 surgeon
    1:06:56 cool
    1:06:56 but he
    1:06:57 grew up
    1:06:57 super
    1:06:58 poor
    1:06:58 so my
    1:06:59 dad
    1:06:59 grew up
    1:06:59 in
    1:07:00 I’m
    1:07:00 Palestinian
    1:07:01 so he
    1:07:01 grew up
    1:07:02 with no
    1:07:02 running
    1:07:02 water
    1:07:03 he was
    1:07:04 dirt
    1:07:04 poor
    1:07:04 he became
    1:07:05 a
    1:07:05 surgeon
    1:07:05 and then
    1:07:06 when I
    1:07:06 was
    1:07:07 growing up
    1:07:07 he never
    1:07:08 wanted me
    1:07:08 to feel
    1:07:08 like
    1:07:09 money
    1:07:09 was an
    1:07:10 obstacle
    1:07:10 because
    1:07:10 it was
    1:07:11 for him
    1:07:12 so like
    1:07:13 if I
    1:07:13 wanted to
    1:07:13 buy
    1:07:14 anything
    1:07:14 I remember
    1:07:15 one time
    1:07:15 he bought
    1:07:15 me like
    1:07:16 a thousand
    1:07:16 dollar
    1:07:17 Furby
    1:07:17 you know
    1:07:17 like
    1:07:18 QVC
    1:07:19 when it was
    1:07:19 really popular
    1:07:21 you know
    1:07:22 and he spent
    1:07:23 a thousand
    1:07:23 dollars to
    1:07:23 get me
    1:07:24 this Furby
    1:07:25 his phrase
    1:07:25 was
    1:07:26 if something
    1:07:26 was a hundred
    1:07:26 dollars
    1:07:27 he’d be like
    1:07:27 oh that’s
    1:07:27 free
    1:07:28 I’m obsessed
    1:07:29 and he would
    1:07:30 always just
    1:07:30 tell me
    1:07:31 that’s free
    1:07:32 that’s free
    1:07:32 okay dad
    1:07:33 can I have
    1:07:33 this money
    1:07:33 oh sure
    1:07:34 no problem
    1:07:35 so he made
    1:07:36 me feel
    1:07:36 like money
    1:07:37 was just
    1:07:38 so easy
    1:07:39 and so
    1:07:39 my whole
    1:07:40 life
    1:07:40 I just
    1:07:40 thought
    1:07:41 money
    1:07:41 is easy
    1:07:43 and now
    1:07:43 I just
    1:07:44 make a lot
    1:07:45 of money
    1:07:46 all the time
    1:07:46 you know
    1:07:47 like we just
    1:07:47 like have
    1:07:48 these huge
    1:07:48 deals
    1:07:48 and then
    1:07:49 sometimes
    1:07:49 I think
    1:07:50 when people
    1:07:50 like make
    1:07:51 such little
    1:07:51 money
    1:07:51 I’m like
    1:07:52 how
    1:07:52 how are they
    1:07:53 making such
    1:07:53 little money
    1:07:54 you know
    1:07:56 so I have
    1:07:56 a really good
    1:07:57 but I have
    1:07:58 bad relationships
    1:07:59 with other
    1:07:59 things
    1:08:00 you know
    1:08:00 what I’m
    1:08:00 saying
    1:08:01 so like
    1:08:01 money
    1:08:01 just happens
    1:08:02 to be good
    1:08:02 for me
    1:08:02 but talk
    1:08:03 to me
    1:08:03 about
    1:08:03 your
    1:08:04 relationship
    1:08:04 with money
    1:08:05 and I
    1:08:06 think a lot
    1:08:06 of people
    1:08:06 have
    1:08:07 things
    1:08:08 with money
    1:08:08 in terms
    1:08:08 of their
    1:08:09 beliefs
    1:08:09 oh yeah
    1:08:10 I mean
    1:08:11 it’s so much
    1:08:12 it’s the hierarchy
    1:08:13 of money
    1:08:13 money means
    1:08:14 worth
    1:08:14 money means
    1:08:15 safety
    1:08:15 money means
    1:08:16 security
    1:08:17 money means
    1:08:17 you’re bad
    1:08:18 like if we look
    1:08:18 at the media
    1:08:19 programming
    1:08:20 a lot of the
    1:08:20 media programming
    1:08:21 the villains
    1:08:21 are rich
    1:08:22 so we have
    1:08:23 this idea
    1:08:24 that having
    1:08:24 money is bad
    1:08:25 Jesus had
    1:08:25 no money
    1:08:26 you know
    1:08:26 like the
    1:08:27 gurus
    1:08:27 and the saints
    1:08:28 and the cultural
    1:08:29 leaders from a
    1:08:29 religious perspective
    1:08:30 were usually poor
    1:08:31 so we have
    1:08:32 this embedded
    1:08:33 idea around
    1:08:33 money and
    1:08:34 the relationship
    1:08:34 to money
    1:08:35 in our lives
    1:08:36 and I think
    1:08:37 so many of us
    1:08:38 have grown up
    1:08:38 with money
    1:08:38 is shameful
    1:08:39 you don’t talk
    1:08:39 about it
    1:08:40 you don’t talk
    1:08:40 about money
    1:08:40 you don’t talk
    1:08:41 about sex
    1:08:41 you don’t talk
    1:08:42 about religion
    1:08:43 so not only
    1:08:43 are we not
    1:08:44 talking about it
    1:08:44 but we’re living
    1:08:45 in a society
    1:08:46 that’s telling
    1:08:46 us that money
    1:08:47 is bad
    1:08:47 but yet all
    1:08:47 the people
    1:08:48 at the top
    1:08:48 are figuring
    1:08:49 out ways
    1:08:49 to get money
    1:08:50 so I think
    1:08:51 when we can
    1:08:51 really take
    1:08:52 our power
    1:08:52 back and have
    1:08:53 a beautiful
    1:08:53 relationship
    1:08:54 with money
    1:08:54 money actually
    1:08:55 isn’t anything
    1:08:55 it’s like
    1:08:56 paper
    1:08:56 yeah
    1:08:57 so we’re
    1:08:57 actually
    1:08:57 placing
    1:08:58 all this
    1:08:58 energy
    1:08:59 and value
    1:09:00 and thought
    1:09:00 and meaning
    1:09:01 to paper
    1:09:02 so like
    1:09:02 how are we
    1:09:03 can we take
    1:09:03 the power
    1:09:04 back and be
    1:09:04 like this
    1:09:05 is a tool
    1:09:05 for me
    1:09:06 to live
    1:09:06 my life
    1:09:07 in the way
    1:09:07 that I
    1:09:07 want
    1:09:07 this is
    1:09:08 something
    1:09:08 I deserve
    1:09:08 this is
    1:09:09 something
    1:09:09 that I
    1:09:09 can move
    1:09:10 through me
    1:09:11 energetically
    1:09:12 and become
    1:09:12 something
    1:09:12 that can
    1:09:13 be supportive
    1:09:14 of the life
    1:09:14 that I want
    1:09:15 and I think
    1:09:15 so many
    1:09:16 people
    1:09:17 take what
    1:09:17 they learned
    1:09:18 or did
    1:09:18 not learn
    1:09:19 when they
    1:09:19 were younger
    1:09:20 from their
    1:09:20 parents
    1:09:23 and use
    1:09:23 it as like
    1:09:24 an excuse
    1:09:25 not to
    1:09:25 rewrite their
    1:09:26 relationship
    1:09:26 with money
    1:09:27 so it’s like
    1:09:27 my parents
    1:09:28 never taught
    1:09:28 me about
    1:09:29 this is
    1:09:29 something
    1:09:30 I’ve done
    1:09:30 my parents
    1:09:35 never taught
    1:09:36 me about
    1:09:37 balancing
    1:09:38 my checkbook
    1:09:38 or like
    1:09:39 how to
    1:09:39 manage
    1:09:40 money
    1:09:40 or how
    1:09:40 to invest
    1:09:41 or how
    1:09:42 to work
    1:09:42 with a
    1:09:43 credit card
    1:09:43 like
    1:09:43 never
    1:09:44 none
    1:09:44 of that
    1:09:45 and there
    1:09:45 was always
    1:09:46 stress
    1:09:46 around
    1:09:46 money
    1:09:47 there
    1:09:47 was
    1:09:47 always
    1:09:48 fights
    1:09:49 were
    1:09:49 started
    1:09:49 over
    1:09:49 money
    1:09:50 always
    1:09:51 so I
    1:09:52 really had
    1:09:52 this
    1:09:53 stiff arm
    1:09:54 approach
    1:09:54 to money
    1:09:54 where I’m
    1:09:54 like
    1:09:55 money’s
    1:09:56 over here
    1:09:56 I don’t
    1:09:56 really want
    1:09:57 to look
    1:09:57 at it
    1:09:57 I don’t
    1:09:58 really want
    1:09:58 to talk
    1:09:58 about it
    1:09:59 I’ve
    1:09:59 had
    1:10:00 very
    1:10:00 very
    1:10:01 abundant
    1:10:01 times
    1:10:02 in my
    1:10:02 life
    1:10:02 and
    1:10:03 usually
    1:10:03 that’s
    1:10:04 because
    1:10:05 I am
    1:10:05 not
    1:10:05 connecting
    1:10:06 money
    1:10:06 to my
    1:10:07 worth
    1:10:07 and I
    1:10:07 am
    1:10:07 just
    1:10:08 living
    1:10:08 in a
    1:10:08 way
    1:10:09 that’s
    1:10:09 like
    1:10:10 incredibly
    1:10:10 aligned
    1:10:10 I’m
    1:10:10 using
    1:10:11 my
    1:10:11 gifts
    1:10:11 and that’s
    1:10:12 usually
    1:10:12 when I
    1:10:13 have a lot
    1:10:13 of money
    1:10:14 coming in
    1:10:15 but any
    1:10:16 period of
    1:10:16 time
    1:10:17 where I’ve
    1:10:18 literally
    1:10:19 held money
    1:10:20 as I’m
    1:10:20 going to
    1:10:21 feel okay
    1:10:21 today
    1:10:22 if I have
    1:10:22 this amount
    1:10:22 in my
    1:10:23 bank account
    1:10:24 it’s
    1:10:25 evaded me
    1:10:27 at all costs
    1:10:27 so it’s just
    1:10:28 really interesting
    1:10:28 like Krista
    1:10:29 said the
    1:10:29 relationship
    1:10:30 with money
    1:10:30 on an
    1:10:30 energetic
    1:10:31 level I
    1:10:31 think is
    1:10:31 important
    1:10:32 but also
    1:10:33 looking at
    1:10:33 where did
    1:10:34 your money
    1:10:34 story come
    1:10:35 from
    1:10:35 you know
    1:10:36 just being
    1:10:36 really
    1:10:36 honest
    1:10:37 about it
    1:10:37 and knowing
    1:10:37 that you
    1:10:38 can rewrite
    1:10:38 it
    1:10:39 right now
    1:10:40 in this
    1:10:40 moment
    1:10:40 you can
    1:10:40 start
    1:10:41 rewriting
    1:10:41 it
    1:10:42 you don’t
    1:10:42 have
    1:10:42 the
    1:10:43 scarlet
    1:10:43 letter
    1:10:44 on you
    1:10:44 for the
    1:10:44 rest
    1:10:44 of your
    1:10:45 life
    1:10:45 you can
    1:10:46 absolutely
    1:10:46 rewrite
    1:10:47 this
    1:10:47 and I
    1:10:47 think
    1:10:48 for me
    1:10:48 it helped
    1:10:49 to understand
    1:10:49 why my
    1:10:49 parents
    1:10:50 had the
    1:10:50 beliefs
    1:10:50 that they
    1:10:50 did
    1:10:51 I
    1:10:51 just
    1:10:51 had
    1:10:51 more
    1:10:52 compassion
    1:10:52 I
    1:10:52 didn’t
    1:10:52 have
    1:10:52 as
    1:10:53 much
    1:10:53 resentment
    1:10:53 towards
    1:10:54 them
    1:10:54 yeah
    1:10:55 so
    1:10:55 yeah
    1:10:55 I
    1:10:56 just
    1:10:56 think
    1:10:56 it’s
    1:10:56 so
    1:10:57 important
    1:10:57 that we
    1:10:57 kind
    1:10:57 of
    1:10:58 detangle
    1:10:58 that
    1:10:58 before
    1:10:58 we
    1:10:59 yeah
    1:10:59 we
    1:10:59 talk
    1:10:59 about
    1:11:00 that
    1:11:00 in the
    1:11:00 book
    1:11:00 because
    1:11:01 I
    1:11:01 mean
    1:11:01 especially
    1:11:01 in your
    1:11:01 late
    1:11:02 20s
    1:11:02 like
    1:11:03 60%
    1:11:03 of
    1:11:04 people
    1:11:04 have
    1:11:04 student
    1:11:04 debt
    1:11:05 you
    1:11:05 start
    1:11:05 to
    1:11:06 make
    1:11:06 more
    1:11:06 money
    1:11:06 in your
    1:11:07 late
    1:11:07 20s
    1:11:07 you’re
    1:11:08 changing
    1:11:08 jobs
    1:11:08 like
    1:11:09 a lot
    1:11:09 of
    1:11:09 people
    1:11:09 are
    1:11:09 getting
    1:11:09 married
    1:11:10 for the
    1:11:10 first
    1:11:10 time
    1:11:10 they’re
    1:11:10 having
    1:11:11 children
    1:11:11 so
    1:11:11 there’s
    1:11:11 so
    1:11:12 many
    1:11:12 different
    1:11:12 financial
    1:11:13 things
    1:11:13 that are
    1:11:14 happening
    1:11:14 to people
    1:11:14 during
    1:11:15 that
    1:11:15 time
    1:11:15 so
    1:11:16 I
    1:11:16 think
    1:11:16 for me
    1:11:17 the rebel
    1:11:17 part
    1:11:17 of me
    1:11:18 is always
    1:11:18 like
    1:11:18 I
    1:11:18 just
    1:11:18 want
    1:11:18 to
    1:11:19 somehow
    1:11:19 take
    1:11:19 the
    1:11:19 power
    1:11:20 back
    1:11:20 from
    1:11:20 the
    1:11:20 system
    1:11:21 and
    1:11:21 figure
    1:11:21 out
    1:11:22 how
    1:11:22 to
    1:11:23 live
    1:11:23 my
    1:11:23 life
    1:11:24 outside
    1:11:24 of it
    1:11:24 live
    1:11:24 my
    1:11:24 life
    1:11:25 freely
    1:11:25 and
    1:11:25 it
    1:11:26 doesn’t
    1:11:26 mean
    1:11:26 I’m
    1:11:26 buying
    1:11:27 a
    1:11:27 yacht
    1:11:27 or
    1:11:27 a
    1:11:27 private
    1:11:28 jet
    1:11:28 it
    1:11:28 means
    1:11:29 I’m
    1:11:29 living
    1:11:30 in a
    1:11:30 way
    1:11:30 that
    1:11:30 feels
    1:11:31 luxurious
    1:11:31 and
    1:11:31 free
    1:11:31 to
    1:11:32 me
    1:11:32 that
    1:11:33 feels
    1:11:33 expansive
    1:11:33 to
    1:11:33 me
    1:11:34 and
    1:11:34 I
    1:11:34 want
    1:11:34 that
    1:11:34 for
    1:11:34 everyone
    1:11:35 like
    1:11:35 we
    1:11:35 all
    1:11:36 humans
    1:11:36 deserve
    1:11:36 that
    1:11:36 and
    1:11:36 the
    1:11:37 more
    1:11:37 we
    1:11:37 can
    1:11:37 break
    1:11:37 outside
    1:11:38 of the
    1:11:38 systems
    1:11:38 that
    1:11:38 we’re
    1:11:39 in
    1:11:39 and
    1:11:39 really
    1:11:40 see
    1:11:40 first of
    1:11:40 our
    1:11:41 inherent
    1:11:41 worth
    1:11:41 for
    1:11:41 money
    1:11:42 then
    1:11:42 money
    1:11:42 comes
    1:11:43 to
    1:11:43 us
    1:11:43 like
    1:11:43 what
    1:11:43 you
    1:11:44 have
    1:11:44 already
    1:11:45 I love
    1:11:45 that
    1:11:46 I love
    1:11:46 your dad
    1:11:47 yeah
    1:11:47 my dad
    1:11:47 was
    1:11:47 awesome
    1:11:48 he’s also
    1:11:48 really
    1:11:49 generous
    1:11:49 so
    1:11:50 taught me
    1:11:51 that too
    1:11:51 like he would
    1:11:52 spend all his
    1:11:52 money just
    1:11:53 sending kids
    1:11:54 to college
    1:11:54 like
    1:11:55 there you go
    1:11:55 you know
    1:11:55 what I mean
    1:11:56 so I got
    1:11:57 both being
    1:11:58 super generous
    1:11:58 and then
    1:11:59 getting the money
    1:12:00 that is so
    1:12:01 beautiful
    1:12:02 how about you
    1:12:02 what is one
    1:12:03 actionable thing
    1:12:04 our young
    1:12:05 and profiters
    1:12:05 can do to
    1:12:06 become more
    1:12:06 profitable
    1:12:07 tomorrow
    1:12:08 oh boy
    1:12:09 I think it’s
    1:12:10 about relationships
    1:12:11 so in terms
    1:12:11 of your
    1:12:12 audience
    1:12:12 your customer
    1:12:13 like how
    1:12:13 can you
    1:12:15 become
    1:12:16 even more
    1:12:16 human
    1:12:17 with them
    1:12:18 even more
    1:12:18 connected
    1:12:19 to them
    1:12:19 and oftentimes
    1:12:20 that means
    1:12:21 vulnerability
    1:12:22 from you
    1:12:23 as the
    1:12:23 founder
    1:12:24 or more
    1:12:24 vulnerability
    1:12:25 in the
    1:12:25 intention
    1:12:26 or the
    1:12:27 process
    1:12:28 in creating
    1:12:28 the product
    1:12:29 it could
    1:12:30 come in
    1:12:30 different
    1:12:30 forms
    1:12:31 but I
    1:12:31 think
    1:12:31 that
    1:12:32 vulnerable
    1:12:32 storytelling
    1:12:34 and that
    1:12:34 honesty
    1:12:35 is something
    1:12:35 that
    1:12:37 differentiates
    1:12:37 you
    1:12:37 and I
    1:12:38 think
    1:12:38 really
    1:12:39 makes
    1:12:39 people
    1:12:40 buy in
    1:12:40 you know
    1:12:41 they want
    1:12:41 to support
    1:12:41 a brand
    1:12:42 or a product
    1:12:43 that has
    1:12:43 a story
    1:12:43 I do
    1:12:44 I just
    1:12:44 think
    1:12:45 in this
    1:12:45 day and age
    1:12:45 there’s so
    1:12:46 many things
    1:12:46 that we
    1:12:46 can buy
    1:12:47 there’s so
    1:12:47 many things
    1:12:48 we can
    1:12:48 invest
    1:12:48 in
    1:12:48 and it’s
    1:12:49 like
    1:12:49 at a
    1:12:50 point
    1:12:50 it just
    1:12:50 kind of
    1:12:51 hurts
    1:12:51 you’re
    1:12:51 just
    1:12:51 like
    1:12:52 okay
    1:12:52 there’s
    1:12:52 just so
    1:12:53 much
    1:12:53 stuff
    1:12:54 but when
    1:12:55 I
    1:12:55 find a
    1:12:59 and so
    1:12:59 moving
    1:13:00 I’m like
    1:13:00 I want
    1:13:01 to support
    1:13:01 that
    1:13:01 let me
    1:13:02 put my
    1:13:02 dollars
    1:13:02 there
    1:13:04 so I
    1:13:04 think
    1:13:04 bringing
    1:13:05 in
    1:13:05 more
    1:13:06 storytelling
    1:13:06 about
    1:13:07 your
    1:13:07 story
    1:13:08 or
    1:13:08 just
    1:13:08 the
    1:13:09 path
    1:13:09 of
    1:13:09 creating
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    1:18:31 this
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    1:18:31 really
    1:18:32 hard
    1:18:32 season
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    1:18:32 always
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    1:18:34 so
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    1:18:41 you’re
    1:18:41 working
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    1:18:41 me
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    1:18:45 think
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    1:18:45 me
    1:18:45 someone
    1:18:45 who
    1:18:46 does
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    1:18:46 a
    1:18:47 lot
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    1:18:53 so
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    1:18:55 me
    1:18:55 yeah
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    1:18:56 like
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    1:18:56 way
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    1:18:58 look
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    1:18:58 we
    1:18:59 think
    1:18:59 of
    1:18:59 and
    1:19:00 honestly
    1:19:00 let’s
    1:19:00 just
    1:19:00 say
    1:19:01 we
    1:19:01 name
    1:19:02 God
    1:19:02 in
    1:19:02 the
    1:19:02 book
    1:19:03 we
    1:19:03 say
    1:19:03 God
    1:19:03 and
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    1:19:04 say
    1:19:04 like
    1:19:06 you
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    1:19:07 it
    1:19:07 but
    1:19:19 I
    1:19:19 reclaimed
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    1:19:20 in a
    1:19:20 way
    1:19:20 that
    1:19:20 feels
    1:19:20 a
    1:19:21 little
    1:19:21 rebellious
    1:19:21 to
    1:19:22 the
    1:19:22 way
    1:19:22 that
    1:19:22 I
    1:19:22 was
    1:19:23 taken
    1:19:23 away
    1:19:23 from
    1:19:23 God
    1:19:24 through
    1:19:24 religion
    1:19:25 yes
    1:19:25 do you
    1:19:25 mean
    1:19:26 like
    1:19:26 when
    1:19:26 people
    1:19:26 say
    1:19:27 source
    1:19:27 energy
    1:19:28 and
    1:19:28 stuff
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    1:19:29 sure
    1:19:30 yeah
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    1:19:31 energy
    1:19:31 works
    1:19:31 whatever
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    1:19:32 people
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    1:19:33 gets
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    1:19:34 for
    1:19:34 me
    1:19:35 I
    1:19:35 just
    1:19:35 felt
    1:19:35 like
    1:19:35 God
    1:19:36 was
    1:19:36 presented
    1:19:36 as
    1:19:37 something
    1:19:37 that
    1:19:38 was
    1:19:38 not
    1:19:38 loving
    1:19:38 and
    1:19:39 was
    1:19:39 not
    1:19:40 the
    1:19:40 way
    1:19:40 that
    1:19:40 I
    1:19:40 wanted
    1:19:41 and
    1:19:41 for
    1:19:41 me
    1:19:41 to
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    1:19:41 like
    1:19:42 actually
    1:19:42 it’s
    1:19:42 not
    1:19:43 that’s
    1:19:43 the
    1:19:43 church
    1:19:43 that’s
    1:19:44 man
    1:19:45 God
    1:19:45 what
    1:19:45 you’re
    1:19:45 talking
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    1:19:46 is
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    1:19:46 what
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    1:19:47 God
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    1:19:50 oh
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    1:19:51 just
    1:19:51 I
    1:19:52 was
    1:19:52 kind
    1:19:52 of
    1:19:52 looking
    1:19:52 at
    1:19:52 it
    1:19:53 through
    1:19:53 this
    1:19:53 religious
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    1:19:55 and you
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    1:19:56 yeah
    1:19:58 how do
    1:19:58 see
    1:19:59 it
    1:20:00 that’s
    1:20:00 how
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    1:20:00 I
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    1:20:01 like
    1:20:01 God
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    1:20:01 really
    1:20:02 loving
    1:20:02 I
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    1:20:02 like
    1:20:02 there
    1:20:03 is
    1:20:03 something
    1:20:04 out
    1:20:04 there
    1:20:05 I
    1:20:05 grew
    1:20:05 up
    1:20:06 Muslim
    1:20:07 so
    1:20:08 and
    1:20:08 but
    1:20:08 I
    1:20:08 don’t
    1:20:08 feel
    1:20:09 like
    1:20:09 aligned
    1:20:10 to
    1:20:10 that
    1:20:10 religion
    1:20:10 but
    1:20:10 I
    1:20:10 think
    1:20:11 it’s
    1:20:11 primarily
    1:20:11 because
    1:20:12 I
    1:20:12 just
    1:20:12 don’t
    1:20:12 really
    1:20:13 understand
    1:20:13 Arabic
    1:20:14 yeah
    1:20:14 I
    1:20:14 didn’t
    1:20:15 understand
    1:20:16 anything
    1:20:16 yeah
    1:20:16 right
    1:20:17 and
    1:20:17 so
    1:20:17 like
    1:20:17 I
    1:20:17 always
    1:20:18 connected
    1:20:18 with
    1:20:19 Christianity
    1:20:19 more
    1:20:19 because
    1:20:19 all my
    1:20:20 boyfriends
    1:20:20 were
    1:20:21 Christian
    1:20:21 and
    1:20:21 I
    1:20:21 go
    1:20:21 to
    1:20:22 church
    1:20:22 and
    1:20:22 understand
    1:20:23 what
    1:20:23 was
    1:20:23 going
    1:20:24 on
    1:20:25 so
    1:20:25 I
    1:20:25 think
    1:20:25 it’s
    1:20:25 just
    1:20:26 more
    1:20:26 of
    1:20:26 like
    1:20:26 because
    1:20:26 it’s
    1:20:27 all
    1:20:27 the
    1:20:27 same
    1:20:27 stories
    1:20:28 it’s
    1:20:28 really
    1:20:29 really
    1:20:29 similar
    1:20:30 so
    1:20:30 I
    1:20:30 think
    1:20:30 it’s
    1:20:30 just
    1:20:31 a
    1:20:31 matter
    1:20:31 of
    1:20:31 feeling
    1:20:32 connected
    1:20:32 just
    1:20:32 because
    1:20:32 I
    1:20:50 I
    1:20:50 I’m
    1:20:50 almost
    1:20:51 Christian
    1:20:51 I
    1:20:52 know
    1:20:52 literally
    1:20:54 literally
    1:20:55 sorry
    1:20:56 mom
    1:20:57 don’t
    1:20:58 be
    1:20:58 mad
    1:20:58 yeah
    1:21:00 this
    1:21:00 is
    1:21:01 so
    1:21:01 fun
    1:21:01 guys
    1:21:01 thank
    1:21:02 you guys
    1:21:02 so much
    1:21:02 for
    1:21:03 joining
    1:21:03 us
    1:21:03 you
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    1:21:03 such
    1:21:03 a
    1:21:04 great
    1:21:04 job
    1:21:04 thank
    1:21:05 you
    1:21:06 bye
    1:21:06 guys
    1:21:06 bye
    1:21:12 well
    1:21:12 yeah
    1:21:12 gang
    1:21:13 we’re
    1:21:13 closing out
    1:21:13 today’s
    1:21:14 episode
    1:21:14 with so
    1:21:14 much
    1:21:15 to
    1:21:15 reflect
    1:21:15 on
    1:21:15 thanks
    1:21:16 to
    1:21:16 Krista
    1:21:16 and
    1:21:17 Lindsay
    1:21:17 we
    1:21:18 talked
    1:21:18 a lot
    1:21:18 about
    1:21:18 that
    1:21:19 special
    1:21:19 kind
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    1:21:24 purpose
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    1:21:31 I
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    1:21:32 my
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    1:21:33 get
    1:21:33 an
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    1:21:34 enter
    1:21:34 the
    1:21:34 corporate
    1:21:34 world
    1:21:35 and
    1:21:35 get
    1:21:35 more
    1:21:35 serious
    1:21:36 about
    1:21:36 achieving
    1:21:36 the
    1:21:37 future
    1:21:37 that
    1:21:37 I
    1:21:37 really
    1:21:38 wanted
    1:21:38 as
    1:21:39 Krista
    1:21:39 pointed
    1:21:39 out
    1:21:40 it’s
    1:21:40 not
    1:21:40 just
    1:21:40 an
    1:21:41 emotional
    1:21:41 shift
    1:21:41 that
    1:21:42 happens
    1:21:42 during
    1:21:42 those
    1:21:42 years
    1:21:43 it’s
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    1:21:44 biological
    1:21:45 it’s
    1:21:45 our
    1:21:45 fully
    1:21:46 developed
    1:21:47 prefrontal
    1:21:47 cortex
    1:21:48 making us
    1:21:48 more strategic
    1:21:49 intentional
    1:21:50 and future
    1:21:50 focused
    1:21:51 but it
    1:21:52 still takes
    1:21:52 a lot
    1:21:52 of courage
    1:21:53 to pivot
    1:21:54 to stop
    1:21:54 waiting to be
    1:21:55 chosen
    1:21:55 and instead
    1:21:56 choose
    1:21:57 yourself
    1:21:58 Lindsay’s
    1:21:58 story about
    1:21:59 leaving acting
    1:22:00 to pursue
    1:22:00 podcasting
    1:22:01 full time
    1:22:02 reminded us
    1:22:02 that the
    1:22:03 most important
    1:22:03 question
    1:22:04 isn’t what
    1:22:04 you do
    1:22:05 but how
    1:22:05 you want
    1:22:06 to feel
    1:22:07 doing it
    1:22:07 for her
    1:22:08 the answer
    1:22:09 was simple
    1:22:09 I wanted
    1:22:10 to create
    1:22:12 striking out
    1:22:12 on your own
    1:22:13 takes time
    1:22:13 though
    1:22:13 and it
    1:22:13 can be
    1:22:14 a rough
    1:22:14 ride
    1:22:15 like Krista
    1:22:15 said
    1:22:16 being an
    1:22:16 entrepreneur
    1:22:17 or running
    1:22:17 a business
    1:22:17 can look
    1:22:18 sexy
    1:22:18 from the
    1:22:19 outside
    1:22:19 but getting
    1:22:20 started
    1:22:21 will probably
    1:22:21 be the
    1:22:21 hardest
    1:22:22 thing
    1:22:22 you ever
    1:22:22 do
    1:22:23 in your
    1:22:23 life
    1:22:24 entrepreneurship
    1:22:25 isn’t
    1:22:25 glamorous
    1:22:25 it’s
    1:22:26 hard
    1:22:26 humbling
    1:22:27 and deeply
    1:22:28 personal
    1:22:28 but when
    1:22:29 your idea
    1:22:29 is rooted
    1:22:30 in purpose
    1:22:30 and your
    1:22:31 why
    1:22:31 when you
    1:22:32 feel that
    1:22:32 something
    1:22:33 is missing
    1:22:33 from the
    1:22:33 world
    1:22:34 and you
    1:22:34 just have
    1:22:35 to create
    1:22:35 it
    1:22:36 that’s
    1:22:36 when you’re
    1:22:38 so whatever
    1:22:38 age you
    1:22:39 are right
    1:22:39 now
    1:22:39 if you’re
    1:22:40 in that
    1:22:40 in-between
    1:22:41 space
    1:22:41 between
    1:22:42 identities
    1:22:43 and careers
    1:22:44 let this
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    1:22:45 you don’t
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    1:22:46 have it
    1:22:46 all figured
    1:22:47 out
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    1:22:48 to listen
    1:22:48 for that
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    1:22:50 and when
    1:22:50 it comes
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    0:00:30 I hope you enjoyed my interview with the father of biohacking, Dave Asprey, earlier
    0:00:30 this week.
    0:00:35 Dave had some great tips on how to get smarter about your workout and self-care routine and
    0:00:38 how you can save time while getting even better results.
    0:00:42 So be sure to listen to that episode if you haven’t already.
    0:00:44 But why stop there?
    0:00:49 If you want more biohacking strategies from the master himself, then stay right where you
    0:00:55 are because in this Yap Classic episode, we are revisiting Dave Asprey’s first time on
    0:01:00 the show back in 2022 in episode 149.
    0:01:06 In this conversation, Dave told me how he became one of the world’s most famous biohackers and
    0:01:10 how he went from hacking the internet to hacking his body.
    0:01:16 He also shared some great diet and energy biohacks, as well as his thoughts on spontaneous meal
    0:01:22 skipping, why women and men fast differently, and why he thinks humans will start to live
    0:01:24 well into their hundreds in the future.
    0:01:28 Dave also turned up to the interview with a blue tongue.
    0:01:33 And of course, it turned out there was a pretty good reason for that, too.
    0:01:34 All right, folks.
    0:01:39 It’s time once again to push the limits of human capability with Dave Asprey.
    0:01:47 We’d like to start off with backgrounds and childhoods and things like that.
    0:01:51 So in your own words, you were a fat kid growing up.
    0:01:54 At one point, you were almost 300 pounds.
    0:01:57 And it turns out you were sick and you didn’t even know it.
    0:02:03 So talk to us about your health journey and how you ended up starting this path on biohacking.
    0:02:10 When I was a kid, I had all the behavioral problems that are common in entrepreneurs, what
    0:02:11 we would now call ADHD.
    0:02:17 But I also had Asperger’s syndrome, which is a neurological condition.
    0:02:19 And it’s on the autism spectrum.
    0:02:23 I don’t present as someone with Asperger’s anymore.
    0:02:26 And I, in fact, don’t likely have it because it is a curable condition.
    0:02:28 It’s related to autoimmunity.
    0:02:30 I was also overweight.
    0:02:34 I had chronic fatigue syndrome, which was diagnosed by a couple of people.
    0:02:41 Fibromyalgia, thyroid problems, lower testosterone than my mom in my 20s in labs.
    0:02:43 High risk of stroke and heart attack before I was 30.
    0:02:46 Arthritis when I was 14.
    0:02:52 So I think I was pretty much, you could say, biologically a shit show as a kid.
    0:02:53 I don’t know if I can say that on here.
    0:02:54 You can beat me out or something.
    0:02:56 But not in a good place.
    0:02:58 That said, I did.
    0:02:59 Let’s see.
    0:03:03 I was at the top of my class in high school, but I was such a jerk that they wouldn’t let
    0:03:04 me be a valedictorian.
    0:03:05 Oh, my God.
    0:03:09 That’s not to say that I was doing that well in high school.
    0:03:11 I was just at a school that wasn’t that competitive.
    0:03:13 Well, that’s really cool.
    0:03:17 I mean, everybody knows you as Bulletproof, Dave Asprey.
    0:03:18 That’s what we know you as.
    0:03:22 But it turns out you had a whole super successful career before all of this.
    0:03:25 You made six million dollars by the time you were 26.
    0:03:27 You had a very successful career.
    0:03:31 And I actually did a bunch of research and found out that you were the first person to
    0:03:34 ever sell anything on the Internet.
    0:03:40 So talk to us about your whole background before being the father of biohacking.
    0:03:47 Yeah, in fact, it seems to make people mad when I talk about that in the early days of
    0:03:48 the Internet.
    0:03:54 I mean, early days before web browsers were created, it was entirely possible to know everything
    0:03:59 on the Internet because it was something called Usenet was where most people communicated and
    0:04:00 you could follow all of the groups.
    0:04:03 And these were kind of like Reddit forums today.
    0:04:05 But imagine if Reddit only had 100 forums.
    0:04:09 OK, you could follow all those if you wanted to spend a good amount of time doing it.
    0:04:12 So I did go out there.
    0:04:19 I had a that was a nine times increase in my tuition at the University of California.
    0:04:24 When I was on Joe Rogan show, I said it was 15 times I had made a math error.
    0:04:26 That was the only error that I had on that show.
    0:04:30 So anyway, I couldn’t pay for it.
    0:04:32 So I’m going to start a business here.
    0:04:33 What can I do?
    0:04:34 Well, I like caffeine.
    0:04:39 So I emailed a caffeine scientist and said, tell me about the caffeine molecule.
    0:04:41 And I’m whatever, 19 or something.
    0:04:44 And he tells me a bunch of stuff.
    0:04:47 So I made a T-shirt that said, caffeine, my drug of choice with a picture of the caffeine
    0:04:47 molecule.
    0:04:51 And I posted to the discussion group where we talked about coffee and said, you guys should
    0:04:52 buy this.
    0:04:56 And then, oh, two weeks later, and I did really well.
    0:04:58 I sold shirts in my first month to 16 countries.
    0:05:00 Okay.
    0:05:04 I’m living in a shared one bedroom apartment that I can barely afford.
    0:05:11 Like not, not the, the, you know, college experience that someone who was having their
    0:05:13 college paid for would have.
    0:05:17 And I’m thinking, okay, now I can maybe make ends meet.
    0:05:18 This is really good.
    0:05:22 And then a Rutgers professor of marketing says no one’s ever going to make money on
    0:05:22 the internet.
    0:05:28 So with a chip on my shoulders and angry mold exposed kid, I wrote back, said, well, you may
    0:05:31 be at an Ivy league school, but I’m already making money on the internet.
    0:05:32 So you’re wrong.
    0:05:32 Ha ha.
    0:05:38 And the next day, the Miami Herald called and they wrote about my little business and
    0:05:42 pretty soon I’m an entrepreneur magazine with a picture of me in a double extra large t-shirt
    0:05:45 talking about how you can make money on this inner something or another.
    0:05:53 Two weeks after that, the first spam came out and I apologize because the people who did
    0:05:54 that read the article about me.
    0:05:58 And in the article, I warned against marketing on the internet if you weren’t a part of the
    0:05:58 community.
    0:06:01 And so the first spammers on earth were attorneys.
    0:06:02 Their names were Cantor and Siegel.
    0:06:05 And if you look back on the history of the internet, that’s how it was.
    0:06:06 So yeah, I was there.
    0:06:07 I did it.
    0:06:10 And I did it one day before the guys who currently run wine.com did it.
    0:06:16 But at the time it was literally checks in the mail, t-shirts sent back, trying to make
    0:06:18 ends meet and also scooping ice cream at Baskin Robbins.
    0:06:20 I was just being scrappy.
    0:06:22 It seemed obvious to me.
    0:06:27 And this is why young entrepreneurs totally kick ass because you don’t even know how cool
    0:06:28 what you’re doing is until you look back on it.
    0:06:32 Because you don’t have the life experience to go, oh my God, it’s totally transformative.
    0:06:35 By the time you can tell it’s transformative, you’re probably too late.
    0:06:36 Yeah.
    0:06:37 Oh my gosh.
    0:06:38 What a cool story.
    0:06:43 And so probably so many people tuning in had no idea that you were the first one to sell
    0:06:44 anything on the internet.
    0:06:49 So you had this computer science background and you also had a love of coffee pretty early,
    0:06:53 which is kind of funny looking at your career now and the fact that you’ve created
    0:06:58 bulletproof coffee so many years later and it’s all started with caffeine t-shirts.
    0:07:04 It’s kind of, do you ever look back at that and think like, wow, like I was onto it already
    0:07:05 like since back then?
    0:07:09 Well, they always like to say, follow your passion.
    0:07:13 And it’s kind of true, but here’s the thing.
    0:07:17 My passion really was, I want to change the world to make it better.
    0:07:19 And coffee is a way to do that.
    0:07:25 Your day is measurably better if you have coffee in the morning, if you’re like 90% of people.
    0:07:29 So if you’re the other 10%, I’m sorry, you have bad genetics and you shouldn’t reproduce.
    0:07:30 Okay.
    0:07:30 Just kidding.
    0:07:34 But there are 10% of people who don’t tolerate coffee, but okay.
    0:07:37 That’s one way eating quality food makes the world a better place.
    0:07:42 But at the time, having a digital nervous system for the planet, so we could have the conversation
    0:07:42 we’re having right now.
    0:07:46 I worked on the network engineering and protocols that do this.
    0:07:52 When Google was two guys and two computers, the company that I helped to co-found a part
    0:07:55 of this company that held their servers and designed architecture for many of the biggest
    0:07:56 brands out there.
    0:08:01 when it was the Facebook, that mattered because we were building a way for all of us to connect
    0:08:03 so that you and I could have this conversation.
    0:08:08 Because if you go back 25 years, there was no way for us to know about each other, much
    0:08:09 less to meet each other and have a conversation.
    0:08:12 So the world has become much better because of that.
    0:08:17 And in the last two years, now that we’ve turned on government censorship, it’s become
    0:08:19 actually maybe worse because of it.
    0:08:21 So we’ve got to fix that, but that’s a short-term blip.
    0:08:22 Yeah.
    0:08:25 So let’s go back to, you said you got into Entrepreneur Magazine.
    0:08:31 I think I read that you were 297 pounds when you were in that magazine.
    0:08:35 So what made you decide like, you know what, I’ve had it with computer science.
    0:08:40 I want to kind of take what I learned with computer science and apply it to my body now
    0:08:42 because I’m almost 300 pounds.
    0:08:45 Well, I’m going to make a bunch of people mad now too.
    0:08:49 I got tired of studying computer science because here I was, I had a webpage.
    0:08:55 I had started a business online and all of computer science was how do you do esoteric math
    0:08:56 on large computers?
    0:09:00 Like this isn’t how, this doesn’t match my view of where the world’s going.
    0:09:04 So I dropped out and I got a degree instead in something called information systems, which
    0:09:06 is how do you solve problems?
    0:09:09 And my concentration was in a form of artificial intelligence there.
    0:09:11 How do I make a business work better?
    0:09:17 How do I solve a problem using computers instead of how do I do science stuff in a lab somewhere?
    0:09:22 And a lot of computer science still to this day is very esoteric and theory-based versus
    0:09:23 let’s go out there and change something.
    0:09:29 And as an entrepreneur-minded person, it hurts to not make things better.
    0:09:32 And so that was why I went out.
    0:09:37 But then I got to Silicon Valley and by the time I was 26, I did make 6 million bucks.
    0:09:38 I lost it when I was 28.
    0:09:40 It’s an important part of the journey.
    0:09:44 This is about having a good mentorship, good advice and being willing to take it.
    0:09:49 But that whole path, I said, okay, I’m going to lose the weight.
    0:09:54 I’ll just work out hour and a half a day, six days a week, go on a low fat, low calorie diet.
    0:09:55 I will use my willpower.
    0:10:01 And after 18 months of that, what I found was I could max out all but two of the machines
    0:10:01 at the gym.
    0:10:03 I still had a 46 inch waist.
    0:10:05 I still weighed 300 pounds and now I was tired.
    0:10:09 So it didn’t work.
    0:10:15 And it was sitting down at Carl’s Jr. with some friends.
    0:10:19 And I thought to myself, wait a minute, I’m having the chicken salad with no dressing and
    0:10:21 no chicken, right?
    0:10:23 Because I’m the lowest calorie, low fat thing.
    0:10:25 My friends are eating double Western bacon cheeseburgers.
    0:10:28 I work out more than all my friends combined and I’m the fat one.
    0:10:33 And I thought, it isn’t that I’m doing something wrong.
    0:10:34 I used to think it was a moral failing.
    0:10:35 It was a weakness.
    0:10:37 It was that I needed to eat less lettuce.
    0:10:39 No, what I was doing wasn’t working.
    0:10:40 And I just said, wait a minute.
    0:10:45 I just studied how to manage a complex system where you don’t know what’s going on.
    0:10:46 Because that’s what the internet is.
    0:10:50 I teach classes at the University of California on how to do this and I can’t do it to myself.
    0:10:53 My doctor, when I went in, said something’s not right.
    0:10:55 So maybe you should try to lose weight.
    0:10:56 I’m like, no, really?
    0:10:57 You think so?
    0:10:58 Tell me how.
    0:10:58 Eat healthy.
    0:11:01 And I just fired the doctor.
    0:11:03 I literally said, you’re fired.
    0:11:05 When he didn’t know some very basic info about nutrition.
    0:11:08 And I went off and said, I’m going to do it myself.
    0:11:18 And so every night after I’d finish the building cloud computing phase of my career, I would go home and I would study biology because I didn’t want to die and I was tired of feeling like crap.
    0:11:20 So it was enlightened self-interest.
    0:11:25 I started learning from people three times my age who ran an anti-aging nonprofit group who had more energy than I did.
    0:11:26 And I hacked it.
    0:11:35 And then I said, okay, I’m a VP at a publicly traded computer security company in charge of cloud security.
    0:11:37 So I have some credibility in that space.
    0:11:41 And I started blogging.
    0:11:50 I said, you know, five people are going to read my blog, but it’s going to prevent them from spending hundreds of thousands of dollars on recovering their health.
    0:11:55 And I’m performing better than I ever have, better than I ever thought was possible, even when I was younger.
    0:12:02 And so if five people avoid my pain, avoid all the money that I spent, I have done a solid for the world and I’m okay with that.
    0:12:04 I wasn’t starting a company.
    0:12:08 I was sharing hard earned knowledge through suffering.
    0:12:12 And it turns out more than five people liked what I had to say.
    0:12:16 And pretty soon I said, I want to make coffee that doesn’t make me crash.
    0:12:18 So I said, this will be my first product.
    0:12:21 The market size for functional coffee was zero.
    0:12:23 It’s a multiple hundred million dollar product.
    0:12:25 I said, I want a protein powder that works.
    0:12:30 I’m going to do the research and the work around collagen.
    0:12:32 Today, collagen is a billion dollar category.
    0:12:32 It was not.
    0:12:36 And I said, hmm, MCT oil from the anti-aging world.
    0:12:38 It’s an unknown thing.
    0:12:40 It’s now a billion dollar category.
    0:12:51 So what I started as a blog to help people not go through what I went through with all the brain fog and obesity and arthritis and just acting like a jerk because you have enough energy to be nice.
    0:12:55 Well, I wrote it not for heavy people.
    0:12:56 I wrote it for entrepreneurs.
    0:13:03 I wrote it for tech people because we are the ones who put the most mental energy and I don’t care if I have dad bod.
    0:13:04 Okay.
    0:13:04 I’m married.
    0:13:05 I have kids.
    0:13:07 I care about building companies.
    0:13:09 I care about leading teams.
    0:13:10 I care about innovating and creating.
    0:13:12 And that requires energy.
    0:13:17 And it turns out I grew abs as a side effect, not as the goal.
    0:13:23 You can build abs and feel like crap or you can build energy and abs grow.
    0:13:28 And I wanted to teach that to my people, which were the geeks pretty soon.
    0:13:29 Go ahead.
    0:13:31 I’m just going to say I love that.
    0:13:32 I just love the story.
    0:13:33 You go ahead.
    0:13:37 Pretty soon, though, it wasn’t just entrepreneurs in Silicon Valley.
    0:13:39 It was Wall Street where it took off next.
    0:13:40 Let’s see.
    0:13:43 These people are working 16, 18 hour days.
    0:13:44 They never get a break.
    0:13:46 They need their brains to work all the time.
    0:13:55 My seed capital for what became Bulletproof was actually an investment bank hiring me to fly around the world to meet with hedge fund managers to teach them how to be smarter.
    0:13:58 And I did this so they could walk into the room with me.
    0:14:06 So their salespeople could come in because the hedge fund managers wouldn’t take a meeting with a banker, but they would take a meeting with a brain hacker and a banker walking in with them.
    0:14:10 So I was the booth babe, for lack of a better word, for hedge fund managers.
    0:14:15 I took the money from that and I used it to buy my first round of coffee and to hire the first members of my team.
    0:14:17 So that’s how it got started.
    0:14:22 And I started until I could replace my salary from a publicly traded company.
    0:14:25 I worked as a VP and I grew Bulletproof.
    0:14:28 That is such an amazing story.
    0:14:41 And it’s so cool how just having good intentions will almost always when you’re starting a business or starting something, having good intentions and just wanting to help people, eventually the money will come find you.
    0:14:51 You know, you just wanted to put that information out there to the world and it all worked out because you were doing a service to others and having pure intentions with it.
    0:14:53 I find that a lot with all the people that I talk with.
    0:14:56 It’s cool that you mentioned that.
    0:15:01 When I was young, it was like, look, I’ll do anything for money because money is going to make me happy.
    0:15:05 And I really believe that and it motivated a lot of my decisions.
    0:15:11 What taught me that the two biggest lessons in my career, it was like money and fame are what people want.
    0:15:13 We’re told that that will make us happy since we’re young.
    0:15:13 Okay.
    0:15:16 So here I am, I’m 22, 23, whatever.
    0:15:19 I’m in Entrepreneur Magazine, like full color photo.
    0:15:20 Right.
    0:15:24 And I got some phone calls and some emails from people.
    0:15:28 And then two weeks later, okay, that was cool, but it didn’t make me happy.
    0:15:29 And I was like, what the heck?
    0:15:30 I’m famous.
    0:15:31 I should be happy.
    0:15:32 I was happy for 10 minutes.
    0:15:33 Right.
    0:15:37 And then I said, okay, a little while our money.
    0:15:38 So I made a ton of money.
    0:15:45 $6 million in late 1990s dollars is $18 million in today dollars because of inflation driven by the government.
    0:15:48 So it should be enough, right?
    0:15:56 I looked at a friend who all of us at this company, I mean, this was, let’s see, our market cap hit $36 billion.
    0:15:58 We split three times on one year NASDAQ.
    0:16:03 This is one of the most phenomenal companies that helped to build the first wave of internet companies.
    0:16:06 It’s called Exodus Communications for people who were around back then.
    0:16:14 And I looked at a friend and I said, I’ll be happy when I have $10 million because $6 million wasn’t enough.
    0:16:20 And if you are motivated by money, you will probably act like a jerk and you will never be happy.
    0:16:23 And you will have what the Buddhists call hungry ghost syndrome.
    0:16:27 And in the hungry ghost realm of hell, it’s one of the many levels of hell Buddhists talk about.
    0:16:34 This is where no matter what you eat, you’re constantly hungry and you walk around with a distended belly and you can never be satisfied.
    0:16:41 So if, when I finally figured out, I’m going to start this thing as a, it’s just a blog.
    0:16:42 I just want to share things.
    0:16:44 It makes me feel good to help people.
    0:16:48 I didn’t understand that flow states come from service to others because we didn’t have the science for that.
    0:16:58 So all of a sudden I’m motivated to stay up late and write these blog posts and to share this knowledge and to start a podcast before podcasts were really much of a thing.
    0:17:03 I’ve been blessed to be, I don’t know if it’s genetic or something, but I’m a futurist.
    0:17:07 I can see what’s coming and like podcasts.
    0:17:09 Yeah, that’s going to be, it’s going to be a big thing.
    0:17:14 And it’s why I was successful in tech as well, because I could say, I could tell the direction of it.
    0:17:16 And if some people are good at telling the weather, that’s what I do.
    0:17:17 I tell the future.
    0:17:22 And so for, for this, this just seemed like it mattered.
    0:17:23 Yeah.
    0:17:26 And I wanted to do it for no financial motivation whatsoever.
    0:17:30 I just didn’t want anyone to suffer the way I had no other motivation.
    0:17:32 And now it’s made me pretty successful.
    0:17:34 That’s super powerful.
    0:17:40 So speaking of being a futurist, you think that people are going to start living a lot longer.
    0:17:45 And you say that you think you’re going to live to 180 years old.
    0:17:47 Now, the average human.
    0:17:47 Hold on a second here.
    0:17:48 You’re trying to cut me short.
    0:17:50 It’s at least 180.
    0:17:52 Oh, at least 180.
    0:17:52 That’s not the ceiling.
    0:17:53 That’s the floor.
    0:17:54 That’s the floor.
    0:17:55 Oh, okay.
    0:17:56 I didn’t realize that.
    0:17:59 So you think you’re going to live to at least 180 years old.
    0:18:00 I believe you.
    0:18:04 I mean, I know that you’ve spent hundreds of thousands of dollars biohacking your body
    0:18:06 and we can get into that later.
    0:18:13 So I definitely believe you on this because humans are, you know, living to be older and
    0:18:15 hopefully we figure out the science to do this.
    0:18:19 But talk to us about why you think this is even possible, because a lot of people are hearing
    0:18:24 that and, you know, the average lifespan is 80 years old and we’re tacking on 100 years
    0:18:24 to that.
    0:18:27 Why is that even possible in your opinion?
    0:18:29 Here’s why it’s possible.
    0:18:33 Do you know what the best we can do today is?
    0:18:37 120 or something like that.
    0:18:37 There you go.
    0:18:39 It’s about 120, 122 maybe.
    0:18:41 So our current best is 120.
    0:18:47 If you were 120 years old today, you were born around 1901.
    0:18:49 We didn’t have airplanes.
    0:18:53 World War I would be fought largely on horseback.
    0:18:56 We didn’t have DNA because we couldn’t spell it.
    0:18:56 Actually, we had it.
    0:18:57 We just didn’t know about it.
    0:18:59 We had no antibiotics.
    0:19:05 We didn’t have public sanitation and you still live to 120.
    0:19:08 So if that’s possible and you probably drank and smoked every day too.
    0:19:11 Okay.
    0:19:20 If you can do that, why can’t we do 50% better than our current best in the next hundred years?
    0:19:21 Okay.
    0:19:25 Because the next hundred years is going to be way different than the last hundred years.
    0:19:30 Because the last hundred years, we did not have computers to make ourselves faster and better.
    0:19:34 What we’re doing now is every 18 months, we double our compute capacity.
    0:19:35 That’s Moore’s law.
    0:19:38 And it’s held strong for ridiculous amounts of time.
    0:19:46 What that means is that you and I are going to live longer because we have the technology to talk about living longer that we didn’t have before.
    0:19:56 And my company, 40 years of Zen, that does neuroscience brain upgrades, has the ability to do machine learning on your brain waves.
    0:20:09 One of the companies I am an investor and advisor to, Viome, just discovered 10,000 new species of gut bacteria that didn’t exist, that live in humans, that we didn’t know about.
    0:20:12 And it’s 2020, whatever it is today, right?
    0:20:14 That is phenomenal.
    0:20:25 So given all of that, if a comet doesn’t hit the planet, it is inevitable that we will improve only 50% on our current best in the next hundred years.
    0:20:26 In fact, we’ll do way better than that.
    0:20:35 My job is to explain and make it real so that everyone knows this is possible and it is coming.
    0:20:37 And so it becomes our expectation.
    0:20:43 The same thing happened if you go back to when the Wright brothers were about to fly.
    0:20:47 They’re working on flying machines and everyone looks around and goes, those idiots.
    0:20:48 Who do they think they are?
    0:20:50 Don’t they know man will never fly?
    0:20:53 Literally, they were saying that a week before it happened.
    0:20:55 And then all of a sudden it happens.
    0:20:57 And then, oh, yeah, of course we can do that.
    0:20:58 It’s always been that way.
    0:21:07 So every great change that is brought about, usually by entrepreneurs or entrepreneurs in combination with crazy inventors, when they pair up, it’s very powerful.
    0:21:12 And when that happens, magically, suddenly it’s obvious.
    0:21:15 And we’re at that stage right now with anti-aging.
    0:21:26 When I started this, I was the only person under 30 attending a meeting, a nonprofit that was based next door to Stanford University called the Silicon Valley Health Institute.
    0:21:27 I ended up becoming chairman.
    0:21:31 I’m learning from an 88-year-old and I’m 26.
    0:21:33 And he had more energy than I did at the time.
    0:21:34 Okay.
    0:21:35 What?
    0:21:38 These guys were considered truly crazy.
    0:21:40 And so did the people who talked about smart drugs.
    0:21:42 Where we are now with nootropics.
    0:21:44 Nootropics are a thing and people know that they work.
    0:21:46 And I played a hand at that as well.
    0:21:51 I went on Nightline and said, guys, I’ve took a smart drug called modafinil for eight years, which is the limitless drug.
    0:21:53 And it got me through Wharton Business School.
    0:21:55 And I don’t regret it one bit.
    0:21:56 It was a beautiful thing.
    0:21:59 I don’t need it anymore because my brain’s that fast without it.
    0:22:02 By the way, have you noticed?
    0:22:05 Yeah, your tongue is blue.
    0:22:06 What’s that about?
    0:22:08 I kissed a smurf.
    0:22:15 I use a compound called methylene blue, which I’ve written about in a couple of my books that enhances mitochondrial function.
    0:22:16 It’s a nootropic.
    0:22:18 It’s just one that makes your tongue blue.
    0:22:24 Well, it’s super interesting, you know, what you’re saying about how long we’ll live.
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    0:27:27 Do you think that there’s a max limit to the human lifespan?
    0:27:33 Like, what do you, I just want to, like, pick your brain about the future of what humans will look like, in your opinion.
    0:27:38 There is a maximum life, absolutely.
    0:27:39 Actually, there’s two of them.
    0:27:43 The longest one is the universe, as we understand it, will collapse in on itself.
    0:27:44 Okay?
    0:27:48 There’s probably going to be a hard limit that’s based on physics and stuff like that.
    0:27:49 I’m less worried about that.
    0:27:53 The real limit to human lifespan is curiosity.
    0:28:04 As long as you have a reason to live, to be of service to others, to be curious about things, to be constantly learning, and walking around with that childlike curiosity going, I wonder why that works.
    0:28:05 How is it that way?
    0:28:06 How can I make that better?
    0:28:16 However, if you have the biology, so that when you’re old, you look and feel like you do now, we’re not talking about the skin so thin you can see through it with tubes and monitors and diapers and not knowing your own name.
    0:28:17 People think that’s aging.
    0:28:19 That is an aberration.
    0:28:24 It has never existed in all of human history, except for in the last maybe 40, 50 years, and it’s sick and wrong.
    0:28:41 So we are on the path of returning to having our village elders, the keepers of the knowledge, and returning them to what is right, which is a level of respect and veneration for our elders, because they will keep us from making mistakes.
    0:28:42 And here’s why this matters.
    0:28:50 You look back to when I made that $6 million, or even better yet, when I sold that first T-shirt online.
    0:28:57 Now, I was exactly the same age as Mark Andreessen, who’s a really famous investor, multi-multi-billionaire.
    0:28:59 Now, Mark created the first web browser.
    0:29:01 I did the first e-commerce.
    0:29:04 Very similar, about as similar as you can.
    0:29:09 In fact, I wrote an article as a journalist about his first web browser.
    0:29:10 So we’re in the same thing.
    0:29:12 He flew to Silicon Valley.
    0:29:13 I would have had to drive.
    0:29:15 I was 80 miles from Silicon Valley.
    0:29:20 But he flew to Silicon Valley, and he found a guy, 20 years older, who ran one of the large tech companies and said,
    0:29:21 Teach me.
    0:29:22 And he did.
    0:29:24 What did I do?
    0:29:26 I said, I’ll do it all myself.
    0:29:27 I knew everything.
    0:29:28 Right?
    0:29:29 I had a big ego.
    0:29:30 Right?
    0:29:32 So I did not do that.
    0:29:36 And at this point, Mark’s a multi-billionaire, and I’m not.
    0:29:36 Okay?
    0:29:37 I’m okay with that.
    0:29:38 I’m doing quite well.
    0:29:39 Thank you very much.
    0:29:50 But it took me another 10 or 15 years to figure out the value of mentorship and to basically get control of my ego so that I could listen to and learn from others so I didn’t have to make all the mistakes myself.
    0:29:53 And that’s a really, really big thing.
    0:29:54 We can do that with aging.
    0:29:56 We can do that with everything.
    0:29:59 But it comes down to curiosity and willingness to learn.
    0:30:01 And we’ve just got to get that.
    0:30:02 That’s what keeps you young.
    0:30:13 So once you’re bored, even if you have the biology, the real goal of anti-aging, you should die at a time and by a method of your choice.
    0:30:15 When you’re done, you’re done.
    0:30:17 That is so interesting.
    0:30:19 And it’s so important.
    0:30:21 I definitely want to drive this point home.
    0:30:26 There’s like 13 million people by, I think, 2050 are going to have Alzheimer’s.
    0:30:30 And I think the rate of Alzheimer’s is at an all-time high.
    0:30:30 It keeps increasing.
    0:30:32 And there’s so much dementia going on.
    0:30:41 And like you said, when we think of older people, we think of children now instead of these wise people where we should be getting information from.
    0:30:51 And it’s so important that as we all grow older, that people actually have the mental capacity to tell the knowledge to everybody else so that we can learn from those people.
    0:30:55 I love it that you brought up Alzheimer’s.
    0:31:03 My book, Headstrong, was on the New York Times monthly science bestseller list sandwiched between Homo Deuce and Sapiens, two of my other favorite books.
    0:31:05 I’m like, oh, I finally made the big list.
    0:31:06 I look at me.
    0:31:06 I’m a big deal.
    0:31:11 But I was just sort of in awe going, oh, my God, I can’t believe that.
    0:31:12 I wasn’t expecting it.
    0:31:16 But that book is largely based on research around Alzheimer’s.
    0:31:20 And I’ve had Dale Bredesen on my podcast who wrote The End of Alzheimer’s.
    0:31:25 And I was a couple years ago the largest donor to the women’s Alzheimer’s movement, which is Maria Shriver’s charity.
    0:31:27 She’s been on my show as well.
    0:31:30 Women get Alzheimer’s twice as much as men do.
    0:31:32 And we don’t talk about that nearly as much as we should.
    0:31:35 Alzheimer’s is preventable and avoidable.
    0:31:37 It’s not even that hard, given what we know now.
    0:31:40 But reversing it is a little bit more work.
    0:31:42 And if you’re a late stage, it might not be reversible.
    0:31:55 But if you and your mind today listening to this are saying, oh, it’s inevitable that I’m going to get cancer, cardiovascular disease, diabetes, and Alzheimer’s, which are the big four killers that you have to avoid to live a long time, you’re totally wrong.
    0:31:56 These are metabolic diseases.
    0:31:58 You can fix your metabolism.
    0:32:02 In fact, my newest startup, the one where I’m CEO and fully focused now is called Upgrade Labs.
    0:32:13 And we’re opening franchise locations across the US and Canada to start and soon the world where you can come in and fix your metabolism in less time than you currently spend going to the gym.
    0:32:24 So you get your cardio, get your strength, get your neurofeedback, and fix your metabolism because we know how, because of machine learning, because of artificial intelligence, because of tech.
    0:32:26 So you can do better than cavemen did.
    0:32:31 And this is all necessary if you don’t want to go down that path of slow degradation.
    0:32:33 That is not natural.
    0:32:34 Yeah.
    0:32:37 I’m so happy that you’re working on all this kind of stuff.
    0:32:39 It’s really important that you’re doing this kind of work.
    0:32:43 So a couple last questions before we move on to fast this way.
    0:32:47 You’re currently, I believe, 49 years old.
    0:32:49 I’d love to know.
    0:32:49 48.
    0:32:50 Here’s the deal.
    0:32:51 Okay.
    0:32:55 It is ageist to talk about someone’s age, right?
    0:33:07 So if I am allowed to specify the gender I identify as, and I’m allowed to choose the race I identify as, I’ll be damned if I’m not allowed to choose the age I identify as.
    0:33:08 I’m 28% right now.
    0:33:13 I’m 28% of my goal, so I’m not 49, I’m not 48, so I’m 28%.
    0:33:19 And everyone listening, get this, pick a number, that’s your goal, you are the percentage of that.
    0:33:23 And if you believe in this whole, oh, identify with the calendar, no, screw the calendar, the calendar’s wrong.
    0:33:27 If you measure my biology, I am measurably younger than my number of years.
    0:33:28 So that’s what I identify as.
    0:33:30 That’s exactly what I was going to ask you.
    0:33:32 And by the way, I totally agree.
    0:33:34 I look way younger than I am.
    0:33:35 Are you like 24?
    0:33:37 No, I’m not.
    0:33:41 I’m in my early 30s and nobody believes, and like I look way younger.
    0:33:41 It’s awesome.
    0:33:45 And so I hate when people ask me because I’m like, no, I worked out my whole life.
    0:33:50 I eat healthy and yeah, I look younger and I’m not, I don’t feel my age.
    0:33:54 And so I totally, I love that, like saying a percentage of your goal.
    0:33:58 So how, what are you biologically and how do you figure that out?
    0:34:02 And the second part of the question is how much money have you spent on this?
    0:34:05 And what are the types of things that you do to reverse your aging?
    0:34:07 All right.
    0:34:12 Well, it depends on which, which measure of age you want to look at.
    0:34:16 And right now there isn’t one accepted thing.
    0:34:18 I just did a big show on this.
    0:34:22 And one of the, the probably more trustworthy tests is called true age.
    0:34:30 And this is one that looks at the, the types of sugar molecules that line your cells.
    0:34:32 And it looks at DNA methylation.
    0:34:35 Like actually those are two different methods of looking at aging.
    0:34:41 So you look at those things and I am between five and eight years younger than my biological
    0:34:41 age right now.
    0:34:46 And when I get the new tests, I would not be surprised if now it’s going to be about 12
    0:34:51 years because I just did some more interventions that are lengthening telomeres, but telomere length,
    0:34:56 which is the old way of measuring aging probably isn’t as accurate as we hoped it would be.
    0:34:59 So there’s all sorts of discussions about it.
    0:35:04 But the number one thing is, do you wake up and you have more energy than you did 20 years ago?
    0:35:07 That’s a pretty good sign that something’s working, right?
    0:35:08 And do you wake up and your body hurts?
    0:35:10 That’s a sign something’s not working.
    0:35:15 So like, like you, you have an unfair advantage.
    0:35:18 See, I started out with bad genetics and bad lifestyle that I thought was a good lifestyle.
    0:35:20 And I recovered from all that.
    0:35:24 You are preventing the damage in the first place because you’re in your thirties.
    0:35:27 And we know more now than we did when I was in my thirties.
    0:35:29 And you actually took action early in your life.
    0:35:30 Most people are like, are you kidding?
    0:35:32 Here’s what I care about in my twenties.
    0:35:37 I care about having enough money to make sure that I get laid.
    0:35:42 Sorry, human development, all personal development right there.
    0:35:49 People care about power and they care about reproduction, not because we choose to, because our biology does that for us when we’re not paying attention.
    0:35:52 And then we’re like, oh, why did I go on the date instead of the job interview?
    0:35:55 You just blame yourself when you think you’re a bad person.
    0:35:57 No, it’s because your biology told you to do that.
    0:35:59 And your biology is in charge more than we like to think.
    0:36:02 And this is the struggle of personal development.
    0:36:10 So whatever you did, whatever your parents did that made you wise enough to take care of your hardware means that your rate of aging is going to be flat.
    0:36:16 Whereas someone who says, I’m just going to go party and drink way more than I should and eat ramen all the time because it’s cheap.
    0:36:18 Their rate of aging is going to be really steep.
    0:36:20 They just don’t feel it until they’re 35.
    0:36:22 So kudos to you.
    0:36:27 And I want everyone to not do what I did when I was 16 because I just didn’t do it right.
    0:36:27 Yeah.
    0:36:30 Well, this has been so interesting.
    0:36:34 I would love to move on to your book fast this way because there’s so much.
    0:36:37 Before we get there, I didn’t answer your last question.
    0:36:38 You wonder how much I spent.
    0:36:39 How much you spent.
    0:36:39 Yes.
    0:36:43 How much you spent and what are the types of things that you’re spending your money on?
    0:36:51 So I have spent at this point around $2 million on anti-aging on upgrading my biology.
    0:36:56 Part of that, I built a lab here at my house that has all of the gear that is now a part of Upgrade Labs.
    0:37:03 So when you’re able to go to an Upgrade Labs or if you open an Upgrade Labs franchise in your neighborhood, a lot of the gear there, well, I bought all that gear.
    0:37:13 And I’ve spent God knows how much on lab testing, on traveling around the world and trying all of the anti-aging technologies that billionaires are doing right now.
    0:37:19 And that was the subject of Superhuman, which is my big anti-aging book that tells you all of the stuff that you can do now, including the free stuff.
    0:37:25 So the problem is that when you’re young, you’re not going to spend $100,000 on a stem cell treatment.
    0:37:29 It doesn’t even make sense because you don’t need to because you have young stem cells, right?
    0:37:31 So that’s part of it.
    0:37:35 But there are things you can do now that we know what’s making you older.
    0:37:44 The things you can do that are free, that give you the advantages so you can hold off on spending lots more money as you age in order to not age.
    0:37:52 So the biggest one you can do that has the highest ROI is intermittent fasting, which is my latest book.
    0:37:54 Love it.
    0:37:56 So why don’t, well, let me ask you one other thing.
    0:37:59 What is, so you spent $2 million.
    0:38:03 What would you say is the most effective thing that you’ve done so far?
    0:38:06 Wow.
    0:38:13 It’s sort of like, okay, you have a car and you want to keep your car running for a long time.
    0:38:18 So what was more important, changing the oil or rotating the tires?
    0:38:20 They’re probably both important.
    0:38:25 Like if you don’t rotate the tires, you’re going to have a blowout and flip the car and that’s no good, right?
    0:38:28 But if you don’t change the oil, the engine is going to wear out before it’s time.
    0:38:28 So which one was more important?
    0:38:37 It’s really hard for me to say that, but I will tell you that having a healthy metabolism that makes energy very effectively from air plus food.
    0:38:48 If you can hack that system, everything else, including your cognition, your meditation, your personal development, your rate of aging, your DNA methylation, all of it will be better.
    0:38:52 So fixing your metabolism would be the number one thing.
    0:38:55 And of all the things I’ve done, which fixed it a lot.
    0:38:56 The supplements are important.
    0:39:00 You absolutely need to be taking supplements.
    0:39:01 The reason is straightforward.
    0:39:08 You’ll never get all of your nutrients from food because that presupposes you get all of your toxins from mother nature.
    0:39:11 You live in a world that is not the natural world.
    0:39:14 You need to support the systems in your body for the world you live in.
    0:39:15 That’s why you use supplements.
    0:39:22 The other thing is intermittent fasting, brief periods of exercise, not over-exercising, is also very important.
    0:39:26 And so those are some of the very basic cheap things.
    0:39:28 And frankly, sleeping, learning how to sleep.
    0:39:32 When I was a young entrepreneur, like sleep, why would I do that?
    0:39:34 I could learn instead of sleep.
    0:39:38 So I would sleep five hours a night sometimes because I had work, because I had things to do.
    0:39:40 The ROI on sleep is very high.
    0:39:52 But a new study came out literally two days before we recorded this that showed sleeping more than six and a half hours a night is related to negative changes neurologically.
    0:40:01 The correct amount of time for high-performance, healthy people who are not under undue stress is about six and a half hours a night.
    0:40:15 I went from five minutes of deep sleep and five minutes of REM sleep in a six and a half hour period 15 years ago to getting an hour and a half to two hours of deep sleep and an hour and a half to two hours of REM sleep.
    0:40:19 That is more sleep than a 20-year-old gets in eight hours.
    0:40:25 I’m getting as a 48-year-old who identifies as a 28-year-old in six and a half hours.
    0:40:28 So less sleep, but more quality.
    0:40:31 That in and of itself is your biggest anti-aging strategy right now.
    0:40:33 So learn how to sleep and learn how to skip breakfast.
    0:40:38 Those two things are going to buy you 20 years, even if you don’t spend any money on it.
    0:40:39 Okay.
    0:40:46 Well, this is a great segue into your new book that came out last January called Fast This Way.
    0:40:52 So I thought the best way to kick this off is to get your definition of fasting because it’s not only about food.
    0:40:56 Fasting means to go without.
    0:40:57 That’s it.
    0:41:01 And people say, well, fasting means you can have no calories.
    0:41:02 You can only have water.
    0:41:05 Because that’s what mice did in a study.
    0:41:09 I’m like, well, I hate to tell you there’s something called dry fasting.
    0:41:12 That’s when you fast without water too.
    0:41:15 So which is the real fasting, right?
    0:41:19 Well, there is no real definition other than the one I just gave, which is to go without.
    0:41:20 You can fast from alcohol.
    0:41:21 It’s called abstaining.
    0:41:22 You can fast from sex.
    0:41:26 It’s called chastity or celibacy, whatever you want to call it.
    0:41:31 And you can fast from hate, which is called compassion meditation.
    0:41:33 It’s called forgiveness.
    0:41:39 All of those are practices of fasting, saying I am not going to do X for some period of time.
    0:41:45 And it turns out when fasting from food, it’s not even fasting from calories.
    0:41:51 It’s fasting from specific types of calories that cause metabolic changes you don’t want.
    0:41:59 So I wrote the first book, which is about fasting for performance, a working fast versus fasting for a spiritual fast.
    0:42:03 And I fasted in a cave for four days led by a shaman who was remote from me.
    0:42:08 So I’m all by myself because I knew that if I didn’t eat, this was going back to 2008.
    0:42:13 If I didn’t eat six meals a day, I would go into starvation mode, which is not a real thing.
    0:42:18 And then that would make me fat and some bizarre mental gymnastics taught to me by big food.
    0:42:26 I also knew that I would get hypoglybitchy, which meant that if I didn’t eat often, I would yell at everyone around me because I would get cranky.
    0:42:29 So I’m like, put me in a cave, no food, no one to yell at.
    0:42:30 Everybody wins.
    0:42:36 And the book is actually based on the psychology of fasting plus the physiology of fasting.
    0:42:38 And I just tell you, here’s how to fast without pain.
    0:42:42 So you work better than you did before and you save money and time in the morning.
    0:42:46 And then here’s what to do on a weekend or when you want to do a spiritual fast.
    0:42:53 And to date, 70,000 people have done the free fasting training, the challenge that comes with the book.
    0:42:55 Fastestway.com is where that is.
    0:43:00 And I just want people to learn if you skip breakfast the right way, you’re nicer to the people around you.
    0:43:02 You’re more focused than you were before.
    0:43:03 Your metabolism gets better.
    0:43:08 You’re less likely to get diabetes and cancer and Alzheimer’s and cardiovascular disease.
    0:43:10 And you save money and time.
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    0:48:03 So let’s stick on that since you brought it up, skipping breakfast.
    0:48:06 I think it’s, you got to wait six hours.
    0:48:10 I think in your book you said six hours after you wake up is when you should first,
    0:48:13 you know, break your fast, I guess, or eat your lunch.
    0:48:14 Is that true?
    0:48:16 It’s not true.
    0:48:16 Okay.
    0:48:22 And the reason the book is called Fast This Way is that there isn’t one way.
    0:48:24 It’s biologically unique.
    0:48:29 So let’s just suppose that last night you went out and you maybe had a few drinks with
    0:48:32 friends and you stayed up till midnight, right?
    0:48:35 And then you woke up this morning and said, I’m going to fast.
    0:48:39 You already blew out your biology.
    0:48:40 You messed with your sleep.
    0:48:41 You had alcohol.
    0:48:43 You probably ate way late.
    0:48:46 You’re, maybe you worked out the day before too.
    0:48:46 Okay.
    0:48:48 So you’re already at a point of biological stress.
    0:48:52 Adding fasting as a stressor on top of a stressed body isn’t going to work very well.
    0:48:53 Have some breakfast.
    0:48:54 It’s okay.
    0:48:55 Right.
    0:48:58 And then let’s say that another day you went to bed on time.
    0:49:03 You didn’t have a late dinner and you didn’t have a bright TV in your eyes and whatever.
    0:49:06 So you wake up and you’re just fully charged and you’re ready to go.
    0:49:09 Maybe you should fast for more than six hours.
    0:49:14 The evidence shows at least a 12 hour fast, three days a week.
    0:49:18 This is in women over 40 specifically creates metabolic benefits.
    0:49:23 So for most people, most days, at least 14 hours without food is a good idea.
    0:49:25 However, 14 hours, I would starve.
    0:49:28 Now, when you’re asleep counts, it’s like have dinner.
    0:49:29 Earlier dinners are better.
    0:49:30 So have dinner at five.
    0:49:32 Let’s say you’re done eating at six.
    0:49:41 If you, if you don’t eat snacks and dessert after that, and you wake up at 6 a.m., you already fasted 12 hours.
    0:49:44 You can just wait two more hours and you did a 14 hour fast.
    0:49:45 So you have breakfast at eight.
    0:49:49 It’s not that big of a deal, but that midnight snack ruins you biologically.
    0:49:52 And if you’re saying, okay, I didn’t want, I can go past eight.
    0:49:56 I’m just going to wait and I’ll have some breakfasty kind of thing at 10.
    0:49:59 Well, you just did a 16 hour fast.
    0:50:00 You wait till noon.
    0:50:01 Oh my God.
    0:50:04 You did an 18 hour fast and 18, six fast.
    0:50:05 That’s what all the paleo people do.
    0:50:08 It’s not that hard, but here’s when it’s hard.
    0:50:11 And I say this as a guy who was obese for much of my life.
    0:50:21 If when you wake up, you have a gnawing hunger and all you can do is think about food and you go into the office and someone has a plate of donuts there, the donut’s going to win.
    0:50:23 It’s going to say, eat me.
    0:50:24 And you’re going to say, no.
    0:50:26 And it’s going to say, eat me.
    0:50:27 And you’re going to say, no.
    0:50:29 And the conversation gets more and more shrill.
    0:50:30 And it’s like arguing with the two-year-old.
    0:50:34 Eventually there’s going to wear you down and you go, fine, I’ll eat half.
    0:50:35 And you have just a bite of donut.
    0:50:37 And then you go, God damn it.
    0:50:38 Why am I such a bad person?
    0:50:39 I’m so weak.
    0:50:39 No.
    0:50:44 Theology dictates that this will happen to you, especially when you’re not fat adapted.
    0:50:46 We don’t have a flexible metabolism.
    0:50:52 So what I teach people to do in the fasting challenge or by reading the book, but the fasting challenge is free.
    0:50:53 Fast this way.com.
    0:50:59 It’s look, there are things you can do that turn off hunger so that in the morning, I just don’t care about food.
    0:51:03 The donuts are in front of you and there is no voice telling you to eat it because you’re like, I don’t want it.
    0:51:10 And it’s so much, it’s just easier that way because what happens is your willpower is a finite resource.
    0:51:16 And if you spend all of your willpower saying no to donuts, no to your biology, it just keeps asking you because your biology doesn’t have what it needs.
    0:51:23 You’re probably not going to have enough left over to be nice to the people around you, to be focused at work, to do what you want to do.
    0:51:25 And then you’re going to beat yourself up and think it was you.
    0:51:32 So fast this way is about the mindset and the physical tools to make yourself never hungry when you’re fasting.
    0:51:33 And then it’s just easy.
    0:51:35 So fastestway.com.
    0:51:37 I’ll stick that in my show notes.
    0:51:41 So when people think about fasting, I think the big buzzword is ketosis.
    0:51:45 Everybody knows about ketosis and that’s what they, they want to enter into a state of ketosis.
    0:51:51 But then there’s also another important world called, called autophagy, phagy, autophagy.
    0:51:52 Autophagy.
    0:51:52 Autophagy.
    0:51:53 Sorry, I read it.
    0:51:54 I didn’t hear it.
    0:51:55 Autophagy, right?
    0:51:59 So tell us about the difference between ketosis and autophagy.
    0:52:12 People who read my first big book called The Bulletproof Diet, that’s probably more than half a million copies now, 16 languages, and people have lost more than a million pounds on the Bulletproof Diet.
    0:52:18 It was probably the first modern keto book, except it wasn’t just about keto.
    0:52:27 What ketosis is, is something that happens when you fast or when you only eat fat or maybe very, very small amounts of carbs and protein and all.
    0:52:31 But it’s when your body says, I’ve got no carbs and no protein to burn, what will I do?
    0:52:33 I guess I should burn fat.
    0:52:37 This is a major part of how I lost the hundred pounds of fat that I lost.
    0:52:46 The only problem is that in the Bulletproof Diet, I teach people, here’s how to use ketosis for a brief period and then how to switch out of it and then go back in.
    0:52:55 And if you’re saying, I’m only going to eat peanut butter and margarine, you’re not going to have the same results as if you eat the stuff that I talk about.
    0:52:57 Actually, grass fed butter instead of peanut butter.
    0:53:00 So the type of things you eat when you’re doing ketosis matters greatly.
    0:53:04 But essentially, it’s fat burning mode and we’re all capable of it.
    0:53:11 And if you go into ketosis even briefly, it has a side effect that no one talks about that’s so important.
    0:53:18 When I weigh 300 pounds, there were many times I would lose 30 or 40 pounds and it would come roaring back plus 10.
    0:53:28 It happens to anyone who’s been fat and right now it’s like 60, 70% of the U.S. is overweight and struggling with exactly what I went through and what I don’t ever think about now.
    0:53:36 And when you go into ketosis, it resets your body’s hunger to that of your current body weight.
    0:53:43 If instead you go, oh, I’m going to do what those 1970s people online say, oh, you just have to work out more and eat less and you’ll lose weight.
    0:53:44 No, I tried that.
    0:53:45 I beat myself up.
    0:53:47 I gave myself an autoimmune condition doing that.
    0:53:48 It does not work.
    0:53:51 You might lose weight for a little bit of time, but it will come back.
    0:53:54 So what happens there?
    0:53:58 You go in ketosis and all of a sudden, if I weighed 300 pounds, I lost 50 pounds with ketosis.
    0:54:03 I’m still going to have the hunger of a 300-year-old unless I use ketosis, right?
    0:54:05 So that’s why it matters so much.
    0:54:06 So that’s keto.
    0:54:08 And autophagy is a totally different thing.
    0:54:14 If you think about Las Vegas, all those lights everywhere before they turned to LEDs, there were teams, hundreds of people.
    0:54:18 Their job was to go out and find the dim bulbs and the bulbs that were out and go up on a ladder
    0:54:21 and take out that bulb and put in a new one so that you didn’t have any bulbs out.
    0:54:28 Well, your body has quadrillions of little power plants and some of them are weaker than others.
    0:54:31 When you fast, your body goes through and says, what are the weakest ones?
    0:54:37 Let me get rid of those, break them down, and use them as building blocks to make new, healthy, young mitochondria.
    0:54:44 So when you fast, you get the benefits of ketosis, weight loss, and mental function, and the reduction in Alzheimer’s.
    0:54:49 And you get the benefits of autophagy, which is replacing older power plants with younger ones.
    0:54:50 Oh, and how much did it cost?
    0:54:56 You actually got paid to do it because you didn’t spend money on breakfast and you didn’t spend time on breakfast.
    0:54:59 It is the simplest thing to just go, oh, this makes sense.
    0:55:02 It is so, so interesting.
    0:55:08 You know, I was always never a fan of fasting because I grew up Muslim, right?
    0:55:10 I’m the least religious person ever.
    0:55:11 Ramadan.
    0:55:15 And so, like, I was tortured being fasting during Ramadan.
    0:55:19 And it was so hard because you’re not even allowed to drink water.
    0:55:22 And I think spiritually, I respect it.
    0:55:30 You know, I haven’t fasted since high school because I decided that it made me sluggish and that I couldn’t compete.
    0:55:34 I wasn’t going to, you know, when I was getting my MBA, I was like, I won’t get a 4.0 if I fast.
    0:55:36 When I was in corporate, I won’t be competitive.
    0:55:37 Now I’m an entrepreneur.
    0:55:38 Same thing.
    0:55:41 I feel like I can’t be competitive if I’m fasting for a month.
    0:55:45 And then plus, I feel like it’s kind of an unhealthy way to do it.
    0:55:48 So you only eat when it’s dark outside.
    0:55:50 And a lot of people usually wake up at 4 a.m.
    0:55:55 They eat, then they wake up, then they’ll eat again at like 7 or 8 when the sun goes down.
    0:55:56 And they’ll probably eat all night.
    0:56:01 And then you can’t have water or coffee during the day.
    0:56:04 So what do you think about this kind of fasting?
    0:56:05 It can’t be good for you.
    0:56:15 Well, it turns out a lot of the studies I reference in Fast This Way are using Ramadan, which is one of our biggest studies of a certain style of fasting.
    0:56:18 And it’s intermittent dry fasting, right?
    0:56:22 It turns out there are health benefits to Ramadan, which are built in.
    0:56:29 And a lot of the ancient nutritional practices that you’ll find through whatever culture you’re looking at are around health.
    0:56:32 For instance, the don’t eat pork that you find in multiple religions.
    0:56:36 It’s because pork usually had parasites in it.
    0:56:40 And pork that is not refrigerated properly has high levels of histamine, which is inflammatory.
    0:56:46 So if you were making rules for your population, you’d be like, don’t eat that stuff because it causes problems a lot of times.
    0:56:50 However, if it’s preserved properly and it’s fed properly, it has different effects.
    0:56:53 But they didn’t have the technology or the abilities there.
    0:56:55 So they’re like, just don’t do it, right?
    0:56:56 Which makes sense.
    0:57:00 Now, what I would say is that it actually is healthy.
    0:57:03 And there are many, many people who practice Ramadan.
    0:57:10 And the last thing they have before they go into Ramadan, right before the sun comes up, is a huge cup of bulletproof coffee.
    0:57:21 And they do that because in Fast This Way, I talk about the mechanisms of butter and specifically the MCT oil and coffee itself to turn off hunger for long periods of time.
    0:57:25 So at that point, their ketone levels spike and the ketones suppress hunger.
    0:57:28 So then they don’t think about hunger all day long.
    0:57:32 And get this, when your body is burning fat, guess what a side effect of burning fat is?
    0:57:35 I don’t know.
    0:57:36 Losing weight?
    0:57:36 Water.
    0:57:37 Water?
    0:57:37 Okay.
    0:57:38 It makes water.
    0:57:40 That’s why camels store fat in their humps.
    0:57:42 No, they store fat in their humps.
    0:57:42 But it’s water.
    0:57:46 So they burn the fat in the hump to make water so they don’t need to drink water.
    0:57:54 So if you are in Ramadan and you have ketosis going on, you are hydrating yourselves through burning fat.
    0:57:55 And you’re not hungry because you’re burning fat.
    0:57:58 And then it’s a much less painful fast.
    0:58:00 Now, eating after dark is just not good for you.
    0:58:01 But that’s traditional in the Middle East.
    0:58:08 I’ve spent a lot of time in Dubai, been to Oman, and have investors in my companies from that part of the world.
    0:58:10 And I do have a hard time.
    0:58:11 I have dinner at 10 o’clock at night.
    0:58:12 I don’t sleep as well.
    0:58:14 But that’s because of the intense sun during the day.
    0:58:17 So you’ve got to adjust what you do for where you live.
    0:58:17 Yeah.
    0:58:20 So, well, that’s all really helpful.
    0:58:24 I guess you gave me a little bit of motivation to figure out how I could do it.
    0:58:26 I do this next time it’s Ramadan.
    0:58:28 You haven’t done this in a long time.
    0:58:30 Connect to your roots.
    0:58:32 Try it for just a week.
    0:58:33 Just a week.
    0:58:34 Not the whole month.
    0:58:37 And see if instead of being sluggish, tired, slow.
    0:58:46 The reason you’re sluggish and tired and slow is because what you eat at night is full of sugar and carbs and stuff like that.
    0:58:54 But when people say, oh, I’m going to practice Ramadan, but I’m going to eat foods that don’t cause hunger all day long, suddenly it’s like rocket fuel.
    0:58:56 And it’s totally sustainable for a month.
    0:58:58 That’s super interesting.
    0:59:03 So let’s talk about – I know we’re running a little short on time.
    0:59:04 So actually, I’m going to skip to something else.
    0:59:06 Let’s do a quick fire segment.
    0:59:10 I’m going to rattle off some ways that you can fast.
    0:59:14 And why don’t you tell us quickly what they are and the good and the bad with each one.
    0:59:17 So let’s start with the 16-8 fast.
    0:59:24 16-8 fast means that you don’t eat for 16 hours and you eat whatever you want during that eight hours.
    0:59:29 This is what works for most people most of the time as long as you don’t do too much of it.
    0:59:35 And it gives you most of the benefits of intermittent fasting, which can be slightly longer or slightly less long.
    0:59:35 Okay.
    0:59:38 Let’s do OMAD, one meal a day.
    0:59:42 One meal a day means what it says.
    0:59:43 So it’s a 24-hour fast every day.
    0:59:50 In fact, if during Ramadan, you were to say, I’m just going to eat breakfast right before sun comes up, you’d be doing OMAD.
    0:59:52 OMAD is fantastic.
    0:59:53 It gives you more autophagy.
    1:00:02 However, most people I find who do OMAD every single day for more than especially about five days, their sleep quality goes down.
    1:00:05 Women’s before men’s because women and men actually do fast differently.
    1:00:07 That’s part of the teachings in Fast This Way.
    1:00:10 The 5-2 fast.
    1:00:12 5-2 fast.
    1:00:18 That’s a fast where for two days of the week, you either eat very low calories or no calories.
    1:00:21 And five days, you eat whatever the heck you want, whenever the heck you want.
    1:00:24 And there’s plenty of evidence that says that works.
    1:00:27 I find it’s much less sustainable for long periods of time.
    1:00:29 Probably doesn’t work as well as just skipping breakfast most days.
    1:00:32 Okay, spontaneous meal skipping.
    1:00:36 Spontaneous meal skipping just says, oh, I don’t feel like eating.
    1:00:37 I’m not going to eat.
    1:00:38 You should always do that.
    1:00:40 But here’s the deal.
    1:00:44 If you want to eat within four hours of a meal, your last meal was built wrong.
    1:00:46 You have that kale salad you thought was healthy.
    1:00:47 No, it wasn’t healthy.
    1:00:48 It just made you hungry.
    1:00:51 So, if you just don’t feel like eating, don’t eat.
    1:00:56 The problem is that skipping meals doesn’t really make it fasting.
    1:00:58 Unless you’re skipping breakfast or you’re skipping dinner.
    1:01:02 Because you just aren’t getting that 12-hour plus window of having no food.
    1:01:03 Okay.
    1:01:08 So, let’s go back to, you just mentioned something that I want to touch on.
    1:01:10 You said that women and men fast differently.
    1:01:11 Why is that?
    1:01:14 There is something I call the fasting trap.
    1:01:16 And it’s the same as the exercise trap.
    1:01:18 It’s the same as the keto trap.
    1:01:19 It’s the same as the vegan trap.
    1:01:24 If you think something is good and you got results, more of it must be better.
    1:01:26 It’s just basic human thinking.
    1:01:31 The problem with fasting is that when you fast too much, then bad things start to happen.
    1:01:33 But you’re convinced that fasting works for you.
    1:01:36 So, then you fast even more and you end up making yourself sick.
    1:01:39 Women hit the fasting trap before men do.
    1:01:42 Usually in about six weeks of over fasting.
    1:01:46 Men, it’s usually closer to eight or even 12 weeks.
    1:01:49 Here’s what it looks like for women when you over fast.
    1:01:50 You get that fasting trap.
    1:01:54 And over fasting means just fasting for too long, too many days in a row.
    1:01:58 Number one, you wake up and you feel like you didn’t sleep.
    1:01:59 Your sleep quality goes down.
    1:02:03 Number two, your hormones start not working right.
    1:02:04 Your cycle is less regular.
    1:02:06 You have more symptoms.
    1:02:06 Huh?
    1:02:07 I don’t normally get that.
    1:02:09 And then number three is hair thinning.
    1:02:14 And with guys, it hits us a couple of weeks later if we’re over fasting.
    1:02:16 Number one, we don’t sleep as well.
    1:02:20 If you’re monitoring your sleep, you see changes or you just wake up and feel just not well rested
    1:02:20 today.
    1:02:22 Maybe I’ll just have more coffee and fast extra today.
    1:02:23 Not a good idea.
    1:02:27 Second thing, guys, experience is you wake up without a kickstand.
    1:02:32 And the third thing is you’re looking at me like you don’t know what I’m talking about,
    1:02:33 but you know what I’m talking about.
    1:02:35 Now I just got it.
    1:02:36 Now I got it.
    1:02:37 It took me a minute.
    1:02:38 I was like kickstand.
    1:02:46 And then the third one is, see, I didn’t trigger any warnings there.
    1:02:49 The third one for guys is also hair thinning.
    1:02:52 So this is why for women and men, it’s different.
    1:02:56 And women are more susceptible to over fasting.
    1:02:58 And it isn’t true for all women.
    1:03:00 This is why fast this way.
    1:03:04 You must fast based on your current biological state, your current readiness.
    1:03:09 So there are also changes that occur at different times of the month where you are in your cycle.
    1:03:10 Right.
    1:03:14 So for some women, when you’re menstruating, like, OK, I really do great fasting.
    1:03:17 Other women, I need to eat because my blood sugar is unstable.
    1:03:21 But you got to figure out what it is so that you feel good and you’re not overdoing it.
    1:03:23 And I talk about the techniques in the book for that.
    1:03:27 Guys, I have to say fastest way has so much information.
    1:03:31 There’s so many things we didn’t get to talk about, really, like sleep related to fasting,
    1:03:33 exercise related to fasting.
    1:03:35 You guys can get all that information in Dave’s book.
    1:03:41 Dave, the last question I ask all my guests is, what is your secret to profiting in life?
    1:03:49 My secret to profiting in life is don’t worry about profiting in life.
    1:03:50 That’s not what you’re here to do.
    1:03:53 You should evolve in life and profit to side effect.
    1:03:54 Love it.
    1:03:57 And where can our listeners go to learn more about you and everything that you do?
    1:04:00 Go to Dave Asprey dot com.
    1:04:03 There’s three thousand articles, a thousand hours of video.
    1:04:06 There’s a vibrant learning community called the Upgrade Collective.
    1:04:11 And there are free challenges where I just teach you all my books for free because I just want you to have the knowledge because,
    1:04:13 well, if you have that knowledge, then you won’t suffer the way I did.
    1:04:14 And everybody wins.
    1:04:15 Amazing.
    1:04:16 Thank you so much.
    1:04:17 I love this conversation.
    1:04:18 It was so good.
    1:04:19 It was fun.
    1:04:20 Thank you.

