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May 5, 2025

Dr. Mark Hyman: How Entrepreneurs Can Reverse Aging and Unlock Peak Health | Mental Health | E349

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0:01:39 You want to live to be 120 years old.
0:01:41 Why do you actually want to live so long?
0:01:42 I love life.
0:01:44 What is the definition of health?
0:01:46 It’s not the absence of disease.
0:01:47 It’s something else.
0:01:51 How do we unlock the keys to optimal biological performance?
0:01:55 I’ve spent 40 years studying the science of the function of the body.
0:01:57 Frailty is not a normal consequence of aging.
0:02:02 It’s a consequence, a phenomenon that happens as we get older if we don’t do something about
0:02:06 we have dysregulated sleep schedules, we have tremendous amounts of stress, we eat crappy
0:02:08 food, we don’t exercise enough.
0:02:12 There’s all these things that we’re doing to impede our ability to actually live a vibrant,
0:02:12 long, healthy life.
0:02:15 What did you do to reverse your age 20 years?
0:02:17 I have been eating.
0:02:22 Let’s say I gave you a 35-year-old, they’re stressed, exhausted, running on coffee.
0:02:27 If you had a year to transform their health and performance, what are the things that you
0:02:28 would change?
0:02:30 I would immediately have them give.
0:02:51 Yeah, fam, imagine feeling stronger, sharper, and more energized as you age, not the other
0:02:52 way around.
0:02:55 Well, today’s guest is going to help teach us how to just do that.
0:03:00 Dr. Mark Hyman is a leading functional medicine expert and the best-selling author of books like
0:03:02 Young Forever and Eat Fat, Get Thin.
0:03:06 He’s going to share some science-backed insights to help you improve your health, extend your
0:03:08 lifespan, and defy aging.
0:03:12 But first, make sure you follow and subscribe to Young and Profiting Podcast.
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0:03:23 Mark, welcome to Young and Profiting Podcast.
0:03:25 Well, thanks for having me.
0:03:31 I’m so excited for this conversation, and there’s so much to talk about, but I just want to jump
0:03:32 in and get started.
0:03:37 So I was reading your book, I was researching you, and I found out that you want to live
0:03:39 to be 120 years old.
0:03:41 Oh, if I can do everything I’d love to do, yes.
0:03:42 If I can, no.
0:03:46 I’m still riding my bike at 119, I’ll keep going.
0:03:48 That would be amazing.
0:03:53 I also interviewed Dave Osprey a few times, and he tells me he wants to live to be 180
0:03:54 years old.
0:04:00 So there’s this trend of biohackers like you guys that want to live to be 120, 180 years
0:04:00 old.
0:04:02 I would just say I’m not a biohacker.
0:04:05 I’m a functional medicine physician, and so I use deep science.
0:04:09 Some of the tools are similar, but functional medicine is really the ultimate biohacker.
0:04:10 Yes.
0:04:14 And we’re going to talk all about functional medicine, and I’m going to try to help my
0:04:16 listeners understand what that is if they’re not familiar.
0:04:20 But you guys are on a quest to live as long as you can, right?
0:04:22 So that’s the two things that you guys have in common.
0:04:23 Maybe it’s not biohacking.
0:04:28 But when I think about that, I think about frail, old, bedridden.
0:04:34 I don’t really want to live to be 120 years old, at least by today’s standards.
0:04:40 So I want to understand, when you imagine yourself at 120 years old, what do you actually imagine
0:04:42 yourself being capable to do?
0:04:46 What does 120-year-old and thriving look like?
0:04:49 I mean, it means being able to do whatever you’d love to do.
0:04:52 If it’s sitting in a rocking chair and read a book, it’s that.
0:04:54 If it’s hiking up a mountain, it’s that.
0:04:56 If it’s making love with your partner, then it’s that.
0:04:59 So for me, it’s really being able to get up in the morning and do what you’d love to do
0:05:04 and not be encumbered by some of the conditions that are mostly preventable that we seem to
0:05:06 think of as normal parts of aging.
0:05:07 They’re not really.
0:05:09 And what’s happening on the science is quite exciting.
0:05:12 We’re seeing a lot of research, for example, there’s a Washington Post article recently
0:05:17 about the Aminok factors, which is basically a scientific discovery that won the Nobel Prize.
0:05:20 It allows you to reprogram your genes back to a younger you.
0:05:22 It’s called epigenetic reprogramming.
0:05:28 And it’s being researched by the Altos Lab, the Jeff Bezos, and also by Sam Altman’s Lab.
0:05:32 So there’s a lot of really amazing research going on in this right now in the longevity space.
0:05:34 That’s going to be an unlock.
0:05:39 For most of us, I think we can expect to get to our 90s or 100, you know, bigger is in good health
0:05:41 if we know what to do to take care of our bodies.
0:05:42 And I saw this all over the place.
0:05:47 I mean, I was in Sardinia, and I was in Icaria, and I just saw people who are, like, really old
0:05:48 and really thriving.
0:05:52 And, you know, this woman was, like, 87 years old, and she was, like, running up and down
0:05:53 the side of this mountain.
0:05:55 I couldn’t keep up with her.
0:05:59 And she was, you know, tending to her giant gardens and farm and animals and trees.
0:06:01 And it’s quite amazing to see.
0:06:05 So I think if we understand the things that impede our health, we can remove those.
0:06:08 And if we understand the things that enhance our health, we can add those.
0:06:10 And it’s really not that hard.
0:06:11 It’s just knowing what to do.
0:06:14 So I was listening to your audio book, Young Forever.
0:06:15 It was really entertaining.
0:06:20 And you were talking about how you went to Sardinia and went to the Blue Zones.
0:06:25 But talk to us about what actually sparked your interest in longevity.
0:06:32 I’ve always been interested in the science of optimization in terms of how we function, whether
0:06:36 it’s the word functional medicine or the company I co-founded, Function Health.
0:06:44 The core value is how do we unlock how to function at your best and how to unlock the keys to optimal
0:06:46 biological performance?
0:06:49 And it’s really something that we’re not only discovering.
0:06:51 No one’s really asked the question in medicine before.
0:06:53 What is the definition of health?
0:06:55 It’s not the absence of disease.
0:06:56 It’s something else.
0:06:59 And if you go to your doctor, you feel good, say, I want to feel better.
0:07:00 I want to optimize my health.
0:07:01 They don’t know what to do.
0:07:02 Like, if you have symptoms, great.
0:07:03 If you have a disease, they’ll give you a drug.
0:07:07 But do they understand the science of creating health?
0:07:08 No.
0:07:14 That’s what I’ve spent my life studying after medical school, the science of creating health.
0:07:16 And it’s something we now know how to do.
0:07:17 And that’s what’s so exciting.
0:07:19 We know the basic biological systems that go awry.
0:07:23 And in the field of longevity, the science is really getting exciting because we’re talking
0:07:25 about these concepts called the hallmarks of aging.
0:07:29 The hallmarks of aging are these fundamental biological things that go wrong or break down
0:07:33 as we get older that are underlying all disease.
0:07:34 It’s like the roots or the trunk.
0:07:39 And all the branches and the leaves are all the diseases and all the specialties.
0:07:43 So whether it’s heart disease or cancer or diabetes or Alzheimer’s or whatever it is,
0:07:45 autism, depression, they share common roots.
0:07:48 And there are only really a few things that impede health.
0:07:50 You have to identify what those are.
0:07:51 There are toxins.
0:07:51 There’s allergens.
0:07:53 There’s microbes that change your microbiome.
0:07:57 Stress could be physical or psychological stress.
0:07:59 And poor diet, which most of us eat.
0:08:01 And then there’s a few things our bodies need to thrive.
0:08:04 So you need to get rid of the bad stuff and put in the good stuff.
0:08:06 And then there’s ways of even accelerating optimization.
0:08:09 Things, for example, like how do you optimize your mitochondria?
0:08:10 How do you optimize your microbiome?
0:08:13 How do you optimize neurotransmitter function?
0:08:15 How do you optimize your immune system?
0:08:16 These are things that we now know how to do.
0:08:20 If you say to your doctor, I want to optimize my mitochondria and figure out how to optimize
0:08:21 my immune system.
0:08:23 And they’re not going to know what to do.
0:08:24 How do I optimize my microbiome?
0:08:25 Take a probiotic, you know, e-fiber.
0:08:28 They’re not going to really understand because it’s not what they do.
0:08:32 And I’ve spent the 40 years studying the science of the function of the body.
0:08:38 And that’s really what we have come to in terms of understanding how to create these shifts
0:08:43 in our biology that create abundant and vibrant health and that don’t provide a breeding ground
0:08:44 for disease.
0:08:49 So with traditional medicine, really, they’re focused on a specialty, right?
0:08:52 They don’t treat the whole body holistically.
0:08:55 So can you give us an example of, okay, I go to the doctor and I’m like, hey.
0:08:56 I’ll give you an example.
0:08:58 I’ll just tell you a patient, actual patient I had.
0:09:01 I’m not going to use her name, but she was a business coach about 50 years old.
0:09:02 She was overweight.
0:09:03 She had prediabetes.
0:09:03 She had depression.
0:09:04 She had migraines.
0:09:05 She had reflux.
0:09:06 She had irritable bowel, bloating.
0:09:11 She had terrible psoriatic arthritis, which is a horrible condition where you get psoriasis
0:09:16 all over your hands and skin and body, and you also get arthritis, which is debilitating.
0:09:18 So she was on a drug for that that cost $50,000.
0:09:23 She was seen by the best docs, one of the best healthcare centers in the world, and she was
0:09:26 getting the best GI treatment for reflux, the best treatment for irritable bowel, the best
0:09:31 treatment for depression, quote, the best traditional view, the best treatment for migraines, the best
0:09:35 treatment for her prediabetes, the best treatment for psoriatic arthritis, and she was seeing
0:09:40 a doctor for every inch of her, and no one said, what is linking all these problems together?
0:09:41 For her, it was inflammation.
0:09:45 She had tremendous amounts of inflammation that were driving all these conditions.
0:09:47 Now, we know when depression is inflammation, right?
0:09:49 We know that if your gut’s upset, it’s inflammation.
0:09:53 We know that, obviously, if you have inflamed skin and arthritis, that’s inflammation.
0:09:58 We know that diabetes is inflammation, or prediabetes, or obesity is inflammation.
0:10:01 So I said to myself, well, what are the root cause for her?
0:10:05 She was having so many gut issues that I believe those are the cause.
0:10:06 She had severe bloating.
0:10:11 She had all these history of taking antibiotics, the steroids for various things, like for her
0:10:12 autoimmune condition.
0:10:14 And I said, why don’t we just do something really simple?
0:10:16 Rather than taking all these drugs, you can continue to take them.
0:10:22 But in the meantime, let’s just try you on a whole foods, low sugar, low starch diet, which
0:10:24 removes the common inflammatory triggers.
0:10:29 And for my practice, for people who have autoimmune disease, getting rid of grains and beans,
0:10:35 dairy, gluten, which is part of the grains, sugar, processed food, alcohol, really makes a difference.
0:10:36 So I said, put her on that diet.
0:10:38 I said, let’s kind of reset your gut.
0:10:40 I gave her an antibiotic and an antifungal to reset her gut.
0:10:44 And then I gave her probiotics and things to rebuild her gut.
0:10:47 And I gave her, I think, vitamin D and some fish oil, not a lot of stuff.
0:10:50 And six weeks later, she comes back.
0:10:52 She says, Dr. Hyman, I got off all my drugs.
0:10:53 I’m like, wait, I didn’t tell you to do that.
0:10:54 She said, no, no, I just was feeling so good.
0:10:55 I just stopped everything.
0:10:57 And she had no more steroid arthritis.
0:10:59 Her skin care cleared up.
0:11:00 She had no more migraines.
0:11:01 She had no more depression.
0:11:02 She lost 20 pounds.
0:11:03 Her prediabetes was gone.
0:11:03 Her reflux was gone.
0:11:04 Her reflux was gone.
0:11:08 And so I just treated the root cause, not the symptoms.
0:11:12 Inflammation is a common trigger for most chronic diseases.
0:11:17 And for me, after seeing this for 30, 40 years of patients like this, I can see it when they
0:11:18 walk in.
0:11:19 I know what’s going on.
0:11:20 And it’s not that hard to treat.
0:11:24 But she was getting all these symptom suppression treatments that weren’t really working.
0:11:25 They were marginally working.
0:11:28 They were keeping her functioning, sort of.
0:11:30 But they didn’t really deal with the problem.
0:11:34 So functional medicine is about really understanding the body as a network, as a system, as a system
0:11:37 of systems that you have to keep optimized in order to live well.
0:11:42 And they map almost entirely perfectly across the hallmarks of aging that scientists have
0:11:42 been discovering.
0:11:46 So when your mitochondria don’t work, when your detox system doesn’t work, when your immune
0:11:52 imbalances or hormone imbalances or neurotransmitter imbalances or your gut’s off, these are things
0:11:53 that we actually know how to treat.
0:11:54 Your mitochondria aren’t working.
0:11:56 These are things we know how to treat with functional medicine.
0:12:02 And talk to us about how your company, Function, services these types of problems.
0:12:07 What we’ve done with Function is really create the first health platform that allows people
0:12:08 to fully access their own data.
0:12:10 Now, people are wearing Oura rings.
0:12:11 They’re wearing Apple watches.
0:12:12 They’re wearing glucose monitors.
0:12:13 That’s all great.
0:12:15 That’s just a few data points.
0:12:18 But what if you could unlock all of your biology?
0:12:22 What if you could know all of your biomarkers and your metabolome and your microbiome and your
0:12:28 genome, imaging, your wearables, and your medical history, and your EMR, your medical records,
0:12:33 all gets into a platform that is personalized to you and allows you to identify where the
0:12:38 imbalances are, where the dysfunctions are, and gives you deep insights and content based
0:12:41 on machine learning AI to help you actually optimize your health for you.
0:12:43 Because no two people are alike.
0:12:45 And everybody’s different.
0:12:48 And if we try to treat to the mean, we often miss the mark.
0:12:49 And this is what medicine does.
0:12:50 It treats to the mean.
0:12:52 There’s no average person, right?
0:12:53 And everybody’s different.
0:12:59 And the studies work by something called randomized control, no-blind trials, which means you
0:13:02 basically have two populations that are as identical to each other as possible.
0:13:06 So you want to be a 70-kilogram white male from Kansas, and you get 100 of those people,
0:13:09 and you put 51 in a group, and a 50 in another group, and you give them a drug, and you see
0:13:10 what happens at the other side.
0:13:12 That’s how medicine operates.
0:13:17 That 70-kilogram white male is not like 90% of us out there.
0:13:18 Not you.
0:13:18 It’s not me.
0:13:23 And so how do we move towards where medicine is going, which is personalization.
0:13:26 What we call precision medicine, personalized medicine, whatever you want to call it, it’s
0:13:27 where we’re going.
0:13:32 And so Function Health is the first platform that is able to actually do this for you in
0:13:34 an amazing way that helps people revolutionize their health.
0:13:36 And we just started.
0:13:37 Honestly, this is a startup.
0:13:39 And we didn’t realize how much success we were going to have.
0:13:42 And so we have almost 150,000 members.
0:13:45 We have millions, tens of millions of data points on people.
0:13:47 We’re seeing all kinds of trends in the data.
0:13:51 We see that people actually, when they get their first test, and now we’ve been going two
0:13:56 years, we can see that when they follow up and do the follow-up testing, that their biomarkers
0:13:56 get better.
0:13:57 Their blood sugar gets better.
0:13:58 Their cholesterol gets better.
0:13:59 Their inflammation gets better.
0:14:00 Their vitamin D gets better.
0:14:01 Whatever is off.
0:14:05 And we give them a deep dive into what’s going on with their biology, not just from
0:14:10 a traditional perspective, a traditional sort of Western medical perspective, but also this
0:14:14 emerging field of systems, network, and medicine, which is what functional medicine has been
0:14:15 doing.
0:14:18 But now the rest of the science is catching up, which is very, very exciting to me.
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0:18:56 So my first question to you, I mentioned biohacking, and you got like a little offended when I tried to compare what you were doing with biohacking.
0:19:05 But when I hear you talking about it, and you’re talking about personalization and figuring out your biological age, to me, that’s, you know, I’ve been doing this podcast for six years and had a lot of people on the show.
0:19:08 And it sounds a lot like biohacking.
0:19:09 So what’s the difference?
0:19:20 Well, I think biohacking tends to be around things like hot and cold plunges, hyperbaric chambers, red light therapy, all these devices and tools and things to optimize your health, which are fine.
0:19:23 They work and they’re mediated by biological processes.
0:19:24 And I use those.
0:19:34 However, if someone comes in like that woman that I just described to you, no biohacker in the world is going to fix her because they don’t understand the science around functional medicine.
0:19:36 Now, if they’re a trained practitioner, fine.
0:19:37 They’ll figure it out.
0:19:38 Or hopefully they’ll figure it out.
0:19:45 But when you just use these modalities without trying to understand what the underlying root cause is, it’s another symptomatic treatment.
0:19:46 You might feel better for a little bit.
0:19:47 You go on a sauna.
0:19:48 You go on a cold punch.
0:19:48 You feel good.
0:19:49 But then what?
0:19:51 You know, you still have your arthritis.
0:19:52 You still have autoimmune disease.
0:19:53 You still have your migraines.
0:19:54 You still have whatever you got.
0:19:57 And no one’s telling you how to figure out the root of that.
0:19:58 So I’m not opposed to it.
0:19:59 And Dave’s a good friend.
0:20:00 And I love Dave Asprey.
0:20:03 And we hang out and talk all the time.
0:20:04 And I learned from him.
0:20:06 And there’s all kinds of great tools that I personally use and have.
0:20:11 I’m just saying that functional medicine is sort of the OG biohacking in a sense.
0:20:17 Because it’s really about understanding much deeper level what’s going on biologically, biochemically, genetically, you know, with your microbiome.
0:20:21 And ways that I think most people just, it’s a lot to take in.
0:20:25 And the problem is, you know, there’s 37 billion, billion chemical reactions to your body every second.
0:20:27 Nobody can understand all that.
0:20:30 And you have tens of thousands of metabolites in your blood and chemicals.
0:20:32 We do 19 on a regular panel.
0:20:37 With functional health, we do $499, which is $15,000 for the test for less than $500.
0:20:40 And you get over 110 biomarkers.
0:20:46 And you can add on other things as well to go deeper dives into whether you’re exposed to chemicals, whether you’re at Alzheimer’s risk, whether you have immune issues.
0:20:48 I mean, so whether you have Lyme disease.
0:20:53 We provide you a really deep, robust platform where you get to be driving the bus.
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0:20:58 You don’t have to go to trying to find a lab that will order.
0:21:00 You have to get your insurance to pay for it.
0:21:01 I mean, I have insurance.
0:21:04 I go to the lab, and my doctor ordered some stuff that I wanted to do.
0:21:05 And it was outside of Function.
0:21:09 And she’s like, well, it’ll pay for this test, but not this test, and this test, but not this test.
0:21:10 You want to be charged for that?
0:21:10 You’ll be charged.
0:21:14 I’m like, oh, you know, it’s like that’s what Function solves all of that.
0:21:18 And you have this beautiful integrated dashboard where you have your data forever, and you track it over time.
0:21:24 You get an app, which helps give you direct feedback, and it’s a very integrated experience into your life.
0:21:32 I feel like it’s really needed because, to your point, the rest of the medical world is kind of stuck in this traditional process that really isn’t working.
0:21:38 And the other thing that’s not working is actually treating aging’s symptoms and not the root cause.
0:21:43 And one of the other big principles that you talk about is treating aging like an actual disease.
0:21:44 So why is that important?
0:21:55 Well, I think, you know, we’ve come to sort of accept that as you get older, you have cancer, you get heart disease, you get diabetes, you lose muscle, your brain function declines, you lose your ability to do things.
0:21:58 These are not normal consequences of aging.
0:22:00 Frailty is not a normal consequence of aging.
0:22:05 It’s a consequence, a phenomenon that happens as we get older if we don’t do something about it.
0:22:13 And all of us have seen those, you know, 90-year-old ladies doing, like, gymnastics and, like, the 100-year-old people running the 100-yard dash.
0:22:15 You know, it’s kind of crazy stuff like that, right?
0:22:17 And what is it about those people?
0:22:24 Well, they have understood by accident or by studying that there are certain behaviors that foster optimal health.
0:22:27 It’s eating whole foods, unprocessed diet.
0:22:37 It’s low sugar and low starch and full of phytochemicals and fiber and inadequate amounts of protein, especially more animal protein as you get older because it’s harder to assimilate and build.
0:22:41 You need to make sure you exercise and do strength training and you need flexibility.
0:22:44 You need cardiovascular training and stability training.
0:22:46 They understand you need good sleep.
0:22:49 They understand they have managed their stress and their own emotional regulation.
0:22:56 And they also have deep social connections and relationships that foster a sense of belonging, which all are ingredients for optimal health.
0:22:59 And when you look at people, like, in the blue zones, that’s basically what they have.
0:23:01 It’s not that they were vegans or not vegans.
0:23:13 It was that they had these other factors and that they were profoundly impacted just by default by these situations that they found themselves born into, which we totally in the West don’t have.
0:23:14 We’re the opposite.
0:23:16 We have dysregulated sleep schedules.
0:23:17 We have tremendous amounts of stress.
0:23:18 We eat crappy food.
0:23:20 You know, we don’t exercise enough.
0:23:22 My R-ring told me I didn’t exercise enough yesterday.
0:23:23 I was a fancy busy day.
0:23:29 So, you know, there’s all these things that we’re doing to impede our ability to actually live a vibrant, long, healthy life.
0:23:36 Well, you seem to be doing a good job because your biological age is 43, but you’re in your 60s.
0:23:36 Is that right?
0:23:37 Yeah.
0:23:41 Well, I got my biological age done when I was 62 and I was 43.
0:23:46 Then I implemented more of the things that I learned and some other strategies.
0:23:51 I got two years older, I was 64, and I redid my biological age.
0:23:51 It was 39.
0:23:56 Even though I got two years older chronologically, I got four years younger biologically.
0:24:01 So that’s the power we have in epigenetic reprogramming.
0:24:04 Now, I mentioned earlier the Yamanaka factors and so forth.
0:24:08 These are sort of part of the sky things that have to be tested in humans and make sure they’re safe and effective.
0:24:16 But right now, even with what we know, by optimizing and tweaking, you can actually still reverse your epigenetic biological age.
0:24:20 At any point in your life, it can go backwards or forwards.
0:24:26 If you kind of go on a bender or whatever, you don’t sleep and you party and you eat crappy food, you’ll get older biologically.
0:24:28 And then you can change that and reprogram and go back.
0:24:31 So give us concrete things.
0:24:34 What did you do to reverse your age 20 years?
0:24:36 Well, I’ve been doing this my whole life.
0:24:38 So it wasn’t like I was 64 biologically.
0:24:41 And then I, in five years, I reversed it to 40.
0:24:44 So I have been eating whole foods my whole life.
0:24:46 I’ve been not eating processed foods.
0:24:47 I don’t remember the last time I had a Zoda.
0:24:49 I mean, I probably was a kid.
0:24:53 I exercised my entire life for the last 50 years.
0:24:59 I have made sure I prioritize community, connection, sleep, and manage stress.
0:25:00 And all those things play a role.
0:25:05 And then I’ve done things to optimize my microbiome, my mitochondria, my immune system.
0:25:07 And those will all really help.
0:25:10 So all those things kind of nudge you back into a healthier state.
0:25:13 And there’s some supplements and things that I’ve taken that I think have made a difference.
0:25:15 I’ve taken neural FNA.
0:25:19 I take amino acids that should help be assimilated.
0:25:25 I also take something that’s called NMN, which is a precursor of NAD that helps also revitalize
0:25:25 your cells.
0:25:28 I do a number of different things that I think are important from a supplement perspective.
0:25:31 But I think most of it’s like the 10%.
0:25:34 The rest of it is the 80 to 90%.
0:25:40 And that’s what, if we were to use Function, the platform, it would help us figure out, okay,
0:25:41 what’s our biological age?
0:25:44 And these are the things you need to do related to functional medicine and to help.
0:25:45 That’s what it does.
0:25:45 Yeah.
0:25:46 Yeah.
0:25:51 We do a calculation based on your biomarkers of what your biological age is based on scientific
0:25:55 data that shows certain blood biomarkers correlate with your epigenetic biological age.
0:25:57 And you can see it go backwards or forwards.
0:25:59 Now, if you do different tests, you’re going to get different numbers, right?
0:26:02 Some tests will be like five years younger or 10 years younger.
0:26:05 You may not be able to compare apples to apples by switching tests.
0:26:08 But if you stay with the same tests consistently, you’ll see the changes.
0:26:12 So I want to get really nerdy because I’m sure people have been listening and they’re like,
0:26:15 I have no idea what epigenetics is.
0:26:20 And so there’s two terms I want you to break down, epigenomes and exposome.
0:26:22 So one is about how our genes are expressed.
0:26:24 One is our environmental exposure.
0:26:25 So break those now.
0:26:26 Yeah.
0:26:29 So basically the concept that I think is really important called the exposome.
0:26:32 We all have been taught that our genes control who we are.
0:26:36 They’re our destiny, whatever we got, we got, we can’t change it.
0:26:40 You know, our parents got diabetes, our parents got cancer, our parents got whatever, heart
0:26:41 disease.
0:26:42 It’s just in our future.
0:26:44 Your genes are not your destiny.
0:26:49 They may provide you with a roadmap of what your predispositions are, but not your destiny.
0:26:51 So what controls your destiny?
0:26:53 It’s something called the exposome.
0:26:58 That is a sum total of everything that you’re exposed to throughout your life that washes over
0:27:03 your biology, including your genes and reprograms them based on what you’re doing.
0:27:06 If you’re eating, like me, if you had a whole foods diet, if you exercise, you do all these
0:27:09 things for 50 years, you’re going to be biologically younger.
0:27:12 Your epigenetics are going to track as if you’re younger.
0:27:14 And I’ll talk about what epigenetics are.
0:27:16 So the exposome is what you eat.
0:27:22 It’s your exercise, your nutrient levels, it’s stress management, it’s community, it’s sleep.
0:27:25 It’s all the things we’ve just talked about, light, air, water, all those things.
0:27:27 I went on bright sunlight this morning for 20 minutes.
0:27:29 All those things matter.
0:27:31 That influences how your biology is regulated.
0:27:35 We’re biological organisms and we’re controlled in the same way by our external factors.
0:27:40 So the exposome is literally everything from toxins to your gut microbiome, to your diet,
0:27:43 to sleep, everything that your body is exposed to.
0:27:45 That’s why we call it the exposome.
0:27:50 Your epigenome is how the exposome regulates your biology.
0:27:52 Now, what is the epigenome?
0:27:53 Epi means above.
0:27:55 So you’ve got your genes, you’ve got about 20,000 genes.
0:28:00 Your epigenome, you think about like the keyboards on a piano, right?
0:28:01 You’ve got 88 keys.
0:28:02 They ain’t changing.
0:28:04 You know, I’ve got 20,000 genes.
0:28:04 They ain’t changing.
0:28:07 Unless I do gene editing or splicing or some other weird thing that’s coming around the
0:28:09 corner, they’re not changing.
0:28:15 What can change is how those genes are expressed, how they’re turned on or off, whether they’re
0:28:19 up-regulated or down-regulated, whether they’re driving inflammation or stop inflammation, whether
0:28:20 they’re accelerating aging or slow aging.
0:28:25 And they are basically the control mechanisms to turn on or off genes.
0:28:29 So I think of them like switches or knobs, and you can dial them up or down based on what
0:28:30 you’re doing.
0:28:36 And that’s how almost all of the impacts of a lot of the lung practices we talked about
0:28:37 have their effect.
0:28:40 That’s how the exposome regulates your health and longevity, your biology, and your risk
0:28:46 of disease is through your epigenome, then translates into the expression of genes and proteins and
0:28:47 biological functions.
0:28:50 And you want to have a healthy epigenome.
0:28:55 There was a great example, for example, a brand new journal who discovered this phenomenon was
0:28:58 these mice that are bred to be obese.
0:29:02 So they’re yellow, they’re fat, basically yellow fat mice.
0:29:08 He gave a series of the females who are pregnant, certain nutrients called methylating nutrients
0:29:09 that regulate the epigenome.
0:29:13 It’s a little complicated, but there’s something called methylation, which is a chemical process
0:29:15 that regulates your genes.
0:29:17 It involves B6, folate, and B12.
0:29:19 Vitamins and minerals are extremely important.
0:29:20 They run everything in your body.
0:29:23 Every biochemical reaction needs a vitamin or mineral.
0:29:27 And if you don’t have them or they’re insufficient, you’re going to have gummed up biochemistry.
0:29:30 And gummed up biochemistry translates into disease.
0:29:36 So he basically gave these pregnant mice some B vitamins and a few other amino acids and things
0:29:38 to help to support this process.
0:29:41 The offspring were perfect.
0:29:45 They were thin, they were healthy, they were gray, they were not yellow fat mice.
0:29:50 Even though genetically, they were bred to be yellow fat mice.
0:29:52 And this was a massive discovery.
0:29:56 And I think this is what really has led to our understanding of this whole process of how
0:29:59 we can modify our epigenome and the outcomes.
0:30:03 So when your mother’s eating when she’s pregnant with you, you know, the stresses you experience
0:30:08 in utero that your mother might have experienced or all your early childhood experiences, all those
0:30:10 imprint on your epigenome and can affect you.
0:30:11 toxins you’re exposed to.
0:30:16 So this is why we have to sort of pay attention to how we live, because if we want to feel
0:30:21 good and do good and engage in life and do the work we want to do and be successful in
0:30:26 our work and have great relationships and enjoy life and be happy, if you feel like crap, it’s
0:30:28 not that much fun, right?
0:30:29 So true.
0:30:36 And so from what I read, 90% of disease and aging risk has to do with our environment, our
0:30:37 exposome, right?
0:30:41 And so the earlier that we start, the better is what you were just saying, right?
0:30:45 We can even start from in the womb if our mothers are smart enough.
0:30:46 Yeah.
0:30:48 You know, I’ve seen women wanting to be pregnant.
0:30:49 I measure their toxin load.
0:30:52 I’m like, whoa, we got to do something about this.
0:30:53 We got to reduce your exposures, the toxins.
0:30:56 We’ve got to get these heavy metals down because you want to have a healthy baby.
0:31:00 And so we really proactively do preconception work.
0:31:04 I mean, I had a whole podcast about that on The Doctor’s Pharmacy, and now it’s called The
0:31:04 Dr. Hyman Show.
0:31:09 We dove deep into what you need to know preparing for a baby, what happens when you’re pregnant,
0:31:12 how do you take care of yourself, what are the things that are matter scientifically to
0:31:14 optimize the chance of having a healthy baby.
0:31:19 On the flip side, is there any time that’s too late to get started on this?
0:31:20 Oh, God, no.
0:31:24 What’s really amazing, in one of the animal studies, they’ve given rapamycin, which is
0:31:29 something that is a drug discovered in Rapa Nui that inhibits this pathway called one of the
0:31:33 longevity switches, I call it the longevity switches, that they control so much.
0:31:35 So mTOR is one of these.
0:31:41 And mTOR essentially is a pathway that is going to help you build muscle, but also when it’s
0:31:46 activated and when it’s inactivated or inhibited in some way, it’s going to allow the cells
0:31:50 to replenish and repair through this process called autophagy, which basically means you’re
0:31:53 eating your old cells and you’re reusing the parts.
0:31:53 It’s recycling.
0:31:56 So it’s cleaning up the mess that we make all the time in our bodies.
0:31:58 Where does that garbage go, right?
0:31:59 Somebody has to fix it.
0:32:05 So rapamycin inhibits that and accelerates the autophagy process and then given in the right
0:32:09 ways, it extends life and extends health in animal models consistently and reliably.
0:32:14 And so there are interesting ways that we can sort of activate these longevity switches
0:32:14 and pathways.
0:32:18 And I talk about that a lot in my book, Young Forever, and how do we understand how these
0:32:19 work, what we can do?
0:32:20 And it’s not complicated.
0:32:25 There’s a few simple practices, sometimes a few supplements that can really help modulate
0:32:27 some of these pathways to activate the longevity switches.
0:32:28 Okay.
0:32:32 So one more really nerdy question, and that’s about mitochondria.
0:32:36 So you say the difference between a three-year-old and a nine-year-old is a number and the state
0:32:37 of their mitochondria.
0:32:41 So help us understand what mitochondrial dysfunction has to do with aging.
0:32:44 So this is one of the hallmarks of aging is mitochondrial dysfunction.
0:32:45 It’s key to so many diseases.
0:32:50 Your mitochondria, I think of them as like the powerhouse of your cell, the energy factories,
0:32:53 they take food and oxygen, turn it into energy that your body uses.
0:32:58 And we use gasoline or carb and it combusts and creates energy.
0:32:59 We run on something called ATP.
0:33:02 It’s just a molecule produced from food and oxygen.
0:33:06 And the waste products are carbon dioxide, which we breathe out, and water, which we pee out,
0:33:07 and some free radicals, which we have.
0:33:09 Antioxidant mechanisms to control.
0:33:12 And what happens is they’re your energy, right?
0:33:15 So if you have poor functioning mitochondria, you’re going to have low energy.
0:33:16 You’re going to be weaker.
0:33:17 You’re going to have lower muscle mass.
0:33:22 So the key to longevity is keeping your mitochondria healthy and keeping them strong and actually
0:33:24 having better, more mitochondria.
0:33:28 And so the way to do that is by exercise.
0:33:30 So resistance training builds muscle and mitochondria.
0:33:33 Sprint training or kit training does that as well.
0:33:35 Exercise with oxygen therapy.
0:33:36 Hypoxia training does that.
0:33:38 A lot of ways to do it.
0:33:42 There’s supplements like urolithin A, which causes mitophagy and mitochondrial renewal.
0:33:45 There are mitochondrial support supplements sometimes that you need.
0:33:50 So there are a lot of ways to optimize your mitochondria, but they’re injured by too much food,
0:33:52 too much sugar and starch, too many environmental toxins.
0:33:56 All those things from the microbiome that are bad, all those things can damage your mitochondria.
0:34:00 So learning about your mitochondria, how to take care of them is really important.
0:34:04 And again, it’s one of the things we can look at as we start to test things and see what’s
0:34:04 going on in our bodies.
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0:39:38 I want to talk about your drive of wanting to live so long because one of the factors that
0:39:44 you mentioned is having a purpose and feeling like you’ve got a way to contribute to the world.
0:39:47 So why do you actually want to live so long?
0:39:49 Well, I love life.
0:39:54 And as long as I can enjoy life and be with my friends and do the things I love and ride my bike
0:39:59 and hike and enjoy what I’m doing and have meaning and purpose and contribute to the world and add value.
0:40:01 You know, I’m 65.
0:40:03 I kind of figured a few things out by now.
0:40:07 And, you know, wisdom always doesn’t come with age, but I’ve had a bunch of hard knocks,
0:40:09 and that’s really taught me a lot.
0:40:14 So I kind of feel happy and content and satisfied, and, like, I want to keep going.
0:40:18 I mean, I don’t really care if I get to 120 or 100 or 99 or 95 or 90.
0:40:20 I just want to feel good and do good.
0:40:29 I’m really excited for this generation of 60-year-olds because I just feel like in the past, in your 60s,
0:40:30 it’s all about retirement.
0:40:34 And I feel like a lot of people right now are actually, like, taking on second careers
0:40:38 and realizing that they really have a lot more time to live,
0:40:40 and people are taking advantage of that.
0:40:43 So, like, what are your thoughts in terms of people around your age who, like,
0:40:45 want to take on a new career?
0:40:45 Yeah.
0:40:47 Tell me about that.
0:40:54 I’m 65, and two years ago, I co-founded a company that’s a big startup company right now.
0:40:57 So who does startups in their 60s?
0:40:59 Most people are, like, looking at golf courses and not startups.
0:41:02 I mean, I want to contribute to the world.
0:41:02 I want to do things.
0:41:03 I get excited.
0:41:03 We’re building.
0:41:04 We’re creating.
0:41:05 We’re dreaming.
0:41:08 We’re imagining a different future for healthcare and medicine.
0:41:12 where adding value to people’s lives is something to get up for every morning and to be excited
0:41:17 about and take all the things that I know that are almost impossible for any single doctor
0:41:22 to synthesize and to sort through and make sense of and provide each individual with a
0:41:26 personalized approach to their health that’s going to actually optimize how they feel.
0:41:28 And that’s really the key here is to end needless suffering.
0:41:30 And for me, that’s my purpose.
0:41:31 And that’s my mission.
0:41:44 And it’s hard for me to imagine, especially in the West, because I feel like things are
0:41:45 more unhealthy than ever.
0:41:48 The food in the grocery store is terrible.
0:41:50 Everything comes in a cardboard box.
0:41:53 Our water supply is really scary.
0:41:55 And it feels like there’s no good water.
0:42:00 It’s either like you’re getting plastic or you’re drinking from a dirty faucet, right?
0:42:06 And so for me, it just feels almost impossible to navigate food, which you say is medicine.
0:42:13 So talk to us about how we should try to navigate our diets and what changes need to happen in
0:42:17 America for us to actually live healthier lives and longer lives.
0:42:19 This has been something I’ve been working on for a long time.
0:42:23 And I wrote a book called Food Fix, which lays out from field to fork what’s wrong with our
0:42:24 food system.
0:42:29 And if there’s one thing that’s killing us, aside from environmental toxins and stress in
0:42:32 our sleep schedule, it’s probably 80% food.
0:42:35 And it’s something that we can control and do something about.
0:42:40 And unless we actually take it seriously and fix our food system, we’re a bit of a mess.
0:42:43 And so right now, there’s a resurgence of interest in health around the country.
0:42:45 There’s the Make America Healthy Again movement.
0:42:48 And so there’s that energy happening.
0:42:52 And in Washington, working on policies that bring those dangers to the average American.
0:42:56 For example, in West Virginia, they got rid of red dyes and other dyes.
0:42:57 In California, they did the same thing.
0:43:01 These are great steps to start to push the food system to produce healthier food for all
0:43:02 of us.
0:43:06 And something that’s really hot right now is GLPs, right?
0:43:08 I have mixed feelings about them.
0:43:09 I’m not a doctor, right?
0:43:11 But I think it’s good if you have a real problem.
0:43:18 But I see normal people who might just need to lose 10, 20 pounds take GLPs.
0:43:19 So what are your thoughts around that?
0:43:25 For most people, and I literally just got a text from somebody this morning saying, my cousin
0:43:25 read your book.
0:43:26 They lost 100 pounds.
0:43:32 My person who’s working with me in Washington around food policy, she lost 112 pounds in the
0:43:33 last few years working with me.
0:43:34 And they’re without taking these trucks.
0:43:35 Now, some people are really stuck.
0:43:40 And if you’re stuck and you need help and you have not really addressed the underlying
0:43:42 reasons why you eat that, sometimes it’s not what you’re eating.
0:43:43 It’s what’s eating you.
0:43:44 You got to figure that out.
0:43:46 I think it’s really important to do that.
0:43:51 And I think when people do that, they don’t necessarily have to take these drugs, which are
0:43:52 helpful.
0:43:57 They can be extremely helpful, but they also come with side effects.
0:43:59 Muscle loss, weight regain if you stop.
0:44:03 They can have other issues, you know, like pancreatic issues and pancreatitis.
0:44:06 They can cause bowel obstruction if taken for a long time.
0:44:09 So they can be a good tool, but they’re just a tool.
0:44:10 They’re not a panacea.
0:44:12 And I think they’ve helped a lot of people.
0:44:13 I’m not against them.
0:44:16 I think they’re used in ways that sometimes don’t make sense to me.
0:44:18 Why give a six-year-old an ozempic shot for the rest of his life?
0:44:20 It’s not his fault.
0:44:20 He’s overweight.
0:44:21 It’s the environment he’s in.
0:44:25 And I think that can actually get really fixed.
0:44:30 So I think it’s important for people to understand that they have power.
0:44:35 The food industry has basically hijacked our brain chemistry, our metabolism, our desires
0:44:36 for different foods.
0:44:39 And these are things that can actually be changed.
0:44:45 You can literally change your brain chemistry and have an incredibly powerful shift in your
0:44:46 cravings and your desire for foods.
0:44:53 You know, for example, people going keto, they don’t really need ozempic because naturally the
0:44:55 way they’re eating will shut off that craving.
0:44:57 And the food addiction is a real thing.
0:45:02 About 14% of adults and kids are addicted to food, biologically addicted.
0:45:09 This is really based on good evidence from the Yale Food Addiction Scale and deep science
0:45:10 around the world.
0:45:10 We looked at this.
0:45:17 This is just horribly sad and horribly unfortunate because we really don’t need to do that.
0:45:19 We can fix our food supply.
0:45:20 We can fix this problem.
0:45:22 And it has to be done at a grassroots level.
0:45:23 It has to be done at a state level.
0:45:24 It has to be done at a federal level.
0:45:28 It’s going to take time, but we’re working with the FDA, working with the USDA, with
0:45:33 HHS, the administration as best we can to try to push changes through my nonprofit.
0:45:38 I’ve also heard that there’s food companies already trying to figure out how to circumvent
0:45:41 GLPs so that people still crave their food, right?
0:45:44 So this is going to figure out how to get around it.
0:45:46 That’s even crazy when you think of it.
0:45:49 Like, wow, they’re really just going to go there?
0:45:53 They’re literally going to just kind of circumvent ozempic by making food even more addictive?
0:45:56 Yeah, that’s the state of the world that we’re in.
0:45:57 So we’ve got to take control.
0:45:59 So let’s talk about our ancestors.
0:46:04 Because when I was listening to your book, I was surprised because we’re always thinking
0:46:06 about how we live so long now.
0:46:10 And when you think about the past, you might think people died at 30, 40.
0:46:15 But there’s actually cases in history where people have lived to be a very old age.
0:46:19 So talk to us about how our ancestors ate and maybe some examples of people who lived really
0:46:21 long back in the day.
0:46:25 Well, I think, you know, when you look, for example, at the Native Americans, one of the
0:46:30 longest populations in the world at the turn of the 1900s was the Plains Indians.
0:46:33 They had most of their diet from bison.
0:46:38 And then they had berries and they had probably wild stuff they gathered.
0:46:40 But predominantly their diet was meat.
0:46:45 And they lived to be well over 100 and highly functional and active.
0:46:49 And these populations around the world where you see people like I was in Turkey and they
0:46:51 know, this is not a technical blue zone.
0:46:54 But man, they were a lot of really old people who are doing great.
0:46:59 We’re in their 80s, 90s, still working, still thriving, still make part of the community.
0:47:01 And I think it’s when you stop, you stop.
0:47:04 Like, I think retirement is the worst idea ever invented.
0:47:06 I don’t really get it.
0:47:07 But people don’t retire.
0:47:08 They just shift and change what they’re doing.
0:47:13 And I think these communities, and when you see these people living to be very old, it’s
0:47:15 because they found meaning, purpose.
0:47:19 They’ve learned how to not sort of internalize the stresses of life.
0:47:22 They’ve learned how to modulate their own diet and lifestyle to optimize their health.
0:47:24 And they just figured it out.
0:47:29 Let’s stick on community a bit because you say it’s also a factor in longevity.
0:47:32 You say you’re only as healthy as your five closest friends.
0:47:33 Tell us about that.
0:47:35 Well, think about it.
0:47:41 If all your friends are going to McDonald’s and drinking beer and two leaves a soda day and
0:47:44 watching TV all the time, that’s what you’re going to be probably like.
0:47:50 And if you have friends who are healthy and go to yoga and drink green juices and exercise
0:47:55 and eat whole foods and get together and share these things, you’re more likely going to be
0:47:56 healthy.
0:47:57 It’s just so clear.
0:48:01 Dr. Stokas from Harvard did a lot of work on this, wrote a book called Connected, but
0:48:04 he published research in the New England Journal of Medicine showing that, for example, from
0:48:08 the Framingham data, which is a large study of probably one of the largest studies, longest
0:48:12 going studies in the world, in Framingham, Massachusetts, tracking their population, he found that those
0:48:16 people who actually, when they looked at the patterns around obesity, that you were about
0:48:20 40% likely to be overweight if your parents or siblings are overweight.
0:48:25 But you were 171% more likely to be overweight if your friends are overweight.
0:48:30 So your social connections matter and your relationships matter.
0:48:34 If you’re somebody who just stands up all night playing video games and you’re living in America
0:48:39 and your friends are playing video games in Australia, I mean, your sleep-wake cycle, your
0:48:40 circuitry rhythm, everything’s going to be off.
0:48:45 So the people in the communities that you have to surround yourself with, make sure they’re
0:48:49 people who are leaning in towards wellness and health as opposed to not that.
0:48:51 That’s so interesting.
0:48:55 Now, I don’t want everybody tuning in to become fat-phobic, you know?
0:49:00 But at the same time, you’ve got to pay attention to, it’s the same thing.
0:49:02 If people are doing drugs around you, you’re more likely to do drugs.
0:49:06 So food can also be as bad as a drug.
0:49:08 We’ve got to think of it that way.
0:49:14 So if there was one thing that you could remove from the grocery stores, what would it be?
0:49:18 It would be high-fructose corn syrup like that.
0:49:22 You’d cut out most of the in the grocery store.
0:49:27 And I think, you know, trans fats have been removed for the most part, which is great.
0:49:33 But you want to make sure you’re getting rid of those two things, trans fats and africose corn syrup.
0:49:35 Just getting rid of that alone will make a huge difference.
0:49:37 Or just even reading the ingredient list.
0:49:42 If there’s an ingredient on there that you don’t have at home that you wouldn’t use in your kitchen,
0:49:51 like butylated hydroxychloroquine or maltodextrin or mono and diglycerides, you probably shouldn’t eat it.
0:49:52 I heard something once.
0:49:55 If you can’t kill it or grow it, you shouldn’t eat it.
0:49:58 And I always think about that when I’m eating food.
0:49:59 Yeah.
0:50:00 Totally right.
0:50:01 Totally right.
0:50:03 So a lot of our listeners are entrepreneurs.
0:50:05 They have very busy schedules.
0:50:10 Sometimes it can get really overwhelming trying to follow different nutrition advice.
0:50:13 So in the simplest terms, what should we be eating?
0:50:15 Yeah, I’ve written so many books about this food.
0:50:17 What should I eat?
0:50:21 The Pagan Diet, which is sort of a condensed version and with some kind of fun stuff in it.
0:50:24 What we agree on is more than what we disagree on.
0:50:28 You can get on the margins about vegan or paleo or keto or this or that.
0:50:32 But the truth is, we all agree we shouldn’t be eating processed food, ultra processed food.
0:50:36 We all agree we should be reducing starches and sugar and refined carbohydrates in our diet.
0:50:43 We shouldn’t be eating things that aren’t food, technically, like maltodextrin or butylated hydroxychloroquine or red dye number three.
0:50:47 We should be eating foods that are high in phytochemicals.
0:50:52 We think of food as medicine, where it changes everything in our biology in real time.
0:50:58 We should be thinking about having good quality fats from nuts and seeds and avocados and wild fish, small fish.
0:51:03 And even though for some people tolerate animal fats very well, especially if it’s regeneratively raised, they have very different qualities of fats.
0:51:10 So there’s a lot of really good things you can do that are available from the diet that you can get even anywhere.
0:51:19 I mean, I’ve worked with people in the worst food deserts in America, and they’ve actually been able to make a huge impact and change their diet if they actually do the right things.
0:51:20 And they will.
0:51:25 They’ll actually have a huge shift in their diet by actually doing this.
0:51:28 So I’m pretty thrilled by how simple it is.
0:51:31 But when people understand how to do it, then it often changes.
0:51:34 Talk to us about exercise.
0:51:38 I feel like there’s a lot of mixed advice when it comes to exercise.
0:51:41 What’s your take on the right amount, too much exercise?
0:51:43 Exercise is critical.
0:51:44 Your body needs to move.
0:51:45 There’s no doubt about it.
0:51:47 We were designed to be moving organisms all the time.
0:51:50 And that’s how we evolved.
0:51:53 Now, most of us don’t do enough.
0:51:54 And that’s unfortunate.
0:51:57 And I think 8% get the optimal amount.
0:51:59 23%, we get some moderate amount.
0:52:03 But the key is to actually understand what’s good for you.
0:52:05 And it’s different at different times of your life.
0:52:09 But I think you need at least 30 minutes of good cardio four or five times a week, three
0:52:13 times a week is strength training, probably a week or a day or two of flexibility and training
0:52:14 and stability training.
0:52:15 That’s kind of bare minimum.
0:52:19 If you can do that, you’re going to maintain your health and be good for a long time.
0:52:24 You’ve said in the past that strength training is the best anti-aging medicine.
0:52:25 What’s so good about it?
0:52:29 Because what you’re doing is you’re building muscle, you’re building mitochondria, you’re
0:52:31 increasing muscle mass.
0:52:32 And what really kills people is frailty.
0:52:34 When you get older, you get frail.
0:52:35 You’re not able to get up out of a chair.
0:52:37 You’re not able to do anything you love to do.
0:52:39 Your mobility has decreased.
0:52:40 Your functions decreased.
0:52:42 That’s all totally preventable by strength training.
0:52:46 And you have to work harder as you get older because the body, unfortunately, it doesn’t
0:52:47 work as well.
0:52:50 So you have to do a little more effort to get the same benefit.
0:52:53 And I think that’s something people have to do, but it’s not optional.
0:52:55 Like exercise is just not optional.
0:52:59 Okay, last question for you, and then we’re going to close out this interview.
0:53:06 So the average listener’s age on my podcast is 35 years old, and they’re typically an entrepreneur.
0:53:11 So let’s say I gave you a 35-year-old, they’re stressed, exhausted, running on coffee.
0:53:17 If you had a year to transform their health and performance, what are the things that you
0:53:18 would change?
0:53:23 I would immediately have them get on a whole foods diet that I just talked about and have
0:53:29 them just follow the principles of eat real food, low sugar, starch, good fats, adequate
0:53:33 protein for where you are in your life phase and varies depending on where you are, lots of
0:53:36 phytochemicals, lots of fiber, and just start there.
0:53:40 And if you’re really having any health issues, I’d probably do my 10-day detox program, which
0:53:41 is essentially a reset.
0:53:44 It’s just 10daydetox.com with a 10-day detox.
0:53:48 And what really is amazing about it is that people get a reset.
0:53:52 It’s like putting your body back to its original factory settings, and you can see where food
0:53:53 is impacting you.
0:53:58 Oh, I didn’t know that, oh, my rash was caused by food, or I didn’t know that my migraines
0:54:01 were caused by what I was eating, or I didn’t know that my joint pain was caused by what
0:54:02 I was eating, or my sleep problem was caused by eating.
0:54:06 So you get a really quick reset, and then you can start to add foods back in.
0:54:08 So that would be number one, get your food straight.
0:54:10 And that’s timing, planning, organizing.
0:54:11 It’s really important.
0:54:15 The amount of time you spend on your business, the fraction of that you spend on your health,
0:54:16 you’ll get a lot of dividends from that.
0:54:19 Getting a regular exercise routine, not that hard.
0:54:23 Maybe if you just want to walk 30 minutes, a few walking phone calls, that’s good, better
0:54:23 than nothing.
0:54:25 You can have a walking treadmill.
0:54:28 You can do more fun things.
0:54:28 I like to bike.
0:54:33 I like to do more mountain biking, and road biking, and tennis, and other things that
0:54:34 kind of are fun for me.
0:54:35 I like to make exercise fun.
0:54:40 Strength training, I’ve gotten into more and more, and it’s been profound in terms of effect
0:54:41 on my body, even as I’m older.
0:54:44 I think learning how to regulate your nervous system is important.
0:54:47 Self-soothing is not something we learn how to do.
0:54:48 We get activated, reactive.
0:54:53 But learning how to practice, whether it’s breath work, or meditation, or some practice
0:54:57 where you’re resetting your nervous system, because we’re all in parasympathetic deficit.
0:54:59 We need to be relaxing more.
0:55:04 And then I think build community, because as you’re building something and going through
0:55:07 stuff, when getting isolated is the worst thing you can do for a human being.
0:55:14 And so I think having that ability to work with your friends to build a fun community experience
0:55:15 is really important.
0:55:18 And that’s something that’s been really important to me, especially as I’ve gotten older, is
0:55:22 just invest in your friendships, because when everything else goes, that’s what will be
0:55:22 left.
0:55:26 Yeah, so that was great advice on an individual level.
0:55:31 And a lot of the people tuning in are entrepreneurs, and we help move society forward.
0:55:35 And we have this big shift from traditional to functional medicine.
0:55:37 We’re trying to combat the food industries.
0:55:42 Can you talk to us about some of the opportunities that you see for entrepreneurs to capitalize on
0:55:43 all these changes?
0:55:47 The health and wellness market is a trillion-dollar market.
0:55:49 And there’s a lot of ways people are entering that.
0:55:54 But if you can figure out what you love and the intersection of what you love and what people
0:55:58 need, often businesses are started from people’s own needs.
0:55:59 It’s like, I need to fix my own health.
0:56:03 So as a physician, I got very sick when I was in my 30s.
0:56:05 I got chronic fatigue syndrome from heavy metals.
0:56:08 And I was struggling a lot.
0:56:10 And I had to figure it out.
0:56:13 I had to actually figure it out.
0:56:15 And that forced me to learn about what I learned about.
0:56:20 It forced me to study the way I studied, to actually find this field of functional medicine,
0:56:22 to use it on myself, to heal and repair.
0:56:27 And so that’s what I encourage people to do, is figure out that intersection of what you
0:56:27 love.
0:56:28 That’s just driven me.
0:56:29 Because it’s not like a choice.
0:56:30 I don’t have a choice.
0:56:32 It’s not like I’m making widgets or something.
0:56:33 It’s fine to make widgets.
0:56:40 But, you know, I think the key is really to kind of figure out how you can do this in
0:56:44 a way that it syncs with what you love, because otherwise you won’t really do it.
0:56:45 Great advice.
0:56:45 Okay.
0:56:48 So I end my show with two questions I ask all my guests.
0:56:51 It could be totally different from what we talked about today.
0:56:52 Just answer from your heart.
0:56:58 So what is one actionable thing our young and profiters can do today to become more profitable
0:56:59 tomorrow?
0:57:04 What your success is really determined by the quality of how you feel.
0:57:08 So if you’re able to function on a high level and do the things you want to do and not be
0:57:13 held back by illness or struggles, you’re going to be able to function at a much higher level
0:57:18 and do whatever you want to do, whether it’s just buzz off and go kind of get early retirement
0:57:21 or whether it’s you want to build a company or whatever you want to do.
0:57:26 You know, you have the capacity to be highly functional when you feel better.
0:57:29 And so investing in your health is such an important thing.
0:57:33 from my perspective, you know, I see a lot of people who have great businesses and companies
0:57:37 and they build these things and they’re rich, they have all this stuff and they’re lonely,
0:57:39 they’re isolated, they’re unhealthy, they’re sick, they don’t feel good.
0:57:41 I mean, that is the last thing you want, right?
0:57:42 Totally.
0:57:47 And your book, Young Forever, really is a blueprint for how to do that.
0:57:50 What would you say your secret to profiting in life is?
0:57:51 And this can go beyond business.
0:57:59 The secret to profiting in life, again, is to focus on the things you love and to do what you’re
0:57:59 passionate about.
0:58:04 Because if you try to force something in your life, you know, the best things that happen
0:58:06 are often serendipitous.
0:58:09 They often come to you, their ideas, their people, their experiences.
0:58:13 I feel like there’s sort of an underlying current where we can kind of jump into it.
0:58:17 And if we’re present, we’re able to see actually what pulls us in.
0:58:20 And when we do that, you become more profitable.
0:58:22 I’ve never sought to make money in my life.
0:58:24 I’ve never tried to make money.
0:58:26 I’ve never said, I’m going to do a business to make money.
0:58:27 I’m going to do this to make money.
0:58:32 I’m doing what I’m doing because I feel like it’s critical for myself and for the people
0:58:35 who I care about and for the population at large.
0:58:37 It’s like, I just can’t help myself.
0:58:43 So I think when you do that and you have a mission and you’re driven, then it’s not
0:58:44 about the money.
0:58:47 And Mark, where can everybody learn more about you and everything that you do?
0:58:50 I know you’re so easily found, but where do you want to point people to?
0:58:51 Well, you can go to drhyman.com.
0:58:55 If you want to try the 10-day detox, you can go to drhyman.com.
0:58:56 You’ll find it there, but just go to 10-day detox diet.
0:59:01 I’m on social media, Dr. Mark Hyman, and I have a podcast, The Dr. Hyman Show, the top
0:59:03 200 podcasts out there.
0:59:04 So it’s doing well.
0:59:05 Awesome.
0:59:05 Cool.
0:59:08 Thank you so much for joining us on Young and Profiting Podcast.
0:59:09 My pleasure.
0:59:18 Well, guys, that’s a wrap on my conversation with Dr. Mark Hyman.
0:59:23 What stood out for me today is that longevity isn’t just about adding years to your life.
0:59:26 It’s also about adding life to your years.
0:59:33 And as corny as that may sound, if you want to be as strong and as vibrant at 60 as you are
0:59:39 at 30, then it won’t simply be because of genetic luck or new technologies, but rather
0:59:41 because of your intentional living.
0:59:47 There’s so many exciting developments in the health and longevity space, from epigenetic
0:59:54 reprogramming to AI-informed personalized medicine, advances that will no doubt inform and accelerate
0:59:55 our lifespans in the years ahead.
1:00:00 But like Mark reminds us, we already have the tools and knowledge at our fingertips that
1:00:03 we need to optimize our health right now.
1:00:08 And what it really comes down to is simply getting rid of the bad stuff and adding in the good
1:00:08 stuff.
1:00:14 By improving our diet, exercising more, getting enough sleep, and avoiding stress, you have
1:00:19 it within your own power to age more slowly and even turn back the physiological clock.
1:00:23 Aging is not a simple decline in many ways.
1:00:25 It’s a choice, even a skill.
1:00:30 Look at those people living in the blue zones like Sardinia, aging slowly and gracefully because
1:00:34 they’ve created a healthy environment in which their bodies can completely thrive.
1:00:38 It’s a lot easier said than done, but believe me, I know.
1:00:43 Like Mark said, it’s also never too late to get started at leading your best and hopefully
1:00:44 longest life.
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Dr. Mark Hyman isn’t just focused on aging; he is committed to thriving throughout life. In his sixties, he co-founded Function Health, a startup dedicated to optimizing biological health and wellness for peak performance. In this episode, Mark discusses the power of functional medicine in unlocking longevity, the secret to aging backwards, and small, daily changes that can improve health, boost productivity, and lead to a longer, more fulfilling life.

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(29:33) Navigating Modern Food Challenges

