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0:01:12 This week’s number, 400.
0:01:17 That’s how many people applied to adopt Pepper, a foul mouth parrot from Anaya Rafal’s Animal
0:01:18 Shelter.
0:01:22 True story, the Pope has said that pets should not replace children.
0:01:25 I guess he doesn’t want priest practicing bestiality.
0:01:40 Welcome to PropG markets at what’s going, is that too much, Ed?
0:01:41 Is that too much?
0:01:42 On point, as always.
0:01:43 There you go.
0:01:44 There you go.
0:01:45 What was my other pet joke?
0:01:49 Oh, supposedly one-third of people let their pets sleep in their bed with them.
0:01:53 So I gave it a try and the goldfish died.
0:01:55 That’s a good two, right?
0:01:56 That’s good.
0:02:00 If I could just weave in goldfish and pedophilia, I could have it all.
0:02:01 I could have it all.
0:02:04 Welcome to PropG markets, Ed.
0:02:05 What is going on today?
0:02:08 We’re going to talk about money, as always Scott, but this time we’re going to focus
0:02:13 on a specific topic that we get a lot of questions about, and that is how to deal with
0:02:16 money when it comes to family.
0:02:19 So I’m going to run through a series of questions about how you think about money when it comes
0:02:23 to your own family, and hopefully we’ll get some advice for our listeners.
0:02:24 That sound good?
0:02:25 Sounds good.
0:02:29 So you have a famous piece of advice, which is that the most important financial decision
0:02:32 that you’ll make is who you partner with.
0:02:37 So I just want to focus on partners for the beginning of this.
0:02:41 How did you know that you and your partner were aligned financially?
0:02:44 Well, it’s not easy to sort of have that conversation with your young, because you’re
0:02:48 not entirely sure you understand each of your approach to spending.
0:02:49 You get a sense for it.
0:02:52 A lot of it just comes down to what sort of turns you on.
0:02:57 I’ve always been very attracted to women who were exceptionally competent.
0:03:02 My current partner worked at Goldman Sachs, has an MBA, has always made a lot of money,
0:03:04 and I just find that sexy.
0:03:08 Not so much that they make money, which is obviously very helpful.
0:03:12 Two incomes are just so powerful relative to one.
0:03:14 But I’ve always just been drawn to people who are really competent.
0:03:19 My girlfriend before her was a surgeon.
0:03:24 And my first wife also had an MBA and was the COO of a retailer.
0:03:27 So that shit just works for me.
0:03:29 And I think it’s an individual thing.
0:03:31 I got very lucky that way.
0:03:35 And that is I chose partners who were really financially viable, not because I was thinking
0:03:39 about money, but because I just personally find that very attractive.
0:03:44 And do you have conversations with your — have you always had conversations with your partners
0:03:46 about money and about your financial goals?
0:03:49 Yeah, although in the beginning, we didn’t really have a lot of conversations.
0:03:53 It was just — with my first wife, it was just like, we’re both working so hard.
0:03:56 And she had sort of these Midwestern values.
0:03:57 I’ve always spent more than my partners.
0:04:01 I’ve always — I don’t know if it was purposeful, but I’ve always found partners that are fairly
0:04:03 — not frugal, but really responsible with money.
0:04:06 And I’m always on the one like, “No, let’s buy the Range Rover.
0:04:08 You only live once.”
0:04:11 And I’ve never gone into debt, but I’ve always been a spender.
0:04:17 And usually my partner’s sort of a more of a saver, or not even a saver, but less of
0:04:18 a risk-taker.
0:04:22 If we were up to my partner, we would have Krugerans buried in the backyard.
0:04:28 And maybe buying — like risk for her is buying Deutsche Bonds that yield one and a half percent.
0:04:33 And I’m like, “No, it’s this great new technology that sends, you know, that sends pets into
0:04:34 space.
0:04:37 It’s a no-brainer.”
0:04:40 What I will say is — and I think this is really important, the approach I have tried
0:04:41 to take.
0:04:48 And this is a story of privilege, because I’ve always had more money, or almost always
0:04:51 made more money than I was spending.
0:04:57 One of the really wonderful things I really value about my relationship is that I encourage
0:04:59 my wife to spend money.
0:05:01 I want her to enjoy the money.
0:05:05 I want her to live life.
0:05:07 And I’m the one — she’ll call me and say, “Hey, I’m looking at this.”
0:05:12 And she calls me because she doesn’t like to buy expensive things for herself.
0:05:14 And she knows I’m going to say, “Yes, go for it.”
0:05:19 I’m a conduit for happiness, and that is I’m never that happy myself.
0:05:23 But the way I register joy is when other people are happy.
0:05:29 So I’ve always really enjoyed, if money can buy people happiness in my family, I want them
0:05:32 to indulge and engage in that.
0:05:38 But that is one part of my life that has always been really positive.
0:05:43 What’s your approach to sharing with your partner, like sharing assets?
0:05:49 To what extent is it two financial lives versus one merged together for you?
0:05:50 Well, I think it’s individual.
0:05:54 I think some people, especially later in life, who come to the table with preexisting assets
0:05:58 when I keep their assets sequestered from each other, I get that.
0:06:04 But in all of my relationships, including this one, I’ve been in this current relationship
0:06:05 for over 20 years.
0:06:08 I didn’t really have any money when I met my current partner.
0:06:13 I mean, it’s really rewarding to build economic security is rewarding, but what’s incredibly
0:06:16 rewarding is to build it with someone else.
0:06:17 It’s just fun.
0:06:20 You just feel like you’re building something, and if you buy your house together and you
0:06:25 make money and you can build a nice life together that includes economic security, it’s just
0:06:27 so much rewarding than building it on your own.
0:06:29 It’s almost like it doesn’t really happen.
0:06:31 I love investing with other people.
0:06:36 That way if the investment goes well, you both celebrate it, and it’s just so much more fun.
0:06:38 I’ve never had separate accounts.
0:06:43 Even when I wasn’t married to my ex-wife when we were just living together, I’m like, “What’s
0:06:44 mine is yours?”
0:06:47 We had one checking account.
0:06:49 We didn’t track who was spending what.
0:06:51 We both had similar approaches to money.
0:06:52 We were both responsible.
0:06:54 We were both making money.
0:06:56 I have never checked my partner’s credit card bills.
0:06:58 I’ve never done any of that.
0:07:05 Again, a lot of that is because we had the luxury of having a decent amount of money.
0:07:08 This stuff is so important because they say the majority of divorces are a function of
0:07:10 economic stress.
0:07:11 That is just one stress.
0:07:18 I’ve had stress economically, but it has never been injected into my relationships.
0:07:23 What kinds of economic decisions do you think should be made together?
0:07:29 It sounds like when your wife calls you and she wants to buy something expensive, she’s
0:07:35 kind of asking for permission to make the economic decision together in a way.
0:07:38 Where’s your line on when you got to call the partner?
0:07:41 The dynamic is a little unusual there because here’s the thing.
0:07:42 She doesn’t need to call me.
0:07:43 She doesn’t need my permission.
0:07:49 What she is doing is she wants me to validate it because she has trouble spending that kind
0:07:50 of money on herself.
0:07:55 She knows what I’m going to say, which is the following.
0:07:57 You should absolutely buy it.
0:08:01 Oh my God, $38,000 for a pair of antique earrings.
0:08:02 That is such a great value.
0:08:07 It would be economically irresponsible of you not to buy it.
0:08:11 For the well-being of our family, I need you to buy those earrings.
0:08:15 She knows I’m going to say something similar to that and it makes her feel better about
0:08:16 buying it.
0:08:19 I see above, very privileged.
0:08:22 Let’s throw out a hypothetical for you then.
0:08:27 You want to buy a car, not a crazy sports car, but a car.
0:08:28 Is that a shared decision?
0:08:29 No.
0:08:33 If it’s something over a few hundred dollars, we’re renovating a house and she’ll talk to
0:08:37 me about decisions and what it’s going to cost.
0:08:42 We share a discussion and it’s not permission, but it’s joint decision making to try and
0:08:46 make sure wisdom of crowds around spending big ticket purchases, buying a house or renovating
0:08:47 a house or big purchases.
0:08:50 We talk about that stuff.
0:08:55 I make big investment decisions that are multi-million dollar decisions without her permission.
0:09:01 What we do on money though is because I manage the investments is that on a regular basis,
0:09:05 I tell her where we are and that is I’ll sit down with her probably every three or probably
0:09:07 every six months and I’ll say, “This is how much money we have.”
0:09:12 I have, I don’t know, 25 investments and I’ll say, “This is how they’re all doing.”
0:09:14 I try to give it to her very sober and very straight.
0:09:19 Last week, I think I told you two weeks ago, I had an investment, a $5 million investment
0:09:20 go to zero.
0:09:23 The next day I just said, “Oh, FYI, do you remember that health care text message in
0:09:24 company?”
0:09:25 I’m like, “It went to zero.”
0:09:27 Immediately, she said, “That’s it.
0:09:33 No more sex for you for the rest of the year, Mr. fucking idiot ruining our economic security.”
0:09:42 I think what strains relationships is obviously economics but I think what ruins them is surprises.
0:09:48 I always want my partner to know where we are economically and I’m good at money.
0:09:52 She outsources that part of our life to me and pretty much she does almost everything
0:09:58 else but around investments and maintaining top-line wealth and wealth decisions.
0:10:02 I make those decisions but on the big ones, I check in with her.
0:10:06 This is what I’m thinking, this is what we’re investing in and I just want her to know what’s
0:10:07 going on.
0:10:09 I don’t want her to ever feel surprised.
0:10:13 I don’t want her to feel like she’s reading the market so up 30% but our wealth got cut
0:10:15 because of our investments are down.
0:10:19 I never want her to be surprised so I tell her exactly how it is and I always, I would
0:10:25 say, have a little bit of a … I kind of give it to her a little bit worse than what
0:10:30 it is but I’m very quick to tell her about the losses and not as quick to tell her about
0:10:31 the wins.