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  • Ben Nemtin: Building a Badass Bucket List for Your Life and Business | Mental Health | YAPClassic

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    0:00:02 Today’s episode is sponsored in part by Airbnb,
    0:00:05 Open Phone, Shopify, Mercury, Built,
    0:00:07 Indeed, and Microsoft Teams.
    0:00:09 As always, you can find all of our incredible deals
    0:00:12 in the show notes or at youngandprofiting.com slash deals.
    0:00:27 Hey, Young and Profiters, what’s on your bucket list?
    0:00:28 Climbing Mount Everest,
    0:00:30 writing a best-selling book,
    0:00:32 maybe meeting your childhood hero.
    0:00:34 Whatever it is, my guest today is here to show you
    0:00:37 that your wildest dreams are more achievable than you think.
    0:00:39 In this Yap Classic episode from 2022,
    0:00:41 I spoke with Ben Nemtton,
    0:00:43 the motivational speaker, best-selling author,
    0:00:46 and star of MTV’s hit reality documentary,
    0:00:48 The Buried Life.
    0:00:50 Ben didn’t just dream big, he made it happen.
    0:00:53 He crossed off incredible bucket list items
    0:00:55 like playing basketball with President Obama,
    0:00:58 throwing the first pitch at a major league baseball game,
    0:01:00 and even sharing a beer with Prince Harry.
    0:01:03 But what truly sets him apart is his mission
    0:01:05 to help thousands of others turn their dreams
    0:01:06 into a reality too.
    0:01:08 In this conversation, Ben shared with me
    0:01:11 how one small decision can completely change
    0:01:12 the course of your life.
    0:01:14 He also broke down the key steps
    0:01:15 to crafting your own bucket list,
    0:01:17 including what to add, what to leave out,
    0:01:18 and most importantly,
    0:01:20 how to actually make your dream goals happen.
    0:01:22 If you’re ready to stop waiting and start doing,
    0:01:24 this episode is for you,
    0:01:25 so let’s get right into it.
    0:01:31 Hey, Ben, welcome to Young and Profiting Podcast.
    0:01:32 Thank you for having me.
    0:01:33 I’m excited to be here.
    0:01:35 I can’t wait for my listeners to hear
    0:01:37 all of your bucket list advice
    0:01:39 and all of your life-changing stories,
    0:01:40 but before we get into it,
    0:01:42 I did want to touch on your upbringing
    0:01:45 and talk about mental health for a moment
    0:01:46 because you are an expert on this topic.
    0:01:48 You grew up in Canada,
    0:01:49 and I read that when you were younger,
    0:01:51 you were always traveling with your parents,
    0:01:53 so let’s talk about your upbringing
    0:01:55 and how that influenced your adventurous spirit
    0:01:56 that you have today.
    0:01:59 So my dad was actually a clown,
    0:02:01 and he was like a theatrical clown,
    0:02:02 so he played music,
    0:02:03 and he wasn’t necessarily the clown
    0:02:05 that does balloons and parties and stuff.
    0:02:06 He would do theater shows,
    0:02:08 so we would travel around
    0:02:10 to different kids’ festivals
    0:02:11 or different cities,
    0:02:13 and he would do a show,
    0:02:15 and it would either be
    0:02:17 in some sort of exotic location
    0:02:20 like in Africa or somewhere like Sweden,
    0:02:22 or it would be on a ski mountain.
    0:02:24 So we had this really interesting upbringing
    0:02:26 where we would kind of travel with him
    0:02:27 to these cool locations.
    0:02:28 He played music,
    0:02:30 so what he would also do
    0:02:31 is like when my mom and my dad met,
    0:02:32 they would travel Greece
    0:02:35 and they would play music in the tavernas
    0:02:37 for a free room upstairs.
    0:02:39 So in Greece, you have the bar
    0:02:40 and then you have a couple rooms above it.
    0:02:42 So they would play music,
    0:02:43 pass around the hat,
    0:02:44 and their payment would be
    0:02:45 free room and board.
    0:02:48 And so my parents have been to Greece
    0:02:49 15, 16 times.
    0:02:50 It’s their favorite place to go.
    0:02:51 So when I was two years old,
    0:02:52 they brought me to Greece
    0:02:53 for the first time,
    0:02:55 and they still would do that thing
    0:02:56 where they would play music
    0:02:57 in the taverna
    0:02:58 and travel around like that.
    0:03:00 And so they would just bring me with them
    0:03:02 and they would sit me on the bar
    0:03:03 as a two-year-old,
    0:03:05 and then they would leave
    0:03:06 and play music in the corner
    0:03:08 and they would just leave me on the bar
    0:03:09 and I would hang out.
    0:03:10 And then at the end of the night,
    0:03:11 they’d kind of pick me up
    0:03:12 and off we’d go
    0:03:13 and they’d put me in between them
    0:03:14 on their Vespa
    0:03:15 with a little hockey helmet
    0:03:17 and kind of travel around Greece.
    0:03:19 So I think from them,
    0:03:21 I learned that there really wasn’t
    0:03:23 any rules around how you had
    0:03:24 to live your life.
    0:03:25 I think subconsciously,
    0:03:27 we either absorb that,
    0:03:29 there’s this expected route
    0:03:30 that we have to go on
    0:03:31 and we feel like that’s
    0:03:32 what we should do.
    0:03:33 It doesn’t need to be pressure
    0:03:34 from our parents,
    0:03:34 it’s sort of pressure
    0:03:35 from society.
    0:03:37 I think at an early age,
    0:03:38 subconsciously,
    0:03:39 I learned from then,
    0:03:40 there really were no rules
    0:03:41 and you could create
    0:03:43 your own life
    0:03:44 based on what made you happy.
    0:03:45 And they never really made
    0:03:46 very much money.
    0:03:48 We didn’t have a lot of money
    0:03:48 growing up.
    0:03:51 It’s not like we were scraping by,
    0:03:52 but he was a performer
    0:03:54 and my mom was kind of
    0:03:56 an independent business coach
    0:03:56 for women
    0:03:58 and then did this and that.
    0:04:00 But their life was so rich
    0:04:01 and they still to this day
    0:04:02 live like that.
    0:04:04 And we had a Westphalia van
    0:04:05 where we travel around and camp.
    0:04:06 And to this day,
    0:04:06 they drive down to Mexico
    0:04:07 every year in the van
    0:04:09 and play music
    0:04:10 and meet people
    0:04:12 and they had this very rich life.
    0:04:12 And so it’s,
    0:04:14 yeah, that’s definitely
    0:04:14 what I learned from them
    0:04:15 growing up.
    0:04:16 That’s so cute.
    0:04:17 It’s such like a unique
    0:04:18 little story.
    0:04:20 And considering how much
    0:04:21 you travel now,
    0:04:22 now I understand
    0:04:24 kind of where you get that from
    0:04:25 because it’s a very
    0:04:26 unique upbringing
    0:04:27 that you had.
    0:04:29 So you ended up
    0:04:30 getting a scholarship
    0:04:31 from my understanding
    0:04:31 to college
    0:04:33 and you had an opportunity
    0:04:35 to play on the rugby team,
    0:04:35 which in Canada
    0:04:37 is a really big deal.
    0:04:38 But you ended up
    0:04:39 falling into depression
    0:04:41 your first year of college.
    0:04:42 So talk to us about that.
    0:04:43 From an outside perspective,
    0:04:44 seems like everything
    0:04:45 was going great.
    0:04:46 You had great parents.
    0:04:47 You guys traveled.
    0:04:48 You got a scholarship.
    0:04:50 Why did you think
    0:04:50 that you ended up
    0:04:51 falling into depression?
    0:04:52 What happened there?
    0:04:54 I put so much pressure
    0:04:54 on myself
    0:04:56 to succeed
    0:04:57 in school,
    0:04:58 in athletics.
    0:04:59 I really wanted people
    0:05:00 to like me.
    0:05:02 Like I just kind of,
    0:05:02 for whatever reason,
    0:05:03 I put,
    0:05:04 I’ve always put
    0:05:04 a lot of pressure
    0:05:05 on myself.
    0:05:05 I was on the
    0:05:07 under-19 national rugby team
    0:05:09 and we were training
    0:05:10 for the World Cup
    0:05:10 and I was worried
    0:05:11 about missing a kick
    0:05:12 because I played fly half.
    0:05:13 So that’s like
    0:05:14 a field goal kicker
    0:05:15 and you’re the quarterback
    0:05:15 kind of,
    0:05:15 so there’s a lot
    0:05:16 of pressure
    0:05:16 on that position.
    0:05:18 And so I started
    0:05:18 worrying about,
    0:05:19 oh crap,
    0:05:20 what if I miss
    0:05:20 an easy kick
    0:05:21 at the World Cup?
    0:05:22 And what if I blow
    0:05:23 this opportunity?
    0:05:24 And I had missed
    0:05:25 a kick in the end
    0:05:26 of our championship game
    0:05:27 in high school.
    0:05:28 And so I really didn’t
    0:05:29 want that to happen again.
    0:05:30 And you know,
    0:05:30 at that age,
    0:05:32 everything is so,
    0:05:33 black and white
    0:05:34 and so life or death,
    0:05:35 you know,
    0:05:35 whether you’re friends
    0:05:36 like you or you don’t,
    0:05:37 you’re living in this
    0:05:39 little bubble of high school.
    0:05:40 So you really don’t know
    0:05:41 that there’s so much
    0:05:42 more out there
    0:05:43 and that there,
    0:05:45 these things that you think
    0:05:46 are such a big deal
    0:05:46 when you’re younger
    0:05:47 in your high school years
    0:05:48 or early college years,
    0:05:49 you realize,
    0:05:49 well,
    0:05:50 I’m not even going to remember
    0:05:51 that this happened
    0:05:52 on my deathbed.
    0:05:52 Like,
    0:05:53 there’s just no way
    0:05:54 I’m going to remember
    0:05:55 that this was something
    0:05:55 that I worried about.
    0:05:57 but at that point,
    0:05:58 I was so worried
    0:06:00 about doing well
    0:06:00 on this team
    0:06:01 and so I would worry
    0:06:02 about it at night
    0:06:04 and I felt this anxiety
    0:06:04 and this anxiety
    0:06:05 caused me to have
    0:06:06 trouble sleeping
    0:06:07 and so this lack of sleep,
    0:06:08 this anxiety,
    0:06:09 this constant pressure,
    0:06:10 it all built up
    0:06:10 and I started
    0:06:12 to not be able
    0:06:13 to go to school
    0:06:14 and I started to not be able
    0:06:15 to go to rugby practice
    0:06:16 and then I couldn’t
    0:06:17 leave the house
    0:06:18 and so it just compounded.
    0:06:19 I never experienced
    0:06:20 anything like this
    0:06:21 where all of a sudden
    0:06:22 I was crippled
    0:06:23 by this anxiety
    0:06:24 and depression
    0:06:26 and I was a very happy-go-lucky guy
    0:06:27 and I was at a really,
    0:06:28 I was A-type,
    0:06:29 I had a lot of friends
    0:06:31 that were also very supportive
    0:06:31 and high energy
    0:06:33 but I really wasn’t talking
    0:06:35 about what was going on at all
    0:06:36 so I was internalizing it
    0:06:37 and I just went down
    0:06:38 and down and down
    0:06:40 and it got really,
    0:06:41 really scary
    0:06:43 and it ultimately,
    0:06:44 my friends actually
    0:06:45 kind of pulled me
    0:06:46 out of the house
    0:06:48 and convinced me
    0:06:49 and rallied me
    0:06:49 to come work with them
    0:06:50 in a new town
    0:06:51 for the summer
    0:06:52 after I had dropped
    0:06:52 out of school
    0:06:54 and I was forced
    0:06:54 to get a job,
    0:06:56 I was forced to start
    0:06:57 to kind of do things
    0:06:57 on my own,
    0:06:58 I started to build
    0:06:59 a little bit of confidence,
    0:07:00 I started talking
    0:07:00 about what I was going through,
    0:07:02 I started to find
    0:07:03 different types of people
    0:07:05 that were inspiring,
    0:07:05 right?
    0:07:06 Like as I said,
    0:07:07 when you’re in high school
    0:07:08 or even college,
    0:07:10 you have this Petri dish
    0:07:10 of friends
    0:07:12 but you don’t realize
    0:07:13 that if they’re not
    0:07:13 your people,
    0:07:14 there are your people
    0:07:15 out there,
    0:07:16 it just takes time
    0:07:17 to find it
    0:07:19 and so that was something
    0:07:20 that took a bit of time
    0:07:21 for me to realize
    0:07:22 and I started finding
    0:07:23 these people
    0:07:24 that I realized
    0:07:25 gave me energy,
    0:07:26 these new groups
    0:07:26 of friends,
    0:07:27 they inspired me
    0:07:28 and they were doing
    0:07:29 all these cool things,
    0:07:29 they had already traveled,
    0:07:30 they had started businesses
    0:07:33 and so I thought okay,
    0:07:33 I’m going to try
    0:07:34 and only surround myself
    0:07:34 with people
    0:07:35 that inspire me
    0:07:37 almost by necessity
    0:07:37 because I needed
    0:07:38 that energy
    0:07:40 and that single decision
    0:07:41 completely changed my life
    0:07:42 and it would lead me
    0:07:43 down this path
    0:07:44 that would ultimately
    0:07:45 bring me here,
    0:07:46 speaking to you,
    0:07:47 I mean I wouldn’t
    0:07:48 be doing the things
    0:07:49 I am doing now
    0:07:50 if I hadn’t consciously
    0:07:51 decided to try
    0:07:51 and only surround myself
    0:07:52 with people
    0:07:53 that inspire me.
    0:07:54 Yeah, I think
    0:07:55 it’s pretty crazy
    0:07:57 how one decision
    0:07:58 can change the trajectory
    0:07:59 of your life,
    0:08:00 I mean you’ve been
    0:08:00 on this mission
    0:08:01 for what it seems
    0:08:03 to be like 15 years now.
    0:08:04 Yeah and I think
    0:08:04 that that’s a really
    0:08:05 empowering idea
    0:08:06 because it means
    0:08:07 that you can change
    0:08:08 your life at any time
    0:08:09 and I think we all
    0:08:09 can think back
    0:08:10 to moments
    0:08:12 where there was
    0:08:13 this pivot
    0:08:14 and it could be
    0:08:15 something very small
    0:08:15 like something
    0:08:16 a teacher said to us
    0:08:17 or the way a teacher
    0:08:18 showed up to us
    0:08:19 before us in high school
    0:08:20 or some way
    0:08:22 a friend supported us
    0:08:23 or just happenstance
    0:08:24 when you ran
    0:08:25 into someone
    0:08:25 and then that led
    0:08:26 to your job
    0:08:28 or there’s any number
    0:08:28 of things
    0:08:29 but these little moments
    0:08:31 and I think
    0:08:32 it’s a combination
    0:08:34 of you have
    0:08:34 to be aware
    0:08:35 and it kind of
    0:08:36 jump on those moments
    0:08:37 sometimes
    0:08:38 and it takes
    0:08:38 a little bit
    0:08:39 of awareness
    0:08:40 and it takes
    0:08:40 a little bit
    0:08:42 of this being proactive
    0:08:44 and you start
    0:08:44 to go down
    0:08:45 this path
    0:08:46 that you don’t know
    0:08:47 will ultimately
    0:08:48 shift your whole life
    0:08:49 so if you think
    0:08:49 about it
    0:08:50 if you anyway
    0:08:51 as a golfer
    0:08:52 you hit a golf ball
    0:08:54 one or two degrees
    0:08:54 off
    0:08:55 it doesn’t seem
    0:08:55 like much
    0:08:57 but by the time
    0:08:58 that it lands
    0:09:00 could be 10, 20, 30, 40, 50
    0:09:02 feet off center
    0:09:03 and so this little
    0:09:04 change
    0:09:05 can be a big change
    0:09:06 over time
    0:09:07 and that’s how I look
    0:09:08 at these small
    0:09:09 little shifts
    0:09:09 that you make
    0:09:11 that you don’t see
    0:09:11 them in the moment
    0:09:12 but they can actually
    0:09:14 create this huge impact
    0:09:14 and I think it’s
    0:09:16 an empowering idea
    0:09:16 because it means
    0:09:17 that you can also
    0:09:18 make a huge impact
    0:09:19 in someone else’s life
    0:09:20 so just by
    0:09:21 being there
    0:09:21 for someone
    0:09:22 in a moment
    0:09:22 when they need it
    0:09:26 or by small gesture
    0:09:26 of kindness
    0:09:27 or helping hand
    0:09:29 or even a compliment
    0:09:30 to a stranger
    0:09:30 all these things
    0:09:31 create ripple effects
    0:09:33 that are hard to measure
    0:09:34 but it’s very real
    0:09:35 so it goes both ways
    0:09:36 like everyone has
    0:09:37 the power
    0:09:38 to create this
    0:09:40 immense change
    0:09:41 through the ripple effect
    0:09:42 through your daily
    0:09:44 inner micro interactions
    0:09:45 but then it also means
    0:09:46 that you have the ability
    0:09:48 to change your life
    0:09:48 in any moment
    0:09:49 because really
    0:09:50 a small change
    0:09:52 can lead to a huge change
    0:09:53 and so I think
    0:09:54 we get overwhelmed
    0:09:55 sometimes by thinking
    0:09:56 about oh I have
    0:09:57 to make this huge
    0:09:59 massive shift
    0:10:01 to change my life
    0:10:02 and I don’t think
    0:10:02 that’s true
    0:10:03 I think that you
    0:10:04 can change your life
    0:10:05 just by doing
    0:10:06 a very small thing
    0:10:07 that over time
    0:10:08 will compound
    0:10:10 and you’ll ultimately
    0:10:11 make a huge shift
    0:10:12 yeah
    0:10:13 I think that’s
    0:10:14 super powerful
    0:10:15 so something Ben
    0:10:16 I was curious about
    0:10:17 was if you still
    0:10:18 get depressed today
    0:10:19 because you seem
    0:10:20 so energetic
    0:10:22 you always have a smile on
    0:10:23 and you don’t seem
    0:10:25 like the type of person
    0:10:26 that gets depressed
    0:10:28 so I’m curious to know
    0:10:29 if you still suffer
    0:10:29 from depression
    0:10:31 and what you do
    0:10:32 to manage your highs
    0:10:33 and the lows
    0:10:34 yeah well I’m happy
    0:10:34 you said that
    0:10:35 because I still do
    0:10:36 get depressed
    0:10:37 and I think that
    0:10:38 that is something
    0:10:39 that is like
    0:10:40 really just
    0:10:41 a great thing
    0:10:41 to talk about
    0:10:43 that the people
    0:10:43 that you don’t think
    0:10:45 struggle
    0:10:45 struggle
    0:10:45 you know
    0:10:46 everybody struggles
    0:10:47 every human
    0:10:48 will go through
    0:10:50 some mental health
    0:10:52 crisis in their life
    0:10:52 and that’s just
    0:10:53 through the research
    0:10:53 right it doesn’t need
    0:10:54 to be from
    0:10:55 a mental health
    0:10:55 illness
    0:10:56 a mental illness
    0:10:56 it can be from
    0:10:57 a divorce
    0:10:58 stress from losing
    0:10:59 a job
    0:11:00 bereavement
    0:11:00 from losing
    0:11:01 someone that you love
    0:11:03 you will go through
    0:11:04 the crapper
    0:11:04 like it’s going
    0:11:05 to happen
    0:11:06 and so
    0:11:06 I think that
    0:11:07 that’s almost
    0:11:08 an empowering idea
    0:11:09 because it means
    0:11:10 that no one
    0:11:10 is alone
    0:11:11 in their struggle
    0:11:12 if someone
    0:11:12 is not struggling
    0:11:13 they’ve been there
    0:11:14 before they will
    0:11:14 go through it
    0:11:15 I really believe
    0:11:17 when you speak
    0:11:18 things they lose
    0:11:18 their power
    0:11:19 they’re much scarier
    0:11:20 when they’re in your head
    0:11:21 and so that’s what I found
    0:11:22 is by talking about it
    0:11:23 I’m able to also
    0:11:24 process it
    0:11:25 like I can talk about
    0:11:26 I can break it down
    0:11:27 when I’m talking
    0:11:28 about it in therapy
    0:11:28 or talking about it
    0:11:29 with friends
    0:11:30 so it’s so important
    0:11:30 to talk about
    0:11:31 so I would say
    0:11:32 if you are struggling
    0:11:32 right now
    0:11:33 if you take anything
    0:11:34 away from this podcast
    0:11:36 it’s find someone
    0:11:37 that you trust
    0:11:38 to talk about
    0:11:38 what is going on
    0:11:40 ideally it’s a professional
    0:11:40 and we can talk
    0:11:41 about therapy
    0:11:41 and we talk
    0:11:43 about the challenges
    0:11:44 with finding a good therapist
    0:11:45 and the stigma
    0:11:46 around therapy
    0:11:46 because all that
    0:11:47 is there
    0:11:48 but just outside
    0:11:49 of that
    0:11:50 if you can find
    0:11:50 someone to talk to
    0:11:50 I think it’s
    0:11:51 the most important thing
    0:11:52 yeah
    0:11:53 I have a therapist
    0:11:55 I hope that stigma
    0:11:56 is gone by now
    0:11:56 Ben
    0:11:57 because I feel like
    0:11:58 so many people
    0:11:59 have therapists
    0:12:00 and therapy
    0:12:01 is really important
    0:12:01 it’s important
    0:12:02 to talk out
    0:12:02 your feelings
    0:12:03 alright
    0:12:03 so let’s take it
    0:12:04 back to the summer
    0:12:05 of 2006
    0:12:06 you were 19 years old
    0:12:08 and you had the idea
    0:12:09 to gather up your friends
    0:12:10 to make a movie
    0:12:11 called The Buried Life
    0:12:12 so talk to us about
    0:12:13 how you got that idea
    0:12:14 and what was the premise
    0:12:15 of this movie
    0:12:16 yeah
    0:12:17 so I came back
    0:12:18 from that summer away
    0:12:18 you know
    0:12:19 I was starting to feel
    0:12:20 back to myself
    0:12:20 you know
    0:12:21 lifting out of this depression
    0:12:22 I was like
    0:12:22 okay
    0:12:23 I met these cool kids
    0:12:24 in this new town
    0:12:25 I want to continue
    0:12:26 to surround myself
    0:12:28 with more people like that
    0:12:29 so there’s one kid
    0:12:29 that came to mind
    0:12:30 and he was a filmmaker
    0:12:31 from my neighborhood
    0:12:32 and his name
    0:12:33 was Johnny
    0:12:34 and I secretly
    0:12:35 had always wanted
    0:12:36 to make a movie
    0:12:36 so I called up Johnny
    0:12:37 and I was like
    0:12:38 let’s make a movie
    0:12:38 if you
    0:12:39 you know
    0:12:40 I didn’t know him too well
    0:12:40 I was sort of going out
    0:12:41 on a limb
    0:12:42 reaching out to him
    0:12:43 and we gathered
    0:12:44 two other friends
    0:12:45 one of them was
    0:12:46 Johnny’s older brother
    0:12:46 Duncan
    0:12:47 another friend Dave
    0:12:49 and we started talking
    0:12:50 about making this documentary
    0:12:50 we didn’t know
    0:12:51 what it was going to be about
    0:12:51 though at this point
    0:12:53 and then serendipitously
    0:12:54 Johnny gets assigned
    0:12:56 a poem in English class
    0:12:58 at McGill University
    0:12:58 in his first year English class
    0:13:00 the poem is called
    0:13:01 The Buried Life
    0:13:02 so it’s an old poem
    0:13:04 written in 1852
    0:13:05 over 150 years ago
    0:13:07 and this poem
    0:13:07 strikes a chord
    0:13:08 in Johnny
    0:13:09 and he sends it back to us
    0:13:10 he says guys
    0:13:11 this poet
    0:13:11 is talking about
    0:13:12 the same thing
    0:13:13 we’re talking about
    0:13:13 right now
    0:13:14 which basically
    0:13:15 was this idea
    0:13:16 that we felt
    0:13:17 like we had all these dreams
    0:13:18 but we never even
    0:13:19 tried to go after them
    0:13:21 because the day-to-day
    0:13:21 buries them
    0:13:22 like we knew
    0:13:23 we had things
    0:13:24 that we want to do
    0:13:24 but why hadn’t
    0:13:25 we ever done them
    0:13:26 it’s because life
    0:13:26 got in the way
    0:13:28 and we have these moments
    0:13:28 when we’re inspired
    0:13:29 but then
    0:13:30 we get less inspired
    0:13:32 because the day-to-day
    0:13:33 pushes them
    0:13:33 so we thought
    0:13:34 okay
    0:13:34 we’re not the first people
    0:13:35 to feel like this
    0:13:36 if this guy wrote this poem
    0:13:37 in 1852
    0:13:38 let’s take this name
    0:13:39 let’s call our film
    0:13:39 The Buried Life
    0:13:41 and our next task
    0:13:42 was to uncover
    0:13:43 these buried dreams
    0:13:44 and the way we did that
    0:13:45 was through this question
    0:13:46 what do you want to do
    0:13:46 before you die
    0:13:47 because for us
    0:13:48 thinking about death
    0:13:49 actually made us
    0:13:50 think about life
    0:13:51 and I’m a huge fan
    0:13:52 of thinking about death
    0:13:54 I think the more
    0:13:55 we can think about death
    0:13:56 the better
    0:13:57 and we can talk about that
    0:13:58 but just
    0:13:59 we stumbled into this
    0:14:00 this was by accident
    0:14:02 but we asked ourselves
    0:14:03 this question
    0:14:04 okay we realized
    0:14:05 okay we’re going to die
    0:14:05 one day
    0:14:06 so if we’re going to die
    0:14:07 which is probably
    0:14:07 the only thing
    0:14:08 we can count on
    0:14:09 in life
    0:14:10 what do we want to do
    0:14:10 with the time left
    0:14:12 and that’s where
    0:14:13 the bucket list
    0:14:13 came from
    0:14:14 it was our answers
    0:14:15 to the question
    0:14:15 what do you want to do
    0:14:16 before you die
    0:14:17 and we pretended
    0:14:17 we had all the money
    0:14:18 in the world
    0:14:19 we pretended that
    0:14:20 we had the ability
    0:14:21 to do anything
    0:14:22 so our list was
    0:14:23 ambitious
    0:14:24 it was like
    0:14:25 make a TV show
    0:14:26 play basketball
    0:14:26 with Obama
    0:14:27 write a number one
    0:14:28 New York Times bestseller
    0:14:29 sit with Oprah
    0:14:30 have a beer with Prince Harry
    0:14:31 pay off our parents
    0:14:31 mortgage
    0:14:32 go to space
    0:14:33 streak a field
    0:14:34 and get away
    0:14:35 ask out the girl
    0:14:36 your dreams
    0:14:36 you know
    0:14:37 it was a
    0:14:39 very audacious list
    0:14:39 and then we thought
    0:14:40 every time we cross
    0:14:41 something off our list
    0:14:42 let’s help someone else
    0:14:43 do something on their list
    0:14:44 and so
    0:14:45 that was the mission
    0:14:46 we board an RV
    0:14:48 we bought a secondhand camera
    0:14:49 and we planned a two-week road trip
    0:14:51 in the summer of 2006
    0:14:52 in Victoria BC
    0:14:53 where we grew up in Canada
    0:14:54 and we hit the road
    0:14:56 and as soon as we hit the road
    0:14:57 unexpectedly
    0:14:59 people heard about
    0:14:59 our road trip
    0:15:01 and then they started to email us
    0:15:02 and they looked at our list
    0:15:02 and they said
    0:15:04 hey I can help you cross off
    0:15:04 ride a boat
    0:15:06 I can help you cross off
    0:15:07 get up in a hot air balloon
    0:15:08 I can help you cross off
    0:15:08 make a toast
    0:15:09 at a stranger’s wedding
    0:15:11 and then they would send us
    0:15:12 their dreams
    0:15:13 asking for our help
    0:15:14 and so
    0:15:16 we struck this nerve
    0:15:17 and we just
    0:15:17 thought
    0:15:19 let’s keep doing this
    0:15:20 and so this two-week road trip
    0:15:21 ended up lasting
    0:15:22 over 10 years
    0:15:23 and then the list items
    0:15:24 that we had written down
    0:15:25 in the beginning
    0:15:25 that we were convinced
    0:15:27 were completely unattainable
    0:15:28 over time
    0:15:28 they ended up
    0:15:29 falling off the list
    0:15:30 and so
    0:15:31 we also realized
    0:15:32 that helping other people
    0:15:33 achieve their dreams
    0:15:34 meant even more
    0:15:35 than doing the big things
    0:15:35 on our list
    0:15:36 and
    0:15:38 then along the way
    0:15:39 like built this passion
    0:15:40 for like figuring out
    0:15:42 why do some people
    0:15:44 achieve their goals
    0:15:45 and go after them
    0:15:46 but most people don’t
    0:15:47 like
    0:15:48 why are 76%
    0:15:49 of the people
    0:15:50 on the planet
    0:15:51 reaching their deathbed
    0:15:52 and regretting the things
    0:15:53 they didn’t do
    0:15:54 not the things they did
    0:15:55 and so
    0:15:57 that’s why I started to speak
    0:15:57 because I was like
    0:15:58 okay we need to get
    0:15:59 more people
    0:16:00 in that minority
    0:16:01 of the population
    0:16:02 that actually
    0:16:03 go after the things
    0:16:04 and be true to yourself
    0:16:06 and really a bucket list
    0:16:06 is just a reflection
    0:16:07 of your true self
    0:16:08 that’s the way I look at it
    0:16:09 it’s just a list
    0:16:10 of all the things
    0:16:10 that are going to bring you
    0:16:11 joy and happiness
    0:16:13 so it’s not just skydive
    0:16:14 and go to Europe
    0:16:16 that’s one of 10 categories
    0:16:16 of your life
    0:16:18 so you want to think about
    0:16:19 your adventure travel goals
    0:16:20 but you also want to think
    0:16:21 about your mental health goals
    0:16:22 your physical health goals
    0:16:23 you want to think about
    0:16:25 your how do you want to give back
    0:16:26 your relationship goals
    0:16:27 intellectual
    0:16:28 what do you want to learn
    0:16:29 financial
    0:16:29 professional
    0:16:31 and so that’s what a full
    0:16:32 bucket list is
    0:16:33 but
    0:16:34 when we were on that road trip
    0:16:34 we had
    0:16:36 no idea of any of that
    0:16:37 we were just going out
    0:16:39 to tackle our dreams
    0:16:39 and help other people
    0:16:41 and it sparked this
    0:16:43 lifelong learning journey
    0:16:44 yeah
    0:16:45 it’s so beautiful
    0:16:46 and
    0:16:47 one thing that I really
    0:16:48 connected with
    0:16:49 with your story
    0:16:49 was this idea
    0:16:50 that people went out
    0:16:51 of their way
    0:16:52 to help you
    0:16:52 and that’s because
    0:16:53 you guys had really
    0:16:54 good intentions
    0:16:55 and you were just
    0:16:56 trying to be of service
    0:16:57 to the world
    0:16:57 you’re trying to make
    0:16:58 the world a better place
    0:16:59 and I can relate
    0:17:00 because when I started
    0:17:01 Young and Profiting Podcast
    0:17:02 I had no intentions
    0:17:03 to make money
    0:17:04 all I was trying to do
    0:17:05 is just help people
    0:17:06 listen, learn, and profit
    0:17:07 and by
    0:17:09 month two
    0:17:10 I had 10 volunteers
    0:17:11 who were just working
    0:17:12 for me for free
    0:17:12 in a Slack channel
    0:17:14 helping with the movement
    0:17:15 and it’s just funny
    0:17:16 how when you want
    0:17:17 to do good
    0:17:17 for the world
    0:17:18 you just become magnetic
    0:17:20 and people want to help
    0:17:20 because there are
    0:17:21 good people out there
    0:17:22 so I’d love to hear
    0:17:23 your thoughts on that
    0:17:25 the only way
    0:17:25 that we cross things
    0:17:26 off our list
    0:17:26 is through the help
    0:17:27 of other people
    0:17:27 I just want to be
    0:17:28 very clear on that
    0:17:28 you know
    0:17:30 we had no business
    0:17:31 or no ability
    0:17:32 to achieve
    0:17:33 any of the things
    0:17:34 that we have achieved
    0:17:35 but people
    0:17:36 always stepped up
    0:17:37 to help us
    0:17:38 in unexpected ways
    0:17:40 because we shared
    0:17:41 our goals
    0:17:42 and I think that
    0:17:43 you had the idea
    0:17:43 for this podcast
    0:17:45 99% of people
    0:17:46 will have the idea
    0:17:47 they’ll want to do it
    0:17:48 but they won’t take
    0:17:48 that first step
    0:17:49 because of fear
    0:17:50 right?
    0:17:51 They’re afraid of failure
    0:17:52 they’re afraid
    0:17:53 of what other people think
    0:17:54 and that’s ultimately
    0:17:55 what stops people
    0:17:56 and that’s through research
    0:17:57 and we can talk about
    0:17:59 like where that comes from
    0:18:00 but that’s the number one
    0:18:01 barrier
    0:18:02 when it comes to
    0:18:03 stopping people
    0:18:04 from achieving
    0:18:05 their personal goals
    0:18:07 but when you don’t
    0:18:08 put it out there
    0:18:09 no one can help you
    0:18:10 you’re on your own
    0:18:12 and if you think about it
    0:18:13 when you hit a challenge
    0:18:14 at work
    0:18:14 typically
    0:18:15 what do you do?
    0:18:16 You go to your leader
    0:18:17 you ask for help
    0:18:17 go to a mentor
    0:18:18 hey have you ever
    0:18:19 been through this
    0:18:19 I don’t know what to do
    0:18:21 you ask a friend
    0:18:23 but with these personal goals
    0:18:24 we don’t ask for help
    0:18:25 because of the fear
    0:18:27 we’re afraid of failure
    0:18:27 or afraid of what
    0:18:28 other people think
    0:18:29 and then we just have
    0:18:31 a lower chances of succeeding
    0:18:32 because we’re trying to do it
    0:18:34 in our head on our own
    0:18:35 so I always say
    0:18:36 when you give someone
    0:18:37 a chance to be a hero
    0:18:38 they usually take it
    0:18:40 and so you experienced this
    0:18:41 when you started to put this
    0:18:42 they said you took the leap
    0:18:44 you moved through
    0:18:45 that that discomfort
    0:18:46 of like oh shit
    0:18:47 like what are people
    0:18:48 is this going to be good?
    0:18:49 What if it’s bad
    0:18:50 and it fails?
    0:18:53 And then you started to see
    0:18:54 that people were gravitating
    0:18:55 towards it
    0:18:56 because you were doing it
    0:18:58 from your true
    0:18:59 it came out of
    0:19:02 what you truly wanted to do
    0:19:03 this is your
    0:19:04 a reflection of your true self
    0:19:05 and I think
    0:19:07 that at the end of the day
    0:19:09 that is the big goal
    0:19:10 is to be true to yourself
    0:19:11 in a world that is so hard
    0:19:12 to stay true to yourself
    0:19:13 because everything pulls you away
    0:19:14 from that
    0:19:15 social media pulls you away
    0:19:16 from that
    0:19:17 you know being disconnected
    0:19:18 pulls you away from that
    0:19:19 the fear pulls you away
    0:19:20 from that
    0:19:22 but when you are true to yourself
    0:19:22 you’re
    0:19:23 I think you’re unstoppable
    0:19:25 you are the only person
    0:19:25 that can be you
    0:19:27 and we spend most of our life
    0:19:28 trying to be other people
    0:19:30 and anything you could do
    0:19:31 to remind yourself
    0:19:32 of who you are
    0:19:33 and that’s why I think
    0:19:35 a list is a great device
    0:19:35 to remind you
    0:19:37 friends that keep you accountable
    0:19:38 to these things
    0:19:39 are great reminders
    0:19:41 what you saw is that
    0:19:42 when you were true to yourself
    0:19:43 and then you started
    0:19:43 to do this thing
    0:19:44 it was like this
    0:19:45 gravitational pull
    0:19:46 yeah
    0:19:47 and then you start to see
    0:19:49 this thing happening
    0:19:51 and then you follow
    0:19:51 that momentum
    0:19:53 and I think that sometimes
    0:19:54 we feel like
    0:19:55 we have this plan
    0:19:56 we gotta stick to it
    0:19:57 and I’ve done that a lot
    0:19:58 but I’ve realized that
    0:19:59 you need to follow the energy
    0:20:00 and you need to follow
    0:20:01 what’s easy
    0:20:02 and what was easy
    0:20:03 for you
    0:20:04 not that it is easy
    0:20:05 as in it didn’t take
    0:20:06 a lot of work
    0:20:07 easy as in you saw
    0:20:09 there was momentum
    0:20:10 and that’s what you followed
    0:20:11 and so for me
    0:20:12 that’s been speaking
    0:20:13 I didn’t mean to be a speaker
    0:20:15 but I did a TEDx talk
    0:20:15 and then some people
    0:20:16 asked me to speak
    0:20:18 and I love doing it
    0:20:19 and I feel like
    0:20:20 it’s easy for me to do
    0:20:21 and I work really hard
    0:20:23 but I see that it’s working
    0:20:24 and so I thought
    0:20:25 okay I’m gonna leave the
    0:20:26 I started a production company
    0:20:27 with the three buddies
    0:20:28 that we started
    0:20:28 the buried life with
    0:20:29 after the show
    0:20:31 and I left that production company
    0:20:32 which is very hard
    0:20:33 to do speaking
    0:20:34 because I could see
    0:20:34 that it was
    0:20:36 that was more true to me
    0:20:36 yeah
    0:20:38 following the flow
    0:20:40 let’s hold that thought
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    0:24:26 yeah fam
    0:24:26 I want the
    0:24:27 attention of all
    0:24:28 you renters out
    0:24:28 there and I know
    0:24:29 there’s a lot of
    0:24:29 us
    0:24:31 there is a
    0:24:32 platform called
    0:24:33 built where you
    0:24:33 can pay your rent
    0:24:34 through this platform
    0:24:35 I’ve been using it
    0:24:36 for over a year
    0:24:37 and you can earn
    0:24:37 your favorite
    0:24:38 airline miles
    0:24:39 and hotel points
    0:24:40 just by paying
    0:24:41 your rent on time
    0:24:41 I of course
    0:24:42 always pay my
    0:24:43 rent on time
    0:24:44 and as a result
    0:24:45 I accumulated
    0:24:45 a lot of points
    0:24:46 so much so
    0:24:46 that I’m going
    0:24:47 on a trip
    0:24:48 to Tulum
    0:24:49 for my birthday
    0:24:49 with my friends
    0:24:50 and I was able
    0:24:50 to pay for my
    0:24:51 hotel and my
    0:24:52 airline flight
    0:24:52 by using
    0:24:53 built
    0:24:54 sounds too good
    0:24:54 to be true
    0:24:55 let me explain
    0:24:56 there’s no cost
    0:24:57 to join
    0:24:57 and just by
    0:24:58 paying your rent
    0:24:59 you’ll unlock
    0:24:59 flexible points
    0:25:00 that can be
    0:25:00 transferred to
    0:25:01 your favorite
    0:25:01 hotels or
    0:25:02 airlines
    0:25:02 it can even
    0:25:03 be transferred
    0:25:03 to a future
    0:25:04 rent payment
    0:25:05 your next
    0:25:05 lift ride
    0:25:06 and so much
    0:25:06 more
    0:25:07 when you pay
    0:25:07 your rent
    0:25:08 through built
    0:25:08 you unlock
    0:25:09 two powerful
    0:25:10 benefits
    0:25:11 number one
    0:25:11 you earn
    0:25:11 one of the
    0:25:12 industry’s
    0:25:12 most valuable
    0:25:13 points on rent
    0:25:14 every single
    0:25:14 month
    0:25:15 no matter where
    0:25:15 you live
    0:25:16 or who your
    0:25:17 landlord is
    0:25:17 it doesn’t
    0:25:17 matter
    0:25:18 your rent
    0:25:18 now works
    0:25:19 for you
    0:25:19 second
    0:25:20 you gain
    0:25:21 access to
    0:25:21 exclusive
    0:25:21 neighborhood
    0:25:22 benefits
    0:25:22 in your
    0:25:23 city
    0:25:23 built
    0:25:24 neighborhood
    0:25:24 benefits
    0:25:24 are
    0:25:24 things
    0:25:25 like
    0:25:25 extra points
    0:25:26 on dining
    0:25:26 out
    0:25:27 complimentary
    0:25:28 post-workout
    0:25:28 shakes
    0:25:29 free mats
    0:25:29 or towels
    0:25:30 at your
    0:25:30 favorite
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    0:25:35 ready to
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    0:25:36 points
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    0:25:36 converted
    0:25:37 to your
    0:25:37 favorite
    0:25:37 miles
    0:25:38 and hotel
    0:25:38 points
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    0:25:39 meaning
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    0:25:41 places
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    0:25:44 your rent
    0:25:45 so my
    0:25:46 question is
    0:25:46 what are you
    0:25:47 waiting for
    0:25:47 you’re already
    0:25:48 paying your
    0:25:48 rent
    0:25:49 start using
    0:25:49 built today
    0:25:50 and take
    0:25:50 advantage of
    0:25:51 your neighborhood
    0:25:51 benefits by
    0:25:52 going to
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    0:25:53 profiting
    0:25:54 that’s
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    0:26:00 and make sure
    0:26:01 you use our
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    0:26:03 know that we
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    0:26:03 that’s
    0:26:04 joinbuilt.com
    0:26:05 profiting to
    0:26:06 sign up for
    0:26:06 built today
    0:26:11 so you
    0:26:11 came up with
    0:26:12 this bucket
    0:26:12 list you
    0:26:13 were 19
    0:26:13 years old
    0:26:14 you’re a
    0:26:14 little naive
    0:26:15 at the
    0:26:15 time you
    0:26:16 know you
    0:26:16 didn’t have
    0:26:16 that much
    0:26:17 life experience
    0:26:18 so I feel
    0:26:18 like coming
    0:26:19 up with big
    0:26:19 audacious
    0:26:20 goals when
    0:26:21 you’re that
    0:26:22 young doesn’t
    0:26:23 seem as
    0:26:24 frightening as
    0:26:24 if you were in
    0:26:25 your later
    0:26:26 20s or 30s
    0:26:27 or 40s I
    0:26:27 feel like as
    0:26:28 you get
    0:26:29 older you
    0:26:29 feel like it’s
    0:26:30 too selfish
    0:26:31 to accomplish
    0:26:32 personal goals
    0:26:32 like you feel
    0:26:33 like you’ve
    0:26:33 got all this
    0:26:33 responsibility
    0:26:34 and maybe you
    0:26:35 can’t do
    0:26:36 some of the
    0:26:36 things that
    0:26:37 you always
    0:26:37 dreamed of
    0:26:38 so I’d
    0:26:38 love to hear
    0:26:39 your thoughts
    0:26:39 about why
    0:26:40 it’s not
    0:26:41 selfish to
    0:26:41 have personal
    0:26:42 goals and
    0:26:43 also how we
    0:26:44 can start to
    0:26:44 think outside
    0:26:45 the box when
    0:26:46 it comes to
    0:26:46 some of these
    0:26:47 things on our
    0:26:47 bucket list
    0:26:48 yeah great
    0:26:50 point so I
    0:26:50 think that it’s
    0:26:52 not selfish to
    0:26:53 pursue your
    0:26:54 personal goals
    0:26:54 because you
    0:26:55 can’t take care
    0:26:55 of other people
    0:26:56 if you can’t
    0:26:56 if you don’t
    0:26:57 take care of
    0:26:57 yourself you
    0:26:58 can’t do
    0:26:59 your job if
    0:26:59 you don’t
    0:26:59 take care of
    0:27:00 yourself you
    0:27:02 can’t be who
    0:27:02 you need to
    0:27:03 be if you’re
    0:27:03 not fueling
    0:27:04 yourself and
    0:27:04 one way you
    0:27:06 fuel yourself is
    0:27:06 by doing the
    0:27:07 things that you
    0:27:08 love so there’s
    0:27:08 this big tie
    0:27:09 between purpose
    0:27:10 and your mental
    0:27:11 health that I
    0:27:11 think a lot of
    0:27:12 people are missing
    0:27:13 and when you are
    0:27:13 following the
    0:27:14 things that you
    0:27:15 love that are
    0:27:16 important to you
    0:27:17 that means something
    0:27:18 to you that gives
    0:27:19 you a greater sense
    0:27:20 of well-being that
    0:27:21 contributes to your
    0:27:22 mental health and
    0:27:23 it energizes you
    0:27:25 so I think that we
    0:27:27 need to flip our
    0:27:28 thinking around this
    0:27:28 idea that it’s
    0:27:29 selfish to do
    0:27:31 these things and I
    0:27:31 get it like I
    0:27:32 used to think a
    0:27:32 bucket list was
    0:27:34 selfish considering all
    0:27:34 my responsibilities
    0:27:35 everything that I
    0:27:35 had to do every
    0:27:36 day but then I
    0:27:37 started to notice
    0:27:38 that people around
    0:27:39 the world were
    0:27:40 going after their
    0:27:41 bucket list just
    0:27:41 because we were
    0:27:42 going after ours
    0:27:43 thousands tens of
    0:27:44 thousands of people
    0:27:45 through the show
    0:27:45 millions of people
    0:27:46 and to this day they
    0:27:47 come up and say oh
    0:27:49 I saw the show I
    0:27:50 was going to school
    0:27:50 and I decided that I
    0:27:51 wanted to travel I
    0:27:52 met my husband when I
    0:27:53 was traveling now we
    0:27:54 have four kids and we
    0:27:56 live in Italy or I
    0:27:58 started a restaurant and
    0:27:59 instead of being a
    0:28:01 doctor because when
    0:28:02 you do what you love
    0:28:03 you inspire other
    0:28:04 people to do what
    0:28:05 they love just like
    0:28:05 you starting this
    0:28:07 podcast you probably
    0:28:08 can’t even count the
    0:28:08 number of people that
    0:28:10 you have inspired so
    0:28:11 it’s not selfish it’s
    0:28:12 service because you are
    0:28:13 giving other people
    0:28:13 permission to do the
    0:28:15 same and you also
    0:28:17 fuel yourself so I
    0:28:17 think it’s the same
    0:28:19 idea around taking
    0:28:20 vacation we sometimes
    0:28:21 feel guilty when we
    0:28:22 take vacation because
    0:28:23 we’re taking time off
    0:28:24 work well you’re not
    0:28:25 taking time off work
    0:28:26 you’re taking time off
    0:28:28 for work so that you
    0:28:29 can come back
    0:28:29 recharged and you
    0:28:31 also come back maybe
    0:28:32 with a bigger idea
    0:28:33 because you’ve taken
    0:28:33 space you have
    0:28:36 perspective so there
    0:28:37 are so many reasons
    0:28:39 why it’s important to
    0:28:41 pursue these personal
    0:28:42 passions and so the
    0:28:42 first thing is give
    0:28:44 yourself permission by
    0:28:44 understanding that it’s
    0:28:46 not selfish because
    0:28:47 one you’re going to
    0:28:48 inspire other people by
    0:28:48 doing those things but
    0:28:49 you’re also going to
    0:28:51 fuel fuel yourself then
    0:28:52 you look at like what
    0:28:53 are these goals that are
    0:28:54 important to you and
    0:28:55 sometimes it’s hard to
    0:28:56 think about you know you
    0:28:57 look at a blank piece of
    0:28:58 paper and like what’s
    0:28:59 your list and it’s
    0:29:00 overwhelming and that’s
    0:29:00 why I think it’s
    0:29:02 important to separate
    0:29:03 your list into categories
    0:29:05 and so I talked about
    0:29:06 the 10 categories of
    0:29:07 life that’s basically
    0:29:09 what my new book is
    0:29:09 based on the bucket
    0:29:11 list journal it just
    0:29:13 came out last week and
    0:29:14 effectively you write
    0:29:16 your list in those 10
    0:29:17 categories mental health
    0:29:18 goals physical health
    0:29:20 goals relationship how
    0:29:20 do you want to give
    0:29:23 back intellectual financial
    0:29:25 material goals and then
    0:29:27 you start to move
    0:29:28 through the barriers that
    0:29:29 stop you from achieving
    0:29:30 your goals so I
    0:29:31 mentioned there was fear
    0:29:32 that’s number one the
    0:29:34 other big barrier is when
    0:29:35 these personal goals you
    0:29:36 think about them there’s
    0:29:38 no deadlines and that’s a
    0:29:39 huge problem that’s why
    0:29:40 we push them so you need
    0:29:41 to create accountability
    0:29:42 around the personal goals
    0:29:44 that’s why writing your
    0:29:45 list is important that
    0:29:46 creates a small bit of
    0:29:47 accountability because you
    0:29:47 take an idea that doesn’t
    0:29:48 exist you make it real
    0:29:50 that’s why we share our
    0:29:51 goals you share your goals
    0:29:52 so you can give other
    0:29:53 people the opportunity to
    0:29:54 help but you also share
    0:29:56 them because then you feel
    0:29:56 accountable to the people
    0:29:58 you share them if I say
    0:29:59 on this podcast this year
    0:30:01 I’m writing a book that’s
    0:30:02 my number one goal I’m
    0:30:03 writing a book this year
    0:30:04 and you say great and I
    0:30:05 run into you six months
    0:30:06 later and you say hey
    0:30:07 how’s the book coming and
    0:30:08 I think I better start
    0:30:09 writing that book right
    0:30:12 when you share your goals
    0:30:13 you feel accountable when
    0:30:14 you share them with your
    0:30:15 community and then they
    0:30:17 can they can help you and
    0:30:19 then the third barrier and
    0:30:20 I think we’ve all felt
    0:30:22 this is that usually with
    0:30:23 these personal goals you’re
    0:30:24 waiting to feel inspired to
    0:30:25 go after them or you’re
    0:30:26 kind of waiting for the
    0:30:27 perfect time and that
    0:30:29 inspiration just just rarely
    0:30:30 hits so you have to create
    0:30:31 your own inspiration
    0:30:32 through action like there
    0:30:33 was never a perfect time
    0:30:34 for you to start this
    0:30:35 podcast you were never
    0:30:36 going to have all your
    0:30:38 ducks in a row you know
    0:30:38 you were never going to
    0:30:40 feel completely inspired to
    0:30:42 do it because the fear
    0:30:44 dampens that inspiration so
    0:30:46 you have to just do it and
    0:30:46 create your own
    0:30:47 inspiration and as soon as
    0:30:48 you started the podcast you
    0:30:50 saw the reaction and then
    0:30:51 you started to feel more and
    0:30:52 more energy and more and
    0:30:54 more inspiration so you’re
    0:30:55 the architect of your own
    0:30:57 inspiration through action
    0:30:58 and sometimes we just plan
    0:31:00 too much and we forget that
    0:31:02 action is a plan you don’t
    0:31:04 need to know the plan you’ll
    0:31:05 figure out the plan after you
    0:31:07 start you do the first step
    0:31:07 you don’t need to know the
    0:31:09 second step you’ll figure out
    0:31:09 the second step after the
    0:31:12 first it’s a momentum and so
    0:31:14 the journal is designed to
    0:31:15 create inspiration through
    0:31:17 action to create
    0:31:18 accountability and then to
    0:31:20 identify real fear and and
    0:31:22 imagine fear yeah I love
    0:31:23 what you’re saying right
    0:31:24 now it reminds me of
    0:31:25 something that Jeff Hayden
    0:31:26 talked to us about the
    0:31:27 podcast called the
    0:31:29 motivation feedback loop and
    0:31:30 basically what it means is
    0:31:31 that like you said you got
    0:31:33 to take action and once you
    0:31:34 get those little wins you
    0:31:35 get that little bit of
    0:31:37 motivation to take the next
    0:31:37 step a little bit of
    0:31:38 motivation to take the next
    0:31:40 step but it all starts with
    0:31:41 action you have to go out
    0:31:42 and do something to your
    0:31:43 point you can’t just sit
    0:31:44 there and plan and think
    0:31:46 you’ve got to take those
    0:31:48 first steps absolutely that’s
    0:31:49 what most people don’t
    0:31:50 because the fear stops
    0:31:51 you from that that first
    0:31:53 step yeah okay I want to
    0:31:54 get into some story time
    0:31:55 because you’ve got some
    0:31:56 really incredible stories
    0:31:57 you’ve been doing this for
    0:31:59 many many years you’ve
    0:32:00 helped a lot of people so
    0:32:02 one story that really stuck
    0:32:03 out to me was about this
    0:32:05 guy named Brent who told
    0:32:06 you that he wanted to
    0:32:07 deliver pizzas to a
    0:32:09 homeless shelter I don’t
    0:32:09 want to give away the
    0:32:10 story so can you tell us
    0:32:12 about that no it’s great
    0:32:13 because you I met you at
    0:32:15 a speaking engagement so
    0:32:17 you were able to see the
    0:32:19 talk and so some of the
    0:32:20 you should know my story
    0:32:22 which is cool so Brent was
    0:32:23 the very first person that
    0:32:25 we ever helped back in
    0:32:28 2006 so take you back we’re
    0:32:30 leaving Vancouver Island in
    0:32:31 Canada we’re heading to the
    0:32:32 mainland and we start to get
    0:32:34 in this RV and travel now
    0:32:35 there’s some news starting to
    0:32:36 talk about we would just
    0:32:37 camp out at radio stations
    0:32:38 and we wouldn’t leave until
    0:32:40 they put us on the air so
    0:32:41 emails start coming and we
    0:32:42 got this email from this guy
    0:32:43 named Brent and Brent says
    0:32:45 hey guys I’m 24 before I
    0:32:46 die I want to bring pizzas
    0:32:47 down to the homeless
    0:32:49 shelter and so we’re
    0:32:50 thinking finally someone we
    0:32:51 can help like we don’t have
    0:32:51 much money but we can buy
    0:32:53 pizzas so let’s go interview
    0:32:55 Brent and so we talk with
    0:32:57 him and we find out the
    0:32:58 reason why he wants to
    0:32:59 bring pizzas down to the
    0:33:00 homeless shelters because
    0:33:01 he had lived in that
    0:33:02 homeless shelter for a
    0:33:03 couple years but he said
    0:33:04 when people came in with
    0:33:05 food to the homeless
    0:33:07 shelter it felt like the
    0:33:08 best day because it felt
    0:33:09 like someone actually cared
    0:33:10 about him in a world where
    0:33:12 nobody really cared about
    0:33:14 him and we found that he
    0:33:15 actually pulled himself out
    0:33:17 of this homeless shelter by
    0:33:17 starting his own
    0:33:19 landscaping business and
    0:33:20 his landscaping business
    0:33:21 relied on his truck and his
    0:33:22 truck had recently broken
    0:33:25 down and so the four of us
    0:33:25 thought we got to figure out
    0:33:26 a way to get this guy a
    0:33:27 truck because when we asked
    0:33:28 him is there anything we can
    0:33:30 do to help he wouldn’t ask
    0:33:31 for help around the truck he
    0:33:33 would just ask for help to
    0:33:34 get the pizzas so we
    0:33:35 thought that’s pretty cool
    0:33:36 that this guy’s in a tough
    0:33:37 spot and he’s not even
    0:33:38 asking for anything for
    0:33:40 himself and we didn’t have
    0:33:41 much money at the time
    0:33:43 we had a $480 between the
    0:33:45 four of us Canadian so it’s
    0:33:46 less right so that’s like
    0:33:49 not much cash so we went
    0:33:51 to an RV no sorry a used
    0:33:52 car salesman and we said
    0:33:53 this is the story of this
    0:33:54 guy in your community you
    0:33:55 know what and and the
    0:33:56 cheapest truck on the lot
    0:33:58 was $2,100 and he sold
    0:34:00 the truck to us for $480
    0:34:02 and then he paid for the
    0:34:04 insurance and out of his
    0:34:05 own pocket like we’re
    0:34:06 at the age we didn’t even
    0:34:07 know that you needed
    0:34:08 insurance or maybe we just
    0:34:09 this is all our money and
    0:34:10 so anyways he was so
    0:34:12 this idea of you know we
    0:34:13 gave him a chance to be a
    0:34:14 hero and he took it like
    0:34:15 they saw that so many
    0:34:18 times drive up to Brent
    0:34:20 throw him the keys and he
    0:34:21 just sort of started to cry
    0:34:23 and he bear hugged me and
    0:34:24 didn’t let go for a long
    0:34:26 time and we hung out with
    0:34:27 him and his girlfriend that
    0:34:29 day and we sort of all
    0:34:32 felt like okay this is what
    0:34:34 this is about and we have to
    0:34:35 keep doing this and that was
    0:34:37 the catalyst to continue to
    0:34:39 do this again the next
    0:34:40 summer you know this this
    0:34:42 feeling that we had never
    0:34:43 felt before which was
    0:34:45 helping a stranger helping
    0:34:46 someone we didn’t know and
    0:34:48 we hadn’t done that before
    0:34:49 in our lives we didn’t have
    0:34:50 had volunteered in high
    0:34:51 school or experienced that
    0:34:54 and so yeah that was very
    0:34:56 impactful and so you went
    0:34:57 on to do a lot of bucket
    0:34:59 list items that are really
    0:35:00 impressive you started an
    0:35:02 MTV show you escaped a
    0:35:03 desert island you had a beer
    0:35:05 with Prince Harry you even
    0:35:07 got on Oprah and you also
    0:35:08 played basketball with
    0:35:10 President Obama which is
    0:35:12 pretty damn impressive so
    0:35:13 what was your favorite
    0:35:14 story tell us like your
    0:35:16 favorite story and like the
    0:35:17 crazy things that you did to
    0:35:18 accomplish your goals
    0:35:20 there’s a lot of crazy
    0:35:21 stories I’ll tell the
    0:35:22 President Obama story
    0:35:23 quickly and then there’s I’ll
    0:35:24 tell another one after that
    0:35:25 as well very quickly
    0:35:27 President Obama we had no
    0:35:28 connections to the White
    0:35:30 House so we just drove
    0:35:31 there and started asking
    0:35:32 people on the street if
    0:35:33 they knew anyone in the
    0:35:34 White House which is not
    0:35:35 didn’t get us very far
    0:35:36 but we started to send
    0:35:37 emails to people that we
    0:35:39 found we just like
    0:35:40 contacted politicians
    0:35:41 offices basically and we
    0:35:42 met with a couple lower
    0:35:43 level officials and they
    0:35:44 and then we were could
    0:35:45 convince them to meet with
    0:35:46 their boss and then we
    0:35:47 met with their boss and we
    0:35:48 got all the way up to
    0:35:49 the Secretary of
    0:35:51 Transportation and he put
    0:35:51 in the call to the
    0:35:52 White House and we were
    0:35:54 stoked and then we got an
    0:35:55 official rejection letter
    0:35:56 from the White House and
    0:35:57 then we were like okay well
    0:36:00 that’s too bad I guess
    0:36:01 we’re gonna have to change
    0:36:02 our tact and so we
    0:36:03 decided instead of going
    0:36:04 after the president we’d
    0:36:05 go after the president’s
    0:36:06 personal aid because the
    0:36:07 personal aid of the
    0:36:08 president he set up the
    0:36:09 basketball games with
    0:36:10 with President Obama and
    0:36:10 there was these secret
    0:36:11 gap basketball games that
    0:36:12 everyone was trying to
    0:36:13 kind of figure out a way to
    0:36:14 get involved with and so
    0:36:15 we found what we thought
    0:36:16 was the president’s
    0:36:18 personal aid’s email and
    0:36:18 we started sending him
    0:36:20 emails every day with a
    0:36:21 challenge to a basketball
    0:36:23 game so we said you and
    0:36:23 the president versus us
    0:36:25 tonight 730 at the YMCA
    0:36:26 be there and we show up at
    0:36:28 the Y at 730 and no
    0:36:29 president we did the next
    0:36:30 day no president so we
    0:36:32 did this for a week we
    0:36:32 picked it outside the
    0:36:34 White House with signs we
    0:36:35 sent letters and at this
    0:36:36 point like no one is
    0:36:37 meeting with us anymore so
    0:36:39 we just accept defeat and
    0:36:40 we leave then I get a
    0:36:42 block call a couple days
    0:36:44 later and I pick it up and
    0:36:45 it’s the personal aid of
    0:36:46 the president and he’s
    0:36:47 like what’s this I hear
    0:36:47 about you wanting to play
    0:36:48 basketball against the
    0:36:49 president and I and I
    0:36:50 explained what we’re doing
    0:36:51 and he’s like you know
    0:36:52 what I can make this
    0:36:53 happen I feel good about
    0:36:54 this give me two weeks I
    0:36:55 just need to run it by the
    0:36:55 press team they got to
    0:36:57 sign off on everything I’ll
    0:36:58 get back to you in two
    0:36:59 weeks calls me in two
    0:37:00 weeks he’s like it’s not
    0:37:01 gonna happen and we’re
    0:37:05 like oh Jesus okay so now
    0:37:06 he’s like this and I’m
    0:37:07 sorry I don’t know if
    0:37:08 you’re back in DC let me
    0:37:09 know maybe I can give a
    0:37:09 tour of the White House
    0:37:11 cut to three months later
    0:37:12 we’re back in DC personal
    0:37:13 later the president true to
    0:37:14 his word gives us a
    0:37:15 personal tour of the
    0:37:16 White House walks us
    0:37:17 through the West Wing shows
    0:37:19 us his office next to the
    0:37:20 Oval Office down the
    0:37:21 back steps of the White
    0:37:22 House by the way we
    0:37:23 didn’t know what to wear
    0:37:24 so we rented suits from a
    0:37:25 prom rental store right so
    0:37:27 we’re like on the White
    0:37:28 House basketball courts
    0:37:30 manicured hedges presidential
    0:37:31 seal on each hoop one
    0:37:33 presidential basketball we’re
    0:37:36 shooting around and then all
    0:37:37 of a sudden I hear my
    0:37:38 friend go oh my god oh my
    0:37:39 god it’s the president and
    0:37:41 President Obama walked on
    0:37:42 the court and he totally
    0:37:45 surprised us and we were
    0:37:47 totally awestruck and so we
    0:37:48 met the president we shot
    0:37:50 around with him for 15 20
    0:37:51 minutes immediately forgot
    0:37:52 he’s the president because
    0:37:53 he’s the coolest man on
    0:37:54 earth we were trying to hit
    0:37:55 shots he wasn’t hitting we
    0:37:57 were trash talking it was
    0:37:59 really really incredible and
    0:38:01 that was amazing because it
    0:38:03 was what a great memory yeah
    0:38:04 it was definitely the most
    0:38:05 impossible thing I remember
    0:38:07 writing down I remember when
    0:38:08 we came up with that idea for
    0:38:11 the list it was I laughed
    0:38:12 because it was so impossible
    0:38:14 right I was like this is this
    0:38:15 is hilarious that this is so
    0:38:16 impossible let’s put it on
    0:38:18 the list it was definitely and
    0:38:19 then to see him stroll on the
    0:38:22 court I was like wow I guess I
    0:38:23 have no choice but to believe
    0:38:24 anything’s possible because I
    0:38:26 just proved to myself that
    0:38:28 this was possible and I
    0:38:29 thought this was impossible
    0:38:30 and now it happened and so
    0:38:32 now I have no choice but to
    0:38:33 believe that these things can
    0:38:35 come to fruition and I think
    0:38:37 that that’s a very common
    0:38:40 feeling is that you don’t know
    0:38:41 what’s possible until you’re
    0:38:44 doing it and that’s really
    0:38:45 important you don’t know what’s
    0:38:47 possible until you’re actually
    0:38:49 doing it you can’t even imagine
    0:38:51 yourself achieving some of these
    0:38:53 things until you’ve achieved it
    0:38:55 and then you prove to yourself
    0:38:57 and everyone has the ability to
    0:38:58 prove to themselves that these
    0:39:01 things are possible we’ll be
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    0:43:39 interviewed on other podcasts people
    0:43:41 like what is your secret to life how
    0:43:42 did you become successful and I always
    0:43:44 say like you have to believe that life
    0:43:46 is limitless and I feel like once I
    0:43:48 really believe that that’s when
    0:43:50 everything started to happen once you
    0:43:52 really believe that there’s no limits
    0:43:54 to your life and so that’s really awesome
    0:43:55 that you had that mindset shift and I’m
    0:43:57 sure that’s helped you achieve more and
    0:44:00 more of these goals so tell us another
    0:44:02 one of your stories and then I want to
    0:44:05 hear what’s still on your list what have
    0:44:08 you not yet accomplished okay one quick
    0:44:09 story is we tried to streak a field and
    0:44:12 get away we didn’t get away we ended up
    0:44:13 spending the night in jail but spend a
    0:44:14 night in jail is on the list so that was
    0:44:17 at least we crossed off one a double
    0:44:19 whammy one of the things on the list
    0:44:21 was ask out the girl your dreams at the
    0:44:24 time the girl my dreams was Megan Fox
    0:44:27 was back in the transformer movie days I
    0:44:29 snuck onto the red carpet at the
    0:44:31 premiere of the transformers film
    0:44:35 pretending that I was working for us
    0:44:37 weekly so I had a spot on the red
    0:44:39 carpet I had a microphone and the cord
    0:44:41 of the microphone was just going into my
    0:44:43 pocket and I had a camera guy with me
    0:44:45 because we were filming and I snuck onto
    0:44:47 the red carpet in the law in the press
    0:44:49 line Megan Fox coming up she comes up
    0:44:51 right up to me I start interviewing her
    0:44:53 with this microphone by the way is not
    0:44:56 connected to anything and I’m like hey
    0:44:57 how you doing my name is Ben and she’s
    0:44:59 like oh my first boyfriend’s name is bed
    0:45:02 and I’m like uh I start getting super
    0:45:04 nervous and I start talking about
    0:45:07 something and then her publicist pulled
    0:45:09 her away and I completely blew it I
    0:45:12 failed I didn’t ask her out and we did
    0:45:14 that on the show by the way and it was a
    0:45:17 complete it was an embarrassment so I
    0:45:19 didn’t I didn’t ask her out but then
    0:45:22 the next season Duncan was like I’m
    0:45:25 gonna redeem you which didn’t is good I
    0:45:26 guess because he was like I’m gonna ask
    0:45:28 out Taylor Swift that was his girl of his
    0:45:30 dreams at the time so we dressed up
    0:45:32 Duncan like a fake country music star
    0:45:34 named Boone McCaw because we knew that
    0:45:36 she was gonna be at the CMT Awards
    0:45:39 country music television awards so we
    0:45:41 dressed him in all white handlebar
    0:45:44 mustache cowboy hat Boone McCaw Dave was
    0:45:46 his guitar playing partner named
    0:45:49 Patagonia he had a big jacket with
    0:45:52 tassels another mustache wig I was the
    0:45:53 publicist so I was wearing like an
    0:45:56 earpiece and I was like I was running
    0:45:57 alongside them because then we rented a
    0:45:58 big horse and chariot and we were gonna
    0:46:01 just bum rush the music awards to try and
    0:46:04 get in and we had at that point it was
    0:46:06 season two and so we tweeted out and we
    0:46:08 had probably like one or 200 fans come
    0:46:11 out and we made fake country music I
    0:46:12 forget what the magazine is but like
    0:46:15 basically Duncan’s face on as Boone
    0:46:17 McCaw on the cover of this magazine we
    0:46:19 had I heart Boone t-shirts we had all
    0:46:22 these so like country music television
    0:46:24 awards that they’re happening all of a
    0:46:27 sudden this white chariot in a horse
    0:46:30 with horses starts to just run towards
    0:46:32 the entrance of the awards there’s cops
    0:46:33 everywhere and as soon as it happens
    0:46:36 all the fans are around the entrance and
    0:46:38 they start going crazy and I’m running
    0:46:40 along with my earpiece on and my walkie
    0:46:43 talkie and cops let us through we go to
    0:46:45 the front of the red carpet publicists
    0:46:47 everyone’s letting us through the
    0:46:50 producers and then someone recognized us
    0:46:53 and they’re like no way buried life you’re
    0:46:57 out of here because CMT is the Viacom owns
    0:47:02 MTV and this and the awards and so they they
    0:47:04 knew about us and they were someone tipped
    0:47:05 them off that we were coming or something
    0:47:08 and that’s why we had to wear fake mustaches
    0:47:10 and stuff like that anyways we didn’t give
    0:47:12 up I snuck in the back by the way if you
    0:47:14 ever want to sneak in anywhere just wear
    0:47:16 all black and hold a walkie-talkie you
    0:47:18 basically look like a roadie if you have a
    0:47:20 clipboard that’s even better and you can
    0:47:22 pretty much walk in everywhere so I walked
    0:47:24 in the back and I ended up nagging and
    0:47:26 nabbing two passes I said I was part of
    0:47:29 Kid Rock’s crew I got two passes I came
    0:47:30 out I gave one to Duncan he got in all
    0:47:32 black he went in the back he walked
    0:47:34 right up to Taylor Swift who was sitting
    0:47:36 in her seat passed her a note the note
    0:47:38 was asking her out and then he ended up
    0:47:40 actually going out on a date with her so
    0:47:45 that was a success oh wow what a great
    0:47:47 story and I love your tip about just
    0:47:49 wearing all black pretending to be like a
    0:47:51 PR person get it anywhere that’s so funny
    0:47:54 yeah so I know that you guys have like
    0:47:56 other items on the list that are going
    0:47:57 to be really hard to accomplish I think
    0:47:59 you you want to go to space is that
    0:48:01 right what other items have you not yet
    0:48:05 achieved go to space make a movie right
    0:48:07 I’d like to finish the buried life
    0:48:09 documentary that we started been filming
    0:48:11 for the all those years on the road
    0:48:13 through the show and everything so it’s a
    0:48:16 really cool story to tell there tell a
    0:48:17 judge you want the truth you can’t
    0:48:19 handle the truth but it has to be real
    0:48:21 we’ve got invited to do it and to judges
    0:48:23 but I think that you know we got to be in
    0:48:26 a real courtroom and then I think host
    0:48:27 saturday night live is the is the last
    0:48:29 one which would be probably the hardest
    0:48:31 yeah go to space is gonna be tough but I
    0:48:33 think I’m gonna do that in 2024 I’m
    0:48:34 talking with this company called
    0:48:36 worldview which is sending these capsules
    0:48:38 up to space and big air balloon and it’s
    0:48:40 like eight people can go in it that’ll
    0:48:43 be probably 2024 awesome well I can’t
    0:48:45 wait to see you on SNL I think it’s
    0:48:47 definitely gonna happen so Ben we’re
    0:48:48 gonna wrap up the interview now I’m
    0:48:50 gonna ask you a couple of questions that
    0:48:52 we always ask our guests and then
    0:48:54 we’ll talk about where everyone can
    0:48:56 find the bucket list journal so my
    0:48:58 question to you is what is one
    0:49:00 actionable thing our listeners can do
    0:49:02 today to become more profitable
    0:49:04 tomorrow now write down your goals it
    0:49:07 seems simple but it’s a very big step
    0:49:08 to write down your goals it makes them
    0:49:10 real they’re not ideas anymore then
    0:49:12 they’re a reminder that they exist it
    0:49:15 also forces you to slow down to think
    0:49:17 about what’s important to you and in a
    0:49:20 world where 76% of the population their
    0:49:23 biggest regret on their deathbed is I
    0:49:24 wish I would have lived for me not what
    0:49:27 others expected of me or what I thought
    0:49:30 I should do it’s important that we slow
    0:49:31 down to think about what’s important to
    0:49:33 us again it’s all coming back to being
    0:49:36 true to yourself and that’s one step to
    0:49:38 being true to yourself is reflecting to
    0:49:40 understand what you really want and make
    0:49:43 sure that you’re not subconsciously doing
    0:49:45 things because you think it’s what’s
    0:49:48 expected of you right so 76% of people on
    0:49:50 their deathbed their number one regret in
    0:49:52 their entire life this comes out of
    0:49:53 research from Cornell their number one
    0:49:55 regret I wish I would have lived my
    0:49:58 ideal self the life I wanted not what
    0:50:00 others wanted for me so no one should
    0:50:01 have that regret on their deathbed and
    0:50:03 basically the bucket list journal is
    0:50:06 hopefully designed to solve that problem
    0:50:08 for you so that you identify what your
    0:50:10 goals are and then you start to build
    0:50:11 accountability build inspiration
    0:50:13 through action and move through the fear
    0:50:15 so that you don’t end up on your deathbed
    0:50:17 regretting the things that you didn’t do
    0:50:19 yeah I love the journal I’ve been
    0:50:21 starting to use it so thank you so much
    0:50:23 for giving me an advanced copy and Ben
    0:50:26 what is your secret to profiting in life
    0:50:29 thinking about your death and it sounds
    0:50:31 weird but if you think about what’s
    0:50:33 important in your life you look at the
    0:50:36 top five regrets of the dying okay and
    0:50:39 they don’t have much to do with money the
    0:50:41 top five regrets the dying are I wish I
    0:50:44 would have lived for me I wish I would
    0:50:46 have told people how I really felt I
    0:50:48 wish I would have worked less I wish I
    0:50:50 would have let myself be happier and I
    0:50:52 wish I would have stayed in touch with my
    0:50:53 friends okay so those are the top five
    0:50:54 regrets that people have at the end of
    0:50:58 their life so you need to remember that
    0:51:00 your time is finite to put things in
    0:51:02 perspective so yes you want to make
    0:51:05 money yes you want to be successful but
    0:51:08 when you do a eulogy for a friend you
    0:51:09 don’t usually talk about how much money
    0:51:11 they had you don’t usually talk about how
    0:51:13 successful they are you talk about they
    0:51:15 were a good friend they embodied these
    0:51:18 values and so these types of things and if
    0:51:21 you just look at the five regrets you want
    0:51:24 to make sure that you can keep death close
    0:51:27 to you so it reminds you that your time is
    0:51:30 limited so that you live with intention and
    0:51:31 you hear this all the time I had a near
    0:51:34 death experience and everything changed my
    0:51:36 dad died and everything changed why does it
    0:51:40 take a traumatic experience to wake us up how
    0:51:43 can you keep that perspective without going
    0:51:45 through that trauma or without it being too
    0:51:50 late and that is I think the big goal is to
    0:51:53 remind yourself every day that this could be
    0:51:55 your last I mean it sounds cliche but that’s
    0:51:57 the truth like best case scenario you have
    0:52:00 another 50 years but it’s just interesting
    0:52:03 that like if you see a 90 year old person you
    0:52:05 know with a cane hunched over shuffling down
    0:52:08 the street you never think that that’s going
    0:52:10 to be me you don’t even think about it well
    0:52:12 the only thing you can count on is that will
    0:52:15 be you best case scenario you might die in a
    0:52:17 week and we just don’t think about we think we
    0:52:20 have all this time you don’t have the time
    0:52:22 because when you look at the research that’s
    0:52:24 the biggest regret that people have in their
    0:52:26 life is they they wish they would have done the
    0:52:30 things they didn’t do so start now a year from
    0:52:32 now you’ll wish you started today that’s the
    0:52:35 truth yeah I love that message and so many
    0:52:37 really successful people who have been on the
    0:52:39 show have a similar thought Robert Green Matt
    0:52:42 Higgins Donald Miller everybody that I’ve
    0:52:45 talked to lately seems to always talk about how
    0:52:47 you need to use death as a motivator and death
    0:52:50 can be your life’s greatest motivator so I
    0:52:53 really agree with that perspective Ben where
    0:52:55 can everybody get the bucket list journal you
    0:52:57 can get it on Amazon if you search the bucket list
    0:52:59 journal should be the first thing that pops
    0:53:02 up or you can go to my Instagram which is at
    0:53:05 Ben Nemton and the link in the bio will send
    0:53:09 you to the bucket list journal website awesome
    0:53:11 well thank you so much for this eye-opening
    0:53:14 conversation thank you so much for having me
    0:53:16 you