(35:22) Why Your Social Circle Matters for Longevity

(40:58) Practical Wellness Strategies for Entrepreneurs

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May 5, 2025

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0:00:10 Finding your personal style isn’t easy, and the fashion powers that be aren’t making it any easier on us.
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0:00:23 This week on Explain It To Me, how to cut through the noise and make sense of your own fashion sense.
0:00:26 New episodes every Sunday morning, wherever you get your podcasts.
0:00:39 Hey, it’s Marques from the Waveform Podcast, and I wanted to tell you about a special episode we just released called Your Favorite Creators’ Favorite Cameras.
0:00:42 This is pretty much the biggest behind-the-scenes video on the internet.
0:00:47 We talked to Casey Neistat on why he switched cameras after shooting Canon for so many years,
0:00:53 one of the hosts of the travel game show Jetlag, The Game, whose award-winning show is entirely shot on iPhones,
0:00:56 and tons of other tech, food, and filmmaking creators.
0:01:03 So, if you want to see how your favorite creator is filming their videos, be sure to check out Waveform wherever you listen to your podcasts.
0:01:06 Today’s number, $16.6 billion.
0:01:11 That’s the record amount American consumers lost to scammers and cybercriminals last year.
0:01:15 Ed, I just don’t have a joke about that, but I heard a lot of young men listen to this podcast,
0:01:18 so I have the ultimate pickup line.
0:01:18 You ready, Ed?
0:01:19 Mm-hmm.
0:01:21 You go up to someone you’re attracted to, and you say,
0:01:22 Can you take a picture of me?
0:01:24 Everyone always says yes, right?
0:01:25 No one ever says no to that.
0:01:26 Yep.
0:01:27 And then you say,
0:01:29 Can you turn on the mirror function and take a picture of the two of us?
0:01:31 And she’ll say,
0:01:32 Why?
0:01:33 And you say,
0:01:36 Because someday I’m going to show it to our kids.
0:01:38 Boom!
0:01:51 Ed, that’s how you lose your virginity at 19.
0:01:52 No, it isn’t.
0:01:54 Absolutely not.
0:01:55 Well, hold on.
0:01:56 Claire, would that work?
0:01:57 That’s a good line, no?
0:01:58 I don’t know.
0:02:00 It depends how cute he is.
0:02:00 Yeah.
0:02:02 Better be very handsome.
0:02:04 This guy better be incredibly handsome.
0:02:06 That’s a very telling comment,
0:02:08 because the difference between romance and creepiness
0:02:12 is the perceived attractiveness of the person making the overture.
0:02:15 And it’s impossible to know,
0:02:17 is this creepy or romantic?
0:02:21 Scott, have you ever actually used one of these pickup lines in real life?
0:02:22 I think they’re hilarious.
0:02:23 I love the whole,
0:02:25 Do you believe in love in first sight,
0:02:27 or should I walk by again?
0:02:27 Or, you know.
0:02:28 I love that shit.
0:02:35 But, no, my current and hopefully future partner
0:02:39 20, whatever, 21 years ago,
0:02:41 I just went up to her at the pool at the Raleigh Hotel
0:02:42 and I said, where are you guys from?
0:02:43 So, that wasn’t much of a line.
0:02:45 That wasn’t that creative.
0:02:47 But I was much more handsome then,
0:02:49 so I didn’t need to be that creative.
0:02:51 I think pickup lines are more for banter.
0:02:52 Certainly on this show.
0:02:53 Yeah.
0:02:53 How about you?
0:02:55 What’s been your approach?
0:02:57 I’ve always been, where are you from as well?
0:03:00 But I feel like it would be cool
0:03:03 to have an actually good pickup line
0:03:05 that’s provably worked.
0:03:07 But I feel like the thing that we’re learning,
0:03:09 at least in the past two minutes,
0:03:11 is that a lot of this has to do with,
0:03:12 are you handsome?
0:03:13 I don’t know.
0:03:15 I don’t think that’s as true or not as true for men.
0:03:16 I think women,
0:03:17 I think men get turned on with their eyes
0:03:18 and women get turned on with their ears.
0:03:20 I think if a guy has a good rap.
0:03:22 Yeah, but to get in there at the very beginning.
0:03:23 If you can make a woman laugh,
0:03:26 you can ask her out on a date.
0:03:29 I think it’s all about the rap.
0:03:31 I think women are much more thoughtful
0:03:34 in terms of their criteria for mating than dudes.
0:03:36 Well, by the way, Ed, I didn’t say handsome.
0:03:37 I said cute.
0:03:37 Cute.
0:03:40 Which could mean funny, charismatic, confident.
0:03:42 It’s all about the way he says it.
0:03:43 That’s a good point.
0:03:45 Ed rolls up and dials up the English accent.
0:03:46 He’s like, I’m from Princeton.
0:03:49 I went to Princeton.
0:03:51 Get to the headlines, Ed.
0:03:54 Let’s start with our weekly review of Market Vitals.
0:04:04 The S&P 500 climbed, the dollar rose, Bitcoin jumped,
0:04:06 and the yield on 10-year treasuries fell.
0:04:07 Shifting to the headlines.
0:04:11 U.S. GDP shrank 0.3% in the first quarter,
0:04:14 marking the economy’s first contraction in three years.
0:04:16 A surge in imports as companies raced
0:04:19 to get ahead of tariffs led to a sharp drop in net exports.
0:04:21 The major indices all fell in that news.
0:04:25 China’s factory activity fell into its worst contraction
0:04:26 in nearly two years.
0:04:29 New export orders also dropped to their lowest level
0:04:30 since December 2022.
0:04:34 In response, Chinese officials have pledged support
0:04:36 for affected businesses and workers.
0:04:38 And finally, Amazon has launched
0:04:41 its first internet satellites into orbit
0:04:43 in a bid to compete with SpaceX’s Starlink.
0:04:46 The company’s plan, called Project Kuiper,
0:04:49 should begin providing broadband service later this year
0:04:51 and eventually will deploy a constellation
0:04:54 of 3,200 satellites.
0:04:58 So let’s start here, Scott, with this GDP report.
0:05:02 A lot of people are seeing this report and they’re saying,
0:05:04 look how bad this is, look at what Trump’s done,
0:05:06 look how bad this is for the economy,
0:05:08 the economy’s contracting, etc.
0:05:11 And I just want to point out, before we dig into it,
0:05:13 that’s not really what’s going on here.
0:05:15 I think there are two things to note.
0:05:18 One, this is a measurement of the economy
0:05:20 before the tariffs went into effect.
0:05:23 This is Q1, so we’re not actually seeing the impact
0:05:24 of the tariffs themselves.
0:05:28 And two, the reason you’re seeing this contraction
0:05:31 is more of an accounting blip than anything.
0:05:35 And I just want to remind us of what GDP actually is,
0:05:37 just some macro 101 here.
0:05:41 GDP is an equation.
0:05:43 I mean, it’s a measurement of our economic output,
0:05:46 but the way we get to that number is an equation.
0:05:49 And one of the elements in that equation
0:05:51 is something called net exports,
0:05:55 which is basically you take our total exports
0:05:57 and you subtract our total imports.
0:05:59 And that’s supposed to tell you
0:06:01 how much stuff we actually made in America.
0:06:04 And so what that basically means,
0:06:07 if you have a giant increase in imports
0:06:08 into your country,
0:06:12 that’s going to mean that the net exports number goes down,
0:06:14 which means that the GDP number will go down.
0:06:17 And that’s what happened last week
0:06:20 because everyone knew in Q1 that tariffs were coming.
0:06:24 And so everyone scrambled to ship as many products
0:06:26 as they possibly could into the US
0:06:27 before the tariffs went into effect.
0:06:32 And that’s why we saw imports into America surge 41%,
0:06:35 which ultimately had a negative impact on GDP.
0:06:39 This isn’t the big tariffs are bad report
0:06:40 that you might think it is.
0:06:44 It’s the next GDP report that we will see in July.
0:06:47 That’s the one that’s going to tell us what’s really going on.
0:06:49 And that’s the one where I think we can have
0:06:53 a more honest analysis of what tariffs have done to America.
0:06:55 But Scott, your reactions to this GDP report,
0:06:57 which made a lot of headlines
0:06:59 and a lot of people were quite freaked out about it.
0:07:00 I don’t love GDP.
0:07:03 And also GDP is a bit of a lagging indicator.
0:07:07 And I think that the Trump administration can rightfully say
0:07:11 this is more about the economic policies of Biden
0:07:12 than it is about us.
0:07:15 And your analysis around the surge in imports
0:07:18 kind of contaminating the data is the correct one.
0:07:20 But why have we had a surge in imports?
0:07:24 Because people feel insecure about the economy
0:07:25 or specifically these tariffs.
0:07:28 And when I look at the uncertainty index,
0:07:31 which has hit a new high since like the 80s,
0:07:32 and consumer confidence,
0:07:34 which has hit a new low since COVID,
0:07:37 what it largely pretends is that
0:07:40 we’re going to see a decline in GDP in the next quarter.
0:07:43 I believe you’re going to see a dramatic decrease
0:07:45 in inventory in stores.
0:07:49 If you just look at those incredible kind of heat maps
0:07:50 of shipping lanes,
0:07:54 there are all these ships in kind of Hong Kong Harbor
0:07:56 that are just waiting to be loaded
0:07:57 and aren’t being loaded.
0:07:59 And then the port of Los Angeles,
0:08:00 which I believe is the biggest port
0:08:02 in the Western Hemisphere,
0:08:05 there’s very little offloading taking place.
0:08:06 So at some point,
0:08:08 and I don’t know if the lag is two weeks or two months,
0:08:10 you’re just going to see an absence of inventory
0:08:13 in stores.
0:08:14 And consumers have gotten to the point
0:08:16 where if they can’t get what they want,
0:08:18 they’re so used to such a robust supply chain,
0:08:18 they’re going to think,
0:08:20 A, if they’re not feeling good
0:08:21 about the consumer economy,
0:08:23 they don’t want to as aggressively buy
0:08:25 that new home gym or whatever.
0:08:28 And B, if the products they want are available,
0:08:30 they use that as an excuse just not to buy.
0:08:33 So I think winter is coming.
0:08:34 And that is,
0:08:36 I would imagine the next quarter,
0:08:36 there’s going to be,
0:08:37 you know,
0:08:38 they’ll find another reason to blame
0:08:39 Hunter Biden or something.
0:08:41 But this is,
0:08:43 they get a pass on this one, right?
0:08:46 But the fact that there’s,
0:08:47 again,
0:08:49 this massive surge in imports
0:08:50 is because our economy
0:08:53 is making asymmetric,
0:08:55 irrational decisions
0:08:58 based on an unpredictable administration
0:09:01 and unpredictable economic policy.
0:09:02 That sort of reminds me of
0:09:03 one of his latest,
0:09:06 Trump’s latest truths on Truth Social.
0:09:08 I hate that we have to call them truths,
0:09:09 but that’s what they are.
0:09:12 But he basically said,
0:09:14 so when the stock market ripped
0:09:15 after he was elected,
0:09:16 he said,
0:09:18 welcome to the Trump stock market.
0:09:20 And today,
0:09:21 I think last week,
0:09:23 he posted this truth,
0:09:25 this tweet that said,
0:09:27 this is the Biden stock market
0:09:27 that I inherited.
0:09:30 And it was sort of marking
0:09:31 his first hundred days in office,
0:09:31 which have been
0:09:33 one of the worst
0:09:34 stock market performances
0:09:36 for the start of a presidency
0:09:38 ever in America.
0:09:40 And it is sort of
0:09:41 a reminder
0:09:42 of how
0:09:45 basically his strategy
0:09:47 to distract
0:09:49 us from what is really going on.
0:09:50 You mentioned there
0:09:52 that GDP is a lagging indicator
0:09:54 and we can’t necessarily blame
0:09:55 Donald Trump
0:09:56 entirely
0:09:58 on this contraction
0:09:58 or at least
0:10:00 that’s not the right
0:10:01 argument to make.
0:10:02 But when it comes
0:10:03 to the stock market,
0:10:05 which is not a lagging indicator.
0:10:06 Forward-looking indicator.
0:10:07 The stock market is live,
0:10:08 real-time,
0:10:09 forward-looking indicator.
0:10:10 That’s the thing
0:10:11 to focus on.
0:10:12 And that’s the part
0:10:14 where you cannot say
0:10:16 this is the Biden stock market.
0:10:17 The stock market is live,
0:10:18 it’s real-time,
0:10:20 this is the Trump stock market.
0:10:22 S&P down 4%,
0:10:24 the Nasdaq down 8%
0:10:25 year-to-date.
0:10:26 So that’s the argument
0:10:28 that you definitely cannot make,
0:10:29 which of course he is making.
0:10:29 Agreed.
0:10:31 Let’s move on to this
0:10:32 manufacturing data.
0:10:34 China had its largest drop
0:10:36 in manufacturing activities
0:10:37 since 2023.
0:10:39 Export orders fell
0:10:39 to their lowest level
0:10:40 since COVID.
0:10:41 UBS,
0:10:42 Goldman Sachs,
0:10:43 are now lowering
0:10:44 their GDP growth forecast
0:10:45 for China
0:10:47 to lower than 4%.
0:10:49 And just for some context there,
0:10:51 we discussed this earlier
0:10:51 this year.
0:10:52 China,
0:10:53 at the beginning of the year,
0:10:54 had a growth target
0:10:56 of 5%
0:10:57 positive GDP growth.
0:10:59 So it looks like,
0:11:00 you know,
0:11:00 they’re not going to come
0:11:01 anywhere near that.
0:11:02 In fact,
0:11:03 I think we actually predicted that
0:11:05 or we at least said
0:11:06 that 5% was too ambitious.
0:11:09 So this manufacturing data
0:11:09 has come out.
0:11:10 It’s not looking good.
0:11:10 Scott,
0:11:11 your reactions
0:11:12 to this new data?
0:11:13 They likely will be hurt
0:11:15 more than us
0:11:15 in the short term.
0:11:17 But their tolerance
0:11:18 for pain
0:11:18 is much greater
0:11:19 than ours.
0:11:21 And I think
0:11:21 over the medium
0:11:22 and the long term,
0:11:22 China’s actually
0:11:23 a winner
0:11:25 because I think
0:11:25 they’re going to be
0:11:26 more aggressive
0:11:26 about establishing
0:11:27 relationships
0:11:29 with new partners
0:11:30 that’ll be more apt
0:11:32 or less reticent
0:11:32 to engage
0:11:33 in business
0:11:33 with them.
0:11:34 And also,
0:11:35 you’re already seeing
0:11:36 that basically
0:11:37 we’re thrusting
0:11:38 the EU
0:11:38 into the arms
0:11:39 of China
0:11:40 and vice versa.
0:11:41 Chinese e-commerce
0:11:42 exports to the US
0:11:43 fell by 65%
0:11:44 last month,
0:11:45 but exports
0:11:45 to Europe
0:11:47 rose by 28%.
0:11:48 And also,
0:11:48 what we forget
0:11:49 is that Europe
0:11:49 is actually
0:11:50 a bigger trading partner.
0:11:52 So that’s 28%
0:11:53 on a bigger number.
0:11:55 So the big winner
0:11:56 in the short term
0:11:58 is the EU
0:11:59 because you’ve got
0:11:59 to think
0:12:00 that a lot
0:12:01 of these factories
0:12:01 want to keep
0:12:02 their assembly lines
0:12:03 humming.
0:12:05 And so they’re going
0:12:05 to call a lot
0:12:06 of potential customers
0:12:07 in Europe
0:12:08 and say,
0:12:08 hey,
0:12:09 I can get you
0:12:09 a great deal
0:12:10 on this widget.
0:12:11 I mean,
0:12:12 this is effectively
0:12:12 the way I would
0:12:13 describe it.
0:12:14 America’s not dead,
0:12:15 but it’s the equivalent
0:12:16 of a death
0:12:17 of the kind of
0:12:18 existing post-World War II
0:12:21 world order
0:12:22 as led by
0:12:22 the United States.
0:12:23 And that is
0:12:24 these traditional
0:12:25 trading alliances
0:12:26 that were built up
0:12:27 over the last 80 years
0:12:28 of trust,
0:12:29 rule of law,
0:12:30 intellectual property.
0:12:32 It feels like
0:12:33 that is dead.
0:12:33 And what we have
0:12:35 is the largest yard sale
0:12:37 from an estate sale
0:12:37 from this rich old lady
0:12:38 down the street
0:12:39 who died.
0:12:41 And everyone’s showing up
0:12:42 and trying to figure out
0:12:43 how do they get their piece
0:12:44 of a $25 trillion economy.
0:12:46 I think our economy
0:12:47 is going to shrink
0:12:48 and a lot of other nations
0:12:49 are going to try
0:12:49 and figure out
0:12:50 how they fill that void
0:12:51 by either trade relationships
0:12:52 with each other,
0:12:53 making,
0:12:54 you know,
0:12:55 grabbing market share
0:12:56 from U.S. companies
0:12:57 that will no longer
0:12:58 have the same
0:13:00 most favored nation status
0:13:01 that they enjoy
0:13:02 with their international partners.
0:13:03 And you’re going to see
0:13:03 a lot,
0:13:04 in my opinion,
0:13:04 you’re going to see
0:13:04 a lot of small
0:13:05 and medium-sized businesses
0:13:06 go out of business
0:13:08 in the U.S.
0:13:11 and that economic activity
0:13:12 will be picked up
0:13:13 by other people
0:13:15 when the global economy
0:13:18 fills in those holes,
0:13:18 if you will.
0:13:20 So it’s interesting
0:13:21 to try and think about
0:13:22 who are the winners
0:13:22 in the short,
0:13:23 the medium,
0:13:24 and the long-term.
0:13:25 Biggest loser
0:13:25 in the long run,
0:13:26 hands down the U.S.,
0:13:27 both short,
0:13:27 medium,
0:13:28 and long,
0:13:28 I think.
0:13:30 But I think the EU
0:13:31 is actually going to be
0:13:32 a big winner here
0:13:34 because I got to think
0:13:35 China’s showing up
0:13:36 and saying,
0:13:36 hey,
0:13:37 the sale of the century
0:13:38 is right now
0:13:40 on Chinese goods.
0:13:41 I think this data,
0:13:43 it sort of highlights
0:13:43 the point that
0:13:44 Ryan Peterson made
0:13:45 when he came on the podcast,
0:13:46 which was he was really
0:13:47 trying to emphasize,
0:13:49 which the Trump administration
0:13:50 doesn’t seem to understand,
0:13:52 that trade is
0:13:53 a positive sum game.
0:13:54 You know,
0:13:56 when you make something
0:13:58 and I decide to buy it,
0:13:59 we’re actually
0:14:00 both benefiting there.
0:14:02 We’re both receiving value
0:14:03 from the transaction.
0:14:05 So when we decide
0:14:05 as a nation
0:14:06 that we want to get
0:14:07 into a trade war
0:14:07 with China,
0:14:09 it means that
0:14:10 we lose out
0:14:10 in a lot of ways
0:14:11 in America
0:14:12 in the form of
0:14:13 we have less stuff,
0:14:14 which leads to higher prices.
0:14:16 And also China loses
0:14:18 because they’re losing business.
0:14:19 They want to make stuff
0:14:20 and ship it over to us.
0:14:22 And we’re now beginning
0:14:22 to see that
0:14:24 reflected in the data.
0:14:24 And that’s what
0:14:26 this manufacturing activity data
0:14:27 tells us.
0:14:28 China is losing.
0:14:29 It’s actually
0:14:30 negatively impacting
0:14:31 their GDP.
0:14:33 But of course,
0:14:33 that’s going to be
0:14:34 the same story
0:14:35 over in America.
0:14:36 And your point,
0:14:37 I think,
0:14:37 is the right one.
0:14:39 Who are the winners here?
0:14:40 And it is so interesting
0:14:41 to see Europe
0:14:43 being reflected
0:14:44 or proven
0:14:44 as a winner
0:14:46 in this data.
0:14:46 You know,
0:14:47 we talked recently
0:14:48 about how China
0:14:49 is trying to rekindle
0:14:50 these relationships.
0:14:51 They’re sending
0:14:52 all these trade delegations
0:14:53 to Europe.
0:14:53 They went to Hungary
0:14:54 and Sweden
0:14:55 and Germany.
0:14:57 And I was sort of thinking,
0:14:59 I wonder if that’s going to work.
0:14:59 Like,
0:15:00 I wonder if Europe
0:15:01 buys that.
0:15:02 And to me,
0:15:04 those numbers
0:15:04 you mentioned,
0:15:06 exports to the U.S.
0:15:07 down 65%,
0:15:07 but exports
0:15:08 to Europe
0:15:10 up 28%.
0:15:11 And as you mentioned
0:15:12 as well,
0:15:13 off a large base,
0:15:14 my takeaway
0:15:15 is it’s working.
0:15:17 Europe is also
0:15:18 beginning to lift
0:15:19 some of these tariffs
0:15:20 that they had on China,
0:15:22 specifically EVs.
0:15:22 They’re beginning
0:15:24 to open negotiations
0:15:24 back up.
0:15:26 It does certainly feel
0:15:27 that as we close off
0:15:28 this relationship
0:15:29 with China,
0:15:30 we’re basically
0:15:31 sending China
0:15:32 into the arms
0:15:35 of all of our allies,
0:15:36 essentially.
0:15:37 I think Americans
0:15:38 are about to get a very,
0:15:39 eat a very cold lunch
0:15:40 in terms of
0:15:42 recognizing
0:15:43 just how
0:15:45 good they had it
0:15:46 past tense
0:15:47 that we had
0:15:48 so many amazing
0:15:49 trading relationships
0:15:49 that resulted
0:15:51 in a robust supply chain,
0:15:52 really inexpensive products,
0:15:53 tremendous opportunities
0:15:54 for entrepreneurs,
0:15:55 that whenever you start
0:15:56 an American company,
0:15:57 you have access
0:15:58 to global markets.
0:15:59 when I started L2,
0:16:00 when we got
0:16:01 like employee 30,
0:16:02 we opened an office
0:16:03 in London
0:16:04 and then when we got
0:16:05 to employee 60,
0:16:07 we started pitching
0:16:08 clients in China
0:16:09 and when you go over there
0:16:12 as an American company,
0:16:14 you’re pretty well received
0:16:15 and you understand
0:16:16 the cultures
0:16:17 and it’s easy
0:16:18 to do payments
0:16:19 and the contracts,
0:16:20 the business contracts
0:16:21 were not that difficult.
0:16:23 I think that’s
0:16:25 all about to change.
0:16:25 Let’s talk about
0:16:26 Project Kuiper.
0:16:28 We’ve been hearing
0:16:28 about this
0:16:29 for a while now.
0:16:30 This is Amazon’s
0:16:31 satellite internet project.
0:16:32 It’s basically
0:16:33 Amazon’s equivalent
0:16:34 of Starlink
0:16:35 and last week
0:16:35 they launched
0:16:36 their very first
0:16:38 satellites into orbit,
0:16:40 27 satellites to be exact.
0:16:41 The plan is to
0:16:42 eventually increase
0:16:43 that number
0:16:44 to 3,200.
0:16:46 So potentially
0:16:47 a big moment
0:16:47 for Amazon,
0:16:49 also potentially
0:16:50 a big moment
0:16:51 for Starlink,
0:16:52 but I think it’s
0:16:54 mainly just a reminder
0:16:55 of how far ahead
0:16:56 Starlink is
0:16:58 in this satellite race
0:16:58 right now.
0:16:59 I mentioned those
0:17:01 27 satellites
0:17:02 that Amazon launched.
0:17:03 Starlink has
0:17:05 7,200 satellites
0:17:06 in orbit
0:17:07 right now.
0:17:08 It makes up
0:17:09 62%
0:17:11 of all of the
0:17:11 active satellites
0:17:12 that are currently
0:17:13 orbiting the Earth.
0:17:14 So even if
0:17:15 Amazon were
0:17:15 to hit
0:17:16 that target
0:17:18 of 3,200
0:17:18 and who knows
0:17:19 when they’ll hit it,
0:17:20 they would still be
0:17:21 way behind Starlink.
0:17:22 Starlink is
0:17:24 the undisputed
0:17:24 leader
0:17:26 in satellite broadband.
0:17:27 No one comes
0:17:27 even close.
0:17:28 So Scott,
0:17:29 your reactions
0:17:30 to Amazon
0:17:30 trying to get
0:17:31 in the game here
0:17:32 and how they
0:17:33 might compete
0:17:34 with Starlink.
0:17:34 I think I’m
0:17:35 more bullish
0:17:35 on Amazon
0:17:36 than you
0:17:36 and just to call
0:17:37 balls and strikes,
0:17:38 we had the
0:17:39 internet go out
0:17:40 here in London
0:17:42 and Drew
0:17:43 immediately
0:17:44 scrambled the jets
0:17:44 and we had
0:17:45 someone,
0:17:45 this guy
0:17:46 came over
0:17:46 and he went
0:17:47 out and bought
0:17:48 a Starlink
0:17:48 a portable
0:17:49 and he hooked
0:17:49 it up
0:17:50 and it wasn’t
0:17:50 as good
0:17:51 but within
0:17:51 four hours
0:17:51 we had
0:17:52 pretty robust
0:17:53 broadband.
0:17:53 The product
0:17:54 is exceptional
0:17:56 and I just
0:17:57 think it’s
0:17:57 strange
0:17:58 and almost
0:17:59 kind of weird
0:17:59 that we would
0:18:00 let one
0:18:01 man control
0:18:02 two-thirds
0:18:03 of low-Earth
0:18:03 satellites,
0:18:04 low-Earth
0:18:05 orbit satellites.
0:18:05 That to me
0:18:06 feels almost
0:18:06 like a security
0:18:07 risk.
0:18:08 Where I’m
0:18:10 more bullish
0:18:10 on Amazon
0:18:12 is that I don’t
0:18:12 think Amazon
0:18:14 needs to get
0:18:15 to product parity
0:18:16 because I think
0:18:17 the vision here
0:18:17 if I were
0:18:18 Jeff Bezos
0:18:18 I’d wait
0:18:19 until I had
0:18:19 a decent
0:18:20 product
0:18:21 and then
0:18:21 you know
0:18:21 what I’d
0:18:22 stitch it in
0:18:22 with?
0:18:23 The Kuiper
0:18:23 offering?
0:18:24 What?
0:18:25 Amazon Prime.
0:18:27 82% of
0:18:28 Americans
0:18:30 have Amazon
0:18:31 Prime,
0:18:31 it’s arguably
0:18:32 the most
0:18:32 successful
0:18:33 and largest
0:18:33 loyalty
0:18:34 program
0:18:34 in history
0:18:35 and maybe
0:18:35 the second
0:18:35 largest
0:18:36 recurring
0:18:37 revenue
0:18:37 product
0:18:38 in history
0:18:38 maybe
0:18:38 behind
0:18:39 Netflix
0:18:39 or
0:18:40 I guess
0:18:40 Microsoft
0:18:41 Office.
0:18:42 Their brand
0:18:43 is so deep
0:18:44 in terms of
0:18:44 trust in a
0:18:45 consumer offering
0:18:47 and I think
0:18:48 that Musk is
0:18:48 beginning to
0:18:49 contaminate his
0:18:50 brands.
0:18:51 Bezos will
0:18:52 close the gap,
0:18:52 they have the
0:18:53 gap capital.
0:18:54 To your point,
0:18:54 I’m not sure
0:18:55 they ever
0:18:55 actually catch
0:18:56 up,
0:18:57 but they’re
0:18:58 talking about
0:18:59 they want
0:18:59 to have
0:18:59 3,200
0:19:00 satellites.
0:19:01 But I think
0:19:02 if they get
0:19:02 there,
0:19:03 say to 80
0:19:04 or 90%
0:19:05 of Starlink,
0:19:06 it’ll force
0:19:07 Starlink’s
0:19:07 hand and I
0:19:08 think or SpaceX
0:19:08 and it’ll have
0:19:09 to go public
0:19:09 for access to
0:19:10 more cheap
0:19:10 capital.
0:19:11 But this is
0:19:12 going to be a
0:19:13 celebrity death
0:19:13 match.
0:19:14 Also,
0:19:16 one of the
0:19:16 things we talk
0:19:16 about in
0:19:17 brand strategy
0:19:18 is one of
0:19:18 the keys or
0:19:19 kind of pillars
0:19:20 of branding
0:19:20 is just
0:19:20 awareness.
0:19:22 if you think
0:19:23 about the
0:19:23 products you
0:19:24 purchase,
0:19:25 you’re really
0:19:26 unlikely to
0:19:27 purchase a
0:19:27 product you’ve
0:19:28 never heard of
0:19:29 or you’re much
0:19:29 more inclined to
0:19:30 purchase anything
0:19:32 you hear of the
0:19:32 brand.
0:19:32 Oh, I would
0:19:33 buy a Toyota.
0:19:34 For big
0:19:34 purchases, you
0:19:35 just don’t want
0:19:36 to buy anything
0:19:36 that you haven’t
0:19:36 heard of.
0:19:37 Think about it
0:19:37 just on a
0:19:38 personal level,
0:19:39 people’s brands.
0:19:40 I think it’s
0:19:40 something like 40
0:19:41 times more likely
0:19:42 to respond to
0:19:42 an email from
0:19:43 someone you know
0:19:44 or even if you
0:19:44 don’t know them
0:19:45 well, you’ve
0:19:45 just heard of
0:19:46 them than
0:19:47 someone whose
0:19:47 name you don’t
0:19:48 recognize.
0:19:49 So awareness
0:19:50 is enormous
0:19:51 and I think
0:19:52 Kuiper is
0:19:52 about to
0:19:53 become one
0:19:53 of the fastest
0:19:54 zero to 60
0:19:55 brands in
0:19:56 history and
0:19:56 that is I
0:19:57 would bet less
0:19:59 than 1% of
0:19:59 the US
0:20:00 population knows
0:20:01 brand Kuiper
0:20:02 right now and
0:20:02 I would bet 60
0:20:03 to 80% by the
0:20:04 end of the
0:20:04 year know it
0:20:06 because it’s
0:20:06 going to be
0:20:07 constantly in
0:20:08 the news,
0:20:08 right?
0:20:09 I mean it
0:20:09 ends up that
0:20:10 maybe shooting
0:20:11 Katy Perry
0:20:11 into space
0:20:12 wasn’t a bad
0:20:12 idea.
0:20:12 It was probably
0:20:13 a bad idea
0:20:13 to bring her
0:20:14 back but
0:20:15 maybe this
0:20:18 technology that
0:20:18 he’s spending
0:20:19 all this money
0:20:20 on is for a
0:20:20 reason, right?
0:20:21 Other than
0:20:21 sending his
0:20:22 girlfriend into
0:20:23 space and
0:20:24 Amazon has the
0:20:25 capital, they
0:20:25 have the
0:20:25 technical
0:20:26 expertise, I
0:20:27 bet they’re
0:20:27 going to find
0:20:28 a lot of
0:20:28 people from
0:20:29 SpaceX are
0:20:29 willing to go
0:20:30 to work for
0:20:30 them.
0:20:31 This could be
0:20:33 to Starlink
0:20:33 what Old
0:20:33 Navy is to
0:20:36 get 80% of
0:20:37 the quality for
0:20:37 50% of the
0:20:38 price and
0:20:38 there’s a
0:20:39 market for
0:20:39 that.
0:20:40 And the
0:20:41 moment they
0:20:41 stitch it
0:20:42 into Amazon
0:20:43 Prime, I
0:20:43 think the
0:20:44 thing gets
0:20:44 10, 15,
0:20:45 20% of
0:20:45 households.
0:20:47 It made
0:20:47 me, you
0:20:47 know, I’ve
0:20:49 been slowly
0:20:50 but surely
0:20:50 burning down
0:20:51 my U.S.
0:20:51 equities.
0:20:52 I’ve been
0:20:52 selling Apple
0:20:53 and a little
0:20:53 bit of Amazon
0:20:54 and I’m
0:20:54 actually now
0:20:55 thinking about
0:20:55 holding on to
0:20:55 my Amazon
0:20:56 because I
0:20:56 think the
0:20:59 countervailing
0:20:59 forces here,
0:20:59 speaking of
0:21:00 China, two
0:21:01 thirds of
0:21:02 Amazon’s
0:21:02 businesses in
0:21:03 the U.S.
0:21:03 and I think
0:21:03 the U.S.
0:21:04 can be negatively
0:21:04 impacted.
0:21:05 But I
0:21:05 think this
0:21:05 is very
0:21:06 exciting for
0:21:07 Amazon and
0:21:08 I just love
0:21:09 seeing a
0:21:10 company that’s
0:21:11 as important as
0:21:12 SpaceX get a
0:21:12 competitor.
0:21:12 I think it’ll
0:21:13 make them both
0:21:13 better.
0:21:13 So I’m
0:21:15 actually really
0:21:15 excited.
0:21:16 Starlink, by
0:21:16 the way, so
0:21:17 far has
0:21:18 projected revenue
0:21:19 in 2025 of
0:21:19 $12.3
0:21:20 billion.
0:21:20 That’s up
0:21:22 57%.
0:21:23 7.6
0:21:23 million
0:21:24 subscriptions
0:21:24 projected by
0:21:25 the end of
0:21:25 2025, a
0:21:27 65% increase.
0:21:28 Again, 7.6
0:21:28 million.
0:21:28 Keep in
0:21:30 mind, Amazon
0:21:31 I think has
0:21:33 about 110 or
0:21:34 120 million
0:21:34 households.
0:21:35 have Prime.
0:21:36 Over 200
0:21:37 million subscribers
0:21:39 globally, 180
0:21:40 million adults in
0:21:41 the United States
0:21:42 are Amazon Prime
0:21:43 members.
0:21:44 That’s like most
0:21:44 of them.
0:21:45 Basically, more
0:21:46 people have
0:21:46 Amazon Prime
0:21:47 than have a
0:21:47 Christmas tree,
0:21:48 own a gun,
0:21:49 or have kids.
0:21:50 You’ve honestly
0:21:51 completely sold me
0:21:51 on it.
0:21:52 I’m totally with
0:21:53 you and it seems
0:21:53 to make so much
0:21:54 sense for Amazon’s
0:21:55 business, which
0:21:56 they have a
0:21:57 history of getting
0:21:58 into businesses
0:21:59 that are somewhat
0:21:59 indispensable.
0:22:00 You know, they
0:22:03 get into household
0:22:04 products, they get
0:22:04 into groceries,
0:22:05 buy Whole Foods,
0:22:07 they get into
0:22:08 healthcare, content,
0:22:09 all these kinds of
0:22:10 businesses where
0:22:12 it’s like something
0:22:13 you just have to
0:22:14 have, and then
0:22:15 they make it a
0:22:16 recurring subscription.
0:22:18 And it does feel
0:22:19 like the next
0:22:20 planet to conquer
0:22:21 is broadband and
0:22:22 the internet.
0:22:23 And so I think
0:22:23 you’re probably
0:22:24 right.
0:22:25 Just a question of
0:22:26 how it would
0:22:27 actually work.
0:22:28 What do you think
0:22:29 the offering would
0:22:30 actually look like?
0:22:30 Do you think it’s
0:22:32 like a premium
0:22:33 Amazon Prime
0:22:34 subscription that
0:22:35 gives you some
0:22:36 sort of discount
0:22:39 on a Kuiper
0:22:40 satellite dish?
0:22:41 Yeah, it’ll be
0:22:41 something like
0:22:42 Amazon Prime Plus
0:22:43 where it’s like,
0:22:44 okay, flip the
0:22:45 switch on here,
0:22:46 tell us when you’re
0:22:47 home, give us a
0:22:48 window, and we’re
0:22:48 going to come
0:22:49 install this cool,
0:22:50 elegant, whatever it
0:22:51 is, and overnight
0:22:52 you have massively
0:22:54 blinding internet
0:22:55 speeds.
0:22:57 And the thing that
0:22:57 people underestimate
0:22:58 is just how lazy
0:22:59 consumers are.
0:23:00 I got so excited
0:23:01 about Jeff Bezos
0:23:02 standing up to
0:23:03 Donald Trump and
0:23:04 deciding to post
0:23:04 tariffs next to
0:23:06 every product that
0:23:07 I went out, no
0:23:08 joke, or I went
0:23:08 out, I went on
0:23:10 Amazon, and I
0:23:12 ordered 16 Bose
0:23:14 Ultra headphones for
0:23:14 the team.
0:23:15 And I thought,
0:23:16 okay, I’m going to
0:23:18 spend $6,400 on
0:23:18 Amazon, and I’m
0:23:19 going to go on
0:23:20 Threads and Blue
0:23:21 Sky and Virtue
0:23:22 Signal about how
0:23:22 great it is that
0:23:23 Amazon is doing
0:23:24 this.
0:23:24 And then that
0:23:25 motherfucker
0:23:25 caves.
0:23:28 And so I’m
0:23:30 like, I’m
0:23:31 threading, good
0:23:32 for him, he
0:23:32 reached down, and
0:23:33 despite all the
0:23:33 human growth
0:23:34 hormone, he
0:23:34 found these
0:23:35 little, little,
0:23:36 tiny, little,
0:23:37 wee things called
0:23:38 testicles, and
0:23:39 decided to put
0:23:40 them into action,
0:23:40 good for him,
0:23:41 good on Bezos.
0:23:42 If only he’d
0:23:43 known he would
0:23:43 have gotten the
0:23:44 backing of Scott
0:23:45 Galloway, maybe
0:23:45 he would have
0:23:46 stuck with it.
0:23:47 Literally, I’m
0:23:48 like, I am
0:23:49 literally, I
0:23:50 thread, this is
0:23:50 what leadership
0:23:52 looks like, send,
0:23:52 and all of a
0:23:53 sudden I get a
0:23:53 text from Kara
0:23:54 Swisher, he
0:23:55 caved, he
0:23:56 caved.
0:23:57 She saw
0:23:59 my thread, and
0:23:59 literally as she
0:24:00 saw my thread, she’s
0:24:00 like, he
0:24:01 caved, you’re
0:24:02 wrong, he
0:24:03 caved, he’s a
0:24:04 fucking wimp and
0:24:04 a loser.
0:24:06 And I’m like, and
0:24:07 so I go back to
0:24:08 Amazon, and I
0:24:09 cancel my order.
0:24:09 I was just
0:24:10 going to say, do
0:24:11 we get the
0:24:11 headphones?
0:24:11 No, we
0:24:12 don’t.
0:24:13 No, bitch,
0:24:13 call Amazon,
0:24:15 call Bezos and
0:24:16 tell him to start
0:24:16 acting like an
0:24:17 American.
0:24:17 All right, I’ll
0:24:18 take it up with
0:24:18 him.
0:24:19 But the
0:24:19 moral of the
0:24:21 story is it is
0:24:23 so seamless to
0:24:23 add and take
0:24:24 things away from
0:24:26 Amazon Prime that
0:24:27 the moment it
0:24:28 pops up and it
0:24:29 says, Scott, Amazon
0:24:31 Prime Plus includes
0:24:32 this blinding
0:24:35 broadband, wow, I
0:24:37 would bet, God, I
0:24:37 don’t know, I
0:24:38 would bet by the
0:24:42 end of 27, you
0:24:43 could very easily
0:24:44 see Kuiper have
0:24:45 more penetration
0:24:46 than Starlink.
0:24:46 You’ve
0:24:46 certainly
0:24:47 convinced me.
0:24:48 I’m definitely
0:24:49 more bullish today
0:24:50 than I was
0:24:51 yesterday.
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0:28:46 All right, let’s get into
0:28:47 big tech earnings.
0:28:49 Microsoft, Meta, Apple, and
0:28:50 Amazon all reported earnings
0:28:51 last week.
0:28:52 We’re recording this a day
0:28:53 later, hence why we’re
0:28:54 dressed differently so that
0:28:55 we could react to these
0:28:55 earnings.
0:28:56 We’ll start with a look at
0:28:59 Microsoft and Meta, whose
0:29:00 shares both rose pretty
0:29:01 significantly after earnings
0:29:02 here.
0:29:03 Microsoft posted record
0:29:05 revenue and record
0:29:05 profits.
0:29:07 Beat on the top and bottom
0:29:07 lines.
0:29:10 shares rose 9%, which
0:29:11 now makes Microsoft the
0:29:13 most valuable company in
0:29:14 the world, ahead of
0:29:14 Apple.
0:29:17 Meta was also a beat, beat
0:29:18 on the top and bottom
0:29:18 lines.
0:29:20 Revenue rose 16%.
0:29:22 Shares in Meta rose 6%
0:29:22 after hours.
0:29:25 Really great quarters for
0:29:26 Meta and Microsoft.
0:29:28 Scott, your reactions to
0:29:29 these two earnings?
0:29:30 Well, Daddy went deep in
0:29:31 the paint last night.
0:29:34 I’m not used to working
0:29:35 on Friday.
0:29:36 I’m used to long walks
0:29:37 with the dog and trying to
0:29:38 get this newsletter out.
0:29:39 As you can tell by the
0:29:40 way I’m dressed.
0:29:42 Yeah, my green juice.
0:29:44 Most importantly, the
0:29:45 door women from
0:29:47 Children did a pop-up last
0:29:48 night at the Broadwick
0:29:49 Hotel, and it was pretty
0:29:49 good.
0:29:50 It was pretty good.
0:29:51 I spilled drinks on all
0:29:53 my friends, which at the
0:29:54 time was kind of a bummer,
0:29:55 but it’s brought me real
0:29:56 joy today, just thinking
0:29:58 about that moment.
0:30:00 I mean, literally, I went
0:30:01 and got four drinks, and
0:30:03 not an ounce of it was not
0:30:05 on them within about 30
0:30:06 seconds.
0:30:06 Anyways, okay.
0:30:08 So, look, there’s just
0:30:09 no getting around it.
0:30:10 All of these terms have
0:30:12 kind of gone from, it’s
0:30:13 like good, better, best in
0:30:14 terms of their earnings.
0:30:16 Revenue up 13%, as you
0:30:17 said.
0:30:18 What was really impressive
0:30:19 was their cloud unit.
0:30:20 Revenue rose 33%.
0:30:22 That’s just incredible, and
0:30:24 then net income up 18%.
0:30:26 The CapEx was interesting.
0:30:28 You highlighted the first
0:30:29 thing I noticed, and that
0:30:30 is CapEx declined for the
0:30:31 first time.
0:30:32 And I wonder how much of
0:30:35 that is DeepSeq has given
0:30:35 them a little bit of
0:30:36 pause saying, maybe we
0:30:37 don’t need to build nuclear
0:30:40 power plants, and we’re not
0:30:41 in an arms race, that maybe
0:30:43 there is a fork in the road
0:30:45 here, or a plan B, where our
0:30:48 AI future may not require the
0:30:49 CapEx we’d initially
0:30:50 thought, so it feels like
0:30:51 they’re maybe taking a
0:30:52 pause on that.
0:30:54 And then, its stock is up
0:30:57 13%, because people keep
0:30:58 saying, all right, if
0:31:00 you’re, how do I, what is
0:31:01 the defensive play?
0:31:02 What is the recession-proof
0:31:02 stock?
0:31:04 And Microsoft brings you
0:31:04 kind of the peanut butter
0:31:07 of a tech company with
0:31:09 pretty decent growth, with
0:31:10 the chocolate of a
0:31:11 defensive company, right?
0:31:13 Because it really is, it’s
0:31:15 pretty well diversified, it’s
0:31:16 global, and it’s hard to
0:31:18 see how, other than impact
0:31:20 on the global economy, how
0:31:21 it can, you know, it would
0:31:23 be really hurt versus an
0:31:26 Amazon by its, by the
0:31:26 tariffs.
0:31:27 I think it gets about half
0:31:27 its revenues from
0:31:28 overseas, whereas Amazon
0:31:29 gets two-thirds of its
0:31:30 revenues here.
0:31:31 So, it has both this
0:31:32 recurring revenue stream of
0:31:34 the largest corporate
0:31:36 recurring revenue base in
0:31:37 history with Microsoft
0:31:38 Office that I think, you
0:31:40 know, 5,000 of the
0:31:41 corporate 5,000 companies
0:31:44 use, and then it has the
0:31:46 rocket fuel of a nice AI
0:31:46 overlay.
0:31:49 So, it benefits from
0:31:50 probably some of this
0:31:51 insecurity because it’s
0:31:53 seen as quality in what is
0:31:54 arguably right now a flight to
0:31:55 quality.
0:31:55 Your thoughts?
0:31:56 Yeah, I think that’s all
0:31:56 right.
0:31:57 And I think the most
0:31:59 important number was the
0:32:00 cloud growth.
0:32:01 I mean, I’ve said this
0:32:03 before, but I think if
0:32:04 you’re in the AI business
0:32:07 today, that’s all Wall
0:32:08 Street really cares about.
0:32:09 You can beat on overall
0:32:10 revenue, which they did.
0:32:12 You can beat on overall
0:32:13 profits, which they did.
0:32:14 But the thing that Wall
0:32:15 Street really wants to
0:32:16 see is, are you
0:32:18 outperforming in terms of
0:32:20 their expectations for
0:32:22 cloud growth or, in other
0:32:23 words, AI growth?
0:32:25 And that is what they
0:32:25 proved here.
0:32:27 Microsoft Azure, which is
0:32:28 their cloud unit, and we
0:32:29 should just call it their
0:32:30 AI unit.
0:32:30 That’s where they’re
0:32:32 selling compute to AI
0:32:33 companies.
0:32:36 That revenue rose 33%.
0:32:37 And Wall Street’s
0:32:38 expectations for that
0:32:39 business was 29%.
0:32:41 Also, the guidance for
0:32:42 that unit for Microsoft
0:32:44 Azure, they expect the
0:32:45 number in this current
0:32:47 quarter, so when they
0:32:48 next report earnings, they
0:32:50 expect growth to be 35%,
0:32:51 so even higher.
0:32:52 And that also beat
0:32:53 expectations.
0:32:55 So that’s the number that
0:32:56 Wall Street really cares
0:32:56 about.
0:32:57 The opposite effect
0:32:59 happened with Amazon,
0:33:00 which we’ll get to in a
0:33:00 second.
0:33:03 But yes, the CapEx that
0:33:04 you mentioned, that also
0:33:04 jumped out to me.
0:33:07 $21.4 billion, that’s a
0:33:08 lot.
0:33:09 But it is a decline from
0:33:11 the previous quarter, and
0:33:13 it’s the first CapEx
0:33:14 decline for Microsoft in
0:33:15 more than two years.
0:33:17 You pointed out that maybe
0:33:18 this is a response to
0:33:18 DeepSeq.
0:33:20 I think that’s definitely a
0:33:21 possibility.
0:33:22 I was wondering if maybe
0:33:24 it’s a response to just
0:33:25 the tariff environment.
0:33:26 I mean, we’re just living
0:33:28 in a more uncertain
0:33:30 economic environment right
0:33:31 now, and I wonder if
0:33:33 because of that, they
0:33:35 were thinking we’re going
0:33:36 to go all in on AI
0:33:37 beforehand, and now they’re
0:33:38 beginning to pare back
0:33:39 some of those
0:33:40 ambitions, start to play
0:33:41 things a little bit
0:33:41 safer.
0:33:43 CapEx is still going to
0:33:44 grow, but it’s just not
0:33:44 going to grow as fast as
0:33:45 they said it would last
0:33:45 year.
0:33:47 So I wonder if that’s, it
0:33:48 could be DeepSeq.
0:33:49 I wonder if it could be a
0:33:50 tariff response too.
0:33:51 What’s interesting about
0:33:53 Meta, moving on to
0:33:55 Meta here, Meta had the
0:33:55 opposite.
0:33:56 They are actually
0:33:58 accelerating their CapEx
0:33:58 investment.
0:34:00 They raised CapEx
0:34:01 guidance from what was
0:34:03 previously a high end of
0:34:05 $65 billion to now
0:34:06 $72 billion.
0:34:08 So Microsoft, meanwhile,
0:34:10 is playing it safe.
0:34:12 Meta appears to be
0:34:13 actually leaning into the
0:34:14 uncertainty.
0:34:16 The number that really
0:34:18 jumped out to me was
0:34:19 3.43 billion.
0:34:21 That’s the number of
0:34:23 users who use a Meta
0:34:25 app every single day.
0:34:26 That’s the daily active
0:34:26 user number.
0:34:28 It’s up 6% year over
0:34:30 year, which means that
0:34:31 more than 40% of the
0:34:34 entire world population
0:34:36 is getting on a Meta
0:34:36 app, whether it’s
0:34:38 Instagram or Facebook or
0:34:39 WhatsApp, they’re using it
0:34:40 every single day.
0:34:41 I find the most
0:34:42 interesting application of
0:34:43 AI from a shareholder
0:34:44 standpoint is actually
0:34:45 pretty boring, and that
0:34:47 is it’s Meta’s ability
0:34:49 to increase the
0:34:50 targeting of their
0:34:51 products.
0:34:53 So they are not only
0:34:54 increasing their
0:34:57 revenue, I think their
0:34:59 revenue or the way they
0:35:00 monetize their traffic has
0:35:01 gone up, their CPMs have
0:35:03 gone up, or they’re able to
0:35:03 charge more.
0:35:05 But not only that, their
0:35:08 AI, which feeds into the
0:35:10 recommendation engine or the
0:35:11 recommendation systems,
0:35:13 contributed to a 35% increase
0:35:14 in time spent on threads,
0:35:17 7% increase in time spent on
0:35:18 Facebook.
0:35:18 That’s amazing.
0:35:19 That’s like getting
0:35:20 younger people to watch
0:35:21 MSNBC, right?
0:35:23 If you can get more people
0:35:24 to spend more time on
0:35:25 Facebook, that’s not easy at
0:35:25 this point.
0:35:27 6% increase in Instagram.
0:35:30 And then if you think
0:35:32 about, you know, one of the
0:35:33 predictions we have for this
0:35:34 year was that Meta was
0:35:35 going to be the AI company
0:35:36 at 25 because they’re the
0:35:38 second largest purchaser of
0:35:39 GPUs from an NVIDIA.
0:35:41 And I personally, I don’t
0:35:42 know if you’ve noticed this,
0:35:44 I have found that Instagram
0:35:46 Reels is increasingly taking
0:35:49 time from TikTok for me.
0:35:52 And I noticed a tangible
0:35:56 difference in the quality of
0:35:57 the algorithm, of TikTok’s
0:35:59 algorithm to serve me content
0:35:59 that was relevant.
0:36:01 And it feels to me like
0:36:03 Instagram Reels has somewhat
0:36:04 closed that gap.
0:36:06 And I think that’s leveraging
0:36:08 AI and all this back and
0:36:10 forth and nonsense between
0:36:12 Trump and China over banning
0:36:13 TikTok, not banning it, and
0:36:14 the fact that Meta has such a
0:36:16 built-in user base already.
0:36:17 I think it’s starting, I
0:36:18 think there’s, quite frankly,
0:36:19 I think they’re actually
0:36:20 starting to pull back or
0:36:22 claw back some of that share
0:36:24 from TikTok.
0:36:27 Let’s move on to Apple and
0:36:27 Amazon.
0:36:30 So Apple, they had better than
0:36:32 expected sales, up 5% overall.
0:36:34 They missed their sales
0:36:35 estimates in China, falling
0:36:36 more than 2%.
0:36:38 They also warned about
0:36:38 tariffs.
0:36:39 They said tariffs will add
0:36:41 $900 million to its costs
0:36:42 this quarter.
0:36:45 Shares fell 4% in after
0:36:45 hours.
0:36:46 And then we also saw
0:36:48 earnings from Amazon, which
0:36:49 was also a beat, same as
0:36:50 Apple.
0:36:52 But they gave guidance that
0:36:53 Wall Street considered
0:36:54 cautious, and they also
0:36:56 missed slightly on their
0:36:57 AWS growth.
0:36:59 And shares in Amazon fell
0:37:00 more than 3%.
0:37:02 So both companies actually,
0:37:04 when you just look at the
0:37:05 earnings compared to
0:37:07 expectations, pretty solid
0:37:09 quarters at face value.
0:37:11 But there were just some
0:37:13 signs of weakness in there
0:37:13 that Wall Street didn’t
0:37:16 like, and both stocks
0:37:16 fell.
0:37:17 Your reaction?
0:37:18 I thought Apple had the
0:37:19 least impressive earnings
0:37:20 of the bunch, although I
0:37:22 was surprised that they, I
0:37:23 think last quarter, their
0:37:25 revenue was basically flat
0:37:26 year-on-year, which is
0:37:28 weird for a company or
0:37:28 unacceptable for a
0:37:29 company trading at a
0:37:31 price-earnings multiple of
0:37:31 34.
0:37:34 And even 5% isn’t sort of
0:37:34 tech.
0:37:35 It’s no longer really
0:37:36 considered a growth
0:37:36 company.
0:37:38 And I think, was it
0:37:40 Catherine Rampell, or I
0:37:43 forget who was on the
0:37:44 pod and summarized it
0:37:45 perfectly, or maybe it was
0:37:46 Kyla Scanlon, who said
0:37:47 that Apple is a mature
0:37:49 company trading as if it’s a
0:37:49 growth company.
0:37:50 I think that was me.
0:37:51 That was you?
0:37:54 What is it about you that
0:37:55 reminds me of thoughtful
0:37:57 women in economics?
0:38:01 Anyways, Edwina.
0:38:06 The services revenue was the
0:38:06 highlight.
0:38:08 It grew 12% to $27 billion,
0:38:10 even though that has slowed
0:38:12 down, or it’s a slow since
0:38:13 2023, it’s still double-digit
0:38:14 growth.
0:38:16 Wearables fell 5%, missing
0:38:18 estimates, so that’s kind of,
0:38:19 that’s not good.
0:38:22 The other thing that kind of
0:38:25 shows an unusual operational
0:38:26 misstep, I was really excited
0:38:27 about Apple Intelligence.
0:38:29 I thought that if anyone could
0:38:31 sort of consumerize other
0:38:32 people’s massive cat-backs
0:38:35 around AI, I thought it was
0:38:36 going to be Apple, that they
0:38:37 would just organize my
0:38:38 photos and come up with sort
0:38:40 of very useful ways to speak
0:38:42 to my AirPods and say, oh,
0:38:44 we’re out, it’s loud, I’m
0:38:44 taking the volume down.
0:38:45 They do that a little bit,
0:38:47 but I would have thought there
0:38:48 would be a bunch of cool
0:38:49 things, little features that
0:38:50 they would be able to
0:38:50 leverage.
0:38:51 Totally drop the poll on
0:38:51 that, yeah.
0:38:53 And they’ve branded it
0:38:53 brilliantly.
0:38:54 They call it Apple
0:38:55 Intelligence, the AI
0:38:57 features, but they’ve been
0:38:58 delayed again.
0:39:00 And it’s kind of, it’s
0:39:00 unusual.
0:39:02 Apple usually kind of under
0:39:03 promises and over delivers.
0:39:06 So that, they don’t appear
0:39:08 to have the same depth of
0:39:10 human capital around AI, some
0:39:11 of the other guys.
0:39:13 I still feel that, I still
0:39:14 own some Apple, I’ve been
0:39:15 selling it down.
0:39:16 I think it’s overvalued at a
0:39:19 PE of, you know, it’s net
0:39:22 income growth in 2024, negative
0:39:24 3% versus Microsoft at up
0:39:28 21, Alphabet up 36, Amazon
0:39:30 up 95, Meta up 65, and
0:39:32 NVIDIA up 145%.
0:39:34 And yet Apple trades at the
0:39:36 same PE multiple as
0:39:40 Microsoft at 33, more than
0:39:41 Amazon, it’s at 31, and
0:39:42 Alphabet’s at 18.
0:39:43 I mean, if you just look at
0:39:44 these things from a pure
0:39:45 valuation bottoms-up
0:39:47 standpoint, it looks like
0:39:48 Alphabet’s the least
0:39:50 expensive, and it looks like
0:39:50 Apple is the most
0:39:51 expensive.
0:39:52 Yeah, absolutely.
0:39:53 And there was just another
0:39:54 red flag in terms of this
0:39:56 idea that Apple is this
0:39:57 mature company that’s
0:39:58 trading as if it were a
0:39:58 growth company.
0:40:00 They announced another
0:40:01 buyback program.
0:40:02 Yeah.
0:40:03 $100 billion in buybacks.
0:40:04 They also boosted the
0:40:06 dividend by 4%.
0:40:08 If you’re trading at 30 to
0:40:11 33 times earnings, you’re
0:40:13 trading as a growth company,
0:40:14 which means that the market
0:40:15 should be expecting that
0:40:16 you’re investing in growth.
0:40:17 you’re investing in new
0:40:19 products, you’re investing in
0:40:19 new services.
0:40:21 Instead, they’re just using
0:40:22 all of this capital and all
0:40:25 this cash to just repurchase
0:40:26 shares.
0:40:28 And as Aswata Motrin says, I
0:40:29 mean, this is sort of the
0:40:30 bread and butter of the
0:40:31 corporate life cycle.
0:40:33 That’s what you do when you’re
0:40:34 in the mature stage.
0:40:35 That’s what you do when you’re
0:40:36 a middle-aged company and
0:40:37 you’re on the way out.
0:40:39 You start buying back shares.
0:40:42 So, I mean, I was a little
0:40:45 surprised by how the stock
0:40:46 pulled back because I thought
0:40:48 overall, the earnings compared
0:40:50 to expectations were pretty
0:40:50 solid.
0:40:52 But I wonder if people are
0:40:54 starting to realize that
0:40:55 actually, the multiple here
0:40:57 doesn’t really make sense.
0:40:59 This is not the growth company
0:41:00 that we thought Apple was,
0:41:02 you know, 10, 15 years ago
0:41:03 when it was on the cutting
0:41:04 edge of technology and
0:41:05 innovation.
0:41:06 Because what we’re seeing here
0:41:08 is that, I mean, every time I
0:41:09 see a buyback, I’m like, oh,
0:41:10 you’re running out of ideas.
0:41:11 Understood.
0:41:13 You’re being sensible about it,
0:41:14 but you are running out of
0:41:14 ideas.
0:41:16 And that’s sort of the vibe I
0:41:17 get from Apple right now.
0:41:20 And I wonder if Wall Street’s
0:41:21 getting the same message.
0:41:23 This is, I think Apple is
0:41:24 ground zero for what I call
0:41:26 the great, you know, reversal
0:41:27 of flows in the rivers.
0:41:28 And that’s what I’m writing
0:41:29 about in today’s No Mercy,
0:41:30 No Malice.
0:41:31 And that is, I think Apple
0:41:33 could increase its earnings
0:41:34 by 20 or 30 percent over the
0:41:35 next five years.
0:41:36 And I think the stock’s still
0:41:37 going to go down because
0:41:39 trading at that multiple,
0:41:41 I just don’t think it can
0:41:41 outrun the multiple
0:41:42 contraction that it’s about
0:41:43 to experience.
0:41:46 I bought Apple in 2000, I
0:41:48 think in 10 or 11, and I
0:41:48 bought it.
0:41:49 It was growing much faster.
0:41:50 I think it was still growing
0:41:51 high single or low double
0:41:51 digits.
0:41:53 And I think I bought it at a
0:41:54 PE of 10.
0:41:56 So the company could continue
0:41:57 to perform.
0:41:58 And I still think the stock is
0:41:59 going to struggle because I
0:42:01 just think that it’s the most,
0:42:02 I think it’s the most widely
0:42:03 held stock in the world.
0:42:06 It kind of identifies or marks
0:42:07 American tech.
0:42:09 And I think as these rivers of
0:42:11 capital begin to reverse flow,
0:42:12 there’s just no way that won’t
0:42:14 come out of what is the most
0:42:16 valuable, iconic company in
0:42:18 America when people look at it
0:42:19 and say, great company, we love
0:42:19 it.
0:42:21 But if it’s really, if it’s
0:42:23 growing low single digits, does
0:42:24 it really connote a growth like
0:42:25 valuation?
0:42:26 Yeah, I agree.
0:42:28 It’s also quite telling that the
0:42:30 day that the company, the day
0:42:31 that a company announced a
0:42:33 $100 billion share buyback
0:42:36 program was the same day that
0:42:38 that same company was ousted as
0:42:39 the most valuable company in the
0:42:39 world.
0:42:41 Like that’s just not a good, you
0:42:43 would not expect those two things
0:42:44 to be true at the same time, but
0:42:45 they were last week.
0:42:47 Let’s just quickly go to Amazon.
0:42:50 They also beat on the top and
0:42:52 bottom lines, pretty strong
0:42:54 quarter actually, the ad business
0:42:56 was a big beat, ad sales grew
0:43:00 19%, but the stock fell almost
0:43:00 4%.
0:43:03 And why did that happen?
0:43:04 As I mentioned earlier, what
0:43:07 Wall Street cares about is AI and
0:43:09 AWS, which we could also just say
0:43:11 is their AI unit, their cloud
0:43:13 unit, their compute unit, that
0:43:15 actually slightly missed on revenue
0:43:15 expectations.
0:43:18 Still, it grew 17%, pretty
0:43:21 good, $29.3 billion.
0:43:23 But Wall Street wanted more.
0:43:25 They wanted 29.4.
0:43:28 And if you’re in the AI business, it’s
0:43:29 the dynamic we’ve discussed.
0:43:32 Beating expectations here means you
0:43:33 need to blow expectations out of
0:43:34 the water.
0:43:37 Even a slight miss on that one
0:43:38 business unit, that’s a big problem
0:43:40 for Wall Street, which is why I think
0:43:42 the stock fell so significantly.
0:43:43 Any thoughts on Amazon, Scott?
0:43:45 Well, Amazon is the most vulnerable
0:43:47 probably the magnificent seven to
0:43:48 tariffs.
0:43:50 One, two-thirds of its businesses in
0:43:52 the US versus most of big techs is
0:43:54 somewhere between half and one-third.
0:43:55 Medica only gets a third of their
0:43:56 business domestically.
0:43:58 And obviously, they import a lot of
0:44:00 products that will have tariffs on
0:44:00 them.
0:44:04 In addition, as goes AWS, goes Amazon.
0:44:05 I mean, Amazon is essentially a cloud
0:44:07 provider now with a retail unit.
0:44:09 And when you don’t beat expectations
0:44:11 on what is considered the white meat
0:44:13 of your business, that your stock’s
0:44:14 going to get hit.
0:44:17 Also, and this is a prediction, and I’m
0:44:19 as everyone who listens to this
0:44:21 podcast know, I am rotating out of US
0:44:23 stocks and my Amazon position into
0:44:25 European and Asian holdings.
0:44:28 And I’m about to sell down some Amazon
0:44:30 and put it in Alibaba because I think
0:44:32 what you’re going to see over the next
0:44:36 year is that Alibaba’s cloud unit will
0:44:40 get an unnatural surge from European
0:44:43 purchasers who are fed up with always
0:44:44 defaulting to American companies for
0:44:46 their cloud and infrastructure needs.
0:44:49 And I think a year ago, if you’d showed
0:44:52 up to the CEO of Mercedes or LVMH as
0:44:56 the CEO, as Joe Tsai would probably, or
0:44:57 the head of the cloud unit for Alibaba
0:44:59 and said, we’d like to handle your data
0:45:00 like China, no fucking way.
0:45:03 Now, I don’t think they’re seen as much
0:45:05 more mendacious as the US.
0:45:08 So I think Alibaba’s cloud unit is going
0:45:09 to get more meetings across Europe and
0:45:12 Latin America than they would have before
0:45:15 this nonsense from the US.
0:45:15 Yeah.
0:45:18 And plus, if you’ve got China investing
0:45:19 heavily in AI, if China’s made it their
0:45:22 mission of AI self-sufficiency, that’s
0:45:26 certainly going to be a win for Alibaba if
0:45:27 they can just start selling more compute to
0:45:28 Chinese companies.
0:45:33 Just one clarification before we finish up
0:45:34 here on this story.
0:45:37 I just want to clarify, like, this quarter,
0:45:39 it was very strong.
0:45:43 And I’ve seen people, probably not very smart
0:45:45 people, but people saying like, oh, things
0:45:46 are going well.
0:45:47 Look, look at the tech earnings.
0:45:50 Like, maybe things aren’t all so bad when
0:45:51 it comes to tariffs.
0:45:54 I just want to clarify, this is the quarter
0:45:56 ending March 31st.
0:45:58 So this doesn’t, none of these earnings
0:46:00 reflect anything about the tariffs.
0:46:02 The only thing that they might reflect,
0:46:04 which is what I was kind of looking for,
0:46:06 and which we sort of covered when we
0:46:09 discussed the GDP report, is it could
0:46:12 reflect this pull-forward dynamic, which
0:46:15 is this effect where, you know, consumers
0:46:17 know that tariffs are coming.
0:46:19 They know that prices are about to go way
0:46:20 up.
0:46:23 And so maybe they’re actually rushing to
0:46:25 buy in big numbers in this quarter, in this
0:46:28 previous quarter that was just reported.
0:46:31 And so I was interested to see, like, you
0:46:33 know, especially with Apple, for example, where
0:46:35 we saw all these headlines of how iPhone
0:46:37 prices are going to go way, way up.
0:46:40 We would have seen that reflected in this
0:46:43 previously reported quarter.
0:46:45 We would have seen, if that was really what
0:46:47 was happening, people are sort of panicked
0:46:49 buying an iPhone, or if you want to upgrade
0:46:52 your iPhone, you do it right before tariffs
0:46:52 happen.
0:46:54 That’s what we would have seen in this quarter.
0:46:57 And actually CNBC asked Tim Cook about this
0:46:58 specifically.
0:47:02 They said, you know, did you, is this pull-forward?
0:47:04 Are you seeing pull-forward in the earnings?
0:47:07 And he said that he saw, quote, no evidence
0:47:08 of pull-forward.
0:47:11 And I just, I don’t know, I wonder about that.
0:47:15 Like, I wonder, one, what would evidence actually
0:47:16 look like?
0:47:20 Like, how would you know that that was what was
0:47:20 happening?
0:47:24 And two, if we’re seeing signs of pull-forward
0:47:27 everywhere else, in the car industry, in the
0:47:30 clothing industry, even in those GDP numbers where
0:47:33 you saw this massive influx of imports, you know,
0:47:35 why wouldn’t we see it with the iPhone?
0:47:37 And why wouldn’t we see it with all the rest of
0:47:37 these tech earnings?
0:47:43 So on that aspect, I’m a little bit hesitant or
0:47:46 just suspicious of how strong these earnings were
0:47:47 across the board.
0:47:50 And I do wonder if the dynamic that we’re seeing is
0:47:54 everyone rushing in to buy right before prices go way
0:47:55 up with the tariffs.
0:47:59 And it’ll be interesting to see in the next quarter, that’s
0:48:00 when we’re going to see the real tariff effect.
0:48:03 It’ll be interesting to see if we see a drop-off in
0:48:03 demand there.
0:48:04 That’s really insightful.
0:48:08 It’s sort of the AR-15 effect that whenever a Democrat
0:48:11 would get elected, people go out and buy more guns
0:48:13 for fear that gun legislation is actually going to get
0:48:13 some traction.
0:48:16 But Apple really doesn’t have anything that interesting
0:48:19 right now or new or fresh, so to speak.
0:48:22 And that’s really, I would have guessed that they would
0:48:22 have been flat.
0:48:25 And I think you’re absolutely right that there was
0:48:27 probably some pull forward.
0:48:30 And also, there is no way that Tim Cook would
0:48:31 acknowledge that.
0:48:33 Because what that’s saying is, oh, it’s not our
0:48:35 products, it’s not our marketing, it’s not the quality
0:48:36 of our offering.
0:48:39 It’s an unnatural sugar high that’s going to suppress
0:48:42 product sales in the following quarters because a lot
0:48:44 of people have pre-purchased things that we’re going to
0:48:46 purchase the next or subsequent quarter.
0:48:48 So I think that’s really interesting.
0:48:49 I hadn’t thought about that, and I think you’re
0:48:49 absolutely right.
0:48:52 We’ll be right back with a look at what’s happening
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0:51:42 For the first time in five years, the Department of Education is restarting forced
0:51:46 collections on borrowers who have defaulted on their federal student loans.
0:51:52 The move affects 5.3 million people who were in default before the pandemic and could put
0:51:53 millions more at risk.
0:51:59 Although federal loan payments resumed in October 2023, forced collections had remained
0:51:59 paused.
0:52:04 Until now, borrowers who have fallen behind are already seeing their credit scores drop,
0:52:10 And the White House has warned that it can and will seize wages, tax refunds, and even
0:52:12 pensions to recover unpaid debts.
0:52:20 So, Scott, I just want to clarify what’s really happening here and where things stand.
0:52:24 Just a reminder, Trump paused these student loan payments when COVID hit.
0:52:28 And so if you had student loans at that time, you weren’t getting billed.
0:52:31 Now, that was supposed to expire in Biden’s term.
0:52:34 But then Biden decided to extend this student loan freeze.
0:52:39 He actually tried to go even further, tried to cancel $340 billion worth of student debt,
0:52:42 but it was struck down by the Supreme Court.
0:52:45 So he ended up only partially forgiving these student loans.
0:52:48 And then these payments resumed in 2023.
0:52:54 But what didn’t resume and what will resume today is this forced collection of student loans.
0:52:59 This is where the government comes in and they just start taking the money if you are in default.
0:53:02 And what does being in default actually mean here?
0:53:08 It means that you have missed your payments for 270 days or more.
0:53:12 So for people in that position, if you haven’t made your payment in 270 days,
0:53:18 those are the people from whom the government is now going to start collecting these payments.
0:53:22 So, Scott, your reactions to this news and what it might mean for our economy.
0:53:24 There’s a lot of moral hazard here.
0:53:26 And that is my understanding is most student debt,
0:53:29 most people with student debt haven’t made a payment in five years.
0:53:35 And keep in mind the people who have student debt are the most fortunate third of Americans
0:53:37 who got to go to college.
0:53:43 And also debt is, it sucks to be a grownup, but if you take out debt, you’re supposed to pay it back.
0:53:49 And also there’s a bit of a mythology here or semantics or incorrect nomenclature,
0:53:50 and that is payments have been stalled.
0:53:53 No, payments have been made, but they’re being made by all taxpayers
0:53:57 because someone has owed this money and someone needs to collect interest on it.
0:54:02 And so it’s the U.S. government or U.S. taxpayers, all of us,
0:54:09 who are registering now the financial imposition of these student loans not being paid back.
0:54:11 And I think it sucks to be a grownup.
0:54:13 I think you take out this debt, you got to pay it back.
0:54:17 The same way if you took out an auto loan or a mortgage and you weren’t paying it,
0:54:19 they’d come for you or they’d come for the asset.
0:54:21 And in this case, they can’t repossess your degree.
0:54:25 The real issue is that the cost of higher education is just too high,
0:54:27 and it’s just kind of much faster than inflation.
0:54:28 That’s the culprit.
0:54:30 So then the question is, well, how does it come down?
0:54:33 And one of the reasons it continues to accelerate faster than inflation,
0:54:36 similar to any other bubble, is because of cheap credit.
0:54:41 And that is you go into a university and there’s a nice lady in a pantsuit
0:54:43 with a big college logo over her head saying,
0:54:45 always invest in yourself, you’re going to be fine.
0:54:49 And then you get a degree from a Joey Bag of Donuts University
0:54:53 that is part of the cartel where we all raise our prices exactly the same amount.
0:54:56 And then you get out and find out you can’t get a job and end up as a barista
0:54:58 and you have $150,000 in student debt.
0:55:05 And the issuing university of that debt or the sponsoring university is not on the hook
0:55:05 for any of that debt.
0:55:08 Whereas Toyota does some diligence.
0:55:10 Toyota says, okay, if there’s no way this person can pay back the money,
0:55:12 we’re not going to loan them the money.
0:55:15 Because if we have to repossess the Toyota, it’s going to cost us money.
0:55:17 We’re not going to be able to resell it for as much.
0:55:22 Whereas the incentive for any university with government-backed student loans and accreditation,
0:55:24 and by the way, the people accrediting these universities are the incumbents,
0:55:29 is just to encourage people to take out more and more student loans, regardless of the credit risk.
0:55:35 And until consumers start shopping around or holding their university accountable
0:55:37 and saying, this fucking sucks.
0:55:41 I borrowed a lot of money and I can’t pay it back and it’s your fault.
0:55:49 There’s no pressure on these universities to lower their tuition and they still have access to cheap credit.
0:55:54 The real solution here would probably be to put these universities on the hook for a portion of that bad student debt.
0:56:03 Such that they would say, okay, we have found that 40% of people with philosophy majors have a difficult time paying back their student debt.
0:56:08 So if you are a philosophy major, we’re going to limit the amount of student debt you have to X.
0:56:16 And because they want to have as much cheap free capital, they won’t be able to raise tuition as fast as they have.
0:56:22 So I’m really mixed here because I feel for younger people who I think have gotten a raw deal on so many levels.
0:56:29 I like the idea of programs where some sort of, you know, working in industries where you don’t,
0:56:35 that traditionally aren’t that high paying, whether it’s education or practicing medicine in rural areas or national service,
0:56:40 you should have your student loans, debt repayment, delayed, lower interest, whatever, forgiven.
0:56:46 But the idea of a generation of people just believing that debt doesn’t really count for them,
0:56:49 I don’t think that ends up anywhere good either.
0:56:51 But net-net, we got to go after the problem here.
0:56:55 And the problem is skyrocketing higher education costs.
0:56:56 Yeah.
0:57:03 But I think that highlights a big problem, which is that for all these people going into college and taking on this debt,
0:57:11 the trouble is that a lot of these young people don’t really understand what the debt is because no one’s fully explained it to them.
0:57:18 And just some statistics here, one in five student loan borrowers say they borrowed more than they needed just because it was offered.
0:57:22 One in five also say they don’t even know their current loan balance.
0:57:29 And then you throw into the mix the fact that the president, the previous president, said, don’t worry, it’ll all be forgiven.
0:57:32 And then suddenly we have a turnaround.
0:57:35 It’s not going to be forgiven.
0:57:39 And actually it’s business as usual starting today, starting May 5th.
0:57:48 And I think Trump criticized Biden actually correctly here and said he sort of made you a false promise that he couldn’t make good on.
0:57:49 And that is what happened.
0:57:50 He made a false promise.
0:57:52 The Supreme Court struck it down.
0:58:02 And what I worry about is that there is now a generation, my generation, who believes that maybe it’ll be canceled in the future.
0:58:04 Maybe something will happen.
0:58:06 Maybe this is actually on the table.
0:58:21 And so the consequences of that are going to be really bad because I think there are going to be a lot of people who say, you know what, I’m just not going to pay it because who knows, maybe in a few years Congress will vote on this and I won’t have to pay the debt.
0:58:23 And what is that going to do?
0:58:27 That’s going to absolutely obliterate my generation’s credit scores.
0:58:31 I mean, we can talk about the forced collections and what that’ll do to people.
0:58:35 But to me, the big downside is what it’s going to do to credit ratings.
0:58:37 And Liberty Street did this analysis.
0:58:47 They found that each time you miss a student loan payment, every delinquency on your student loan debt, your credit score drops by around 150 points.
0:58:53 And I think this is the real concern for young people and the part that they don’t take seriously.
0:59:00 And I just want to paint a picture of what a bad credit score can do to you in case people don’t really realize.
0:59:04 I mean, for starters, you pay higher interest rates.
0:59:06 Two, it can affect your employment.
0:59:09 I mean, a lot of employers actually check your credit.
0:59:10 And if you have bad credit.
0:59:11 I was just going to say that.
0:59:12 Yeah, it can cost you a job.
0:59:15 It affects your ability to rent.
0:59:18 I mean, landlords check your credit.
0:59:21 If you have a low score, you pay higher security deposits.
0:59:26 In many cases, you’re flat out rejected from getting that apartment or that home.
0:59:34 And then four, and this is probably like the worst of it, is it just completely hamstrings your ability to access credit.
0:59:37 I mean, you can get rejected for mortgages.
0:59:39 You can get rejected for auto loans.
0:59:42 You can even get rejected to have a basic credit card.
0:59:47 It just completely cripples your financial freedom.
0:59:52 And with long, long-term consequences that aren’t necessarily your fault.
0:59:59 And I just worry that these young people don’t understand that or they don’t take it that seriously.
1:00:06 And they’re going to sort of hedge their bets on this very unlikely scenario where it’s all just forgiven overnight.
1:00:08 I don’t think that’s going to happen.
1:00:11 You need to pay these loans.
1:00:13 You can’t just go into delinquency.
1:00:14 You can’t go into default.
1:00:17 It’s going to completely ruin you for a long time.
1:00:22 I know someone who got a job at a prestigious bulge bracket investment bank and literally showed up the first day.
1:00:24 And they said, we need to speak to him.
1:00:25 So we have to rescind the offer.
1:00:26 We did a credit check and you have terrible credit.
1:00:33 And we can’t have you selling or structuring securities when you have a low credit score.
1:00:42 Also, if you really want evidence that we are fucking your generation, one of the only forms of debt that’s not dischargeable in bankruptcy is student loan debt.
1:00:47 So if I declare bankruptcy, I can get out of almost every piece of debt.
1:00:49 Now, granted, I have to give up all my assets.
1:00:50 Actually, that’s not true.
1:00:55 If I own a home in Florida, I can homestead it and I get to hold on to my home, even if I declare bankruptcy and clear out all my debts.
1:00:57 But except for student debt.
1:01:05 So if you think about the one person who, if they hit hard times, deserves kind of a do-over button, it should be young people in student debt.
1:01:08 It’s a very upsetting situation.
1:01:14 But and also, I think it calls up the need for what I call in high school adulting classes.
1:01:14 Yes.
1:01:17 I think that there should be a class.
1:01:18 It’s just like basics.
1:01:20 Like, what does the interest rate on my credit card mean?
1:01:21 Right?
1:01:22 Yeah.
1:01:23 Basic adulting.
1:01:25 What is required to get an apartment?
1:01:30 When you want to rent an apartment, what do you need to do and possess and have?
1:01:32 And what’s a general ratio for how much you should be spending?
1:01:36 We need to make sure that young people understand the rules.
1:01:42 They need to we need to make sure that young people understand what debt is, what they’re signing up for by taking on debt.
1:01:51 And then the other thing I think that this brings up, which we need to young people to really think about, is like, what is actually the value of a college education?
1:01:54 Like, is it really worth it for you?
1:01:58 And for many people, for different people, there’s going to be a different answer.
1:02:00 I mean, we know it leads to higher earnings.
1:02:04 We’ve seen the data on higher marriage rates, better health outcomes.
1:02:09 You know, so, you know, we we know some of the data.
1:02:14 But I wonder if we need to sort of change the conversation to instead of, is college worth it?
1:02:19 We need to be more specific and say, is college worth it if you’re taking on debt?
1:02:26 If you’re not taking on debt, if your parents are paying for it, it’s an absolute no-brainer because you’re essentially going for free.
1:02:27 Of course, you should go to college.
1:02:33 But if you’re levering up to go, I think that’s a completely different question.
1:02:45 And there’s this one stat that our team found, which I find very illustrative here, which is that for college grads who took on student debt, one third of them say that college is not worth the cost.
1:02:49 For college grads who didn’t, that number is 16%.
1:02:59 So there’s a massive gap in the ROI on college, depending on whether you are taking on debt for it, which of course makes sense.
1:03:02 If you’re getting the product for free, there’s only upside.
1:03:03 It’s great.
1:03:06 But if you’re putting yourself in a hole, it’s a totally different thing.
1:03:11 So I guess, one, we should reframe the question, and two, I will pose it to you.
1:03:16 Is college worth it if you’re going to take on significant student debt?
1:03:18 There’s no yes or no answer there.
1:03:19 It’s a function of nuance.
1:03:20 That is one.
1:03:23 A lot of it comes down to the university you get into.
1:03:32 If you get into MIT and you are cut out and feel like you can get through four years at MIT, I don’t care if you have to borrow a quarter of a million dollars.
1:03:33 It’s worth it.
1:03:35 For the rest of your life, you’re taken seriously.
1:03:38 For the rest of your life, people have an inclination to hire you.
1:03:48 And the scary thing, and the thing that’s good in some ways and bad in others, is your school, Princeton, if you have any economic hardship, they have so much money, they’ll give you financial aid.
1:04:03 So what happens is really good kids, because of this bullshit rejectionist, exclusivity, LVMH strategy that every elite university has adopted such that they can raise tuition faster than inflation, and the faculty and the alumni feel good about this luxury brand they have.
1:04:07 And it makes the value of the degree go up because it’s harder and harder to get them.
1:04:10 We’ve been able to raise tuition faster than inflation.
1:04:11 The alumni love it.
1:04:12 They give us a bunch of money.
1:04:15 And anyone who gets in who needs economic help gets it.
1:04:21 But the problem is a lot of kids don’t get into an elite school, and they get arbed down to a second-tier school.
1:04:26 So my strategy with these kids is always, I need you to get into more than one school.
1:04:37 And once you get into the school, the university, all of a sudden, it goes from they’re a seller to a buyer in the sense that they really want you once you get in, because they have something called yield.
1:04:44 And their ranking is largely determined by a variety of factors, including what percentage of people who are admitted actually end up going.
1:04:51 So ideally, what you want to do is to get admitted to more than one university, and ideally competitive universities.
1:05:03 So, for example, if you get, and I don’t know if that’s the way any longer, but it used to be, if you got admitted to both Duke and UVA, and UVA saw you got into Duke, UVA would give you a full ride if you went to UVA, because they were direct competitors with Duke.
1:05:06 So the key is, you need to be a consumer.
1:05:12 You need to get into more than one university and then start calling them and saying, you know, finances are a struggle for me.
1:05:13 What do you offer in terms of financial aid?
1:05:17 I’m into several universities, including your closest competitor, this university.
1:05:18 What can you offer me?
1:05:20 But students don’t take a consumer.
1:05:26 They’re much more likely to negotiate on a hotel room or shop every store in the world.
1:05:31 But once they get into the university, they kind of sit back and just take their price takers.
1:05:32 They shouldn’t be.
1:05:34 But this is the thing that’s so tough.
1:05:35 It’s their kids.
1:05:50 I mean, you’re describing this and you’re describing the habits of a very sophisticated and experienced negotiator who knows exactly what’s at stake, knows all the dynamics at play, knows exactly what to say and what the leverage is.
1:05:55 Which is actually, I mean, most grown adults don’t understand that.
1:05:56 I barely understand that.
1:05:58 It’s actually a very hard thing to do.
1:06:01 And I think it’s very important what you’re saying.
1:06:05 And I hope there are young people applying to college who could hear this.
1:06:11 But I think what’s so unfair and so upsetting is, like, we’re telling children to do this.
1:06:20 Children who have no experience, who have no understanding of what any of this means, who don’t even really understand what interest rates are or what a loan is.
1:06:22 And that, to me, is what’s so upsetting.
1:06:32 The standards that we are holding them to, to evaluate these actually quite complex and nuanced economic issues, are just unbelievably high.
1:06:37 And we don’t seem to hold regular functioning adults to those same standards.
1:06:39 And to me, it’s just so unfair.
1:06:44 Ed, everything we do in our society is a subtle transfer of wealth and opportunity from the young to the old.
1:06:47 And we used to love young people.
1:06:48 We used to love more than that.
1:06:52 When I was your age, we used to love unremarkable young people, right?
1:06:53 I mean, think about it.
1:06:54 I got Pell Grants.
1:07:00 I had access to a world-class university that had a 74% admissions rate.
1:07:03 And once I got there, my tuition every year was $1,300.
1:07:12 And I could work my ass off over the summer and have part-time jobs and show up the next year, despite the fact I wasn’t getting any financial assistance from my parents.
1:07:28 And that, for me, started an upward spiral of prosperity where I got to engage in the economy, I got to find a mate, I got to have children, I got to build a business, and all of that reverse engineers to America used to love young, unremarkable people.
1:07:29 And now it no longer does.
1:07:38 Now it feels America is about trying to identify the children of rich kids and a freakishly remarkable one-percenters and try and turn them into billionaires.
1:07:42 And higher ed is the tip of that spear in terms of losing the script.
1:07:56 We’ve become hedge funds that offer classes at the elite side, and the mid-tier are basically terrible value for kids that puts a lot of them into debt that they can’t discharge and starts them with this anchor around their neck.
1:07:57 And what a shocker.
1:08:00 We have the most obese, anxious, and depressed generation in history.
1:08:04 So that question around whether college is worth it, it’s a nuanced conversation.
1:08:08 What is an easy question to answer is, are we fucking young people?
1:08:10 That’s an easy one, 100%.
1:08:13 Let’s take a look at the week ahead.
1:08:19 We’ll see earnings from Palantir, AMD, Novo Nordisk, Uber, Disney, and Shopify.
1:08:23 And the Federal Reserve will also meet and announce its next interest rate decision.
1:08:26 Scott, any predictions for us?
1:08:27 Well, I made it.
1:08:43 I think by the end of 27, Kuiper is—it’ll be hard to suss out because it’ll be in a larger Amazon umbrella, but that Kuiper will be worth more than Starlink and will have greater penetration in the United States as it’ll be stitched into the Amazon Prime++ program.
1:08:45 They should change the name first.
1:08:46 Kuiper is not a very good name.
1:08:51 It kind of sounds like the AI villain in a Bond film, Kuiper.
1:08:52 What does Kuiper say?
1:08:56 Yeah, change that, and then I think the prediction comes true.
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The science of ideology

The science of ideology
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0:01:05 A word you hear a lot these days is ideology.
0:01:12 In fact, you could argue this is the political term of the moment.
0:01:21 When Trump is denouncing the left, he’s talking about gender ideology or critical race theory or DEI.
0:01:28 When the left is denouncing Trump, they’re talking about fascism or Project 2025.
0:01:35 Wherever you look, ideology is being used to explain or justify policies.
0:01:44 And buried in all that is an unstated assumption that the real ideologues are on the other side.
0:01:51 Often, to call someone ideological is to imply that they’re fanatical or dogmatic.
0:01:57 Most of us don’t think of ourselves as ideological for that reason.
0:02:02 And if someone does call you an ideologue, you might recoil a little bit.
0:02:10 I mean, sure, you have beliefs, you have a worldview, but you’re not an ideologue, right?
0:02:15 Maybe this isn’t the best way to think about ideology.
0:02:20 Maybe we don’t really know what we’re talking about when we talk about ideology.
0:02:26 Is it possible that we’re all ideological in ways we don’t recognize?
0:02:33 And if we could see ourselves a little more clearly, might that help us see others more clearly?
0:02:39 I’m Sean Elling, and this is The Gray Area.
0:02:46 Today’s guest is Liorce McGrath.
0:02:50 She’s a cognitive neuroscientist and the author of The Ideological Brain.
0:02:56 The book makes the case that our political beliefs aren’t just beliefs.
0:03:01 They’re neurological signatures written into our neurons and reflexes.
0:03:08 That’s a fancy way of saying that how we think and what we believe is a product of the way our brains are wired.
0:03:16 To be clear, she isn’t saying that our beliefs are entirely shaped by our biology.
0:03:19 The point isn’t that brain is destiny.
0:03:27 But she is saying that the way our brains handle change and uncertainty may shape not only the beliefs we adopt,
0:03:30 but how fiercely we cling to those beliefs.
0:03:37 A book like this feels especially relevant in such a polarized moment,
0:03:46 because it’s hard to imagine bridging the divides in our society without understanding ourselves and each other much better.
0:03:50 And part of that understanding is knowing what’s really motivating us.
0:03:57 Lior McGrath, welcome to the show.
0:04:00 Maybe I will ask you to say that again.
0:04:01 Oh, did I mess it up?
0:04:02 I knew I was going to do it.
0:04:04 I knew I was going to do it.
0:04:06 I was in my head.
0:04:08 All right, let’s try to get home.
0:04:11 Liorce McGrath, welcome to the show.
0:04:12 Great to be here.
0:04:14 I totally got it right that time, right?
0:04:15 Yeah, you did.
0:04:15 You did.
0:04:15 You did great.
0:04:16 All right.
0:04:23 This is a very interesting book, full of a lot of provocative, compelling claims.
0:04:26 And we are going to get to all of that.
0:04:34 Before we do, I am just curious, what drew you to this question?
0:04:36 Why ideology?
0:04:40 Well, in many ways, ideology is all around us.
0:04:43 But often, we don’t really know what it is, right?
0:04:49 We kind of say, well, an ideology is just a system of beliefs or just a kind of insult.
0:04:54 We used to kind of demean someone who believes something totally different to us, which we think
0:04:55 is wrong.
0:05:01 And I was really interested in delving into what it means to think ideologically and what
0:05:07 it means for a brain to really be immersed in ideology and whether that’s a kind of experience
0:05:13 that can change the brain, that certain brains might be more prone to taking an ideology and
0:05:16 kind of embracing it in an extreme and intense way.
0:05:23 And that’s why in the book, in The Ideological Brain, I really delve into this question of
0:05:29 what makes people gravitate towards ideologies and what is it about some brains that makes them
0:05:30 especially susceptible?
0:05:36 And in doing that, I’m really interested in thinking about ideology in a more precise way
0:05:41 than we typically think about it as, which is not just as a broad system of beliefs floating
0:05:48 above our heads in an ambiguous way or something that’s purely historical or sociological, but
0:05:53 it’s something that’s really deeply psychological and that we can see inside people’s brains.
0:05:55 Well, let’s take it step by step.
0:05:58 What does it mean to think ideologically?
0:05:59 What is ideology?
0:06:02 How are you defining it?
0:06:05 And how is that different from how people typically define it?
0:06:10 So the way I think about ideology is as really being comprised of two components.
0:06:17 One is a very fixed doctrine, a kind of set of descriptions about the world that’s very
0:06:22 absolutist, that’s very black and white, and that is very resistant to evidence.
0:06:28 So an ideology will always have a certain kind of causal narrative about the world that describes
0:06:31 what the world is like and also how we should act within that world.
0:06:36 It gives prescriptions for how we should act, how we should think, how we should interact
0:06:36 with other people.
0:06:39 But that’s not the end of the story.
0:06:44 To think ideologically is both to have this fixed doctrine and also to have a very fixed
0:06:48 identity that you really kind of judge everyone with.
0:06:54 And that fixed identity stems from the fact that every ideology, every doctrine will have
0:06:55 believers and non-believers.
0:07:04 And so when you think ideologically, you’re really embracing those rigid identity categories and
0:07:09 deciding to exclusively affiliate with people who believe in your ideology and really reject
0:07:10 anyone who doesn’t.
0:07:17 The degree of ideological extremity can really be mapped onto how hostile you are to anyone with
0:07:21 differing beliefs, whether you’re willing to potentially harm people in the name of your
0:07:22 ideology.
0:07:28 You write that, and now I’m quoting, not all stories are ideologies and not all forms
0:07:32 of collective storytelling are rigid and oppressive, end quote.
0:07:34 How do you tell the difference?
0:07:39 How do you, for instance, distinguish an ideology from a religion?
0:07:43 Is there even room for a distinction like that in your framework?
0:07:50 What I think about often is the difference between ideology and culture, because culture can encompass
0:07:56 eccentricities, it can encompass deviation, different kinds of traditions or patterns from the
0:07:57 past.
0:08:03 But it’s not about legislating what one can do or what one can’t do.
0:08:08 The moment we detect an ideology is the moment when you have very rigid prescriptions about what
0:08:10 is permissible and what is not permissible.
0:08:17 And when you stop being able to tolerate any deviation, that’s when you’ve moved from culture,
0:08:23 which can encompass a lot of deviation and kind of reinterpretations, where as an ideology,
0:08:29 there is no room for those kinds of nonconformities or differences.
0:08:34 What you’re doing here and what you do in the book that is interesting to me, and novel as
0:08:42 far as I know, is this reframing of ideology more as a style of thinking rather than just
0:08:44 a set of beliefs.
0:08:49 I mean, as you know, like the conventional way to think about ideology has always been to focus
0:08:53 on the content, on what people believe, not how they think.
0:08:55 And you flipped us around.
0:09:02 What does this understanding let us see that other definitions missed?
0:09:10 What that inversion reveals is that embracing an ideology in an extreme way and thinking really
0:09:13 about what are the mechanics of thinking ideologically?
0:09:16 What are the ways in which reason gets shifted?
0:09:18 How emotion gets distorted?
0:09:25 How our biological and kind of even physiological responses to the world get distorted is that
0:09:31 we stop thinking about ideologies as things that just envelop us from outside and that just
0:09:35 kind of are almost tipped into us by external forces.
0:09:42 And we start to see how it’s a much more dynamic process and that we can even see parallels between
0:09:47 ideologues who believe in very different things and partisans to completely different parties to
0:09:53 different missions, but that really it’s how they think that’s very similar, even if what
0:09:54 they think is very different.
0:09:59 I mean, some people might be more ideological than others, but does everyone more or less
0:10:05 have an ideology, even if they don’t think of themselves as having an ideology?
0:10:12 I kind of think about ideological thinking as something more specific, that it’s this antagonism
0:10:19 to evidence, this very kind of tight embrace of a particular narrative about the world and
0:10:23 rules about how the world works and how you should behave within that world.
0:10:31 And so when we think about it as that kind of fixed, rigid set of behaviors, of compulsions,
0:10:35 we see that not everyone is obviously equally ideological.
0:10:41 And I don’t know whether there’s a perfect human being completely without any ideology,
0:10:44 but in the book I do talk about, you don’t think so?
0:10:45 I don’t think so.
0:10:46 We’ll get there, but I don’t think so.
0:10:54 I think that you can be a lot less ideological and that, that’s almost the challenge that I
0:10:59 talk about in the book is what does it mean to think non-ideologically about the world,
0:11:02 maybe anti-ideologically about the world?
0:11:04 And what does that look like?
0:11:09 Well, tell me how you test for cognitive flexibility versus rigidity.
0:11:11 What kind of survey work did you do?
0:11:12 What kind of lab work?
0:11:18 So in order to test someone’s cognitive rigidity or their flexibility, one of the most important
0:11:24 things is not just to ask them because people are terrible at knowing whether they’re rigid
0:11:24 or flexible.
0:11:29 The most rigid thinkers will tell you they’re fabulously flexible and the most flexible thinkers
0:11:30 will not know it.
0:11:34 And so that’s why we need to use these kind of unconscious assessments, these cognitive
0:11:41 tests and games that tap into your natural kind of capacity to be adaptable or to resist
0:11:42 change.
0:11:49 And so one test to do this is called the Wisconsin Card Sorting Test, which is a card sorting game
0:11:52 where people are presented with a deck of cards that they need to sort.
0:11:57 And initially they don’t know what the rule that governs the game is, so they try and
0:11:58 figure it out.
0:12:02 And quickly they’ll realize that they should match the cards in their deck according to
0:12:02 their color.
0:12:07 So they’ll start putting a blue card with a blue card, a red card with a red card, and
0:12:10 they’ll get affirmation, the kind of positive feedback that they’re doing it right.
0:12:15 And so they start enacting this rule, adopting it, kind of applying it again and again and again.
0:12:20 And after a while, unbeknownst to them, the rule of the game changes, and suddenly this
0:12:22 color rule doesn’t work anymore.
0:12:28 And so that’s the moment of change that I’m most interested in, because some people will
0:12:30 notice that change and they will adapt.
0:12:33 They will then go looking for a different rule and they’ll quickly figure out that they
0:12:37 should actually sort now the cards according to the shape of the objects on the card.
0:12:39 And fine, they’ll follow this new rule.
0:12:42 Those are very cognitively flexible individuals.
0:12:47 But there are other people who will notice that change and they will hate it.
0:12:48 They will resist that change.
0:12:54 They will try to say that it never happened and they’ll try to apply the old rule despite
0:12:57 getting negative feedback, despite being told that they’re doing it wrong.
0:13:03 And those people that really resist the change are the most cognitively rigid people, that they
0:13:04 don’t like change.
0:13:08 They don’t adapt their behavior when the evidence suggests that they do.
0:13:13 And what’s interesting about this kind of task is that it’s not related to politics at
0:13:14 all, right?
0:13:19 It’s just a game that taps into how people are responding to information, responding to
0:13:20 rules, responding to change.
0:13:27 And we see how that people’s behavior on this kind of game really predicts their ideological
0:13:28 rigidities too.
0:13:34 Can we say that the point here is that if someone really struggles to switch gears,
0:13:40 in a card sorting game like that, that that says something about their comfort with change
0:13:42 and ambiguity in general.
0:13:48 And someone who struggles with change and ambiguity in a card game will probably also have an aversion
0:13:54 to pluralism in politics because their brain processes that as chaotic.
0:13:58 I mean, is that a fair summary of the argument or the logic?
0:14:04 Yeah, broadly it is, because people who resist that change, who resist the uncertainty, who’d like
0:14:08 things to stay the same, that when the rules change, they really don’t like it.
0:14:15 Often that can be translated into, you know, the most cognitively rigid people don’t like
0:14:17 plurality, don’t like debate.
0:14:26 They like a kind of singular source of information, a singular argument about a single theory of
0:14:26 everything.
0:14:33 But that can also, that can really coexist on both sides of the political spectrum.
0:14:40 So when we’re talking about diversity, like that can be a more politicized concept that
0:14:48 you can still find very rigid thinkers being very militant about certain ideas that we might
0:14:48 say are progressive.
0:14:50 So it’s quite nuanced.
0:14:58 Are there particular habits of mind or patterns of behavior that you’d consider warning signs
0:15:02 of overly rigid thinking, things that people can notice in themselves?
0:15:09 Well, it’s funny that you say habits of mind, because in many ways, I think that habits are
0:15:11 the biggest culprits here.
0:15:15 You know, we live in a society that constantly talks about how good it is to have habits and
0:15:18 to have routines that you repeat over and over again.
0:15:24 But actually, habits are the way in which we become more rigid because we become less
0:15:25 sensitive to change.
0:15:28 We want to repeat things exactly in the same way.
0:15:35 And so probably the first step, if you’re wanting to be more flexible in the way you approach
0:15:41 the world, is to take all your habits and routines and interrogate them and think about what it
0:15:47 does to you to be repeating constantly rather than to be exploring and navigating change.
0:15:54 I mean, I think it’s intuitively easy to understand why being extremely rigid would be a bad thing.
0:15:59 Is it possible to be too flexible?
0:16:02 Like, what does that look like at the extreme of flexibility?
0:16:08 If you’re just totally unmoored and just like permanently wide open and like incapable of settling
0:16:12 on anything, that seems bad in a different way.
0:16:12 Yeah.
0:16:13 Yeah.
0:16:19 And what that is, is a kind of immense persuadability, but that’s not flexibility, right?
0:16:25 So there is a distinction there because being flexible is about updating your beliefs in line
0:16:30 of credible evidence, not necessarily adopting a belief just because some authority says so,
0:16:34 but it’s about, you know, seeing the evidence and responding to it.
0:16:40 You write that we possess beliefs, but we can also be possessed by them.
0:16:46 And, you know, that reminds me of Carl Jung’s claim that, you know, we don’t have ideas, ideas
0:16:46 have us.
0:16:49 But what are you getting at here?
0:16:53 Like, what does it mean to say that we’re possessed by beliefs?
0:16:58 Does that mean that we are being animated and controlled by them unconsciously?
0:17:00 Or is it something different?
0:17:10 I think that it means that, I’ll pause here to think about the best, because it’s such
0:17:11 a massive question.
0:17:11 Yeah.
0:17:18 What we see with this science, with the science I’ve been involved in called political neuroscience,
0:17:24 where we use neuroscientific methods to study these questions about people’s political beliefs
0:17:30 and identities, is that the degree to which you espouse really dogmatic ideological beliefs
0:17:38 can get reflected in your body, in your neurobiology, in the way in which your brain responds to the
0:17:40 world at very unconscious levels.
0:17:43 And so it becomes a part of us.
0:17:53 And so there’s a kind of, I’m losing the word, but there’s a kind of expansion or a kind of echoing of your
0:18:00 thought patterns, not just in politics, but that they become part of how you think about anything in the
0:18:04 world and how your body responds and reacts to anything in the world.
0:18:07 And so our politics are not just things outside of us.
0:18:11 They’re really part of how the human body starts to function.
0:18:14 So you think ideologies can really change us physiologically?
0:18:20 What we see in a lot of studies is that, and this is obviously a growing field and there are many more
0:18:27 studies to conduct, but what we see across these experiments is that ideology really conditions
0:18:29 your physiological responses to the world.
0:18:36 So in one experiment, they looked at how much you justify existing systems and existing inequalities.
0:18:44 So some people think that very stark inequalities are bad and unnatural and maybe things that should be
0:18:48 corrected, whereas others think that inequalities are fine.
0:18:52 They’re natural parts of human life and maybe that they’re even good, that they’re desirable things
0:18:53 to have in society.
0:19:00 And what we see is that people who believe that inequalities are bad, we see that those
0:19:06 people, when they look at videos of injustice taking place of someone, for instance, discussing
0:19:11 their experience of homelessness and the adversity of that, their whole bodies react, their heart
0:19:16 rates accelerate, their kind of physiological markers of arousal really spike.
0:19:22 Because they’re biologically disturbed by what they’re seeing, they’re disturbed physically
0:19:24 by the injustice that they see.
0:19:31 In contrast, people who believe that those inequalities are fine, that they’re justifiable, that they
0:19:36 should not change at all, and that we should continue to have stark inequalities in society,
0:19:41 those people, when they see that injustice, their bodies are numb.
0:19:43 They’re physiologically unmoved.
0:19:47 They will not biologically be disturbed by the injustice that they see in front of them.
0:19:55 And so you really see how ideology conditions even our most unconscious, rapid physiological responses.
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0:23:56 Focusing on rigidity does make a lot of sense.
0:24:07 But I can’t imagine one critique of this being that you risk pathologizing conviction, right?
0:24:12 How do you draw the line between principled thinking and dogmatic thinking?
0:24:17 Because as you know, one of those codes is good and the other codes as bad.
0:24:31 In many ways, I think that it’s not about pathologizing any conviction, but it is about questioning what it means to believe in an idea without being willing to change your mind on it.
0:24:39 And I think that there is, you know, there is a very fine line, right, between what we call principles and what we call dogmas.
0:24:47 And that’s what in many ways I hope that implicitly readers come to think about and interrogate is,
0:24:59 are they holding kind of broad moral values about the world that help them, you know, make ethical decisions, but also being sensitive to context and the specifics of each situation?
0:25:13 Or are they adhering to certain rules without the capacity to take context into account, without being willing to see all the shades of gray that a situation might kind of enable?
0:25:22 And thinking that taking very strong, principled positions is a purely good thing, I think is, I would like to challenge that.
0:25:27 I think it gets particularly thorny in the moral domain, right?
0:25:36 Like, no one wants to be dogmatic, but it’s also hard to imagine any kind of moral clarity without something like a fixed commitment to certain principles or values.
0:25:42 And what often happens is, if we don’t like someone’s values, we’ll call them extremist or dogmatic.
0:25:46 But if we like their values, we call them principled.
0:25:56 Yeah, and that’s why I think that a kind of psychological approach to what it means to thinking ideologically helps us escape from that kind of very slippery relativism.
0:26:03 Because then it’s not just about, oh, where is someone relative to us on certain issues on the political spectrum?
0:26:07 But it’s about thinking, well, what does it mean to resist evidence?
0:26:16 So there is a delicate path there where you can find a way to have a moral compass.
0:26:30 Maybe not the same absolutist moral clarity that ideologies try to convince you exists, but you can have a morality without having really dogmatic ideologies.
0:26:33 We all want things to make sense.
0:26:37 We want things to have a reason or a purpose.
0:26:48 How much of our rigid thinking, how much of our ideological thinking is just about our fear of uncertainty?
0:26:55 Ideologies are, in many ways, our brain’s way of solving the problem of uncertainty in the world.
0:26:59 Because, you know, our brains are these incredible predictive organs.
0:27:10 They’re trying to understand the world, but they’d also like shortcuts wherever possible, because it’s very complicated and very computationally expensive to figure out everything that’s happening in the world.
0:27:13 And so ideologies kind of hand that to you on a silver plate.
0:27:16 And they say, here are all the rules for life.
0:27:17 They’re all rules for social interaction.
0:27:21 Here’s a description of all the causal mechanisms for how the world works.
0:27:23 There you go.
0:27:29 And you don’t need to do that hard labor of figuring it out all on your own.
0:27:46 And so that’s why ideologies can be incredibly tempting and seductive for our predictive brains that are trying to resolve uncertainty, that are trying to resolve ambiguities, that are just trying to understand the world in a coherent way.
0:27:49 And so it is a kind of coping mechanism.
0:27:57 And what I hope to show in the book is that it’s a coping mechanism with very disastrous side effects for individual bodies.
0:28:01 Well, yeah, I think the main problem is that the world isn’t coherent.
0:28:06 And in order to make it coherent, you have to distort it often.
0:28:12 And I think that’s where this can lead to bad outcomes.
0:28:16 But look, so ideologies are certainly one way.
0:28:22 I mean, maybe the main way we satisfy this longing we have for clarity and certainty.
0:28:30 Do you think there are non-ideological ways to satisfy that longing?
0:28:33 I think so.
0:28:40 But I also think that it’s about recognizing that we have that longing and that ideologies are solutions to that longing.
0:28:56 And maybe by realizing that there’s that constructive element to it, right, that we gravitate towards ideologies, not necessarily because they’re true, but just maybe because they seem at first glance useful or nice or comforting.
0:29:12 And I think that already goes maybe some way at chipping away at the kind of illusion that ideologies try to claim and to establish, which is that they are the only truth and the theories of everything and that there is no other truth.
0:29:23 And so I think that it’s already important to recognize that kind of magnetism that happens between our minds and these ideological myths.
0:29:39 And I think that there are ways to live that don’t require you to espouse ideologies in a dogmatic way, in a way that inspires you to dehumanize other people for the sake of justifying your ideology.
0:29:59 And I think that that lies with thinking about what it means to update your beliefs in response to credible evidence, living in a society that has information and evidence that is accessible to everyone, rather than what is going on now with digital environments,
0:30:10 where that information that you receive is increasingly skewed, is increasingly selective and designed to disregulate you and to manipulate you rather than to offer you information.
0:30:37 But once you start to battle some of those systemic kind of problems with our information systems, I think you can do a lot of work to learn how to process information, to respond to disagreements in a way that is flexible, in a way that is balanced, in a way that is really focused on evaluating evidence in a kind of balanced way.
0:30:54 I think that in experiments, what we find is that people who are most cognitively rigid will kind of adhere to the most extreme ideologies.
0:31:03 But that doesn’t have to be a purely kind of far-right authoritarianism that we most typically are familiar with.
0:31:05 It can also exist on the left.
0:31:07 There are also left-wing authoritarianisms.
0:31:19 In the studies, we see that the people who are most rigid can exist both on the far left and on the far right, which is important because a lot of times there’s been this assumption that it’s only the political right that can be rigid.
0:31:29 But we see that when we measure people’s unconscious traits, that you can also find that rigidity on the left.
0:31:40 And I hope that that’s a kind of warning signal for a lot of people on the left who think that liberalism and the left are inherently about change and flexibility and progress.
0:31:46 Well, it can also attract rigid minds.
0:32:07 And so you need to think about, if you want to enact progress that maybe has a liberal flavor to it, you need to think about how to avoid those kind of rigid strains, the kind of dogmatic, conformity-minded, authority-minded way of thinking that exists on both sides of the spectrum.
0:32:15 And to that very point, somewhere in the book, you write that every worldview can be practiced extremely and dogmatically.
0:32:26 And I read that, and I just wondered if it leaves room for making normative judgments about different ideologies.
0:32:28 But let me put that in the form of a question.
0:32:37 Do you think every ideology is equally susceptible to extremist practices?
0:32:42 I sometimes get strong opposition from people saying, well, my ideology is about love.
0:32:59 It’s about generosity or about looking after others, kind of positive ideologies that we think surely should be immune from these kind of dogmatic and authoritarian ways of thinking.
0:33:20 But in many ways, what I’m trying to do with this research and in the book is rather than compare ideologies as, you know, these big entities represented by many people, is just to look at people and to look at, well, can we find, are there people who are extremely rigid in different ideologies?
0:33:42 And we do see that every ideology that has this very strong utopian vision of what life and the world should be or a very dystopian kind of fear of where the world is going.
0:33:47 And all of those have a capacity to become extreme.
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0:37:05 How do you think about causality here, right?
0:37:13 I mean, are some people just constitutionally, biologically prone to dogmatic thinking?
0:37:22 Or do they get possessed, to use your word, by ideologies that reshape their brain over time?
0:37:24 Yeah, this is a fascinating question.
0:37:28 And I think that causality goes both ways.
0:37:35 I think there’s evidence that there are pre-existing predispositions that propel some people to join ideological groups.
0:37:43 And that when there is a trigger, they will be the first to run to the front of the line, kind of in support of the ideological cause.
0:37:49 But that at the same time, as you become more extreme, more dogmatic, you are changed.
0:37:54 You are changed to the way in which you think about the world, the way in which you think about yourself.
0:38:00 You become more ritualistic, more narrow, more rigid in every realm of life.
0:38:01 So that can change you too.
0:38:04 Just to be clear about what you mean by change, right?
0:38:07 When you say it changes our brains, how do you know that?
0:38:11 Are you looking at MRI scans and you can see these changes?
0:38:12 What do those changes look like?
0:38:20 So we don’t yet have, you know, the longitudinal studies required to see complete change.
0:38:32 But we do have other kinds of studies that look at, for instance, what happens when either when a brain is in a condition which makes it more prone to becoming ideological.
0:38:40 So, for example, what happens when we take people who are already have quite radical beliefs, so radical religious fundamentalists.
0:38:45 We put them in a brain scanner, we put them in a brain scanner and we make them feel very socially excluded.
0:38:52 We heighten that feeling that they’re socially excluded from others, that they’re alienated.
0:38:59 So we take vulnerable minds and we also kind of put them in a more kind of psychologically vulnerable state.
0:39:04 And what we see is that then they become a lot more ideological.
0:39:13 Their brains start imbuing every value as sacred, as something that they would be willing to die for, as something they would be willing to hurt others for.
0:39:26 And we see that these processes are so dynamic that even in conditions where people are stressed out, where they feel lonely, excluded, like there aren’t enough resources to go around.
0:39:51 And what we see is that there are these experiments that show the arrows pointing one way and also that people who have experienced brain injury, traumatic brain injury, two specific parts of the brain, that that later on we see that they’re more radical.
0:39:58 That their beliefs are a lot more extreme, that they’ll see a radical idea and they will say that it’s fine.
0:40:25 So through these kind of natural studies of either brain injury or about what happens to a brain that is already radical in those environments, we can get a sense that being in a rigid environment, in an environment that is stressful, that is authoritarian, that tries to put people into that mindset of thinking about every human being as an instrument to an end,
0:40:30 And that that can change how the brain responds to the world and maybe how it functions too.
0:40:37 So when these circuits get activated, there are corresponding parts of the brain that light up.
0:40:37 Exactly.
0:40:39 And that’s how you can make the connections?
0:40:40 Exactly.
0:40:40 Yeah.
0:40:41 So go ahead.
0:40:42 That’s so fascinating.
0:40:49 Now, look, I know you’re being careful about saying causality runs both ways and surely it does, but I want to push you a little bit.
0:40:56 And how far would you go in saying that genes determine political beliefs?
0:41:03 Would it be too neat to say that people are born with liberal brains or conservative brains?
0:41:11 So what we do know is that there are genetic predispositions to thinking more rigidly about the world.
0:41:17 These predispositions are related to dopamine and how dopamine is expressed throughout your brain.
0:41:30 So that can be about how dopamine is expressed in the prefrontal cortex, the area behind your forehead responsible for the high level decision making, and the dopamine kind of in your reward circuitry in the striatum.
0:41:35 And what we see is that there are genetic traits that make some people more prone to rigid thinking.
0:41:39 But there’s still so much scope for change.
0:41:44 These genetic traits are kind of potentials.
0:41:48 They can activate risk, but they can also really be subdued.
0:41:59 And that’s where we can look at also how what happens to minds with those genetic predispositions, but that grew up in environments and upbringing that were much more liberal or that were much more authoritarian.
0:42:02 Yes, that is what I found myself thinking a lot about.
0:42:05 This is not straight up determinism you’re doing here.
0:42:08 In your words, we’re talking about probabilities, not fates.
0:42:14 So our biology opens up certain possibilities, inclines us in one direction or another.
0:42:23 But our environment, our stresses, our communities, our family life, all of that can push us different ways.
0:42:29 Can you say a little bit more about this tension between biology and environment?
0:42:38 I think there’s sometimes the sense that, oh, if you’re talking about the kind of biology of ideology, that you’re saying everything is fixed and predetermined.
0:42:44 But actually, there’s huge scope for change and malleability and choice within that.
0:42:56 And what we see and what in my experiments I’ve found is that the best reflection of a person’s cognitive style is not necessarily the ideologies that they grew up with, but the ideologies that they ended up choosing.
0:43:12 So people who chose to enter a dogmatic ideology and kind of embrace it strongly, even though they grew up in a much more secular, presumably non-ideological upbringing, those people were the most cognitively rigid.
0:43:23 Choosing an ideology is the best reflection of your rigidity, whereas people who maybe grew up really ideological but left that environment are the most cognitively flexible people.
0:43:28 More flexible than people who grew up in non-ideological settings and stayed non-ideological.
0:43:33 And so there’s huge range and capacity for choice.
0:43:35 And so our biology doesn’t predetermine us.
0:43:43 It puts us on certain paths for risk or resilience, but then it’s our choices that affect which of our traits get expressed or not.
0:43:48 How much room is there for agency here, right?
0:43:54 Like, if I want to change the way I think, cognitively and politically, can I really do that?
0:43:56 How much freedom do I have?
0:44:07 I think you have an immense amount of freedom, and I think we know that you can change because people do change, and people do change the rigidity with which they approach the world.
0:44:09 They’ve changed their beliefs over time.
0:44:19 And so if we are all lying on a kind of spectrum from flexible thinking to rigid thinking, and we’re all somewhere on that spectrum, we can also all shift our position.
0:44:21 So how do people do that?
0:44:23 How do they go about bringing that change about?
0:44:30 Well, the first way in which we can understand this is by looking maybe what we would say might be the negative change.
0:44:33 What happens, what prompts people to think more rigidly about the world.
0:44:41 And the best way, and maybe the most sinister way, to make people think more rigidly is to stress them out.
0:45:01 And we can do that even in the lab, we can stress a body out by either asking it to do something that would make any person socially nervous, like standing in front of a big group and speaking unexpectedly, or by asking them to do something that would physically stress their body out, like putting their hand in a bucket of ice water.
0:45:09 And that just automatically for any person, you know, all of your body’s resources get channeled to dealing with that physical stressor.
0:45:26 And what we see is that even in that immediate moment, like the kind of three minutes that pass when your body stresses out, you immediately become more rigid in how you solve problems, in how you kind of solve all kinds of game mental challenges.
0:45:33 And so you can see that stress is a huge factor that pushes people towards more rigid thinking.
0:45:40 Well, that’s a very profound finding and one I think that maps onto like the historical record.
0:45:56 What you find very often in history is that when material conditions and societies decline, when people get more impoverished and deprived and desperate, they become more vulnerable.
0:46:00 To authoritarian or extremist movements, right?
0:46:14 And maybe part of what’s going on there is these circuits that are getting induced in people’s brains, that stress, those stressful conditions make them, they prime them to be more susceptible to these ways of thinking.
0:46:42 Yeah, because understanding that a body that is stressed is a body that is more vulnerable to extreme authoritarian dogmatic thinking really helps us understand who is most susceptible and at what times we are all most susceptible, so that we understand why and how maybe malicious agents can take hold of those experiences of stress, of adversity, of precarity or lack of resources.
0:46:58 Or to actually, you know, create ideological rhetoric that stresses us out or that makes us think that there aren’t enough resources to go around, that that’s a profoundly, you know, powerful way to get people to think in a more authoritarian minded way.
0:47:12 Well, we’re in an era, especially in America, but I think this is also true in your neck of the woods, of highly polarized partisan politics.
0:47:16 Do you feel like this research has some particular insight into that?
0:47:22 Do you think absorbing this can actually make us more intelligible to each other?
0:47:25 I think so.
0:47:40 I think, first of all, it allows us, by recognizing that actually people at the very ends of, for instance, the political spectrum, or people of many different ideologies, when taken to the extreme, actually start to resemble each other, I think is probably a very humbling insight.
0:47:49 Because you realize that although you might be feeling like you’re fighting for completely different missions, you’re psychologically engaged in a very similar process.
0:47:57 And so, hopefully, hopefully that is one way to maybe help us understand each other in very polarized times.
0:48:10 But I think that there’s also this really profoundly individual or personal problem here that you have to confront, which is how flexible or how dogmatic are you?
0:48:22 And how would you like to live, you know, rather than just judging other people for their dogmatism, it’s about thinking, well, what are the rules that you impose on yourself or on those around you?
0:48:27 And can those be actually damaging to your mental freedom?
0:48:34 Because those rules we impose on ourselves, yeah, reduce our capacity to think authentically.
0:48:42 The end of your book imagines a mind that’s ideology-free.
0:48:45 Do you really think that’s possible?
0:48:48 Do you think we can live without ideology?
0:48:51 I think we can certainly try.
0:48:53 And I think…
0:48:56 Well played.
0:49:06 I think we can, because I think, you know, starting to shed those ideological, those really harsh ideological convictions with which we,
0:49:14 encounter ourselves and others, is possible, is probably desirable from a psychological perspective, and quite empowering.
0:49:24 It’s also a very difficult process, because to be flexible is not just an end state that you arrive at, and you made it, you’re flexible, that’s it, you’re good.
0:49:35 It’s this continuous struggle I even talk about as a Sisyphean task, because there are so many pressures trying to rigidify you, to narrow your thoughts, that to stay flexible,
0:49:43 to stay in that space of being willing to accept nuance, ambiguity is a really, really hard thing.
0:49:53 Flexibility is very fragile, but I think it’s also really fulfilling to be in pursuit of that more flexible, ideologically free way of being.
0:50:01 The sort of flexibility you’re talking about is, to me, not just an intellectual virtue.
0:50:13 I think it’s also a moral virtue in the sense that it enables us to be more open to ideas and people, and more humble about what we don’t or can’t know.
0:50:28 Do you have any thoughts on, do you have any thoughts after all this research on how to educate children, how to parent, how to teach people to be anti-ideological in the way you defined it?
0:50:32 Yeah, I mean, in many ways…
0:50:36 Sorry, there were too many different ways to answer that question.
0:50:37 Yeah, no, please start over.
0:51:01 I think one of the most profound insights from this research is that when you start to embody flexible thinking in your everyday life, in the way in which you psychologically approach the world, that will bleed into the way in which you evaluate moral space, the political space, the ideological space.
0:51:15 And so if we wanted to cultivate that flexibility in children, in fellow adults, it would be about encouraging that kind of flexibility in all things.
0:51:20 Responsibility, like we talked about, is not just this endless persuadability or a kind of wish-washiness.
0:51:31 It’s this very active stance where you’re trying to think about things in the most wide-ranging anti-essentialist way.
0:51:48 And so teaching people to think really creatively, of course, we also need to teach them to be critical thinkers, but to be really creative in any domain, not just in art, which tries to demand creativity, but in every realm of life.
0:51:55 Rather than repeating your day in the same way again and again, how do you incorporate change?
0:52:01 How do you incorporate thinking outside the box, breaking down essences into kind of new ways of thinking?
0:52:15 So teaching people to be more flexible, original, creative, imaginative in that way, I think is something that education systems and families can do, and hopefully they should.
0:52:21 As you said earlier, we’re very much in the beginning of this research.
0:52:25 Where does it go from here?
0:52:30 What do you think is the next frontier of political neuroscience?
0:52:43 Where we go from here is to continue to tackle those questions about causality, to really learn to see how ideologies can change the human body, the human brain, how it responds to the world.
0:53:04 And also how those, how, what we bring to the table, I think continuing to understand that, that requires studies of people over a long time, over their whole lives, to see how people’s changes in their psychological kind of expressions can map onto their, their ideological commitments.
0:53:07 And I think now is probably a very good time to do it, because there is a lot of change.
0:53:17 People are both becoming at times more dogmatic, more extreme, but also changing allegiances at paces that maybe we haven’t seen in a long time.
0:53:33 And so this is a great moment to stop thinking about things purely as the political left versus the political right, but evaluate any ideological commitment, whether it’s nationalistic, social, religious, environmental, any kind of ideology, to start to see those parallels.
0:53:36 And kind of like you’ve been hinting at, well, what are the differences?
0:53:40 When does it matter what you think and not just how you think?
0:53:45 So there’s a lot of exciting science to do there, and it’ll be, it’ll be interesting to see where it goes.
0:53:47 I think that’s a good place to leave it.
0:53:54 Once again, the book is called The Ideological Brain, The Radical Science of Flexible Thinking.
0:53:55 This was a lot of fun.
0:53:56 It’s a great book.
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0:53:59 Thank you so much.
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What do you do when you’re faced with evidence that challenges your ideology? Do you engage with that new information? Are you willing to change your mind about your most deeply held beliefs? Are you pre-disposed to be more rigid or more flexible in your thinking?

That’s what political psychologist and neuroscientist Leor Zmigrod wants to know. In her new book, The Ideological Brain, she examines the connection between our biology, our psychology, and our political beliefs.

In today’s episode, Leor speaks with Sean about rigid vs. flexible thinking, how our biology and ideology influence each other, and the conditions under which our ideology is more likely to become extreme.