0:10:35 I honestly do but the key is, you never want your partner to be a surprise about this.
0:10:37 I mean, losing money is bad.
0:10:38 What’s worse is surprises.
0:10:44 Yeah, it sounds like you don’t have much stress around the economics in your relationship.
0:10:46 One, because you have the money.
0:10:50 I think that’s an important point but two, it sounds like there’s just generally a high
0:10:55 level of trust so you don’t have to be tracking stuff because you just trust that the other
0:10:58 person is going to make the right decision.
0:10:59 Would you say that’s sort of the key?
0:11:05 I just think you need to be cognizant of what your partner, potential partner’s approach
0:11:11 to money is, if and what will their contribution be on both sides.
0:11:15 What economic weight class do you expect to be in?
0:11:19 Who’s responsible for maintaining that economic weight class and what is your approach, each
0:11:20 of your approach to spending?
0:11:27 Just some very basic general questions ask yourself and each other and also have an honest
0:11:28 talk about, “All right.
0:11:29 We live in Chicago.
0:11:31 This is probably what it’s going to cost to live.
0:11:33 This is how much money I’m going to make.
0:11:34 How much money do you think you’re going to make?
0:11:37 Are you planning to make money?”
0:11:42 Because you just need to get some sort of alignment and then I think where you need
0:11:50 real alignment with your partner, a very open conversation is when things go awry.
0:11:55 When you have economics to ask, maybe it’s a healthcare cost or one of your parents gets
0:11:59 sick and you have to come up with money when he gets laid off, whatever it might be, but
0:12:04 you end up with economic hardship, then you need to really be transparent and sit down
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0:15:31 Let’s talk about parents.
0:15:35 Do you think people should feel a responsibility to provide for their parents once they start
0:15:36 making money?
0:15:37 I don’t know if they should.
0:15:39 I know I always did.
0:15:42 My dad had such an unhealthy relationship.
0:15:46 My dad loves me more than my sister because I make more money than her.
0:15:50 My dad has such a fucked-up relationship with money.
0:15:55 He grew up in Scotland during the Depression in an era where if you didn’t have money,
0:16:01 you could literally starve, and he just has such an unhealthy relationship to money.
0:16:06 It was always a constant source of stress for him, his approach to it.
0:16:07 It scarred me.
0:16:11 If I can’t pay for everyone when I go out, I won’t go out.
0:16:15 When I was younger, if I couldn’t pay for everybody, not that I was expected to, but
0:16:20 my dad was so cheap that I went the other way.
0:16:24 I just wouldn’t go out unless I felt like I could pay for everybody.
0:16:29 Anyways, that’s a different talk show, but I take care of my dad financially now.
0:16:30 It cost me a shit ton of money.
0:16:36 I spend about, I think about $250,000 or $300,000 post-tax taking care of my father, having
0:16:41 him in a home, having a full-time health aide, helped out my mom, but I was in a position
0:16:43 to, and it felt really nice.
0:16:47 It felt really good to be able to do that.
0:16:53 What I would say is that, hopefully you have siblings, hopefully your parents are economically
0:17:00 responsible and saved enough money, but yeah, I think the definition of family is you take
0:17:07 an emotionally and financially invested, you’re invested in their success and their
0:17:08 well-being.
0:17:15 So, ideally, you and your siblings get together and figure out a way that your parents are
0:17:16 comfortable.
0:17:21 What’s been really wonderful in terms of, for example, with my father’s, there’s different
0:17:22 ways to contribute.
0:17:28 My father’s kind of needed a lot of care or financial care over the last 10 years.
0:17:31 He’s gotten older and divorced for his fourth time.
0:17:37 I have the money to do it, but my sister handles all of the logistics and hiring and firing
0:17:44 of the nurses and negotiating with the facility he’s at, and to be honest, my part’s the
0:17:45 easy part.
0:17:49 I pay for it all because I make more money than my sister, but I see that as the easy
0:17:50 part.
0:17:53 She has to get on the phone with these folks and figure out if they’re going to have a
0:17:56 full-time nurse, what the hours are.
0:17:57 It’s been a great partnership.
0:18:03 I’m really grateful that me and my sister are really aligned around this, but yeah,
0:18:07 every family’s different, but if you’re in a position to help your parents, why wouldn’t
0:18:08 it?
0:18:09 It feels good.
0:18:10 It feels right.
0:18:11 It feels natural.
0:18:12 Do you take care of your sister financially?
0:18:13 No, I don’t take care of her.
0:18:16 Her and her husband are really successful professionally.
0:18:21 What I do is just because it’s fun is occasionally I help out with things like the kids’ school
0:18:24 or something like that, more just because it makes me feel good, but they don’t really
0:18:25 need it.
0:18:31 It’s something I really enjoy and I want a really nice relationship with my niece and
0:18:32 nephew.
0:18:36 I just love the idea of them finding out at some point that I helped out with their school.
0:18:41 I do it just as a means of hoping that it’ll strengthen my relationship with them when
0:18:42 they’re adults.
0:18:47 Do you think people should kind of factor that in when it comes to economic planning?
0:18:54 I mean, you talked about planning with your partner, how much do we intend to make?
0:18:55 What are our goals?
0:18:59 Do you think people should be thinking, and this is how much I want to be providing for
0:19:00 my family?
0:19:04 Is this how much I want to have stowed away to take care of my parents when they’re old,
0:19:05 et cetera?
0:19:09 I think that because at the end of the day, your ability to do that is going to be based
0:19:10 on how much money you have.
0:19:16 I think you should just be focused on what we talk about, the algebra of wealth, finding
0:19:19 something you’re good at, doubling down on it, becoming great at it, which will give you
0:19:23 economic currency in the marketplace, trying to spend less than you make, invest that money,
0:19:27 develop an army of capital you can deploy, recognize time is going to go faster than
0:19:32 you think, and then diversify such that you’re in a position to be generous with your family
0:19:35 and extended family.
0:19:38 You need to affix your own oxygen mass first, and when you’re young, your parents probably
0:19:41 aren’t sick and don’t need help, you don’t have kids to take care of, that’s the time
0:19:48 to develop that savings muscle and that professional currency, and put yourself on a path to financial
0:19:49 security.
0:19:50 Let me flip the question back to you, Ed.
0:19:55 You have parents, you’re making good money, but you’re not wealthy.
0:19:58 What’s your approach and your thinking around helping out your parents and your approach
0:20:00 to saving for that?
0:20:01 Is that something you’re actively thinking about?
0:20:08 Both of my parents are fine, so I’m not worried about them from that aspect, but I think the
0:20:13 thing that you mentioned with your sister, the fact that your sister is doing, yeah,
0:20:17 the hard work, getting on the phone, figuring out where they should be staying, how to take
0:20:23 care of them, those are things that I have been thinking about progressively a little
0:20:24 bit more.
0:20:29 I mean, my grandad is very sick at the moment, I’m about to go visit him this weekend, and
0:20:35 I’ve been seeing this play out in real time of just the responsibility of everyone.
0:20:39 It suddenly kicks in at that point when you suddenly realize that life is fine, and everyone
0:20:46 suddenly gets their act together and starts thinking, okay, how do I pay it back?
0:20:51 I guess I just asked the economic planning question because I’m only just now thinking
0:20:52 of that.
0:20:58 I’m only now seeing it because I see death around the corner, and now I’m thinking, oh,
0:20:59 did I get my act together right now?
0:21:01 I’m not necessarily sure how I can.
0:21:03 When you see your act together, what do you mean?
0:21:08 Do I need to be planning such that I can provide for my parents?
0:21:15 Do I need to be making sure that I’m taking care of them too, which, you know, my parents
0:21:17 have always taken care of me.
0:21:23 So I guess there’s a moment where you start thinking that the script should be flipped.
0:21:27 It feels like for you, when your mom got really sick, that was that moment.
0:21:29 Yeah, and it happened at about exactly your age.
0:21:34 My mom first got diagnosed with cancer when I was exactly your age.
0:21:38 It was a real wake-up call for me because we had economic stress, and I couldn’t take
0:21:42 care of her, and she ended up with shitty healthcare, and it was just, like, usually
0:21:45 emasculating and frustrating and humiliating, quite frankly.
0:21:48 I was in graduate school, and I think I’ve told this story.
0:21:53 She got discharged from the hospital early, having gone through batteries of chemo and
0:21:57 a mastectomy, and she was at home and called me, and I had to rush home, and it was just
0:22:02 such an ugly scene that I walked into, and I started calling around to get a nurse, and
0:22:07 nurses were $35 an hour, and we didn’t have that money, and I just know what to do.
0:22:10 But you’re thinking about it exactly the right way.
0:22:14 You’re thinking, “Ade, you’re just thinking about it, but the way you address that is
0:22:16 that you’re smart, and you’re doing all the right things.
0:22:17 You’re working hard.
0:22:19 I get the sense you’re saving.
0:22:22 You’re trying to invest.
0:22:25 Most people don’t invest at your age, and you’re working hard and trying to establish
0:22:26 professional relevance.”
0:22:32 So, that, quite frankly, with your parents, money kind of solves not all problems, but
0:22:33 most of them.
0:22:37 If you haven’t have money, as long as you have siblings, you have siblings, right?
0:22:38 You have two sisters.
0:22:41 Between the three of you, especially if you have a good relationship with them, and they’re
0:22:46 like-minded and generous around, and feel obligated to pitch in and help with your parents, one
0:22:51 of you might be wealthier than the other two, and be able to help more with money.
0:22:55 One might have a better relationship and be able to spend more time with your parents,
0:22:59 because they just get along with them better or have more time, and one might hopefully
0:23:05 have their shit together logistically, and be able to kind of handle and negotiate stuff.
0:23:09 There’s the money part, but the thing that’s, I think, been rougher than my sister’s had
0:23:14 to deal with is there’s just so many decisions to be made every day, and not only that, sometimes
0:23:17 your parents aren’t cooperating, right?
0:23:21 They don’t want to leave their house and move into an assisted living facility.