    Ben Nemtin was an athlete in university with a bright future until crippling mental health struggles blindsided him and forced him to drop out of college. But through that darkness, he found purpose: a list of 100 dreams and a pact with three friends to help others pursue theirs too. Ben believes building a bucket list saved his life and living your “Buried Life” is essential for profiting in life. In this episode, Ben shares his battle with mental health, how bucket lists became his path to purpose, and how entrepreneurs can take control of their own happiness, one bold goal at a time.

    In this episode, Hala and Ben will discuss:

    (00:00) Introduction

    (06:12) Ben’s struggle with depression

    (13:47) Origin of The Buried Life and Bucket List Concept

    (23:47) The Ripple Effect of Purpose and Helping Others

    (27:51) Why Personal Goals Aren’t Selfish

    (33:06) Legendary bucket‑list wins: Playing with Obama

    (40:56) Red Carpet Escapades: Asking Out Celebrities

    (48:11) Unfinished Bucket List Items and Future Plans

    (50:00) How Death Can Be Life’s Greatest Motivator

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    0:01:41 I went from being on top of the world and having this massively successful company to
    0:01:42 slowly having to lay people off.
    0:01:50 And by mid-2021, this business I had spent so many years building up to came crashing down.
    0:01:53 So you wrote this book and you actually opened the book up with a question,
    0:01:55 what must you let go of?
    0:01:56 Why is that important?
    0:02:03 The clarity and the sense of purpose and the real impact of our work happens when we
    0:02:06 start to strip things away, not when we add to them.
    0:02:10 I don’t think that with all the responsibilities we have in this life that we can successfully
    0:02:14 try and build 10 completely different businesses at the same time.
    0:02:16 You have to pick one thing.
    0:02:21 Stop saying yes to things you don’t really want to do so that you can have as much time
    0:02:24 as possible to work on yourself or work on your dreams.
    0:02:27 It really isn’t about your dreams.
    0:02:28 It’s about your standards.
    0:02:34 If you can raise your floor, if you can raise your standards, then you actually get closer
    0:02:36 to the ceiling without the ceiling needing to break.
    0:02:57 Yeah, fam, have you ever felt stuck spinning your wheels, desperately wanting to change,
    0:02:58 but not knowing how to break through?
    0:03:02 What if the key to transforming your life was simply learning to ask the right questions?
    0:03:07 Today, we’re asking the deep questions with Rachel Hollis, an entrepreneur, motivational
    0:03:09 speaker, and host of the Rachel Hollis podcast.
    0:03:15 She’s also the author of the bestselling book, Girl, Wash Your Face, and her latest book is called
    0:03:16 What If You Are the Answer?
    0:03:22 In this episode, Rachel will reveal how asking life-changing questions can completely reshape
    0:03:27 your mindset, unlock your potential, and propel you towards a life you’ve always dreamed of.
    0:03:29 Rachel, welcome to Young and Profiting Podcast.
    0:03:31 Thanks for having me.
    0:03:34 I’m so excited to have you on the show, Rachel.
    0:03:40 As a podcaster, I’ve always looked up to you, and you’ve inspired so many millions of women
    0:03:42 and people in general.
    0:03:45 And so my first question is really a warm-up question.
    0:03:50 Because you are such an expert on personal development, and you’re really known for your
    0:03:57 routines and your habits, what is the most powerful thing that you do every single morning to set
    0:03:57 off your day?
    0:04:02 Oh my gosh, this is like asking, what is my favorite child?
    0:04:08 I think, honestly, the biggest shift that happened for me about 15 years ago was understanding what
    0:04:15 a morning routine was and the value of creating one around not just what I wanted to achieve,
    0:04:16 but the season of life that I am in.
    0:04:21 I think there’s so much content out there telling you how to build a morning routine, and it’s
    0:04:26 really easy to start to gather information and not really take that on board in what will
    0:04:32 work for you. So if you are a new parent with a new baby at home, your life and your ability to
    0:04:36 wake up in the morning is going to look very different than if you are a freelancer in your
    0:04:44 20s. So for me, really understanding the importance of that time. Like, I have four kids, so waking up
    0:04:52 before my kids wake up, I know it sounds so simple, but if you start your day on offense versus
    0:04:58 on defense, it makes all the difference. So waking up before anyone else in the house, having my coffee,
    0:05:05 I sit in the same spot every single day, I read nonfiction, I do a gratitude practice. I do those
    0:05:10 things that are really paramount to what I am trying to accomplish in my life right now, but that’s not
    0:05:16 something I understood I needed a long time ago. So I know that’s kind of like a bigger scope, but
    0:05:22 building that morning routine around your life and your goals is the key.
    0:05:27 That makes sense because every season of life is different and requires different things. Now, what if
    0:05:33 somebody feels like they’re just not a morning person? This is me, right? I struggle waking up early. I get
    0:05:41 really creative late at night. It’s just my natural rhythm to want to stay up late and not necessarily
    0:05:46 wake up super early. So what would you say to somebody like me? Well, I would say if you don’t
    0:05:51 have anything that requires you to be up early, then you should go with whatever your natural rhythms are.
    0:05:57 So if I didn’t have four kids, I’m not sure what my normal rhythm would be, but I have to make sure
    0:06:01 everybody gets up and gets out the door to school. And then there are other people listening who might
    0:06:06 have a nine to five job that they have to start a commute for. But if you don’t have to, like I have a ton
    0:06:12 of friends who are entrepreneurs and they might not wake up until 11 a.m., 12 o’clock because they don’t
    0:06:18 have to. And they can stay up all night and really lean into when they feel most creative. That’s why I
    0:06:24 was saying having a routine that works for you. Take a bunch of the information and do the research,
    0:06:28 find out what works for other people. But at the end of the day, it needs to be applicable to your life
    0:06:34 or it’s not going to get you the results that you want. Now, I will just caveat or add a little
    0:06:41 bit here. For someone who does need to be up early and they really want to have a morning routine,
    0:06:46 they want to be a morning person, but they don’t feel like they are, that’s a learned skill. Nobody
    0:06:50 comes into this world, nobody gives birth to a baby and the doctor looks at the baby and they’re like,
    0:06:57 oh, it’s an early riser. That’s not a thing. So if you want anything in life, if you want a habit that
    0:07:02 you don’t currently have, you can teach yourself that habit. So if I were you, and let’s say you
    0:07:07 get up every day at seven and you want to get to a place where you’re part of the 5 a.m. club,
    0:07:12 set that alarm 15 minutes earlier every single day. Let your body adjust to getting up earlier. Make
    0:07:18 sure that you have something exciting to wake up for. Like I love coffee. So it’s really easy for me
    0:07:22 to pop out of bed. Or if I have a new book that I’m reading, because I’m super nerdy, but if I have a
    0:07:25 new book that I’m reading that I feel like I’m learning a ton from, that’ll get me out of
    0:07:31 bed. Have something that you’re headed right into so that you’ve got a reason to meet your
    0:07:35 alarm where it meets you instead of hitting the snooze.
    0:07:41 I love that advice. Just setting the clock back 15 minutes early every single time so that you can
    0:07:47 just wean yourself. I love that advice. So we were talking about seasons of life. And I know a new
    0:07:52 topic that you talk a lot about is reinvention, right? And you’ve reinvented yourself several times.
    0:07:57 So talk to us about the different seasons of life that you’ve had so far and where you are now.
    0:08:03 Yeah. I don’t know if this is every entrepreneur. I sort of think it is. A lot of my friends who are
    0:08:09 in the space or who are entrepreneurs, I feel like every five to seven years, there starts to be a shift.
    0:08:15 Or if there’s not, I think the work begins to feel a bit stale. Especially if you’re an entrepreneur,
    0:08:20 you’re a risk taker, you’re ambitious, you’re competitive. And so I think you’re always
    0:08:27 looking around for what’s happening in the market and how you might move with what’s going on.
    0:08:33 So I actually started, my very first business was as an event planner in Los Angeles. I started
    0:08:39 planning weddings and bat mitzvahs. And then I slowly moved into getting to do corporate events,
    0:08:44 getting to work on movie premieres and press junkets and working in the entertainment industry.
    0:08:52 And then in 2007, 2008, I kept hearing about this thing called a blog. Everyone was blogging. I didn’t
    0:08:56 really know what that meant. So I just started to blog. I would literally write about what I ate for
    0:09:00 dinner last night. And I just kept putting it out. And I had an intern one day that said,
    0:09:04 you know, a blog is actually supposed to be about something, right? And I was like,
    0:09:09 Oh, thank you. So I started to blog about events and how you could host events in your home and
    0:09:15 set a beautiful table. And slowly but surely, I kept figuring that out and figuring it out. And then
    0:09:21 one day a brand reached out and said, could we pay you to put our product into one of your blog posts?
    0:09:28 And I will never forget. It was Eggland’s Best Eggs. And they offered me $250. And I was like,
    0:09:36 I am rich. And this is a business. And I realized that there was, I mean, now it’s so common. But
    0:09:42 back then we didn’t really know what we were doing. So we just started to build a company around having
    0:09:46 a website that brands wanted to be a part of. And if we could just create content that was really,
    0:09:52 really good, that maybe people would pay to get in front of our audience. So I did that for a while,
    0:09:56 built that up to a place I was really proud of it. And then because I was writing every day for the blog,
    0:10:02 started to dream about writing my own book. I’ve always been a book nerd. I’ve wanted to be an author
    0:10:08 since I was a little girl. And so I was like, okay, I’m just going to try this. And I published my first
    0:10:15 book in 2014. And, you know, like five people cared. I wasn’t an overnight success by any stretch of the
    0:10:21 imagination, but I just kept writing. I’d come out with a book every year. And on my sixth book,
    0:10:26 which was in 2018, I wrote a book called Girl, Wash Your Face, which unbeknownst to me or anybody
    0:10:34 else in the entire world became this runaway success. And it really launched my career in personal
    0:10:40 development. I never, I cannot even believe that this is my career, to be honest with you, Hala.
    0:10:47 But yeah, I just tend to, I think, move at the risk of being a hippie, like move with flow and move with
    0:10:52 where I feel like I’m being guided. And then I test stuff. If it’s just easy to move into it,
    0:10:58 I expand with what’s going on. So my career has had a lot of different versions of itself,
    0:11:05 but the entrepreneurial spirit is at the core of everything. So it’s one thing to be interested in a
    0:11:11 certain kind of content. But to figure out how to monetize that in a big way is the key. And I think
    0:11:18 as long as I have done it, I’ve kept the same customer base. So the woman who was reading my
    0:11:22 blog in 2008 is the same woman who reads my books and listens to my podcast today.
    0:11:27 I love that. It’s something that I talk about on the podcast all the time, which is creator
    0:11:31 entrepreneurship, and you’re in an audience-based business. So your product can always change and
    0:11:36 evolve, but you just keep growing that core audience. So I love that you brought that up
    0:11:40 and hit that nail on the head. I’ve got so many questions to kind of dig deep on this.
    0:11:41 Yeah.
    0:11:46 One of them is the fact that I was shocked when I was like, this was her sixth book,
    0:11:51 Girl, Wash Your Face. That’s when I first heard about you. And I thought that was your first book.
    0:11:51 Yeah.
    0:11:57 And it made me realize like, man, like nothing is an overnight success, but there’s a key here.
    0:12:04 Your stuff was fiction before, right? You were writing novels and stuff and you decided to twist
    0:12:09 it and do personal development and use all the skills that you learned. And I guess you had a
    0:12:13 built-in audience. So you tell us in your own words, what changed this time?
    0:12:19 There is no such thing as an overnight success. I cannot tell you how many journalists, when I came
    0:12:24 out with Girl, Stop Apologizing, which followed Girl, Wash Your Face, were like, oh my gosh,
    0:12:28 are you so excited to have your second book out? And I was like, this is my seventh.
    0:12:35 So part of what I think happened there is something that happens a lot with athletes at the highest
    0:12:40 level. I am obsessed with athletes. I’m not obsessed with sports. I don’t really know a lot about sports,
    0:12:47 but I’m so curious about the athletes, the Olympians, how do they make themselves do the same thing
    0:12:52 over and over at the highest level and get the best results again and again? Because essentially,
    0:12:57 as an entrepreneur, that’s what we’re asking of ourselves. So I’m obsessed with this question.
    0:13:02 And one of the themes that I’ve seen over and over is that athletes at the high levels
    0:13:08 fall in love with the grind. They’re in love with the process. They’re in love with how do I make
    0:13:14 this better by the tiniest millisecond? So for me, I really think a big part of the success was I wasn’t
    0:13:20 trying to be successful. I just really liked writing books. I liked writing and I was trying to get better.
    0:13:25 And that was my only goal was I thought, well, if you read my first book and you read my third book,
    0:13:30 as a reader, would you think I had improved as a writer? That’s all I was trying to do.
    0:13:38 And Girl, Wash Your Face was honestly, I think a fluke in a lot of ways. I actually think my ability
    0:13:46 to write fiction is why I have success in the personal development space. Because my audience are not
    0:13:53 people who self-identify as personal development nerds. It’s not like Tony Robbins’ entire audience
    0:13:59 goes over to me. I was speaking to women who maybe had never considered personal development before.
    0:14:05 They might not even have ever gone to therapy. They really had not considered these things at all.
    0:14:11 So I think my ability to storytell and explain how I went through it and how it was helpful,
    0:14:20 that really was a massive unlock that wasn’t in the space. Because I didn’t really know how to be a
    0:14:25 personal development writer, I think that I brought something to it that maybe didn’t exist before.
    0:14:33 But gosh, I cannot stress that enough to any of your listeners. It really is an overnight success after
    0:14:39 working at it for a decade. It’s like, what we do in the dark that gets celebrated in the light,
    0:14:44 nobody’s going to cheer for you. Nobody’s going to be there rooting you on, especially at the hardest
    0:14:52 moments. It’s, can you love the process enough to keep going? Because you know, you don’t know when,
    0:14:56 but you know at some point you’re going to get the results that you’re striving for.
    0:15:01 I know even in my own experience, I started my career in radio working at a hip hop
    0:15:09 radio station. And then I had all these different music at a music blog in 2012. I had all these
    0:15:15 different music online radio shows before podcasts and Young and Profiting was my fifth show, but it
    0:15:21 was my first business entrepreneurship type show. And then it worked out when the other shows didn’t
    0:15:25 work out. So I always love to tell my listeners, there’s no one straight path to what you want.
    0:15:30 You want it to be an author that had an audience. You did it in a slightly different way and
    0:15:35 something changed with the way that people were really receptive to it and it worked.
    0:15:40 Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. And I think going back to that idea of the audience,
    0:15:44 if you figured out your customer base, if you figured out your audience, and even as you were
    0:15:50 changing the format of your show, you were learning how to do a show. You were learning how to be better.
    0:15:54 You were learning how to tell jokes or do an interview. So nothing is wasted.
    0:16:00 Nothing is lost. It’s so easy to look at social media and see everybody else crossing the finish
    0:16:06 line and feel like you are not far enough along in your race. But like, it’s all stacking on top of
    0:16:10 each other to lead you where you’re supposed to go. So just stick with it.
    0:16:16 So you were one of the first mommypreneur influencers. You know, like I always thought
    0:16:24 of you as a mommypreneur and very big on Instagram and your blog. And you were really doing this
    0:16:31 influencer stuff before it was even a thing. So talk to us about what it was like during those days. And
    0:16:36 then you had this big viral moment that really turned everything around. So talk to us about that.
    0:16:43 Yeah. So we didn’t have that word influencer. It’s so common now, but you didn’t call it that.
    0:16:47 I knew a lot of women like me who had websites where they created content.
    0:16:50 You were a mommy blogger. I remember that term.
    0:16:58 Yeah. Like we just created this content based on whatever we were interested in. Like Joy Cho with
    0:17:04 Oh Joy did something very different than I did on my site. And it changed based on whatever your
    0:17:11 interests were. But then brands wanted our audience. And you have to remember, social media did not exist
    0:17:16 back then like it does today. We had Facebook, but even then we didn’t really know what we were doing with
    0:17:22 Facebook. So many of these brands wanted access to people who were devout followers. I mean, they would
    0:17:28 check in every day to see what you wrote about. They’d share it with their friends. And so we didn’t know what to
    0:17:34 charge. We didn’t know what that was worth. And I think probably we all charged way too little for the amount of
    0:17:39 access we were giving away or what they were able to get out of it. But we really were, it felt like the
    0:17:47 wild west of doing branded content for people. But it was fun and we were figuring it out. And if I could
    0:17:52 go back in time, I’m sure I would approach it so differently. But I’m sure there are versions of this
    0:17:59 today of being in an industry that’s either coming up for the first time or maybe shifting so quickly that
    0:18:04 you feel like you’re building the airplane while you’re flying it through the air. There’s a certain kind
    0:18:11 of magic and energy that happens inside of that. And it definitely was that for us. But yeah, we just
    0:18:17 kept like, okay, let’s try this thing and now let’s do this. And even building a team inside of a
    0:18:22 business that didn’t exist before, like you couldn’t call someone or look online and go, well, how do you
    0:18:27 build a lifestyle website? How do you hire editors? How do you hire a photographer? We were making it up as
    0:18:35 we went along for sure. I love that. And then in 2015, a post went viral because of you showing your
    0:18:42 stretch marks. Yeah, for sure. Again, these things are common now. Back then it wasn’t a thing, but
    0:18:48 I had just run the LA Marathon. And to celebrate, I went with my then husband to Mexico. We were on a
    0:18:55 beach in Mexico and I was wearing a bathing suit that I thought was really cute. And I had a following
    0:19:02 on Facebook, but maybe 10,000 people. It wasn’t huge at all. And I was like, oh, they’ll like this
    0:19:05 bathing suit because the bathing suit was monogrammed. And I was like, oh, I’m going to show them. And it
    0:19:10 was a bikini. And I asked my husband at the time, I was like, oh, can you take a picture of me in this
    0:19:15 bikini? And he took a few pictures. And then I went to the pool and I was looking through the photos.
    0:19:21 And in all the photos, you could see my stretch marks pretty predominantly. And I was like, oh,
    0:19:25 I don’t know. Maybe I’m not going to post this. And I was like, oh, who cares? Everyone who follows
    0:19:30 me is a mom like me. They probably have stretch marks too. They’re still going to love this bathing suit.
    0:19:34 I’m just going to write about how I didn’t want to post it because of these stretch marks. And
    0:19:42 I will never forget this, that I posted it. I was on crappy wifi. So I went, I did like a refresh to
    0:19:50 make sure that it had posted. And when I refreshed it, it had a hundred likes. Now that doesn’t seem
    0:19:54 like a big deal, but I am telling you, I’d never gotten more than eight likes on something in my
    0:20:00 entire life. And I was like, holy crap, a hundred likes. This is nuts. And then I like refreshed it
    0:20:07 again and it had like a thousand likes. And I was like, what is going on? And over the course of that
    0:20:14 day, I just remember sitting by a pool, refreshing and just watching it go and get bigger and bigger.
    0:20:20 And I probably had 10,000 followers on Facebook. And by the end of the day, I had like a hundred
    0:20:25 thousand. I’ll tell you what too, Hala, if you’re going to have something go viral, that’s not the
    0:20:31 thing you want to go viral. It’s not yourself in a bikini, like not feeling like the best version of
    0:20:38 you. But that taught me so much because of the response from women to that post. I was like, oh,
    0:20:44 women really want to talk about things that are real. Because this was the era of the Pinterest
    0:20:50 birthday party and everything had to be perfect. And our kids needed to look amazing. And I was like,
    0:20:58 oh, women really want to talk about real things. So that honestly, I think planted the seed of what
    0:21:02 Girl, Wash Your Face would become, which was, can we have a real conversation about what this really
    0:21:09 feels like? Yes, sometimes it’s beautiful. And yes, sometimes it’s not. And our lives are all of it.
    0:21:10 So can we hold space for all of that?
    0:21:15 And so there’s like silver lining, even though it went viral for something that was
    0:21:19 kind of embarrassing and you didn’t know the world was going to go see your stretch marks,
    0:21:24 it gave you a clue of what people might be receptive to and led to a bestselling book. And
    0:21:29 really that was, to me, seemed like a huge turning point in your career of becoming an influencer.
    0:21:37 Yeah, I just, I got so much attention for that post. I didn’t really know what to do with it,
    0:21:44 to be honest with you. But it was, in retrospect, just a really great jumping off point of what my
    0:21:49 career and my writing style would become. It’s kind of wild to me to think about.
    0:21:55 Jenna Kutcher is in my podcast and arc. She’s one of my friends. And she kind of blew up in the same
    0:21:59 way. She posted a picture of her husband and her husband’s very attractive. And she had just
    0:22:04 had a miscarriage. And then she was looking more overweight than usual. And then that post went
    0:22:10 super viral and kickstarted. It’s just so wild how you guys have similar stories. I think that era was
    0:22:18 just craving body positivity. I feel like a grandma when I’m saying this to you, but when all of these
    0:22:24 new websites came around, so let’s say Pinterest is a great example. We learned very quickly as content
    0:22:29 creators that there was an aesthetic that would get you more noticed that people really loved. They
    0:22:34 wanted the blowout. They wanted full hair and makeup. The audience wanted perfect, perfect,
    0:22:40 perfect because they’d never really had a website to see that before. And now you could look up anything
    0:22:46 on Pinterest and find the most aesthetically pleasing version of that. And we all started to chase that
    0:22:54 visual ideal, not just in the work we created, but in our lives. So I think it was just right for this
    0:22:59 opportunity for some women to raise their hand and go like, yeah, but that’s not always what it looks
    0:23:05 like. Some days I feel like I look that pretty, but other days that’s just not reality. And so if we
    0:23:12 can show up as our real selves, how would that be? I think there’s such a better balance of it today
    0:23:18 because you have creators who are creating on both sides of that spectrum. You have stunningly beautiful
    0:23:24 doing makeup tutorials. And then you have people who are like, oh, I haven’t taken a shower in four
    0:23:30 days and I’m struggling with mental health and this is where I am. And it allows people to see themselves.
    0:23:34 Let’s hold that thought and take a quick break with our sponsors.
    0:23:43 So let’s transition to your book. The reason why you wrote that bestselling book,
    0:23:46 Girl, Wash Your Face, is because somebody asked you a really good question.
    0:23:56 I had the opportunity to meet an author I really loved and admired in Jen Hatmaker. And she was so
    0:24:01 many of us, like, oh, we all just like were obsessed with her. And I got to meet her and I was fangirling
    0:24:08 so hard. And she asked me a question that truly changed the course of my life. She was like, oh,
    0:24:11 what’s the next book you’re writing? And I was like, oh, oh my gosh. Okay. Well,
    0:24:15 because I was writing fiction and I was telling her all about this fiction that I was writing. And
    0:24:23 she said, no, God, no, not that. What’s the story of your heart? What’s the thing you would say to
    0:24:30 women if you could say anything? And I truly did not know that I had an answer to that question.
    0:24:35 I just started word vomiting all over her. I was like, oh, I just, I wish that women knew how powerful
    0:24:39 they were. And I wish they knew they could stand up and go again. And I wish they knew they could take
    0:24:46 ownership of their life. And it’s like, girl, like, please get it together. Stop crying, girl. And so
    0:24:53 I just kept saying like, girl. And she was like, oh, right, girl, wash your face. And I was like,
    0:25:02 oh my, that, that. And I left that conversation with her that we were on a trip together. I left that
    0:25:08 conversation and wrote the first chapter of what would become girl, wash your face in the aftermath
    0:25:14 of our chat. And so the idea that someone could ask you a question that completely shifts the way
    0:25:19 you see yourself or your work. Oh my gosh, it’s so incredibly powerful.
    0:25:26 So you wrote this book, I believe it’s 26 questions. Why did you decide to write this book in a question
    0:25:32 format? Every chapter is based around a question. Honestly, it feels like a really beautiful bookend
    0:25:39 to Girl, Wash Your Face, to be honest. When you have the kind of success that I had with that book,
    0:25:44 everyone wants you to just keep writing that book. They’re like, I’ll do it again, do it again,
    0:25:50 do it again. And I’ve just gotten to the place in my life and my career where I don’t want to tell
    0:25:56 anybody else how to live. When I wrote Girl, Wash Your Face, I was like, I have all of your answers. I know
    0:26:01 exactly what you should do. And the older I get, the more I understand that everyone’s on their own
    0:26:06 journey and without context into someone else’s lived experience, you can’t really offer great advice.
    0:26:12 But I have had those moments and I have had those prompts and those questions where someone gave me a bit
    0:26:17 of wisdom that utterly changed the way I saw myself. So I thought, well, could I share some
    0:26:24 of the framework that I’ve used to figure out my own path and my own answers? So instead of a book of my
    0:26:30 answers, it’s a book of my questions so that you can form your own answers to wherever you are or
    0:26:36 whatever’s going on for you. You quote Mike Tyson in the book, you say, everyone has a plan until they
    0:26:43 get punched in the face. So you were just talking about you shifting your worldview based on the things
    0:26:47 that have happened to you. I want my audience to get to know you really well because this is the first
    0:26:52 time you’ve been on the show. What are some of those punching in the face moments that just changed the
    0:26:57 way that you think about things? I think this audience will really identify with the fact that
    0:27:04 at the beginning of 2020, I had a staff of 60 people. I had a massive business that was based
    0:27:11 on live events. I threw conferences for women to work on personal development and we were crushing
    0:27:20 it. We’re absolutely crushing it. And went into 2020 so freaking pumped, so excited. We did an event
    0:27:26 in January of 2020 in Florida that was like 6,000 people for three days. We were like, here we go,
    0:27:32 let’s do it. March, the very first week of March 2020, we did an event in Toronto. It was our first
    0:27:38 international conference, absolutely crushed it. And I remember at that conference, we started to hear
    0:27:42 about this thing that was happening in China and people were getting sick and we were like, wow,
    0:27:48 this is wild. By the time I got back to Austin, which is where I lived at the time, the world was shutting
    0:27:54 down. And like most people, we were like, okay, I guess we’ll work from home for a couple of weeks
    0:27:59 and then we’ll be back. And obviously that’s not what happened, but probably one of the worst
    0:28:05 businesses you could be in in 2020 was live events. So I went from being on top of the world and having
    0:28:13 this massively successful company to slowly having to lay people off. And by mid 2021, just everything
    0:28:20 had shut down. I just had taken my staff back to, I think, four or five people. And the podcast really became
    0:28:30 the core of my business. But this business I had spent so many years building up to came crashing down. And I know
    0:28:39 your audience is going to get this too. So much of that business was me. That’s how I saw myself. It was my identity.
    0:28:47 I had a massive ego death, like so many things happened, but that, so the business collapsing,
    0:28:55 I went through a really bad divorce in 2020 and just, it felt kind of like one thing had stacked on top of
    0:29:02 another. And in 20, oh gosh, it’s all running together in my mind. Within the last couple of years,
    0:29:10 my ex-husband and my children’s father passed away unexpectedly. And that was sort of just getting
    0:29:17 your head back above water. And then life kicks the crap out of you again. And I know I’m not the only
    0:29:24 one who has that story either. I know that so many people have their version of getting sick or losing
    0:29:31 someone they love or getting fired or trying to figure it out. And I think it affects us all in
    0:29:37 different ways. But for me, there’s just so much psychologically tied up in all of it. And there
    0:29:42 are times where I’ve felt like, why am I working so hard? Why am I trying to build this? Why am I
    0:29:48 trying to do this thing if it can like go away that fast? And then other times where I’m like, oh,
    0:29:54 we’ve worked too hard to like give up now. So I’d sort of vacillate between both of those things. But
    0:30:01 I really wanted to write about that lived experience because that’s my trauma. But I guarantee people
    0:30:05 listening to this have way worse stories that they could tell and way harder things that they’ve lived
    0:30:13 through. There’s some solace in understanding you’re not the only one who maybe had to fight hard to get
    0:30:19 themselves going today. But by God, we’re here and we’re doing it and we’re showing up as the very best
    0:30:23 that we can with what we’ve got. And hopefully it gets a little bit easier as we go along. We start to get
    0:30:30 some momentum and then we can do some really great work. And I feel like there’s so many little lessons
    0:30:35 in all of that. We were talking about the audience-based business. The fact that you have all these channels
    0:30:41 with all these different audiences. Yeah, you lost the live events, but you were able to lean into your
    0:30:46 podcast and grow that. You were able to lean into social media and grow that. I’m assuming you’ve
    0:30:51 got an email list. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Basically, like you’ve made sure that you’ve diversified your
    0:30:56 audience enough and you’ve got big audiences in different pockets in case something like this
    0:31:02 happens. Yes. So question for you, advice for the entrepreneur that feels on top of the world,
    0:31:07 like maybe me. What’s your advice for me right now where I feel like everything’s going great?
    0:31:12 To your point, who knows? Crossing my fingers, nothing does happen. But what’s your advice to
    0:31:17 somebody who feels on top of the world? And then what’s your advice to somebody who might be going
    0:31:22 through a rough patch in their entrepreneurship? That is such a good question. And I love that you’re
    0:31:27 wise enough to ask that, Hala. If you’re listening to this and you’re like, I am crushing it,
    0:31:32 I can do no wrong. Because there was a time where I was like, we’re just doing all the things. This is
    0:31:37 working. One thing, and you kind of mentioned this already, is anybody who has a business
    0:31:42 that is audience-based and you access that audience through someone else’s business,
    0:31:48 you need to be really careful. So I told you guys that, you know, I had the website and we built
    0:31:54 Facebook pages, which sounds so antiquated now, but that was the means to access an audience back in the
    0:31:59 day. And Russell, I mean, you mentioned Russell Brunson. He has his own version of the story of
    0:32:04 you build up this massive audience. And then one day the company you access them through
    0:32:11 changes and now you don’t have access anymore. So I remember with Facebook, we killed ourselves
    0:32:17 building up an audience and getting people to join that page. And then one day you posted something and
    0:32:23 it literally would say underneath your posts, 3% of your followers saw this post. If you’d like to
    0:32:30 access more of your followers, boost your post. Paying for Facebook ads is so normal now, but there
    0:32:35 was a time where you did not have to pay to access the audience. The same thing happens when an algorithm
    0:32:42 changes. The same thing happens as podcasters. You know this. iOS did an update a year and a half ago
    0:32:48 that completely changed the way. Yes, it completely changed the way that our audience can access our
    0:32:54 content. And it really makes you aware of how vulnerable you are if you access your fan base
    0:33:03 or your audience through someone else’s business. So yes, I’ve had an email since I had a blog. So
    0:33:12 300,000 people, 60% open rate because I have sent her an email every Sunday for 15 years. And I very
    0:33:19 rarely use that audience. I don’t monetize it. I don’t sell access to them. I just utilize it so that
    0:33:24 if I’m launching something like a new book, I know that I can speak directly to my fan base without having
    0:33:32 to pay an advertising fee. So be aware of how you access everybody. That’s super important.
    0:33:40 Be aware that I’m going to sound so ridiculous right now, but just real talk, the bigger that you get,
    0:33:44 everyone’s like, this is amazing. This is amazing. This is amazing. And like one day people are like,
    0:33:51 I don’t like this anymore. Especially if you are a woman. Straight up real talk. You hit a point,
    0:33:56 everyone’s rooting for you and they’re so proud of what you’re doing. And all of a sudden it’s like,
    0:34:06 wait a minute, this, something’s wrong here. So I wish that I had understood that you have to tread
    0:34:11 lightly. I think you have to be a little bit paranoid when you hit higher levels of success,
    0:34:18 because I tend to be such a Pollyanna and I’m just like, everyone’s amazing. Everyone’s kind. The world is
    0:34:26 beautiful. And it is. And also it’s not. So that’s where diversifying how you get your revenue is
    0:34:30 really important. Like you said, if one stream goes away, you know, you’ve got another, but yeah,
    0:34:35 I just wish I had been a little bit more like a mobster or something, just like a little bit more
    0:34:44 who’s going to get me. Yeah. Like I know that that sounds so dramatic, but honestly,
    0:34:51 I think that as women in business, particularly if you’re building a company, particularly as you grow
    0:34:58 bigger and bigger, I honestly probably would have talked about my success less. I thought if I share
    0:35:04 what we’re doing, if I share how many people are employed at this company and they have 401ks and
    0:35:10 health insurance and like, if I share what we’re doing, that will inspire other women to build
    0:35:15 businesses as well. But the more that I talked about success, the more it seemed to upset people.
    0:35:22 And I wish I had been a bit more protective of what we were doing and the kind of numbers that we do.
    0:35:29 And now I don’t talk about any of that at all. I used to think, Hala, I was like, why doesn’t Oprah?
    0:35:35 Why doesn’t Sarah Blakely? Why doesn’t Reese Witherspoon? These women are billionaires with a B.
    0:35:42 Why aren’t they talking about their entrepreneurial success? And now I’m like, because the world doesn’t
    0:35:47 like it when women succeed at that level. And if you want to keep succeeding at a certain level,
    0:35:55 I think that the way that it is acceptable is to be demure and not admit your success. And maybe
    0:35:59 that’s very pessimistic, but that’s what I would say to you.
    0:36:05 I feel honored that you shared that with us because I feel like that was really deep. And thank you for
    0:36:09 sharing it because I think we need to hear it. My mom always yells at me. She’ll be like, stop telling
    0:36:11 everybody how much money you made or whatever.
    0:36:18 Seriously. It’s so innocent when we do it. It really is so innocent. You’re like, holy crap,
    0:36:24 this team has worked our butts off. We got to tell people we’re doing this stuff. But it puts a target
    0:36:31 on your back. It really does. And I think, I hate that it’s the case because I don’t think it’s the
    0:36:37 same for men who are entrepreneurs and who are building. People are inspired by that. But it’s also
    0:36:42 like, this is the game as it exists today. I hope it’s not the same when my daughter gets older,
    0:36:46 but this is the game. And so if you want to play the game and you want to succeed at the highest
    0:36:52 levels, you have to understand what’s going to allow you to keep doing that. And I know that there are
    0:36:57 people who get really frustrated by that because you’re like, no, you should break the glass ceiling
    0:37:04 and speak out against this. And it’s like, yes, but also there’s a point at which that trying to do
    0:37:10 that starts to go in opposition of what you’re trying to achieve as an entrepreneur. Just hold
    0:37:13 space for that as you’re building this massive thing.
    0:37:19 Have some humility. And I guess if you are going to share your successes, make sure that there’s
    0:37:21 actionable advice of why you brought it up.
    0:37:27 Right. Right. Yeah. We do it too, because women are so often underestimated in business.
    0:37:33 So we want to say, oh, but wait, I’ve built an eight figure company. I have 60 employees. Like
    0:37:38 I’ve done these because you want to like legitimize yourself. But then simultaneously, I think people
    0:37:44 just the framework is they tend to hear that as bragging and you’re not trying to brag. You’re
    0:37:49 more just trying to share your story. But yeah, I just think, oh, I feel like such a like
    0:37:52 cheesy, but like be careful, be thoughtful.
    0:37:58 I appreciate that. So how about somebody who maybe they’re like you where they have to lay
    0:38:03 off a bunch of people, something happened where their business got turned upside down. They weren’t
    0:38:08 expecting it. They didn’t diversify enough. And now they’re stuck in a spot where they feel like a
    0:38:13 failure because they tied their identity to their company and now their company sucks. So they think
    0:38:13 they suck.
    0:38:19 Gosh, first of all, you’re not alone. That’s so many people. But I think that if you’re feeling
    0:38:24 like that right now, you really need to study more successful entrepreneurs, because if you
    0:38:28 study more successful entrepreneurs, you’re going to find failures at the greatest, most
    0:38:33 massive levels. I promise you failures that are way bigger than what you’ve just gone through.
    0:38:40 And the people whose names we know, it’s because they stood up and win again. I sat down with Alex
    0:38:46 Hormozy a month or two ago, and he was talking about how many times he’s failed. And if you follow
    0:38:52 his journey at all, you hear all these stories, it’s like four times he’s had these massive failures
    0:38:57 where he’s been not just failed, but someone else has taken all of his money kind of thing,
    0:39:03 where it would be so easy to get so bitter about that and to be like, see, like people are bad.
    0:39:10 The world’s out to get me. I’ll never succeed. And I asked him, I’m like, how on earth do you stand
    0:39:15 back up and go again? When this happens for the fourth time, not the first, the fourth. And he’s
    0:39:22 like, well, because I figure at this point, I at least know what not to do. I actually have a lot
    0:39:28 more information than I had previously. I’m back at zero, but I’m not at zero in terms of knowledge.
    0:39:32 So now I’m like, okay, I know how to build because I’ve done that before. And I know the pitfalls
    0:39:41 because I’ve fallen into them. He really sees that experience as this beautiful level up instead
    0:39:47 of as if he’s done something wrong. So just study other people and listen to other people’s stories,
    0:39:54 because you’re going to hear that this is part of the journey. Failure is part of the path to success,
    0:40:01 period. And every time you reach a new level, you fail at new levels. Every single time you get to a
    0:40:06 new level, you’re going to encounter ways that you’re going to mess up or lose money or lose time
    0:40:11 or hire the wrong person. It’s just what happens. But if you can learn from that and keep going,
    0:40:17 keep pushing forward, you are so much further along than 90% of people who encounter a hardship and give
    0:40:23 up. So while we’re on entrepreneurship, I do want to ask you about your early entrepreneurship years.
    0:40:29 So you actually started your first business, I believe, when you were 24. And you dropped out of
    0:40:31 college, right? You never graduated college. Is that right?
    0:40:37 No. Yeah. I went to a year of college and I’m going to use air quotes because it was an acting
    0:40:44 conservatory. So it wasn’t even like legit college. How do you think about college now? You have kids.
    0:40:50 Do you encourage them to go to college? I encourage my kids to go to college. My oldest is 18. So he is
    0:40:54 about to choose. By the end of this week, he will know all the places he got into and where he’s going to
    0:41:01 decide to go. Thank you. And I encourage them to go for two reasons. One, because I think college
    0:41:06 gives you four more years before you have to be a responsible adult. And I think we all wish we had
    0:41:12 that. So I love that they can have this time to experiment and learn who they are with a bit of a
    0:41:17 safety net. The other reason that I encourage them to go to college is because they won’t have to pay for
    0:41:22 it. I work really hard to make a really beautiful life. And that means that my kids won’t have to pay
    0:41:28 for school. But if my kids did have to pay for school, I think I’d have a completely different
    0:41:34 perspective on it. I know that it is possible to be incredibly successful without going to college.
    0:41:40 If you want to be a doctor, yeah. If you want to be a lawyer, like there are certain things you need to
    0:41:47 do to get that accreditation, but lots of other things. I feel like you can be very successful in
    0:41:54 this life. Learning as you go through apprenticeships, learning through online. There’s so much freaking
    0:42:00 information that you can get online for free. I would never encourage someone to go to college if
    0:42:06 it was going to put them into debt. That makes no sense to me. We’ll be right back after a quick break
    0:42:17 from our sponsors. Okay, so back to the book. It’s called What If You Are The Answer. How did you come
    0:42:24 up with these 26 questions? Well, I looked at moments in my life where I felt like I had had what Oprah
    0:42:31 calls the aha moment. When I had had a moment of like, oh God, how did I not see that before? So there’s
    0:42:37 one in the book that’s talking about being a manager of people and being an entrepreneur. So this one
    0:42:42 will maybe resonate with the audience. But I had an employee at the time that I was really struggling
    0:42:48 with. I was trying to figure out how to be a better manager because I was like, it must be me. If I could
    0:42:53 better manage this person, then we wouldn’t be having these problems. And so I was trying to become a better
    0:42:58 manager and I was reading a ton of books and I was watching all the YouTube videos I could find.
    0:43:05 And I happened to find this YouTube video super old school from early 2000s. And this guy was talking
    0:43:13 about hiring and firing people. And I think probably my fatal flaw as a manager of people since I first
    0:43:20 started my business is I don’t want anyone to be mad at me. Yeah. I want to be like a nice person and I
    0:43:25 would, you know, and I give people way too many chances and then the work really suffers. And then the
    0:43:30 quality of your team’s work overall suffers because everyone else on the team is like, well, you let
    0:43:37 that person get away with coming three hours late. So I was watching this video and he said, would you
    0:43:42 hire them again today? He said, if they came in for an interview and you knew everything about them that
    0:43:48 you’ve just experienced over the last time, would you hire this person again today? And if the answer is
    0:43:55 no, you need to fire them immediately. And I was like, whoa. And that became such an incredible, right?
    0:44:02 It became such an incredible question, like with friendships or with commitments that I had or with
    0:44:07 relationships with people where I was like, wait a minute, am I in this relationship with my friend
    0:44:11 from high school? We have totally different lives. And I feel like I kind of become the worst version of
    0:44:17 myself when I’m with them. Would I sign up for again today? No way. So why am I still showing up
    0:44:22 for this relationship? And I’m like, oh, because I’m pot committed. Like I feel like I’ve given so much
    0:44:27 time. I’ve given so much effort or I don’t want to be the bad guy. And so I stay inside of things I
    0:44:32 shouldn’t be inside of. And I don’t know if you’ve ever heard that quote. It’s not the employee you hire
    0:44:39 that destroys your business. It’s the one you won’t fire. That as a question for me to keep asking,
    0:44:43 would you sign up for this again? Would you hire them again? Would you go on a second date?
    0:44:51 And I say this again and again in the book, you don’t need to make a decision based on the new
    0:44:56 information you have. If you’re like, yep, I wouldn’t hire Robert again today. You don’t have
    0:45:00 to do anything. You might not yet have the courage to do what needs to be done, but just knowing that
    0:45:06 information is empowering. It changes the way you approach the relationship. It changes maybe how you give
    0:45:11 them direction, maybe a little fire in your belly. You’re like, dang, this cost me a lot of money and
    0:45:17 I’m not leading well. Dave Ramsey says to be unclear is to be unkind. I’m not being clear with this
    0:45:23 employee. Just having the information is empowering. So I looked at times in my life where I’d been given
    0:45:27 a question that really helped me. And then I tried to share them in the chapters of the book.
    0:45:34 I feel like that question in itself, would I do whatever again? Could be a whole book itself.
    0:45:39 Yes. It could be a whole book by itself, honestly. I love that. It’s so powerful. I feel like there’s
    0:45:44 going to be so many instances in my life where I’m just going to be like, even I’m dating right now,
    0:45:49 would I do this date again? If not, then no second date, you know? You could apply it to so many
    0:45:54 different things. I love that. We have to be careful, I think, as entrepreneurs, because entrepreneurs,
    0:45:58 entrepreneurs, even if we get stuff done, if we knock it out of the park, we do it. We’re also
    0:46:04 dreamers. In our heart of hearts, we’re dreamers and we can envision big things and we can imagine
    0:46:10 big things. And that is so powerful. It’s also super dangerous. I say dangerous because we’ll meet
    0:46:15 someone. We desperately need to hire a marketing manager and we meet someone and they’re a marketing
    0:46:22 manager and they’re like sort of good and you really need help. And so you’re like, you can envision
    0:46:27 in your head what Becky’s going to be. And you make up this whole fantasy about how great Becky’s going
    0:46:32 to be and how it’s going to clear a bunch of time in your day. And really that had nothing to do with
    0:46:38 this employee and who they are. You just made it up in your own mind. So continuing to ask yourself
    0:46:43 again and again, would I sign up? It’s also, if someone’s listening to this and they’re an employee,
    0:46:48 let’s say you have a side hustle or you’re dreaming about starting your own thing. If you wouldn’t
    0:46:54 sign up for this job again, if you’re like, this job is the worst, I hate this, I don’t want to be
    0:47:00 here. What are you doing? There are a lot of ways to pay your rent. There are a lot of ways to make
    0:47:07 money. And life is too freaking short to be miserable. So if you wouldn’t sign up for this job again,
    0:47:12 again, you don’t have to make a change today, but you definitely have some information now that should
    0:47:17 affect the way you are living your life. Maybe you start to be on the lookout or maybe you need to
    0:47:23 increase the side hustle so that you can have more income. Everything that I do, the podcast or the
    0:47:29 books or even the website has always been about this idea that we get one shot to do this life.
    0:47:38 One. You get one time, one journey through this. And I just think we have to do everything in our power
    0:47:46 to enjoy the experience, to live the best that we can and to stretch into our full potential.
    0:47:53 And if you are miserable in your day job, I don’t know how much you’re going to be able to show up for
    0:47:56 the people in your life that you love. I don’t know how much you’re going to enjoy your weekends.
    0:48:03 I don’t know that you’re giving the full energy and full capacity to the dream that you’re trying to
    0:48:10 build because if all of your vibration is being lowered going into the nine to five all week long,
    0:48:16 that’s going to affect what you’re able to do in the off hours. It’s going to affect the side hustle.
    0:48:22 So if you could pay your bills in a different way, if you could maybe have a job that doesn’t require
    0:48:27 quite so much and maybe it’s not as exciting, but like we’re paying rent and we can like fully put our
    0:48:32 heart and soul because we have the energy and a higher vibration to put into the dream, I think
    0:48:38 you’d be shocked at what would happen. And I feel like on the flip side, if you decide I would be
    0:48:43 an entrepreneur, I would do exactly what I’m doing now, I can imagine that that would really fire you up.
    0:48:47 And then you’d realize the highs and lows, it doesn’t matter. I would be doing this
    0:48:54 no matter what. And I feel like it would make you feel more optimistic and inspired to do the work.
    0:48:59 There’s a fantastic book that everybody should read. Honestly, everybody in your audience, it’s very small,
    0:49:06 super easy to get through. It’s The Dip by Seth Godin. It’s so fantastic. If you find yourself in a season
    0:49:11 of, do I really want to do this? Should I keep going? Should I keep, should I stay in this? Should I go?
    0:49:18 He gives this beautiful quote, which I reference in this book is, the opposite of quitting is not to
    0:49:25 continue to do the same thing. The opposite of quitting is recommitting with passion. So people
    0:49:31 find themselves and they’re like, should I quit or should I keep going? But if you decide not to quit,
    0:49:37 the way that you come back and you add life to that and power to that is you’re like, not only am I going
    0:49:41 to keep doing this thing because I believe in my dream and I believe in my company, I’m going to show up,
    0:49:49 but you recommit with passion. You’re like, I’m all in. You get fired up. You remember your why. You show
    0:49:54 up for what you’re trying to do because otherwise you’re going to be in the exact same spot questioning
    0:49:59 the exact same thing again next year. So let’s talk about another question. You actually opened the book
    0:50:07 up with a question. What must you let go of? Why is that important? Because I think that the world teaches us
    0:50:15 that the answer to everything we’re looking for is to add more things. The world’s like, add a new house,
    0:50:21 get a new car, get a bigger job, make more money. And the older I get, the more I understand that
    0:50:31 the clarity and the sense of purpose and the real true impact of our work happens when we start to strip
    0:50:37 things away, not when we add to them. So, you know, if you have people in your community who are
    0:50:44 working on side hustles, same with my peeps and whether it’s at a book tour or maybe they call in
    0:50:51 to ask a question on the podcast, I will inevitably have people who are like, I really want to build my
    0:50:56 own company. I’m like, that’s amazing. Tell me about it. And they’re like, well, so I am a dog groomer,
    0:51:03 but also I am a wedding photographer and also I bake cupcakes and also, and I’m like, yeah, no,
    0:51:10 you got to pick one. You have to pick one thing. I don’t think that with all the responsibilities we
    0:51:16 have in this life that we can successfully try and build 10 completely different businesses at the same
    0:51:22 time. So this idea of what must you let go of, I ask myself at least once a month, and I encourage
    0:51:29 everybody to do this, to ask in order to be the best version of myself, what do I need to lose?
    0:51:34 What should not be here? Whether that’s excuses, whether that’s a habit, whether that’s something
    0:51:39 you currently consume, whether that’s, you know what, I need to stop trying to do 50 things and just
    0:51:47 go all in on one. What do you need to let go of is really powerful. It’s like, girl, we are not asking
    0:51:53 you to add one more thing to your life. We’re asking you to stop signing up for the class bake
    0:51:59 sale. Stop signing up to throw your cousin’s baby shower. Stop saying yes to things you don’t really
    0:52:04 want to do so that you can have as much time as possible to work on yourself or work on your dreams.
    0:52:12 It’s so good. And running this company that I’m running, I’ve noticed focus is so important. And the
    0:52:17 bigger that you get, the more opportunities, the more sexy red dresses, as Alex from Woosie says,
    0:52:23 there are. And you’ve got to just stay focused. So I love this question. I’m even thinking about putting
    0:52:27 it in my leadership meeting every week. We can say like, what are we letting go of? What do we have
    0:52:33 to let go of in order to get our priorities down? Yeah, there’s a fantastic author named Bob Goff.
    0:52:40 He’s really like everyone’s favorite grandpa. Very, very wise. And he says he quit something every
    0:52:45 Thursday. He’s like, Rach, I quit something every Thursday. Him and his assistant ask each other,
    0:52:49 what are you quitting today? I’m like, that is a lot of quitting. He’s like, I know, but it really
    0:52:56 works. So they’ll come up with these little habits. It’s more just like creating the intention of asking
    0:53:05 what should not be here. Especially if you built a business from the ground up. It’s amazing because it
    0:53:10 means you know how to do every part of your business. It’s also so dangerous because you
    0:53:14 know how to do every part of your business. So it’s so easy to be like, I can do that. I can
    0:53:20 figure that out. I’ll write that. I’ll post that. I’ll do the thing. And it’s not the best use of your
    0:53:26 time. What are the things that only you can do and only you should be doing? And if you teach yourself
    0:53:31 to ask what shouldn’t be here, like if you brain dump, you take all the stuff that’s in your head right
    0:53:36 now, write it down in a journal. You’re like, I got to do all this stuff. The first thing to do is look
    0:53:43 at the brain dump and ask, what is not mine? What can I just absolutely delete? What can I delegate?
    0:53:49 And then once you’ve cleared that out of the way, you’re like, okay, these six things, that’s what I
    0:53:55 actually need to do. And I need to be better about pushing off the other stuff that should not be on my
    0:53:59 agenda. Yeah. And I feel like as an entrepreneur, when you’re first starting out, let’s say you’re a
    0:54:05 solopreneur. You don’t have any team. You’re like rewarded for wearing all these hats, doing all
    0:54:09 these things, inventing things. But then once something sticks and you actually start to grow
    0:54:14 a business, that’s when you have to focus and you can’t be like how you were, even though you used
    0:54:21 to be rewarded for it. I’m sure you’ve read it, but Traction and Rocket Fuel are both such incredible
    0:54:28 books every entrepreneur needs to read. But the idea of having someone who can integrate your vision for
    0:54:33 you instead of you doing every single thing in the business to have someone who comes in operationally
    0:54:38 so that you can be the visionary and be the person who’s imagining like where you’re going to go and
    0:54:43 what you’re going to do. It’s really hard to teach ourselves because we’re like, it’s just faster if I do
    0:54:51 it. But what we accidentally do is also then teach our teams to function that way. So then you have someone
    0:54:56 who’s your marketing head who’s posting on social because they’re like, well, I can just do it.
    0:55:00 But then they’re not able to function at their highest level and give you the results that you’re
    0:55:07 paying them for. So it’s not just important that we lead ourselves, but it’s also the reminder that how
    0:55:13 you function in your role, your team is watching you to understand how they’re supposed to function
    0:55:19 in their role. Okay, so you have a couple other questions that I wanted to bring up. You say,
    0:55:24 what big thing is actually little and what little thing is actually big?
    0:55:32 So the big thing that is actually little is just asking yourself, are you giving way too much power
    0:55:38 and way too much energy to something that’s really, truly not that big a deal? For instance, if we’re
    0:55:44 speaking in terms of entrepreneurship, are you currently doing something and putting so much
    0:55:50 emphasis and so much time around this piece and it actually isn’t giving you the results that you think
    0:55:56 it is, or it’s actually not that huge of a deal, but you’re just so in the cycle, you can’t step out of
    0:56:05 it. Or the example I use in the book is so silly, but going to concerts or vacations or traveling by
    0:56:11 myself is so normal. But I know a lot of women that that would be their worst nightmare to go to
    0:56:17 a concert alone or go on a vacation alone. They’re like, I’d love to travel, but I don’t have anyone to
    0:56:22 go with. And I’m like, well, if you can afford it, then go on the trip. Like, oh my God, I could never.
    0:56:27 And I’m like, okay, well, you’re making a mountain out of a molehill. This is actually not that big a deal.
    0:56:33 I was on a podcast tour a couple of years ago and I would ask the audience, what’s a crazy thing you’ve
    0:56:39 always wanted to do, but you tell yourself that’s for other people. I’m not that kind of a girl. That’s
    0:56:48 for other people. And the overwhelming response was get a tattoo. And I was like, girl, literally you
    0:56:54 could leave here tonight and go to a tattoo parlor and get like a dot. It doesn’t have to be a big deal.
    0:57:01 And then all of a sudden between one breath and the next, you are a person who has tattoos. You’ve done
    0:57:07 it. You’ve actually changed the way that you see yourself. So you have to be really careful in life
    0:57:14 that these things that have become really big tent poles or really big belief systems, every once in a while,
    0:57:20 you need to like shake things up and ask, why do I believe that? Why am I so scared of this? Why do
    0:57:25 I keep doing the same thing? So what big thing is actually little? And then what little thing is
    0:57:34 actually big is really a call to understand how powerful we are as individual people. I don’t care
    0:57:40 who you are listening to this, where this finds you today. I don’t care how lost you feel or stuck you
    0:57:46 feel. You are powerful beyond measure. You have so much capability. You have so much potential.
    0:57:53 There’s that great quote, which I’m going to mess up. If you truly understood how powerful you were,
    0:58:03 you would be shocked. So it’s just a call to remember what is it that you are capable of? Are you truly
    0:58:10 living into your potential? If you get really honest with yourself, what percentage are you at
    0:58:15 right now? If a hundred percent is you showing up as the best version of you every day, if you’re being
    0:58:21 really honest with yourself, what’s your percentage rating today? And again, that’s not to make you feel
    0:58:27 shame. It’s more just give yourself the knowledge. You don’t have to change anything today. But if you
    0:58:33 have the information, if you’re like, you know what, if I’m being totally honest, I’m giving 70%. I have
    0:58:39 more to give. I think I’m going to get the percentage wrong, but David Goggins is this really famous ultra
    0:58:47 runner says, when you feel tired for the first time on a run, you’re really only at like 40%, which is so
    0:58:52 crazy. But I can, I’m a long distance runner. I cannot tell you how often I’ve been on a run. And
    0:58:58 I’m like, I’m tired. And then I hear David Goggins say like, you’re only at 40%. I’m like, okay, let’s go.
    0:59:04 The race that we just started. Yeah, exactly. So just asking yourself these questions gives you some
    0:59:10 more information for where could you put a little bit more effort in? Where do you need to challenge
    0:59:15 your limiting beliefs so that you can move further along this year? There’s another one that I really like,
    0:59:18 and it’s, what is your floor? I thought this was really powerful.
    0:59:25 When I was younger, I used to think that everything, like all of our success was wrapped in
    0:59:31 our imagination. Like how big could we dream and what was possible and how hard were we willing to work?
    0:59:37 And I have learned over time that it really isn’t about your dreams. It’s about your standards.
    0:59:45 It is what is the minimum standard for your life that allows you to grow. So it’s not in
    0:59:49 the book I say, it’s not about expanding your ceiling. It’s about raising your floor.
    0:59:56 Because if you elevate, if you draw a line in the sand and you say, I will never go backwards. I will
    1:00:01 never be that person again. I will never smoke another cigarette or drink too much tequila. I’m
    1:00:07 trying to think of leverage points in my life where I like, you know, I got sick because I had too much
    1:00:13 Jose Cuervo. And then the next day I was like, I can never have tequila again. It was like a very
    1:00:20 definitive line in the sand. But if you could approach habits that way, if you could approach
    1:00:26 conversations with yourself that way, if you could be that hardcore about, you know what? I am never
    1:00:32 going to commit to this kind of thing again. Or I’m never going to allow myself to be spoken to this
    1:00:38 way again. If you can raise your floor, if you can raise your standards, then you actually get closer
    1:00:46 to the ceiling without the ceiling needing to break. So now we’re actually achieving more and we’re
    1:00:53 setting a new level for ourselves because we’re not backtracking. I think most of us can get really
    1:00:57 excited because it’s the new year. They’re really excited because we’ve just celebrated a big birthday.
    1:01:04 We can get pumped up and motivate ourselves to go do something big that pushes us closer to our goals
    1:01:10 and dreams because of what’s going on in our life. That’s easy. The question is, can you do it next
    1:01:15 Tuesday? Can you do it when life gets hard? Can you do it when you get punched in the stomach? Can you do
    1:01:21 it when your girlfriend breaks up with you? Can you keep doing the thing even when you don’t want to?
    1:01:27 That’s a standard. Years ago, one of the women in my community was going through something really hard.
    1:01:33 I ran into her at like an airport or something. And she said, I do all the things you say because I’m big
    1:01:37 on morning routine and the habits that you have in your day. So she’s like, you know, I drink the water
    1:01:45 and I get up early and I’m doing gratitude and whatever. But my mom has cancer. I don’t know how I’m
    1:01:51 supposed to keep trying to like add to my life and do all these things that I used to be excited about
    1:01:56 when I’m going through something hard. And I was like, oh no, I don’t think that we build habits
    1:02:03 so that we can keep expanding when life is hard because life will absolutely be hard. I think we
    1:02:09 build great habits so that when life kicks the crap out of us, we don’t lose all of the traction we’ve
    1:02:15 gained. So we’re like, okay, I’m not expansive right now, but by God, I’m also not backtracking.
    1:02:20 I’m going to just minimum effective dose. I’m going to keep showing up in the same ways you build those
    1:02:26 great habits when you can so that they’re there when you need them. It’s not about doing more. It’s
    1:02:28 about raising your floor.
    1:02:34 I love how it’s drawing a line in the sand and preventing you from being like wishy-washy,
    1:02:39 going back on your word. That’s how you just stay in a hamster wheel doing the same thing over and
    1:02:44 over and over again and nothing changes because you don’t have enough self-integrity to just say,
    1:02:49 I’m not doing this anymore. I’m not doing this said thing that is messing my life up, right?
    1:02:52 I love that. I love thinking about it that way.
    1:02:59 This is for anybody, because this used to be me, where you’ve started and stopped a lot of dreams.
    1:03:05 You’ve started and stopped a lot of health plans, exercise regimens. You’ve tried to quit smoking a
    1:03:10 million times. For anybody who’s started and stopped and it hasn’t stuck, you’ve actually created a
    1:03:16 pattern in your psychology that says that you’re a quitter. You’re like, well, you know, I try and then
    1:03:21 I quit. And every time you quit, it reinforces the belief that you have that you are a quitter.
    1:03:30 It’s why the line in the sand is so freaking powerful because you’re like, but I stuck with something.
    1:03:36 I didn’t quit on this one thing. So one of my favorite things to encourage people to do is to give up
    1:03:44 one thing that you currently consume, alcohol, cigarettes, binge watching TV until 2 a.m. and messing up
    1:03:49 your sleep schedule. Anything that you currently consume that you know is not good for you. Doesn’t
    1:03:53 matter what it is. Everyone will have something that pops into their head. If I just stopped doing
    1:03:59 this thing, I would feel better. I don’t even care if you replace the thing with a different thing.
    1:04:08 It’s just for 30 days, can you commit to not consuming that one habit? And if you do,
    1:04:13 at the end of those 30 days, you’re like, oh, dude, I can keep a promise to myself.
    1:04:20 I can keep my word. We will keep our words and our commitment to every single person in our life
    1:04:26 and break the promise we made to ourself. So just for 30 days, if you can do something,
    1:04:31 you will shift the way that you see yourself. It literally doesn’t matter what it is. It just matters
    1:04:35 that you keep your honor in this pact you’ve made with yourself.
    1:04:40 So Young and Profiters, I want you to take a moment. I want you to think of one thing that you’re going
    1:04:47 to stop doing for the next 30 days. What are you going to set your floor at? Love that. Okay. So
    1:04:51 another good one, especially for entrepreneurs, did you win or did you learn?
    1:04:59 Oh my gosh. I used to beat myself up. Like I think a lot of people for not being where I wanted to be
    1:05:07 for not winning every single time for not knocking it out of the park. And honestly, I think most of us
    1:05:14 have experience with this, that you’re like, I can either look at these losses as an example of why
    1:05:20 I shouldn’t keep going and why I’m not who I thought I was, or I can gain as much information as possible
    1:05:25 out of this lived experience and I can use it to help myself move to the next level.
    1:05:29 So it’s not a question of did you win or you lose? It’s a question of did you win or you learn?
    1:05:37 Because as we’re going through this, you are going to fail. I cannot stress this to you enough.
    1:05:40 You’re going to lose money. You’re going to lose time. You’re going to piss people off. You’re going
    1:05:44 to make mistakes. You’re going to hire the wrong person probably over and over and over because
    1:05:50 just every entrepreneur I know has that story. It’s part of the process.
    1:05:56 But if you can ask yourself, if you have the courage to look at what has happened and ask
    1:06:01 yourself, okay, what were wrong? How could we do that better next time? How was I responsible for
    1:06:06 this? How were they responsible for this? Okay, we’re moving forward with this information.
    1:06:13 Then suddenly you’re empowered. You’re not like the loser who keeps messing up. You’re like,
    1:06:18 oh, I keep trying stuff. And in trying stuff, I’m going to make mistakes and I’m going to learn as I
    1:06:24 go. I heard once that when you can remember something that used to make you emotional and it doesn’t make
    1:06:30 you emotional anymore, it’s now wisdom. So when you can look at, you know, I’m sure Holly, you have an
    1:06:36 experience in your business where you’re like, oh, I can’t believe I did that. The minute that you can get
    1:06:41 to a place where you can look at that with acceptance, you’re like, yeah, I did the best I
    1:06:48 could. I didn’t know better. Now I do. But it doesn’t make you upset anymore. That is like chef’s
    1:06:55 kiss. That is the goal. And as we grow in our entrepreneurial careers, the faster we can get to
    1:07:01 that, like the quicker we can get to the postmortem, like looking at what happened and not being emotional
    1:07:07 about it. Oh my gosh, it is the biggest unlock because now you can move faster than the competition
    1:07:13 because you’re not obsessing over the things you did wrong. You’re like, yes. And where are we going
    1:07:18 from here? And so it’s really important to look back, get that postmortem, but it’s also important to ask
    1:07:22 what’s working, right? That’s another question that you have in your book. Let’s take this one as the last
    1:07:30 one. This one, I actually heard very early in my entrepreneurial career. I used to go to any
    1:07:34 conference I could go to, and I really hope your listeners try this as much as you can.
    1:07:39 Go listen to other successful entrepreneurs talk about their life. Now you’ve got so much access with
    1:07:44 podcasts and YouTube, but being in person and listening to someone share their story, even if
    1:07:51 they’re not in your industry, is just, oh, it’s so helpful. So I got to hear Mariam Nafisi, who founded
    1:07:59 Minted. This was eons ago, very early in their career. And Minted started as a website for artists
    1:08:06 to show their paintings off or something. It was not at all what it is today. And she said
    1:08:12 this line I never forgot, which was, follow the signs of life. So she’s like, we launched this
    1:08:19 company. We were so excited and it just did not work. And she had gotten like investment money and
    1:08:24 everyone was freaking out and it was .com era. So everything should work, but this website was not
    1:08:30 working. And just month after month after month, it was failing. And she was like, okay,
    1:08:37 is any part of this site working? And I’m going to botch this story, but it’s some version of this.
    1:08:42 She’s like, is any part of this website working? They look in the backend and they see that there’s
    1:08:52 one thing. And they were like selling the stationery. No one was buying the paintings,
    1:08:59 but this one artist or this handful of artists, the stationery was selling. It was the only part of the
    1:09:04 business that was working, but we saw that and we were like, could we take artists’ work and put it on
    1:09:10 more stationery? Might that be a thing? And of course, then that was the foundation of Minted and it’s very
    1:09:17 successful and all these years later, so big, but it happened because they were looking at what was
    1:09:23 working and trying to figure out how to expand on that. So in the business, it doesn’t matter what
    1:09:28 industry you’re in. It’s so easy to get bogged down in like, this is the way we’ve always done things
    1:09:34 or assuming that you know how the audience is finding you or assuming that you know the data.
    1:09:42 You have to actually know what’s working unemotionally. You know, if you’re looking in the back and you’re like,
    1:09:48 wow, this is crazy. So many people are listening to this kind of podcast episode or so many people are buying
    1:09:54 only this product. So pay attention to what’s working in your business. Pay attention to what’s working in your
    1:10:00 life. When you’re going through your day, which parts of your day feel really good? Are there friends or relationships
    1:10:06 in your life that really pump you up? Are there friends or relationships that really drain you?
    1:10:13 Okay. Some part of that equation is not working. So how do we put more energy and our own life into the
    1:10:20 parts that work? If you, as entrepreneurs have not studied Pareto principle or the 80-20 principle,
    1:10:29 it’s such a game changer in understanding the idea that a small amount of your effort actually equates
    1:10:34 to a very big return. The problem is we’re doing a hundred things and we don’t know which of the
    1:10:40 hundred are giving us the results. When you can start to identify which things are actually working,
    1:10:45 you can pour more gasoline on that. And then you start to get these exponential results without
    1:10:50 exponential effort. I don’t think you necessarily wrote this book for entrepreneurs,
    1:10:54 but as I was reading it, I was like, this is, this applies, this applies. I want to use this.
    1:11:00 I want to use this. So awesome. Yeah. Yeah. Thank you so much. I end my show with two questions. I ask
    1:11:04 all my guests, you can just answer them from your heart. It doesn’t have to be about the topic of
    1:11:09 today’s show. So the first one is what is one actionable thing our young and profiters can do today
    1:11:15 to become more profitable tomorrow? Know where the highest revenue comes from. So I know we’re at the
    1:11:19 end, but let me give you this like bit of wisdom because it was huge for me. So I told you all that
    1:11:25 I started as a wedding planner back in the day and I used to advertise on a website called The Knot,
    1:11:31 which was like the, probably still is the place to get clients if you’re a wedding planner. And it costs
    1:11:36 a lot of money to do that advertising. And I would, at the end of the year, you know, oh, I made this
    1:11:40 money and I’d go on with my life. And I went to one of these business conferences and I heard someone
    1:11:47 talk about margin, which truly I did not know about what margin was. And so I went home that
    1:11:52 day and I made a list of all the clients that I had and how much money I had made and the margin on each
    1:11:58 of them. And then I put where I got that business from. And when I looked at that list, I was shocked
    1:12:06 to discover that all of my highest revenue, like the best margin, best budget clients came from one
    1:12:10 person. They did not come from the website. They did not come from advertising. They came
    1:12:16 from a photographer, this high-end photographer who only had high-end clients. So when she referred
    1:12:21 them to me, I knew that they were people who had a budget to afford me and they ended up just being a
    1:12:26 better clientele overall. So the next year I stopped spending money on the website and just absolutely
    1:12:33 kissed up to this one photographer and bought her gifts, took her to lunch, spa days. And I did the
    1:12:39 same for some other vendors and I saw my business explode and my revenue explode. So the best piece
    1:12:44 of advice I could give you about profit is know where the best clients are actually coming from.
    1:12:49 So good. Oh my gosh. You just gave me so many ideas from my agency.
    1:12:50 Thank you.
    1:12:51 Good, good, good.
    1:12:56 And what would you say your secret to profiting in life is? And that could go beyond business.
    1:13:06 I think it really has to be about checking in with yourself about what success looks like this year
    1:13:12 or this quarter because it really does change as we get older and it really does change as you have
    1:13:17 more responsibility, whether that’s employees or family who is counting on you. And you have to keep
    1:13:25 checking in with what matters, right? And it’s so, so easy to get caught in the race of trying to one-up
    1:13:30 people or compete on social media or how many followers do you have. And at the end of the day,
    1:13:37 we can achieve success in the eyes of the world and live a life that’s completely bankrupt and absent
    1:13:45 of joy. And I really want to find a balance. When I was younger, I was a workaholic. My early
    1:13:53 entrepreneurial career was just nonstop. There comes a point where a toll will be paid. And usually,
    1:13:59 especially for women, but this happens with men too, the toll is paid in our health. We start to
    1:14:04 experience health problems. We start to get anxiety. We start to get just all kinds of things go wrong
    1:14:10 because we are so good at forcing ourselves to keep up with the hustle. We don’t take time to decompress.
    1:14:16 We don’t take time for self-care. We’re stressed to the max. And so that is going to cost something.
    1:14:23 So as I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned, yeah, I want to be very successful. I want to make a lot of money.
    1:14:29 I’ve got four kids. I want to live a beautiful life. But simultaneously, it can’t come at the cost
    1:14:33 of my health or my peace. I have to balance both areas.
    1:14:38 So good. Rachel, it was such an honor to have you on the show. I hope you come on whenever you have
    1:14:40 something new to promote. You’re always welcome on the show.
    1:14:41 Thank you.
    1:14:44 Where can everybody learn more about you and everything that you do?
    1:14:51 If you like a podcast, I also have a podcast. I tend to talk more about holistic success. So
    1:14:56 that’s the Rachel Hollis podcast and can grab my books anywhere books are sold and I’m on social
    1:14:59 media. Rachel, thank you so much for joining us today.
    1:15:01 You’re so welcome. Thank you for having me.
    1:15:11 Yeah, fam. What an inspiring conversation with Rachel Hollis. She dropped so many gems on
    1:15:15 reinvention, learning from failure, the power of asking yourself the right questions to keep
    1:15:21 growing. And I could just go on and on. I loved this conversation. But if there’s one thing I could
    1:15:28 take away from this, it’s that failure isn’t truly the end. It’s just a plot twist. And sometimes you’re
    1:15:33 just going to get punched in the face when you least expect it. But even that can be overcome.