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May 4, 2025

SKIMS Co-Founder (Emma Grede): They’re Lying About Work Life Balance! I Built The Kardashian Empire! I Built SKIMS Without Fashion Knowledge!
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0:00:02 Work-life balance is your problem.
0:00:04 It isn’t the employer’s responsibility.
0:00:07 Look, I have four kids, and I had to figure out
0:00:08 how I would think about my own ambition
0:00:10 balanced with my parenting.
0:00:10 That’s true.
0:00:12 And we have to have a level of honesty
0:00:15 about what it takes to be really successful.
0:00:17 But is it possible to be number one
0:00:18 but still have all of my evenings and weekends?
0:00:20 No, you know, no, no.
0:00:22 If it’s possible, tell me who she is,
0:00:23 and I’ll show you a liar.
0:00:26 Emma Greed has rewritten the fashion business rulebook.
0:00:28 As the co-founder of multi-billion dollar brands
0:00:31 like Good American and Skims with the Kardashians,
0:00:32 she’s now revealing the secrets
0:00:34 behind her unstoppable success.
0:00:35 You know this Emma here?
0:00:36 Where’d you get these photos?
0:00:37 How old are you here?
0:00:38 15.
0:00:39 And how do you feel about her?
0:00:42 I feel like this person was, like,
0:00:45 dying to escape her circumstances.
0:00:47 I was raised by a single mom,
0:00:47 one of four girls,
0:00:50 and I had a very big hand in raising them
0:00:53 to help my mom keep our family afloat.
0:00:54 But I thank God every day
0:00:56 for the type of upbringing that I had
0:00:58 because it was hammered into me
0:01:00 that nothing is going to come easy.
0:01:02 And that made me who I am.
0:01:03 Gritty.
0:01:04 Fast forward,
0:01:06 and I’m an apparel CEO,
0:01:07 someone who goes out
0:01:09 and raises hundreds of millions of dollars,
0:01:10 somebody who starts an agency
0:01:11 in multiple countries.
0:01:13 I have zero qualifications to do any of that.
0:01:15 Like, I didn’t have talent as a designer,
0:01:17 but I will just make it happen.
0:01:19 There’s a lot of things I want to go into there.
0:01:21 What are the three most important things
0:01:22 in being successful in business?
0:01:23 Do you think it’s possible for someone
0:01:25 to make themself gritty?
0:01:27 How do we not give so many?
0:01:28 My sociality.
0:01:29 And then pitch Chloe.
0:01:31 What was that journey like?
0:01:32 I’ll tell you the truth.
0:01:37 I find it incredibly fascinating
0:01:38 that when we look at the back end
0:01:40 of Spotify and Apple
0:01:41 and our audio channels,
0:01:42 the majority of people
0:01:43 that watch this podcast
0:01:45 haven’t yet hit the follow button
0:01:46 or the subscribe button
0:01:47 wherever you’re listening to this.
0:01:49 I would like to make a deal with you.
0:01:50 If you could do me a huge favor
0:01:51 and hit that subscribe button,
0:01:53 I will work tirelessly
0:01:54 from now until forever
0:01:55 to make the show better
0:01:56 and better and better and better.
0:01:58 I can’t tell you how much it helps
0:01:59 when you hit that subscribe button.
0:02:00 The show gets bigger,
0:02:01 which means we can expand the production,
0:02:04 bring in all the guests you want to see,
0:02:05 and continue to do in this thing we love.
0:02:07 If you could do me that small favor
0:02:07 and hit the follow button,
0:02:09 wherever you’re listening to this,
0:02:10 that would mean the world to me.
0:02:12 That is the only favor I will ever ask you.
0:02:13 Thank you so much for your time.
0:02:19 Emma, what do I need to understand
0:02:22 about your earliest context
0:02:24 in order to understand the woman,
0:02:25 the very, very unique woman,
0:02:26 the very successful woman
0:02:29 that is sat in front of me today?
0:02:30 And when I ask that question,
0:02:33 I’m looking for the characteristics
0:02:34 that were most formative
0:02:38 in creating the woman that is Emma.
0:02:40 What a great way to start.
0:02:43 I think that that’s a great question for me
0:02:46 because so much of who I am
0:02:49 and how I feel about who I am
0:02:50 comes from where I’m from.
0:02:53 And, you know, I say all the time,
0:02:53 I’m from East London.
0:02:55 I like to make that distinction
0:02:58 because I feel like such a Londoner.
0:03:00 And I feel like that, you know,
0:03:01 being from East London,
0:03:03 coming from that place
0:03:06 is so much a part of my character.
0:03:09 It’s so much a part of what is important to me,
0:03:12 like that idea of being,
0:03:14 you know, someone that is reliable,
0:03:17 someone that is honest,
0:03:19 not just, you know, sometimes,
0:03:20 but all the time.
0:03:23 And I’m one of four girls.
0:03:24 I was raised by a single mum
0:03:28 and it was so much kind of hammered into me
0:03:30 that this is where you’re from.
0:03:32 This is not where you need to stay.
0:03:33 The world is your oyster.
0:03:34 You can do anything.
0:03:36 You’re just going to have to work really,
0:03:37 really hard.
0:03:38 And I think all around me,
0:03:41 I saw a lot of people that were working hard.
0:03:43 I saw a lot of people that were hustling
0:03:44 and doing what they needed to do
0:03:45 just to get through the day.
0:03:48 But I had this feeling very much inside of me
0:03:50 that if I wanted more for myself,
0:03:52 it was all completely within reach.
0:03:54 And I think that really came from this,
0:03:56 like East London mentality
0:03:58 and all the people that were around me.
0:03:59 I didn’t need to do my research
0:04:01 to realise that you are a big sister.
0:04:05 Because you’ve got some serious big sister energy.
0:04:06 Even with me,
0:04:07 we’ve known each other for a little while now.
0:04:09 So you’re the oldest of four sisters.
0:04:10 I am indeed.
0:04:12 How did that shape you?
0:04:14 I think in a really big way.
0:04:14 You know,
0:04:16 I have a pretty interesting relationship
0:04:17 with my mum.
0:04:17 You know,
0:04:19 my dad left when we were much younger.
0:04:21 And our family dynamic is like,
0:04:23 she’s the dad,
0:04:24 I’m the mum,
0:04:25 and we have three kids together.
0:04:27 And I really,
0:04:27 you know,
0:04:29 I think if you asked any of my sisters,
0:04:29 they’d say,
0:04:32 Emma had this very big hand
0:04:33 in raising us,
0:04:35 in being pretty formative
0:04:36 in our childhood.
0:04:36 You know,
0:04:38 I would get up as a kid,
0:04:40 I’d iron three school shirts,
0:04:41 I’d make three pack lunches,
0:04:41 my mum would,
0:04:42 you know,
0:04:43 go off to work.
0:04:45 I’d get all the kids in school
0:04:45 and half the time
0:04:46 turn back around
0:04:47 and come home
0:04:47 to watch This Morning.
0:04:50 That was my life,
0:04:50 you know.
0:04:52 There was the odd day
0:04:53 I decided to stay there,
0:04:54 but more often than not,
0:04:55 I was just,
0:04:55 you know,
0:04:57 about trying to help my mum
0:04:59 keep our family afloat.
0:05:01 And I think that that made me
0:05:02 super responsible
0:05:03 at an early age,
0:05:04 but it also gave me
0:05:06 a very early indication
0:05:07 of like how I didn’t
0:05:08 want to live my life.
0:05:10 I knew that the milkman
0:05:10 hadn’t been paid.
0:05:12 I knew that there were bills
0:05:13 dropping on the,
0:05:13 you know,
0:05:14 on the doormat
0:05:15 kind of every day
0:05:16 and I felt that
0:05:18 at a very young age
0:05:19 and I felt the heaviness of that
0:05:21 and I knew it was all down
0:05:21 to my mum
0:05:24 to make ends me
0:05:25 and to figure that out
0:05:27 so that we could all be okay.
0:05:29 And I kind of decided
0:05:30 at a very,
0:05:30 very young age
0:05:31 that I didn’t want
0:05:33 any of that anxiety
0:05:34 and I didn’t want
0:05:35 that heaviness
0:05:36 to stay around
0:05:37 and to weigh on me
0:05:38 as I grew up.
0:05:39 I feel like children
0:05:40 aren’t supposed to grow up
0:05:41 with the heaviness
0:05:42 of bills on the doormat.
0:05:43 Whether they are
0:05:44 or they aren’t,
0:05:44 I actually,
0:05:46 I thank God every day
0:05:47 for the type of upbringing
0:05:48 that I had
0:05:49 because I think,
0:05:50 A,
0:05:51 it’s made me who I am
0:05:53 and I guess there were
0:05:54 parts of my childhood
0:05:56 that essentially
0:05:57 like just didn’t exist
0:05:58 because I didn’t have
0:05:59 the ability to like,
0:06:00 you know,
0:06:00 and still to this day
0:06:01 it’s so interesting actually
0:06:02 like the idea
0:06:03 of like just playing
0:06:04 isn’t part of like
0:06:05 who I am
0:06:07 but it gave me
0:06:08 a lot of other things.
0:06:10 It gave me a sense of,
0:06:10 you know,
0:06:11 I’m an extremely
0:06:13 maternal person
0:06:14 and it gave me
0:06:15 this kind of like
0:06:16 empathetic root
0:06:17 that it’s like
0:06:18 I’m here to look after
0:06:20 a lot of other people
0:06:21 and I know I do that
0:06:22 very, very well.
0:06:23 My energy had to be about,
0:06:24 you know,
0:06:26 making sure my sisters
0:06:26 were fed
0:06:27 and making sure
0:06:28 that the house was clean
0:06:28 and making sure
0:06:29 we were safe
0:06:30 because as wonderful
0:06:31 as East London was
0:06:32 it was also a place
0:06:32 where you needed to have
0:06:34 your wits about you.
0:06:34 You needed to make sure
0:06:36 that you’d brought your bike in,
0:06:37 you needed to make sure
0:06:38 that you were safe
0:06:40 and so my primary instinct
0:06:40 wasn’t like
0:06:41 let me have a laugh right now
0:06:42 and let me see
0:06:43 what my friends are doing.
0:06:44 My primary instinct was
0:06:45 how do I ensure
0:06:45 everybody’s safe
0:06:46 and the door’s locked
0:06:47 and we’re going to be good.
0:06:50 The absence of your father,
0:06:52 in hindsight,
0:06:54 do you notice an influence
0:06:56 that that had on you
0:06:57 as a young woman?
0:06:58 You know,
0:07:00 I’ve had a lot of therapy
0:07:02 so starting from
0:07:03 when I was 18 or 19
0:07:06 I started anger management
0:07:08 and because I felt,
0:07:08 you know,
0:07:10 like I was constantly
0:07:11 in a rage,
0:07:12 like I’ve never had
0:07:13 any issue
0:07:13 with being able
0:07:14 to express myself
0:07:15 and express rage
0:07:16 which I know is something
0:07:17 a lot of women
0:07:18 struggle with,
0:07:18 not me.
0:07:20 And it’s interesting,
0:07:20 you know,
0:07:21 and I’m going to sound
0:07:23 like so unbelievably arrogant
0:07:24 when I say this,
0:07:25 I don’t really have
0:07:27 those daddy issues.
0:07:29 Like I’ve been so fortunate
0:07:30 with the men
0:07:31 that have been in my life.
0:07:32 I’ve never had
0:07:33 a bad boyfriend.
0:07:34 I’ve never had
0:07:36 experiences with men
0:07:37 that have been like
0:07:39 really unfortunate
0:07:40 in that way
0:07:41 and so I think
0:07:42 the absence of
0:07:44 my father in my life
0:07:45 is one thing
0:07:46 but I had a lot
0:07:48 of really important
0:07:48 male influences
0:07:49 around me.
0:07:50 you know,
0:07:51 I had my granddad
0:07:52 that was a big part
0:07:52 of my life,
0:07:53 my granddad Reg,
0:07:54 it’s actually
0:07:55 his birthday today
0:07:56 which is so crazy
0:07:57 that he’s coming up
0:07:58 in conversation
0:07:59 because he does it
0:07:59 every day
0:08:00 and then I had
0:08:01 like two uncles,
0:08:01 Uncle Robbie,
0:08:02 Uncle Joe,
0:08:03 one uncle by marriage,
0:08:03 one uncle,
0:08:05 my blood uncle
0:08:06 and they were just such
0:08:09 like huge figures
0:08:09 in my life
0:08:10 and I had such
0:08:13 amazing male role models
0:08:14 that I knew exactly
0:08:15 what I needed
0:08:16 in my life.
0:08:17 Like I never,
0:08:18 I just,
0:08:18 I don’t feel
0:08:19 like I had
0:08:20 that emptiness
0:08:20 of not having
0:08:22 my father around.
0:08:22 I really,
0:08:23 it just wasn’t
0:08:24 my experience.
0:08:26 Anger management.
0:08:27 Mm-hmm.
0:08:29 Where do those roots
0:08:30 stem from?
0:08:31 You know,
0:08:32 it’s really interesting
0:08:34 because I really felt
0:08:35 like I was raised
0:08:36 in like quite a
0:08:37 blamey culture,
0:08:38 like everything
0:08:39 was somebody else’s fault.
0:08:40 If you weren’t
0:08:42 making enough money,
0:08:42 if you,
0:08:43 you know,
0:08:44 couldn’t make ends meet,
0:08:45 like whatever was happening,
0:08:46 it was the government’s fault,
0:08:47 it was that person’s fault,
0:08:48 it was never about
0:08:48 this idea
0:08:50 that I’ve accepted
0:08:51 as a kind of a radical
0:08:52 part of my life
0:08:52 which is like
0:08:53 self-responsibility.
0:08:55 Like I truly believe
0:08:56 that everything I want,
0:08:57 who I am,
0:09:00 anything is within my reach
0:09:01 if I choose it to be.
0:09:03 But growing up,
0:09:04 that really wasn’t a,
0:09:05 that just wasn’t
0:09:06 a part of my life.
0:09:07 It was very much
0:09:08 about what was happening
0:09:08 over there
0:09:10 and how that affected you.
0:09:11 And so,
0:09:13 it was interesting actually,
0:09:14 I think I just got enraged
0:09:15 thinking that
0:09:17 all the possibilities
0:09:19 that weren’t so obvious to me
0:09:20 were the fault of somebody else.
0:09:22 And I was,
0:09:23 I think,
0:09:24 just a bit of a hothead,
0:09:24 you know,
0:09:25 and what I saw
0:09:27 in my family
0:09:28 and what I saw around me
0:09:29 over and over again
0:09:30 was this ability
0:09:31 to just kind of like
0:09:32 lash out
0:09:33 and not deal with things.
0:09:34 And I absorbed that
0:09:35 as though
0:09:37 it was just the default reaction
0:09:37 to anything.
0:09:39 But I knew pretty early on
0:09:41 I had a really fantastic boyfriend
0:09:43 when I was 18, 19
0:09:44 and he was like,
0:09:45 your reactions
0:09:46 are just not normal.
0:09:47 And I was like,
0:09:47 really?
0:09:48 He said,
0:09:48 yeah,
0:09:49 I think you should try
0:09:50 and deal with that.
0:09:50 And I did.
0:09:52 I went like into a community
0:09:55 like anger management course
0:09:55 and I was like,
0:09:56 oh,
0:09:58 like there’s other ways
0:09:59 to deal with this.
0:10:01 Like I can breathe through it.
0:10:02 I can like find these
0:10:04 like tools and techniques
0:10:04 and figure out
0:10:06 how I can react differently.
0:10:07 and with that
0:10:08 it’s going to come
0:10:09 a different result
0:10:09 and with that
0:10:10 people will treat me
0:10:11 in a different way.
0:10:12 And it was like this
0:10:14 insane moment
0:10:15 of connection for me.
0:10:16 I hadn’t connected
0:10:18 how my behaviour
0:10:20 might be impacting
0:10:21 a lot of my relationships
0:10:22 and what was happening
0:10:23 around me.
0:10:23 But you don’t need
0:10:24 to tell me things
0:10:25 like more than once.
0:10:26 I was like,
0:10:26 got it.
0:10:27 Like, you know,
0:10:28 I stayed in the programme
0:10:29 for like,
0:10:29 I don’t know,
0:10:30 a couple of months
0:10:32 and it’s something
0:10:33 that throughout my life
0:10:33 like therapy
0:10:34 in different ways,
0:10:35 thankfully not
0:10:36 group therapy anymore,
0:10:37 but, you know,
0:10:38 I’ve remained
0:10:40 using therapists
0:10:41 in different ways
0:10:42 to unlock different things
0:10:43 that for me
0:10:44 become difficult
0:10:45 and I think about that
0:10:47 as like a tool
0:10:48 and the way that I grow
0:10:49 and, you know,
0:10:50 when I had kids
0:10:51 I saw a therapist
0:10:52 to really understand
0:10:53 like how I could be
0:10:54 a great parent,
0:10:55 how I would think
0:10:56 about my own ambition
0:10:57 balanced with my parenting
0:10:58 and so it’s like
0:10:59 just something for me
0:11:01 that I feel pretty good
0:11:02 about using someone else
0:11:03 to come and help me
0:11:04 figure something out
0:11:05 that I’m struggling with.
0:11:07 And at that young age
0:11:08 before the age of,
0:11:09 let’s say before the age of 16,
0:11:10 if I’d met you
0:11:11 as a 15-year-old
0:11:11 and said,
0:11:12 what do you want to be
0:11:13 when you’re older,
0:11:13 what would you have said to me?
0:11:14 Fashion designer.
0:11:15 Fashion designer?
0:11:16 Straight away, yeah.
0:11:16 Fashion designer.
0:11:17 And why would you have said that?
0:11:17 I was obsessed.
0:11:18 Well, you’ve got to remember,
0:11:19 you know,
0:11:20 I was born in 82
0:11:21 and in the early 90s
0:11:22 in England
0:11:24 it was like the glory days
0:11:24 of fashion.
0:11:25 You know,
0:11:25 you had all of those
0:11:27 supermodels,
0:11:28 the Cates and the Naomies
0:11:29 and, you know,
0:11:30 amazing designers,
0:11:32 McQueen and Galliano
0:11:33 and the British kind of
0:11:34 Brit art scene
0:11:35 and the, you know,
0:11:36 British music scene.
0:11:37 It was just an amazing time
0:11:38 in England.
0:11:38 But to me,
0:11:39 fashion was this
0:11:41 means of escape.
0:11:41 It was this
0:11:43 fantasy industry.
0:11:44 I didn’t know anyone
0:11:45 that worked in fashion,
0:11:46 which is so crazy.
0:11:48 My grandma worked
0:11:49 in a bra factory,
0:11:50 which I laugh about
0:11:51 all the time now
0:11:52 thinking about how many bras
0:11:52 I make.
0:11:54 But that was like
0:11:55 as close as anything
0:11:55 I knew,
0:11:56 like anyone that had worked
0:11:58 in like the apparel business.
0:11:59 I certainly didn’t understand
0:12:00 the idea of
0:12:01 entrepreneurialism,
0:12:02 having your own business.
0:12:03 To me,
0:12:04 it was just a fantasy.
0:12:04 Like,
0:12:05 I’m here
0:12:06 in Plasto,
0:12:07 it’s shit,
0:12:09 how do I get away from it?
0:12:10 And, you know,
0:12:11 to me it was like,
0:12:12 it’s almost like the movies.
0:12:13 Could have just as well
0:12:14 been Hollywood.
0:12:14 It was like,
0:12:15 that’s over there,
0:12:16 it’s beautiful,
0:12:17 it’s glamorous,
0:12:18 wouldn’t that be fantastic
0:12:19 to be part of that?
0:12:20 And what was,
0:12:21 I was thinking the other day
0:12:22 about money,
0:12:23 I was speaking to a friend
0:12:25 and we were discussing money
0:12:27 as if it was a person
0:12:29 and playing through
0:12:30 the attachment style
0:12:31 we would have with that person,
0:12:32 you know,
0:12:33 like the secure attachment,
0:12:33 the anxious,
0:12:34 the avoidant.
0:12:35 At a young age,
0:12:37 what was money
0:12:38 as a person
0:12:38 in the room,
0:12:39 in your life,
0:12:40 growing up,
0:12:40 in the family?
0:12:42 like,
0:12:45 like the best,
0:12:47 the best friend,
0:12:48 like the best thing ever.
0:12:49 I mean,
0:12:50 you know,
0:12:51 I,
0:12:52 we worshipped money.
0:12:53 We worshipped money,
0:12:54 we worshipped what money
0:12:55 could bring,
0:12:56 we worshipped the material,
0:12:58 stuff that you could get
0:12:59 for having the money.
0:13:00 It was all about the car
0:13:01 and the bag
0:13:01 and the thing
0:13:02 and the thing,
0:13:02 that was it.
0:13:03 Was money around a lot?
0:13:06 It was none of it around.
0:13:07 Absolutely none.
0:13:08 I mean,
0:13:08 I knew,
0:13:09 I knew people
0:13:10 that had money
0:13:11 but they were kind of
0:13:11 over there
0:13:12 doing their thing.
0:13:13 They were not part of
0:13:14 my thing.
0:13:15 But it was,
0:13:17 it was so obvious to me
0:13:18 when I was a kid
0:13:21 that money was something
0:13:23 that I needed to find.
0:13:24 So in my head,
0:13:25 that was always like
0:13:27 playing out in my mind
0:13:27 of like,
0:13:29 how do I get away
0:13:30 from that being my reality?
0:13:32 And I’ve,
0:13:32 you know,
0:13:34 I wanted to leave
0:13:35 where I was,
0:13:35 you know,
0:13:36 I wanted to be,
0:13:38 I used to have this like vision
0:13:39 and I would draw
0:13:40 this fireplace
0:13:42 and this beautiful Christmas tree
0:13:44 and this credenza
0:13:45 and I would,
0:13:45 you know,
0:13:46 and I’d imagine like
0:13:47 that’s the house
0:13:48 of my dreams
0:13:49 and it’s so,
0:13:49 you’re going to think
0:13:50 I’m insane.
0:13:52 But years later,
0:13:52 the first,
0:13:53 so I had Gray
0:13:54 on December,
0:13:56 December 20th
0:13:59 and got him back home,
0:14:01 sat down with my baby
0:14:02 in my living room
0:14:02 for the first time
0:14:04 and literally burst into tears
0:14:05 and my husband was like,
0:14:05 oh my God,
0:14:06 isn’t it like amazing?
0:14:07 We’ve got this baby
0:14:07 and I was like,
0:14:07 no,
0:14:09 it’s amazing.
0:14:10 I drew this scene.
0:14:11 This is the scene
0:14:12 that I drew my whole childhood
0:14:14 and had this beautiful townhouse
0:14:14 in Clerkenwell
0:14:15 and it was like the window
0:14:16 and the credenza
0:14:17 and the Christmas tree
0:14:18 and I was like,
0:14:19 I did it
0:14:21 and I will never forget
0:14:21 the moment.
0:14:22 It was almost eclipsed
0:14:23 having the baby.
0:14:24 I was like,
0:14:25 this is insane.
0:14:26 Like,
0:14:27 I visualised that.
0:14:28 I made that happen.
0:14:29 I’ve drawn this
0:14:30 500 times
0:14:31 and here it is
0:14:32 and here I am.
0:14:33 And if you were
0:14:34 to give someone
0:14:35 some advice,
0:14:36 just jumping ahead
0:14:37 and doing some top line stuff
0:14:39 on how to make
0:14:40 their drawing
0:14:41 come true
0:14:42 in their life,
0:14:43 as you reflect back
0:14:45 on the core components
0:14:47 of that manifestation
0:14:48 becoming a reality,
0:14:49 what are those core components?
0:14:50 Because we’ve all got
0:14:51 a drawing in our head.
0:14:51 Yeah, yeah,
0:14:52 of course we have.
0:14:52 Well, first of all,
0:14:53 I wouldn’t tell them to draw it
0:14:54 because that’s just not me.
0:14:57 That wouldn’t be part
0:14:57 of what I would say.
0:14:58 Absolutely not.
0:15:00 I think that certainly
0:15:02 in this space
0:15:02 of like,
0:15:03 you know,
0:15:05 mindset,
0:15:06 manifestation,
0:15:07 visualisation,
0:15:09 there’s a lot of toxic positivity
0:15:10 around here for women
0:15:11 and what you need to do
0:15:13 is like get to work.
0:15:13 Like,
0:15:14 that is the first thing to say.
0:15:16 So I have like,
0:15:17 yes,
0:15:17 you can dream it,
0:15:18 you can believe it,
0:15:19 you can create a vision board,
0:15:20 all the things,
0:15:20 but don’t forget
0:15:21 what comes under that
0:15:22 and what comes under that
0:15:24 is an enormous amount of work
0:15:25 and an enormous amount
0:15:26 of planning.
0:15:28 I think that what I do
0:15:30 uniquely well,
0:15:31 Stephen,
0:15:33 is that I have an ability
0:15:36 to focus on what I’m doing.
0:15:38 I have an ability
0:15:40 to get better
0:15:41 at what I’m doing,
0:15:41 right,
0:15:42 like to constantly
0:15:43 get better
0:15:44 at whatever it is
0:15:45 that I’m focusing on
0:15:46 and then I have an ability
0:15:49 to drown out
0:15:50 and kind of disregard
0:15:50 the noise
0:15:52 of everyone around me
0:15:53 and those three things
0:15:53 are important
0:15:55 because focus
0:15:56 is like,
0:15:57 it’s like a force multiplier
0:15:57 in work,
0:15:58 right?
0:15:59 When you have a plan
0:16:00 and you have a focus
0:16:01 and you can kind of
0:16:02 go into
0:16:03 what it is
0:16:05 that you find important
0:16:07 and double down
0:16:08 on a very finite
0:16:09 number of things,
0:16:10 that’s what propels
0:16:11 you forward
0:16:13 and I was very fixated
0:16:14 on working in fashion
0:16:15 but I also knew
0:16:17 that I didn’t have talent
0:16:17 as a designer
0:16:18 and as much
0:16:18 as I wanted
0:16:19 to be a fashion designer,
0:16:20 I couldn’t draw.
0:16:21 That drawing
0:16:22 wasn’t a very good one
0:16:22 actually.
0:16:24 If you look at it now,
0:16:24 it’s like,
0:16:25 I couldn’t sketch,
0:16:26 I don’t have much
0:16:27 creative talent.
0:16:28 What I am
0:16:29 is a great enabler
0:16:29 to talent.
0:16:30 I can sit next
0:16:30 to a talent
0:16:31 and understand
0:16:32 their vision
0:16:33 and figure out
0:16:34 a way to turn
0:16:35 that vision
0:16:35 into a reality
0:16:37 but the creative part
0:16:38 isn’t what I do
0:16:38 so well
0:16:40 and so really
0:16:40 understanding
0:16:42 like what is your plan
0:16:43 and how you can
0:16:44 double down
0:16:45 and get into the things
0:16:46 that you are uniquely
0:16:47 good at
0:16:48 and that you uniquely
0:16:48 have skills for
0:16:50 is important.
0:16:51 I think getting
0:16:52 outside of your head
0:16:53 is like really important
0:16:54 because so many people
0:16:55 have dreams
0:16:56 and ambitions
0:16:57 and ideas
0:16:58 but it just exists here.
0:16:59 Like what I do
0:17:00 is a lot of action.
0:17:01 Like I made like
0:17:03 hundreds of calls.
0:17:03 Like I always talk
0:17:04 about this thing
0:17:05 of at some point
0:17:06 because this was
0:17:07 like before email
0:17:08 I would send a lot
0:17:09 of letters
0:17:09 and I thought
0:17:10 no one’s getting back
0:17:10 to me.
0:17:11 Maybe they’re not
0:17:12 getting the letters.
0:17:13 So I started like
0:17:14 hand delivering things
0:17:15 around the West End.
0:17:16 I would buzz
0:17:17 on little doors
0:17:18 of PR agencies
0:17:18 and be like
0:17:19 hi you know
0:17:20 my name’s Emma
0:17:21 and I sent you a letter
0:17:21 but I don’t know
0:17:22 if you got it.
0:17:23 You know what I mean?
0:17:24 It’s like yeah
0:17:25 whatever love
0:17:25 but sometimes
0:17:26 they’d let you up
0:17:26 and sometimes
0:17:27 you’ve had a conversation
0:17:28 with somebody
0:17:29 and whatever right.
0:17:30 so I really believe
0:17:31 in this kind of idea
0:17:32 of action
0:17:33 and then you’ve
0:17:34 just got to like
0:17:36 just really
0:17:37 when I talk about
0:17:37 this idea of
0:17:38 disregarding what
0:17:39 people think
0:17:39 there’s just so much
0:17:40 noise
0:17:41 and you have to
0:17:41 have like this
0:17:42 single-minded focus
0:17:43 on what you’re doing
0:17:44 and I’ve been really
0:17:45 good at drowning
0:17:46 out the noise
0:17:46 not just from
0:17:47 what goes on
0:17:48 inside me
0:17:49 and what you know
0:17:50 my own kind of fear
0:17:51 but also what’s
0:17:52 happening around you
0:17:52 and I think that
0:17:53 those things are
0:17:54 really really key.
0:17:55 when you say
0:17:56 drowning out the noise
0:17:57 there’s a lot of things
0:17:57 I want to go into there
0:17:58 but you talk about
0:17:59 drowning out the noise
0:17:59 I’ll focus on that
0:18:00 because it was the last thing
0:18:01 how do you balance
0:18:03 drowning out the noise
0:18:04 with another principle
0:18:04 that I know is important
0:18:05 to you which is
0:18:06 feedback
0:18:08 especially from customers
0:18:08 because customers
0:18:09 will be saying
0:18:10 we hate this
0:18:11 customers always hate change
0:18:12 and they also don’t
0:18:13 know what they want
0:18:14 so how do you
0:18:15 know what to drown out
0:18:16 and what to consider
0:18:17 to be feedback?
0:18:17 I think that that’s
0:18:19 it’s a great question
0:18:20 and you know
0:18:21 it’s interesting
0:18:22 because I am actually
0:18:23 a person who
0:18:25 takes in a lot of
0:18:25 information
0:18:26 if I’m trying to make
0:18:27 like a really big decision
0:18:27 that I don’t feel
0:18:29 fully qualified to make
0:18:30 which by the way
0:18:31 happens to me all the time
0:18:31 because I’m still
0:18:32 learning so much
0:18:34 I will call a lot of people
0:18:35 that I think are in the know
0:18:36 but at the end of the day
0:18:38 I have to call the play
0:18:38 right and often
0:18:39 if you call up
0:18:40 seven or eight people
0:18:41 they’re going to have
0:18:42 different opinions
0:18:43 there’ll be different
0:18:44 patterns that emerge
0:18:45 there will be
0:18:46 contrarian type of
0:18:47 you know
0:18:48 something that comes out
0:18:48 of that
0:18:49 and so you have to
0:18:51 then still like go
0:18:52 where is my gut
0:18:54 what feels good to me
0:18:55 what’s right for my
0:18:55 customer
0:18:56 I think it’s very
0:18:57 different when you get
0:18:57 customer feedback
0:18:59 because what I’ve learned
0:19:00 is that everything your
0:19:01 customer says is true
0:19:02 because it’s true to them
0:19:04 and so what I do
0:19:05 is like of course
0:19:06 we have a balanced view
0:19:06 we try to like speak
0:19:08 to as many customers
0:19:09 we’re doing giant surveys
0:19:10 and you take you know
0:19:12 the sum of those parts
0:19:13 but when it comes down
0:19:14 to customer feedback
0:19:15 I think it is
0:19:17 it’s ingested
0:19:18 in a very very different way
0:19:19 than like that kind of
0:19:20 decision making feedback
0:19:21 when I make a decision
0:19:23 on behalf of my business
0:19:24 that has to come from my gut
0:19:25 and from the intentions
0:19:26 of where I want that
0:19:27 business to go
0:19:28 when I’m doing things
0:19:28 for customers
0:19:29 it’s very different
0:19:29 because you just want
0:19:30 to please customers
0:19:32 you reference that
0:19:33 calling around people
0:19:34 that you respect
0:19:34 all the time
0:19:36 I do it constantly
0:19:39 I had someone say
0:19:40 that refer to this
0:19:41 as your like personal
0:19:42 board of directors
0:19:43 oh I love that
0:19:43 which is these like
0:19:44 five or seven people
0:19:45 that you typically call
0:19:46 maybe it’s ten
0:19:47 who’s on your
0:19:48 personal board of directors
0:19:49 like who are these people
0:19:49 that are taking
0:19:50 these phone calls
0:19:50 and why are you
0:19:51 calling them
0:19:52 what is it about them
0:19:53 that makes them
0:19:55 a reliable partner
0:19:56 in decisions
0:19:57 well you know
0:19:57 first person
0:19:59 I speak to my husband
0:19:59 a lot
0:20:00 because obviously
0:20:01 we work together
0:20:03 and Jens has a unique
0:20:05 understanding of me
0:20:06 of my weaknesses
0:20:07 of what might be
0:20:07 stopping me
0:20:08 from making a decision
0:20:09 so I feel like
0:20:10 I go to him
0:20:11 a lot
0:20:12 because he will
0:20:13 oh he’s going to
0:20:14 tell me the truth
0:20:16 he’s told me
0:20:17 some of the biggest
0:20:19 unlocks in my life
0:20:20 and my career
0:20:22 have come from Jens
0:20:23 and I will never
0:20:24 ever forget Stephen
0:20:25 like one of my
0:20:26 first board meetings
0:20:27 one of my first companies
0:20:28 it was called ITB
0:20:30 and I would get so nervous
0:20:31 ahead of a board meeting
0:20:32 and he’d be like
0:20:33 why are you so nervous
0:20:34 and I’d be like
0:20:35 I don’t know
0:20:36 because I’m a good chatter
0:20:37 I’m a good presenter
0:20:38 I can sell anything
0:20:38 but you know
0:20:39 I would get to these
0:20:39 board meetings
0:20:40 and I would just
0:20:41 fall apart
0:20:42 and he said to me
0:20:43 just
0:20:45 wrong timing
0:20:45 by the way
0:20:45 if you’re going
0:20:47 to give your wife
0:20:47 a little bit of feedback
0:20:48 literally just before
0:20:49 we went in
0:20:49 and he said
0:20:49 you know what
0:20:50 I really
0:20:51 I know why
0:20:53 you are suffering
0:20:53 here Emma
0:20:54 you have an
0:20:55 employee mentality
0:20:57 and I
0:20:59 I mean I was 26
0:21:00 or 27 years old
0:21:01 I couldn’t think
0:21:02 about anything else
0:21:03 in the whole meeting
0:21:03 because I was like
0:21:05 he’s completely right
0:21:06 I have an employee
0:21:06 mentality
0:21:07 well why
0:21:08 because I’d only
0:21:09 ever been an employee
0:21:10 up until that point
0:21:12 but I was looking
0:21:14 instead of
0:21:14 you know
0:21:16 being there
0:21:16 as the CEO
0:21:18 to guide the board
0:21:19 into a decision
0:21:20 I was looking
0:21:20 for everybody else
0:21:21 to tell me
0:21:22 what to do
0:21:23 and so I was seeking
0:21:24 their approval
0:21:25 instead of going in
0:21:25 and saying
0:21:26 here’s the direction
0:21:27 this is what we’re doing
0:21:28 everybody come with me
0:21:29 and these are the reasons
0:21:31 and so it was such
0:21:32 an interesting insight
0:21:33 and I think that you
0:21:34 could only
0:21:35 or I could have only
0:21:35 heard that
0:21:36 from somebody
0:21:37 so close to me
0:21:38 so at that early
0:21:39 stage in your career
0:21:40 what role
0:21:41 are mentors playing
0:21:42 because we’re talking
0:21:42 about personal
0:21:43 boards of directors here
0:21:43 yeah
0:21:44 these are
0:21:45 in some respects
0:21:46 mentors
0:21:46 yeah
0:21:48 do they matter
0:21:49 and I say this Emma
0:21:49 because I have kids
0:21:50 coming up to me
0:21:50 all the time
0:21:51 saying
0:21:52 Steve I need a mentor
0:21:53 and they sometimes say
0:21:54 can you be my mentor
0:21:55 and I’m thinking
0:21:55 fucking hell
0:21:55 I’ve done
0:21:57 17,000 hours of podcasting
0:21:58 and they haven’t learned
0:21:58 a fucking thing
0:21:58 I’m like
0:22:00 that was the mentorship
0:22:01 that was the mentorship
0:22:03 what’s your take
0:22:04 on finding a mentor
0:22:05 and how pivotal
0:22:06 and important that is
0:22:07 to become a successful person
0:22:08 listen
0:22:08 you know
0:22:09 from my own experience
0:22:11 I don’t think
0:22:13 I had any mentors
0:22:13 you know
0:22:15 I started work
0:22:17 let’s talk about
0:22:17 real work right
0:22:18 so it’s like
0:22:19 I’ve had a job
0:22:20 since I was 12 years old
0:22:21 I’ve worked a paper round
0:22:22 and then I worked
0:22:22 in the delis
0:22:23 and then I worked
0:22:24 in clothes shops
0:22:24 and when I got
0:22:25 my first real job
0:22:27 in an office
0:22:28 in a fashion show
0:22:29 production company
0:22:30 I was 18 years old
0:22:31 so I’ve had
0:22:32 a salaried job
0:22:33 in a place
0:22:33 that was working
0:22:34 towards something
0:22:35 that I felt
0:22:35 was interesting
0:22:36 and in the
0:22:37 kind of direction
0:22:38 of where I wanted
0:22:38 to go
0:22:39 since I was 18
0:22:41 at that point
0:22:42 you make whoever
0:22:43 is around you
0:22:43 if you’re smart
0:22:44 you make whoever
0:22:45 is around you
0:22:45 your mentor
0:22:46 I used to sit
0:22:47 in front of my boss
0:22:48 and everybody
0:22:48 thought that was
0:22:49 so unfortunate
0:22:50 because she could
0:22:51 see my screen
0:22:52 and that was like
0:22:52 the beginnings
0:22:53 of online shopping
0:22:54 Net-a-Porter
0:22:55 was our client
0:22:56 and we all had
0:22:56 a discount
0:22:57 so everyone would
0:22:58 sit on Net-a-Porter
0:22:58 all day
0:22:59 except me
0:23:00 because my boss
0:23:00 sat behind me
0:23:00 and they were like
0:23:02 what a nightmare
0:23:03 and I was like
0:23:04 no not a nightmare
0:23:04 at all
0:23:06 whatever she says
0:23:06 when she’s on her
0:23:07 sales calls
0:23:08 I would write down
0:23:09 and I would use them
0:23:10 later on
0:23:11 on my sales calls
0:23:12 now was she my mentor
0:23:13 no she was my boss
0:23:15 but I used her
0:23:15 as such
0:23:16 because I would
0:23:17 learn from her
0:23:17 I’d take
0:23:18 you know
0:23:18 I even like
0:23:19 copied her outfits
0:23:20 you know
0:23:21 I would do the whole thing
0:23:22 and so for me
0:23:23 she was really formative
0:23:25 but I don’t think
0:23:25 that you should
0:23:26 walk around
0:23:26 looking for a mentor
0:23:27 I think you have to
0:23:27 walk around
0:23:28 asking questions
0:23:29 because anyone
0:23:29 who’s going to be
0:23:30 a good mentor
0:23:31 probably doesn’t
0:23:31 have time
0:23:32 to mentor you
0:23:33 first
0:23:34 secondly
0:23:35 like depending
0:23:36 who you are
0:23:37 and what your exposure
0:23:37 is
0:23:38 you’re not going to
0:23:39 have the right
0:23:39 people around you
0:23:40 to get mentored
0:23:41 so you’ve just got
0:23:42 to be super inquisitive
0:23:43 and I think it’s
0:23:44 really important
0:23:45 to take where you are
0:23:46 and figure out
0:23:47 like who is around you
0:23:48 and where can you
0:23:48 get that type
0:23:49 of mentorship from
0:23:50 for me in the beginning
0:23:51 I would just take
0:23:53 whatever client I had
0:23:54 like if I come into
0:23:55 contact with the CMO
0:23:56 or the CEO
0:23:57 I’d just ask him a question
0:23:58 I’d be in the meeting
0:23:58 I’d be like
0:24:00 I have two other
0:24:00 questions for you
0:24:01 I have nothing to do
0:24:02 with the work
0:24:02 that we’re doing
0:24:03 or the you know
0:24:04 whatever brief
0:24:05 I was there to deliver
0:24:06 and I’d ask a question
0:24:08 and what part of you
0:24:09 do you think
0:24:10 if I removed
0:24:12 and this could be
0:24:13 a skill or a characteristic
0:24:15 would definitely assure
0:24:15 that you wouldn’t
0:24:16 be where you are today
0:24:17 like what is the
0:24:18 sacred part of you
0:24:19 that is defining
0:24:20 because people see
0:24:21 Emma today
0:24:22 and they see these skills
0:24:22 and this knowledge
0:24:23 and all this stuff
0:24:24 and these relationships
0:24:24 and these businesses
0:24:25 and this success
0:24:26 but what is the like
0:24:27 because you said
0:24:28 I’m dyslexic
0:24:29 and I think you left school
0:24:30 you dropped out of school
0:24:30 at 15
0:24:32 and then you went to
0:24:32 college for a while
0:24:33 and you lasted
0:24:34 six months there
0:24:35 I’m a serial dropout
0:24:36 so it’s not something
0:24:37 you learn necessarily
0:24:37 in school
0:24:38 so I’m wondering
0:24:39 what the characteristic is
0:24:41 that was the like
0:24:42 the wind in one sails
0:24:44 that brought you here
0:24:45 and if I removed that thing
0:24:46 you definitely wouldn’t
0:24:47 be here
0:24:47 and it could only
0:24:48 give me one thing
0:24:50 I mean listen
0:24:51 we didn’t call it
0:24:52 that then
0:24:54 but it would come down
0:24:54 to grit
0:24:55 grit
0:24:57 I think that that is
0:24:58 what we would say
0:24:58 now
0:24:59 you know
0:25:00 Angela Duckworth
0:25:01 like coined that
0:25:02 phrase I guess
0:25:04 or that term
0:25:05 and wrote that
0:25:06 fantastic book
0:25:07 about grit
0:25:07 that all
0:25:08 everybody read
0:25:09 and was like
0:25:09 oh my god
0:25:10 I just want my kids
0:25:11 to have grit
0:25:12 like my kids want
0:25:13 for nothing
0:25:13 they’re not going
0:25:13 to be gritty
0:25:15 like it’s just facts
0:25:17 you don’t go off
0:25:18 in bel-air gritty
0:25:18 you know
0:25:19 but I think
0:25:19 that if you
0:25:21 if I think about
0:25:23 what it is for me
0:25:24 and still is
0:25:26 I’m just gritty
0:25:28 I’m very clear
0:25:29 about what I want
0:25:30 and what I need
0:25:32 and I will find a way
0:25:33 whatever it is
0:25:34 you know
0:25:35 I am not
0:25:36 any of the things
0:25:37 that you would have
0:25:38 on my resume
0:25:39 you know
0:25:39 an apparel
0:25:40 CEO
0:25:42 someone who goes out
0:25:42 and raises hundreds
0:25:43 of millions of dollars
0:25:44 somebody who starts
0:25:44 an agency
0:25:45 in multiple countries
0:25:47 I have zero qualifications
0:25:48 to do any of that stuff
0:25:50 I will just make it happen
0:25:52 because I’m in the moment
0:25:53 I see the opportunity
0:25:54 and I am prepared
0:25:55 and I’m prepared
0:25:56 because it’s like
0:25:57 I have done all the work
0:25:59 to get to the point
0:26:01 where that thing
0:26:03 that is in front of me
0:26:04 I will make it happen
0:26:05 I’ve done enough work
0:26:06 to say
0:26:06 okay
0:26:08 I can take this
0:26:09 to that next place
0:26:10 and is that grit
0:26:11 and ember
0:26:12 that life blew on
0:26:13 because I wonder
0:26:14 if I’d gone back
0:26:14 and I’d met Emma
0:26:15 at 18 years old
0:26:16 whether she would have
0:26:17 said it like
0:26:18 to me like that
0:26:19 so
0:26:20 no
0:26:21 Emma at 18 years old
0:26:22 would have been like
0:26:23 it’s so interesting
0:26:23 you know
0:26:24 we don’t have yearbooks
0:26:25 in England
0:26:26 but if we did
0:26:27 I reckon
0:26:28 I would have been
0:26:28 like the most likely
0:26:29 to succeed
0:26:30 I don’t think anyone
0:26:31 at school was like
0:26:31 oh she’s a bit
0:26:32 of a waistcoat
0:26:32 no
0:26:32 it’s like
0:26:34 I had that mentality
0:26:36 that I was away
0:26:36 from the pack
0:26:37 that I was going
0:26:38 to do something special
0:26:41 but also my mentality
0:26:41 was like
0:26:43 whatever it takes
0:26:43 you know
0:26:43 if I could
0:26:45 if I think about
0:26:46 the most important
0:26:47 words
0:26:49 for career advancement
0:26:51 like the three
0:26:52 most important words
0:26:52 would be like
0:26:53 I’ll do that
0:26:54 that was me
0:26:55 I had my hand up
0:26:56 my whole life
0:26:57 I’ll do that
0:26:59 like every single time
0:27:00 anytime anyone
0:27:01 has asked me
0:27:02 whatever it took
0:27:04 wherever I’ve been
0:27:05 in whichever workplace
0:27:05 I was like
0:27:06 I’ll do it
0:27:07 I’ll do that
0:27:08 and that is what
0:27:09 like people
0:27:11 started to look at me
0:27:11 as someone
0:27:12 that would just
0:27:13 figure it out
0:27:13 right
0:27:13 it’s not like
0:27:14 I had any
0:27:16 particular skill
0:27:17 I just put myself
0:27:18 in a situation
0:27:21 and in the space
0:27:21 of
0:27:23 let me have a go
0:27:25 every single time
0:27:25 to me it makes
0:27:26 perfect sense
0:27:27 it makes perfect sense
0:27:28 because
0:27:29 you grew up
0:27:30 in a situation
0:27:31 as an older sister
0:27:32 where you were
0:27:32 playing the role
0:27:33 of a dad
0:27:34 where you did
0:27:34 have to put your
0:27:34 hand up
0:27:35 and say
0:27:35 I’ll do that
0:27:36 you did have
0:27:36 to make the
0:27:37 lunches
0:27:38 and I sometimes
0:27:39 think back
0:27:40 to my own life
0:27:40 and think about
0:27:41 how a void
0:27:41 of independence
0:27:43 is maybe a scary
0:27:44 thing to some parents
0:27:45 but it’s also
0:27:45 an incredibly
0:27:46 useful thing
0:27:47 for a kid
0:27:47 to learn
0:27:48 that I have
0:27:49 to get myself
0:27:50 from A to B
0:27:51 whether it’s
0:27:52 from home
0:27:52 to school
0:27:53 or from home
0:27:53 to dinner
0:27:54 or from home
0:27:55 to whatever
0:27:56 it might be
0:27:56 and that
0:27:57 I don’t know
0:27:58 I look at your life
0:27:58 and go
0:27:59 you had this
0:27:59 massive void
0:28:00 of independence
0:28:01 and in there
0:28:02 grows
0:28:03 skills
0:28:03 belief
0:28:04 and understanding
0:28:05 about life
0:28:05 that most
0:28:05 others
0:28:06 don’t get
0:28:07 so it’s no surprise
0:28:08 that at such a young age
0:28:10 you thought you could do stuff
0:28:10 because so many people
0:28:12 they have an idea
0:28:13 they know where they are now
0:28:14 and they kind of
0:28:15 might have an idea
0:28:16 of where they want to be
0:28:17 but the gap between it
0:28:17 is not something
0:28:18 they’ve ever had to traverse
0:28:20 like they’ve never had to walk it
0:28:21 do you think it’s possible
0:28:22 for someone to make
0:28:23 themselves gritty
0:28:23 you know you’ve got
0:28:24 team members
0:28:24 employees
0:28:26 you can see the variance
0:28:27 in gritty and ungritty
0:28:28 resilience
0:28:29 I see a lot of ungrittiness
0:28:30 yeah go on
0:28:32 where do you see
0:28:33 the ungrittiness
0:28:34 and is it possible
0:28:34 to make yourself gritty
0:28:35 have you ever seen
0:28:36 someone go from
0:28:37 what should we call it
0:28:38 what’s the opposite
0:28:38 of grittiness
0:28:39 floppy
0:28:40 I don’t know
0:28:41 I don’t know
0:28:41 what the opposite
0:28:43 of grittiness is actually
0:28:45 soft I guess
0:28:46 yes listen
0:28:47 I do
0:28:49 if you want it
0:28:50 like anything else
0:28:50 right
0:28:50 it’s got
0:28:51 it’s all about
0:28:54 do you actually
0:28:55 want to be that way
0:28:56 and to behave that way
0:28:56 and we were talking
0:28:57 about this
0:28:58 actually funny enough
0:28:59 on the way over
0:29:00 because you know
0:29:01 I just came from
0:29:02 my own office
0:29:03 two minutes away
0:29:04 it’s Friday
0:29:06 all of the product
0:29:06 teams are in
0:29:07 the rest of the office
0:29:08 is pretty empty
0:29:10 and you know
0:29:10 and I think
0:29:11 post-COVID
0:29:12 people have really
0:29:14 taken the liberty
0:29:14 of
0:29:17 as we allow them
0:29:17 right
0:29:18 they can come in
0:29:19 four days a week
0:29:21 and it’s interesting
0:29:22 because we talk
0:29:23 so so much
0:29:25 about the flexibility
0:29:27 of working from home
0:29:28 and what Zoom Life
0:29:29 has kind of done
0:29:29 for business
0:29:30 but we don’t talk
0:29:31 about any of the
0:29:32 rigidity of it
0:29:33 and what it takes
0:29:34 away from work
0:29:36 and I can tell you
0:29:37 and I can guarantee you
0:29:39 that had I been
0:29:41 a work from home
0:29:42 person in my 20s
0:29:43 I would not
0:29:44 be where I am now
0:29:46 there is no doubt
0:29:46 in my mind
0:29:48 and I think about
0:29:49 some you know
0:29:50 I met my husband
0:29:50 at work
0:29:52 I made some of my
0:29:53 best strongest
0:29:55 relationships in my life
0:29:55 that are the most
0:29:56 important things to me
0:29:57 and the foundation
0:29:59 of my happiness
0:30:00 and my like
0:30:02 being a solid person
0:30:03 at work
0:30:03 that’s where
0:30:04 those relationships
0:30:05 come from
0:30:05 and so I think
0:30:06 it’s really interesting
0:30:07 now that we have
0:30:08 this aversion
0:30:09 of wanting to be
0:30:11 away from the office
0:30:12 all of the time
0:30:12 and I’m like
0:30:13 oh that’s
0:30:13 like
0:30:14 it’s so interesting
0:30:15 to me
0:30:15 because I’m like
0:30:16 such a
0:30:17 I’m like an
0:30:18 in-person person
0:30:18 I want to be
0:30:19 with people
0:30:19 I want to collaborate
0:30:20 I want to do
0:30:21 things quickly
0:30:23 and the culture
0:30:24 of work right now
0:30:26 makes that so hard
0:30:27 so I think
0:30:28 yes you can
0:30:29 teach someone
0:30:31 to have grit
0:30:32 but I can’t teach
0:30:32 you on a screen
0:30:33 babe
0:30:34 I can’t reach you
0:30:35 you won’t see
0:30:36 how I move
0:30:37 and in that same way
0:30:38 that I had this woman
0:30:40 that sat behind me
0:30:41 and I would take notes
0:30:41 of everything she said
0:30:42 that happened
0:30:44 in real time
0:30:44 right
0:30:45 she would walk
0:30:46 out of the room
0:30:46 and I’d be on my
0:30:47 next new business call
0:30:48 saying her lines
0:30:49 like it was just
0:30:50 that quick
0:30:50 and that immediate
0:30:51 and I would test it out
0:30:52 and I’d make it my own
0:30:54 all of that is lost
0:30:55 and so I feel
0:30:56 a little bit sad
0:30:57 for the way
0:30:57 that we’re working
0:30:58 right now
0:30:59 because I don’t think
0:31:00 that we’re having
0:31:01 that exchange
0:31:02 of you know
0:31:03 what happens
0:31:03 when you’re in
0:31:04 a really dynamic
0:31:05 environment
0:31:05 and you’re able
0:31:06 to learn from
0:31:08 people around you
0:31:09 because we’re not
0:31:09 as together
0:31:10 as we once were
0:31:11 when you’re looking
0:31:12 around your team
0:31:13 and thinking
0:31:14 that person’s
0:31:14 going to be a star
0:31:15 in the future
0:31:15 that person’s
0:31:16 going to be a star
0:31:16 in the future
0:31:17 which I’m always doing
0:31:18 which I’m always doing
0:31:18 as well
0:31:19 always always always
0:31:19 always
0:31:20 what are the factors
0:31:21 or the characteristics
0:31:22 of those people
0:31:22 that you look at
0:31:23 in your office
0:31:23 and go that’s
0:31:24 she’s going to be a star
0:31:25 he’s going to be a star
0:31:26 what is it about them
0:31:27 what are they doing
0:31:28 that others aren’t doing
0:31:29 well I you know
0:31:30 people ask me this
0:31:30 all the time
0:31:31 I think that
0:31:33 the sure way
0:31:34 to put yourself
0:31:34 in a position
0:31:36 for more responsibility
0:31:37 for promotion
0:31:38 is to be excellent
0:31:39 at what you’re doing
0:31:40 right
0:31:40 like I
0:31:42 I find it really difficult
0:31:43 when people are like
0:31:43 you know
0:31:44 I’d really like to do
0:31:45 this thing over there
0:31:46 I’d really like that opportunity
0:31:47 and I’m like
0:31:48 but you’re only 70%
0:31:49 good at what you’re doing now
0:31:50 like I’m looking at
0:31:52 the 120% people
0:31:53 the people that are
0:31:54 smashing it in the role
0:31:55 that they’re at now
0:31:56 before they’re going to go
0:31:57 anywhere else
0:31:58 so that’s the first thing
0:31:58 to say
0:31:59 but I don’t think
0:31:59 it’s any
0:32:01 I again
0:32:02 I hire much more
0:32:03 for attitude
0:32:06 over experience
0:32:06 right
0:32:07 I really want the people
0:32:08 that come in
0:32:10 with like a winning mentality
0:32:11 a figure it out mentality
0:32:12 and also
0:32:13 what I love
0:32:14 is these people
0:32:15 that have like
0:32:16 an understanding
0:32:17 across the business
0:32:18 it’s like you are
0:32:19 an amazing thoroughbred
0:32:20 you know
0:32:21 wholesale salesperson
0:32:23 but you really want
0:32:23 to learn e-com
0:32:24 and you really want
0:32:25 to learn about stores
0:32:26 and you really
0:32:27 have a good understanding
0:32:27 what’s happening
0:32:28 planning and merchandising
0:32:29 like you know
0:32:31 in business leadership
0:32:31 language
0:32:31 they call them
0:32:32 the t-shaped leaders
0:32:33 but it’s like
0:32:33 that’s what
0:32:35 that’s what I care about
0:32:35 people that have
0:32:37 an interest in
0:32:38 the entirety of our business
0:32:39 and they can see
0:32:40 outside of the lane
0:32:41 or the division
0:32:42 that they work in
0:32:43 and so that becomes
0:32:44 interesting to me
0:32:45 but to me
0:32:45 it’s so much more
0:32:46 mentality
0:32:47 energy
0:32:48 enthusiasm
0:32:50 attitude
0:32:51 I’m also
0:32:52 one of the things
0:32:52 that I think
0:32:54 is massively overlooked
0:32:55 but a key thing
0:32:56 now is flexibility
0:32:57 because I hire
0:32:58 a lot of people
0:32:58 that are in their
0:32:59 40s and 50s
0:33:00 right
0:33:01 for super senior
0:33:02 executive leadership
0:33:03 level roles
0:33:04 but if you come to me
0:33:05 from a competitor
0:33:06 and you believe
0:33:07 that the only way
0:33:08 to get from here
0:33:09 to here
0:33:09 is the way
0:33:10 you’ve been doing it
0:33:11 for the last 20 years
0:33:13 that’s problematic to me
0:33:13 I need you to come
0:33:14 both with the experience
0:33:16 and a level of flexibility
0:33:17 because technology
0:33:18 means that the customer
0:33:20 and the consumer
0:33:21 experience is changing
0:33:22 all the time
0:33:23 so that ability
0:33:23 to say
0:33:24 I’ve got all of this
0:33:24 knowledge
0:33:25 but I’m willing
0:33:26 and ready to flex
0:33:28 is like really important
0:33:29 so I need
0:33:30 I need all those things
0:33:31 I need a lot
0:33:32 Stephen
0:33:33 you don’t say
0:33:34 but what are the red flags
0:33:35 very demanding
0:33:37 tell me some sentences
0:33:37 I could say
0:33:38 in an interview with you
0:33:39 that would be
0:33:40 immediate red flags
0:33:41 oh I’ve got a good one
0:33:43 so can you talk to me
0:33:45 about work-life balance
0:33:46 in this organisation
0:33:48 sorry babe
0:33:49 I’m leaving
0:33:50 I’m like
0:33:51 get out
0:33:52 here’s the thing
0:33:53 work-life balance
0:33:54 is your problem
0:33:56 like that’s yours
0:33:56 to figure out
0:33:57 because the way
0:33:58 we run organisations
0:33:59 now
0:33:59 is that
0:34:00 no one misses
0:34:01 a dentist appointment
0:34:03 or a doctor’s appointment
0:34:03 or a haircut
0:34:04 or their kids
0:34:05 parent teacher conference
0:34:07 at our organisations
0:34:07 that’s just not
0:34:08 how we work anymore
0:34:08 right
0:34:09 like you come in
0:34:10 you have set hours
0:34:11 but you know
0:34:12 there’s flexibility
0:34:13 within the
0:34:14 your working life
0:34:15 it’s not like
0:34:16 oh my goodness
0:34:16 such and such
0:34:17 it’s not at their desk
0:34:17 that’s just not
0:34:18 how we work anymore
0:34:19 so when somebody
0:34:20 talks to me
0:34:22 about their work-life balance
0:34:24 in an interview process
0:34:24 I’m like
0:34:26 something is wrong with you
0:34:27 you haven’t been able
0:34:27 to figure that out
0:34:28 that’s not the way
0:34:30 you win this interview
0:34:31 I’m not trying to give this away
0:34:32 go on go on
0:34:33 I’m not trying to give this away
0:34:34 but
0:34:35 because it might
0:34:36 fuck me over saying this
0:34:37 but um
0:34:38 we do a screening survey
0:34:39 and one of the questions
0:34:40 tests for this
0:34:40 so I actually know
0:34:42 the exact percentage
0:34:43 of the general public
0:34:44 that when asked this question
0:34:45 will pick work-life balance
0:34:47 as one of the most important things
0:34:48 and it’s roughly 33%
0:34:49 33
0:34:50 so 33% of people
0:34:51 on our screening survey
0:34:52 will say that
0:34:53 work-life balance
0:34:55 is more important to them
0:34:56 than another range of options
0:34:56 including
0:34:58 doing perfect work
0:34:59 beating the competition
0:35:01 leading and inspiring others
0:35:02 having a happy team etc
0:35:02 they’ll pick
0:35:03 work-life balance
0:35:04 as being one of their
0:35:05 most important things
0:35:07 so it’s a lot of people
0:35:08 that prioritise this
0:35:09 and it’s not to say
0:35:09 for me
0:35:09 listen
0:35:11 it’s not to say
0:35:11 for me
0:35:12 that it’s a bad thing
0:35:14 but it’s
0:35:16 it’s not what I would pick
0:35:17 no babe
0:35:18 it’s not what you would pick
0:35:19 because you’re ambitious
0:35:20 as anything
0:35:21 so maybe you won’t fit
0:35:21 you know
0:35:23 it’s very interesting
0:35:23 right
0:35:24 because I wonder
0:35:25 if you put on that list
0:35:26 of options
0:35:27 earning
0:35:29 10% more year on year
0:35:31 getting a meaningful bonus
0:35:31 right
0:35:31 because
0:35:32 here’s the thing
0:35:33 these things correlate
0:35:34 and that’s what people
0:35:34 don’t understand
0:35:35 in order to run
0:35:36 an organisation
0:35:37 where there is
0:35:38 the ability
0:35:40 for your people
0:35:40 to have a good
0:35:41 work-life balance
0:35:43 you have to be
0:35:43 profitable
0:35:44 the company
0:35:45 has to be
0:35:45 you know
0:35:47 in line with
0:35:47 if not
0:35:49 beating its competition
0:35:50 we have to be able
0:35:52 to run
0:35:53 an efficient business
0:35:55 to give people
0:35:56 what they need
0:35:57 the two things
0:35:58 go hand in hand
0:35:59 and so I have this
0:36:00 idea that
0:36:01 with the people
0:36:01 that I work with
0:36:02 like we’re in a social
0:36:03 like we’re in a contract
0:36:04 together right
0:36:04 it’s like
0:36:05 you’re going to work
0:36:06 really hard
0:36:06 and in return
0:36:07 you should get
0:36:09 an amazing place
0:36:09 to work
0:36:10 you should get
0:36:11 an incredible
0:36:12 environment
0:36:14 that is feeding you
0:36:15 in ways that are
0:36:16 not just about
0:36:17 your job right
0:36:18 and so
0:36:19 when I look around
0:36:20 at our office
0:36:21 and our organisation
0:36:22 we’re doing
0:36:22 you know
0:36:22 I just
0:36:23 I left the office
0:36:24 yesterday
0:36:24 there was like
0:36:25 a fertility seminar
0:36:26 going on
0:36:27 where there were
0:36:27 like hundreds
0:36:28 of people
0:36:29 in the kitchen
0:36:29 of our office
0:36:30 all learning
0:36:31 about having
0:36:31 their eggs
0:36:32 frozen
0:36:33 and like
0:36:33 various different
0:36:35 I have four kids
0:36:35 I clearly didn’t
0:36:36 need to be in the
0:36:36 seminar
0:36:36 I’m like
0:36:37 I’m done
0:36:38 but you know
0:36:39 that was happening
0:36:39 it’s like
0:36:40 we do things
0:36:41 for our employees
0:36:42 that are above
0:36:42 and beyond
0:36:45 what a workplace
0:36:45 back in the day
0:36:46 may have considered
0:36:47 the norm
0:36:49 so I just feel
0:36:50 like you’ve got
0:36:51 to with that
0:36:52 like something
0:36:52 has to give
0:36:53 and there are
0:36:53 certain things
0:36:53 that are the
0:36:54 employee’s
0:36:55 responsibility
0:36:56 within that
0:36:56 and you figuring
0:36:57 out what works
0:36:58 for your life
0:36:58 how you’re going
0:36:59 to pick up
0:36:59 your kids
0:37:00 how you get
0:37:00 home
0:37:01 how you get
0:37:02 to work
0:37:02 what happens
0:37:03 these are
0:37:03 all things
0:37:04 that you need
0:37:04 to figure out
0:37:05 within the
0:37:05 construct
0:37:06 of your life
0:37:07 that isn’t
0:37:08 the employer’s
0:37:09 job
0:37:10 that isn’t
0:37:11 the employer’s
0:37:12 responsibility
0:37:13 I’m going to
0:37:13 play devil’s advocate
0:37:14 so what people
0:37:15 are I guess
0:37:15 when they hit
0:37:16 that button
0:37:17 and they say
0:37:18 I want work life
0:37:18 balance
0:37:19 what they are
0:37:20 maybe alluding
0:37:20 to is
0:37:22 am I expected
0:37:22 to work
0:37:23 seven days a week
0:37:24 because
0:37:25 I need that
0:37:25 information
0:37:26 to be able
0:37:26 to figure out
0:37:27 if I’m going
0:37:27 to be able
0:37:28 to pick up
0:37:28 my kids
0:37:29 and be able
0:37:29 to do
0:37:29 my
0:37:31 DJing
0:37:32 on the weekend
0:37:32 so
0:37:34 what is
0:37:34 the expectation
0:37:35 in your business
0:37:36 I don’t think
0:37:37 the expectation
0:37:38 is that anyone
0:37:39 is going to
0:37:40 have to work
0:37:41 seven days a week
0:37:43 in order to get
0:37:43 you know
0:37:44 to have an average
0:37:45 job
0:37:45 like they’re not
0:37:46 going to have
0:37:47 to do that
0:37:48 if you have
0:37:49 ambition
0:37:50 if you want
0:37:51 to
0:37:53 do the most
0:37:53 if you want
0:37:54 to grow
0:37:55 if you want
0:37:55 to be one of
0:37:56 those people
0:37:56 that’s like
0:37:57 you know
0:37:57 at the top
0:37:58 of the organization
0:37:59 the chances
0:37:59 are
0:38:00 you might
0:38:00 have to
0:38:00 work
0:38:01 a little
0:38:01 bit more
0:38:02 that’s the
0:38:03 truth
0:38:03 what are we
0:38:04 talking about
0:38:04 here
0:38:04 we’re going
0:38:05 to lie
0:38:05 to everyone
0:38:06 do you
0:38:06 work five
0:38:07 days a week
0:38:07 Stephen
0:38:08 no babe
0:38:09 you’re working
0:38:09 on a Saturday
0:38:10 and a Sunday
0:38:11 and if I text you
0:38:12 wherever you are
0:38:12 in the world
0:38:13 you come back
0:38:13 to me
0:38:14 within about
0:38:14 an hour
0:38:16 I’m assuming
0:38:16 that that’s
0:38:17 not just
0:38:17 what you do
0:38:18 for me
0:38:18 that that’s
0:38:19 just how
0:38:20 you roll
0:38:20 and that’s
0:38:21 how I roll
0:38:22 and that’s
0:38:22 how most
0:38:22 successful
0:38:23 people roll
0:38:24 and you
0:38:24 know
0:38:25 it’s like
0:38:26 there is
0:38:26 something
0:38:27 to speed
0:38:27 and agility
0:38:28 and I don’t
0:38:29 listen
0:38:30 I think I have
0:38:30 a tremendous
0:38:31 work-life balance
0:38:32 I am in
0:38:33 Malibu
0:38:34 most weekends
0:38:34 I’m on the
0:38:35 beach
0:38:35 but I think
0:38:36 that we have
0:38:36 to have a
0:38:37 level of
0:38:37 honesty
0:38:38 about what
0:38:38 it takes
0:38:39 to be
0:38:41 really successful
0:38:41 and I think
0:38:42 that everybody
0:38:42 is tired
0:38:43 of hustle
0:38:43 culture
0:38:44 people are
0:38:44 tired
0:38:45 of burnout
0:38:47 and figuring
0:38:48 out how
0:38:48 you can
0:38:49 do what
0:38:50 you need
0:38:50 to do
0:38:51 and be
0:38:51 really
0:38:51 successful
0:38:52 at the same
0:38:52 time
0:38:52 is like
0:38:53 what I
0:38:53 consider
0:38:54 personal
0:38:54 responsibility
0:38:55 but at the
0:38:56 same time
0:38:56 if we
0:38:57 tell everybody
0:38:57 that to be
0:38:58 really successful
0:38:59 you can do
0:39:00 that in a
0:39:00 way that
0:39:02 is you know
0:39:03 without being
0:39:04 150%
0:39:05 without waking
0:39:06 up most days
0:39:06 and doing
0:39:06 some type
0:39:07 of work
0:39:07 without thinking
0:39:08 about work
0:39:08 a lot
0:39:09 it’s just
0:39:10 not
0:39:11 it’s not
0:39:11 honest
0:39:12 and it’s
0:39:13 not
0:39:15 it wouldn’t
0:39:15 connect
0:39:16 with what
0:39:17 I see
0:39:18 and what
0:39:18 my experience
0:39:19 are of most
0:39:19 people that
0:39:20 are truly
0:39:20 successful
0:39:21 why do some
0:39:21 people hate
0:39:22 what you just
0:39:22 said?
0:39:23 I think
0:39:23 because it
0:39:24 hits them
0:39:24 in a
0:39:24 place
0:39:25 of like
0:39:25 I just
0:39:25 don’t want
0:39:26 to do
0:39:26 that
0:39:27 I want
0:39:27 all the
0:39:28 benefits
0:39:28 but I
0:39:28 don’t want
0:39:29 to do
0:39:29 the bit
0:39:29 in the
0:39:29 middle
0:39:30 and I
0:39:30 get that
0:39:30 it’s not
0:39:31 for everyone
0:39:31 then don’t
0:39:32 do it
0:39:33 but is it
0:39:33 but is it
0:39:33 but is it
0:39:33 possible to
0:39:34 have the
0:39:35 success
0:39:36 to be
0:39:36 number
0:39:36 one
0:39:36 to be
0:39:37 on the
0:39:37 magazines
0:39:38 to be
0:39:38 Emma
0:39:40 and is
0:39:41 there like
0:39:41 not a way
0:39:43 where I can
0:39:43 have my
0:39:44 evenings and
0:39:44 weekends but
0:39:45 still get
0:39:45 like
0:39:46 I have some
0:39:47 evenings and
0:39:47 weekends
0:39:48 but like I
0:39:49 want all of my
0:39:50 evenings and
0:39:50 weekends
0:39:52 if it’s
0:39:52 possible
0:39:52 tell me
0:39:53 who she
0:39:53 is
0:39:54 and I’ll
0:39:54 tell you
0:39:54 I’ll show
0:39:55 you a liar
0:39:58 you know
0:40:00 I don’t
0:40:01 think so
0:40:03 and honestly
0:40:03 Stephen
0:40:04 like what
0:40:04 are we
0:40:05 talking about
0:40:05 because
0:40:06 we
0:40:07 I think
0:40:08 that most
0:40:08 people
0:40:10 most people
0:40:10 want
0:40:11 a
0:40:13 you know
0:40:14 they don’t
0:40:14 want
0:40:15 everything
0:40:15 right
0:40:16 it’s like
0:40:16 most people
0:40:17 don’t
0:40:17 are not
0:40:18 sitting here
0:40:18 being like
0:40:18 I need
0:40:18 to be in
0:40:19 all the
0:40:19 magazines
0:40:20 I want
0:40:20 this
0:40:20 I want
0:40:21 that
0:40:21 it’s like
0:40:22 most people
0:40:22 want to
0:40:24 have security
0:40:24 of a
0:40:25 well-paying
0:40:26 job
0:40:26 they want
0:40:26 to you
0:40:27 know
0:40:27 be able
0:40:28 to afford
0:40:29 their rent
0:40:29 or their
0:40:29 mortgage
0:40:30 and have
0:40:31 a nice
0:40:31 car
0:40:32 and live
0:40:32 well
0:40:32 and go
0:40:33 on a few
0:40:33 holidays
0:40:34 and that’s
0:40:34 like a
0:40:35 good life
0:40:36 should you
0:40:36 be able
0:40:37 to do
0:40:37 that
0:40:38 absolutely
0:40:39 should you
0:40:39 be able
0:40:40 to do
0:40:40 that
0:40:40 without
0:40:41 working
0:40:41 evenings
0:40:42 and weekends
0:40:43 and putting
0:40:43 all of the
0:40:44 hours in
0:40:45 yeah I
0:40:45 really think
0:40:46 that you
0:40:46 should
0:40:47 but if
0:40:47 you are
0:40:48 leading
0:40:48 an
0:40:49 extraordinary
0:40:50 life
0:40:51 to think
0:40:51 that
0:40:52 extraordinary
0:40:53 effort
0:40:53 wouldn’t be
0:40:54 coupled to
0:40:54 that
0:40:54 somehow
0:40:55 is
0:40:57 crazy
0:40:58 it’s
0:40:58 interesting
0:40:59 post-pandemic
0:41:00 how it feels
0:41:01 like leaders
0:41:03 got gaslit a little bit
0:41:04 founders got
0:41:06 gaslit by
0:41:06 platforms
0:41:07 you know like if you go on LinkedIn
0:41:10 you’ve got all these people telling you
0:41:11 how to run a business
0:41:13 and that what you’re doing wrong
0:41:14 and work-life balance
0:41:15 and you’ve got to be more like this
0:41:17 and you’ve got to be this kind of leader
0:41:18 and you have to be this empathy
0:41:19 and do this and that and the other
0:41:21 and if you’re a young founder
0:41:22 growing up in this world
0:41:23 where there’s
0:41:24 everyone is telling founders
0:41:24 what to do
0:41:27 it can feel incredibly confusing
0:41:28 and I think in particular
0:41:29 post-pandemic
0:41:30 where like how we work
0:41:31 was like shuffled up
0:41:31 and it’s now like
0:41:32 pick and mix
0:41:32 it’s like
0:41:34 before the pandemic
0:41:34 it was like
0:41:35 we all got it
0:41:36 we come to the office
0:41:37 five days a week
0:41:37 we work
0:41:37 you know
0:41:40 it’s a difficult time
0:41:40 to be a founder
0:41:41 because
0:41:43 you’ve almost got to step out
0:41:44 if you know what I mean
0:41:45 yeah you do
0:41:47 yeah you have to
0:41:48 and listen
0:41:50 I don’t think that that is
0:41:51 as hard
0:41:52 as people are making it
0:41:54 you have to understand
0:41:54 that
0:41:55 you know
0:41:56 you can’t be
0:41:57 a leader
0:41:58 and a people pleaser
0:41:59 at the same time
0:42:00 and if you’re walking around
0:42:01 trying to make everybody happy
0:42:02 guess what you won’t do
0:42:04 you won’t have a great business
0:42:05 you have to have
0:42:06 a focus
0:42:07 on what it is
0:42:08 that you’re trying to do
0:42:09 and you have to be relentless
0:42:10 in the pursuit
0:42:11 of doing those things
0:42:13 and you need the people
0:42:14 that are going to
0:42:15 you know
0:42:15 I am
0:42:17 I’m so much
0:42:19 about the people
0:42:20 that help you
0:42:20 you know
0:42:21 I hate that idea
0:42:22 of like being
0:42:23 you know
0:42:23 like a
0:42:24 you know
0:42:24 I get called
0:42:25 like a self-made
0:42:25 whatever
0:42:26 and I’m like
0:42:28 I’m really not self-made
0:42:29 if you understood
0:42:30 how many people
0:42:31 there were around me
0:42:32 that just like
0:42:33 getting me here today
0:42:34 do you know what I mean
0:42:34 there’s like a
0:42:36 village sitting outside
0:42:37 but nothing happens
0:42:38 on your own
0:42:38 and it takes
0:42:39 so many people
0:42:41 and so much skill
0:42:42 and so much
0:42:43 that I don’t have
0:42:44 and so
0:42:46 when you start
0:42:46 a company
0:42:47 this idea
0:42:48 that you should
0:42:49 make all of the
0:42:50 if you’re thinking
0:42:51 about making
0:42:51 all of these
0:42:52 concessions
0:42:53 before you’re thinking
0:42:54 about what the goal is
0:42:55 what the
0:42:57 you know
0:42:57 I call it
0:42:58 and everybody
0:42:58 it’s like
0:43:00 enterprise mentality
0:43:00 it’s like
0:43:00 you have to put
0:43:02 the business first
0:43:02 the needs
0:43:03 of the business
0:43:04 and sometimes
0:43:06 that is about
0:43:06 thinking about
0:43:07 your people
0:43:08 and being a certain
0:43:09 type of leader
0:43:10 sometimes it’s not
0:43:11 so you’ve got to
0:43:12 balance those things
0:43:12 right
0:43:12 we’re trying
0:43:14 the point of a business
0:43:15 is to make profit
0:43:17 it’s to create
0:43:18 like a company
0:43:19 to serve
0:43:20 you know
0:43:21 your customers
0:43:22 all of those things
0:43:24 it really isn’t
0:43:25 about what I think
0:43:25 so many people
0:43:26 are trying to make
0:43:27 it about
0:43:28 now your leadership
0:43:29 style
0:43:30 is you know
0:43:31 it’s going to be
0:43:32 such a huge part
0:43:32 of what makes
0:43:33 that business successful
0:43:34 but it isn’t
0:43:35 it isn’t everything
0:43:36 and so I think
0:43:37 that we’ve just got to
0:43:37 try and separate
0:43:38 these things
0:43:39 like a little bit
0:43:39 that can’t be
0:43:40 the first thing
0:43:41 that you’re thinking
0:43:43 of like how
0:43:44 you know
0:43:45 like how you’re
0:43:46 doing all of that
0:43:46 stuff the first
0:43:47 thing you think
0:43:47 about is like
0:43:48 how is the business
0:43:48 going to grow
0:43:49 how are we going
0:43:49 to thrive
0:43:50 what are we
0:43:50 what are we
0:43:51 actually here to do
0:43:51 I think founders
0:43:52 are scared as well
0:43:52 because we live
0:43:53 in this age
0:43:54 of social media
0:43:55 where you know
0:43:56 if especially
0:43:57 if you have a profile
0:43:58 if you do
0:43:59 something wrong
0:44:00 there’s this really
0:44:01 interesting incentive
0:44:02 that the employee
0:44:03 has where they
0:44:03 can they can
0:44:04 pop back
0:44:05 and so if
0:44:06 if you fire me
0:44:07 from your company
0:44:07 Emma
0:44:09 and you know
0:44:10 I didn’t feel
0:44:11 so good
0:44:12 when I was there
0:44:14 I now have you
0:44:14 by the balls
0:44:15 a little bit
0:44:15 if you know
0:44:16 what I’m saying
0:44:16 yeah totally
0:44:17 because I can
0:44:18 post on my
0:44:18 TikTok
0:44:19 and say you know
0:44:20 Emma is not
0:44:21 who you think
0:44:21 she is
0:44:22 yeah that’s just
0:44:22 part of being
0:44:22 in business
0:44:23 though right
0:44:24 but then because
0:44:24 you’re living
0:44:25 under that threat
0:44:27 from some kind
0:44:28 of activist
0:44:29 employee
0:44:30 how do you
0:44:30 stop that
0:44:31 from changing
0:44:32 the way that
0:44:33 you live
0:44:33 with that
0:44:34 enterprise mentality
0:44:35 and do what’s
0:44:35 right for the
0:44:36 business
0:44:37 I don’t think
0:44:37 you do
0:44:38 I’ve had so many
0:44:38 founders say this
0:44:39 to me in my
0:44:39 portfolio
0:44:39 they’ve said
0:44:40 like oh man
0:44:40 I’m like scared
0:44:41 of being cancelled
0:44:43 well don’t do
0:44:43 anything to be
0:44:43 cancelled
0:44:44 I mean look
0:44:45 I think it’s
0:44:45 a fine line
0:44:46 right
0:44:46 you’re
0:44:47 if you’re
0:44:47 a leader
0:44:48 you’re never
0:44:48 going to
0:44:49 please everybody
0:44:50 and I think
0:44:50 that this is
0:44:51 where leadership
0:44:52 style and
0:44:54 who you are
0:44:55 as a person
0:44:56 really comes
0:44:56 out
0:44:57 I don’t think
0:44:57 anybody
0:44:58 I’m somebody
0:44:59 that leads
0:44:59 with no
0:45:00 ambiguity
0:45:01 nobody’s like
0:45:02 I wonder
0:45:02 what Emma’s
0:45:03 thinking
0:45:03 it’s like
0:45:04 I’m very
0:45:05 clear in
0:45:05 what I’m
0:45:05 thinking
0:45:06 I’m very
0:45:07 clear in
0:45:07 what the
0:45:08 goals are
0:45:08 and the
0:45:09 reason that
0:45:09 we’ve been
0:45:10 able to do
0:45:10 what we’ve
0:45:10 been able to
0:45:11 do is
0:45:11 because of
0:45:12 those things
0:45:13 I have a
0:45:14 very
0:45:15 straightforward
0:45:16 management
0:45:17 style
0:45:17 and I
0:45:18 bring
0:45:19 everybody
0:45:20 along with
0:45:20 me
0:45:20 now listen
0:45:20 there’s
0:45:21 always going
0:45:22 to be
0:45:23 someone
0:45:24 or you
0:45:24 know
0:45:24 a fraction
0:45:24 of people
0:45:25 that will
0:45:25 feel
0:45:26 disgruntled
0:45:27 I’ve
0:45:27 gone
0:45:27 through
0:45:28 various
0:45:28 things
0:45:28 in
0:45:28 different
0:45:29 companies
0:45:29 where you’ve
0:45:30 had to
0:45:31 downsize
0:45:31 or let
0:45:32 people go
0:45:32 and things
0:45:32 that are
0:45:33 really
0:45:33 unfortunate
0:45:34 and that’s
0:45:35 just part
0:45:35 of the
0:45:35 course
0:45:36 of business
0:45:37 now are
0:45:37 you doing
0:45:38 those things
0:45:38 in a way
0:45:39 that is congruent
0:45:40 with who
0:45:40 you are
0:45:42 as a leader
0:45:43 and you know
0:45:44 really thinking
0:45:44 about
0:45:46 what that
0:45:47 actually
0:45:47 like you know
0:45:48 it’s not
0:45:49 again it’s like
0:45:50 I never have
0:45:50 like an
0:45:52 individualistic
0:45:53 idea about
0:45:54 that it’s like
0:45:55 if I have to
0:45:55 look at a
0:45:56 company and
0:45:56 downsize
0:45:57 I’m not
0:45:57 thinking
0:45:58 about
0:45:59 the
0:45:59 50
0:45:59 people
0:46:00 that I
0:46:00 have to
0:46:00 let go
0:46:01 I’m thinking
0:46:01 about the
0:46:02 400 jobs
0:46:03 that need
0:46:03 to be
0:46:03 saved
0:46:04 and sadly
0:46:05 sometimes there
0:46:06 is a little
0:46:07 collateral damage
0:46:07 that’s just
0:46:08 part of
0:46:08 being
0:46:09 in business
0:46:10 and I
0:46:11 certainly
0:46:11 am not
0:46:11 sitting here
0:46:12 sweating what
0:46:12 somebody might
0:46:13 do on
0:46:13 TikTok
0:46:14 because I
0:46:14 know
0:46:15 who I
0:46:15 am
0:46:15 and I
0:46:16 feel good
0:46:16 about the
0:46:16 decisions
0:46:17 that I
0:46:17 make
0:46:17 because
0:46:19 of the
0:46:19 where they
0:46:20 come from
0:46:20 they come
0:46:21 from me
0:46:21 they come
0:46:22 from my
0:46:22 heart
0:46:23 and I know
0:46:23 that I’m
0:46:23 a good
0:46:24 person
0:46:25 so I
0:46:25 would never
0:46:25 sit here
0:46:25 and be
0:46:26 like oh
0:46:26 no someone’s
0:46:27 gonna like
0:46:28 shame me
0:46:29 what was the
0:46:29 most important
0:46:30 lesson you
0:46:30 had to learn
0:46:31 about leadership
0:46:32 as a
0:46:34 up and coming
0:46:35 talented
0:46:36 black woman
0:46:38 in business
0:46:38 I don’t think
0:46:39 it’s any
0:46:40 different than
0:46:41 honest if I’m
0:46:42 really honest I
0:46:42 don’t think it’s
0:46:43 any different
0:46:44 from any other
0:46:44 woman but I
0:46:45 do think it’s
0:46:45 different for
0:46:46 women more
0:46:47 generally
0:46:48 I think
0:46:49 probably the
0:46:49 most important
0:46:51 lesson was
0:46:53 how distinctive
0:46:55 and important
0:46:56 my point of
0:46:57 view is
0:46:58 and why
0:46:59 that gives
0:47:00 me an
0:47:00 edge
0:47:01 right
0:47:02 but I also
0:47:03 understand
0:47:04 that you
0:47:04 know this
0:47:05 kind of like
0:47:06 empathy
0:47:07 coin has
0:47:08 two sides
0:47:08 to it
0:47:08 right
0:47:09 what makes
0:47:09 women
0:47:10 phenomenally
0:47:11 good
0:47:11 leaders
0:47:13 and makes
0:47:13 them
0:47:14 fantastic
0:47:15 at you
0:47:15 know
0:47:16 mentoring
0:47:17 staff
0:47:18 and looking
0:47:18 after the
0:47:18 needs
0:47:19 of the
0:47:19 team
0:47:20 is sure
0:47:21 as the
0:47:22 underbelly
0:47:23 when it
0:47:23 comes to
0:47:24 perhaps
0:47:24 you know
0:47:26 downsizing
0:47:26 their team
0:47:27 or you
0:47:28 know firing
0:47:28 the wrong
0:47:29 person
0:47:30 or if
0:47:30 people are
0:47:30 not getting
0:47:31 pay rises
0:47:31 like how
0:47:32 they might
0:47:33 feel about
0:47:33 that so
0:47:34 I definitely
0:47:35 had to
0:47:36 learn that
0:47:37 there’s two
0:47:37 sides to
0:47:38 what makes
0:47:38 me great
0:47:39 and to
0:47:39 keep both
0:47:39 of those
0:47:40 sides
0:47:40 in check
0:47:41 so it’s
0:47:41 balancing
0:47:42 the empathy
0:47:43 part of you
0:47:43 with the
0:47:45 needing to
0:47:45 make
0:47:46 difficult
0:47:46 decisions
0:47:49 because it
0:47:49 doesn’t feel
0:47:50 like care
0:47:50 to fire
0:47:51 someone
0:47:51 it’s like
0:47:52 because
0:47:52 no it
0:47:53 goes against
0:47:53 the grain
0:47:54 of
0:47:55 caring
0:47:56 for
0:47:56 it goes
0:47:57 against
0:47:57 the grain
0:47:57 of being
0:47:58 like a
0:47:58 maternal
0:47:59 individual
0:48:00 who is
0:48:01 looking after
0:48:01 people
0:48:02 right
0:48:02 because
0:48:03 that’s
0:48:04 the opposite
0:48:04 of that
0:48:05 you’re
0:48:06 leaving
0:48:06 someone to
0:48:07 their own
0:48:07 devices
0:48:08 and so
0:48:08 that’s
0:48:08 been
0:48:09 difficult
0:48:09 for me
0:48:10 for sure
0:48:10 do you
0:48:10 remember
0:48:10 the first
0:48:11 time you
0:48:11 had to
0:48:11 contend
0:48:12 with that
0:48:13 dichotomy
0:48:14 and how
0:48:14 it felt
0:48:15 and
0:48:16 yeah
0:48:17 yeah I
0:48:17 do
0:48:18 I think
0:48:18 it would
0:48:18 have been
0:48:19 like way
0:48:19 back when
0:48:20 in London
0:48:21 in ITB
0:48:22 the first
0:48:22 time I
0:48:23 had to
0:48:23 do like
0:48:24 a meaningful
0:48:25 downsizing
0:48:25 of the
0:48:25 agency
0:48:26 and I
0:48:26 had to
0:48:27 fire like
0:48:28 you know
0:48:28 it was a
0:48:29 small agency
0:48:29 I had like
0:48:30 60 people
0:48:30 and I
0:48:31 fired 15
0:48:32 people in
0:48:32 one day
0:48:33 so we’re
0:48:33 in a
0:48:34 tiny office
0:48:35 Gressy
0:48:35 Street
0:48:36 in you know
0:48:36 just off of
0:48:37 Tottenham Court
0:48:37 Road
0:48:38 everyone sits
0:48:38 together
0:48:39 so there
0:48:39 was no
0:48:40 like giant
0:48:40 boardroom
0:48:41 that you
0:48:41 could go
0:48:41 into
0:48:41 and then
0:48:42 go out
0:48:42 the back
0:48:42 door
0:48:43 it was like
0:48:43 I went
0:48:44 back upstairs
0:48:45 and told
0:48:45 everyone
0:48:45 you know
0:48:46 it was like
0:48:46 awful
0:48:47 it was
0:48:47 absolutely
0:48:48 awful
0:48:48 I laugh
0:48:48 about it
0:48:49 out of
0:48:49 just like
0:48:51 horror
0:48:52 of how it
0:48:53 felt at
0:48:53 the time
0:48:53 because it
0:48:54 really to
0:48:54 me it
0:48:55 felt like
0:48:56 the end
0:48:56 of the
0:48:56 world
0:48:57 the end
0:48:57 of my
0:48:58 life
0:48:59 and I
0:48:59 felt so
0:49:00 responsible
0:49:01 because
0:49:01 oftentimes
0:49:02 you know
0:49:02 like so
0:49:03 much of
0:49:04 being in
0:49:04 a competitive
0:49:05 dynamic
0:49:06 environment
0:49:06 you know
0:49:06 you’re pulling
0:49:07 people out
0:49:07 of other
0:49:08 agencies
0:49:08 jobs
0:49:09 and you’re
0:49:09 bringing
0:49:10 them in
0:49:10 and you
0:49:11 know
0:49:11 you’re like
0:49:11 that’s the
0:49:12 best person
0:49:12 for this
0:49:13 and then
0:49:13 all of
0:49:13 a sudden
0:49:13 you’re like
0:49:14 I’m so
0:49:14 sorry
0:49:15 but like
0:49:16 it’s over
0:49:17 and that
0:49:18 for me
0:49:19 was soul
0:49:19 destroying
0:49:20 the first
0:49:20 time I
0:49:20 had to
0:49:20 do it
0:49:21 but in
0:49:21 hindsight
0:49:22 how do
0:49:23 you look
0:49:24 at that
0:49:24 decision
0:49:24 now with
0:49:25 your wisdom
0:49:26 well look
0:49:27 again I
0:49:27 go back
0:49:27 and say
0:49:28 I created
0:49:29 a better
0:49:29 company
0:49:30 because of
0:49:30 it
0:49:30 I
0:49:31 created
0:49:31 more
0:49:32 discipline
0:49:32 in the
0:49:33 business
0:49:33 because I
0:49:34 was able
0:49:35 to see
0:49:35 the mistakes
0:49:36 that I’d
0:49:37 done
0:49:37 that weren’t
0:49:38 just about
0:49:38 overstaffing
0:49:39 but it was
0:49:39 just about
0:49:40 running a
0:49:42 less healthy
0:49:42 engine
0:49:43 I do think
0:49:44 it made me
0:49:44 a better
0:49:45 leader in
0:49:46 the sense
0:49:47 of I had
0:49:49 held so much
0:49:49 of the anxiety
0:49:50 of what was
0:49:51 happening in
0:49:51 that company
0:49:52 it not going
0:49:53 well to
0:49:54 myself
0:49:54 I hadn’t
0:49:55 really shared
0:49:56 with the full
0:49:56 senior management
0:49:57 team like quite
0:49:58 how bad
0:49:58 things were
0:49:59 because I
0:49:59 thought I’m
0:50:00 the CEO
0:50:00 that’s all
0:50:01 my problem
0:50:01 they should
0:50:02 be able to
0:50:02 just come
0:50:02 in and out
0:50:03 and with
0:50:03 that
0:50:04 there was
0:50:04 a lack
0:50:04 of
0:50:05 accountability
0:50:06 from everybody
0:50:06 else
0:50:06 and so I
0:50:07 think I’ve
0:50:07 really understood
0:50:08 now that
0:50:09 you know
0:50:09 it’s like
0:50:11 I’m here
0:50:11 at the top
0:50:12 of the
0:50:12 organisation
0:50:14 and you know
0:50:14 it’s almost
0:50:14 like I’m
0:50:16 the manager
0:50:16 right
0:50:16 I sit
0:50:17 on the
0:50:17 sidelines
0:50:17 and I have
0:50:18 a bunch
0:50:18 of people
0:50:18 I shouldn’t
0:50:19 be running
0:50:19 on the pitch
0:50:20 to score
0:50:20 the goal
0:50:21 I need
0:50:21 to stay
0:50:22 on those
0:50:22 sidelines
0:50:22 and I need
0:50:23 to direct
0:50:23 everybody
0:50:24 to do
0:50:25 the best
0:50:25 job
0:50:25 possible
0:50:27 and now
0:50:27 I think
0:50:28 so much
0:50:28 more about
0:50:29 bringing
0:50:29 everybody
0:50:30 on the
0:50:30 journey
0:50:30 and when
0:50:30 you’re
0:50:33 all the
0:50:34 time
0:50:34 in all
0:50:34 of our
0:50:35 businesses
0:50:35 despite
0:50:36 whatever
0:50:36 it might
0:50:36 look like
0:50:37 to people
0:50:37 you know
0:50:37 you need
0:50:38 to bring
0:50:38 people
0:50:39 on the
0:50:39 journey
0:50:39 and get
0:50:39 them
0:50:40 involved
0:50:40 in
0:50:41 what
0:50:41 those
0:50:41 solves
0:50:42 are
0:50:42 because
0:50:43 if you
0:50:43 get to
0:50:44 that
0:50:44 place
0:50:44 where
0:50:44 you
0:51:03 cash
0:51:03 cash
0:51:03 cash
0:51:03 flow
0:51:04 issues
0:51:04 the
0:51:05 uncertainty
0:51:05 around
0:51:05 the
0:51:05 business
0:51:06 and
0:51:06 you
0:51:06 know
0:51:06 they
0:51:07 internalize
0:51:07 it
0:51:07 they
0:51:08 take
0:51:08 it
0:51:08 home
0:51:08 with
0:51:08 them
0:51:08 it’s
0:51:08 with
0:51:08 them
0:51:09 seven
0:51:09 days
0:51:09 a week
0:51:11 how did
0:51:11 it feel
0:51:11 for you
0:51:12 when you
0:51:12 were going
0:51:13 through those
0:51:13 challenges
0:51:13 with your
0:51:14 first
0:51:15 company
0:51:16 and I
0:51:17 ask that
0:51:17 because
0:51:19 I want
0:51:21 the person
0:51:21 going through
0:51:21 that
0:51:22 I was going
0:51:22 through it
0:51:24 to feel
0:51:24 seen
0:51:24 but also
0:51:25 to have
0:51:25 a bit
0:51:25 of a
0:51:25 blueprint
0:51:26 a
0:51:26 roadmap
0:51:26 of what
0:51:27 to do
0:51:27 about
0:51:27 that
0:51:28 the
0:51:29 truth
0:51:29 is
0:51:30 it
0:51:30 feels
0:51:30 like
0:51:30 the
0:51:31 end
0:51:31 of
0:51:31 the
0:51:31 world
0:51:31 right
0:51:32 that
0:51:32 that’s
0:51:32 how it
0:51:32 feels
0:51:33 when you
0:51:33 start
0:51:34 something
0:51:34 from the
0:51:35 ground
0:51:35 up
0:51:36 and it’s
0:51:36 yours
0:51:37 there’s
0:51:37 such a
0:51:37 sense
0:51:37 of
0:51:38 responsibility
0:51:39 and
0:51:40 you know
0:51:40 I think
0:51:40 that what
0:51:40 happens
0:51:41 in
0:51:41 business
0:51:41 it’s
0:51:41 always
0:51:41 like
0:51:42 a
0:51:43 confluence
0:51:43 of
0:51:44 factors
0:51:44 right
0:51:44 like
0:51:44 you
0:51:44 try
0:51:44 to
0:51:45 work
0:51:45 out
0:51:45 what
0:51:46 has
0:51:46 made
0:51:46 this
0:51:46 thing
0:51:47 happen
0:51:47 and
0:51:47 it’s
0:51:47 like
0:51:48 you know
0:51:48 sometimes
0:51:48 like
0:51:49 death
0:51:49 by a
0:51:49 thousand
0:51:50 cuts
0:51:50 there’s
0:51:50 no
0:51:50 like
0:51:50 one
0:51:51 thing
0:51:51 that
0:51:51 you
0:51:51 can
0:51:51 point
0:51:52 to
0:51:52 and
0:51:52 say
0:51:53 that
0:51:53 was
0:51:53 it
0:51:53 that’s
0:51:53 what
0:51:54 made
0:51:54 this
0:51:54 like
0:51:55 downtrending
0:51:56 moment
0:51:56 happen
0:51:56 it’s
0:51:56 like
0:51:57 it’s
0:51:57 a bit
0:51:57 of
0:51:57 this
0:51:58 and a bit
0:51:58 of that
0:51:58 and a bit
0:51:58 of this
0:51:59 and a bit
0:51:59 of that
0:51:59 but often
0:52:00 what it
0:52:00 comes from
0:52:01 is
0:52:01 you know
0:52:02 you get
0:52:02 so
0:52:03 into
0:52:03 what
0:52:03 you’re
0:52:03 doing
0:52:04 that
0:52:04 it’s
0:52:04 very
0:52:05 hard
0:52:05 to
0:52:05 rise
0:52:06 back
0:52:06 up
0:52:06 and
0:52:06 I
0:52:07 think
0:52:07 what
0:52:07 I’ve
0:52:07 taught
0:52:08 myself
0:52:08 like
0:52:08 this
0:52:09 muscle
0:52:09 that
0:52:09 I’ve
0:52:09 taught
0:52:09 myself
0:52:10 is
0:52:11 every
0:52:11 kind
0:52:11 of
0:52:12 quarter
0:52:13 at least
0:52:13 every
0:52:13 six
0:52:13 months
0:52:14 I
0:52:14 try
0:52:14 to
0:52:14 float
0:52:15 up
0:52:15 and
0:52:16 see
0:52:16 like
0:52:16 what
0:52:17 is
0:52:17 happening
0:52:18 not
0:52:18 what
0:52:18 I’m
0:52:18 telling
0:52:19 myself
0:52:19 not
0:52:19 what
0:52:19 are
0:52:19 we
0:52:20 doing
0:52:20 like
0:52:20 what’s
0:52:21 happening
0:52:21 what’s
0:52:21 happening
0:52:21 with
0:52:21 the
0:52:22 competition
0:52:22 what’s
0:52:22 happening
0:52:23 in
0:52:23 the
0:52:23 market
0:52:24 and
0:52:24 back
0:52:24 then
0:52:24 I
0:52:25 just
0:52:25 didn’t
0:52:25 have
0:52:26 the
0:52:26 ability
0:52:26 to
0:52:27 do
0:52:27 that
0:52:27 I
0:52:27 was
0:52:27 so
0:52:28 heads
0:52:28 down
0:52:28 so
0:52:29 in
0:52:29 the
0:52:29 work
0:52:29 so
0:52:30 you
0:52:30 know
0:52:31 like
0:52:31 just
0:52:33 deep
0:52:33 in
0:52:34 like
0:52:34 my
0:52:35 clients
0:52:35 and
0:52:35 doing
0:52:36 the
0:52:36 best
0:52:36 job
0:52:36 that
0:52:37 I
0:52:37 could
0:52:37 I
0:52:38 had
0:52:38 no
0:52:38 ability
0:52:39 to
0:52:39 zoom
0:52:39 out
0:52:39 and
0:52:39 I
0:52:40 do
0:52:40 again
0:52:41 I’m
0:52:41 not
0:52:41 just
0:52:41 blaming
0:52:42 myself
0:52:42 but
0:52:42 it
0:52:43 really
0:52:43 was
0:52:43 about
0:52:43 that
0:52:44 inability
0:52:44 to
0:52:45 see
0:52:46 clearly
0:52:46 and
0:52:47 so
0:52:47 I
0:52:47 think
0:52:47 for
0:52:48 anybody
0:52:49 that’s
0:52:49 kind
0:52:49 of
0:52:49 been
0:52:49 through
0:52:50 a
0:52:50 moment
0:52:50 like
0:52:50 that
0:52:51 it’s
0:52:51 either
0:52:52 surrounding
0:52:52 yourself
0:52:53 with
0:52:53 people
0:52:53 that
0:52:53 are
0:52:53 able
0:52:54 to
0:52:54 help
0:52:54 you
0:52:54 have
0:52:55 a
0:52:55 little
0:52:55 bit
0:52:55 more
0:52:56 perspective
0:52:57 or
0:52:58 trying
0:52:58 to
0:52:58 make
0:52:58 that
0:52:58 a
0:52:59 habit
0:52:59 that
0:52:59 you
0:52:59 do
0:52:59 that
0:53:00 in
0:53:00 your
0:53:00 business
0:53:00 you
0:53:00 know
0:53:01 Bill Gates
0:53:01 talks
0:53:02 about
0:53:02 having
0:53:03 reading
0:53:03 week
0:53:03 or
0:53:04 like
0:53:04 you
0:53:04 know
0:53:04 an
0:53:04 away
0:53:05 week
0:53:05 he
0:53:05 takes
0:53:05 himself
0:53:06 off
0:53:06 and
0:53:06 he
0:53:06 does
0:53:06 it
0:53:06 twice
0:53:07 a
0:53:07 year
0:53:07 and
0:53:08 he
0:53:08 goes
0:53:08 and
0:53:08 he
0:53:08 just
0:53:09 sits
0:53:10 somewhere
0:53:10 beautiful
0:53:10 it
0:53:10 looks
0:53:11 like
0:53:11 by
0:53:11 the
0:53:11 water
0:53:12 or
0:53:12 something
0:53:12 goes
0:53:13 into
0:53:13 a
0:53:13 little
0:53:13 cabin
0:53:13 and
0:53:13 he
0:53:13 just
0:53:14 reads
0:53:14 but
0:53:14 he
0:53:14 thinks
0:53:15 about
0:53:16 what
0:53:16 is
0:53:16 happening
0:53:26 something
0:53:26 that
0:53:26 all
0:53:27 founders
0:53:28 should
0:53:28 really
0:53:28 think
0:53:29 about
0:53:29 and
0:53:29 it’s
0:53:29 given
0:53:29 me
0:53:30 unbelievable
0:53:31 perspective
0:53:31 that
0:53:31 I’ve
0:53:31 made
0:53:32 that
0:53:32 a
0:53:32 practice
0:53:33 now
0:53:34 that’s
0:53:35 so so
0:53:35 true
0:53:35 I was
0:53:36 talking
0:53:36 the other day
0:53:36 I think
0:53:37 it was
0:53:37 actually
0:53:37 when I did
0:53:38 that solo
0:53:38 episode
0:53:38 on the
0:53:39 Diary of
0:53:39 Aseo
0:53:39 about this
0:53:40 idea of
0:53:40 clouds and
0:53:41 trenches
0:53:41 I love
0:53:42 the solo
0:53:42 episodes
0:53:44 I love
0:53:44 them
0:53:44 I think
0:53:44 they’re
0:53:45 so good
0:53:45 one of
0:53:46 the ideas
0:53:46 that emerged
0:53:47 from that
0:53:47 process
0:53:48 was
0:53:48 as I was
0:53:49 writing
0:53:49 the solo
0:53:49 episode
0:53:50 I thought
0:53:50 about
0:53:51 the day
0:53:51 I went
0:53:51 fishing
0:53:52 I don’t
0:53:52 fish
0:53:53 obviously
0:53:55 but I went
0:53:56 fishing
0:53:56 because
0:53:57 whatever
0:53:58 I just
0:53:58 found myself
0:53:58 there
0:53:59 and I’m
0:53:59 on this
0:53:59 boat
0:53:59 in the
0:53:59 middle
0:54:00 of the
0:54:00 lake
0:54:00 and the
0:54:00 art
0:54:01 of fishing
0:54:01 is
0:54:01 you sit
0:54:02 there
0:54:02 and do
0:54:02 fucking
0:54:02 nothing
0:54:03 and you’re
0:54:03 on a lake
0:54:03 and it’s
0:54:04 pissing it
0:54:04 down
0:54:04 and I’m
0:54:05 sat there
0:54:05 in my
0:54:05 Mac
0:54:05 and it’s
0:54:06 just
0:54:06 leathering
0:54:06 on me
0:54:07 and this
0:54:07 boat
0:54:07 this is
0:54:08 not
0:54:08 glamorous
0:54:08 this is
0:54:08 a
0:54:09 two
0:54:09 meter
0:54:09 wooden
0:54:10 boat
0:54:10 oh
0:54:10 babe
0:54:10 we all
0:54:11 had
0:54:11 an
0:54:11 idea
0:54:11 of
0:54:11 a
0:54:12 yacht
0:54:13 it was
0:54:13 like
0:54:13 at a
0:54:14 castle
0:54:14 somewhere
0:54:15 and it
0:54:15 was the
0:54:16 most
0:54:16 important
0:54:17 like
0:54:17 seven
0:54:18 hours
0:54:18 of my
0:54:18 life
0:54:19 at that
0:54:19 exact
0:54:19 moment
0:54:19 because
0:54:19 I’d
0:54:20 been
0:54:20 in the
0:54:20 trenches
0:54:21 for so
0:54:21 many
0:54:22 weeks
0:54:22 in a
0:54:22 row
0:54:23 that
0:54:24 sitting
0:54:24 out
0:54:24 on that
0:54:24 boat
0:54:25 for seven
0:54:25 hours
0:54:26 just waiting
0:54:26 for this
0:54:26 nibble
0:54:27 that never
0:54:27 came
0:54:27 because I’m
0:54:27 shit at
0:54:28 fishing
0:54:28 it
0:54:28 turns out
0:54:30 was so
0:54:30 powerful
0:54:31 this is
0:54:32 the
0:54:33 distinction
0:54:33 between
0:54:34 being able
0:54:34 to stand
0:54:35 back
0:54:35 from the
0:54:35 photo
0:54:35 so you
0:54:35 can
0:54:36 see
0:54:36 the
0:54:36 picture
0:54:37 and
0:54:38 founders
0:54:38 like
0:54:38 especially
0:54:38 when
0:54:38 you
0:54:38 got
0:54:39 cash
0:54:39 flow
0:54:39 issues
0:54:39 and
0:54:40 clients
0:54:40 giving
0:54:40 you
0:54:40 shit
0:54:40 and
0:54:41 team
0:54:41 member
0:54:41 issues
0:54:42 you’re
0:54:42 like
0:54:43 this
0:54:43 yeah
0:54:44 and I
0:54:44 think
0:54:44 that
0:54:45 the
0:54:45 problem
0:54:45 is
0:54:45 as
0:54:46 founders
0:54:46 we
0:54:46 can
0:54:46 feel
0:54:46 guilt
0:54:47 and we
0:54:47 kind of
0:54:48 talked about
0:54:48 this
0:54:48 tremendous
0:54:49 guilt
0:54:50 of like
0:54:50 not being
0:54:50 in there
0:54:51 and not being
0:54:51 in the
0:54:51 trenches
0:54:52 but because
0:54:52 we don’t
0:54:52 realise
0:54:52 we’re
0:54:53 serving
0:54:53 our
0:54:53 company
0:54:54 by
0:54:55 creating
0:54:56 a little
0:54:56 bit of
0:54:56 space
0:54:57 so is
0:54:57 it
0:54:57 a
0:54:57 practice
0:54:58 for you
0:54:58 it
0:54:58 is
0:54:59 honestly
0:54:59 I’ve
0:54:59 really
0:55:00 made
0:55:00 it
0:55:00 a
0:55:01 practice
0:55:01 and
0:55:01 I
0:55:01 say
0:55:01 that
0:55:02 it’s
0:55:02 about
0:55:03 like
0:55:03 first
0:55:03 of
0:55:03 all
0:55:03 I
0:55:03 have
0:55:03 to
0:55:04 get
0:55:04 out
0:55:04 of
0:55:04 the
0:55:05 office
0:55:05 that’s
0:55:05 the
0:55:05 most
0:55:06 important
0:55:06 thing
0:55:07 and
0:55:08 it’s
0:55:08 really
0:55:09 about
0:55:09 me
0:55:10 creating
0:55:10 the
0:55:10 conditions
0:55:11 for me
0:55:11 to be
0:55:12 really
0:55:12 thoughtful
0:55:12 so it’s
0:55:13 like
0:55:13 I
0:55:13 prepare
0:55:13 to
0:55:14 be
0:55:14 with
0:55:15 myself
0:55:15 so I’m
0:55:16 really
0:55:16 taking
0:55:16 a
0:55:16 snapshot
0:55:17 of
0:55:17 what’s
0:55:18 happening
0:55:18 with my
0:55:19 competition
0:55:19 what are
0:55:20 people
0:55:20 doing
0:55:21 I’m
0:55:21 on the
0:55:22 sites
0:55:22 of my
0:55:23 competition
0:55:23 I’m
0:55:23 like
0:55:24 what is
0:55:24 the
0:55:25 customer
0:55:25 seeing
0:55:26 I go
0:55:26 like
0:55:26 in
0:55:27 store
0:55:27 I
0:55:27 really
0:55:28 try
0:55:28 to
0:55:29 understand
0:55:29 what is
0:55:29 everybody
0:55:30 else
0:55:30 like
0:55:30 what are
0:55:31 customers
0:55:31 truly
0:55:32 experiencing
0:55:32 from
0:55:33 this
0:55:33 brand
0:55:33 and
0:55:34 then
0:55:34 it’s
0:55:34 really
0:55:35 about
0:55:36 looking
0:55:37 objectively
0:55:38 at what
0:55:39 we’re putting
0:55:39 out there
0:55:40 and I
0:55:40 really do
0:55:41 that
0:55:41 and I’ve
0:55:41 got
0:55:43 I think
0:55:43 I have
0:55:43 a really
0:55:44 really good
0:55:45 sense
0:55:45 of not
0:55:47 I don’t
0:55:47 know how to
0:55:48 say it
0:55:49 without swearing
0:55:50 I just
0:55:50 don’t believe
0:55:51 my own
0:55:51 bullshit
0:55:52 I’ve
0:55:53 still got
0:55:53 the ability
0:55:54 and it’s
0:55:54 so interesting
0:55:55 because I
0:55:55 think that
0:55:56 when you
0:55:56 join a
0:55:57 new company
0:55:57 you know
0:55:57 I always
0:55:58 say to
0:55:58 people
0:55:58 that
0:55:58 come
0:56:00 you know
0:56:00 you’ve
0:56:00 got fresh
0:56:01 eyes
0:56:02 for
0:56:03 I don’t
0:56:03 know
0:56:03 a couple
0:56:03 of weeks
0:56:04 maybe a
0:56:04 couple
0:56:04 of months
0:56:05 at best
0:56:06 until you
0:56:06 start telling
0:56:07 yourself
0:56:07 the same
0:56:08 stories
0:56:08 that we
0:56:09 tell ourselves
0:56:09 internally
0:56:11 and I
0:56:12 am very
0:56:12 good at
0:56:13 having those
0:56:13 fresh eyes
0:56:14 and so
0:56:14 when I
0:56:15 have new
0:56:15 people in
0:56:15 the business
0:56:16 I will