0:23:26 My dad starts leaving the facility and taking walks, and no one knows where he is, and I
0:23:31 have to call him and try and get through to him and tell him he’s not allowed to leave
0:23:39 the facility, and meanwhile, he thinks I’m his brother, not his son.
0:23:44 This stuff gets complicated fast, but I literally don’t know what people do that don’t have
0:23:46 a lot of money.
0:23:49 I am spending so much money on my dad right now, and it’s not a lot of money for me, but
0:23:50 it’s real money.
0:23:52 I don’t know what people do that aren’t wealthy.
0:23:53 Or alone.
0:23:58 That’s been my big observation watching my granddad is, “Oh my God, if this guy didn’t
0:24:02 have family, because that’s all you got at the end, it’s not going to be your friends,
0:24:03 it’s going to be your family.”
0:24:08 If he didn’t have family, if he didn’t have children and grandchildren around, it would
0:24:10 be miserable.
0:24:16 I had what I thought was one of the most stark, depressing moments, you know, when my mom
0:24:20 got sick, I was 26, so my life up into that point had mostly, you know, I’d just gotten,
0:24:24 I’ve been in college grad school, so it’s mostly UCLA games, fraternity parties, smoking
0:24:28 too much pot, watching Planet of the Apes over and over, and then all of a sudden my
0:24:31 mom got sick and everything just shook out real.
0:24:35 And I remember my mom had to go into this healthcare facility.
0:24:40 She was too sick to be at home without care, but she wasn’t sick enough to be in the hospital,
0:24:45 and she was with Kaiser, and Kaiser is basically very cost-conscious, so like, you don’t want
0:24:48 her in the hospital, it’s too expensive to keep her in the hospital.
0:24:52 So she went to, I don’t even know what they call it like, this facility.
0:24:56 And it was literally the place where people who have no money and no one who loves them
0:24:57 go.
0:25:01 And I remember walking into her room, and she was in this room with two cots, and there
0:25:07 were these bad springs that squeaked when she sat up and down, and they had these old
0:25:16 Moscow-like arms, metal arms with a TV, and the woman next to her had the TV turned up
0:25:21 so loud because she couldn’t hear it, and she had the arm extended such that this bad,
0:25:26 old ’70s TV, black and white, was literally in front of her face, and she just kept hitting
0:25:30 it, and the whole place stank of urine.
0:25:34 And there were a bunch of people, old people who looked like they were on death’s doorstep,
0:25:39 just sitting asleep, semi-conscious in their wheelchairs in the hallway.
0:25:43 But I remember walking in there and thinking, this is where people in America end up that
0:25:47 don’t have any money and don’t have anyone that loves them, that is still alive.
0:25:54 And it was such like a stark reminder that in America, one, you want to have money, and
0:25:59 two, you really want to invest in relationships such that someone is there to look out for
0:26:00 you.
0:26:02 Do you end up broken alone in America?
0:26:04 God, it’s fucking ugly.
0:26:07 100%.
0:26:17 On that note, ah, there we go, there we go, who’s buying Supreme, and are they overpaying?
0:26:28 Oh my God, broken alone, on today’s, on today’s ROFG markets, what’s it like to be broke with
0:26:29 no one who loves you?
0:26:30 Here’s a message from Betahelp.
0:26:32 Yeah, there you go.
0:26:33 Jesus Christ.
0:26:50 I’m going to leave for a mattress ad right off to this.
0:26:52 Fox Creative.
0:26:55 This is Advertiser content from Zell.
0:27:00 The recruiter said all I needed to do was send $500 to cover mandatory safety training
0:27:03 and the job was mine.
0:27:07 In a world where financial crimes are more and more sophisticated, there’s a team that’s
0:27:08 got your back.
0:27:09 Yee-haw!
0:27:14 Come in, Safe Squad, we got a 10-3.
0:27:17 Copy that dispatch, we’re on it.
0:27:22 Hop in, Skip, we got a phony recruiter.
0:27:24 Safe Squad.
0:27:26 The crime drama everyone is talking about.
0:27:31 I know it’s only my first day, but that sounds like a pretty cut-and-dry job scam.
0:27:33 Strap in, rookie.
0:27:37 These days criminals can even make it look like it’s your bank calm, but that’s where
0:27:38 we come in.
0:27:39 My what?
0:27:41 It’s my savings account.
0:27:42 Compromised.
0:27:43 Uh-huh.
0:27:44 Uh-huh.
0:27:45 No, I won’t hold.
0:27:46 Uh-huh.
0:27:47 Uh-huh.
0:27:50 No, I didn’t authorize a $12,000 withdrawal, that’s my life savings.
0:27:51 Why don’t you come with me?
0:27:54 I’ll show you how to report to the FTC.
0:27:56 What payment platform did you use?
0:27:58 Let’s contact them, too.
0:28:01 Don’t miss the TV event of the season, Safe Squad.
0:28:02 Hey Ace.
0:28:03 Yeah, kid?
0:28:04 You’re right.
0:28:07 That was one hell of a first day.
0:28:11 Learn how you can spot the signs of a scam so you don’t have to call the Safe Squad by
0:28:16 visiting www.vox.com/SafeSquadHQ.
0:28:28 Remember, never send money online to people you don’t already know and trust.
0:28:29 Hey, this is Scott Galloway, host of the PropG podcast.
0:28:33 One of my favorite things I get to do on this show is hear from our listeners and answer
0:28:37 their burning questions about all sorts of things, including work, life, school.
0:28:38 You name it.
0:28:42 And this summer, we’re bringing back the hits and covering some of our favorite questions
0:28:43 and takes.
0:28:47 Talking business, career advice, and even hearing a brand new, never been aired interview
0:28:48 about parenthood.
0:28:52 So tune in to the best of office hours, the special series from the PropG podcast sponsored
0:28:54 by Mint Mobile.
0:29:00 You can find it on the PropG feed wherever you get your podcasts.
0:29:02 You know what’s great about ambition?
0:29:03 You can’t see it.
0:29:07 Some things look ambitious, but looks can be deceiving.
0:29:13 For example, a runner could be training for a marathon or they could be late for the
0:29:14 bus.
0:29:16 You never know.
0:29:21 Ambition is on the inside, so that road trip bucket list, get after it.
0:29:31 Drive your ambition Mitsubishi Motors.
0:29:33 We’re back with PropG Markets.
0:29:35 Do you talk about money with your kids?
0:29:36 A little bit.
0:29:37 Not a lot.
0:29:44 We try to connect money to effort and what’s interesting is they’ve, I think they’ve kind
0:29:45 of figured it out on their own.
0:29:48 I don’t know, I don’t know how professionally confident they’re going to be or how much
0:29:52 money to make, but they’re not crazy spenders.
0:29:55 My older one, it kind of bums me out.
0:29:58 So it’s just the worst fucking thing in the world that they all have this haircut that
0:30:03 makes them look like an alpaca and I literally can’t handle it.
0:30:06 I want to drug them and cut their hair.
0:30:10 You know, my boys are so beautiful, they’re so handsome, and I know exactly the haircut
0:30:15 I want for them and they just, and they show up looking like this.
0:30:20 It’s awful that they look like a farm animal, it’s overgrown hair, it just, anyway.
0:30:25 But my oldest, so I was really excited, my oldest is going back, you know, I want to
0:30:28 take them out and get them some really cool clothes and I’m trying to figure out what the
0:30:29 cool brands are and I’m like, let’s go.
0:30:32 We went to Sunspeal and I’m like, I’ll catch this cool.
0:30:35 And I bought, there was this cool hoodie and it was like two or 300 bucks and he’s like,
0:30:37 I’m not going to spend that much.
0:30:39 I’m like, yeah, you’re not going to spend that much, but I’ll buy it for you.
0:30:41 He’s like, no, no, no, I don’t want you to buy it.
0:30:46 He can’t, he’s like his mom, he doesn’t like to spend money even when it’s my money.
0:30:49 And of course, the other brother pops up and he’s like, I want it, can I have two?
0:30:50 Can I have his?
0:30:53 So somehow they both ended up in different places.
0:30:56 It’s like when Michelle Obama said, the kids just come to you.
0:30:59 You like to think you’re an engineer, you’re not.
0:31:02 And so I’d like to think we’re doing a good job of connecting them to money, but I think
0:31:07 what’s strange is they don’t have a sense for how much money we have.
0:31:10 And what I try to do, I’m thinking about taking them into Africa with Scott Harrison from
0:31:11 Charity Water.
0:31:17 I just need them to see how not most people, but some people live and recognize that a
0:31:23 lot of what their success and privilege is not their fault and that the majority of people
0:31:27 in this world do not get to live like they live.
0:31:31 And I don’t blame them for not understanding that because they’ve been sheltered from it,
0:31:32 but that’s one thing we want to do.
0:31:36 But they’re pretty good around, they’re pretty good.
0:31:40 My youngest, I’m working with my youngest on the sneaker business using AI around went
0:31:44 to bid on drops for shoes and what the resale value is and we’re trying to set up a site
0:31:49 on Shopify, you know, and every week I lose money on it, but he sort of gets it.
0:31:54 He understands, okay, buy a shoe for 200 bucks and try and sell it for 300.
0:31:57 And he’s thinking about what’s the best way to drop ship for the lowest money, but it
0:32:01 has good customer service because he wants to get good reviews.
0:32:02 So that’s great.
0:32:03 He’s going to be more of the entrepreneur.
0:32:06 I think my older one is much more conservative, doesn’t like to spend money.
0:32:10 I think he’ll end up being a professional, but we don’t talk, like I’ve never told them
0:32:14 how much money we have or anything like that or, but so far, I’ve been really lucky.
0:32:19 They’re not, I mean, granted, they’re just about to turn 14 and 17, so they’re not crazy
0:32:20 spenders.
0:32:21 They just don’t spend a lot.
0:32:22 Do they know you’re rich?
0:32:23 Yeah.
0:32:24 There’s no way not to figure it out.
0:32:32 I mean, we fly private, you know, they don’t, words out, words out that we have money.