    1:15:40 Also, as Rachel reminded us, the questions we ask ourselves will certainly shape the lives that we
    1:15:46 create. And I loved so many of the questions that she shared. For example, what must I let go of?
    1:15:50 When you’re first starting out as an entrepreneur, you have to wear so many different hats and you’re
    1:15:55 rewarded for wearing all these hats. But as you get further along in your journey, you’re going to have
    1:16:00 to start taking some of these hats off, putting these hats on other people because these hats
    1:16:07 are going to slow you down. Another great question is, what is my floor? Like Rachel said, true progress
    1:16:12 isn’t about expanding your ceiling. It’s about raising your floor. It doesn’t matter how lofty your dreams
    1:16:18 are if you aren’t able to raise your standards. Finally, did I win or did I learn? Growth isn’t just
    1:16:24 about celebrating victories. It’s about understanding what we can do even better next time. And every loss,
    1:16:29 every setback, frankly, has a lot more to teach us on that front than any single one of our
    1:16:36 successes. So pay attention to why you failed and learn from it. So Young and Profiters, what is
    1:16:41 one question that you’re going to start asking yourself today? Thanks for listening to this episode
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    0:01:48 Hey, Yap Gang.
    0:01:52 One of the many things I hope listeners of this show have learned over the years is that
    0:01:54 aging doesn’t mean slowing down.
    0:01:56 It means leveling up.
    0:02:01 The key is knowing how to train your brain and body to keep growing, adapting, and performing
    0:02:03 at your best, no matter what your age.
    0:02:07 After all, we all want to stay young and profiting.
    0:02:13 In this Yap Classic episode from 2023, we’re going to revisit my interview with the peak performance
    0:02:14 expert, Stephen Kotler.
    0:02:20 Stephen is the executive director of the Flow Research Collective, and he spent years figuring
    0:02:22 out how to sustain high performance deep into adulthood.
    0:02:27 In this conversation, he shared some of his findings about what really works, along with
    0:02:33 how deliberate play can supercharge your brain’s performance and the surprising benefits of
    0:02:35 cross-generational friendships.
    0:02:39 So get ready to rethink everything you know about growing older.
    0:02:43 Without further ado, I give you Stephen Kotler.
    0:02:48 So Stephen, I’m super looking forward to this conversation.
    0:02:53 My podcast is called Young and Profiting, but I actually have avid listeners of all ages in
    0:02:54 their 40s and 50s and beyond.
    0:02:57 And so I know they’ll greatly appreciate this conversation.
    0:03:03 And to kick it off, I figured we would start with how you got the inspiration to study peak
    0:03:03 performance.
    0:03:08 So I learned that you were really shocked by the story of Antonio Stradivaris.
    0:03:13 And he’s a famous violin maker, and he had amazing feat of creating two of his most famous
    0:03:15 violins when he was 92 years old.
    0:03:18 And this was in the 1700s, way before medical advancements.
    0:03:22 And so I’d love to understand why his story was so shocking to you.
    0:03:28 How did he dispel the typical, you know, thoughts around traditional aging?
    0:03:31 And how did he inspire you to study peak performance aging?
    0:03:34 So, you know, books have a lot of origin stories.
    0:03:36 There’s like 11 different things that come together.
    0:03:41 I’ve been working, researching, looking at the field of peak performance aging for a while
    0:03:43 in a totally unrelated project, right?
    0:03:47 I was going to write a mystery novel, and I wanted a cat burglar as a character who was
    0:03:48 going to steal musical instruments.
    0:03:51 Who made the rarest musical instruments in history?
    0:03:52 Oh, it’s Stradivarius.
    0:03:57 And then I found, figured out what you mentioned, which is he made two of the rarest and most
    0:03:59 expensive musical instruments in his 90s.
    0:04:01 And I went, well, wait a minute.
    0:04:07 Everything I’ve been told about physical abilities is like the older myth about aging, which most
    0:04:12 of us believe, and I believed at the time of this, is what you could call the long, slow
    0:04:12 rot theory.
    0:04:16 It’s the idea that all of our mental skills and our physical skills that decline over time,
    0:04:18 there’s nothing we can do to stop the slide.
    0:04:25 So included in those physical skills would be fast twitch muscle response, fine motor performance,
    0:04:32 dexterity, all this stuff you would need to make a violin or a viola in your 90s, along
    0:04:36 with expertise and wisdom and all that, like cognitive abilities.
    0:04:39 And it sort of paused me, and I was like, well, wait a minute.
    0:04:46 If this is true, either Stradivarius is like the one in a billion, or most of what we’ve been
    0:04:47 told about aging is wrong.
    0:04:52 I had already been looking at other aspects of it, but really sort of lit a fire under
    0:04:56 me to really investigate our physical abilities and what happened to them over time.
    0:04:58 I’ve been looking at the cognitive stuff for a while.
    0:05:00 It’s very related to flow.
    0:05:03 How we age, flow plays a big role there.
    0:05:05 So this is not new territory to me.
    0:05:09 The physical side was like, holy crap, could this possibly be true?
    0:05:11 And it is true.
    0:05:11 It’s true across the board.
    0:05:15 Every one of our physical skills are use it or lose it skills.
    0:05:16 And the research is really clear.
    0:05:19 We don’t stop using these skills, both physical and mental.
    0:05:24 We can hang on to them, even advance them far, far later into life than anybody thought possible.
    0:05:26 I love this.
    0:05:31 So you’re saying the long, slow rot theory basically means that our physical, mental skills
    0:05:31 decline over time.
    0:05:34 There’s nothing that we can really do to stop the slide.
    0:05:40 That’s what inspired you to kind of research this in more detail, understand performance,
    0:05:40 peak aging.
    0:05:44 And like you just said, you said that use it or lose it skills.
    0:05:46 We actually have control over them.
    0:05:51 We used to think that our physical abilities just decline, but there’s a way we can actually
    0:05:52 keep those skills.
    0:05:56 So talk to us more about use it or lose it skills, what they are, how we keep them, I guess,
    0:05:57 healthy.
    0:06:02 Yeah, so there’s a bunch of stuff on the cognitive side.
    0:06:03 Let’s get back there in a second.
    0:06:07 On the physical side, there’s five main categories that matter.
    0:06:14 And let me, since a lot of your listeners are younger, let me start here, which is peak performance
    0:06:15 aging starts young.
    0:06:22 Like the research is really clear, like interventions in your eighties, even beyond matter, like really
    0:06:22 matter.
    0:06:26 You can, you can really make changes right up to the end and they matter and they’re going
    0:06:28 to have actual big effects.
    0:06:32 But a lot of this stuff that you want to start working on, you actually want to start working
    0:06:34 on in your twenties and your thirties.
    0:06:38 And, you know, this is the biohacking crowd is very aware of this, right?
    0:06:41 A lot of that crowd is twenties and thirties in the doing a lot of these things.
    0:06:45 Now I might argue that they’re doing some of the wrong stuff because they don’t quite understand
    0:06:50 what peak performance aging is, but besides the point, a lot of this stuff starts young
    0:06:52 on the physical side.
    0:06:59 We want to train five skills that matter most strength, stamina, flexibility, agility, and
    0:07:00 balance.
    0:07:02 Those are the five skills that you want to train over time.
    0:07:04 And this is not new knowledge.
    0:07:08 Like the world health organization knows exactly how many minutes a week we should be training
    0:07:13 these things, but peak performance aging, it’s 150 to 300 minutes of hard aerobic training
    0:07:19 a week, moderate to vigorous aerobic training week, two strength training days a week, and
    0:07:22 three flexibility, balance, and agility days a week.
    0:07:26 Or you can find one skill.
    0:07:30 I chose park skiing in the, in the book that accompanies all that, right?
    0:07:36 If I, by in park skiing, I’m using strength, stamina, balance, agility, flexibility.
    0:07:37 There’s other stuff you want to do.
    0:07:40 There’s ways we have things called prime mover.
    0:07:41 Muscle muscles are big muscles.
    0:07:45 And then we have stabilizer muscles, like your rotator cuffs, your hip flexors.
    0:07:51 Over time, the body gets more efficient and it will start using the prime moves movers and
    0:07:53 not use the stabilizer muscles.
    0:07:58 So if you’ve been on the couch for a while and you come back to athletics, you’re not going
    0:07:59 to hurt your quad.
    0:08:01 You’re going to tear the stable out.
    0:08:02 You’re going to tear your hip flexor.
    0:08:04 Because it stopped doing the work.
    0:08:07 Your quad, if you’re walking around, your ambulatory is working.
    0:08:09 Your hip flexor has started to atrophy.
    0:08:13 So there’s ways you want to sort of think about training that’s a little bit different if you’ve
    0:08:14 been away for a while.
    0:08:18 But those are the physical skills we need to train over time.
    0:08:21 On the cognitive side, it’s a really long list.
    0:08:23 And let me pause there.
    0:08:24 Let you ask another question.
    0:08:27 Then we’ll get to the stuff on the cognitive side because we’ll spend the next 20 minutes.
    0:08:29 I’ll spend the next 20 minutes talking.
    0:08:30 Yeah, 100%.
    0:08:37 So on the physical side, why are action sports and what you call dynamic activities so important
    0:08:40 to help us with these user-to-lose-it skills?
    0:08:44 Because I think a lot of people who are older, we’re used to going to the gym, taking group
    0:08:47 classes, whatever, but nobody’s really thinking about action sports.
    0:08:50 And you say that they’re a great way to leverage these skills.
    0:08:52 Okay, we got to get to the full sentence anyway.
    0:08:53 So let’s…
    0:08:54 Go for it.
    0:08:54 Just tell me.
    0:08:57 Throw it out there and then we’ll break it apart and why it matters so much.
    0:08:58 Okay.
    0:09:02 So if you want to rock till you drop, if you really are interested in peak performance
    0:09:10 aging, you need to regularly engage in challenging, creative, and social activities that is, you’ve
    0:09:16 just pointed out, that demand dynamic, deliberate play and take place in novel outdoor environments.
    0:09:21 Now let’s unpack what this big ass sentence and what it means and why it answers your question.
    0:09:26 So challenging social and creative, lifelong learning matters for a bunch of different
    0:09:31 reasons, but short version, if we want to preserve brain function, we need expertise and wisdom.
    0:09:37 Expertise and wisdom are these very diverse neural nets in the brain, lots of real estate, lots
    0:09:39 of redundancy, impervious to cognitive decline.
    0:09:42 The more expertise, the more wisdom.
    0:09:44 And this is why one of the reasons peak performance aging starts young.
    0:09:51 Like literally the guy who did the core research on wisdom, Elkanon Goldberg, his core advice
    0:09:55 is that the more wisdom, the more expertise, the more we have cognitive reserve, the meaning,
    0:10:00 the more we can stave off Alzheimer’s, dementia, cognitive decline, all the things that are going
    0:10:01 to happen, could happen to the brain over time.
    0:10:03 This is how we fight back.
    0:10:09 And his point was wisdom among the many things encapsulated in wisdom are all like the unconscious
    0:10:14 rules that govern how to systems work, how does behavior work, all the like all that stuff.
    0:10:17 It’s onboarded slowly over time.
    0:10:19 So you want to start training these things.
    0:10:22 You want to start learning, challenging creative and social activities.
    0:10:26 We learn a lot during there also tend to drive us into flow.
    0:10:29 Social activities are really important as we age.
    0:10:33 Most important thing you can do for your brain is maintain social activity because it keeps the
    0:10:39 brain active in really important ways and really lowers stress levels.
    0:10:43 So a lot of stuff we’re going to be talking about, there are nine known causes of aging.
    0:10:44 They’re all linked to inflammation.
    0:10:46 Inflammation is linked to stress.
    0:10:50 So anything you do that fights stress, that lowers stress, that gives you more emotional
    0:10:53 control is involved in peak performance aging.
    0:10:57 So social activities, lower stress.
    0:10:58 They give us these pro social.
    0:11:00 Oh, there’s people around who love me, got my back.
    0:11:01 I can be a little less stressed.
    0:11:03 So there’s a lot of that stuff.
    0:11:06 Dynamic, deliberate play is the next bit.
    0:11:08 Dynamic is literally what we’ve been talking about.
    0:11:12 It’s just a fancy way of saying it’s all five categories of functional fitness, strength,
    0:11:15 stamina, flexibility, balance, agility, deliberate play.
    0:11:17 You’ve heard of deliberate practice.
    0:11:23 Anders Ericsson’s favorite expertise, repetition with incremental advancement is the fastest path
    0:11:24 for his expertise.
    0:11:30 And Anders wasn’t wrong, but as he himself said, that’s only true in certain very precise disciplines.
    0:11:36 And when faced with just general learning, deliberate play works better than deliberate
    0:11:36 practice.
    0:11:39 Deliberate play is repetition with improvisation.
    0:11:42 You’re going to do the same thing you did last time, but a little bit of flourish, a little
    0:11:44 flower, a little something fun.
    0:11:46 It’s playful, meaning there’s no shame.
    0:11:47 There’s no embarrassment.
    0:11:48 If you’re bad, who cares?
    0:11:49 You’re having fun.
    0:11:54 But that feeling of play produces more neurochemistry, more endorphins.
    0:11:59 This one really boosts the immune system, lowers stress levels, but amplifies learning.
    0:12:05 So dynamic, deliberate play says I’m using all the physical skills that decline and I’m
    0:12:07 learning better than any other way.
    0:12:10 Novel outdoor environments, the last bit.
    0:12:11 Why do we care?
    0:12:12 And this is back.
    0:12:14 Action sports demand dynamic, deliberate play.
    0:12:18 They take place in novel outdoor environments and they’re challenging, creative, and social.
    0:12:19 So one stop shopping.
    0:12:22 The last bit is most important bit.
    0:12:25 One, outdoor environments in general, lower stress.
    0:12:26 We know this.
    0:12:28 This is well established in positive psychology.
    0:12:32 A 20 minute walk in the woods will outperform most SSRIs for treatment of depression.
    0:12:36 I can talk about why if you care, but like we know that good for you lowers stress.
    0:12:40 So in itself, being in nature is anti-inflammatory.
    0:12:42 So it’s better for healthy aging.
    0:12:46 But if you want to preserve brain function, how do you do that?
    0:12:50 You want to birth new neurons and turn those new neurons into neural nets.
    0:12:52 That’s learning.
    0:12:57 So the adult brain, contrary to what we used to believe for a long time, it actually does
    0:12:58 continue to birth new neurons.
    0:13:02 And in fact, the adult brain will birth about 700 new neurons a day.
    0:13:04 Even basically until you die.
    0:13:07 But where do those neurons show up is the key question.
    0:13:09 They show up in a part of the brain known as the hippocampus.
    0:13:11 The hippocampus does two things.
    0:13:14 It does long-term memory and it does location, place.
    0:13:17 It’s packed with place cells and grid cells.
    0:13:17 Why?
    0:13:19 We evolved as hunter-gatherers.
    0:13:23 When you were in the wild and something emotionally charged happened, you got to remember where
    0:13:24 you were when it happened.
    0:13:25 That’s survival.
    0:13:28 So where did I get attacked by that tiger so I don’t go back there?
    0:13:30 Where was that ripe fruit tree?
    0:13:32 So when it comes into season, I’m hungry.
    0:13:32 I can go there.
    0:13:34 This is survival.
    0:13:36 This is what the brain is designed to do.
    0:13:41 Peak performance and peak performance aging is always getting our biology to work for us
    0:13:42 rather than against us.
    0:13:48 Our biology is designed to remember when we have novel experiences and outdoor environments.
    0:13:51 So that’s what you want to use it for.
    0:13:52 Action sports gives you that.
    0:13:57 Now, I also say in the book that like if action sports aren’t your thing, you can duplicate
    0:13:59 a lot of this by simply hiking with a weight vest.
    0:14:05 And weight vests are really key, better than a lot of other things because they amplify bone
    0:14:05 density.
    0:14:12 Little known fact, your bones, like where you store all your minerals, all your nutrients
    0:14:14 are stored in your bones and they’re released.
    0:14:18 So everything that drives the brain, calcium, for example, which isn’t everything the brain
    0:14:20 does, it’s stored in the bones.
    0:14:26 So as our bones become less dense over time, which happens, it impacts everything.
    0:14:31 For women, really important after menopause, where does most of your estrogen come from?
    0:14:32 Your bones.
    0:14:38 So wildly fluctuating hormonal levels, which is a problem that most people have post-menopause,
    0:14:40 exacerbated by bone density.
    0:14:43 If you want to increase bone density, one of the best ways is hiking with a weight vest.
    0:14:44 There’s lots of literature.
    0:14:46 There’s lots of science on that.
    0:14:49 There’s also a bunch of other benefits, but it hits all of those categories.
    0:14:55 If you’re not interested in action sports, that said, there’s a lot to recommend in action
    0:15:01 sports, especially a lot of in our country is about a new way of approaching these difficult,
    0:15:06 challenging physical activities late in life that’s much safer and much more well-suited
    0:15:07 to progression.
    0:15:13 Yeah, because I have to say, like, I’m in my 30s and I used to ski and I don’t even ski
    0:15:15 anymore because I’m like, I’ve got too much to live for.
    0:15:16 I don’t want to break a bone.
    0:15:17 I’m not into it.
    0:15:22 So I totally love that you’re giving another option in terms of the weighted vest and hiking.
    0:15:26 So in your book, you actually took on park skiing.
    0:15:32 And this is something that people used to believe that anybody over 35, like really couldn’t learn.
    0:15:38 So talk to us about learning that activity at 53 years old and what you learned as an old
    0:15:40 dog learning new tricks.
    0:15:45 So there’s a couple of things you need to know to flesh this out a little bit, but you
    0:15:45 are right.
    0:15:46 Everything you said is totally true.
    0:15:48 Why did I think I could learn to park ski?
    0:15:54 There’s a whole bunch of new stuff in like flow science, my field and body cognition, a
    0:15:57 couple other whiz bang fields that I was like, you know, if these things are right, it should
    0:16:01 be totally possible for older adults to be able to learn really, really difficult skills.
    0:16:04 I’ll give you like one random example.
    0:16:06 We have a motor learning window.
    0:16:11 Like Beverly says, don’t become a gymnast or a ballet dancer after 25, right?
    0:16:15 Because that window’s closed and you can’t just, that’s sort of true.
    0:16:17 There is like, like a lot of things in big performance aging.
    0:16:23 It’s true, but, and here’s the but, what really changes is not our ability to learn.
    0:16:24 It’s how we learn.
    0:16:27 When we’re kids, we play.
    0:16:29 When we’re adults, we have shame.
    0:16:30 We have embarrassment.
    0:16:32 We have time crunches.
    0:16:32 We have stress.
    0:16:34 We have a whole bunch of other stuff.
    0:16:40 If you can shift back into that attitude of play, a lot of that motor learning window reopens.
    0:16:43 So that’s just one example.
    0:16:46 A lot of the skills that we used to think declined over time.
    0:16:50 We now know they’re used to lose it skills, including the skills we need to learn how to
    0:16:50 park ski.
    0:16:53 So that was sort of where it came from.
    0:16:55 I was an expert skier.
    0:16:57 I just had never park skied.
    0:16:58 I knew no tricks, right?
    0:16:59 I was a big mountain skier.
    0:17:03 I could go in a straight line very fast, really well.
    0:17:07 But park skiing is like, it’s, you take, it’s doing tricks off jumps and on rails and wall
    0:17:07 rides.
    0:17:08 It’s very acrobatic.
    0:17:09 It’s very dangerous.
    0:17:13 So it was a, it was a totally not a new adventure for me.
    0:17:17 There were a lot of reasons to take it up.
    0:17:21 There’s, there were a lot of advantages about like knowing how to park ski later in life was,
    0:17:23 was actually that what I was after.
    0:17:28 But it was just a great way to test all this science and, and what we learned and here’s
    0:17:28 what’s cool.
    0:17:31 So I made it to, to, to measure progress.
    0:17:32 I made a list of 20 tracks.
    0:17:36 This is zero to like intermediate intermediate matter, because once you get there, you’re
    0:17:39 sort of like, you take the random shit out of the equation.
    0:17:44 Like you can control your progress and not have these accidental falls or things that
    0:17:46 really can get you hurt early on.
    0:17:49 I figured if it took five years, cool, whatever.
    0:17:50 Like I didn’t care.
    0:17:51 I started when I was 53.
    0:17:53 If it took me to a 60, great, whatever, who cares?
    0:17:55 I did it in under a season.
    0:17:57 In fact, I’ve never learned anything so fast in my entire life.
    0:18:02 And the cool part was my ski partner, who was your age and was a former professional
    0:18:07 athlete who got very injured, retired, had a family, had a job, came back.
    0:18:12 This sport, he used the same methodology and got farther than he’s ever gotten before.
    0:18:14 We came back the following year.
    0:18:18 We took 17 older adults, ages 29 to 68.
    0:18:23 They were intermediate at best park skiers or skiers and snowboarders.
    0:18:29 And we trained them up in four days on the mountain and they got good.
    0:18:32 But then, because as you pointed out, action sports, not for everyone.
    0:18:36 So the key thing here is mindset.
    0:18:37 What am I talking about?
    0:18:38 Let me tell you what we did.
    0:18:39 And let me tell you what it was.
    0:18:41 We then stripped out the action sports.
    0:18:43 We used weight vest hiking instead.
    0:18:53 And we put 300 adults, all ages, ages like 30 to 85, I think, through the same kind of training
    0:18:59 to see if we could explode their mindset towards aging and get them on what I call the NAR style
    0:19:05 quest, which is a challenging social and creative activity that demands dynamic, deliberate
    0:19:07 playing takes place in not a lot of our environments.
    0:19:08 I don’t care what it is.
    0:19:12 I wanted them to just start on a quest that would lead to something that way.
    0:19:17 What I really wanted to do was explode the mindset of all, oh, I’m too old for this shit.
    0:19:18 I’m going to get hurt.
    0:19:19 I got things I want to hold on to.
    0:19:21 It sets up.
    0:19:22 It’s really weird.
    0:19:25 Our biology is designed when we’re young.
    0:19:27 Kids, teenagers, young adults.
    0:19:30 The seeking system sort of drives our behavior.
    0:19:32 This is exploratory behavior, right?
    0:19:33 Like, I’m going to go out.
    0:19:34 I’m going to check out something new.
    0:19:37 I’m going to figure out who I am and what I do and how I want to live and how do I want
    0:19:38 to make a living, all that stuff.
    0:19:40 This is about dopamine and norepinephrine.
    0:19:42 Those are very potent, feel-good neurochemicals.
    0:19:43 They’re very addictive.
    0:19:45 Very, very, very addictive, right?
    0:19:48 Cocaine’s the most widely addictive drug on earth.
    0:19:52 All that happens is it causes the brain to release some dopamine and it blocks its reuptake, right?
    0:19:54 So dopamine is really addictive.
    0:19:59 When we get stuff that we want to hold on to, oh, I got the right job.
    0:20:00 I’ve got the right partner.
    0:20:01 I’ve got kids.
    0:20:02 I’ve got dogs.
    0:20:04 I’ve got a great apartment.
    0:20:05 I like my bike.
    0:20:08 Whatever it is, we no longer want to be seeking.
    0:20:13 We want the stuff that is about conserving what we have, protecting what we have, bonding.
    0:20:18 So we get endorphins and anandamide and oxytocin.
    0:20:22 These are like the pro-social neurochemicals that underpin strong family structures and things
    0:20:24 like that, strong company structures.
    0:20:26 And they’re great, but we’re trading our addictions.
    0:20:29 And what happens is it makes us very, very conservative.
    0:20:32 It shuts down the seeking system.
    0:20:34 We get the voice in our head that says, hey, don’t do that.
    0:20:36 You’re going to lose what you have.
    0:20:40 The truth of the matter is like old people are literally addicted to the wrong drugs in
    0:20:40 their bodies.
    0:20:44 You need all of these systems working together for big performance aging.
    0:20:46 And there’s a penalty for having a mindset of old.
    0:20:47 And this is the point.
    0:20:50 There’s a big health and longevity penalty.
    0:20:53 In fact, when you flip it, when you have a positive mindset towards aging, second half
    0:20:56 of my life is filled with thrilling and exciting possibilities.
    0:20:57 My best days are ahead of me.
    0:20:58 It translates.
    0:21:02 And this is one of the most well-established facts in peak performance aging.
    0:21:06 It will translate into an additional seven and a half years of health and longevity.
    0:21:08 That’s huge.
    0:21:10 That’s like quitting smoking huge.
    0:21:17 In fact, if you’re morbidly obese and have a shitty mindset towards aging, change your mindset
    0:21:18 first.
    0:21:23 It actually have a bigger effect on your life and your health and your longevity than losing
    0:21:23 weight.
    0:21:25 So it’s really, really important.
    0:21:27 It’s where peak performance aging starts.
    0:21:32 And one of the reasons that peak performance aging starts young is if you never develop
    0:21:35 this mindset, this isn’t going to be a problem.
    0:21:36 Like you’re not going to have to overcome it.
    0:21:43 One of the reasons the NAR style adventure is so useful for older adults is like for me,
    0:21:45 it didn’t matter what I wanted to believe about aging.
    0:21:50 Once I got out on the mountain, I was learning how to do 360s and nose butter 360s and 180s and
    0:21:54 all the other stuff I learned, like it just blew up all my limiting beliefs about what
    0:21:55 was possible in the future.
    0:21:59 Because I have just onboarded the most difficult physical thing I’ve ever done in my life.
    0:22:00 And I did it at 53.
    0:22:03 And I’ve done a lot of difficult physical things along the way.
    0:22:04 This was definitely the hardest.
    0:22:05 And I did it.
    0:22:09 And I’m still at the park skiing at 55 now because I wrote books a couple of years old
    0:22:11 in terms of when I wrote it.
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    0:27:33 That’s amazing.
    0:27:40 I have to say it’s very inspiring and I can feel your enthusiasm from the camera and sort of like your vigor for life.
    0:27:47 And so it’s really positive that you’re spreading this message in terms of how people can basically stay young at heart forever.
    0:27:54 And like you said, it’s totally in your control if you put yourselves in situations where you’re activating your brain in certain ways,
    0:27:59 you’re playing, you’re dispelling any sort of internal beliefs that you have about your own abilities,
    0:28:05 but actually going out and doing these physical things in turn, it’s helping improve your cognitive performance.
    0:28:07 Just amazing, really cool stuff.
    0:28:09 And nobody has talked about this on the podcast yet.
    0:28:10 So it’s very exciting.
    0:28:16 So sticking on this point of mindset, I’d love to talk about this concept of dirty old shame.
    0:28:21 I know that you had to get over some internal traumas.
    0:28:25 From my understanding, when you were growing up, you weren’t always this sporty.
    0:28:28 You were sort of the last kid picked on the team at school.
    0:28:35 And you mentioned in your book that part of you kind of overcoming and taking on this challenge was you getting over these past traumas.
    0:28:38 So talk to us about that and how we need to do that as well.
    0:28:41 So another reason peak performance aging sort of starts young.
    0:28:43 First, we start with the good news.
    0:28:49 One of the reasons old dogs can learn new tricks that we haven’t talked about yet is as we enter our 50s,
    0:28:55 it’s really in our late 40s, there are a bunch of really profound changes in how the brain processes information.
    0:28:57 One, certain genes only turn on with experience.
    0:29:00 They’ll only flip these switches later in life.
    0:29:06 Two, in our 50s, the two hemispheres of the brain, which essentially function in opposition to each other along the way,
    0:29:08 they start working together like never before.
    0:29:13 And finally, the brain starts to recruit underutilized resources in our 50s.
    0:29:19 So as a result, we gain access to whole new levels of intelligence, creativity, empathy, and wisdom.
    0:29:22 And I go on and on and on about those benefits.
    0:29:26 There’s a lot that comes with that, but these are not guaranteed.
    0:29:32 So psychologists talk about moderators, the technical term, it’s an if-then condition.
    0:29:34 You get this only if you do this, right?
    0:29:42 And if you want the access to these cognitive superpowers in our 50s, and we’ll come back to it,
    0:29:47 but from a profit perspective, we really want to talk about those superpowers in a second.
    0:29:48 Let me finish this point.
    0:29:53 There are a number of gateways of adult development that you have to pass through.
    0:29:59 So by the age, age 30, you sort of, if you really just want to enjoy and kick ass beyond 30,
    0:30:04 you have to have solved the crisis of identity, which sort of shows up around age 12.
    0:30:07 And Erickson thought he used to disappear at 18.
    0:30:09 It doesn’t, but it does.
    0:30:11 If you haven’t solved it by 30, you have a problem.
    0:30:16 The reason is by 40, you need match fit.
    0:30:18 Match fit is an economics term.
    0:30:22 It means there’s a tight link between who I am and what I do in the world, right?
    0:30:27 So if you don’t know who you are, you can’t get match fit because there’s no,
    0:30:29 if you don’t know your strengths, your values, all that stuff.
    0:30:34 So that has to be by 30, by 40, we need to be, we have match fit.
    0:30:36 And then by 50, we need forgiveness.
    0:30:40 We got to forgive ourselves for like past embarrassments and past shames.
    0:30:42 And we got to forgive those who have done us harm.
    0:30:47 And as you pointed out, I spent most of my childhood losing fights to jocks.
    0:30:48 I was a punk rocker.
    0:30:50 The jocks didn’t like us.
    0:30:51 I didn’t like them.
    0:30:53 And this was back in, you know, in the seventies and eighties.
    0:30:57 And like, you got to understand, like cars of football players would pull up on the side
    0:31:01 of the road and they’d see a guy with a mohawk and they’d jump out to beat you up.
    0:31:03 And it was like five against one always.
    0:31:06 And it was not a great situation.
    0:31:11 So I had a lot of anger and I knew peak performance aging.
    0:31:13 You got to put that shit down.
    0:31:14 You cannot thrive in your fifties.
    0:31:19 You don’t get these superpowers, which is why old dogs can learn new tricks better than young
    0:31:19 dogs.
    0:31:24 One of the reasons I learned park skiing so fast is I have more intelligence.
    0:31:26 I’ve got more creativity.
    0:31:28 I’ve got the stuff I need.
    0:31:33 And they’ve got even more wisdom, which means I can keep myself safer than when I was making
    0:31:35 better decisions along the way.
    0:31:39 That stuff is great, but I don’t get it if I can’t forgive those who have done me wrong.
    0:31:45 So the standard best way to do that, and there’s tons of research, is love and kindness meditation
    0:31:46 and passion meditation.
    0:31:48 It’s an incredibly potent tool.
    0:31:51 It’s amazing for a ton of different stuff.
    0:31:56 It’s been studied for probably longer than any other meditation style.
    0:32:02 We understand all the neuroscience, but when it came to people who I got in fistfights with
    0:32:05 and worse for 10 years, it wasn’t enough.
    0:32:08 I could like all the love and kindness meditation of the world.
    0:32:11 Like I could forgive a lot of stuff and clean out a lot.
    0:32:15 I was left with like, it just like wasn’t going away.
    0:32:20 So I decided one of the reasons I took on an incredibly difficult physical jockey challenge
    0:32:24 is, okay, I’m going to go like, this is my problem.
    0:32:26 Let’s go walk a mile in their moccasins, right?
    0:32:28 Let’s take this on.
    0:32:30 And it turns out it worked.
    0:32:32 By the way, I didn’t think it was going to work.
    0:32:35 I just knew I needed to do this to thrive.
    0:32:37 And I was like, well, I’m out of any other ideas.
    0:32:41 Loving kindness meditation, which is what everybody, right, is not getting.
    0:32:44 And there’s still anger there.
    0:32:45 There’s still resentment there.
    0:32:47 There’s still, there’s still stuff there.
    0:32:52 So let me see if taking on this kind of putting myself on a physical mission could clear that
    0:32:53 out.
    0:32:54 And it did.
    0:32:58 And, you know, the story is sort of in the end of the book and I won’t, I won’t sort
    0:33:00 of ruin it as spoiler alert, right?
    0:33:02 I’d be giving away sort of that, that one.
    0:33:06 And I’m not going to, but it was one of the neater things that happened along the way as
    0:33:11 I got to put down like a bunch of sort of shame and embarrassment and like stuff.
    0:33:15 I’ve carried since I was probably 10 or 12, definitely 12.
    0:33:17 That’s amazing.
    0:33:21 Do you feel like much lighter now and that you just can approach things differently?
    0:33:26 Like how did it, how did that impact you getting over that trauma like that after so many years
    0:33:28 of having the same issue?
    0:33:34 I always say that one of the myths that I think a lot of people have about their life
    0:33:36 is that people think it’s going to get easier.
    0:33:38 Like you think, oh, I’m going to get older.
    0:33:39 I’m going to get better at this.
    0:33:43 I’m going to be able to sort of like, oh, I know exactly what I like and I can manicure my
    0:33:44 life.
    0:33:47 And it just doesn’t get easier.
    0:33:48 It just doesn’t.
    0:33:55 What it gets is more meaningful and more in like life satisfaction, overall wellbeing.
    0:33:58 And that’s what this really impacted.
    0:34:03 Somehow like it made life more meaningful, like in those, in those ways.
    0:34:04 Like, I don’t know.
    0:34:11 I, do I feel lighter perhaps, but what it, it just sort of, it closed that loop.
    0:34:11 You know what I mean?
    0:34:14 Like, okay, done check.
    0:34:15 I don’t have to worry about that anymore.
    0:34:21 And literally what it really does is when certain memories just like pop into my head,
    0:34:23 now they just last a half second.
    0:34:25 And I’m like, oh yeah, there’s that thing.
    0:34:26 And it goes away.
    0:34:30 Whereas before, no, I could start to think on it and dwell on it.
    0:34:31 And then I’d have a problem.
    0:34:31 Yeah.
    0:34:34 Have you ever heard of Arthur Brooks?
    0:34:35 I think so.
    0:34:37 He’s somebody that I think you should definitely look into.
    0:34:42 So I had Arthur Brooks on the podcast in 2021, sorry, 2022.
    0:34:44 And he was like one of my favorite interviews.
    0:34:47 And he wrote this book called Cracking the Code to Happiness.
    0:34:49 He’s a Harvard professor, social scientist.
    0:34:54 And basically he talks about how your brain biologically is different before 40 and after
    0:34:54 40.
    0:34:58 And he talks about fluid intelligence versus crystallized intelligence.
    0:35:04 And so this was like a big conversation that we had on the podcast and something that
    0:35:05 made us think a lot.
    0:35:07 I had a lot of feedback from my listeners.
    0:35:12 And I feel like what you say is pretty different from what he says.
    0:35:13 There are some similarities.
    0:35:17 But basically what he’s saying is that you have a biological clock ticking, your ability
    0:35:22 to reason, think flexibly, learn new things, problem solve, be innovative.
    0:35:24 That starts to decline in your 40s and 50s.
    0:35:26 And that doesn’t mean that your brain starts to go bad.
    0:35:30 You just start to have crystallized intelligence or you accumulate knowledge, facts, skills, and
    0:35:34 you can use that throughout your career as a way to teach other people.
    0:35:38 And essentially what he’s saying is like, you’ve got to like be ready for the second
    0:35:42 half of your career and not miss that and be like trying to chase your younger self and
    0:35:44 your younger brain, essentially.
    0:35:46 So for example, the professional athlete becomes the coach.
    0:35:49 The star litigator becomes a partner.
    0:35:51 The singer becomes an A&R exec.
    0:35:56 And you’re basically teaching younger people your knowledge and taking on that second wave
    0:35:57 of your career.
    0:36:01 So he is right and he is wrong, as far as I could tell.
    0:36:09 Where he’s really right is passing along knowledge is absolutely key to peak performance aging.
    0:36:10 It’s key to…
    0:36:14 In fact, the societies where people age the best, two things are very true.
    0:36:18 One, they don’t have negative stereotypes towards aging.
    0:36:23 So ageism is the most common and socially accepted stereotype in the world.
    0:36:27 I go out in the public these days with any stereotype, somebody’s going to punch me in
    0:36:30 the mouth and cancel me, except for ageism.
    0:36:32 Ageism, you can…
    0:36:34 People are like, oh, you’re too old to do that shit.
    0:36:36 Like we geezer each other right in the…
    0:36:37 And it’s crazy.
    0:36:42 Becca Levy at Yale has done tons of work on ageism and the stereotype of aging.
    0:36:43 And it’s incredibly detrimental.
    0:36:51 In fact, you could go so far as literally we are killing older adults with how we talk
    0:36:51 about them.
    0:36:53 So that is really, really clear.
    0:36:58 The societies where there’s no ageism, there’s also cross-generational friendships.
    0:37:01 So the old are passing along knowledge.
    0:37:03 This is a natural part of brain development.
    0:37:06 Now, you have to put things into categories.
    0:37:08 He is not wrong.
    0:37:11 We do shift from fluid intelligence into crystallized intelligence.
    0:37:13 That transition does happen.
    0:37:18 But, but, but, but, but a bunch of the skills that we thought declined over time, like the
    0:37:21 fluid intelligence skills that we thought went away.
    0:37:23 No, it turns out that’s not true at all.
    0:37:27 We get actually new levels of intelligence and creativity in our 50s.
    0:37:29 So that’s not actually true.
    0:37:30 There’s certain things.
    0:37:37 The article I like best, Martin Seligman from Penn and Scott Barry Kaufman wrote a great
    0:37:42 article on creativity over time where they talk about what goes away from creativity and what
    0:37:44 stays or comes on.
    0:37:48 And the list of like what comes on and stays is much longer than what goes away.
    0:37:50 Now, there’s stuff that does go away.
    0:37:53 So the question you’ve got to now ask, is it permanent?
    0:37:55 Is this real?
    0:37:57 Or have we just not figured out how to train it?
    0:37:58 So let me give you an example.
    0:38:00 Adam Ghazali is a friend of mine.
    0:38:01 He’s on my board.
    0:38:03 We do a lot of research together.
    0:38:09 He’s at UCSF and he had these neuroscientists, you know, the cover of nature a bunch of years
    0:38:11 ago for a video game he designed.
    0:38:14 It’s the very first video game to be approved by the FDA.
    0:38:16 It treats cognitive decline in older adults.
    0:38:19 And what it specifically focuses on is task switching.
    0:38:25 If you go back to fluid intelligence, one of the things that declines over time is task
    0:38:27 switching, our ability to focus on this and then focus on this.
    0:38:29 And that’s a real problem.
    0:38:32 He’s got a video game that will take your brain.
    0:38:38 If you’re 60, you play it literally, I think it’s three hours a week or three 20 minute sessions
    0:38:41 a week for six weeks is the standard doctor prescription for this video game.
    0:38:44 And it will reset your 60 year old brain back to 20.
    0:38:49 So there’s a bunch of stuff like that where it’s use it or lose it.
    0:38:51 We just have to figure out how do you train it up?
    0:38:54 The other side of it is.
    0:38:57 So let’s talk about the other weird one of the things he said.
    0:39:03 One of the reasons we, our brain performance declines over time is white matter density
    0:39:06 decreases over time and we lose certain neurochemicals.
    0:39:11 So what he’s not telling you is, well, you can replace those neurochemicals.
    0:39:15 In fact, SSRIs, which actually suck for depression, turn out to be great for older adults.
    0:39:21 Low level SSRIs because serotonin levels decline over time and SSRIs can boost them.
    0:39:23 If you don’t want to take a drug, hike with a weight vest.
    0:39:26 Most of your serotonin is manufactured in your bones.
    0:39:31 And one of the reasons the brain has less is because you’re making less in your bones.
    0:39:34 And if you increase bone density, you get the serotonin back.
    0:39:35 You get a bunch of those neurochemicals back.
    0:39:40 The general thinking is sort of true, but a lot of those skills are use it or lose it.
    0:39:45 And either we’ve already figured out how to fix them or this stuff is also progressing really,
    0:39:46 really, really quickly.
    0:39:52 The whole other side of this is regenerative medicine, longevity, science, all that stuff
    0:39:55 is moving at exponential rates.
    0:40:03 So for example, five years ago, we could not deal with most tendon, bone, and ligament problems.
    0:40:10 Today, there’s very little you can do to tendons, bones, or ligaments that exosomes, stem cells,
    0:40:11 certain other things.
    0:40:13 Like we are good at that stuff now.
    0:40:15 It’s advanced really far.
    0:40:20 Now, if anybody is making you promises about stem cells that go like beyond bones, ligaments,
    0:40:24 and tendons, no, no, they’re lying and they’re exaggerating what’s real right now.
    0:40:28 But up to that point, no, no, we’ve sort of got to dial.
    0:40:33 So technology is advancing and it’s going to solve a lot of those issues.
    0:40:37 A lot of those issues are not what we thought they were.
    0:40:41 And you can train a lot of that stuff in unusual ways.
    0:40:43 We’re just figuring out.
    0:40:47 And some of the early ways, like all the brain games, they’re worthless.
    0:40:48 They’re totally worthless.
    0:40:51 They train nothing other than the ability to play that game.
    0:40:55 That’s not how this works.
    0:40:59 But learning a foreign language, learning to play a musical instrument, learning a challenging,
    0:41:02 dynamic activity, like all that stuff.
    0:41:04 No, no, that’s the real medicine.
    0:41:06 And that really actually does work.
    0:41:06 Yeah.
    0:41:11 I love what you’re saying because I remember leaving that conversation with Arthur Brooks,
    0:41:13 although it was really enlightening and he said a lot of smart things.
    0:41:14 I felt depressed.
    0:41:19 I was like, oh, man, I got like, you know, less than 10 years to figure like to do all my innovative
    0:41:20 stuff.
    0:41:23 And it’s good to know what you’re saying, that we are actually in control.
    0:41:27 Like, of course, you can be passive and the inevitable will happen with your cognitive decline.
    0:41:33 But if we’re proactive and kind of fight that natural tendency that’s going to happen, plus
    0:41:38 with modern medicine, like you said, there’s a lot that we can do to slow it down, reverse
    0:41:38 it.
    0:41:39 So that’s amazing.
    0:41:43 So let’s dig deep on these three types of thinking.
    0:41:48 You alluded to them at a high level that we get better at as we’re 50 and beyond.
    0:41:53 So you say it’s relativistic thinking, non-dualistic thinking and systematic thinking.
    0:41:54 Yeah.
    0:41:59 So short version, our ego quiets down and our perspective widens.
    0:42:03 So essentially, we learn to see things from multiple perspectives.
    0:42:08 We learn that there are very few black and white truths and most things are gray.
    0:42:11 That’s relativistic thinking and probabilistic thinking.
    0:42:15 And then the last category, we learn to see the forest through the trees.
    0:42:21 We learn to get good, better at systems thinking and seeing the big picture.
    0:42:27 And because of these skills, this is where that extra intelligence, creativity, empathy,
    0:42:29 and wisdom comes from and builds out of this intelligence.
    0:42:32 There’s a huge business opportunity here.
    0:42:35 And nobody’s paying attention to it.
    0:42:41 So that little backstory, when I wrote Bold, which is a book about entrepreneurship and people
    0:42:46 like Larry Page and Jeff Bezos and Elon Musk and how to really use exponential technology
    0:42:51 and some human capability flow science stuff to really level up organizations, I spent so
    0:42:53 much years talking to CEOs.
    0:42:58 And a lot of the time, in a lot of those discussions, we would talk about hiring.
    0:42:59 Who are the ideal employees?
    0:43:00 How do you find them?
    0:43:02 What do you need for the 21st century?
    0:43:08 And over and over again, thousands of times, I heard the same two things from CEOs.
    0:43:14 I need employees who are really intelligent and really creative and really innovative
    0:43:18 because the rate of change is really fast and I got to keep pace and stay ahead of it.
    0:43:20 Otherwise, I don’t have a company.
    0:43:20 I don’t have a business.
    0:43:21 I can’t do any of that.
    0:43:28 The other thing I need is I need employees who are empathetic and wise because if I don’t
    0:43:30 have psychological safety, nobody can do their job.
    0:43:33 If I don’t have psychological safety, I don’t have great team performance.
    0:43:35 That team performance, you can’t be a company.
    0:43:37 You can’t do those things without empathy and wisdom.
    0:43:43 Most importantly, the mantra of 21st century business, and maybe we thank Jeff Bezos for this,
    0:43:45 but it’s always been it’s customer-centric thinking.
    0:43:51 And if you’re not empathetic or you’re not wise, nobody’s thinking like a customer at
    0:43:51 all.
    0:43:58 So it turns out a well-trained 50-year-old and well-trained is key, right?
    0:43:59 There’s a whole bunch.
    0:44:01 We have like, you want those gateways of adult development.
    0:44:02 I’ve turned about these.
    0:44:04 It should be a hiring checklist.
    0:44:07 And in your 50s, you want access to these superpowers.
    0:44:12 You need to engage in creative activities that sort of unlocks these new thinking styles.
    0:44:15 That’s another reason why challenging creative and social activities matter.
    0:44:21 And you need to fight off risk aversion and train down physical fragility.
    0:44:25 Because if your body is rotting, what good is all this new mental skills?
    0:44:26 You can’t use it.
    0:44:31 And risk aversion, which increases over time, this is why challenging activities matter so
    0:44:32 much.
    0:44:34 Risk aversion increases over time.
    0:44:37 It has a lot to do with like literally a white banner volume in the brain.
    0:44:42 But we have to train back because the more risk averse you are, the more afraid you are,
    0:44:44 the more norepinephrine you’re producing.
    0:44:46 That will block creativity.
    0:44:48 It blocks empathy and it blocks wisdom.
    0:44:54 So like you have to train back risk aversion to really flower in your 50s, 60s, and 70s.
    0:44:58 But if you get it right and you’ve got all that stuff, these are dream employees.
    0:45:01 This is a business revolution waiting to happen.
    0:45:06 The very people that are getting forced out of companies, no, no, no, no.
    0:45:10 They’re the very people we need in our companies most overall.
    0:45:13 And in fact, this is not my line.
    0:45:15 I think it’s Daniel Levitin might have said it.
    0:45:17 It’s the first person I heard say it this bluntly.
    0:45:22 But Daniel Levitin is a neuroscientist who just wrote a book called Successful Aging, where
    0:45:26 if you want, in my book, my book is sort of a fun adventure story, the sciences and the
    0:45:27 footnotes.
    0:45:31 And sort of at the end, if you really want every itch of the science, you can either take
    0:45:35 my peak performance aging training, or you can read Successful Aging.
    0:45:37 And like he goes through all of it.
    0:45:38 We came to all the same conclusions.
    0:45:42 Though I think I took my conclusions farther because I ran a bunch of weird-ass experiments
    0:45:43 along the way.
    0:45:48 But he said flat out, he’s like, the best advice I can give you on retirement is don’t
    0:45:48 retire.
    0:45:49 Don’t ever retire.
    0:45:54 If you’re interested in peak performance aging, retirement is a bad idea.
    0:45:55 Reinvention?
    0:45:56 Maybe.
    0:46:00 Maybe I don’t want to do the same thing I’ve been doing my whole life and I want to do something
    0:46:00 new.
    0:46:01 Great.
    0:46:02 Fantastic.
    0:46:03 Retirement.
    0:46:04 Death sentence.
    0:46:07 So I have a couple follow-ups to this.
    0:46:10 A lot of my listeners are young entrepreneurs, business owners.
    0:46:15 So if we’re going to take your advice, give older people a chance when it comes to hiring.
    0:46:19 I mean, I know there’s a big ageism issue, especially in the tech world.
    0:46:20 I used to work at Disney Streaming Services.
    0:46:25 Like you were old over 40, you know, and like people looked at you sideways, you know, and
    0:46:29 didn’t trust you to do your job, essentially, if you were older than 40, 45.
    0:46:31 So I know there’s ageism.
    0:46:35 So if you were to interview somebody in their 50s, what questions would you ask them to make
    0:46:37 sure that they’ve been training their brain?
    0:46:41 And so I would ask one, how physically active you are.
    0:46:48 If you’re not dealing with somebody who has been regularly exercising for a while and hitting
    0:46:51 all five dynamic categories, you don’t want to go near them.
    0:46:55 The number one correlate with health and longevity over time is leg strength.
    0:46:56 Believe it or not.
    0:46:57 I know I was going to ask.
    0:46:59 That’s one of my favorite facts.
    0:47:00 Yeah, it’s wild.
    0:47:03 And we could talk about why and whatever.
    0:47:07 I don’t think you can ask incoming, you know, employees, hey, what do you squat?
    0:47:08 Maybe you can.
    0:47:14 But it actually, like, if we’re going to ask, put politicians in office in their 80s, those
    0:47:16 questions become really freaking relevant.
    0:47:19 Like that’s the, those are things you really want to know.
    0:47:22 Are you engaging in challenging creative social activity?
    0:47:27 Like, are you, that’s, those things become a checklist for folks over 50 identity, match
    0:47:29 fit, self-forgiveness, forgiveness of others.
    0:47:34 You don’t get access to the cognitive superpowers without those things.
    0:47:40 So those are the kinds of questions you want to poke at to make sure are being checked off.
    0:47:42 Those sorts of things.
    0:47:46 Are you engaging in challenging creative social activities that demand dynamic, deliberate play
    0:47:47 and take place in novel outdoor?
    0:47:52 Like that, those things, not, they become a checklist and they become, if you want to
    0:47:58 work here and you’re over this age, you got to do this because we need you, but we need
    0:47:59 this version of you.
    0:48:05 And the most important thing is I look for older adults with much younger friends.
    0:48:13 I want to see those cross-generational friendships because older adults over 40, 50, one of the
    0:48:18 reasons they’re not to be trusted is because they don’t get the job because they’re just
    0:48:20 too out of touch and things have changed.
    0:48:25 And there’s a lot of stuff that changes and stays the same.
    0:48:28 And you sort of want the older adults around for that reason.
    0:48:32 But you also being old is not an excuse for not keeping up either.
    0:48:36 Like what I’m telling you is you’ve got access to more brain power.
    0:48:39 So like, it’s really not an excuse as far as I’m concerned.
    0:48:41 So I think it’s got to be mutual.
    0:48:45 And I think the benefits are going to be amazing if it can be mutual.
    0:48:49 We’ll be right back after a quick break from our sponsors.
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    0:53:21 I want to get into authentic learning and how older people can learn new skills, but let’s
    0:53:24 go on the tangent of why we should never skip leg day.
    0:53:32 So it turns out that both preserving physical abilities and cognitive function, leg strength
    0:53:34 is the single largest factor.
    0:53:35 Now, cognitive function is weird.
    0:53:39 Some of it has to do with bone density.
    0:53:43 Again, we’re back to the bones and the big bones in your legs.
    0:53:45 And if they’re dense, they’re not losing their minerals, their nutrients.
    0:53:47 They can feed the brain.
    0:53:53 The second part is that if you’re not mobile, you don’t have a social life.
    0:53:55 It’s a lot harder to have a social life.
    0:53:58 If you don’t have a social life, you are not going to age successfully.
    0:54:02 And in fact, if you don’t have a social life, peak performance, you’re just sort of lock out
    0:54:07 of peak performance because you social support for a lot of different psychological safety
    0:54:08 reasons and just performance reasons.
    0:54:10 It’s really important to have social support.
    0:54:14 And part of that, like you can get really great social support on the telephone, on Zoom.
    0:54:20 We all learned that during COVID, but there is something to be said for in-person oxytocin,
    0:54:20 right?
    0:54:26 I always tell people if for whatever reason you’re stuck with the phone and Zoom, make
    0:54:29 sure you pet a dog for at least eight minutes a day, a dog or a cat.
    0:54:33 Petting an animal for about five to eight minutes also releases oxytocin and some of those other
    0:54:34 pro-social chemicals.
    0:54:39 So if you’re stuck on Zoom, we need social support for performance.
    0:54:41 We definitely need for peak performance aging.
    0:54:42 Animals are our friends here.
    0:54:43 Yeah.
    0:54:44 I love that.
    0:54:48 I feel like you’re giving us so much great tips in terms of how we can age gracefully
    0:54:52 and be impactful at an older age and still innovative and creative.
    0:54:57 So this is such a meaningful episode to me because honestly, we don’t talk about this enough on the
    0:54:57 podcast.
    0:55:00 So we do need to learn as we’re older.
    0:55:02 Obviously, it’s possible.
    0:55:04 You learned how to park ski at 53.
    0:55:09 So let’s talk about how we can learn and embrace authentic learning.
    0:55:15 So let’s back up one step and talk about learning, like where you started.
    0:55:20 I just want to start where you started, which is, so if you want to stave off Alzheimer’s,
    0:55:23 dementia, cognitive decline, right?
    0:55:25 Fluid intelligence, what matters?
    0:55:26 Lifelong learning.
    0:55:27 Why is that?
    0:55:32 Expertise and wisdom are the two most important things we can do to develop what’s known as
    0:55:33 cognitive reserve.
    0:55:38 So if you have a high cognitive reserve, you could even have advanced Alzheimer’s.
    0:55:39 And as you die, they autopsy your brain.
    0:55:41 You’ve got tangles and plaques everywhere.
    0:55:43 And it just looks like your brain’s mush.
    0:55:45 And you’re still, nobody would notice if you were alive.
    0:55:49 This was so, some of the early research that happened, they started autopsying brains and
    0:55:52 being like, whoa, this person had advanced Alzheimer’s.
    0:55:55 How the hell did they function so well up till age 100?
    0:55:57 What is it?
    0:56:02 Expertise in learning and, or to expertise in wisdom, which are two different things.
    0:56:07 But important thing here is they’re big, broad networks and they’re in the prefrontal cortex.
    0:56:11 So the prefrontal cortex is where it’s most vulnerable to cognitive decline.
    0:56:16 It’s the newest brain structure from an evolutionary perspective, and it’s the most vulnerable.
    0:56:19 You don’t suffer cognitive decline like deep in your brainstem.
    0:56:20 It’s impervious.
    0:56:23 But the prefrontal cortex is where it shows up.
    0:56:25 Expertise and wisdom live in the prefrontal cortex.
    0:56:30 And there’s these diverse networks, lots of redundancy, lots of backup.
    0:56:33 So if this goes down, you got seven other copies over here.
    0:56:34 Don’t worry about it.
    0:56:38 So that’s where you have to start with lifelong learning.
    0:56:42 And you want to do everything you can to maximize learning for that very reason.
    0:56:45 So what do we know about learning?
    0:56:48 One of the best ways to maximize learning is authentic learning.
    0:56:54 This is a big movement in education right now, but, and it’s based on a whole bunch of different
    0:56:55 stuff, but let me just talk about one thing.
    0:57:02 So their attention, you can’t learn anything obviously without focus or attention, right?
    0:57:04 Like paying attention is the gateway for learning.
    0:57:06 Attention is a coupled system.
    0:57:11 It’s linked to autonomy and autonomy means we like driving the bus.
    0:57:13 We like being in charge of our own lives, right?
    0:57:17 We can’t pay maximum attention to something if it’s not sort of by choice.
    0:57:22 Authentic learning means we learn based basically exactly on who we are.
    0:57:27 So it got a bad name early on because people started talking about learning styles.
    0:57:29 Are you a visual learner or an auditory learner?
    0:57:31 And that’s absolute nonsense.
    0:57:33 Like that’s actually not true.
    0:57:34 No, we’re all those things.
    0:57:36 It depends on what we’re learning and how we’re wired.
    0:57:37 And it changes over time.
    0:57:38 And that’s not actually.
    0:57:43 But what is true is everybody shows up somewhere on the introversion, extroversion scale.
    0:57:46 Introverts need to learn in private.
    0:57:48 Extroverts want to learn in public.
    0:57:51 We’re somewhere on the risk aversion scale.
    0:57:53 Like we all have, I’m this fearful.
    0:57:55 And you can only be pushed so far.
    0:58:01 And like, so those authentic learning is about like those kinds of questions, the questions
    0:58:02 that really matter.
    0:58:06 And so, you know, one of the most important things for me is I’m an introvert.
    0:58:09 I don’t mind being bad at stuff, but I don’t like being bad in public.
    0:58:15 So we, and most terrain parks are actually under chairlifts and very, very visible.
    0:58:21 So I would take these park tricks into the side country and the back country and the woods.
    0:58:23 And I’d learn them out of sight with my friends.
    0:58:28 And then I could go back, like trying to do it the other way was impossible for me.
    0:58:29 I don’t work that way.
    0:58:32 And you can keep, there’s a lot more to authentic learning.
    0:58:37 But the big point here is also taking on these kind of NAR style challenges late in life,
    0:58:39 like learning how to park ski or whatever.
    0:58:42 Phenomenal for peak performance aging, but you need a lot of motivation.
    0:58:48 And it turns out we have, like, we are driven towards authenticity.
    0:58:51 Carl Rogers argued that it functions as a fundamental drive.
    0:58:57 A fundamental drive meaning it’s got as much power as a drive for sex or food or shelter.
    0:59:01 You have a drive to be yourself, your authentic self.
    0:59:06 And if you get it right, you get a huge boost in motivation, which is crucial for all this stuff.
    0:59:12 So you learn better on the back end and you’re more motivated to learn on the front end.
    0:59:18 And being that there’s a lot to do in peak performance aging and it can be challenging,
    0:59:20 you want all the help you can get, right?
    0:59:25 In Art and Impossible, I talk about one of the things peak performers are really good at
    0:59:28 is they never meet a challenge around a single fuel source.
    0:59:30 We know this food-wise, right?
    0:59:34 Like you want carbs, protein, and fats before you’re going into workout.
    0:59:36 Same thing with motivation.
    0:59:37 You want authenticity.
    0:59:39 You want autonomy.
    0:59:41 You want passion, purpose.
    0:59:46 All these big intrinsic motivators, curiosity, you want to stack them on top of each other
    0:59:49 because it maximizes our motivation.
    0:59:50 I love that.
    0:59:54 So to wrap up this part of the interview, I’d love for you to just sort of summarize
    0:59:59 what skills generally do you think older people are better at than younger people?
    1:00:03 And older people, I guess, who have trained their brain properly, let’s say.
    1:00:06 Well, anything that requires seeing things from other people’s perspectives
    1:00:10 and multi-perspectival thinking, you’re just better at.
    1:00:15 It’s harder to do when you’re younger because of how the ego functions and how the brain functions.
    1:00:17 You’re just better at it when you’re older.
    1:00:22 You can meditate a lot to sort of lower cognitive bias and do those things,
    1:00:24 but it’s going to start to happen naturally when you’re older.
    1:00:33 So to me, the big one, the cool one is the systems thinking part because I like one of the commonalities
    1:00:40 among all the biggest brains I’ve ever met, all the real, the people who really can affect change
    1:00:42 in the world, they’re all systems thinkers.
    1:00:46 And it’s really hard to train people how to be systems thinkers.
    1:00:49 It’s a tough skill to bring on.
    1:00:53 You know, certain careers force you to learn it in different ways.
    1:00:59 Writing, especially if you write books, because you have to hold 400 pages in your head and move
    1:01:01 it around and be able to do stuff like that.
    1:01:03 You have to be able to hold the big picture.
    1:01:08 It’s sort of built into the job and it’s trained up over time, but it’s not trained up in a lot
    1:01:09 of jobs.
    1:01:12 Mostly we specialize, especially in the modern world.
    1:01:13 We specialize, we specialize, we specialize.
    1:01:18 And one of the things that I want to point out here is, and anybody who’s ever worked in
    1:01:23 entrepreneurship, innovation, like, you know, all the big innovations are in the cracks between
    1:01:23 disciplines.
    1:01:30 It’s very hard to innovate inside that same funnel that everybody’s been in for 50 years, but you
    1:01:35 move adjacent to where that funnel touches something and suddenly there’s a revolution waiting to
    1:01:35 happen.
    1:01:39 And that’s how you build companies and world changing companies and everything else.
    1:01:42 You can’t see that shit if you’re not a systems thinker.
    1:01:43 It’s completely invisible to you.
    1:01:49 So the thing that I think is, is the most exciting over is that.
    1:01:50 Yeah, that was really inspiring to me.
    1:01:54 I’m actually writing a book with Penguin Random House coming out in 2025.
    1:01:57 And that little bit of information was really inspiring.
    1:02:00 I’m going to include it in my book and credit you.
    1:02:00 Okay.
    1:02:06 So Stephen, I want to wrap up this interview talking about your research in the, about the
    1:02:09 blue zones, these long-lived communities around the world.
    1:02:14 You alluded to some of it, but I’d love for you to sort of dive deeper on what you found
    1:02:17 in terms of why these people live longer, happier.
    1:02:21 Let me back this story up a little bit to what I tell you a story that’s not in the book.
    1:02:22 Yeah.
    1:02:24 That is where this actually starts.
    1:02:28 So people may know this or not know this for almost the past two decades.
    1:02:32 My wife and I run a hospice care dog sanctuary.
    1:02:36 So for two decades, we’ve done hospice work with dogs.
    1:02:40 We have a healing methodology that’s based on, it’s very low tech.
    1:02:41 It’s flows.
    1:02:43 It’s like lifestyle interventions in a sense.
    1:02:47 Some flow science, some evolutionary psychology, nothing really fancy.
    1:02:50 Our dogs all get checked out by vets when they come to us.
    1:02:52 Before they come to us, they come from shelters.
    1:02:56 But we, I mean, we specialize in the worst of the worst.
    1:03:03 So if you are a geriatric chihuahua with an abusive past, three legs, one eye, cancer,
    1:03:06 heart disease, mange, and flatulence, you’re our guy.
    1:03:08 That’s who we work with.
    1:03:12 And the vets would be like, we did get these dogs, dogs would be like, don’t get attached.
    1:03:16 This dog is going to live a month, month and a half at most.
    1:03:18 This is about to provide a very good death.
    1:03:20 And we’d bring the dogs in.
    1:03:26 And mind you, we’ve, over 700 dogs have passed through our facility and over 5,000 are our
    1:03:27 program.
    1:03:28 So big sample size.
    1:03:33 And on average, our dogs wouldn’t live another month or six weeks.
    1:03:35 They would live another three, four, five years.
    1:03:36 Oh, wow.
    1:03:39 You translate into that human numbers.
    1:03:40 That’s right.
    1:03:41 You get seven years for every year.
    1:03:46 So like the top end of that, you’re getting an extra like 28 years, 30, like what the fuck
    1:03:47 is going on?
    1:03:48 Pardon my language.
    1:03:53 So I started to ask questions like, what’s going on?
    1:03:53 Why is this working?
    1:03:54 What are we doing?
    1:03:56 And will it work in humans?
    1:03:58 Like, would any of this stuff work in humans, right?
    1:04:06 And it turns out almost everything I were doing with the dogs exists in these so-called blue
    1:04:09 zones, which is what led me to the blue zones in the first place.
    1:04:14 So Dan Buehler is a National Geographic reporter in the early 2000s, noticed that there were places
    1:04:19 on the planet where people lived, on average, 12 years longer than everybody else.
    1:04:22 And they’re all over the place.
    1:04:24 And he wanted to know, well, what are the commonalities?
    1:04:25 And he did a whole bunch of research.
    1:04:27 The research is a little controversial.
    1:04:30 The controversy is not on the lifestyle stuff.
    1:04:34 It’s on the, there’s some stuff that has been turned into supplements and it’s dietary.
    1:04:36 And those are the open.
    1:04:37 And those questions are open.
    1:04:40 There’s no argument on sort of the lifestyle stuff with the blue zones.
    1:04:46 And the commonalities are really like move around a lot, regular exercise, right?
    1:04:48 De-stress regularly.
    1:04:54 So have rituals, meditation, exercise, gratitude practices, breathing work, whatever it is,
    1:04:55 walking in nature.
    1:04:57 I don’t like have rituals to de-stress regularly.
    1:05:01 A ton of stuff on social belonging and connection.
    1:05:04 This is why challenging social activities matter so much.
    1:05:06 This is built into blue zones.
    1:05:11 There’s also this respect for the elders and these cross-generational friendships.
    1:05:12 They’re built into blue zones.
    1:05:14 There’s some evolution.
    1:05:15 I mean, they eat healthy.
    1:05:19 They eat less than most people and they eat very, very healthy diets.
    1:05:23 But like, there’s no one diet across the boards that like works for everybody.
    1:05:27 But those are sort of the commonalities and they live with passion, purpose, and regular
    1:05:28 access to flow.
    1:05:34 And these were all things that we were providing for our dogs and very like, for example, they
    1:05:36 get social belonging and connection.
    1:05:38 They really emphasize that you’re in the blue zones.
    1:05:42 Some of them, people spend six hours a day hanging out with friends or family.
    1:05:46 So a lot of it with our dogs, we had enforced petting time.
    1:05:52 So when you have a lot of dogs, like we had various times, we’ve had 40, 50 dogs.
    1:05:54 It’s hard to individual petting time.
    1:05:57 You have to like, oh, I got to hang out with this dog.
    1:06:00 But we would do it because we wanted these neurochemicals underneath that.
    1:06:01 Same thing with flow.
    1:06:04 We’d find ways to put our dogs into flow.
    1:06:09 Flow is really important to peak performance aging for a lot of different reasons.
    1:06:13 But the state, just a really positive, powerful, emotional state.
    1:06:17 And some of the emotions that show up in flow stimulate the production of T-cells and natural
    1:06:18 killer cells.
    1:06:23 So T-cells fight diseases and natural killer cells fight tumors and sick cells and other
    1:06:24 of the diseases of aging.
    1:06:30 So when we get into flow, it lowers inflammation, which is tied to all the causes of aging.
    1:06:35 It peruses T-cells, natural killer cells, a lot of benefits, and it boosts the immune system.
    1:06:37 So this was the stuff we were doing in our dogs.
    1:06:39 This is stuff that’s going on in the blue zone.
    1:06:44 This is stuff we now widely know correlates to healthy longevity.
    1:06:47 This isn’t really peak performance aging.
    1:06:50 It’s sort of successful aging, healthy aging, right?
    1:06:54 At this point, it’s like it should be common sense for everybody, really, is really what
    1:06:55 it should be.
    1:07:00 But one of the things that’s interesting is you also see a high, a lot of the places where
    1:07:04 there are blue zones, you see a lot of action sport and outdoor athletes, too.
    1:07:09 Colorado, Pitkin County, Colorado, and Eagle County, Colorado, and Loma Linda, California
    1:07:13 are the four places in America where people, these are the blue zones.
    1:07:15 Summit, Pitkin, and Eagle, this is Colorado.
    1:07:20 That’s Vail, Aspen, Beaver Creek, all the big ski areas, a lot of outdoor stuff.
    1:07:24 And in Loma Linda, that’s a Seventh-day Adventist population.
    1:07:32 And they’re very social, very flowy, good dietary stuff, a lot of belonging, a lot of, so like
    1:07:33 it’s the same stuff.
    1:07:38 And a lot of outdoor activities, surfing, because it’s California on the ocean, right?
    1:07:40 And they take advantage of that stuff, too.
    1:07:40 Yeah.
    1:07:42 So I’d love to get a couple examples here.
    1:07:48 First of all, what are examples of getting into flow aside from sports as an adult?
    1:07:49 That’s number one.
    1:07:54 And then number two, like, what are some examples of creative social activities as an adult?
    1:08:02 Well, one, it is completely erroneous, though myself and Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi are totally
    1:08:03 at fault for this.
    1:08:04 Like, we are to blame.
    1:08:10 But the idea that flow only shows up in athletes and artists is not true.
    1:08:13 We focused a lot on athletes, and we focused a lot on artists.
    1:08:17 So people think it’s only athletes and artists, but the most common flow state on earth is reading
    1:08:19 or interpersonal flow.
    1:08:20 Interpersonal flow is like the group flow.
    1:08:24 You and your best friend get into a great conversation, and a whole hour goes by, and
    1:08:25 you don’t notice it’s gone.
    1:08:26 That’s interpersonal flow.
    1:08:28 Happens all the time.
    1:08:32 So one of the reasons you want to engage in challenging creative and social activities,
    1:08:33 they all trigger flow.
    1:08:37 So singing in a choir, very, very flowy.
    1:08:39 Group flow, lots of research on that.
    1:08:43 Gardening, very flowy, long walks in nature.
    1:08:45 You know, nature hikes, very, very flowy.
    1:08:52 Coding, architecture, drawing, drumming, dancing, on and on and on.
    1:08:53 I mean, there’s a ton of flow at work.
    1:08:58 In fact, flow is much more common at work than it is during leisure for a bunch of different
    1:08:58 reasons.
    1:09:02 But, you know, the list sort of goes on and on and on.
    1:09:06 If we want to enjoy the second half, if we want to enjoy our lives in general, but if we
    1:09:09 really want to thrive during our second half of our lives, you can’t do it without flow.
    1:09:12 Flow is actually the engine of adult development.
    1:09:14 It’s how we grow up.
    1:09:16 We grow up by getting into flow states.
    1:09:20 Coming out the other side is more complex, more skillful, more adaptive, more empathetic,
    1:09:21 wiser.
    1:09:22 And we move forward.
    1:09:26 Like, so it plays a big role in adult development and successful in peak performance aging.
    1:09:27 Yeah.
    1:09:32 So just for all my young and profiters, I’m going to do a sort of Stephen Kotler marathon
    1:09:34 when this episode comes out.
    1:09:40 And I’m going to replay all of our older episodes about flow, about all the different things that
    1:09:42 I’ve talked to with Stephen over the past.
    1:09:45 So it will be a great educational value for all of you guys.
    1:09:50 So Stephen, I end the show with a couple of questions that I ask all my guests.
    1:09:51 And then we do some fun things at the end of the year.
    1:09:56 The first one is, what is one actionable thing that our young and profiters can do today to
    1:09:57 become more profitable tomorrow?
    1:10:03 You can double down on your primary flow activity, which is whatever the thing you’ve done most
    1:10:05 to your life that just drops you into flow.
    1:10:06 For me, it’s skiing, right?
    1:10:08 For my wife, it’s long walks with the dogs.
    1:10:09 For my best friend is playing guitar.
    1:10:13 Whatever that thing that most likely drops you into flow.
    1:10:20 Flow massively amplifies, among other things, motivation, productivity, and creativity.
    1:10:24 And here’s the cool thing, even though a flow state lasts about 90 minutes, sometimes they
    1:10:25 can stretch out for longer.
    1:10:30 The heightened productivity and creativity will outlast the flow state by a day, maybe two.
    1:10:32 Flow also resets the nervous system.
    1:10:35 It calms you down, flushes stress hormones out of your system.
    1:10:41 So emotional regulation, emotional management, fear blocks performance on every level.
    1:10:43 Flow resets the nervous system.
    1:10:49 And the thing is, it’s most people, and especially all the people listening to this podcast, are going
    1:10:50 to be like you.
    1:10:53 You got to your 30s, and you stop skiing.
    1:10:55 You put down childish things.
    1:10:57 Skis go away.
    1:10:58 The surfboard goes away.
    1:10:59 The skateboard goes away.
    1:11:02 You stop samba dancing and salsa dancing and all that stuff.
    1:11:04 And the research shows that’s a disaster.
    1:11:05 It’s a disaster.
    1:11:10 In fact, we work with tons of people all over the world, and burnout is a real big issue.
    1:11:14 The first thing we do to treat burnout is have them double down on the primary flow activity.
    1:11:20 Research shows that if you want peak performance, you need to have like about three to four hours
    1:11:24 a week on your primary flow activity just to keep your nervous system where it needs to
    1:11:24 be.
    1:11:25 Yeah.
    1:11:28 I’d love for you to tell everybody about the Flow Research Collective and all the trainings
    1:11:29 you guys have available.
    1:11:32 Flow Research Collective is my organization.
    1:11:34 We’re a research and training organization.
    1:11:38 On the research side, we study the neurobiology of peak human performance, what’s going on
    1:11:40 in the brain and the body when we’re performing at our best.
    1:11:45 We did this work with scientists all over the world at Stanford and Imperial College London
    1:11:50 and UCSC and UCLA and UC Davis and UCSF and a whole bunch of other acronyms.
    1:11:53 We take the science and we use it to train people.
    1:12:00 We train people in 130 countries, and we train everybody from professional athletes and members
    1:12:07 of the special forces to soccer moms and insurance brokers and teachers and folks in the Air Force.
    1:12:09 We work with a lot of companies in between.
    1:12:16 Now we’re training Facebook or Meta, Accenture, Bain Capital, Audi, San Francisco Police Department,
    1:12:18 the Air Force, Wisewatcher people.
    1:12:24 Our trainings are for everybody, and if you’re interested, if you go to getmoreflow.com,
    1:12:29 cheesiest URL in the world, but nobody was remembering any of the others, so I’ve given in,
    1:12:33 and it’s now getmoreflow.com, despite the fact that I’m embarrassed to say it out loud,
    1:12:38 but you can go there and sign up for a free hour-long coaching call with somebody on my staff,
    1:12:41 so you’ll hear all about the trainings, you’ll learn everything.
    1:12:42 Is it right for you?
    1:12:42 Is it wrong for you?
    1:12:45 Nobody on my staff gets every…
    1:12:47 I’ll fire somebody if they try to sell you anything.
    1:12:50 It’s just an informational conversation.
    1:12:54 So it’s really mellow, and most people get a lot out of it, and it’s free, getmoreflow.com.
    1:12:55 Amazing.
    1:12:58 I’ll stick that link in the show notes to make it super easy for you guys.
    1:13:00 Okay, last question of the episode.
    1:13:04 And this is where you can feel free to add something that we didn’t get to talk about
    1:13:06 or just something that’s on the top of your mind.
    1:13:09 Doesn’t have to do with the topic of the episode.
    1:13:09 It’s up to you.
    1:13:12 What is your secret to profiting in life?
    1:13:14 It’s just hard work.
    1:13:15 I’ll give you an example.
    1:13:21 I came up as a journalist, and I figured out very early on that most journalists hated rewriting.
    1:13:22 They’d write their story.
    1:13:24 They’d edit it.
    1:13:25 They’d turn it in.
    1:13:28 The editor would make changes, and they’d rewrite it once and turn it back in.
    1:13:29 I found that out.
    1:13:31 I was like, okay, you guys are doing it three times.
    1:13:34 Clearly, my job is to make my editor’s job easier.
    1:13:37 My job editor has to really comb through my articles.
    1:13:38 It takes months.
    1:13:39 He hates me.
    1:13:41 That’s not, you know, I’m not a good employee.
    1:13:44 So I started editing my stories 12 times.
    1:13:48 I’d just figure out what everybody else would do, and I’d triple it or quadruple it.
    1:13:50 I did that for years.
    1:13:52 So, I mean, it wasn’t much of a secret.
    1:13:58 I just figured I wasn’t as smart, as well-connected, as handsome, and all the other things as everybody
    1:14:01 else, but I just figured out how to work them.
    1:14:04 A lot of it is about smart hard work, not just hard work.
    1:14:07 Smart hard, there’s better ways to do it.
    1:14:11 I talk a lot about that in our country, about the advantages of smart hard work and smart hard
    1:14:15 play, and the difficulties with just hard work is the only tool you reach for.
    1:14:17 But really, like, there’s no secret.
    1:14:19 I just put my butt in the chair, and I did the work.
    1:14:21 I love that answer.
    1:14:22 Thank you for sharing that.
    1:14:23 Where can everybody learn about you?
    1:14:27 Where can they get NARCountry, and how can they find more about you, Stephen?
    1:14:33 NARCountry, you can go to NARCountry.com or Amazon or wherever books are sold.
    1:14:35 StephenCottler.com gets you to me.
    1:14:39 FlowResearchCollective.com gets you to the Flow Research Collective.
    1:14:42 GetMoreFlow.com gets you to our trainings.
    1:14:43 I think that’s it.
    1:14:44 Amazing.
    1:14:46 Always such a great conversation with you, Stephen.
    1:14:47 Thank you so much for your time.
    1:14:48 My pleasure.
    1:14:49 It was great hanging out with you again.
    1:14:52 Thank you.
    1:14:52 Thank you.
    1:14:52 Thank you.
    1:14:52 Thank you.
    1:14:52 Thank you.
  • Most people assume that aging means inevitable decline—but health and mindset can tell a different story. At 53, Steven Kotler set out to defy the so-called “long slow rot” of aging by learning how to park ski, a feat most experts believed was biologically impossible past 35. Along the way, he uncovered that many of our mental and physical abilities are “use-it-or-lose-it” skills—ones we can actively train to extend performance, youthfulness, and joy. In this episode, Steven shares the science behind peak performance aging, how mindset shapes longevity, and why dynamic challenges like action sports may be the secret to staying young and profiting.