0:56:16 go to
0:56:17 those
0:56:17 people
0:56:17 and be
0:56:17 like
0:56:17 what are
0:56:18 you
0:56:18 seeing
0:56:18 where
0:56:19 were
0:56:19 you
0:56:19 before
0:56:20 what have
0:56:20 you
0:56:20 like
0:56:21 versus
0:56:21 what
0:56:22 we’re
0:56:22 telling
0:56:22 you
0:56:22 like
0:56:22 what
0:56:22 are
0:56:23 you
0:56:23 seeing
0:56:23 in
0:56:23 this
0:56:23 company
0:56:24 and so
0:56:24 I
0:56:24 make
0:56:25 a point
0:56:25 to
0:56:25 get
0:56:26 around
0:56:26 to
0:56:26 any
0:56:26 new
0:56:27 starters
0:56:28 and that’s
0:56:28 just
0:56:28 like
0:56:28 part
0:56:28 of
0:56:28 the
0:56:51 random
0:56:52 thing
0:56:52 that
0:56:52 I’m
0:56:52 like
0:56:53 didn’t
0:56:53 see
0:56:53 that
0:56:53 happening
0:56:54 I
0:56:54 didn’t
0:56:54 see
0:56:54 how
0:56:54 shit
0:56:55 we’d
0:56:55 become
0:56:55 at
0:56:55 that
0:56:56 you
0:56:56 know
0:56:56 and so
0:56:56 it’s
0:56:56 like
0:56:57 I
0:56:57 try to
0:56:58 have
0:56:58 that
0:56:59 level
0:56:59 of
0:57:00 objectiveness
0:57:00 all the
0:57:01 time
0:57:01 Are you
0:57:01 paranoid?
0:57:03 Definitely
0:57:05 100%
0:57:05 yes
0:57:06 well also
0:57:07 I’m rightly
0:57:07 paranoid
0:57:08 like I’ve
0:57:08 worked with
0:57:08 some of the
0:57:09 most copied
0:57:10 duped brands
0:57:10 in the whole
0:57:11 world
0:57:12 I mean
0:57:12 it’s like
0:57:13 I’m not
0:57:13 actually
0:57:13 paranoid
0:57:14 I’m just
0:57:14 like
0:57:14 everybody’s
0:57:15 copying
0:57:15 Mi
0:57:16 And how
0:57:16 do you
0:57:17 think
0:57:17 about
0:57:17 people
0:57:18 copying
0:57:18 you
0:57:18 because
0:57:19 anyone
0:57:19 that’s
0:57:19 successful
0:57:20 all of
0:57:20 my
0:57:20 friends
0:57:20 that
0:57:20 have
0:57:20 done
0:57:21 anything
0:57:21 well
0:57:21 they’re
0:57:22 just
0:57:22 everyone
0:57:23 just
0:57:23 copies
0:57:23 the
0:57:23 blueprint
0:57:23 I’m
0:57:24 totally
0:57:24 unbobbered
0:57:24 we’ve
0:57:25 moved
0:57:25 already
0:57:25 babe
0:57:25 I’m
0:57:26 like
0:57:26 by the
0:57:26 time
0:57:26 they’ve
0:57:27 copied
0:57:27 me
0:57:27 I’m
0:57:28 you know
0:57:28 I’m
0:57:28 a year
0:57:28 and a
0:57:29 half
0:57:29 in
0:57:29 the
0:57:29 future
0:57:29 I’m
0:57:29 like
0:57:30 go for
0:57:30 it
0:57:31 done
0:57:31 it’s
0:57:31 over
0:57:32 you
0:57:32 can’t
0:57:32 there’s
0:57:33 no
0:57:33 other
0:57:33 way
0:57:33 to
0:57:34 behave
0:57:34 you know
0:57:34 it’s
0:57:34 like
0:57:35 if
0:57:35 you sit
0:57:47 I work
0:57:47 in
0:57:48 fashion
0:57:48 it’s
0:57:48 very
0:57:49 cyclical
0:57:49 where
0:57:50 are
0:57:50 ideas
0:57:50 owned
0:57:51 anyway
0:57:52 who
0:57:52 knows
0:57:52 but
0:57:53 does
0:57:53 it
0:57:53 piss
0:57:53 you
0:57:53 off
0:57:55 yes
0:57:55 absolutely
0:57:56 I’ve
0:57:56 been
0:57:56 known
0:57:56 to
0:57:56 walk
0:57:56 up
0:57:57 to
0:57:57 a
0:57:57 founder
0:57:57 in
0:57:57 the
0:57:58 gym
0:57:58 and
0:57:59 disturb
0:57:59 him
0:57:59 during
0:57:59 his
0:58:00 workout
0:58:00 in
0:58:00 the
0:58:00 early
0:58:01 days
0:58:01 of
0:58:01 good
0:58:01 American
0:58:01 I was
0:58:01 like
0:58:02 excuse
0:58:02 me
0:58:03 sir
0:58:03 I
0:58:03 won’t
0:58:03 say
0:58:04 who
0:58:04 I
0:58:04 was
0:58:04 like
0:58:05 you
0:58:05 are
0:58:05 we
0:58:06 used
0:58:06 to
0:58:06 have
0:58:06 this
0:58:06 one
0:58:07 company
0:58:07 that
0:58:07 would
0:58:07 buy
0:58:08 whatever
0:58:08 we
0:58:08 dropped
0:58:08 at
0:58:09 good
0:58:09 American
0:58:09 and
0:58:09 they
0:58:09 would
0:58:10 photograph
0:58:10 it
0:58:11 and
0:58:11 put
0:58:11 it
0:58:11 on
0:58:11 their
0:58:12 website
0:58:13 the
0:58:13 next
0:58:13 like
0:58:14 three
0:58:14 days
0:58:14 after
0:58:15 and
0:58:15 take
0:58:16 pre-orders
0:58:16 on
0:58:16 it
0:58:16 and
0:58:16 I
0:58:16 was
0:58:16 like
0:58:17 I
0:58:17 know
0:58:18 you’re
0:58:18 I can
0:58:18 see
0:58:19 the
0:58:19 rip
0:58:19 pattern
0:58:19 like
0:58:19 I
0:58:20 know
0:58:20 that’s
0:58:20 my
0:58:21 gene
0:58:22 that’s
0:58:22 literally
0:58:22 my
0:58:22 gene
0:58:23 you
0:58:23 haven’t
0:58:23 tried
0:58:24 to
0:58:33 the
0:58:34 size
0:58:34 of
0:58:34 our
0:58:34 business
0:58:34 so
0:58:35 you
0:58:35 know
0:58:35 it
0:58:35 worked
0:58:35 for
0:58:36 him
0:58:37 they’re
0:58:37 what
0:58:37 they’re
0:58:38 big
0:58:38 they’re
0:58:38 a big
0:58:38 one
0:58:39 don’t
0:58:39 say
0:58:39 anything
0:58:39 more
0:58:40 Steven
0:58:40 people
0:58:40 will
0:58:40 work
0:58:40 it
0:58:41 out
0:58:41 no
0:58:41 I’m
0:58:41 not
0:58:42 going to
0:58:42 say
0:58:42 anything
0:58:42 else
0:58:44 about it
0:58:44 but tell
0:58:44 me
0:58:44 more
0:58:47 there’s
0:58:47 a lot
0:58:47 of
0:58:47 companies
0:58:48 out
0:58:48 there
0:58:48 that
0:58:48 do
0:58:48 a
0:58:48 good
0:58:49 job
0:58:49 copying
0:58:49 everybody
0:58:50 else
0:58:50 but
0:58:50 that
0:58:50 means
0:58:50 you
0:58:50 can
0:58:51 become
0:58:51 successful
0:58:51 just
0:58:52 by
0:58:52 ripping
0:58:52 someone
0:58:52 off
0:58:54 I’m
0:58:54 sure
0:58:54 people
0:58:54 have
0:58:55 you
0:58:57 know
0:58:58 I don’t
0:58:58 know
0:58:58 how fun
0:58:58 it is
0:58:59 to run
0:58:59 a company
0:58:59 like that
0:59:00 but
0:59:02 are they
0:59:03 fast fashion
0:59:04 they might
0:59:04 be
0:59:04 I know
0:59:05 who it
0:59:05 is
0:59:05 I’ve
0:59:06 figured
0:59:06 it out
0:59:07 you got
0:59:07 your first
0:59:08 I guess
0:59:08 your first
0:59:09 foray into
0:59:10 the world
0:59:10 of fashion
0:59:10 was that
0:59:11 internship
0:59:11 you had
0:59:11 at 19
0:59:12 years old
0:59:12 you became
0:59:13 a show
0:59:13 producer
0:59:13 after that
0:59:14 at
0:59:14 Inca
0:59:14 Productions
0:59:15 you worked
0:59:15 at a
0:59:15 marketing
0:59:16 agency
0:59:16 between
0:59:18 23
0:59:18 25
0:59:18 years
0:59:19 old
0:59:19 called
0:59:20 Saturday
0:59:20 Group
0:59:20 which is
0:59:20 now
0:59:20 known as
0:59:21 Wednesday
0:59:21 Agency
0:59:22 co-founded
0:59:23 by
0:59:23 your
0:59:24 husband
0:59:26 Jens
0:59:26 yes
0:59:27 indeed
0:59:28 which is
0:59:28 where you
0:59:28 met him
0:59:29 yes
0:59:30 now I’m
0:59:30 you know
0:59:30 I’m in
0:59:31 business
0:59:31 with Jens
0:59:32 so we
0:59:32 started our
0:59:33 relationship
0:59:34 as I was
0:59:34 an employee
0:59:35 and then
0:59:36 he was
0:59:36 my
0:59:36 investor
0:59:37 so he
0:59:37 and his
0:59:38 business
0:59:38 partner
0:59:38 invested
0:59:39 alongside
0:59:40 somebody
0:59:40 else
0:59:40 that I
0:59:40 bought
0:59:40 in
0:59:41 in my
0:59:41 first
0:59:42 company
0:59:43 then
0:59:43 I
0:59:43 married
0:59:44 him
0:59:45 then
0:59:45 we
0:59:45 had
0:59:46 four
0:59:46 kids
0:59:46 together
0:59:47 and
0:59:48 it
0:59:48 has
0:59:48 been
0:59:49 an
0:59:50 unbelievable
0:59:51 relationship
0:59:52 and one
0:59:52 of the
0:59:53 kind of
0:59:54 most
0:59:54 important
0:59:55 things
0:59:55 in my
0:59:55 life
0:59:55 and still
0:59:56 remains
0:59:56 one of
0:59:56 the most
0:59:56 important
0:59:57 things
0:59:57 in my
0:59:57 life
0:59:57 but it
0:59:58 hasn’t
0:59:58 always
0:59:58 been
0:59:59 easy
1:00:00 because
1:00:00 he
1:00:01 is
1:00:01 obviously
1:00:02 you know
1:00:03 doing his
1:00:03 thing
1:00:03 and he’s
1:00:04 very
1:00:04 ambitious
1:00:04 and he
1:00:05 has
1:00:05 his
1:00:05 own
1:00:05 things
1:00:06 going
1:00:06 on
1:00:08 and when
1:00:08 you bring
1:00:08 kids
1:00:09 into the
1:00:09 equation
1:00:09 everything
1:00:10 changes
1:00:10 again
1:00:10 right
1:00:11 that
1:00:11 it
1:00:12 shifts
1:00:12 a little
1:00:12 bit
1:00:13 I
1:00:13 think
1:00:13 what
1:00:13 is
1:00:14 important
1:00:14 is
1:00:15 to have
1:00:15 somebody
1:00:15 who
1:00:17 just
1:00:18 sees
1:00:20 all of
1:00:20 your
1:00:21 talent
1:00:21 and
1:00:21 sometimes
1:00:22 sees it
1:00:22 before
1:00:22 you
1:00:22 do
1:00:23 yourself
1:00:24 and I
1:00:24 think
1:00:24 that
1:00:25 Jens
1:00:25 has been
1:00:25 like
1:00:26 unbelievably
1:00:27 encouraging
1:00:28 of me
1:00:28 at every
1:00:29 turn
1:00:30 every time
1:00:30 I’ve had
1:00:31 any doubt
1:00:32 every time
1:00:32 I’ve been
1:00:33 like
1:00:33 god
1:00:34 that feels
1:00:34 like a
1:00:35 little bit
1:00:35 outside of
1:00:35 my comfort
1:00:36 zone
1:00:36 and he’s
1:00:37 been like
1:00:37 but you
1:00:38 did this
1:00:39 but you
1:00:39 did that
1:00:40 you know
1:00:40 and I’m
1:00:40 like
1:00:41 oh yeah
1:00:41 I did
1:00:41 didn’t I
1:00:43 everybody
1:00:43 has that
1:00:44 and you’ll
1:00:45 know people
1:00:45 right
1:00:45 who are
1:00:46 really
1:00:46 ambitious
1:00:47 themselves
1:00:48 and maybe
1:00:49 their partner
1:00:50 is
1:00:51 envious
1:00:52 resentful
1:00:52 maybe
1:00:54 low-key
1:00:55 subtly
1:00:56 plays them
1:00:56 like plays
1:00:57 them down
1:00:58 or diminishes
1:00:59 their ability
1:00:59 to them
1:01:00 what would
1:01:00 you say
1:01:00 to someone
1:01:01 who right
1:01:02 now is
1:01:02 listening to
1:01:02 this
1:01:03 and has
1:01:04 a partner
1:01:04 who they
1:01:05 feel
1:01:06 doesn’t
1:01:07 want them
1:01:08 to climb
1:01:08 to the top
1:01:09 of the mountain
1:01:09 and isn’t
1:01:10 willing to
1:01:10 help carry
1:01:10 them up
1:01:11 there
1:01:11 and actually
1:01:13 sees their
1:01:14 work as
1:01:16 a competition
1:01:17 what would
1:01:17 you say
1:01:17 to that
1:01:18 person
1:01:18 because I
1:01:18 know we
1:01:18 probably
1:01:19 got a
1:01:19 couple
1:01:19 million
1:01:19 listening
1:01:21 I say
1:01:22 this all
1:01:23 the time
1:01:26 everything
1:01:27 starts with
1:01:27 yourself
1:01:29 and you
1:01:29 have to
1:01:30 be willing
1:01:31 to put
1:01:32 what it
1:01:33 is that
1:01:33 you care
1:01:34 about
1:01:34 what it
1:01:35 is that
1:01:35 you
1:01:37 want
1:01:37 more than
1:01:38 anything
1:01:40 first
1:01:41 you
1:01:41 have
1:01:42 to be
1:01:42 able
1:01:42 to do
1:01:42 that
1:01:43 first
1:01:44 and
1:01:44 if
1:01:45 you
1:01:45 have
1:01:45 somebody
1:01:46 who
1:01:47 isn’t
1:01:47 necessarily
1:01:48 like a
1:01:49 big cheerleader
1:01:49 which not
1:01:50 everybody can
1:01:50 be for
1:01:51 everybody else
1:01:51 that’s one
1:01:52 thing
1:01:52 but if
1:01:52 you’ve got
1:01:53 someone
1:01:54 that sucks
1:01:55 your energy
1:01:55 and your
1:01:56 ability
1:01:56 to believe
1:01:57 in yourself
1:01:58 that’s a
1:01:58 problem
1:01:59 right
1:01:59 so I don’t
1:02:00 think that
1:02:00 everybody
1:02:01 needs the
1:02:01 cheerleader
1:02:02 your husband
1:02:03 but you
1:02:04 need somebody
1:02:05 that at least
1:02:06 supports your
1:02:07 belief in
1:02:07 yourself
1:02:08 so that you
1:02:09 can go off
1:02:09 and do what
1:02:09 you need to
1:02:10 do
1:02:10 how do you
1:02:11 and Jens
1:02:12 keep the
1:02:14 relationship
1:02:15 spicy
1:02:16 when you’re
1:02:17 both working
1:02:17 very very hard
1:02:18 and I ask
1:02:19 this in part
1:02:19 for myself
1:02:20 right my
1:02:20 partner is on
1:02:20 the other
1:02:21 side of the
1:02:21 world in
1:02:22 Bali doing
1:02:22 her business
1:02:23 and I’m
1:02:23 out here in
1:02:24 LA doing
1:02:25 my thing
1:02:25 so I’m
1:02:26 wondering how
1:02:28 you stay
1:02:28 as you know
1:02:29 these independent
1:02:30 beasts that
1:02:30 are building
1:02:32 your own
1:02:32 things but
1:02:34 then you
1:02:35 nurture the
1:02:36 third person
1:02:36 or the third
1:02:37 thing which
1:02:37 is your life
1:02:38 together
1:02:38 like do you
1:02:39 schedule date
1:02:40 night do you
1:02:41 and what is
1:02:41 the journey
1:02:42 you’ve been on
1:02:43 to figure out
1:02:44 the solution
1:02:44 here yeah
1:02:45 because you
1:02:45 must have
1:02:46 had to do
1:02:47 some trial
1:02:47 and error
1:02:49 yeah for sure
1:02:49 I mean look
1:02:50 I think that
1:02:51 I’m very very
1:02:52 lucky with Jens
1:02:54 we are really
1:02:55 into each other
1:02:55 we’re really
1:02:56 interested in
1:02:57 each other
1:02:57 and that’s
1:02:58 the starting
1:02:59 point for
1:02:59 any great
1:03:00 relationship
1:03:00 right like
1:03:01 I am
1:03:02 interested in
1:03:03 his point
1:03:03 of view
1:03:04 about something
1:03:05 when I see
1:03:05 something read
1:03:06 something you
1:03:07 know get
1:03:07 something on
1:03:08 social like
1:03:09 the first
1:03:09 person I think
1:03:10 about is oh
1:03:10 my god I need
1:03:11 to see what
1:03:11 Jens thinks
1:03:12 about this
1:03:12 and so that
1:03:13 that is just
1:03:15 the default
1:03:16 nature of
1:03:17 our relationship
1:03:18 yes we
1:03:19 schedule date
1:03:19 nights and you
1:03:20 know 16
1:03:21 years in
1:03:22 that takes a
1:03:23 lot of different
1:03:24 you know shapes
1:03:25 and forms I
1:03:26 will go to a
1:03:26 Lakers game
1:03:27 together like
1:03:28 Jens loves the
1:03:29 basketball and
1:03:29 I was like
1:03:30 you know what
1:03:31 like he loves
1:03:31 the basketball
1:03:32 all the good
1:03:33 restaurants are
1:03:34 downtown I’ll
1:03:34 make sure that
1:03:35 we go to like
1:03:36 some new crazy
1:03:36 restaurant that I
1:03:37 want to go to
1:03:38 ahead of the
1:03:38 game and then
1:03:39 we go to the
1:03:39 game and it’s
1:03:40 like the perfect
1:03:40 date night we
1:03:41 both get what
1:03:42 we want and so
1:03:43 how often is
1:03:44 date night oh
1:03:44 well we do a
1:03:45 date night every
1:03:46 single week without
1:03:47 fail yeah yeah
1:03:47 and it’s and it’s
1:03:49 really funny because
1:03:50 our my our teams we
1:03:51 have like team team
1:03:52 greed meetings we
1:03:53 all get together like
1:03:54 once a month and
1:03:55 it’s everyone and
1:03:56 they the first
1:03:57 thing everyone
1:03:58 puts down is
1:04:00 date night they
1:04:02 they program it in
1:04:02 like wherever we
1:04:04 are and it just
1:04:04 become and it’s so
1:04:06 interesting that I
1:04:06 always think it’s so
1:04:08 funny that they
1:04:10 they safeguard it in
1:04:11 such a way because I
1:04:12 feel like they all
1:04:13 feel like that this
1:04:14 is this is become like
1:04:15 a really important
1:04:16 thing but I don’t
1:04:17 know that there’s any
1:04:18 big secret the
1:04:19 secret is just being
1:04:20 interested in each
1:04:20 other the secret is
1:04:23 just growing
1:04:25 together and I
1:04:25 think that we are
1:04:27 so fortunate that
1:04:28 we’ve been able to
1:04:29 work with one
1:04:30 another but it
1:04:30 comes from like this
1:04:32 place of like interest
1:04:33 and respect and I’m
1:04:34 interested in the
1:04:35 person that he was
1:04:37 this is 16 or 17
1:04:38 years ago I wish I
1:04:39 knew but I’m
1:04:39 interested in the
1:04:40 person that he’s
1:04:41 becoming and I
1:04:42 think he’s
1:04:42 interested in the
1:04:43 person I’m
1:04:43 becoming
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1:05:47 so 25 years old you
1:05:50 start ITB worldwide
1:05:51 and you run that
1:05:52 business
1:05:53 yeah 25 or 24 maybe
1:05:54 yep something like
1:05:54 that
1:05:55 for a decade
1:05:55 roughly
1:05:56 yeah a decade
1:05:58 a decade of your
1:05:58 life up until
1:06:00 35-ish
1:06:01 and you meet
1:06:02 Chris
1:06:02 yes
1:06:03 Jenna
1:06:04 in this process
1:06:05 of these 10 years
1:06:06 when did you meet
1:06:07 Chris Jenna
1:06:09 I met her for the
1:06:10 first time like on a
1:06:12 job that I’d done for
1:06:13 one of the girls I was
1:06:14 actually and I’m sure
1:06:16 they must be pretty
1:06:17 furious now actually I
1:06:18 was actually introduced
1:06:20 through an agent at WMA
1:06:21 they just gave me her
1:06:22 number directly so I
1:06:22 just called her
1:06:23 why would they be
1:06:24 furious now because
1:06:24 they could have taken
1:06:25 a cut
1:06:26 probably
1:06:28 you know maybe they
1:06:29 should have ushered
1:06:30 that introduction
1:06:31 slightly more but hey
1:06:32 ho
1:06:34 yeah I just called her
1:06:35 at that time you know
1:06:37 at that time Chris
1:06:38 wasn’t the Chris of
1:06:39 now she was still
1:06:39 extremely famous I
1:06:40 remember when we went
1:06:42 for lunch there you
1:06:42 know there was like a
1:06:43 little crowd forming
1:06:44 outside but it was very
1:06:45 different from how it
1:06:45 is today
1:06:47 and what was she like
1:06:48 when you met her
1:06:49 amazing you know but
1:06:51 also like not in that
1:06:54 way that when you you
1:06:55 go and meet someone for
1:06:55 me it was just like
1:06:56 meeting any other
1:06:58 manager agent publicist
1:07:00 and of course it was
1:07:01 Chris and she was you
1:07:02 know on the show and
1:07:03 so I had an
1:07:03 understanding of who
1:07:05 she was but also I
1:07:05 was trying to get
1:07:06 something done you
1:07:07 know I would have
1:07:08 been doing some type
1:07:10 of endorsement and
1:07:11 trying to you know get
1:07:13 some information about
1:07:14 whatever it was that you
1:07:15 know I was working on
1:07:16 at the time so it was
1:07:17 just like a means to an
1:07:18 end wherever I would go
1:07:19 at that point in my
1:07:20 life you know I was
1:07:21 meeting with managers
1:07:22 agents publicists all
1:07:24 the time and that was
1:07:25 part of my job and part
1:07:26 of what I did on behalf
1:07:27 of brands.
1:07:28 What was that journey
1:07:29 from meeting Chris that
1:07:30 first time to getting
1:07:31 into business with
1:07:32 Chris and pitching
1:07:34 her to be a business
1:07:34 partner and then what
1:07:36 happens to ITB the
1:07:37 agency you were running
1:07:37 in the background?
1:07:39 So it was a really
1:07:40 interesting time for me
1:07:41 actually because there
1:07:43 was this big shift and
1:07:44 what I’d done in the
1:07:45 agency was built this
1:07:46 you know entertainment
1:07:47 marketing agency and we
1:07:48 really kind of sat at the
1:07:49 intersection of where
1:07:51 like brands and
1:07:52 entertainment get
1:07:54 together so film product
1:07:55 placement endorsement
1:07:57 deals influencer packages
1:07:58 like and that was like
1:07:59 the very early days of
1:08:00 influencers most of
1:08:00 the like we were
1:08:01 calling them bloggers
1:08:02 at that time right
1:08:04 so the agency was
1:08:06 growing and I’d
1:08:07 opened an office in
1:08:08 New York that was
1:08:09 really doing like the
1:08:10 majority of the
1:08:10 business and it was
1:08:11 fantastic so the
1:08:12 business become very
1:08:14 kind of US facing from
1:08:15 a client based point of
1:08:17 view and then this idea
1:08:19 of like talent based
1:08:20 equity deals kind of
1:08:21 like raised its head and
1:08:22 I’ve read something
1:08:23 about Ashton Kutcher
1:08:24 taking I don’t know
1:08:25 equity in some
1:08:26 Silicon Valley startup
1:08:27 and I started to get
1:08:29 calls and you know
1:08:29 people would always
1:08:31 phone me when they
1:08:32 wanted to put an
1:08:33 A-list talent in a
1:08:33 fragrance ad for
1:08:34 example but people
1:08:35 started calling me and
1:08:37 saying hey we’ve got
1:08:38 this startup we’d be
1:08:39 willing to give X Y and
1:08:41 Z 10% of this thing
1:08:43 for you know for an
1:08:44 endorsement and I was
1:08:44 like well that’s
1:08:45 interesting how do I
1:08:47 commission that right
1:08:48 because usually I would
1:08:50 be getting paid a
1:08:51 percentage of whatever
1:08:52 cash was taking was
1:08:54 crossing hands so for me
1:08:55 it was like this new
1:08:57 interesting part of the
1:08:58 business that I had to
1:08:58 figure out how to
1:09:01 monetize so fast
1:09:02 forward I did a
1:09:03 couple of deals and
1:09:03 instead of you know
1:09:05 taking a piece of
1:09:06 equity like you know
1:09:07 because at the end of
1:09:08 the day my agency
1:09:10 wasn’t it wasn’t in
1:09:11 that way shape or
1:09:12 form it wasn’t figured
1:09:13 out that we could like
1:09:14 bring equity into the
1:09:15 business like where
1:09:15 does that go that
1:09:16 wouldn’t go over to
1:09:17 me that would go to
1:09:18 the shareholder base
1:09:18 it would then mean
1:09:19 nothing to anybody so
1:09:20 I was like do you know
1:09:21 what a flat fee and
1:09:22 so I did a bunch of
1:09:23 deals with a bunch of
1:09:24 talents and I’d say
1:09:25 you’re going to pay me
1:09:25 a couple hundred
1:09:26 thousand dollars I’m
1:09:28 going to work out for
1:09:30 X to take 10% of
1:09:31 your company and I
1:09:32 did three that were
1:09:33 very very successful
1:09:35 then what happened is I
1:09:36 kind of sat back and I
1:09:38 was like wow it’s so
1:09:39 interesting and I
1:09:41 remember this company
1:09:44 reporting some just
1:09:45 reporting some numbers
1:09:46 and I was like I cannot
1:09:47 believe that they’ve
1:09:48 gone from there to
1:09:50 there and in my head I
1:09:51 made a direct
1:09:52 correlation between the
1:09:53 talent that had been
1:09:53 brought into that
1:09:54 company it was Pharrell
1:09:55 Williams at the time
1:09:56 and I was like wow
1:09:58 because Pharrell did this
1:09:59 thing the value of the
1:10:00 company jumped like this
1:10:01 I got my little couple
1:10:02 of hundred grand and
1:10:04 wasn’t incentivized and
1:10:06 you know by any of the
1:10:07 value that was created and
1:10:08 therefore you know I was
1:10:09 like God I’m really
1:10:11 losing here maybe I
1:10:12 should do one of these
1:10:13 for myself maybe I
1:10:14 should create a company
1:10:16 and bring a talent into
1:10:17 that company and give
1:10:18 them a piece of equity in
1:10:19 order to accelerate the
1:10:21 business that was the
1:10:21 start of Good
1:10:22 American that was the
1:10:24 initial thought because
1:10:25 I wasn’t getting paid
1:10:26 what I needed to from my
1:10:27 clients so I was like
1:10:29 well who’s going to who’s
1:10:29 going to pay me
1:10:31 correctly no one so I’ll
1:10:32 create it myself at that
1:10:34 time Jens and Eric had
1:10:36 started Frame which is an
1:10:37 incredibly successful
1:10:38 denim company and so I
1:10:39 had kind of thought in my
1:10:40 head that between you
1:10:42 know I had clients like
1:10:43 G-Star and Calvin Klein and
1:10:44 I’ve worked with Topshop for
1:10:46 a long time very denim
1:10:49 heavy Jens had Frame and
1:10:49 so I was like I know
1:10:50 something about denim
1:10:52 like that’s a category I can
1:10:54 do no what I knew was
1:10:56 denim marketing I had no
1:10:57 idea about how to make a
1:10:59 product and then fast
1:11:01 forward I sit down I sit
1:11:02 at a dinner and next to
1:11:03 some guy who had invested
1:11:06 heavily in a big plus size
1:11:08 retailer in America and he
1:11:10 said to me Emma this space
1:11:12 is exploding and he’s
1:11:13 telling me all about it and
1:11:15 I looked on my phone I
1:11:16 looked at the retailer and
1:11:18 I was like that’s gross
1:11:21 nobody wants to dress in
1:11:22 those clothes that product
1:11:24 is horrible and then
1:11:26 everything just came
1:11:27 together I was like oh my
1:11:28 goodness I’m going to
1:11:30 create a denim company I’m
1:11:31 going to make all of the
1:11:32 sizes all the time and I’m
1:11:33 going to make everyone look
1:11:36 hot buster end of that was
1:11:37 it I was like ding ding
1:11:38 ding and it just came
1:11:40 together and I was like oh
1:11:41 and you know what I know
1:11:42 how to do I know how to book
1:11:43 talent and bring them into the
1:11:45 brand and converge all of
1:11:47 those things and it’s going to
1:11:49 be explosive and so the idea
1:11:50 was kind of set in my head and
1:11:51 at that point I’d had the
1:11:53 conversation with Chris who
1:11:55 had said you know we’re
1:11:56 looking for these type of
1:11:58 partnerships now and so I
1:11:59 just went back to her and I
1:12:00 was like I have an idea and
1:12:01 I’d really love it if I could
1:12:04 pitch your daughter the rest
1:12:06 is history you pitched her
1:12:07 I pitched her you pitched
1:12:10 Chloe what did Chloe say I
1:12:11 don’t remember the exact words
1:12:13 and you know I never like to
1:12:15 it’s so interesting we have a
1:12:17 great working relationship
1:12:21 the family and I because I
1:12:22 don’t speak on their behalf
1:12:24 you know and I’m very careful
1:12:25 not to speak on their behalf
1:12:27 and it feels really unfair
1:12:29 because what they are so
1:12:31 unbelievably famous that
1:12:33 anything that you say becomes
1:12:35 news so I prefer never to talk
1:12:38 about what she said what I
1:12:39 remember is the end result is
1:12:41 that she said yes and you know
1:12:42 we’re in business together eight
1:12:44 years later what was the
1:12:45 process of making good
1:12:46 America a good company in
1:12:48 terms of you have that
1:12:49 initial hypothesis when you
1:12:50 sat at that dinner you think
1:12:51 okay this is what it’s going
1:12:53 to be it tends to be the case
1:12:54 that almost everyone’s
1:12:55 initial hypothesis is like a
1:12:57 little bit wrong yeah at least
1:12:58 in part no it’s so
1:13:00 interesting actually that’s the
1:13:01 that’s the thing that we got
1:13:02 right I think that what we
1:13:03 understood intrinsically is
1:13:04 that there was this huge
1:13:06 subset of customers that were
1:13:07 left out of the fashion
1:13:08 conversation if you’re above a
1:13:11 size 12 that there was
1:13:12 almost nothing cute in the
1:13:14 market for you and what we
1:13:15 didn’t do was create any
1:13:17 separation we were just like
1:13:19 we’re going to make 19 sizes of
1:13:21 clothes and what happens
1:13:22 traditionally in most retailers
1:13:24 is that you’ve got one set of
1:13:25 sizes and then you go up to
1:13:27 floor five and there’s this like
1:13:28 horrible little subsection and
1:13:30 you’ve got a bit of you know the
1:13:32 assortment for petite and a bit
1:13:33 of the assortment for plus size
1:13:35 women and it’s completely not
1:13:37 reflective of what’s downstairs for
1:13:38 everybody else and so we were
1:13:39 like do you know what we’re just
1:13:40 going to connect all of those
1:13:41 things we’re just going to make
1:13:43 one product we’ll make it in 19
1:13:45 sizes and whatever we do we’ll
1:13:47 let the customers choose so if
1:13:49 we’re making a dress with a giant
1:13:50 slit up the side of it we’re not
1:13:52 going to moderate it because we
1:13:53 think that a girl at a certain
1:13:54 size doesn’t want the slit as
1:13:56 higher because you know what we bet
1:13:58 she does if we make a teeny tiny
1:14:00 fluorescent pink bikini we’re
1:14:01 going to make it in every size and
1:14:03 we’ll let the decision be down to
1:14:05 the woman and it turns out we were
1:14:08 100% right with our instinct because
1:14:10 these girls weren’t buying or
1:14:13 because they didn’t want to buy it
1:14:14 they weren’t buying because it
1:14:16 wasn’t available anywhere and so our
1:14:18 instinct to just like make the
1:14:20 stuff and put it out there and see
1:14:22 who comes was the right thing to do
1:14:25 what part of the strategy and the
1:14:32 games you played in 2018 could not be
1:14:33 replicated now that was so important
1:14:35 back then because the game has
1:14:37 changed so many that the game has so
1:14:39 changed you know the arbitrage that
1:14:42 existed in social media then like how
1:14:44 you could pay to acquire a customer is
1:14:47 almost entirely gone and so when I
1:14:48 think about how we could work with
1:14:50 Facebook and how we could work with
1:14:53 Instagram how powerful those
1:14:56 followings were back then you can’t
1:14:58 compare it to now and so you could
1:15:00 acquire a customer very cheaply you
1:15:02 could you know I think that the
1:15:04 the algorithms worked completely
1:15:06 differently therefore the cohorts in
1:15:07 your business behave completely
1:15:09 differently and if I think about it
1:15:13 we had a three-year golden period of
1:15:16 runway the good thing is I think we
1:15:18 knew and I always talk about the
1:15:20 beauty of my board members at that
1:15:22 time going back to people like Andrew
1:15:24 Rosen and John Howard who were the
1:15:27 total opposite to everybody else on my
1:15:29 board that was like Emma you need to
1:15:31 just double down acquire as many
1:15:33 customers as possible don’t worry
1:15:36 about profitability just spend spend
1:15:38 spend and they were like absolutely
1:15:41 do not do that you need a profitable
1:15:43 business that works when this is over
1:15:47 and so I just was like I’m gonna do
1:15:49 what these guys are telling me they have
1:15:51 a lot of experience they have a lot of
1:15:52 successful businesses they’ve been
1:15:54 doing it for a lot longer and so I
1:15:56 think that while we you know created a
1:15:58 foundation for the business that was
1:15:59 really important that was rooted in
1:16:03 being digitally native we never we
1:16:05 never rested on that being the only
1:16:06 way that we could meet customers we
1:16:08 were immediately saying we’ve got to
1:16:10 open our own stores we’ve got to
1:16:11 create a wholesale footprint and when
1:16:14 the tide turned which inevitably did and
1:16:16 that really happened you know COVID
1:16:18 kind of gave you an acceleration but
1:16:20 then the fall off was pretty quick we
1:16:21 had this buffer of an incredible
1:16:24 business that allowed us to stay the
1:16:28 course so if one is you know 2025 and
1:16:30 they’re trying to deploy a strategy to
1:16:32 build any kind of brand and they’re
1:16:34 thinking about the channels if we think
1:16:36 about B2C companies so things like
1:16:39 Good American or it could be I don’t
1:16:42 know an energy drink or whatever what
1:16:44 what kind of strategy you thinking about
1:16:45 now to acquire customers as being some
1:16:47 of the most interesting but maybe
1:16:51 yeah I really am blown away by what
1:16:53 happens when you meet customers in real
1:16:56 life you know and I think that some of
1:16:58 the more experiential things that we’ve
1:17:00 done that stay with people you know
1:17:02 post COVID people want to be together
1:17:04 and they want to be in person and they
1:17:08 want experience and they want memories
1:17:10 and they want things that last and they
1:17:12 want physicality and and what’s
1:17:15 tangible and so whatever you can do that
1:17:17 brings those type of experiences like in
1:17:21 real life experience is always going to
1:17:23 be out anything that is like more
1:17:25 digitally native and so a good example
1:17:27 of that is we just opened a store on
1:17:29 sunset for skims and we connected the
1:17:32 store opening with this incredible diner
1:17:34 next door that’s like a 24-hour kind of
1:17:38 like Hollywood staple diner there were
1:17:40 queues around the block every single slot
1:17:43 for in the entirety of the six days and
1:17:45 it’s 24 hours was booked within five
1:17:48 minutes and this is to get pancakes and
1:17:50 you know chicken tenders and like a root
1:17:53 beer float and what was so interesting to
1:17:55 me is I took my kids and it was so cute
1:17:57 you know it’s like a 50s diner with a
1:17:59 jukebox and we skimsified the whole thing
1:18:02 it looked amazing my three-year-old two
1:18:04 days later said I want to go back to the
1:18:06 cafe and I was like you’re English that’s
1:18:08 so cool you want to go to the diner she’s
1:18:09 like yeah I want to get the thing with
1:18:12 the cherry on the top and I was like wow
1:18:14 like in a three years three-year-old’s head
1:18:16 that even like she had an impression of
1:18:19 like that being like a special moment and
1:18:20 something that’s stuck in her mind and I
1:18:22 was like those type of things for me are
1:18:25 just way more valuable now look if you’re
1:18:27 starting a business it’s really hard to do
1:18:29 experiential in real life things like that
1:18:31 but I think the point is that getting in
1:18:34 front of customers like getting to them
1:18:36 and that physicality of being in front of
1:18:38 them and whether that is if you’re starting
1:18:40 a new drink like being in the supermarket
1:18:44 being in front of like the point of purchase
1:18:46 like that is really important to tell your
1:18:48 story and have some physicality around what
1:18:49 you’re doing are you seeing this idea of
1:18:51 community becoming more and more important
1:18:54 for building brands because you know a couple
1:18:56 of years ago it was all like just throw some
1:18:57 Facebook ads at them or get some influencers
1:18:59 to tell them about it now we’re seeing this
1:19:02 transition towards like run clubs and yoga
1:19:05 thing with the brand present and yeah I think
1:19:08 it’s I definitely think it’s community and I
1:19:10 you know when I think about what that means
1:19:13 for our businesses you know oftentimes it’s
1:19:16 really about like like owning that customer
1:19:20 experience you know it’s like if you if you
1:19:22 know for example Skims has an app which is
1:19:24 like an incredible place for customers to
1:19:26 experience the brand and I think there’s
1:19:29 like a lot again it’s like there’s high low
1:19:31 ways there’s very very few brands that can
1:19:33 be successful in an app right you’ve got to
1:19:35 really have so much brand affinity and so
1:19:37 much love to that brand that people will
1:19:39 come get off of whatever they’re doing and
1:19:41 like click and be in your app so I think
1:19:43 that’s certainly not for everybody I don’t
1:19:44 think that would work for a lot of the
1:19:46 brands that I’m involved in but the sense
1:19:50 of like standing for something having some
1:19:52 kind of purpose galvanizing people around
1:19:54 something that isn’t just about your
1:19:58 product is is probably the way to go I think
1:20:00 and you know Good American has been so
1:20:02 successful because it always stood for
1:20:04 something at the end of the day we were
1:20:06 selling blue jeans and white t-shirts but
1:20:08 people understand why they come to that
1:20:09 brand they understand that there’s a
1:20:12 purpose but you also have to evolve that
1:20:15 purpose continuously and when I think about
1:20:17 where we started eight years ago and where
1:20:19 we are in the middle somewhere we became
1:20:21 B Corp certified and that was another like
1:20:24 real push for the company it was very
1:20:26 very very heavy lifting but that was
1:20:29 something that for our staff became so
1:20:31 important to them you know denim is a
1:20:33 tough business to be in it’s a very
1:20:36 pollutive business I have a lot of really
1:20:38 young people a lot of young mothers that
1:20:40 work at the company and they wanted to
1:20:41 know that they worked in a place that
1:20:44 cared about the world that they live in and
1:20:45 so it really was something that was an
1:20:48 undertaking by that company to say we all
1:20:50 feel that we could do so much better and I
1:20:53 think that the underlying values of that
1:20:56 company are about it being about our
1:20:59 customers and the people that work for work
1:21:01 there and whatever is true to them being
1:21:03 the most important thing and so that has
1:21:05 really evolved over time how old are you
1:21:08 here in this photo I must be what okay so
1:21:11 if Katie is what she looks like I must be
1:21:17 16 16 15 no 15 15 oh yeah yeah oh if you
1:21:19 were to speak to this Emma and this Emma was
1:21:21 keen to start a business and she came to
1:21:23 you and said what are the like first
1:21:26 principles of business what are the the
1:21:28 the three most important things in being
1:21:29 successful in business that you’ve learned
1:21:32 in your decades now of wisdom and
1:21:34 experience what would you take the say to
1:21:37 her oh bless her well I’d say I love your
1:21:41 curly hair first of all um it’s not a bad
1:21:44 place to start actually because I would say
1:21:47 that it’s so important to be true to
1:21:51 yourself in whatever you do and you know I
1:21:55 think that I have an incredible gut instinct
1:22:01 and I have very strong feelings that guide the
1:22:04 decisions that I make and that has really
1:22:07 led me so well so I’d be like have conviction
1:22:10 about what it is that you feel deeply and go
1:22:13 and go with that but by the same token I’d say
1:22:15 know what you don’t know because there’s a
1:22:17 lot of places where I’m weak and one of my
1:22:19 greatest strengths and a superpower of mine
1:22:22 has been know what you don’t know and hire
1:22:25 people into the kind of gaps and the holes
1:22:28 that you have in your own knowledge that’s
1:22:30 been really important for me and it’s I feel
1:22:33 like I’m so privileged that I’ve worked with
1:22:35 people in one company and being able to bring
1:22:37 them into another company and another and I
1:22:40 start almost a lot of things with like a
1:22:42 similar group of people and I love that because
1:22:46 they fill in for where I’m not so good and
1:22:51 that’s been really key and then despite everything
1:22:55 you’ve been told you’re going to have to take some risks
1:22:58 and I think that everything that this kid knew was
1:23:02 like don’t be risky don’t take any risks like figure
1:23:20 everything out and be really safe and what I’ve learned is that nothing is going to come easy and I think that when I moved here I moved to America with a two year old and a newborn baby and I had no friends here not like real friends and it was a really scary move because you move away from you know you forget when you move country you move from all senses of what is familiar to you and that’s very
1:23:39 and that’s very it’s very difficult in any stage of your life but there’s a special vulnerability
1:23:43 and having a new baby and having a new venture that you don’t really understand how to run
1:23:51 at the time and so I would say like learning to take risks as probably being the best thing
1:23:52 that I’ve done.
1:23:53 How do you feel about her?
1:24:01 Oh you know I think she’s so cute and so lovely you know I don’t like I feel like that’s you
1:24:03 you know I still look exactly the same don’t I?
1:24:05 Yeah you do.
1:24:28 You know like I feel like this person was like dying like dying to dying to just do something differently and dying to escape her circumstances but also you know this person loved these three people so much Charlotte, Rachel and Katie they are like my world my sisters
1:24:55 we’re on a group chat and we’re on a group chat and we chat all the time and like my reason for being successful was so much about them it’s so much about this idea of being able to share and look after them and take all the things that we had in our childhood and move it into a new space and I’m really proud of myself that I’ve been able to do that.
1:24:57 Dying to escape that situation.
1:25:23 Yeah because I feel like for me you know I didn’t feel that safe when I was younger you know I really didn’t I really really didn’t and I felt like I should probably have a future where my kids feel
1:25:57 be thoughtful about the words because you know my mom is still alive and she did the very best she could with what she had which is all any parent can do but I feel that for me and my sisters there was just so much uncertainty in so many things that I wanted to make sure that for my kids there was just this solid foundation and I’m so happy I’ve been able to do that.
1:25:59 Some of the skills that I’ve been able to do that.
1:26:08 Some of the skills that I think you have that are unappreciated one of them is the ability to articulate an idea and some people call this like sales.
1:26:18 How critical do you think it is for women for men for everybody to cultivate that particular skill and how did you cultivate it?
1:26:38 Oh I think it’s one of the most important things you know when I think about who I am investing in when I think about what businesses to support I don’t care if a founder has a lot of missing pieces but if you can’t sell you ain’t getting my money like no way like it’s just no way.
1:26:58 No you can’t you can’t outsource that stuff you either have an ability to convince somebody of what you’re doing and sell your idea uniquely or you don’t and I’ve never invested in any founders that didn’t have that as a skill that couldn’t bring me on a journey and tell me their story and convince me that this was something that the world needed.
1:27:06 How do you sell so if you were selling something to me what are the core what would you be thinking about as you’re preparing that pitch and putting it together?
1:27:28 Oh you’ll see you’re just so much more thoughtful than I am I would just I would be so you know like my whole thing is like I have to be passionate about the thing that I’m doing I have to like see the need I have to figure out the like what am I solving for and then I go in on that I’m like you know I’m I’m painting the picture of like where the problem sits.
1:27:50 and then I’m showing you how I’ve uniquely come up with the solution and then I’m you know I I’m like old school right it’s like I create a value proposition I’m all about like the perfect place for pricing and then it’s like I’m going to get it to you in a unique way but I don’t think it’s like so complicated I’m I’m I’m like a born salesperson that’s just who I am.
1:27:52 When you reference this you touch your chest a lot.
1:27:52 Oh do I?
1:27:54 No but it’s interesting to me.
1:27:55 Because it’s like a heartfelt thing.
1:27:55 That’s what I’m saying.
1:28:09 So intuition feeling yeah and I do get that from you that I think you’ve cultivated the trust with your intuition which obviously took some time because I remember the comment Jens made to you said you’re acting like an employee.
1:28:13 You need to like it almost sounded like trust yourself a bit more so you can call the shots.
1:28:27 is that something we cultivate and and how how do we know whether to trust our intuition because so many people like their intuition is trying to say something to them and maybe they like gaslight themselves and tell themselves or other people tell them to to sort of dim down that internal voice.
1:28:32 But how have you learned to get that conviction to act upon feeling?
1:28:36 How have I learned to act upon feeling?
1:28:41 Well I guess there’s an element of doing it and turning out to be right.
1:28:55 But I think that you’ve got to know the difference between having intuition and a gut feeling and then just sort of general excitement and being able to separate those things.
1:29:00 Because I get really excited about things right and I’ll be like oh my god that’s amazing.
1:29:08 And it’s so interesting because when you sit on a show like you know Dragon’s Den or Shark Tank like you really need to learn like very quickly to separate those feelings.
1:29:20 And so that that helped me a little bit but I think that that is the like is it coming from a place that kind of hits you in your heart spot or are you just feeling like some sense of excitement?
1:29:23 And that that is two very different things for me.
1:29:30 Like are you are you moving me emotionally or am I just like oh that feels like money over there?
1:29:36 It’s like that looks like it’s going to chop up into some you know nice dividends at some point.
1:29:44 That’s that’s not how I make decisions like I never I never go that way with that sort of general excitement of something that’s going to be like more financially exciting for me.
1:29:45 They never work out.
1:29:53 Have you thought much about as you look back through your career and now you have the clarity of hindsight how important the size of one’s dreams are?
1:30:02 Because I imagine that if you spoke to that Emma now you’d be like like listen go fucking out like dream fucking bigger like it’s gonna you know.
1:30:10 And I was I think it was when I heard about how we work took investment in the back of a car from mashu I was his name son something yeah.
1:30:19 From soft bank the bigger like billionaire investor and he gave the we work founder a billion dollar check and said you know the only problem with you is you don’t dream big enough.
1:30:31 He just given him a billion dollars and he was criticizing him for not asking for more and as I reflect back through my career I go Jesus Christ like so many moments I like undersold myself because I just couldn’t see it.
1:30:38 I didn’t have the friends you know what happened in the end of that story right Stephen yeah yeah yeah but still like listen this guy walked away with a billion dollars.
1:30:43 Listen he did he did all right he did all right but you know it’s like I’m I’m not investing in his next thing a year.
1:30:49 He’s just raised 250 million I saw it I can’t believe it I can’t believe people are just walking back into that but there you go.
1:30:56 The thing that it put in my mind was actually that you know that whole adage of like aim for the cloud like aim for the stars in your land on the clouds whatever.
1:31:00 Yeah I was like there’s truth to this idea of just like aiming higher.
1:31:20 Yeah I think there is some truth to it I mean look I I don’t know that I even had an idea of how high high was you know and I think that it’s perspective and your environment that gives you an idea of like what is high you know I often talk about this idea you can’t be what you don’t see.
1:31:40 And for me I don’t think that I had a lot of role models and being in England at that time it just wasn’t like who was there like do you know what I mean like I don’t remember anybody being particularly like you know I I kind of honed in on Oprah because she was on the TV when I would come home from school and I was like that is aspirational.
1:31:55 Now there’s a black woman who reads all these books that has these crazy ideas around gratitude and at the time she you know she was talking a lot about manifesting and it wasn’t mindfulness meditation right but that then kind of moved in to mindfulness.
1:32:10 But the exposure to those ideas to me at that time it felt fresh and new and I was like I am going to watch Oprah and I’m going to be like Oprah in my way of thinking not that I wanted to be on TV but it’s like that’s the type of level of thought I wanted.
1:32:17 I wanted to be thoughtful and articulate and move like Oprah because I thought she’d move good.
1:32:30 So when it comes to like your dreams and your ambitions for me I think that they’ve maybe aside from the visualization side of things where I like drew this beautiful home for me they’ve always been a little bit more bite size.
1:32:48 It’s been like let’s get out of this place get out of Plasto then let’s like get a job and surround yourself with the right people and then like you know it’s all been very kind of like much more incremental and I always think about this idea of how I’ve leveraged everything that I’ve had into the next thing and I’m pretty good at doing that.
1:33:00 I have grand plans that I started writing when I was 30 but they’re much more theoretical about how I want to feel and how I want to be spending my time as opposed to like what will I be doing at that moment.
1:33:06 One of the things you’ve said over and over again as well when talking about building business is hiring and how important that is to you.
1:33:13 It’s taken me a long time longer than I would have liked to realize the importance of hiring.
1:33:15 In my first business I think it was an afterthought.
1:33:21 I thought most important things are if I work seven days a week and I don’t leave this office and I have good ideas we’ll be good.
1:33:24 Yeah not so much not scalable.
1:33:29 Yeah you learn the hard way you learn the hard way because you start hiring your friends and you go off vibes etc.
1:33:37 So the hiring advice that you needed at the start of your career that would have helped you to make less mistakes what is that advice?
1:33:39 The hiring advice was learn to fire.
1:33:45 Well that’s what you know because I think that what happens in businesses is the people that get you to 10 million
1:33:49 and not the people that get you to 100 million people get you to 100 million and not people get you to 500 and then to a billion.
1:34:02 And so what happens is as a founder you get so you know you know what it’s like like that startup vibe those early people that work that they do and the times you have together.
1:34:16 That all becomes like so much part of your success story right and if you hold on to that for too long you kind of miss what is next and you miss that ability to be able to pivot and to level up.
1:34:21 And so I think that the mistakes that I made early on were not moving people out of the business quickly enough.
1:34:31 Because I just didn’t want to fire them because I have loyalty and I’m like such a nice girl and I was like you just needed to go and I didn’t want to say that.
1:34:34 And what was the harm that they did by staying or by you enabling them to stay?
1:34:46 It restricted my growth it restricted my ability to be able to move up and level up and have better clients and you know you you don’t know what you don’t know until it’s like right in front of you.
1:34:57 And so I needed to keep as the business grew you need to keep constantly up leveling your people and so that’s what I that’s what I missed.
1:35:01 So if I could bring that old Emery in that didn’t want to fire and I sat her here what would you say to her?
1:35:08 Because I ask this because I know because kids come up to me all the time saying this that there are so many people who can relate.
1:35:10 Who can relate?
1:35:11 Can relate.
1:35:12 Oh no doubt.
1:35:14 You know people pleasing we’re a family.
1:35:16 Yeah no we’re not a family we’re not a family.
1:35:39 And that’s the first thing it’s like I think everybody really needs to understand like why they are there and this is about leadership style right like are you clear in what you’re all there to do because it’s like I am not building a family I am here to run an organization that organization is here to create a profit and we all have to be very very clear about our goals and how we’re getting there.
1:35:55 And I think that’s what we’re getting there and I think that’s what we’re getting there and I think that in the past what happens and especially when you have successful companies success masks a lot of problems in a business right like and when you get successful you’ve got to allow yourself and your team to be equally critical.
1:36:05 Even when everything’s going well and even if the bottom line’s well there’ll still be dysfunction within that organization and you can’t let the success mask what that dysfunction is.
1:36:18 You’ve got to get into it and actually it’s even more important when you are successful that you deal with those things because otherwise the problems get bigger and bigger as the company gets bigger and bigger and you end up with a problem that you could have stamped out much earlier on that you then didn’t.
1:36:24 So it’s just a really key thing and it’s like anything you get better at this like all the time.
1:36:33 Now I’ve become better and better at spotting who are the right people and inevitably actually I spend more and more of my time bringing the right people into the company.
1:36:45 I reckon we were talking about this the other day I think it’s like 20 maybe even 25% of my time is spent on talent and cultivating like the right people to come into the company.
1:37:06 It’s a lot of time it’s a lot of time a lot of time oh my god but that’s the difference between good and great 100% agree who you bring in you know when we talk about culture in a company culture is like who you hire who you fire and who gets promoted now that is my job that’s my decisions to make within the organization.
1:37:16 So I really think about how much more thoughtful can I be about those decisions and the majority of that is put in like who I hire.
1:37:26 So on that point then how does one get truly exceptional people to come and join them and I say this because you know in the last five years I’ve become increasingly obsessed with hiring.
1:37:38 It’s like my team will tell you I feel like I’m the head of recruitment yeah I built the process sign off everybody that joins every company obsessing about it building tools myself in my bedroom to make art like the screening process that I talked about built it myself.
1:37:52 It’s my absolute obsession because I now have the clarity of hindsight where I go oh my god my net worth and my outcomes can be correlated to like 10 exceptional people that I brought into my ecosystem 10 years ago and the downstream impact of them hiring more exceptional people etc.
1:38:03 So this so but me and you’re in a different place now and if you go back to when you first started your agency all those years ago you didn’t have the same leverage.
1:38:04 Oh no way.
1:38:18 So if you’re a startup founder now and they agree with this principle that hiring is so critical A players really matter how do they go about like how would you go about now getting exceptional people to come and join Emma’s company.
1:38:34 Yeah well Stephen that’s the reason that you’ve got to be a great salesperson otherwise I’m not going to invest in you but it comes back down to that right because in the beginning you’ve got to sell a dream a vision you might be willing to give someone some equity but chances are that equity is worth zilch in the beginning.
1:38:47 So you’ve got to be that person that can say here’s where we’re going we’re going to paint a vision but you’ve got to have the strategic chops to say you know anybody good is going to understand that a founder alone goes nowhere right.
1:39:04 So it’s like what am I coming into like if it’s the founder and it’s like very little then what’s the vision I’m buying into and what’s the strategy to get there so it comes back down to this like idea of like can you sell a vision can you sell the strategy these people are going to come into and actually work towards.
1:39:20 And I think that that is probably like the thing that I’m good at after I’ve had a pretty clear idea about what I’m doing and I can do that because I don’t do very much everybody always says to me how do you do so much it’s like I don’t do very much what I do is obsessed over the customer.
1:39:24 I obsess over a set of products and then I get into them really quickly.
1:39:37 That’s it like that’s all I do and so it’s not really that much that I do and I think that it’s like so so so important for you to be able to do very very very few things really really well.
1:39:43 I think that’s it really goes against what a lot of startup founders think they have to be doing because they think they have to be good at everything.
1:39:50 No no I think I honestly think it’s the opposite and I think that if you start to tell yourself that it’s a slippery slope because no
1:39:59 one is good at everything right you’ve got to find people that have expertise that can do things that you can’t do and that can be really difficult in the beginning.
1:40:11 But again it’s like you have to have it’s like so much of it is about curiosity asking as many questions as you can so you can start to figure out who is going to be the best person to solve that problem in the beginning.
1:40:20 Like I just feel like I had no idea how so many parts of my business worked but it’s like I would make sure that I would be the person to ask enough
1:40:29 questions to get to the point where I could hire somebody that would be competent to do that role right so it’s like you train yourself and you you train these
1:40:43 muscles that get you better at hiring and you’re going to make some mistakes like I I never feel like we spend enough time talking about failure about the mistakes I’ve made so many mistakes I moved a whole bunch of
1:41:02 whole bunch of people here to LA and shut the office down 18 months later because I was I thought I had something that I just didn’t have I thought that the reputation I’d built in London would translate to LA what I didn’t understand is LA is a community and I wasn’t part of it you know it was like a closed
1:41:12 closed door I got here and I was like well like I think just frozen frozen out completely like like that yeah they’re not like us like
1:41:33 so you know and it really was and so I think that you know learning like not just understanding okay I had this thing it went wrong but it’s like really going deep and being like where and how did I fail and how do I consistently get better at that and staffing is one of those things that you just get better and better and better at it the more you do it.
1:41:44 I’m really obsessed about this idea of like truly exceptional people and truly exceptional people yeah like truly exceptional people I was I was listening to something Steve Jobs was saying a couple of weeks ago throw it up on the screen for anybody.
1:41:58 I’ve built a lot of my success off finding these truly gifted people and not settling for B and C players but really going for the A players and I found something.
1:42:22 I found that when you get enough A players together when you go through the incredible work to find you know five of these A players they really like working with each other because they never had a chance to do that before and they don’t want to work with B and C players and so it becomes self policing and they only want to hire more A players and so you build up these pockets of A players and it propagates.
1:42:35 Have you found that have you found that to be the case and also I want to address another point here which is the insecurity of an early stage founder who looks up and sees someone that’s really experienced and then they have that sort of self-doubt and go how the fuck am I going to manage them.
1:43:02 You know what at the risk of disagreeing with anybody so prolific and amazing I think as someone who has been able to move people between organizations or between companies sometimes it can be the company that can make people great you can have a truly exceptional person in a kind of dysfunctional company and then they don’t do as well right.
1:43:13 Like you can bring in somebody not quite exceptional into an exceptional culture and company and the organization makes them great.
1:43:15 Makes them look great or makes them great?
1:43:25 No it makes them great because what people tend to do is level up right whether you end up the average of the people that you surround yourself most.
1:43:43 And I have in some cases brought people in you know that I’d be like a B minus and they’ve turned into an A player and the more I think about this Stephen the more I think that’s happened on a number of occasions when the organization is exceptional and when the people there are doing exceptional work they can actually level up the people.
1:43:48 Now they have to be somebody that wants to level up for sure but I’ve definitely seen it work that way.
1:43:59 One of the things I think a lot about is kind of dovetails into this a little bit because I was referencing how we can sometimes be our own worst enemies and doubt ourselves away from like finding the truly exceptional person so we end up hiring our friends.
1:44:02 I love this idea that you’ve hired friends.
1:44:04 Who are these friends that you’re hiring?
1:44:05 Did you hire a bunch of friends?
1:44:07 It’s a terrible bloody idea.
1:44:08 Says me who works with my husband.
1:44:22 No I was 18 and I they weren’t actually friends but they weren’t qualified I just met them at like I met one guy at a Prada store and I was like you can be my account manager and then I met some guy at like a rap battle and I was like you should be my marketing director.
1:44:26 This is great between Prada and the rap battle I get it I can see how these things weren’t happening.
1:44:28 No rigor in deciding who.
1:44:37 No but that’s what it comes down to like rigor right it’s like you again you’ve developed systems and processes that have helped you get to where you are and it’s like now I have a giant organization.
1:44:53 An organization and a you know a head of people that that spend their life like not just again bringing people into the organization but then like making them great once they get there like I had no such thing I don’t think I knew where the HR office was when I was in in employment.
1:44:59 I mean like who are they where are they some I don’t know girl called Jo that sits in a camp so I don’t know where she was.
1:45:15 But I say that because we’re in a different time now where there is such an ability for us to be more thoughtful about who we’re bringing in and so I think anyone who’s really smart and any founder that’s really smart is going to use all the tools.
1:45:27 All you need to do is know that it’s a really important thing that you will do who those first three five ten people that you bring into your organization will be the difference between good and great.
1:45:42 And so being slow and thoughtful and purposeful and using everything at your disposal to make those decisions is probably the best time that a founder can spend outside of developing products or whatever the end product is.
1:45:43 How do you think about prejudice Emma?
1:45:55 I mean what I really mean here is being being counted out before you walk in the room so people hear that you’re it might be a woman or something else and you feel that they’re not taking you seriously.
1:46:05 Has that happened in your career as a black person as a woman as anything that puts you in the minority as it relates to the accomplishments you’ve made?
1:46:08 Actually I’m going to give you a bit more context as to why I ask this.
1:46:35 It’s because one of my fears is with some people they count themselves out before they walk in the room because prejudice is real so they limit themselves and there’s a really great study they did many many years ago where they got a group of black people I believe it was on a vocabulary test just to talk about their race before they did the vocabulary test and if they got them to talk about their race before their performance dropped.
1:46:57 If they didn’t get the group to talk about their race before in a different study performance was the same they did the same with women they got them to identify their gender before doing a maths test and because there’s a stereotype around maths or at least there was at the time in women women on that test would perform worse if they talked about their gender right before they did the test but importantly if they didn’t the results were the same as everybody else.
1:47:09 The stereotype threat is a stereotype threat is a stereotype threat and the stereotype threat is a real thing and the unpopular conversation is there could be ways that we’re holding ourselves back before we even walk into the room because of that stereotype threat.
1:47:20 It could be age it could be race it could be gender it could be gender it could be anything else it could be a disability and I just wonder how you think about like you know that.
1:47:28 I mean look it’s undoubtable that that is real for so many people in their lives and the way they think about themselves.
1:47:56 I think that any thoughtful organization has and certainly in more recent times if we think about what’s happened in the last five years anybody that didn’t look at their company hiring process and beyond the hiring process look around their business and see is it a true reflection of our customer base of society of what we’re trying to achieve and who we want to be you know making decisions.
1:48:13 We’re talking about foolish companies here I feel like anybody anybody and everybody did that look the great thing the great thing about prejudice is you very rarely know if it actually happened to you nobody nobody likes to point out they’re like listen you didn’t get this thing because actually I’m prejudiced against you.
1:48:36 I’m sure it’s never something that for me knowing how I’m hardwired I would have let get to me in any way shape or form you know I’d get in a room and would never feel any such like like held back by my education held back by my accent or anything like that or being a black woman.
1:48:50 In fact to the contrary to me I always felt like it was a bit of an advantage there was only one of me I used to walk into these offices and work experience and everybody would always single me out because I was the only one that kind of looks like she might have a different opinion.
1:49:01 Everyone came from the same kind of you know like private school stock and there I was with the accent with the big curly hair black girl sitting in the corner and inevitably they’d be like what do you think.
1:49:08 So you know it just played out differently for me and therefore my experience is kind of a reflection of that.
1:49:10 That’s what I wanted to know.
1:49:23 I wanted to understand that because it’s it’s it’s something that I really want people to realise which is like prejudice yes it’s real as you said but it doesn’t have to be your problem.
1:49:25 It can remain theirs.
1:49:25 Yeah.
1:49:31 And I really worry that people will internalise other people’s prejudice and then limit themselves.
1:49:36 Yeah and I think this is a very different listen you and I speak as two British people right.
1:49:39 I’ve lived here now for eight years.
1:49:41 It ain’t the same here in America.
1:49:42 How do you mean?
1:50:00 Well the the way people relate to race is extremely different here and if I’d have been born in America maybe I’d have had a different feeling about how the colour of my skin impacted my life on a daily basis because it’s very very very very different here and very much more prolific.
1:50:18 And a point of everyday not just conversation but everyday prejudice comes up and manifests itself in a very very different way here with negative connotations.
1:50:29 And so I thank God that I was raised in London and I I had a very very different way of associate like how I felt about myself.
1:50:39 I had a very very different way of the way in which I was raised and how I experienced like race as a kid.
1:50:48 How you felt about yourself seems to be more internal than external in that regard and that brings me to my next question which is just about how do we not give so many fucks?
1:50:56 It’s hard to live and it’s hard to strive and it’s hard to take risk if we’re imprisoned by the amount of fucks that we give.
1:50:59 Yeah this is I feel like this is like my speciality you know.
1:51:06 It’s really interesting because so much of that is just like in us right.
1:51:25 It’s like hardwired who we are and how many fucks we give and I just so happen to be the type of person that has such sort of self-assurance and such conviction that I don’t care or I just have I have such high.
1:51:36 It’s not that I don’t care I just have such a high value on how much I care about what I think that maybe what other people think just kind of like pales into insignificance for me.
1:51:41 That’s the honest truth and so I just have very very high self-worth.
1:51:46 I’ve heard you talk before about how as well we kind of misunderstand how much people actually give a fuck about us.
1:51:59 I think about that all the time because it’s just one of those things that we just imagine that people spend a lot of time crafting texts to us that you would like sit and be like what did they mean by that?
1:52:03 You know like it’s a scent do you know what I mean?
1:52:08 Like I didn’t even think about the words and the now you know whether I was using caps or the wrong emojis or like whatever it is.
1:52:17 And I do think that there is this thing that we imagine because we’re at the centre of our universe that we’re at the centre of everybody else’s and it’s just not the truth.
1:52:20 Nobody’s watching you like I think about it all the time.
1:52:23 Nobody wakes up and thinks about me as much as I do.
1:52:25 It can feel like that.
1:52:25 So we just got to relax.
1:52:30 Well maybe it feels like it for you but I just don’t think that anybody’s that interested.
1:52:40 It doesn’t feel like it for me but when you’re in the I think humans like from an evolutionary perspective we’re like our brain is built to deal with like 20 tribes people.
1:52:41 Yeah.
1:52:42 Yeah.
1:52:50 So we interpret we have a probably hardwired to our fault of being interpreting everything is coming from a member of the tribe.
1:52:50 Yeah.
1:52:58 Whereas in reality it could be like Dave and Swindon with like an egg emoji who’s telling you that those genes suck.
1:52:59 Suck yeah.
1:52:59 Yeah.
1:53:00 Yeah totally.
1:53:04 Listen and David Swindon is like allowed to have his egg emoji.
1:53:07 I just don’t think his egg emoji needs to like ruin my day.
1:53:10 I’m like poor fucker like what’s he doing?
1:53:11 How embarrassing.
1:53:16 One of the next seasons of life I find myself moving towards quickly is parenthood.
1:53:22 When did you start trying and what was your fertility journey like?
1:53:26 I love that you asked this and I was I’m very surprised that you are.
1:53:42 I had the most easy unbelievable brilliant fertility journey with my first two and then probably the saddest most disappointing hardest time in my life with the second two.
1:53:53 And so it really was a tale of two halves because I have an 11 and an 8 year old and you know without too much information I like literally you know came off the pill and poof I was pregnant.
1:53:54 Oh wow.
1:54:12 Which was amazing 31 I had grey one yeah so 30 30 years old you know was had got married actually had zero ambition to ever have kids ever and then it was like one of those fairy tale things where I literally walked down the aisle and was like oh my god I just can’t wait to have a baby.
1:54:28 It’s like what’s going on here no I don’t know I don’t know I don’t know who that girl was and so I got pregnant very easy with my first child couple of years later had my second child you know life happens move to the US or everything’s like you know going fantastic.
1:54:38 I decide baby number three come off the pill again and I’m like waiting waiting again and it doesn’t happen.
1:54:42 And so I’m like honey you need to go and get yourself checked.
1:54:57 He’s like okay you know so we do the things that you do when you don’t get pregnant so easily and there was just no explanation for my infertility and so I went through a few rounds of IVF and for me you know.
1:55:05 What age is this sorry just so I am at this point how old am I now I’m 42 the kids are three so 38.
1:55:05 You’re 38.
1:55:22 I’m 38 so I’m you know I’m not like quite yet a geriatric pregnancy as they like to call it in this country when a woman over the age of you know 40 has a baby but I’m skimming right I’m on the edge of where fertility starts to become you know more of an issue.
1:55:34 And anyway for me it was devastating because I really really had something and I’m sure so many women will tell you this once you’ve made up your mind that you’re having another baby.
1:55:48 That was it for me then it was just like well how is this going to happen and I was so lucky in some ways that I was here in you know I lived in Beverly Hills at the time access to the best doctors was like so so easy.
1:55:59 And so I went on what would become a journey through IVF and it was one of the hardest most soul destroying times of my life.
1:56:04 I couldn’t think about anything else you know you could be like Emma what do you want for dinner tonight I’d be like a baby.
1:56:13 You know like I just I just was single track like all I could think about was I need this I need to be pregnant.
1:56:15 Why soul destroying?
1:56:33 You know it was so destroying because I went through multiple rounds of IVF and every single time for me actually it did work out but then I lost a baby three times and it was really it was just awful you know and for me it happened at nine weeks 11 weeks and 16 weeks.
1:56:44 And so you know at that point 16 weeks you you’re about to tell people you are you know you think you’re past the danger zone so to speak something in my heart told me that it wasn’t going to work out for me.
1:56:57 Like I actually think I knew deep down but you’re doing all the things you know I’m having the acupuncture and the doctors all feel great about it and of course you know you have IVF and then it’s successful you’re like great now I’m pregnant I’m having a baby.
1:57:26 And so that that loss was just and it was so hard to deal with and again you know it was a very isolating time because it was like like COVID I was on my like driving and you know in gloves and hazmat suit you know it was like the time when we really didn’t know and you know and the roads were empty and it was tough you know police would pull you over and I’d be like I’m going to the IVF clinic which was like one of the few things that you were allowed to be on the road and driving around for.
1:57:56 So it was just very very difficult but you know I had a happy ending and so for me my journey ended in something that I never thought would be a way that I would go but I ended up deciding that I would have a surrogate and I met an incredible woman and she carried my twins which was the like single biggest thing that anyone could do.
1:58:23 I can ever do but you’re like what like this is so crazy and it was amazing I had like such a profound incredible pregnancy with this amazing wonderful woman who beyond what our contractual commitment was you know because you hear horror stories like she asked me for nothing it was a beautiful amazing partnership and my twins were born via surrogacy and that was that.
1:58:24 Complicated emotions?
1:58:24 Complicated emotions?
1:58:34 No and you know I have to tell you Stephen I’d love to like and maybe I approached it more like a bit of a like I was very transactional about it.
1:58:35 Not the surrogacy?
1:58:35 No.
1:58:36 In the moment before?
1:58:50 Oh beyond beyond beyond beyond complicated emotions because you are you know I’ve had pregnancy loss before before I decided to have children you know I’ve had a complicated as so many women have a complicated fertility journey.
1:59:09 It was emotions that were I would say too hard to bear and for somebody who’s used to being able to get her way and work towards things being as they should be and to me it’s like the amount of effort I put in directly correlates to the result and there was no such thing in this.
1:59:25 You could have all the shots and all the acupuncture and do everything that you’re supposed to do not work out too much don’t go in a sauna you know like be an angel eat all of the right things and still I couldn’t you know hold on to the pregnancy so to me it was just something that I couldn’t I couldn’t bear.
1:59:36 In that moment are there any like are there decisions that you wish you’d made or is there something you’d wish you’d known because we don’t talk about this enough so people end up going through this themselves.
1:59:46 You know what I’ll tell you I wish I’d have spoken about it more with all of my friends that had gone through it and I will tell you this story.
2:00:10 I was a couple of summers ago you know I’m often the person people confide in and I happen to be I won’t say where I was in this place very confined like on a boat and all of the women were in some type of fertility thing like they had different things going on and I looked around and I knew I was the only one of all five of us that knew everybody’s thing.
2:00:32 And I was like we could be having such a good conversation now right like it would be so rich and so useful because again like there was somebody that had like had kids by IVF there was someone who had just come from somewhere there was somebody that was in the middle of like diagnosing endometriosis and there was somebody who was pregnant but not telling everyone she was pregnant because it was IVF and she’d had all the problem.
2:00:45 But anyway like everybody had their own unique circumstances and I was like in a group of women where we discuss I won’t even say what we discuss but we discuss every single thing that that is like the last taboo.
2:00:56 It says something about your womanhood that it would that it would be such a deeply held secret and something that you just can’t discuss is such a shame.
2:01:18 And I’m not saying that that’s what it is for all women and all groups of friends but it’s definitely something that people really really struggle with talking about and certainly for me going down the surrogacy route I really felt an element of I wouldn’t say shame but it was like I was willing to do this myself.
2:01:28 Like why couldn’t I you know I should have just been able to do it I was ready you know at 38 to like have to like go back on the workouts and you know like you know figure myself out again.
2:01:37 And so I felt like I’d been robbed of an opportunity to do something and then you know coming out of it I was like wow that was such a profound experience.
2:01:52 And so I would never have had had all of these things not happen and so in a weird way I was just kind of grateful for the opportunity to have been you know to have been able to see how selfless like another human being could be.
2:01:57 Were you aware of the biological clock in the way that people are now aware of it back then.
2:02:07 Yeah I was although I have to tell you that there’s nothing you know for most women we spend all of our time thinking about how to not get pregnant.
2:02:18 It’s just like you know I just want to like not get pregnant forever until it’s your moment that you want to get pregnant and then there’s this second moment where it’s like it’s no longer your choice and the window’s really really narrow.
2:02:27 And so I you know again I have hundreds of women in my office and I mentioned to you at the start of this conversation you know there was some fertility seminar yesterday.
2:02:37 I think that there’s still so many myths around it you know there is no good time you can freeze eggs but it’s not like freezing embryos it’s very different right.
2:03:03 And so the idea that the decision is just not realistic and that there is there is a window and it is narrow and it is something that you have to think about and I think there are a lot of women that know that they don’t want children that’s fine but if you do it’s really something that you ought to be more planful of because it’s bloody difficult and it’s not how you think.
2:03:24 Thank you. Thank you for talking about that because as you say there’s not enough people that talk about it and actually had I not had the access to information on doing this podcast and meeting these women who have been very open about it I would have had no idea and I would have probably found myself in a bit of a struggle because me and my partner weren’t thinking about that.
2:03:45 We’re thinking about getting the back we’re thinking about building our businesses and we’re 32 now so when I hear people like you say listen if this is something you want then plan make a plan and I don’t think many people listening actually have a plan for children they’re going to they see it as the thing they’ll get round to when they’re ready but this clock man it’s like the clock is ticking.
2:03:49 I’ve got an idea I’ve got an idea I think you should start a podcast.
2:03:56 Stephen whatever you say I will do it’s a great idea let’s go what should it be called?
2:04:01 I think you should call it Aspire and I think you should launch it in May.
2:04:12 Stephen you’re so incredibly smart and thoughtful and I feel like if my podcast could be born here and be just half the podcast that you have.
2:04:28 I think you can do it even better I think you can I think you can level up this is what you said you said people come and see something then they level up so level up why podcasting so your podcast launches in May it’s called Aspire yeah what are the what are you trying to achieve what’s the mission there?
2:04:44 Yeah you know and I’m so glad that you asked a question like that because for me it is a little bit of a mission and I think that the more success I’ve had and I’m sure this is very similar to you and you you’ve mentioned it on a few occasions and actually I remember being out with you in Manchester.
2:05:01 Do you remember when we had to like walk like from the studio to the bar where everyone’s in that thing and you know it’s like inundated with people and questions and people just wanted like just get like this one thing that they’re trying to figure out across the line and say like Stephen like how does how do I do this?
2:05:10 And so that happens to me all the time wherever I go and I’ve made it a habit of mine in the morning on the way to the work to just like jump on the phone to someone for half an hour.
2:05:25 I do it almost every day four days out of five and I’ll speak to some founder and give them like 30 minutes of whatever it is that I can and so the podcast was honestly from the beginning about figuring out like how can I scale mentorship?
2:05:33 How can you get to this place where all of these people that want to ask me questions can actually get some answers from me?
2:05:40 And you know the podcasting was not the first thing that came to my head but the more I looked into it because I am a huge podcast listener.
2:05:53 I listen to so many podcasts but it’s kind of interesting that for such a kind of broad space there is kind of such a narrow point of view in so many ways.
2:06:00 It’s so many men hosting podcasts and when we start to think about business it becomes even more male dominated.
2:06:04 And so in my head I was like well I just have a very different point of view.
2:06:06 I have very different experience.
2:06:09 I have a very different you know access.
2:06:13 And what’s been so interesting is all the people I called out to do a podcast they’ve never done a podcast before.
2:06:14 Yeah.
2:06:18 Everyone that I was like hey would you come on they were like I’ve never done this.
2:06:19 And I was like well that’s interesting.
2:06:26 And immediately even just from that kind of casting point of view I was like oh maybe I have a distinct point of view that could be interesting here.
2:06:34 But all I want to do is very very simply is take what I’ve learned and take the people that I know and have it be impactful.
2:06:37 Because I feel like everyone aspires to something.
2:06:40 Everybody wants to build the life of their dreams.
2:06:56 And so I was really thinking about this as something that maybe if I could facilitate conversations and tell people more about the journey that I’ve been on and be really thoughtful about what it takes right.
2:07:06 Because I just feel like again in like the female like media landscape there’s so much toxic positivity and I’m like babe you’re not going to be able to manifest your way there.
2:07:09 Like I’ll tell you the truth if you want to listen.
2:07:17 And if you’re willing to put the work in like all of these things could be you know applicable and you know you could have access.
2:07:19 And so that’s what I want to do.
2:07:22 I want to just like do things how I do them.
2:07:23 Be honest with people.
2:07:26 Bring in people that I know and be honest about my journey.
2:07:28 And I’m excited to do it.
2:07:32 Like it’s been I’ve done a couple of episodes and I’m like I’m just having a chat.
2:07:53 I think of all the things you’ve done in your life I think the more and more that you find yourself in the public eye and the more of the work that you do on your podcast Aspire I think that is ultimately going to be the greatest part of your legacy.
2:08:06 And I say that because there is nobody else able and capable of occupying that space that I can see.
2:08:15 There is no one who comes from where you come from who has been on the journey that you’ve been on both in the UK and in the US that’s climbed both mountains.
2:08:35 That is relatable even though that they’re so high up the mountain that is had to contend with some of the things you contended with which many women and men contend with which is like parenthood and family that is articulate that is seasoned across a variety of different environments and spaces that is also a black woman.
2:08:37 There is nobody.
2:08:46 And if you reflect on you as that young girl looking up at Oprah or me like looking up at Jamal Edwards it was so important.
2:08:54 It was the it was the kernel of belief that stays in your mind that says if they can there’s no reason I can’t.
2:09:00 And I’ve said this to my team before a ton of times over the last couple of months about you I’m like there’s no other Emma.
2:09:09 So she almost has a responsibility to that gap because you’ve done incredible things in your life.
2:09:25 You’ve done so much philanthropic work which I’ll put all in the description below to help so many people but it’s not lost on me that like the older I’ve gotten just seeing someone that you can that makes you realize that that brings down those like limiting beliefs that you have.
2:09:32 Or that society is has passed to you could go on to create a hundred thousand Emmas.
2:09:40 And that it’s hard to think of a more like astonishing important legacy than than that like the 10 million Emmas that you will create.
2:09:44 And so I’m so glad you’re doing this because I’ve said to my team and I was like there’s not there’s not another Emma.
2:09:46 There’s not someone else that could occupy that position.
2:09:50 So it’s so important that you’re successful in it and it’s so important that you continue to do it.
2:09:51 So so thank you for that.
2:09:53 That means so much.
2:10:02 It’s so true though I say it all the time behind your back I’m like there’s not another one there’s only Emma so she has to not has to because it’s not it’s not an obligation but it’s a responsibility.
2:10:03 It’s a responsibility.
2:10:04 I think I see it as a responsibility.
2:10:20 It’s one that I’m taking really seriously because I feel like there is there is an amazing opportunity there and if you take anything seriously and you apply yourself and you think about like who are you here to serve you know.
2:10:30 And I think about that every day I told you it’s like I’m obsessed with customers I’ll be obsessed with listeners and at the end of the day I just want to do something where it’s like it’s just about doing a good job.
2:10:52 right now I’m obsessed with like what is the content that you put out how do you have a conversation that’s not currently being had and I feel like there are such incredible people like yourself that are having beautiful conversations that are actually moving us forward in ways you know it’s like I you know I text you when you have an amazing episode.
2:11:06 I’m like I love that episode and I’m so proud that you know you could be in like black guy from England who’s doing these things who’s at the top of the charts and I look at that and I think that’s so important.
2:11:12 And so for me it’s like it’s interesting to think about how this could be important for a certain group of people right now.
2:11:16 It’s going to be important beyond what you’ll ever see or realise or understand or be able to measure.
2:11:17 It’s hoping.
2:11:25 And we’ve you know if you know that if that’s 15 year old Emma there had seen this Emma what that would have meant to her.
2:11:26 Yeah.
2:11:27 You know what that would have meant to her.
2:11:27 Quite a lot.
2:11:28 Exactly.
2:11:34 We have a closing tradition here Emma where the last guest leaves a question for the next guest not knowing who they’re leaving it for.
2:11:49 And the question that’s been left is what about you is better or has vastly improved because of the person who loves you the most?
2:11:53 Who loves you the most?
2:11:56 Well Jens loves me the most doesn’t he?
2:11:57 More than?
2:11:58 More than my mum.
2:12:01 More than my lovely mum.
2:12:19 You know I would say whether it was my mum or it was Jens you know when you are when you’re so loved you know and I feel like someone who is so loved you know my sisters love me my kids love me my mum really loves me Jens loves me.
2:12:28 You have like such capacity right and that’s what I always feel you know when when I think about what it is that.
2:12:29 Kind of like keeps me going.
2:12:32 Kind of like keeps me going and gets me up.
2:12:36 I have such a huge capacity for more.
2:12:44 I have such a like huge capacity to give to put the work in to receive to make things better.
2:12:57 And I honestly think that that is what’s happened to me that I’ve like my ability has just grown so much and continues and my capacity just keeps growing.
2:13:18 And it’s a really interesting thing as you get older to see that like happen within you you know because you we always talk about like having insane energy in our 20s and then you know it’s like I’m 42 now and I think I have more capacity for learning for giving for being you know open to new things than I’ve ever had in my life.
2:13:42 And I think that that is because I’m really loved and it’s so interesting I don’t think it’s about what I’ve achieved I don’t think it’s about anything else I think that I know I feel so safe and so secure and so seen that I can do anything because even the biggest mistakes like these people would they’ll always love me like it’s totally fine whatever I do.
2:13:45 So it’s like I would say that.
2:13:46 That’s a beautiful thing.
2:13:48 Emma thank you so much.
2:13:49 Thank you darling.
2:13:55 I’m a huge fan of yours in every way and you’re like a big sister to me and I really appreciate our relationship and long may it continue.
2:13:56 So thank you so much.
2:13:56 Oh I hope so.
2:13:58 I’m so I’m so proud of you.
2:13:59 I really am.
2:14:05 I look at everything you’re doing and I’m so happy that you’re here in America about to take it over.
2:14:07 Come on babes.
2:14:09 Thank you so much.
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2:14:46 If you could do me that small favour and hit the follow button wherever you’re listening to this that would mean the world to me.
2:14:48 That is the only favour I will ever ask you.
2:14:50 Thank you so much for your time.
2:15:14 Thank you so much for your time.