0:32:33 And they’re kind of fascinated.
0:32:34 My youngest is fascinated by money.
0:32:38 We went to the finals in the world, you know, the finals of the Euros and he said, how much
0:32:39 were these tickets?
0:32:40 I’m like, I’m not going to tell you.
0:32:43 And he’s like, do you like wants to know and he’s looking at my phone and he wants to
0:32:46 know how much the tickets were and that’s an interesting one.
0:32:51 Like, why do you not want to tell them how rich you, I mean, they know that you’re rich
0:32:56 but you don’t want them to know how rich and you don’t want, really want to put a number
0:32:57 on it.
0:32:58 What’s your philosophy there?
0:33:03 It just feels weird to tell my son, yeah, I’m spending 10,000 pounds on a soccer game.
0:33:05 So we can go.
0:33:10 I feel like that’s going to disconnect them from the value of money at that age.
0:33:12 So how do you teach them the value?
0:33:15 I mean, the Africa idea is one.
0:33:20 Is there anything else you do to kind of be like, hey, this isn’t normal?
0:33:21 It’s weird.
0:33:24 They sort of made the connection a little bit on their own because I don’t think it’s
0:33:26 been great parenting.
0:33:29 I had this really wonderful moment with my youngest.
0:33:34 He has a friend from school who doesn’t have a lot of money and his friend accidentally
0:33:39 poured milk or spilled milk on his headphones and they were ruined.
0:33:46 And so he came to me and he said, dad, I want to buy my friend a pair of the AirPod Max’s
0:33:51 that big cans to go over your ears and he said, if I put in a hundred bucks, will you
0:33:52 give me $200?
0:33:55 He’s a super nice kid and he doesn’t have a lot of money and I was just like, I was
0:33:59 just so moved by that and I thought that’s exactly the kind of approach to money I want
0:34:00 my kids to have.
0:34:04 And I said, of course, and any time you want to get money away or do something for someone
0:34:07 else, I’ll contribute.
0:34:09 That was really nice.
0:34:12 But I don’t know where they learned it, didn’t learn it from me.
0:34:13 I don’t think.
0:34:14 I don’t know.
0:34:16 So, I mean, here’s the thing, Ed.
0:34:22 You do your best, but parents are under the delusion that we’re engineers.
0:34:23 We’re shepherds.
0:34:26 We get to choose where the sheep grazes with the food it eats.
0:34:32 Maybe we can point it in the right direction, but be clear, the sheep comes to you.
0:34:36 And I think I hope what they see is that their mom works hard and is really responsible
0:34:42 with money that I work hard and they see how committed we are to our professions.
0:34:47 They see that we’re generous with our money, so I hope that they inherit that.
0:34:48 And they also see that we enjoy it.
0:34:49 I hope they inherit that.
0:34:51 I hope my oldest starts spending.
0:34:56 I’m worried my oldest isn’t going to want to spend any money and not enjoy it.
0:35:01 But I would say we’re just kind of letting it happen, which may not be the right approach.
0:35:04 My kids talk a lot or ask a lot of questions now about money.
0:35:06 They’re very interested in it, especially my youngest.
0:35:09 He asks about stocks, how stock prices are decided.
0:35:12 Yeah, I mean, their dad just wrote a book called The Algebra of Wealth.
0:35:13 I’d be shocked if they didn’t.
0:35:15 Dude, they don’t care what their dad does.
0:35:20 They literally, every time someone stops me on the street, they’re like, “Why do they
0:35:22 know you again?”
0:35:28 They are so befuddled that anyone would find me interesting at all.
0:35:29 They’re like, “What?
0:35:31 Why did this person say hi to you?
0:35:33 What do you do again?”
0:35:34 They just don’t get it.
0:35:40 By the way, the opening note of that book is a message to them, and you say, “I hope
0:35:41 you’ll read this.”
0:35:42 You think they’ll ever read it?
0:35:43 Oh, yeah.
0:35:46 When I’m gone, maybe hopefully before I’m gone, but definitely when I’m gone, I can’t
0:35:51 imagine, I’ve invested, I’d like to think so much time and love in my kids that they’re
0:35:57 going to love me, you’re banking on, you’re going to get a fraction of that back.
0:36:00 And I’d like to think they’ll be interested enough of me to read my books.
0:36:04 Let me just say, I’d be really disappointed if they didn’t at some point.
0:36:05 They will.
0:36:08 They’re going to be curious, so yeah, I think so.
0:36:09 I think it’s gross.
0:36:10 I hope so at least.
0:36:14 Have you thought more about estate planning and inheritance?
0:36:19 Yeah, I think about it a lot because now that we have real money, you have to think about
0:36:20 it and be smart about it.
0:36:22 So we work with our folks.
0:36:23 Goldman manages our money.
0:36:25 I have a lawyer, I have a tax lawyer, and they set up a trust.
0:36:30 We’re trying to figure out what to put into the trust, how to take advantage of the limits
0:36:34 on trust, figure out if Biden is going to lower the trust limit.
0:36:35 There’s all this…
0:36:36 It’s a lot of tax planning.
0:36:40 The tax code is so complicated that, and this is an advantage for wealthy people because
0:36:44 you can kind of weaponize and maneuver through it if you’re smart.
0:36:48 You want to run boat races at night if you have GPS.
0:36:52 And so the more complicated you make the race, the more advantage sheets to people who can
0:36:57 afford the technology, in this case, the advisors to help you navigate a boat race at night.
0:36:59 But yeah, I think a lot about the trust.
0:37:05 I also think about my partner is 15 years younger than me, and women usually live seven
0:37:06 years longer.
0:37:08 So she’s going to be around about 22 years longer.
0:37:13 But now I’m trying to set up, what I am thinking about is putting stuff in assets that will…
0:37:17 Like apartments, rental apartments that will spin off income because I’m turning into that.
0:37:21 I hate to say that, person thinking about…
0:37:26 So my kids have enough money that they’re never broke, and my kid isn’t going to come
0:37:28 run property media.
0:37:32 My kid isn’t going to take one of my analytics companies and be the CEO there.
0:37:36 But maybe if one of my kids doesn’t have their own professional trajectory, I like the idea
0:37:39 that maybe they could manage some apartment buildings, and that’s probably the wrong way
0:37:40 to think about it.
0:37:43 But I am thinking about intergenerational wealth.
0:37:48 But more than anything, what I’m spending the most time on is just making sure that my partner
0:37:50 is really comfortable after I’m gone.
0:37:54 This is kind of a turnaround from what you’ve said in the post, which is, I think you’ve
0:37:58 said you don’t want to leave anything to your kids.
0:38:03 Well, that’s mostly joking to justify my out-of-control spending.
0:38:04 Buffets summarize it perfectly.
0:38:07 I want my kids to have enough money so they can do anything, but not enough money so they
0:38:09 can do nothing.
0:38:11 So I’ll set up a trust for them.
0:38:14 My partner, assuming she lives a quarter century longer than me, is going to have to figure
0:38:15 it out.
0:38:19 But I’m putting in place the mechanics of it such that after she’s gone, they’ll get
0:38:23 some money when they turn 21, we’re going to give most of it away, but we’ll leave enough
0:38:27 for them such that they can afford a house, any education they want, and maybe a little
0:38:35 bit more, and have access to a little of it at 25, 35, and then access to all of it.
0:38:37 But I think about this a lot.
0:38:42 It’s a huge issue for wealthy people because you don’t want indulgent jerks.
0:38:47 And also a huge motivator for me was the fear of if I didn’t make money, I wasn’t going
0:38:48 to have any.
0:38:50 That’s incredibly motivating.
0:38:55 When you worry about taking away that motivation, but I’m not one of those people, it’s really
0:39:00 easy to say, “Yeah, once they’re through college, that’s it, they’re on their own.”
0:39:02 Yeah, I never find any parent does that.
0:39:07 None of my friends have done that, have cut off their kids, none of them.
0:39:09 I have really good friends.
0:39:13 My really good friends, Greg and Cindy, have done a really good job of kind of maturing
0:39:18 really competent, self-sufficient adults.
0:39:21 They’ve been pretty disciplined about saying, “Okay, you get a certain amount of money
0:39:25 and help you go to college and you get a certain kind of allowance, but at some point, you’re
0:39:26 on your own.”
0:39:28 I don’t know if I’ll have that discipline.
0:39:29 I don’t know.
0:39:31 I haven’t fully figured it out yet.
0:39:33 We’ll just end with this last question.
0:39:40 If there’s one thing you want your children to understand about money once you die, what
0:39:41 would it be?
0:39:44 It’s really important, but it’s a means.
0:39:48 It’s meaningful, but what’s profound is that money is nothing but something that should
0:39:54 enable you to have an absence of stress such you can focus on relationships, that you need
0:39:57 to be professionally competent, you need to be self-sufficient.
0:40:03 Making money is a lot of fun, but it’s just a means to the ends, and the ends is deep
0:40:07 and meaningful relationships, and that money can be a lubricant for that and provide an
0:40:12 absence of stress and a series of experiences that make you feel closer to the people you
0:40:16 love and help you take care of them.
0:40:20 This episode was produced by Claire Miller and engineered by Benjamin Spencer.
0:40:22 Our associate producer is Alison Weiss.
0:40:24 Our executive producer is Katherine Dillon.
0:40:28 Mia Silverio is our research lead and Drew Burroughs is our technical director.
0:40:31 Thank you for listening to Proffdue Markets from the Vox Media Podcast Network.
0:40:33 We’ll be back with a fresh take on markets on Thursday.
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0:41:07 Hey, this is Scott.
0:41:15 Hey, this is Scott Galloway, host of the Proffdue Podcast.
0:41:20 One of my favorite things I get to do on this show is hear from our listeners and answer
0:41:24 their burning questions about all sorts of things, including work, life, school.
0:41:25 You name it.
0:41:28 And this summer, we’re bringing back the hits and covering some of our favorite questions
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0:41:33 We’re talking business, career advice, and even hearing a brand new, never been aired
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0:00:39 Hey, this is Scott Galloway, host of the PropG Podcast.