    In this episode, Hala and Steven will discuss:

    (00:00) Introduction

    (01:22) The Inspiration Behind Studying Peak Performance

    (02:25) Debunking the Long Slow Rot Theory

    (04:16) Use It or Lose It: Physical Skills

    (06:54) The Importance of Dynamic Activities

    (16:57) Mindset and Aging

    (21:29) Overcoming Personal Traumas

    (27:59) Fluid vs. Crystallized Intelligence

    (32:43) Advancements in Regenerative Medicine

    (34:07) Learning and Cognitive Health

    (34:52) Three Types of Thinking for Better Aging

    (35:42) Business Opportunities in Hiring Older Adults

    (37:20) The Importance of Physical and Mental Activity

    (42:07) The Power of Authentic Learning

    (50:51) Insights from the Blue Zones

    (56:33) The Role of Flow in Aging and Performance

    Steven Kotler is a New York Times bestselling author, an award-winning journalist, and the Executive Director of the Flow Research Collective. He is one of the world’s leading experts on human performance. Steven is the author of 11 bestsellers (out of fourteen books), including The Art of Impossible and The Future is Faster Than You Think. His work has been nominated for two Pulitzer Prizes, translated into over 50 languages, and has appeared in over 100 publications, including the New York Times Magazine, Wired, Atlantic Monthly, Wall Street Journal, TIME, and the Harvard Business Review. In his latest book, Gnar Country: Growing Old, Staying Rad, Steven tests his knowledge and theories on his own aging body in a quest to become an expert skier at age 53.

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    0:01:39 You want to live to be 120 years old.
    0:01:41 Why do you actually want to live so long?
    0:01:42 I love life.
    0:01:44 What is the definition of health?
    0:01:46 It’s not the absence of disease.
    0:01:47 It’s something else.
    0:01:51 How do we unlock the keys to optimal biological performance?
    0:01:55 I’ve spent 40 years studying the science of the function of the body.
    0:01:57 Frailty is not a normal consequence of aging.
    0:02:02 It’s a consequence, a phenomenon that happens as we get older if we don’t do something about
    0:02:06 we have dysregulated sleep schedules, we have tremendous amounts of stress, we eat crappy
    0:02:08 food, we don’t exercise enough.
    0:02:12 There’s all these things that we’re doing to impede our ability to actually live a vibrant,
    0:02:12 long, healthy life.
    0:02:15 What did you do to reverse your age 20 years?
    0:02:17 I have been eating.
    0:02:22 Let’s say I gave you a 35-year-old, they’re stressed, exhausted, running on coffee.
    0:02:27 If you had a year to transform their health and performance, what are the things that you
    0:02:28 would change?
    0:02:30 I would immediately have them give.
    0:02:51 Yeah, fam, imagine feeling stronger, sharper, and more energized as you age, not the other
    0:02:52 way around.
    0:02:55 Well, today’s guest is going to help teach us how to just do that.
    0:03:00 Dr. Mark Hyman is a leading functional medicine expert and the best-selling author of books like
    0:03:02 Young Forever and Eat Fat, Get Thin.
    0:03:06 He’s going to share some science-backed insights to help you improve your health, extend your
    0:03:08 lifespan, and defy aging.
    0:03:12 But first, make sure you follow and subscribe to Young and Profiting Podcast.
    0:03:16 Whether you are a frequent listener or a brand new listener, make sure you’re subscribed to
    0:03:17 the show.
    0:03:21 That way, you’ll never miss an episode packed with expert insights like this one.
    0:03:23 Mark, welcome to Young and Profiting Podcast.
    0:03:25 Well, thanks for having me.
    0:03:31 I’m so excited for this conversation, and there’s so much to talk about, but I just want to jump
    0:03:32 in and get started.
    0:03:37 So I was reading your book, I was researching you, and I found out that you want to live
    0:03:39 to be 120 years old.
    0:03:41 Oh, if I can do everything I’d love to do, yes.
    0:03:42 If I can, no.
    0:03:46 I’m still riding my bike at 119, I’ll keep going.
    0:03:48 That would be amazing.
    0:03:53 I also interviewed Dave Osprey a few times, and he tells me he wants to live to be 180
    0:03:54 years old.
    0:04:00 So there’s this trend of biohackers like you guys that want to live to be 120, 180 years
    0:04:00 old.
    0:04:02 I would just say I’m not a biohacker.
    0:04:05 I’m a functional medicine physician, and so I use deep science.
    0:04:09 Some of the tools are similar, but functional medicine is really the ultimate biohacker.
    0:04:10 Yes.
    0:04:14 And we’re going to talk all about functional medicine, and I’m going to try to help my
    0:04:16 listeners understand what that is if they’re not familiar.
    0:04:20 But you guys are on a quest to live as long as you can, right?
    0:04:22 So that’s the two things that you guys have in common.
    0:04:23 Maybe it’s not biohacking.
    0:04:28 But when I think about that, I think about frail, old, bedridden.
    0:04:34 I don’t really want to live to be 120 years old, at least by today’s standards.
    0:04:40 So I want to understand, when you imagine yourself at 120 years old, what do you actually imagine
    0:04:42 yourself being capable to do?
    0:04:46 What does 120-year-old and thriving look like?
    0:04:49 I mean, it means being able to do whatever you’d love to do.
    0:04:52 If it’s sitting in a rocking chair and read a book, it’s that.
    0:04:54 If it’s hiking up a mountain, it’s that.
    0:04:56 If it’s making love with your partner, then it’s that.
    0:04:59 So for me, it’s really being able to get up in the morning and do what you’d love to do
    0:05:04 and not be encumbered by some of the conditions that are mostly preventable that we seem to
    0:05:06 think of as normal parts of aging.
    0:05:07 They’re not really.
    0:05:09 And what’s happening on the science is quite exciting.
    0:05:12 We’re seeing a lot of research, for example, there’s a Washington Post article recently
    0:05:17 about the Aminok factors, which is basically a scientific discovery that won the Nobel Prize.
    0:05:20 It allows you to reprogram your genes back to a younger you.
    0:05:22 It’s called epigenetic reprogramming.
    0:05:28 And it’s being researched by the Altos Lab, the Jeff Bezos, and also by Sam Altman’s Lab.
    0:05:32 So there’s a lot of really amazing research going on in this right now in the longevity space.
    0:05:34 That’s going to be an unlock.
    0:05:39 For most of us, I think we can expect to get to our 90s or 100, you know, bigger is in good health
    0:05:41 if we know what to do to take care of our bodies.
    0:05:42 And I saw this all over the place.
    0:05:47 I mean, I was in Sardinia, and I was in Icaria, and I just saw people who are, like, really old
    0:05:48 and really thriving.
    0:05:52 And, you know, this woman was, like, 87 years old, and she was, like, running up and down
    0:05:53 the side of this mountain.
    0:05:55 I couldn’t keep up with her.
    0:05:59 And she was, you know, tending to her giant gardens and farm and animals and trees.
    0:06:01 And it’s quite amazing to see.
    0:06:05 So I think if we understand the things that impede our health, we can remove those.
    0:06:08 And if we understand the things that enhance our health, we can add those.
    0:06:10 And it’s really not that hard.
    0:06:11 It’s just knowing what to do.
    0:06:14 So I was listening to your audio book, Young Forever.
    0:06:15 It was really entertaining.
    0:06:20 And you were talking about how you went to Sardinia and went to the Blue Zones.
    0:06:25 But talk to us about what actually sparked your interest in longevity.
    0:06:32 I’ve always been interested in the science of optimization in terms of how we function, whether
    0:06:36 it’s the word functional medicine or the company I co-founded, Function Health.
    0:06:44 The core value is how do we unlock how to function at your best and how to unlock the keys to optimal
    0:06:46 biological performance?
    0:06:49 And it’s really something that we’re not only discovering.
    0:06:51 No one’s really asked the question in medicine before.
    0:06:53 What is the definition of health?
    0:06:55 It’s not the absence of disease.
    0:06:56 It’s something else.
    0:06:59 And if you go to your doctor, you feel good, say, I want to feel better.
    0:07:00 I want to optimize my health.
    0:07:01 They don’t know what to do.
    0:07:02 Like, if you have symptoms, great.
    0:07:03 If you have a disease, they’ll give you a drug.
    0:07:07 But do they understand the science of creating health?
    0:07:08 No.
    0:07:14 That’s what I’ve spent my life studying after medical school, the science of creating health.
    0:07:16 And it’s something we now know how to do.
    0:07:17 And that’s what’s so exciting.
    0:07:19 We know the basic biological systems that go awry.
    0:07:23 And in the field of longevity, the science is really getting exciting because we’re talking
    0:07:25 about these concepts called the hallmarks of aging.
    0:07:29 The hallmarks of aging are these fundamental biological things that go wrong or break down
    0:07:33 as we get older that are underlying all disease.
    0:07:34 It’s like the roots or the trunk.
    0:07:39 And all the branches and the leaves are all the diseases and all the specialties.
    0:07:43 So whether it’s heart disease or cancer or diabetes or Alzheimer’s or whatever it is,
    0:07:45 autism, depression, they share common roots.
    0:07:48 And there are only really a few things that impede health.
    0:07:50 You have to identify what those are.
    0:07:51 There are toxins.
    0:07:51 There’s allergens.
    0:07:53 There’s microbes that change your microbiome.
    0:07:57 Stress could be physical or psychological stress.
    0:07:59 And poor diet, which most of us eat.
    0:08:01 And then there’s a few things our bodies need to thrive.
    0:08:04 So you need to get rid of the bad stuff and put in the good stuff.
    0:08:06 And then there’s ways of even accelerating optimization.
    0:08:09 Things, for example, like how do you optimize your mitochondria?
    0:08:10 How do you optimize your microbiome?
    0:08:13 How do you optimize neurotransmitter function?
    0:08:15 How do you optimize your immune system?
    0:08:16 These are things that we now know how to do.
    0:08:20 If you say to your doctor, I want to optimize my mitochondria and figure out how to optimize
    0:08:21 my immune system.
    0:08:23 And they’re not going to know what to do.
    0:08:24 How do I optimize my microbiome?
    0:08:25 Take a probiotic, you know, e-fiber.
    0:08:28 They’re not going to really understand because it’s not what they do.
    0:08:32 And I’ve spent the 40 years studying the science of the function of the body.
    0:08:38 And that’s really what we have come to in terms of understanding how to create these shifts
    0:08:43 in our biology that create abundant and vibrant health and that don’t provide a breeding ground
    0:08:44 for disease.
    0:08:49 So with traditional medicine, really, they’re focused on a specialty, right?
    0:08:52 They don’t treat the whole body holistically.
    0:08:55 So can you give us an example of, okay, I go to the doctor and I’m like, hey.
    0:08:56 I’ll give you an example.
    0:08:58 I’ll just tell you a patient, actual patient I had.
    0:09:01 I’m not going to use her name, but she was a business coach about 50 years old.
    0:09:02 She was overweight.
    0:09:03 She had prediabetes.
    0:09:03 She had depression.
    0:09:04 She had migraines.
    0:09:05 She had reflux.
    0:09:06 She had irritable bowel, bloating.
    0:09:11 She had terrible psoriatic arthritis, which is a horrible condition where you get psoriasis
    0:09:16 all over your hands and skin and body, and you also get arthritis, which is debilitating.
    0:09:18 So she was on a drug for that that cost $50,000.
    0:09:23 She was seen by the best docs, one of the best healthcare centers in the world, and she was
    0:09:26 getting the best GI treatment for reflux, the best treatment for irritable bowel, the best
    0:09:31 treatment for depression, quote, the best traditional view, the best treatment for migraines, the best
    0:09:35 treatment for her prediabetes, the best treatment for psoriatic arthritis, and she was seeing
    0:09:40 a doctor for every inch of her, and no one said, what is linking all these problems together?
    0:09:41 For her, it was inflammation.
    0:09:45 She had tremendous amounts of inflammation that were driving all these conditions.
    0:09:47 Now, we know when depression is inflammation, right?
    0:09:49 We know that if your gut’s upset, it’s inflammation.
    0:09:53 We know that, obviously, if you have inflamed skin and arthritis, that’s inflammation.
    0:09:58 We know that diabetes is inflammation, or prediabetes, or obesity is inflammation.
    0:10:01 So I said to myself, well, what are the root cause for her?
    0:10:05 She was having so many gut issues that I believe those are the cause.
    0:10:06 She had severe bloating.
    0:10:11 She had all these history of taking antibiotics, the steroids for various things, like for her
    0:10:12 autoimmune condition.
    0:10:14 And I said, why don’t we just do something really simple?
    0:10:16 Rather than taking all these drugs, you can continue to take them.
    0:10:22 But in the meantime, let’s just try you on a whole foods, low sugar, low starch diet, which
    0:10:24 removes the common inflammatory triggers.
    0:10:29 And for my practice, for people who have autoimmune disease, getting rid of grains and beans,
    0:10:35 dairy, gluten, which is part of the grains, sugar, processed food, alcohol, really makes a difference.
    0:10:36 So I said, put her on that diet.
    0:10:38 I said, let’s kind of reset your gut.
    0:10:40 I gave her an antibiotic and an antifungal to reset her gut.
    0:10:44 And then I gave her probiotics and things to rebuild her gut.
    0:10:47 And I gave her, I think, vitamin D and some fish oil, not a lot of stuff.
    0:10:50 And six weeks later, she comes back.
    0:10:52 She says, Dr. Hyman, I got off all my drugs.
    0:10:53 I’m like, wait, I didn’t tell you to do that.
    0:10:54 She said, no, no, I just was feeling so good.
    0:10:55 I just stopped everything.
    0:10:57 And she had no more steroid arthritis.
    0:10:59 Her skin care cleared up.
    0:11:00 She had no more migraines.
    0:11:01 She had no more depression.
    0:11:02 She lost 20 pounds.
    0:11:03 Her prediabetes was gone.
    0:11:03 Her reflux was gone.
    0:11:04 Her reflux was gone.
    0:11:08 And so I just treated the root cause, not the symptoms.
    0:11:12 Inflammation is a common trigger for most chronic diseases.
    0:11:17 And for me, after seeing this for 30, 40 years of patients like this, I can see it when they
    0:11:18 walk in.
    0:11:19 I know what’s going on.
    0:11:20 And it’s not that hard to treat.
    0:11:24 But she was getting all these symptom suppression treatments that weren’t really working.
    0:11:25 They were marginally working.
    0:11:28 They were keeping her functioning, sort of.
    0:11:30 But they didn’t really deal with the problem.
    0:11:34 So functional medicine is about really understanding the body as a network, as a system, as a system
    0:11:37 of systems that you have to keep optimized in order to live well.
    0:11:42 And they map almost entirely perfectly across the hallmarks of aging that scientists have
    0:11:42 been discovering.
    0:11:46 So when your mitochondria don’t work, when your detox system doesn’t work, when your immune
    0:11:52 imbalances or hormone imbalances or neurotransmitter imbalances or your gut’s off, these are things
    0:11:53 that we actually know how to treat.
    0:11:54 Your mitochondria aren’t working.
    0:11:56 These are things we know how to treat with functional medicine.
    0:12:02 And talk to us about how your company, Function, services these types of problems.
    0:12:07 What we’ve done with Function is really create the first health platform that allows people
    0:12:08 to fully access their own data.
    0:12:10 Now, people are wearing Oura rings.
    0:12:11 They’re wearing Apple watches.
    0:12:12 They’re wearing glucose monitors.
    0:12:13 That’s all great.
    0:12:15 That’s just a few data points.
    0:12:18 But what if you could unlock all of your biology?
    0:12:22 What if you could know all of your biomarkers and your metabolome and your microbiome and your
    0:12:28 genome, imaging, your wearables, and your medical history, and your EMR, your medical records,
    0:12:33 all gets into a platform that is personalized to you and allows you to identify where the
    0:12:38 imbalances are, where the dysfunctions are, and gives you deep insights and content based
    0:12:41 on machine learning AI to help you actually optimize your health for you.
    0:12:43 Because no two people are alike.
    0:12:45 And everybody’s different.
    0:12:48 And if we try to treat to the mean, we often miss the mark.
    0:12:49 And this is what medicine does.
    0:12:50 It treats to the mean.
    0:12:52 There’s no average person, right?
    0:12:53 And everybody’s different.
    0:12:59 And the studies work by something called randomized control, no-blind trials, which means you
    0:13:02 basically have two populations that are as identical to each other as possible.
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    0:18:56 So my first question to you, I mentioned biohacking, and you got like a little offended when I tried to compare what you were doing with biohacking.
    0:19:05 But when I hear you talking about it, and you’re talking about personalization and figuring out your biological age, to me, that’s, you know, I’ve been doing this podcast for six years and had a lot of people on the show.
    0:19:08 And it sounds a lot like biohacking.
    0:19:09 So what’s the difference?
    0:19:20 Well, I think biohacking tends to be around things like hot and cold plunges, hyperbaric chambers, red light therapy, all these devices and tools and things to optimize your health, which are fine.
    0:19:23 They work and they’re mediated by biological processes.
    0:19:24 And I use those.
    0:19:34 However, if someone comes in like that woman that I just described to you, no biohacker in the world is going to fix her because they don’t understand the science around functional medicine.
    0:19:36 Now, if they’re a trained practitioner, fine.
    0:19:37 They’ll figure it out.
    0:19:38 Or hopefully they’ll figure it out.
    0:19:45 But when you just use these modalities without trying to understand what the underlying root cause is, it’s another symptomatic treatment.
    0:19:46 You might feel better for a little bit.
    0:19:47 You go on a sauna.
    0:19:48 You go on a cold punch.
    0:19:48 You feel good.
    0:19:49 But then what?
    0:19:51 You know, you still have your arthritis.
    0:19:52 You still have autoimmune disease.
    0:19:53 You still have your migraines.
    0:19:54 You still have whatever you got.
    0:19:57 And no one’s telling you how to figure out the root of that.
    0:19:58 So I’m not opposed to it.
    0:19:59 And Dave’s a good friend.
    0:20:00 And I love Dave Asprey.
    0:20:03 And we hang out and talk all the time.
    0:20:04 And I learned from him.
    0:20:06 And there’s all kinds of great tools that I personally use and have.
    0:20:11 I’m just saying that functional medicine is sort of the OG biohacking in a sense.
    0:20:17 Because it’s really about understanding much deeper level what’s going on biologically, biochemically, genetically, you know, with your microbiome.
    0:20:21 And ways that I think most people just, it’s a lot to take in.
    0:20:25 And the problem is, you know, there’s 37 billion, billion chemical reactions to your body every second.
    0:20:27 Nobody can understand all that.
    0:20:30 And you have tens of thousands of metabolites in your blood and chemicals.
    0:20:32 We do 19 on a regular panel.
    0:20:37 With functional health, we do $499, which is $15,000 for the test for less than $500.
    0:20:40 And you get over 110 biomarkers.
    0:20:46 And you can add on other things as well to go deeper dives into whether you’re exposed to chemicals, whether you’re at Alzheimer’s risk, whether you have immune issues.
    0:20:48 I mean, so whether you have Lyme disease.
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    0:21:00 You have to get your insurance to pay for it.
    0:21:01 I mean, I have insurance.
    0:21:04 I go to the lab, and my doctor ordered some stuff that I wanted to do.
    0:21:05 And it was outside of Function.
    0:21:09 And she’s like, well, it’ll pay for this test, but not this test, and this test, but not this test.
    0:21:10 You want to be charged for that?
    0:21:10 You’ll be charged.
    0:21:14 I’m like, oh, you know, it’s like that’s what Function solves all of that.
    0:21:18 And you have this beautiful integrated dashboard where you have your data forever, and you track it over time.
    0:21:24 You get an app, which helps give you direct feedback, and it’s a very integrated experience into your life.
    0:21:32 I feel like it’s really needed because, to your point, the rest of the medical world is kind of stuck in this traditional process that really isn’t working.
    0:21:38 And the other thing that’s not working is actually treating aging’s symptoms and not the root cause.
    0:21:43 And one of the other big principles that you talk about is treating aging like an actual disease.
    0:21:44 So why is that important?
    0:21:55 Well, I think, you know, we’ve come to sort of accept that as you get older, you have cancer, you get heart disease, you get diabetes, you lose muscle, your brain function declines, you lose your ability to do things.
    0:21:58 These are not normal consequences of aging.
    0:22:00 Frailty is not a normal consequence of aging.
    0:22:05 It’s a consequence, a phenomenon that happens as we get older if we don’t do something about it.
    0:22:13 And all of us have seen those, you know, 90-year-old ladies doing, like, gymnastics and, like, the 100-year-old people running the 100-yard dash.
    0:22:15 You know, it’s kind of crazy stuff like that, right?
    0:22:17 And what is it about those people?
    0:22:24 Well, they have understood by accident or by studying that there are certain behaviors that foster optimal health.
    0:22:27 It’s eating whole foods, unprocessed diet.
    0:22:37 It’s low sugar and low starch and full of phytochemicals and fiber and inadequate amounts of protein, especially more animal protein as you get older because it’s harder to assimilate and build.
    0:22:41 You need to make sure you exercise and do strength training and you need flexibility.
    0:22:44 You need cardiovascular training and stability training.
    0:22:46 They understand you need good sleep.
    0:22:49 They understand they have managed their stress and their own emotional regulation.
    0:22:56 And they also have deep social connections and relationships that foster a sense of belonging, which all are ingredients for optimal health.
    0:22:59 And when you look at people, like, in the blue zones, that’s basically what they have.
    0:23:01 It’s not that they were vegans or not vegans.
    0:23:13 It was that they had these other factors and that they were profoundly impacted just by default by these situations that they found themselves born into, which we totally in the West don’t have.
    0:23:14 We’re the opposite.
    0:23:16 We have dysregulated sleep schedules.
    0:23:17 We have tremendous amounts of stress.
    0:23:18 We eat crappy food.
    0:23:20 You know, we don’t exercise enough.
    0:23:22 My R-ring told me I didn’t exercise enough yesterday.
    0:23:23 I was a fancy busy day.
    0:23:29 So, you know, there’s all these things that we’re doing to impede our ability to actually live a vibrant, long, healthy life.
    0:23:36 Well, you seem to be doing a good job because your biological age is 43, but you’re in your 60s.
    0:23:36 Is that right?
    0:23:37 Yeah.
    0:23:41 Well, I got my biological age done when I was 62 and I was 43.
    0:23:46 Then I implemented more of the things that I learned and some other strategies.
    0:23:51 I got two years older, I was 64, and I redid my biological age.
    0:23:51 It was 39.
    0:23:56 Even though I got two years older chronologically, I got four years younger biologically.
    0:24:01 So that’s the power we have in epigenetic reprogramming.
    0:24:04 Now, I mentioned earlier the Yamanaka factors and so forth.
    0:24:08 These are sort of part of the sky things that have to be tested in humans and make sure they’re safe and effective.
    0:24:16 But right now, even with what we know, by optimizing and tweaking, you can actually still reverse your epigenetic biological age.
    0:24:20 At any point in your life, it can go backwards or forwards.
    0:24:26 If you kind of go on a bender or whatever, you don’t sleep and you party and you eat crappy food, you’ll get older biologically.
    0:24:28 And then you can change that and reprogram and go back.
    0:24:31 So give us concrete things.
    0:24:34 What did you do to reverse your age 20 years?
    0:24:36 Well, I’ve been doing this my whole life.
    0:24:38 So it wasn’t like I was 64 biologically.
    0:24:41 And then I, in five years, I reversed it to 40.
    0:24:44 So I have been eating whole foods my whole life.
    0:24:46 I’ve been not eating processed foods.
    0:24:47 I don’t remember the last time I had a Zoda.
    0:24:49 I mean, I probably was a kid.
    0:24:53 I exercised my entire life for the last 50 years.
    0:24:59 I have made sure I prioritize community, connection, sleep, and manage stress.
    0:25:00 And all those things play a role.
    0:25:05 And then I’ve done things to optimize my microbiome, my mitochondria, my immune system.
    0:25:07 And those will all really help.
    0:25:10 So all those things kind of nudge you back into a healthier state.
    0:25:13 And there’s some supplements and things that I’ve taken that I think have made a difference.
    0:25:15 I’ve taken neural FNA.
    0:25:19 I take amino acids that should help be assimilated.
    0:25:25 I also take something that’s called NMN, which is a precursor of NAD that helps also revitalize
    0:25:25 your cells.
    0:25:28 I do a number of different things that I think are important from a supplement perspective.
    0:25:31 But I think most of it’s like the 10%.
    0:25:34 The rest of it is the 80 to 90%.
    0:25:40 And that’s what, if we were to use Function, the platform, it would help us figure out, okay,
    0:25:41 what’s our biological age?
    0:25:44 And these are the things you need to do related to functional medicine and to help.
    0:25:45 That’s what it does.
    0:25:45 Yeah.
    0:25:46 Yeah.
    0:25:51 We do a calculation based on your biomarkers of what your biological age is based on scientific
    0:25:55 data that shows certain blood biomarkers correlate with your epigenetic biological age.
    0:25:57 And you can see it go backwards or forwards.
    0:25:59 Now, if you do different tests, you’re going to get different numbers, right?
    0:26:02 Some tests will be like five years younger or 10 years younger.
    0:26:05 You may not be able to compare apples to apples by switching tests.
    0:26:08 But if you stay with the same tests consistently, you’ll see the changes.
    0:26:12 So I want to get really nerdy because I’m sure people have been listening and they’re like,
    0:26:15 I have no idea what epigenetics is.
    0:26:20 And so there’s two terms I want you to break down, epigenomes and exposome.
    0:26:22 So one is about how our genes are expressed.
    0:26:24 One is our environmental exposure.
    0:26:25 So break those now.
    0:26:26 Yeah.
    0:26:29 So basically the concept that I think is really important called the exposome.
    0:26:32 We all have been taught that our genes control who we are.
    0:26:36 They’re our destiny, whatever we got, we got, we can’t change it.
    0:26:40 You know, our parents got diabetes, our parents got cancer, our parents got whatever, heart
    0:26:41 disease.
    0:26:42 It’s just in our future.
    0:26:44 Your genes are not your destiny.
    0:26:49 They may provide you with a roadmap of what your predispositions are, but not your destiny.
    0:26:51 So what controls your destiny?
    0:26:53 It’s something called the exposome.
    0:26:58 That is a sum total of everything that you’re exposed to throughout your life that washes over
    0:27:03 your biology, including your genes and reprograms them based on what you’re doing.
    0:27:06 If you’re eating, like me, if you had a whole foods diet, if you exercise, you do all these
    0:27:09 things for 50 years, you’re going to be biologically younger.
    0:27:12 Your epigenetics are going to track as if you’re younger.
    0:27:14 And I’ll talk about what epigenetics are.
    0:27:16 So the exposome is what you eat.
    0:27:22 It’s your exercise, your nutrient levels, it’s stress management, it’s community, it’s sleep.
    0:27:25 It’s all the things we’ve just talked about, light, air, water, all those things.
    0:27:27 I went on bright sunlight this morning for 20 minutes.
    0:27:29 All those things matter.
    0:27:31 That influences how your biology is regulated.
    0:27:35 We’re biological organisms and we’re controlled in the same way by our external factors.
    0:27:40 So the exposome is literally everything from toxins to your gut microbiome, to your diet,
    0:27:43 to sleep, everything that your body is exposed to.
    0:27:45 That’s why we call it the exposome.
    0:27:50 Your epigenome is how the exposome regulates your biology.
    0:27:52 Now, what is the epigenome?
    0:27:53 Epi means above.
    0:27:55 So you’ve got your genes, you’ve got about 20,000 genes.
    0:28:00 Your epigenome, you think about like the keyboards on a piano, right?
    0:28:01 You’ve got 88 keys.
    0:28:02 They ain’t changing.
    0:28:04 You know, I’ve got 20,000 genes.
    0:28:04 They ain’t changing.
    0:28:07 Unless I do gene editing or splicing or some other weird thing that’s coming around the
    0:28:09 corner, they’re not changing.
    0:28:15 What can change is how those genes are expressed, how they’re turned on or off, whether they’re
    0:28:19 up-regulated or down-regulated, whether they’re driving inflammation or stop inflammation, whether
    0:28:20 they’re accelerating aging or slow aging.
    0:28:25 And they are basically the control mechanisms to turn on or off genes.
    0:28:29 So I think of them like switches or knobs, and you can dial them up or down based on what
    0:28:30 you’re doing.
    0:28:36 And that’s how almost all of the impacts of a lot of the lung practices we talked about
    0:28:37 have their effect.
    0:28:40 That’s how the exposome regulates your health and longevity, your biology, and your risk
    0:28:46 of disease is through your epigenome, then translates into the expression of genes and proteins and
    0:28:47 biological functions.
    0:28:50 And you want to have a healthy epigenome.
    0:28:55 There was a great example, for example, a brand new journal who discovered this phenomenon was
    0:28:58 these mice that are bred to be obese.
    0:29:02 So they’re yellow, they’re fat, basically yellow fat mice.
    0:29:08 He gave a series of the females who are pregnant, certain nutrients called methylating nutrients
    0:29:09 that regulate the epigenome.
    0:29:13 It’s a little complicated, but there’s something called methylation, which is a chemical process
    0:29:15 that regulates your genes.
    0:29:17 It involves B6, folate, and B12.
    0:29:19 Vitamins and minerals are extremely important.
    0:29:20 They run everything in your body.
    0:29:23 Every biochemical reaction needs a vitamin or mineral.
    0:29:27 And if you don’t have them or they’re insufficient, you’re going to have gummed up biochemistry.
    0:29:30 And gummed up biochemistry translates into disease.
    0:29:36 So he basically gave these pregnant mice some B vitamins and a few other amino acids and things
    0:29:38 to help to support this process.
    0:29:41 The offspring were perfect.
    0:29:45 They were thin, they were healthy, they were gray, they were not yellow fat mice.
    0:29:50 Even though genetically, they were bred to be yellow fat mice.
    0:29:52 And this was a massive discovery.
    0:29:56 And I think this is what really has led to our understanding of this whole process of how
    0:29:59 we can modify our epigenome and the outcomes.
    0:30:03 So when your mother’s eating when she’s pregnant with you, you know, the stresses you experience
    0:30:08 in utero that your mother might have experienced or all your early childhood experiences, all those
    0:30:10 imprint on your epigenome and can affect you.
    0:30:11 toxins you’re exposed to.
    0:30:16 So this is why we have to sort of pay attention to how we live, because if we want to feel
    0:30:21 good and do good and engage in life and do the work we want to do and be successful in
    0:30:26 our work and have great relationships and enjoy life and be happy, if you feel like crap, it’s
    0:30:28 not that much fun, right?
    0:30:29 So true.
    0:30:36 And so from what I read, 90% of disease and aging risk has to do with our environment, our
    0:30:37 exposome, right?
    0:30:41 And so the earlier that we start, the better is what you were just saying, right?
    0:30:45 We can even start from in the womb if our mothers are smart enough.
    0:30:46 Yeah.
    0:30:48 You know, I’ve seen women wanting to be pregnant.
    0:30:49 I measure their toxin load.
    0:30:52 I’m like, whoa, we got to do something about this.
    0:30:53 We got to reduce your exposures, the toxins.
    0:30:56 We’ve got to get these heavy metals down because you want to have a healthy baby.
    0:31:00 And so we really proactively do preconception work.
    0:31:04 I mean, I had a whole podcast about that on The Doctor’s Pharmacy, and now it’s called The
    0:31:04 Dr. Hyman Show.
    0:31:09 We dove deep into what you need to know preparing for a baby, what happens when you’re pregnant,
    0:31:12 how do you take care of yourself, what are the things that are matter scientifically to
    0:31:14 optimize the chance of having a healthy baby.
    0:31:19 On the flip side, is there any time that’s too late to get started on this?
    0:31:20 Oh, God, no.
    0:31:24 What’s really amazing, in one of the animal studies, they’ve given rapamycin, which is
    0:31:29 something that is a drug discovered in Rapa Nui that inhibits this pathway called one of the
    0:31:33 longevity switches, I call it the longevity switches, that they control so much.
    0:31:35 So mTOR is one of these.
    0:31:41 And mTOR essentially is a pathway that is going to help you build muscle, but also when it’s
    0:31:46 activated and when it’s inactivated or inhibited in some way, it’s going to allow the cells
    0:31:50 to replenish and repair through this process called autophagy, which basically means you’re
    0:31:53 eating your old cells and you’re reusing the parts.
    0:31:53 It’s recycling.
    0:31:56 So it’s cleaning up the mess that we make all the time in our bodies.
    0:31:58 Where does that garbage go, right?
    0:31:59 Somebody has to fix it.
    0:32:05 So rapamycin inhibits that and accelerates the autophagy process and then given in the right
    0:32:09 ways, it extends life and extends health in animal models consistently and reliably.
    0:32:14 And so there are interesting ways that we can sort of activate these longevity switches
    0:32:14 and pathways.
    0:32:18 And I talk about that a lot in my book, Young Forever, and how do we understand how these
    0:32:19 work, what we can do?
    0:32:20 And it’s not complicated.
    0:32:25 There’s a few simple practices, sometimes a few supplements that can really help modulate
    0:32:27 some of these pathways to activate the longevity switches.
    0:32:28 Okay.
    0:32:32 So one more really nerdy question, and that’s about mitochondria.
    0:32:36 So you say the difference between a three-year-old and a nine-year-old is a number and the state
    0:32:37 of their mitochondria.
    0:32:41 So help us understand what mitochondrial dysfunction has to do with aging.
    0:32:44 So this is one of the hallmarks of aging is mitochondrial dysfunction.
    0:32:45 It’s key to so many diseases.
    0:32:50 Your mitochondria, I think of them as like the powerhouse of your cell, the energy factories,
    0:32:53 they take food and oxygen, turn it into energy that your body uses.
    0:32:58 And we use gasoline or carb and it combusts and creates energy.
    0:32:59 We run on something called ATP.
    0:33:02 It’s just a molecule produced from food and oxygen.
    0:33:06 And the waste products are carbon dioxide, which we breathe out, and water, which we pee out,
    0:33:07 and some free radicals, which we have.
    0:33:09 Antioxidant mechanisms to control.
    0:33:12 And what happens is they’re your energy, right?
    0:33:15 So if you have poor functioning mitochondria, you’re going to have low energy.
    0:33:16 You’re going to be weaker.
    0:33:17 You’re going to have lower muscle mass.
    0:33:22 So the key to longevity is keeping your mitochondria healthy and keeping them strong and actually
    0:33:24 having better, more mitochondria.
    0:33:28 And so the way to do that is by exercise.
    0:33:30 So resistance training builds muscle and mitochondria.
    0:33:33 Sprint training or kit training does that as well.
    0:33:35 Exercise with oxygen therapy.
    0:33:36 Hypoxia training does that.
    0:33:38 A lot of ways to do it.
    0:33:42 There’s supplements like urolithin A, which causes mitophagy and mitochondrial renewal.
    0:33:45 There are mitochondrial support supplements sometimes that you need.
    0:33:50 So there are a lot of ways to optimize your mitochondria, but they’re injured by too much food,
    0:33:52 too much sugar and starch, too many environmental toxins.
    0:33:56 All those things from the microbiome that are bad, all those things can damage your mitochondria.
    0:34:00 So learning about your mitochondria, how to take care of them is really important.
    0:34:04 And again, it’s one of the things we can look at as we start to test things and see what’s
    0:34:04 going on in our bodies.
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    0:39:38 I want to talk about your drive of wanting to live so long because one of the factors that
    0:39:44 you mentioned is having a purpose and feeling like you’ve got a way to contribute to the world.
    0:39:47 So why do you actually want to live so long?
    0:39:49 Well, I love life.
    0:39:54 And as long as I can enjoy life and be with my friends and do the things I love and ride my bike
    0:39:59 and hike and enjoy what I’m doing and have meaning and purpose and contribute to the world and add value.
    0:40:01 You know, I’m 65.
    0:40:03 I kind of figured a few things out by now.
    0:40:07 And, you know, wisdom always doesn’t come with age, but I’ve had a bunch of hard knocks,
    0:40:09 and that’s really taught me a lot.
    0:40:14 So I kind of feel happy and content and satisfied, and, like, I want to keep going.
    0:40:18 I mean, I don’t really care if I get to 120 or 100 or 99 or 95 or 90.
    0:40:20 I just want to feel good and do good.
    0:40:29 I’m really excited for this generation of 60-year-olds because I just feel like in the past, in your 60s,
    0:40:30 it’s all about retirement.
    0:40:34 And I feel like a lot of people right now are actually, like, taking on second careers
    0:40:38 and realizing that they really have a lot more time to live,
    0:40:40 and people are taking advantage of that.
    0:40:43 So, like, what are your thoughts in terms of people around your age who, like,
    0:40:45 want to take on a new career?
    0:40:45 Yeah.
    0:40:47 Tell me about that.
    0:40:54 I’m 65, and two years ago, I co-founded a company that’s a big startup company right now.
    0:40:57 So who does startups in their 60s?
    0:40:59 Most people are, like, looking at golf courses and not startups.
    0:41:02 I mean, I want to contribute to the world.
    0:41:02 I want to do things.
    0:41:03 I get excited.
    0:41:03 We’re building.
    0:41:04 We’re creating.
    0:41:05 We’re dreaming.
    0:41:08 We’re imagining a different future for healthcare and medicine.
    0:41:12 where adding value to people’s lives is something to get up for every morning and to be excited
    0:41:17 about and take all the things that I know that are almost impossible for any single doctor
    0:41:22 to synthesize and to sort through and make sense of and provide each individual with a
    0:41:26 personalized approach to their health that’s going to actually optimize how they feel.
    0:41:28 And that’s really the key here is to end needless suffering.
    0:41:30 And for me, that’s my purpose.
    0:41:31 And that’s my mission.
    0:41:44 And it’s hard for me to imagine, especially in the West, because I feel like things are
    0:41:45 more unhealthy than ever.
    0:41:48 The food in the grocery store is terrible.
    0:41:50 Everything comes in a cardboard box.
    0:41:53 Our water supply is really scary.
    0:41:55 And it feels like there’s no good water.
    0:42:00 It’s either like you’re getting plastic or you’re drinking from a dirty faucet, right?
    0:42:06 And so for me, it just feels almost impossible to navigate food, which you say is medicine.
    0:42:13 So talk to us about how we should try to navigate our diets and what changes need to happen in
    0:42:17 America for us to actually live healthier lives and longer lives.
    0:42:19 This has been something I’ve been working on for a long time.
    0:42:23 And I wrote a book called Food Fix, which lays out from field to fork what’s wrong with our
    0:42:24 food system.
    0:42:29 And if there’s one thing that’s killing us, aside from environmental toxins and stress in
    0:42:32 our sleep schedule, it’s probably 80% food.
    0:42:35 And it’s something that we can control and do something about.
    0:42:40 And unless we actually take it seriously and fix our food system, we’re a bit of a mess.
    0:42:43 And so right now, there’s a resurgence of interest in health around the country.
    0:42:45 There’s the Make America Healthy Again movement.
    0:42:48 And so there’s that energy happening.
    0:42:52 And in Washington, working on policies that bring those dangers to the average American.
    0:42:56 For example, in West Virginia, they got rid of red dyes and other dyes.
    0:42:57 In California, they did the same thing.
    0:43:01 These are great steps to start to push the food system to produce healthier food for all
    0:43:02 of us.
    0:43:06 And something that’s really hot right now is GLPs, right?
    0:43:08 I have mixed feelings about them.
    0:43:09 I’m not a doctor, right?
    0:43:11 But I think it’s good if you have a real problem.
    0:43:18 But I see normal people who might just need to lose 10, 20 pounds take GLPs.
    0:43:19 So what are your thoughts around that?
    0:43:25 For most people, and I literally just got a text from somebody this morning saying, my cousin
    0:43:25 read your book.
    0:43:26 They lost 100 pounds.
    0:43:32 My person who’s working with me in Washington around food policy, she lost 112 pounds in the
    0:43:33 last few years working with me.
    0:43:34 And they’re without taking these trucks.
    0:43:35 Now, some people are really stuck.
    0:43:40 And if you’re stuck and you need help and you have not really addressed the underlying
    0:43:42 reasons why you eat that, sometimes it’s not what you’re eating.
    0:43:43 It’s what’s eating you.
    0:43:44 You got to figure that out.
    0:43:46 I think it’s really important to do that.
    0:43:51 And I think when people do that, they don’t necessarily have to take these drugs, which are
    0:43:52 helpful.
    0:43:57 They can be extremely helpful, but they also come with side effects.
    0:43:59 Muscle loss, weight regain if you stop.
    0:44:03 They can have other issues, you know, like pancreatic issues and pancreatitis.
    0:44:06 They can cause bowel obstruction if taken for a long time.
    0:44:09 So they can be a good tool, but they’re just a tool.
    0:44:10 They’re not a panacea.
    0:44:12 And I think they’ve helped a lot of people.
    0:44:13 I’m not against them.
    0:44:16 I think they’re used in ways that sometimes don’t make sense to me.
    0:44:18 Why give a six-year-old an ozempic shot for the rest of his life?
    0:44:20 It’s not his fault.
    0:44:20 He’s overweight.
    0:44:21 It’s the environment he’s in.
    0:44:25 And I think that can actually get really fixed.
    0:44:30 So I think it’s important for people to understand that they have power.
    0:44:35 The food industry has basically hijacked our brain chemistry, our metabolism, our desires
    0:44:36 for different foods.
    0:44:39 And these are things that can actually be changed.
    0:44:45 You can literally change your brain chemistry and have an incredibly powerful shift in your
    0:44:46 cravings and your desire for foods.
    0:44:53 You know, for example, people going keto, they don’t really need ozempic because naturally the
    0:44:55 way they’re eating will shut off that craving.
    0:44:57 And the food addiction is a real thing.
    0:45:02 About 14% of adults and kids are addicted to food, biologically addicted.
    0:45:09 This is really based on good evidence from the Yale Food Addiction Scale and deep science
    0:45:10 around the world.
    0:45:10 We looked at this.
    0:45:17 This is just horribly sad and horribly unfortunate because we really don’t need to do that.
    0:45:19 We can fix our food supply.
    0:45:20 We can fix this problem.
    0:45:22 And it has to be done at a grassroots level.
    0:45:23 It has to be done at a state level.
    0:45:24 It has to be done at a federal level.
    0:45:28 It’s going to take time, but we’re working with the FDA, working with the USDA, with
    0:45:33 HHS, the administration as best we can to try to push changes through my nonprofit.
    0:45:38 I’ve also heard that there’s food companies already trying to figure out how to circumvent
    0:45:41 GLPs so that people still crave their food, right?
    0:45:44 So this is going to figure out how to get around it.
    0:45:46 That’s even crazy when you think of it.
    0:45:49 Like, wow, they’re really just going to go there?
    0:45:53 They’re literally going to just kind of circumvent ozempic by making food even more addictive?
    0:45:56 Yeah, that’s the state of the world that we’re in.
    0:45:57 So we’ve got to take control.
    0:45:59 So let’s talk about our ancestors.
    0:46:04 Because when I was listening to your book, I was surprised because we’re always thinking
    0:46:06 about how we live so long now.
    0:46:10 And when you think about the past, you might think people died at 30, 40.
    0:46:15 But there’s actually cases in history where people have lived to be a very old age.
    0:46:19 So talk to us about how our ancestors ate and maybe some examples of people who lived really
    0:46:21 long back in the day.
    0:46:25 Well, I think, you know, when you look, for example, at the Native Americans, one of the
    0:46:30 longest populations in the world at the turn of the 1900s was the Plains Indians.
    0:46:33 They had most of their diet from bison.
    0:46:38 And then they had berries and they had probably wild stuff they gathered.
    0:46:40 But predominantly their diet was meat.
    0:46:45 And they lived to be well over 100 and highly functional and active.
    0:46:49 And these populations around the world where you see people like I was in Turkey and they
    0:46:51 know, this is not a technical blue zone.
    0:46:54 But man, they were a lot of really old people who are doing great.
    0:46:59 We’re in their 80s, 90s, still working, still thriving, still make part of the community.
    0:47:01 And I think it’s when you stop, you stop.
    0:47:04 Like, I think retirement is the worst idea ever invented.
    0:47:06 I don’t really get it.
    0:47:07 But people don’t retire.
    0:47:08 They just shift and change what they’re doing.
    0:47:13 And I think these communities, and when you see these people living to be very old, it’s
    0:47:15 because they found meaning, purpose.
    0:47:19 They’ve learned how to not sort of internalize the stresses of life.
    0:47:22 They’ve learned how to modulate their own diet and lifestyle to optimize their health.
    0:47:24 And they just figured it out.
    0:47:29 Let’s stick on community a bit because you say it’s also a factor in longevity.
    0:47:32 You say you’re only as healthy as your five closest friends.
    0:47:33 Tell us about that.
    0:47:35 Well, think about it.
    0:47:41 If all your friends are going to McDonald’s and drinking beer and two leaves a soda day and
    0:47:44 watching TV all the time, that’s what you’re going to be probably like.
    0:47:50 And if you have friends who are healthy and go to yoga and drink green juices and exercise
    0:47:55 and eat whole foods and get together and share these things, you’re more likely going to be
    0:47:56 healthy.
    0:47:57 It’s just so clear.
    0:48:01 Dr. Stokas from Harvard did a lot of work on this, wrote a book called Connected, but
    0:48:04 he published research in the New England Journal of Medicine showing that, for example, from
    0:48:08 the Framingham data, which is a large study of probably one of the largest studies, longest
    0:48:12 going studies in the world, in Framingham, Massachusetts, tracking their population, he found that those
    0:48:16 people who actually, when they looked at the patterns around obesity, that you were about
    0:48:20 40% likely to be overweight if your parents or siblings are overweight.
    0:48:25 But you were 171% more likely to be overweight if your friends are overweight.
    0:48:30 So your social connections matter and your relationships matter.
    0:48:34 If you’re somebody who just stands up all night playing video games and you’re living in America
    0:48:39 and your friends are playing video games in Australia, I mean, your sleep-wake cycle, your
    0:48:40 circuitry rhythm, everything’s going to be off.
    0:48:45 So the people in the communities that you have to surround yourself with, make sure they’re
    0:48:49 people who are leaning in towards wellness and health as opposed to not that.
    0:48:51 That’s so interesting.
    0:48:55 Now, I don’t want everybody tuning in to become fat-phobic, you know?
    0:49:00 But at the same time, you’ve got to pay attention to, it’s the same thing.
    0:49:02 If people are doing drugs around you, you’re more likely to do drugs.
    0:49:06 So food can also be as bad as a drug.
    0:49:08 We’ve got to think of it that way.
    0:49:14 So if there was one thing that you could remove from the grocery stores, what would it be?
    0:49:18 It would be high-fructose corn syrup like that.
    0:49:22 You’d cut out most of the in the grocery store.
    0:49:27 And I think, you know, trans fats have been removed for the most part, which is great.
    0:49:33 But you want to make sure you’re getting rid of those two things, trans fats and africose corn syrup.
    0:49:35 Just getting rid of that alone will make a huge difference.
    0:49:37 Or just even reading the ingredient list.
    0:49:42 If there’s an ingredient on there that you don’t have at home that you wouldn’t use in your kitchen,
    0:49:51 like butylated hydroxychloroquine or maltodextrin or mono and diglycerides, you probably shouldn’t eat it.
    0:49:52 I heard something once.
    0:49:55 If you can’t kill it or grow it, you shouldn’t eat it.
    0:49:58 And I always think about that when I’m eating food.
    0:49:59 Yeah.
    0:50:00 Totally right.
    0:50:01 Totally right.
    0:50:03 So a lot of our listeners are entrepreneurs.
    0:50:05 They have very busy schedules.
    0:50:10 Sometimes it can get really overwhelming trying to follow different nutrition advice.
    0:50:13 So in the simplest terms, what should we be eating?
    0:50:15 Yeah, I’ve written so many books about this food.
    0:50:17 What should I eat?
    0:50:21 The Pagan Diet, which is sort of a condensed version and with some kind of fun stuff in it.
    0:50:24 What we agree on is more than what we disagree on.
    0:50:28 You can get on the margins about vegan or paleo or keto or this or that.
    0:50:32 But the truth is, we all agree we shouldn’t be eating processed food, ultra processed food.
    0:50:36 We all agree we should be reducing starches and sugar and refined carbohydrates in our diet.
    0:50:43 We shouldn’t be eating things that aren’t food, technically, like maltodextrin or butylated hydroxychloroquine or red dye number three.
    0:50:47 We should be eating foods that are high in phytochemicals.
    0:50:52 We think of food as medicine, where it changes everything in our biology in real time.
    0:50:58 We should be thinking about having good quality fats from nuts and seeds and avocados and wild fish, small fish.
    0:51:03 And even though for some people tolerate animal fats very well, especially if it’s regeneratively raised, they have very different qualities of fats.
    0:51:10 So there’s a lot of really good things you can do that are available from the diet that you can get even anywhere.
    0:51:19 I mean, I’ve worked with people in the worst food deserts in America, and they’ve actually been able to make a huge impact and change their diet if they actually do the right things.
    0:51:20 And they will.
    0:51:25 They’ll actually have a huge shift in their diet by actually doing this.
    0:51:28 So I’m pretty thrilled by how simple it is.
    0:51:31 But when people understand how to do it, then it often changes.
    0:51:34 Talk to us about exercise.
    0:51:38 I feel like there’s a lot of mixed advice when it comes to exercise.
    0:51:41 What’s your take on the right amount, too much exercise?
    0:51:43 Exercise is critical.
    0:51:44 Your body needs to move.
    0:51:45 There’s no doubt about it.
    0:51:47 We were designed to be moving organisms all the time.
    0:51:50 And that’s how we evolved.
    0:51:53 Now, most of us don’t do enough.
    0:51:54 And that’s unfortunate.
    0:51:57 And I think 8% get the optimal amount.
    0:51:59 23%, we get some moderate amount.
    0:52:03 But the key is to actually understand what’s good for you.
    0:52:05 And it’s different at different times of your life.
    0:52:09 But I think you need at least 30 minutes of good cardio four or five times a week, three
    0:52:13 times a week is strength training, probably a week or a day or two of flexibility and training
    0:52:14 and stability training.
    0:52:15 That’s kind of bare minimum.
    0:52:19 If you can do that, you’re going to maintain your health and be good for a long time.
    0:52:24 You’ve said in the past that strength training is the best anti-aging medicine.
    0:52:25 What’s so good about it?
    0:52:29 Because what you’re doing is you’re building muscle, you’re building mitochondria, you’re
    0:52:31 increasing muscle mass.
    0:52:32 And what really kills people is frailty.
    0:52:34 When you get older, you get frail.
    0:52:35 You’re not able to get up out of a chair.
    0:52:37 You’re not able to do anything you love to do.
    0:52:39 Your mobility has decreased.
    0:52:40 Your functions decreased.
    0:52:42 That’s all totally preventable by strength training.
    0:52:46 And you have to work harder as you get older because the body, unfortunately, it doesn’t
    0:52:47 work as well.
    0:52:50 So you have to do a little more effort to get the same benefit.
    0:52:53 And I think that’s something people have to do, but it’s not optional.
    0:52:55 Like exercise is just not optional.
    0:52:59 Okay, last question for you, and then we’re going to close out this interview.
    0:53:06 So the average listener’s age on my podcast is 35 years old, and they’re typically an entrepreneur.
    0:53:11 So let’s say I gave you a 35-year-old, they’re stressed, exhausted, running on coffee.
    0:53:17 If you had a year to transform their health and performance, what are the things that you
    0:53:18 would change?
    0:53:23 I would immediately have them get on a whole foods diet that I just talked about and have
    0:53:29 them just follow the principles of eat real food, low sugar, starch, good fats, adequate
    0:53:33 protein for where you are in your life phase and varies depending on where you are, lots of
    0:53:36 phytochemicals, lots of fiber, and just start there.
    0:53:40 And if you’re really having any health issues, I’d probably do my 10-day detox program, which
    0:53:41 is essentially a reset.
    0:53:44 It’s just 10daydetox.com with a 10-day detox.
    0:53:48 And what really is amazing about it is that people get a reset.
    0:53:52 It’s like putting your body back to its original factory settings, and you can see where food
    0:53:53 is impacting you.
    0:53:58 Oh, I didn’t know that, oh, my rash was caused by food, or I didn’t know that my migraines
    0:54:01 were caused by what I was eating, or I didn’t know that my joint pain was caused by what
    0:54:02 I was eating, or my sleep problem was caused by eating.
    0:54:06 So you get a really quick reset, and then you can start to add foods back in.
    0:54:08 So that would be number one, get your food straight.
    0:54:10 And that’s timing, planning, organizing.
    0:54:11 It’s really important.
    0:54:15 The amount of time you spend on your business, the fraction of that you spend on your health,
    0:54:16 you’ll get a lot of dividends from that.
    0:54:19 Getting a regular exercise routine, not that hard.
    0:54:23 Maybe if you just want to walk 30 minutes, a few walking phone calls, that’s good, better
    0:54:23 than nothing.
    0:54:25 You can have a walking treadmill.
    0:54:28 You can do more fun things.
    0:54:28 I like to bike.
    0:54:33 I like to do more mountain biking, and road biking, and tennis, and other things that
    0:54:34 kind of are fun for me.
    0:54:35 I like to make exercise fun.
    0:54:40 Strength training, I’ve gotten into more and more, and it’s been profound in terms of effect
    0:54:41 on my body, even as I’m older.
    0:54:44 I think learning how to regulate your nervous system is important.
    0:54:47 Self-soothing is not something we learn how to do.
    0:54:48 We get activated, reactive.
    0:54:53 But learning how to practice, whether it’s breath work, or meditation, or some practice
    0:54:57 where you’re resetting your nervous system, because we’re all in parasympathetic deficit.
    0:54:59 We need to be relaxing more.
    0:55:04 And then I think build community, because as you’re building something and going through
    0:55:07 stuff, when getting isolated is the worst thing you can do for a human being.
    0:55:14 And so I think having that ability to work with your friends to build a fun community experience
    0:55:15 is really important.
    0:55:18 And that’s something that’s been really important to me, especially as I’ve gotten older, is
    0:55:22 just invest in your friendships, because when everything else goes, that’s what will be
    0:55:22 left.
    0:55:26 Yeah, so that was great advice on an individual level.
    0:55:31 And a lot of the people tuning in are entrepreneurs, and we help move society forward.
    0:55:35 And we have this big shift from traditional to functional medicine.
    0:55:37 We’re trying to combat the food industries.
    0:55:42 Can you talk to us about some of the opportunities that you see for entrepreneurs to capitalize on
    0:55:43 all these changes?
    0:55:47 The health and wellness market is a trillion-dollar market.
    0:55:49 And there’s a lot of ways people are entering that.
    0:55:54 But if you can figure out what you love and the intersection of what you love and what people
    0:55:58 need, often businesses are started from people’s own needs.
    0:55:59 It’s like, I need to fix my own health.
    0:56:03 So as a physician, I got very sick when I was in my 30s.
    0:56:05 I got chronic fatigue syndrome from heavy metals.
    0:56:08 And I was struggling a lot.
    0:56:10 And I had to figure it out.
    0:56:13 I had to actually figure it out.
    0:56:15 And that forced me to learn about what I learned about.
    0:56:20 It forced me to study the way I studied, to actually find this field of functional medicine,
    0:56:22 to use it on myself, to heal and repair.
    0:56:27 And so that’s what I encourage people to do, is figure out that intersection of what you
    0:56:27 love.
    0:56:28 That’s just driven me.
    0:56:29 Because it’s not like a choice.
    0:56:30 I don’t have a choice.
    0:56:32 It’s not like I’m making widgets or something.
    0:56:33 It’s fine to make widgets.
    0:56:40 But, you know, I think the key is really to kind of figure out how you can do this in
    0:56:44 a way that it syncs with what you love, because otherwise you won’t really do it.
    0:56:45 Great advice.
    0:56:45 Okay.
    0:56:48 So I end my show with two questions I ask all my guests.
    0:56:51 It could be totally different from what we talked about today.
    0:56:52 Just answer from your heart.
    0:56:58 So what is one actionable thing our young and profiters can do today to become more profitable
    0:56:59 tomorrow?
    0:57:04 What your success is really determined by the quality of how you feel.
    0:57:08 So if you’re able to function on a high level and do the things you want to do and not be
    0:57:13 held back by illness or struggles, you’re going to be able to function at a much higher level
    0:57:18 and do whatever you want to do, whether it’s just buzz off and go kind of get early retirement
    0:57:21 or whether it’s you want to build a company or whatever you want to do.
    0:57:26 You know, you have the capacity to be highly functional when you feel better.
    0:57:29 And so investing in your health is such an important thing.
    0:57:33 from my perspective, you know, I see a lot of people who have great businesses and companies
    0:57:37 and they build these things and they’re rich, they have all this stuff and they’re lonely,
    0:57:39 they’re isolated, they’re unhealthy, they’re sick, they don’t feel good.
    0:57:41 I mean, that is the last thing you want, right?
    0:57:42 Totally.
    0:57:47 And your book, Young Forever, really is a blueprint for how to do that.
    0:57:50 What would you say your secret to profiting in life is?
    0:57:51 And this can go beyond business.
    0:57:59 The secret to profiting in life, again, is to focus on the things you love and to do what you’re
    0:57:59 passionate about.
    0:58:04 Because if you try to force something in your life, you know, the best things that happen
    0:58:06 are often serendipitous.
    0:58:09 They often come to you, their ideas, their people, their experiences.
    0:58:13 I feel like there’s sort of an underlying current where we can kind of jump into it.
    0:58:17 And if we’re present, we’re able to see actually what pulls us in.
    0:58:20 And when we do that, you become more profitable.
    0:58:22 I’ve never sought to make money in my life.
    0:58:24 I’ve never tried to make money.
    0:58:26 I’ve never said, I’m going to do a business to make money.
    0:58:27 I’m going to do this to make money.
    0:58:32 I’m doing what I’m doing because I feel like it’s critical for myself and for the people
    0:58:35 who I care about and for the population at large.
    0:58:37 It’s like, I just can’t help myself.
    0:58:43 So I think when you do that and you have a mission and you’re driven, then it’s not
    0:58:44 about the money.
    0:58:47 And Mark, where can everybody learn more about you and everything that you do?
    0:58:50 I know you’re so easily found, but where do you want to point people to?
    0:58:51 Well, you can go to drhyman.com.
    0:58:55 If you want to try the 10-day detox, you can go to drhyman.com.
    0:58:56 You’ll find it there, but just go to 10-day detox diet.
    0:59:01 I’m on social media, Dr. Mark Hyman, and I have a podcast, The Dr. Hyman Show, the top
    0:59:03 200 podcasts out there.
    0:59:04 So it’s doing well.
    0:59:05 Awesome.
    0:59:05 Cool.
    0:59:08 Thank you so much for joining us on Young and Profiting Podcast.
    0:59:09 My pleasure.
    0:59:18 Well, guys, that’s a wrap on my conversation with Dr. Mark Hyman.
    0:59:23 What stood out for me today is that longevity isn’t just about adding years to your life.
    0:59:26 It’s also about adding life to your years.
    0:59:33 And as corny as that may sound, if you want to be as strong and as vibrant at 60 as you are
    0:59:39 at 30, then it won’t simply be because of genetic luck or new technologies, but rather
    0:59:41 because of your intentional living.
    0:59:47 There’s so many exciting developments in the health and longevity space, from epigenetic
    0:59:54 reprogramming to AI-informed personalized medicine, advances that will no doubt inform and accelerate
    0:59:55 our lifespans in the years ahead.
    1:00:00 But like Mark reminds us, we already have the tools and knowledge at our fingertips that
    1:00:03 we need to optimize our health right now.
    1:00:08 And what it really comes down to is simply getting rid of the bad stuff and adding in the good
    1:00:08 stuff.
    1:00:14 By improving our diet, exercising more, getting enough sleep, and avoiding stress, you have
    1:00:19 it within your own power to age more slowly and even turn back the physiological clock.
    1:00:23 Aging is not a simple decline in many ways.
    1:00:25 It’s a choice, even a skill.
    1:00:30 Look at those people living in the blue zones like Sardinia, aging slowly and gracefully because
    1:00:34 they’ve created a healthy environment in which their bodies can completely thrive.
    1:00:38 It’s a lot easier said than done, but believe me, I know.
    1:00:43 Like Mark said, it’s also never too late to get started at leading your best and hopefully
    1:00:44 longest life.
    1:00:48 Thanks for listening to this episode of Young and Profiting Podcast.
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    (06:27) How Functional Medicine Optimizes Health

    (12:02) Functional Medicine vs. Biohacking

    (14:37) The Secret to Aging Backwards

    (19:23) The Role of Diet, Sleep, and Toxins in Aging

    (27:23) Living a Life of Purpose and Career Fulfillment

    (29:33) Navigating Modern Food Challenges

    (35:22) Why Your Social Circle Matters for Longevity

    (40:58) Practical Wellness Strategies for Entrepreneurs

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  • Kelly Roach: The 5 Pillars of Conviction Marketing | Marketing | YAPClassic