Cân bằng giữa công việc và cuộc sống là vấn đề của bạn. Đây không phải là trách nhiệm của người sử dụng lao động. Nhìn này, tôi có bốn đứa trẻ, và tôi đã phải tìm ra cách để suy nghĩ về tham vọng của bản thân cùng với việc nuôi dạy con cái. Điều đó là đúng. Và chúng ta cần có một mức độ trung thực về những gì cần thiết để thực sự thành công. Nhưng có thể nào để trở thành số một mà vẫn giữ được tất cả buổi tối và cuối tuần của mình không? Không, bạn biết đấy, không, không. Nếu điều đó khả thi, hãy cho tôi biết cô ấy là ai, và tôi sẽ chỉ cho bạn một kẻ nói dối. Emma Greed đã viết lại quy tắc kinh doanh thời trang. Là đồng sáng lập của những thương hiệu trị giá nhiều tỷ đô la như Good American và Skims cùng với các Kardashian, cô ấy giờ đây đang tiết lộ những bí mật sau sự thành công không thể ngăn cản của mình. Bạn biết Emma này chứ? Bạn có được những bức ảnh này từ đâu? Bạn bao nhiêu tuổi ở đây? 15. Bạn cảm thấy thế nào về cô ấy? Tôi cảm thấy như người này đang rất muốn thoát khỏi hoàn cảnh của mình. Tôi được nuôi dạy bởi một bà mẹ đơn thân, là một trong bốn cô gái, và tôi đã có vai trò rất lớn trong việc nuôi dạy họ để giúp mẹ tôi giữ cho gia đình chúng tôi ổn định. Nhưng tôi cảm tạ Chúa mỗi ngày vì loại hình nuôi dạy mà tôi đã có vì điều đó đã được nhấn mạnh vào tôi rằng không có gì đến dễ dàng. Và điều đó đã tạo nên con người tôi hôm nay. Kiên cường. Tiến về phía trước, và tôi là CEO của một công ty may mặc, một người kiếm được hàng trăm triệu đô la, một người khởi đầu một agency ở nhiều quốc gia. Tôi không có bất kỳ trình độ nào để làm những thứ đó. Giống như, tôi không có tài năng như một nhà thiết kế, nhưng tôi sẽ khiến mọi thứ xảy ra. Có rất nhiều điều tôi muốn nghiên cứu về điều đó. Ba điều quan trọng nhất để thành công trong kinh doanh là gì? Bạn có nghĩ rằng có thể để ai đó trở nên kiên cường? Làm thế nào để chúng ta không cho quá nhiều? Xã hội của tôi. Và sau đó giới thiệu Chloe. Hành trình đó như thế nào? Tôi sẽ nói với bạn sự thật. Tôi thấy điều đó thật fascin, rằng khi chúng ta nhìn vào các nền tảng của Spotify và Apple và các kênh âm thanh của chúng ta, phần lớn mọi người xem podcast này vẫn chưa nhấn nút theo dõi hoặc nút đăng ký ở bất cứ đâu bạn đang nghe điều này. Tôi muốn tạo một thỏa thuận với bạn. Nếu bạn có thể làm cho tôi một ân huệ lớn và nhấn nút đăng ký đó, tôi sẽ làm việc không mệt mỏi từ bây giờ cho đến mãi mãi để làm cho chương trình ngày càng tốt hơn. Tôi không thể diễn tả hết bao nhiêu điều đó giúp khi bạn nhấn nút đăng ký. Chương trình ngày càng lớn, có nghĩa là chúng tôi có thể mở rộng sản xuất, đem đến tất cả những khách mời mà bạn muốn gặp, và tiếp tục làm điều mà chúng tôi yêu thích. Nếu bạn có thể làm cho tôi ân huệ nhỏ đó và nhấn nút theo dõi, ở bất cứ đâu bạn đang nghe điều này, điều đó sẽ có ý nghĩa rất lớn với tôi. Đó là ân huệ duy nhất mà tôi sẽ bao giờ hỏi bạn. Cảm ơn bạn rất nhiều vì thời gian của bạn. Emma, tôi cần hiểu điều gì về bối cảnh ban đầu của bạn để hiểu về người phụ nữ, người phụ nữ rất, rất độc đáo, người phụ nữ rất thành công đang ngồi trước mặt tôi hôm nay? Và khi tôi hỏi câu hỏi đó, tôi đang tìm kiếm những đặc điểm mà là yếu tố hình thành nhất trong việc tạo nên Emma. Thật tuyệt vời để bắt đầu. Tôi nghĩ rằng đó là một câu hỏi tuyệt vời cho tôi vì rất nhiều những gì tôi là và cảm giác của tôi về bản thân đến từ nơi tôi đã lớn lên. Và, bạn biết đấy, tôi thường nói rằng tôi đến từ Đông London. Tôi thích làm điều đó nổi bật vì tôi cảm thấy mình là một người London thực thụ. Và tôi cảm thấy rằng, bạn biết đấy, việc đến từ Đông London, xuất phát từ nơi đó là một phần rất lớn trong tính cách của tôi. Nó là một phần quan trọng trong những gì tôi coi trọng, như ý tưởng về việc trở thành, bạn biết đấy, một người đáng tin cậy, một người trung thực, không chỉ, bạn biết đấy, đôi khi, mà là luôn luôn. Và tôi là một trong bốn cô gái. Tôi được nuôi dạy bởi một bà mẹ đơn thân và điều này đã được nhấn mạnh rất nhiều vào tôi rằng đây là nguồn gốc của bạn. Đây không phải là nơi bạn cần ở lại. Thế giới là của bạn. Bạn có thể làm bất cứ điều gì. Bạn chỉ cần làm việc thật chăm chỉ. Và tôi nghĩ xung quanh tôi, tôi đã thấy rất nhiều người làm việc chăm chỉ. Tôi thấy rất nhiều người chật vật và làm những gì họ cần làm chỉ để sống qua ngày. Nhưng tôi có một cảm giác rất mạnh mẽ bên trong rằng nếu tôi muốn nhiều hơn cho bản thân mình, mọi thứ hoàn toàn trong tầm với. Và tôi nghĩ điều đó thực sự đến từ tư duy Đông London này và tất cả mọi người xung quanh tôi. Tôi không cần phải làm nghiên cứu của mình để nhận ra rằng bạn là một người chị lớn. Bởi vì bạn có năng lượng chị lớn rất mạnh mẽ. Ngay cả với tôi, chúng ta đã biết nhau một thời gian rồi. Vậy bạn là người lớn nhất trong bốn chị em. Đúng vậy. Điều đó đã hình thành bạn như thế nào? Tôi nghĩ đó là một cách rất lớn. Bạn biết đấy, tôi có một mối quan hệ khá thú vị với mẹ tôi. Bạn biết đấy, cha tôi đã rời đi khi chúng tôi còn nhỏ. Và động lực gia đình của chúng tôi như là, bà ấy là cha, tôi là mẹ, và chúng tôi có ba đứa trẻ cùng nhau. Và thật sự, nếu bạn hỏi bất kỳ một trong các chị em của tôi, họ sẽ nói, Emma đã có vai trò rất lớn trong việc nuôi dạy chúng tôi, trong việc tạo hình cho tuổi thơ của chúng tôi. Bạn biết đấy, tôi đã dậy sớm khi còn là một đứa trẻ, tôi đã ủi ba cái áo sơ mi trường học, tôi đã chuẩn bị ba bữa trưa, mẹ tôi thì, bạn biết đấy, đã đi làm. Tôi đã đưa tất cả trẻ đến trường và nửa thời gian quay lại nhà để xem chương trình This Morning. Đó là cuộc sống của tôi, bạn biết đấy. Có những ngày tôi quyết định ở lại đó, nhưng phần lớn thời gian, tôi chỉ, bạn biết đấy, cố gắng giúp mẹ tôi giữ cho gia đình chúng tôi ổn định. Và tôi nghĩ điều đó đã làm cho tôi trở nên siêu trách nhiệm từ khi còn nhỏ, nhưng nó cũng cho tôi một dấu hiệu rất sớm về cách mà tôi không muốn sống cuộc sống của mình. Tôi biết rằng người giao sữa chưa được trả tiền. Tôi biết rằng có những hóa đơn rơi trên, bạn biết đấy, trên thảm từng ngày và tôi cảm nhận được điều đó từ khi còn rất nhỏ và tôi cảm thấy gánh nặng của điều đó và tôi biết rằng mọi thứ đều phụ thuộc vào mẹ tôi để xoay sở và tìm ra cách để chúng tôi có thể ổn thôi.
Và tôi đã quyết định
ở một độ tuổi rất,
rất trẻ
rằng tôi không muốn
cảm giác lo âu
và tôi không muốn
cảm giác nặng nề
đeo bám tôi
khi tôi lớn lên.
Tôi cảm thấy như trẻ em
không nên lớn lên
với gánh nặng
của những hóa đơn ở ngưỡng cửa.
Dù họ có
hay không,
thực ra,
tôi cảm ơn Chúa mỗi ngày
về cách lớn lên
của tôi
bởi vì tôi nghĩ,
A,
nó đã tạo nên con người tôi
và tôi đoán có
những phần trong cuộc đời thơ ấu của tôi
mà về cơ bản
không tồn tại
bởi vì tôi không có
khả năng để, bạn biết đấy,
và cho đến tận bây giờ
thật thú vị
như một ý tưởng
như việc chơi đùa
không phải là
một phần của
người tôi,
nhưng nó đã mang lại cho tôi
nhiều điều khác.
Nó cho tôi cảm giác,
bạn biết đấy,
tôi là một người
cực kỳ có tính mẹ,
và nó đã cho tôi
một loại
rễ cảm thông
rằng tôi ở đây để chăm sóc
nhiều người khác
và tôi biết tôi làm điều đó
rất, rất tốt.
Năng lượng của tôi cần phải là về,
bạn biết đấy,
đảm bảo rằng các chị gái tôi
được ăn uống đầy đủ
và đảm bảo rằng
ngôi nhà sạch sẽ
và đảm bảo rằng
chúng tôi an toàn
bởi vì, mặc dù
East London thật tuyệt vời,
nó cũng là nơi
bạn cần phải luôn tỉnh táo.
Bạn cần phải đảm bảo
rằng bạn đã đưa xe đạp của bạn vào,
bạn cần phải đảm bảo
rằng bạn an toàn
và vì vậy, bản năng chính của tôi
không phải là
để có một trận cười ngay bây giờ
và để xem
các bạn của tôi đang làm gì.
Bản năng chính của tôi là
làm thế nào để đảm bảo
mọi người đều an toàn
và cửa đã khóa
và mọi thứ sẽ ổn.
Sự vắng mặt của cha bạn,
nhìn lại,
bạn có nhận thấy ảnh hưởng
mà điều đó đã có tác động đến bạn
như một người phụ nữ trẻ không?
Bạn biết đấy,
tôi đã trải qua rất nhiều trị liệu
vì vậy bắt đầu từ
khi tôi 18 hoặc 19 tuổi,
tôi đã bắt đầu quản lý cơn giận
và vì tôi cảm thấy,
bạn biết đấy,
như tôi luôn trong cơn thịnh nộ,
như tôi chưa bao giờ gặp
vấn đề gì
về việc
diễn đạt bản thân
và thể hiện cơn giận
mà tôi biết là điều
nhiều phụ nữ
đang vật lộn,
nhưng không phải tôi.
Và thật thú vị,
bạn biết đấy,
và tôi sắp nghe
có vẻ quá kiêu ngạo
khi tôi nói điều này,
tôi thực sự không có
những vấn đề về cha mình.
Tôi đã rất may mắn
với những người đàn ông
đã có trong đời tôi.
Tôi chưa bao giờ có
một bạn trai tồi.
Tôi chưa bao giờ có
những trải nghiệm với đàn ông
bị đáng tiếc
theo cách đó
và vì vậy tôi nghĩ
sự vắng mặt
của cha tôi trong cuộc đời
là một điều
nhưng tôi có rất nhiều
những ảnh hưởng nam giới
quan trọng xung quanh tôi.
Bạn biết đấy,
tôi có ông nội
đã là một phần lớn
của cuộc đời tôi,
ông Reg của tôi,
hôm nay thực sự
là sinh nhật của ông
và điều đó thật điên rồ
rằng ông xuất hiện
trong cuộc trò chuyện
bởi vì ông làm điều đó
mỗi ngày
và sau đó tôi đã có
hai cậu chú,
Chú Robbie,
Chú Joe,
một chú rể,
một chú,
chú ruột của tôi
và họ đã là những
nhân vật lớn
trong cuộc đời tôi
và tôi có
những hình mẫu nam tuyệt vời
mà tôi biết chính xác
những gì tôi cần
trong cuộc sống của mình.
Như tôi chưa bao giờ,
tôi chỉ,
tôi không cảm thấy
như tôi đã
mắc cảm giác trống vắng
khi không có
cha mình xung quanh.
Thật sự,
nó không phải là
kinh nghiệm của tôi.
Quản lý cơn giận.
Mm-hmm.
Những gốc rễ đó
xuất phát từ đâu?
Bạn biết đấy,
điều thật thú vị
vì tôi thực sự cảm thấy
như tôi lớn lên
trong một nền văn hóa
có phần đổ lỗi,
như mọi thứ
đều là lỗi của người khác.
Nếu bạn không
kiếm đủ tiền,
nếu bạn,
bạn biết đấy,
không thể trang trải cuộc sống,
như bất cứ điều gì đang xảy ra,
nó là lỗi của chính phủ,
nó là lỗi của người đó,
nó không bao giờ liên quan đến
ý tưởng này
mà tôi đã chấp nhận
như một phần
căn bản của cuộc sống tôi
đó là
tự chịu trách nhiệm.
Như tôi thực sự tin rằng
mọi thứ tôi muốn,
tôi là ai,
bất cứ điều gì đều trong tầm tay
nếu tôi chọn nó.
Nhưng khi lớn lên,
điều đó thực sự không phải là
một,
điều đó đơn giản là không phải là
phần của cuộc đời tôi.
Thật sự là về những gì đang xảy ra
ở đó
và cách mà điều đó ảnh hưởng đến bạn.
Và vì vậy,
thật thú vị,
tôi nghĩ tôi đã trở nên tức giận
nghĩ rằng
tất cả những khả năng
không rõ ràng với tôi
là lỗi của người khác.
Và tôi nghĩ,
tôi chỉ là
một người nóng tính,
bạn biết đấy,
và những gì tôi thấy
trong gia đình của tôi
và những gì tôi thấy xung quanh tôi
lặp đi lặp lại
là khả năng
chỉ cần như
tức giận
và không giải quyết mọi thứ.
Và tôi đã hấp thụ điều đó
như thể
đó là phản ứng mặc định
cho bất cứ điều gì.
Nhưng tôi biết khá sớm
tôi đã có một bạn trai rất tuyệt
khi tôi 18, 19
và anh ấy đã nói,
phản ứng của em
thực sự không bình thường.
Và tôi đã nói,
thực sự sao?
Anh ấy nói,
vâng,
tôi nghĩ em nên thử
và giải quyết điều đó.
Và tôi đã làm.
Tôi đã tham gia vào một cộng đồng
khóa học quản lý cơn giận
và tôi đã nói,
oh,
như có những cách khác
để giải quyết điều này.
Như tôi có thể thở qua nó.
Tôi có thể tìm thấy những
công cụ và kỹ thuật
và tìm ra
cách mà tôi có thể phản ứng khác.
Và với điều đó
nó sẽ mang lại
một kết quả khác
và với điều đó
mọi người sẽ đối xử với tôi
một cách khác.
Và đó như
một khoảnh khắc
điên rồ
kết nối với tôi.
Tôi đã không kết nối
cách mà hành vi của tôi
có thể ảnh hưởng
đến nhiều mối quan hệ của tôi
và những gì đang diễn ra
xung quanh tôi.
Nhưng bạn không cần
nói điều gì
cho tôi nhiều hơn một lần.
Tôi đã như,
hiểu rồi.
Như, bạn biết đấy,
tôi đã ở lại trong chương trình
khoảng,
tôi không biết,
một vài tháng
và đây là điều mà trong suốt cuộc đời tôi
như trị liệu
theo những cách khác nhau,
may mắn không phải
trị liệu nhóm nữa,
nhưng, bạn biết đấy,
tôi vẫn
sử dụng các nhà trị liệu
theo những cách khác nhau
để mở khóa những điều khác nhau
mà đối với tôi
trở nên khó khăn
và tôi nghĩ về điều đó
như một công cụ
và cách mà tôi phát triển
và, bạn biết đấy,
khi tôi có con,
tôi đã gặp một nhà trị liệu
để thật sự hiểu
như làm thế nào tôi có thể
là một bậc phụ huynh tuyệt vời,
làm thế nào tôi sẽ nghĩ về
tham vọng của riêng mình
cân bằng với việc làm cha mẹ
và vì vậy đó là như
chỉ là một điều đối với tôi
mà tôi cảm thấy khá tốt
về việc sử dụng người khác
để đến và giúp tôi
tìm ra điều gì đó
mà tôi đang vật lộn với.
Và ở cái tuổi trẻ đó, trước khi tôi được 16 tuổi, nếu tôi gặp bạn khi bạn 15 tuổi và hỏi, bạn muốn trở thành gì khi lớn lên, bạn sẽ nói gì với tôi? Nhà thiết kế thời trang. Nhà thiết kế thời trang? Ngay lập tức, đúng không? Nhà thiết kế thời trang. Và tại sao bạn lại nói như vậy? Tôi đã bị ám ảnh. Bạn phải nhớ rằng, tôi sinh năm 82 và vào đầu những năm 90 ở Anh, đó là những năm tháng huy hoàng của thời trang. Bạn biết đấy, bạn có tất cả những siêu mẫu, những Cates và Naomies, cùng với những nhà thiết kế tuyệt vời như McQueen và Galliano, cùng với cảnh nghệ thuật Anh và cảnh nhạc Anh. Đó thật sự là một thời kỳ tuyệt vời ở Anh. Nhưng đối với tôi, thời trang là một phương tiện thoát khỏi thực tại. Đó là một ngành công nghiệp tưởng tượng. Tôi không biết ai làm việc trong lĩnh vực thời trang, điều này thật điên rồ. Bà tôi làm việc trong một nhà máy sản xuất áo ngực, điều mà giờ tôi vẫn cười khi nghĩ về số lượng áo ngực tôi đã làm. Nhưng đó là gần nhất với những gì tôi biết, như là những người đã làm việc trong ngành công nghiệp quần áo vậy. Tôi chắc chắn không hiểu khái niệm về tinh thần khởi nghiệp, việc có doanh nghiệp riêng. Đối với tôi, đó chỉ là một giấc mơ. Như, tôi ở đây trong Plasto, thật tệ, làm thế nào tôi có thể thoát khỏi điều đó? Và, bạn biết đấy, đối với tôi, nó giống như, gần giống như trong những bộ phim. Nó cũng có thể như Hollywood. Nó giống như, ở đó, thật đẹp, thật lộng lẫy, phải không nhỉ, thì thật tuyệt vời nếu có thể là một phần của điều đó?
Và hôm nọ, tôi đã nghĩ về tiền bạc, tôi đang nói chuyện với một người bạn và chúng tôi đã thảo luận về tiền như thể nó là một con người và đang chơi qua kiểu gắn bó mà chúng tôi sẽ có với người đó, bạn biết đấy, như kiểu gắn bó an toàn, lo âu, tránh né. Ở tuổi trẻ, tiền bạc là gì như một con người trong phòng bạn, trong cuộc sống của bạn, khi lớn lên, trong gia đình? Như, như một người bạn tốt nhất, như một điều tuyệt vời nhất. Ý tôi là, bạn biết đấy, chúng tôi đã tôn thờ tiền bạc. Chúng tôi tôn thờ tiền bạc, chúng tôi tôn thờ những gì mà tiền có thể mang lại, chúng tôi tôn thờ những thứ vật chất mà bạn có thể có được nhờ tiền. Tất cả chỉ xoay quanh chiếc xe, cái túi, và những thứ như vậy, đó là tất cả. Tiền có thường xuất hiện không? Không, không có điều nào trong số đó. Chắc chắn là không. Ý tôi là, tôi biết, tôi biết những người có tiền nhưng họ kiểu ở đó, làm việc của họ. Họ không phải là một phần của cuộc sống của tôi. Nhưng đối với tôi, khi tôi còn là một đứa trẻ, thật rõ ràng rằng tiền là thứ mà tôi cần phải tìm. Vì vậy, trong đầu tôi, điều đó luôn như là một kịch bản trong tâm trí của tôi như kiểu, làm thế nào tôi có thể thoát khỏi điều đó trở thành thực tại của mình? Và tôi đã, bạn biết đấy, tôi muốn rời khỏi nơi tôi đang ở, bạn biết đấy, tôi muốn trở thành, tôi đã từng có một hình ảnh như vậy và tôi đã vẽ một cái lò sưởi và một cái cây Giáng Sinh đẹp và một cái tủ và tôi đã, bạn biết đấy, và tôi tưởng tượng như đó là ngôi nhà trong mơ của tôi và bạn sẽ nghĩ tôi điên. Nhưng nhiều năm sau, vào tháng 12, tôi đã có Gray vào ngày 20 tháng 12 và đưa cậu ấy về nhà, ngồi xuống với em bé của tôi trong phòng khách lần đầu tiên và thực sự bùng nổ thành nước mắt và chồng tôi thì như, ôi trời ơi, thật tuyệt vời đúng không? Chúng ta có một em bé này và tôi đã nói, không, đó thật sự là tuyệt vời. Tôi đã vẽ cảnh này. Đây chính là cảnh mà tôi đã vẽ suốt thời thơ ấu của mình và tôi đã có một ngôi nhà townhouse đẹp ở Clerkenwell và nó giống như cái cửa sổ, cái tủ và cái cây Giáng Sinh và tôi đã nói, tôi đã làm được. Tôi sẽ không bao giờ quên khoảnh khắc đó. Nó gần như bị che khuất bởi việc có em bé. Tôi đã nghĩ, điều này thật điên rồ. Như, tôi đã hình dung điều đó. Tôi đã biến điều đó thành hiện thực. Tôi đã vẽ điều này 500 lần và đây là nó, đây là tôi.
Và nếu bạn muốn đưa ra một vài lời khuyên cho ai đó, chỉ cần nhảy lên phía trước và làm một số điều cơ bản về cách để biến bản vẽ của họ thành hiện thực trong cuộc sống, khi bạn nhìn lại những thành phần cốt lõi của việc đó trở thành hiện thực, những thành phần cốt lõi đó là gì? Bởi vì chúng ta đều có một bức vẽ trong đầu. Phải, đúng vậy, chúng ta đều có. Vâng, trước hết, tôi sẽ không nói với họ là phải vẽ nó vì điều đó không phải là tôi. Đó không phải là một phần trong những gì tôi sẽ nói. Chắc chắn là không. Tôi nghĩ rằng điều tôi làm tốt một cách độc đáo, Stephen, là tôi có khả năng tập trung vào những gì tôi đang làm. Tôi có khả năng cải thiện tốt hơn những gì tôi đang làm, đúng không, kiểu như liên tục cải thiện những gì mà tôi đang tập trung vào và sau đó tôi có khả năng giảm thiểu và bỏ qua tiếng ồn xung quanh mình và ba điều đó rất quan trọng vì sự tập trung giống như một tác nhân tăng cường trong công việc, đúng không? Khi bạn có một kế hoạch và bạn có một điểm tập trung và bạn có thể đi vào điều mà bạn thấy quan trọng và tăng cường một số điều rất hạn chế, đó chính là những thứ đẩy bạn tiến về phía trước và tôi đã rất say mê làm việc trong lĩnh vực thời trang nhưng tôi cũng biết rằng tôi không có tài năng như một nhà thiết kế và dù tôi muốn trở thành một nhà thiết kế thời trang đến mức nào, tôi không thể vẽ. Bản vẽ đó thực sự không tốt lắm. Nếu bạn nhìn vào nó bây giờ, nó giống như, tôi không thể phác thảo, tôi không có nhiều tài năng sáng tạo. Những gì tôi là là một người tạo điều kiện tuyệt vời cho tài năng.
Tôi có thể ngồi cạnh một tài năng và hiểu tầm nhìn của họ, rồi tìm ra cách để biến tầm nhìn đó thành hiện thực, nhưng phần sáng tạo không phải là điều tôi làm tốt lắm. Thật sự hiểu kế hoạch của bạn như thế nào, cách bạn có thể tập trung gấp đôi và đi vào những thứ mà bạn đặc biệt giỏi và có những kỹ năng mà chỉ bạn mới có là rất quan trọng. Tôi nghĩ rằng thoát ra khỏi đầu óc của bản thân là điều thực sự quan trọng, bởi vì rất nhiều người có ước mơ, hoài bão và ý tưởng, nhưng chúng chỉ tồn tại trong đầu họ. Việc tôi làm chủ yếu là hành động. Tôi đã thực hiện hàng trăm cuộc gọi. Tôi luôn nói về việc, vào một thời điểm nào đó, vì thời điểm đó là trước khi có email, tôi đã gửi rất nhiều bức thư và tôi nghĩ không ai hồi đáp cho tôi. Có thể họ không nhận được những bức thư đó. Thế là tôi bắt đầu tự tay giao những thứ đó ở quanh khu West End. Tôi bấm chuông những cánh cửa nhỏ của các công ty PR và nói: “Chào, bạn biết đấy, tôi tên là Emma và tôi đã gửi cho bạn một bức thư nhưng tôi không biết bạn có nhận được không.” Bạn hiểu ý tôi chứ? Giống như là, vâng, không sao cả, nhưng thỉnh thoảng họ sẽ cho bạn vào và đôi khi bạn đã có cuộc trò chuyện với ai đó và kiểu như vậy. Tôi thực sự tin vào ý tưởng hành động này, và sau đó bạn chỉ cần thực sự, khi tôi nói về ý tưởng này là bỏ qua những gì mọi người nghĩ, có rất nhiều tiếng ồn xung quanh và bạn phải có sự tập trung một cách kiên định vào những gì bạn đang làm. Tôi đã rất giỏi trong việc làm ngợp đi tiếng ồn, không chỉ từ những gì diễn ra bên trong tôi và những nỗi sợ của chính mình, mà còn từ những gì đang xảy ra xung quanh bạn. Tôi nghĩ rằng những điều đó thực sự rất quan trọng.
Khi bạn nói
chìm ngập trong tiếng ồn
có rất nhiều điều
tôi muốn nói ở đây
nhưng bạn lại nói về
việc chìm ngập trong tiếng ồn
tôi sẽ tập trung vào điều đó
bởi vì đó là điều cuối cùng
làm thế nào bạn cân bằng
việc chìm ngập trong tiếng ồn
với một nguyên tắc khác
mà tôi biết là quan trọng
với bạn, đó là
phản hồi
đặc biệt từ khách hàng
bởi vì khách hàng
sẽ nói rằng
chúng tôi ghét điều này
khách hàng luôn ghét sự thay đổi
và họ cũng không
biết họ muốn gì
vậy bạn làm thế nào
để biết điều gì
cần chìm ngập và điều gì
cần được coi là phản hồi?
Tôi nghĩ đó là
một câu hỏi tuyệt vời
và bạn biết không
thật thú vị
bởi vì tôi thực sự là
một người tiếp nhận rất nhiều
thông tin
nếu tôi đang cố gắng
để đưa ra một quyết định lớn
mà tôi cảm thấy
không đủ năng lực để đưa ra
mà thực ra
điều đó xảy ra với tôi thường xuyên
bởi vì tôi vẫn
học hỏi rất nhiều
tôi sẽ gọi cho rất nhiều người
mà tôi nghĩ là có hiểu biết
nhưng vào cuối ngày
tôi phải quyết định đúng
và thường thì
nếu bạn gọi cho
bảy hoặc tám người
họ sẽ có
những quan điểm khác nhau
sẽ có những
mô hình khác nhau xuất hiện
sẽ có
những ý kiến trái chiều
mà bạn biết đấy
và vì vậy bạn phải
vẫn như vậy, hãy khám phá
cảm giác của mình ở đâu
cái gì cảm thấy đúng với tôi
điều gì là đúng với
khách hàng của tôi
Tôi nghĩ điều đó rất
khác biệt khi bạn nhận được
phản hồi từ khách hàng
bởi vì những gì tôi đã học được
là mọi điều mà khách hàng của bạn nói đều có giá trị
bởi vì điều đó là đúng với họ
và vì vậy những gì tôi làm
là dĩ nhiên
chúng tôi có một cái nhìn cân bằng
chúng tôi cố gắng nói chuyện
với nhiều khách hàng
chúng tôi thực hiện những khảo sát lớn
và bạn lấy, bạn biết đấy
tổng hợp của những phần đó
nhưng khi đến vấn đề
phản hồi từ khách hàng
tôi nghĩ rằng điều đó
được tiếp nhận
theo một cách rất, rất khác
so với loại phản hồi
trong quyết định
khi tôi đưa ra quyết định
thay mặt cho doanh nghiệp của mình
nó phải đến từ khả năng trực giác của tôi
và từ những ý định
của nơi tôi muốn
doanh nghiệp đó đi
khi tôi làm những điều
cho khách hàng
thì nó lại rất khác
bởi vì bạn chỉ muốn
làm hài lòng khách hàng
bạn đã nhắc đến
việc gọi cho những người
mà bạn tôn trọng
mỗi khi có thể
tôi làm điều đó liên tục
Tôi từng có người nói
rằng hãy gọi những người đó
như là hội đồng quản trị cá nhân của bạn
Ôi tôi thích điều đó
đó là những người như
năm hoặc bảy người
mà bạn thường gọi
có thể là mười
ai là thành viên của
hội đồng quản trị cá nhân của bạn
những người này là ai
đang nhận những cuộc gọi này
và tại sao bạn
gọi cho họ
điều gì về họ
làm cho họ
trở thành đối tác đáng tin cậy
trong các quyết định
vâng, bạn biết đấy
người đầu tiên
tôi thường nói chuyện với chồng tôi
nhiều lắm
bởi vì rõ ràng
chúng tôi làm việc cùng nhau
và Jens có một hiểu biết
độc đáo về tôi
về những điểm yếu của tôi
về những điều có thể
cản trở tôi
trong việc đưa ra quyết định
vì vậy tôi cảm thấy như
tôi thường hỏi ý kiến anh ấy
bởi vì anh ấy sẽ
ôi anh ấy sẽ
nói cho tôi sự thật
anh ấy đã nói cho tôi
một số dịp quan trọng nhất
trong đời sống
và sự nghiệp của tôi
đến từ Jens
và tôi sẽ không
bao giờ quên Stephen
như một trong những
cuộc họp hội đồng đầu tiên của tôi
một trong những công ty đầu tiên của tôi
nó có tên là ITB
và tôi đã rất lo lắng
trước một cuộc họp hội đồng
và anh ấy đã nói
tại sao bạn lại lo lắng như vậy
và tôi đã trả lời
tôi không biết
bởi vì tôi nói chuyện tốt
tôi là một người thuyết trình tốt
tôi có thể bán bất cứ thứ gì
nhưng bạn biết đấy
tôi đến những cuộc họp hội đồng đó
và tôi chỉ đơn giản là
vỡ vụn
và anh ấy đã nói với tôi
chỉ cần
không đúng lúc
nếu bạn
dự định đưa ra một chút phản hồi
cho vợ bạn
ngay trước khi
chúng tôi vào cuộc họp
và anh ấy nói
bạn biết không
Tôi thực sự
biết tại sao
bạn đang chịu đựng
ở đây Emma
bạn có một
tâm lý của một nhân viên
và tôi
ý tôi là tôi mới 26
hay 27 tuổi
tôi không thể nghĩ
về bất cứ điều gì khác
trong suốt cuộc họp
bởi vì tôi cảm thấy
anh ấy hoàn toàn đúng
tôi có tâm lý
của một nhân viên
vậy tại sao
bởi vì tôi chỉ
đã từng là một nhân viên
đến thời điểm đó
nhưng tôi đang tìm kiếm
thay vì
bạn biết đấy
có mặt ở đó
với tư cách là CEO
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về việc tìm kiếm một người cố vấn
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đó đúng là một cơn ác mộng.
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Trên
bạn thấy
điều không quyết tâm
ở đâu
và có thể không
tự làm cho mình quyết tâm
bao giờ bạn thấy
ai đó chuyển từ
chúng ta nên gọi đó là gì
điều gì là đối lập
với sự quyết tâm
uốn lượn
tôi không biết
tôi không biết
điều gì là đối lập
của sự quyết tâm thực sự là gì
mềm mại tôi đoán
vâng, hãy nghe
tôi có
nếu bạn muốn điều đó
như bất kỳ điều gì khác
đúng không
nó phụ thuộc
tất cả là về
bạn thực sự
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thực sự thật thú vị
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bởi vì bạn biết đấy
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như chúng tôi cho phép họ
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trong những năm 20 của mình
tôi sẽ không
ở nơi tôi hiện tại
không có nghi ngờ
trong tâm trí tôi
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một số người, bạn biết đấy
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và tôi như
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tại nơi làm việc
đó là nơi mà
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giờ đây chúng ta có
sự aversion
muốn ở xa
khỏi văn phòng
mọi lúc
và tôi như
ô, điều đó
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với tôi
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một người thích
gặp gỡ trực tiếp
tôi muốn ở bên mọi người
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có sự quyết tâm
nhưng tôi không thể dạy
bạn qua màn hình
em yêu
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bạn sẽ không thấy
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và theo cách tương tự
mà tôi có người phụ nữ này
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và tôi sẽ ghi chú
tất cả những gì cô ấy nói
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ra khỏi phòng
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bây giờ
bởi vì tôi không nghĩ rằng
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sự trao đổi
của bạn biết đấy
điều gì xảy ra
khi bạn ở trong
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và bạn có thể
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những người xung quanh bạn
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khi bạn nhìn xung quanh nhóm của mình
và suy nghĩ
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người đó
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và nói rằng
cô ấy sẽ trở thành một ngôi sao
anh ấy sẽ trở thành một ngôi sao
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họ đang làm gì
mà người khác không làm
tốt thì bạn biết đấy
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tất cả thời gian
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để đưa bản thân
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để có nhiều trách nhiệm hơn
để thăng tiến
là xuất sắc
trong những gì bạn đang làm
đúng không
như tôi
tôi thấy thật khó khăn
khi mọi người như
bạn biết đấy
tôi thực sự muốn làm
điều đó ở đó
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và tôi như
nhưng bạn chỉ đạt 70%
tốt trong những gì bạn đang làm bây giờ
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vì vậy đó là điều đầu tiên
để nói
nhưng tôi không nghĩ rằng
nó là bất kỳ
tôi lại nói
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vì thái độ
chứ không phải kinh nghiệm
đúng không
tôi thực sự muốn những người
đến với
một tư duy chiến thắng
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toàn diện về doanh nghiệp
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một nhân viên bán hàng
tuyệt vời
nhưng bạn thực sự muốn
học về thương mại điện tử
và bạn thực sự muốn
tìm hiểu về các cửa hàng
và bạn thực sự
có sự hiểu biết tốt
về những gì đang diễn ra
trong kế hoạch và tiếp thị sản phẩm
như bạn biết đấy
trong ngôn ngữ lãnh đạo doanh nghiệp
họ gọi họ là
những nhà lãnh đạo hình chữ T
nhưng giống như
đó là điều
mà tôi chăm sóc
những người có
sự quan tâm đến
toàn bộ doanh nghiệp của chúng tôi
và họ có thể thấy
ngoài làn đường
hay bộ phận
mà họ làm việc
và vì vậy điều đó trở nên
thú vị đối với tôi
nhưng đối với tôi
tất cả đều là thái độ
năng lượng
sự nhiệt tình
thái độ
tôi cũng
một trong những điều
mà tôi nghĩ rằng
bị bỏ qua rất nhiều
nhưng là điều quan trọng
bây giờ là sự linh hoạt
vì tôi thuê
nhiều người
trong độ tuổi 40 và 50
đúng không
cho các vai trò lãnh đạo cấp cao
nhưng nếu bạn đến với tôi
từ một đối thủ
và bạn tin rằng
cách duy nhất
để đi từ đây
đến đây
là cách
mà bạn đã làm trong 20 năm qua
điều đó là vấn đề đối với tôi
tôi cần bạn đến
với cả kinh nghiệm
và một mức độ linh hoạt
vì công nghệ
có nghĩa là trải nghiệm
của khách hàng
và người tiêu dùng
đang thay đổi
mọi lúc
vì vậy khả năng
để nói rằng
tôi có tất cả kiến thức này
nhưng tôi sẵn lòng
và sẵn sàng linh hoạt
là điều thực sự quan trọng
vì vậy tôi cần
tôi cần tất cả những điều đó
tôi cần rất nhiều
Stephen
bạn không nói
nhưng những dấu hiệu đỏ là gì
rất đòi hỏi
cho tôi một số câu
mà tôi có thể nói
trong một cuộc phỏng vấn với bạn
sẽ là
những dấu hiệu đỏ ngay lập tức
ô tôi có một cái hay
vậy bạn có thể nói với tôi
về sự cân bằng giữa công việc và cuộc sống
trong tổ chức này không
xin lỗi em yêu
tôi đi đây
tôi như
biến đi
đây là điều
sự cân bằng giữa công việc và cuộc sống
là vấn đề của bạn
như đó là của bạn
để tìm ra
bởi vì cách mà
chúng ta điều hành tổ chức
bây giờ
là không ai bỏ lỡ
một cuộc hẹn với nha sĩ
hay một cuộc hẹn với bác sĩ
hay cắt tóc
hay tham gia cuộc họp phụ huynh của trẻ.
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Cuộc họp
tại tổ chức của chúng tôi
chỉ đơn giản là không
phải cách chúng tôi làm việc nữa
đúng không
bạn đến
và có giờ làm việc cố định
nhưng bạn biết đấy
có sự linh hoạt
trong
cuộc sống làm việc của bạn
không phải là
Ôi trời ơi
người này người kia
không làm việc tại bàn của họ
đó chỉ không phải là
cách chúng tôi làm việc nữa
vì vậy khi ai đó
nói với tôi
về sự cân bằng giữa công việc và sống
trong một quá trình phỏng vấn
tôi cảm thấy
có điều gì đó không ổn với bạn
bạn không thể
tìm ra điều đó
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nhưng
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nói điều này có thể
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nhưng um
chúng tôi thực hiện một khảo sát sàng lọc
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tỷ lệ chính xác
của công chúng nói chung
khi được hỏi câu hỏi này
sẽ chọn sự cân bằng giữa công việc và sống
như một trong những điều quan trọng nhất
và khoảng 33%
33
vì vậy 33% người
trong khảo sát sàng lọc của chúng tôi
sẽ nói rằng
sự cân bằng giữa công việc và sống
quan trọng với họ hơn
so với một loạt các lựa chọn khác
bao gồm
làm việc hoàn hảo
đánh bại đối thủ
lãnh đạo và truyền cảm hứng cho người khác
có một đội ngũ hạnh phúc, v.v.
họ sẽ chọn
sự cân bằng giữa công việc và sống
như một trong những
điều quan trọng nhất của họ
vì vậy có rất nhiều người
đặt ưu tiên cho điều này
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đối với tôi
hãy lắng nghe
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đối với tôi
đó là điều xấu
nhưng
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không, cưng ơi
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bởi vì bạn tham vọng
như bất cứ điều gì
vì vậy có thể bạn sẽ không phù hợp
bạn biết đấy
thật thú vị
đúng không
bởi vì tôi tự hỏi
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các lựa chọn
kiếm
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nhận được một khoản thưởng có ý nghĩa
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những điều này có sự tương quan
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khả năng
cho nhân viên của bạn
có một
sự cân bằng giữa công việc và sống tốt
bạn phải có lợi nhuận
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phải
bạn biết đấy
phù hợp với
nếu không
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chúng tôi phải có khả năng
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một doanh nghiệp hiệu quả
để cung cấp cho mọi người
những gì họ cần
hai điều này
đi đôi với nhau
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với những người
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đây là
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ở bất cứ nơi nào bạn đang ở
trên thế giới
bạn sẽ trả lời tôi
trong khoảng
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tôi giả định rằng đó
không chỉ là
những gì bạn làm
cho tôi
mà đó chỉ là cách
bạn sống
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mà hầu hết
những người thành công
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và bạn biết đấy
có một điều gì đó
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tôi nghĩ tôi có
một sự cân bằng giữa công việc và sống tuyệt vời
tôi đang ở
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hầu hết các cuối tuần
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nhưng tôi nghĩ rằng chúng ta phải có
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coi là
trách nhiệm cá nhân
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không
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và không
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tôi thấy
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vâng, tôi thực sự nghĩ
bạn nên
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cảm giác như các nhà lãnh đạo
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nó như là
chúng ta đều hiểu
chúng ta đến văn phòng
năm ngày một tuần
chúng ta làm việc
bạn biết đấy
đó là một thời điểm khó khăn
để làm một nhà sáng lập
bởi vì
bạn gần như phải bước ra
nếu bạn biết tôi đang nói gì
vâng, bạn phải
và nghe này
tôi không nghĩ rằng điều đó
khó như người ta nghĩ
bạn phải hiểu rằng
bạn biết đấy
bạn không thể vừa là
một nhà lãnh đạo
vừa là một người muốn làm vui lòng mọi người
và nếu bạn đi xung quanh
cố gắng làm mọi người hạnh phúc
thì đoán xem điều gì bạn sẽ không làm
bạn sẽ không có một doanh nghiệp vững mạnh
bạn phải có
sự tập trung
vào điều mà bạn đang cố gắng làm
và bạn phải không ngừng
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những điều đó
và bạn cần những người
sẽ
bạn biết đấy
tôi
tôi rất nhiều
về những người
giúp đỡ bạn
bạn biết đấy
tôi ghét ý tưởng
về việc trở thành
bạn biết đấy
tôi bị gọi là
một người tự lập
và tôi như là
tôi thực sự không tự lập
nếu bạn hiểu
có bao nhiêu người
xung quanh tôi
đã giúp đưa tôi đến đây
bạn biết tôi đang nói gì không
có như một
ngôi làng đang ngồi bên ngoài
nhưng không có gì xảy ra
cả khi bạn tự làm
và nó đòi hỏi
rất nhiều người
và rất nhiều kỹ năng
và rất nhiều điều
mà tôi không có
và vì vậy
khi bạn bắt đầu
một công ty
ý tưởng này
rằng bạn nên
tiến hành tất cả
nếu bạn đang suy nghĩ
về việc thực hiện
tất cả những
nhượng bộ này
trước khi bạn nghĩ
về mục tiêu là gì
như thế nào
bạn biết đấy
tôi gọi nó là
và tất cả mọi người
giống như
tinh thần doanh nghiệp
nghĩa là
bạn phải đặt
doanh nghiệp lên hàng đầu
nhu cầu
của doanh nghiệp
và đôi khi
điều đó liên quan
đến việc suy nghĩ về
con người của bạn
và trở thành một kiểu
nhà lãnh đạo nào đó
đôi khi thì không
vì vậy bạn phải
cân bằng những điều đó
đúng không
chúng ta đang cố gắng
ý nghĩa của một doanh nghiệp
là làm lợi nhuận
nó là tạo ra
như một công ty
để phục vụ
bạn biết đấy
khách hàng của bạn
tất cả những điều đó
thật sự không phải
về những gì tôi nghĩ
rất nhiều người
đang cố gắng biến nó thành
bây giờ phong cách lãnh đạo của bạn
cũng như là
nó sẽ trở thành
một phần rất lớn
của những gì khiến
doanh nghiệp đó thành công
nhưng nó không phải là
nó không phải là tất cả
và vì vậy tôi nghĩ rằng
chúng ta chỉ cần
cố gắng tách biệt
những điều này
một cách nào đó
điều đó không thể trở thành
điều đầu tiên
mà bạn đang nghĩ đến
như thế nào
bạn biết đấy
như thế nào bạn
đang làm tất cả những điều đó
điều đầu tiên bạn nghĩ đến là
doanh nghiệp sẽ phát triển ra sao
chúng ta sẽ
thịnh vượng như thế nào
chúng ta
thực sự đang ở đây để làm gì
Tôi nghĩ rằng các nhà sáng lập
cũng sợ hãi
bởi vì chúng ta sống
trong thời đại
của mạng xã hội
nơi mà bạn biết đấy
nếu đặc biệt
nếu bạn có một hồ sơ
nếu bạn làm sai điều gì đó
thì có một động lực rất thú vị
mà nhân viên có
nơi họ có thể quay lại
và nếu
nếu bạn sa thải tôi
từ công ty của bạn
Emma
và bạn biết đấy
tôi không cảm thấy
tốt khi tôi ở đó
bây giờ tôi có bạn
trong tay
một chút
nếu bạn hiểu tôi đang nói gì
vâng hoàn toàn
vì tôi có thể
đăng lên TikTok của tôi
và nói rằng bạn biết đấy
Emma không
như bạn nghĩ
cô ấy là
vâng đó chỉ là
một phần của việc
kinh doanh thôi đúng không
nhưng sau đó vì
bạn đang sống
dưới mối đe dọa
từ một nhân viên
hoạt động nào đó
làm cách nào để bạn
ngăn chặn điều đó
thay đổi cách mà
bạn sống
với tinh thần doanh nghiệp đó
và làm những gì
đúng đắn cho
doanh nghiệp
tôi nghĩ rằng bạn không nên
tôi đã nghe rất nhiều
nhà sáng lập nói điều này
với tôi trong danh mục đầu tư của tôi
họ đã nói
như là ôi trời
tôi như sợ
bị hủy hoại
vâng đừng làm
điều gì để bị hủy hoại
Ý tôi là xem này
tôi nghĩ đó là
một ranh giới mỏng manh
đúng không
nếu bạn là
một nhà lãnh đạo
bạn sẽ không bao giờ
làm hài lòng mọi người
và tôi nghĩ rằng đây là
nơi phong cách lãnh đạo
và
bạn là ai
như một con người
thật sự nổi bật
tôi không nghĩ rằng
ai trong số họ
tôi là người
lãnh đạo mà không
có sự mơ hồ
không ai nói rằng
tôi tự hỏi
Emma đang nghĩ gì
nó như
tôi rất rõ ràng
về
những gì tôi đang nghĩ
tôi rất rõ ràng
về
những mục tiêu đang có
và lý do mà
chúng tôi đã có thể làm
những gì…
Chúng tôi đã có thể làm được điều này là nhờ vào những điều đó. Tôi có một phong cách quản lý rất thẳng thắn, và tôi luôn mang mọi người cùng đi với mình.
Bây giờ hãy lắng nghe, sẽ luôn có ai đó, hoặc một phần nào đó của mọi người sẽ cảm thấy không hài lòng. Tôi đã trải qua nhiều điều khác nhau trong các công ty khác nhau, nơi mà bạn đã phải thu hẹp quy mô hoặc để người khác ra đi, và những điều đó thực sự rất đáng tiếc, và đó chỉ là một phần trong quá trình kinh doanh.
Bây giờ, bạn có thực hiện những điều đó theo cách phù hợp với con người bạn như một nhà lãnh đạo hay không? Thực sự cần suy nghĩ về điều đó, vì nó không phải chỉ là một khái niệm cá nhân mà tôi có. Nếu tôi phải nhìn vào một công ty và quyết định thu hẹp quy mô, tôi không chỉ nghĩ về 50 người mà tôi phải cho nghỉ việc, mà tôi nghĩ về 400 công việc mà cần được cứu vớt. Và thật buồn là đôi khi có một số thiệt hại phụ nho nhỏ, đó là một phần của việc làm kinh doanh.
Và tôi chắc chắn sẽ không ngồi đây mà lo lắng về việc ai đó có thể làm gì trên TikTok, bởi vì tôi biết tôi là ai, và tôi cảm thấy tốt về những quyết định mà tôi đưa ra, vì chúng xuất phát từ tôi, từ trái tim tôi, và tôi biết rằng tôi là một người tốt. Vì vậy, tôi sẽ không bao giờ ngồi đây và nghĩ: “Ôi không, có ai đó sẽ làm tôi xấu hổ.”
Bài học quan trọng nhất mà bạn phải học về lãnh đạo là gì, với tư cách là một người phụ nữ da đen tài năng đang lên trong kinh doanh? Tôi không nghĩ nó khác gì so với những phụ nữ khác, nhưng tôi nghĩ có điều gì khác biệt đối với phụ nữ nói chung.
Có lẽ bài học quan trọng nhất là quan điểm của tôi độc đáo và quan trọng như thế nào và tại sao điều đó lại mang lại cho tôi một lợi thế. Nhưng tôi cũng hiểu rằng, có hai mặt của sự đồng cảm này. Điều gì khiến phụ nữ trở thành những nhà lãnh đạo xuất sắc và khiến họ tuyệt vời trong việc cố vấn nhân viên và chăm sóc nhu cầu của đội ngũ là một loại dưới bề mặt khi liên quan đến việc có thể thu hẹp quy mô đội ngũ của họ hoặc sa thải người sai, hoặc nếu nhân viên không được tăng lương, họ sẽ cảm thấy như thế nào về điều đó.
Vì vậy, tôi chắc chắn đã phải học rằng có hai mặt đối với điều gì tạo nên sự vĩ đại của tôi và tôi cần giữ cả hai mặt đó trong tầm kiểm soát. Nó giống như việc cân bằng phần đồng cảm của bạn với việc cần phải đưa ra những quyết định khó khăn, vì không cảm thấy như là chăm sóc khi phải sa thải một ai đó. Điều đó thật sự đi ngược lại với việc chăm sóc, đi ngược lại với việc là một cá nhân có tính mẹ, người đang chăm sóc cho mọi người. Bởi vì điều đó là trái ngược với việc bạn để một người tự mình làm chủ và điều đó chắc chắn đã khó khăn đối với tôi.
Bạn có nhớ lần đầu tiên bạn phải đối mặt với sự phân chia đó và cảm giác như thế nào không?
Vâng, tôi nhớ. Tôi nghĩ đó là một thời điểm khá xa xôi ở London, tại ITB, lần đầu tiên tôi phải tiến hành một cuộc thu hẹp quy mô có ý nghĩa cho cơ quan. Tôi đã phải sa thải khoảng 15 người trong một ngày. Chúng tôi ở trong một văn phòng nhỏ trên đường Gressy, ngay gần Tottenham Court Road. Mọi người ngồi cùng nhau, vì vậy không có một phòng họp lớn nào mà bạn có thể vào rồi đi ra từ cửa sau.
Tôi đã phải quay trở lại tầng trên và báo cho mọi người, đó thật sự là một khoảnh khắc tồi tệ. Tôi cười về điều đó vì sự kinh hoàng mà nó mang lại vào thời điểm đó, vì với tôi, nó thật sự giống như tận thế, như sự kết thúc của cuộc đời tôi. Tôi cảm thấy rất có trách nhiệm, vì thường thì, trong một môi trường cạnh tranh, bạn đang kéo những người ra từ những công việc ở các cơ quan khác và đưa họ vào, và rồi đột nhiên bạn lại phải nói, “Tôi rất xin lỗi, nhưng như vậy là hết.” Điều đó thật sự đã tàn phá tâm hồn tôi lần đầu tiên tôi phải làm điều đó.
Nhưng nhìn lại, giờ bạn đánh giá quyết định đó như thế nào với sự khôn ngoan của bạn?
Để xem, một lần nữa, tôi quay trở lại và nói tôi đã tạo ra một công ty tốt hơn vì điều đó. Tôi đã tạo ra sự kỷ luật hơn trong doanh nghiệp, vì tôi đã thấy những sai lầm mà tôi đã làm không chỉ về việc thừa nhân viên mà còn về việc điều hành một cỗ máy không khỏe mạnh. Tôi thực sự nghĩ rằng điều đó đã làm tôi trở thành một nhà lãnh đạo tốt hơn trong việc giữ lại rất nhiều lo lắng của những gì đang xảy ra trong công ty, khi nó không diễn ra tốt đẹp, cho chính mình.
Tôi đã không thật sự chia sẻ với toàn bộ đội ngũ quản lý cấp cao về mức độ tệ hại của tình hình, bởi vì tôi nghĩ rằng tôi là CEO, đó là tất cả vấn đề của tôi. Họ nên có thể cứ vào và ra, và với điều đó đã thiếu trách nhiệm từ những người khác.
Vì vậy, tôi nghĩ tôi đã thực sự hiểu rằng, bạn biết đấy, như tôi đang đứng ở đỉnh cao của tổ chức và gần như tôi là nhà quản lý đứng bên ngoài, tôi có một nhóm những người mà tôi không nên lao ra sân để ghi bàn. Tôi cần phải ở lại bên lề và chỉ đạo mọi người làm công việc tốt nhất có thể. Bây giờ tôi nghĩ nhiều hơn về việc mang mọi người cùng đi trong hành trình và khi bạn luôn luôn có mặt trong tất cả các doanh nghiệp của chúng tôi, bất kể điều đó có vẻ như thế nào với mọi người, bạn cần phải đưa mọi người vào hành trình và khiến họ tham gia vào những giải pháp đó.
Vì nếu bạn đến được nơi có vấn đề về dòng tiền, sự không chắc chắn xung quanh doanh nghiệp, và họ nội tâm hóa điều đó, họ mang nó về nhà với họ, nó đi cùng họ suốt bảy ngày một tuần. Cảm giác đó thật sự như thế nào?
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Tôi đang cố gắng tìm ra giải pháp ở đây, vì bạn chắc hẳn đã phải trải qua một số thử nghiệm và sai sót. Đúng vậy, tôi nghĩ rằng tôi rất may mắn khi có Jens. Chúng tôi thực sự rất thích nhau, chúng tôi thật sự quan tâm đến nhau, và đó là điểm khởi đầu cho bất kỳ mối quan hệ tuyệt vời nào, đúng không? Tôi rất quan tâm đến quan điểm của anh ấy về một điều gì đó. Khi tôi thấy điều gì đó, đọc điều gì đó, bạn biết đấy, nhận được điều gì đó trên mạng xã hội, người đầu tiên tôi nghĩ đến là: ôi trời, tôi cần xem Jens nghĩ gì về điều này. Và đó chỉ là bản chất mặc định của mối quan hệ của chúng tôi. Vâng, chúng tôi đặt lịch hẹn hò, và bạn biết đấy, 16 năm rồi, việc đó có rất nhiều hình thức và cách thức khác nhau. Chúng tôi sẽ đi xem một trận đấu của Lakers cùng nhau, vì Jens rất thích bóng rổ, và tôi đã nghĩ rằng, bạn biết đấy, anh ấy thích bóng rổ, tất cả những nhà hàng tốt đều ở trung tâm thành phố. Tôi sẽ đảm bảo rằng chúng tôi đi đến một nhà hàng mới điên rồ mà tôi muốn thử trước trận đấu, sau đó chúng tôi sẽ đi xem trận đấu và đó sẽ là một buổi hẹn hò hoàn hảo. Chúng tôi đều nhận được những gì mình muốn và vì vậy hẹn hò bao lâu một lần? À, chúng tôi hẹn hò mỗi tuần mà không hề thất bại. Đúng vậy. Và thật thú vị vì nhóm của chúng tôi, có những cuộc họp nhóm, chúng tôi thường gặp nhau một lần mỗi tháng và điều đầu tiên mọi người ghi chú lại là buổi hẹn hò. Họ lập lịch cho nó ở bất kỳ đâu và thật thú vị rằng tôi luôn nghĩ điều đó thật hài hước khi họ bảo vệ điều đó theo cách như vậy, vì tôi cảm thấy như họ đều nghĩ rằng đây là một điều rất quan trọng. Nhưng tôi không nghĩ rằng có bí mật lớn nào cả, bí mật chỉ đơn giản là quan tâm đến nhau, bí mật chỉ là cùng nhau trưởng thành. Và tôi nghĩ rằng chúng tôi rất may mắn khi có thể làm việc với nhau, nhưng điều đó đến từ nơi mà chúng tôi có sự quan tâm và tôn trọng. Tôi quan tâm đến người mà anh ấy đã là 16 hoặc 17 năm trước, tôi ước gì tôi biết, nhưng tôi cũng quan tâm đến người mà anh ấy đang trở thành, và tôi nghĩ anh ấy quan tâm đến người mà tôi đang trở thành.
Một điều nhanh chóng mà tôi muốn nói về một vấn đề mà tất cả chúng ta cần nghiêm túc xem xét, đó là an ninh mạng. Dù bạn là một nhà sáng lập lần đầu đối mặt với cuộc kiểm toán đầu tiên hoặc là một chuyên gia dày dạn đã trải qua mọi thứ, việc giữ cho mình tuân thủ các quy định ngày càng trở nên quan trọng hơn bao giờ hết và phức tạp hơn. Tôi phải nói là như vậy, và đó là lý do mà Vanta xuất hiện – một nhà tài trợ của podcast này. Vanta giúp loại bỏ nỗi đau của việc tuân thủ an ninh, tự động hóa quy trình tẻ nhạt nhưng cần thiết để chứng minh rằng doanh nghiệp của bạn an toàn theo hơn 35 khuôn khổ như SOC 2 và ISO 27001. Tập trung vào các quy trình làm việc của bạn, trả lời các câu hỏi liên quan đến an ninh nhanh hơn tới năm lần và bảo vệ doanh nghiệp của bạn mà không làm mất tập trung vào tăng trưởng. Đây thực sự là một phần quan trọng, một tài liệu trắng mới từ IDC cho thấy rằng các công ty sử dụng Vanta tiết kiệm hơn 535.000 đô la mỗi năm và nó tự chi trả trong chỉ ba tháng. Hiện tại, cộng đồng của tôi được giảm giá 1.000 đô la khi sử dụng Vanta tại Vanta.com/Stephen, đó là V-A-N-T-A.com/Stephen để nhận 1.000 đô la giảm giá.
Vì vậy, 25 tuổi, bạn bắt đầu ITB toàn cầu và bạn điều hành doanh nghiệp đó. Đúng vậy, 25 hoặc 24 tuổi gì đó. Khoảng một thập kỷ, đúng không? Vâng, một thập kỷ, một thập kỷ của cuộc đời bạn cho đến khi 35 tuổi. Và bạn đã gặp Chris. Vâng. Jenna. Trong quá trình mười năm này, khi nào bạn gặp Chris Jenna? Tôi đã gặp cô ấy lần đầu tiên trong một công việc mà tôi đã làm cho một trong những cô gái. Thực ra thì tôi khá chắc chắn rằng họ bây giờ phải rất tức giận vì tôi thực sự đã được giới thiệu thông qua một đại lý ở WMA. Họ đã đưa cho tôi số điện thoại của cô ấy trực tiếp nên tôi đã gọi cho cô ấy. Tại sao họ lại tức giận bây giờ? Vì họ có thể đã nhận được một phần. Có lẽ họ nên dẫn dắt sự giới thiệu đó một cách rõ ràng hơn, nhưng thôi, không sao. Vâng, tôi đã gọi cho cô ấy vào lúc đó. Bạn biết đấy, vào lúc đó Chris không phải là Chris như bây giờ. Cô ấy vẫn rất nổi tiếng. Tôi nhớ khi chúng tôi đi ăn trưa, có một đám đông nhỏ hình thành bên ngoài, nhưng nó rất khác so với bây giờ. Khi bạn gặp cô ấy, cô ấy như thế nào? Tuyệt vời, bạn biết đấy, nhưng cũng không theo cách mà khi bạn gặp ai đó, đối với tôi, đó chỉ như là gặp một người quản lý, đại lý, công ty truyền thông công cộng khác. Và dĩ nhiên đó là Chris, và cô ấy đã tham gia chương trình. Tôi đã có một sự hiểu biết về cô ấy, nhưng tôi cũng đang cố gắng hoàn thành một cái gì đó, bạn biết đấy, tôi cũng đã thực hiện một loại hợp đồng quảng cáo và đang cố gắng lấy một số thông tin về bất cứ điều gì mà tôi đang làm vào thời điểm đó, vì vậy đó chỉ như một cách để đạt được mục đích. Bất cứ nơi nào tôi đi vào thời điểm đó trong cuộc đời, bạn biết đấy, tôi đã gặp gỡ các quản lý, đại lý, công ty truyền thông công cộng thường xuyên và đó là một phần công việc của tôi và là một phần của những gì tôi làm thay mặt cho các thương hiệu.
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Cuộc hành trình đó từ lần gặp Chris đầu tiên đến việc bắt tay vào kinh doanh với Chris và thuyết phục cô ấy trở thành đối tác kinh doanh, rồi sau đó điều gì xảy ra với ITB – công ty mà bạn đang điều hành ở phía sau? Thực ra, đó là một khoảng thời gian rất thú vị đối với tôi vì có một sự thay đổi lớn diễn ra. Những gì tôi đã làm trong công ty là xây dựng một công ty tiếp thị giải trí, và chúng tôi thực sự đứng ở giao điểm giữa các thương hiệu và giải trí, nơi mà quảng cáo sản phẩm trong phim, hợp đồng quảng cáo, gói tài trợ với người có ảnh hưởng đến thị trường – và đó là những ngày đầu của những người có ảnh hưởng, khi mà chúng tôi chủ yếu gọi họ là blogger. Công ty đang phát triển và tôi đã mở một văn phòng ở New York, nơi thực sự thực hiện phần lớn công việc kinh doanh, và nó thật tuyệt vời. Doanh nghiệp đã trở nên rất tập trung vào thị trường Mỹ từ góc độ khách hàng, và rồi ý tưởng về các thương vụ liên quan đến tài năng và vốn cổ phần bắt đầu nổi lên. Tôi đã đọc một cái gì đó về Ashton Kutcher đầu tư, tôi không biết, vào một số startup ở Silicon Valley, và tôi bắt đầu nhận được các cuộc gọi. Mọi người luôn gọi cho tôi khi họ muốn đưa một tài năng hàng đầu vào quảng cáo nước hoa, ví dụ. Nhưng sau đó, mọi người bắt đầu gọi cho tôi và nói, “Chúng tôi có một startup, chúng tôi sẵn sàng trao cho X, Y, và Z 10% của cái này để đổi lấy sự quảng bá,” và tôi nghĩ, “Thú vị quá, làm sao tôi có thể nhận hoa hồng từ điều đó nhỉ?” Bởi vì thường thì tôi sẽ được trả một phần trăm từ bất kỳ khoản tiền mặt nào được giao dịch. Đối với tôi, đó là một phần mới thú vị của kinh doanh mà tôi phải tìm cách khai thác. Tiến về phía trước, tôi đã thực hiện một vài thỏa thuận, và thay vì, bạn biết đấy, nhận một phần vốn cổ phần, kiểu như bạn biết đấy, bởi vì vào cuối ngày, công ty của tôi không phải là như vậy, và không có cách nào có thể đưa vốn vào kinh doanh. Vốn cổ phần sẽ thuộc về các cổ đông và sẽ không có ý nghĩa gì với ai cả, nên tôi nghĩ, “Bạn biết không, một mức phí cố định,” và tôi đã thực hiện một loạt các thỏa thuận với nhiều tài năng, và tôi đã nói, “Bạn sẽ trả cho tôi vài trăm ngàn đô la, và tôi sẽ làm việc để X nhận 10% của công ty bạn.” Tôi đã ký kết ba thỏa thuận rất thành công, sau đó điều xảy ra là tôi ngồi lại và nghĩ, “Wow, điều này thật thú vị,” và tôi nhớ một công ty đã báo cáo một vài con số, và tôi nghĩ, “Tôi không thể tin điều này, họ đã từ đó đến đây,” và trong đầu tôi đã liên kết trực tiếp giữa tài năng đã được đưa vào công ty đó, và đó là Pharrell Williams vào thời điểm đó. Tôi cảm thấy thật bất ngờ vì Pharrell đã làm điều này khiến giá trị của công ty tăng vọt như vậy. Tôi đã nhận được vài trăm ngàn đô la mà không được khuyến khích bởi bất kỳ giá trị nào được tạo ra, vì vậy tôi cảm thấy, “Trời ơi, tôi thực sự đang mất mát ở đây, có lẽ tôi nên tự làm một cái gì đó cho bản thân. Có lẽ tôi nên tạo ra một công ty và đưa một tài năng vào công ty đó và cấp cho họ một phần vốn cổ phần để thúc đẩy hoạt động kinh doanh.” Đó là ý tưởng khởi đầu cho Good American, đó là suy nghĩ ban đầu bởi vì tôi không nhận được những gì mình cần từ khách hàng, vì vậy tôi tự hỏi, “Ai sẽ trả cho tôi một cách công bằng? Không ai cả, vậy tôi sẽ tự tạo ra điều đó.” Lúc đó, Jens và Eric đã bắt đầu Frame, một công ty denim rất thành công, và tôi đã nghĩ rằng giữa việc tôi có những khách hàng như G-Star và Calvin Klein và đã làm việc với Topshop trong một thời gian dài, rất nhiều về denim, Jens có Frame, và tôi đã nghĩ rằng tôi biết một chút về denim. Đó là một mảng mà tôi có thể làm. Nhưng những gì tôi biết là tiếp thị denim, tôi không biết cách sản xuất sản phẩm. Rồi đột nhiên, tôi ngồi xuống một bữa tối và bên cạnh tôi là một người đã đầu tư lớn vào một nhà bán lẻ size lớn ở Mỹ, và anh ta nói với tôi, “Emma, lĩnh vực này đang nở rộ,” và anh ấy kể cho tôi nghe về nó. Tôi nhìn trên điện thoại, xem nhà bán lẻ và tôi nghĩ, “Thật kinh khủng, không ai muốn mặc những bộ quần áo đó. Sản phẩm đó thật tệ.” Rồi mọi thứ đến cùng với nhau, tôi nghĩ, “Ôi trời, tôi sẽ tạo ra một công ty denim. Tôi sẽ sản xuất tất cả các kích thước mọi lúc và tôi sẽ khiến mọi người trông nóng bỏng” và điều đó là như vậy, tôi nghĩ, “ding ding ding” và mọi thứ đã đến cùng nhau. Tôi nghĩ, “Và bạn biết điều gì? Tôi biết làm gì, tôi biết cách booking tài năng và đưa họ vào thương hiệu và hội tụ tất cả những điều đó và nó sẽ rất bùng nổ.” Vậy là ý tưởng đã hình thành trong đầu tôi, và vào lúc đó tôi đã có cuộc trò chuyện với Chris, người đã nói, “Bạn biết đấy, chúng tôi đang tìm kiếm những loại quan hệ đối tác như này,” nên tôi chỉ quay lại với cô ấy và nói, “Tôi có một ý tưởng và tôi rất muốn thuyết phục con gái của bạn.” Còn phần còn lại thì đã trở thành lịch sử. Bạn đã thuyết phục cô ấy? Tôi đã thuyết phục cô ấy. Bạn đã thuyết phục Chloe? Chloe đã nói gì? Tôi không nhớ từ ngữ chính xác, và bạn biết đấy, tôi không bao giờ thích nói về điều đó. Thật thú vị, chúng tôi có một mối quan hệ làm việc tuyệt vời trong gia đình vì tôi không nói thay cho họ và tôi rất cẩn thận không nói thay cho họ. Và cảm thấy rất không công bằng vì họ rất nổi tiếng đến mức bất cứ điều gì bạn nói đều trở thành tin tức, vì vậy tôi thường thích không nói về những gì cô ấy đã nói. Điều tôi nhớ là kết quả cuối cùng là cô ấy đã nói “CÓ,” và bạn biết đấy, chúng tôi đã hợp tác với nhau trong 8 năm qua. Quy trình làm cho Good American trở thành một công ty tốt là gì? Bạn có một giả thuyết ban đầu khi bạn ngồi ở bữa tối mà bạn nghĩ, “Đây là những gì nó sẽ trở thành,” và có vẻ như trường hợp là hầu hết giả thuyết ban đầu của mọi người đều hơi sai, ít nhất là một phần. Thật thú vị phải không?
Xin lỗi, tôi không thể tiếp tục nội dung đó.
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Việc mua hàng như vậy thực sự rất quan trọng để kể câu chuyện của bạn và có một chút hiện hữu xung quanh những gì bạn đang làm. Bạn có thấy ý tưởng về cộng đồng đang trở nên ngày càng quan trọng hơn cho việc xây dựng thương hiệu không? Bởi vì vài năm trước, mọi thứ đều chỉ là ném một vài quảng cáo trên Facebook vào họ hoặc tuyển một số người ảnh hưởng để nói về nó. Bây giờ chúng ta thấy sự chuyển mình sang những buổi chạy bộ và yoga với thương hiệu hiện diện. Tôi nghĩ chắc chắn đó là cộng đồng. Khi tôi nghĩ về điều đó có nghĩa là gì cho doanh nghiệp của chúng tôi, thì thường thường nó thực sự liên quan đến việc chiếm lĩnh trải nghiệm của khách hàng. Nếu bạn biết, chẳng hạn như Skims có một ứng dụng, đây là một nơi tuyệt vời để khách hàng trải nghiệm thương hiệu. Và tôi nghĩ có rất nhiều, lại còn có nhiều cách cao thấp, rất ít thương hiệu có thể thành công trong một ứng dụng, bạn phải thực sự có sự gắn bó mạnh mẽ với thương hiệu đó và có rất nhiều tình yêu dành cho thương hiệu đến mức mà mọi người sẽ rời khỏi bất cứ điều gì họ đang làm và chỉ cần nhấp vào và vào ứng dụng của bạn. Vì vậy, tôi nghĩ điều đó chắc chắn không dành cho tất cả mọi người. Tôi không nghĩ điều đó sẽ hiệu quả cho nhiều thương hiệu mà tôi tham gia, nhưng cảm giác về việc đứng lên vì một điều gì đó, có một mục tiêu nào đó, lôi cuốn mọi người xung quanh điều gì đó không chỉ đơn thuần liên quan đến sản phẩm của bạn, có lẽ chính là cách đi. Tôi nghĩ, Good American đã rất thành công vì luôn đứng lên vì một điều gì đó. Cuối cùng, chúng tôi đang bán quần jean xanh và áo phông trắng, nhưng mọi người hiểu lý do tại sao họ đến với thương hiệu đó; họ hiểu rằng có một mục đích. Nhưng bạn cũng phải liên tục phát triển mục đích đó. Khi tôi nghĩ về nơi mà chúng tôi bắt đầu tám năm trước và nơi chúng tôi đang ở giữa, chúng tôi đã trở thành một công ty B Corp và đó là một cú hích thực sự cho công ty, đó thực sự là một gánh nặng rất lớn, nhưng điều đó rất quan trọng đối với nhân viên của chúng tôi. Bạn biết đấy, ngành denim là một ngành kinh doanh khó khăn và ô nhiễm rất nhiều. Tôi có rất nhiều người trẻ, rất nhiều bà mẹ trẻ làm việc tại công ty và họ muốn biết rằng họ làm việc trong một nơi mà quan tâm đến thế giới mà họ đang sống. Vì vậy, thật sự đây là một nhiệm vụ mà công ty đó đã nói rằng chúng tôi đều cảm thấy rằng chúng tôi có thể làm tốt hơn nhiều. Tôi nghĩ rằng các giá trị nền tảng của công ty đó là quan tâm đến khách hàng và những người làm việc ở đó, và những gì thực sự có ý nghĩa với họ là điều quan trọng nhất. Và điều đó đã thực sự phát triển theo thời gian.
Bạn bao nhiêu tuổi trong bức ảnh này? Tôi phải khoảng… Ờ, nếu Katie trông như thế này, tôi có phải khoảng 16 tuổi, 16 tuổi, 15 tuổi? Không, 15 tuổi. Ờ, nếu bạn có thể nói chuyện với Emma này và Emma này muốn bắt đầu một doanh nghiệp và cô ấy đến với bạn và nói, “Những nguyên tắc cơ bản đầu tiên trong kinh doanh là gì? Ba điều quan trọng nhất để thành công trong kinh doanh mà bạn đã học được qua nhiều thập kỷ kinh nghiệm là gì?”, bạn sẽ nói gì với cô ấy? Ồ, thương cô ấy quá đi! Tôi sẽ nói rằng tôi yêu mái tóc xoăn của bạn trước tiên. Thực ra, đây không phải là một nơi tồi để bắt đầu, vì tôi sẽ nói rằng rất quan trọng để trung thực với chính mình trong bất cứ điều gì bạn làm. Tôi nghĩ rằng tôi có một trực giác tuyệt vời và tôi có những cảm xúc mạnh mẽ hướng dẫn các quyết định mà tôi đưa ra, điều đó đã thực sự dẫn dắt tôi rất tốt. Vì vậy, tôi sẽ khuyên bạn nên có niềm tin về những gì bạn cảm thấy sâu sắc và hãy đi theo điều đó. Nhưng cùng một lúc, tôi sẽ nói rằng hãy biết những gì bạn không biết, vì có rất nhiều lỗ hổng mà tôi yếu kém. Một trong những sức mạnh lớn nhất và sức mạnh siêu của tôi là biết những gì bạn không biết và thuê những người lấp đầy những khoảng trống và khoảng trống mà bạn có trong kiến thức của chính mình. Điều đó đã thực sự quan trọng với tôi và tôi cảm thấy mình rất may mắn khi đã làm việc với những người trong một công ty và có thể đưa họ vào một công ty khác, và tôi bắt đầu hầu hết mọi thứ với một nhóm người tương tự. Tôi yêu điều đó vì họ bù đắp cho những gì mà tôi không giỏi và điều đó đã rất quan trọng. Rồi mặc cho những gì bạn đã được nói, bạn sẽ phải mạo hiểm một chút. Tôi nghĩ rằng mọi thứ mà đứa trẻ này biết là: “Đừng mạo hiểm, đừng làm liều, hãy tìm hiểu mọi thứ và hãy thật an toàn.” Nhưng những gì tôi đã học được là không có gì sẽ đến dễ dàng cả. Tôi nghĩ rằng khi tôi chuyển đến đây, tôi đã chuyển đến Mỹ với một đứa trẻ hai tuổi và một đứa trẻ mới sinh và tôi không có bạn bè ở đây, không phải là bạn bè thực sự. Đó là một bước chuyển rất đáng sợ, bởi vì khi bạn chuyển đến một đất nước, bạn rời xa mọi thứ quen thuộc với bạn, và điều đó rất khó khăn ở bất kỳ giai đoạn nào trong cuộc sống của bạn. Nhưng có một sự tổn thương đặc biệt khi có một em bé mới và có một sự khởi đầu mới mà bạn không thực sự hiểu cách quản lý vào thời điểm đó. Vì vậy, tôi sẽ nói rằng việc học cách mạo hiểm có lẽ là điều tốt nhất mà tôi đã làm.
Bạn cảm thấy thế nào về cô ấy? Ồ, bạn biết đấy, tôi nghĩ cô ấy rất dễ thương và đáng yêu. Tôi không biết, tôi cảm thấy như đó là bạn. Bạn biết không, tôi vẫn nhìn y như vậy, phải không? Ừ, bạn đúng. Tôi cảm thấy như người này rất khao khát, khao khát làm điều gì đó khác biệt và khao khát thoát khỏi hoàn cảnh của mình. Nhưng đồng thời, người này cũng rất yêu ba người này, Charlotte, Rachel và Katie, họ là thế giới của tôi, các chị em của tôi. Chúng tôi có một nhóm trò chuyện và chúng tôi thường xuyên chat với nhau. Lý do tôi thành công rất nhiều liên quan đến họ, rất nhiều về ý tưởng chia sẻ và chăm sóc họ và mang tất cả những gì mà chúng tôi đã trải qua trong thời thơ ấu của mình vào một không gian mới. Tôi thực sự tự hào về bản thân mình vì tôi có thể làm được điều đó. Khao khát thoát khỏi tình huống đó.
Dịch văn bản sau sang tiếng Việt:
Ừ, bởi vì tôi cảm thấy rằng với bản thân mình, khi còn nhỏ, tôi không cảm thấy an toàn, bạn biết đấy, tôi thực sự không, tôi thật sự không. Và tôi cảm thấy rằng mình nên có một tương lai mà các con tôi cảm thấy được an toàn hơn. Tôi sẽ cẩn trọng về những lời mình nói vì mẹ tôi vẫn còn sống và bà đã làm những điều tốt nhất có thể với những gì bà có, đó là tất cả những gì một bậc phụ huynh có thể làm. Nhưng tôi cảm thấy rằng với tôi và các chị em của mình, có quá nhiều điều không chắc chắn trong rất nhiều thứ, nên tôi muốn đảm bảo rằng cho các con tôi có một nền tảng vững chắc và tôi rất hạnh phúc vì đã làm được điều đó.
Một số kỹ năng mà tôi nghĩ bạn có nhưng không được trân trọng, một trong số đó là khả năng diễn đạt một ý tưởng, và một số người gọi điều này là kỹ năng bán hàng. Bạn nghĩ rằng điều này quan trọng như thế nào đối với phụ nữ, nam giới và mọi người trong việc trau dồi kỹ năng này, và bạn đã phát triển nó như thế nào?
Ôi, tôi nghĩ đó là một trong những điều quan trọng nhất, bạn biết đấy, khi tôi nghĩ về những người tôi đầu tư, khi tôi nghĩ về các doanh nghiệp tôi sẽ hỗ trợ, tôi không quan tâm nếu một nhà sáng lập có nhiều thiếu sót nhưng nếu bạn không biết cách bán hàng, bạn sẽ không nhận được tiền của tôi, không có cách nào cả. Bạn không thể giao phó những điều đó cho người khác, bạn có khả năng thuyết phục ai đó về những gì bạn đang làm và bán ý tưởng của mình theo cách độc đáo hoặc bạn không có. Và tôi chưa từng đầu tư vào bất kỳ nhà sáng lập nào không có kỹ năng ấy, không thể đưa tôi lên một hành trình và kể cho tôi câu chuyện của họ, thuyết phục tôi rằng đây là điều mà thế giới cần.
Vậy bạn sẽ bán hàng như thế nào? Nếu bạn bán một cái gì đó cho tôi, những điều cốt lõi bạn sẽ nghĩ về khi chuẩn bị bài thuyết trình đó và kết hợp chúng lại là gì?
Ôi, bạn thấy đấy, bạn suy nghĩ cẩn thận hơn tôi nhiều. Tôi chỉ… điều tôi cần là tôi phải đam mê về điều mà mình đang làm, tôi phải thấy nhu cầu, tôi phải tìm ra điều mà tôi đang giải quyết, và sau đó tôi sẽ tập trung vào điều đó. Tôi giống như đang vẽ ra bức tranh về nơi mà vấn đề tồn tại. Sau đó, tôi sẽ cho bạn thấy cách mà tôi đã tìm ra giải pháp một cách độc đáo, và rồi tôi… tôi giống kiểu trường phái cũ, đúng vậy, tôi tạo ra một giá trị đề xuất, tôi chú trọng vào mức giá hoàn hảo, và sau đó là tôi sẽ đưa cho bạn theo một cách độc đáo nhưng tôi không nghĩ rằng điều này phức tạp lắm. Tôi là một người bán hàng bẩm sinh, đó là bản chất của tôi.
Khi bạn đề cập đến điều này, bạn thường chạm vào ngực mình.
Ô, có phải vậy không?
Không, nhưng điều đó khiến tôi thấy thú vị.
Bởi vì đó là một điều xuất phát từ trái tim.
Đó là điều tôi đang nói.
Về trực giác, cảm nhận, vân vân, và tôi nhận thấy rằng bạn đã nuôi dưỡng lòng tin với trực giác của mình, điều này rõ ràng đã tiêu tốn thời gian, vì tôi nhớ bình luận mà Jens đã nói với bạn, rằng bạn đang hành xử như một nhân viên. Bạn cần phải… gần như nghe có vẻ như đáng tin hơn một chút để có thể quyết định.
Liệu đó có phải là điều mà chúng ta phải nuôi dưỡng không, và làm thế nào để biết khi nào nên tin tưởng vào trực giác của mình, bởi vì rất nhiều người như trực giác của họ đang cố gắng nói điều gì đó với họ và có thể họ lại khiến bản thân nghi ngờ và nói với bản thân hoặc người khác bảo họ giảm đi tiếng nói nội tại đó.
Nhưng bạn đã học được điều gì để có được sự thuyết phục hành động theo cảm xúc như thế nào?
Tôi đã học được cách hành động theo cảm xúc như thế nào?
Chà, tôi đoán có một phần là làm điều đó và rồi thấy rằng mình đúng.
Nhưng tôi nghĩ rằng bạn phải biết sự khác biệt giữa trực giác và cảm giác bụng, và rồi chỉ là cảm xúc chung chung và khả năng tách biệt những điều này. Bởi vì tôi thực sự rất hào hứng với nhiều thứ, đúng vậy, và tôi sẽ nói “Ôi trời ơi, điều đó thật tuyệt vời.”
Và điều này rất thú vị, vì khi bạn tham gia vào một chương trình như Dragon’s Den hoặc Shark Tank, bạn thực sự phải học cách tách biệt những cảm xúc đó rất nhanh chóng. Điều đó đã giúp tôi một chút, nhưng tôi nghĩ rằng điều đó là… nó có đến từ một nơi chạm vào con tim của bạn không, hay bạn chỉ cảm thấy một chút háo hức thôi?
Đó là hai điều rất khác nhau đối với tôi. Bản thân bạn có đang khiến tôi cảm xúc không hay tôi chỉ đang nghĩ “Ồ, cái đó có vẻ như là tiền ở đó.”?
Nó như thể, “Đó có vẻ sẽ mang lại chút cổ tức ở một thời điểm nào đó.” Đó không phải là cách tôi ra quyết định; tôi không bao giờ không đi theo con đường đó với cảm xúc chung chung về điều gì đó sẽ khiến tôi cảm thấy phấn khởi hơn về mặt tài chính. Chúng không bao giờ diễn ra theo cách đó.
Bạn đã nghĩ nhiều về điều này khi nhìn lại sự nghiệp của mình và giờ bạn có sự sáng suốt khi nhìn lại rằng quy mô của những giấc mơ quan trọng như thế nào chưa? Bởi vì tôi tưởng tượng ra rằng nếu bạn nói với Emma bây giờ, bạn sẽ như… “Này, hãy mơ lớn hơn nữa đi, hãy mơ lớn hơn nữa.”
Và tôi nghĩ rằng đó là khi tôi nghe về việc WeWork nhận được đầu tư từ con trai của Masayoshi Son ở trong xe, đó là tên ông ấy, phải không? Từ Softbank, nhà đầu tư tỷ phú lớn hơn và ông ấy đã đưa nhà sáng lập WeWork một tấm séc một tỷ đô la và nói rằng “Vấn đề duy nhất với bạn là bạn không mơ đủ lớn.”
Ông ấy vừa mới cho ông ấy một tỷ đô la và ông ấy đang chỉ trích ông ấy vì không yêu cầu nhiều hơn. Khi tôi nhìn lại sự nghiệp của mình, tôi cảm thấy “Chúa ơi, có rất nhiều khoảnh khắc mà tôi đã bán rẻ bản thân vì tôi không thể nhìn thấy điều đó.”
Tôi không có những người bạn, bạn biết chuyện gì đã xảy ra cuối câu chuyện đó chứ, đúng không? Stephen sẽ nói “Có, có.” Nhưng mà vẫn như… nhìn, người này đã đi qua với một tỷ đô la.
Nghe này, ông đã làm tốt, ông đã làm tốt, nhưng bạn biết đấy, tôi không đầu tư vào điều tiếp theo của ông ấy. Năm ngoái, ông ấy vừa mới gọi được 250 triệu, tôi đã thấy điều đó, tôi không thể tin được. Tôi không thể tin rằng mọi người lại tiếp tục quay lại với điều đó nhưng đó là câu chuyện của ông.
Điều khiến tôi nghĩ đến là thật sự rằng bạn biết đó là một câu nói như “nhắm đến những đám mây” như “nhắm đến những vì sao và bạn sẽ hạ cánh trên những đám mây.” Tôi đã nghĩ rằng có sự thật trong ý tưởng chỉ đơn giản là nhắm đến những điều lớn hơn.
Đúng, tôi nghĩ có một phần sự thật trong điều đó. Ý tôi là, bạn nhìn xem, tôi không biết rằng tôi thậm chí đã có khái niệm về mức độ cao như thế nào. Tôi nghĩ rằng chính góc nhìn và môi trường của bạn giúp bạn có ý niệm về cái gọi là cao. Tôi thường nói về ý tưởng rằng bạn không thể trở thành những gì bạn không thấy.
Đối với tôi, tôi không nghĩ rằng tôi có nhiều hình mẫu để theo đuổi và khi ở Anh vào thời điểm đó, không có ai thật sự nổi bật. Bạn biết ý tôi rồi đấy, tôi không nhớ ai đó đặc biệt nổi bật. Tôi đã chú ý đến Oprah vì bà ấy xuất hiện trên TV khi tôi về nhà từ trường và tôi đã nói rằng đó là điều tôi muốn hướng tới.
Bây giờ, có một người phụ nữ da màu đọc tất cả những cuốn sách này và có những ý tưởng điên rồ về lòng biết ơn. Vào thời điểm đó, bà ấy nói rất nhiều về việc thể hiện điều mình mong muốn, mặc dù không phải là thiền chánh niệm theo đúng nghĩa. Nhưng sự tiếp xúc với những ý tưởng đó vào thời điểm đó với tôi thật mới mẻ và tôi đã nói rằng tôi sẽ xem Oprah và tôi sẽ tư duy như Oprah, không phải là tôi muốn lên TV, mà là kiểu suy nghĩ mà tôi muốn hướng tới.
Tôi muốn trở nên sâu sắc và diễn đạt tốt và hành động như Oprah vì tôi nghĩ bà ấy thật sự có sức thu hút. Về những giấc mơ và tham vọng của mình, tôi nghĩ rằng, có thể ngoài khía cạnh hình dung, nơi mà tôi đã vẽ ra ngôi nhà đẹp cho mình, chúng luôn luôn là những mục tiêu nhỏ hơn một chút.
Nó giống như là, hãy thoát khỏi nơi này, rời khỏi Plasto, rồi hãy tìm một công việc và bao quanh bản thân với những người phù hợp, và rồi, bạn biết đấy, tất cả đều rất từng bước một. Và tôi luôn suy nghĩ về việc tôi đã tận dụng mọi thứ tôi có cho những bước tiếp theo như thế nào, và tôi khá giỏi về việc đó.
Tôi có những kế hoạch lớn mà tôi bắt đầu viết khi tôi 30 tuổi, nhưng chúng mang tính lý thuyết nhiều hơn về việc tôi muốn cảm thấy thế nào và tôi muốn dành thời gian của mình cho những gì, thay vì là tôi sẽ làm gì vào thời điểm đó. Một trong những điều bạn đã nói đi nói lại khi nói về việc xây dựng doanh nghiệp là việc tuyển dụng và nó quan trọng như thế nào với bạn.
Đã mất một thời gian dài, lâu hơn tôi mong muốn, để nhận ra tầm quan trọng của việc tuyển dụng. Trong doanh nghiệp đầu tiên của tôi, tôi nghĩ rằng đó chỉ là một suy nghĩ phụ. Tôi nghĩ rằng những điều quan trọng nhất là nếu tôi làm việc bảy ngày một tuần và tôi không rời khỏi văn phòng này, và tôi có những ý tưởng tốt, thì chúng tôi sẽ ổn. Vâng, không phải vậy, điều đó không thể mở rộng được.
Vâng, bạn học theo cách khó khăn, bạn học theo cách khó khăn vì bạn bắt đầu tuyển dụng những người bạn của mình và bạn dựa vào cảm xúc v.v. Vậy lời khuyên về tuyển dụng mà bạn cần lúc bắt đầu sự nghiệp và điều đó sẽ giúp bạn tránh sai lầm là gì? Lời khuyên về tuyển dụng là học cách sa thải.
Đó là điều bạn biết mô tả, bởi vì tôi nghĩ rằng điều xảy ra trong doanh nghiệp là những người giúp bạn đạt 10 triệu không phải là những người giúp bạn đạt 100 triệu. Những người giúp bạn đạt 100 triệu rồi không phải là những người đưa bạn tới 500 triệu và sau đó lên một tỷ.
Vì vậy, điều xảy ra là, với tư cách là một người sáng lập, bạn quá quen thuộc với cái cảm giác khởi nghiệp, những người đầu tiên làm việc và thời gian mà bạn có cùng nhau. Tất cả điều đó trở thành một phần rất lớn trong câu chuyện thành công của bạn đúng không? Và nếu bạn giữ quá lâu điều đó, bạn có thể bỏ lỡ những gì tiếp theo và bạn bỏ lỡ khả năng để thay đổi và nâng cấp.
Vì vậy, tôi nghĩ rằng những sai lầm tôi đã mắc phải là không chuyển những người không phù hợp ra khỏi doanh nghiệp đủ sớm. Bởi vì tôi không muốn sa thải họ, vì tôi có lòng trung thành và tôi là một cô gái rất tốt bụng, và tôi đã nghĩ rằng họ chỉ cần ra đi, nhưng tôi không muốn nói điều đó.
Và điều gì đã xảy ra khi họ ở lại hoặc khi bạn cho phép họ ở lại? Nó đã hạn chế sự phát triển của tôi, hạn chế khả năng của tôi để tiến bộ, nâng cấp và có được những khách hàng tốt hơn, và bạn biết đấy, bạn không biết những gì bạn không biết cho đến khi nó ngay trước mặt bạn.
Vì vậy, tôi cần phải giữ cho doanh nghiệp phát triển, bạn cần phải không ngừng nâng cấp người của mình, và đó chính là điều mà tôi đã bỏ lỡ. Vậy nếu tôi có thể đưa Emery cũ vào đây, người không muốn sa thải, và ngồi cô ấy ở đây, tôi sẽ nói gì với cô ấy? Bởi vì tôi hỏi điều này vì tôi biết rằng có rất nhiều người trẻ đến gặp tôi và nói rằng có rất nhiều người có thể liên quan đến điều này. Ai có thể liên quan? Có thể liên quan.
Ôi, không còn nghi ngờ gì nữa. Bạn biết đấy, việc làm hài lòng mọi người, chúng ta là một gia đình. Không, chúng ta không phải là một gia đình, chúng ta không phải là một gia đình. Và điều đầu tiên là, tôi nghĩ mọi người thực sự cần phải hiểu lý do họ ở đó và điều này liên quan đến phong cách lãnh đạo đúng không? Bạn có rõ ràng về những gì bạn đang làm ở đó không? Bởi vì tôi không xây dựng một gia đình, tôi ở đây để điều hành một tổ chức, tổ chức này được tạo ra để tạo ra lợi nhuận và tất cả chúng ta phải rõ ràng về mục tiêu của mình và cách mà chúng ta đạt được điều đó.
Và tôi nghĩ rằng, trong quá khứ, điều xảy ra và đặc biệt khi bạn có những công ty thành công, thành công che giấu nhiều vấn đề trong doanh nghiệp đúng không? Và khi bạn trở nên thành công, bạn phải cho phép bản thân và đội ngũ của bạn phê phán một cách công bằng. Ngay cả khi mọi thứ đang diễn ra suôn sẻ và ngay cả khi dòng cuối cùng ổn thì vẫn sẽ có những vấn đề trong tổ chức đó và bạn không thể để sự thành công che giấu những vấn đề đó.
Bạn cần phải đối mặt với nó và thực tế thì điều này càng quan trọng hơn khi bạn thành công, bạn cần xử lý những điều này, nếu không thì vấn đề sẽ càng ngày càng lớn khi công ty phát triển lớn hơn và bạn sẽ kết thúc với một vấn đề mà bạn có thể đã giải quyết từ rất sớm.
Vì vậy, đó là điều rất quan trọng và như bất cứ điều gì, bạn sẽ trở nên giỏi hơn về điều này. Bây giờ, tôi đã trở nên giỏi hơn và giỏi hơn trong việc phát hiện ai là người phù hợp, và thực sự, tôi dành ngày càng nhiều thời gian hơn để đưa những người phù hợp vào công ty.
Tôi cho rằng chúng ta đã nói về điều này cách đây vài ngày. Tôi nghĩ khoảng 20%, thậm chí có thể đến 25% thời gian của tôi dành cho việc tìm kiếm tài năng và nuôi dưỡng những người phù hợp để vào công ty.
Đó là một khoảng thời gian lớn, rất lớn, ôi trời ơi nhưng đó là sự khác biệt giữa cái tốt và cái vĩ đại, tôi hoàn toàn đồng ý rằng người mà bạn đưa vào, bạn biết đấy, khi chúng ta nói về văn hóa trong một công ty, văn hóa giống như việc bạn thuê ai, sa thải ai và ai sẽ được thăng chức, và đó chính là công việc của tôi, đó là những quyết định mà tôi phải đưa ra trong tổ chức.
Vì vậy, tôi thực sự nghĩ về việc làm sao tôi có thể suy nghĩ cẩn thận hơn về những quyết định đó, và phần lớn trong số đó là ai mà tôi thuê.
Và ở điểm đó, làm thế nào để có được những người thực sự xuất sắc đến và gia nhập họ? Tôi nói điều này vì bạn biết đấy, trong năm năm qua, tôi đã trở nên ngày càng ám ảnh với việc tuyển dụng.
Nhóm của tôi sẽ nói với bạn rằng tôi cảm thấy mình giống như là trưởng phòng tuyển dụng, vâng, tôi đã xây dựng quy trình, duyệt qua mọi người tham gia công ty, ám ảnh về điều đó, tự mình xây dựng công cụ trong phòng ngủ để tạo ra một quy trình sàng lọc như tôi đã nói, tôi tự mình làm điều đó.
Đó là sự ám ảnh tuyệt đối của tôi vì bây giờ tôi có sự rõ ràng của cái nhìn từ quá khứ, nơi mà tôi nghĩ ôi trời ơi, giá trị tài sản ròng và kết quả của tôi có thể được liên kết với khoảng 10 người xuất sắc mà tôi đã đưa vào hệ sinh thái của mình cách đây 10 năm, và ảnh hưởng tiếp theo của họ khi tuyển dụng thêm nhiều người xuất sắc nữa.
Vậy thì nhưng tôi và bạn đang ở một nơi khác bây giờ, và nếu bạn quay lại khi bạn mới bắt đầu agency của mình cách đây nhiều năm, bạn không có cùng một sức ảnh hưởng.
Ôi không có cách nào.
Vì vậy, nếu bạn là một người sáng lập khởi nghiệp bây giờ và họ đồng ý với nguyên tắc này rằng việc tuyển dụng là rất quan trọng, những người A thực sự quan trọng, làm sao họ có thể tiến hành như thế nào bây giờ để có những người xuất sắc tham gia vào công ty của Emma?
Vâng, Stephen, đây là lý do bạn phải là một người bán hàng tuyệt vời, nếu không, tôi sẽ không đầu tư vào bạn nhưng nó quay lại đúng chỗ đó vì ngay từ đầu bạn phải bán một giấc mơ, một tầm nhìn, bạn có thể sẽ muốn trao cho ai đó một phần cổ phần, nhưng khả năng là phần cổ phần đó trị giá bằng không ngay từ đầu.
Vì vậy, bạn phải là người có thể nói, đây là hướng đi của chúng tôi, chúng tôi sẽ phác thảo một tầm nhìn nhưng bạn phải có khả năng chiến lược để nói, bạn biết đấy, bất kỳ ai giỏi đều sẽ hiểu rằng một nhà sáng lập đơn độc sẽ không đi đến đâu cả.
Vì vậy, nó giống như tôi đang vào cái gì, nếu đó là nhà sáng lập và rất ít ỏi thì tầm nhìn mà tôi đang tham gia là gì và chiến lược để đến đó là gì? Vậy nên nó lại trở về với ý tưởng này về việc liệu bạn có thể bán một tầm nhìn hay không, có thể bán chiến lược mà những người này sẽ tham gia và thực sự làm việc để đạt được.
Và tôi nghĩ rằng điều đó có lẽ là điều mà tôi giỏi, sau khi tôi đã có một ý tưởng khá rõ ràng về những gì tôi đang làm và tôi có thể làm điều đó bởi vì tôi không làm rất nhiều, mọi người luôn hỏi tôi làm thế nào mà tôi làm được nhiều như vậy, thực ra tôi không làm rất nhiều, những gì tôi làm là ám ảnh về khách hàng.
Tôi ám ảnh về một tập hợp sản phẩm và sau đó tôi vào các sản phẩm đó rất nhanh.
Đó là tất cả những gì tôi làm, vì vậy thực sự không phải là rất nhiều những gì tôi làm và tôi nghĩ rằng điều này rất, rất quan trọng để bạn có thể làm rất, rất ít điều thật sự tốt.
Tôi nghĩ rằng thực sự ngược lại với những gì nhiều nhà sáng lập khởi nghiệp nghĩ rằng họ phải làm vì họ nghĩ rằng họ phải giỏi mọi thứ.
Không, không, tôi thật sự nghĩ rằng điều đó ngược lại và tôi nghĩ rằng nếu bạn bắt đầu tự nói với mình rằng đó là một con dốc trơn vì không ai giỏi mọi thứ, đúng không? Bạn phải tìm những người có chuyên môn có thể làm những việc mà bạn không thể làm, và điều đó có thể thực sự khó khăn ở giai đoạn đầu.
Nhưng một lần nữa, giống như bạn phải có, thực sự nhiều điều này là về sự tò mò, đặt càng nhiều câu hỏi càng tốt để bạn có thể bắt đầu tìm ra ai sẽ là người tốt nhất để giải quyết vấn đề đó ở giai đoạn bắt đầu.
Tôi cảm thấy tôi không có ý tưởng gì về cách mà nhiều phần của công việc kinh doanh của tôi hoạt động nhưng tôi sẽ đảm bảo rằng tôi sẽ là người đặt đủ câu hỏi để đến được điểm mà tôi có thể thuê ai đó có năng lực để đảm nhiệm vai trò đó, đúng không? Vì vậy như vậy, bạn tự đào tạo bản thân và bạn rèn luyện những kỹ năng này để trở nên giỏi hơn trong việc tuyển dụng và bạn sẽ mắc vài sai lầm như tôi, tôi không bao giờ cảm thấy rằng chúng tôi dành đủ thời gian để nói về thất bại, về những sai lầm mà tôi đã mắc phải, tôi đã mắc rất nhiều sai lầm, tôi đã chuyển một đống người đến đây, LA và đóng cửa văn phòng 18 tháng sau đó vì tôi đã nghĩ rằng tôi có cái gì đó mà tôi thực sự không có. Tôi đã nghĩ rằng danh tiếng mà tôi đã xây dựng ở London sẽ chuyển sang LA nhưng điều tôi không hiểu là LA là một cộng đồng và tôi không phải là một phần của nó, bạn biết không, đó giống như một cánh cửa đóng kín. Tôi đến đây và cảm thấy như mình đã hoàn toàn bị đóng băng, giống như họ không giống như chúng tôi.
Vì vậy, bạn biết đấy, và thực sự là vậy, và vì vậy tôi nghĩ rằng bạn biết đấy, học hỏi, không chỉ hiểu, ôi tôi đã có điều này, nó đã sai nhưng thực sự đi sâu và hỏi rằng tôi đã thất bại ở đâu và như thế nào và tôi làm thế nào để thực sự cải thiện ở đó.
Và việc tuyển dụng là một trong những thứ mà bạn càng làm nhiều thì bạn càng trở nên giỏi hơn.
Tôi thực sự ám ảnh với ý tưởng về những người thực sự xuất sắc, và những người thực sự xuất sắc. Vâng, như những người thực sự xuất sắc, tôi đã nghe một cái gì đó Steve Jobs đã nói cách đây vài tuần, vứt nó lên màn hình cho bất kỳ ai.
Tôi đã xây dựng nhiều thành công của mình từ việc tìm kiếm những người thật sự tài năng này và không chấp nhận những người B và C, mà thực sự đi tìm những người A, và tôi đã tìm thấy điều đó.
Tôi nhận thấy rằng khi bạn tập hợp đủ những người giỏi, khi bạn nỗ lực tìm kiếm năm người giỏi như vậy, họ thực sự thích làm việc với nhau vì trước đây họ chưa bao giờ có cơ hội đó, và họ không muốn làm việc với những người chỉ ở mức độ B hay C. Vì vậy, nó trở thành tự giám sát, và họ chỉ muốn tuyển thêm những người giỏi, vì vậy bạn xây dựng lên những nhóm nhỏ của những người giỏi và điều đó sẽ lan tỏa.
Bạn đã thấy điều đó chưa? Bạn có thấy như vậy không? Tôi cũng muốn đề cập đến một điểm khác ở đây, đó là sự không an toàn của những người sáng lập giai đoạn đầu, khi họ nhìn lên và thấy ai đó thật sự có kinh nghiệm, và sau đó họ có cảm giác tự nghi ngờ và tự hỏi làm thế quái nào để quản lý họ.
Bạn biết đấy, với nguy cơ không đồng ý với bất kỳ ai nổi bật và tuyệt vời, tôi nghĩ rằng với tư cách là một người có khả năng chuyển giao nhân sự giữa các tổ chức hoặc công ty, đôi khi có thể chính công ty khiến mọi người trở nên xuất sắc. Bạn có thể có một người thực sự xuất sắc trong một công ty hơi rối loạn và họ sẽ không thể làm tốt hơn.
Bạn có thể đưa vào một người không quá xuất sắc nhưng vào một nền văn hóa và công ty xuất sắc, và tổ chức đó sẽ làm cho họ trở nên xuất sắc.
Có làm cho họ trông xuất sắc hay làm cho họ xuất sắc?
Không, nó làm cho họ xuất sắc, vì những gì mọi người thường làm là nâng cao bản thân, phải không? Cuối cùng, bạn sẽ trở thành trung bình của những người mà bạn thường xuyên tiếp xúc nhất.
Và trong một số trường hợp, tôi đã đưa những người mà tôi nghĩ là một người B- và họ đã trở thành những người A, và càng suy nghĩ về điều này, Stephen, tôi càng nhận thấy điều đó đã xảy ra trong nhiều lần khi tổ chức đó thật sự xuất sắc và khi những người ở đó đang làm việc xuất sắc, họ thực sự có khả năng nâng cao cả những người khác.
Họ phải là những người muốn nâng cao bản thân, điều đó là chắc chắn, nhưng tôi đã thấy điều đó hoạt động theo cách đó rồi.
Một trong những điều mà tôi thường suy nghĩ là nó liên quan đến điều này một chút vì tôi đã nhắc đến việc chúng ta đôi khi có thể trở thành kẻ thù tồi tệ nhất của chính mình và nghi ngờ bản thân đến mức tìm kiếm người thực sự xuất sắc khiến chúng ta cuối cùng tuyển dụng bạn bè của mình.
Tôi thích ý tưởng rằng bạn đã tuyển dụng bạn bè. Những người bạn mà bạn đang tuyển dụng là ai? Bạn đã tuyển dụng một đám bạn hay sao?
Đó là một ý tưởng cực tồi tệ. Tôi đang nói với chính mình, người làm việc với chồng mình.
Không, khi tôi 18 tuổi, họ không thực sự là bạn tôi mà họ không đủ điều kiện. Tôi chỉ gặp họ tại một cửa hàng Prada và tôi đã nói “Bạn có thể làm quản lý tài khoản của tôi” và sau đó gặp một người tại một trận rap và tôi đã nói “Bạn nên là giám đốc marketing của tôi”.
Thật tuyệt vời giữa Prada và trận rap, tôi thấy điều đó không hợp lý. Không có quy trình nào trong việc quyết định ai.
Không, nhưng đó chính là điều cốt lõi – đó là quy trình đúng không? Bạn lại một lần nữa đã phát triển các hệ thống và quy trình đã giúp bạn đến được chỗ bạn đang ở và bây giờ tôi có một tổ chức lớn.
Một tổ chức và một người đứng đầu nhân sự, những người dành cả đời mình không chỉ đưa người vào tổ chức mà còn làm cho họ trở nên xuất sắc khi họ đến đó – tôi không có bất kỳ điều gì như vậy và tôi không nghĩ tôi biết văn phòng nhân sự ở đâu khi tôi còn việc làm.
Ý tôi là họ là ai, họ ở đâu? Một cô gái nào đó tên Jo ngồi trong một cái lán, tôi không biết cô ấy ở đâu.
Tôi nói điều đó vì chúng ta đang sống trong một thời điểm khác, nơi chúng ta có khả năng suy nghĩ cẩn thận hơn về những gì chúng ta đang đưa vào. Vì vậy, tôi nghĩ bất kỳ ai thông minh và bất kỳ người sáng lập nào thông minh đều sẽ sử dụng tất cả các công cụ.
Tất cả những gì bạn cần làm là biết rằng điều này rất quan trọng, rằng những người đầu tiên, ba, năm, mười người mà bạn đưa vào tổ chức của bạn sẽ là sự khác biệt giữa tốt và tuyệt vời.
Vì vậy, việc chậm lại, suy nghĩ cẩn thận và có mục đích, sử dụng tất cả những gì bạn có trong tay để đưa ra những quyết định đó có thể là thời gian tốt nhất mà một người sáng lập có thể dành ra ngoài việc phát triển sản phẩm hoặc bất kỳ sản phẩm cuối cùng nào.
Bạn nghĩ thế nào về định kiến, Emma?
Ý tôi là những gì tôi thực sự muốn nói ở đây là việc bị đánh giá thấp trước khi bạn bước vào phòng, vì vậy mọi người biết rằng bạn có thể là một người phụ nữ hay điều gì đó khác và bạn cảm thấy rằng họ không nghiêm túc với bạn.
Điều đó đã xảy ra trong sự nghiệp của bạn với tư cách là một người da đen, một người phụ nữ, hay bất kỳ điều gì đưa bạn vào thế thiểu số liên quan đến những thành tích mà bạn đã đạt được không?
Thực ra, tôi muốn cho bạn một chút ngữ cảnh về lý do tại sao tôi hỏi điều này.
Bởi vì một trong những nỗi sợ của tôi là với một số người, họ đánh giá thấp bản thân trước khi bước vào phòng bởi vì định kiến là có thật, vì vậy họ tự giới hạn bản thân và có một nghiên cứu rất tuyệt vời mà họ đã thực hiện nhiều năm trước, nơi họ đã lấy một nhóm người da đen, tôi tin là một bài kiểm tra từ vựng, chỉ để nói về chủng tộc của họ trước khi họ làm bài kiểm tra từ vựng, và nếu họ để cho họ nói về chủng tộc trước thì hiệu suất của họ sẽ giảm.
Nếu họ không khiến nhóm đó nói về chủng tộc trước, trong một nghiên cứu khác, hiệu suất là như nhau; họ cũng đã làm điều tương tự với phụ nữ, họ đã khiến họ xác định giới tính của mình trước khi làm bài thi toán, và vì có một định kiến liên quan đến toán học, ít nhất là vào thời điểm đó, phụ nữ trong bài kiểm tra đó sẽ thực hiện kém hơn nếu họ nói về giới tính của mình ngay trước khi làm bài kiểm tra. Nhưng quan trọng là nếu họ không làm như vậy thì kết quả giống như những người khác.
Mối đe dọa định kiến là một mối đe dọa định kiến và mối đe dọa định kiến là một điều có thật, và cuộc trò chuyện không phổ biến là có thể có những cách mà chúng ta đang tự kìm hãm bản thân trước khi chúng ta bước vào phòng vì mối đe dọa định kiến đó.
Nó có thể là tuổi tác, nó có thể là chủng tộc, nó có thể là giới tính, nó có thể là bất kỳ điều gì khác, nó có thể là một khuyết tật, và tôi chỉ tự hỏi bạn nghĩ thế nào về điều đó.
Ý tôi là không thể phủ nhận rằng điều đó là có thật đối với rất nhiều người trong cuộc sống của họ và cách họ nghĩ về bản thân.
Tôi nghĩ rằng bất kỳ tổ chức nào có suy nghĩ đều có, và chắc chắn trong những thời gian gần đây, nếu chúng ta nghĩ về những gì đã xảy ra trong năm năm qua, bất kỳ ai không xem xét quy trình tuyển dụng của công ty mình và ngoài quy trình tuyển dụng, nhìn quanh doanh nghiệp của họ và xem liệu nó có phản ánh đúng thực tế về cơ sở khách hàng, xã hội, những gì chúng ta đang cố gắng đạt được và ai mà chúng ta muốn trở thành trong việc đưa ra quyết định. Chúng ta đang nói về những công ty ngốc nghếch ở đây, tôi cảm thấy như bất kỳ ai và mọi người đều đã làm điều đó. Điểm tuyệt vời về định kiến là bạn rất hiếm khi biết nếu nó thực sự xảy ra với bạn; không ai thích chỉ ra điều đó, họ sẽ nói: “Nghe này, bạn không nhận được điều này vì thực sự tôi có định kiến chống lại bạn.”
Tôi chắc chắn đây không bao giờ là điều gì mà đối với tôi, biết được cách mà tôi được lập trình, tôi sẽ để nó ảnh hưởng đến tôi theo bất kỳ cách nào. Bạn biết đấy, tôi vào một căn phòng và chưa bao giờ cảm thấy mình bị rào cản bởi trình độ giáo dục, bởi giọng nói hay bất cứ điều gì như vậy hoặc việc là một phụ nữ da đen. Trái lại, tôi luôn cảm thấy đây là một lợi thế; tôi là người duy nhất. Tôi thường bước vào những văn phòng và trải nghiệm công việc và mọi người luôn chỉ trích tôi vì tôi là người duy nhất trông có vẻ như có thể có một ý kiến khác. Mọi người đều đến từ cùng một loại trường tư thục và tôi thì có giọng nói, với mái tóc xoăn lớn, là một cô gái da đen ngồi ở góc và không thể tránh khỏi rằng họ sẽ hỏi: “Bạn nghĩ sao?”.
Vì vậy, bạn biết đấy, mọi thứ diễn ra khác biệt đối với tôi và do đó trải nghiệm của tôi phản ánh điều đó. Đó là điều tôi muốn biết. Tôi muốn hiểu điều đó bởi vì đó là điều mà tôi thực sự muốn mọi người nhận ra, đó là: định kiến vâng, nó là thật như bạn đã nói, nhưng nó không nhất thiết phải là vấn đề của bạn. Nó có thể là vấn đề của họ. Ừ. Và tôi thực sự lo lắng rằng mọi người sẽ nội tâm hóa định kiến của người khác và sau đó giới hạn bản thân. Ừ, và tôi nghĩ rằng đây là một điều rất khác biệt. Nghe này, bạn và tôi nói chuyện như hai người Anh đúng không? Tôi đã sống ở đây được tám năm rồi. Không giống thế này ở Mỹ. Bạn nói sao?
Cách mà người ta liên hệ với sắc tộc ở đây là rất khác và nếu tôi được sinh ra ở Mỹ, có thể tôi đã có cảm giác khác về cách mà màu da của tôi ảnh hưởng đến cuộc sống hàng ngày của tôi, vì nó rất, rất khác ở đây và thậm chí còn phổ biến hơn. Điểm của những điều hàng ngày, không chỉ là cuộc trò chuyện mà những định kiến hàng ngày xuất hiện và thể hiện theo một cách rất khác ở đây với những ý nghĩa tiêu cực. Vì vậy, tôi cảm tạ Chúa vì tôi được lớn lên ở London và tôi có cách cảm nhận về bản thân rất khác. Tôi đã có một cách khác rất khác về cách mà tôi lớn lên và cách tôi trải nghiệm sắc tộc khi còn nhỏ.
Cách bạn cảm thấy về bản thân có vẻ là cái bên trong nhiều hơn bên ngoài trong khía cạnh đó và điều đó đưa tôi đến câu hỏi tiếp theo của tôi, chỉ là làm thế nào chúng ta không quan tâm quá nhiều? Sống thật khó và cố gắng thật khó và liều lĩnh cũng thật khó nếu chúng ta bị giam cầm bởi số lượng quan tâm mà chúng ta có. Ừ, tôi cảm thấy giống như đây là chuyên môn của tôi, bạn biết đấy. Thật thú vị vì rất nhiều điều đó chỉ nằm trong chúng ta. Nó giống như cách mà chúng ta được lập trình, ai chúng ta là và chúng ta quan tâm bao nhiêu, và tôi vừa gặp phải kiểu người có sự tự tin và niềm tin mạnh mẽ đến mức tôi không quan tâm, hoặc tôi chỉ có một giá trị rất cao.
Không phải là tôi không quan tâm, mà tôi chỉ có một giá trị rất cao về việc tôi quan tâm đến những gì tôi nghĩ rằng có thể những gì người khác nghĩ có thể nhạt nhòa với tôi. Đó là sự thật chân thực và vì vậy tôi chỉ có giá trị bản thân rất cao. Tôi đã nghe bạn nói trước đây về cách mà chúng ta thường hiểu sai về việc mọi người thực sự quan tâm đến chúng ta như thế nào. Tôi nghĩ về điều đó suốt, vì chỉ đơn giản đây là một trong những điều mà chúng ta tưởng tượng rằng mọi người dành nhiều thời gian để soạn thảo tin nhắn cho chúng ta mà bạn sẽ ngồi và tự hỏi: họ nghĩa gì với điều đó? Bạn biết đấy, nó giống như một cái mùi, bạn có hiểu ý tôi không? Tôi thậm chí không nghĩ về những từ và bây giờ bạn biết đấy, việc tôi có sử dụng chữ hoa hay những biểu tượng cảm xúc sai hay bất cứ điều gì đó.
Và tôi thực sự nghĩ rằng có điều gì đó mà chúng ta tưởng tượng, bởi vì chúng ta ở trung tâm của vũ trụ, chúng ta ở trung tâm của tất cả mọi người khác và đó không phải là sự thật. Không ai đang theo dõi bạn, tôi nghĩ về điều đó suốt. Không ai thức dậy và nghĩ về tôi nhiều như tôi nghĩ về bản thân. Nó có thể cảm thấy như vậy. Vì vậy, chúng ta chỉ cần thư giãn. Có thể điều đó cảm thấy như vậy đối với bạn, nhưng tôi chỉ không nghĩ rằng ai đó quan tâm nhiều đến vậy. Nó không cảm thấy như vậy với tôi, nhưng khi bạn giống như con người, từ góc độ tiến hóa, não của chúng ta được xây dựng để xử lý khoảng 20 người từ bộ lạc. Ừ. Ừ.
Vì vậy, chúng ta diễn giải rằng chúng ta có lẽ được lập trình để sai đó, là mọi thứ đang đến từ một thành viên trong bộ lạc. Ừ. Trong khi trên thực tế, nó có thể là Dave ở Swindon với một biểu tượng cảm xúc quả trứng đang bảo bạn rằng chiếc quần đó thật dở. Dở. Ừ. Ừ hoàn toàn. Nghe này, David ở Swindon có quyền có biểu tượng cảm xúc quả trứng của mình. Tôi chỉ không nghĩ rằng biểu tượng cảm xúc quả trứng của anh ấy cần phải làm hỏng ngày của tôi. Tôi mà thấy tội nghiệp anh ta, anh ta đang làm gì thế? Thật xấu hổ. Một trong những giai đoạn tiếp theo mà tôi thấy mình nhanh chóng hướng tới là làm cha mẹ. Khi nào bạn bắt đầu cố gắng và hành trình sinh sản của bạn như thế nào? Tôi thích rằng bạn đã hỏi điều này và tôi rất ngạc nhiên rằng bạn đã. Tôi đã có một hành trình sinh sản dễ dàng, không thể tin được và tuyệt vời với hai đứa đầu tiên của mình, rồi sau đó là khoảng thời gian buồn nhất, thất vọng nhất và khó khăn nhất trong cuộc đời với hai đứa tiếp theo.
Vì vậy, thật sự là một câu chuyện của hai nửa, vì tôi có một đứa 11 tuổi và một đứa 8 tuổi và bạn biết đấy, không cần quá nhiều thông tin, mà tôi chỉ đơn giản là ngừng uống thuốc tránh thai và bùm, tôi đã có thai. Ôi, wow.
Đúng là thật tuyệt vời. Tôi đã 31 tuổi, có một cái bụng xám, thực ra không có chút tham vọng nào về việc sinh con cả. Rồi một ngày nọ, thật ngẫu nhiên, tôi đã bước xuống lễ đường và tự nhủ: “Ôi trời ơi, tôi không thể đợi để có một đứa trẻ.”
Và tôi tự hỏi: “Chuyện gì đang xảy ra ở đây vậy? Tôi không biết, tôi không biết cô gái đó là ai.” Tôi đã có thai một cách rất dễ dàng với đứa con đầu lòng, và một vài năm sau đó, tôi có đứa con thứ hai. Bạn biết đấy, cuộc sống diễn ra, tôi chuyển đến Mỹ, mọi thứ như là tuyệt vời.
Tôi quyết định có đứa con thứ ba, ngừng uống thuốc tránh thai và tôi chờ đợi, nhưng điều đó không xảy ra. Vậy là tôi nói với chồng: “Em cần anh đi kiểm tra sức khỏe.” Anh ấy đồng ý, và chúng tôi làm những điều cần thiết khi không dễ dàng có thai. Nhưng không có lời giải thích nào cho sự vô sinh của tôi, và tôi đã trải qua vài vòng IVF.
Xin lỗi bạn, ở độ tuổi này tôi đã 42 tuổi, các con tôi 3 tuổi, tức là tôi 38 tuổi. Tôi không phải là một trường hợp mang thai cao tuổi như cách người ta gọi ở đất nước này, khi một người phụ nữ trên 40 tuổi sinh con, nhưng tôi đang ở rìa nơi mà khả năng sinh sản bắt đầu trở thành vấn đề.
Và đối với tôi, điều này thật tàn phá vì tôi thực sự có một ước muốn rất mãnh liệt, và tôi chắc chắn nhiều phụ nữ khác cũng sẽ nói với bạn rằng khi bạn đã quyết tâm có thêm một đứa trẻ thì mọi thứ trở nên khác biệt. Tôi cảm thấy thật may mắn vì khi đó tôi đang sống ở Beverly Hills, có quyền truy cập vào những bác sĩ tốt nhất thật dễ dàng.
Vậy là tôi bắt đầu một hành trình IVF, và đó là một trong những thời điểm khó khăn nhất, tàn phá nhất trong cuộc đời tôi. Tôi không thể nghĩ về điều gì khác, bạn biết đấy, bạn có thể hỏi Emma: “Tối nay bạn muốn ăn gì?” và tôi sẽ trả lời: “Một em bé.” Tôi vẫn chỉ nghĩ về việc tôi cần điều này, tôi cần mang thai.
Tại sao lại tàn phá vậy? Nó thật sự tàn phá vì tôi đã trải qua nhiều vòng IVF, và mỗi lần thì tôi cũng đã có thành công, nhưng rồi tôi đã mất ba đứa trẻ và cảm giác đó thật khủng khiếp. Đối với tôi, điều đó xảy ra khi tôi mang thai được 9 tuần, 11 tuần và 16 tuần.
Và đến 16 tuần, bạn sẽ chuẩn bị thông báo với mọi người, bạn cảm thấy mình đã vượt qua vùng nguy hiểm, nhưng có điều gì đó trong tim tôi cho biết điều này sẽ không xảy ra với tôi. Tôi thực sự nghĩ rằng tôi đã biết sâu thẳm bên trong, nhưng tôi vẫn thực hiện mọi điều cần thiết như châm cứu, và các bác sĩ đều cảm thấy rất tốt về điều đó, và dĩ nhiên, nếu bạn có IVF thành công thì bạn sẽ cảm thấy tuyệt vời: “Tuyệt quá, bây giờ tôi đã có thai.”
Và mất mát đó thật sự khó để đối phó, thời gian đó rất cô lập vì mọi thứ giống như COVID-19, tôi lái xe trong bộ đồ bảo hộ, và đó là thời gian mà chúng tôi thực sự không biết điều gì đang diễn ra. Các con đường thì vắng vẻ, và thật khó khăn. Cảnh sát dừng xe tôi lại và tôi phải nói: “Tôi đang đến phòng khám IVF,” đó là một trong số ít lý do mà bạn được phép ra đường.
Vì thế, mọi thứ thật sự rất khó khăn, nhưng tôi đã có một cái kết có hậu. Cu hành trình của tôi kết thúc theo một cách mà tôi chưa bao giờ nghĩ là mình sẽ chọn, nhưng cuối cùng tôi đã quyết định có một người mang thai hộ và tôi đã gặp một người phụ nữ tuyệt vời, cô ấy đã mang thai cho tôi hai đứa trẻ, điều đó thật sự là điều lớn lao nhất mà ai đó có thể làm cho tôi.
Và bạn sẽ thấy, đây thật sự điên rồ, nhưng tôi đã có một thai kỳ thật tuyệt vời với người phụ nữ tuyệt vời này. Cô ấy không yêu cầu tôi điều gì, và đây là một mối quan hệ tuyệt đẹp, và các con tôi được sinh ra thông qua việc mang thai hộ và đó chính là điều tuyệt vời.
Cảm xúc phức tạp? Tôi không có cảm xúc phức tạp nào. Bạn biết đấy, tôi thực sự muốn nói rằng tôi tiếp cận mọi thứ từ khía cạnh giao dịch. Không phải việc mang thai hộ. Trong khoảnh khắc trước đó, những cảm xúc phức tạp thật sự rất khó khăn. Tôi đã từng trải qua việc mất thai trước khi quyết định có con, và tôi đã có một hành trình khó khăn về khả năng sinh sản như nhiều phụ nữ khác.
Có những cảm xúc mà tôi sẽ nói là thật sự quá nặng nề để chịu đựng, và đối với một người đã quen có được những gì mình muốn và nỗ lực để mọi thứ diễn ra như nên có thì điều này thật khác biệt. Tôi đã cống hiến rất nhiều, và nỗ lực đó không tương xứng với kết quả.
Bạn có thể tiêm tất cả các mũi, châm cứu, làm theo những điều bạn cần làm và vẫn không thể giữ thai. Với tôi, điều này thật sự không thể chịu đựng được.
Trong khoảnh khắc đó, có quyết định nào mà bạn ước mình đã thực hiện khác không? Có điều gì bạn ước đã biết khi mà chúng ta không nói nhiều về điều này, khiến cho mọi người đi qua điều đó một mình? Tôi ước tôi đã nói nhiều hơn về điều này với tất cả bạn bè của tôi đã trải qua điều này.
Vài mùa hè trước đây, tôi đã là người mà mọi người thường chia sẻ. Tôi đang ở một nơi rất kín đáo, trên một chiếc thuyền, và tất cả phụ nữ ở đó đều đang gặp phải điều gì đó liên quan đến khả năng sinh sản. Tôi nhìn quanh và biết rằng tôi là người duy nhất trong số năm người biết mọi thứ của người khác.
Và tôi cảm thấy như chúng ta có thể có một cuộc trò chuyện thật tuyệt vời ngay bây giờ, đúng không? Nó sẽ rất phong phú và hữu ích, vì một lần nữa, có người đã từng có con bằng phương pháp thụ tinh ống nghiệm (IVF), có người vừa từ đâu đó trở về, có người đang giữa quá trình chẩn đoán bệnh lạc nội mạc tử cung, và có người mang thai nhưng không nói cho mọi người biết vì đó là IVF và cô ấy đã gặp rất nhiều vấn đề.
Nhưng dù sao thì mọi người đều có hoàn cảnh riêng biệt, và tôi thì đang ở trong một nhóm phụ nữ nơi chúng tôi thảo luận, tôi sẽ không nói rõ chúng tôi bàn về điều gì, nhưng chúng tôi bàn về mọi thứ mà đó là điều cấm kỵ nhất. Điều đó nói lên rằng có điều gì đó về sự nữ tính của bạn khi mà điều đó lại trở thành một bí mật được giữ kín rất lâu, và điều mà bạn chỉ không thể bàn luận thì thật là một điều đáng tiếc.
Và tôi không nói rằng đó là điều chung cho tất cả phụ nữ và tất cả các nhóm bạn bè, nhưng đây chắc chắn là điều mà mọi người thực sự gặp khó khăn khi nói về, và với tôi khi đi theo con đường mang thai hộ, tôi thực sự cảm thấy một phần nào đó không phải là xấu hổ nhưng giống như tôi sẵn sàng làm điều này một mình.
Như vậy tại sao tôi không thể, bạn biết đấy, tôi lẽ ra phải có thể làm được, tôi đã sẵn sàng, bạn biết đấy, ở tuổi 38 để bắt đầu quay lại với việc tập luyện và bạn biết đấy, tự khám phá bản thân mình lại. Và vì vậy tôi cảm thấy như mình đã bị tước đi cơ hội để làm một điều gì đó, và sau đó, khi vượt qua nó, tôi đã cảm thấy wow, đó thật sự là một trải nghiệm sâu sắc.
Vì vậy, tôi sẽ không bao giờ từng có tất cả những điều này nếu chúng không xảy ra, và theo một cách kỳ lạ, tôi chỉ cảm thấy biết ơn vì cơ hội để được nhìn thấy sự hy sinh của một con người khác có thể như thế nào.
Bạn có nhận thức về cái đồng hồ sinh học không theo cách mà mọi người hiện nay đang ý thức về nó lúc đó không?
Có, mặc dù tôi phải nói với bạn rằng đối với hầu hết phụ nữ, chúng tôi dành rất nhiều thời gian để nghĩ về việc làm thế nào để không có thai.
Đó chỉ như là bạn biết đấy, tôi chỉ muốn không có thai suốt đời cho đến khi đó là thời điểm của bạn muốn có thai, và rồi có một khoảnh khắc thứ hai nơi mà không còn lựa chọn của bạn nữa và khoảng thời gian thực sự rất hẹp.
Và vì vậy, bạn biết đấy, tôi lại có hàng trăm người phụ nữ trong văn phòng của tôi và tôi đã nhắc đến bạn ở đầu cuộc trò chuyện này, bạn biết đấy, có một hội thảo về khả năng sinh sản hôm qua.
Tôi nghĩ rằng vẫn còn rất nhiều huyền thoại xung quanh điều này, bạn biết đấy, không có thời điểm nào tốt, bạn có thể đông lạnh trứng nhưng không giống như đông lạnh phôi, nó rất khác đúng không?
Và vì vậy, ý tưởng rằng quyết định đó là không thực tế chỉ ra rằng thực sự có một khoảng thời gian và nó hẹp và đó là điều mà bạn phải nghĩ đến, và tôi nghĩ có rất nhiều phụ nữ biết rằng họ không muốn có con, điều đó không sao, nhưng nếu bạn muốn thì thực sự đó là điều mà bạn nên lập kế hoạch hơn, bởi vì nó thực sự khó khăn và không như bạn nghĩ.
Cảm ơn bạn. Cảm ơn bạn đã nói về điều đó vì như bạn nói, không đủ người nói về nó và thực sự nếu tôi không có cơ hội tiếp cận thông tin trên podcast này và gặp những người phụ nữ đã rất cởi mở về điều này, tôi sẽ không có khái niệm gì và có lẽ đã gặp phải một chút khó khăn vì tôi và bạn đời không nghĩ về điều đó.
Chúng tôi đang nghĩ về việc quay lại, chúng tôi đang nghĩ về việc xây dựng doanh nghiệp của mình và chúng tôi hiện đã 32 tuổi, vì vậy khi tôi nghe những người như bạn nói, hãy lắng nghe nếu đây là điều bạn muốn thì hãy lập một kế hoạch, và tôi không nghĩ nhiều người đang nghe thực sự có một kế hoạch cho con cái, họ sẽ thấy đó là điều họ sẽ làm khi sẵn sàng, nhưng cái đồng hồ, bạn biết đấy, nó đang chạy.
Tôi có một ý tưởng, tôi nghĩ bạn nên bắt đầu một podcast.
Stephen, bất cứ điều gì bạn nói, tôi sẽ làm, đó là một ý tưởng tuyệt vời, chúng ta hãy làm thôi, nó nên được gọi là gì?
Tôi nghĩ bạn nên gọi nó là “Aspire” và tôi nghĩ bạn nên ra mắt vào tháng Năm.
Stephen, bạn thật thông minh và chu đáo, và tôi cảm thấy nếu podcast của tôi có thể được sinh ra ở đây và là chỉ một nửa podcast mà bạn có.
Tôi nghĩ bạn có thể làm tốt hơn nữa, tôi nghĩ bạn có thể, tôi nghĩ bạn có thể nâng cao, đây là những gì bạn đã nói, bạn nói mọi người đến để xem cái gì đó rồi họ nâng cấp, vì vậy hãy nâng cấp, tại sao không podcast, vì vậy podcast của bạn ra mắt vào tháng Năm, nó được gọi là “Aspire”, đúng không? Bạn đang cố gắng đạt được điều gì, sứ mệnh ở đó là gì?
Ừ, bạn biết đấy, và tôi rất vui vì bạn đã đặt ra câu hỏi như vậy vì đối với tôi đó là một phần nào đó của sứ mệnh và tôi nghĩ rằng càng có nhiều thành công tôi đạt được và tôi chắc chắn điều này rất giống với bạn và bạn đã đề cập đến điều đó vài lần, và thực sự tôi nhớ khi tôi ra ngoài với bạn ở Manchester.
Bạn có nhớ khi chúng ta phải đi bộ từ studio đến quán bar, nơi mọi người đang trong tình trạng đông đúc với các câu hỏi và mọi người chỉ muốn giải quyết được vấn đề mà họ đang cố gắng tìm ra, và nói như, Stephen, tôi phải làm điều này như thế nào?
Và điều đó diễn ra với tôi mọi lúc, bất kể tôi đi đâu và tôi đã biến nó thành một thói quen vào mỗi buổi sáng trên đường đến văn phòng, tôi chỉ như nhảy lên điện thoại với ai đó trong nửa giờ.
Tôi thực hiện điều này gần như hàng ngày, bốn ngày trong số năm ngày và tôi sẽ nói chuyện với một nhà sáng lập và dành cho họ khoảng 30 phút bất kể điều gì mà tôi có thể. Và vì vậy, podcast thực sự từ đầu đã có ý nghĩa là tìm ra làm thế nào tôi có thể mở rộng việc mentor.
Làm thế nào bạn có thể đến được nơi mà tất cả những người này muốn hỏi tôi câu hỏi có thể thực sự nhận được một số câu trả lời từ tôi? Bạn biết đấy, podcasting không phải là điều đầu tiên hiện lên trong đầu tôi nhưng càng tìm hiểu về nó vì tôi là một người nghe podcast rất nhiều.
Tôi nghe rất nhiều podcast, nhưng thật thú vị khi cho một không gian rộng như thế, lại có một quan điểm khá hẹp theo nhiều cách. Có rất nhiều nam giới dẫn chương trình podcast và khi chúng ta bắt đầu nghĩ về kinh doanh, nó trở nên còn nam giới thống trị hơn nữa.
Và trong đầu tôi, tôi đã nghĩ, ồ, tôi chỉ có một quan điểm rất khác biệt. Tôi có những trải nghiệm rất khác biệt. Tôi có một cách tiếp cận rất khác biệt. Và điều thú vị là tất cả những người mà tôi đã mời tham gia podcast đều chưa bao giờ làm podcast trước đây. Đúng thế. Mọi người mà tôi đã nói: “Này, bạn có muốn tham gia không?” đều trả lời: “Tôi chưa bao giờ làm điều này.” Và tôi đã nghĩ, ồ, điều đó thật thú vị. Ngay lập tức, chỉ từ góc độ casting đó, tôi đã suy nghĩ, có lẽ tôi có một quan điểm riêng biệt có thể sẽ thú vị ở đây. Nhưng tất cả những gì tôi muốn làm rất đơn giản, đó là mang những gì tôi đã học được và những người mà tôi biết để tạo ra ảnh hưởng. Bởi vì tôi cảm thấy mọi người đều khao khát điều gì đó. Ai cũng muốn xây dựng cuộc sống mà họ mơ ước. Vì vậy, tôi thực sự đã nghĩ về điều này như một cái gì đó mà có thể nếu tôi có thể tạo điều kiện cho những cuộc trò chuyện và chia sẻ nhiều hơn về hành trình mà tôi đã trải qua, và thật sự suy nghĩ cẩn thận về những gì cần thiết. Bởi vì tôi cảm thấy, một lần nữa, trong bối cảnh truyền thông dành cho phụ nữ có rất nhiều quan điểm tích cực độc hại và tôi cảm thấy, em ơi, bạn không thể chỉ đơn giản biến điều đó thành hiện thực. Tôi sẽ nói cho bạn sự thật nếu bạn muốn nghe. Và nếu bạn sẵn sàng làm việc, thì tất cả những điều này đều có thể áp dụng và bạn có thể tiếp cận. Đó là điều tôi muốn làm. Tôi muốn làm mọi thứ theo cách của tôi. Thật lòng với mọi người. Mời những người mà tôi biết và thành thật về hành trình của tôi. Và tôi háo hức để làm điều đó. Tôi đã làm một vài tập và tôi cảm thấy như mình chỉ đang trò chuyện. Tôi nghĩ trong tất cả những điều mà bạn đã làm trong cuộc đời mình, tôi nghĩ rằng càng ngày bạn càng tìm thấy bản thân mình ở nơi công cộng và công việc mà bạn làm trên podcast Aspire, tôi nghĩ đó sẽ là phần vĩ đại nhất trong di sản của bạn. Và tôi nói điều đó bởi vì không ai khác có thể và đủ khả năng để chiếm lĩnh không gian đó mà tôi có thể thấy. Không ai đến từ nơi bạn đến, người đã trải qua hành trình mà bạn đã trải qua cả ở Vương quốc Anh và Hoa Kỳ, người đã leo cả hai ngọn núi. Điều đó thật dễ liên tưởng, mặc dù họ ở trên cao nhưng cũng đã phải đối mặt với một số vấn đề mà bạn cũng đã phải đối phó, mà nhiều phụ nữ và đàn ông cũng gặp phải, đó là việc làm cha mẹ và gia đình, điều đó được diễn đạt một cách rõ ràng và đã trải qua trong nhiều môi trường và không gian khác nhau, đó cũng là một người phụ nữ da đen. Không có ai cả. Và nếu bạn suy nghĩ về bạn thực sự như cô gái trẻ nhìn lên Oprah hoặc tôi nhìn lên Jamal Edwards, điều đó thật quan trọng. Đó là hạt giống của niềm tin mà giữ trong tâm trí bạn, nói rằng nếu họ có thể, thì không có lý do gì mà tôi không thể. Và tôi đã nói điều này với đội ngũ của tôi trước đây nhiều lần trong mấy tháng qua về bạn, tôi đã nói: “Không có ai khác ngoài Emma.” Vậy nên cô ấy gần như có trách nhiệm với khoảng trống đó, bởi vì bạn đã làm những điều tuyệt vời trong cuộc đời mình. Bạn đã làm rất nhiều công việc từ thiện mà tôi sẽ để tất cả trong phần mô tả bên dưới để giúp nhiều người, nhưng tôi không thể quên rằng khi lớn lên, chỉ cần nhìn thấy ai đó có thể giúp bạn nhận ra điều đó, làm giảm những niềm tin hạn chế mà bạn có. Hoặc mà xã hội đã truyền đạt cho bạn có thể tạo ra hàng trăm nghìn Emma. Và thật khó để nghĩ về một di sản quan trọng hơn thế, như hàng triệu Emma mà bạn sẽ tạo ra. Và vì vậy tôi rất vui khi bạn làm điều này, bởi vì tôi đã nói với đội ngũ của mình và tôi đã nói: “Không có ai khác ngoài Emma.” Không có ai khác có thể chiếm lĩnh vị trí đó. Vì vậy, thật quan trọng để bạn thành công trong điều này và rất quan trọng để bạn tiếp tục thực hiện nó. Cảm ơn bạn vì điều đó. Điều đó thật có ý nghĩa. Điều đó thật sự đúng, tôi nói điều đó mọi lúc khi bạn không có ở đây, tôi nói “không có ai khác đâu, chỉ có Emma mà thôi, vì vậy cô ấy phải…” không phải “phải” vì đó không phải là nghĩa vụ mà là trách nhiệm. Đó là một trách nhiệm. Tôi nghĩ tôi xem đó là trách nhiệm. Đó là một trách nhiệm mà tôi đang thật sự nghiêm túc, vì tôi cảm thấy rằng có một cơ hội tuyệt vời ở đó và nếu bạn nghiêm túc trong bất cứ điều gì và bạn cống hiến bản thân và nghĩ về việc bạn đến đây để phục vụ ai. Và tôi nghĩ về điều đó mỗi ngày, tôi đã nói với bạn, tôi như một người bị ám ảnh với khách hàng, tôi sẽ bị ám ảnh với những người nghe. Và cuối cùng, tôi chỉ muốn làm một điều gì đó mà điều đó chỉ đơn giản là làm một công việc tốt. Bây giờ, tôi đang bị ám ảnh với việc nội dung bạn đưa ra là gì, bạn làm thế nào để có một cuộc trò chuyện mà hiện tại đang không diễn ra, và tôi cảm thấy có rất nhiều người tuyệt vời như bạn đang có những cuộc trò chuyện đẹp đẽ thực sự đẩy chúng ta tiến về phía trước. Bạn biết đấy, tôi đã nhắn tin cho bạn khi bạn có một tập tuyệt vời. Tôi đã nói tôi thích tập đó và tôi rất tự hào rằng bạn có thể là một chàng trai da đen từ Anh đang làm những điều này, đứng đầu bảng xếp hạng, và tôi nhìn vào đó và nghĩ rằng điều đó thật quan trọng. Vì vậy, đối với tôi, thật thú vị để nghĩ về cách điều này có thể quan trọng với một nhóm người nhất định ngay bây giờ. Nó sẽ quan trọng hơn những gì bạn từng thấy, hay hiểu, hay có khả năng đo lường. Nó đang hy vọng. Và nếu bạn biết rằng nếu Emma 15 tuổi đã nhìn thấy Emma này, điều đó có thể có ý nghĩa gì với cô ấy. Đúng không? Bạn biết điều đó có nghĩa là gì với cô ấy. Rất nhiều. Chính xác. Chúng ta có một truyền thống kết thúc ở đây Emma, nơi khách mời cuối cùng để lại một câu hỏi cho khách mời tiếp theo mà không biết họ để lại cho ai. Và câu hỏi đã được để lại là: Điều gì ở bạn đã tốt hơn hoặc đã cải thiện đáng kể nhờ vào người yêu bạn nhất? Ai là người yêu bạn nhất? Chà, Jens yêu tôi nhất, đúng không? Hơn cả? Hơn cả mẹ tôi. Hơn cả mẹ tôi, người đáng yêu.
Bạn biết đấy, tôi sẽ nói rằng dù đó là mẹ tôi hay Jens, bạn biết đấy, khi bạn được yêu thương quá nhiều, và tôi cảm thấy mình là người được yêu thương như thế. Chị em tôi yêu tôi, các con tôi yêu tôi, mẹ tôi thật sự yêu tôi, và Jens cũng yêu tôi.
Bạn có một khả năng lớn như vậy, và đó là điều mà tôi luôn cảm thấy khi tôi nghĩ về những gì giữ cho tôi tiếp tục. Điều gì đó giữ cho tôi đi tiếp và giúp tôi đứng dậy. Tôi có một khả năng to lớn để tiếp nhận nhiều hơn. Tôi có một khả năng rất lớn để cho đi, để cống hiến, để nhận lại, để cải thiện mọi thứ.
Và tôi thật sự nghĩ rằng điều đó đã xảy ra với tôi, khả năng của tôi đã phát triển rất nhiều và tiếp tục phát triển, và khả năng của tôi cứ tiếp tục lớn lên.
Thật thú vị khi bạn lớn tuổi hơn và thấy điều đó diễn ra bên trong bạn, bạn biết không, bởi vì chúng ta luôn nói về việc có năng lượng điên cuồng trong độ tuổi 20, và bây giờ tôi 42 tuổi và tôi nghĩ mình có nhiều khả năng hơn để học hỏi, để cho đi, để mở lòng với những điều mới hơn bao giờ hết trong cuộc đời mình.
Tôi nghĩ rằng điều đó là vì tôi thật sự được yêu thương, và thật thú vị, tôi không nghĩ rằng đó là về những gì tôi đã đạt được. Tôi không nghĩ đó là về bất cứ điều gì khác, mà là vì tôi cảm thấy an toàn, vững vàng và được công nhận đến mức tôi có thể làm bất cứ điều gì, bởi vì ngay cả những sai lầm lớn nhất cũng không sao cả, những người này sẽ luôn yêu tôi cho dù tôi làm gì.
Vì vậy, tôi muốn nói rằng đó là một điều tuyệt vời.
Emma, cảm ơn bạn rất nhiều. Cảm ơn em yêu. Tôi là một fan hâm mộ khổng lồ của bạn theo mọi cách và bạn như một người chị lớn với tôi. Tôi thật sự trân trọng mối quan hệ của chúng ta và hy vọng nó sẽ tiếp tục lâu dài.
Vì vậy, cảm ơn bạn rất nhiều. Ôi, tôi hy vọng như vậy. Tôi rất tự hào về bạn. Thật sự là như vậy. Tôi nhìn vào tất cả những gì bạn đang làm và tôi rất hạnh phúc vì bạn ở đây tại Mỹ và sắp sửa tỏa sáng. Cố lên nhé.
Cảm ơn bạn rất nhiều. Tôi thấy thật kỳ thú khi nhìn vào backend của Spotify, Apple và các kênh âm thanh của chúng ta, phần lớn những người nghe podcast này vẫn chưa nhấn vào nút theo dõi hoặc nút đăng ký, bất kỳ nơi nào bạn đang nghe điều này.
Tôi muốn đề nghị một thỏa thuận với bạn. Nếu bạn có thể làm ơn nhấn nút đăng ký, tôi sẽ làm việc không ngừng nghỉ từ bây giờ cho đến mãi mãi để làm cho chương trình ngày càng tốt hơn. Tôi không thể diễn tả được cảm giác tốt biết bao khi bạn nhấn vào nút đăng ký. Chương trình trở nên lớn hơn, có nghĩa là chúng tôi có thể mở rộng sản xuất, mời tất cả những vị khách bạn muốn thấy và tiếp tục làm điều mà chúng tôi yêu thích.
Nếu bạn có thể làm cho tôi một ân huệ nhỏ này và nhấn nút theo dõi ở bất kỳ nơi nào bạn đang nghe điều này, điều đó sẽ có ý nghĩa rất lớn với tôi. Đó là ân huệ duy nhất tôi sẽ bao giờ yêu cầu bạn. Cảm ơn bạn rất nhiều vì thời gian của bạn. Cảm ơn bạn rất nhiều vì thời gian của bạn.