0:00:43 One of my favorite things I get to do on this show is hear from our listeners and answer
0:00:48 their burning questions about all sorts of things, including work, life, school.
0:00:49 You name it.
0:00:52 And this summer, we’re bringing back the hits and covering some of our favorite questions
0:00:53 and takes.
0:00:57 We’re talking business, career advice, and even hearing a brand new, never been aired
0:00:58 interview about parenthood.
0:01:03 So tune in to the best of office hours, the special series from the PropG Podcast sponsored
0:01:05 by Mint Mobile.
0:01:10 You can find it on the PropG feed wherever you get your podcasts.
0:01:12 This week’s number, 400.
0:01:17 That’s how many people applied to adopt Pepper, a foul mouth parrot from Anaya Rafal’s Animal
0:01:18 Shelter.
0:01:22 True story, the Pope has said that pets should not replace children.
0:01:25 I guess he doesn’t want priest practicing bestiality.
0:01:40 Welcome to PropG markets at what’s going, is that too much, Ed?
0:01:41 Is that too much?
0:01:42 On point, as always.
0:01:43 There you go.
0:01:44 There you go.
0:01:45 What was my other pet joke?
0:01:49 Oh, supposedly one-third of people let their pets sleep in their bed with them.
0:01:53 So I gave it a try and the goldfish died.
0:01:55 That’s a good two, right?
0:01:56 That’s good.
0:02:00 If I could just weave in goldfish and pedophilia, I could have it all.
0:02:01 I could have it all.
0:02:04 Welcome to PropG markets, Ed.
0:02:05 What is going on today?
0:02:08 We’re going to talk about money, as always Scott, but this time we’re going to focus
0:02:13 on a specific topic that we get a lot of questions about, and that is how to deal with
0:02:16 money when it comes to family.
0:02:19 So I’m going to run through a series of questions about how you think about money when it comes
0:02:23 to your own family, and hopefully we’ll get some advice for our listeners.
0:02:24 That sound good?
0:02:25 Sounds good.
0:02:29 So you have a famous piece of advice, which is that the most important financial decision
0:02:32 that you’ll make is who you partner with.
0:02:37 So I just want to focus on partners for the beginning of this.
0:02:41 How did you know that you and your partner were aligned financially?
0:02:44 Well, it’s not easy to sort of have that conversation with your young, because you’re
0:02:48 not entirely sure you understand each of your approach to spending.
0:02:49 You get a sense for it.
0:02:52 A lot of it just comes down to what sort of turns you on.
0:02:57 I’ve always been very attracted to women who were exceptionally competent.
0:03:02 My current partner worked at Goldman Sachs, has an MBA, has always made a lot of money,
0:03:04 and I just find that sexy.
0:03:08 Not so much that they make money, which is obviously very helpful.
0:03:12 Two incomes are just so powerful relative to one.
0:03:14 But I’ve always just been drawn to people who are really competent.
0:03:19 My girlfriend before her was a surgeon.
0:03:24 And my first wife also had an MBA and was the COO of a retailer.
0:03:27 So that shit just works for me.
0:03:29 And I think it’s an individual thing.
0:03:31 I got very lucky that way.
0:03:35 And that is I chose partners who were really financially viable, not because I was thinking
0:03:39 about money, but because I just personally find that very attractive.
0:03:44 And do you have conversations with your — have you always had conversations with your partners
0:03:46 about money and about your financial goals?
0:03:49 Yeah, although in the beginning, we didn’t really have a lot of conversations.
0:03:53 It was just — with my first wife, it was just like, we’re both working so hard.
0:03:56 And she had sort of these Midwestern values.
0:03:57 I’ve always spent more than my partners.
0:04:01 I’ve always — I don’t know if it was purposeful, but I’ve always found partners that are fairly
0:04:03 — not frugal, but really responsible with money.
0:04:06 And I’m always on the one like, “No, let’s buy the Range Rover.
0:04:08 You only live once.”
0:04:11 And I’ve never gone into debt, but I’ve always been a spender.
0:04:17 And usually my partner’s sort of a more of a saver, or not even a saver, but less of
0:04:18 a risk-taker.
0:04:22 If we were up to my partner, we would have Krugerans buried in the backyard.
0:04:28 And maybe buying — like risk for her is buying Deutsche Bonds that yield one and a half percent.
0:04:33 And I’m like, “No, it’s this great new technology that sends, you know, that sends pets into
0:04:34 space.
0:04:37 It’s a no-brainer.”
0:04:40 What I will say is — and I think this is really important, the approach I have tried
0:04:41 to take.
0:04:48 And this is a story of privilege, because I’ve always had more money, or almost always
0:04:51 made more money than I was spending.
0:04:57 One of the really wonderful things I really value about my relationship is that I encourage
0:04:59 my wife to spend money.
0:05:01 I want her to enjoy the money.
0:05:05 I want her to live life.
0:05:07 And I’m the one — she’ll call me and say, “Hey, I’m looking at this.”
0:05:12 And she calls me because she doesn’t like to buy expensive things for herself.
0:05:14 And she knows I’m going to say, “Yes, go for it.”
0:05:19 I’m a conduit for happiness, and that is I’m never that happy myself.
0:05:23 But the way I register joy is when other people are happy.
0:05:29 So I’ve always really enjoyed, if money can buy people happiness in my family, I want them
0:05:32 to indulge and engage in that.
0:05:38 But that is one part of my life that has always been really positive.
0:05:43 What’s your approach to sharing with your partner, like sharing assets?
0:05:49 To what extent is it two financial lives versus one merged together for you?
0:05:50 Well, I think it’s individual.
0:05:54 I think some people, especially later in life, who come to the table with preexisting assets
0:05:58 when I keep their assets sequestered from each other, I get that.
0:06:04 But in all of my relationships, including this one, I’ve been in this current relationship
0:06:05 for over 20 years.
0:06:08 I didn’t really have any money when I met my current partner.
0:06:13 I mean, it’s really rewarding to build economic security is rewarding, but what’s incredibly
0:06:16 rewarding is to build it with someone else.
0:06:17 It’s just fun.
0:06:20 You just feel like you’re building something, and if you buy your house together and you
0:06:25 make money and you can build a nice life together that includes economic security, it’s just
0:06:27 so much rewarding than building it on your own.
0:06:29 It’s almost like it doesn’t really happen.
0:06:31 I love investing with other people.
0:06:36 That way if the investment goes well, you both celebrate it, and it’s just so much more fun.
0:06:38 I’ve never had separate accounts.
0:06:43 Even when I wasn’t married to my ex-wife when we were just living together, I’m like, “What’s
0:06:44 mine is yours?”
0:06:47 We had one checking account.
0:06:49 We didn’t track who was spending what.
0:06:51 We both had similar approaches to money.
0:06:52 We were both responsible.
0:06:54 We were both making money.
0:06:56 I have never checked my partner’s credit card bills.
0:06:58 I’ve never done any of that.
0:07:05 Again, a lot of that is because we had the luxury of having a decent amount of money.
0:07:08 This stuff is so important because they say the majority of divorces are a function of
0:07:10 economic stress.
0:07:11 That is just one stress.
0:07:18 I’ve had stress economically, but it has never been injected into my relationships.
0:07:23 What kinds of economic decisions do you think should be made together?
0:07:29 It sounds like when your wife calls you and she wants to buy something expensive, she’s
0:07:35 kind of asking for permission to make the economic decision together in a way.
0:07:38 Where’s your line on when you got to call the partner?
0:07:41 The dynamic is a little unusual there because here’s the thing.
0:07:42 She doesn’t need to call me.
0:07:43 She doesn’t need my permission.
0:07:49 What she is doing is she wants me to validate it because she has trouble spending that kind
0:07:50 of money on herself.
0:07:55 She knows what I’m going to say, which is the following.
0:07:57 You should absolutely buy it.
0:08:01 Oh my God, $38,000 for a pair of antique earrings.
0:08:02 That is such a great value.
0:08:07 It would be economically irresponsible of you not to buy it.
0:08:11 For the well-being of our family, I need you to buy those earrings.
0:08:15 She knows I’m going to say something similar to that and it makes her feel better about
0:08:16 buying it.
0:08:19 I see above, very privileged.
0:08:22 Let’s throw out a hypothetical for you then.
0:08:27 You want to buy a car, not a crazy sports car, but a car.
0:08:28 Is that a shared decision?
0:08:29 No.
0:08:33 If it’s something over a few hundred dollars, we’re renovating a house and she’ll talk to
0:08:37 me about decisions and what it’s going to cost.
0:08:42 We share a discussion and it’s not permission, but it’s joint decision making to try and
0:08:46 make sure wisdom of crowds around spending big ticket purchases, buying a house or renovating
0:08:47 a house or big purchases.
0:08:50 We talk about that stuff.
0:08:55 I make big investment decisions that are multi-million dollar decisions without her permission.
0:09:01 What we do on money though is because I manage the investments is that on a regular basis,
0:09:05 I tell her where we are and that is I’ll sit down with her probably every three or probably
0:09:07 every six months and I’ll say, “This is how much money we have.”
0:09:12 I have, I don’t know, 25 investments and I’ll say, “This is how they’re all doing.”
0:09:14 I try to give it to her very sober and very straight.
0:09:19 Last week, I think I told you two weeks ago, I had an investment, a $5 million investment
0:09:20 go to zero.
0:09:23 The next day I just said, “Oh, FYI, do you remember that health care text message in
0:09:24 company?”
0:09:25 I’m like, “It went to zero.”
0:09:27 Immediately, she said, “That’s it.
0:09:33 No more sex for you for the rest of the year, Mr. fucking idiot ruining our economic security.”
0:09:42 I think what strains relationships is obviously economics but I think what ruins them is surprises.
0:09:48 I always want my partner to know where we are economically and I’m good at money.
0:09:52 She outsources that part of our life to me and pretty much she does almost everything
0:09:58 else but around investments and maintaining top-line wealth and wealth decisions.