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    0:00:13 Hello, young and profiters.
    0:00:16 Most businesses fight for attention,
    0:00:19 but the most successful ones command it.
    0:00:21 The secret is conviction.
    0:00:23 In this Yap Classic interview,
    0:00:26 I had the pleasure of sitting down with Kelly Roach,
    0:00:28 a powerhouse marketing coach that I look up to
    0:00:30 who knows exactly what it takes
    0:00:33 to make a brand truly stand out
    0:00:34 in today’s crowded marketplace.
    0:00:36 Kelly has helped countless businesses
    0:00:39 break free from generic cookie cutter strategies
    0:00:42 by embracing bold, authentic messaging
    0:00:43 that commands attention.
    0:00:46 She believes that the secret to powerful marketing
    0:00:49 isn’t just tactics, it’s conviction.
    0:00:52 In this episode, Kelly shared some actionable strategies
    0:00:54 for infusing emotion into your brand,
    0:00:56 creating marketing that deeply resonates
    0:00:58 and building an audience
    0:00:59 that’s not just engaged,
    0:01:01 but fully invested in your mission.
    0:01:04 Believe me, you don’t want to miss this conversation.
    0:01:08 Here’s my interview with the amazingly talented Kelly Roach.
    0:01:13 I want to take a step back
    0:01:16 and really talk about your childhood and your upbringing.
    0:01:17 So my team did some research
    0:01:20 and they told me that you were raised in a family of five.
    0:01:23 Your family was basically on the poverty line.
    0:01:26 You were always working to make ends meet.
    0:01:29 You were cleaning toilets to pay for dance lessons.
    0:01:31 After high school, you attended a local college
    0:01:35 and continued to work while you studied and danced.
    0:01:36 So let’s talk about this
    0:01:40 because obviously hard work was instilled in you at a young age.
    0:01:43 So talk to us about the value of hard work
    0:01:44 and who you are today
    0:01:48 and how putting in the reps really helped you as an adult.
    0:01:49 Yeah, absolutely.
    0:01:51 Well, I mean, the number one thing that I learned,
    0:01:53 you know, in my life is that
    0:01:55 if there’s something that you don’t like, change it.
    0:02:00 And that hard work makes absolutely any dream achievable.
    0:02:04 And, you know, growing up, I had lovely parents.
    0:02:06 My parents are wonderful people,
    0:02:08 but my dad worked for a nonprofit.
    0:02:09 My mom was a stay-at-home mom
    0:02:10 because there was five kids.
    0:02:13 It would have been more expensive to put us in daycare
    0:02:14 than it would have been, obviously,
    0:02:16 to have her home with us.
    0:02:19 And my dad really had a false belief system
    0:02:20 that in order to make a difference
    0:02:21 serving for this nonprofit,
    0:02:25 you know, that we basically had to struggle.
    0:02:27 He couldn’t give back and make great money too.
    0:02:31 And I believe that that was a false belief system.
    0:02:33 And I decided to set out on a course in my life
    0:02:36 to both do good and create wealth.
    0:02:37 And that’s what I’ve done for myself
    0:02:39 is what I teach other entrepreneurs to do.
    0:02:42 But, you know, not having a fallback position,
    0:02:45 not having, you know, wealth in my family,
    0:02:47 getting a lot of no’s growing up
    0:02:50 actually was the greatest service I ever could have had
    0:02:52 because it really taught me the importance
    0:02:54 of not giving up
    0:02:56 and being willing to work towards goals
    0:02:58 over a period of years.
    0:03:01 You know, I think one of the biggest misconceptions
    0:03:03 that really holds people back
    0:03:05 from accomplishing their dreams
    0:03:07 is this perception that success happens quickly
    0:03:09 or happens overnight, right?
    0:03:10 And I always say, you know,
    0:03:13 every overnight success is 15 years in the making.
    0:03:14 It doesn’t matter whether you’ve been working
    0:03:17 towards that particular success for 15 years.
    0:03:19 There were so many things
    0:03:22 that you were working to become as a person
    0:03:24 that led you to that success.
    0:03:26 And that’s why we have to make sure
    0:03:27 that we don’t get caught up
    0:03:28 in people’s highlight reels.
    0:03:30 We need to like run our own race,
    0:03:33 you know, own the lane that we’re in kind of thing,
    0:03:33 you know?
    0:03:35 Yeah, 100%.
    0:03:38 I love what you said around your mindset around money
    0:03:41 and how you kind of broke that generational curse
    0:03:43 that your, you know, your parents had.
    0:03:44 They meant well,
    0:03:47 but they just didn’t have the right mindset about money.
    0:03:49 And a lot of people think money is bad,
    0:03:50 but money is good.
    0:03:51 You know, the more money you have,
    0:03:53 the more you can give and help the world.
    0:03:54 Yeah.
    0:03:55 And I mean, that’s not,
    0:03:57 that’s just not a nice saying
    0:03:58 that you and I are tossing back and forth
    0:04:00 because we run successful companies.
    0:04:01 I’ve actually researched it.
    0:04:04 I actually own my own philanthropic foundation
    0:04:06 that I use to give back
    0:04:07 that I’m able to now.
    0:04:09 You know, when I was growing up,
    0:04:11 we were on the receiving end of charity all the time.
    0:04:12 We didn’t have any money,
    0:04:15 so we couldn’t do anything to help anyone else.
    0:04:17 Now I get to be on the other side of it
    0:04:18 because I’ve created wealth for myself.
    0:04:19 And if you research,
    0:04:21 it’s the wealthiest people in the world
    0:04:23 that do the most good.
    0:04:24 Why?
    0:04:25 Why is that?
    0:04:26 Because they’re the people
    0:04:28 that have disposable income
    0:04:29 that they can use to give back
    0:04:31 and do things for others.
    0:04:33 If you’re using every dollar that you make
    0:04:34 just to get by,
    0:04:36 then obviously it makes it
    0:04:38 pretty much impossible to do for others.
    0:04:41 And so we have to really shift
    0:04:42 this paradigm around money
    0:04:45 and we have to really break this silo mentality
    0:04:47 of like you can do good
    0:04:49 or, you know, you can give back
    0:04:50 or you can have a lot of money.
    0:04:52 You can focus on being a good person
    0:04:53 or you can focus on being wealthy.
    0:04:56 You know, I believe that our generation
    0:04:57 is the first generation
    0:04:58 that is really showing like
    0:05:00 these entrepreneurs
    0:05:02 that are so dedicated to philanthropy,
    0:05:03 to giving back,
    0:05:05 to creating positive change in the world.
    0:05:08 But again, the reason why we’re able to do that
    0:05:10 is that we’ve been able to create wealth
    0:05:11 for ourselves,
    0:05:13 which enables us to then serve
    0:05:13 and give back
    0:05:15 and be, you know,
    0:05:17 on the giving side of philanthropy.
    0:05:19 One hundred percent.
    0:05:20 I totally agree.
    0:05:21 So let’s fast forward
    0:05:23 to you graduating college.
    0:05:24 You landed a job
    0:05:25 at a Fortune 500 company
    0:05:27 and then you quickly rose up the ranks
    0:05:29 and became one of the youngest VPs
    0:05:29 of the company
    0:05:31 or the youngest VP
    0:05:33 to ever work at that company.
    0:05:34 So talk to us about
    0:05:35 your experience in corporate,
    0:05:37 how you rose up the ranks so quickly
    0:05:39 and why you decided
    0:05:40 to eventually start
    0:05:41 your side business,
    0:05:42 Kelly Roach Coaching.
    0:05:43 Yeah.
    0:05:44 Kelly Roach Coaching.
    0:05:44 Sorry.
    0:05:45 Yeah, for sure.
    0:05:46 Yeah.
    0:05:48 I mean, graduating from college,
    0:05:48 I had no idea
    0:05:49 what I wanted to do.
    0:05:50 I was like,
    0:05:50 I don’t want to sit
    0:05:51 in spreadsheets.
    0:05:52 I love people
    0:05:54 and I wanted to get
    0:05:55 into a big company
    0:05:56 because I wanted to create
    0:05:58 financial freedom for myself
    0:05:58 and I knew
    0:06:00 I had the work ethic
    0:06:00 and the hustle.
    0:06:01 I knew I could learn.
    0:06:02 So I was like,
    0:06:02 I’m just going to,
    0:06:03 you know,
    0:06:03 join this company.
    0:06:04 I started in that
    0:06:05 entry-level position
    0:06:07 and I was literally
    0:06:07 the first one in
    0:06:08 and the last one out
    0:06:10 every single day.
    0:06:11 I showed up for work
    0:06:12 even in my most
    0:06:13 entry-level job
    0:06:13 with no money,
    0:06:14 in a suit,
    0:06:15 hair and makeup,
    0:06:17 like ready to take on
    0:06:17 the world
    0:06:18 every single day.
    0:06:19 And, you know,
    0:06:21 over a period of years,
    0:06:21 I was promoted
    0:06:23 seven times in eight years
    0:06:24 and I ended up building
    0:06:25 a team of a hundred people.
    0:06:26 So I started off with,
    0:06:26 you know,
    0:06:27 one branch
    0:06:28 with zero staff,
    0:06:29 zero database,
    0:06:31 complete turnaround,
    0:06:32 hired one person
    0:06:33 and then ultimately
    0:06:34 built a team of a hundred
    0:06:36 across 17 locations.
    0:06:37 And, you know,
    0:06:39 we broke every record
    0:06:39 for growth
    0:06:40 in the company’s history
    0:06:43 and I have never claimed
    0:06:43 and will never claim
    0:06:45 to be the most talented.
    0:06:45 I’m certainly
    0:06:46 not the smartest.
    0:06:47 I was like a B student
    0:06:48 and I tried really hard.
    0:06:49 I know a lot of
    0:06:49 cool entrepreneurs
    0:06:50 are like,
    0:06:51 I never showed up
    0:06:52 for class
    0:06:53 and I was a horrible
    0:06:53 student and blah,
    0:06:54 blah, blah.
    0:06:55 I actually tried.
    0:06:56 I just wasn’t very smart.
    0:07:00 I did math tutoring
    0:07:01 and like getting up
    0:07:02 at five in the morning
    0:07:03 to study.
    0:07:03 I just,
    0:07:04 some people
    0:07:05 have book smarts.
    0:07:06 Some people
    0:07:07 have street smarts.
    0:07:08 I was always more
    0:07:09 of a common sense
    0:07:10 type person,
    0:07:11 but that has actually
    0:07:12 served me really well.
    0:07:15 So I rose through
    0:07:15 the corporate ranks,
    0:07:16 you know,
    0:07:17 did that whole thing.
    0:07:18 My big dream was like,
    0:07:19 I want to be this
    0:07:20 corporate executive.
    0:07:21 I want to be in the boardroom
    0:07:22 and on the planes
    0:07:22 and, you know,
    0:07:23 running all the things.
    0:07:24 And, you know,
    0:07:25 it was an awesome dream.
    0:07:26 It was a great ride.
    0:07:28 I went through a lot.
    0:07:29 I had a lot of people
    0:07:29 that were like,
    0:07:31 who is this young kid
    0:07:31 that thinks she’s
    0:07:32 going to come in here?
    0:07:33 So that was,
    0:07:35 that was very interesting.
    0:07:37 It was not an easy rise.
    0:07:38 I went through a lot,
    0:07:39 including people
    0:07:41 that I personally like
    0:07:42 mentored and promoted
    0:07:44 and really cared for,
    0:07:45 like turning on me
    0:07:46 and stabbing me in the back.
    0:07:48 And that’s all par
    0:07:48 for the course, right?
    0:07:49 We all go through that stuff.
    0:07:51 But, you know,
    0:07:52 I got to the top
    0:07:53 and I had met Dele,
    0:07:54 who is now my husband.
    0:07:55 We’ve been together
    0:07:56 for 16 years now.
    0:07:57 And, you know,
    0:07:58 we really started thinking about,
    0:07:59 like, what do we want
    0:08:00 our life to look like?
    0:08:01 You know,
    0:08:02 what do we want our priorities
    0:08:03 to be as a family?
    0:08:04 And, you know,
    0:08:06 I got really clear,
    0:08:07 you know,
    0:08:08 I wanted to have
    0:08:09 financial freedom.
    0:08:10 I wanted flexibility.
    0:08:11 I wanted to be able to travel.
    0:08:12 And, you know,
    0:08:12 I wanted to be able
    0:08:14 to put my family first.
    0:08:14 And I was like,
    0:08:15 that’s not happening,
    0:08:16 you know,
    0:08:17 working in a job,
    0:08:17 right,
    0:08:18 for someone else.
    0:08:21 So I decided to really look at
    0:08:22 what skills did I possess?
    0:08:23 What was I good at?
    0:08:24 You know,
    0:08:25 how did I feel like
    0:08:26 I could make a difference?
    0:08:27 And the number one thing
    0:08:28 that I had learned
    0:08:30 during my time in corporate
    0:08:32 was business growth strategy.
    0:08:32 Like,
    0:08:33 I really understood
    0:08:35 better than anyone
    0:08:35 I had ever seen
    0:08:37 how to look at a scenario
    0:08:38 and identify
    0:08:38 the fastest,
    0:08:40 most efficient way
    0:08:42 to take a losing situation
    0:08:44 and make it a winning one.
    0:08:46 And I was really passionate
    0:08:47 about helping people
    0:08:48 reach their potential.
    0:08:49 It was really just
    0:08:50 those two things.
    0:08:50 And I was like,
    0:08:51 I’m going to go
    0:08:53 and bring this business education
    0:08:55 to small business owners,
    0:08:56 right?
    0:08:58 Because 85% of businesses
    0:08:58 still fail.
    0:08:59 Why did,
    0:09:00 why did they fail?
    0:09:01 Not because the business owner
    0:09:02 isn’t working their tail off,
    0:09:04 not because the business owner
    0:09:05 doesn’t have a great idea,
    0:09:06 it doesn’t have the energy,
    0:09:07 the passion,
    0:09:09 but because most small business owners
    0:09:11 have no business education.
    0:09:12 And I’m not talking about
    0:09:13 going to business class,
    0:09:13 okay?
    0:09:15 I’m talking about
    0:09:17 real world business skills,
    0:09:19 the ability to understand
    0:09:20 the mechanics
    0:09:22 of how a well-run
    0:09:24 company operates.
    0:09:25 And so I was like,
    0:09:25 you know what,
    0:09:27 I’m going to do this.
    0:09:28 So I went to my boss
    0:09:28 and I said,
    0:09:28 listen,
    0:09:30 as a top performing executive
    0:09:31 in the company,
    0:09:32 and I said,
    0:09:32 hey, listen,
    0:09:34 I’m not making enough money here
    0:09:37 and I’m going to start
    0:09:37 my own company.
    0:09:39 And I said,
    0:09:40 I’m going to do it at night
    0:09:41 and I’m going to do it
    0:09:41 on the weekend.
    0:09:42 And I said,
    0:09:43 I’m going to continue
    0:09:44 to be the top performing
    0:09:45 executive in the company.
    0:09:46 And I said,
    0:09:47 you can fire me right now
    0:09:47 on the spot
    0:09:48 if you want to,
    0:09:49 because I understand
    0:09:50 you have the right to do that.
    0:09:51 I’m not going to hide anything.
    0:09:52 But I said,
    0:09:53 this is what I’m doing.
    0:09:54 And he said,
    0:09:55 okay.
    0:09:57 So I stayed there.
    0:09:59 I built my business at night
    0:10:00 on the weekends,
    0:10:02 built a business
    0:10:03 to pretty much
    0:10:04 the million dollar mark
    0:10:05 while still working full time
    0:10:06 as a corporate executive.
    0:10:07 And then,
    0:10:07 you know,
    0:10:08 eventually made the leap
    0:10:10 once the business was,
    0:10:10 you know,
    0:10:11 really successful
    0:10:12 on a staff and all of that,
    0:10:12 you know,
    0:10:14 now a multi-figure company.
    0:10:16 But so many lessons.
    0:10:17 I mean,
    0:10:18 I think the biggest thing
    0:10:18 is just,
    0:10:19 you know,
    0:10:19 for anyone listening,
    0:10:20 you know,
    0:10:22 if you’re willing
    0:10:23 to work at something
    0:10:24 over a period of years,
    0:10:25 you can accomplish anything.
    0:10:28 patience is the number one thing
    0:10:29 that kills people’s dreams.
    0:10:30 They’re not willing
    0:10:32 to work hard enough,
    0:10:32 long enough
    0:10:33 at the same thing.
    0:10:36 We expect overnight sensation,
    0:10:38 overnight success.
    0:10:39 I had someone say to me
    0:10:40 the other day,
    0:10:42 I’ve been working at this thing
    0:10:43 in my business
    0:10:44 for three months
    0:10:46 and I’m just not getting traction.
    0:10:48 And I actually started laughing.
    0:10:49 I was like,
    0:10:50 and?
    0:10:51 talk to me
    0:10:52 in a year and a half.
    0:10:52 Like,
    0:10:54 what are you talking about?
    0:10:54 Right?
    0:10:56 And it was one of the things
    0:10:57 that really shocked me
    0:10:57 when I entered
    0:10:58 the business coaching space
    0:11:00 because I saw that
    0:11:01 there were so many people
    0:11:02 promising to teach people
    0:11:04 how to start and grow businesses
    0:11:05 in like three weeks or less.
    0:11:05 They’re like,
    0:11:06 six weeks,
    0:11:07 like laptop lifestyle,
    0:11:08 like,
    0:11:08 you know,
    0:11:09 whatever.
    0:11:09 And I’m like,
    0:11:11 I don’t think
    0:11:12 that’s how it works,
    0:11:13 building a company.
    0:11:14 But yeah,
    0:11:15 so that’s just a little bit
    0:11:16 about my story.
    0:11:17 Oh my gosh,
    0:11:18 so inspiring.
    0:11:20 And we have so many parallels
    0:11:21 to our story.
    0:11:21 I mean,
    0:11:23 my audience knows my story well,
    0:11:23 but I mean,
    0:11:24 I also,
    0:11:25 you know,
    0:11:25 went to corporate,
    0:11:26 rose up the ranks,
    0:11:27 started my podcast
    0:11:28 and my business,
    0:11:31 didn’t quit my corporate job
    0:11:33 until I had 35 employees
    0:11:34 and was making 80 grand
    0:11:35 in revenue a month,
    0:11:35 you know,
    0:11:36 same thing,
    0:11:37 like just waited
    0:11:38 until there was absolutely
    0:11:39 no risk
    0:11:40 and worked morning nights,
    0:11:41 weekends,
    0:11:42 lunchtime,
    0:11:43 anytime I could.
    0:11:44 But the key is,
    0:11:45 and you said it,
    0:11:46 is that you’ve got to work
    0:11:47 both jobs just as well.
    0:11:49 You can’t go start a side hustle
    0:11:50 if you’re going to,
    0:11:50 you know,
    0:11:51 slack on your day job.
    0:11:53 That’s not how it works.
    0:11:54 You’ve got to do both equally.
    0:11:55 And to your point,
    0:11:56 if you’re not willing to sacrifice
    0:11:57 in the short term,
    0:11:58 it’s not going to work out.
    0:11:59 You’re going to have to sacrifice,
    0:12:00 put in the time
    0:12:01 if you do want to go
    0:12:03 this side hustle route,
    0:12:05 which is like the least form of risk
    0:12:06 when it comes to starting
    0:12:06 your own business.
    0:12:08 So I’d love for you to talk about
    0:12:10 that time sacrifice
    0:12:12 and how you managed your time
    0:12:13 working in corporate
    0:12:15 and building this huge business
    0:12:16 that you put together.
    0:12:17 Yeah, absolutely.
    0:12:18 And I just want to circle back
    0:12:19 on your point there really quickly
    0:12:21 because, you know,
    0:12:22 there’s this huge idea
    0:12:24 in the personal development world
    0:12:25 of like burn the bridges,
    0:12:26 quit your job,
    0:12:28 like look what’s happening right now.
    0:12:29 The great resignation,
    0:12:30 everyone’s quitting
    0:12:31 and no one has a job
    0:12:32 and no one has a plan
    0:12:33 and everyone’s going to go
    0:12:34 spend their life savings
    0:12:35 and they’re going to be broke
    0:12:35 and they’re going to be
    0:12:36 even more depressed
    0:12:37 and they’re going to be
    0:12:38 starting their life over
    0:12:39 because they didn’t put the thought
    0:12:41 into what’s my plan.
    0:12:42 the best thing I ever did
    0:12:44 was keep my corporate job
    0:12:45 while I built my business.
    0:12:47 It’s why I have this beautiful,
    0:12:49 robust, amazing company
    0:12:50 that I have today
    0:12:52 because I didn’t have a sense
    0:12:54 of this desperation
    0:12:55 that you see
    0:12:56 in the online marketing world.
    0:12:58 I mean, people are so desperate.
    0:12:59 That’s why they can’t build
    0:13:00 a great company.
    0:13:02 It’s like this has to work.
    0:13:03 This has to be like
    0:13:04 I can’t tell you
    0:13:06 how many people I come across
    0:13:06 that want to come
    0:13:07 into my programs
    0:13:07 that are like
    0:13:09 and this has to produce
    0:13:09 and I’m like,
    0:13:11 no, no.
    0:13:14 Like, don’t bring that energy
    0:13:14 up in here.
    0:13:16 Like, you are responsible
    0:13:17 for setting up a situation
    0:13:18 in your life
    0:13:19 that you can sustain.
    0:13:20 So I just want to point that out
    0:13:21 because you mentioned that,
    0:13:21 Hala,
    0:13:22 and I think that’s really important.
    0:13:24 Like, smart people have a plan.
    0:13:28 Smart people have patience, right?
    0:13:29 You don’t need to go
    0:13:30 burn the bridges
    0:13:32 and, oh, oh, and by the way,
    0:13:33 and I’ll mention one more thing.
    0:13:34 I am going back
    0:13:35 and facilitating
    0:13:38 as a guest trainer
    0:13:40 for the Fortune 500
    0:13:41 that I worked at for 10 years
    0:13:43 and now bring me back
    0:13:45 to literally do trainings
    0:13:47 for their entire leadership team
    0:13:50 on the East Coast
    0:13:51 from, you know,
    0:13:52 the most northern point
    0:13:54 down into the Carolinas.
    0:13:56 So isn’t that full circle?
    0:13:58 So don’t burn the bridge.
    0:13:59 Don’t burn the boat.
    0:14:00 Have a plan.
    0:14:02 Be patient, right?
    0:14:02 So you asked about
    0:14:03 how I spend my time.
    0:14:04 So basically,
    0:14:05 I would do an hour to two hours
    0:14:06 in the morning before work.
    0:14:08 I would go out
    0:14:09 on my little Jeep Liberty
    0:14:09 on my lunch break
    0:14:10 and I would literally
    0:14:12 make my sales calls
    0:14:13 on my lunch break
    0:14:14 and then I would do
    0:14:15 my client calls
    0:14:16 at seven and eight o’clock
    0:14:17 at night, every night
    0:14:18 and then I would work
    0:14:19 on the weekends
    0:14:21 and it’s the best thing
    0:14:21 I ever did
    0:14:23 because it actually taught me
    0:14:24 how to build
    0:14:25 a million dollar business
    0:14:26 while only working
    0:14:27 in my business
    0:14:28 about 20 hours a week
    0:14:31 and it really taught me
    0:14:32 to be disciplined,
    0:14:33 to be focused,
    0:14:34 to understand
    0:14:36 where I should
    0:14:36 and shouldn’t be
    0:14:37 spending my time
    0:14:39 and it’s really such a gift
    0:14:40 because now I have
    0:14:40 a family,
    0:14:41 I have a seven-year-old,
    0:14:42 now I run a multiple
    0:14:43 eight-figure company
    0:14:46 and I have so much
    0:14:46 time freedom
    0:14:47 with my family
    0:14:49 because I built
    0:14:50 a business
    0:14:51 where I have
    0:14:51 and you’ve done,
    0:14:52 our stories are like
    0:14:53 eerily similar.
    0:14:54 Very similar.
    0:14:55 You have a very large team,
    0:14:56 I do as well.
    0:14:57 That was also
    0:14:59 a very intentional part
    0:14:59 of the design
    0:15:00 of my business
    0:15:01 and my brand,
    0:15:02 I’m sure with you as well
    0:15:03 but like I start my calls
    0:15:05 at 11 o’clock every day,
    0:15:06 like I can take off
    0:15:07 when my daughter is off.
    0:15:08 I go to the beach
    0:15:09 a couple of times a week
    0:15:10 with my family.
    0:15:11 Now I work my tail off,
    0:15:12 I’m not going to pretend
    0:15:13 for a single second
    0:15:14 and I don’t want anyone
    0:15:15 to misinterpret
    0:15:15 what I’m saying,
    0:15:16 I work my tail off,
    0:15:17 okay?
    0:15:18 But what I’m saying is
    0:15:20 is I have discipline
    0:15:23 around where I spend my time
    0:15:24 which allows me
    0:15:25 to be intentional
    0:15:26 and allows me
    0:15:27 to put my family first
    0:15:29 and I was able
    0:15:29 to design a business
    0:15:31 that worked that way
    0:15:32 because I was working
    0:15:33 full-time in my job
    0:15:34 and because I sustained
    0:15:35 the position
    0:15:36 as the number one performer
    0:15:37 in my company
    0:15:39 while I was building
    0:15:39 my own business
    0:15:41 which was a huge
    0:15:42 integrity thing for me
    0:15:43 to make sure
    0:15:44 that my results
    0:15:45 in my full-time job
    0:15:45 didn’t suffer.
    0:15:48 Let’s hold that thought
    0:15:49 and take a quick break
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    0:15:56 You’re working that
    0:15:57 nine to five
    0:15:58 and then you’re five
    0:15:58 to midnight
    0:16:00 building that dream.
    0:16:01 That’s how I started
    0:16:01 Yap Media
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    0:16:04 but I do want to give you
    0:16:05 some advice
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    0:16:06 a side hustler
    0:16:08 I know personally
    0:16:08 how hard it can be
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    0:16:13 All those tools
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    0:16:29 with your team
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    0:16:42 back when I was
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    0:17:00 all in one place.
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    0:17:42 Yeah fam
    0:17:43 spring is just
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    0:17:45 and I’m already
    0:17:45 planning my next
    0:17:46 getaway
    0:17:46 and that’s
    0:17:47 to Portugal
    0:17:48 for my best
    0:17:48 friend’s wedding.
    0:17:49 Now I’m paying
    0:17:50 for this one
    0:17:50 out of pocket
    0:17:51 because it’s
    0:17:52 not for work
    0:17:52 it’s a vacation
    0:17:53 and so I love
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    0:17:55 trips to feel free
    0:17:56 and I love
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    0:17:58 and I’m always
    0:17:59 looking for ways
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    0:18:10 than ever
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    0:18:12 have already
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    0:19:41 of something
    0:19:42 that one of the
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    0:20:58 oh my gosh
    0:20:59 so many lessons
    0:21:00 that you’re pouring
    0:21:01 out right now
    0:21:01 the one thing
    0:21:02 that I really hear
    0:21:03 is that
    0:21:04 you sacrificed
    0:21:05 in the short term
    0:21:06 for the long term
    0:21:07 and you created
    0:21:08 freedom for yourself
    0:21:09 and you still work
    0:21:10 really hard
    0:21:11 but the difference
    0:21:12 is that you can decide
    0:21:14 I’m going to take a vacation
    0:21:15 I’m going to work here
    0:21:16 I’m going to start late
    0:21:16 I’m going to go to my
    0:21:18 daughter’s dance recital
    0:21:20 you don’t have anybody
    0:21:21 kind of telling you
    0:21:22 what to do
    0:21:23 and you’re in control
    0:21:24 of your life
    0:21:24 and you did that
    0:21:26 through sacrifice
    0:21:27 and calculated risk
    0:21:28 you didn’t just
    0:21:29 jump the gun
    0:21:30 and just go for it
    0:21:31 and have no plan
    0:21:32 and also the fact
    0:21:33 that you built a team
    0:21:34 I’m sure
    0:21:35 even in that
    0:21:35 side hustle
    0:21:36 period
    0:21:37 you were building
    0:21:38 your team
    0:21:39 and scaling
    0:21:39 and figuring
    0:21:41 all that parts out too
    0:21:41 so I’d love to talk
    0:21:42 to you about
    0:21:44 how you built that team
    0:21:44 even when it was
    0:21:45 just a small business
    0:21:47 oh I started right away
    0:21:49 very much like you
    0:21:50 I think I had
    0:21:51 like over 30 team members
    0:21:52 while I was still
    0:21:52 working full time
    0:21:53 I don’t even think
    0:21:53 they knew
    0:21:55 but you know
    0:21:56 because I was
    0:21:57 so structured
    0:21:58 and so disciplined
    0:21:59 with how I was
    0:22:00 doing things
    0:22:01 and just so
    0:22:02 intentional about it
    0:22:03 but to your point
    0:22:04 about sacrifice
    0:22:05 so much sacrifice
    0:22:06 and the thing
    0:22:07 that’s so interesting
    0:22:07 is people
    0:22:09 see people like us
    0:22:10 I came from a family
    0:22:11 with no money
    0:22:12 nothing
    0:22:12 right
    0:22:13 I came from nothing
    0:22:14 Billy came from nothing
    0:22:15 my head has been
    0:22:16 so we’re like
    0:22:17 this like phenomenon
    0:22:18 in our family
    0:22:19 and people look at us
    0:22:20 and they’re like
    0:22:22 people change
    0:22:22 how they see you
    0:22:23 friends
    0:22:23 family
    0:22:24 colleagues
    0:22:26 even your clients
    0:22:27 as you rise
    0:22:27 through the ranks
    0:22:28 and they
    0:22:29 make these assumptions
    0:22:31 about what your life
    0:22:31 is like
    0:22:32 or what your life
    0:22:32 must be like
    0:22:34 and you know
    0:22:34 it’s funny
    0:22:35 because I’ll hear
    0:22:36 Billy talking to people
    0:22:36 all the time
    0:22:37 and I’ll be like
    0:22:38 no you don’t understand
    0:22:40 like she was working
    0:22:41 at 5 o’clock
    0:22:41 in the morning
    0:22:42 every day
    0:22:44 for 15 years
    0:22:45 like this didn’t
    0:22:46 just like happen
    0:22:48 yes exactly
    0:22:49 exactly
    0:22:51 this is 18 hour days
    0:22:52 there was no
    0:22:53 spontaneous combustion
    0:22:55 like this was sacrifice
    0:22:57 over years
    0:22:57 and years
    0:22:58 and years
    0:23:00 because I had my eye
    0:23:01 on the prize
    0:23:01 and I knew
    0:23:02 what kind of life
    0:23:03 that I wanted to create
    0:23:04 and build
    0:23:05 and Billy sacrificed too
    0:23:06 I mean he’s been home
    0:23:06 with Madison
    0:23:07 since she was born
    0:23:08 so we’ve been a one
    0:23:09 income family
    0:23:11 you know since Madison
    0:23:11 was born
    0:23:12 because our priority
    0:23:13 was we wanted her
    0:23:14 to be home
    0:23:14 we didn’t want her
    0:23:15 in daycare
    0:23:16 and it’s amazing
    0:23:17 because even that
    0:23:18 sacrifice
    0:23:19 of like him
    0:23:20 like really
    0:23:21 he’s a musician
    0:23:22 he completely
    0:23:23 put his career
    0:23:23 on hold
    0:23:24 has been totally
    0:23:25 focused on Madison
    0:23:26 since she was born
    0:23:27 and the payoff
    0:23:28 from that sacrifice
    0:23:30 has been massive
    0:23:31 because I see her
    0:23:32 and she is like
    0:23:32 confident
    0:23:33 she is like
    0:23:34 she’s a leader
    0:23:35 she speaks articulately
    0:23:37 like you can just see
    0:23:37 in everything
    0:23:39 about her being
    0:23:40 like yeah
    0:23:42 that sacrifice
    0:23:43 is going to pay off
    0:23:44 for the rest of her life
    0:23:45 so you know
    0:23:45 I just want to encourage
    0:23:47 everyone that’s listening
    0:23:48 like you know
    0:23:49 it can be terrifying
    0:23:51 and it can also feel
    0:23:53 it can feel discouraging
    0:23:55 to make these sacrifices
    0:23:57 knowing that there’s
    0:23:58 no promise of reward
    0:23:59 in the near term
    0:24:01 and the biggest thing
    0:24:02 I want to say to people
    0:24:02 is like
    0:24:04 these sacrifices
    0:24:05 that you make
    0:24:06 in the short term
    0:24:07 the payoff
    0:24:08 is so much bigger
    0:24:09 and so much better
    0:24:10 than you can ever imagine
    0:24:12 like looking back
    0:24:13 on my life now
    0:24:14 at the sacrifices
    0:24:14 that I made
    0:24:15 to get to where
    0:24:15 we are today
    0:24:16 I would do it
    0:24:17 a hundred times over
    0:24:18 I would not change
    0:24:19 a single thing
    0:24:20 every sacrifice
    0:24:21 is worth it
    0:24:23 the times in which
    0:24:24 it’s not worth it
    0:24:25 is where you start
    0:24:26 down the path
    0:24:27 and then you quit
    0:24:28 because you just
    0:24:28 threw it all away
    0:24:32 and that’s what happens
    0:24:33 with a lot of people
    0:24:34 it’s like they’ll sustain
    0:24:36 for the short term
    0:24:37 but not the long term
    0:24:38 and then that little bit
    0:24:38 of progress
    0:24:39 that they had made
    0:24:40 goes away
    0:24:41 and it’s like
    0:24:42 you start over
    0:24:43 from nothing
    0:24:43 right
    0:24:45 so these are
    0:24:45 the distinctions
    0:24:46 like you have
    0:24:47 to think about
    0:24:47 your life
    0:24:49 in the long term
    0:24:49 of what you want
    0:24:50 your life to be like
    0:24:52 in 5, 10, and 15 years
    0:24:53 and you have to be
    0:24:55 making decisions today
    0:24:56 for 15 years from now
    0:24:57 you know
    0:24:58 and I know no one
    0:24:58 wants to hear that
    0:24:59 but I’m a truth teller
    0:25:01 and I’m going to be
    0:25:01 the one to say
    0:25:02 no you really
    0:25:03 you really do
    0:25:04 because there’s
    0:25:05 nothing you’re going
    0:25:06 to do 15 years
    0:25:07 from now
    0:25:08 that’s going to
    0:25:09 dramatically change
    0:25:10 what your life
    0:25:10 experience is
    0:25:11 in that moment
    0:25:13 those decisions
    0:25:14 are happening now
    0:25:16 and that’s
    0:25:16 what we all
    0:25:17 have to recognize
    0:25:18 oh my gosh
    0:25:19 amen
    0:25:20 I totally agree
    0:25:21 with that
    0:25:22 so let’s get
    0:25:23 into your new book
    0:25:24 Conviction Marketing
    0:25:26 because I loved
    0:25:26 your book
    0:25:27 I you know
    0:25:29 just ran through it
    0:25:30 I’m a marketer myself
    0:25:32 and so I
    0:25:32 when I like
    0:25:33 marketing book
    0:25:33 I feel like
    0:25:34 it means a lot
    0:25:35 because I consider
    0:25:35 myself to be
    0:25:36 a great marketer
    0:25:37 so great job
    0:25:38 on the book
    0:25:39 it comes out
    0:25:40 February 22nd
    0:25:41 and what was
    0:25:41 the genesis
    0:25:42 of the book
    0:25:42 why did you
    0:25:43 decide to write it
    0:25:44 yeah I decided
    0:25:45 to write the book
    0:25:46 actually and it’s
    0:25:46 so interesting
    0:25:47 I started writing
    0:25:47 this book
    0:25:49 before the pandemic
    0:25:50 and things got
    0:25:50 so crazy
    0:25:51 the last couple
    0:25:52 years actually
    0:25:53 that we had to
    0:25:53 push back the
    0:25:54 launch like twice
    0:25:55 we actually
    0:25:56 our company grew
    0:25:57 quite a bit
    0:25:58 over these last
    0:25:58 two years
    0:25:59 and so I needed
    0:26:00 to really focus
    0:26:00 on the team
    0:26:01 and the organization
    0:26:02 and everything
    0:26:03 but I saw
    0:26:04 that there was
    0:26:04 just a crisis
    0:26:06 going on online
    0:26:07 with online marketers
    0:26:08 like an identity
    0:26:08 crisis
    0:26:10 and I started
    0:26:11 to see a lot
    0:26:11 of business owners
    0:26:12 just kind of
    0:26:13 flailing
    0:26:14 like just flailing
    0:26:16 not knowing
    0:26:17 how to anchor
    0:26:18 in to building
    0:26:20 their own brand
    0:26:21 and that’s a really
    0:26:22 dangerous thing
    0:26:23 because you’ll
    0:26:23 take yourself
    0:26:24 out of business
    0:26:24 right
    0:26:26 there’s a million
    0:26:27 people that can
    0:26:28 put up a bio
    0:26:29 in 30 seconds
    0:26:30 and say they do
    0:26:31 exactly what I do
    0:26:32 they can do the
    0:26:33 same with you
    0:26:34 and with every
    0:26:35 person listening
    0:26:36 and so I saw
    0:26:37 business owners
    0:26:38 really falling
    0:26:39 into these like
    0:26:40 dangerous traps
    0:26:41 to try and stand
    0:26:42 out whether
    0:26:42 it was like
    0:26:43 copying other
    0:26:44 people’s brands
    0:26:45 or just following
    0:26:46 the latest trends
    0:26:47 and fads that
    0:26:47 they’re seeing
    0:26:48 on TikTok
    0:26:49 or Instagram
    0:26:49 or whatever the
    0:26:51 case and I
    0:26:51 really want to
    0:26:51 emphasize like
    0:26:52 there’s no right
    0:26:53 or wrong like
    0:26:54 in however you
    0:26:54 want to do the
    0:26:55 marketing for your
    0:26:56 brand I’m not
    0:26:56 here to tell
    0:26:58 anyone do this
    0:26:59 don’t do that
    0:27:00 what I am here
    0:27:01 to say is
    0:27:02 you have a
    0:27:03 unique calling
    0:27:05 you have a
    0:27:06 unique why
    0:27:08 don’t go
    0:27:09 position yourself
    0:27:10 as the second
    0:27:10 best version
    0:27:11 of someone
    0:27:12 else
    0:27:13 that’s the only
    0:27:14 thing you can
    0:27:14 do wrong
    0:27:15 is not honoring
    0:27:17 the DNA
    0:27:18 of your own
    0:27:18 business
    0:27:19 not honoring
    0:27:20 the DNA
    0:27:20 of your own
    0:27:21 brand
    0:27:23 and so I
    0:27:23 wanted to help
    0:27:24 business owners
    0:27:25 to understand
    0:27:26 how they could
    0:27:27 identify their
    0:27:28 core belief system
    0:27:29 their convictions
    0:27:30 how they could
    0:27:31 really get clear
    0:27:33 on how am I
    0:27:34 different and
    0:27:35 what makes me
    0:27:36 different and
    0:27:37 how do I share
    0:27:38 that in an
    0:27:38 authentic and
    0:27:39 meaningful way
    0:27:40 that builds my
    0:27:41 legacy body of
    0:27:42 work versus
    0:27:43 doing stupid
    0:27:43 crap that you’re
    0:27:44 going to regret
    0:27:45 later right
    0:27:45 I mean just to
    0:27:46 be completely
    0:27:47 transparent and
    0:27:48 you know obviously
    0:27:49 there’s a huge
    0:27:49 what’s in it for
    0:27:50 me because I
    0:27:51 teach business
    0:27:52 owners how to
    0:27:52 scale their
    0:27:53 brands online so
    0:27:54 I want my
    0:27:55 clients and my
    0:27:56 audience to be
    0:27:57 more successful
    0:27:58 at understanding
    0:27:58 how to build a
    0:27:59 category of one
    0:28:00 brand I saw
    0:28:01 that pretty much
    0:28:02 everything that
    0:28:02 people were doing
    0:28:04 was great for
    0:28:05 short-term clicks
    0:28:06 and short-term
    0:28:07 conversions but
    0:28:08 not great for
    0:28:10 actually building a
    0:28:10 business of
    0:28:11 substance and
    0:28:12 significance that
    0:28:13 will stand the
    0:28:14 test of time and
    0:28:15 so the goal of
    0:28:16 the book is to
    0:28:17 give a framework
    0:28:18 that people can
    0:28:19 follow to not
    0:28:20 build a brand that
    0:28:20 looks like mine
    0:28:21 not build a brand
    0:28:21 that looks like
    0:28:23 yours to literally
    0:28:23 walk away from
    0:28:24 the book like
    0:28:26 holy shit like I
    0:28:27 have a unique
    0:28:29 calling a unique
    0:28:30 set of DNA a
    0:28:30 unique set of
    0:28:31 beliefs and
    0:28:32 convictions and
    0:28:32 I can do this
    0:28:33 my own way
    0:28:34 without compromise
    0:28:37 I have to say I
    0:28:38 was reading your
    0:28:38 book and I was
    0:28:40 like yes yes yes
    0:28:41 everything that I
    0:28:42 was reading I was
    0:28:42 like you are so
    0:28:43 right I never
    0:28:44 thought of it you
    0:28:45 know in the way
    0:28:46 that you outlined it
    0:28:47 in your framework
    0:28:48 but I agree with
    0:28:49 everything that you
    0:28:49 say and I can’t
    0:28:50 wait to dive really
    0:28:51 deep on some of
    0:28:52 the steps you know
    0:28:53 to get to be that
    0:28:55 category of one so
    0:28:56 let’s talk about the
    0:28:57 five essential steps
    0:28:58 that you outline in
    0:28:59 your book can you
    0:29:00 walk us through them
    0:29:01 at a high level yeah
    0:29:03 definitely so I mean
    0:29:04 let’s start at the
    0:29:05 very beginning a very
    0:29:05 good place to start
    0:29:07 right the first thing
    0:29:09 is you know I think
    0:29:11 you have to step away
    0:29:12 from a copy paste
    0:29:13 trap and you have to
    0:29:14 put yourself in a
    0:29:16 position to really
    0:29:17 say I am going to be
    0:29:18 the best version of
    0:29:20 me and only me versus
    0:29:21 the second best version
    0:29:22 of someone else so I
    0:29:23 would say like first
    0:29:24 things first let’s just
    0:29:25 like set a baseline
    0:29:27 of like we’re going
    0:29:28 to go to market in a
    0:29:29 unique way that
    0:29:30 represents who we are
    0:29:31 and what we’re called
    0:29:33 to do and as a part
    0:29:35 of that foundation it’s
    0:29:36 really about identifying
    0:29:37 what your core
    0:29:38 convictions are you have
    0:29:40 to know what you
    0:29:41 believe in order to
    0:29:43 make every decision in
    0:29:44 your business about how
    0:29:45 you’re going to stand
    0:29:47 out and what you’re
    0:29:48 going to do in order
    0:29:50 to achieve your
    0:29:51 financial and impact
    0:29:52 goals and I know
    0:29:53 everyone listening has
    0:29:54 money that they want
    0:29:54 to make and a
    0:29:55 difference that they
    0:29:56 want to create and if
    0:29:57 you don’t know what
    0:29:59 your anchors are those
    0:30:00 those things that you’re
    0:30:00 going to burn up a
    0:30:02 stake for are you know
    0:30:02 it’s going to be really
    0:30:04 hard to do that so the
    0:30:06 foundation is identifying
    0:30:08 and deciding that you’re
    0:30:10 going to build your own
    0:30:11 brand not someone
    0:30:13 else’s right and then
    0:30:14 marrying that with
    0:30:16 identifying your
    0:30:17 beliefs your convictions
    0:30:18 and you know I think
    0:30:19 then people always have
    0:30:20 the question right about
    0:30:22 there’s things that
    0:30:23 people do and don’t
    0:30:23 feel comfortable
    0:30:25 talking about online
    0:30:26 and so I just want to
    0:30:26 address that really
    0:30:28 quickly I am a hugely
    0:30:30 private person I don’t
    0:30:31 share my opinions about
    0:30:33 a lot of my personal
    0:30:35 belief systems online I
    0:30:36 don’t share a lot of my
    0:30:37 personal life online I
    0:30:38 have a seven-year-old
    0:30:40 daughter you know my
    0:30:41 family life is like my
    0:30:42 everything and I’m not
    0:30:43 the kind of person that
    0:30:45 like documents my lunch
    0:30:46 and like does all that
    0:30:47 stuff not that there’s
    0:30:48 anything wrong with it
    0:30:49 but I’m sharing that
    0:30:50 because I think that when
    0:30:51 people hear conviction
    0:30:52 and when people hear
    0:30:53 beliefs they’re like but
    0:30:54 I can you know and
    0:30:56 it’s like no you can
    0:30:57 have very deep
    0:30:58 convictions that are
    0:31:00 specifically related to
    0:31:01 the way that you do
    0:31:03 podcast production you
    0:31:04 can have very deep
    0:31:05 convictions specifically
    0:31:06 about the way that you
    0:31:08 teach people to position
    0:31:10 their podcast you can
    0:31:11 have very deep beliefs
    0:31:13 about any area of your
    0:31:15 business right that does
    0:31:17 not put you in a space
    0:31:18 of being controversial or
    0:31:19 being afraid you’re
    0:31:19 going to get your
    0:31:20 account shut down or
    0:31:22 talking about things
    0:31:22 that you’re uncomfortable
    0:31:23 talking about so I do
    0:31:24 want to put that out
    0:31:25 there because I know
    0:31:26 that’s always the
    0:31:26 question that people
    0:31:28 have and you don’t
    0:31:29 have to be controversial
    0:31:31 in order to stand out
    0:31:33 you don’t have to be
    0:31:34 controversial in order
    0:31:36 to be convicted but you
    0:31:37 do need to have a
    0:31:38 belief system because
    0:31:39 otherwise why would
    0:31:40 someone choose to work
    0:31:41 with you versus choosing
    0:31:42 to work with someone
    0:31:43 else and that’s the
    0:31:45 problem everyone wants
    0:31:48 to say me too every
    0:31:49 marketer wants to say
    0:31:51 oh yeah like everyone
    0:31:52 in my space is doing
    0:31:53 this yeah we do that
    0:31:54 too and we do it
    0:31:55 better no one wants to
    0:31:56 hear that like everyone’s
    0:31:57 heard that a million
    0:31:59 times like don’t tell
    0:32:00 me that you do that
    0:32:01 too tell me what you
    0:32:02 do differently tell me
    0:32:03 what you do that is
    0:32:04 completely unique tell
    0:32:05 me what your thought
    0:32:06 process is that’s
    0:32:07 actually different than
    0:32:07 the rest of your
    0:32:09 industry that makes me
    0:32:10 say oh hey like yeah
    0:32:11 I want to have a
    0:32:12 conversation and check
    0:32:13 out what you’re doing
    0:32:15 right let’s pause
    0:32:16 there because I know
    0:32:17 I just kind of covered
    0:32:18 a lot no I think that
    0:32:19 totally makes sense I
    0:32:20 feel like a lot of
    0:32:21 people don’t understand
    0:32:22 that you need to
    0:32:23 differentiate if you
    0:32:24 want to succeed and you
    0:32:25 need to be the solution
    0:32:26 for what people are
    0:32:27 looking for and if
    0:32:28 you’re out there saying
    0:32:29 me too then you’re
    0:32:30 just copying everyone
    0:32:30 else and not really
    0:32:31 differentiating yourself
    0:32:33 so totally agree there
    0:32:34 yeah and then you have
    0:32:36 to really identify the
    0:32:37 gap right this is
    0:32:38 something that I have
    0:32:39 been teaching for years
    0:32:40 and I will tell you
    0:32:40 that the business
    0:32:41 owners that really
    0:32:42 understand how to
    0:32:43 identify the gap in
    0:32:45 their industry they
    0:32:46 become multi-million
    0:32:47 dollar successes very
    0:32:49 very quickly in every
    0:32:50 industry there is a
    0:32:52 wide open gap right
    0:32:53 the best example that
    0:32:54 I can give that
    0:32:55 everyone can identify
    0:32:56 is the taxi industry
    0:32:57 right the taxi
    0:32:59 industry was like off
    0:33:01 the rails with so many
    0:33:03 issues for decades no
    0:33:04 one did anything about
    0:33:05 it right it was
    0:33:06 inconvenient you could
    0:33:07 never get a taxi when
    0:33:09 you needed it right we
    0:33:10 could go on and on and
    0:33:12 so in came uber they
    0:33:13 filled the gap and it
    0:33:14 was just like spontaneous
    0:33:16 combustion right and
    0:33:18 now look at that
    0:33:19 industry and people are
    0:33:20 even starting their own
    0:33:23 private car fleets where
    0:33:24 they have their own two
    0:33:25 three cars that they’re
    0:33:26 running out almost
    0:33:27 similar to like the
    0:33:29 airbnb vrbo industry
    0:33:30 where they’re literally
    0:33:31 like running out their
    0:33:32 own cars right because
    0:33:33 there’s there’s a gap
    0:33:35 and now especially in
    0:33:36 like the luxury space
    0:33:37 like people want to you
    0:33:38 know they’re going on
    0:33:39 vacation right you go to
    0:33:41 normal car dealership
    0:33:42 you’re like I don’t
    0:33:43 really want a jeep
    0:33:44 liberty on my vacation
    0:33:45 I want like a ferrari
    0:33:47 right so right so
    0:33:48 that’s like an obvious
    0:33:49 thing but the thing
    0:33:51 that’s so interesting is
    0:33:53 that there is a gap in
    0:33:55 every industry there are
    0:33:57 big issues that no one
    0:33:58 has taken the time no
    0:33:59 one has taken the
    0:34:01 concern no one has
    0:34:02 taken the money to
    0:34:03 innovate and create a
    0:34:05 solution to I saw it in
    0:34:06 the coaching industry I
    0:34:07 looked at every single
    0:34:08 one of my peers and
    0:34:10 what did I say they
    0:34:11 were all running these
    0:34:13 like massive programs
    0:34:13 where they’re dumping
    0:34:15 people into a Facebook
    0:34:15 group they didn’t have
    0:34:17 any team to support
    0:34:18 them people couldn’t get
    0:34:19 their questions answered
    0:34:20 someone would post a
    0:34:21 question in the Facebook
    0:34:22 group and there would be
    0:34:22 a hundred comments that
    0:34:24 just said F I didn’t know
    0:34:25 what that meant and
    0:34:26 then I found out that
    0:34:27 meant following so it’s
    0:34:28 the blind leading the
    0:34:29 blind no one has any
    0:34:31 answers everybody’s
    0:34:31 looking around there’s
    0:34:32 no coach to be found
    0:34:33 and then we wonder
    0:34:34 why people are spending
    0:34:35 a hundred thousand
    0:34:36 dollars on coaching for
    0:34:37 their business and
    0:34:38 they’re right back where
    0:34:38 they started so what did
    0:34:40 I do I said I’m going
    0:34:41 to build a full-time
    0:34:42 team of 30 support
    0:34:43 members I’m going to
    0:34:45 have every single person
    0:34:45 that goes through my
    0:34:47 program have one-to-one
    0:34:48 support in addition to
    0:34:49 the group program that
    0:34:50 they’re going through
    0:34:50 they’re going to have
    0:34:51 accountability they’re
    0:34:52 going to have
    0:34:53 accessibility I took the
    0:34:54 whole model flipped it
    0:34:56 on its head my business
    0:34:57 exploded there’s a gap
    0:34:59 in every industry it’s
    0:35:01 not hard it’s just
    0:35:02 instead of you saying
    0:35:04 how do I replicate
    0:35:05 what my industry is
    0:35:07 doing you say what are
    0:35:07 the issues in my
    0:35:09 industry and how do I
    0:35:10 step up to fill them
    0:35:12 or to fix them I love
    0:35:13 that so let’s move
    0:35:15 into your pyramid if
    0:35:16 you wouldn’t mind
    0:35:17 because I feel like it’s
    0:35:18 a good place to talk
    0:35:19 about it so your
    0:35:21 pyramid is made up of
    0:35:22 three levels the first
    0:35:23 level is how-to
    0:35:24 marketing and then it’s
    0:35:25 hope marketing and
    0:35:27 conviction marketing so
    0:35:27 from my understanding
    0:35:29 the how-to marketing is
    0:35:30 really the foundational
    0:35:31 piece that you got
    0:35:31 to start with to
    0:35:33 command credibility and
    0:35:34 authority talk to us
    0:35:35 about this how-to
    0:35:36 marketing and how to do
    0:35:38 it effectively yeah
    0:35:39 absolutely so how-to
    0:35:40 marketing is the most
    0:35:41 basic element of
    0:35:42 marketing and it’s
    0:35:43 typically the way that
    0:35:43 people enter your
    0:35:45 ecosystem it’s simple
    0:35:47 it’s easy to do anyone
    0:35:48 can do it cost you
    0:35:50 nothing record a quick
    0:35:51 video on your iPhone
    0:35:52 pop it on your stories
    0:35:53 pop it on your page
    0:35:54 share it across
    0:35:55 different profiles boom
    0:35:56 you’re doing how-to
    0:35:57 marketing this is
    0:35:58 literally a transfer of
    0:35:59 knowledge it’s where
    0:36:01 I’m showing you hey
    0:36:02 Hala I know how to do
    0:36:03 something that I know
    0:36:04 you’re interested in
    0:36:05 in doing I’m going to
    0:36:07 be your teacher so all
    0:36:08 of a sudden Hala watches
    0:36:10 my video she spent two
    0:36:10 minutes with me she’s
    0:36:11 like damn I like this
    0:36:12 girl she just taught me
    0:36:13 how to do something I
    0:36:14 didn’t know how to do
    0:36:14 all of a sudden she’s
    0:36:16 like cool okay this is
    0:36:17 someone that I like this
    0:36:18 is someone I trust you
    0:36:19 know whatever the key
    0:36:21 so how-to marketing serves
    0:36:21 a really important
    0:36:22 purpose because when
    0:36:24 people are scanning the
    0:36:25 airwaves and when they’re
    0:36:26 looking for new accounts
    0:36:26 to follow and they’re
    0:36:27 looking for new people to
    0:36:28 learn from they want
    0:36:30 quick digestible instant
    0:36:33 tips easy okay the
    0:36:33 problem is that’s where
    0:36:36 most people stop now the
    0:36:37 problem with this is just
    0:36:39 like people are scanning
    0:36:40 the airwaves looking for a
    0:36:41 quick easy actionable tip
    0:36:43 they’re doing that all day
    0:36:44 every day it’s called
    0:36:46 escapism right that’s why
    0:36:47 people go online and
    0:36:47 scroll and scroll and
    0:36:49 scroll it’s escapism so
    0:36:50 it’s kind of like you got
    0:36:51 the girl she said yes to
    0:36:52 the date and now you’re
    0:36:53 like cool I already had a
    0:36:54 date with that girl let me
    0:36:55 see oh she’s really cute
    0:36:56 over there right and
    0:36:58 then someone right so
    0:37:00 the problem with how-to
    0:37:01 marketing is it’s a great
    0:37:03 way to get people in your
    0:37:06 ecosystem it’s not a great
    0:37:07 way to keep them in your
    0:37:09 ecosystem and we have to
    0:37:10 remember what’s the purpose
    0:37:11 of marketing the purpose of
    0:37:14 marketing is to attract so
    0:37:15 that you can nurture and
    0:37:17 finally convert people into
    0:37:20 paying customers well if you
    0:37:22 miss this middle section of
    0:37:23 nurture they never make it
    0:37:25 over here to conversion and
    0:37:26 that’s what’s happening to
    0:37:27 a lot of marketers they
    0:37:28 pump out this how-to
    0:37:30 marketing and this is you
    0:37:31 know a lot of people are
    0:37:32 doing their pointing and
    0:37:33 they’re dancing and you
    0:37:34 know their lip syncing and
    0:37:36 all those things and that’s
    0:37:39 fine do you have a way to
    0:37:41 then bring them through that
    0:37:43 process and finally get them
    0:37:44 to convert okay so how to
    0:37:46 get some in it doesn’t keep
    0:37:47 them there we want you to
    0:37:49 not just do how to but we
    0:37:51 want to elevate from okay I
    0:37:52 see you as a credible
    0:37:53 teacher I see you as an
    0:37:55 authority wonderful now
    0:37:57 let’s elevate let’s figure
    0:37:58 out how are we going to get
    0:37:59 people to keep coming back
    0:38:02 well if you notice in the
    0:38:03 conversation that we’re
    0:38:04 having here today Hala we
    0:38:06 talked a lot about stories
    0:38:08 right we talked a lot about
    0:38:10 experiences that I had
    0:38:11 experiences that you had
    0:38:12 ways that we resonate with
    0:38:14 each other we talked about
    0:38:15 failure we talked about
    0:38:16 setbacks we talked about
    0:38:19 patience and sacrifice what
    0:38:21 did we just do bring out
    0:38:24 emotions exactly so the
    0:38:25 people that are experiencing
    0:38:27 this show are going to say
    0:38:29 you know what I’ve only been
    0:38:30 working at that goal for a
    0:38:31 year I think I can keep
    0:38:33 going Kelly kept going
    0:38:34 Hala kept going they both
    0:38:36 run these wildly successful
    0:38:37 companies now maybe there’s
    0:38:38 nothing wrong with me that I
    0:38:39 wasn’t an overnight success
    0:38:41 in six months maybe if I
    0:38:42 stick with it I am going to
    0:38:44 achieve my goals after all
    0:38:46 okay now we’re on to
    0:38:48 something right and this is
    0:38:50 why of course podcasting is
    0:38:52 so powerful it’s such an
    0:38:53 amazing medium for hope
    0:38:55 marketing so hope marketing
    0:38:56 is the biggest chunk of your
    0:38:58 pyramid and this is where
    0:38:59 you really connect with your
    0:39:02 audience in an emotional and
    0:39:04 a sensitive way where people
    0:39:05 are like you’re not just a
    0:39:06 teacher you’re not just an
    0:39:07 authority figure you are my
    0:39:09 friend you are my
    0:39:10 convident you are my
    0:39:11 cheerleader you are the
    0:39:13 person that has been in my
    0:39:14 shoes you understand
    0:39:15 everything that I’ve gone
    0:39:16 through you understand
    0:39:17 everything I’m going through
    0:39:19 now and you cross the bridge
    0:39:21 the other side so hope
    0:39:23 marketing is really about
    0:39:24 reaching down grabbing your
    0:39:25 audience and like wrapping
    0:39:26 your arms around them and
    0:39:28 saying like no you’re not
    0:39:29 quitting you’re coming with
    0:39:30 me on this journey I’m going
    0:39:31 to support you every step of
    0:39:33 the way I’ve been there you
    0:39:34 can get there too and hope
    0:39:36 marketing is really what’s
    0:39:37 going to keep people coming
    0:39:38 back I call it like the
    0:39:40 sweetness factor of your
    0:39:41 brand it’s the thing that
    0:39:43 really makes people feel
    0:39:45 deeply connected to you as
    0:39:47 a person not just as a
    0:39:48 marketer that can give
    0:39:50 instruction but as a human
    0:39:52 being that has feelings that
    0:39:53 has emotion that’s been
    0:39:55 through some things right
    0:39:56 does that make sense oh my
    0:39:58 gosh totally makes sense and
    0:39:59 I can attest to this I mean
    0:40:01 when I go on a podcast for
    0:40:03 example and share my story
    0:40:04 that’s when I get all these
    0:40:05 people like you know hitting
    0:40:07 me up asking to do business
    0:40:07 with me and things like that
    0:40:08 because they feel so
    0:40:10 emotionally connected they
    0:40:11 could see any sort of
    0:40:13 PowerPoint slides about my
    0:40:14 results or whatever but
    0:40:15 that wouldn’t seal the deal
    0:40:16 it’s about liking the person
    0:40:18 and feeling connected with
    0:40:18 the person that you want to
    0:40:20 work with which is so key
    0:40:21 so what are some other
    0:40:23 actionable ways that we
    0:40:25 can bring this emotion to
    0:40:26 our branding aside from the
    0:40:27 obvious ones which is like
    0:40:30 social media posts and you
    0:40:31 know having a podcast where
    0:40:32 you tell your personal
    0:40:33 story it’s literally you can
    0:40:35 do it with anything I mean
    0:40:38 you can tell stories I mean
    0:40:39 for me a lot of times even
    0:40:40 when I do like Instagram
    0:40:41 stories or Facebook stories
    0:40:42 like I’m literally just
    0:40:44 giving like encouragement
    0:40:46 it’s encouragement it’s
    0:40:47 it’s you know it’s
    0:40:49 sharing mistakes it’s
    0:40:50 sharing setbacks that you
    0:40:52 work through I think one
    0:40:53 of the things that’s most
    0:40:54 endearing when you’re a
    0:40:55 teacher that you know
    0:40:57 wants people to want to
    0:40:59 work with you is not when
    0:41:00 you just show your
    0:41:01 highlight reel of all of
    0:41:02 your greatness and all of
    0:41:03 your wonderful
    0:41:04 accomplishments but
    0:41:05 instead when you say
    0:41:06 listen I felt at this and
    0:41:07 I felt at this and I felt
    0:41:08 at this and this is what I
    0:41:09 learned from it and this
    0:41:10 is who I became and this
    0:41:11 is why I’m successful
    0:41:12 today and these are all
    0:41:13 the things that you can
    0:41:14 skip over that you don’t
    0:41:15 have to go through because
    0:41:16 I did and I’m going to
    0:41:16 tell you what to do
    0:41:19 instead so I think it can
    0:41:20 be in podcasts it can be
    0:41:22 in live streams it can be
    0:41:23 in videos it can be in
    0:41:24 emails it can be in posts
    0:41:26 on social media stories
    0:41:27 right it can be from the
    0:41:28 stage it can be from
    0:41:29 behind the microphone
    0:41:31 anywhere that you connect
    0:41:32 with your audience it can
    0:41:34 be in a in a book right
    0:41:36 and you know in a book
    0:41:38 any way you want but the
    0:41:39 bottom line is it’s going
    0:41:42 from transaction which is
    0:41:44 not emotional and it
    0:41:45 doesn’t have staying power
    0:41:49 to relational which now is
    0:41:50 what once creates that
    0:41:51 desire that stickiness
    0:41:52 factor in the brand for
    0:41:53 people to want to stay
    0:41:55 with you yeah and then I
    0:41:55 think there’s another
    0:41:57 mistake that people make
    0:41:58 in all this is just
    0:41:59 focusing on hope marketing
    0:42:02 alone and not doing any of
    0:42:03 the informational how-to
    0:42:05 stuff so talk to us about
    0:42:06 that amen and
    0:42:10 all the time and well
    0:42:11 and that’s why I wanted
    0:42:12 to actually give the
    0:42:13 illustration and the
    0:42:15 exercises in the book
    0:42:17 about the pyramid because
    0:42:18 it’s not about swinging
    0:42:20 the pendulum from one
    0:42:20 side to the other it’s
    0:42:22 about understanding how
    0:42:23 these things work
    0:42:25 together right there’s so
    0:42:26 many people that it’s
    0:42:27 like their entire brain
    0:42:29 is just fluff and it’s
    0:42:30 like what do you even
    0:42:33 do like why are we
    0:42:34 even like get out of my
    0:42:35 feet like why are you
    0:42:36 even here like what is
    0:42:37 this I don’t understand
    0:42:39 what the context of this
    0:42:41 soft like just fluff is
    0:42:42 all the time so I
    0:42:43 completely agree with you
    0:42:45 like there has to be an
    0:42:46 intelligence to your
    0:42:48 brand like what is it
    0:42:49 that you teach what is
    0:42:50 it that you do there’s a
    0:42:52 lot of people that go so
    0:42:53 deep in the wrong
    0:42:54 direction that literally
    0:42:56 you don’t even know what
    0:42:57 their business is right
    0:42:58 if I go to your social
    0:43:00 media and I don’t even
    0:43:02 understand what your
    0:43:03 offer is what your
    0:43:04 business is what it is
    0:43:06 that you do like that’s
    0:43:07 a problem right so
    0:43:10 again the pyramid is
    0:43:11 about you know think
    0:43:12 about it like Maslow’s
    0:43:13 hierarchy of needs
    0:43:15 right like you work
    0:43:15 your way through the
    0:43:16 pyramid you don’t say
    0:43:17 oh I’m going to pull
    0:43:18 out this one piece of
    0:43:19 the pyramid and that’s
    0:43:20 going to make me happy
    0:43:22 and fulfilled no right
    0:43:23 each of the pieces of
    0:43:24 the pyramid go together
    0:43:25 so I’m really happy you
    0:43:26 brought that up Paula
    0:43:28 totally one more thing
    0:43:29 about how to marketing
    0:43:29 that I think is
    0:43:31 important if you’re
    0:43:32 going to do how to
    0:43:33 marketing isn’t it true
    0:43:34 that you should really
    0:43:35 focus on a couple things
    0:43:36 and not just do like
    0:43:38 how to’s about everything
    0:43:40 in your industry because
    0:43:40 then nobody’s going to
    0:43:41 know what you’re really
    0:43:43 about yeah thank you
    0:43:44 for bringing that up I
    0:43:45 mean this goes back to
    0:43:46 what we were talking
    0:43:47 about you know at the
    0:43:48 beginning of the show
    0:43:49 where this lack of
    0:43:51 patience is the number
    0:43:52 one saboteur for small
    0:43:53 business owners I mean I
    0:43:55 see so many businesses
    0:43:56 that one day they’re
    0:43:58 marketing this and
    0:43:59 then the next day you
    0:44:00 see them marketing
    0:44:01 something that has
    0:44:02 nothing to do with that
    0:44:03 other thing and you’re
    0:44:05 like so now you’re
    0:44:07 expert of nothing you’re
    0:44:08 literally expert of
    0:44:09 nothing the more that
    0:44:10 you keep changing your
    0:44:12 messaging over and
    0:44:12 over and over again
    0:44:13 we’ll talk about this
    0:44:14 also with the
    0:44:15 conviction the top of
    0:44:16 the pyramid but you
    0:44:18 keep changing what
    0:44:19 you’re talking about all
    0:44:19 the time and you’re
    0:44:20 doing how-to marketing
    0:44:22 on things that have
    0:44:23 nothing to do with the
    0:44:24 core anchors of your
    0:44:25 brand of course that’s
    0:44:26 going to create a
    0:44:27 confused mind and a
    0:44:28 confused mind always
    0:44:30 says no right so
    0:44:31 that’s a great point
    0:44:34 I totally agree she is
    0:44:35 dropping bombs right
    0:44:36 now I would advise
    0:44:37 everybody to go rewind
    0:44:38 that part back and now
    0:44:39 we’re going to move to
    0:44:41 the top level of the
    0:44:42 pyramid which is like the
    0:44:43 elite level you can’t
    0:44:44 get to it until you
    0:44:45 finish steps one and
    0:44:47 two how to and hope
    0:44:49 and then you can be you
    0:44:50 know top of your field
    0:44:50 if you can get
    0:44:52 conviction marketing right
    0:44:53 so talk to us about what
    0:44:54 that definition is and
    0:44:56 what that is yeah it’s
    0:44:57 absolutely true so the
    0:44:58 way that you want to
    0:44:58 think about it is at the
    0:44:59 bottom of the pyramid
    0:45:01 you’re a teacher right
    0:45:02 you’re giving tips you’re
    0:45:03 giving strategies you’re
    0:45:05 giving how-tos you are
    0:45:06 demonstrating that you
    0:45:07 have knowledge and
    0:45:07 expertise that your
    0:45:08 audience does and
    0:45:09 therefore you’re in a
    0:45:11 position of authority in
    0:45:13 the second category now
    0:45:14 you’re their confidant
    0:45:15 you’re their friend you’re
    0:45:16 someone that they want
    0:45:16 to hang out with they
    0:45:17 want to have a glass of
    0:45:19 wine a cup of coffee you
    0:45:19 know they want to have a
    0:45:20 beer with you there’s
    0:45:21 someone that you like so
    0:45:22 they know you now they
    0:45:24 like you right and and
    0:45:26 you’re kind of like that
    0:45:27 cheerleader that friend
    0:45:28 that they kind of want to
    0:45:30 stay connected to but let’s
    0:45:31 talk about how we get from
    0:45:33 the friend category right to
    0:45:35 the mentor the trusted
    0:45:37 advisor category because
    0:45:38 you’re just going to give
    0:45:39 your friends money right
    0:45:40 you’re going to give your
    0:45:42 money to the mentor that
    0:45:43 you believe is going to
    0:45:45 change your life and when
    0:45:46 you asked earlier about the
    0:45:47 people that are just
    0:45:49 focused on hope marketing
    0:45:50 marketing that’s a big
    0:45:51 problem that’s why a lot
    0:45:51 of people struggle to
    0:45:52 convert because they
    0:45:53 literally put themselves
    0:45:55 square in that friend
    0:45:57 category you’re not going
    0:45:58 to go by from the person
    0:45:59 that you like the most
    0:45:59 you’re going to go by from
    0:46:00 the person that you think
    0:46:01 is going to change your
    0:46:02 life that’s going to solve
    0:46:04 your biggest problem that’s
    0:46:05 going to make the biggest
    0:46:05 difference that you’re
    0:46:06 going to get the biggest
    0:46:08 transformation from so
    0:46:09 conviction marketing is
    0:46:10 about stepping into that
    0:46:12 role of trusted mentor
    0:46:13 it’s about stepping into
    0:46:15 that role of your greatest
    0:46:18 advisor right when you think
    0:46:19 about the category that
    0:46:20 you’re in you want to own
    0:46:22 that word in the mind of
    0:46:23 your audience you want to
    0:46:25 own that category in the
    0:46:26 in the mind of your
    0:46:27 audience and conviction is
    0:46:28 the only thing that’s going
    0:46:29 to do that for you
    0:46:30 conviction is what’s going
    0:46:31 to lead to conversions I
    0:46:32 would write that down
    0:46:33 conviction equals
    0:46:34 conversions what does it
    0:46:36 mean to be convicted it
    0:46:39 means to be so strong and
    0:46:40 so powerful in a set of
    0:46:42 beliefs right it’s about
    0:46:44 beliefs and when you think
    0:46:45 about conviction why is
    0:46:47 conviction important and why
    0:46:48 why do so many marketers
    0:46:50 struggle to convert because
    0:46:52 they’re not convicted because
    0:46:53 they’re so worried about what
    0:46:55 everyone else is doing and
    0:46:56 the things that they’re
    0:46:57 saying aren’t really their
    0:46:59 authentic message there’s
    0:47:01 someone else’s message that
    0:47:02 they’re trying to make their
    0:47:04 own it’s very difficult to
    0:47:05 have conviction when you’re
    0:47:07 saying things that aren’t
    0:47:08 grounded from like your heart
    0:47:10 and your soul that aren’t a
    0:47:11 part of who you are that
    0:47:13 aren’t so deep in your belief
    0:47:16 system that every area of your
    0:47:18 business from your messaging
    0:47:20 your marketing the way that
    0:47:21 your offer is delivered the
    0:47:22 way that you service your
    0:47:24 clients the focus of your
    0:47:25 programming the result that you
    0:47:27 provide conviction marketing is
    0:47:29 about taking a set of core
    0:47:31 beliefs and infusing them in
    0:47:33 every single element of your
    0:47:35 brand so that when anyone
    0:47:37 interacts with you they
    0:47:39 understand that you believe
    0:47:41 above all else that these
    0:47:43 elements must be present and
    0:47:44 that they expect a certain
    0:47:46 experience they expect a
    0:47:48 certain result they feel
    0:47:50 confident that they are going
    0:47:51 to achieve a certain outcome
    0:47:53 when they open up their wallet
    0:47:54 and give you their credit card
    0:47:57 because you are so convicted you
    0:47:59 have such a high level of
    0:48:01 belief about the result that
    0:48:02 you’re going to provide and the
    0:48:04 why of how you provide that
    0:48:06 result and this is why in the
    0:48:07 book we start off with
    0:48:09 identifying your belief system
    0:48:10 and then talking about how
    0:48:12 that materializes in your
    0:48:13 brand identifying the gap in
    0:48:15 your market and then really
    0:48:16 getting clear on how you’re
    0:48:17 going to fill the gap in the
    0:48:19 market like these are actual
    0:48:20 exercises that you do in the
    0:48:23 book because you might have to
    0:48:25 do a little self work to do
    0:48:27 this this is about slowing down
    0:48:28 and peeling the idea back a
    0:48:31 little bit and I think that you
    0:48:32 know and I know I felt this way
    0:48:33 when I first started in the
    0:48:35 online space I felt a little
    0:48:38 scared to lead with conviction
    0:48:41 because I was no one and I had
    0:48:43 no clients and I didn’t really
    0:48:45 know how the heck am I going to
    0:48:46 get someone to want to buy from
    0:48:48 me when I’m a nobody when
    0:48:50 everyone else in my space is over
    0:48:51 here talking about this and doing
    0:48:54 this but it actually doesn’t work
    0:48:56 that way it actually works when
    0:48:59 when people interact with you the
    0:49:00 number one thing that they’re
    0:49:02 saying is do I believe this
    0:49:05 person like do I believe this
    0:49:08 person like do I trust you do I
    0:49:10 trust that linking arms with you
    0:49:11 is going to make my life better
    0:49:13 do I believe that by giving you my
    0:49:16 money this result is going to
    0:49:17 happen it’s all about
    0:49:19 believability so if it’s all about
    0:49:21 believability you better know what
    0:49:23 your convictions are and you
    0:49:24 better be able to say those
    0:49:26 convictions with a level of
    0:49:28 confidence and certainty that is
    0:49:31 going to go from this warm and
    0:49:32 fluffy brand that people think oh
    0:49:34 I learn a lot from this person oh
    0:49:36 I really like this person they’ve
    0:49:37 been through a lot they really
    0:49:39 inspire me to know this person is
    0:49:40 pretty certain that they’re the
    0:49:41 best in the world at what they do
    0:49:43 and I believe them so I’m going to
    0:49:45 pull out my credit card and spend
    0:49:46 my money to work
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    0:54:53 what keeps floating in my head every time
    0:54:56 while you’re talking is that if you’re
    0:54:58 going to move to the conviction marketing
    0:55:00 you really actually have to be an expert
    0:55:02 of your industry because it doesn’t allow
    0:55:04 you to not be an expert i see too many
    0:55:06 people for example trying to like make it
    0:55:08 in the podcast industry and they don’t
    0:55:10 even know how the podcast industry works
    0:55:12 and i’m like how are you even trying to
    0:55:14 succeed in this industry if you don’t even
    0:55:16 take the time to understand it and to
    0:55:18 your point understand the gaps and how
    0:55:20 you would fill them so it forces you to
    0:55:22 really know your industry and really know
    0:55:25 your stuff whereas the other things you
    0:55:26 could get away with like learning one
    0:55:28 little thing and like seeming like you
    0:55:31 know your stuff you actually need to know
    0:55:33 your entire industry and the ins and
    0:55:35 outs of it to be good at conviction
    0:55:36 marketing and then i think a lot of
    0:55:39 people if they are experts they might go
    0:55:40 about it in the wrong way where they just
    0:55:42 keep shouting from the rooftops what’s
    0:55:45 wrong instead of shouting what they
    0:55:47 should be doing to make it right so talk
    0:55:49 to us about that i want to peel that back
    0:55:51 a lot because those are really great
    0:55:53 points so number one this is what i love
    0:55:56 about conviction marketing you can’t do
    0:55:57 conviction marketing if you’re not an
    0:55:59 expert so you better either become an
    0:56:01 expert or you better get yourself into a
    0:56:03 business where you are actually an expert
    0:56:04 i mean just like you said you see that
    0:56:06 with podcasting i see that with business
    0:56:08 strategies there’s like teenagers that
    0:56:10 teach business coaching now and i’m like
    0:56:14 oh god help me but i’m like it doesn’t
    0:56:17 worry me because when you’re talking
    0:56:20 about using this pyramid to create
    0:56:23 marketing that leverages all three of
    0:56:26 these capacities you simply can’t execute
    0:56:29 on what i’m talking about if you don’t
    0:56:31 have the skill set to do it it will show
    0:56:35 through it will be so obvious right so
    0:56:37 it’s beautiful because it forces you
    0:56:39 either to get better or to understand
    0:56:42 why you are better right one or the other
    0:56:43 one or the other you gotta do one or the
    0:56:45 other so i i definitely agree with that
    0:56:47 and then yeah i did address that in the
    0:56:49 book and i do have a concern about that
    0:56:51 you know i see a lot of people kind of
    0:56:54 get bitter um about you know the
    0:56:56 competition in their space or about what
    0:56:59 they see going on with other people or
    0:57:00 about trends that they see in their
    0:57:03 industry and they kind of have a lot to
    0:57:06 say about like what’s wrong and you know
    0:57:07 i talk about this in the book there’s a
    0:57:09 whole chapter about this but like this
    0:57:12 isn’t about like complaining and like
    0:57:14 shouting from the rooftops about what’s
    0:57:16 wrong this is about like get off your
    0:57:18 butt and do something about it like this
    0:57:21 is about calling you out and saying okay
    0:57:23 you believe it can be better you believe
    0:57:25 it can be different how are you making it
    0:57:27 better how are you making it different
    0:57:30 what are you doing that’s addressing
    0:57:32 those things when i saw the coaching
    0:57:33 space and i was like this isn’t fair and
    0:57:35 this isn’t right that these people think
    0:57:36 they’re going into these coaching
    0:57:37 programs and their life is going to
    0:57:38 change and then they get in there and
    0:57:40 they’re totally lost there’s no one
    0:57:42 accessible there’s no one available
    0:57:44 there’s no one to help them i didn’t
    0:57:46 start creating all this content talking
    0:57:49 about like the coaching industry sucks and
    0:57:51 there’s no support for people and i
    0:57:53 didn’t say a word i literally was like
    0:57:55 here’s what i’m doing about it and i did
    0:57:58 it and then i sold what i was doing
    0:58:02 and our business exploded so this isn’t
    0:58:05 about pointing out or calling out what
    0:58:07 other people are doing wrong this is about
    0:58:09 identifying well what do you think could
    0:58:12 be done better or different go and do it
    0:58:15 and don’t run your mouth about it you
    0:58:17 know share what you’re actually doing and
    0:58:19 it is about critical thinking and it is
    0:58:22 about going the extra mile and i say this
    0:58:24 all the time that the extra mile is so
    0:58:27 not crowded it’s crazy like it’s not
    0:58:29 crowded so it’s really really busy down
    0:58:33 here but like as you climb the ranks it
    0:58:35 becomes easier and easier to stand out
    0:58:36 because people are like there’s nothing
    0:58:39 that compares because most people aren’t
    0:58:42 willing to go the extra mile right i
    0:58:45 totally agree so okay let’s talk about
    0:58:47 how to actually come up with our
    0:58:48 convictions and talk about some
    0:58:50 actionable strategies to do that because
    0:58:52 from my understanding it’s really about
    0:58:55 identifying the gaps then figuring out
    0:58:57 what’s wrong and then reframing that to
    0:58:59 how you’re going to make it better so can
    0:59:00 you kind of just walk us through some
    0:59:01 steps we should take
    0:59:04 yeah the first thing to do is to really
    0:59:06 take yourself all the way back to the
    0:59:08 beginning of when you decided to get
    0:59:11 into business and the most important
    0:59:14 thing is hopefully you are a consumer in
    0:59:16 your own space or have been at some point
    0:59:19 right so go all the way back to the
    0:59:21 beginning of your experience doing what
    0:59:24 you do and really ask yourself what was
    0:59:26 the thing that compelled you more than
    0:59:28 anything to kind of throw your hat in the
    0:59:30 ring and say i’m going to start a business
    0:59:36 doing x right typically when we decide to
    0:59:38 go into a certain space there’s something
    0:59:40 that we believe to be true there’s
    0:59:43 something deep that’s driving us that makes
    0:59:46 us feel that we can do something better or
    0:59:49 different or at least that can compete with
    0:59:51 all of the millions of other people that are
    0:59:53 doing the same business we’re doing and in
    0:59:55 their own way right and so it’s really going
    0:59:57 back to the very beginning and saying well
    0:59:59 what compelled you to even start this
    1:00:02 business what made you to decide that you
    1:00:04 are going to dedicate your life to doing this
    1:00:06 thing that you’re doing and that’s a great
    1:00:08 place to start because there’s usually a
    1:00:11 pretty deep why there for people but what
    1:00:12 happens is we get into our business and
    1:00:14 we’re like starry-eyed and we’re so excited
    1:00:16 and we’re so optimistic and we have all
    1:00:18 these big ideas and we have this grand plan
    1:00:21 for what we’re going to do and then life
    1:00:23 like hits us like a map truck right because
    1:00:27 we realize oh my gosh this is hard and when
    1:00:29 when we realize this is hard that’s when
    1:00:32 people start to push aside their their
    1:00:35 deep passion their deep conviction their
    1:00:38 big why and they start scrambling to kind
    1:00:40 of like keep up with and do what’s being
    1:00:42 done already because they want to be
    1:00:45 competitive so you need to kind of like
    1:00:49 almost like clean your palate I’ll say let
    1:00:52 go of those things and return to the very
    1:00:54 beginning of what compelled you to get
    1:00:56 started in the first place what was your
    1:00:58 big why what made you say I’m going to
    1:01:00 dedicate my life to doing this thing that
    1:01:01 I’m doing that’s your foundation
    1:01:05 beautiful so I want to move on to the
    1:01:06 third step of your framework which we
    1:01:08 haven’t talked about at all and that’s
    1:01:10 building your tribe so I know we only
    1:01:13 have about 10 minutes left or less so tell
    1:01:15 us about building your tribe and what are
    1:01:18 the components of that yeah absolutely so
    1:01:21 when you think about stickiness which
    1:01:23 stickiness is the only way that you’re
    1:01:25 going to get from the attraction all the
    1:01:27 way over to the conversion again so what’s
    1:01:29 the point of all of this the point is we
    1:01:31 want to help you to be more effective at
    1:01:33 attracting attracting people into your
    1:01:35 ecosystem and ultimately converting them
    1:01:37 into paying clients we want to help you
    1:01:39 make your dreams come true that means that
    1:01:41 you need to be really good at creating a
    1:01:43 stickiness factor because it can take
    1:01:44 people sometimes three months six months
    1:01:47 nine months a year a year and a half to
    1:01:49 work their way through your ecosystem some
    1:01:51 people are going to buy in a day some
    1:01:52 people are going to buy after studying
    1:01:55 you for years at a time right so there has
    1:01:58 to be a stickiness factor the stickiness
    1:02:00 factor a lot of times is the tribe that you
    1:02:02 create it’s the community it’s the brand
    1:02:05 and this is about having common beliefs
    1:02:08 common language common ways that you
    1:02:11 think about the world common values right
    1:02:13 which again of course go back to
    1:02:16 conviction so you want to think about how
    1:02:19 are you creating community what is the
    1:02:21 belief system of your community what’s
    1:02:23 kind of the code of ethics how do you
    1:02:25 interact with each other what’s the
    1:02:28 language that you use what do you believe
    1:02:30 in your community and what are the pillars
    1:02:32 of this community right and when you think
    1:02:36 about that usually in any really tight
    1:02:37 knit community there’s something that
    1:02:40 people are raging against and there’s
    1:02:41 something that people are fighting for
    1:02:44 right and so what you want to think about
    1:02:47 is what’s the common language that you’re
    1:02:48 going to create that you’re going to get
    1:02:50 everyone to kind of use and operate with
    1:02:52 so it’s like we have this thing between us
    1:02:56 that is common and sacred what is it that
    1:02:59 you’re going to be rallying against and
    1:03:00 what is it that you’re going to be
    1:03:03 fighting for and again we’re not rallying
    1:03:06 against people we’re not disparaging other
    1:03:08 brands right we’re playing nice in the
    1:03:11 sandbox you know but but you have to
    1:03:13 understand what it is that you’re trying
    1:03:16 to create a distinction around you have to
    1:03:18 be really really clear when I launched the
    1:03:21 live launch method and I started teaching
    1:03:23 that what I really was rallying people
    1:03:26 against was the complexity of technology
    1:03:28 I said look I’m going to teach you how
    1:03:31 to launch from your phone with no tech
    1:03:34 tools no slides no outside tech team no
    1:03:36 pre-reporting none of that stuff you’re
    1:03:37 going to throw it all out the window and
    1:03:39 you’re just going to show up live for
    1:03:40 90s and you’re going to convert a million
    1:03:42 dollars and and that’s what we were
    1:03:44 rallying people against is this this
    1:03:47 complexity that was standing in the way
    1:03:49 of people being able to actually focus
    1:03:51 on connecting with their audience which
    1:03:53 is why they couldn’t convert because
    1:03:55 they’re managing web slides and pre-record
    1:03:57 and doing all these other things so
    1:03:59 again this is we’re going to keep it
    1:04:01 clean okay we’re going to keep it clean
    1:04:03 you always want to think about building a
    1:04:05 legacy body of work that you’ll be proud
    1:04:08 of 5 10 15 years from now but you have
    1:04:10 to understand the operating reality of
    1:04:12 your people what are you fighting
    1:04:14 against and what are you fighting for
    1:04:18 right and make that a common language
    1:04:20 and a common energy and you know get
    1:04:22 everyone in a space where they don’t
    1:04:24 want to disconnect from you and they
    1:04:26 don’t want to disconnect from your
    1:04:28 community because they feel a sense of
    1:04:30 belonging they feel a sense of shared
    1:04:34 values they have common language and
    1:04:36 again they feel like their life is going
    1:04:38 to be enhanced as a result of staying
    1:04:40 connected to this community
    1:04:42 could you just give us a few examples
    1:04:44 of this language aspect that you’re
    1:04:45 talking about because I just want to
    1:04:46 make sure that’s clear
    1:04:49 yeah it can be anything it can literally
    1:04:51 be anything so like for me I picked the
    1:04:53 word unstoppable and I literally
    1:04:56 defined the word unstoppable and like
    1:04:58 people will refer to me and they’ll say
    1:05:00 she’s the unstoppable girl right because
    1:05:03 I started so many years ago talking
    1:05:04 about this word unstoppable and I
    1:05:06 defined it as you know you’re
    1:05:09 unstoppable if you’re a person that
    1:05:12 despite setbacks and challenges and
    1:05:14 chaos and turbulence and every reason
    1:05:16 that you can make an excuse to fail
    1:05:19 that you decide to keep fighting for
    1:05:21 your dreams anyway and you don’t stop
    1:05:23 taking action until you accomplish them
    1:05:25 and I literally talked about this
    1:05:28 hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of
    1:05:29 times I wrote a book named
    1:05:31 unstoppable I built the names of my
    1:05:33 groups around it I built the name of my
    1:05:35 program around it so it literally
    1:05:37 created this tribe mentality of people
    1:05:41 that suffered setbacks went through the
    1:05:42 challenges went through all these
    1:05:44 things but believe so deeply in their
    1:05:46 goals and dreams that they’re making
    1:05:49 them come true anyway you can pick any
    1:05:52 word you can pick any language you can
    1:05:54 pick anything you want but again this
    1:05:56 is about taking a step back and not
    1:06:00 trying to be or do or compare or compete
    1:06:03 with anyone it is literally what are the
    1:06:05 words that you want to build your
    1:06:07 ecosystem around what is the mentality
    1:06:10 that you want to have as a shared
    1:06:12 mentality amongst you and ultimately
    1:06:14 your clients what do you want that
    1:06:17 relationship to be yeah and I think it
    1:06:19 also kind of makes it like exclusive
    1:06:21 because it’s like only if you know you
    1:06:23 know like for example all my listeners
    1:06:25 are called young and profiters and so
    1:06:26 it’s like you only know that if you
    1:06:28 listen to the show and all the other
    1:06:30 young and profiters know that they’re
    1:06:31 young and profiters you know so I feel
    1:06:33 like it’s also that common language
    1:06:35 that kind of bonds everyone in the
    1:06:37 community so that it really feels like
    1:06:39 a tribe so whether that’s like some
    1:06:40 framework that you came up with that
    1:06:43 has a specific name or phrase so I
    1:06:45 totally agree there even your word
    1:06:47 conviction marketing is is like one of
    1:06:50 your tribe words I think so we don’t
    1:06:51 have time to get into steps four and
    1:06:53 five of your framework so everybody out
    1:06:55 there make sure you go grab conviction
    1:06:57 marketing February 22nd is there
    1:06:59 anything you want to round out before
    1:07:01 we move on to the last question of the
    1:07:04 day no I would just say yeah absolutely
    1:07:06 if if standing out and becoming a
    1:07:08 category one brand is important to you
    1:07:11 know that there’s a framework to do it
    1:07:12 it’s going to take a little courage
    1:07:14 right but it’s accessible to everyone
    1:07:17 love it okay so the last couple of
    1:07:19 questions that I ask all my guests is
    1:07:22 first what is one actionable thing we
    1:07:24 can do today to become more profiting
    1:07:27 tomorrow connect with a human being
    1:07:29 about your business I have too many
    1:07:31 times to ask business owners that tell
    1:07:32 me that they want to grow and I’ll say
    1:07:33 well how many prospects did you actually
    1:07:36 get on video or send a message to or
    1:07:38 connect with this week and it’s like
    1:07:40 zero so just go talk to another human
    1:07:43 being love it great advice and what is
    1:07:45 your secret to profiting in life
    1:07:49 alignment it’s doing what I say I’m
    1:07:51 going to do and acting in alignment
    1:07:54 with what I want to experience very
    1:07:56 clear crystal answer thank you so much
    1:07:59 Kelly I loved this conversation I
    1:08:00 admire you thank you so much for your
    1:08:03 time it was an awesome conversation and
    1:08:05 you guys can get on the waitlist for the
    1:08:07 book at conviction marketing.com thank
    1:08:08 you so much for having me hello thank you
    1:08:15 thank you so much Kelly.
    1:08:15 you

    Marketing and social media weren’t part of Kelly Roach’s world when she grew up just above the poverty line in rural Pennsylvania. She cleaned toilets to pay for dance lessons and learned early that hustle trumps circumstance. That same grit propelled her from an entry-level sales desk to the youngest vice president at her Fortune 500 company in just eight years, landing the “impossible” accounts her peers had chased for years. Instead of settling, she rose at 5 a.m. to build a coaching side hustle that became an eight-figure enterprise guiding founders from six to seven figures. In this episode, Kelly unpacks her five-step Conviction Marketing framework and three-tier pyramid that turns ordinary how-to content into a category-of-one brand.