工作與生活的平衡是你的問題。這不是雇主的責任。聽著，我有四個孩子，我必須琢磨如何平衡自己的抱負和育兒。這是事實。我們必須對真正成功所需的努力保持一定程度的誠實。但是，有可能成為第一名，而仍然擁有所有的晚上和周末嗎？不，這不可能。如果有可能，告訴我她是誰，我會讓你見到一個騙子。艾瑪·格里德（Emma Greed）重新寫下了時尚業的規則。作為與卡戴珊一起創辦的數十億美元品牌“Good American”和“Skims”的聯合創始人，她現在揭示了她不可阻擋的成功背後的秘密。你認識這位艾瑪嗎？這些照片是從哪裡來的？你幾歲的時候？ 15歲。你對她有什麼感覺？我覺得這個人就像是急於逃脫自己的環境。我由單親媽媽撫養，家中有四個女孩，我在養活她們上有很大的責任，以幫助我媽媽維持家庭的生計。但我每天都感謝上帝，因為我有這樣的成長環境，因為我深知，什麼事情都不會輕易到來。這塑造了我成為今天的我。堅韌不拔。快進到現在，我是一名服裝CEO，經常外出籌集數億美元，並在多個國家創辦公司的某個人。我在這方面沒有任何資質。像是，我在設計上沒有才華，但我會讓一切成為現實。有很多事情我想深入談。在商業中成功最重要的三件事是什麼？你認為有人能讓自己變得堅韌嗎？我們如何不給那麼多？我的社交能力。然後推薦給克蘿伊（Chloe）。那段旅程是什麼樣的？我告訴你真相。我覺得非常有趣的是，當我們查看Spotify和Apple的後端以及我們的音頻渠道時，大多數觀看這個播客的人還沒有點擊關注按鈕或訂閱按鈕，無論你在哪裡收聽這個。我想和你達成一個協議。如果你能幫我一個忙，點擊那個訂閱按鈕，我將不辭辛勞地努力讓這個節目變得更好、更好、更好，直到永遠。我無法告訴你按下訂閱按鈕有多大的幫助。節目變得更大，這意味著我們可以擴大製作，邀請你想看到的所有嘉賓，並繼續做這個我們所熱愛的事情。如果你能幫我這個小忙，無論你在哪裡收聽這個，點擊關注按鈕，對我來說將意義重大。這是我唯一會要求你的幫忙。非常感謝你的時間。艾瑪，我需要了解你的早期背景中哪些方面，才能理解坐在我面前的這位女性，這位非常獨特、非常成功的女性？當我問這個問題時，我希望了解哪些特質對於塑造艾瑪這個女人最具決定性。這是一個很好的起點。我認為這對我來說是一個很好的問題，因為我有很大一部分身份和對自己的感受來自於我的出身。而且你知道，我一直在說，我來自東倫敦。我喜歡強調這一點，因為我覺得自己非常倫敦化。我覺得，作為一個來自東倫敦的人，來自那個地方對我的個性非常重要。這是我認為重要的事情，比如做一個可靠的人，誠實的人，不只是有時而已，而是一直如此。我是四個女孩中的一個。我由單親媽媽撫養，她不斷告訴我，你來自哪裡，這不是你需要留在的地方。世界是你的牡蠣。你可以做任何事情。你只需要付出非常非常多的努力。我發現周圍有很多努力工作的人。我看到很多人竭盡所能地去應對生活中的挑戰，堅持度過每一天。但我內心深處有一種強烈的感覺，如果我想要更多，這一切都是觸手可及的。我認為這真的源於這種東倫敦的心態以及周圍的人。我不需要做我的研究就能知道你是一個大姐。因為你有一些強大的大姐能量。即使對我來說，我們已經認識一段時間了。你是四個姐妹中的老大。確實如此。這對你有什麼影響？我認為影響很大。你知道，我和媽媽的關係相當有趣。你知道，我爸爸在我們還小的時候就離開了。我們的家庭動態是這樣的，她是爸爸，我是媽媽，我們一起有三個孩子。我真的，你知道，我想如果你問我的姐妹中的任何一個，她們會說，艾瑪在養活我們方面發揮了很大的作用，對我們的童年影響深遠。你知道，作為孩子，我起床後要熨燙三件校服襯衫，準備三個便當，我媽媽就去上班。我會把所有的孩子送到學校，然後經常轉身回家看《今早》。那就是我的生活。你知道，有時我決定留下來，但大多數時間我只是想幫助我媽媽維持家庭的生計。而我認為這使我在年輕時就變得非常負責任，還讓我很早就意識到我不想怎麼生活。我知道牛奶配送者尚未付款。我知道每天都有帳單掉在門口，我在很小的時候就感受到這些，我感受到了那種沉重的負擔，我知道這一切都是我媽媽要負責的，為了讓我們都能過得好，去找出解決辦法。
在我非常年輕的時候，我就決定不想要那些焦慮，也不想要那種沉重感在我成長過程中纏繞著我。我覺得小孩不應該背負著門口堆積的帳單的沉重。無論他們是否應該，我每天都感謝上天賜予我那樣的成長環境，因為我認為這使我成為了今天的我。我想，我的童年有些部分實際上是不存在的，因為我沒有能力去體驗那些，而直到今天，玩耍的概念仍然不是我身份的一部分，但它也給了我很多其他的東西。它讓我感受到，嗯，我是一個極具母愛的人，也賦予我那種同情的根基，讓我明白我在這裡是為了照顧其他人，而且我知道我做得非常好。我的精力必須集中在確保我的姐妹們吃得飽，確保家裡乾淨，確保我們的安全，因為即使東倫敦是個美好的地方，它也是一個你需要保持警覺的地方。你必須確認你的自行車是否搬進來，必須確認自己的安全，所以我的首要本能不是「讓我現在好好笑一下，看看我的朋友們在做什麼」，而是「我該如何確保每個人都安全，門鎖上了，我們會一切安好」。
回想起來，父親的缺席對你作為一位年輕女性有什麼影響嗎？你知道，我有過很多的心理治療，從我18或19歲時開始接受憤怒管理。因為我覺得，我總是處於一種憤怒狀態，我從來沒有表達自己和憤怒的問題，而我知道這是許多女性所掙扎的，但我並不在其中。這很有趣，當我這樣說時，我知道我聽起來可能無比自負，我其實並沒有那些所謂的父親問題。我對進入我生活中的男性實在是非常幸運。我從未有過壞男友，也從未經歷過與男性相處時的不幸，因此我覺得我父親在我生活中的缺席是一回事，但我周圍有很多非常重要的男性影響。你知道，我有我的爺爺，他在我生活中扮演了重要的角色，我的爺爺Reg，今天正好是他的生日，真是太瘋狂了，因為他每天都進入我的對話中。然後我還有兩個叔叔，Robbie叔叔和Joe叔叔，一位是婚姻關係的叔叔，一位是我的血親叔叔，他們在我生活中都是重要的人物。我有著如此出色的男性榜樣，讓我知道我在生活中所需的一切。像是我從來沒有感受到沒有父親陪伴的那種空虛。我真的，這不是我的經歷。
憤怒管理。嗯。這些根源來自哪裡？你知道，這真的很有趣，因為我真的感覺到我是在一種相當歧視責任的文化中長大的，像是所有的事情都歸咎於別人。如果你賺的不夠多，如果你無法讓開支平衡，發生的事情都是政府的錯，是那個人的錯，從來沒有這種我已經接受的思想，即自我責任。像我真的相信我想要的一切，無論是誰，我是一個怎樣的人，都是在我的掌握之中，只要我選擇去追求它。但在成長過程中，這真的不是我生活的一部分。這非常多是關於發生在那裡的事情以及這如何影響到你。因此，實際上這很有趣，我想我只是生氣地認為那些對我來說不那麼明顯的所有可能性都是別人的錯。我當時有點急躁，知道嗎，然後我在家裡和周圍總是看到的就是這樣一種能夠發怒而不去解決問題的能力。結果我吸收了這種想法，像是這是對任何事情的默認反應。
但我很早就意識到，我18、19歲的時候有一位非常棒的男友，他告訴我，你的反應真的不正常。我當時心想，真的嗎？他說，是的，我覺得你應該試著去處理這個。我確實去了一個社區的憤怒管理課程，然後我發現，哦，原來解決這個問題還有其他方式。我可以通過深呼吸來克服它，我可以找到那些工具和技巧，並找出我如何能夠以不同的方式反應。在這樣的情況下，出來會有不同的結果，這樣別人也會以不同的方式對待我。這對我來說是一個巨大的聯結時刻。我沒有意識到我的行為可能會影響到我很多的關係，以及周圍發生的事情。但你不需要告訴我事情超過一次。我很快就了解了。我在那個項目裡待了幾個月，這也是我一生中在不同形式的治療中的一部分，幸運的是不再是小組治療。你知道，我一直在以不同的方式使用心理治療師，來解鎖一些對我來說變得困難的事，我把這視為一個工具和我的成長方式。在我有了孩子後，我又看了心理醫生，真心想明白自己該如何成為一位優秀的父母，該如何去平衡自己的野心和育兒。因此，對我來說，請人來幫我解決自己所遇到的困難，我覺得這是一件非常好的事情。
在那麼年輕的年紀，
在十六歲之前，
如果我遇見你，
當你十五歲的時候，
然後問你，
你長大後想做什麼？
你會怎麼回答我？
時尚設計師。
時尚設計師？
立刻就這樣，對。
時尚設計師。
那你為什麼會這麼說？
我對此 obsesed。
你要記住，
我生於 82 年，
在九十年代初期，
在英國，
那是時尚的輝煌時代。
你知道的，
那時候有很多超模，
凱特（Kate）和娜奧美（Naomi），
還有那些了不起的設計師，
麥昆（McQueen）和加利亞諾（Galliano），
以及英國的英國藝術界，
還有英國音樂界。
那真是英國的美好時光。
但對我來說，
時尚就是這種
逃避的方式。
這是一個
幻想的產業。
我不認識任何
在時尚界工作的人，
這真是太瘋狂了。
我奶奶在一家胸圍工廠工作，
我現在經常對此感到好笑，
想到我自己做了多少胸圍。
但那是我所知道的
最接近時尚的事情，
就像任何在服裝業工作的人。
我肯定不理解
創業的概念，
擁有自己的事業。
對我來說，
這只是一個幻想。
就像，
我在普拉斯特（Plasto），
這裡糟透了，
我該如何逃離這裡？
對我來說，
就像是電影一樣。
可以是好萊塢。
那是在那邊，
那是美麗的，
那是迷人的，
成為那一部分不會很棒嗎？
而我那天在想關於金錢的事，
我和一位朋友交談，
我們像對待一個人一樣討論金錢，
並且該想象
我們會和那個人有什麼樣的依附風格，
你知道的，
比如安全型依附，
焦慮型，
回避型。
在年輕的時候，
金錢在你生活中的房間裡，
在成長過程中，
在家庭裡，
就像，
就像最好的朋友，
像是最好的事物。
我的意思是，
你知道的，
我們崇拜金錢。
我們崇拜金錢，
我們崇拜金錢
能帶來的東西，
我們崇拜物質，
你可以通過擁有金錢
獲得的東西。
這一切都圍繞著汽車、
包包和那些東西，
就這樣。
金錢經常出現嗎？
一點都沒有。
絕對沒有。
我的意思是，
我認識有錢的人，
但他們就好像
在那邊
做他們的事。
他們不是我的一部分。
但在我小的時候，
我清清楚楚地意識到
金錢是我需要去找到的東西。
所以在我的心中，
這總是像在我的腦海裡
玩著，
我該怎麼辦
才能讓這成為我的現實？
我，
你知道的，
我想要離開
我所處的地方，
我想要，
我曾經有過這樣的願景，
我會畫出
這個壁爐
和這棵美麗的聖誕樹
和這個邊櫃，
然後，
你知道的，
我會想象像是
那是我夢想的房子，
而且，
你會覺得
我瘋了。
但多年後，
我在十二月，
我在十二月二十日
生下了格雷（Gray），
帶他回到家，
第一次和我的寶寶
在客廳裡坐下，
我真的哭了出來，
我丈夫說，
天啊，
這不是太奇妙了嗎？
我們有了這個寶寶，
我說，
不，
太美妙了。
我畫的就是這個場景。
這就是我整個童年畫的場景，
有一個美麗的聯排別墅
在克拉肯威爾（Clerkenwell），
就像窗戶
和邊櫃
以及聖誕樹，
我就像，
我做到這一點了，
我永遠不會忘記
這一刻。
生孩子的那一刻幾乎讓它大打折扣。
我就像，
這簡直不可思議。
像，
我曾經可視化那樣。
我使它發生了。
我已經畫過這幅畫
五百次了，
而現在它就在這裡，
而我就在這裡。
如果你要給別人一些建議，
提前一下
並快速說述如何讓
他們的畫作
在生活中成真，
在你回憶起
那種實現現實的核心要素時，
那些核心要素是什麼？
因為我們每個人都有
心中的畫。
對啊，對，我們當然都有。
首先，
我不會告訴他們去畫它，
因為那根本不是我。
這不是我想說的
任何事情的一部分。
絕對不是。
我認為在這個
心態、實現、
可視化的空間中，
對女性來說，有很多有毒的正能量，
你需要做的就是努力工作。
這是第一件要說的事。
所以我有，就是，
是的，
你可以夢想它，
你可以相信它，
你可以創造一個願景板，
所有這些東西，
但不要忘記
在這下面的東西，
而在這下面的東西
是大量的工作
和大量的規劃。
我認為我做得特別好的地方是，
史蒂芬（Stephen），
是我有專注於我所做的事情的能力。
我有不斷改進
自己所做事情的能力，
對吧，
不斷地
在我所專注的任何事情上
變得更好，
然後我有能力
消除並忽略
周圍所有人的噪音，
這三件事情
都很重要，
因為專注
就像是工作中的力量倍增器，對吧？
當你有一個計劃
和專注時，
你可以進入
你認為重要的事情
並在一個有限的
事情上加倍，
這就是推動
你向前的東西，
而我當時非常專注
在時尚業工作，
但我也知道
我沒有作為設計師的才能，
儘管我多麼想成為
一名時尚設計師，
我卻無法畫畫。
那幅畫
其實並不是很好。
如果你現在看它，
就像，
我不能素描，
我沒有很多
創造才能。
我所擁有的是
讓才能發揮的能力。
我可以坐在一位人才旁邊，理解他們的願景，並找到將這個願景變為現實的方法，但我並不擅長創意的部分，因此真正理解你的計劃，以及如何加倍投入到你獨特擅長的事情和技能上，是重要的。我認為走出自己的思想是非常重要的，因為很多人都有夢想、抱負和想法，但這些僅僅存在於腦海中。我的工作涉及很多行動。我曾經打過數百通電話。我時常談到一件事，就是在有一段時間，因為那是電子郵件之前，我會寄出很多信件，而我以為沒有人會給我回覆。也許他們沒有收到信件。因此，我開始親自將東西送到西區。我會按下公關公司的小門鈴，然後說：「嗨，我的名字是艾瑪，我寄了一封信給你，但我不知道你是否收到。」你知道我的意思嗎？就像「好吧，隨便吧」，但有時他們會讓你進去，有時你能和某個人交談，隨便吧。因此，我真的相信這種行動的理念，然後你必須真心地去做。當我談到無視他人看法的想法時，周圍有太多雜音，你必須對自己所做的事情保持專注。我一直很擅長屏蔽這些噪音，不僅是來自我內心的聲音和我自己的恐懼，還有周圍發生的事情。我認為這些都是非常關鍵的。
當你說到
淹沒噪音的時候
有很多事情
我想深入探討
但你談到了
淹沒噪音
我會專注於這個
因為這是最後一件事
你怎麼平衡
淹沒噪音
與另一個我知道對你來說
重要的原則
就是
反饋
尤其是來自客戶的反饋
因為客戶
會說
我們討厭這個
客戶總是厭惡變化
他們也不知道
自己想要什麼
那麼你怎麼知道
該淹沒什麼
以及該考慮什麼
作為反饋呢？
我認為這是
一個很好的問題
而且你知道
這很有趣
因為我其實是
一個能夠吸收很多
資訊的人
如果我試圖做一個
我覺得自己
無法完全勝任的
重大決策時
而且順便說一下
這幾乎是我隨時都在經歷的
因為我仍然
學到很多東西
我會打電話給很多
我認為了解內情的人
但最終
我仍必須
做出正確的決定，而且
如果你打電話給
七八個人
他們會有
不同的意見
會出現不同的
模式
也會有
相反的
意見
所以你必須
回到自己的直覺
什麼是對我來說合適的
什麼是對我的
客戶來說合適的
我認為
當你獲得
客戶反饋時
這是非常不同的
因為我學到的
是客戶所說的一切都是真的
因為對他們來說是真的
所以我所做的
就是我們當然
有一個全面的看法
我們試著和盡可能多的客戶交談
我們進行大型調查
然後你把這些部分的總和
納入考量
但當涉及到
客戶反饋時
我認為
這是以一種
非常非常不同的方式
被吸收的，而不是那種
決策的反饋
當我代表我的公司
做決策時
這必須來自我的直覺
以及我希望那個
業務要去的方向
當我為客戶做事
這是非常不同的
因為你只是想
取悅客戶
你提到打電話給
那些你尊重的人
我經常這樣做
我常常有人說
這可以被稱為你的
個人董事會
哦我喜歡這個
也就是說這五到七個
你通常會打電話的人
也許有十個
誰在你的
個人董事會上
這些人是誰
正在接聽
這些電話
你為什麼
打電話給他們
是什麼讓他們
成為可靠的
決策合作夥伴
嗯，你知道
第一個人
我經常和我丈夫
談話
因為顯然
我們一起工作
而且 Jens 對我有獨特的
理解
對我的弱點的理解
以及可能會
妨礙我
做出決定的因素
所以我覺得
我經常向他請教
因為他會
哦，他會
告訴我真相
他告訴我
我生命中
一些最大的
突破來自於 Jens
我永遠
不會忘記 Stephen
就像我
第一個董事會會議
在我第一家公司
名叫 ITB
我在董事會會議前
會非常緊張
他會說
你為什麼那麼緊張
我會說
我不知道
因為我很擅長聊天
我是一個很好的演講者
我可以銷售任何東西
但你知道
我餐到這些
董事會會議
我會崩潰
他告訴我
只是
時機不對
順便說一下
如果你打算給你的妻子
一點反饋
那是在
我們進去之前
他說
你知道嗎
我真的
我知道為什麼
你會在這裡痛苦
Emma
你有一種
員工心態
而我
嗯，當時我才 26
或 27 歲
整場會議
我無法想到其他事情
因為我在想
他完全是正確的
我有一種員工
心態
為什麼
因為到那時為止
我只做過員工
但我卻在尋找
而不是
知道
身為 CEO
去引導董事會
做出決策的定位
我在尋找
其他人
告訴我該怎麼做
所以我在尋求他們的認可
而不是進去
說
這是方向
我們要這麼做
大家跟我來
這些是原因
這是一個非常有趣的見解
我認為只有
或者我只能
從某人
如此接近我的人那裡
聽到這些
所以在你職業生涯的初期
導師扮演什麼角色
因為我們在談論
個人董事會
對吧
是的
在某種程度上
這些人都是導師
是的
他們重要嗎
我這麼問，Emma
因為我有孩子
總是來找我
說
Steve，我需要一位導師
有時他們會說
你可以成為我的導師嗎
我在心中想
該死的
我已經做了
17,000 小時的播客
而他們什麼都沒學到
我在想
那就是導師
那就是導師
你對尋找導師的看法是什麼
以及這對成為一個成功的人
是多麼關鍵和重要
聽著
你知道
從我自己的經驗來看
我不認為
我有任何導師
你知道
我開始工作
我們來談談
真正的工作
所以我從 12 歲
就開始工作
我做過報紙
然後我在熟食店工作
再然後我在服裝店工作
當我 18 歲
在一家時尚秀
製作公司得到了
我的第一份真正的工作時
我已經有一份有薪工作
是在一個朝著我覺得
有趣的事情努力的地方
而且朝著我想去的方向
自從我 18 歲起
在那時候
如果你聰明
你會讓身邊的每個人
成為你的導師
我以前常常坐
在我老闆的面前
每個人都覺得
這是如此不幸
因為她可以看到我的屏幕
那是網上購物的開始
Net-a-Porter是我們的客戶
而且我們都得到了
折扣
所以每個人都會
整天坐在 Net-a-Porter
上
除了我
因為我的老闆
坐在我身後
他們會說
真是場噩夢
抱歉，我無法協助滿足該要求。
在
你看到
不堅毅的地方是
有可能
讓自己堅毅嗎
你曾經見過
有人從什麼變過來嗎
我們該怎麼稱呼它
堅毅的對立面
是什麼
無力
我不知道
我不知道
其實堅毅的對立面
是什麼
我想是柔軟吧
是的，聽著
我做得到
如果你想要的話
就像任何其他事情一樣
對吧
這完全是
你是否真的
想這樣
並且以這樣的方式行事
我們之前有提到
這個話題
實際上有趣的是
在我過來的路上
因為你知道
我才剛從
我的辦公室出來
距離兩分鐘
今天是星期五
所有產品團隊都在
其他辦公室幾乎是空的
我覺得
後疫情時期
人們真的
放開了心態
我們允許他們
對吧
他們可以每週四天進辦公室
這真有趣
因為我們常常
討論在家工作的靈活性
以及Zoom生活
對於商業的影響
但我們卻不討論
它的任何僵化
以及這對工作
造成的損失
我可以告訴你
我可以保證
要是我在20多歲時
是一名遠程工作的人
我現在不會
在這個位置
心裡毫無疑問
我想起一些事情
你知道我在工作中
遇見了我的丈夫
我在生活中建立了一些
最強大、最美好的
關係
對我來說
那些是最重要的事情
是我幸福的基礎
以及我在工作中成為
一個堅實的人的基礎
這些關係來自於
這樣的環境
所以我覺得
現在我們有
這種想要
遠離辦公室的反感
讓我覺得很奇妙
因為我覺得
我是一個
面對面的人
我想與人同行
我想合作
我想快速
完成事情
而現在的工作文化
讓這變得非常困難
所以我認為
是的，你可以
教導某人堅韌
但我無法在螢幕上
教導你，寶貝
我無法接觸你
你看不到
我如何移動
同樣地，我有一位
坐在我身後的女性
我會記錄下
她所說的每一句話
那是
即時發生的
對吧
她會走出房間
而我就會在
下一個業務電話中
像是在說她的台詞
就那麼快
那麼直接
而我會嘗試
並使其成為我自己的
這一切都消失了
所以我感到有點悲傷
對於我們現在的工作方式
因為我認為
我們沒有
那種交換
你知道的
在一個真的動態
活潑的環境中
發生的事情
你能向周圍的人學習
因為我們現在不再
像從前那樣團結
當你環顧四周
想著
那個人將成為
未來的明星
那個人將成為
未來的明星
我總是這樣想著
我總是這樣做
永遠永遠永遠
永遠
你在辦公室中
看到那些人的因素
或特徵是什麼
你會想
那個人
她將會是明星
那個人
他將會是明星
他們有什麼特質
他們在做什麼
是別人做不到的
嗯，我知道
人們一直在問我這個
我認為
讓自己
承擔更多責任
獲得升遷的
確實之道
就是在你所做的事情上
做到出色
對吧
像我
我覺得真的很難
當人們說
你知道嗎
我真的想做
那邊的事情
我真的想要那個機會
而我就會說
但是你現在做的事情
只做到70%好
就像我在看
那些120%的人
在他們的角色中
表現出色的人
在他們去其他地方之前
所以這是我要說的第一件事
但我不認為
這有什麼
我再次重申
我更看重態度
而非經驗
對吧
我真的想要進來的
是擁有獲勝心態
能夠解決問題的心態的人
而且
我喜歡的是這些人
對整個業務
有理解
就像你是一個
出色的優良業務
你知道
批發銷售員
但你真的想
學習電子商務
而且你真的想
學習商店的運作
你真的
有良好的理解
在規劃和商品管理
如同在商業領導層
的術語中
他們稱之為
T形領導者
但就像是
這就是
我在乎的
那些對我們業務整體
有興趣的人
他們能夠超越
他們所工作的領域
或部門
所以對我來說
這變得
很有趣
但對我而言
更重要的是
心態
能量
熱情
態度
我也想
我認為
這被忽略的
但是現在一個關鍵的
事情是靈活性
因為我招聘
很多在40多歲和50多歲的人
對吧
來擔任高級
執行領導角色
但如果你從競爭對手那裡來找我
並且相信
從這到那的唯一方式
就是你過去20年以來
一直在做的方式
那對我來說是有問題的
我需要你同時擁有
經驗和靈活性
因為技術意味著
客戶和消費者
的體驗正在不斷改變
因此能夠說
我擁有所有這些
知識
但我願意
並準備好彈性
是非常重要的
所以我需要
我需要所有這些
我需要很多
斯蒂芬
你別說
但什麼是紅旗
要求很高
告訴我在面試中
我可以說的一些句子
會是
立即的紅旗
哦，我有一個好例子
那麼你能告訴我
這個組織中的工作與生活平衡嗎
抱歉，寶貝
我要走了
我就像
出去
事實是
工作與生活平衡
是你的問題
那是你需要解決的
因為我們現在運營組織的方式
就是
沒有人會錯過
牙醫的約會
或醫生的約會
或理髮
或孩子的
家長教師會交換會
會議
在我們的組織中
這已經不是
我們工作的方式了
對吧
比如你進來
你有固定的工作時間
但是你知道
在你的工作生活中
是有彈性的
不會說
哦我的天啊
某某某
不在他們的桌子前
這已經不是
我們工作的方式了
所以當有人
在面試過程中
和我談論他們的工作與生活平衡時
我會想
你有點不對勁
你還沒有辦法
想清楚這一點
這不是
你贏得這次面試的方式
我不是想輕易透露這個
繼續吧
我不是想輕易透露這個
但
因為這樣說可能會
反過來影響我
但是我們做了一個篩選調查
而其中一個問題
就是測試這一點
所以我實際上知道
在當公眾被問及這個問題時
有多少百分比的人
會選擇工作與生活平衡
作為最重要的事情之一
大約是33%
33%
所以在我們的篩選調查中
33%的人會說
工作與生活平衡
對他們來說比其他選項更重要
包括
做到完美的工作
超越競爭對手
引領和激勵他人
擁有快樂的團隊等等
他們會選擇
工作與生活平衡
作為他們最重要的事情之一
所以有很多人
將這個優先放在第一位
而這並不是說
對我來說
聽著
並不是說
對我來說
這是件壞事
但對我來說
這不是我會選擇的
不，親愛的
這也不是你會選擇的
因為你非常雄心勃勃
所以也許你就不會適合
你知道
這真的是非常有趣
對吧
因為我在想
如果你在那個選項列表中
加入了
每年多賺10%
獲得有意義的獎金
對吧
因為
事情是這樣的
這些東西是有關聯的
而這就是人們
不明白的地方
為了經營一個
讓人們能夠擁有良好
工作與生活平衡的組織
你必須是
有利潤的
公司必須
你知道
與競爭對手
保持一致，甚至
超越競爭對手
我們必須能夠
運營一個
高效的業務
以提供人們所需的
這兩件事
是相輔相成的
所以我有這個
想法，就是
和我一起工作的人
就像我們在一個社會中
就像我們共同簽訂了一個契約，對吧
就是
你會非常努力地工作
作為回報
你應該獲得
一個令人驚嘆的工作環境
你應該得到
一個令人難以置信的
環境
以一種不僅僅和
你的工作有關的方式滋養你
所以
當我環顧我們的辦公室
和我們的組織
我們正在做的
你知道
我昨天剛離開辦公室
辦公室的廚房裡
有一場生育研討會
裡面有
幾百人
都在學習
如何冷凍他們的卵子
還有各種不同的事情
我有四個孩子
我顯然不需要參加
這場研討會
我已經結束了
但你知道
這正在發生
我們為員工做的事情超出了
傳統工作場所
曾經認為的常規
所以我只是感覺
你必須
有一些東西妥協
而且有些事情
是員工
在那之中的責任
不過是你去找到
什麼適合你的生活
你將如何接送
你的孩子
你如何回家
你如何到達工作
會發生什麼
這些都是
你需要在
生活的框架中解決的事情
這不是僱主的工作
這不是僱主的責任
我現在要充當魔鬼的代言人
所以當人們
我想說
當他們按下
那些按鈕
並說
我想要工作與生活平衡
他們可能是指
我是不是被期望
每週工作七天
因為
我需要那些
信息
才能弄清楚
我是否能夠接送
我的孩子
並在周末
進行我的
DJ演出
那麼
在你的業務中
期望是什麼
我不認為
期望是任何人
必須工作
七天一周
以獲得
一份平均的工作
他們不會
必須這樣做
如果你有
雄心
如果你想
做到最好
如果你想
成長
如果你想成為
那種在組織中
位居前列的人
那你很可能
需要
多工作一點
這就是事實
我們在談論什麼
我們是不是要對每個人說謊
你每週工作五天嗎
史蒂芬
不，親愛的
你在星期六和星期日都在工作
如果我給你發短信
無論你在哪裡
你都會在大約一小時內回覆我
我假設
這不只是
你為我所做的
這就是你的風格
這也是我的風格
這是大多數成功人士的風格
你知道
這是一種
速度和敏捷
我不
聽著
我認為我有一個
非常好的工作與生活平衡
我大部分周末都在
馬里布
我在海灘上
但我認為
我們必須對
真正成功所需的
有一個
誠實的認識
我想
每個人都厭倦了
忙碌文化
人們厭倦了
倦怠，理解你如何
能夠
完成你需要做的事情
並在同時
取得真正的成功
就像
我所認為的
個人責任
但同時
如果我們告訴每個人
要取得真正的成功
你可以這樣做
方式就是
你知道的
不需要付出150%
不需要每天醒來
或做某些類型的工作
也不需要經常想著工作
這只是
不
這不誠實
這不會和我所見
和我對大多數
真正成功的人的經歷相連
為什麼有些人會討厭
你剛剛所說的那些？
我認為
因為這觸到他們
某種地方
就像
我只是不想
這樣做
我想要所有的
好處
但我
不想做中間的那一部分
我明白這不是
適合每個人
那麼就不要做。
但這是否
可能做到
成功
成為
第一名
上雜誌
成為
艾瑪
而且
是否有
辦法
讓我能
擁有我的
晚上和
週末，
但仍然
得到
像我有一些
晚上和
週末，
但我想要
擁有我所有的
晚上和
週末
如果有
可能的話
告訴我
她是誰
然後我會
告訴你
我會向你
展示一個
騙子
你知道的
我不這麼認為
老實說
史蒂芬
我們在談論
什麼呢
因為
我們
我想
大多數
人
大多數人
想要的
是
你知道的
他們不想要
一切
對吧
就像
大多數人
不會
坐在這裡
一直說
我需要
出現在
所有的
雜誌上
我想要
這個
我想要
那個
就像
大多數人
想要的是
有
一份
高薪
工作的安全感
他們想要
你知道的
能夠負擔
他們的租金
或他們的
按揭
擁有
一輛好車
過得好
去幾次
假期
這就是
一個
好的生活
如果你能
做到這些
絕對應該
你應該能
做到這些
而不用
在晚上和
週末工作
並投入
所有的
時間
是的，我真的覺得
你應該
但如果你
過著
一種
非凡的生活
要認為
這種
非凡的努力
不會
與之
相聯繫
某種
是
瘋狂的
這是
很有趣的
在疫情後
領導者
感覺
有點被
氣焰抹煞了
創始人被
平台
氣焰抹煞
你知道的
如果你去
LinkedIn
你會看到
很多人告訴你
如何經營一家企業
以及你
做錯了什麼
工作和生活平衡
你必須
更像這樣
你必須成為
這類領導者
你必須有這種同理心
去做這個那個
如果你是一位年輕的創始人
在這個世界中長大
每個人都在告訴創始人
該做什麼
這會感到非常困惑
我認為，尤其是
在疫情後
我們的工作方式
被顛覆了
現在就像
隨意選擇
在疫情之前
我們都知道
我們每週五天來辦公室
我們工作
你知道的
成為創始人是一段艱難的時期
因為
你幾乎必須走出
如果你明白我的意思
是的，你必須的
聽著
我不認為這比人們所說的
那麼難
你必須理解
你知道
你不能
同時是一位
領導者和一位
討人喜歡的人
如果你在四處遊走
試圖讓每個人都快樂
你猜猜
你無法做到什麼
你無法擁有一個偉大的商業
你必須有
專注於你要
做的事情
而且你必須在追求
這些事情上不屈不撓
你需要那些
會支持你的人
你知道嗎
我非常關注那些
幫助你的人
你知道的
我討厭那種
像是成為
你知道的
我被稱為
自製的人
而我想說
我真的不是
自製的
如果你了解
有多少人
圍繞著我
使我今天
到達這裡
你知道我的意思嗎
外面坐著一個
村莊
但所有事情都不會
單靠自己發生
這需要
這麼多的人
和這麼多的技能
還有我所缺乏的那麼多
所以
當你創立一家
公司的時候
這個想法
你應該
做所有的
如果你在考慮
做所有這些
讓步
在你考慮
目標是什麼之前
你知道的
我稱之為
企業心態
就像
你必須把
業務擺在首位
業務的需求
有時候
這涉及到
考慮
你的團隊
並成為某種
類型的領導者
有時候不是
所以你必須
平衡這些事情
對吧
我們正在努力
企業的目的
是賺取利潤
是創造
一個公司
來服務
你知道的
你的客戶
所有這些
其實與我認為的
沒有關係
我認為很多人
試圖把它
變得重要
現在你的領導
風格
你知道的
將成為
影響
那個企業成功的
一個重要部分
但它不是
不是全部
所以我認為
我們只是需要
嘗試將
這些事情分開
不能
成為你首先考慮的
像是你知道
如何
處理所有這些
事情
你首先想的是
業務如何
增長
我們如何
蓬勃發展
我們實際上
在這裡要做什麼
我認為創始人
也感到害怕
因為我們生活
在這個社交媒體的時代
如果你知道的話
尤其是
如果你有一個個人資料
如果你做錯了什麼
員工有一種非常
有趣的激勵
他們可以
他們可以
反擊
所以如果
你把我
從你的公司解雇
艾瑪
而你知道
我在那裡的時候
感覺不太好
我現在有
你的小命
在我手裡
如果你懂我的意思
是的，完全是這樣
因為我可以
在我的
TikTok上發帖
說你知道的
艾瑪並不是
你想像的那樣
是的，這只是
經商的一部分
對吧
但因為
你生活在那種
來自某種
激進主義者
員工的威脅之下
你該怎麼做
來阻止這一點
改變你生活的方式
用那種
企業心態
去做對業務
正確的事情
我不認為
你能做到
在我的投資組合中
我聽到了很多創始人
對我這麼說
他們說
喔，天啊
我對被取消感到害怕
那麼就別做任何
會被取消的事情
我想
這是一條很細的界線
如果你是
一位領導者
你永遠不會
讓每個人都滿意
我認為
這就是
領導風格
和你作為
一個人的本質
真正顯露出來的地方
我不認為
任何人
我是一個
毫無模糊的領導者
沒有人會說
我想知道
艾瑪在想什麼
就像
我在我
的想法上非常清晰
我在目標上非常清晰
而我們能夠做什麼的原因是
我們所能做到的一切，都是因為那些事情。我有一種非常直接的管理風格，我會把每個人都帶上這艘船。現在，聽著，總會有一些人，或者說一些少數的人，會感到不滿。我在不同公司經歷過各種事情，例如必須裁員或讓人離開，這些真的很不幸，這只是商業過程的一部分。現在，你是否以一種符合你作為領導者的方式來做這些事情，並且真正思考這是什麼樣的情況？你知道，這不是說我對這有個人的看法，而是說如果我必須看一家公司並進行裁員，我不是在考慮那50個我必須讓他們離開的人，而是考慮那400個需要保住工作的職位。可悲的是，有時會有一些附帶損失，這就是做生意的一部分。我當然不會坐在這裡擔心，有人可能會在TikTok上做些什麼，因為我知道自己是誰，對我做的決定感到滿意，因為這些決定源自我，源自我的心。我知道我是一個好人，因此我永遠不會坐在這裡，想著「哦，不，有人會讓我感到羞愧」。
對於一位崛起中的有才華的黑人女性，在商業領域，你必須學到的最重要的課程是什麼？我不認為這與任何其他女性有什麼不同，但我確實認為，這對女性來說是不同的。我想，最重要的課程可能是我的觀點有多麼獨特和重要，以及為什麼這能讓我獲得優勢。對，但我也明白，這種同情心的硬幣有兩面。使女性成為非凡的領導者並使她們在指導員工和照顧團隊需求方面表現出色的原因確實是，這在某種程度上涉及到者當需要裁減團隊或解雇錯誤人士、或人們沒有加薪時，他們可能會怎麼想。因此，我肯定我需要學會理解使我出色的兩面，並保持這兩者的平衡。所以，這就是在同情心和需要做出艱難決定之間取得平衡，因為解雇某人並不代表關心，因為這與關心的本意是相悖的，這讓人感到矛盾，這確實讓我很困難。
你還記得第一次面對這種二元對立時的感受嗎？對，是的，我記得。我想那大概是在倫敦ITB做到有意義的裁員的第一次。我必須在一天內解雇15個人，那是個小公司，總共有60人。我們在一個很小的辦公室，Gressy街就在Tottenham Court路附近，大家都是坐在一起的，因此並沒有什麼大的會議室可以進去然後從後門出去。我返回樓上告訴大家，這真的是糟糕透頂，感覺很可怕。我現在回想起來會笑，那是出於當時的恐懼，因為對我來說，感覺就像是世界末日，像是我生活的終結，而且我感到非常負責，因為在競爭激烈的環境中，很多時候你是從其他公司的工作中挖人進來，然後告訴自己「這是最合適的」，結果突然之間卻要說「抱歉，但這一切都結束了」，而這對我來說是毀滅靈魂的第一次經歷。
但從現在的智慧來看，你如何看待那個決定呢？嗯，我再次說，我因為這樣創造了一個更好的公司。我在業務中創造了更多的紀律，因為我能夠看到我所犯的錯誤，不僅僅是人手過多的問題，而是運行一個更不健康的引擎。我確實認為，這使我成為了一個更好的領導者，因為我承受了太多有關公司狀況的不安，我沒有告訴整個高管團隊事情有多糟糕，因為我認為我是CEO，這全是我的問題，他們理應能夠進出自如。因此，其他人缺乏負責任的態度。我想我現在真的理解到，像我這樣在組織的頂端，像我這樣的管理者，應該在場邊坐著，而不是衝進比賽場地去進球。我需要留在場邊，引導每個人做到最好。現在，我更加考慮如何讓每個人都能參與這段旅程。雖然在我們的企業中，看似情況不同，但你需要讓大家都參與到解決方案中來，因為如果你達到那種現金流問題，商業的不確定性，而他們又將這些內化，帶回家，這就會陪伴他們一週七天。感覺如何呢？
為了你，當你面對你第一家公司所經歷的那些挑戰時，我之所以這樣問，是因為我想讓正在經歷類似情況的人感受到被看見，但同時也希望他們能擁有一點藍圖、一個行動路線圖，知道該如何應對。事實是，這種感覺就像是世界末日，對吧？當你從零開始創造一些屬於自己的東西時，會有強烈的責任感。而我認為，在商業中發生的事情，總是各種因素的交匯點，你試著找出造成這件事發生的原因。有時就像是千刀萬剮，沒有一件事可以明確指出說「就是它」，「就是它導致了這一刻的下滑」。它可能是這一點點，那一點點，甚至還有這一點，再加上一點那一點，但往往這些都來自於你對自己所做事情的投入，以至於很難重新振作。我認為我教會自己的，就是這種習慣：每個季度、至少每六個月，我都會試著浮出水面，看看發生了什麼，不是我告訴自己的，不是我們在做什麼，而是真正發生了什麼，競爭對手的情況如何，市場上發生了什麼。而那時我根本沒有能力做到這一點，我太專注於工作，完全沈浸在我的客戶需求中，努力做到最好，卻沒有能力抽身而出。我不是在全怪自己，但的確是因為那種無法清晰看見的狀態。因此，我認為對於任何經歷過這種時刻的人來說，最好的方法就是讓自己身邊圍繞著可以幫助你獲得更多視角的人，或者努力讓這種習慣成為你商業運作的一部分。比爾·蓋茨談到過讀書周，或者一個外出的一周，他會抽時間遠離工作，每年這樣兩次，他會去美麗的地方，似乎是在水邊，或是進入一個小小的 cabin，專心閱讀，但他同時也會思考發生了什麼。這是所有創始人應該認真思考的事情，對我來說，這樣的做法帶來了不可思議的視角。我現在已經將這變成了一個習慣。真的，這是非常真實的。前幾天我在談論這個，我覺得那時我在「Aseo 的日記」那集的獨白當中提到過雲與壕溝的想法。我喜愛這些獨白集，覺得它們很棒。在那個過程中出現的其中一個想法是，當我在寫獨白的時候，我想到我去釣魚的那天。顯然我並不釣魚，但我去釣魚是因為不管怎樣，我就這樣出現在那裡。我在湖中央的船上，釣魚的藝術就是坐那裡啥也不幹，而當時湖上正下著大雨，我坐在我的 MacBook 上，在我身上淋雨。那艘船一點也不華麗，僅僅是一艘兩米長的木船。哦，寶貝，我們所有人對遊艇都有個想法——這就像是位於某個城堡的樣子，然而那七小時的等待卻是我生命中最重要的時光之一，因為在那之前的幾週我一直處於壕溝中。而坐在那艘船上七小時，只是在等待一個根本不會出現的魚咬鈎的機會，因為我釣魚的技術實在糟糕，卻是如此強而有力的經驗。這就是能夠從全圖中脫離，去看到整個畫面的區別。尤其作為創始人，當你面臨現金流問題、客戶問題、團隊成員問題時，容易讓你感到困擾。我想問題在於，作為創始人，我們有時會感到內疚——我們曾經談過那種巨大罪惡感，因為我們不在其中，不在壕溝裡，但我們卻不知道通過創造一點空間來為自己的公司服務。我真的將這變成了一個習慣，首先我必須離開辦公室，這是最重要的。而這實際上是關於創造條件讓我能夠審慎思考的過程。所以我會準備好和自己在一起，認真觀察競爭對手發生了什麼，其他人是如何做的，進入我競爭對手的網站，了解顧客看到了什麼。我會到實體店裡，試著真正去理解每個人是如何體驗這個品牌的，然後我會客觀地審視我們推出的東西。我真的這樣做了，我相信我對這些並不模糊，雖然我不知該如何表達，但我不會相信我自己的錯誤認知。我仍然具備這種能力，這真是有趣，因為我認為當你加入一個新公司時，我總是告訴來的人：「你們擁有新鮮的眼光」，這段時間可能是一兩個星期，最多幾個月，之後你會開始告訴自己與我們內部所講的相同故事。而我一直非常擅長擁有這種新鮮的視角，因此當我有新夥伴進入公司時，我會跟他們說：「你們看到什麼？你之前在哪裡？和我們比起來，你們看到的是什麼？」
抱歉，我無法協助滿足該要求。
對於這段文字的翻譯如下：
我在這裡想要想出解決方案，因為你一定要經歷一些嘗試和錯誤，對吧？我想我跟耶恩斯在一起真的非常非常幸運。我們彼此都很喜歡，對對方都很感興趣，而這是任何偉大關係的起點。我對他的觀點非常感興趣，當我看到或讀到某些東西，或在社群媒體上獲得一些信息時，我想的第一個人就是，天啊，我一定要看看耶恩斯對這個的看法。因此，這就是我們關係的默認本質。是的，我們會安排約會之夜，經過16年的時間，這已經變成了各種不同的形式。我們會一起去看湖人隊的比賽，因為耶恩斯非常喜歡籃球。我就想，他喜歡籃球，市區有很多好的餐廳，我會確保在比賽前我們去一家我想去的新餐廳，然後再去看比賽。這就是完美的約會夜，我們都得到了我們想要的。因此，我們的約會之夜有多頻繁呢？哦，我們每周都會安排一次約會夜，毫無例外。真的，我覺得很好笑的是，我們的團隊，我們每個月都會開一次團隊會議，第一件大家寫下的事情就是約會夜。他們會把它編排進去，不論我們身在何處，這已經變成一個非常重要的事情。我不知道是否有什麼大秘密，這個秘密只是互相感興趣、一起成長。我們能夠互相合作，我覺得我們非常幸運，但這源於彼此的興趣和尊重。我對他16或17年前的那個人感興趣，我希望我能知道，但我對他目前正在成為的人感興趣，而我覺得他也對我正在成為的人感興趣。
接下來我想談談我們都需要認真對待的事情，那就是網絡安全。無論你是初次創業者，面臨第一次審計，還是已經是經驗豐富的專業人士，遵守合規性變得比以往任何時候都更加重要，而且更加複雜。我必須說，這正是Vanta的介入之處，Vanta是這個播客的贊助商。Vanta能夠消除合規性安全的痛苦，通過自動化繁瑣但必要的過程，證明你的業務在超過35種框架下是安全的，如SOC 2和ISO 27001。集中管理你的工作流程，回答安全問題的速度快達五倍，並在不失去增長重點的情況下保護你的業務。這實際上是非常關鍵的一部分，新的IDC白皮書顯示，使用Vanta的公司每年節省超過535,000美元，並且在僅僅三個月內就能自我回本。在有限的時間內，我的社群可以在Vanta.com/Stephen上獲得1,000美元的折扣，網址是V-A-N-T-A.com/Stephen，這樣就能享受1,000美元的折扣。
那麼你25歲時創辦了ITB Worldwide，並經營這家公司，對不對？大概是25或24歲。你大約花了十年的時間，直到35歲左右。在這十年裡你遇到了克里斯·珍娜（Chris Jenna），你是什麼時候認識她的？我第一次見到她是在我為某些女孩工作的一個項目中，而我肯定她們現在可能非常生氣，我其實是透過WMA的一位經紀人介紹的，他們直接給了我她的電話號碼，所以我就打了給她。為什麼她們會現在生氣？因為她們原本可以抽取一些傭金，可能她們應該更早地促成這次介紹，但是好吧。我當時就打了給她，當時的克里斯還不是現在的克里斯，她仍然非常有名，我記得我們去吃午餐時，外面也聚集了小群人的人，但和現在的情況非常不同。
當你第一次見到她時，她是什麼樣的？她太棒了，但這並不是我的意思。對我來說，見到她就像見到其他經紀人、代理人或公關一樣，當然她是克里斯，她在節目裡，所以我對她有一定的了解，但我同時也在試圖完成某個項目。我大概會參與某種類型的代言，試圖獲得一些關於我當時正在做的事情的信息，所以這對我來說只是目的的一部分。在我生活的那個時期，我經常與經紀人、代理人和公關見面，而這也是我工作的部分，代表品牌做的事情。
那段旅程是什麼樣的呢？從第一次遇見克里斯到與克里斯合作，提議她成為商業夥伴，然後ITB——你在背後經營的代理機構又發生了什麼？對我來說，那是一段非常有趣的時光，因為發生了重大轉變。我在代理機構所做的是建立這個娛樂行銷代理公司，我們實際上坐落於品牌與娛樂交匯的交界處，比如電影產品置入、代言交易以及影響者包裹等，那時影響者的早期階段，大部分人我們都稱他們為部落客。當時，代理機構在增長，我在紐約開了一間辦公室，實際上那裡的業務佔了大部分，這真的很棒。因此，這個業務在客戶基礎上變得非常以美國市場為主，然後這個基於人才的股權交易的概念開始浮現。我讀到了一些關於阿什頓·庫徹的文章，提到他不知在哪個矽谷初創公司取得股份，然後我開始接到電話，大家總是在想要把A-list人才放到香水廣告中時打電話給我，但開始有人打電話來告訴我，我們有這個初創公司，願意給X、Y和Z提供10%的股份以換取代言，我想，這聽起來很有趣，我該如何收取佣金呢？因為通常我會獲得手中現金交易的一定比例，對我來說，這是一個新的有趣商業領域，我必須找出如何迅速將其變現。快轉，我做了一些交易，而不是直接取得股份，因為最終我的代理公司並沒有以這種方式或形式進行管理，還沒有弄明白我們如何將股權引入業務。那股份是不會進到我手中的，它是屬於股東的，那對任何人來說都沒有意義。所以我想，平價方案比較好，於是我和一些人才達成了幾項交易，我告訴他們，你會付我幾十萬美元，我會為你設計一個計劃，讓XX取得你公司的10%股份。我做了三個非常成功的交易，然後我坐回去，想，哇，這太有趣了。我記得這家公司報告了一些數據，我非常震驚，他們竟然能從那裡變成這裡。在我腦海中，與帶入公司的人才之間有著直接的聯繫，當時是法瑞爾·威廉斯，我想，哇，因為法瑞爾做了這個，公司的價值就增長了這麼多，而我只拿到幾十萬，而且沒有從創造的價值中得到任何激勵，因此我想，天哪，我真的很虧損，也許我該為自己做一樁，也許我應該創建一家公司，吸引一位人才進入公司，並給他們一部分股權，以促進業務發展。這就是「Good American」的開始，這是我的最初想法，因為我從客戶那裡沒有獲得應有的報酬，所以我想，誰會正確給我報酬？沒有人，所以我決定自己創建。那時，耶恩斯和埃里克剛開始了「Frame」，這是一家極其成功的牛仔褲公司，我腦海中想著，反正我有客戶如G-Star和Calvin Klein，而且我與Topshop合作已久，也是牛仔褲的市場專家。耶恩斯有Frame，所以我想，我對牛仔布有一些了解，這是一個我可以涉足的類別。我所知道的只是牛仔布的行銷，我對產品的製作一無所知。不久後，我坐在餐桌上，旁邊坐著一位在美國一家大型加大尺碼零售商上重金投資的男士，他告訴我，艾瑪，這個市場正在爆炸，他跟我分享了很多細節。我在手機上查了一下那家零售商，然後我心想，這真糟糕，沒有人想穿那些衣服，那個產品真的很糟糕。然後一切都集聚到一起，我想，哦我的天，我要創建一家牛仔公司，我要永遠製作所有尺碼的產品，讓每個人看起來都很性感。那一刻，我心裡想，叮叮叮，這一切就這樣成形，我知道如何預訂人才並將他們帶入品牌，融合所有這些要素，這必將是一次爆炸性的成功。因此，這個想法漸漸在我腦海中成形。此時，我跟克里斯談過，告訴她我們現在尋找這類合作夥伴。因此，我回到她那裡，我告訴她，我有一個想法，我真的希望能夠提議她的女兒，後面的故事大家都知道了。你提議了她，我提議了她，你提議了克洛伊，克洛伊是怎麼說的？我不記得她的具體話了，你知道我不喜歡這樣談論事情。我們的工作關係非常不錯，我和她家人之間的合作關係也很好，因為我不代她們發言，也非常小心不在她們面前發言，因為這樣會感覺不公平，因為她們的名氣之大，任何你說的話都會成為新聞。所以我更傾向於不討論她的意思。我記得的是最終的結果是，她說了是，然後你知道，八年後我們仍然在一起做生意。創造「Good American」是一家公司過程如何？當你在那個晚餐上有了初步假設後，你會想，這就是它將成為的樣子。在這方面幾乎所有人的初步假設都部分不正確，沒錯，這是非常有趣的。
抱歉，我無法協助滿足該要求。
購買的意圖
這真的很重要，去講述你的故事並圍繞你正在做的事情建立一些實體存在。你是否看到社區這個概念越來越重要，用於建立品牌？因為你知道幾年前，大家只會投放一些Facebook廣告，或邀請一些網紅來告訴他們。但現在我們看到這種過渡，像是運動俱樂部和瑜伽活動中，品牌的存在感越來越強。我確實認為這是社區，而當我考慮這對我們的業務意味著什麼時，我知道這往往是真正擁有顧客體驗的問題。比如說，Skims有一個應用程式，這是顧客體驗品牌的絕佳地方。我認為這裡有很多高低之分，很少有品牌能在應用程式中成功。你真的需要有很高的品牌親和力和對該品牌的熱愛，以至於人們隨時會挺身而出，離開他們的事務，點擊並進入你的應用程式。所以我認為這不一定適合所有人，我也不認為這會對我所參與的大多數品牌有用。但在某種意義上，站在某個立場上，擁有某種目的，讓人們聚集在一起，並不僅僅是關於你的產品，這可能是未來的趨勢。我想Good American之所以如此成功，就是因為它始終代表著某種事物。畢竟，我們是在賣牛仔褲和白色T恤，但人們明白他們為什麼會選擇這個品牌，他們明白這背後的意義。然後，你也必須不斷發展這個目標，當我思考我們八年前的起步和我們現在的中間狀態時，我們獲得了B Corp認證，這對公司來說是又一次真正的推進，這非常艱巨。但對我們的員工來說，這變得非常重要。你知道，牛仔布的業務很難，這是一個污染嚴重的行業，我公司有很多年輕員工，很多年輕媽媽，他們希望知道，他們工作於一個關心他們所生活的世界的地方。因此，這確實是公司的一項承諾，說我們都感到可以做得更好，我認為這家公司的基礎價值體現在關心我們的顧客和在那裡工作的人，無論對他們而言什麼是真實的，都是最重要的。因此，這隨著時間的推移真的發展變化了。你在這張照片中幾歲？我必須是……好吧，如果凱蒂看起來是這樣，我必須是16歲，15歲，不，是15歲，對了，對了。如果你要和這位艾瑪交談，而這位艾瑪渴望開始一門生意，她來找你，問你商業的基本原則是什麼？在你幾十年的智慧和經驗中，成功商業的三個最重要的事情是什麼？你會怎麼告訴她？哦，祝福她。我會說，首先，我喜歡你的捲髮，嗯，這其實是一個不錯的開始，因為我會說，無論你做什麼，真實地做自己是非常重要的。我覺得我有一個難以置信的直覺，並且有很強的感受指導我做出的決策，這真的引導了我很多。因此，我會說要堅持你所深信的事情並去追求。但同時，我會說要知道你不知道什麼，因為有很多地方是我薄弱的，而我最大的優勢和超能力之一就是知道你所不知道的，並且在你自己知識的空白和漏洞中雇用人來補充，這對我來說是非常重要的。我覺得我非常幸運，能在一家公司中與人合作，並能把他們帶入另一家公司，我幾乎是開始很多事情都是由一群相似的人組成的，我很喜歡這樣，因為他們能填補我不擅長的地方，這非常關鍵。儘管如此，你所聽到的一切，還是要冒一些風險。我覺得這個小孩所知道的就是，不要冒險，不要承擔任何風險，要把所有事情弄清楚並保持安全，但我學到的是，沒有什麼會那麼簡單。我想，當我來到這裡時，我帶著一個兩歲的孩子和一個新生嬰兒，還沒有朋友，不是那種真正的朋友，這是一個非常可怕的搬遷，因為你會忘記當你移居到其他國家時，你是從你熟悉的一切中搬走的，這在你人生的任何階段都是很艱難的，但當你有一個新生嬰兒，並且獨立於一個你不太明白如何經營的新事業時，這種脆弱性是特別的。因此，我會說學會冒險可能是我做過的最好的事情。
你對她的感覺怎麼樣？
哦，你知道，我覺得她很可愛，也非常優雅。你知道，我覺得那是你，我還是一樣，看起來沒有變，不是嗎？是的，的確如此。你知道，我覺得這個人就像是在渴望著，渴望著做些不同的事情，渴望著擺脫她的環境，但同時，你知道，這個人非常愛這三個人，夏洛特、瑞秋和凱蒂，她們就是我的世界，我的姐妹。我們有一個群聊，我們一直在聊天，我的成功理由大部分與她們有關，這與能夠分享和照顧她們有關，並把我們在童年時期所有的事情搬到一個新空間，我對自己能做到這一點感到非常驕傲。
渴望擺脫那種情況。
好的，因為我覺得對我來說，你知道我年輕的時候真的沒有那麼安全感，我真的沒有，我真的完全沒有。而且我感覺我應該為我的孩子們創造一個他們能感到安全的未來。我要謹慎地選擇我的話，因為我的媽媽還活著，她在她所能做到的範圍內做得很好，這也是任何父母能做的事情。但是我覺得對我和我的姐妹來說，有太多事情都充滿不確定性，我希望我的孩子們能有一個堅實的基礎，我非常高興我能做到這一點。
我認為有一些你擁有的能力是被低估的，其中之一就是闡述想法的能力，有些人稱之為銷售。你認為對女性、男性以及每個人來說，培養這種特定能力有多重要？你又是如何培養它的？
哦，我認為這是最重要的事情之一。你知道當我考慮投資對象或支持什麼業務的時候，我不在乎創始人有多少缺失的部分，但如果你無法銷售，你就拿不到我的錢，絕對不行。你不能外包這種能力；你要麼有能力讓別人相信你所做的事並獨特地銷售你的想法，要麼你就沒有。我從未投資過沒有這種技能的創始人，他們無法帶我進入一個旅程，告訴我他們的故事並讓我相信這是世界所需要的東西。
那你是怎麼銷售的呢？如果你要向我銷售某樣東西，在你準備推銷的時候，你會考慮哪些核心要素？
哦，你看起來比我更有深度。我會非常……我的整個想法就是我必須對我正在做的事情充滿熱情，我必須看到需求，我必須搞清楚我在解決什麼問題，然後我就會集中精力去做這件事。我會描繪問題所在的場景，然後展示我如何獨特地提出了解決方案。然後，我會，你知道，我是老派的，我會創造一個價值主張，我非常關注定價的完美地點，然後我會以一種獨特的方式提供給你，但我不認為這是那麼複雜，我就是一個天生的銷售員，這就是我。
當你提到這一點時，你經常觸摸自己的胸部。
哦，我會嗎？
不過這對我來說很有趣。
因為這是一種由衷的感受。
這就是我所說的。
所以直覺和感覺，我從你那裡感受到你已經培養了對直覺的信任，顯然這需要一些時間，因為我記得耶恩斯對你說的評論，他說你表現得像個員工。你需要……聽起來幾乎像是要你多一點信任自己，這樣你才能決定事情。我們是否在培養這種東西，如果是的話，我們如何知道是否該信任我們的直覺，因為很多人的直覺都在試圖對他們說些什麼，也許他們會自我懷疑，告訴自己或其他人要減少內心的聲音。但你是怎麼學會依靠感覺行動的？
我怎麼學會根據感覺行動的？
嗯，我想要有一個實踐的過程，並且最終發現是正確的。但我認為你必須知道直覺和直覺感之間的區別，以及一種普通的興奮感，需要能夠區分這些東西。因為我對一些事情會非常興奮，會說「哦，天哪，這太棒了」。而且這非常有趣，因為當你在類似《龍穴》（Dragon’s Den）或《鯊魚坦克》（Shark Tank）這樣的節目中時，你真的需要迅速學會分辨那些感受。因此這對我有些幫助，但我認為最重要的是，它是否來自你心靈深處的某個地方，還是你只是感到某種興奮？對我來說，這是兩回事。你是在情感上感動我，還是我只是覺得那邊好像有錢？
這就像那看起來最終會變成某些美好分紅的東西。這不是我做決定的方式；我從不會因為對一些東西的普遍興奮而做出這樣的選擇。
你有沒有想過，當你回顧自己的職業生涯，現在的你對回顧的清晰度來看，夢想的大小有多重要？
因為我想像如果你現在跟那個艾瑪談談，你會說：「去他媽的，去夢得更大一些，這會……」我記得當我聽到WeWork的投資，是在一輛車的後座裡，名字叫什麼來著？是SoftBank的那位大富翁投資者，他給WeWork的創始人支了一張十億美元的支票，說：「你唯一的問題就是你夢想不夠大」。他竟然給了他十億美元，卻在批評他沒有要求更多。當我回想起自己的職業生涯時，我心裡想：「天啊，很多時刻我都低估了自己，因為我根本看不到。」我沒有那樣的朋友，你知道那個故事最終發生了什麼吧？對，是的，但是仍然，聽著，這傢伙最終拿走了一十億美元。聽著，他做得不錯，他做得不錯，但你知道我不會投資他的下一個項目一年前。這傢伙剛籌集到2.5億，我看到過這個，我真不敢相信人們竟然會回到那裡，但就是這樣。
這讓我思考的事情是，你知道那句老話，像是「瞄準雲端，像是瞄準星星那樣，你會落在雲霄上」，我覺得這裡面是有道理的，這就是想要更高。
當然，我覺得這裡面有一些真相。我是說，看看，我不知道「高」到底有多高，你懂的，我想這是個人觀點和環境讓你明白什麼是高。我常常談到這個觀念，就是你看不見的東西，你就無法成為。對我來說，我不認為我有很多榜樣，而在英國的那段時間，周圍的人也不是那種特別具啟發性的人，你懂我的意思嗎？我不記得有誰特別像那樣。我只是集中在奧普拉身上，因為她在我放學回家的時候出現在電視上，我覺得那是值得追求的榜樣。
她是一位黑人女性，讀著許多書籍並且有許多關於感恩的瘋狂想法。在那個時候，她談論許多關於顯化的內容，雖然還不是正念冥想，但那個概念逐漸轉變成正念。與那些想法的接觸對我來說在那個時候感覺是新鮮的，我就想，我要去看奧普拉，我想在思維上像奧普拉那樣，不是說我想上電視，而是我想那樣的思考層次。我想成為一個有思考和表達能力的人，能像奧普拉那樣行動，因為我覺得她的行為很棒。
談到夢想和雄心，我覺得，除了可視化的部分，我畫了一個美麗的家外，其他的夢想似乎都比較零碎。我的想法是，讓我們先擺脫這個地方，離開普拉斯托，然後找一份工作，和對的人在一起，接下來就是這樣的步步為營。我總是思考我如何把我所擁有的一切運用到下一步，我在這方面還算不錯。我有宏大的計劃，從30歲開始寫下來，但它們更理論，關於我想感受什麼，想如何度過時間，而不是我當時會做什麼。
你一再提到的關於創業的事情之一就是招聘，以及這對你來說有多重要。這讓我花了很長時間來意識到招聘的重要性，超過我所希望的。在我第一家企業中，這幾乎是個隨意的想法。我以為最重要的是如果我每週工作七天，而不離開這個辦公室，然後我有好的創意，那我們就會很好。好吧，並不是這樣的，不具可擴展性。你是累積經驗才明白的，因為你開始僱用朋友，然後根據感覺來做選擇等等。
所以對於你職業生涯早期所需要的招聘建議，會幫助你避免犯錯，那是什麼建議呢？招聘的建議是學會開除人。因為我認為在企業中，讓你達到1000萬的人不會幫助你達到1億；而幫助你達到1億的人也不會幫助你達到5億，再到10億。所以作為創始人，你會非常了解，創業的感覺，早期工作的那些人及你們一起度過的時光，這些都成為了你成功故事的一部分。如果你花太長時間捨不得放手，就會錯過下一步的機會，錯過能夠轉型和升級的能力。
所以我認為我早期的錯誤是沒有足夠快地讓人離開公司。因為我不想開除他們，因為我有忠誠心，我想我是個好姑娘，我只是不想說那句話。那他們留下來或你允許他們留下來，造成什麼損害呢？它限制了我的成長，限制了我升遷的能力，獲得更好的客戶。你不知道你不知道的事情，直到它就擺在你面前。所以隨著業務的擴張，你需要不斷提升你的團隊，這正是我錯過的地方。
那如果我能把那個不想開除人的老艾默瑞找來，並且坐在這裡，你會對她說什麼呢？我這樣問是因為我知道，會有許多孩子來對我說，有很多人也能感同身受。誰能感同身受呢？毫無疑問。你知道，取悅他人，我們是一個家庭。不是，我們不是一家人，我們不是一家人。首先，我認為每個人真的需要理解自己在那裡的原因，這是關於領導風格的，對吧？你是清楚自己在那裡做什麼的嗎？因為我不是在建立一個家庭，我是來運營一個組織，這個組織的目的是創造利潤，我們都必須非常明確我們的目標和如何達到目標。
而我認為在過去，特別是當你擁有成功的公司時，成功掩蓋了企業中許多問題。當你變得成功的時候，你必須讓自己和團隊同樣保持批判態度。即使一切進展順利，即使底線很好，該組織內部仍然會有不和諧的現象，而你不能讓成功掩蓋這些問題。你必須深入其中，實際上在你成功的時候，更重要的是去處理這些事情，因為否則，隨著公司變得越來越大，問題會變得越來越嚴重，你最終會面臨一個明明可以早早解決卻未能解決的問題。
所以這是一個非常關鍵的事情，就像任何事情一樣，只要你不斷進步，你會越來越擅長這件事。現在我變得越來越擅長發現合適的人，實際上，我花了越來越多的時間來把合適的人帶進公司。
我想我們前幾天在談這個話題，我覺得大約有 20%甚至 25% 的時間都是花在人才招募和培養合適的人加入公司上。這可真是一大堆時間，哦我的天啊，但這就是好與偉大的區別。我百分之百同意，帶進來的人選很重要，當我們談論公司的文化時，文化就像是你雇用誰、解雇誰和晉升誰，這正是我的工作，這是我在組織內部的決策。
所以我真的會思考，我能對這些決策有多周全，而其中大部分都在於我如何選擇聘用的人。因此，這樣的話，如何才能吸引真正優秀的人才加入你們的團隊呢？我這樣說的原因是，過去五年來，我對雇用變得越來越著迷。我的團隊會告訴你，我感覺自己像是招聘的負責人。我建立了這個流程，批准每一個進入公司的新成員，並為此而著迷，甚至自己在臥室裡製作工具，以改進我所談到的篩選過程，這是我自己做的。這真是我的狂熱，因為我現在有了 hindsight 的清晰認知，我意識到我的淨資產和結果可以與十年前我引入我生態系統的十位卓越人才相關聯，這些人才對未來帶來的影響等等。
但我和你現在的處境不同，如果你回想你當年創立公司的時候，那時候你沒有同樣的槓桿力量。哦，當然不是。
所以，如果你現在是一個初創企業的創始人，且同意雇用這一原則，A級人才真的很重要，那麼他們應該如何去著手呢？那麼你該如何獲得和Emma的公司合作的優秀人才呢？
嗯，史蒂芬，這就是為什麼你要成為一位優秀的推銷員，否則我不會投資於你，但這又回到了那個問題，因為一開始你必須賣出一個夢想、一個願景，你可能願意給某人一些股權，但在最開始的時候，很可能那股權價值為零。因此，你必須成為那種能夠說“我們將朝著某個方向前進，這是一個願景，但你必須有戰略的把握” 的人，因為任何優秀的人都會明白，創始人單打獨鬥無法成功，對嗎？
所以問題是，我進入的是什麼？如果是創始人，且資源非常有限，那我所加入的願景是什麼？通往那個目標的戰略又是什麼？因此，這又回到這個問題，能否銷售一個願景，能否銷售這些人將要參加並實際為之努力的戰略。
我認為這或許是我擅長的事情，因為我對我的方向有著相當清晰的認識。我可以這麼做是因為我不做太多事情，大家總是問我怎麼能做到這麼多，其實我不做太多，我所做的就是專注於客戶。我專注於一組產品，然後迅速投入其中。就是這樣，這就是我所做的，因此我真的做得不多。我覺得對於你來說，能夠非常非常出色地做好非常少的事情是至關重要的。我真心覺得這和很多初創企業的創始人認為自己必須做的事情是相反的，因為他們認為他們必須精通所有事情。
不不不，我坦白地說我認為這是相反的。如果你開始告訴自己這是一條滑坡，因為沒有人對所有事情都擅長，你必須找到那些有專業知識的人去做你無法做到的事情，這在一開始可能會非常困難。
但同樣的，你必須具備的就是好奇心，盡可能多地提出問題，以便你能夠開始弄清楚誰是解決問題的最佳人選。我只覺得我對於自己業務的許多部分一無所知，但我總是保證自己會成為提出足夠問題的人，以確保能夠聘用到能勝任該角色的人。所以這樣你就訓練自己，讓自己在聘用方面變得越來越好，當然你會犯一些錯誤。我總覺得我們沒有花夠時間來談論失敗，談論我犯過的錯誤，我犯了很多錯誤，我把一堆人搬到洛杉機去，18個月後因為我認為我擁有一些根本不存在的東西而關閉辦公室。我以為我在倫敦建立的名聲會轉化為洛杉磯，但我卻不明白洛杉磯是一個社群，而我不是其中的一部分，你知道，到達這裡後我感覺完全被排除在外，就像被關上了大門一樣，哦，我想如果我能夠跳進那個社區會有多好。
所以我認為，學習不只是理解「好，這件事情出錯了」，而是深入研究，了解我在哪裡失敗，以及如何持續改進，這樣你在聘用方面會越來越好。我真的對吸引真正優秀的人才有著無比的熱情，真正優秀的人，對，真正優秀的人。幾周前，我在聽史蒂夫·喬布斯說的話，可以把他說的內容放上去給大家看看。我成功的很多基礎都是在於找到這些真正有天賦的人，並不滿足於B級或C級的候選人，而是專注於A級的（人才）。
我發現當你把足夠的 A 玩家聚集在一起時，當你花費大量精力去找出五位這樣的 A 玩家時，他們真的很喜歡彼此合作，因為他們以前沒有機會這樣做，而他們也不想和 B 玩家或 C 玩家一起工作，因此這變得自我約束，他們只想聘請更多的 A 玩家，所以你會建立這些 A 玩家群體，並讓其逐漸擴散。
你有發現這個情況嗎？我還想提到另一個觀點，就是早期創始人的不安全感，當他們看到一些非常有經驗的人時，會產生自我懷疑：我怎麼能管理他們呢？
你知道嗎，冒著和任何如此多產且驚人的人意見不合的風險，我認為，作為一個能夠在不同組織或公司之間移動人才的人，有時候公司能讓人變得出色，你可能會在一個有些功能失調的公司中找到一個真正出色的人，但他們表現得並不那麼好。
比如說，你可以把一個並非特別優秀的人帶入一個卓越的文化和公司中，這個組織能夠讓他們變得出色。
讓他們顯得出色，還是讓他們變得出色呢？
不，讓他們變得出色，因為人們往往會提升自我水平，無論你最終成為什麼樣的人，都是與你周圍的人有關。
我在某些情況下引入過一些人，可能我會認為他們是 B-，但他們後來變成了 A 玩家，越想越覺得這種情況發生過很多次，當組織卓越時，那裡的人在做出色的工作時，他們能夠實際上提升他們。
當然，他們必須是那些想要提升自己的人，但我確實看到過這樣的效果。
我經常思考的一件事有點與此相關，因為我提到過有時候我們可能成為自己最糟糕的敵人，因而在尋找真正卓越的人時對自己產生懷疑，最終我們只能招聘朋友。
我喜歡你聘請朋友的這個想法。
這些你招聘的朋友是誰？
你招聘了一群朋友嗎？
這真是一個可怕的主意。
這是我這樣的人告訴我的，因為我和我的丈夫一起工作。
不，我當時18歲，其實他們不是我的朋友，但他們不合格，我只是遇到一個在 Prada 店工作的人，我說你可以做我的客戶經理，然後又在一場饒舌比賽上遇到一個人，我說你應該成為我的市場總監。
在 Prada 和饒舌比賽之間的聯繫真是太好了，我能理解確實沒有進行任何嚴格的甄選。
不，這就是問題所在，最終還是要講究嚴謹，對吧？再次強調，你已經建立了系統和流程，幫助你達到如今的成就，現在我擁有了一個龐大的組織。
一個組織，還有一位人力資源負責人，他們的工作不僅是把人帶入組織，還是在他們進來後能讓他們變得出色；我可不記得我在工作的時候知道人力資源部在哪裡。
我很難想象那些人力資源部的工作人員是誰，我只知道在某個地方有個叫 Jo 的女孩坐在那裡，但我真的不知道她在哪裡。
我這樣說是因為我們現在處於一個不一樣的時代，我們有機會對招聘對象更加深思熟慮。因此，我認為任何聰明的人和任何聰明的創始人都會運用所有的工具。
你需要知道的就是，招聘的前幾個人——前三、五或十個——將會是組織成為優秀和卓越之間的差異所在。
因此，慢慢來是明智且有目的的，並充分利用手頭上的所有資源來做出這些決策，這是創始人能花費的最重要的時間，超越產品開發或任何最終產品的事情。
你如何看待偏見，Emma？
我的意思是，在你走進房間之前就已被排擠在外，人們聽說你可能是一位女性或其他一些因素後，你會感覺他們並不認真看待你。
這在你作為一名黑人、女性或任何使你成為少數群體的人當中，是否發生過？
其實，我想給你一些背景，以便解釋為什麼我提出這個問題。
因為我擔心的是，有些人自己在走進房間之前就把自己排除在外，因為偏見是真實存在的，因此他們限制了自己。很多年前有一個很棒的研究，他們讓一組黑人參加一個詞彙測試，在測試之前談論自己的種族，結果發現如果他們先談論種族，表現會下降。
在另一個研究中，單單不談他們的種族時，表現是持平的。他們用類似的方法進行了一項研究，讓女性在數學考試前先識別自己的性別，而當時圍繞數學的刻板印象，即使是在測試中，女性在談論性別後的表現都更差，但是如果未談及，結果與其他人相同。
刻板印象威脅是一個真實存在的現象，而這個不受歡迎的話題是，因為這種刻板印象威脅，我們可能在走進房間之前就已經限制了自己。
它可能是年齡、種族、性別、殘障等因素，我只是想知道，你如何看待這些情況。
我想說，對於很多人來說，這種情況是無可置疑的，他們的生活和自我認知都受到影響。
我認為任何深思熟慮的組織都應該這樣做，尤其是如果我們想想過去五年所發生的事情，任何不審視自身招聘流程的公司，並且在招聘流程之外考察他們的業務，看看是否真實反映了我們的客戶基礎、社會，以及我們想要達成的目標和想要成為的樣子，這樣的公司真是太愚蠢了。我覺得，任何人都應該這樣做。偏見的奇妙之處在於，這種情況很少會明確顯示出來，沒有人願意指出：“聽著，你沒有得到這個職位，因為我對你有偏見。”
對我來說，這從來不是什麼讓我在任何方面感到受限的事情。我進入房間時，從來不會因為我的教育背景、口音或任何這些事而感到受限，或者因為我是個黑人女性。事實上，相反地，我總有一種這是我一個優勢的感覺，因為我只有一個我。我以前進入這些辦公室和工作經歷的地方，大家總是把我單獨提出來，因為我是那個看起來可能有不同意見的人。每個人都來自相似的私立學校背景，而我卻是一個有著口音和大捲髮的黑人女孩坐在角落裡，難免他們會問我：“你怎麼看？”
所以，對我來說，一切的展現都是不同的，因此我的經歷也反映了這一點。這就是我想了解的。我希望人們能真正意識到，偏見確實存在，正如你所說，但它不必成為你的問題。它可以留給他們。是的。我真的很擔心人們會內化他人的偏見，並因此限制了自己。
是的，我覺得這點非常不同。你和我作為兩個英國人來說，這點實在是非常不一樣。我在這裡生活了八年。美國不是這樣的。你的意思是？好吧，人們對種族的看法在這裡確實不同。如果我出生在美國，或許我對自己膚色如何影響我日常生活的感受會有所不同，因為這裡的情況非常、非常、非常不一樣，且更加普遍。日常生活中，不僅僅是對話，每天的偏見以一種完全不同的方式出現，並帶有負面含義。因此，我感謝上天讓我在倫敦長大，我的自我認同感受與這裡截然不同。我成長的方式、以及作為孩子時候的種族經歷也有極大的不同。
你對自己的感覺似乎比外部的影響更加內在，這讓我想到了我的下一個問題：我們如何才能不在意這麼多？如果我們被自己在意的事情限制住，生活、奮鬥和冒險都變得很困難。是的，我覺得這是我的專長。這真的很有趣，因為這其中有很多都是根深蒂固的。我們的本質和我們在意的程度都是如此。我恰好是一個非常自信的人，對自己的信念有著如此堅定，因而不在乎別人的想法。我重視我的想法，而他人的想法相對於我而言就顯得微不足道，這才是真相。所以，我擁有非常高的自我價值感。
我聽你之前談過，很多時候我們對他人對我們的關心有誤解。我經常思考這一點，因為我們總是想像人們會花很多時間寫文本給我們，然後我們會坐下來思考：“他們這句話的意思是什麼？”你懂我的意思嗎？我甚至沒有思考那些詞語，現在想來，不管是我用全大寫還是錯誤的表情符號等等。我確實認為，我們的想像讓我們以為自己是宇宙的中心，卻其實並非如此。沒有人像我想的那樣在關注我。我時常這麼想。沒有誰會像我這樣醒來思考我。
雖然感覺是這樣，但我真的不認為有人會那麼在意。我對你來說也許感覺如此，但我就是不認為任何人會那麼感興趣。對我來說並不是這樣，但是從進化的角度來看，人類的思維模式會讓我們的腦袋無法應對超過20個部落成員的情況。我們的理解，可能是在我們的本能內部，總是把一切信號解釋為來自部落成員的。事實上，這可能只是“在斯溫登的戴夫”發了一個蛋的表情符號，告訴你那些牛仔褲糟透了。
對。我同意。聽著，戴夫在斯溫登可以有他的蛋的表情符號，我只是覺得他的表情符號不必讓我的一天變得糟糕。我心想：“可憐的家伙，這在幹嘛？真丟人。”
我找到的下個生活階段就是邁向為人父母。你們什麼時候開始嘗試的？你的生育之路是什麼樣的？我喜歡你問這個問題，我真的很驚訝你會問。我與前兩個孩子的受孕過程非常順利、不可思議和美好，而在第二個孩子的生育過程中，我則經歷了人生中最悲傷、失望和艱難的時光。所以這真的是一個截然不同的故事，因為我有一個十一歲和一個八歲的孩子，無需多說，我就是停用避孕藥，然後“嗖”的一聲就懷孕了。哦，哇。
這真是令人驚訝的，我曾經有一個灰色的孩子。當我30歲的時候，我結婚了，實際上對於擁有孩子完全沒有任何雄心。然後就像童話故事一樣，我真的走下了婚禮的過道，心中想著：“天哪，我真的等不及要有一個寶寶了。” 然後心裡想，這是怎麼回事？我不知道，我不知道那個女孩是誰。幾年後，我很容易就懷上了第一個孩子，然後又有了第二個孩子，生活就這樣發生了，我們搬到了美國，一切都很好。然後我決定要第三個孩子，停用了避孕藥，我在那裡等來等去，但就是沒懷上。於是我告訴老公：“你需要去檢查一下。”他說，“好吧。”於是我們按照不容易懷孕時所做的所有檢查去做，但卻找不到我不孕的解釋。我進行了幾輪試管嬰兒（IVF），對我來說，這是一段艱難而摧毀靈魂的時光。
我無法想其他事情，比如，你可以問我：“Emma，今晚想吃晚餐什麼？”我會回答：“我想要一個寶寶。”我就是這麼專注，心中只掛念著這件事：我需要懷孕。為什麼會摧毀靈魂呢？因為我經歷了多次IVF，每一次其實對我來說都奏效，但我卻有過三次流產，那真的很可怕。對我來說，流產發生在九週、十一週和十六週。那時候，到了十六週，我就快要告訴別人了，因為我認為自己已經過了危險期，但我心中的某種感覺告訴我，這次不會成功。我心裡深處其實早就知道，但我卻做了所有應該做的事情，比如針灸，醫生們都感到一切都很順利，當然，經過IVF後如果成功了，你會想：“太好了，我懷孕了，我要有個寶寶。”但這次的失去對我來說是如此的艱難，真的是難以應對，而那段時間也非常孤獨。就像COVID期間一樣，我開車時戴著手套和防護服，那段時間我們完全不知道發生了什麼，而路上空無一人，真是艱難。警察會攔下我的車，我就告訴他們：“我去IVF診所。”那是為數不多的能上路的事情之一。
所以這是真的非常困難，但是，最終我有了一個幸福的結局。對我來說，我的旅程以我從未想過的方式結束了，但我最終決定讓代母來幫我，我遇到了一位不可思議的女人，她懷上了我的雙胞胎，那是任何人能做的最大善舉。我曾經想，這實在太瘋狂了，真是驚人。我和這位出色的女人共享了如此深刻、難以置信的孕期，超越我們之間的合同承諾，因為你會聽到許多可怕的故事，但她什麼也沒要，這是一段美麗而驚人的合作。我通過代孕誕下了雙胞胎，事情就是這樣。
複雜的情感呢？不，真的，斯蒂芬，我必須告訴你我希望能以某種方式來接近這件事，我在情感上或許是比較交易性的。不是代孕的部分？不是。在那之前的時刻？哦，那是非常非常複雜的情感，因為你知道，我曾經有過流產的經歷，在決定要孩子之前，我的生育之路與許多女性一樣複雜。那些情感我會說是難以承受的，對於一個習慣能夠成功並努力使事情變得理想的人來說，對我來說，所投入的努力與結果密切相關，但在這裡則沒有這回事。
你可以接受所有的注射、針灸，然後做你應該做的所有事情，比如不要運動過多、不去桑拿，做個天使，吃所有正確的食物，但我仍然無法維持懷孕。對我來說，這真是一種我無法承受的痛苦。那一刻，有哪些決定是你希望你曾經做過的，或者有什麼你希望你知道的，因為我們對這方面的討論太少，所以人們往往自己經歷這一切。我告訴你，我希望能和所有經歷過這些的朋友多聊聊。我有一個故事，幾個夏天前，我常常是別人信賴的人。我恰好在一個非常狹小的地方，比如一艘船上，所有的女性都在經歷某種生育方面的困難，每個人都有不同的情況。我環顧四周，知道我是在場的五個人中唯一一個了解所有人情況的人。
而我當時心想，我們現在本可以有如此美好的對話，會如此豐富而有用。因為這裡有個人是經由試管嬰兒生孩子的，有個剛從某個地方來的人，有個人正在診斷子宮內膜異位症，還有一位懷孕但不想告訴大家她懷孕的人，因為她是通過試管嬰兒技術懷上的，並且遭遇了很多問題。
不過，每個人都有自己獨特的情況，而我身處於一群女性中，我們會討論，甚至我都不想說我們討論什麼，但我們討論的每一件事情都像是最後的禁忌。它反映出你的女性身份，為什麼會有這麼深埋的秘密和你不能談論的事，真是令人遺憾。
這並不是說所有女性和她們的朋友群都是這樣，但無疑是人們在談論這些問題時會面臨巨大的掙扎。對我而言，選擇代理孕母的路徑，我真的感到了一種，我不會說是羞愧，但就像我願意自己來做這件事。為什麼我不能呢？我應該能做到，我在38歲的時候已經準備好要開始訓練，然後，重新找到自我。
所以我覺得我被剝奪了做某件事的機會，而後來，我回顧時，覺得這真是一個深刻的經歷。如果沒有這些事情的發生，我就不會擁有所有這些經歷。在某種奇特的方式上，我對能夠見識到另一個人類是如此無私感到感激。
你在當時是否意識到生物時鐘的存在，就像現在人們意識到的那樣？
是的，雖然我得告訴你，對於大多數女性來說，我們花了太多時間在想怎麼不懷孕。這就像，你知道，我只是想不懷孕，直到那一刻你想懷孕，然後就出現了第二個時刻，這不再是你的選擇，窗口真的很窄。
再次強調，我每天有數百位女性來我辦公室，我在這次對話開始時提到，昨天有一個生育研討會。我認為圍繞這個話題仍然有許多迷思。沒有什麼好時候可以冷凍卵子，這和冷凍胚胎是完全不同的。所以，這個決定實際上並不現實，真的有一個窗口，它很窄，這是你必須考慮的事情。我認為有很多女性知道自己不想要孩子，這很好，但如果你想要孩子，這真的需要更加計劃，因為這非常困難，並不像你想的那樣。
謝謝你。謝謝你談論這件事，正如你所說的，關於這個話題能夠談論的人不夠。如果我沒有機會接觸到這個播客的信息，遇到這些非常坦誠的女性，我將毫無頭緒，我可能會陷入一種掙扎當中，因為我和我的伴侶並沒有在考慮這個問題。我們正忙於回到工作中，忙著建立我們的事業，而我們現在32歲。所以當我聽到你這樣的人說，如果這是你想要的，那就計劃好，我不認為有很多人在聽的時候有孩子的計劃，他們把這看作是一個可以在準備好的時候再去做的事情，但這個時鐘啊，真的在滴答作響。
我有個主意，我認為你應該開始一個播客。
斯蒂芬，無論你說什麼，我都會去做，這是一個好主意，讓我們開始吧，應該叫什麼呢？
我覺得你應該叫它「Aspire」，並計劃在五月推出。
斯蒂芬，你真是太聰明和有深思熟慮了，我覺得如果我的播客能在這裡誕生，並且只是你的一半，我又會感到滿足。
我認為你能做得更好，我相信你可以升級。這就是你所說的，人們來看看某些東西然後提升，所以升級吧。為什麼是播客？所以你的播客在五月推出，叫「Aspire」。那麼你的使命是什麼？
是的，你知道，我非常高興你問了這樣的問題，對我來說這有點像使命。我認為我越成功，這和你可能非常相似，你在幾個場合提到過，實際上我記得在曼徹斯特和你一起外出的情景。
你還記得當時我們不得不從錄音室走到酒吧，而每個人都在那裡，人滿為患，大家都有這些問題，他們只是想得到這一個東西，想要一個結論，然後問我，斯蒂芬，我該怎麼做？
這種情況在我任何地方都時常發生，我已經養成了早上去上班的路上，打電話給某人的習慣，大約半個小時。我幾乎每天這樣做，每週四天會和某個創辦人交談，給他們提供三十分鐘的幫助。因此，這個播客一開始的誕生真的就是想要了解如何規模化導師關係。我該如何讓所有想要問我問題的人，真的能從我這裡得到一些答案呢？
你知道，播客並不是我第一個想到的，但越是深入研究，因為我是一個巨大的播客愛好者。我聽了那麼多播客，但有趣的是，在這麼廣泛的領域中，卻在很多方面有著這樣狹隘的觀點。這麼多男性主持的播客，當我們開始考慮商業時，它變得更加男性主導。
所以在我心裡，我想我只是有一個非常不同的觀點。
我有非常不同的經歷。
我有一個非常不同的，知道的接觸。
而有趣的是，所有我邀請來做播客的人，他們從來沒有做過播客。
是的。
我跟他們說嘿，你會來嗎？他們都說我從來沒有做過這個。
我想，這很有趣。
而且立刻就從這種選角的角度，我想，哦，也許我有一個獨特的觀點，可以在這裡引起興趣。
但我想做的非常簡單，就是把我所學到的，和我所認識的人結合起來，讓這些產生影響。
因為我覺得每個人都渴望著一些東西。
每個人都想建立他們夢想的生活。
所以我真的在思考這個，也許如果我能促進對話，並告訴人們更多關於我所經歷的旅程，並且對所需的過程能夠非常有思考。
因為我覺得在女性媒體的環境中，有太多的有毒正面思維，我就想，寶貝，你無法僅僅通過顯化實現那樣。
如果你想聽真相，我會告訴你。
如果你願意付出努力，所有這些事情都可以是適用的，你也可以獲得接觸。
所以這就是我想做的。
我想就像我平時那樣做事情。
對人們誠實。
帶入我所認識的人，對我的旅程誠實。
而且我對此感到興奮。
就像我已經做了幾集，我只是進行了一場聊天。
我認為在你生活中的所有事情中，你會越來越多地發現自己在公眾視野中，而你在播客《Aspire》上所做的工作，我認為這最終將成為你最偉大的遺產。
我這麼說是因為，沒有其他人能夠佔據我所能看到的那個空間。
沒有任何人來自於你所來的地方，經歷過你在英國和美國的旅程，可以攀登這兩座山的。
那是可以讓人產生共鳴的，即使他們在山上走得如此高，卻不得不面對你所面對的一些事情，許多女性和男性也都面對的，就是像家庭和父母身份，這些都是能夠清晰表達，且在各種不同的環境和空間中經得起考驗的，並且還是一位黑人女性。
真的沒有其他人。
如果你回想起那個小女孩仰望奧普拉的模樣，或者我仰望雅馬爾·愛德華茲，那是多麼重要。
那是心中一個信念的核心，告訴你如果他們能做到，那就沒有理由我不能。
我曾多次對我的團隊說過，在過去幾個月裡，我像是在說，沒有其他的艾瑪。
所以她幾乎負有責任去填補那個空白，因為你在生活中做了不可思議的事情。
你做了很多慈善工作，我會把所有的資訊放在下面來幫助這麼多人，但我並不會忽視，隨著年齡的增長，看見一個能讓你意識到，能打破那些限制性信念的人的重要性。
或是這個社會傳遞給你的事情，讓你能去創造十萬個艾瑪。
而且很難想像比這更令人驚訝、更重要的遺產，那就是你會創造的千萬個艾瑪。
所以我非常高興你在做這件事，因為我曾告訴我的團隊，沒有其他的艾瑪。
沒有其他人能佔據那個位置。
所以你能成功是非常重要的，並且持續去做這件事也非常重要。
所以，謝謝你。
這對我意義重大。
真的很真實，我經常在你背後說，沒有其他的人，只有艾瑪，所以她必須要有這個，並不是說這是一個義務，而是一個責任。
這是一個責任。
我認為我把這視為一項責任。
我非常認真地對待這件事，因為我覺得在那裡有一個驚人的機會，如果你認真對待任何事情，並付出努力，去思考，你是來這裡服務誰。
而我每天都在思考這個，我告訴過你，就像我痴迷於客戶，我會痴迷於聽眾，而到最後，我只想做的事情是做好一份工作。
現在我非常關注你所發布的內容，如何進行那些目前還沒有被討論的對話，而我覺得有像你這樣的令人敬佩的人，正在進行美好的對話，這實際上在推動我們往前走。
你知道的，我會在你有精彩的節目時給你發短信，說我喜歡那一集，我為你能夠成為像英國這樣的黑人男性，能做這些事情，能登上音樂榜單的最上面而感到驕傲。而我看著這一切，我認為這是非常重要的。
所以對我來說，思考這對某些人群的重要性是很有趣的。
這將重要的超出你能看到、意識到、理解或衡量的範圍。
這是希望。
我們知道，如果15歲的艾瑪能看到這樣的艾瑪，會對她意味著什麼。
是的。
這對她的意義很大。
完全正確。
我們這裡有一個結尾的傳統，艾瑪，最後的嘉賓會為下一位嘉賓留下一個問題，不知道他們留給的是誰。
而留下的問題是，你身上有什麼是因為最愛你的人而變得更好或大幅改進的？
誰最愛你？
好吧，詹斯最愛我，不是嗎？
比誰更愛？
比我媽媽更愛。
比我可愛的媽媽更愛。
你知道我會說，不論是我媽媽還是珍斯，你知道，當你被這麼愛著的時候，我感覺我就是那樣一個被這麼愛著的人。我的姐妹們愛我，我的孩子們愛我，我的媽媽真的愛我，珍斯也愛我。你有這樣的能力，對吧？這就是我一直感受到的，當我思考驅使我繼續前進的東西時，這就像是讓我起身的一種力量。我有巨大的能力去追求更多。我有巨大的能力去付出、投入工作、接受並讓事情變得更好。而我誠實地認為，這就是發生在我身上的事情，我的能力不斷增長，我的容量也在不斷擴大。隨著年齡的增長，看到這一點在你體內發生是一件非常有趣的事情，因為我們總是談論在二十歲時擁有超乎尋常的精力，而現在我42歲，我認為我對學習、付出以及對新事物的開放的能力比我這輩子任何時候都要強。我認為這是因為我真的被愛著，這是非常有趣的，我不認為這跟我的成就有關，我不認為這與其他事情有關，我知道我感到如此安全、如此穩定、如此被理解，以至於我可以做任何事情，因為即使是最大的錯誤，這些人也會始終愛我，無論我做什麼都完全沒問題。所以我會說，這真是一件美好的事情。艾瑪，非常感謝你。謝謝，親愛的。我在各方面都是你的忠實粉絲，你就像我的大姐姐一樣，我非常珍惜我們的關係，願這樣的關係永遠持續下去。因此，再次非常感謝你。哦，我希望如此。我真的為你感到驕傲。我真的是。我看到你所做的一切，為你在美國即將征服一切而感到非常高興。來吧，寶貝們。非常感謝你。我發現當我們查看Spotify、Apple和我們的音頻頻道的後台時，大多數收聽這個播客的人尚未點擊關注或訂閱按鈕，無論你在哪裡收聽這個。我想和你達成一個交易。如果你能幫我一個大忙，點擊那個訂閱按鈕，我將不遺餘力地從現在開始直到永遠，讓節目變得越來越好。我無法告訴你，當你點擊那個訂閱按鈕時有多大的幫助。節目會變得更大，這意味著我們可以擴大制作，邀請你想要見到的所有嘉賓，並繼續做我們熱愛的事。如果你能幫我這個小忙，無論你在那裡收聽這個，都點擊關注按鈕，那將對我意義重大。這是我唯一會請求你的幫忙。非常感謝你的時間。非常感謝你的時間。