0:10:02 I make those decisions but on the big ones, I check in with her.
0:10:06 This is what I’m thinking, this is what we’re investing in and I just want her to know what’s
0:10:07 going on.
0:10:09 I don’t want her to ever feel surprised.
0:10:13 I don’t want her to feel like she’s reading the market so up 30% but our wealth got cut
0:10:15 because of our investments are down.
0:10:19 I never want her to be surprised so I tell her exactly how it is and I always, I would
0:10:25 say, have a little bit of a … I kind of give it to her a little bit worse than what
0:10:30 it is but I’m very quick to tell her about the losses and not as quick to tell her about
0:10:31 the wins.
0:10:35 I honestly do but the key is, you never want your partner to be a surprise about this.
0:10:37 I mean, losing money is bad.
0:10:38 What’s worse is surprises.
0:10:44 Yeah, it sounds like you don’t have much stress around the economics in your relationship.
0:10:46 One, because you have the money.
0:10:50 I think that’s an important point but two, it sounds like there’s just generally a high
0:10:55 level of trust so you don’t have to be tracking stuff because you just trust that the other
0:10:58 person is going to make the right decision.
0:10:59 Would you say that’s sort of the key?
0:11:05 I just think you need to be cognizant of what your partner, potential partner’s approach
0:11:11 to money is, if and what will their contribution be on both sides.
0:11:15 What economic weight class do you expect to be in?
0:11:19 Who’s responsible for maintaining that economic weight class and what is your approach, each
0:11:20 of your approach to spending?
0:11:27 Just some very basic general questions ask yourself and each other and also have an honest
0:11:28 talk about, “All right.
0:11:29 We live in Chicago.
0:11:31 This is probably what it’s going to cost to live.
0:11:33 This is how much money I’m going to make.
0:11:34 How much money do you think you’re going to make?
0:11:37 Are you planning to make money?”
0:11:42 Because you just need to get some sort of alignment and then I think where you need
0:11:50 real alignment with your partner, a very open conversation is when things go awry.
0:11:55 When you have economics to ask, maybe it’s a healthcare cost or one of your parents gets
0:11:59 sick and you have to come up with money when he gets laid off, whatever it might be, but
0:12:04 you end up with economic hardship, then you need to really be transparent and sit down
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0:15:31 Let’s talk about parents.
0:15:35 Do you think people should feel a responsibility to provide for their parents once they start
0:15:36 making money?
0:15:37 I don’t know if they should.
0:15:39 I know I always did.
0:15:42 My dad had such an unhealthy relationship.
0:15:46 My dad loves me more than my sister because I make more money than her.
0:15:50 My dad has such a fucked-up relationship with money.
0:15:55 He grew up in Scotland during the Depression in an era where if you didn’t have money,
0:16:01 you could literally starve, and he just has such an unhealthy relationship to money.
0:16:06 It was always a constant source of stress for him, his approach to it.
0:16:07 It scarred me.
0:16:11 If I can’t pay for everyone when I go out, I won’t go out.
0:16:15 When I was younger, if I couldn’t pay for everybody, not that I was expected to, but
0:16:20 my dad was so cheap that I went the other way.
0:16:24 I just wouldn’t go out unless I felt like I could pay for everybody.
0:16:29 Anyways, that’s a different talk show, but I take care of my dad financially now.
0:16:30 It cost me a shit ton of money.
0:16:36 I spend about, I think about $250,000 or $300,000 post-tax taking care of my father, having
0:16:41 him in a home, having a full-time health aide, helped out my mom, but I was in a position
0:16:43 to, and it felt really nice.
0:16:47 It felt really good to be able to do that.
0:16:53 What I would say is that, hopefully you have siblings, hopefully your parents are economically
0:17:00 responsible and saved enough money, but yeah, I think the definition of family is you take
0:17:07 an emotionally and financially invested, you’re invested in their success and their
0:17:08 well-being.
0:17:15 So, ideally, you and your siblings get together and figure out a way that your parents are
0:17:16 comfortable.
0:17:21 What’s been really wonderful in terms of, for example, with my father’s, there’s different
0:17:22 ways to contribute.
0:17:28 My father’s kind of needed a lot of care or financial care over the last 10 years.
0:17:31 He’s gotten older and divorced for his fourth time.
0:17:37 I have the money to do it, but my sister handles all of the logistics and hiring and firing
0:17:44 of the nurses and negotiating with the facility he’s at, and to be honest, my part’s the
0:17:45 easy part.
0:17:49 I pay for it all because I make more money than my sister, but I see that as the easy
0:17:50 part.
0:17:53 She has to get on the phone with these folks and figure out if they’re going to have a
0:17:56 full-time nurse, what the hours are.
0:17:57 It’s been a great partnership.
0:18:03 I’m really grateful that me and my sister are really aligned around this, but yeah,
0:18:07 every family’s different, but if you’re in a position to help your parents, why wouldn’t
0:18:08 it?
0:18:09 It feels good.
0:18:10 It feels right.
0:18:11 It feels natural.
0:18:12 Do you take care of your sister financially?
0:18:13 No, I don’t take care of her.
0:18:16 Her and her husband are really successful professionally.
0:18:21 What I do is just because it’s fun is occasionally I help out with things like the kids’ school
0:18:24 or something like that, more just because it makes me feel good, but they don’t really
0:18:25 need it.
0:18:31 It’s something I really enjoy and I want a really nice relationship with my niece and
0:18:32 nephew.
0:18:36 I just love the idea of them finding out at some point that I helped out with their school.
0:18:41 I do it just as a means of hoping that it’ll strengthen my relationship with them when
0:18:42 they’re adults.
0:18:47 Do you think people should kind of factor that in when it comes to economic planning?
0:18:54 I mean, you talked about planning with your partner, how much do we intend to make?
0:18:55 What are our goals?
0:18:59 Do you think people should be thinking, and this is how much I want to be providing for
0:19:00 my family?
0:19:04 Is this how much I want to have stowed away to take care of my parents when they’re old,
0:19:05 et cetera?
0:19:09 I think that because at the end of the day, your ability to do that is going to be based
0:19:10 on how much money you have.
0:19:16 I think you should just be focused on what we talk about, the algebra of wealth, finding
0:19:19 something you’re good at, doubling down on it, becoming great at it, which will give you
0:19:23 economic currency in the marketplace, trying to spend less than you make, invest that money,
0:19:27 develop an army of capital you can deploy, recognize time is going to go faster than
0:19:32 you think, and then diversify such that you’re in a position to be generous with your family
0:19:35 and extended family.
0:19:38 You need to affix your own oxygen mass first, and when you’re young, your parents probably
0:19:41 aren’t sick and don’t need help, you don’t have kids to take care of, that’s the time
0:19:48 to develop that savings muscle and that professional currency, and put yourself on a path to financial
0:19:49 security.
0:19:50 Let me flip the question back to you, Ed.
0:19:55 You have parents, you’re making good money, but you’re not wealthy.
0:19:58 What’s your approach and your thinking around helping out your parents and your approach
0:20:00 to saving for that?
0:20:01 Is that something you’re actively thinking about?
0:20:08 Both of my parents are fine, so I’m not worried about them from that aspect, but I think the
0:20:13 thing that you mentioned with your sister, the fact that your sister is doing, yeah,
0:20:17 the hard work, getting on the phone, figuring out where they should be staying, how to take
0:20:23 care of them, those are things that I have been thinking about progressively a little
0:20:24 bit more.
0:20:29 I mean, my grandad is very sick at the moment, I’m about to go visit him this weekend, and
0:20:35 I’ve been seeing this play out in real time of just the responsibility of everyone.
0:20:39 It suddenly kicks in at that point when you suddenly realize that life is fine, and everyone
0:20:46 suddenly gets their act together and starts thinking, okay, how do I pay it back?
0:20:51 I guess I just asked the economic planning question because I’m only just now thinking
0:20:52 of that.
0:20:58 I’m only now seeing it because I see death around the corner, and now I’m thinking, oh,
0:20:59 did I get my act together right now?
0:21:01 I’m not necessarily sure how I can.
0:21:03 When you see your act together, what do you mean?
0:21:08 Do I need to be planning such that I can provide for my parents?
0:21:15 Do I need to be making sure that I’m taking care of them too, which, you know, my parents
0:21:17 have always taken care of me.
0:21:23 So I guess there’s a moment where you start thinking that the script should be flipped.
0:21:27 It feels like for you, when your mom got really sick, that was that moment.
0:21:29 Yeah, and it happened at about exactly your age.
0:21:34 My mom first got diagnosed with cancer when I was exactly your age.
0:21:38 It was a real wake-up call for me because we had economic stress, and I couldn’t take
0:21:42 care of her, and she ended up with shitty healthcare, and it was just, like, usually
0:21:45 emasculating and frustrating and humiliating, quite frankly.
0:21:48 I was in graduate school, and I think I’ve told this story.
0:21:53 She got discharged from the hospital early, having gone through batteries of chemo and
0:21:57 a mastectomy, and she was at home and called me, and I had to rush home, and it was just
0:22:02 such an ugly scene that I walked into, and I started calling around to get a nurse, and
0:22:07 nurses were $35 an hour, and we didn’t have that money, and I just know what to do.
0:22:10 But you’re thinking about it exactly the right way.
0:22:14 You’re thinking, “Ade, you’re just thinking about it, but the way you address that is
0:22:16 that you’re smart, and you’re doing all the right things.
0:22:17 You’re working hard.
0:22:19 I get the sense you’re saving.
0:22:22 You’re trying to invest.
0:22:25 Most people don’t invest at your age, and you’re working hard and trying to establish
0:22:26 professional relevance.”
0:22:32 So, that, quite frankly, with your parents, money kind of solves not all problems, but
0:22:33 most of them.
0:22:37 If you haven’t have money, as long as you have siblings, you have siblings, right?
0:22:38 You have two sisters.
0:22:41 Between the three of you, especially if you have a good relationship with them, and they’re
0:22:46 like-minded and generous around, and feel obligated to pitch in and help with your parents, one
0:22:51 of you might be wealthier than the other two, and be able to help more with money.