    In this episode, Hala and Kelly will discuss:

    (00:00) Introduction

    (01:11) Kelly Roach’s Humble Beginnings

    (05:20) Rising Through Corporate Ranks

    (09:27) Building a Business While Working Full-Time

    (10:16) The Importance of Sacrifice and Patience

    (20:19) Conviction Marketing: The Book

    (29:35) Identifying Industry Gaps and Building a Support Team

    (30:10) Introduction to the Marketing Pyramid

    (30:36) How-To Marketing

    (32:57) Hope Marketing

    (39:40) Conviction Marketing

    (51:05) Building Your Tribe

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    0:01:50 I didn’t work at McKinsey.
    0:01:51 I don’t have an MBA.
    0:01:54 I’m an untraditional marketing leader.
    0:01:56 Marketing is a game of arbitrage.
    0:02:00 The best marketers in the world just figure out where their inefficiencies,
    0:02:01 where things are underpriced.
    0:02:06 They lean very aggressively into those things to get a really high return.
    0:02:11 The best entrepreneurs in the world are people who just get really irritated that a problem exists
    0:02:15 and just become maniacally focused and obsessed with solving it.
    0:02:18 You could do that whether you’re a solopreneur, whether you’re an executive at a company.
    0:02:19 It doesn’t matter.
    0:02:22 It’s your job to understand what that unfair advantage is.
    0:02:27 So I know that HubSpot actually coined the word inbound marketing.
    0:02:31 So in 2025, what inbound strategies are working?
    0:02:32 A few things.
    0:02:34 The number one thing is.
    0:02:50 Yeah, bam.
    0:02:55 What if I told you that you don’t need a massive marketing budget to build a powerful brand?
    0:02:59 Today, we’re sitting down with Kip Bodnar, Chief Marketing Officer of HubSpot,
    0:03:03 to crack the code on digital marketing for entrepreneurs and small businesses.
    0:03:07 Whether you’re just starting out or looking to level up your marketing game,
    0:03:10 this episode is packed with practical tips, smart strategies,
    0:03:14 and real-world advice straight from one of the biggest names in digital marketing.
    0:03:17 Kip, welcome to Young and Profiting Podcast.
    0:03:18 Hey, Hala.
    0:03:19 Thanks so much for having me.
    0:03:20 Excited to be here.
    0:03:22 I am excited for this conversation.
    0:03:24 I love to talk about marketing.
    0:03:29 And I was so impressed with your journey when I was researching your story.
    0:03:35 I found out that you rose to CMO at HubSpot in just five years,
    0:03:37 which is absolutely incredible.
    0:03:39 So my first question to you is,
    0:03:43 what do you think set you apart from other employees at HubSpot
    0:03:45 and accelerated your career growth at the company?
    0:03:49 I think accelerating a business career growth, it’s all very similar.
    0:03:54 I think it’s about how do you really focus on the small set of things
    0:03:56 that are going to give you the high magnitude of return?
    0:04:01 I think so often people get caught up in operational details
    0:04:04 or let everybody else push their priorities on them,
    0:04:07 where you have to be like, you have to look at the situation and say,
    0:04:10 what are the three to five things that if I do,
    0:04:13 I will be 10 times more successful than anybody else in the situation?
    0:04:17 And that sounds simple, but it is the thing that I think matters the most.
    0:04:21 Before you were joining HubSpot and you started there,
    0:04:22 you were actually an entrepreneur.
    0:04:27 So what were the advantages or disadvantages that you faced
    0:04:31 joining corporate already having entrepreneurship experience?
    0:04:35 I think the first entrepreneurship thing I had,
    0:04:39 I would go to like Sam’s Club and Walmart and find like clearance items
    0:04:41 and flip them on eBay when I was in high school.
    0:04:45 And so I was always somebody who was obsessed with arbitrage.
    0:04:47 How do you buy low and sell high?
    0:04:49 And where are the inefficiencies of a market?
    0:04:55 And one of the great things about marketing is that marketing is a game of arbitrage.
    0:04:58 The best marketers in the world just figure out where their inefficiencies,
    0:04:59 where things are underpriced.
    0:05:04 They lean very aggressively into those things to get a really high return.
    0:05:09 And so what happens when you go and then work at a startup at the time,
    0:05:11 I think HubSpot was about 100 people when I joined,
    0:05:16 you go from just running really fast by yourself to needing to run really fast with a bunch of other people.
    0:05:18 And that’s the biggest change.
    0:05:21 And you have to adopt a different mindset.
    0:05:25 And I think the mindset there is I have limited scale just me.
    0:05:28 I could accomplish much bigger things if I do it with other people,
    0:05:31 but I got to bring them along for that journey.
    0:05:36 If I just try to push my agenda on everybody else, nobody’s going to understand.
    0:05:38 They’re not going to have the context and we’re not going to go anywhere.
    0:05:47 And so I think the biggest shift from being somebody who is working solo or on a small team to being on a bigger team
    0:05:52 is how do you actually clearly articulate the problem you’re going to solve
    0:05:55 in a way that people are really excited to solve it with you?
    0:05:57 Because when you’re a solopreneur, you don’t have to do that.
    0:05:59 You can just do what’s in your head and go.
    0:06:03 And I love what you said about marketing being arbitrage.
    0:06:04 I think that’s so smart and it’s so true.
    0:06:08 It’s like almost every marketing activity is some sort of arbitrage.
    0:06:09 100%.
    0:06:10 It’s exactly what it is.
    0:06:13 Whether you’re trying to game an algorithm, whether you’re trying to make a great YouTube thumbnail,
    0:06:19 whether you’re trying to buy ads on an obscure platform that maybe your industry doesn’t use,
    0:06:20 but they’re way cheaper.
    0:06:24 Those are all just different ways to find arbitrage and take advantage of it.
    0:06:28 So in your career, like I said, you rose up the ranks very quickly.
    0:06:33 Were there any pivotal moments that really shaped your trajectory or relationships?
    0:06:39 What do you think it was that you were able to go from employee to CMO and in the C-suite?
    0:06:43 I think there’s lots of moments that make that happen.
    0:06:46 My very first job was I ran the HubSpot blog.
    0:06:53 So basically the equivalent of what you do now and what a lot of creators and amazing media companies do now,
    0:06:56 I did a long time ago because I’m old.
    0:07:05 And I think the most pivotal moment was that first year when we had a blog that had about 200,000 readers a month.
    0:07:09 And by the end of the year, we were at about 1.5 million monthlies.
    0:07:12 And so we were able to really grow and scale that work.
    0:07:16 And I was maniacally focused on that.
    0:07:20 For better and for worse, there are challenges of being too overtly focused.
    0:07:22 And you probably don’t collaborate as well with others and everything.
    0:07:27 But I knew I needed to dramatically change the trajectory of the work we were doing.
    0:07:34 And so I look at everything as like a sprint, whether it be a week, a year, two years.
    0:07:38 It’s like, what do I need to really change and transform in that time?
    0:07:42 And I knew that I needed to change the type of content we’re creating, the frequency, the process,
    0:07:45 all of those things that creators now do on a daily basis.
    0:07:50 But in 2010 was kind of new and people were trying to figure it out at the time.
    0:07:53 And so I think that was one.
    0:07:57 And then the other is when you go from being somebody who is contributing as an individual
    0:07:59 to like leading a team.
    0:08:04 So I went from running that blog to running all of our content and how we were, our blog,
    0:08:07 our social, our SEO, how we were scaling up.
    0:08:12 And that was a pretty pivotal transition because it’s like, can I get people to follow me?
    0:08:14 Do I have a clear story?
    0:08:15 Do I have a clear strategy?
    0:08:22 And the simple thing I would tell everybody out there is the key step in that is people need
    0:08:25 to feel like they’re going to learn something from you.
    0:08:31 And so even though they may be specialists, like I would go and I would find the latest
    0:08:36 article, the latest hack that somebody had done, even if it was for somebody else on my
    0:08:36 team.
    0:08:40 And I would send it to them and talk to them about it and talk about how we could use it.
    0:08:42 And they were instantly like, oh, you understand my work.
    0:08:45 You understand the craft that we’re working on together here.
    0:08:50 And I trust you to help me make my craft much better than it is today.
    0:08:53 Not that it’s bad today, but that I think I can get much better with your help.
    0:08:57 So basically, you were a good colleague, right?
    0:08:58 And you helped other people.
    0:09:04 And that’s really important with politics in corporate and especially getting into the C-suite.
    0:09:07 So what advice do you have for good relationships in corporate?
    0:09:12 And being somebody who higher ups think about when promotions are coming up?
    0:09:15 I think the best relationships are results.
    0:09:19 I think results speak for themselves and results are the ultimate meritocracy.
    0:09:26 I think the biggest thing that people get wrong is they look at what other people ask of them and
    0:09:28 say, hey, here are the goals that I think you can achieve.
    0:09:31 And they look at that as the ceiling of what they’re supposed to do.
    0:09:36 So if you’re running a LinkedIn program, for example, it’s like, oh, I think you can get
    0:09:40 a million views a month this year for our company content.
    0:09:41 Great.
    0:09:45 Well, you or I, if we were in that situation, we would say, cool, you think a million is good.
    0:09:46 I think 10 million is good.
    0:09:51 How would I go and use the same constraints, everything I have access to, to do way better
    0:09:52 than you think?
    0:09:56 Because that change in magnitude is impossible to ignore.
    0:10:03 Because then you’re like, oh, wow, we have somebody who’s able to over exceed what we
    0:10:06 think are fairly aggressive expectations that we would have of them.
    0:10:10 Clearly, they are able to do more and we should put them in a situation to do more.
    0:10:15 I teach a LinkedIn masterclass and it’s people that want to grow their personal brands.
    0:10:21 And one of the most common objections I get from these folks is that I’m really scared to
    0:10:24 start growing my personal brand while I’m working corporate.
    0:10:25 I’m scared to do my own thing.
    0:10:30 And I noticed that you launched a book while you were working at HubSpot, right?
    0:10:31 Yeah, yeah.
    0:10:32 So talk to us about that experience.
    0:10:36 What’s your advice to people who want to become a thought leader in their space, but they do
    0:10:37 work in corporate?
    0:10:42 How should they approach it without stepping on toes or making sure that their company is
    0:10:43 aligned with what they’re doing?
    0:10:49 Yeah, I find that people’s own ambition or lack thereof is their biggest limiter to growth,
    0:10:52 not their capability, not their aptitude, not anything else.
    0:10:55 And I find those things to largely be an excuse.
    0:11:01 You know, you’re scared largely of what other people think versus what’s actually true.
    0:11:06 And what’s actually true, if you look at the market, what happens is that a company, no matter
    0:11:10 whether you’re starting it or you’re working for it, they need experts and they need people
    0:11:17 who their customers look to as trusted experts and advisors who have deep knowledge and deep
    0:11:19 perspective and point of view on their market.
    0:11:22 And you know how you get there?
    0:11:23 You have a great presence on LinkedIn.
    0:11:24 You start a podcast.
    0:11:25 You write a book.
    0:11:26 You have an email newsletter.
    0:11:31 There’s tons of different ways, depending on your skills, your interests, to get there.
    0:11:33 But you have to get there.
    0:11:38 And the thing that nobody tells you, because I got a job at HubSpot because I had run a blog
    0:11:40 and they liked my blog.
    0:11:43 And then I ran the blog and I host the Marketing Against the Grain podcast.
    0:11:48 Now, the thing that you know and a lot of people don’t know is that when you create, when you
    0:11:53 make something every day and every week, you learn so much faster and you get so much better
    0:11:55 at your craft.
    0:12:00 If you have to teach a lot of other people the thing that you want them to know and the thing
    0:12:02 you’re trying to be good at in your job.
    0:12:06 And I have always found on my team that the people who are out there actively creating
    0:12:12 are some of the best people in their current roles, in addition to what they may be doing
    0:12:13 on LinkedIn or YouTube or wherever.
    0:12:15 I totally agree with you.
    0:12:17 A lot of the times it is an excuse.
    0:12:20 People are saying, oh, I think my company is going to get mad.
    0:12:21 My boss is going to get mad.
    0:12:25 But in reality, what may happen, especially if you let them know you’re going to do this
    0:12:30 and it’s not competitive to what you’re doing at work, you’ll get more respected at work.
    0:12:34 I remember when I started growing my brand and podcast, I started getting promoted more
    0:12:34 often at work.
    0:12:40 I was being asked to teach the C-suite how to use LinkedIn and getting flown to conferences
    0:12:42 and whatever it was when I was working at Hewlett Packard.
    0:12:50 Right now, do you feel like you have an entrepreneurial itch or is being in C-suite enough for you to feel
    0:12:51 like you’re building something?
    0:12:55 Just because a lot of people think in order to be an entrepreneur, you have to start your own
    0:12:56 company.
    0:12:58 But I don’t think that’s necessarily true.
    0:13:01 I think entrepreneurship is about solving problems.
    0:13:06 Inherently, the best entrepreneurs in the world are people who just get really irritated that a
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    0:13:15 a way that generates a lot of wealth for them and other people.
    0:13:15 Right.
    0:13:16 And that’s awesome.
    0:13:21 You could do that whether you’re a solopreneur, whether you’re a startup founder, whether you
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    0:13:24 It doesn’t matter.
    0:13:29 I look at it as, am I in a situation to solve interesting problems?
    0:13:32 And the reason I don’t go start a company right now is because I’m in a great position
    0:13:35 to go start and solve really interesting problems.
    0:13:41 And I have a lot of access to capital and smart people to go and do that and make much
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    0:13:50 And I look at it as every situation, you have an unfair advantage.
    0:13:53 It’s your job to understand what that unfair advantage is.
    0:14:00 And I always tell people that when you work at a great company, you have the two things
    0:14:01 that matter most.
    0:14:05 You have agency and control, which is what most entrepreneurs have and they want.
    0:14:10 But you also have resources to go and do what you want with that agency and control, which
    0:14:11 a lot of entrepreneurs do not have.
    0:14:15 And so when you have both of those at the same time, regardless of the situation you’re in,
    0:14:17 you should take advantage of it.
    0:14:18 Okay.
    0:14:21 So let’s move on to some marketing best practices.
    0:14:25 HubSpot has become a household name.
    0:14:29 So what do you think has been some of the major factors in becoming a global brand?
    0:14:33 I think it’s a little bit what we talked about earlier.
    0:14:36 I’m an untraditional marketing leader, right?
    0:14:38 I didn’t work at McKinsey.
    0:14:39 I don’t have an MBA.
    0:14:41 I’m not out of central casting.
    0:14:48 I am from a small town in West Virginia where my goal was to do interesting stuff and see the
    0:14:48 world.
    0:14:52 And when you’re in that kind of situation,
    0:14:54 you just think about solving problems differently.
    0:14:56 And that comes back to the idea of arbitrage.
    0:15:04 You have to understand if you’re a marketer, what are the unique ways to reach my audience?
    0:15:07 And what are some of the ways that we have done that at HubSpot over the years?
    0:15:09 I think would help maybe bring examples of that.
    0:15:14 First, in the very early days, we created a free tool called Website Grader, where you
    0:15:17 could just put your website in and it would give a full diagnostic.
    0:15:23 So normally what you would hire a consultant for or you talk to a sales rep for, it’s just
    0:15:28 going to give you a report on the webpage and email it to you, which in 2006, seven, eight
    0:15:30 was transformational at the time.
    0:15:32 That’s a long time ago, almost 20 years now.
    0:15:35 And we had millions and millions of people use that.
    0:15:37 Our co-founder, Dharmesh, built it himself, right?
    0:15:43 Like it was not like anything fancy, but it was rooted in, he watched our other co-founder,
    0:15:47 Brian, doing all these sales conversations and he was doing all this manual research.
    0:15:49 And he’s like, I can make an app that does that for you.
    0:15:50 And then they just gave it away.
    0:15:51 And that worked really, really well.
    0:15:56 Then the second thing that worked really well for us was blogging and content in the early
    0:15:59 days of content and creating.
    0:16:03 And what we figured out is that Google search was growing rapidly and there was an arbitrage
    0:16:09 in a market inefficiency where you would search for so many things back in the day and there
    0:16:10 were terrible search results, right?
    0:16:13 Like you would go and like, nothing on this page is good.
    0:16:17 And if we create something, we will by far be the best thing on that topic.
    0:16:22 And we were able to grow from thousands to hundreds of thousands to tens of millions of
    0:16:23 visits doing that.
    0:16:24 We had that hypothesis.
    0:16:28 We created a process to scale it and we spent a lot of time and money.
    0:16:34 The other thing that people in marketing get wrong is they just, they do 10 different things
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    0:16:37 They’re like, I’m spread real thin.
    0:16:39 I think I got to do everything.
    0:16:42 You’re way better off to do one to three things better than anybody else.
    0:16:47 And if you can do one to three things better than anybody else, you can build a billion
    0:16:48 dollar company.
    0:16:53 If you have one or two great marketing channels that you are world-class at, you cannot build
    0:16:55 a $10 million company.
    0:16:59 If you have 10 crappy marketing channels, I’ve seen it time and time again, it’s just how life
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    0:21:56 So I know that HubSpot actually coined the word inbound marketing.
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    0:22:02 between inbound and outbound marketing?
    0:22:06 And how was marketing different before HubSpot really came onto the scene?
    0:22:09 The world of marketing changed a bunch with the internet.
    0:22:16 Before the internet, people remember, it was largely TV ads, billboards, direct mail, all
    0:22:16 those things.
    0:22:18 And they were all really annoying, right?
    0:22:19 Because you didn’t opt into any of those things.
    0:22:24 The commercials interrupted your television when we didn’t have streaming services everywhere,
    0:22:24 right?
    0:22:29 You’d go home and your mailbox would be full of advertisements that you didn’t subscribe to
    0:22:30 or didn’t want.
    0:22:33 And that was very outboundy, very interruptive.
    0:22:36 And we were basically like, well, now that the internet exists, there’s a whole different
    0:22:36 way to do marketing.
    0:22:41 You can do it in an inbound way where you create content and pull people in through search engines,
    0:22:45 through social media, through email marketing, through things that people opt into and want
    0:22:46 to participate in.
    0:22:50 And that was now seems obvious because it’s how the internet works.
    0:22:52 But 20 years ago was fairly revolutionary.
    0:22:55 So we created a new category.
    0:22:59 And sometimes if you’re in marketing or if you’re an entrepreneur and you’re starting
    0:23:05 a company, the best thing you can do is, there’s a great quote out there, better is a debate,
    0:23:06 different is a choice.
    0:23:12 When you force somebody to make a choice and you do that by creating a new category where
    0:23:15 it’s like, hey, do you want to do this new awesome inbound thing that works really great?
    0:23:19 Or do you want to do that old stodgy outbound thing that everybody hates?
    0:23:22 We tell that story and people are like, oh, I want to do the new cool thing that people
    0:23:25 like, I don’t want to do the old bad thing that everybody hates.
    0:23:29 But if we had just said, oh, like, hey, we can help you do your direct mail a little bit
    0:23:31 better, who cares?
    0:23:32 Well, maybe it’s good enough.
    0:23:33 Do I really even need better?
    0:23:35 I don’t know what you’re talking about, right?
    0:23:42 And so painting a clear choice for your target audience is so powerful.
    0:23:44 It takes a little bit longer, right?
    0:23:45 Because people aren’t familiar with it.
    0:23:48 There’s a level of education you have to do, but anybody can do it.
    0:23:52 And if you’re in it for a long haul, if you think you have a big opportunity in your
    0:23:57 business as a five, 10, 20 year thing, then it’s a really important thing to take advantage
    0:24:00 of to actually be differentiated in the market.
    0:24:04 I know that you’ve been talking a lot about arbitrage, unfair advantages.
    0:24:08 So in 2025, what inbound strategies are working?
    0:24:10 Like are blogs still working?
    0:24:14 How do you think about SEO, podcasts and all that?
    0:24:14 Oh, yeah.
    0:24:15 It’s a great question.
    0:24:17 What works in marketing in 2025?
    0:24:18 A few things.
    0:24:19 Creators.
    0:24:25 Working, partnering, or being with creators and these modern media companies like you run,
    0:24:25 Holla.
    0:24:26 Huge opportunity.
    0:24:28 Huge, huge opportunity there.
    0:24:29 We work deeply with creators.
    0:24:30 I’m a creator myself.
    0:24:31 It works.
    0:24:32 YouTube.
    0:24:33 YouTube works.
    0:24:37 YouTube is an exceptional channel to drive awareness and monetization.
    0:24:42 It is much harder to disrupt through artificial intelligence, which is kind of the thing that’s
    0:24:43 changing marketing the most.
    0:24:44 Blogging still works.
    0:24:45 It does.
    0:24:51 But it works for the very focused universe of the industry you solve, where you have unique
    0:24:54 data, unique insight, unique credibility.
    0:24:55 You can get that.
    0:24:59 You can’t go and talk about everything in the world and get search traffic, but you can focus
    0:25:04 on your core niche and get a good baseline audience through blogging.
    0:25:06 Those things are completely working.
    0:25:11 Partnering with creators, even through advertising means hugely, hugely valuable.
    0:25:16 The other thing that’s working, a lot of people are doing events and in person because we’ve
    0:25:20 gotten so segmented, no shared experiences.
    0:25:25 I think if you’re selling high, big ticket, expensive things, bringing people together in
    0:25:30 person is becoming something that all the marketers I talk to are spending more money on
    0:25:32 this year, not less money on.
    0:25:33 So true.
    0:25:39 And when I’m thinking about my marketing strategies and unfair advantages and untapped
    0:25:45 opportunities, I’m thinking about SEO within platforms, podcast search, SEO.
    0:25:50 How do I become more searchable on LinkedIn in particular, right?
    0:25:52 How do I become more searchable on YouTube?
    0:25:56 So when it comes to blogging, I’d love to like dig deep on this because I actually was
    0:26:00 thinking I used to have a blog in my 20s that was really popular.
    0:26:02 And then I was like blogging is over.
    0:26:06 But sometimes these things come around and I was thinking, you know what?
    0:26:09 I feel like blogs are kind of making a comeback.
    0:26:11 I like with Substack becoming so popular.
    0:26:17 And I was thinking, should I start a blog on my website where I create content around
    0:26:22 entrepreneurship or should I leverage something like Substack and leverage that platform for
    0:26:22 a blog?
    0:26:25 Like what would be your advice to start from scratch or leverage a platform?
    0:26:30 I have a rule that I don’t make anything without being clear on how I’m going to get it distributed
    0:26:32 and what the distribution advantages are.
    0:26:38 I think Substack, if you’re an entrepreneur, has a little bit of built-in audience, but it’s
    0:26:42 not worth it because the bigger built-in audience is information discovery.
    0:26:45 And I say that kind of broader than search.
    0:26:48 And so if I were starting today, it was just me, you and I were starting a company.
    0:26:49 We were going to go out and do something.
    0:26:53 I would start a blog on my website for a couple of reasons.
    0:26:58 One, a ton of people still use Google search and you still can get a lot of traffic from
    0:26:59 Google search.
    0:27:06 The second thing is people are using AI for discovery, chat GPT search, Google deep research,
    0:27:09 Grok, all these things and perplexity.
    0:27:16 And what we have seen is that text-based content and video-based content that’s cited in those
    0:27:19 results still gets a real amount of traffic.
    0:27:21 I host a podcast called Marketing Against the Grain.
    0:27:27 We did a video on DeepSeek when DeepSeek first came out and it got recommended on everybody’s
    0:27:33 chat GPT queries on DeepSeek and we got 50,000 views in like 24 hours because everybody was
    0:27:35 searching for it and we had a really good, credible thing.
    0:27:40 And so it’s almost like the distribution for text and video is getting better.
    0:27:43 What’s changing is that it’s a little less attributable, right?
    0:27:49 Because if somebody is getting it in like chat GPT or perplexity, they may be reading information
    0:27:51 and see your link, but they might not directly click back to it.
    0:27:56 A proportion are, but a much smaller portion than historically in Google, but you’re still
    0:28:01 getting the awareness, the distribution, the brand recognition for being like a credible
    0:28:02 resource in those things.
    0:28:09 And that’s why I think you have to have a pretty healthy blog and YouTube strategy to surface in
    0:28:10 all these new models.
    0:28:11 Yeah.
    0:28:14 And we were just talking about SEO in platforms and that’s such a great example.
    0:28:17 Like how do I get better search on chat GPT?
    0:28:18 That’s the future, right?
    0:28:20 And by the way, there’s compounding benefits to all this, right?
    0:28:25 Like if I get discovered in chat GPT and I get really good engagement on my video, then
    0:28:26 YouTube’s going to be like, oh, this is clearly a good video.
    0:28:29 So I’m going to prioritize it more in YouTube search.
    0:28:32 And then you get more in the YouTube algorithm and the YouTube search engine.
    0:28:35 And then you have a video that completely takes off because of it.
    0:28:35 And that’s awesome.
    0:28:41 What would you say is the secret to making content that stands out today, considering that there’s
    0:28:42 so much more content?
    0:28:43 There’s so much-
    0:28:44 So competitive, right?
    0:28:44 So competitive.
    0:28:49 And it’s so easy now with AI to create videos, to create blogs.
    0:28:51 You don’t really need to be a writer like you used to anymore.
    0:28:53 So what’s your best advice?
    0:28:56 Here’s my advice on content creation day.
    0:29:00 First, people have never wanted more actionable content ever.
    0:29:02 They don’t just want to learn something.
    0:29:05 They want something that’s going to lead them to immediately take action.
    0:29:09 And so anytime you’re creating content that can allow people to immediately take action,
    0:29:14 that they can take, especially like in free tools or free platforms, that’s going to take
    0:29:14 off.
    0:29:15 It’s going to go great.
    0:29:16 I see that all the time.
    0:29:18 I imagine you see that all the time.
    0:29:21 That is clearly a trend that is happening.
    0:29:25 The second thing people want is unique data and perspective.
    0:29:30 If you have a survey of 2,000 people in a given industry, people are going to check it
    0:29:32 out because they want to know the benchmark.
    0:29:33 They want to see how they’re doing.
    0:29:34 They’re competitive.
    0:29:35 They want to compare themselves.
    0:29:37 All that stuff happens, right?
    0:29:40 And so you are going to see that be a real standout thing.
    0:29:46 And so that’s where proprietary research, customer data, things like that are a huge leverage.
    0:29:50 And then the third is, can you be really contrarian and have a good argument?
    0:29:56 Can you go against the status quo and change people’s thinking with a real deep and thoughtful
    0:29:58 reasoned argument about something?
    0:30:01 And if you can do that, you’re also going to get people’s attention.
    0:30:01 What would you add?
    0:30:02 You’re doing this all the time.
    0:30:03 What’d I miss?
    0:30:06 I think at the core of it is, how do you help people?
    0:30:10 How do you actually bring value where people feel like, oh, wow, I learned something.
    0:30:12 Oh, this is something unique and meaningful.
    0:30:18 This is not just regurgitating what’s out there or just clickbait for me to just get on this
    0:30:18 page.
    0:30:22 And there’s actually no good information or no good tools like you were mentioning.
    0:30:28 So you want to just figure out how to actually teach people something that they can’t really
    0:30:29 find anywhere else.
    0:30:31 So that’s what I feel like is really working.
    0:30:35 The prompt I’ve always given myself is, is what I’m about to do going to be 10 times more
    0:30:36 valuable for people?
    0:30:40 Or would somebody pay $1,000, $2,000 to have access to this?
    0:30:44 And if the answer to one of those two questions is yes, it’s going to be really successful.
    0:30:48 And if the answer is no, it’s probably going to be middly and average.
    0:30:48 Totally agree.
    0:30:51 So how do you think about email?
    0:30:55 So email is one of those channels that have been around forever, but it’s still really effective.
    0:30:56 What are your thoughts about it?
    0:30:59 How do you think we should best leverage it in 2025?
    0:31:00 Email is super important.
    0:31:03 And here’s why email is super important from like a principle base.
    0:31:05 It’s one of the few channels you actually control.
    0:31:06 There’s not an algorithm.
    0:31:11 Somebody gives you permission to email them and you get to send them a message and you
    0:31:12 actually own that email address.
    0:31:16 Somebody can’t come along and change the Google algorithm, the YouTube algorithm, the LinkedIn
    0:31:16 algorithm.
    0:31:20 I know people are all up in arms about LinkedIn algorithm changes recently.
    0:31:26 And so that’s the real value of email marketing is that you have way more ownership and control
    0:31:29 of email marketing than most other channels out there.
    0:31:34 And so once you kind of have that foundation, you’re like, okay, email marketing still matters.
    0:31:36 What am I going to do?
    0:31:43 And the number one thing you’re going to do is to have as highly personalized email as
    0:31:44 possible, and that’s writing your emails with AI.
    0:31:49 So one of the things we did at HubSpot is we have what’s called HubSpot Academy, which
    0:31:53 teaches you how to do marketing, how to use our software, all of those things.
    0:31:57 And there’s a bunch of different courses on HubSpot Academy.
    0:32:04 And we basically, when people come into HubSpot and maybe consume an article or a free guide
    0:32:08 or a webinar or what have you, we’ll then send a follow-up email that is custom, one-on-one,
    0:32:14 written from them by AI, and that we recommend based on everything we know about them, the
    0:32:17 content they’ve consumed, what the best course for them to take is.
    0:32:19 Not only do we mention their business, but we have puns.
    0:32:21 Like AI has gotten very good at that.
    0:32:25 And it feels like a human researches company and wrote them an email.
    0:32:30 And that email converts 80% to 100% better than our normal emails.
    0:32:36 And so that is, number one, anything you can do to better personalize your email and make
    0:32:41 it relevant to their problem and their experience with your company and your website, you’re going
    0:32:42 to get much, much better results.
    0:32:46 The other thing I would add when it comes to email is you were talking about giving
    0:32:48 away free tools, free content.
    0:32:53 Instead of having people pay for it, make their email the way that they pay for that content,
    0:32:54 right?
    0:32:57 You want to just collect as many emails as possible.
    0:33:01 One of the biggest regrets that I have is that I only started collecting emails like three
    0:33:01 years ago.
    0:33:06 I wish I started seven years ago and really made it a point to collect emails.
    0:33:10 So what are the best ways that people can grow their email list right now?
    0:33:11 What do you suggest?
    0:33:16 Look, you give them the great ways to do that, which is offer something really valuable that
    0:33:18 you consider charging money for.
    0:33:21 Remember that marketing is kind of a lesson in economics.
    0:33:24 It’s what do you want to sell versus what do you want to give away to sell a bigger thing
    0:33:25 down the road?
    0:33:27 And how do you offset how you think about that?
    0:33:32 And so for me, the things that are really good, if you have any free tools, great.
    0:33:37 If you have any templates, like you do the work of building out a big Excel sheet with formulas
    0:33:41 and everything that people could just drop their own data in, they will give you an email.
    0:33:47 One of the things that worked really well at HubSpot back in the day, and you can do similar
    0:33:53 versions of this now, is we would find our customers always needed stock photography and
    0:33:56 imagery for their email newsletters, their landing page.
    0:34:01 And I was like, well, what if we just hire a freelance photographer, buy the rights out
    0:34:06 for like $10,000 to 500 different pictures, and we just give those away for free instead
    0:34:08 of them having to pay Getty Images or all these people.
    0:34:12 And I think over the years, we’ve had like 5 million downloads.
    0:34:18 I can’t even tell you how popular that has been, but it’s looking at your market, thinking
    0:34:22 about something that they do that they spend money on and say, hey, can I give that to them
    0:34:23 for free?
    0:34:29 And if you can, you will get whatever information you want in exchange for them saving that money.
    0:34:32 And I think people need to realize that a lot of this marketing strategy is a long game.
    0:34:37 Like sometimes you’re marketing to somebody who might start a company in four years and
    0:34:39 might need your services four years down the line.
    0:34:41 So you guys have free trials.
    0:34:46 For me, I collect emails, I do webinars, and sometimes that leads to a course that’s pretty
    0:34:47 expensive.
    0:34:51 And people might attend three, four webinars before they actually purchase the course, but
    0:34:54 I’m investing in them, building that trust.
    0:34:59 And so talk to me about how you guys think about your free HubSpot service.
    0:35:04 Why are you guys giving away your tools for free initially?
    0:35:07 About 10 years ago, we were like, hey, you know what?
    0:35:11 The world is changing and trust is becoming the most important thing.
    0:35:16 And one of the ways you can build trust with people is to let them try before they buy, right?
    0:35:18 And like your webinar is a great example of that.
    0:35:23 It’s like, hey, if I’m on a 30, 60-minute webinar with you, I probably have a pretty good
    0:35:27 idea about what your course is going to look like, what the quality is going to be, what
    0:35:28 it’s going to feel like, the experience.
    0:35:31 And so I’m much more likely to have trust and go buy that course.
    0:35:37 So if you use our free version of HubSpot CRM, you’re much more likely to buy a paid version
    0:35:38 because you’re like, hey, you know what?
    0:35:39 I’m up and running on this.
    0:35:41 I’ve closed a couple of deals with it.
    0:35:45 I understand the features that if I pay for them that I would get.
    0:35:46 And you know what?
    0:35:49 I kind of need them because I think I would make even more money if I paid for those features.
    0:35:51 And it’s a whole different game.
    0:35:55 Right now, we all have access to infinite knowledge with AI.
    0:35:57 Knowledge is a complete commodity.
    0:36:00 So in that world, trust becomes everything.
    0:36:03 People can know who you are, but they can still not trust you at all.
    0:36:06 And giving that value away is how you build trust.
    0:36:09 And so for us, the free version of our product is how we do it.
    0:36:11 But you have webinars.
    0:36:14 There is a version of that for any business, is I think what I would say.
    0:36:20 And I think the main lesson is don’t be afraid to give away great things that people can actually
    0:36:21 use for free.
    0:36:27 Don’t be afraid for people to have to have enough for a couple months or whatever to do what they
    0:36:29 need to do because it’s going to build that trust.
    0:36:32 I have a maxim I live by, and it’s distribution is undefeated.
    0:36:36 If you can get a big audience, you can always figure out how to make money on it.
    0:36:37 The inverse is not true.
    0:36:43 You can have an expensive product and sell it to a few people, or you can have a big audience
    0:36:46 and sell it to a lot, lot more people, but it’s going to take a little bit of time.
    0:36:48 It’s a different way of thinking.
    0:36:52 But distribution is the biggest reason most businesses don’t grow because they just don’t
    0:36:56 have a big enough audience, universe of people who actually care about them and the thing that
    0:36:58 they’re offering in the world.
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    0:40:52 So CRMs, I’ve got a lot of young entrepreneurs who are probably working at spreadsheets and
    0:40:53 doing everything manually.
    0:40:57 What is a CRM, and how do startups benefits from CRMs?
    0:41:02 So if you think about CRM, there’s lots of views of what CRMs are.
    0:41:06 But what they really are is a single source of truth for your customers and your prospects.
    0:41:12 So instead of your support team working out of a project management system, sales reps working
    0:41:16 out of spreadsheets, all of those things, everybody, your marketers,
    0:41:22 your sellers, your customer service folks, all working, updating one record, all the context
    0:41:25 in one place, and then being able to do really powerful things, whether it be advertising,
    0:41:31 email marketing, marketing automation, sales call prep, sales follow-up, sales automation,
    0:41:31 all of those things.
    0:41:33 That’s what you’re talking about doing.
    0:41:38 And you’re going to see CRM be way more important over the next couple of years, because what’s
    0:41:42 going to happen with CRM over the next even year is that all the unstructured data,
    0:41:47 your meeting recordings, the emails you exchange, all of those things, all that context are going
    0:41:49 to make it way better.
    0:41:52 Your CRM is just going to generate the email follow-up to your meeting for you.
    0:41:53 And it’s like, oh, great.
    0:41:57 I know I need to follow up for this meeting, but I’ve got to go run to this other meeting
    0:41:57 right now.
    0:41:58 Well, it’s great.
    0:42:02 I can do it in 30 seconds versus having to do it 15 minutes tonight when I have forgotten
    0:42:04 half the things and need to go look them up.
    0:42:05 Right?
    0:42:07 And that is why CRM is so important.
    0:42:12 It also is when you have all your data in one place, you can do real reporting and actually
    0:42:14 understand what’s working and what’s not working.
    0:42:20 And as somebody who has helped grow a business from tens of millions of dollars to billions
    0:42:26 of dollars, it’s done through basic iteration over a long period of time, finding problems,
    0:42:28 solving them and building and iterating.
    0:42:31 And you can’t do that without your data in place and some clear reporting.
    0:42:36 Yeah, that’s what I’m most excited about, being able to track everything, having everything
    0:42:37 in one place.
    0:42:41 If I’m like, what’s happening with the sales deal, I can click in, see all the conversations
    0:42:45 to your point, like AI summaries and things like that are coming out.
    0:42:48 Have you guys been thinking about AI agents at all?
    0:42:50 Tons, tons of AI agents.
    0:42:53 So first of all, the most used AI features at HubSpot.
    0:42:55 One is to prep for sales meetings.
    0:42:59 So we have a co-pilot where it just will take everything from a conduct record and give you
    0:43:00 the full prep summary.
    0:43:01 That’s awesome.
    0:43:03 We have an agent called Content Remix.
    0:43:05 So like, let’s say you’re going to run a content campaign.
    0:43:06 You’re going to do an email newsletter.
    0:43:07 So you’re going to do a webinar.
    0:43:08 You’re going to do a webinar.
    0:43:15 It will spin up the landing page, the email, the ad assets, everything for you and does all
    0:43:16 the manual work in the background.
    0:43:22 And then we also have a product that our co-founder or mesh started called Agent.ai, which is a marketplace
    0:43:26 of agents where you can go and anybody can build or use different agents.
    0:43:32 It’s kind of like a modern automation marketplace where if you have a problem, you can either use
    0:43:35 Agent.ai to build it or somebody’s already built it and you can just use their agent.
    0:43:41 Like a really good example is there’s a company research agent that will give you like a McKinsey
    0:43:44 analyst level kind of deep detail briefing.
    0:43:48 Who’s the CEO, funding history, core products, competitors, the whole thing.
    0:43:51 And it’ll do it in like two minutes, right?
    0:43:52 Perfectly formatted for free.
    0:43:55 That is just a game changer when it comes to agents.
    0:44:02 If you are in marketing and in sales and you’re feeling overwhelmed with AI and leveraging AI,
    0:44:03 how would you approach it?
    0:44:07 I would pick one AI tool and get really good at it.
    0:44:09 And for marketers, that’s probably Claude.
    0:44:12 For sellers, that’s probably ChatGPT.
    0:44:14 And you’re going to use those tools.
    0:44:15 The reason I say Claude has the best taste.
    0:44:16 It’s really good at writing.
    0:44:22 You can upload to projects in Claude and have really great specific, highly repeatable writing
    0:44:24 output that’s core to marketing.
    0:44:31 For sellers, I think one of the best AI features that exists on the planet is ChatGPT’s deep
    0:44:37 research feature where you can have it go and just build a incredibly complex research report.
    0:44:42 And it might research a problem for 5, 10, 20 minutes with all these different agents in
    0:44:44 the background going and doing that.
    0:44:51 And you having the full map to an industry, the accounts within the industry, how your product
    0:44:56 maps, core competitors in that industry, those things become super valuable.
    0:44:59 So that’s where I would focus if I was just like feeling overwhelmed and not yet started.
    0:45:02 I feel like we’ve learned so much so far about marketing.
    0:45:08 I’d love to move into customer service because it’s not only important to bring in customers,
    0:45:09 we’ve got to retain them.
    0:45:13 So how does HubSpot help people in a CRM?
    0:45:16 How does that actually help with your retention, with your customer service?
    0:45:17 A few things.
    0:45:22 So one of the other agents we have is called our customer agent, and it basically helps
    0:45:23 resolve customer support.
    0:45:28 Like the average HubSpot customer solves 30% of their support questions are answered by AI,
    0:45:29 are answered by our agent.
    0:45:35 And so that’s 30% less support people, support time, founder time, depending on the size and
    0:45:36 scale of company that you have to spend.
    0:45:41 And if you focus on it, we’ve seen customers get to like 50, 60% deflection, which is huge,
    0:45:43 saves so much time and so much money.
    0:45:51 And the biggest reason why that’s important is because in today’s internet, where everything
    0:45:55 is highly competitive, as we’ve talked all show about, it’s never been easier for a customer
    0:45:55 to switch.
    0:45:58 So your core economics are going to be retaining that customer.
    0:46:03 I’m sure you see that your best customers are people who take multiple courses, people who
    0:46:05 do multiple purchases with you.
    0:46:11 And if you don’t have good customer service, good onboarding, good customer support, man,
    0:46:12 they’re going to be out really quick.
    0:46:17 And I think it’s one of the things most entrepreneurs overlook early on.
    0:46:21 They get so obsessed with sales and bringing those customers in, they’re like, oh gosh, why
    0:46:23 did like 80% of my customers leave this year?
    0:46:25 That’s because I haven’t been focused on it at all.
    0:46:27 I don’t have any of the infrastructure to actually focus on it.
    0:46:34 How can we better align marketing and sales so that we have the best customer service?
    0:46:38 Customer service is largely about setting expectations, right?
    0:46:40 Which is, do I know what I bought?
    0:46:43 Do I know what I’m going to use the thing I bought for?
    0:46:46 And do I know how I’m going to think that that’s valuable?
    0:46:49 If the answer to those things are yes, that customer is normally pretty happy.
    0:46:51 If it’s no, they’re going to be pretty unhappy.
    0:46:55 And so marketing’s job is to set up the value proposition early on.
    0:47:01 A sales job is to not oversell, to not make promises that the product can’t keep, and to
    0:47:06 understand that customer’s business enough to understand that this is how you’re actually
    0:47:08 going to use this thing once you buy it.
    0:47:13 And then customer success and customer supporter, their job is to help you get onboarded and get
    0:47:15 any blockers.
    0:47:16 Because there’s always unique things.
    0:47:20 Your business has this problem that isn’t relevant to our other customers that we need
    0:47:20 to help you solve.
    0:47:25 And once you fix those problems, the customer’s going to be very happy.
    0:47:28 It’s normally in one of those stages where things go off the rails.
    0:47:33 We just rolled out a new customer survey to try to see how our agency clients are feeling,
    0:47:34 how our network clients are feeling.
    0:47:36 It was really, really helpful.
    0:47:40 Do you have any suggestions of the type of questions you should ask your customers to get
    0:47:40 their feedback?
    0:47:47 The most helpful thing that we have done and learned over the years is we always run a monthly
    0:47:50 net promoter score survey with our customers.
    0:47:53 Net promoter score is a question we all see.
    0:47:55 How likely are you to rank the company from one to 10?
    0:47:57 And please tell us why.
    0:48:00 And the score, kind of important.
    0:48:03 The tell us why is very important.
    0:48:09 And the reason for that is you get a real sentiment as to what people value or like or dislike about
    0:48:10 your product.
    0:48:15 And now with AI, if you run a survey like that, you can take all of those text responses
    0:48:17 and just get the core themes very quickly.
    0:48:25 And what your job is with any customer surveying and why I think NPS is so good is to not have
    0:48:27 problems be festering and systemic.
    0:48:28 You always want new problems.
    0:48:31 So it’s like, oh, our customer support’s back.
    0:48:31 Great.
    0:48:33 Let’s fix our customer support.
    0:48:35 And then you won’t hear anything about customer support.
    0:48:40 You’ll hear about a new thing like product speed or, oh, our client portal is tricky.
    0:48:41 You hear all these things, right?
    0:48:48 And so I think the net promoter score question is the best because it gives you where the big
    0:48:49 root cause are.
    0:48:52 When you ask specific questions, you often get the symptoms without the root cause.
    0:48:56 I want to close out our interview with some scenarios that I think are going to be really
    0:48:56 fun.
    0:48:57 Okay.
    0:49:00 So you are a brand new entrepreneur.
    0:49:04 You have like a little bit of money, but mostly you have time.
    0:49:05 So you have time to invest.
    0:49:09 What would you do for your marketing strategy launching a new company?
    0:49:09 All right.
    0:49:12 If I’m time rich and money poor, what would I do?
    0:49:19 The first thing I am doing is I am figuring out what type of creator I need to be, right?
    0:49:21 Am I going to be YouTube, LinkedIn?
    0:49:22 What’s my product?
    0:49:22 What’s my market?
    0:49:26 And I got to start creating and I got to create on the daily because I’m time rich.
    0:49:30 I got the time to make every day and I got to make something every day.
    0:49:33 And I’m going to use AI tools to help me keep up the pace of production.
    0:49:36 And they’re free to very low cost.
    0:49:38 So I can take advantage of that.
    0:49:43 And then the second thing I’m going to do is I’m going to find one area where my target
    0:49:49 audience spends a lot of time that I might be able to reach them in a very interesting
    0:49:50 way.
    0:49:54 Like an example of this is the early days of LinkedIn groups, right?
    0:49:59 What you could do in the early days of LinkedIn groups is sponsor messages to that the group
    0:50:00 owner could send to the entire group.
    0:50:03 And we would go and we would spend money to do that.
    0:50:05 And nobody else was doing that.
    0:50:09 And we got hugely efficient lead generation by doing that.
    0:50:12 And it’s just like, oh, a million marketers in this group.
    0:50:14 Nobody is really going after them.
    0:50:15 How do we get them?
    0:50:18 I think the whole theme of this episode is unfair advantage.
    0:50:21 I remember when I started my podcast, I started on LinkedIn.
    0:50:25 I wanted to target young professionals and nobody was talking about podcasts.
    0:50:27 Nobody was putting up anything about podcasts.
    0:50:30 And then I became the number one podcaster on LinkedIn.
    0:50:33 But it was already a channel where people were hanging out.
    0:50:34 They just weren’t doing what I was doing.
    0:50:39 So what is your way of cutting through the noise and getting in front of a lot of people
    0:50:40 in a creative way?
    0:50:45 OK, now, what if you exited a company, you’re slightly older, you’ve got more experience,
    0:50:49 you’ve got some money, but you’ve got a family, you’ve got a lot going on, but you do want to
    0:50:50 start a new company.
    0:50:52 What would you do to market your company?
    0:50:54 Money richer, time poor.
    0:50:56 Yeah, exactly.
    0:50:56 OK.
    0:51:02 If I have some resources to do this, it’s not going to be that dissimilar.
    0:51:07 I think the channels work, how I’m going to accomplish those channels.
    0:51:13 I’d probably still be a creator, but I would hire an agency to help me do all the post-production,
    0:51:16 to do the research, do all that.
    0:51:17 And I would use AI to prep.
    0:51:22 But I would need somebody if I was time poor to tell me, oh, these topics suck.
    0:51:23 They’re not working.
    0:51:24 These are the new topics we should do.
    0:51:30 They kind of give you the cheat sheet of editorial and iteration for sure.
    0:51:34 And then if you have some money, you can use programmatic ad platforms.
    0:51:40 You can use Google, you can use Meta, that will give you enough baseline revenue to kind
    0:51:41 of start reinvesting.
    0:51:44 And so I would probably use YouTube ads, to be honest with you.
    0:51:50 YouTube ad targeting is great, and the cost is so much lower than Google and Facebook and
    0:51:52 Instagram that I would probably do that.
    0:51:53 Yeah.
    0:51:55 There’s plenty of agencies, like my agency, for example.
    0:51:56 Yes.
    0:51:57 I was sure to show up.
    0:51:59 We do everything for you.
    0:52:03 If you want a podcast, you show up to record, or we literally just write everything on your
    0:52:03 behalf.
    0:52:06 So if you’ve got money, you can invest, like you said, in an agency.
    0:52:10 I know we only have a couple of minutes left, so I got to wrap up, even though I really want
    0:52:12 to keep asking you more questions.
    0:52:16 So the last questions that I have, I ask all of my guests.
    0:52:19 And this doesn’t have to do with, you don’t have to even talk about marketing.
    0:52:20 You can talk about whatever you want.
    0:52:25 So what is one actionable thing our young and profiters can do today to become more profitable
    0:52:26 tomorrow?
    0:52:28 Start using AI.
    0:52:34 Pick a foundational model, chat GPT, Claude, Google Gemini, and use it every day.
    0:52:37 Once or twice a day, every day.
    0:52:37 Build the habit.
    0:52:39 It’s very important for the future.
    0:52:42 And what is your secret to profiting in life?
    0:52:44 And this can go beyond financial.
    0:52:48 I just bought a piece of art that says, if you don’t know, find out, be endlessly curious.
    0:52:53 Be endlessly curious and ask questions.
    0:52:54 Never feel like you’re stupid.
    0:52:57 Just go and ask all the questions.
    0:53:00 And if you’re curious about something, just call somebody up.
    0:53:00 You’ll be shocked.
    0:53:01 People will give you time.
    0:53:04 People will give you information if you care enough to know it.
    0:53:09 And then once you have that knowledge, your life is just way better in every single way.
    0:53:13 And where can everybody learn more about you and everything that you do?
    0:53:16 You can check out HubSpot.com, product, everything there.
    0:53:20 I host Marketing Against the Grain over on YouTube and wherever you get your podcasts.
    0:53:21 You can check out Marketing Against the Grain.
    0:53:22 Perfect.
    0:53:25 And I’m really excited that I get to go on your show soon.
    0:53:26 Yeah, you’re coming on Marketing Against the Grain soon.
    0:53:26 So I can’t wait.
    0:53:27 We get to talk again.
    0:53:30 And maybe I’ll play that on this podcast so you guys can get more of Kip.
    0:53:31 I love that.
    0:53:32 I’m excited to have you on.
    0:53:33 We’ll catch up again real soon.
    0:53:34 Awesome.
    0:53:34 Thank you, Kip.
    0:53:35 Thanks, Hala.
    0:53:42 Well, that about does it for this episode.
    0:53:46 And I thought Kip Bodnar touched on so many of the key themes that I’ve been preaching
    0:53:47 for a while now.
    0:53:49 For example, I love his approach to entrepreneurship.
    0:53:53 You don’t actually have to start your own company to be an entrepreneur.
    0:53:58 You just need to think like an entrepreneur, even when you work at a large company.
    0:54:03 Like Kip said, entrepreneurship is about solving problems and finding ways to do so that others
    0:54:04 miss.
    0:54:08 And one of the best ways to do that is to find out where you have an unfair advantage
    0:54:10 over somebody else.
    0:54:12 That is where your opportunity lies.
    0:54:14 And that’s where true value can be created.
    0:54:18 Marketing is likewise about locating opportunities.
    0:54:20 What are the market inefficiencies?
    0:54:23 Where can you take advantage of arbitrage?
    0:54:24 What is undervalued?
    0:54:28 Where can you buy at a low price and sell at a high price?
    0:54:31 So where are all the opportunities in 2025?
    0:54:33 Kip pointed to several good ones.
    0:54:34 First, events.
    0:54:39 Bringing people together for shared experiences and to demonstrate your own value.
    0:54:40 Next, YouTube.
    0:54:43 Still an incredible channel to drive awareness.
    0:54:48 We also talked about blogging, including your own website, which can be an effective way to
    0:54:54 reach people, especially as more advanced AI search tools drive users to relevant content.
    0:54:57 And also, lastly, don’t sleep on email marketing.
    0:55:02 It can be really useful, especially if you use AI tools to target and personalize your messaging.
    0:55:07 Finally, whatever method, I really want you to think about what you can teach others.
    0:55:12 What do you have to offer that is thoughtful, that is interesting, that is unique, that is
    0:55:15 going to grab somebody’s collar and make them pay attention?
    0:55:19 That, after all, is what the best marketing does.
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    In today’s competitive market, many entrepreneurs, solopreneurs, business leaders, and marketers struggle to cut through the noise and scale their businesses. Kipp Bodnar’s rise from employee to Chief Marketing Officer at HubSpot in just five years demonstrates how the right mindset and focus drive success. By blending entrepreneurship, inbound marketing, and leadership, he achieved remarkable growth. In this episode, Kipp shares the most effective marketing strategies, reveals how to spot opportunities, and the key to scaling your business through content marketing, customer relationships, and AI.

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    (00:00) Introduction

    (01:24) Key Strategies for Career and Business Growth

    (10:32) The Entrepreneurial Mindset in Leadership

    (12:10) HubSpot’s Secret to Global Marketing Success

    (15:10) Inbound vs Outbound Marketing

    (17:23) Effective Content Marketing Strategies

    (22:00) Three Ways to Stand Out as a Content Creator

    (24:16) The Value of Email and Online Marketing

    (30:42) Leveraging AI in Sales and Marketing

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    (39:09) How to Market a Startup with Limited Funds