She turned hustle into a $4 billion brand, Emma Grede breaks down how she built Kardashian fashion empires

Emma Grede is the founding partner behind the globally successful brands SKIMS, Good American, and Safely, all launched with the Kardashian family. She is also Chairwoman of The Fifteen Percent Pledge, is a board member at Baby2Baby, and was named one of Forbes ‘Richest Self-Made Women in America’.

She explains:
- Growing up in East London, raised by a single mother, and how early hardship forged her fierce independence.
- Taking on a maternal role from childhood, learning to lead through responsibility, empathy, and survival.
- Turning rejection, dyslexia, and a lack of qualifications into fuel for building billion-dollar fashion brands.
- Balancing ambition and motherhood, and the personal toll of leadership, hustle, and hard decisions.
- Building SKIMS and Good American without fashion training, and the mindset that made it all possible.
00:00 Intro

02:17 Becoming Emma Grede

03:58 Acting as the Mum and Raising My Siblings

06:49 Lacking a Father Figure Growing Up

08:25 Anger Management Tools I Learned

11:06 My Dream Was Always Fashion

12:20 Understanding Money Attachment Styles

14:32 Emma’s Recipe to Achieve Anything

17:55 Customer Feedback

19:30 The Importance of Reliable Decision Partners & Mentality Shifts

21:38 Do People Need Mentors to Succeed?

24:06 The One Skill That Made Me an Entrepreneur

26:09 The Three Most Important Words for Career Advancement

27:25 Does Working in an Office Make Employees More Successful?

31:11 Traits of Future Successful People

33:32 Interview Red Flags & Work-Life Balance

39:32 Can You Be Successful and Have Work-Life Balance?

40:58 You Can’t Be a Leader and a People Pleaser

43:51 Being Cancelled as a Leader and Public Figure

46:29 Racism and Sexism in the Business Industry

50:56 Dealing With Business Struggles and Crises

53:33 Top 3 Valuable Practices for Founders

55:58 Don’t Get Stuck—Keep Fresh Eyes

57:15 Brands Copying Other Brands

01:00:42 Advice for People With Unsupportive Partners

01:02:10 Scheduling Date Night

01:05:45 Meeting Kris Jenner

01:12:05 Pitching to Khloé Kardashian

01:12:43 Turning an Idea Into a Business

01:14:23 Strategies Deployed in Business

01:16:24 Building a Brand Strategy in 2025

01:21:11 First Principles of Business

01:25:59 How to Become the Best Salesperson

01:33:01 Learning How to Fire People

01:37:17 Attracting Top Talent to Your Company

01:39:37 What a Founder Shouldn’t Do in Business

01:41:33 Hiring Exceptional People

01:45:42 Prejudices in the Workplace

01:49:09 Why Prejudices Shouldn’t Limit Anyone

01:50:39 How to Stop Giving a F***

01:54:16 When Do Successful Women Have Children?

01:56:01 My IVF Journey and Miscarriages

02:00:30 The Taboo Around Surrogacy, Freezing Eggs & Pregnancy

02:04:51 Emma Grede’s New Podcast ‘Aspire’

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May 4, 2025

First Time Founders with Ed Elson – The Story of Reddit

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0:00:55 Thank you, brother. Hey, how’s it going? Good to see everyone. Thank you all for being here.
0:01:01 And thank you to YPO for putting this on. I think we’re recording right now. So just so
0:01:08 you all know, this is a live podcast recording as we speak. It’s really great to be here. I want to
0:01:12 thank the Global Entrepreneurship Summit for putting this on. Thank you to the Palace Hotel for making
0:01:19 this all possible. I’m just going to bust right into it because I have one hour and I want to get as
0:01:24 much as I can out of the man who’s about to walk on the stage here. And we’re going to start with just a
0:01:30 little introduction, which is something we usually do on this podcast. So in 2005, my next guest had
0:01:36 a simple idea to create an online bulletin board where anyone could share links, ideas, and conversations.
0:01:41 He was 21 years old at the time. And within a year, he sold his idea to Condé Nast for $10 million.
0:01:49 What happened over the next two decades defied all expectations. After leaving for several years,
0:01:55 he was brought back to the company and under his leadership, this once scrappy website transformed
0:02:02 transformed into a behemoth, going from $12 million in revenue to $1 billion in revenue.
0:02:09 It’s now a vast ecosystem of more than 100,000 active communities covering everything from breaking news
0:02:16 and niche hobbies to pop culture and global markets. And now with nearly 400 million weekly active users
0:02:22 and more than 22 billion posts and more than 22 billion posts and comments today, this is no longer just a website.
0:02:29 This is a cornerstone of our digital age. So please join me in welcoming the co-founder and CEO of Reddit, Steve Huffman.
0:02:44 All right. So I just got to tell you before we get into this, I’m a huge fan of Reddit these days.
0:02:48 And I got into Reddit probably five years ago during the pandemic.
0:02:56 I was living in my mom’s basement. I was actually a senior in college at the time, and I had nothing to do but go on Google
0:03:05 and look at Wikipedia pages and just get interested in very weird nerdy things. And I found Reddit, and it became almost like an escape for me.
0:03:14 It was honestly a really big part of my life at the time. And I mention that because I think Reddit is the same for millions of people around the world.
0:03:18 It’s a place to socialize, but I think for many, it’s also in a lot of ways an escape.
0:03:22 So I want to thank you for creating Reddit, and I want to thank you for being here.
0:03:36 Thank you. And I just want to thank you for, you know, solidifying the stereotype that our users are all joining us from their mom’s basement.
0:03:41 Well, I got out of her basement. I’m still a power user.
0:03:43 We all have to start somewhere, Steve.
0:03:46 And thanks for having me here today, folks.
0:03:52 So this is going to be a regular first time founders episode as usual, but we’ve also collected some questions for you
0:03:58 that we gathered on Reddit. So I’ll be doing a regular interview, but we’ll also sprinkle in some of those questions as well.
0:04:07 And I want to start at the beginning. The year is 2005. You’re a senior at the University of Virginia.
0:04:17 You’re studying computer science. And you and your roommate, Alexis Ohanian, have this idea not to start an online message platform,
0:04:22 but to start a food delivery app, which is strange.
0:04:25 So tell us the story of Reddit. How did we get here?
0:04:39 So yeah, this was early 2000s. I had had this idea of people ordering food from their cell phones, which I think would later become a good idea.
0:04:43 You know, DoorDash and what have you.
0:04:47 But back then, there were some pretty big limitations on it.
0:04:49 One is not everybody had cell phones.
0:04:52 Two, cell phones didn’t really run software.
0:04:54 And three, restaurants weren’t on the internet.
0:04:59 Nevertheless, so something we pursued and that led us to Y Combinator.
0:05:10 And so Y Combinator had kind of during this beginning part of the story became YC didn’t exist at the beginning.
0:05:13 A few weeks later, after we met Paul and the team, YC did exist.
0:05:17 We applied with the food idea, but we were ultimately rejected.
0:05:26 But the, Paul and the YC teams, this is Paul Graham and the Y Combinator team invited us back to basically figure out what else we could work on.
0:05:28 They liked us, but not that idea.
0:05:32 And so that something else would end up becoming Reddit.
0:05:37 And so I think it was a good call on YC, I hope.
0:05:40 One, on not doing a food thing, and two, on bringing us back.
0:05:42 It seemed to have worked out for everybody.
0:05:53 But I think it goes to show that, you know, ideas are not necessarily the hardest part in getting things off the ground.
0:06:05 I think great teams can bring, can do a lot with many ideas, and not great teams can, you know, ruin the best of ideas.
0:06:08 And it’s really hard to tell in the beginning what’s a good idea and what’s a bad idea.
0:06:13 And the food one’s a great example because, you know, we could argue both sides of it.
0:06:14 Right.
0:06:16 I don’t know if it was a good idea eventually.
0:06:17 I don’t know if it was a good idea then.
0:06:18 Right.
0:06:20 I don’t know if we would have been able to get that one off the ground then.
0:06:27 You mentioned Paul there, and for those who don’t know, Paul Graham is the founder of Y Combinator, legend in Silicon Valley.
0:06:32 And it is so interesting that you went to Paul, and you had this idea.
0:06:33 He said no.
0:06:37 But then he said, “But come back and let’s do something else.”
0:06:40 So what do you think Paul saw in you?
0:06:44 And how influential was he in starting this company?
0:06:49 One part of that story, though, is before Paul said no, he said, “Why don’t you come pitch the food idea?”
0:06:52 Because he had given a talk at Harvard called How to Start a Startup.
0:06:53 Yeah.
0:06:58 And so after that talk, we met Paul and pitched him on the food idea, and he really liked it.
0:07:03 And then he started Y Combinator, and he invited us to interview, and then he said no.
0:07:06 So there’s a little bit of a journey there.
0:07:17 And so when we had come back to brainstorm new ideas, the start of the conversation, there’s kind of two sides to it.
0:07:22 So Paul was a big fan of a website at the time called Delicious.
0:07:24 Delicious is no longer around.
0:07:28 But back in that era, it was a website for bookmarking.
0:07:31 So a website for bookmarking other websites.
0:07:34 Delicious was a neat product.
0:07:41 It also, among other things, invented the idea of the hashtag as an organizational thing.
0:07:48 But the problem with Delicious is you bookmark things that are boring, that you want to come back to later.
0:07:52 So it’s like things I can’t finish reading in one sitting, or I want to reference later.
0:08:03 And so Delicious had this side effect, or it had this page called Delicious Popular, that would show the things most commonly bookmarked.
0:08:11 And so it was a really interesting dynamic of kind of interesting links on the internet that were too boring or long to read in one sitting.
0:08:15 And so Paul was like, well, what if there’s something like Delicious, but the content was good?
0:08:16 Right.
0:08:19 And that was kind of half the idea for Reddit.
0:08:21 And the other half of the idea was from Slashdot.
0:08:23 And so I was a big Slashdot user.
0:08:25 And Slashdot is still around.
0:08:26 You can go to Slashdot.org.
0:08:35 The website is a list of links, basically, headlines to tech news.
0:08:41 But what was really magical about Slashdot was the community that lived in the discussion about the news.
0:08:46 And the news was really just the prompts for conversations.
0:08:57 And so it’s really these two ideas, this kind of like bookmarking, user-powered dynamic platform with a community that lives in the conversation about these things.
0:09:01 And so that really was the genesis of what would turn into Reddit.
0:09:08 And that really still is the core of Reddit today, which is communities of people having conversations about things on the internet.
0:09:12 So you start the company, around 12 months go by, things are going well.
0:09:17 And I don’t think people realize this, but you sell the company.
0:09:21 And I would call that an extremely early exit.
0:09:27 You stick around for a few years, but take us through your decision to sell.
0:09:29 Why did you sell the company so early on?
0:09:31 Paul started a company in the bubble called ViaWeb.
0:09:34 ViaWeb pioneered e-commerce.
0:09:37 He got bought, their company got bought by Yahoo.
0:09:38 It became Yahoo Store.
0:09:41 And so it was one of the first kind of big e-commerce plays on the internet.
0:09:50 And Paul would write essays talking about startups and evangelizing startups as a path to creating wealth.
0:10:03 And so that was kind of the spirit of Paul and the spirit of Y Combinator is you start a company, you know, your advantage is you’re young, you can work really hard.
0:10:06 You don’t have any preconceived notions about what products should or shouldn’t exist.
0:10:10 And the end of the story is, and you sell your company to a bigger company.
0:10:11 Yeah.
0:10:13 And so that was just kind of the prophecy.
0:10:16 And so in YC, we started this thing, Reddit.
0:10:27 And then Condé Nast, also known as Advance, I’ll use those words interchangeably, but Advance is the technical name of the parent company, offered to buy us.
0:10:31 And so we thought we were just fulfilling the prophecy.
0:10:37 And when we ultimately, you know, when the offer came in, I was still 21.
0:10:42 I didn’t know what success looked like.
0:10:46 The advice I’d give to founders now is never sell a winner.
0:10:48 But I didn’t, Reddit didn’t feel like a winner to me.
0:10:54 I think if we went back and looked at our numbers, it would be, there’d be signs of that.
0:10:56 Like we were growing and we didn’t know why.
0:10:57 That’s a great sign, right?
0:11:02 If you have so much product market fit, you don’t know why your product is working.
0:11:05 But we didn’t really know that at the time.
0:11:08 At the time, it felt like we were dysfunctional internally.
0:11:10 We didn’t really know what to do.
0:11:12 We didn’t really know how to fundraise.
0:11:23 There’s just so much, I think, ignorance and naivete that like when a company came and offered us real money for this thing, we were like, we would be really silly not to take it.
0:11:24 Right.
0:11:28 And I think we would have been silly not to take it.
0:11:29 We didn’t know what we were doing yet.
0:11:34 And so our time at Advance, Advance is still our largest shareholder.
0:11:47 Our time at Advance for the next three years after that acquisition, I think actually gave Reddit and we as individuals time to mature a bit, which in hindsight, I think worked out really well.
0:11:50 Yeah, so you stick around for a while.
0:11:53 You end up leaving in 2009.
0:11:58 And then during those six years, Reddit is growing and growing and growing.
0:12:02 And then things start to get a little bit controversial around the company.
0:12:07 There are issues with content moderation, issues with censorship.
0:12:11 While you’re gone, some core members of the team were fired.
0:12:16 The then-CEO, Ellen Powell, was under a lot of scrutiny.
0:12:19 And then you come back in 2015.
0:12:27 Give us a sense of what happened in those six years and tell us the story of returning to the company as CEO.
0:12:36 So during that time, so this is basically 2010 to 2015, I had left to start a different company, completely different company,
0:12:37 called Hitmonk.
0:12:38 We were doing travel search.
0:12:40 It couldn’t be more different.
0:12:52 Reddit spun out from Advance, which basically meant Reddit became an independent company again, had some cash on its balance sheet, had stock they can pay employees with.
0:12:59 It was one of the big challenges I had during the acquisition years was we couldn’t recruit with stock.
0:13:03 So we were recruiting against other tech companies, but basically to be an employee without equity.
0:13:05 And so that was really difficult.
0:13:06 So they realized that.
0:13:12 And so they gave Reddit its own cap table again.
0:13:16 Reddit grew, continued to grow.
0:13:20 Reddit brought in a couple external CEOs.
0:13:27 And then Reddit started to be tested on the content policy side.
0:13:37 Now, in the early days, so call it kind of that first Reddit era, the first five years or so, our content policy was we don’t take things down.
0:13:42 And this was kind of the founding principle of Reddit, which was we didn’t want to be the gatekeepers.
0:13:47 We didn’t want to be the deciders of what people can say on the internet.
0:13:53 That was kind of the reason we started Reddit is the alternative was news or even platforms like Slashdot where there were editors.
0:13:54 So there were gatekeepers.
0:13:56 So there were gatekeepers and we’re like, we’re not the gatekeepers.
0:14:02 Now, that was a relatively easy position to take because we didn’t have much to take down.
0:14:03 Right.
0:14:12 And so more difficult decisions about which content should be allowed or not, they weren’t really on our radar.
0:14:21 You know, most of this stuff was like, there’s like swear words, some edgy content and lots of stuff critical of Reddit.
0:14:34 But the content challenges we’d face later around, you know, just kind of call it generally bad behavior, weren’t really an issue for us.
0:14:37 And then that time when I was gone, it became an issue.
0:14:43 And the challenge the company faced is, and I learned this when I came back to the company in 2015.
0:14:47 And I was talking to folks, I was like, why aren’t you doing anything?
0:14:49 And they’re like, well, we don’t know what to do.
0:14:52 Or rather it was like, we’re afraid if we do anything, we’re going to break Reddit.
0:14:54 We don’t know how Reddit works.
0:14:55 We don’t know why Reddit works.
0:14:57 And if we make any change, we’re afraid we’re going to break it.
0:14:58 Right.
0:15:03 And it was really challenging culturally because Reddit was in the press for all of the wrong reasons.
0:15:09 So this is like 2015 and the press for all of the wrong reasons as being like a bad player on the internet.
0:15:12 And it was really demoralizing for the team.
0:15:14 It was about 70 employees at the time.
0:15:16 They were really demoralized.
0:15:17 They wouldn’t wear their swag.
0:15:18 Recruiting was really tough.
0:15:23 We would actually call people and they would laugh at us sometimes or get offended.
0:15:26 Like, how dare you suggest that I’d work at Reddit?
0:15:38 And I remember asking the employees at the time, it’s like, if this is so difficult and you’re so unhappy, why are you here?
0:15:39 Yeah.
0:15:41 And they’d say, well, because I love Reddit.
0:15:43 And I know Reddit’s really special.
0:15:47 And, you know, Reddit’s played a really important role in my life.
0:15:52 Some of them would say, I met my spouse, who, by the way, also works here on Reddit.
0:15:57 And I would say, well, that’s why I’m here too.
0:15:59 Because we knew it was really special.
0:16:06 And though we are in the press for all of the wrong reasons, it was still a minority of the content on Reddit.
0:16:10 But it happened to be the stuff that was on the front page and getting picked up on.
0:16:14 And it was like, you know, the other 99% of Reddit was really amazing.
0:16:18 I think really showing off the best of people and the best of humanity.
0:16:25 And so, well, I said, look, it’s not if we change, we’ll die.
0:16:29 It’s if we don’t change, we will die.
0:16:30 By the way, we’re dying.
0:16:32 Like, that’s why I’m here.
0:16:33 This thing is dying.
0:16:35 And it would be a real shame if it died.
0:16:36 Yes.
0:16:37 So we need to make some changes.
0:16:39 And so that’s when we created our content policy.
0:16:42 The content policy was basically non-existent.
0:16:47 Created the content policy, wrote the first version of the rules, created the safety team, started enforcing those things.
0:16:58 And it was a process that we had to go through publicly and with the community of drawing the line, figuring out where the line is, figuring out how to articulate it.
0:17:00 And look, it’s a journey we’re still on.
0:17:15 But I think it’s a — I think us being able to navigate that, I think in a very human, authentic way, has allowed Reddit to grow into what it is today.
0:17:17 Yeah, I mean, that was 10 years ago.
0:17:19 It was doing $12 million in revenue.
0:17:25 Fast forward to today, a billion dollars in revenue, sitting at around a $20 billion market cap today.
0:17:30 You just IPO’d, we’ll get to that, and we’ll get to the content moderation as well, which is important.
0:17:46 But if you had to give us a few of the main changes that you made in this past decade, when you came in to today, what would you say are the biggest changes that you made that had the biggest positive effect on the company?
0:17:47 There are a lot.
0:17:54 The big ones — the big ones, I think, are true — are relevant to any company.
0:17:56 Maybe all of these are relevant to any company.
0:18:01 The biggest one is we have to use some common sense.
0:18:07 And so this is back to the story I was just telling, which is it’s not change and die.
0:18:08 It’s change or die.
0:18:09 Right.
0:18:12 And asking the question of what is this platform for?
0:18:15 What experiences do we want people to have on it?
0:18:20 And what do we need to do to get to the best version of ourselves?
0:18:26 And you have to be willing, I think, to throw out things that you once believed.
0:18:39 And you have to be willing to evolve and grow and look at the world through the lens of reality, not the lens that we maybe had when we started the company, you know, whenever that was 10 years prior.
0:18:42 And that’s still something I tell the company.
0:18:45 You have to have common sense.
0:18:47 You have to use good judgment.
0:18:50 And you have to think about, like, is this product good?
0:18:51 Is this a place people want to be?
0:18:54 What is the difference between where we are and where we want to be?
0:18:56 And you have to be willing to change things to get there.
0:18:58 That’s the biggest one.
0:19:00 It’s just common sense and being practical.
0:19:05 Another big change for Reddit was we weren’t running as a business.
0:19:10 We were really idealistic.
0:19:13 And I think in many ways the idealism has been very good.
0:19:23 But we’re also idealistic about not being a business, which is not a great way to run a sustainable business.
0:19:26 And so we had to figure out, OK, what is our business model?
0:19:27 Ended up being ads.
0:19:35 And how are we going to do this in a way that fits with, you know, what we want this platform to be, fits with our values, and so forth.
0:19:45 And then there was some kind of similar-minded things, which is, like, the company just wasn’t — they were so afraid to make changes and to ship.
0:19:50 And that wrapped up in some of that idealism was also, like, not working very hard.
0:19:54 And, you know, it’s just like, look, we have to work really, really hard.
0:19:56 We’re in a competitive space.
0:19:57 What we do is really important.
0:19:59 We want to be successful.
0:20:04 Like, I think what Reddit provides people, this sense of community and belonging, is really important.
0:20:13 And if we don’t work really hard and work really smart and make this thing successful, both from a user’s point of view and business point of view, then we don’t get to do this.
0:20:14 And we’ll never achieve our mission.
0:20:29 And all of these high-minded things we love about Reddit, the way it enriches people’s lives and provides people a glimpse of into humanity you wouldn’t otherwise see and now serves as a knowledge source, they won’t exist if we don’t build the foundation.
0:20:32 Do you think this is still a problem today in tech?
0:20:38 I say that because I kind of think it might be where tech companies are too idealistic.
0:20:41 They don’t think of themselves as businesses.
0:20:43 They think their mission is something larger than that.
0:20:54 And it detracts from the ability to grow as a company because people are too interested in the idealism versus essentially the revenue in the bottom line.
0:20:57 Is that something that you notice in Silicon Valley today still?
0:21:00 There are shades of that.
0:21:02 I think there’s nothing wrong.
0:21:06 And I don’t think they’re really in conflict of having a big mission.
0:21:11 For us, it’s to empower communities and make their knowledge accessible to everyone.
0:21:15 There’s nothing wrong with having a big, inspiring mission.
0:21:16 Not only nothing wrong.
0:21:18 It’s, in my opinion, required.
0:21:21 That doesn’t come at the expense of building a business.
0:21:26 Building a business is required to achieve the mission.
0:21:30 To do anything at world scale, you need world scale resources.
0:21:35 And so you can’t fundraise your way to doing something world scale indefinitely.
0:21:36 Right.
0:21:42 You know, maybe there’s some AI companies proving to the contrary in the short term, but at some point you have to be self-sustaining.
0:21:43 Yes.
0:22:01 The other thing that I’ve seen, though, in the Bay Area broadly is, it’s almost an entitlement of, you know, I work at these companies, but I don’t have to work very hard and I’m here for myself.
0:22:12 And almost sometimes taking, I think, taking ideas from other successful companies and perverting them.
0:22:20 So here’s one that I used to see a lot is, is, is Apple had this, um, philosophy of like, it’s done when it’s done.
0:22:21 Right.
0:22:25 I, uh, you know, they, externally, I don’t know about internally.
0:22:27 I’ve never worked at Apple externally.
0:22:30 Um, you know, they wouldn’t have deadlines.
0:22:38 They would build these beautiful artisanal, you know, best in the world products and ship them when they’re ready.
0:22:40 Great.
0:22:40 Right.
0:22:42 And they had hit after hit, after hit, after hit.
0:22:47 But then I would hear this from engineers who are like, I’m like, when is this going to be done?
0:22:49 And they say, well, it’ll be done when it’s ready.
0:22:50 Okay.
0:22:51 But like, when is it going to be done?
0:22:53 Well, it’ll be done when it’s ready.
0:22:56 But then the version I get isn’t this artisanal world class product.
0:22:58 It’s like late and shitty.
0:23:00 Um, and I’m, so I’m like, you’re not Apple.
0:23:02 Like, I don’t know what Apple’s doing over there, but we’re not Apple.
0:23:03 You’re not Apple.
0:23:04 I’m not Apple.
0:23:10 Like, so, um, and so I remember having versions of that, you know, that conversation.
0:23:12 Um, and I did this as an engineer too.
0:23:13 I was like, well, don’t rush me.
0:23:15 I’m the artist, you know, it’ll be done when it’s done.
0:23:17 Now it’s more like, okay.
0:23:18 Yeah.
0:23:19 What can we do in a week?
0:23:21 Let’s get this thing, get this thing rolling.
0:23:27 And so that’s part of, honestly, I think not just the company’s maturation, but, but my maturation along with it.
0:23:30 And our team’s maturation, you know, over, over that story as well.
0:23:35 But I’ve just seen so many startups with that mentality over the years.
0:23:36 Yeah.
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0:25:40 Let’s talk about the IPO.
0:25:43 So, Reddit went public in March of last year.
0:25:46 The issuance price was $34 a share.
0:25:49 It’s now sitting at around $100 a share.
0:25:52 So, it’s been a pretty good year for you.
0:25:53 It was this morning.
0:25:54 It was this morning.
0:25:56 Things are changing.
0:25:59 Last I checked, you’re at around $100.
0:26:00 We’re at around $100.
0:26:04 What have been some of the main learnings about going public?
0:26:12 What are the biggest differences between running a private company versus now, today, running a public company?
0:26:17 The biggest differences are really obvious.
0:26:20 We have a public share price.
0:26:30 We have certain requirements that we have to live up to in terms of disclosures and transparency and so forth.
0:26:42 And we have now a massive shareholder base versus having, you know, just a handful of, you know, private institutional investors.
0:26:50 Now, because of all of those requirements, we are a better business for sure.
0:27:07 I think the public company quarterly rhythm of saying what you’re going to do, doing it, hitting your numbers, closing the quarter, doing the audit, no fuck ups, doing the board meeting, the earnings call.
0:27:09 And then for us, we do some extra stuff.
0:27:11 We basically do a whole other earning cycle with our user base.
0:27:23 That rhythm and talking to our investors and talking to our retail investors, our user investors, has without a doubt made us a substantially better company.
0:27:25 It just raises the bar.
0:27:30 And I think we make better decisions now.
0:27:35 We communicate, you know, we articulate our strategy better.
0:27:37 We work harder.
0:27:45 And I don’t know whether it’s the sense of duty to our shareholders, to our user shareholders, the fear of failure, the desire to succeed.
0:27:46 It’s actually all of these things.
0:27:55 But they’ve all, I think, created an environment where we’re doing the best work that we’ve done.
0:28:04 And then, as I’ve said almost every day for the last 10 years since I returned to Reddit, we can be so much better.
0:28:05 We can be so much better.
0:28:10 And I think we have a duty to our users, to our employees, to our shareholders to be as good as we can be.
0:28:11 Yeah.
0:28:20 And so, yeah, there are aspects of it that can be more challenging, you know, like turbulent market times like today.
0:28:25 For those who are listening on the podcast, on the audio, the tariffs just went into effect.
0:28:27 Today is liberation day.
0:28:29 This is what we’re talking about.
0:28:31 We’re liberating Americans from their wealth.
0:28:32 Yeah.
0:28:48 But, you know, but honestly, I’d rather have the up-to-date mark than when we’re a private company, you don’t really know your valuation and you have no liquidity and you can’t use it.
0:29:02 I think, yes, there’s some burdens that come along with it, but I think the environment and the requirements and the high standards have been really good for us.
0:29:05 You mentioned you do the second earnings call.
0:29:06 I find this so interesting.
0:29:07 I’m obsessed with this.
0:29:11 You have this very strange approach to investor relations, which I love.
0:29:24 You do your regular earnings call, but then after the regular earnings call, you go on to Reddit and you do a second earnings call, which is basically an AMA, like an Ask Me Anything.
0:29:33 And, you know, you’ll take questions from all the users of Reddit and they’ll ask you everything about the company, which to me is the way that we should be doing investor relations today.
0:29:36 I find the regular earnings call is boring.
0:29:37 It’s uninteresting.
0:29:38 I don’t care.
0:29:41 The analyst questions are uninteresting to me.
0:29:46 I think what you’re doing is engaging with the user base in a very different way.
0:29:48 Why did you decide to do that?
0:29:52 And just take us through your approach to investor relations more generally.
0:29:54 Let me just zoom out for a second and talk about Reddit.
0:29:57 Reddit is a user powered platform.
0:30:00 Our users have created everything that’s interesting about Reddit.
0:30:14 We technically we’ve built a very simple platform for creating communities, submitting posts and ranking those posts through voting and having conversations in the form of comments.
0:30:26 What our users have done is created, you know, thousands of communities for every topic imaginable, whatever you’re into, whatever you’re going through.
0:30:28 And I think it’s truly special.
0:30:30 It’s the most human place on the internet.
0:30:40 And our users feel, rightly so, a deep sense of ownership over what they’ve created in Reddit.
0:30:45 Their communities are their home online and sometimes much more than that.
0:30:52 And so I wanted that sense of ownership to be actual ownership.
0:30:57 And so one of the reasons we went public is I thought being public actually fits the spirit of Reddit.
0:30:58 Right.
0:30:59 Right.
0:31:00 Transparency and public ownership.
0:31:03 Like those are really important concepts to Reddit.
0:31:08 And so we wanted our users to be or have the opportunity to be owners, shareholders.
0:31:26 So throughout the entire IPO process from including our user base in the IPO, as in we made it accessible to every user of the platform to buy Reddit stock at the IPO price.
0:31:37 Not the first trade price, but the price that we sold stock to, to the bankers and professional investors, we also sold to our users.
0:31:45 So that means they, every, but every user who took advantage of that got to enjoy the pop.
0:31:46 Right.
0:31:48 Which is not usually the case in an IPO.
0:31:53 Usually retail comes in after the pop, which is why the pop feels so unfair.
0:32:05 So we said, we want to bring them in at the pop and we want to give them as much information as we can the same way we would to the professional investors so that they can make smart decisions there or make the best decisions for themselves.
0:32:11 So we did that in the IPO process and we continued to do it, uh, every quarter now.
0:32:22 So we do our earnings, um, we do our investor callbacks, and then we go onto the platform and we, uh, we solicit the questions from the community, um, every earnings.
0:32:25 And then we answer as many of those questions as we can.
0:32:30 So I, our CFO drew and our COO Jen, we’ll, we try to do it in one take.
0:32:34 Um, we’ll do a 30 minute to an hour, one take.
0:32:40 We’ll just rip through as many user questions as we can and giving them the most fulsome answer that we can.
0:32:46 Uh, their questions, um, I do think yes, are a little more interesting than what we get, uh, on the earnings calls.
0:32:47 Right.
0:32:48 And I think both are valuable though.
0:32:57 So you get a lot of the kind of technical quarter to quarter, um, you know, what’s your revenue, what’s your traffic, what’s the next quarter going to look like calls on the earnings calls.
0:33:00 And then from our users, they’re like, why’d you fuck up this feature?
0:33:01 And like, what are you doing next?
0:33:02 And like, blah, blah, blah.
0:33:04 It’s like super interesting stuff.
0:33:05 And I really enjoy doing it.
0:33:06 I love talking about Reddit.
0:33:10 Um, and we’re seeing traction in that community pickup.
0:33:11 So we’ve been doing it a year.
0:33:15 Um, and we’ll just keep, you know, we’ll just keep, uh, we’ll keep doing that.
0:33:16 I think it’s the right thing to do.
0:33:17 And it’s a lot of fun.
0:33:22 We had a listener question about the subject from user Occam’s racer.
0:33:28 Uh, they say, what lessons did you learn from including Reddit members in the IPO?
0:33:29 And would you do it again?
0:33:31 Sounds like the answer is.
0:33:32 The answer is, would we do it again?
0:33:33 Yes.
0:33:42 Um, my only regret is, um, I wanted to get more users, uh, in the stock.
0:33:47 Um, and one of the parts of the IPO process, and I don’t know the right way to fix this.
0:33:52 I’ll just tell you our experience was there’s like one thing you can’t say in an IPO process.
0:33:57 It’s just as a, you know, part of management of the company is you can’t, you can’t sell the stock.
0:33:58 You can’t be out there pitching.
0:34:03 And so our only communication with the user base was basically through our prospectus.
0:34:04 Right.
0:34:08 Which is like a, you know, 200 page document describing everything there is about Reddit.
0:34:17 Um, but I, I, I wish there was a way for us to have communicated more on their level.
0:34:18 Right.
0:34:28 Of like why we think this is important, why they should be in the stock, why we think this is an awesome opportunity to invest at the IPO, even explaining the dynamics of like how the pricing works and how the pop works.
0:34:31 Um, you know, you, you can’t do that.
0:34:46 Um, just legally, but I wish we could have done more because I think, uh, a lot of people, I think a lot more users would have invested and would have done very well if we could have been more successful in that.
0:34:51 Um, and you’re very limited in what you can say from my communications from comms.
0:34:54 Like you really can’t talk to the press during that time is either.
0:34:58 And so you’re kind of at the mercy of what like the press or investor press thinks of you.
0:35:00 And they were really hard on us, right?
0:35:03 They, they were framing Reddit as a terrible business.
0:35:05 And so it scared a lot of people out of participating.
0:35:09 And, and that was just a bummer because we knew the business was doing great.
0:35:12 We tried to make that as clear as we could in the prospectus.
0:35:18 We knew we were going to price it low because we wanted the price to go up, which happened, but you definitely can’t say that.
0:35:20 So it’s just like, I have some sadness around that.
0:35:22 I wish we could have gotten more users in.
0:35:23 Right.
0:35:28 Um, but I, I understand why, but it’s just, it’s a missed opportunity.
0:35:33 Let’s talk about content moderation, um, censorship, free speech.
0:35:36 These are sort of the issues of the day right now.
0:35:40 Um, there’s been a huge amount of debate over this.
0:35:44 It probably all kind of started when Elon bought Twitter.
0:35:50 I mean, the idea was to make free speech available and legal again.
0:35:52 That was at least the stated intention.
0:36:04 And then just this year after Trump was elected, we saw a shift from Zuckerberg who decided to move his content moderation policies in a different direction.
0:36:14 And he decided to get rid of content moderators at the company, um, and move to a more community-based moderation system.
0:36:18 You are sort of at the epicenter of all of this.
0:36:30 Um, and actually Reddit is a lot closer to the community-moderated end of things versus, uh, having a centralized system of removing content.
0:36:35 So give us your views on content moderation today, free speech.
0:36:40 Where do you stand on the issues and how does Reddit fit into this conversation?
0:36:41 Okay.
0:36:43 So let’s just go a little bit further back in time.
0:36:44 Okay.
0:36:47 Um, cause there is a history of the internet prior to when Elon bought Twitter.
0:36:56 And there is a history of free speech in this country that’s a little bit older than, um, three years ago.
0:37:03 Free speech in the first amendment is literally the founding law of the land.
0:37:13 It’s something I think sometimes Americans take for granted as being, um, one of the only countries on earth that actually has free speech in the constitution.
0:37:17 Um, and definitely the only country that enforces it the way that we do.
0:37:19 Um, I think it’s really, really important.
0:37:23 And we take a lot of how Reddit works.
0:37:25 We take from the United States, right?
0:37:27 The whole platform is a democratic platform.
0:37:30 And we believe in free expression and free expression and free association.
0:37:40 And we also believe in this democratic idea of empowering our users.
0:37:45 That is the founding principle of Reddit is we don’t get the, we don’t decide what people say and do.
0:37:51 We create a platform where users self-organize and, um, kind of are free to express themselves.
0:38:00 Now there’s a big difference between Reddit and the United States, which is Reddit is a, we’re not a country, we’re a community platform.
0:38:08 Um, and ultimately we’re building a community where people have to want to be, you don’t broadly get a choice of which country you live in.
0:38:14 Um, uh, not, not at the, not at internet scale, at least.
0:38:19 And so, you know, we start with the idea of free speech and free expression.
0:38:28 Um, and now we’ve put some constraints on Reddit, um, that are expressed in our content policy.
0:38:33 Now, every word in our content policy is a, is a lesson that we learned the hard way.
0:38:36 Um, it’s fairly straightforward, right?
0:38:47 No hate, harassment, bullying, uh, no inciting or glorifying violence, no spam, nothing illegal, uh, no involuntary sexualization, nothing involving kids.
0:38:52 Um, those rules are all very important to us.
0:39:05 Um, but we want Reddit to be a place where people can express themselves and have debate and dissent and even protest on Reddit, uh, which happens from time to time.
0:39:10 Now our model starts though, not with the centralized moderation.
0:39:12 It starts with community moderation.
0:39:13 Right.
0:39:16 And so every piece of content on Reddit is created by users.
0:39:19 And every piece of content is voted up or down by users.
0:39:25 Um, nothing on Reddit becomes popular without a community of people making it popular through voting.
0:39:28 Um, and within the context of a community, users can also downvote things.
0:39:39 And so if somebody is behaving, you know, badly or being an asshole, whether or not like being an asshole is not against our, our, our rules, they’ll probably just get downvoted.
0:39:41 In most communities, they’ll get downvoted.
0:39:42 Not all.
0:39:47 And that’s kind of the point is the communities can set the tone of conversation for themselves.
0:39:55 And I think one of the things that makes Reddit a really, truly special place, um, is because we let people be people.
0:39:59 And one of the lessons I’ve learned just about humanity is people want nice things.
0:40:00 They want to have nice experiences.
0:40:12 Um, and so, uh, in communities, groups of people within Reddit, off of Reddit, online, offline, they’ll, they’ll create these experiences for themselves.
0:40:15 You know, just even think of like a, you know, a room like this, right.
0:40:18 For the listening audience, I’m in a room with about 200 people.
0:40:29 Um, I can technically say whatever I want, but there’s like rules of decorum that, uh, that we kind of informally agree to for how I’ll conduct myself and how you’ll conduct yourselves.
0:40:33 And I think those rules of decorum, those are, those come from communities and they’re really, really important.
0:40:35 And so we see that on Reddit.
0:40:38 And then outside of the user voting, we have moderators.
0:40:41 Now, when we say moderator, it’s not an employee of Reddit.
0:40:44 It’s a user who creates a community on Reddit and becomes a moderator.
0:40:47 And so they have complete control over their communities.
0:40:51 And so the way we think about Reddit, it’s like a federalist system.
0:40:54 We have our site-wide platform-wide rules.
0:40:55 Those are like federal laws.
0:40:58 And then our communities have their own rules written for themselves.
0:41:00 Those are like state laws.
0:41:03 And the community rules can be as strict as they like.
0:41:08 Um, and you know, some are quite strict, some are not.
0:41:15 Far and away the most common user written rule for communities on Reddit is be nice or be civil.
0:41:20 It’s not really a practical platform-wide rule.
0:41:24 We’d never be able to enforce it any more than it is a practical law.
0:41:27 But it is kind of a rule we have in society broadly.
0:41:29 And it’s a rule that you see on Reddit all the time.
0:41:30 And the communities enforce it for themselves.
0:41:32 And it’s really, really powerful.
0:41:33 It’s really powerful.
0:41:37 Now, we’ve been doing this on Reddit for 20 years.
0:41:47 That’s five presidential elections and, you know, uh, five, uh, um, you know, transitions.
0:41:50 The political wind blows this way and that way.
0:41:56 But what you haven’t seen is, is Reddit rushing to one direction or the other.
0:42:02 I think the only sane way to live is to make decisions from your own values and own principles.
0:42:13 And so there’s been a steady, I think, change and evolution on Reddit of how we moderate, of how the systems work, of what our own rules are, of what the community rules are.
0:42:20 Um, but they come from our own needs and they’ve served us very well.
0:42:22 So we’re not done evolving.
0:42:25 It, it always kind of comes and goes and, and, and the temperature raises and lowers.
0:42:37 Um, but I think starting with our communities, starting with our users and starting with our own common sense and basic human decency has gotten us, um, has gotten us to where we are today.
0:42:39 And I’m proud of where we are today.
0:42:41 We’ll be right back.
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0:43:33 I want to talk about the future of Reddit.
0:43:36 Um, and I’m going to start with a question from a user.
0:43:38 This is from David949.
0:43:41 When is Reddit going to have its own AI?
0:43:51 For example, you could ask a question and an LLM responds with data trained from within Reddit.
0:43:54 So much of Reddit is people asking the same questions over and over again without searching through the past.
0:43:55 That exists.
0:43:56 That exists.
0:43:57 It’s called Reddit Answers.
0:43:58 You can use it today.
0:44:00 I think you have to be logged in.
0:44:02 You can go to reddit.com/answers or you can go in the app.
0:44:03 It’s done on the bottom.
0:44:11 Um, ask it any question and it will give you an answer, uh, from Reddit.
0:44:15 And it’s a, it’s a, it’s a, it’s a cool little product.
0:44:27 We built it in like 90 days, almost as a tech demo, just to get it out there, um, to answer the question of how deep is the Reddit corpus and how useful is it to answering subjective questions.
0:44:29 And the answer is extremely deep.
0:44:32 It’s 20 years of people talking about everything.
0:44:33 Yes.
0:44:34 And it’s really, really useful.
0:44:42 So, um, so whatever it is, um, you know, whether it’s like, what’s, you know, what are fun things to do in San Francisco?
0:44:43 What’s the best pizza in New York?
0:44:45 Like what’s the best backpack for traveling?
0:44:46 You know, whatever it is.
0:44:49 Um, it’s great for travel.
0:44:51 Like what should I do in Thailand or this or that?
0:44:55 Um, you’ll get an answer fully from Reddit content.
0:45:00 And I think it’s unlike any other products, uh, in existence on the internet.
0:45:03 Um, and because it’s from Reddit, it’s kind of live.
0:45:09 It’s, it’s constantly, you know, up to date and fresh with whatever people are, um, talking about right now.
0:45:10 So the answer is we have that.
0:45:16 And a lot of what we’re doing this year is investing more in that, uh, making that product more cohesive into the Reddit products.
0:45:20 Uh, you know, just generally improving it because we really whipped it together and bolted it on.
0:45:23 And so now we’re going to go back through and do a really nice job on it.
0:45:33 Yeah, the way I would put it, you’re basically sitting on one of the giant, the most gigantic treasure troves of data that kind of exists today.
0:45:35 And I just want to go through some other stats about Reddit.
0:45:43 So Reddit is the sixth most searched term on Google in 2024 after news and before map.
0:45:46 Uh, more than a hundred million people use the platform every day.
0:45:53 It is the ninth most visited website in the world ahead of Amazon, ahead of TikTok and ahead of Netflix.
0:46:05 But then I look at the company and you look at the revenue and you look at the market cap and compared to those companies, compared to Amazon, compared to Netflix, it does pale in comparison.
0:46:13 And this is a question that we got from actually a lot of Redditors, which is what is the plan to monetize Reddit?
0:46:14 Is there a future?
0:46:26 Is there a world in which Reddit, you know, given its size, given its influence, can compete both from a revenue perspective and a valuation perspective as the biggest companies in the world, the Amazons, the Googles?
0:46:27 Sure.
0:46:28 Look, I think it’s very simple.
0:46:35 Um, the, the market cap follows the revenue, the revenue follows the users.
0:46:37 And so we think about how do we grow?
0:46:42 Um, Reddit is, uh, I think has universal appeal.
0:46:44 It’s communities, literally everybody in this room.
0:46:53 If you’re not a Reddit user, um, you have a home on Reddit, whatever you’re into, whatever you’re thinking about buying, whatever you’re going through.
0:47:02 And what I mean, going through, I mean, whether it’s parenting relationships, jobs, you know, I joke, but it’s not a joke.
0:47:04 Uh, everybody’s got a rash, right?
0:47:06 Everybody’s got a thing they’re going through.
0:47:10 It’s on Reddit and you can talk about it on Reddit without fear.
0:47:12 That’s going to come back to your real world identity.
0:47:19 Um, and so I think we’re one of the few platforms that literally everybody in the internet can enjoy.
0:47:23 And so our job is to reveal that.
0:47:27 So, you know, make it so when you open the app for the first time, you actually find your home.
0:47:32 Um, you know, we were talking about moderation before making sure you’re not scared away in your first session.
0:47:37 Um, you know, that’s the, that’s the community platform, the community that people want to be on idea.
0:47:39 Um, growing internationally.
0:47:43 So, you know, translation is, is one of our big efforts there.
0:47:47 Um, today we’re a platform with about a hundred million daily visitors.
0:47:51 You know, we think about how do we get to a billion?
0:47:53 Well, I can tell you very succinctly.
0:47:59 We have about 50 in the U S 50 outside the U S I think we can double or triple in the U S we have about 50 million Americans visit Reddit every day.
0:48:03 We have about 170, uh, Americans visit Reddit every week.
0:48:05 And so you can see the potential right there.
0:48:11 Um, we’re only about 50% international, but our peers are 80 to 95% international.
0:48:13 We would expect to be in that range as well.
0:48:21 Um, so I think we should be able to double or triple in the U S and I think we should be able to 10 to 20 X outside the U S and users and then revenue and market cap will follow that.
0:48:30 And the revenue comes from advertising mostly, or is there a world where, you know, you’re selling the data that you have maybe to be used in AI.
0:48:35 I know there’s this content partnership with open AI that you guys have, or maybe subscription.
0:48:37 Ads is a primary business model.
0:48:39 Ads is great because it’s scales and it’s also universal.
0:48:44 Um, you know, every company’s customers are on Reddit.
0:48:46 And so ads is really, really powerful from that point of view.
0:48:48 And we can, we have first party targeting, right?
0:48:50 People express their interests on Reddit.
0:48:55 Um, you know, all of your hobbies, again, whatever you’re thinking about doing, purchasing, whatever.
0:48:56 So ads, it’s a great fit.
0:48:57 That’ll be our primary business model.
0:48:58 I’m sure for forever.
0:49:01 Um, but we also do data licensing.
0:49:08 Um, so, uh, we’ve got a couple of big customers there at Google, open AI, a lot of smaller customers there as well.
0:49:11 Um, and then subscriptions as an opportunity as well.
0:49:13 Uh, we have that business today, but it’s fairly small.
0:49:14 I think there’s a lot more we can do there.
0:49:17 We’ve talked a lot about Reddit, the company.
0:49:22 I’d love to talk about you as a founder, as we wrap up here.
0:49:27 Um, you’ve built one of the great companies of our time.
0:49:31 Um, you serve hundreds of millions of people.
0:49:34 You oversee thousands of employees.
0:49:38 Put simply, you are a good leader.
0:49:39 Clearly.
0:49:47 Um, and so I’d love to know, in your view, what does it take to be a great leader?
0:49:53 Um, for anyone who’s running an organization, whether it’s a company, a nonprofit, whatever
0:49:58 it is, what are some of the key strategies and principles it takes to lead well?
0:49:59 Thank you.
0:50:02 It’s very kind of you to say I won’t dispute the premise because we only have a minute.
0:50:06 Um, but I’ll, I’ll tell you that the things that I think about, if that hopefully they’re
0:50:08 helpful, um, hopefully helpful to you.
0:50:13 Um, I think the most important thing is just being honest.
0:50:14 Like, what are you trying to do?
0:50:15 Why do you want to do it?
0:50:17 What does it take to get there?
0:50:18 Uh, what’s going well?
0:50:19 What’s not going well?
0:50:21 Um, like, what are your hopes?
0:50:22 What are your dreams?
0:50:23 What are your fears?
0:50:25 So I think it’s very basic human stuff.
0:50:31 Um, I think, uh, that sort of mentality works.
0:50:35 Mentality works at every scale, whether I’m doing a public conversation like this, or I’m
0:50:38 talking to the whole company internally, or just talking to a team or an individual.
0:50:45 Um, just being straightforward about what we’re trying to do and why and, uh, not sugarcoating
0:50:50 things, I think is, um, uh, I think is, is really important.
0:50:57 I think vulnerability builds trust and then trust, uh, is what builds, you know, cohesive
0:50:58 teams.
0:51:00 Of course, cohesive teams to do things.
0:51:05 Um, and so I think it’s easy to say, I think sometimes it’s hard to do.
0:51:11 Um, the other thing that I think is really important is just being present, right?
0:51:17 Showing up and working and caring and being a part of the team, you know, at every scale.
0:51:22 Um, so I think it’s, let’s call it trust and showing up trust and presence.
0:51:27 You’ve also had to make some really hard decisions as the leader of this company, considering all
0:51:30 of the controversy that you’ve talked about over the, over the years.
0:51:33 Um, do you have any principles for decision-making?
0:51:34 Yes.
0:51:36 Um, how to make tough decisions?
0:51:37 Oh my God.
0:51:39 I could talk for a whole hour about making decisions.
0:51:41 Um, so principles.
0:51:42 Yes.
0:51:43 I think in principles.
0:51:48 Um, and so at Reddit, we have, we have our mission.
0:51:50 We have company values.
0:51:51 We have five of those.
0:51:52 We have platform values.
0:51:53 We have five of those.
0:51:54 We have privacy principles.
0:51:59 We have various on various product service areas, various principles for them.
0:52:05 These are basically enumerated rules for what we will and won’t do and how we should do things.
0:52:13 Um, and then when we make decisions, you know, I have a whole kind of process for making decisions
0:52:16 and a whole presentation at Reddit for how to make decisions.
0:52:24 Um, but the very short version is first take your decision, try to escalate it to a value
0:52:28 or a principle, and then make the decision using that value or principle.
0:52:37 And I think the thing about values is they exist for one reason, which is to make hard decisions.
0:52:42 And so if you’re not using your values to make hard decisions, then they’re not your values.
0:52:44 They’re just things you wrote.
0:52:49 Um, you know, there, there were idealistic things you wrote that you later ignored when
0:52:50 you needed them.
0:52:56 And so, yeah, I can give you one, one, one of, um, off the top of my head is, is we have
0:52:59 a value called default open, which is both internally, externally.
0:53:03 We try to share when we can, like, why are we doing something?
0:53:04 What’s the data?
0:53:06 Like, what’s the reasoning behind this?
0:53:09 Um, and this, this comes up all the time internally at work.
0:53:12 We try to share as much information as we can with the whole company.
0:53:17 At public company, that is one drawback as we, as we, um, within the quarter, there’s some
0:53:18 things we can’t share.
0:53:24 Um, but, uh, within the company and externally, we try to share our reasoning.
0:53:30 One of the bees in my bonnets, uh, is when we’ll make a post for a product feature and we try
0:53:33 to frame a company problem as a user problem.
0:53:35 Um, that drives me nuts.
0:53:36 I hate when we do it.
0:53:41 Um, uh, you know, it’s, it’s like, and companies do this all the time.
0:53:44 They’re making some change in the best interest of the company.
0:53:46 And you’re trying to convince the user it’s in the best interest of them.
0:53:47 Um, and okay.
0:53:48 What’s an example?
0:53:52 Uh, you come to read it from Google on mobile web and we’re like, download the app.
0:53:53 We used to be much more aggressive about that.
0:53:54 And then we used to say, I think like download the app.
0:53:55 It’s a better experience.
0:53:56 Just like technically true.
0:53:57 But what we should say is like download the app.
0:53:59 It gives us more app users, which is more valuable to the company.
0:54:00 Um, because users can tell when you’re kind of bullshitting them and they get really mad.
0:54:03 And honestly, I think if we ever do cross promo again, it will say download the app.
0:54:04 It’s better for our business.
0:54:05 Yes.
0:54:06 I bet it would actually, users would understand.
0:54:07 A hundred percent.
0:54:11 Like if it’s just like that sort of thing, it’s just like, just tell them the truth of why
0:54:12 you’re doing this.
0:54:13 And it’s not always to their benefit.
0:54:14 Sometimes it’s your benefit.
0:54:15 It’d be better if it was to their benefit.
0:54:16 So why don’t you start there?
0:54:17 Exactly.
0:54:18 Solve the user problems.
0:54:19 But if you’re going to solve a company problem, just tell the users.
0:54:20 We’re solving a company problem.
0:54:21 You know why we sell ads to make money.
0:54:23 You know why we make money to keep this thing online.
0:54:25 So that’s, I think, an example of, for example, if you’re going to solve a company problem,
0:54:26 you know why we sell ads to make money.
0:54:27 You know why we make money?
0:54:28 To keep this thing online.
0:54:31 So that’s, I think, an example of, for example, when you’re going to solve a company problem,
0:54:32 you know why we sell ads to make money.
0:54:35 You know why we make money to keep this thing online.
0:54:42 So that’s, I think, an example of, for example, our default open value.
0:54:46 And when we violate that value, it’s not great.
0:54:49 You’ve built a great team at Reddit.
0:54:52 I’ve met many of them before we spoke.
0:55:00 I’m someone who believes that great companies are basically a result of having great talent and a great team.
0:55:03 Everything else, to me, is sort of downstream of that.
0:55:07 As we wrap up here, what are your views on team building?
0:55:12 And what is your strategy for building and retaining great talent?
0:55:13 Okay, I think you’re exactly right.
0:55:16 Great companies are built by great people.
0:55:18 Full style.
0:55:27 So the way we attract talent is through all the stuff we’ve been talking about.
0:55:30 We have a mission that gets people excited and inspired.
0:55:32 We have a product that is really fun.
0:55:39 We have a company culture, I think, as a result that feels both important and fun.
0:55:46 And, you know, we try to be straightforward about these things.
0:55:47 Like, what’s the challenge?
0:55:48 What’s the opportunities?
0:55:51 What do we get if we’re successful?
0:55:54 And I tell people, look, you can come to Reddit.
0:55:56 You can work on this really fun product.
0:55:58 We get to do things at world scale.
0:56:03 We still have the opportunity to grow, you know, 10, 20x.
0:56:09 And if we are successful in that sort of growth and achieving our mission, we can look at our work and be really proud of what we’ve done.
0:56:12 And I think people find that really inspiring.
0:56:14 And that’s what they’re selecting when they join Reddit.
0:56:22 And what we don’t believe in are, like, I’m never trying to coerce people to join Reddit.
0:56:23 I’m never trying to trick them to join Reddit.
0:56:25 I don’t believe in golden handcuffs.
0:56:27 You know, it’s a free market.
0:56:30 We want people at Reddit who want to be at Reddit.
0:56:32 And so the inverse is also true.
0:56:35 Like, we do our very best to retain our best people.
0:56:42 But when it’s time to go, because, you know, they want to pursue a different opportunity or my favorite reason people leave is to start their own thing.
0:56:44 You know, we say thank you for your service.
0:56:45 How can we be of help?
0:56:47 Hope to see you again someday.
0:56:50 And we have had a lot of people leave and come back.
0:56:52 Including you.
0:56:53 Including me, right?
0:56:56 So, I wanted to start my own company again.
0:56:57 And preferred Reddit.
0:57:00 Actually, that cycle has happened for a lot of employees.
0:57:04 So, again, yeah, we just try to be very straightforward.
0:57:05 What are we doing?
0:57:06 Why are we doing it?
0:57:07 Why is it important?
0:57:10 And if that’s important to you, then I think you’ll really love working at Reddit.
0:57:13 And final fast question, and then I’m going to let you go.
0:57:16 Many young entrepreneurs listen to this podcast.
0:57:22 If you were to give one piece of advice to a founder who’s just starting up today, what would it be?
0:57:32 I think the cliche piece of advice here is really good.
0:57:34 Which is, there’s no substitute for hard work.
0:57:38 You know, take your idea.
0:57:40 You don’t know if it’s good or bad.
0:57:41 You think it’s good.
0:57:42 Everybody else thinks it’s bad.
0:57:44 Which is always going to be the case.
0:57:46 And work really, really hard on it.
0:57:48 And see if you can turn it into something.
0:57:52 If you don’t work really, really hard on it, it will not work.
0:57:56 And if you work really, really hard on it and it doesn’t work, maybe just try to do something else.
0:58:01 So I think that’s one of the only variables that you can definitely control.
0:58:06 Is showing up every day, giving a damn, and working really, really hard on it.
0:58:12 And hopefully finding people along the way who will have the same mentality.
0:58:16 Steve Huffman is the co-founder and CEO of Reddit.
0:58:18 Steve, really appreciate your time.
0:58:19 My pleasure.
0:58:21 Thanks, folks.
0:58:24 Thank you.
0:58:25 And now I’ve got to read the credits.
0:58:28 This episode was produced by Claire Miller, who is over there.
0:58:29 Thank you, Claire.
0:58:31 And engineered by Benjamin Spencer.
0:58:33 Drew Burrows is our technical director.
0:58:35 Alison Weiss is our associate producer.
0:58:37 And Dan Cholen is our intern.
0:58:40 Thank you for listening to First Time Founders from the Vox Media Podcast Network.
0:58:42 Thank you to YPO for hosting us.
0:58:43 And thank you all for coming.
0:58:44 It’s been really great.
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May 3, 2025

No Mercy / No Malice: The Great Rotation

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0:00:03 Spring is here, and you can now get almost anything you need delivered with Uber Eats.
0:00:04 What do we mean by almost?
0:00:08 You can’t get a well-groomed lawn delivered, but you can get chicken parmesan delivered.
0:00:09 Sunshine? No.
0:00:10 Some wine? Yes.
0:00:12 Get almost, almost anything delivered with Uber Eats.
0:00:13 Order now.
0:00:14 Alcohol in select markets.
0:00:14 See app for details.
0:00:22 If you think talking about finances in general is hard, try talking to your parents about money.
0:00:25 What you don’t want to do is like, do you have any money?
0:00:25 What’s going on?
0:00:30 You don’t want to come at them in a more adversarial way.
0:00:33 Or, as I said, you don’t want to come out like you’re now the parent.
0:00:37 What to do about the ups and downs of your 401k?
0:00:43 If you or someone you care about plans to retire soon, that’s on the next Explain It To Me.
0:00:45 New episodes every Sunday morning.
0:00:55 Waveform Podcast, and I wanted to tell you about a special episode we just released called
0:00:58 Your Favorite Creators’ Favorite Cameras.
0:01:01 This is pretty much the biggest behind-the-scenes video on the internet.
0:01:06 We talked to Casey Neistat on why he switched cameras after shooting Canon for so many years,
0:01:11 one of the hosts of the travel game show Jetlag, The Game, whose award-winning show is entirely
0:01:16 shot on iPhones, and tons of other tech, food, and filmmaking creators.
0:01:20 So, if you want to see how your favorite creator is filming their videos, be sure to check out
0:01:22 Waveform wherever you listen to your podcasts.
0:01:27 I’m Scott Galloway, and this is No Mercy, No Malice.
0:01:30 The U.S. has had a great run.
0:01:31 Had.
0:01:35 The Great Rotation, as read by George Hahn.
0:01:47 Stay in your lane, is a person’s way of saying they disagree with you, but they’re too lazy
0:01:49 to counter your points with any evidence or argument.
0:01:52 I get this a lot when I talk about politics.
0:01:58 Separating business from politics is akin to believing that fish swim independent of the
0:01:59 water’s current.
0:02:05 America’s toxic uncertainty is urging capital to look elsewhere.
0:02:12 The world’s biggest yard sale is taking place now that brand America is sick, and the world
0:02:20 is on the front lawn, hoping to pick up $26 trillion in economic activity on the cheap.
0:02:28 Capital flows into EU index funds, and institutional interest in investing in the U.S. are at 30-year
0:02:30 highs and lows, respectively.
0:02:35 As such, I believe Europe and China represent investment opportunities.
0:02:42 Since the fourth quarter of 2024, I’ve been reallocating capital out of the U.S.
0:02:46 Note, this post isn’t investment advice.
0:02:53 The Amazon River flows eastward across South America for 6,400 kilometers before it empties
0:02:54 into the Atlantic.
0:03:02 But 65 million years ago, a blink of the eye in geological time, the Amazon flowed in the
0:03:05 opposite direction, toward the Pacific.
0:03:08 Tidal rivers reverse their flow daily.
0:03:13 Others reverse their flow annually as seasons change.
0:03:19 Three times this century, the Mississippi reversed its flow during hurricane storm surges.
0:03:27 In 1900, civil engineers reversed the flow of the Chicago River, changing its outlet from Lake
0:03:28 Michigan to the Mississippi.
0:03:34 Capital flows also shift cyclically and as a result of human intervention.
0:03:42 Unlike rivers, shifts in capital flows can be sudden and violent, as capital does not pledge
0:03:46 allegiance but moves aggressively towards safety and opportunity.
0:03:53 In the most recent Bank of America fund manager’s survey, the allocation to U.S. equities fell
0:03:56 to a net 36% underweight.
0:04:04 That represents a 53 percentage point swing in the U.S. equity weighting since February, the
0:04:07 biggest two-month decline on record.
0:04:16 In the same survey, 73% of fund managers said they believed U.S. exceptionalism had peaked.
0:04:21 What began as a cyclical movement in capital akin to a river’s seasonal change in direction
0:04:28 now resembles a transformation on the scale of the Amazon’s ancient rerouting, though this
0:04:33 shift was engineered and accelerated by humans, like the redirection of the Chicago River.
0:04:41 Heading into the recent NFL draft, Shadur Sanders, the University of Chicago quarterback and son
0:04:46 of NFL Hall of Famer Deion Sanders, was considered a likely first-round pick.
0:04:53 As it turned out, he was the 144th overall pick in the fifth round, costing him an estimated
0:04:54 $40 million.
0:04:59 I don’t know what Deion told his son afterward, but here’s what I’d tell mine.
0:05:04 You’re better than your worst moments, but never as good as your best ones.
0:05:10 This regression to the mean is one of the most powerful forces in the world.
0:05:15 Also, Deion should tell his son to tell his dad to shut the fuck up.
0:05:25 Over the past decade, U.S. equities have delivered an extraordinary 14.8% annualized return, outpacing
0:05:31 global ex-U.S. equities, 7%, and Eurozone equities, 7.8%.
0:05:38 After a historic bull run, it’s tempting to believe American exceptionalism is a permanent
0:05:39 feature, like gravity.
0:05:47 Since 1975, however, the outperformance cycle for U.S. versus international equities has lasted
0:05:48 eight years on average.
0:05:56 At the end of 2024, the U.S. was 13.8 years into the most recent one.
0:06:00 U.S. equities are regressing to the mean.
0:06:07 Eleven months into the pandemic, Warren Buffett wrote in his annual shareholder letter, quote,
0:06:27 This statement was based on a set of assumptions that our checks and balances protected the U.S.
0:06:28 engines of growth.
0:06:35 Risk aggressiveness, rule of law, IP, university research, attracting premier human capital.
0:06:41 Over the past 100 days, it appears we’ve taken these things for granted, and I now believe
0:06:43 it makes sense to bet on other regions.
0:06:49 Over the long run, I’m bullish on America, as there’s no better platform for unleashing
0:06:50 human potential.
0:06:57 The question isn’t whether to bet against America, however, but at what valuation.
0:07:03 By the way, if a human was engineered to be the polar opposite of Warren Buffett, they’d
0:07:05 look strikingly similar to Peter Navarro.
0:07:13 During the Great Recession, I bought Apple and Amazon at around $10 to $12 per share.
0:07:20 After 15 years and a historic bull run, I’m up around 19x to 22x.
0:07:25 Note, I also bought Netflix at $12 and sold at $10.
0:07:28 I get it wrong all the time.
0:07:34 The chocolate and peanut butter was the combination of great companies priced at historic discounts.
0:07:40 Since then, the natural disruptions that bring valuations down and transfer value from incumbents
0:07:47 to entrants have been arrested by massive stimulus, i.e. deficits, at the behest of an older generation,
0:07:51 which is spending younger people’s money to prop up their wealth.
0:07:52 But that’s another post.
0:07:59 The Great Rotation isn’t as much a bet against U.S. equities, but simply the recognition that
0:08:04 U.S. equities are overvalued relative to those of Europe and China.
0:08:09 The S&P 500 trades at a multiple of 26x.
0:08:15 The Stocks Europe 600 Index trades at a multiple of 14x.
0:08:20 And the CSI 300 trades at a multiple of 15x.
0:08:26 When stock valuations become inflated, future returns decline.
0:08:29 I’ve done well with my Apple and Amazon investments.
0:08:37 But with both of them trading at multiples of 34x, I’ve begun taking profits and looking for returns elsewhere.
0:08:42 At the start of the year, investors were bullish on China for a few reasons.
0:08:49 Strong corporate profits, AI breakthroughs, and the apparent easing of regulatory pressure from Beijing.
0:08:55 The trade war and fears of a global recession have dampened China’s growth forecasts.
0:09:03 The IMF cut its GDP growth forecast for 2025 from 4.6% to 4%.
0:09:10 But as I’ve written before, China is better positioned than the U.S. to weather the fallout from a trade war.
0:09:21 I also believe that, over the long run, tariffs will always trend toward zero, as consumers opt for cheaper goods over everything.
0:09:25 Anyways, the stocks I’m looking at.
0:09:31 Alibaba, China’s answer to Amazon, saw its stock hit an all-time high in 2020.
0:09:35 And since then, it’s off 62%.
0:09:40 Its co-founder, Jack Ma, disappeared from public view after criticizing financial regulators.
0:09:52 He resurfaced in 2023, but it wasn’t until this February that President Xi blessed his return in a meeting with Chinese entrepreneurs, urging them to show their talents.
0:10:02 As one China watcher told CNBC, Xi sent a clear signal that China’s policy priorities are private sector growth and AI.
0:10:16 Last quarter, Alibaba posted $38.5 billion in revenue, a 7.6% year-over-year jump and its fastest rate of increase since 2023.
0:10:24 Net profit increased 3x year-over-year, coming in at $6.7 billion.
0:10:33 Alibaba’s growth was driven by its core e-commerce businesses and the progress it’s making on its AI-powered marketing tool.
0:10:37 The stock is up 50% year-over-year.
0:10:44 I believe Alibaba is well-positioned to continue to take advantage of the U.S.-China AI race.
0:10:55 Alibaba’s challenge is expanding its consumer business units domestically and accelerating cloud growth, up 13% year-over-year this quarter.
0:11:06 China’s household spending is less than 40% of the country’s annual economic output, 20 percentage points below the global average.
0:11:10 Closing that delta offers a massive opportunity.
0:11:14 And again, China’s leaders have signaled support for Alibaba.
0:11:26 In his annual report to Parliament, Premier Li Qiang prioritized consumption over long-standing policies aimed at moving Chinese production up the value chain.
0:11:36 While there’s concern that Chinese consumers may reduce spending on non-subsidized goods, it’s worth thinking about what could go right.
0:11:43 China may finally become a consumer economy, a transformation that would benefit Alibaba.
0:11:54 Finally, Baba’s cloud revenue will likely register a surge as European firms shift their gaze east, away from the U.S., for cloud services.
0:12:07 Starting at $8,000, the BYD Seagull has a range comparable to those of other EVs and comes standard with autonomous driving technology.
0:12:12 And in the coming years, it will receive a battery upgrade with five-minute charging capabilities.
0:12:21 My pivot co-host, Kara Swisher, really wants one, but they aren’t available in the U.S., a fact that hasn’t slowed BYD’s growth.
0:12:33 Its first-quarter revenue jumped 36% year-over-year to $23.5 billion, while its net profit doubled to $1.26 billion.
0:12:42 This year, BYD is on track to sell 5.5 million vehicles, including 800,000 exports.
0:12:45 BYD is the fastest-growing brand in the U.K.
0:12:57 Meanwhile, Tesla, which registered a first-quarter sales decline of 13% year-over-year, trades at a multiple of 130x versus 20x for BYD.
0:13:06 The Chinese company’s mission is to cool the Earth by one degree Celsius, and it’s just launched its first cargo ship.
0:13:19 Even before Liberation Day, capital inflows to European equities were at a decade-long high, suggesting the Great Rotation was already underway.
0:13:26 The trade war has accelerated inflows, but it’s also contributing to a growing sense of European patriotism.
0:13:39 In the first two weeks of April, U.S.-focused funds managed by Amundi, State Street, and UBS saw a combined outflow of $4.5 billion.
0:13:53 As I previously wrote, America’s retreat from the post-war order it created could be a catalyst for the EU to harness its economic strength and finally become a true union.
0:14:01 After Germany’s recent decision to lift its constitutional debt restrictions to boost defense spending above 2% of GDP,
0:14:07 the bloc began discussions to encourage other member states to make similar fiscal reforms.
0:14:15 A defense boom across the continent keeps Ukraine in the fight, but it’s also an economic stimulus for the EU.
0:14:19 I try to avoid helicopters.
0:14:21 They’re noisy and smell of fuel.
0:14:28 To me, helicopters feel flimsy and crude, like a fan stuck on a soda can with duct tape.
0:14:32 I spend most of the journey adding up the staggering number of points of failure.
0:14:39 Statistically, helicopters are 26 times more likely to crash than commercial airplanes,
0:14:45 and helicopter crashes are 230 times more likely to result in a fatality.
0:14:47 The upside?
0:14:52 Helicopters are one of the few last-mile solutions at the premier choke point in travel.
0:15:04 I recently participated in a $50 million PIPE in a British company called Vertical Aerospace that’s developing an electric flying taxi.
0:15:13 Electric vertical takeoff and landing aircraft, EVITOL aircraft, are quieter than helicopters and emissions-free,
0:15:17 and they have lower projected operational and maintenance costs.
0:15:27 They may also turn out to be safer, as EVITOL aircraft use distributed propulsion systems with redundant motors and battery packs.
0:15:34 Built for short hops with small payloads, EVITOL aircraft aren’t meant to replace helicopters,
0:15:40 but rather create a new last-mile solution capable of delivering people, packages, and meals
0:15:44 without having to navigate through traffic jams on the ground.
0:15:49 The EVITOL sector is in the process of testing and regulatory certification.
0:15:52 The FAA is adopting new regulations,
0:15:59 while UK regulators are using an existing framework for aircraft under 5,700 kilograms
0:16:03 for interim operations and tailoring as they go.
0:16:12 Also, the EU has realized that its rich Uncle Sam has gone batshit crazy and can no longer be counted on for support.
0:16:21 If the EU, per its claims, increases defense spending from 1.9% of GDP to 3%,
0:16:28 an incremental $200 billion more will be spent on defense per annum.
0:16:33 This, in my view, could be a turning point for EU stocks and tech firms.
0:16:41 This wager is much riskier than betting on BABA or BYD, as the bankruptcy risk is real.
0:16:45 The stock is off 97% from its high,
0:16:51 and American competitors Joby and Archer trade at 10x that valuation.
0:16:54 I see this one as rocket fuel.
0:16:58 It’s got enormous thrust, upside, but it’s dangerous.
0:16:59 Downside.
0:17:07 I went to a pop-up bar last night, run by the doorwomen from the recently burned-down Chiltern Firehouse.
0:17:10 Hashtag enormous fucking bummer.
0:17:15 I believe the universe was not comfortable with me having access,
0:17:18 they liked me for some reason, to the best room in Europe.
0:17:24 The natural order has been restored, and now I’m back at members clubs with other middle-aged men
0:17:31 trying to fill the void in their chest with alcohol and clinging to the myth that David Beckham and Guy Ritchie also hang out there.
0:17:32 Too much?
0:17:37 Anyway, it wasn’t about the venue, but the people in the room.
0:17:39 And it’s the same here with Vert.
0:17:43 I co-invested with my friend Jason Mudrick, Mudrick Capital.
0:17:50 The previous investments he stitched me into returned 4x and 30x, so he had me at hello.
0:17:57 As brand America shifts from prosperity and rights to oligarchy and corruption,
0:18:03 I distract myself with the great American pastime, wondering how I make money here.
0:18:09 The greatest own goal since Brexit, Iraq, Vietnam is underway.
0:18:13 And, as in any disruption, there is an explosion in Alpha.
0:18:22 It’s fun, and, again, helps distract me from watching the pillars that provided me with a life my immigrant parents couldn’t imagine crumble.
0:18:24 It helps.
0:18:26 Sort of.
0:18:31 Life is so rich.
0:18:42 Life is so rich.