0:22:55 One might have a better relationship and be able to spend more time with your parents,
0:22:59 because they just get along with them better or have more time, and one might hopefully
0:23:05 have their shit together logistically, and be able to kind of handle and negotiate stuff.
0:23:09 There’s the money part, but the thing that’s, I think, been rougher than my sister’s had
0:23:14 to deal with is there’s just so many decisions to be made every day, and not only that, sometimes
0:23:17 your parents aren’t cooperating, right?
0:23:21 They don’t want to leave their house and move into an assisted living facility.
0:23:26 My dad starts leaving the facility and taking walks, and no one knows where he is, and I
0:23:31 have to call him and try and get through to him and tell him he’s not allowed to leave
0:23:39 the facility, and meanwhile, he thinks I’m his brother, not his son.
0:23:44 This stuff gets complicated fast, but I literally don’t know what people do that don’t have
0:23:46 a lot of money.
0:23:49 I am spending so much money on my dad right now, and it’s not a lot of money for me, but
0:23:50 it’s real money.
0:23:52 I don’t know what people do that aren’t wealthy.
0:23:53 Or alone.
0:23:58 That’s been my big observation watching my granddad is, “Oh my God, if this guy didn’t
0:24:02 have family, because that’s all you got at the end, it’s not going to be your friends,
0:24:03 it’s going to be your family.”
0:24:08 If he didn’t have family, if he didn’t have children and grandchildren around, it would
0:24:10 be miserable.
0:24:16 I had what I thought was one of the most stark, depressing moments, you know, when my mom
0:24:20 got sick, I was 26, so my life up into that point had mostly, you know, I’d just gotten,
0:24:24 I’ve been in college grad school, so it’s mostly UCLA games, fraternity parties, smoking
0:24:28 too much pot, watching Planet of the Apes over and over, and then all of a sudden my
0:24:31 mom got sick and everything just shook out real.
0:24:35 And I remember my mom had to go into this healthcare facility.
0:24:40 She was too sick to be at home without care, but she wasn’t sick enough to be in the hospital,
0:24:45 and she was with Kaiser, and Kaiser is basically very cost-conscious, so like, you don’t want
0:24:48 her in the hospital, it’s too expensive to keep her in the hospital.
0:24:52 So she went to, I don’t even know what they call it like, this facility.
0:24:56 And it was literally the place where people who have no money and no one who loves them
0:24:57 go.
0:25:01 And I remember walking into her room, and she was in this room with two cots, and there
0:25:07 were these bad springs that squeaked when she sat up and down, and they had these old
0:25:16 Moscow-like arms, metal arms with a TV, and the woman next to her had the TV turned up
0:25:21 so loud because she couldn’t hear it, and she had the arm extended such that this bad,
0:25:26 old ’70s TV, black and white, was literally in front of her face, and she just kept hitting
0:25:30 it, and the whole place stank of urine.
0:25:34 And there were a bunch of people, old people who looked like they were on death’s doorstep,
0:25:39 just sitting asleep, semi-conscious in their wheelchairs in the hallway.
0:25:43 But I remember walking in there and thinking, this is where people in America end up that
0:25:47 don’t have any money and don’t have anyone that loves them, that is still alive.
0:25:54 And it was such like a stark reminder that in America, one, you want to have money, and
0:25:59 two, you really want to invest in relationships such that someone is there to look out for
0:26:00 you.
0:26:02 Do you end up broken alone in America?
0:26:04 God, it’s fucking ugly.
0:26:07 100%.
0:26:17 On that note, ah, there we go, there we go, who’s buying Supreme, and are they overpaying?
0:26:28 Oh my God, broken alone, on today’s, on today’s ROFG markets, what’s it like to be broke with
0:26:29 no one who loves you?
0:26:30 Here’s a message from Betahelp.
0:26:32 Yeah, there you go.
0:26:33 Jesus Christ.
0:26:50 I’m going to leave for a mattress ad right off to this.
0:26:52 Fox Creative.
0:26:55 This is Advertiser content from Zell.
0:27:00 The recruiter said all I needed to do was send $500 to cover mandatory safety training
0:27:03 and the job was mine.
0:27:07 In a world where financial crimes are more and more sophisticated, there’s a team that’s
0:27:08 got your back.
0:27:09 Yee-haw!
0:27:14 Come in, Safe Squad, we got a 10-3.
0:27:17 Copy that dispatch, we’re on it.
0:27:22 Hop in, Skip, we got a phony recruiter.
0:27:24 Safe Squad.
0:27:26 The crime drama everyone is talking about.
0:27:31 I know it’s only my first day, but that sounds like a pretty cut-and-dry job scam.
0:27:33 Strap in, rookie.
0:27:37 These days criminals can even make it look like it’s your bank calm, but that’s where
0:27:38 we come in.
0:27:39 My what?
0:27:41 It’s my savings account.
0:27:42 Compromised.
0:27:43 Uh-huh.
0:27:44 Uh-huh.
0:27:45 No, I won’t hold.
0:27:46 Uh-huh.
0:27:47 Uh-huh.
0:27:50 No, I didn’t authorize a $12,000 withdrawal, that’s my life savings.
0:27:51 Why don’t you come with me?
0:27:54 I’ll show you how to report to the FTC.
0:27:56 What payment platform did you use?
0:27:58 Let’s contact them, too.
0:28:01 Don’t miss the TV event of the season, Safe Squad.
0:28:02 Hey Ace.
0:28:03 Yeah, kid?
0:28:04 You’re right.
0:28:07 That was one hell of a first day.
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0:28:29 Hey, this is Scott Galloway, host of the PropG podcast.
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0:28:37 their burning questions about all sorts of things, including work, life, school.
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0:29:02 You know what’s great about ambition?
0:29:03 You can’t see it.
0:29:07 Some things look ambitious, but looks can be deceiving.
0:29:13 For example, a runner could be training for a marathon or they could be late for the
0:29:14 bus.
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0:29:33 We’re back with PropG Markets.
0:29:35 Do you talk about money with your kids?
0:29:36 A little bit.
0:29:37 Not a lot.
0:29:44 We try to connect money to effort and what’s interesting is they’ve, I think they’ve kind
0:29:45 of figured it out on their own.
0:29:48 I don’t know, I don’t know how professionally confident they’re going to be or how much
0:29:52 money to make, but they’re not crazy spenders.
0:29:55 My older one, it kind of bums me out.
0:29:58 So it’s just the worst fucking thing in the world that they all have this haircut that
0:30:03 makes them look like an alpaca and I literally can’t handle it.
0:30:06 I want to drug them and cut their hair.
0:30:10 You know, my boys are so beautiful, they’re so handsome, and I know exactly the haircut
0:30:15 I want for them and they just, and they show up looking like this.
0:30:20 It’s awful that they look like a farm animal, it’s overgrown hair, it just, anyway.
0:30:25 But my oldest, so I was really excited, my oldest is going back, you know, I want to
0:30:28 take them out and get them some really cool clothes and I’m trying to figure out what the
0:30:29 cool brands are and I’m like, let’s go.
0:30:32 We went to Sunspeal and I’m like, I’ll catch this cool.
0:30:35 And I bought, there was this cool hoodie and it was like two or 300 bucks and he’s like,
0:30:37 I’m not going to spend that much.
0:30:39 I’m like, yeah, you’re not going to spend that much, but I’ll buy it for you.
0:30:41 He’s like, no, no, no, I don’t want you to buy it.
0:30:46 He can’t, he’s like his mom, he doesn’t like to spend money even when it’s my money.
0:30:49 And of course, the other brother pops up and he’s like, I want it, can I have two?
0:30:50 Can I have his?
0:30:53 So somehow they both ended up in different places.
0:30:56 It’s like when Michelle Obama said, the kids just come to you.
0:30:59 You like to think you’re an engineer, you’re not.
0:31:02 And so I’d like to think we’re doing a good job of connecting them to money, but I think
0:31:07 what’s strange is they don’t have a sense for how much money we have.
0:31:10 And what I try to do, I’m thinking about taking them into Africa with Scott Harrison from
0:31:11 Charity Water.
0:31:17 I just need them to see how not most people, but some people live and recognize that a
0:31:23 lot of what their success and privilege is not their fault and that the majority of people
0:31:27 in this world do not get to live like they live.
0:31:31 And I don’t blame them for not understanding that because they’ve been sheltered from it,
0:31:32 but that’s one thing we want to do.
0:31:36 But they’re pretty good around, they’re pretty good.
0:31:40 My youngest, I’m working with my youngest on the sneaker business using AI around went
0:31:44 to bid on drops for shoes and what the resale value is and we’re trying to set up a site
0:31:49 on Shopify, you know, and every week I lose money on it, but he sort of gets it.
0:31:54 He understands, okay, buy a shoe for 200 bucks and try and sell it for 300.
0:31:57 And he’s thinking about what’s the best way to drop ship for the lowest money, but it
0:32:01 has good customer service because he wants to get good reviews.
0:32:02 So that’s great.
0:32:03 He’s going to be more of the entrepreneur.
0:32:06 I think my older one is much more conservative, doesn’t like to spend money.
0:32:10 I think he’ll end up being a professional, but we don’t talk, like I’ve never told them
0:32:14 how much money we have or anything like that or, but so far, I’ve been really lucky.
0:32:19 They’re not, I mean, granted, they’re just about to turn 14 and 17, so they’re not crazy
0:32:20 spenders.
0:32:21 They just don’t spend a lot.
0:32:22 Do they know you’re rich?
0:32:23 Yeah.
0:32:24 There’s no way not to figure it out.
0:32:32 I mean, we fly private, you know, they don’t, words out, words out that we have money.
0:32:33 And they’re kind of fascinated.
0:32:34 My youngest is fascinated by money.
0:32:38 We went to the finals in the world, you know, the finals of the Euros and he said, how much
0:32:39 were these tickets?
0:32:40 I’m like, I’m not going to tell you.