    (40:53) Marketing Strategies for Busy Entrepreneurs

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    0:02:04 Yap fam, have you ever wondered if you could rewire your brain for more happiness?
    0:02:09 My guest in this Yap Classic episode is Rick Hansen, who believes you can,
    0:02:13 and that modern science mixed with a little ancient wisdom holds the key.
    0:02:19 Rick is a renowned neuropsychologist and best-selling author of books like Hardwiring Happiness.
    0:02:24 As a practicing Buddhist, he blends ancient wisdom with cutting-edge neuroscience
    0:02:27 to help people cultivate greater joy and resilience.
    0:02:31 In this conversation, Rick broke down the science of neuroplasticity,
    0:02:36 shared quick hacks for handling stress, and introduced what he calls neurodharma,
    0:02:40 a powerful approach to deepening happiness and inner peace.
    0:02:45 So, get ready to learn simple, yet profound ways to transform your mind.
    0:02:52 First, I want to start off by hearing a little bit about your childhood.
    0:02:57 So, I learned that you had a big turning point when you were just 15 years old.
    0:02:58 You were a little bit awkward.
    0:03:05 You were unhappy and just pretty dissatisfied with life until you realized this big aha moment
    0:03:05 in your life.
    0:03:08 So, talk to us about this turning point when you were a teenager.
    0:03:10 Oh, thanks for cuing me up there.
    0:03:18 So, I grew up in a decent, fairly stable, lower-middle-class environment in Southern California.
    0:03:20 No abuse, no trauma, nothing horrible.
    0:03:25 And still, for a lot of complicated reasons, including being really young while going through school,
    0:03:27 I was really unhappy.
    0:03:33 I was a lot of awkward, a lot of miserable, a lot of neurotic, and it just seemed pretty hopeless.
    0:03:41 And right there, right about age 15, and I know it was about age 15 because I was reading Dune at the time,
    0:03:46 and the main character, Paul Madib, is also 15 when the book starts right about.
    0:03:54 And I suddenly basically realized that as bad as my past had been and as much the present might suck,
    0:04:01 the future was open to me in the sense that I could always learn a little, heal a little, and grow a little every day.
    0:04:05 I could learn how to be a little less completely tongue-tied around girls.
    0:04:14 I could learn how to be not so scared of these big aggro, you know, alpha male types in the locker room.
    0:04:19 I could learn how to manage my own mind bit by bit.
    0:04:25 And, in effect, I learned that learning itself, knowing how to help yourself develop,
    0:04:31 not just memorize the multiplication table, but develop as a person, was the strength of strengths.
    0:04:37 Learning is the superpower of superpowers because it’s the one we tap into to grow the rest of them.
    0:04:43 It took me many years, including becoming a neuropsychologist, etc., to really understand the how of that,
    0:04:48 how we can actually heighten neuroplastic change inside our own brains
    0:04:55 and gradually hardwire things like grit, gratitude, compassion, and happiness altogether into our own nervous system.
    0:05:01 And there are things we can do to do that, but the fundamental idea that I was in charge,
    0:05:05 of who I was becoming, has shaped the rest of my life.
    0:05:07 That’s an incredible story.
    0:05:14 And I can’t wait for us to dive deep on neuroplasticity and all the ways that we can improve our brain and actually change our brain.
    0:05:18 But first, you’ve got some interesting things that I want to talk about in terms of your journey.
    0:05:21 So, it turns out you started college when you were just 16 years old.
    0:05:23 So, that’s pretty incredible.
    0:05:26 How did you end up going to school so early and what was that like?
    0:05:30 Because at that age, two years difference in terms of college is a big deal.
    0:05:32 Oh, thanks for remarking that.
    0:05:34 So, I skipped a grade.
    0:05:35 It was second grade.
    0:05:36 Not a big deal.
    0:05:40 And I was a bright little kid and all the rest of that.
    0:05:41 And that had some advantages.
    0:05:49 But it also, plus my own kind of shy, anxious temperament, led me to feeling like the runt of the litter,
    0:05:53 as my dad put it, because he grew up in a ranch in North Dakota.
    0:05:55 So, I felt really shy and awkward.
    0:06:05 Going off to college, though, on the other hand, breaking away from home and having a sense of being able to step into all kinds of new possibilities was wonderful for me.
    0:06:10 And to locate it in our culture, I started UCLA in 1969.
    0:06:27 So, just imagine the height of the political changes of the time, the counterculture, all kinds of developments in psychology, the surge of Eastern wisdom coming into the West at the tail end of the 60s and early 70s.
    0:06:28 It was a wild time.
    0:06:29 It was a fertile time.
    0:06:32 It was a good time to be in school.
    0:06:34 Plus, there was a lot of great music as well.
    0:06:36 That’s so cool.
    0:06:38 I mean, it’s so great.
    0:06:41 See, I thought there was going to be something more to it.
    0:06:44 Not that you just skipped second grade, but it’s super interesting, nonetheless.
    0:06:56 And the fact that, you know, probably some of those feelings that you had is what ultimately led you to becoming who you are and what you do and what you’re passionate about today, which is just really interesting in itself.
    0:07:04 So, a key part of your journey was wanting to understand why people feel unhappy and what sparks unhappiness.
    0:07:08 So, how did this curiosity lead you to starting to study neuroscience and psychology?
    0:07:25 Maybe I’d like to kind of draw people to a level of, I don’t know, a kind of tender intimacy with themselves a little deeper and ask people, what are some of the things you knew when you were really young?
    0:07:29 Maybe you didn’t have words for it, but you just had a knowing.
    0:07:36 You had a sense of what it was like for people around you or you had a sense of who you were, your fundamental capabilities.
    0:07:43 Maybe there was a dream for your life that really was starting to take form even when you were in kindergarten.
    0:07:51 And for me, in my earliest memories, and I have a lot of memory of my childhood going all the way back probably to late two years old,
    0:08:11 In all of them is this wistful, poignant sense of the needless unhappiness, the needless strife, the needless bickering, nothing horrible, but the needless hassles, the needless stresses, the needless worries, the needless feeling less than other people or being uncertain about where we stand with other people.
    0:08:26 Just ick, needless, needless, and so yeah, absolutely, I had this sense of it and this kind of movement, not just observing it, but a movement of compassion, a movement of compassionate action to do what one can.
    0:08:45 I think so many people, I suspect for you as well, right, in your own background, moving you to do what you do, there also was that sense that there’s so much unnecessary unhappiness and there’s so much more well-being and harmony,
    0:08:59 even in a very real world, including in a competitive marketplace, that we can forge together and there’s a movement in you, a movement in me, and probably a movement in many other people as well to try to be helpful in that way.
    0:09:14 Yeah, totally. I think you bring a really solid point across the fact that so many of us, we live decently privileged lives, you know, and we all have food on the table, most of us are able to go to school and just, you know, we have roofs over our heads.
    0:09:21 And we take all this for granted and like the little things become such a big deal, even though we have so much to be thankful for.
    0:09:23 And so I think that’s a really great point.
    0:09:35 So I want to talk about Buddhism because, like we just mentioned, you grew up decently privileged, you know, you’re from LA, like, it’s pretty unique that your religion is Buddhism.
    0:09:39 So talk to us about how you fell in love with that ancient Asian religion.
    0:09:42 Oh, sweet. So I grew up a casual Methodist.
    0:09:50 That was kind of the framework and tons of respect, certainly for Jesus as a teacher and a realized being.
    0:09:55 That said, the forms of all that just didn’t somehow connect with me.
    0:10:02 The way it was communicated just felt kind of small and dogmatic and kind of bossy.
    0:10:07 So then I land in college, the doors are kicked wide open, right?
    0:10:10 And we’re talking 1969, 70 and all the rest of that.
    0:10:19 And toward the end of college, I just had an interest in seeing, oh, what’s out there in the Eastern traditions, which I didn’t know really anything about.
    0:10:25 And I encountered Buddhist teachings, which in the roots of them are arguably not even religious.
    0:10:27 They’re psychological, essentially.
    0:10:35 Basically, the fundamental observation of the Buddha is that everything is connected to everything else and is continually changing.
    0:10:43 And if we flow with that river, if we ride that horse in the direction it’s going, we suffer less and we harm less.
    0:10:58 On the other hand, if we fight the fact that things are changing and we try to cling to our experiences and try to make certain things happen inside our minds and we try to push away various things, we create suffering and harm for ourselves and other people, pure and simple.
    0:11:01 And so that’s kind of where it really began for me.
    0:11:20 And I guess I should add as well that that’s what’s been the heart of the matter for me, these fundamental, very psychological teachings about the deep nature of the mind and what are the causes of our happiness and well-being and welfare and harmony in the way we live with others.
    0:11:25 And then how can we embody those causes through personal practice, learning, right?
    0:11:33 Now we’re coming back to that principle of learning, personal development, cultivation of what’s skillful and useful and good and enjoyable inside ourselves.
    0:11:36 How can we actually develop ourselves in that way?
    0:11:38 So that’s my orientation to all this.
    0:11:45 And later on, I learned a lot about both clinical psychology and then certainly neuroscience.
    0:12:01 So if you think about the combination of hardcore brain science, clinical psychology, and contemplative wisdom, that combination of those three things is just packed with power and full of skillful means for how we can help ourselves and other people.
    0:12:03 Yeah, 100%.
    0:12:14 And honestly, I’ve interviewed a lot of neuroscientists and neuropsychologists, and so far, nobody has brought in this element of this wisdom that you’re talking about, this Buddhism element.
    0:12:17 So it’s really unique, and I’m excited for this conversation.
    0:12:19 So let’s talk about neurodharma.
    0:12:22 Dharma is something that I didn’t know what it meant.
    0:12:25 So just starting off, what does the name mean?
    0:12:26 Oh, great.
    0:12:28 It’s a word from India originally.
    0:12:32 It means essentially the way it is, the truth of things.
    0:12:36 And it also can mean accounts of the way it is.
    0:12:48 So like a body of wisdom, we could say, whether it’s a body of wisdom in Western psychology or a body of wisdom in a particular tradition, such as the Buddhist tradition, which has many aspects to it, right?
    0:12:52 Tibetan Buddhism, Zen, pure land, other forms of it as well.
    0:13:00 And I put those two terms together because if you kind of think about it, I’m going to get a little geeky here.
    0:13:02 We can know ourselves in two ways.
    0:13:07 First, we can know ourselves subjectively from the inside out in terms of our experiences.
    0:13:13 And that was all that was available to the early teachers, such as the Buddha.
    0:13:18 And certainly until very recently, that’s the only way we could know ourselves, right?
    0:13:31 But with modern biology and then neuroscience, and then especially in the last 10, 20 years or so, neuropsychology really coming together, we can know ourselves from the outside in objectively.
    0:13:37 The combination of the two, these two ways of knowing ourselves is what I call neurodharma.
    0:13:40 And we can go back and forth, right?
    0:13:41 Here we are.
    0:13:42 We’re upset about something.
    0:13:45 Somebody, our boss frowned at us.
    0:13:49 You know, somebody else took credit for one of our good ideas.
    0:13:57 If you’re, let’s say, a woman, as our daughter has reported to us many times, you’re sitting in meetings and you say something, everybody ignores you.
    0:14:03 Then some dude down at the other end of the table says the same thing five minutes later and everybody starts clapping.
    0:14:04 Like, what?
    0:14:05 Okay, this is happening.
    0:14:07 It’s happening inside your mind.
    0:14:09 That’s what you’re experiencing.
    0:14:18 Meanwhile, if you want, you can also know, oh, I’ve got this amygdala that is very sensitized to negative experiences.
    0:14:30 And so it will routinely turbocharge something that’s kind of a one or a two on the object of yuckiness scale, but make me feel like an eight or a nine in terms of being pissed off or wounded or hurt.
    0:14:45 Oh, I can know that about myself and I can also know maybe objectively that my amygdala got sensitized when I grew up in a pretty critical family or in a culture that was pretty critical or shaming, maybe body shaming or who knows what else it was doing, right?
    0:15:01 And by knowing that objectively about the hardware, you know, the three pounds of tofu-like tissue inside the coconut and how it’s cooking away, knowing that objectively, right, about ourselves can be matched together with the subjective internal experience.
    0:15:10 Which then, let’s say, might move you just going, hmm, knowing, let’s say, that the amygdala has oxytocin receptors on it.
    0:15:17 In other words, it has receptors for a neurochemical that’s released with experiences of healthy connection.
    0:15:27 And the action at those receptor sites on the amygdala is calming and inhibitory, like pumping the brakes in a car that’s, you know, running away now down a mountain.
    0:15:32 Knowing that, aha, there I am, upset about, let’s say, this thing that happened at work.
    0:15:43 But I can now deliberately think about or draw in the feeling of being with people, real people, including maybe my dog or my cat, who actually care about me.
    0:15:49 And when I bring them to mind, I start feeling more connected, more warm-hearted, maybe my caring for them as well.
    0:16:00 And that is going to increase oxytocin activity in my brain and calm down my poor little amygdala that’s flashing red right now.
    0:16:02 That’s an example of neurodharma.
    0:16:04 It’s super fascinating.
    0:16:07 Why is it important to be in this calm, steady state?
    0:16:10 Like, why is that the best state to be in?
    0:16:12 I would say it like this.
    0:16:13 So, you know, I’m a real person.
    0:16:15 I’ve done a lot of rock climbing, for example.
    0:16:19 And, you know, I can kind of get excited and intense and so forth.
    0:16:27 I think what’s really helpful is to be able to sustain a kind of steadiness of self-awareness.
    0:16:30 And I think that’s what you’re really talking about.
    0:16:40 Around that steadiness of self-awareness, sustained mindfulness of what’s happening inside and outside, around that can be all the emotions in the world.
    0:16:42 There can be passions sometime.
    0:16:47 There can be great peacefulness and tranquility at other times.
    0:16:48 It’s all okay.
    0:16:50 But meanwhile, there is this steadiness of mind.
    0:16:55 And that’s why, as you know, unlike many people who’ve interviewed me, you actually read my book.
    0:16:56 Thank you.
    0:16:57 To your credit.
    0:17:08 You know, as you know, the steadiness of mind is the first of these seven qualities of ultimately awakening that we can certainly use to great benefit, meanwhile.
    0:17:10 And we can train.
    0:17:20 And it’s especially important to train in our hyper-distractable, multitasking, flooded with stimuli, endlessly distracted time and culture.
    0:17:32 It’s really important to be able to stabilize your own attention so you can plop it onto what’s useful and keep it there or pull it away from what’s not helpful, including ruminating about something that’s bugging you.
    0:17:47 Totally. And it’s so funny, like you’re taking everything from like a very scientific level, but I talk to experts and very successful billionaires and CEOs, and they also just have gut feeling when I ask them questions like, what is your secret to profiting in life?
    0:17:49 It’s one of the last questions I ask on the show.
    0:17:52 And a lot of answers are being even keeled.
    0:17:53 You know, don’t be too high.
    0:17:54 Don’t be too low.
    0:17:57 If something really bad happens, you know, don’t get into a rut.
    0:18:00 If something really good happens, you know, don’t get too cocky.
    0:18:04 Everybody says that, you know, you’re taking it from a different perspective, but I totally agree there.
    0:18:06 Can I build on what you just said there?
    0:18:07 Yes.
    0:18:07 Sorry.
    0:18:09 So this is great.
    0:18:15 So I’m talking first, and I misunderstood you, I think a little bit, about steadiness of mind.
    0:18:21 Additionally, you’re talking about what could be called equanimity, being even keeled, right?
    0:18:28 Because you can have steadiness of mind while being roaring upset about something and super rattled by it.
    0:18:33 But at least you’re steadily aware, which is better than being swept away.
    0:18:36 Additionally, I totally agree.
    0:18:41 And I think a lot about what it feels like in which we can be authentic.
    0:18:42 You know, I’m a longtime therapist, too.
    0:18:44 People are upset.
    0:18:45 Things happen.
    0:18:47 Other people are jerks.
    0:18:49 You’re living in a time of COVID right now.
    0:18:50 We’re tired.
    0:18:52 We’re two-plus years in.
    0:18:53 Come on, right?
    0:18:55 We feel these things.
    0:18:58 We can authentically feel what we feel.
    0:19:08 Nothing in what you and I are talking about is about lying about how we really feel or suppressing it or joining with others who are trying to suppress how we really feel.
    0:19:13 Or talk us out of it or blame us for how we feel based on how they treated us.
    0:19:14 We’re not saying anything like this.
    0:19:32 What we are saying, as you well know, is that a person can maintain and grow a core, what feels like a core of being inside themselves that has resilient well-being in it, is calm and steady.
    0:19:46 And even keeled, as you said, even when the world around us is flashing red, even when there’s physical pain or sorrow or fear or anger flying around inside your mind, there can be that felt sense of a core of being.
    0:19:53 And what’s really interesting is to build it out increasingly through positive neuroplasticity.
    0:19:59 We can gradually build up this kind of resting state, this sort of underlying touchstone.
    0:20:00 It feels like home.
    0:20:05 You know, you can get in touch with it, you can come home to it, and you can stay in touch with it.
    0:20:09 And over time, it can become more and more your resting place.
    0:20:15 And as you look out at the world going, whoa, there’s a lot of wild stuff flying around out there.
    0:20:26 Yeah, and I know it takes a lot of practice, and it takes a lot of building to make it more of a habit and to actually change your brain, like the makeup of your brain, which we’ll get into.
    0:20:35 So I do want to dig in on some more definitions, because I think the concept of awakening is one that a lot of us have heard about, but we don’t really know exactly what it means.
    0:20:41 And I know the foundation of your book is about cultivating seven ways that are the essence of awakening.
    0:20:42 So what is awakening exactly?
    0:20:43 Okay, great.
    0:20:50 So, like I said, I’ve done a lot of rock climbing, and I’ve gone out with a friend of mine, several friends.
    0:20:57 And one of my friends, when we get out into wilderness, he just wants to plop in a camp chair with a cup of coffee, a cigar, and a good novel.
    0:20:59 Okay, I get it.
    0:21:00 I can relate.
    0:21:04 My other buddy is a little bit more like me.
    0:21:10 Like, after we kind of settle out and have breakfast, we look around, and then we’ll see some kind of mountain or hill or peak, and we’ll think,
    0:21:14 wow, it would just be super cool to get up there, right?
    0:21:16 What’s up there at the upper reaches?
    0:21:19 So there is something in us that is curious.
    0:21:30 After we work through a certain amount of just feeling bad about ourselves and bad in the world, and, you know, we’re upset a lot with other people,
    0:21:35 and that kind of starts to stabilize some, we’re doing okay, we’re doing okay.
    0:21:41 For many people, there’s a movement toward the upper reaches of human potential.
    0:21:48 How much stability of deep contentment, peacefulness, and love is actually possible?
    0:21:57 And what in the world are people talking about who, in all the traditions of the world, including those of the first people, the indigenous people?
    0:22:07 There are people who are like the Olympic athletes, it’s said, of personal development, and they seem radiant.
    0:22:09 Some of them seem saintly.
    0:22:14 Some of them function within a very specific religious tradition.
    0:22:17 Others seem to be outside of any particular religious tradition.
    0:22:23 And yet, they have qualities about them that seem very admirable and desirable.
    0:22:27 And we think to ourselves, whoa, I’d like a little more of that myself, right?
    0:22:34 So, one of the powerful principles, whether it’s in business or athletics or just everyday life,
    0:22:39 we look to people who are a step farther along, or maybe 10 steps farther along,
    0:22:43 and we look at them and we do a kind of reverse engineering.
    0:22:50 What are the qualities that they have that we could internalize and live from increasingly in ourselves?
    0:22:54 Which I think is one of the great services that you perform in your podcast,
    0:22:57 because in part yourself and also those you talk with,
    0:23:02 you’re giving the rest of us access to some of what it’s like to be those people
    0:23:07 that we can actually, that’s within reach for us to bring into ourselves.
    0:23:16 And so, in that sense, I think of awakening very broadly as the gradual process of waking up
    0:23:21 and moving increasingly up the mountain of human potential.
    0:23:25 Whatever route we take could be an entirely secular route.
    0:23:27 It could be a more religious route.
    0:23:28 It could be a more spiritual route.
    0:23:32 As we move up the mountain, those different routes start to converge.
    0:23:40 And we find as well that on each of those routes, the same seven steps again and again and again,
    0:23:43 which I’m sure we’ll get into in a second, what are those seven steps.
    0:23:45 But that’s the fundamental process of awakening.
    0:23:48 I think of it as the birthright of all of us.
    0:23:53 A person doesn’t have to go all the way to the top to be inspired.
    0:23:59 I will never climb Mount Everest, but I’m inspired by what it is like at the top there and the fact
    0:24:02 that people actually get up to the very top.
    0:24:08 And I can use that in my more, you know, humdrum, you know, local rock climbing kind of adventures.
    0:24:11 So, that’s the thing I would just say.
    0:24:16 And the things that we’re going to talk about are not just for so-called spiritual practice.
    0:24:18 Man, oh man, oh man.
    0:24:20 They are so useful.
    0:24:25 I have a good background in business and they are so useful in the trenches of everyday life.
    0:24:27 Oh, 100%.
    0:24:28 I couldn’t agree more there.
    0:24:32 I mean, it’s really just kind of like emotional intelligence, to be honest.
    0:24:35 When I was reading your stuff, I was like, oh, this is really just how to like control
    0:24:41 yourself and make sure that, you know, you don’t, you know, go out either like mentally,
    0:24:45 you know, get into a rut or do something wrong with other people.
    0:24:53 And also, what kind of, I mean, almost all of us have had an experience or more where
    0:24:55 everything just clicks.
    0:25:00 You know, you’re at the beach or the barbecue or your child is born or you’re just hanging
    0:25:08 out or you walk outside, you see the stars, something, and kaboosh, all your cares and
    0:25:09 concerns fall away.
    0:25:11 You’re still functioning.
    0:25:15 You’re still aware of that email you need to write, the thing you need to do in the morning,
    0:25:17 but it just falls away.
    0:25:25 And you feel just dropped in to a deep sense of well-being and all rightness, often with
    0:25:32 a sense of some kind of maybe mysterious connection to everything, extending beyond time and space
    0:25:32 even.
    0:25:34 And we’ve all had a sense of that.
    0:25:37 Most of us certainly have had a sense of that.
    0:25:42 Well, why not spend more time there, right?
    0:25:47 Why not have that be more and more of your daily living?
    0:25:54 And when people spend more time there, they don’t become selfish, narcissistic navel-gazers.
    0:26:03 They actually are moved increasingly to be helpful to other people, to cause less trouble, and to,
    0:26:05 you know, bring others along into their own stream of happiness.
    0:26:07 Yeah, why not go for it?
    0:26:09 Why not develop ourselves in that way?
    0:26:14 And, you know, as you’re talking about this, I can’t help but think of the opposite of that,
    0:26:16 which is really monkey mind, right?
    0:26:23 So I’d love for you to explain what monkey mind is and how a lot of us really operate every single
    0:26:24 moment of our lives.
    0:26:32 Well, it’s a great term for this notion that the monkey, the internal subject, the I, as it were,
    0:26:41 is looking out through multiple sense windows, sights, sounds, smells, and then also looking out
    0:26:45 through the window of thoughts or images, memories, emotions, and all the rest of that.
    0:26:46 Okay.
    0:26:47 And the monkey’s bouncing around.
    0:26:48 Brr, brr, brr, brr, brr, brr, brr.
    0:26:54 And, you know, we all have that sense that we’re living inside a kind of popcorn machine.
    0:26:58 We’re thinking about this, then we dart to that, that our mind goes here.
    0:27:01 It’s the definition of no steadiness of mind, right?
    0:27:02 There’s no control.
    0:27:07 And I think of attention as a combination spotlight and vacuum cleaner.
    0:27:11 What we’re paying attention to is illuminated by intention.
    0:27:20 And through neuroplasticity, we are drawing what we’re paying attention to into ourselves with
    0:27:26 a negative bias because the brain is like Velcro for bad experiences, but Teflon for positive ones.
    0:27:32 So getting control of that spotlight and vacuum cleaner is critically important.
    0:27:36 And monkey mind is the definition of not having control.
    0:27:42 A certain key point here, you know, people can sometimes dismiss this as new agey or a fairy or
    0:27:46 yoga camp or something or other, but actually it’s as hardcore as it gets.
    0:27:51 Because if you don’t have this kind of quality of both steadiness of mind and that internal
    0:27:54 even-keeledness, you’re not in charge of yourself.
    0:27:57 You’re therefore not in charge of your life.
    0:27:58 You’re not autonomous.
    0:28:05 You’re a puppet, frankly, being pulled by the strings of your environment and the reactions
    0:28:10 inside your body-mind, you know, to your environment.
    0:28:16 And so if you want autonomy, if you really want to be in charge of yourself, the cultivation of
    0:28:20 steadiness of mind and, you know, that emotional balance, the even-keeledness you talk about is
    0:28:21 deeply important.
    0:28:29 And also there’s the opportunity to be competent, to become more skillful at this kind of stuff.
    0:28:34 I know so many people who’ve invested deeply in getting good at stuff that they know doesn’t
    0:28:39 matter very much at their job or their golf game or something like that, and yet they’ll
    0:28:44 hardly put five minutes a day into getting more competent at managing their own thoughts
    0:28:46 and feelings in their own inner world.
    0:28:52 Yeah, it is super important to do that because most of our thoughts are unconscious or subconscious.
    0:28:56 I think it’s only 4% of our thoughts are actually things that we can control.
    0:29:01 And the rest is just good habits and really just redesigning our brain like you talk about.
    0:29:04 Let’s hold that thought and take a quick break with our sponsors.
    0:29:16 So to help further drive this point, I’d love for you to explain how we actually react to things
    0:29:18 on a biological level.
    0:29:21 Like, how does our brain influence the way that we react to our reality?
    0:29:24 Super deep question.
    0:29:25 Really great.
    0:29:28 So this is a major topic in science.
    0:29:33 Neuroscience is a baby science, especially if you compare it, say, to astronomy, you know,
    0:29:35 starting a couple thousand years ago.
    0:29:40 The basic idea is that we are having thoughts and feelings.
    0:29:41 We’re having reactions.
    0:29:46 Sites are occurring, sounds, sensations, memories, images, plans, all the rest of that.
    0:29:55 All of that stuff correlates in some ways that are still not entirely clear with underlying neurobiological
    0:29:56 activity.
    0:30:02 So we have mind and matter, two aspects of reality that are correlating together.
    0:30:13 The growing understanding is that our mental processes, our experiences, which are enlisting underlying
    0:30:20 physical activities, processes in our nervous system to proceed, our mental activities that
    0:30:30 are enlisting these neural activities can force a kind of lasting trace to be left behind for our own
    0:30:34 and growing skillfulness, happiness, resilience, and well-being.
    0:30:40 We can actually use our minds to change our brains, to change our minds for the better through
    0:30:42 positive neuroplasticity.
    0:30:44 That’s kind of the big picture.
    0:30:46 And there are so many examples of that.
    0:30:52 There’s tons of research that shows, for example, that people who’ve had a lot of stressful or traumatic
    0:30:57 experiences have sensitized, as I was saying earlier, their amygdala.
    0:31:00 So they react more readily and more loudly.
    0:31:07 And chronic stress also, through cortisol release, weakens a nearby part of the brain, the hippocampus,
    0:31:12 which is supposed to put the brakes on the amygdala and also put things in context.
    0:31:19 And third, the hippocampus signals the hypothalamus, another underlying part of your brain, to stop
    0:31:20 calling for stress hormones.
    0:31:28 This might seem a little technical or mechanistic, but it has actually huge implications that being
    0:31:36 irritated, frustrated, driven, pressured, contracted, et cetera, et cetera, today, let alone being traumatized
    0:31:44 today, gradually makes us more vulnerable and reactive to stressors and pressures tomorrow.
    0:31:51 So it’s really important, first, to engage in mindfulness, which research also shows, does
    0:31:59 various things inside your brain that acts like a circuit breaker so that we can be having negative
    0:32:02 emotions like fear or anger flowing through awareness.
    0:32:08 But if we’re mindful of them, there’s a spaciousness, there’s a distance from that, that stops the
    0:32:12 reinforcement of the negativity and the sensitization inside our own brain.
    0:32:19 And as just a very cool, quick hack, I’ll tell people two things they can do that are grounded
    0:32:22 in really recent research that are super neat.
    0:32:28 One is, if you’re upset about something or you’re in a stressful situation or the oatmeal is really
    0:32:30 hitting the fan around you, right?
    0:32:33 Tune into the internal sensations of breathing.
    0:32:34 You could even do it right now.
    0:32:38 Get a sense of the air flowing in and air flowing out.
    0:32:40 It’s not airy-fairy.
    0:32:42 It’s as grounded as it gets.
    0:32:49 The internal sense of your chest or lungs or belly expanding as you inhale and kind of coming
    0:32:50 back in as you exhale.
    0:32:52 Just taking privately.
    0:32:54 No one needs to know you’re doing that in the board meeting, right?
    0:33:00 Just doing it internally activates a part of your brain that’s called the insula.
    0:33:05 The insula is a region or two of them on the inside of the temporal lobes on either side.
    0:33:10 And the insula is very involved with interoception, a technical term for tuning into yourself,
    0:33:12 including your gut feelings.
    0:33:19 So as you tune into yourself, the insula gets more active, which immediately quiets, like
    0:33:24 a circuit breaker, the so-called default mode network of your brain.
    0:33:30 I call it the ruminator, which is where we go when we’re starting to spin out with our monkey
    0:33:36 mind resentments, regrets, self-criticism, woulda, coulda, shoulda, fantasies of vengeance, and
    0:33:40 all the rest of that, just tuning in to your internal sensations.
    0:33:48 And you can just kind of play with it immediately quiets the internal monkey mind and relaxes the
    0:33:50 sense of being a beleaguered self.
    0:33:50 Just that.
    0:33:51 That’s a quick hack.
    0:33:57 You know, half, five seconds, a few seconds, one breath, boom, you’re starting to feel the
    0:33:57 benefit.
    0:34:01 Second quick hack, lift your gaze to the horizon.
    0:34:07 Look out the window, look across the room, get a sense of the bigger picture, or just
    0:34:08 even imagine it.
    0:34:16 Neurologically, what that does is it moves you out of this kind of egocentric, self-referential,
    0:34:18 oh, what are they doing to me?
    0:34:20 Or I’m going to get them, or my precious.
    0:34:28 Moves us out of that kind of tense, contracted place into a more objective view, a big picture
    0:34:34 view, which feels much less stressful, much more in the present moment, and much more
    0:34:35 effective.
    0:34:40 So just right there, two little hacks, tuning into the internal sensations of breathing or
    0:34:46 lifting your gaze to the horizon somehow, can immediately, neurologically, this is evidence-based,
    0:34:51 change the way your brain is functioning, which then in turn changes the way your mind is
    0:34:55 functioning, and therefore in turn changes the way your life functions as well.
    0:34:56 I love that.
    0:34:59 We love actionable advice on the podcast.
    0:35:05 So let’s talk about this neuroplasticity in terms of the fact that it doesn’t happen overnight.
    0:35:12 You need to practice with mindfulness, meditation, hours, days, months, years, so that you can
    0:35:16 actually change the biological format of your brain.
    0:35:21 And I’d love to kind of drive this point home by talking about how your brain changes depending
    0:35:24 on how experienced you are with meditation.
    0:35:30 So let’s take a person who did like a three-day meditation workshop versus somebody who spent
    0:35:35 months meditating versus a Tibetan monk who spent their whole lifetime meditating.
    0:35:37 How does their brain kind of change?
    0:35:38 This is great.
    0:35:46 So first off, neuroplasticity just basically means that the nervous system changes or is
    0:35:49 changeable based on the information flowing through it.
    0:35:54 And the information flowing through it is the basis for what we experience in terms of our
    0:35:54 unconsciousness.
    0:35:55 All right.
    0:36:03 Those changes can happen within half a second, actually, as different neurons fire together,
    0:36:06 different neurochemicals flow.
    0:36:10 It’s kind of extraordinary just to imagine how small things are.
    0:36:16 I mean, you could put the cell body of roughly five neurons, typical neurons, side by side in the
    0:36:17 width of one of your hairs.
    0:36:22 The little connections between neurons, the synapses, you could put several thousand of them
    0:36:25 side by side in the width of a single hair.
    0:36:25 Okay.
    0:36:28 So it’s really, things happen really fast.
    0:36:34 More structural, not just functional changes, typically take seconds or minutes or days.
    0:36:41 It’s a longer process whereby new connections form between neurons, existing connections become
    0:36:47 sensitized or desensitized, neurochemical ebbs and flows kind of shift over time.
    0:36:53 Different larger regions of the brain can start coordinating more effectively with each other.
    0:37:01 Those kind of changes can take longer to stabilize, but the beginning of it is typically a breath
    0:37:01 at a time.
    0:37:09 And when we talk about how much it takes to actually change things for the better over time, honestly,
    0:37:13 my kind of bedrock threshold is five minutes a day.
    0:37:16 Just five minutes a day.
    0:37:22 Most people will not put five minutes a day into some kind of personal practice, but even
    0:37:28 if you give it that much, let alone more, like 20 minutes a day or 45 minutes a day, any kind
    0:37:35 of practice, gratitude practice, compassion practices, meditation, affirmations, focusing
    0:37:40 on your self-worth, building up kind of a lovingness in your own heart, whatever, or maybe even a religious
    0:37:43 practice, whatever it actually might be for you.
    0:37:45 It’s the law of little things.
    0:37:50 It’s usually lots of little bad things that moved us to a bad place, and it’s going to be
    0:37:55 lots of little good things that move us to a better one, which for me is extraordinarily hopeful.
    0:37:58 It’s profoundly hopeful because that’s what’s under our control.
    0:38:03 It’s the little things in the most important minute of our life, which is the next one, minute
    0:38:05 minute after minute, continuously.
    0:38:07 That’s where we actually have influence.
    0:38:11 And so it’s up to us to use that influence, and no one can defeat us.
    0:38:15 No one can stop us from doing that, which I just love fantastically.
    0:38:20 So all that said, I can tell you how your brain changes because you seem like a meditator, and I
    0:38:24 can tell you how your brain has probably changed over time and maybe others as well.
    0:38:29 For key areas, I’ll do this really fast because it illustrates some larger points if that’s
    0:38:29 okay.
    0:38:36 So first off, parts of your brain, typically behind the forehead, that are involved in regulating
    0:38:42 attention and also the called top-down or executive regulation of our emotions and our actions
    0:38:47 in general, those neural circuits literally build structure.
    0:38:53 New connections are forming, more blood is coming to those particular regions that are in
    0:38:56 effect kind of like the chair of the internal mental committee.
    0:39:02 You know, the physical basis for that is located in prefrontal regions, mainly right behind the
    0:39:02 forehead.
    0:39:05 Well, that’s one major change that happens.
    0:39:10 Second major change that is found in people who have a kind of a semi-decent mindfulness practice
    0:39:16 with meditation as well, is that there’s more regulation of emotions.
    0:39:22 The subcortical areas of the amygdala, the hippocampus, and so forth, those get better
    0:39:22 regulated.
    0:39:23 They’re happier.
    0:39:25 They’re less freaked out.
    0:39:26 They’re less angry.
    0:39:28 They don’t fly off the handle so much.
    0:39:33 That’s the second major change that’s found structurally in people who are longtime meditators.
    0:39:35 Third major change is greater body awareness.
    0:39:37 People become more in touch with themselves.
    0:39:43 And being in touch with your body is the foundation of being in touch with your emotions and your
    0:39:48 deep, deep longings and important values and most heartfelt desires.
    0:39:54 So that’s a great third change as well, including through structural changes, particularly in the
    0:39:57 insula, which, like I said, is involved in body awareness.
    0:39:59 And then last, the sense of self.
    0:40:01 This is very interesting.
    0:40:07 People spend less and less time in the default mode network, the ruminator, which is very saturated
    0:40:13 with a sense of me, myself, and I, especially an unhappy sense of me, myself, and I.
    0:40:16 You know, I’ve been cheated and mistreated.
    0:40:17 Why don’t I get loved?
    0:40:18 Right?
    0:40:20 You know, country and western song list.
    0:40:26 And instead, that activity decreases and there’s more activity in other parts of the brain,
    0:40:31 particularly in the sides of the brain, that are more associated with a broader, more open
    0:40:33 sense of who you are.
    0:40:34 You still know who you are.
    0:40:36 You still stop at red lights.
    0:40:38 You still speak up for yourself.
    0:40:44 You don’t tolerate mistreatment of yourself or those others you care about, but it’s in
    0:40:51 a much less self-centered or beleaguered kind of way, which is, wow, an incredible relief.
    0:40:56 So those are four major changes, well-documented, in people’s brains who have a regular practice
    0:40:58 of mindfulness and especially meditation.
    0:41:00 That’s so incredible.
    0:41:05 You know, as you’re talking, all I can keep thinking is that people who meditate and who
    0:41:08 practice mindfulness, they’re just happier, right?
    0:41:11 Their default state is naturally happier.
    0:41:16 And no matter what happens in their external, they know how to process those experiences to
    0:41:22 actually just be happy and content and grateful and not let it totally off balance how they
    0:41:24 feel about themselves and how they feel about the world.
    0:41:27 So it brings me to this other really fascinating point.
    0:41:32 And I think one of the most interesting things I found in your book was this concept of add-on
    0:41:33 suffering.
    0:41:38 Because you basically brought in this concept from Buddhism and, you know, tied it together
    0:41:41 with everything and it really just helped it all come together.
    0:41:44 So explain what add-on suffering is to us.
    0:41:50 Inherently in life, there’s just a certain amount of unavoidable discomfort, physical and
    0:41:50 emotional.
    0:41:57 You know, you care about other people and if you see injustice landing on them or you just
    0:42:01 know, wow, it’s really tough for them to be dealing with what they’re dealing with, you’re
    0:42:02 going to feel it.
    0:42:07 That’s in the Buddhist metaphor, the first arrow or first dart in life.
    0:42:08 It’s inherent.
    0:42:09 It’s unavoidable.
    0:42:15 If we fight it, if we beat ourselves up about it, if we rage at others about it, it just
    0:42:15 makes it worse.
    0:42:17 That’s the add-on part.
    0:42:26 Much of our suffering, including subtle forms of uneasiness or a gnawing sense of inadequacy,
    0:42:28 I always have to keep proving myself.
    0:42:30 I have to always keep impressing other people.
    0:42:38 That is what we add to the basic conditions of life, which in and of themselves are often
    0:42:40 just conditions in life.
    0:42:41 They’re basically neutral.
    0:42:43 They’re not inherently negative.
    0:42:46 They’re not inherently a first dart, but then we get agitated about them.
    0:42:53 And when you realize that, it’s incredibly helpful because if we are the makers of the
    0:43:00 majority of our own suffering, not diminishing or not minimizing the actual first starts of
    0:43:06 life, but when we start to realize how much we add to them with our complaints about the
    0:43:13 world and ourselves, our criticism of ourselves, our nastiness toward other people, our obsessing
    0:43:19 repetitively in ways that have no added value, there’s no learning, we’re not gaining anything
    0:43:21 from doing laps around the misery track.
    0:43:26 We’re just digging that track deeper, actually, through sensitizing ourselves, in part driven
    0:43:28 by the negativity bias of the brain.
    0:43:35 When you start to realize, wow, I’m the source of that myself, A, you might be depressed for
    0:43:36 a day or two or three.
    0:43:44 I have been when I realized, darn, I was a key factor in all those things I was blaming others
    0:43:44 for.
    0:43:48 But then you start to realize, wow, that is so helpful.
    0:43:49 That is so fantastic.
    0:43:56 Because if I can stop adding, you know, add on suffering through my reactivity, my resentments,
    0:44:03 my self-criticisms, my meanness, my obsessiveness, if I stop doing that, I’m going to be so much
    0:44:08 happier and lighter and more able to be good for other people as well.
    0:44:14 And more successful, I have to say that as I was reading this, I was thinking about all
    0:44:14 the…
    0:44:17 Because I think everybody has a spectrum of their add-on suffering.
    0:44:23 There’s some people who really do it a lot and they hinder themselves from any type of
    0:44:23 growth.
    0:44:27 And then there’s some people who do it a little bit and they’re more successful because they
    0:44:32 don’t navigate the world blaming everything but themselves in terms of where they’re at
    0:44:32 in life.
    0:44:37 So given everything we’ve learned about neuroplasticity, how can we counteract this?
    0:44:38 Oh, that’s great.
    0:44:44 I think of people like you’ve described, including in business, particularly the top performers
    0:44:46 are kind of more this way.
    0:44:49 They don’t have so much friction between themselves and the world.
    0:44:51 I mean, it is what it is.
    0:44:52 They work hard.
    0:44:53 They have goals.
    0:44:54 You know, they have aims.
    0:44:55 There’s a work ethic there.
    0:44:58 But you don’t feel like they’re having friction.
    0:45:02 It’s like life, I’m doing this gesture, is a rope that moves through our hands.
    0:45:08 And as we kind of clench it, that’s what creates friction and adds on all that heat, that extra
    0:45:09 suffering.
    0:45:11 So how do we actually do that?
    0:45:17 I think of three keys, fundamentally, that are just kind of summarized as deal with the bad,
    0:45:20 turn to the good, take in the good.
    0:45:26 And that right there is really a roadmap again and again and again for dealing with life.
    0:45:28 So first off, deal with the bad.
    0:45:30 If you have real challenges, take action.
    0:45:36 You know, as a longtime therapist, I’ve really learned, man, there’s no replacement for doing
    0:45:37 what you can.
    0:45:39 Okay, you’re knocked down by life.
    0:45:42 Have some compassion for yourself.
    0:45:43 Okay, got it.
    0:45:44 Got it.
    0:45:45 Totally sucks.
    0:45:51 And what can you do about it inside your mind and out there in the world, right?
    0:45:57 Including how can you give yourself a little jumpstart, that little spark that then, you
    0:45:58 know, can move you forward.
    0:46:00 So deal with the bad.
    0:46:05 And part of dealing with the bad is accepting it mindfully.
    0:46:06 It’s there.
    0:46:08 You’re upset in the moment.
    0:46:09 It’s how you feel.
    0:46:11 It’s how you feel maybe because of your own history.
    0:46:15 If you fight how you feel, you just make it worse.
    0:46:17 It sticks around, you know, right?
    0:46:19 While we resist, persists, no.
    0:46:24 So deal with the bad in this skillful way, including through mindful spaciousness.
    0:46:31 Second, when you can, and you may not be able to do it during the first shock or the first
    0:46:36 intensity or the overwhelming pain, but as soon as you can, also turn to the good.
    0:46:37 What is also true?
    0:46:40 Out in the world and inside yourself.
    0:46:42 Who are the people you can turn to?
    0:46:45 What are the strengths you can draw upon inside yourself?
    0:46:49 What is still working alongside what has just fallen apart?
    0:46:52 What are the flowers that are still blooming?
    0:46:57 What is the goodness in the heart of other people and inside yourself?
    0:46:59 What are the possibilities that still remain?
    0:47:06 Turn to the good, not as a bypass, not as a spiritual or other kind of bypass of what is
    0:47:12 the bad, the problematic, and the painful, but in part as a way to resource yourself to deal
    0:47:18 even more effectively with what has gone so horribly wrong, turn to the good, and then especially
    0:47:20 learn from the good.
    0:47:22 Most people skip this step.
    0:47:23 They don’t take in the good.
    0:47:26 They’re experiencing something useful.
    0:47:32 A moment of feeling gritty, a moment of determination, a moment of commitment to work to their exercise
    0:47:38 program or being more patient with their aging relatives or being more rested in their own
    0:47:42 sobriety or just simple happiness or well-being.
    0:47:49 They’re having that feeling, but they don’t marinate in it for a beat or two or three or a breath or two or three.
    0:47:51 They don’t marinate in it.
    0:47:57 And so in the famous saying, the neurons that are firing together don’t yet have time to wire
    0:47:58 together as well.
    0:48:00 Take in the good.
    0:48:02 Slow it down.
    0:48:04 I talk a lot about the how of this.
    0:48:06 It usually takes a breath or two at a time.
    0:48:11 You can take longer if you really want, but slow it down to receive into yourself.
    0:48:15 You know, the hard-won fruits of whatever you’re practicing in the time.
    0:48:18 So to me, those are the big headlines, those three.
    0:48:26 And there’s a lot of research that underlies, that describes and documents the neuropsychology
    0:48:27 of this process.
    0:48:27 Yeah.
    0:48:30 And I think in your book, you said it in a really catchy way.
    0:48:34 You said, let it be, let it go, let it in.
    0:48:39 And I thought that was super catchy and something that we could just do anytime throughout the day
    0:48:41 when we just hit any sort of obstacle.
    0:48:46 It’s something that we can tell ourselves to kind of reset and focus on the good.
    0:48:47 Yeah, super.
    0:48:48 Thank you for calling that out.
    0:48:49 Of course.
    0:48:53 We’ll be right back after a quick break from our sponsors.
    0:49:00 Okay, so let’s talk about the seven ways of being.
    0:49:06 That’s steadiness, lovingness, fullness, wholeness, nowness, allness, and timelessness.
    0:49:09 And you say that they go together in clusters naturally.
    0:49:13 So let’s start with the first three ways, steadiness, lovingness, and fullness.
    0:49:14 What are these ways of being?
    0:49:17 So here’s what I’m talking about.
    0:49:23 Like I said, let’s look at those Olympic athletes of human happiness and well-being and then reverse
    0:49:24 engineer back to ourselves.
    0:49:30 What are qualities we see in them that we can develop in ourselves and even begin to see already
    0:49:31 inside ourselves?
    0:49:39 So the first three qualities are steadiness of mind, a lovingness of heart, and a fullness
    0:49:46 of being that makes us, helps us be even-keeled, equanimous, as you described in your core.
    0:49:51 Around the edges, you could be howling at the moon with good friends on a Saturday night, but
    0:49:57 in your core, the core of your being, there’s a fundamental calm, steady clarity there.
    0:50:02 So those three definitely hang together and they’re kind of psychological.
    0:50:04 They’re probably very familiar to us.
    0:50:08 Interestingly, we can develop them even to the point of perfection.
    0:50:14 I mean, people who are really at the top of the mountain, and I know people, I know some
    0:50:19 people who are very close to the summit and I’ve accessed teachers who are hanging out there
    0:50:23 basically, they have tremendous steadiness of mind.
    0:50:29 Their heart is warm, even if they’re being assertive and dealing with stuff.
    0:50:36 And underneath it all, you can tell they’re just rested in an underlying mood of peacefulness,
    0:50:37 contentment, and love.
    0:50:40 You could see that in them, and we can develop this in ourselves.
    0:50:46 Then there’s that second cluster, which is a little more, maybe seemingly airy-fairy.
    0:50:53 And yet, when you kind of hear me talk about it, or when you look at it inside yourself,
    0:50:55 you go, oh yeah, I have a sense of that.
    0:50:56 I have a sense of that.
    0:51:01 So the next three are wholeness, nowness, and allness.
    0:51:03 So I’m making up some words here.
    0:51:04 What do I mean by that?
    0:51:11 The first wholeness is a sense of letting yourself be as a whole and accepting yourself as a whole
    0:51:15 without being divided internally and at war with yourself.
    0:51:16 Just that.
    0:51:19 Ah, doesn’t that feel like a relief?
    0:51:22 Like, oh, there’s utter self-acceptance.
    0:51:24 You’re still a work in progress.
    0:51:26 You know, you’re still learning a few things.
    0:51:27 You’re still healing a few things.
    0:51:29 You’re still letting go of a few things.
    0:51:36 Inside a context in which you really accept yourself and you have a sense of abiding as
    0:51:39 who you are as a whole, okay?
    0:51:40 That’s wholeness.
    0:51:42 Second, nowness.
    0:51:45 That means basically you’re in the present.
    0:51:46 You know, the power of now.
    0:51:48 Be here now.
    0:51:49 You’re in the present.
    0:51:55 Rather than obsessing about the past or worrying about the future, you’re in the present.
    0:52:01 And one thing, for example, that you start to notice when you’re truly in the present,
    0:52:08 kind of right at the front edge of now receiving what’s arising as it occurs, is that most of
    0:52:11 the time, you’re already basically okay.
    0:52:16 It may not be perfect in the present, but no shark is chewing on your leg.
    0:52:18 You’re not devastated by terrible news.
    0:52:23 You’re basically all right right now in the present, whatever the future may hold.
    0:52:30 And that recognition that you actually are basically all right right now and now and now
    0:52:37 is extremely grounding and strengthening, especially if, like me, you have any inclinations
    0:52:43 or toward anxiety or you’ve acquired, you know, anxiety because of your nightmare boss
    0:52:47 or, you know, the guy down the hall over the years.
    0:52:49 You’re basically all right right now.
    0:52:50 So coming into the present.
    0:52:56 And for each one of these in the book, I talk about very current, cutting-edge, plausible
    0:52:59 neuroscience that underlies each one of these qualities.
    0:53:04 What’s happening in the brain when you have the sense of present moment awareness, you’re
    0:53:04 really in the present.
    0:53:09 And therefore, how can we cultivate that so that more and more you can be stably there?
    0:53:19 And then the third is illness, fancy way of talking about relaxing the contracted sense of self put
    0:53:27 upon by others, maybe, frankly, kind of narcissistic, relaxing that, relaxing self-preoccupations, relaxing
    0:53:32 that urgency to keep impressing other people as if you haven’t already done enough.
    0:53:36 Relaxing that while opening into everything, feeling connected.
    0:53:39 You know, you’re connected, right?
    0:53:41 You realize that you’re a you.
    0:53:44 Like, Hala is different from Rick, right?
    0:53:47 We’re like two separate waves in the ocean.
    0:53:52 Different causes and conditions are manifesting as you and I right now.
    0:53:55 And still, we’re part of the larger sea.
    0:54:02 And our deep nature is water, which you can really go a long way with.
    0:54:07 So here we have this third cluster of wholeness, nowness, and allness.
    0:54:10 And this is a cultivation for a lot of people.
    0:54:15 You know, this is more of a personal development if you have a particular interest in it.
    0:54:23 And still, wow, in everyday life, the more that the chips are down and things are happening,
    0:54:29 the more useful it is to be able to bring your whole self to bear without fighting with parts of
    0:54:35 yourself while staying in the present, not obsessing about the past or freaking out about the future,
    0:54:41 while being very aware of how many factors are in play and we’re connected to many factors.
    0:54:45 And therefore, there are many things out there that might be useful or certainly are important
    0:54:46 to take into account.
    0:54:52 That’s extremely helpful, even in the middle of the worst day at your business or, you know,
    0:54:53 your marriage or your life.
    0:54:58 Then last, timelessness is really the ultimate.
    0:55:04 For some people, that sense of timelessness is merely an extraordinary experience.
    0:55:06 And that’s how they understand it.
    0:55:07 That’s cool.
    0:55:08 I’m fine with that.
    0:55:10 That’s where they want it to stop.
    0:55:18 For many, many, many people, they have had, maybe they have in an ongoing way, a sense that
    0:55:21 there’s more to everything than what we see.
    0:55:24 There’s mysteriously more.
    0:55:32 In the Buddhist tradition, that more is talked about in a pretty stripped down way as what is
    0:55:39 eternal, unconditioned, not subject to arising and passing away, period.
    0:55:46 Other traditions bring more of a sense of consciousness, even lovingness, even a personality to that
    0:55:47 ultimate capital G ground.
    0:55:49 I’m not preaching here.
    0:55:55 I’m just naming things that people talk about and feel and maybe your possibilities.
    0:56:02 Myself, I’m in the, I think there’s more to it, you know, than what we see school and both in my
    0:56:09 experience and my rational, I think there’s more to it.
    0:56:12 We don’t have to relate to that in a religious way.
    0:56:24 We can relate to it as simply an openness to mystery, an openness to possibility, a sense of possibly a kind of underlying
    0:56:44 love, even, that’s woven into the ongoing wellspring of emergence of reality continuously and with a kind of attitude of don’t know so much, not so sure, could be.
    0:56:48 Just that alone is an invitation into timelessness.
    0:56:51 Super, super interesting stuff.
    0:56:55 If anybody wants to pick up your book, Neurodharma, where can they find it?
    0:56:56 Well, thank you.
    0:57:01 It’s everywhere, you know, the usual places, you know, and all the rest of it.
    0:57:05 And it was, it’s been extremely well-reviewed.
    0:57:08 It’s a really, I have to say, you know, it was my sixth book.
    0:57:12 And as a parent, you know, in a sense, I’m the parent of all my books.
    0:57:16 I love all my children, but I like Neurodharma the best.
    0:57:18 It’s a culminating book.
    0:57:19 I’m very personal in it.
    0:57:20 It’s intimate.
    0:57:22 It’s super practical.
    0:57:24 It’s very heartfelt.
    0:57:26 And it’s very well-referenced.
    0:57:32 So if you want the evidence, you want the goods, our son who played poker partly through college
    0:57:36 to put himself through college talked about having the nuts, you know, in his hand, you
    0:57:37 know, having the goodies in his hand.
    0:57:42 I got the nuts in that book that support as evidence when I’m saying in it.
    0:57:44 I really encourage people to check it out.
    0:57:45 I agree.
    0:57:48 It was a really easy read, even though I’m not a neuroscientist.
    0:57:53 And it was filled with actionable ways to actually get started and to learn how to meditate.
    0:57:54 And you gave practices.
    0:57:55 So I really enjoyed it.
    0:57:58 How to use this in everyday life, not just in your meditation.
    0:58:02 And if you want, I’ll even leave you with the five-minute challenge.
    0:58:03 Sure.
    0:58:04 You want it?
    0:58:04 Okay.
    0:58:08 So like I said, most people won’t give five minutes a day to their practice, but you could
    0:58:10 do this if you want to.
    0:58:15 And this supports what I wrote about in the book, not just in formalities of meditation,
    0:58:20 but in everyday life, which is where mostly we’re going to heal and grow in everyday life.
    0:58:27 First, as you flow through your day, a handful of times every day, slow down for breath to
    0:58:27 take in the good.
    0:58:32 Like right now, I’m having a nice interaction with you.
    0:58:33 You’re a solid person.
    0:58:34 We don’t know each other well.
    0:58:38 It’s not more than what it is, but it’s not less than what it is.
    0:58:44 We can take in the good of this feeling that we have with each other and how much enjoyment
    0:58:46 I’ve gotten out of this certainly for myself.
    0:58:48 So slow it down, take in the good.
    0:58:50 That’ll take you maybe a minute a day.
    0:58:56 Second, know one thing in particular you are developing inside yourself these days.
    0:58:59 What’s one thing in particular you’re trying to grow?
    0:59:01 What’s the superpower you’re working on these days?
    0:59:08 It could be something very specific, like training yourself to be a little more patient when things
    0:59:12 happen around you so you don’t just say the first thing that pops into your head.
    0:59:17 Or maybe you’re working on being less scared of public speaking or asserting yourself in a
    0:59:25 meeting or being less vulnerable to just brooding about a word someone used or a little bit of a
    0:59:29 dismissiveness you encountered and feeling really bad for days afterward.
    0:59:31 You’re working on that.
    0:59:36 So whatever it is you’re trying to develop more inside yourself as a strength, focus on
    0:59:43 opportunities, A, to experience that or some factor of it each day and B, take in the good.
    0:59:45 Slow it down.
    0:59:50 Once you get that good song playing in the inner iPod, turn on the inner recorder so increasingly
    0:59:51 it becomes a part of you.
    0:59:54 That might take another minute or so a day.
    1:00:00 And then third, make sure that every day, often just before you go to bed, that’s a good time
    1:00:00 to do it.
    1:00:03 Do what I call marinating in deep green.
    1:00:08 In other words, instead of the red zone or the pink zone of feeling stressed and pressured
    1:00:16 and irritated and, you know, resentful and hurt over the course of a day, we deliberately rest.
    1:00:20 We find an authentic sense in the present of peacefulness, contentment, and love.
    1:00:26 Whatever way you can, and I offer a lot of ways into this in the book itself, whatever way you can,
    1:00:28 slow it down for a minute or two or three.
    1:00:35 If it’s the last thing you do before your head hits the pillow, to just kind of reset and come home to this
    1:00:43 resting place inside yourself of a basic calm, a sense of enoughness and contentment, and a basic warmheartedness.
    1:00:48 As you rest there, you will be changing your brain.
    1:00:54 You will be changing your nervous system and your body and gradually hardwiring that sense of peacefulness,
    1:01:01 contentment, and love into the core of your being so that you can take it with you increasingly wherever you go.
    1:01:02 That’s the five-minute challenge.
    1:01:04 I love that.
    1:01:06 So I was just going to ask you, and you answered it for me,
    1:01:11 what is one actionable thing we can do every day to become more young and profiting tomorrow?
    1:01:12 So thank you for that.
    1:01:18 And the last question we ask all of our guests is, what is your secret to profiting in life?
    1:01:23 It’s a fantastic question because the way I’m going to slightly translate it,
    1:01:30 including from my own business experience, is durable gain, lasting gain, the good that lasts, right?
    1:01:35 So much of what we experience is nice in the moment, but it runs right through our fingers, right?
    1:01:36 There’s no return on investment.
    1:01:38 There’s no ROI.
    1:01:45 So what is it that leads to lasting gain, which might be translated, I have a business myself.
    1:01:50 I’m interested in financial profit in addition to personal profit, if you will.
    1:01:58 In terms of personal profit, you know, lasting gain inside yourself, I think the thing that
    1:02:10 has really helped me is a kind of humility that makes me value learning, a kind of sense that,
    1:02:20 wow, we’re vulnerable, we’re frail, we don’t know everything, life is challenging, we depend on things.
    1:02:27 And that’s not shame, it’s humility that says, I need to value growing.
    1:02:35 I need to look for ways every day to become a little unburdened from my childhood and my life,
    1:02:44 to become a little clearer, a little more skillful with other people, a little kinder, you know,
    1:02:46 a little wiser, a little happier.
    1:02:48 And I have the power to do that every day.
    1:02:55 And it really does come for me, this kind of intimacy of humility, in a sense, that says,
    1:03:01 ah, I don’t know everything already, I really need to help myself grow and heal and learn every day.
    1:03:03 It’s so true.
    1:03:04 And it’s like, it never stops.
    1:03:09 There’s always room to improve and to continually better yourself and your mind and the way that
    1:03:10 you operate in the world.
    1:03:11 So I totally agree there.
    1:03:15 Where can our listeners go find more about you and everything that you do?
    1:03:17 Oh, very kind, Hala.
    1:03:22 I think my website’s the best place, rickhanson, S-O-N, rickhanson.net.
    1:03:29 And it’s chock full of freely offered resources, tons of quick little video snippets, audios,
    1:03:35 practices, things people can do, you know, access to all kinds of other tools that are grounded
    1:03:39 in brain science and contemplative wisdom and practical psychology.
    1:03:42 So rickhanson.net, that’s where I would encourage people to go.
    1:03:46 You might also like the podcast I do, like you do a podcast.
    1:03:52 I do a podcast with our son, Forrest, the Being Well podcast, which is really rising in the
    1:03:54 charts, thanks to him, especially.
    1:03:57 And we also have lots of great guests there, too.
    1:04:00 So people might want to check that out as well, Being Well.
    1:04:02 That’s so cute that you do it with your son.
    1:04:03 I love that.
    1:04:04 You don’t hear that every day.
    1:04:05 Thank you so much, Rick.
    1:04:07 This was such an excellent conversation.
    1:04:08 Thank you, Hal.
    1:04:08 Thank you, Hal.

    Dr. Rick Hanson’s transformative journey from a struggling adolescent to a leading expert in mental health is a powerful testament to how psychology and mindset can shape our lives. Battling unhappiness in his youth, Rick discovered the key to wellness wasn’t just in changing circumstances, but in transforming his brain health. As a result, he now shares his expertise in neuroplasticity and self-healing to help others achieve a balanced life. In this episode, Dr. Hanson reveals how positive neuroplasticity and practical biohacking techniques can rewire your brain to foster happiness, productivity, and emotional resilience.

    In this episode, Hala and Rick will discuss:

    (00:00) Introduction

    (01:00) Rick Hansen’s Teenage Turning Point

    (03:29) Early College Experience and Its Impact

    (05:08) Exploring the Roots of Unhappiness

    (07:38) Discovering Buddhism and Its Teachings

    (10:29) The Concept of Neuro Dharma

    (14:16) The Importance of Steadiness of Mind

    (24:21) Understanding Monkey Mind

    (27:22) Biological Reactions and Brain Influence

    (32:11) Shifting Perspective for Stress Relief

    (33:12) Understanding Neuroplasticity

    (33:50) Brain Changes with Meditation

    (35:14) The Power of Small Practices

    (36:27) Four Key Brain Changes from Meditation

    (39:36) The Concept of Add-On Suffering

    (43:23) Three Keys to Reducing Suffering

    (47:09) The Seven Ways of Being

    (56:10) The Five Minute Challenge

    Dr. Rick Hanson is a New York Times bestselling author, psychologist, and founder of the Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom. His work, which blends modern neuroscience with ancient Buddhist wisdom, has been featured on major media outlets like the BBC, NPR, and CBS. With books translated into 30 languages and a wealth of experience as a speaker at institutions like NASA, Google, and Harvard, Dr. Hanson’s teachings offer listeners actionable strategies to foster happiness and transform their minds for personal growth.

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    0:03:06 Thanks so much for having me.
    0:03:08 I’m so excited for this conversation.
    0:03:11 I think it’s going to be so insightful for my audience.
    0:03:12 I really love your work.
    0:03:16 You didn’t really start off in finance, which I thought was interesting.
    0:03:22 And I’d love to get some backstory from you in terms of your journalism background.
    0:03:23 You were an English major.
    0:03:26 How did you end up first getting interested in finances?
    0:03:34 I got interested, quite honestly, because my own financial life was a bit of a mess.
    0:03:42 And simultaneously, the journalism job that I got was business adjacent.
    0:03:50 I started my career as an editorial assistant at a magazine that no longer exists called Working
    0:03:59 Woman and got to report some stories on things like business and careers and management trends
    0:04:00 and investing.
    0:04:09 And I was interested enough in them to try to get a job in personal finance, business journalism
    0:04:17 when I left that job, which turned out to be really, really difficult because all the big business
    0:04:22 magazines on the planet, I applied to all of them, thought Working Woman was a joke.
    0:04:32 And finally, I got a little bit of advice that what I needed was an MBA, but I didn’t have
    0:04:35 really any interest in going back to school at that point.
    0:04:37 So instead, I got a job on Wall Street.
    0:04:40 I worked in equity research for a couple of years.
    0:04:43 I learned investing inside and out.
    0:04:49 And when I came back out, I was able to reenter journalism, join Forbes from there to smart money.
    0:04:52 And from there, I ended up on the Today Show for 25 years.
    0:04:53 Amazing.
    0:05:00 So when I looked at your career journey, it reminded me a lot of my own in terms that you skill
    0:05:01 stacked to become an entrepreneur.
    0:05:07 So I call this skill stack entrepreneurship, where basically you worked for other people
    0:05:10 and you gained all these skills over the years.
    0:05:13 And then you became an entrepreneur, basically putting these skills together.
    0:05:19 And then you came out with her money and nobody could do her money better than you because
    0:05:23 you had all the experiences to put together this unique offering, to put together this
    0:05:25 awesome website, this awesome podcast.
    0:05:31 And you had all the background and the skills, the writing, the journalism, the broadcasting,
    0:05:34 the knowledge of that actual topic.
    0:05:38 It’s a lot like what I did with Yap Media and my podcast network and my social agency.
    0:05:43 So I’d love for you to just talk to us about that for all these young people listening.
    0:05:47 Talk about the skills that you acquired over the years and then how you sort of use that in
    0:05:48 your entrepreneurship journey.
    0:05:53 I was one of the original side giggers, right?
    0:05:57 I think I had a side hustle before it was called a side hustle.
    0:06:04 Pretty much always because journalists make very little money, or at least when you’re starting
    0:06:06 out as a journalist, you make very little money.
    0:06:09 So originally my side hustle was teaching SATs.
    0:06:16 But as I started to become a stronger writer and a stronger content creator, I was able to
    0:06:19 hustle in my own industry.
    0:06:27 So just by doing that, I picked up a lot of the adjacent skills that I then needed to launch
    0:06:28 this business.
    0:06:34 Once I was on the Today Show in particular, a lot of doors started to open.
    0:06:37 These were the days where everybody was watching the Today Show.
    0:06:47 And so I got a lot of offers to go out and speak, to write books, to consult for different companies
    0:06:53 in the employee benefits departments where they were trying to improve the financial health
    0:06:54 of their employees.
    0:07:04 And I didn’t become an entrepreneur until, a full-scale entrepreneur, until 20 years down
    0:07:10 the road when I left my last magazine job.
    0:07:14 I actually got fired from my last magazine job because I’d gotten a little too expensive
    0:07:15 for their payroll.
    0:07:20 And I looked at all of the other things that I was doing.
    0:07:26 I was doing radio for Oprah over here, and I was doing speaking here, and I was on my 10th
    0:07:30 book over here, and I had three other clients over here.
    0:07:33 And I thought, why am I getting another job?
    0:07:35 I have five other jobs.
    0:07:38 I just need to put them together.
    0:07:43 Her money as a company came along after her money as a podcast.
    0:07:47 I was doing some work with Fidelity Investments.
    0:07:50 They were our original launch sponsor.
    0:07:54 The fabulous team there basically said, what else can we do together?
    0:07:56 And I was like, how about a podcast?
    0:08:06 So we launched, and very quickly it became apparent to me that we were growing a community of like-minded
    0:08:08 women who wanted to learn about money.
    0:08:12 And Her Money, the company, launched around that.
    0:08:13 Amazing.
    0:08:15 Well, you’ve been doing such a great job.
    0:08:17 I know that your podcast is super popular.
    0:08:19 Your blog is very well known.
    0:08:21 I’ve heard about Her Money for many years now.
    0:08:26 You also have so many books, and you’ve just become such an accomplished author.
    0:08:29 And a majority of your content is actually geared towards women.
    0:08:34 So I want to talk to that for a minute, because I know that all the advice you give is applicable
    0:08:36 to all genders, right?
    0:08:38 Doesn’t necessarily need to be just for women.
    0:08:44 But we do need to understand why women have traditionally had an uphill battle when it has
    0:08:46 come to their finances.
    0:08:49 Can you give us some insight in terms of the gender wage gap?
    0:08:53 And I think a lot of people have the assumption that that’s not really a thing anymore.
    0:08:57 So can you talk to us about if it is a thing in 2024?
    0:08:59 Oh, it’s a thing.
    0:09:01 It has budged, which is good.
    0:09:08 Over the last like year and a half, it’s moved up a smidge so that at this point, women earn
    0:09:13 83 and a half cents to every dollar that a white man earns.
    0:09:20 But the American Association of University Women say, we are going to be halfway through the next
    0:09:24 century before this gap actually closes.
    0:09:27 That’s how slowly it’s moving.
    0:09:29 And it’s worse for women of color.
    0:09:37 And the problem with the gender wage gap is that when you combine it with all of the other
    0:09:48 factors that women deal with in terms of earning money and growing money for retirement, they
    0:09:49 put us behind.
    0:09:53 Women are the ones to take breaks from work, to care for kids and care for older parents.
    0:10:02 We saw that in the pandemic in spades, but it’s been true all along because we take those
    0:10:03 breaks.
    0:10:07 We have less money growing in those retirement accounts.
    0:10:10 We earn fewer social security credits.
    0:10:12 We get to the end of the line.
    0:10:16 We’ve got a smaller nest egg and then we have to make the money last longer because we go and
    0:10:18 we outlive men by six, seven years.
    0:10:20 So it’s an uphill battle.
    0:10:26 But you’re right in terms of the advice being gender neutral.
    0:10:34 There are not a ton of differences in the advice that somebody would give to a man versus a woman.
    0:10:41 Jane Bryant Quinn, who is one of my mentors and a leading personal finance journalist, just a
    0:10:42 trailblazer.
    0:10:45 She likes to say that stocks aren’t pink or blue.
    0:10:48 Money’s not pink or blue.
    0:10:49 It’s green, right?
    0:10:53 And she’s a hundred percent right about that.
    0:11:03 The problem is that women sometimes don’t feel as safe as we need to feel to ask the questions
    0:11:11 that we need answered in order to get us to take the steps to start investing, to put our
    0:11:14 money to work, to ask for that raise.
    0:11:19 And what I’ve found and the reason that I launched her money was that when I was in a
    0:11:28 room full of all women, given some sort of a talk, and I would get to the Q&A section, the hands would just fly up in the air.
    0:11:32 And when I was in a mixed group, the response was a lot more muted.
    0:11:36 Women really held back and didn’t want to share as much.
    0:11:40 And so what I set out to create was a safe space.
    0:11:51 But am I going to tell women that they should buy NVIDIA as we did for our investing club two years ago and tell men that they should not?
    0:11:53 No, absolutely not.
    0:11:54 Such good advice.
    0:11:57 And by the way, that stock has done really well because I have it too.
    0:11:58 Yeah.
    0:12:01 So a lot of my listeners are business owners.
    0:12:03 A lot of them are people of power.
    0:12:04 We have employees.
    0:12:06 We have our own small businesses.
    0:12:10 What is our responsibility when it comes to the gender wage gap?
    0:12:14 I think our responsibility is to level it.
    0:12:34 And it has to come from the employers because if employers don’t take a look at our payrolls, don’t take a look at how we are treating our employees, irrespective of gender, irrespective of race, these gaps are never going to close.
    0:12:43 And so we have to get really honest about who’s doing what work and how much are they being compensated for it.
    0:12:46 And it’s not a matter of need.
    0:12:49 It’s a matter of the work that we need them to do.
    0:12:55 But it’s not a matter of our perception of the money that they need to take home, which is how it used to work.
    0:13:04 You know, years back, you would hear conversations where a boss would tell a female employee, well, of course, John is going to get paid more than you do.
    0:13:09 He’s the breadwinner and he’s got multiple mouths to feed at home.
    0:13:14 We’re now in an era where more women are the breadwinners.
    0:13:32 And if you look ahead, if you look out to 2030 and into the 2030s, women are actually expected to control the lion’s share of the wealth and the spending in this country and across the world.
    0:13:43 And it’s because of educational trends that are leading women to have more qualifications than men in many, many instances.
    0:13:56 And it’s also because of the way that the transfer of wealth, the $41 trillion transfer of wealth that is going on as we speak, is playing out.
    0:13:58 Women are inheriting twice.
    0:14:10 And not because our parents prefer us to our brothers, but we’re inheriting twice because if we have brothers, chances are we split the family pie with them.
    0:14:13 But then when our husbands die, we inherit that money as well.
    0:14:15 That’s so good.
    0:14:17 And this is really, really fascinating to me.
    0:14:25 I really want to spend a lot of time here on these social and economical changes that are going on.
    0:14:31 So I got some incredible stats from your work and I’m going to rattle some off and ask some questions about them.
    0:14:35 And I’d love for you to really just give us as much insight, as much color as you have about them.
    0:14:42 So the first one is for every 100 men who graduated from college last year, 132 women graduated.
    0:14:50 Can you talk about how this really snowballs into various social demographic economic changes?
    0:14:51 Absolutely.
    0:15:07 If you look at the types of jobs that college grads hold and the types of jobs that you need to have a college degree in order to get, they tend to be the higher paying jobs.
    0:15:13 We are seeing some movement in trades, in apprenticeships, in vocational programs.
    0:15:19 I grew up in Wheeling, West Virginia in a high school that had a big welding department in the basement.
    0:15:22 And I believe that we need to see more of these opportunities.
    0:15:30 But there’s no question that a college degree helps you land a better salary.
    0:15:41 And when you look at the lifetime earnings of a person with a college degree versus one who doesn’t have one, it’s hundreds of thousands of dollars, if not more.
    0:16:00 And the way that that then drives change in society is that you have these families where you tend to have not just one, but two college educated people because college educated people often meet in college.
    0:16:13 And those two income college educated households are going to be making significantly more money in many cases than those who are not college educated.
    0:16:22 And what we wind up with is just a bigger income disparity in this country than we have right now.
    0:16:25 And as you know, Hala, it’s already problematic.
    0:16:30 So we look at it and we see these things starting to march in that direction.
    0:16:45 The other problem, though, and I hear of this from my daughter and from people younger than her, is that if you are on a college campus and you’re heterosexual and you want to date, it’s gotten an awful lot harder.
    0:16:51 Hmm, I definitely want to talk about that, but let’s hold that thought for a second.
    0:16:58 Let’s talk about how by 2028, women will control 75% of discretionary spending around the world.
    0:17:02 By 2030, 66% of America’s wealth will be with women.
    0:17:10 You alluded to this a bit, but what are some of the factors of why women are going to have so much more money in the future years?
    0:17:16 So it’s education and it is the transfer of wealth.
    0:17:19 Those are the two big factors that are playing into this.
    0:17:33 But when you talk about the fact that women are going to have the money, what people don’t do is sort of follow the breadcrumbs and think about how that’s going to change everything, right?
    0:17:40 When you follow the breadcrumbs, what you see is that the fact that women are making these purchasing decisions changes things.
    0:17:49 If you look at cars, it’s going to change the way that cars are designed because they’re going to be designed with women buyers more in mind.
    0:17:56 You’ll have a better place to park that bag that you carry around on your shoulder all the time.
    0:18:06 The seat will be adjustable in a different way so that you’ll be able to see over the front of the hood if you’re height-challenged in the way that I am.
    0:18:09 It’ll change the design of homes.
    0:18:13 Single women buy many more homes than single men.
    0:18:16 They’ve become a very important segment of homebuyers.
    0:18:23 And we are seeing homes designed with the things that women want in mind.
    0:18:40 So it’s not just a matter of the fact that financial advisors are a little bit up in arms about this because they have seen studies that show that when the male spouse in a family dies,
    0:18:49 70-ish percent of women are likely to leave the advisor and find somebody of their own choosing, those trends are underway as well.
    0:18:53 But it’s going to change the look and feel and design of a lot of products.
    0:18:55 Oh my gosh, so interesting.
    0:18:56 You know what you just reminded me of?
    0:19:03 So I took my mom to Cancun on vacation and I got us first-class tickets.
    0:19:06 We only brought checked bags.
    0:19:10 And I remember me and her trying to put our bags up on the airplane.
    0:19:11 We’re both petite.
    0:19:12 We had to help each other.
    0:19:16 And actually, my mom accidentally slipped and the bag fell.
    0:19:18 And it was so embarrassing.
    0:19:20 And it kind of caused a commotion.
    0:19:25 And in my head, I was thinking, I just paid over $2,000 for these tickets.
    0:19:33 And I was expected as a five-foot-one girl to put up a bag with my 70-year-old mother by ourselves.
    0:19:35 And I was thinking, how ridiculous is this?
    0:19:37 Who are these airplanes designed for?
    0:19:40 It’s obviously not considering petite women.
    0:19:43 Yeah, it’s definitely not.
    0:19:49 And maybe if they start to see that more women are buying their own business-class seats,
    0:19:51 that’ll be something that will change.
    0:19:58 Or the folks who make the away bag that we all seem to carry will come up with some sort of a
    0:20:02 hoister to help us get it up in that luggage compartment.
    0:20:03 Because I have the same trouble that you do.
    0:20:06 It’s the worst part about flying for me.
    0:20:07 It is.
    0:20:13 Okay, so 38% of women are their family’s biggest earner or primary breadwinner.
    0:20:17 How does that impact society and contribute to the fact that 50% of women are single right now?
    0:20:23 Look, there’s a lot of research on when a woman is the primary breadwinner
    0:20:28 and whether or not it causes strife in relationships.
    0:20:37 Generally, if when a man and a woman form their relationship, the woman is already the higher
    0:20:41 earner, then that status quo doesn’t rock the boat too much.
    0:20:47 It’s when there’s a shift in the dynamic over the course of the relationship that impacts
    0:20:54 the balance of power in the relationship in other ways that things go a little bit sideways.
    0:20:59 And that’s where we start to see breakdown in communication.
    0:21:06 That’s where we start to see women compensating for the fact that they make more money.
    0:21:09 I mean, I’m sure that you have seen this research, Khaled.
    0:21:11 It’s so troubling.
    0:21:17 When women make more money, we don’t see that they offload more of the responsibilities at home.
    0:21:22 We see that they take on more of the responsibilities at home.
    0:21:32 And the logic behind that is that we feel somehow bad about that and that we have to make nice
    0:21:34 to our spouse’s ego.
    0:21:39 So of course, we’re going to make dinner and do the grocery shopping and take care of the
    0:21:40 kids.
    0:21:42 And that’s where burnout comes from.
    0:21:44 And that’s where anger comes from.
    0:21:46 And in some cases, that’s where divorce comes from.
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    0:26:54 I want to talk to you about the availability of suitable partners for successful women.
    0:26:57 You’re like kind of alluding to this when you were talking about your daughter.
    0:26:59 And I’m going to get a little bit personal here.
    0:27:03 So I’m in my mid-30s and I have no kids.
    0:27:03 I’m not married.
    0:27:06 I’m literally never single.
    0:27:11 I can get a boyfriend like this, but I haven’t really found the one.
    0:27:13 And I kind of know the reason why.
    0:27:18 I feel like it’s because a lot of guys that I date, they seem like they’re cool with a
    0:27:20 successful woman and they’re successful too.
    0:27:22 They’re all executives or whatever they are.
    0:27:27 But I’m growing really fast and they end up getting insecure.
    0:27:31 Like you’re going to outgrow me is what they think, right?
    0:27:33 You’re going to outgrow me.
    0:27:36 And so we end up breaking up and I haven’t found the right partner.
    0:27:40 Now, there’s a couple of things that have recently opened my eyes.
    0:27:42 Number one is Marshall Goldsmith.
    0:27:43 I have a social media agency.
    0:27:46 He’s one of my longtime LinkedIn clients.
    0:27:47 He’s a leadership coach.
    0:27:50 He is always trying to get me married.
    0:27:53 And he’s always telling me, Kala, this happened to my daughters.
    0:27:55 You have to marry down.
    0:27:57 You can’t be worried about marrying up.
    0:27:58 You’ve got to marry down.
    0:27:59 You’ll find a great guy.
    0:28:03 He doesn’t have to be richer than you or like you’ve just got to marry down.
    0:28:07 And for a while, I was trying to find somebody that was equal that I could grow with.
    0:28:13 But like the other thing that really opened my eyes is that I started this podcast network and I’ve
    0:28:22 got a lot of women who like I feel like I’m going to be like in a few years, like Jenna Kutcher, Amy Porterfield, Kelly Roach was my social client.
    0:28:30 And they all have either retired their husbands, they have house dads basically, or their husband works with them or for them.
    0:28:33 And that made me realize because their families are so happy.
    0:28:36 And I was like, well, maybe I’m just like looking at this in the wrong way.
    0:28:43 Maybe I should feel like almost not like a man, but that I just need to find a great partner.
    0:28:47 They don’t need to have the career that I want them to have.
    0:28:48 It’s more about the person, right?
    0:28:50 So I just love your thoughts on this.
    0:28:55 I am married for the second time and I agree with that.
    0:29:03 First of all, I think, and no disrespect to Marshall, but when he says you have to marry down, I think that that’s the wrong word.
    0:29:07 I think that you have to marry and date different.
    0:29:17 Yeah, you need a partner who is going to be really supportive of your efforts and your career.
    0:29:21 Because let’s just be honest about this.
    0:29:23 And I felt the same way when I first had kids.
    0:29:27 My former father-in-law said, well, when are you stopping working?
    0:29:32 Because all of his other daughters and daughters-in-law had stopped working.
    0:29:33 And I said, yeah, not me.
    0:29:35 I’m not doing that.
    0:29:41 We will figure out how these kids will have care during the day.
    0:29:46 And the way that we did it was that my ex-husband didn’t travel for work.
    0:29:47 And I did.
    0:29:53 And that balanced us out for a very, very long time.
    0:30:03 If you are in a relationship where the egos are clashing or where your partner can’t support your success or doesn’t want to support your success,
    0:30:04 then it’s not going to work.
    0:30:06 It’s just going to fail.
    0:30:11 Have you ever seen the movie Beautiful Girls?
    0:30:12 No.
    0:30:12 Okay.
    0:30:14 You have to watch the movie Beautiful Girls.
    0:30:16 It’s old.
    0:30:17 20 years, probably.
    0:30:24 Natalie Portman and Annabeth Gish and Timothy Hutton and Matt Dillon.
    0:30:25 A whole bunch of people.
    0:30:32 But the part of that movie that sticks with me is there’s a very successful woman in it.
    0:30:34 She’s dating Timothy Hutton.
    0:30:41 And he is a piano player in a bar who also happens to be an accountant.
    0:30:49 And he’s been putting a whole lot of pressure on himself to get a real accounting job so that he can keep up with her.
    0:30:53 And finally, she just said, musicians are sexy.
    0:30:55 Accountants are not sexy.
    0:30:56 Musicians are sexy.
    0:31:08 Giving him the permission to continue to do this thing that he enjoyed and continue to bring that sexy energy to their relationship, which is what she needed from him.
    0:31:13 And so that’s the balance, I think, that you’re looking for.
    0:31:21 There’s a lot of lean-in Sheryl Sandberg’s book that people have dismissed over the past number of years.
    0:31:28 I think the thing that really holds up from that book is the importance that she put on selecting your partner.
    0:31:41 She picked a guy that she knew was going to let her be her and let her do the work that she wanted to do and help them create a life where that was going to be possible.
    0:31:42 And that’s what you need.
    0:31:43 Yeah.
    0:31:53 More generally, for everybody tuning in, I just feel like it’s just harder to find traditional roles and partners anymore for men and for women.
    0:31:57 And I just would love to understand even more advice from you for the young people tuning in.
    0:32:07 How can men feel like men and women feel like women in their relationships when everything is sort of getting switched around in terms of who’s the breadwinner?
    0:32:09 I just feel like it’s so difficult for us to date.
    0:32:16 I think the way that you do it is by knowing yourself and knowing your partner and closing ranks.
    0:32:27 This is your business and it’s your partner’s business and it’s not your mother’s business or your mother-in-law’s business or your friend’s business or Instagram’s business, right?
    0:32:30 It is nobody’s business but yours.
    0:32:35 And if it’s working for the two of you, then who the hell cares, right?
    0:32:37 What anybody else has to say.
    0:32:47 You just have to respect the boundaries that you’ve created with the two of you and what that allows you to do.
    0:32:49 Look, I’m the breadwinner in my marriage.
    0:32:51 I have been for many years.
    0:32:54 My husband is largely retired.
    0:32:56 He works about 15 hours a week these days.
    0:32:58 He’s older than I am.
    0:33:02 And he had an incredibly successful career.
    0:33:08 But the fact that I out-earned him, he could care less.
    0:33:13 He knows the value that he brings to our marriage.
    0:33:17 I certainly know the value that he brings to our marriage.
    0:33:22 And it’s nobody else’s business, really, despite the fact that I’m talking about it on your podcast.
    0:33:24 I love it.
    0:33:26 Thanks, Jean, for all of that.
    0:33:26 Okay.
    0:33:28 So women are getting richer.
    0:33:35 Can you talk to us about how women are going to treat this newfound wealth compared to how men traditionally have treated wealth?
    0:33:39 Men have traditionally invested it.
    0:33:43 And women traditionally have been slow to the party.
    0:33:49 If you, again, and you pulled out a whole bunch of statistics, I’m grateful for that.
    0:33:54 But one of my favorites is that women keep about 70% of our assets in cash.
    0:33:56 Men keep about 60%.
    0:34:09 It’s a really big and important difference because investing our money is the only way that we are going to make sure that it is working as hard as we are working ourselves.
    0:34:22 And so what we’re starting to see is women move into the ranks of being investors, wanting to be investors, wanting to learn about investors.
    0:34:33 Whether you’ve got all your money in a 401k where you put it in a target date fund and you let that fund do its thing or you’re buying individual stocks, we want to learn.
    0:34:35 I was telling you about my investing club.
    0:34:43 I run this investing club with Karen Feinerman, who is one of the panelists on Fast Money on CNBC.
    0:34:44 She’s a hedge fund manager.
    0:34:45 You would love her.
    0:34:46 She’s so brilliant.
    0:34:55 And we’re teaching 300 women and growing how to invest every other Monday night on Zoom.
    0:35:02 And we pick stocks together and we talk about diversification and trends and everybody can ask their questions.
    0:35:14 And investing is the kind of thing that is hard for women because there are no right or perfect answers.
    0:35:24 There’s some parts of personal finance where if you ask me a question, I can give you an answer and I can be 100% right.
    0:35:27 What is the best cashback credit card?
    0:35:28 I can look at them all.
    0:35:29 I can run the numbers.
    0:35:31 I can give you an answer.
    0:35:32 I can know that I’m correct.
    0:35:40 What’s the best stock can’t do it because no perfect answer exists because we have backward-looking information and not forward-looking information.
    0:35:46 And so we have to trust in the historical accuracy of what has come before.
    0:35:55 That is difficult for a large portion of women who like to know the answer to any question before we even ask that question.
    0:35:56 We have to do it.
    0:35:57 We have to get comfortable.
    0:36:01 And the way to get comfortable is by actually doing it.
    0:36:18 And one thing that has really, really helped when you look at Gen Z and millennials is that we’re now being across the board automatically enrolled in these 401k and other retirement plans at work where we have them.
    0:36:25 The money is being automatically invested into a default like a target date fund.
    0:36:31 So you’re investing whether or not you are doing the work of investing yourself in many cases.
    0:36:39 And if you can allow yourself to sit with that and get comfortable with the fact that you’re not only doing it, but you’re doing it pretty well, that helps people.
    0:36:40 I love that.
    0:36:44 This was, to me, such an interesting conversation, honestly.
    0:36:49 I feel like this whole gender wage gap and transfer of wealth, it’s really shifting everything.
    0:36:54 Let’s move on to some more general advice, tactical financial advice.
    0:36:57 I want to start with the concept of financial freedom, right?
    0:37:04 I feel like the concept of financial freedom has changed, especially for millennials, for Gen Z.
    0:37:07 How do you think we should go about thinking about financial freedom?
    0:37:11 Well, I’m interested in knowing how you think it’s changed.
    0:37:12 What is it to you?
    0:37:19 Well, I feel like now it’s more about enjoying life, doing what I want, right?
    0:37:21 It’s really not about becoming a billionaire.
    0:37:32 It’s what’s the amount of money that I need where I can live comfortably, buy what I want, and enjoy life, work out, be healthy, sit in the sun.
    0:37:33 You know, that’s what I think of.
    0:37:36 That’s pretty much my definition, too.
    0:37:44 It’s just my definition, I think, extends for a longer period of time because of my age, right?
    0:37:58 So I look at this and I think I want all of that, but I want to be able at some point to just work when I want to work and know that those things will continue for as long as I live.
    0:38:03 So I think that’s where the disparity in financial freedom comes in.
    0:38:17 And I think younger generations define it in terms for today and older generations define it in terms that include a retirement that might last for three decades.
    0:38:24 So one of the things that I think a lot of my listeners are probably going through right now, we’ve got a lot of 30-year-olds, is buying or renting.
    0:38:31 And traditionally, when we’re talking about the American dream, financial freedom, a lot of it is also like being a homeowner, right?
    0:38:34 Do you feel like it’s important to be a homeowner?
    0:38:36 Do you feel like it’s a good investment strategy?
    0:38:39 And what are some of the things we should think of renting versus buying?
    0:38:48 I feel like being a homeowner is a helpful way to save money over the long term.
    0:38:58 If you think about buying versus renting, month to month, right now the costs are actually closer than they’ve ever been.
    0:39:07 But when you own, you are putting equity, you’re building equity in this house.
    0:39:10 And that is a form of forced savings.
    0:39:24 And what happens if you get to the end of the road, if you pay down a mortgage for a long enough period of time, or even if you swap out of it and out of a couple of homes, but you’ve built up some equity and then you build up some more.
    0:39:35 You end up with this cushion of cash and you can use that cushion to supplement your standard of living.
    0:39:37 You can use it to pay for long-term care.
    0:39:39 You can use it to keep a roof over your head.
    0:39:43 You can use it to sell and move to Costa Rica.
    0:39:48 You have choices because you have this additional cushion.
    0:40:03 And if you’ve rented your whole life, unless you took the difference between the renting cost and the buying cost, which is a lot slimmer than it used to be, and you put that away every single month, you don’t have that additional sum of money.
    0:40:09 So that’s where being a homeowner, I think, is additive to your bottom line.
    0:40:10 There are other differences.
    0:40:20 We know in a whole bunch of different situations that autonomy is one of the things that make people happy.
    0:40:33 You’re happier at your job if you feel like you’ve got enough autonomy to rearrange the furniture or to put your own stuff up on the walls or to decide that you’re going to come in at 9.30 rather than 9 o’clock.
    0:40:49 You’re just happier, and you are happier where you live if you feel like you have enough autonomy to make the place what you want it to be, and you’re more likely to have that if you own rather than if you rent.
    0:40:52 But there are a lot of cases where you shouldn’t own, right?
    0:40:56 If you’re not going to be someplace for five years, I don’t think you should buy.
    0:41:02 The cost of buying is just too steep.
    0:41:14 I don’t think that mortgage rates at this level should stop people who want to be in a place for six, seven years and more.
    0:41:20 You’ll eventually, hopefully, get an opportunity to refi that loan.
    0:41:23 But there are cases where renting is just better.
    0:41:25 You gave such good advice.
    0:41:27 Like, I’m in this predicament now.
    0:41:39 To your point, I see a lot of my friends who have been homeowners, and I see them like really leveling up because every time they switch a house and they’ll make like 200 grand, and they just keep playing with that money and growing it and growing it.
    0:41:44 So I do see a lot of my friends who have dabbled in homeownership do really well.
    0:41:46 That’s inspiring to me.
    0:41:49 It’s just that in New York, it gets crazy.
    0:41:50 It’s so crazy.
    0:41:53 So I feel like people who are in different cities also have a different experience.
    0:41:56 It’s way easier to buy a house if you live in the suburbs, you know.
    0:42:00 But you have more choice now than you used to have.
    0:42:07 I know young couples who are thinking they live in New York where the price of homeownership is unsustainable.
    0:42:09 They’re looking at Philadelphia.
    0:42:11 They’re looking at Charlotte.
    0:42:17 They’re looking at other places where because they can work remotely, they could keep their jobs.
    0:42:27 They could make some friends, and they could be homeowners and have a standard of living that just is a little bit easier.
    0:42:34 Okay, so something that you talk a lot about, and I was looking around your website, and I saw that you were like, what is your money type?
    0:42:38 And you have this quiz that people can take for their money type on hermoney.com.
    0:42:40 So talk to us about money types.
    0:42:41 What is that?
    0:42:42 Why is it important to know?
    0:42:49 It’s important to know how you’re wired and why you’re wired the way you are.
    0:42:52 The money type is love languages, right?
    0:42:58 If you ever read the five love languages, money type is that, just for money.
    0:43:08 So we worked with a PhD who developed this in-depth tool that has been tested on men and women
    0:43:14 to help figure out why you are the way you are with money.
    0:43:20 I mean, you may know that it is hard for you to spend or easy for you to spend.
    0:43:28 You may know that you have trouble losing money or more or less trouble taking risk than other people.
    0:43:36 You may know that you would do anything for the members of your family, even if it meant putting yourself at financial risk.
    0:43:42 All of these things are tied up in our five personality types.
    0:44:00 And I would bet just knowing a little bit more about you and about your audience, that if people went to hermoney.com and they took our diagnostic, our questionnaire, our money type quiz, you’ve got an audience that is full of what we call visionaries.
    0:44:16 A lot of entrepreneurs are visionaries and visionaries have to be careful when it comes to their own personal finances because it is really tempting to throw all of your money against the business and think that that business is going to be your retirement plan.
    0:44:21 And we know the statistics on businesses that succeed versus fail.
    0:44:27 And you give up a lot of years trying to get that business off the ground and very quickly, you can get yourself in trouble.
    0:44:35 The other thing that I like about money type so much is that we’re not all just one type.
    0:44:42 We’ve got a primary type and then we have a couple of secondary types that make up our personality.
    0:44:56 And if you know your partner’s money type, it’s helpful in navigating the relationship and the conversations that the two of you have about money.
    0:45:09 I was recently on a different podcast and the hosts had taken the money type questionnaire and they said, I feel so seen because there’s something about this diagnostic.
    0:45:11 It just gets people.
    0:45:15 I felt this way the first time I took it and I’m a producer.
    0:45:21 That’s my primary money type with a little bit of connoisseur, which means I like to spend in as well.
    0:45:22 And it’s really true.
    0:45:28 And it’s really interesting that a test can get you so well.
    0:45:29 It’s so true.
    0:45:35 And I’m happy that you brought up relationships because I actually recently ended a relationship.
    0:45:39 And one of my primary reasons was our views on money were so different.
    0:45:43 He’s richer than I am and was so cheap.
    0:45:46 And I was just like, I can’t do this.
    0:45:47 I like to live a life of luxury.
    0:45:49 I like to spend my money.
    0:45:54 Not that I’m frivolous, but it’s just like, what’s the point of choosing such a hard job if you’re not?
    0:45:55 Right.
    0:45:58 If no one’s spending their money, why are we working so hard?
    0:45:59 Yeah.
    0:46:05 And it’s good that you figured this out before you got engaged to the guy or worse, married the guy, right?
    0:46:08 In my house, we say this is why we work.
    0:46:12 And we say it for exactly the reasons that you just described.
    0:46:13 We work hard.
    0:46:20 And we work hard so that if we want to get on a plane and fly across the country, we don’t have to think about it.
    0:46:28 This is the payoff of working so hard and producing.
    0:46:31 And I acknowledge we are definitely privileged.
    0:46:39 I’m fortunate to have a career that I love, which makes working hard feel like not working as hard.
    0:46:41 But this is why we work.
    0:46:44 If they didn’t pay us, we wouldn’t work so hard.
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    0:51:55 Let’s talk about budgeting.
    0:51:58 There’s so much inflation going on.
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    0:52:05 There’s a lot of keeping up with the Joneses with social media, a lot of comparison, feeling
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    0:52:24 Well, first of all, are you not on the RealReal?
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    0:52:31 I mean, this is what I do because I’m the same.
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    0:52:43 And I wear it a couple of times and I send it to the RealReal and I buy something else on
    0:52:48 the RealReal and I run a credit and it makes me feel like I’m shopping for free, even though
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    0:52:52 And that I’m doing something a little bit better for the environment.
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    0:53:03 But when it comes to overspending in general, I think that the secret is that most people have
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    0:53:14 So when we teach budgeting and we have a program called Finance Fix where we teach budgeting and
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    0:53:47 Everybody’s least favorite example.
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    0:54:11 I know where all my money is going.
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    0:54:16 All my money is just going straight there.
    0:54:19 Okay, let’s talk about paying down debt.
    0:54:20 A lot of people have student loans.
    0:54:22 A lot of people have debts.
    0:54:24 You’ve got this avalanche method.
    0:54:28 Talk to us about the best strategies for paying down debt in your opinion.
    0:54:37 The cheapest way, the cheapest, fastest way to pay off debt is to just stack it highest interest
    0:54:39 rate to lowest interest rate.
    0:54:44 Pay off the highest interest rate debts first while making the minimum payments on the rest.
    0:54:49 Once that high interest rate debt is gone, then you just move on to the next one and so on
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    0:55:36 But don’t let paying student loan debt faster get in the way of doing important things like grabbing the match from your 401k.
    0:55:48 401k because if you look at the return on your money, the way that we think about or the way that we should think about return on your money is equivalent to the interest rate.
    0:55:56 So if you’re paying off a student loan debt at 6%, that’s like getting a 6% return on your money.
    0:56:04 If you’re getting 50 cents on the dollar as a match in your 401k, that’s a 50% return on your money.
    0:56:09 And you can’t not get that because you want to pay off the debt at 6%.
    0:56:11 You just pay off the debt at 6% a little bit slower.
    0:56:14 Let’s talk about improving your credit.
    0:56:20 So I actually recently messed up my credit because I was putting all, yeah, it was really dumb.
    0:56:28 I was spending everything on my business credit cards and I just thought it was good that I wasn’t spending on my own credit cards.
    0:56:31 And like I was like shutting down my personal credit cards.
    0:56:35 And then I realized, oops, I wasn’t supposed to do that.
    0:56:38 You need to actually have credit cards.
    0:56:43 And I always used to, because I have a lot of cash, I would just pay it off, pay it off to zero balance.
    0:56:45 And you’re actually not supposed to do that.
    0:56:47 Oh, no, you are supposed to do that.
    0:56:48 You are supposed to do that.
    0:56:52 Tell me about it because I feel confused about what should we actually be doing with our personal credit.
    0:56:58 You should be using your personal credit cards and you should be paying them off every month.
    0:56:59 Just to zero.
    0:57:01 Pay them off to zero.
    0:57:04 Interest rates are way too high.
    0:57:08 The average credit card interest rate, I just looked this up yesterday, is 28%.
    0:57:09 That’s insane.
    0:57:10 It’s insane.
    0:57:14 You don’t want to be paying interest on a credit card.
    0:57:26 So the way to do this is to understand that there are a couple of factors that go into your credit score and you need to simultaneously manage all of them.
    0:57:35 If you pay late, especially if you pay late more than once, that’s really going to hurt your score.
    0:57:40 The second, and this is where you got in trouble, is credit utilization.
    0:57:46 That’s the percentage of credit that you have available to you that you’re actually using.
    0:57:52 We want to keep that number below 30% at all times.
    0:58:02 So if you have a heavy spending month, sometimes when I go on vacation, I have a heavy spending month that I spend more than 30% of my credit limit on a card.
    0:58:05 If you do that, the thing to do is just pay the bill now.
    0:58:09 Pay it twice a month rather than once a month to bring the utilization down.
    0:58:23 The problem that you got into by closing those credit cards is that you shrunk the pool of available credit that you had and that hurt your score.
    0:58:31 The other thing that you did, another factor, it’s not as big as the first two, but it’s something called length of credit or credit history.
    0:58:37 The longer your credit relationships, the more beneficial it is to your score.
    0:58:43 When you close those cards, if they were the cards that you had had the longest, you hurt that factor too.
    0:58:45 So that’s how you do it.
    0:58:46 Yeah.
    0:58:49 And actually I did have a credit card that was with me for like so long.
    0:58:53 And then the credit card company ended the card.
    0:58:55 And I was like, oh man, I’m really screwed.
    0:58:58 They ended it because you weren’t using it, right?
    0:58:59 No, no.
    0:59:03 Like that type of card retired because I had it for so long.
    0:59:05 And then suddenly I was like, oh my God, I have no credit cards.
    0:59:06 And I didn’t even realize.
    0:59:09 I’m fixing it though.
    0:59:12 It’s not that terrible, but I’m fixing it.
    0:59:12 Cool.
    0:59:15 So let’s talk about investing in general.
    0:59:17 I’m just going to give you a general question.
    0:59:21 I actually asked Susie Orman this question when she came on the show.
    0:59:25 If you had $100,000 to invest, you already had your emergency fund.
    0:59:27 You already had savings, all that.
    0:59:29 You just had $100,000 cash.
    0:59:31 Where would you put it?
    0:59:38 What I’m doing with that kind of money right now is splitting it up and buying the stocks
    0:59:42 that we’ve been picking for our investing club, right?
    0:59:48 I have a diversified portfolio that is set up to get me to the retirement that I want to
    0:59:48 get to.
    0:59:50 I am on track.
    0:59:51 I have met my savings goals.
    0:59:58 So if this is quite literally free money, I’m going to put it into the picks that we’re
    1:00:00 picking for our investing club.
    1:00:06 And so recently, we’ve been looking at stocks like Lululemon.
    1:00:08 We’ve got JPMorgan Chase.
    1:00:14 We’ve got a bunch of stocks in the portfolio, but we add one about every month.
    1:00:16 And sometimes we sell one.
    1:00:18 And I would do that.
    1:00:19 That’s so cool.
    1:00:25 So this investment club is basically, you guys all talk about stocks and give guidance
    1:00:25 to each other.
    1:00:27 How does one join your investment club?
    1:00:29 So you can go to hermoney.com.
    1:00:32 It’s called Investing Fix.
    1:00:36 If anybody wants to try it out, you can do it free for a month.
    1:00:42 But the way it works is that every month we present four different investing options.
    1:00:45 We look at them on four different dimensions.
    1:00:46 How do they make their money?
    1:00:48 What do we like about them?
    1:00:49 What don’t we like about them?
    1:00:52 And would we buy them at the current price?
    1:00:59 And then the club votes on what we add to the portfolio and what we take away from the portfolio.
    1:01:00 It’s a democracy.
    1:01:02 Democracy rules.
    1:01:04 And it’s been a lot of fun.
    1:01:11 Some of the women in our club have stepped up and presented stocks that they’re interested in.
    1:01:14 And some of those have been purchased for the club.
    1:01:18 One of our members suggested United Rentals and we bought that.
    1:01:20 It’s been a huge win.
    1:01:24 So we’re all learning from each other, which is just so amazing.
    1:01:25 That’s so cool.
    1:01:30 So it’s actually like you guys are pooling your money together and investing together?
    1:01:31 We’re not.
    1:01:40 We run a group portfolio that the club itself runs and is invested by the votes that the club decides.
    1:01:46 But a lot of members like me are buying the picks for our own portfolios.
    1:01:47 I love it.
    1:01:49 Well, Jean, this was such an awesome conversation.
    1:01:52 I end my show with two questions that I ask all my guests.
    1:01:55 Then at the end of the year, we typically do something fun with it.
    1:02:03 So the first one is, what is one actionable thing our young and profiters can do today to become more profitable tomorrow?
    1:02:07 Start tracking your spending.
    1:02:10 Figuring out where that money is going for real.
    1:02:11 Yeah.
    1:02:19 If you don’t know where it’s going, then you have no control over what it’s doing for you, whether it’s a business expense or a personal expense.
    1:02:25 And I know it’s tedious and I know it’s boring, but sometimes boring is better.
    1:02:28 And what is your secret to profiting in life?
    1:02:30 And this can go beyond financial advice.
    1:02:45 My secret to profiting, and I got to tell you, I lost my mom recently and my lifelong friends came out of the woodwork and haven’t left me alone in a good way, in the best way.
    1:02:53 And my secret is to invest as much energy as absolutely possible in those friends.
    1:02:54 That’s so beautiful.
    1:02:55 It’s so true.
    1:03:01 Sometimes you forget about relationships and nothing in the world is more important, I think, than relationships.
    1:03:02 A hundred percent.
    1:03:05 Jean, where can everybody learn more about you and Her Money?
    1:03:13 So I’m on social pretty much everywhere at Jean Chatzky, and you can find us at hermoney.com.
    1:03:14 Amazing.
    1:03:16 Well, thank you so much for joining us on Young and Profiting Podcast.
    1:03:18 Thanks for having me.
    1:03:32 Thanks for having me.

    Determined to master her messy personal finances, Jean Chatzky immersed herself in learning about finance, financial freedom, and investing. She worked on Wall Street to understand the stock market, then transitioned to financial journalism. After being fired for being “too expensive,” she turned her side hustles into HerMoney—a safe space where women can build wealth and take control of their money. In this episode, Jean shares actionable insights on achieving financial freedom and building lasting confidence around money.

    In this episode, Hala and Jean will discuss:

    (00:00) Introduction

    01:12 From Journalism to Financial Expertise

    03:06 Skill Stacking

    06:38 The Gender Wage Gap

    11:21 Women Controlling Wealth and Spending

    20:07 Navigating Relationships and Success

    27:03 Women and Investing

    30:09 The Importance of Financial Freedom

    31:36 Homeownership: Is It Worth It?

    35:47 Understanding Your Money Type

    40:15 Budgeting and Avoiding Overspending

    42:39 Strategies for Paying Down Debt

    44:33 Improving Your Credit Score

    47:34 Investing Wisely

    Jean Chatzky is the CEO and co-founder of HerMoney Media, a digital platform focused on enhancing financial planning, literacy, and wellness among women. She is an award-winning personal finance journalist, bestselling author, and host of the HerMoney podcast. With a background that spans Forbes, SmartMoney, and a 25-year tenure on NBC’s Today show, she has earned many accolades, such as the Gracie Award for Outstanding Host. She has authored multiple bestselling books, including Women with Money and Pay It Down! She frequently appears on major platforms like CNN, MSNBC, and The Oprah Winfrey Show. 

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