0:32:43 And he’s like, do you like wants to know and he’s looking at my phone and he wants to
0:32:46 know how much the tickets were and that’s an interesting one.
0:32:51 Like, why do you not want to tell them how rich you, I mean, they know that you’re rich
0:32:56 but you don’t want them to know how rich and you don’t want, really want to put a number
0:32:57 on it.
0:32:58 What’s your philosophy there?
0:33:03 It just feels weird to tell my son, yeah, I’m spending 10,000 pounds on a soccer game.
0:33:05 So we can go.
0:33:10 I feel like that’s going to disconnect them from the value of money at that age.
0:33:12 So how do you teach them the value?
0:33:15 I mean, the Africa idea is one.
0:33:20 Is there anything else you do to kind of be like, hey, this isn’t normal?
0:33:21 It’s weird.
0:33:24 They sort of made the connection a little bit on their own because I don’t think it’s
0:33:26 been great parenting.
0:33:29 I had this really wonderful moment with my youngest.
0:33:34 He has a friend from school who doesn’t have a lot of money and his friend accidentally
0:33:39 poured milk or spilled milk on his headphones and they were ruined.
0:33:46 And so he came to me and he said, dad, I want to buy my friend a pair of the AirPod Max’s
0:33:51 that big cans to go over your ears and he said, if I put in a hundred bucks, will you
0:33:52 give me $200?
0:33:55 He’s a super nice kid and he doesn’t have a lot of money and I was just like, I was
0:33:59 just so moved by that and I thought that’s exactly the kind of approach to money I want
0:34:00 my kids to have.
0:34:04 And I said, of course, and any time you want to get money away or do something for someone
0:34:07 else, I’ll contribute.
0:34:09 That was really nice.
0:34:12 But I don’t know where they learned it, didn’t learn it from me.
0:34:13 I don’t think.
0:34:14 I don’t know.
0:34:16 So, I mean, here’s the thing, Ed.
0:34:22 You do your best, but parents are under the delusion that we’re engineers.
0:34:23 We’re shepherds.
0:34:26 We get to choose where the sheep grazes with the food it eats.
0:34:32 Maybe we can point it in the right direction, but be clear, the sheep comes to you.
0:34:36 And I think I hope what they see is that their mom works hard and is really responsible
0:34:42 with money that I work hard and they see how committed we are to our professions.
0:34:47 They see that we’re generous with our money, so I hope that they inherit that.
0:34:48 And they also see that we enjoy it.
0:34:49 I hope they inherit that.
0:34:51 I hope my oldest starts spending.
0:34:56 I’m worried my oldest isn’t going to want to spend any money and not enjoy it.
0:35:01 But I would say we’re just kind of letting it happen, which may not be the right approach.
0:35:04 My kids talk a lot or ask a lot of questions now about money.
0:35:06 They’re very interested in it, especially my youngest.
0:35:09 He asks about stocks, how stock prices are decided.
0:35:12 Yeah, I mean, their dad just wrote a book called The Algebra of Wealth.
0:35:13 I’d be shocked if they didn’t.
0:35:15 Dude, they don’t care what their dad does.
0:35:20 They literally, every time someone stops me on the street, they’re like, “Why do they
0:35:22 know you again?”
0:35:28 They are so befuddled that anyone would find me interesting at all.
0:35:29 They’re like, “What?
0:35:31 Why did this person say hi to you?
0:35:33 What do you do again?”
0:35:34 They just don’t get it.
0:35:40 By the way, the opening note of that book is a message to them, and you say, “I hope
0:35:41 you’ll read this.”
0:35:42 You think they’ll ever read it?
0:35:43 Oh, yeah.
0:35:46 When I’m gone, maybe hopefully before I’m gone, but definitely when I’m gone, I can’t
0:35:51 imagine, I’ve invested, I’d like to think so much time and love in my kids that they’re
0:35:57 going to love me, you’re banking on, you’re going to get a fraction of that back.
0:36:00 And I’d like to think they’ll be interested enough of me to read my books.
0:36:04 Let me just say, I’d be really disappointed if they didn’t at some point.
0:36:05 They will.
0:36:08 They’re going to be curious, so yeah, I think so.
0:36:09 I think it’s gross.
0:36:10 I hope so at least.
0:36:14 Have you thought more about estate planning and inheritance?
0:36:19 Yeah, I think about it a lot because now that we have real money, you have to think about
0:36:20 it and be smart about it.
0:36:22 So we work with our folks.
0:36:23 Goldman manages our money.
0:36:25 I have a lawyer, I have a tax lawyer, and they set up a trust.
0:36:30 We’re trying to figure out what to put into the trust, how to take advantage of the limits
0:36:34 on trust, figure out if Biden is going to lower the trust limit.
0:36:35 There’s all this…
0:36:36 It’s a lot of tax planning.
0:36:40 The tax code is so complicated that, and this is an advantage for wealthy people because
0:36:44 you can kind of weaponize and maneuver through it if you’re smart.
0:36:48 You want to run boat races at night if you have GPS.
0:36:52 And so the more complicated you make the race, the more advantage sheets to people who can
0:36:57 afford the technology, in this case, the advisors to help you navigate a boat race at night.
0:36:59 But yeah, I think a lot about the trust.
0:37:05 I also think about my partner is 15 years younger than me, and women usually live seven
0:37:06 years longer.
0:37:08 So she’s going to be around about 22 years longer.
0:37:13 But now I’m trying to set up, what I am thinking about is putting stuff in assets that will…
0:37:17 Like apartments, rental apartments that will spin off income because I’m turning into that.
0:37:21 I hate to say that, person thinking about…
0:37:26 So my kids have enough money that they’re never broke, and my kid isn’t going to come
0:37:28 run property media.
0:37:32 My kid isn’t going to take one of my analytics companies and be the CEO there.
0:37:36 But maybe if one of my kids doesn’t have their own professional trajectory, I like the idea
0:37:39 that maybe they could manage some apartment buildings, and that’s probably the wrong way
0:37:40 to think about it.
0:37:43 But I am thinking about intergenerational wealth.
0:37:48 But more than anything, what I’m spending the most time on is just making sure that my partner
0:37:50 is really comfortable after I’m gone.
0:37:54 This is kind of a turnaround from what you’ve said in the post, which is, I think you’ve
0:37:58 said you don’t want to leave anything to your kids.
0:38:03 Well, that’s mostly joking to justify my out-of-control spending.
0:38:04 Buffets summarize it perfectly.
0:38:07 I want my kids to have enough money so they can do anything, but not enough money so they
0:38:09 can do nothing.
0:38:11 So I’ll set up a trust for them.
0:38:14 My partner, assuming she lives a quarter century longer than me, is going to have to figure
0:38:15 it out.
0:38:19 But I’m putting in place the mechanics of it such that after she’s gone, they’ll get
0:38:23 some money when they turn 21, we’re going to give most of it away, but we’ll leave enough
0:38:27 for them such that they can afford a house, any education they want, and maybe a little
0:38:35 bit more, and have access to a little of it at 25, 35, and then access to all of it.
0:38:37 But I think about this a lot.
0:38:42 It’s a huge issue for wealthy people because you don’t want indulgent jerks.
0:38:47 And also a huge motivator for me was the fear of if I didn’t make money, I wasn’t going
0:38:48 to have any.
0:38:50 That’s incredibly motivating.
0:38:55 When you worry about taking away that motivation, but I’m not one of those people, it’s really
0:39:00 easy to say, “Yeah, once they’re through college, that’s it, they’re on their own.”
0:39:02 Yeah, I never find any parent does that.
0:39:07 None of my friends have done that, have cut off their kids, none of them.
0:39:09 I have really good friends.
0:39:13 My really good friends, Greg and Cindy, have done a really good job of kind of maturing
0:39:18 really competent, self-sufficient adults.
0:39:21 They’ve been pretty disciplined about saying, “Okay, you get a certain amount of money
0:39:25 and help you go to college and you get a certain kind of allowance, but at some point, you’re
0:39:26 on your own.”
0:39:28 I don’t know if I’ll have that discipline.
0:39:29 I don’t know.
0:39:31 I haven’t fully figured it out yet.
0:39:33 We’ll just end with this last question.
0:39:40 If there’s one thing you want your children to understand about money once you die, what
0:39:41 would it be?
0:39:44 It’s really important, but it’s a means.
0:39:48 It’s meaningful, but what’s profound is that money is nothing but something that should
0:39:54 enable you to have an absence of stress such you can focus on relationships, that you need
0:39:57 to be professionally competent, you need to be self-sufficient.
0:40:03 Making money is a lot of fun, but it’s just a means to the ends, and the ends is deep
0:40:07 and meaningful relationships, and that money can be a lubricant for that and provide an
0:40:12 absence of stress and a series of experiences that make you feel closer to the people you
0:40:16 love and help you take care of them.
0:40:20 This episode was produced by Claire Miller and engineered by Benjamin Spencer.
0:40:22 Our associate producer is Alison Weiss.
0:40:24 Our executive producer is Katherine Dillon.
0:40:28 Mia Silverio is our research lead and Drew Burroughs is our technical director.
0:40:31 Thank you for listening to Proffdue Markets from the Vox Media Podcast Network.
0:40:33 We’ll be back with a fresh take on markets on Thursday.
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0:41:07 Hey, this is Scott.
0:41:15 Hey, this is Scott Galloway, host of the Proffdue Podcast.
0:41:20 One of my favorite things I get to do on this show is hear from our listeners and answer
0:41:24 their burning questions about all sorts of things, including work, life, school.
0:41:25 You name it.
0:41:28 And this summer, we’re bringing back the hits and covering some of our favorite questions
0:41:29 and takes.
0:41:33 We’re talking business, career advice, and even hearing a brand new, never been aired
0:41:35 interview about parenthood.
0:41:39 Retune into the best of office hours with a special series from the Proffdue Podcast
0:41:41 sponsored by Mint Mobile.
0:41:44 You can find it on the Proffdue feed wherever you get your podcasts.
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