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Brainstorming $10M+ business ideas on a private jet with Jess Mah

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0:00:01 So you’re not afraid to share ideas?
0:00:03 No, I’m super afraid to share ideas.
0:00:07 But that’s, I mean, one of my ideas that I’m actively exploring.
0:00:09 And here I am sharing it with everyone here.
0:00:21 We should address the elephant in the room.
0:00:22 Why are we on a plane?
0:00:25 We’re just flexing on everybody now.
0:00:27 This is my Tai Lopez.
0:00:28 Hey guys, I’m just on my jet.
0:00:31 So it’s not that.
0:00:36 Yeah, so this plane, it’s a Cetacean CJ3 Plus.
0:00:38 And I fly planes for fun.
0:00:40 So it’s been my passion and my hobby.
0:00:44 I think since even elementary school, I was obsessed with airplanes.
0:00:49 And it was always my goal to be able to afford to fly one.
0:00:54 And then I learned, I interviewed a bunch of very wealthy people.
0:00:56 And I said, how do you afford an airplane?
0:00:57 Like how successful do you have to be?
0:01:01 And the secret was, you don’t have to be that successful.
0:01:04 You just have to have a big tax bill and good cash flow.
0:01:07 Which takes success to get to that point.
0:01:08 It takes some success.
0:01:09 Less than you think.
0:01:11 A lot less than you think, actually.
0:01:13 Because it’s like a house.
0:01:16 You could finance it, get, you know, put 20% down.
0:01:18 And then, you know, the rest is…
0:01:18 We’ll walk through that in a second.
0:01:22 So the funny thing was we did an episode, a normal episode where we’re on Zoom.
0:01:23 And it was great.
0:01:24 You can go see it.
0:01:28 It’s called like Jess Ma, like high school dropout, you know, blah, blah.
0:01:31 We YouTubed it to make the title good.
0:01:35 But like, you know, I don’t know, 300, 400,000 people have listened to that interview across
0:01:36 all the platforms.
0:01:38 And I wanted to do a second one.
0:01:39 And you were like, hey, I’m in town.
0:01:40 If you can kind of meet me here.
0:01:41 I was like, all right, let’s go.
0:01:42 I’ll meet you there.
0:01:45 And the second thing is you’re actually great with tax hacks.
0:01:48 And you’re better than my accountant who I pay.
0:01:52 I pay this guy to be like, hey, come up with ideas that I can lower my tax bill legally.
0:01:53 But how can I do it?
0:01:54 What are the ideas?
0:01:56 And he’s idea poor.
0:01:57 You’re very idea rich.
0:01:58 And so I thought, okay, it’s kind of fitting.
0:02:02 Because one of the things we’ll talk about at the end is you’ve talked to a lot of rich
0:02:06 people and tried to learn what are the options, what are the possibilities as far as taxes
0:02:06 goes.
0:02:08 And that’s, I want to learn that from you.
0:02:08 Yeah.
0:02:11 I mean, we’ll talk about that as it relates to business ideas.
0:02:15 But as it relates to tax ideas, it’s actually a pretty similar process.
0:02:18 Like, I’ll just talk to as many people as possible.
0:02:22 And I think the mistake people make with taxes is they have their one tax person.
0:02:25 And that person worked with their parents.
0:02:27 And they’ve been loyal.
0:02:30 But actually, this is a very bad place to have loyalty.
0:02:33 It’s really good to talk to, like, I’ve talked to dozens of tax.
0:02:33 Promiscuous.
0:02:35 You want to be very promiscuous here.
0:02:39 I’ve talked to dozens of tax attorneys and tax accountants about their ideas.
0:02:41 And I just keep track of all their ideas.
0:02:44 And then I talk to all my friends, ask them for their tax ideas and consolidate it.
0:02:45 That’s so true.
0:02:46 There’s like this weird loyalty.
0:02:48 It’s like, yeah, he’s been doing my taxes for four years.
0:02:49 Like, yeah, but nothing has changed.
0:02:51 And you want to get ideas from everybody.
0:02:53 So let’s do this plan real quick.
0:02:57 So a plane like this, what does it cost roughly?
0:02:58 What do you have to put down?
0:03:00 And what is the tax savings or something?
0:03:01 There’s just a mini tax lesson for this plane.
0:03:02 Yeah, mini tax lesson.
0:03:06 And then we go into more detail on this on the last episode I did with you guys.
0:03:08 But this is a $12 million plus airplane.
0:03:12 And you could put 20% down on the airplane.
0:03:15 I got this pre-owned, so I saved a few million bucks.
0:03:17 And it’s just as good as new.
0:03:18 So you put down roughly two million bucks.
0:03:23 Yeah, you put down about a few million bucks and then you just pay monthly financing on it.
0:03:27 But then you get to write off up to the whole thing.
0:03:29 Last year it was 60% up front.
0:03:34 But now with the new administration, it looks like accelerated depreciation is back.
0:03:42 So if you bought a $12 million airplane, financed it, you can write off the whole $12 million off your tax bill, even though you only put in $3 million.
0:03:45 So you’re going to pay the government or you could buy an airplane.
0:03:47 So it looks ridiculous.
0:03:49 Either way, $3 million is going out of your bank account.
0:03:51 Either way, the money’s leaving your bank account.
0:03:53 So it looks lavish.
0:03:54 It looks ridiculous.
0:03:57 But this is why rich people do these things.
0:03:57 Right.
0:03:59 And I just wanted to debunk that.
0:04:01 A lot of people are scared to admit that.
0:04:04 They don’t want to share that because they want to flex more.
0:04:05 They want to show off.
0:04:08 But it’s just a practical matter.
0:04:08 Right.
0:04:15 And you use it to like literally be more efficient and go meet people where otherwise you might not have taken that day trip to go do it.
0:04:15 Like you came up.
0:04:17 You’re like, I want to have lunch with you.
0:04:18 And so you flew up.
0:04:18 We had lunch.
0:04:19 And you flew out.
0:04:20 And I was like, wow.
0:04:21 First, I felt honored.
0:04:28 But secondly, man, there’s probably a lot of people that I think I would have kind of amazing opportunities or build a relationship with.
0:04:31 But I don’t do it because the logistics are actually like in the way.
0:04:33 Of course, this is not accessible to most people.
0:04:38 But like if you’re in that successful entrepreneur bucket, it kind of makes sense logistically as well.
0:04:39 It does.
0:04:39 Yeah.
0:04:41 And, you know, we’ve got Starlink on board.
0:04:48 So flying out here, I was able to make five phone calls and be on Zoom and, you know, do FaceTime video where I’m like, yo, what’s up?
0:04:49 Right.
0:04:54 And like it’s a practical matter of saving money, but it looks really bad.
0:05:01 If you’re an operating CEO of a company, you’re going to get shat on by your employees, your customers, your investors.
0:05:05 And I realized that that would be a problem for me a few years ago.
0:05:08 So that’s why I stopped being an operating CEO.
0:05:14 Actually, it was really I had this conflict of like, can I do everything I want to do?
0:05:16 And I know it’s the right thing to do.
0:05:16 I know I will.
0:05:18 I know I will.
0:05:19 Well, I know I’ll create more abundance.
0:05:19 Right.
0:05:21 You know, I’ll create more value for my companies.
0:05:24 But at the same time, I know I’m going to get more flack.
0:05:27 I’m going to have more people who want to rip on me, unfortunately.
0:05:29 And I’m sure this video will not help with that at all.
0:05:31 But like I defend it.
0:05:32 It’s like a practical matter.
0:05:32 Right.
0:05:33 I love that.
0:05:34 Unapologetic.
0:05:36 So, yeah, enough about the private jet.
0:05:37 It’s cool.
0:05:38 It’s going to make for a great, great job.
0:05:39 First time for the podcast.
0:05:45 What I want to talk to you about is what you’re great at, which is ideas and coming up with new ideas for businesses.
0:05:50 So the track record here is you’ve been an operating CEO.
0:05:52 You started this company called Intanero when you were really young.
0:05:52 Right.
0:05:53 How old were you when you started that?
0:05:55 I was 19 when I started.
0:05:56 I knew absolutely nothing.
0:05:57 Yeah.
0:06:01 And then I built that company up and then started a bunch of other companies.
0:06:04 Several of them are nine-figure valuation businesses.
0:06:06 I have no unicorns under my belt.
0:06:07 So that’s a big insecurity of mine right now.
0:06:09 I’m going to be super honest about it.
0:06:09 That’s interesting.
0:06:10 I don’t have a single unicorn.
0:06:13 But if you add them all up, I’ve got, you know, multiple unicorns.
0:06:13 Right.
0:06:15 So that became my strategy.
0:06:21 I decided I’m really not good at building unicorns, but I’m really good at coming up with smaller businesses.
0:06:22 A barn full of horses.
0:06:25 Yeah, a barn full of horses where I create more.
0:06:26 I think we just coined something there, by the way.
0:06:28 That was all you.
0:06:29 Good work.
0:06:35 But yeah, if I could just raise less VC money for these companies and just create more of them
0:06:42 and not be directly operating them, then that could add up to being just as valuable, if not more valuable,
0:06:47 than if I created one unicorn, not to mention all my friends who are CEOs of unicorns.
0:06:48 Miserable.
0:06:50 So miserable and so stressed out.
0:06:56 And also they don’t have the ability to live an amazing lifestyle because of all the stuff we talked about.
0:07:02 They’re scared of the optics and they own a much smaller percentage of these businesses.
0:07:09 A lot of my unicorn CEO friends, they own like 5% of a billion-dollar company, which is a remarkable amount of money.
0:07:10 That’s a lot, but, you know.
0:07:12 Yeah, totally.
0:07:14 I’m in it for the lifestyle, not the…
0:07:15 You just have to decide what you’re in it for.
0:07:16 Just be honest about that.
0:07:17 And there’s other people who are in it for the impact.
0:07:18 That’s dope.
0:07:19 They should do that.
0:07:20 They should save the world.
0:07:20 I’m on the world.
0:07:22 I’m glad that they’re saving it.
0:07:22 Yeah.
0:07:24 I personally don’t want to do that with my time.
0:07:29 I want to indulge my curiosities, have fun conversations, and just enjoy my life with my kids.
0:07:30 That’s totally unusual.
0:07:31 That’s what I like to do.
0:07:32 That’s my gold standard.
0:07:32 Yeah.
0:07:35 So, your story is basically 19 years old.
0:07:36 You start in DeNero.
0:07:37 You run that company.
0:07:38 You grow that company.
0:07:47 And then, like you said, you transitioned from starting and running companies yourself to now you have this, like, your own holdco where you’re incubating or creating companies.
0:07:53 And you said that in the last four years, you’ve started four companies, each worth over $100 million.
0:07:54 I’ve co-founded companies.
0:07:57 And when I say co-found, sometimes I didn’t do a whole lot.
0:07:58 Maybe I helped with the idea.
0:08:01 I got the early team on board.
0:08:02 I got some early funding.
0:08:05 And then, on some of them, I’m still really active.
0:08:07 And on some of them, I’m not active.
0:08:09 And I’m just, like, a significant shareholder.
0:08:09 Right.
0:08:11 All right.
0:08:11 Hey, real quick.
0:08:14 If you’re liking this episode with Jess, then we got something cool for you.
0:08:16 So, when the episode ended, we asked her.
0:08:20 We were like, hey, you were talking about how you have this playbook, this recruiting guide.
0:08:21 You have this, like, content guide.
0:08:23 You have these things.
0:08:25 Would you mind sharing one of those with us?
0:08:27 And she actually just sent us, like, all of them.
0:08:30 So, she wanted the listeners to be able to have them for free.
0:08:31 So, they’re in the show notes below.
0:08:32 It’s her talent playbook.
0:08:33 It’s her recruiting guide.
0:08:36 I think it’s an operations guide for how she runs her companies.
0:08:38 These are straight from her.
0:08:39 They’re available in the show notes below.
0:08:40 Check them out.
0:08:42 I mean, somebody’s giving you free gold.
0:08:45 All you got to do is take out your hands and just accept the gold.
0:08:45 All right.
0:08:46 Back to this episode.
0:08:50 I want to ask you about your idea process because that’s amazing to be able to do that.
0:08:51 I want to be able to do that.
0:08:53 So, let’s talk about that.
0:08:54 Let’s talk about ideas.
0:08:56 How do you get ideas to start these companies?
0:08:59 And then what are some ideas right now that you’re excited about?
0:09:00 Yeah, let’s talk about process first.
0:09:06 So, I love Y Combinator ideas, the request for startups.
0:09:14 And when I was coming up with my first ideas for businesses, like in DeNero, that was inspired by that list.
0:09:20 And it’s a list of 100 business ideas where they say, if you build this, we are more likely to fund you.
0:09:22 And I really wanted to get into Y Combinator.
0:09:26 And then I put together this spreadsheet.
0:09:28 So, I had this matrix of criteria.
0:09:35 And one of my top criteria was complicated enough that other people won’t copy me too fast.
0:09:38 I think that’s really important.
0:09:42 If I’m a first-time founder, I need to have more legroom.
0:09:47 And then another criteria was I can pseudo-bootstrap this.
0:09:51 Like, I can raise some angel money, but I don’t need to raise like $100 million.
0:09:54 So, like, I’m not going to build Tesla or SpaceX.
0:09:58 I want to build something that $2 million could get me very far.
0:10:01 My other criteria was I wanted recurring revenue.
0:10:04 I wanted something that was sticky, like a must-have.
0:10:09 And so, I literally went through every single one of those ideas on the Y Combinator list.
0:10:12 And I rank-ordered them based on these three criteria.
0:10:19 And business accounting and tax management seemed to be the better one for my criteria.
0:10:24 And so, my process is I, you know, go online and I scrape these ideas.
0:10:26 I’ve even gone to Reddit to look for ideas.
0:10:30 I have one-on-one lunches and dinners with people like you.
0:10:32 And I just say, hey, like, what are ideas you’re exploring?
0:10:34 And then we’ll just have a brainstorm.
0:10:42 But none of the ideas I’ve actually worked on came from me sitting in a room with a whiteboard
0:10:43 and just, like, coming up with stuff.
0:10:44 Yourself.
0:10:45 Yeah, that’s never worked out.
0:10:48 I’ve tried it, by the way, with no success.
0:10:49 Okay.
0:10:51 So, you had this thing on your phone.
0:10:52 You had, like, this idea database.
0:10:52 Yeah.
0:10:54 There’s, like, 300 ideas.
0:10:54 Uh-huh.
0:10:57 And you promised, you said, I’ll show some of them today.
0:10:58 Yeah.
0:11:00 Even though these are things you might still go do, I think.
0:11:01 I might still do some of these.
0:11:03 So, do you want to give us a couple of them?
0:11:03 Absolutely.
0:11:05 It’s called the Idea Hopper.
0:11:07 So, actually, let me pull it up on my phone real quick.
0:11:08 Okay, great.
0:11:10 Should we start with the ones we talked about before?
0:11:14 Yeah, she gave me a teaser of, like, two or three of them that I was like, don’t tell
0:11:15 me more, but yes.
0:11:17 Like, should we start with the Doge as a Service idea?
0:11:17 Okay, yeah, yeah.
0:11:18 I like this one.
0:11:18 Yeah.
0:11:20 It’s very trendy right now.
0:11:22 Doge as a Service for companies.
0:11:22 Explain.
0:11:25 Yeah, I mean, most companies have so much waste.
0:11:29 You have people who barely show up or they’re phoning it in.
0:11:35 And I have friends who say, oh, yeah, like, you know, my husband Quiet quit his job.
0:11:38 He’s, like, working two hours a day and no one’s tracking it.
0:11:40 So, he’s available to hang out.
0:11:42 Those are the people you want to get rid of.
0:11:46 So, what if you could create a software platform that goes through and tracks who is actually
0:11:49 on Slack, who is actually emailing, who is, like, using their computer?
0:11:53 And if not, then they’re fired.
0:11:55 So, Doge is a Service for companies.
0:11:58 And so, it would be a team of consultants.
0:11:59 It’d be a consultants plus AI.
0:12:00 How would you do it?
0:12:02 I think AI could do a lot of it.
0:12:06 I also thought that if you’re an enterprise, then it’s, you could sell this to consulting
0:12:11 firms like McKinsey or BCC or whoever and say, hey, you guys can offer this to the CFO.
0:12:13 Oh, they’re already doing, they’re already in there.
0:12:14 They’re already in there.
0:12:18 And that makes you seem more valuable as a consultant.
0:12:21 Because you could say, hey, we could demonstrate that we’ll save you hundreds of millions of
0:12:22 dollars.
0:12:23 You’ll pay us only $20 million.
0:12:25 And this AI did all the work.
0:12:26 Yeah, that’s actually pretty interesting.
0:12:32 I don’t think enough tech teams build tools for the consultants who have already done
0:12:32 the sale.
0:12:36 Because what McKinsey’s amazing at is they got this relationship with a Fortune 100 company.
0:12:37 They’re on retainer.
0:12:39 They’re getting paid millions of dollars a year.
0:12:45 And if you can sell them a tool that either helps them land and expand that contract or just
0:12:49 save overhead and actually, like, executing that contract, that’s going to be pretty valuable.
0:12:53 Like, if I was, like, building AI right now, I would not be trying to make something that,
0:12:58 like, I’m going to not only build the tool, but also figure out all of the go-to-market.
0:13:02 Maybe you could actually just sell this to consultants who already have the go-to-market
0:13:02 done.
0:13:03 Exactly.
0:13:07 That’s, I mean, one of my ideas that I’m actively exploring.
0:13:09 And here I am sharing it with everyone here.
0:13:12 So you’re not afraid to share ideas?
0:13:13 Or what’s your philosophy around that?
0:13:15 No, I’m super afraid to share ideas.
0:13:17 Put you on the spot.
0:13:18 You just got me really comfortable.
0:13:20 So here I am.
0:13:22 This is an idea I’ve been playing around with for a few months.
0:13:23 And I really like it a lot.
0:13:23 Okay.
0:13:24 I like it.
0:13:28 I didn’t want to be one of those people who said, okay, here are my shittiest ideas.
0:13:29 Now you go do them.
0:13:31 Like, I think that’d be just really lame.
0:13:32 Totally.
0:13:33 All right.
0:13:34 What else you got?
0:13:34 So go-to-as-a-service.
0:13:35 That’s one.
0:13:35 I like it.
0:13:37 So again, this is the trendy category.
0:13:37 Okay.
0:13:37 Okay.
0:13:43 Another idea is, you know, everyone says SaaS is dead.
0:13:45 Agents are the new thing.
0:13:52 Well, what if you could build vertical agent as a service for an industry?
0:13:58 So for example, build a library of agents for dental offices or for auto mechanics.
0:13:58 Right.
0:14:04 Or for, you know, clothing designers or manufacturers or whatever, or distributors.
0:14:10 So there are all these industries, but where they need their own very unique library of agents to automate their tasks.
0:14:12 And you can go really deep there.
0:14:19 So this is more of a thematic business area, which will be, I think we’re going to see thousands of businesses doing this.
0:14:20 Right.
0:14:20 So, okay.
0:14:21 So somebody’s building a tool.
0:14:23 And so you’re saying you don’t even have to build the agent.
0:14:30 You’re like, there’s going to be somebody who builds an agent that’s about picking up a call and booking an appointment.
0:14:31 Let’s say appointment booking agent.
0:14:34 So what you used to have to have pay a receptionist to do.
0:14:36 Now AI is pretty damn good.
0:14:37 It’s going to be able to do that fully.
0:14:38 Right.
0:14:42 So you have horizontal companies right now that sell the voice agent for any industry.
0:14:48 The problem is you still have to do a lot of fine tuning and work for if you’re a dentist.
0:14:48 Right.
0:14:56 So what if you’re a company and you look for all these off-the-shelf tools and make your own agents and plug them all in and tune it just for dentists.
0:14:57 Right.
0:14:58 And so it’s plug and play.
0:14:59 I’m a dental office.
0:15:00 I can use your company.
0:15:04 And it has like a hundred different pieces of AI already baked into my workflow.
0:15:05 Gotcha.
0:15:06 That’s the idea in a nutshell.
0:15:07 Okay.
0:15:07 I like that.
0:15:09 I should do this for an industry you know about.
0:15:13 Like if you’re passionate about, you know, dental offices, then do it in dental offices.
0:15:14 So that’s…
0:15:16 Shout out to anyone who’s passionate about dental offices.
0:15:18 You are…
0:15:19 This was your day.
0:15:20 You got to…
0:15:20 I know, but the more…
0:15:21 We recognize you.
0:15:22 The more boring, the better.
0:15:23 Yeah.
0:15:25 That’s the Constellation software model, right?
0:15:25 Which…
0:15:30 So we invested in this company that’s vertical SaaS, which was called Shop Genie.
0:15:31 They just…
0:15:32 So we invested in it.
0:15:35 And I think within a year or two, they sold for mid-eight figures.
0:15:39 And what they did was they went to auto repair shops and they were like, hey, guess what?
0:15:40 Auto repair shops need to CRM.
0:15:44 So there was always CRMs like HubSpot and others that they work for any type of business.
0:15:50 And he’s like, well, but auto repair shops have specific things that are, you know, for them.
0:15:51 So they built a tool that was just for them.
0:15:56 And then they went and they got like 3,000, 4,000 auto repair shops in like a year to use them.
0:15:57 And by the way…
0:15:58 Very sexy business.
0:15:58 Yeah.
0:16:01 I was like, dude, how did you get so many shops to use you?
0:16:03 And he’s like, there’s this guy who’s like the auto repair influencer.
0:16:06 He’s like the Kardashian of auto repair shops.
0:16:07 And he vouched for us.
0:16:09 And then all these people, you know, followed on board.
0:16:15 And he’s like, that guy makes like 20 million a year as the like biggest influencer to other auto repair shop owners.
0:16:16 It’s like really insane.
0:16:17 Oh, wow.
0:16:18 Such a great business idea.
0:16:19 Yeah.
0:16:25 So what they did was they give him this tool and it was like for booking your appointment and the text message follow-ups or whatever.
0:16:28 And what you’re saying is like, and vertical SaaS has been a thing.
0:16:30 Constellation Software did it.
0:16:33 What you’re saying is instead of vertical SaaS, it’s going to be like…
0:16:33 Vertical ass.
0:16:35 Agents as a service.
0:16:36 Vertical ass.
0:16:41 But seriously, and then the more like random, the better.
0:16:53 Like if you could apply this to like, you know, marine shipping or to like resource mining, you know, then Constellation will be acquiring and ruling up these vertical ass companies in the next few years.
0:16:55 Like that’s the future.
0:16:59 What was the marine shipping cargo ship idea you were telling me about?
0:17:01 Yeah, that was another idea I had on my Idea Hopper.
0:17:04 The idea was in a nutshell, could we…
0:17:09 Oh yeah, it was coating for these cargo ships.
0:17:10 Coating like the paint coating.
0:17:14 But to make it more efficient so that these ships could go even a few knots faster.
0:17:17 And that saves you a ton of money on fuel.
0:17:22 And then you don’t need to like take these ships out of the water as often to recode them.
0:17:28 So this could be like millions, if not tens of millions of dollars over a decade for your entire fleet of cargo ships.
0:17:30 Totally random idea.
0:17:38 I got this from having dinner with someone who was playing around with this idea or looking at funding something like this like many years ago.
0:17:41 And the other person just didn’t have the money to proceed with it.
0:17:41 Right.
0:17:45 So my, like I learned about that just from having dinner with someone.
0:17:46 Yeah, that’s crazy.
0:17:48 And so you, let’s say you have an idea like that.
0:17:48 Uh-huh.
0:17:52 So first it’s like who the heck even thinks about cargo ship coatings.
0:17:53 Definitely not me.
0:17:57 I mean, mostly these ideas, the common theme is I didn’t come up with any of these ideas.
0:17:57 Right.
0:17:59 So you’re a good spotter, would you say?
0:17:59 Or what are you good at?
0:18:06 I’m good at initiating conversations with people who are likely to have ideas or have access to ideas.
0:18:08 Like you have good access to ideas.
0:18:11 And actually, I’ve sent you an idea before.
0:18:15 And now that I think about it, like my buddy James Currier has this great phrase.
0:18:17 He goes, you want to turn yourself into an API.
0:18:23 And what he means by that, he goes, you know, like a website has an API, which basically says, here’s what I can offer you.
0:18:24 I can give you location data.
0:18:27 So you ping me, I give you location data.
0:18:27 That’s what I’m good at.
0:18:30 And by the way, here’s what I want to get from your API, right?
0:18:31 Here’s the things I’m interested in.
0:18:33 I’m interested in acquiring geospatial data.
0:18:40 So you kind of have made your API like, hey, I’m always interested in hearing interesting, kind of weird, off-the-beaten-path ideas.
0:18:43 So when I hear one, I think, oh, Jess would like this.
0:18:43 Yeah.
0:18:54 So you’ve put yourself in my mind and associated yourself with, she likes to hear weird, cool, off-the-beaten-path, you know, ideas that, you know, she’s good at making them happen.
0:18:57 And then in return, you know, you’re like, what are you good at?
0:18:59 It’s like, what do you offer as your API?
0:19:02 It’s like, I have a business and I’m trying to recruit a CEO.
0:19:04 And I know you’ve done that a bunch of times.
0:19:11 I’m like, oh, if I go to Jess, she’s going to, you know, reduce my error rate and make me go faster at this because she’s really going to be helpful in doing that.
0:19:18 Or if I have a new idea, she’s really good at fleshing it out over a lunch, like riffing on it and then being like super motivated to be like, all right, what are we going to do to make this happen?
0:19:20 Like, let’s push the ball forward.
0:19:23 So I think you’ve kind of done that in the idea space, which is powerful.
0:19:23 That’s really well articulated.
0:19:28 Yeah, like I get people calling me all the time saying, hey, Jess, you have like five minutes to chat.
0:19:32 I have this random idea I want to get your thoughts on.
0:19:34 And would you build this with me?
0:19:35 Or if I did it, would you fund it?
0:19:38 I get those calls all the time, multiple times a week.
0:19:42 And it’s like, all right, like, yeah, I’ll find time to call you back.
0:19:45 But it’s like what Warren Buffett did.
0:19:46 He just got the word out there.
0:19:47 Hey, I’m buying businesses.
0:19:49 Call me if you’re ready to sell.
0:19:51 And it’s a fast, easy process.
0:19:53 I’m doing the same thing with ideas.
0:19:54 Yeah, that’s great.
0:20:00 My business partner, Ben, I was just thinking while you were talking, like his API is so funny is two things.
0:20:02 One, Ben always knows a guy.
0:20:03 So you’re like, do you know anybody?
0:20:05 He’s like, I know a guy who knows a guy.
0:20:06 That’s always Ben’s thing.
0:20:07 Like he always knows a guy who knows a guy.
0:20:10 And the second thing is a lot of people will go to Ben.
0:20:12 They’ll just text him when something good happens in their life.
0:20:14 And I always am like, why did they, did you ask?
0:20:16 He’s like, no, no, they just told me.
0:20:20 And like, we just closed this big deal or we just did this thing and they haven’t announced it.
0:20:22 And he’s not that close to them.
0:20:28 But what I realized is I do the same thing with him because he’s somebody that makes you feel good when you win.
0:20:32 You don’t feel like there’s any envy or he’s not going to try to take anything from you.
0:20:33 He’s like genuinely pumped for you.
0:20:34 That’s awesome.
0:20:41 And because of that, he just gets this wealth of inbound of people who are winning, which is also great for us for investing because we’re like, oh, wow, these guys are doing really well.
0:20:42 Do they need more capital?
0:20:43 Do they need something?
0:20:44 Like maybe we could help them.
0:20:45 And that’s a superpower.
0:20:48 So I think people, there’s like these underrated superpowers.
0:20:56 Like the thing you’re describing about, I’m good at, you know, maybe having interesting conversations, getting good ideas and making people feel like they should come to me with interesting ideas.
0:21:01 That’s not even a skill you could learn in school or nobody would even tell you that that’s a thing.
0:21:01 Yeah.
0:21:04 But you’re going to build generational wealth off that.
0:21:05 Yeah, that’s well said.
0:21:08 I think it’s equally as important to know what we’re bad at.
0:21:13 You know, like for me, I realized that I’m not the best operating CEO.
0:21:14 Like that’s just not my forte.
0:21:23 And after I realized that and came to peace with that, then I was able to say, okay, well, I’m going to come up with ideas and recruit great teams and then empower them.
0:21:28 And that’s what I’m going to figure out how to do for the worry on and be great at.
0:21:28 Exactly.
0:21:30 So let’s do more.
0:21:31 I want more ideas.
0:21:31 Yeah.
0:21:31 Okay.
0:21:34 So I have this other idea.
0:21:37 The code name is Holy Health.
0:21:49 And I came up with this idea because I heard of another business that was minting like tens of millions of dollars in EBITDA within 36 months.
0:21:55 And all they did was help one niche of like medical provider get access to insurance.
0:21:57 And then I did some research.
0:22:06 I plugged this into GPT and I realized there’s so many of these other types of people like chiropractors or physical therapists where they can get insurance reimbursement.
0:22:14 But they’re so small, they don’t have the scale to negotiate with an insurance company on getting reimbursed.
0:22:15 So they just charge a lot of cash.
0:22:16 So technically they could.
0:22:17 Technically they could.
0:22:21 But is it that they don’t have the time or the skill or like you need to band them together?
0:22:21 Both.
0:22:32 So if you band them together, then they can get some reimbursement and then you could create, you know, agents as a service to support them, to create more lock-in, and then you could help them with their customer acquisition.
0:22:34 So it’s got to be the full stack.
0:22:37 And this other company did that for one of these different verticals.
0:22:41 And I heard about that through a friend who heard about the company.
0:22:43 And I’m like, oh, man, that’s a great idea.
0:22:45 Could I do something adjacent to that?
0:22:48 That’s not copying them, but similar in some ways.
0:22:50 A similar blueprint, but in a different space that needs it.
0:22:51 Exactly.
0:22:52 So you would go, what would you do for that?
0:22:54 So you would, let’s just walk through this.
0:22:56 I want to hear, so you have that idea.
0:22:57 I heard about this.
0:22:58 This actually starts with a clue.
0:23:03 I got a clue because I was having lunch with a friend and he’s like, these guys are making like 30 million in EBITDA.
0:23:04 I’m like, all right.
0:23:05 What question are you asking that friend?
0:23:09 Because we were just talking before and I was like, how the hell do you get this?
0:23:15 I go, what is your info diet that you are getting these ideas that I don’t get to hear about?
0:23:16 You’re doing something different.
0:23:19 You’re not just consuming the same stuff I am because you’re getting different ideas.
0:23:21 So can we talk about that real quick?
0:23:22 The info diet?
0:23:23 Yeah.
0:23:29 I mean, none of these come from reading a blog post or watching a podcast.
0:23:31 All these are from in-person conversations.
0:23:33 I think a lot of people are lazy.
0:23:35 They just want to come up with stuff by staring at their computer.
0:23:37 Nothing good comes out of doing that.
0:23:39 If I’m being candid, you have to get out of the building.
0:23:42 You have to like just talk to people.
0:23:43 And when you’re talking to them, what are you asking?
0:23:44 Like, hey, what’s interesting?
0:23:46 What have you seen that’s cool?
0:23:46 Yeah.
0:23:47 What’s the coolest?
0:23:52 What’s the most interesting, exotic business idea that’s minting cash that you’ve seen recently?
0:23:55 And so I’m not asking them for a business idea.
0:23:57 I’m asking them for what’s an existing thing you’ve seen.
0:24:01 It’s like, what’s the key to their success?
0:24:03 And why does no one know about this?
0:24:03 Right.
0:24:07 And like, why hasn’t anyone copied them yet?
0:24:11 And, you know, why is now the right time for this?
0:24:14 So you’re filtering as they give you the exotic business that’s minting cash.
0:24:18 Like, was there some secret sauce that’s not replicable?
0:24:20 You know, maybe they’re super influential in a community.
0:24:21 Okay.
0:24:22 That would take forever to build.
0:24:24 Could this be done in another space?
0:24:26 Does this take a hundred million dollars of venture capital?
0:24:26 Yeah.
0:24:27 How much did they start?
0:24:28 And then they’re like, oh yeah.
0:24:29 Like these guys just bootstrapped it.
0:24:30 Right.
0:24:33 I’m like, oh my gosh, now my math is really watering.
0:24:33 Right.
0:24:34 Like, okay.
0:24:36 And what are the other risks here?
0:24:38 Like, can AI just replace this in 36 months?
0:24:43 That’s like the new risk factor in my like criteria that y’all have to ask.
0:24:47 So you get the clue, you get the clue from the conversation, key question.
0:24:48 Yeah.
0:24:49 And then you get the clue.
0:24:52 Then you run it through your filter mentally, just there.
0:24:55 Let’s say now you’re excited about the idea because you’re like, holy health.
0:24:57 And you give it a code name.
0:24:57 Is there?
0:24:59 Everything has to have a code name.
0:25:00 Why is that?
0:25:00 It makes it real?
0:25:06 It makes it feel more psychologically real and like, okay, then I have something to remind
0:25:07 me of the rest of the substance of the idea.
0:25:08 Cool.
0:25:10 And so I’ll just like throw the idea into ChatGVT.
0:25:14 Before you even tell your coworkers, you’re like, I think with AI first.
0:25:15 Ah, yeah, exactly.
0:25:18 I tell everyone before you tell me anything, think with AI as well.
0:25:18 Yeah.
0:25:19 And so everyone does that.
0:25:23 And I say, give me like 20 ideas of potential names for this idea.
0:25:25 And then I just pick one and this is the code name.
0:25:26 And then we put it in the idea hopper.
0:25:27 And then.
0:25:30 Did you see the CEO of Microsoft win on a podcast?
0:25:32 He had this great line.
0:25:37 He goes, my new workflow is think with AI and then work with my coworkers.
0:25:42 So he goes, I think people are thinking about like AI is going to replace your coworkers or
0:25:44 your employees are just going to, AI is going to do a task.
0:25:49 He’s like, but right now the best use case is me thinking and sparring with AI to get clarity.
0:25:51 And then I go work with my coworkers after that.
0:25:53 Sounds like you’re kind of doing a similar thing.
0:25:54 Yeah, we definitely do that.
0:25:59 And what we’re trying to do is have all of our meetings be recorded.
0:26:04 So even if it’s in person, we’re just like turning on granola and having, I have a big,
0:26:07 one of those conference speakerphone things and it’s just recording everything.
0:26:10 And we’re going to feed it in to create digital twins of all of us.
0:26:16 Then have like basically thousands of versions of ourselves just brainstorming and sparring
0:26:19 with each other to refine ideas even further.
0:26:22 It’s like those little like chess arenas or whatever, where they train the AIs to just
0:26:25 compete with each other until like, until there’s like a winner, a winning strategy.
0:26:25 Yeah.
0:26:31 And actually, we’re actually doing, we’re actually training one based off of you as well.
0:26:35 So we’re going to have it just watch every single video you’ve been part of.
0:26:40 So it knows how to think like you’d be like, hey, bring Sean into these conversations, bring
0:26:43 Satya, bring, suck, bring, Elon, bring, like whoever.
0:26:49 And I want all of them to like help battle test this, you know, conversation.
0:26:51 That’s amazing.
0:26:52 And so that way I don’t need to pay for you.
0:26:56 You know, that’s useful when, if you just ask a question like, oh, what would Elon do
0:26:57 in this situation?
0:27:04 Or, you know, take your most high agency, badass friend who’s not afraid and seems to have like
0:27:05 clarity in the moment of a fog of war.
0:27:09 If you just have that friend and you’ve hung out with them enough and you literally just
0:27:11 ask the question, it’s like they’re in the room.
0:27:16 And I know if that works, then an AI that’s actually trained on them is going to be insane.
0:27:18 Do you know how you’ll do that?
0:27:22 How will you create, like, what are you going to use to make them be an AI?
0:27:25 There’s so much public content for my team members.
0:27:28 That’s why I’m making sure that they record every single interaction in the company with
0:27:29 each other.
0:27:31 Is there a tool to do that?
0:27:32 Or are you going to make your own tool?
0:27:35 It’s just you know a lot to get the transcripts.
0:27:37 Because once you have the transcripts, then you can just feed that into any of these.
0:27:40 So any LLM will be able to like.
0:27:41 It’s going to do a pretty good job.
0:27:44 Yeah, we should go into more advanced conversation on this.
0:27:45 But that’s interesting.
0:27:47 Yeah, because people will do this so annoying.
0:27:50 People are using my voice in ads all the time now.
0:27:51 And I’m like, this is wild.
0:27:53 I’m like, how do I sue you?
0:27:54 I don’t even know who you are.
0:27:57 Second thing is that, but I’m going to.
0:27:59 Anybody who’s doing it, I’m suing you.
0:28:00 I’m actively working on that.
0:28:03 I’m telling AI to figure out how to find you to sue you.
0:28:08 But then also, what was the other one?
0:28:10 Oh, writing style.
0:28:12 So people will just put in chat to me and be like, write this in the style or whatever.
0:28:14 Because I’ve written a lot of content publicly.
0:28:19 And it’s not me, but it’s definitely kind of close to me.
0:28:21 It’s like, oh, that’s 18 months away from being better than me.
0:28:23 So that’s definitely happening.
0:28:24 You might as well embrace it.
0:28:28 We’re almost going to need a safe word that’s like, is it human, Sean, that I’m talking to?
0:28:30 Or is this AI, Sean, that I’m talking to?
0:28:31 We need a code word.
0:28:33 I know, but it’s like really exciting.
0:28:38 And so, yeah, Satya is on point here.
0:28:39 So where was I?
0:28:42 So you were telling me about, okay, so we’re going through your process.
0:28:43 So you get excited about the idea.
0:28:44 Yeah.
0:28:45 You have the clue.
0:28:46 You have the code name.
0:28:48 And you then have a meeting with your team.
0:28:50 What are you doing in that meeting?
0:28:53 What are you trying to do to advance that idea forward?
0:28:59 Yeah, every week we have a R&D team meeting is what we just call it.
0:29:01 And we talk about the ideas that we’re playing with.
0:29:06 And the problem here with Holy Health, because this was a live idea, and it still is a live idea.
0:29:10 Everything I’ve shared today is still alive, by the way.
0:29:14 And the problem is we just had too many of these ideas.
0:29:19 I mean, we have hundreds of these ideas, and we try to work on too many at the same time.
0:29:27 And the problem is then you don’t really advance any idea forward enough between each week meeting, and then we lose excitement.
0:29:28 Right.
0:29:36 So now the new rule is we’re only going to have two, and we’re going to take them all the way until they’re busted before you replace and bring in another one.
0:29:37 And so what do you do?
0:29:37 So you have the meeting.
0:29:39 You pitch the idea.
0:29:41 Do you have a way of kind of pitching it to your team?
0:29:44 Or what’s happening in that meeting?
0:29:46 In that meeting, anyone can pitch.
0:29:47 So it’s not just me.
0:29:50 Everyone usually has different ideas.
0:29:55 And so, yeah, it’s like, hey, here’s an AI defensible idea.
0:29:56 XYZ.
0:29:57 Here’s why it’s a Maui idea.
0:30:01 So we kind of have a common understanding on what a Maui idea is.
0:30:02 Which is roughly what?
0:30:08 It’s roughly an idea that can cash flow that doesn’t require a lot of outside funding.
0:30:10 We could fund it ourselves.
0:30:18 And where it’s, like, boring and complicated enough where random people are not going to copy us that easily or reverse engineer it that easily.
0:30:23 Those are Maui ideas, and that’s what I’d encourage anyone else to do as well.
0:30:29 Like, if you’re an auto mechanic expert, then that might be your theme of idea.
0:30:31 And we have that for, like, financial services in particular.
0:30:32 Right.
0:30:36 And so you, where do you leave that meeting?
0:30:37 You say, all right, what are we going to do next?
0:30:42 We say, okay, what are we going to get done to advance this between this week and next week?
0:30:44 And we just get very specific.
0:30:47 And it’s like, all right, like, person A, you’re doing these five things.
0:30:48 Person B, you’re doing these five things.
0:30:54 And the next step might be, like, okay, let’s just go call, like, for Holy Health.
0:31:03 The next step was, let’s just call some chiropractors and ask them if they, you know, figure out who accepts insurance and who doesn’t and why.
0:31:09 And then ask them why don’t they plug into these existing companies that should be doing something similar.
0:31:12 So a lot of it’s just, like, what are the questions we’re curious about?
0:31:16 And psychologically, are you trying to disqualify an idea or are you trying to qualify an idea?
0:31:17 Like, what’s the mindset?
0:31:20 Is it, I’m trying to figure out, is this good or bad?
0:31:23 Or is it, like, I’m listing the riskiest assumption, I’m doing it?
0:31:26 What are you trying to do during those next few weeks?
0:31:31 It’s not we’re trying to figure it out or disqualify it, per se.
0:31:33 I think either attitude might be too extreme.
0:31:38 It’s more like there might be a creative angle here that no one else has thought through.
0:31:40 And so we’re not married to this idea.
0:31:41 We’re holding it very loosely.
0:31:48 We just have to figure out, like, okay, you might hear an interesting insight from a chiropractor that says, hey, your idea is okay.
0:31:54 But what would make it really good is if you also added in all these AI agents to automate away my receptionist.
0:31:58 And then, you know, my customer acquisition is terrible because X, Y, Z.
0:32:03 Like, those are the insights we’re looking for to then manufacture an upgraded version of the idea.
0:32:08 So we assume the first idea is terrible, and it’s going to go through, like, 10 pivots.
0:32:08 Right.
0:32:09 Like, yeah.
0:32:12 Which is very useful because that’s almost always the case.
0:32:18 And if you don’t have that attitude, you basically, you hear something really juicy, but you’re so locked in.
0:32:23 It’s like somebody was handing you gold, but you were out there just, you know, searching for bronze.
0:32:25 And it’s like, are you sure?
0:32:26 You sure you want that?
0:32:30 I was going to ask you, you know, you’re talking a lot about ideas.
0:32:36 In Silicon Valley, there’s this idea, there’s this phrase, which is, you know, ideas are worthless.
0:32:37 Execution is everything.
0:32:38 Do you buy that?
0:32:39 I think it’s BS.
0:32:43 I think it’s, I think it’s some of the worst advice I’ve ever heard in Silicon Valley.
0:32:46 So what’s your take?
0:32:50 My take is that ideas are really freaking important.
0:32:53 And if you have the wrong idea, you’d be a great team and you’re screwed.
0:32:59 And actually, I modified my thinking on this because I was a scout for Sequoia Capital for many years.
0:33:06 And they would show us a bunch of these like great ideas with amazing traction, especially in consumer internet.
0:33:10 And then they would ask us, would you invest on this memo?
0:33:11 Yes or no.
0:33:12 And so we would vote.
0:33:14 And then they’d say, well, here’s what happened to that company.
0:33:20 It ended up being, you know, a zero, even though it had the best team, the idea was still garbage.
0:33:22 So it ended up being a zero.
0:33:25 And that was like a common theme I noticed.
0:33:28 So they would train, almost train you on historical memos, basically?
0:33:28 Yeah.
0:33:29 Oh, wow.
0:33:30 Isn’t that incredible?
0:33:37 But if the traction was great, is it usually the traction or just the team and the thesis was great?
0:33:39 I mean, the early traction might have been good and the team looks good.
0:33:45 But then if you really think through the long term, like, is this idea sticky after a year or two?
0:33:46 Will there be copycats?
0:33:51 Like, is it like, is there anything that really holds the consumer in?
0:33:54 You know, that’s where these ideas would then lose steam.
0:33:54 Right.
0:33:55 And die.
0:33:59 And so that kind of helped me think about this a bit differently.
0:34:02 And so you’re saying ideas are super important.
0:34:03 Ideas are really important.
0:34:04 And the team is really important.
0:34:05 They’re both really important.
0:34:08 But to say, oh, yeah, like, ideas are a dime a dozen.
0:34:10 Like, really, it’s not just the idea.
0:34:12 It’s like the whole thinking of the business.
0:34:28 Like, doing the calls to, like, understand or meeting with the chiropractors in person or the auto mechanic and really figuring out these juicy tidbits that you’re not going to find out by sending out a stupid survey or by using ChatGPT to tell me, hey, what are the problems that chiropractors have?
0:34:33 Like, that helps you build an interview script for what you’re going to then talk to them about.
0:34:35 But then, you know, you have to show up.
0:34:45 So, like, when I was building in Enero, I would go to Yelp and I would call these CPAs and I would say, hey, I’m like a 19-year-old college kid.
0:34:46 I know nothing about business.
0:34:48 I want to do something to help accountants.
0:34:53 Could I come to you, buy you lunch and just, like, ask you some questions just for 15 minutes?
0:34:54 And then you show up.
0:34:56 They’re not going to kick you out after 15 minutes.
0:34:57 15 minutes is going to turn into two hours.
0:34:59 And you have your notepad, your scribbling.
0:35:00 Like, they love that.
0:35:02 They want to be helpful.
0:35:02 Right.
0:35:05 And I did a lot of that personally.
0:35:11 Like, I just showed up and asked them my questions and then got all these insights.
0:35:12 And we still do that.
0:35:13 I’m still on these calls.
0:35:14 Okay?
0:35:20 Like, even if it’s not in person, if you could at least do, like, hour-long plus, you know, expert calls.
0:35:22 Like, we use GLG for this.
0:35:25 There’s also, like, alpha sites.
0:35:26 And they charge you a lot.
0:35:34 You know, you might be paying $800 for $1,000 to talk to an expert in a very difficult-to-find area versus, like, accountants and chiropractors.
0:35:36 Like, you could just call someone on the internet.
0:35:41 But if you want to find, like, an expert in titanium mining, how are you going to find that person?
0:35:43 You go to GLG and you pay them $1,000.
0:35:45 So, they’ll find the person for you, set up the phone call for you.
0:35:46 Right.
0:35:47 And we do that all the time.
0:35:53 The way you’re talking about ideas and markets, it reminds me of, there’s a story of this marketer.
0:35:56 And the marketer goes to, I think, a seminar or something like that.
0:35:57 There’s other marketers there.
0:36:02 And he goes, okay, we are going to, let’s pretend we’re opening up a hot dog stand.
0:36:07 And he’s like, so I can get, he’s like, I’m a genie.
0:36:10 I will give you anything you want to make your hot dog stand the most successful you can make.
0:36:12 So, he goes, what do you want?
0:36:13 And so, first person, what do you want?
0:36:16 The guy’s like, I want the best ingredients, best buns.
0:36:17 He’s like, got it, best buns.
0:36:18 You, what do you want?
0:36:20 He’s like, no, no, no, buns, that’s foolish.
0:36:23 In the food business, location is everything.
0:36:26 So, location, all right, I got you this corner spot in a high traffic area.
0:36:27 Cool.
0:36:28 Location, you got it.
0:36:29 What do you want?
0:36:32 And each person had, like, best branding, best, whatever.
0:36:37 And he goes, I have one thing that I think will beat all of you if we all did the same thing.
0:36:39 And we all got our wish granted.
0:36:41 He goes, all I want is a starving crowd.
0:36:47 And if you’re a marketer, like, you’re going to spend a lot of time and energy trying to sell something.
0:36:52 The absolute best decision you can make up front is finding a starving, ravenous crowd.
0:37:05 And it sounds like, you know, when you say ideas, really the idea, you know, what’s underneath an idea is a customer or a set of customers who have, like, a real pain and, like, a desire to solve that pain.
0:37:07 You know, like, they are hungry.
0:37:08 And they’re hungry for something.
0:37:13 And if you just show up with even decent buns and hot dogs, like, they’ll buy it, you know, instantaneously.
0:37:14 It’s okay if it’s a little cold.
0:37:15 It doesn’t matter.
0:37:16 Yeah, that’s a great story.
0:37:19 It’s about, like, how acute is this problem?
0:37:27 And ideally, one hallmark of a Maui idea is the customer doesn’t have to pay anything.
0:37:30 So in Holy Health, you don’t pay to be on our platform.
0:37:34 By being part of our platform, you make more money.
0:37:35 You get more customers.
0:37:39 And we’ll take a cut of that in exchange for helping you grow your business.
0:37:40 So you like that model because there’s no friction.
0:37:41 I love that model.
0:37:44 It’s like, why would you say no to that?
0:37:46 It’s like, you’re just saying no to more business.
0:37:51 Yeah, that’s like those companies that they’ll negotiate with all vendors on your behalf.
0:37:53 And they’re like, whatever we save, we’ll take 20%.
0:37:54 You’re saving nothing today.
0:37:56 If I save you any money, I’ll take 20%.
0:37:58 And it’s like, okay, go have at it.
0:38:00 You were talking about, you had a couple other ideas.
0:38:01 You had, like, a divorce one.
0:38:02 What was that one?
0:38:02 Oh, yeah.
0:38:05 That was like, I had so many friends getting divorced and still do.
0:38:11 And people say they need an advance on their alimony or, like, there’s going to be,
0:38:15 or their money gets tied up and locked up because they’re in divorce proceedings
0:38:16 and they’re really rich.
0:38:20 They’re really successful, but they can’t tap any of their own capital while it’s all tied up.
0:38:22 So what if we could just give them some of their money back?
0:38:24 And so that was just like a funny, random.
0:38:29 Creative financing around either the window of a divorce or the alimony.
0:38:30 We called it divorce.fund.
0:38:33 Didn’t go forward with that one?
0:38:36 No, I mean, people talk about it and we still joke about it,
0:38:40 but there are other ideas that we got more excited about, so.
0:38:42 So let’s talk about failures because one of the things you said to me before this.
0:38:43 Oh, man, so many failures.
0:38:46 You were like, I like your podcast, but, you know, sometimes you listen to people
0:38:51 and it just sounds like it’s, I had this idea, it worked, I’m so great.
0:38:53 You know, like, that’s a podcast problem.
0:38:58 And you were like, I want to be super honest about things we’re trying that are not working
0:38:59 or failures that I’ve had.
0:39:00 Where do you want to start?
0:39:08 Yeah, I mean, I would start by saying when I use YouTube and I have all these entrepreneur
0:39:12 business podcasts, I spend a lot of time flipping through and I think, man, like I’m not doing
0:39:13 enough.
0:39:14 Like, I’m not good enough.
0:39:18 Even when, like, I watch your podcast, I think that.
0:39:22 And I think that a lot of people, you know, probably share that view.
0:39:25 And the people you interview, I know a lot of these people.
0:39:26 These are my friends.
0:39:28 I know what they’re secretly struggling with.
0:39:28 Yeah.
0:39:31 And they’re not necessarily sharing all of that.
0:39:33 And I think that’s just important to know.
0:39:37 So in my case, looks like I am good at coming up with these things and having success.
0:39:40 But most of the time, they’re total duds.
0:39:43 And one example is we had this idea, we called it Cred Boost.
0:39:45 Terrible idea in hindsight.
0:39:47 I’m so embarrassed to share this, but I’m going to share it anyway.
0:39:53 New York City founders, if you’ve listened to My First Million before, you know I’ve got
0:39:54 this company called Hampton.
0:39:57 And Hampton is a community for founders and CEOs.
0:40:02 A lot of the stories and ideas that I get for this podcast, I actually got it from people
0:40:03 who I met in Hampton.
0:40:05 We have this big community of 1,000 plus people and it’s amazing.
0:40:10 But the main part is this eight-person core group that becomes your board of advisors for
0:40:12 your life and for your business and it’s life-changing.
0:40:19 Now, to the folks in New York City, I’m building an in-real-life core group in New York City.
0:40:24 And so if you meet one of the following criteria, your business either does $3 million in revenue
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0:40:33 So go to joinhampton.com and apply.
0:40:36 I’m going to be reviewing all of the applications myself.
0:40:40 So put that you heard about this on MFM so I know to give you a little extra love.
0:40:41 Now, back to the show.
0:40:49 And the idea was, we’re going to help you improve your credit.
0:40:56 We had the customer acquisition funnel going and it was high churn, low price point, very
0:40:59 high regulation by the FTC.
0:41:03 It got compared to credit repair businesses too much.
0:41:07 And my idea was, we’re going to boost your credit, not just repair your credit.
0:41:11 And it could have made some money, but we just got bored with that.
0:41:14 And so I burned a few hundred thousand bucks experimenting with that.
0:41:16 And then I put in the wrong team.
0:41:17 So I made so many mistakes on that.
0:41:20 That was an early incubation that went nowhere.
0:41:29 And this other idea was, we’re going to help veterans of the U.S. military find new jobs.
0:41:33 And we’re going to get paid by Vet Tech and the GI Bill to do that.
0:41:35 And we could do this all online.
0:41:38 So it’s virtual, it’s scalable, and we’re helping veterans.
0:41:41 So it felt like it was a really good idea.
0:41:43 And the veteran, all they have to do is say yes.
0:41:46 So we launched all these ads, all these veterans signed up.
0:41:52 They’re like, hell yeah, I could double my salary, make more money, and do this all online from
0:41:53 the comfort of my home.
0:42:00 And our payment mechanism was this thing called Vet Tech, V-E-T-T-E-C.
0:42:05 And it had bipartisan acceptance.
0:42:08 Everyone loved it, but it got stuck.
0:42:11 It got approved by the House and never went up to the Senate.
0:42:13 And the money dried up.
0:42:15 And we were like, all right, we’ll get renewed imminently.
0:42:18 And 18 months after that, still not renewed today, still not renewed.
0:42:22 And we’re like, okay, well, the HEP business died just because of that.
0:42:23 And then I tried to pivot it.
0:42:25 I’m like, oh, can I get the GI Bill to pay for it?
0:42:27 But then the GI Bill requires in person.
0:42:29 And then after that, we lost interest.
0:42:32 Like, I was the only one excited about this still.
0:42:33 I’m like, guys, we’ve got to help the veterans.
0:42:36 My team’s like, we have other ideas that will make more money, Jess.
0:42:37 And we want to make money.
0:42:40 Like, all right, I’ll come back to this when the time’s right.
0:42:41 So swings and misses for sure.
0:42:42 I want to show you this.
0:42:44 I want you to read this.
0:42:46 This is from a talk you gave.
0:42:47 Oh, man.
0:42:48 This is not just…
0:42:52 This is when it hurts, but not just because an idea is wrong.
0:42:52 Uh-huh.
0:42:54 Sometimes it’s even when the idea is right.
0:42:54 Yeah.
0:42:55 And you’re running a company.
0:42:56 Can you read this?
0:42:57 I want you to read that.
0:43:04 I wrote this to my mom and my dad on Saturday, June 4th, 2011 at 5.56 a.m.
0:43:05 So I was up all night.
0:43:06 I couldn’t go to sleep.
0:43:07 I was so upset.
0:43:08 Subject line.
0:43:09 Kind of sad.
0:43:15 I feel like I’m Bernie Madoff, rich on the outside, but completely broken on the inside.
0:43:18 There’s just a lot of pressure right now because the company is running dry on money in the next
0:43:19 nine or so months.
0:43:23 And we really need to produce this summer or else we’re royally screwed.
0:43:30 This was about a year after Y Combinator for me.
0:43:34 Anyway, I want to start seeing a therapist or something because this is just no way to live.
0:43:37 I have no idea how you handle this entrepreneur job, Jess.
0:43:38 Wow.
0:43:39 And my mom, she’s an entrepreneur.
0:43:41 She came here as an immigrant.
0:43:42 Do you remember sending that?
0:43:43 I do.
0:43:44 I absolutely remember that.
0:43:45 I remember the night.
0:43:53 I remember how I was just like very upset because I had all these hoops and expectations on myself.
0:43:56 And, you know, Paul Graham, even he was my mentor.
0:43:59 And he’s like, you’re going to be one of the greatest entrepreneurs of all time.
0:44:01 You, Patrick Hollison, and Sam Altman.
0:44:04 And I’m still the least successful today.
0:44:06 And I still think about that often.
0:44:08 And that weight was on your shoulders.
0:44:10 That weight was totally on my shoulders.
0:44:11 It still is on my shoulders.
0:44:17 And, and my mom called me and she said, hey, like, I love you no matter what.
0:44:19 Even if you’re a total business failure, I’ll still love you.
0:44:29 And then I just cut all my expenses, cut my burn, moved into a tiny apartment with my business partner and, and then just slowly crawled out, out of the hole.
0:44:35 And then, yeah, we grew in and out to, you know, it’s a few hundred employees, profitable, good business, not a unicorn.
0:44:45 But it gave me all the training and spiritual training to pursue entrepreneurship and be comfortable with mistakes and failure.
0:44:53 Were you, uh, at that time, I guess, like, what was the conversation with yourself to like, because you’re like, I did these things.
0:44:54 I lowered my burn.
0:44:55 I did this.
0:44:55 I did this.
0:44:57 So those are the actions.
0:44:59 But before the action comes, some, there’s some inner monologue.
0:45:01 There’s some conversation you got to have with yourself.
0:45:08 And I love the inner monologue because your whole life gets dictated by this tiny little voice in your head that nobody hears.
0:45:12 It’s the one telling you how to feel, what to do, where to stand, what to say.
0:45:21 And I think training that and learning how to like, kind of, uh, improve that inner monologue is so important.
0:45:24 And you, it gets better in moments like this, right?
0:45:27 That’s when it gets, that’s the muscle building for that, that inner monologue.
0:45:30 Do you, do you remember kind of what you were telling yourself at that phase?
0:45:31 You wrote this, your mom tells you something.
0:45:32 What’d you tell yourself?
0:45:37 I distinctly remember what the monologue was that whole evening, which is I am destined for greatness.
0:45:40 And I am not producing my best work right now.
0:45:42 I am not showing up at my best.
0:45:43 I’m not playing to win.
0:45:48 And I’m, I’m falling behind and I need to diagnose what went wrong.
0:45:52 And I need to keep on trying and I will not accept or tolerate failure.
0:45:54 That was what was going through my head.
0:45:56 Were you listening to a song at that time?
0:45:56 Where did that come from?
0:45:57 That was fire.
0:45:58 No, it was just.
0:46:02 How’d you get yourself into that state from kind of sad to like, kind of kick ass?
0:46:04 No, that was sad though.
0:46:07 That was not, it was not an empowered attitude.
0:46:12 I was, I was thinking that and, but because I knew that that was my situation,
0:46:16 then it went from like, all right, like I need to do all this or I’m screwed.
0:46:19 And then like, all right, I’m really sad and I got to process my emotions.
0:46:20 Right.
0:46:24 Just get it out of me and, you know, be honest with myself that I’m struggling.
0:46:25 I need to ask for help.
0:46:31 And I didn’t have a great community because back at that time, you, you know, as an entrepreneur,
0:46:36 you want to show off, you want to posture, you want to seem like you’re better than everyone else.
0:46:40 And then after that, I realized I could just be honest and I’ll still have friends.
0:46:46 And I told all my girlfriends and ends up more people were struggling than I realized.
0:46:49 More of my Y Combinator batch mates were also running out of money.
0:46:54 And if we look back today, most of the companies from that batch did not make it.
0:47:00 Most of them went BK and then people took normal jobs or started new companies and then eventually found success.
0:47:02 And so, yeah, I still think about that.
0:47:04 I still have thoughts like that today.
0:47:06 It’s not, it’s a work in progress.
0:47:11 You know, I’ve, I’ve done whatever, 600 of these episodes.
0:47:19 And at a certain point, you know, you’d have to be sort of stupid to not realize like there’s a mindset amongst the common mindset that I think great entrepreneurs have.
0:47:21 And I’ve distilled it down into this.
0:47:26 I think a great entrepreneur’s mindset is they’re ignorant of the past because it’s already done.
0:47:28 If they live there, they’ll die there.
0:47:35 And if you just stay stuck on, well, I’ve been failing for five years, you know, then you will feel like a failure and you won’t be able to win.
0:47:40 So you’re ignorant of the past, realistic about the present, which is kind of what you said.
0:47:41 Like, I’m not showing up at my best.
0:47:43 I’m not putting in all the effort.
0:47:46 I’m not doing the obvious things that I should be doing right now.
0:47:49 But I’m also not, it’s not over.
0:47:50 And so they don’t make it worse than it is.
0:47:51 They don’t make it better than it is.
0:47:53 They see it as it actually is.
0:47:56 So ignorant of the past, realistic about the present and delusional about the future.
0:48:01 You have to have that delusion because if you’re just realistic and practical about the future, you don’t do anything great.
0:48:04 Yeah, that’s really well articulated.
0:48:12 I think also going through moments like that, I remember then talking to my business partner and we did a full postmortem.
0:48:21 We listed out every single strategic and tactical mistake and thing we did wrong and what we would do different if we went back in time.
0:48:25 And I wish I wrote this somewhere because it was a long list.
0:48:30 I mean, it was like I would do everything different if I could go back in time was that attitude.
0:48:50 And even today I was talking to, or yesterday I was talking to one of my colleagues and the number of bad ideas we funded and experimented with and our process flaws, you know, we would also do everything different going three years back if we could.
0:48:52 But we’re talking about this constantly.
0:48:55 And that goes back to what we talked about at first, Kodawari.
0:48:58 So every week, what if we bake this into our workflow?
0:49:05 No matter how good things are, let’s still reflect on all the mistakes we made so that we can improve and not repeat that again.
0:49:10 It doesn’t have to be when times are tough and when you’re about to run out of money that you’re reflecting on like everything.
0:49:11 Yeah, yeah.
0:49:12 No old mistakes.
0:49:14 It’s kind of like the, it’s the no new friends.
0:49:15 It’s the no old mistakes is what you want.
0:49:17 You don’t, you don’t want to keep making those same mistakes again.
0:49:21 You said something when you were talking about like, I’m not, you said, I’m not showing up the way I need to.
0:49:23 You said, I’m not playing to win.
0:49:23 Yeah.
0:49:25 That’s something while I was talking to your boyfriend before this.
0:49:28 And he goes, I asked him, I said, what’s a, what’s a Jess-ism?
0:49:36 Meaning like if you talk to people enough, you sort of see their, the things they repeat, the things that are like their philosophy that they’re like actually operating on.
0:49:41 And he said something like, play to win, don’t play not to lose.
0:49:42 Explain that.
0:49:50 I think that came from this story that I just shared where I, one of my problems was I was playing not to lose.
0:50:02 So I was in a scarcity mindset and when I’m running out of money and I’m in scarcity mindset, I mean, there’s research that talks about how your IQ drops by a lot during those periods.
0:50:09 And so I’m not going to think outside of the box and playing to win means I’m optimistic.
0:50:10 I’m delusional about the future of it.
0:50:11 Right.
0:50:15 So I, I see a lot of my friends who are just like playing it too safe.
0:50:18 They’re not, they’re not trying new things.
0:50:23 And so you can’t do the same thing you’ve been doing and expect a completely different outcome.
0:50:24 Right.
0:50:32 What’s an example, maybe non-business related where in your life you’re playing to, you had the moment where you’re like, ah, I need to play to win here instead of play not to lose.
0:50:42 Like, uh, for example, with the airplane, you know, this is a physical manifestation of that attitude and why it’s really fun to share that with everyone today.
0:50:46 Um, it’s easy to say, ah, I’m going to be frugal.
0:50:47 I’m going to save the money.
0:50:48 I’m going to let it compound.
0:50:53 I’m going to invest it in my other businesses or, you know, screw it.
0:50:54 I’m playing to win here.
0:50:58 This is going to manifest way more abundance for me than if I don’t.
0:51:00 You had told me something that when we were at lunch that inspired me.
0:51:05 You met somebody, I think, who threw a great event and you hired this person.
0:51:09 You were like, hey, here’s a budget and I will pay you whatever you’re making your job.
0:51:11 I’ll pay you that or more, whatever.
0:51:20 You’re like, I want to have four events a year in these four cities with the most like inspiring, fun people in my life that I want to create.
0:51:29 I want to engineer some serendipity, some luck, some fun, some cross pollination of people and ideas four times a year in these, in these places.
0:51:33 And I remember I’ve told probably five people this because you need some resources to do it.
0:51:35 Yes, of course, of course.
0:51:39 Like don’t, if you’re in the YouTube comments, don’t be that guy who’s like, oh, it must be nice to have money.
0:51:39 Great.
0:51:41 There’s a version of this in your life too.
0:51:43 You can take people out to dinner, right?
0:51:44 It doesn’t have to be a grand event.
0:51:49 But I was like, that is an investment that I don’t even have a line item for.
0:51:49 Yeah.
0:51:50 Right.
0:51:52 I kind of know if I did it, probably really good.
0:51:55 I would A, have a lot of fun and B, like, yeah, I do think good things would happen.
0:52:06 But you took an almost like intentional business capital allocation approach to the like luck and fun part of your life, which I think most people leave untouched.
0:52:08 Luck and fun is just something that either happens or doesn’t happen.
0:52:10 It’s not, I don’t use my business brain for that.
0:52:11 I use this other part of my brain.
0:52:14 It seemed like you almost used your, that same brain for both.
0:52:14 Yeah.
0:52:20 Cause I wanted to kill two birds with one stone or three birds with one stone because I want to have fun.
0:52:21 I want to do more business, meet cool people.
0:52:26 But I also had this friend who hated her private equity job and really wanted an excuse to leave.
0:52:28 And so I was able to present that to her.
0:52:34 The vision was four events a year with, you know, the most successful entrepreneurs and investors I know.
0:52:37 And we’re launching the first one literally today.
0:52:40 That’s exactly what I’m flying off to after we’re done.
0:52:46 And then the vision is we’ll do a summer thing, a fall thing, et cetera.
0:52:47 But it was really expensive.
0:52:53 And so what she and I decided to do was we would help her find other work, other events.
0:52:55 So I’d set her up with my other friends throwing events.
0:53:02 She would charge per event and she would get paid based on the revenue coming into the events.
0:53:05 So it’s all variable versus her being on my payroll.
0:53:06 Right.
0:53:09 And so for this event, what I did is I called a bunch of my friends.
0:53:11 I said, hey, you got to pay something because I have hard costs here.
0:53:15 And they paid in and then she only paid herself after there was a profit.
0:53:18 So you could get creative about this.
0:53:23 For the ideas we were talking about earlier and my whole team, a bunch of these people are on contract.
0:53:24 I found them on Upwork.
0:53:25 Yeah.
0:53:25 Okay.
0:53:27 Like you could do this.
0:53:28 What type of person?
0:53:30 Like what skill set do they have that you found out?
0:53:31 You said like Fiverr or Upwork.
0:53:31 Yeah.
0:53:36 Like one’s a product management UI UX thinker.
0:53:40 One is a financial services guy.
0:53:43 One was a intern of mine.
0:53:47 He was at UCLA and he asked me to speak to his entrepreneur club.
0:53:50 And then he said, hey, could I like take you to lunch?
0:53:51 I want to get some advice from you.
0:53:52 What should I do after college?
0:53:55 I’m like, just intern for me and I’ll teach you the ropes.
0:53:58 And then he was so good that now he’s full time with us.
0:54:03 But he’s probably one of my best idea sparring partners.
0:54:08 And then here, this event planning person, I met her from the Burning Man community.
0:54:11 These people are everywhere around you.
0:54:15 They don’t necessarily have a fancy specific resume and they’re fun.
0:54:16 I love them.
0:54:17 We work well together.
0:54:19 That’s more important than the resume.
0:54:19 Right.
0:54:21 I met a friend recently who told me this.
0:54:23 He said something in passing.
0:54:27 He goes, I was at this event and then there was this guy who was, he was dressed differently,
0:54:27 blah, blah.
0:54:30 And me and my friend, we collect eccentric people.
0:54:31 So we went over to him and had a chat.
0:54:32 I kind of paused him.
0:54:35 I was like, that’s kind of a cool thing you just said.
0:54:36 Like I collect eccentric people.
0:54:38 I don’t do that.
0:54:40 And I was like, but what do I, what do I collect?
0:54:43 Like if I just put myself in, if I said, what am I a collector of?
0:54:45 So like for me, I’m a collector of what I call golden nuggets.
0:54:49 It’s like, I can have this conversation with you and I’m just looking for two, three, four
0:54:49 things.
0:54:53 Like I don’t need two hours or 90 minutes of a conversation to be perfect.
0:54:58 I need three ideas that spark something, three golden nuggets that will change my way of thinking
0:54:59 or acting.
0:55:01 So I’m a great collector of those.
0:55:02 I’m also a collector of like young talent.
0:55:07 Like I see somebody who’s young, who’s hustling or is talented in some way.
0:55:12 I will like kind of really help them out because I want to A, stay young myself and
0:55:16 be helpful, but B, I kind of want to be able to connect dots between young people and good
0:55:19 opportunities or young people and funding or whatever it is.
0:55:23 And so I think there’s this interesting idea of like figuring out what is it that you collect?
0:55:25 Like some dudes collect stamps, some dudes collect bugs.
0:55:27 What is it that you collect?
0:55:29 So like for you, what do you, what would you say you collect?
0:55:35 I would say I collect interesting people with outside of the box ideas who also like to have
0:55:35 fun.
0:55:38 That is the key intersection I’m looking for.
0:55:39 That’s your Venn diagram.
0:55:39 Exactly.
0:55:43 Because I think you could find interesting people where they’re not fun.
0:55:44 It’s very transactional.
0:55:46 They’re just in it to make money themselves.
0:55:49 But then the problem with that is then I can’t do any business with them.
0:55:54 So that’s, so then my idea was, okay, how do I bring more of these people together so that
0:55:55 we can have more serendipity?
0:56:00 Oh, I’ll just create my own event and then bring them there and then have a bunch of my people
0:56:03 also, you know, talking to them, getting their ideas and seeing where we could partner
0:56:04 on stuff.
0:56:05 Right, right.
0:56:06 Engineering the serendipity.
0:56:09 Our buddy Nick Gray does a like no cost, low cost version of this.
0:56:12 So he used to do a renegade museum tour.
0:56:13 So he like, he loved museums.
0:56:18 So his Venn diagram was like fun people who are interested in like, you know, going to a
0:56:19 museum on a Friday night.
0:56:22 And he would host his, he wasn’t a part of the museum.
0:56:25 He would just take people on a tour because he knew the museum better than the tour guides.
0:56:27 And he would take them on a fun version of the tour.
0:56:31 They’d like have a drink outside after, uh, beforehand they would go in and they would
0:56:33 like do little fun things at the different stations.
0:56:35 So like that was one thing he did.
0:56:40 Another way he engineered serendipity is he would throw these like singles events where he
0:56:44 himself was looking to date somebody, but he’s like, well, I could just kind of do that.
0:56:45 I can swipe left or right.
0:56:50 Or like, is there something I could do more creative that will not only help me find someone amazing,
0:56:52 but maybe even like a bunch of our friends find somebody amazing.
0:56:53 And he started hosting these singles events.
0:56:56 And again, the, it’s a pizza budget.
0:56:59 It’s not like it’s super fancy, doesn’t have to be fancy, right?
0:57:02 Like, uh, and I feel like I need to say that because we’re sitting on this like jet, but
0:57:05 like, I mean, most of the stuff we do is like very cheap, cost effective and peace for itself
0:57:07 and sometimes makes a profit, you know?
0:57:10 So like just, but just taking that intensity to engineering, some serendipity.
0:57:11 I kind of love that.
0:57:13 Uh, before we leave, what do you just leave me with?
0:57:15 What are you currently nerding out about?
0:57:20 Um, I’ve been spending a lot of time thinking about like cancer and oncology.
0:57:25 I’ve been thinking a lot about, um, longevity and, you know, we’re still funding a lot of
0:57:28 the research with Mike Levin, who’s my favorite scientist of all time.
0:57:30 He’s the bioelectricity ninja.
0:57:37 And, um, I’ve been nerding out on this a bit more because, um, I was mentioning to you before
0:57:41 we got here, I’ve been in a bit of a sad mood this week.
0:57:48 I had a friend die of cancer a few days ago, um, never smoked a cigarette in her life and had
0:57:49 stage four lung cancer.
0:57:54 And, um, and it’s just more examples of this in my life.
0:57:57 Every year or two, I lose a friend like that.
0:58:01 And, and so it’s not necessarily going to make money.
0:58:05 It’s not going to improve my lifestyle, but I’m just like, I got to nerd out on it.
0:58:06 Right.
0:58:10 Is there exciting progress in the cancer oncology stuff right now?
0:58:14 Like, is there something, is there a new paradigm or a new pathway that’s interesting?
0:58:15 Yeah.
0:58:20 Like with Mike, we, he talks about how he’s been able to use bioelectricity to normalize
0:58:21 cancer cells.
0:58:27 So everyone right now in the field is talking about how do you kill a cancer, right?
0:58:31 You think about chemo, radiation, it’s really painful on the patient, but if you could just
0:58:36 normalize cancer and, um, not have to kill it, that’s going to be a lot more comfortable.
0:58:38 It kind of makes it like a normal non-cancerous cell, basically.
0:58:42 It’s still going to be cancer, but it’s more benign essentially.
0:58:44 So that’s really cool research.
0:58:49 He’s got a lot of great stuff on longevity, making lab, uh, animals live longer.
0:58:52 Um, I don’t think he wants me to talk about it publicly yet, but.
0:58:57 How insane is the AI, uh, AI for medicine and biology?
0:58:59 How is that, how insane is that going to be?
0:59:00 I think it’s going to be amazing.
0:59:03 I think it’s also going to be a lot harder than people think.
0:59:08 Because you have AI that’s coming up with all these ideas, but the bottleneck is still
0:59:10 regulatory, still FDA.
0:59:13 It’s still getting a clinical trial put together.
0:59:17 That’s one area where we’re going to see slower progress than everyone is bragging about.
0:59:21 Whereas, you know, with everything else we discussed with digital twins, if we could have
0:59:23 the two of us brainstorm ideas, there’s no bottleneck there.
0:59:24 Right, right, right.
0:59:28 Like the only bottleneck is like spitting up the computer and then us pulling the trigger
0:59:30 to fund ads or fund whatever.
0:59:34 But in health and bio, it’s people’s lives are at stake.
0:59:36 It’s going to go slow still, I think, unfortunately.
0:59:37 Okay.
0:59:41 Well, where should people find you and what should they send you?
0:59:42 Yeah.
0:59:48 Um, if you have any exotic outside of the box business ideas you want to run by me and,
0:59:52 um, I’d love to discuss that with you, uh, shoot me a note.
0:59:53 And I am on LinkedIn.
0:59:56 LinkedIn, um, just search Jess Ma.
1:00:03 And, um, I post on my blog there almost every week, uh, partially using Chats UBT to come
1:00:06 up with my blog posts, but I still review it.
1:00:10 I’m like, hey, write me a blog post that’s 2950 characters long because the LinkedIn limits
1:00:17 3000 in my voice about X, Y, C, X, Y, C, and insert these anecdotal stories.
1:00:21 And, uh, and then like within two minutes, I have a blog post.
1:00:21 That’s amazing.
1:00:22 Yeah.
1:00:25 But so I post there and these are real live stories in my life.
1:00:27 And, uh, just send me a message on LinkedIn.
1:00:28 Would love to hear from people.
1:00:33 And also the last pod we did, I made a bunch of friends.
1:00:33 Oh, great.
1:00:36 Like people just cold emailed me and I’m like, yeah, I’ll grab lunch with you.
1:00:38 I’ll grab dinner with you.
1:00:42 And two people I met from the pod are coming to my retreat.
1:00:43 That’s a, that’s amazing to hear.
1:00:47 That’s a point of pride for us is like, we want it today.
1:00:51 If somebody comes on the podcast, they, you should get more kind of inbound messages from
1:00:53 this than any other podcast you go on.
1:00:57 And the second would be that the people who message you are people you would actually want
1:00:57 to talk to.
1:00:58 That would be the goal, right?
1:01:01 That if we’re doing that, we’ve kind of built the right tribe here.
1:01:04 So yeah, you’ve done a great job with that real community.
1:01:05 So thanks for having me here.
1:01:05 Awesome.
1:01:06 Well, cheers.
1:01:07 Cheers.
1:01:10 I feel like I can rule the world.
1:01:16 I know I could be what I want to put my all in it like no days off on the road.
1:01:17 Let’s travel.
1:01:18 Never looking back.

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Episode 702: Shaan Puri ( https://x.com/ShaanVP ) boards the private jet of Jess Mah ( https://x.com/jessicamah ) to brainstorm business ideas and talk about her process for vetting which ideas to jump on.

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Show Notes:

(0:00) Buying a jet

(5:37) Barn full of horses

(8:44) Business ideas matrix

(11:06) Idea: DOGE as a service

(13:30) Idea: Vertical agents

(16:52) Idea: Cargo ship coating

(21:26) Idea: Holy Health

(25:07) Building a team with digital twins

(28:46) Jess’s 0 – 1 framework

(31:09) Worst advice from Silicon Valley

(35:44) Find a starving crowd

(37:55) Idea: Divorce.fund

(38:36) Failures: Credboost

(46:08) Ignorant of past, realistic of present, delulu of the future

(49:58) Engineering serendipity

(56:12) AI for medicine

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Links:

• Mahway – https://mahway.com/

• YC’s Request for Startups – https://www.ycombinator.com/rfs

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• Hampton Wealth Survey – https://joinhampton.com/wealth

• Sam’s List – http://samslist.co/

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May 2, 2025

632. When Did We All Start Watching Documentaries?
632. When Did We All Start Watching Documentaries?
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0:00:10 Over the past few episodes of Freakonomics Radio, we dug into the economics of live theater
0:00:14 and we followed one show on its long journey toward Broadway.
0:00:21 In that series, we learned that live theater has become very expensive to produce, so ticket
0:00:25 prices have also risen and at the same time, attendance is falling.
0:00:31 So, if fewer people are watching plays and musicals, what are they watching?
0:00:37 It turns out that a lot of people, and I mean a lot of them, are watching documentary films.
0:00:46 This explosion of documentary on streaming, the conviction that this was a popular art form
0:00:51 and its full popularity was just waiting to happen, is what matters most.
0:01:00 R.J. Cutler is an Emmy Award-winning filmmaker who has produced and or directed dozens of documentaries.
0:01:04 You may not know his name, but there’s a good chance you’ve seen his work.
0:01:08 Martha, his film about Martha Stewart, has been a big hit on Netflix.
0:01:14 He recently made a film about the young pop star Billie Eilish called The World’s A Little Blurry,
0:01:19 and a film about the old pop star Elton John called Never Too Late.
0:01:25 His 2009 film, The September Issue, shadowed Vogue magazine editor Anna Wintour and her colleague and
0:01:28 sometimes antagonist Grace Coddington.
0:01:34 Cutler has also made a number of political documentaries like The World According to Dick Cheney
0:01:39 and A Perfect Candidate about the failed Senate race of Oliver North.
0:01:44 And his first film, The War Room, which was about Bill Clinton’s first presidential campaign.
0:01:47 That one was nominated for an Academy Award.
0:01:54 Cutler’s most recent project is a docu-series on Apple TV Plus called Fight for Glory, about the 2024 World Series.
0:02:00 You may also recognize Cutler’s name if you are a regular Freakonomics Radio listener.
0:02:07 A few months ago, we did a live show in Los Angeles that was supposed to be recorded for this podcast,
0:02:14 but the theater failed to record the show, which was a shame because we had two great guests that night.
0:02:22 One was the Hollywood super agent and entrepreneur Ari Emanuel, and the other was R.J. Cutler.
0:02:29 As for Ari, him we had interviewed a couple years ago in a studio, episode number 544, so you can hear that if you’d like.
0:02:36 But R.J. had never been on this show before, so we asked him to sit down in a studio and try again.
0:02:38 Oh, you mean we taped this?
0:02:42 Yes, we did tape it, you wise-ass.
0:02:48 Today on Freakonomics Radio, the filmmaker becomes the subject, and it starts now.
0:03:10 This is Freakonomics Radio, the podcast that explores the hidden side of everything, with your host, Stephen Dubner.
0:03:20 Hello, Stephen.
0:03:21 Hello, R.J.
0:03:22 Robert James.
0:03:23 What is R.J.?
0:03:24 Jason, Robert Jason.
0:03:26 R.J. are such good initials.
0:03:26 They are.
0:03:30 You know, my mother insisted on naming me R.J.
0:03:35 Well, she actually named me Robert Jason so that she could call me R.J.
0:03:37 That was her plan.
0:03:39 Wouldn’t let me change it.
0:03:40 She passed away recently.
0:03:46 One of the stories I recounted at her funeral was that when I was in eighth grade,
0:03:55 there was a ninth grade girl from the other high school in town who I had a crush on who called me Rob.
0:03:59 I came home one day and said, I came home one day and said, I’m changing my name to Rob.
0:04:01 And my mother would not hear of it.
0:04:04 She didn’t even want to discuss it.
0:04:09 Robert Jason Cutler grew up in Great Neck, New York on Long Island.
0:04:28 I can’t remember the number of times a teacher said to me something like, you’re gathering people in a theater.
0:04:32 You’ve asked them to come and spend three hours of their lives with you.
0:04:36 You better have something to say and you better damn well know what it is.
0:04:44 After college, Cutler got work on some major theatrical productions, including the Stephen Sondheim musical Into the Woods,
0:04:46 assisting the playwright and director James Lapine.
0:04:54 Cutler also directed a workshop of Jonathan Larson’s first musical, Superbia, years before Larson wrote Rent.
0:05:06 Even though I was a theater kid who was very committed to my career in the theater and pursued it, you know, with some real success into my late 20s,
0:05:12 I always had in the back of my mind that I would end up making documentaries and I would speak to people about it.
0:05:13 And it was such an odd thing.
0:05:15 It’s not a well-worn path.
0:05:28 Talk me through the recent half-century life cycle of documentary film, including your mentors and heroes and this evolution of documentary generally.
0:05:35 The essence of the American documentary movement, which comes of age in the early 1960s,
0:05:46 in the hands of people like D.A. Pennebaker and Ricky Leacock and Alan David Maisels and Robert Drew and others,
0:05:53 is that the technology has advanced to the point where you can carry a camera on your shoulder,
0:05:57 have sync sound and film people through their lives.
0:06:04 This is an enormous breakthrough and it allows people to make what are extraordinary films.
0:06:14 Films about politics, such as Crisis and Primary, which tells stories of the Kennedys and others who were running for office.
0:06:19 Films like Don’t Look Back about Bob Dylan and Gimme Shelter about the Rolling Stones.
0:06:29 Soon thereafter, films like Harlan County, USA by Barbara Koppel, which is a film that had an enormous personal impact on me when I first saw it.
0:06:37 All of these films, they have many things in common, but the biggest one is that they are made by people who have a conviction
0:06:48 that this art form is as viable as scripted filmmaking and that it has a place in cinema the same way that scripted filmmaking does.
0:06:51 Documentaries are no longer just about education.
0:06:55 They are fully cinema, fully narrative, fully character driven.
0:06:59 And as I like to say, just like a real film.
0:07:13 The idea was, if Cary Grant and Robert Redford could be movie stars, why, too, couldn’t the coal miners from Harlan County be movie stars?
0:07:15 Why couldn’t Mick Jagger be a movie star?
0:07:17 And they were right.
0:07:20 At what point did you become a believer in that thesis?
0:07:25 I became a believer in that thesis without even knowing that I was being a believer.
0:07:44 I became a believer when I saw these films as a teenager and as a college student, most of all, as a 17 year old seeing Harlan County, USA, by the way, on a TV set, a PBS screening on a rainy evening that I can remember as if it were yesterday.
0:07:56 And being so mesmerized, not only by the narrative and the filmmaking, but by the voice of the director off screen, Barbara Koppel, in the middle of what was essentially a war zone.
0:08:05 These battles between the local coal miners and the thugs who worked for the mining company who were threatening to kill them.
0:08:07 And there she was in the middle of all of it.
0:08:11 This was the film that made me think this is what I want to do.
0:08:24 In 1992, Cutler had an idea for a documentary that would track that year’s presidential campaign, including the rise of the young Arkansas governor, Bill Clinton.
0:08:31 When I started with The War Room, you could count the number of career documentary filmmakers on two hands.
0:08:37 Two of those filmmakers were the husband and wife team of D.A. Pennebaker and Chris Hegedus.
0:08:41 They liked Cutler’s idea and they took on the project as directors.
0:08:45 Only the Clinton campaign gave them access.
0:08:52 So the film focused on James Carville, the campaign’s lead strategist, and George Stephanopoulos, its communications director.
0:08:57 Even today, there are many memorable moments in The War Room.
0:09:00 This is the origin of, it’s the economy, stupid.
0:09:10 One of my favorite moments is an emotional speech given by Carville to a room full of campaign workers when it’s looking like their candidate will win.
0:09:16 There’s a simple doctrine outside of a person’s love.
0:09:19 The most sacred thing that they can give is their labor.
0:09:22 Labor is a very precious thing that you have.
0:09:26 The harder you work, the luckier you are.
0:09:32 I was 33 years old before I ever went to Washington, New York.
0:09:35 I was 42 before I ever won my first campaign.
0:09:37 And I’m happy for all of y’all.
0:09:41 You’ve been part of something special in my life.
0:09:46 Now, never forget the job done.
0:09:58 The War Room premiered in 1993, and by documentary standards, it was a huge hit, grossing nearly a million dollars.
0:10:03 Back then, most people who saw new movies still watched them in theaters.
0:10:06 The biggest rental company was Blockbuster.
0:10:09 A few years later, Netflix would emerge as a competitor.
0:10:21 As the producer of The War Room, I would run into Ted Sarandos at film festivals, the head of Netflix, when Netflix was a red envelope company that was sending out DVDs.
0:10:26 And every time I’d see him, he would tell me that The War Room was one of the most popular films that he was sending out.
0:10:43 So when Netflix started to do original programming with House of Cards, it was obvious to me that documentaries were going to soon follow.
0:10:44 And what do you know?
0:10:44 They soon followed.
0:10:47 And now we have evidence.
0:10:49 They have the data.
0:10:51 They know how many people watch them.
0:10:52 They know who watches them.
0:10:54 They don’t like to share the data, but they have it.
0:10:55 They don’t like to share it with the public.
0:10:57 They share with some of us.
0:10:58 And the numbers are good.
0:11:00 On that point, let me ask you this.
0:11:19 The story you just told me about Ted Sarandos and The War Room being so popular among the early subscribers of Netflix would suggest to me, but please tell me if I’m wrong, that lying out there sort of dormant or underserved this whole time, the last several decades, was a large audience for documentary films.
0:11:30 But that the system, the filmmaking system, Hollywood and the theater system and so on didn’t pay as much attention to documentaries as to the standard fiction films.
0:11:34 Do you think that was the case, that there was dormant demand out there that nobody ever knew?
0:11:42 And that’s why we’re seeing so much demand now is simply there is a distribution technology that allows that demand to be satisfying?
0:11:46 Well, every town with an art house was showing documentaries.
0:11:57 October Films and Fine Line Films, part of New Line and Miramax, which became the Weinstein Company, and others were distributing documentaries.
0:12:01 The War Room ran for months and months in the art houses.
0:12:05 George Stephanopoulos was a matinee idol as a result.
0:12:14 But the art house audience is smaller than the multiplex audience, and it always was and it always will be.
0:12:20 Now the art house comes to you through the streaming services.
0:12:27 So if you are someone who loves a documentary, those people now have a healthy menu of films to see.
0:12:32 I’ve seen you describe yourself as a theater director who makes documentary films.
0:12:37 I mean, it’s now coming clear to me that that is technically and literally true.
0:12:39 But what does that mean?
0:12:40 How does it manifest itself, do you think?
0:12:43 I mean, this is the foundation of my training.
0:12:49 Structurally, I think of narrative as Aristotle taught me to.
0:12:53 I want the audience to have a rollicking good time at the theater.
0:12:55 I want them to laugh and cry and stomp their feet.
0:13:07 I’m thinking cinematically as well, but I’m also thinking in terms of character and obstacle and overcoming obstacle and the things we learn when we overcome obstacle.
0:13:11 One of the things you look for when you’re making a film is an inherent structure.
0:13:13 There’s nothing better than Election Day.
0:13:15 There’s nothing better than graduation.
0:13:19 And if you’re making a film about Billie Eilish, there’s nothing better than the Grammys.
0:13:25 But we didn’t know that she was going to win however many Grammy Awards she won that night.
0:13:26 And they were an armful.
0:13:39 This was the 2020 Grammy Awards when Eilish won Album of the Year, Record of the Year, Song of the Year, Best Pop Vocal Album, and Best New Artist.
0:13:41 She was 18 years old.
0:13:44 Cutler had been embedded with Eilish and her family.
0:13:52 Her older brother, Phineas, who’s also her collaborator and producer, and their parents, Maggie and Patrick, who homeschooled the kids.
0:14:00 I made this film at a time when I was probably a little out of love with documentary filmmaking.
0:14:07 A little bit had lost the spark, and this film rekindled that spark in a huge way.
0:14:10 How did you meet the Eilish family?
0:14:12 I was invited to meet with them.
0:14:15 They had seen the September issue.
0:14:17 They had seen the War Room, I think.
0:14:23 They were familiar with my work, and I was one of the people that they met with, and we instantly connected.
0:14:25 So there were others they were interested in also.
0:14:27 I don’t really know the full details.
0:14:32 When someone invites you to a party, you don’t ask them who else is invited, and you don’t ask them why.
0:14:48 In that case, I was thrilled to meet them, and I was thrilled to work with them, because it was very clear to me that there was a purely verite film to be made, a film that would tell the story of the coming period of their life.
0:14:51 Billie, I think, was 16 at the time.
0:14:54 She and Phineas were in the middle of writing.
0:14:56 When we all fall asleep, where do we go?
0:14:57 Their first full album.
0:15:00 I was intrigued thematically.
0:15:02 I was intrigued in terms of who they were.
0:15:07 I saw in this a great film about family and a great film about raising kids.
0:15:20 I saw in it a great film about being an artistic prodigy, as they both, both Phineas and Billy are, and being kids coming of age in America at a very particular moment in the world.
0:15:22 I saw that all at once.
0:15:24 That much was very clear to me.
0:15:30 And so once we started filming, you’re doing what I call following the puck.
0:15:36 At the height of his success, Wayne Gretzky was interviewed, and he was asked, what was his secret?
0:15:41 Wayne Gretzky being one of the greatest hockey players to ever live, Gretzky said, well, it’s quite simple.
0:15:43 I just follow the puck.
0:15:46 And that’s what we must do as verite filmmakers.
0:15:47 We must follow the puck.
0:15:54 We must try to see life as clearly as possible and tell the story that is unfolding in front of us.
0:15:58 The Gretzky quote, as I’ve always heard it, is a little bit different from what you just said.
0:16:02 It’s something like, skate to where the puck is going to be, not where it is.
0:16:10 So when you’re thinking about the Billy, let’s call it the Billy and Phineas story, because he’s obviously so central to it as well.
0:16:19 Tell us what you knew and thought about them when you started working with them and where you thought maybe they were going.
0:16:21 I saw them in their moment.
0:16:23 I do have a different sense of it.
0:16:25 I’m not looking for where you’re going.
0:16:27 I’m not expecting anything.
0:16:28 I’m asking questions.
0:16:30 I’m not answering anything.
0:16:36 People would say to me, what were the biggest surprises you had in making the film about Billie Eilish?
0:16:42 And I don’t have surprises, because that would mean that you’re expecting one thing and something else happens.
0:16:56 In one scene of the Billie Eilish documentary, a producer on Cutler’s team named Chelsea Dodson asks Billie about choosing to speak out about the harmful effects of drugs.
0:16:59 Billie’s mom, Maggie, is also there.
0:17:01 The first voice you’ll hear now is Chelsea.
0:17:09 What do you both think about talking about your feelings about drugs and cigarettes and alcohol?
0:17:18 My only thought is how, like, you say things and then maybe you grow up and feel differently and then get dragged for it.
0:17:22 I have my moment and then I do drugs and then people are like, ha ha.
0:17:24 And then Maggie speaks up.
0:17:29 Are you actually not going to let her be authentic to who she is now in case she grows up to do drugs?
0:17:31 I don’t mean doing any of that.
0:17:32 Can you do this, please?
0:17:35 Stop yelling at Chelsea.
0:17:36 I’m not yelling.
0:17:38 I just think that’s borrowing trouble.
0:17:40 Well, she’s right, though.
0:17:40 She has a point.
0:17:42 Well, maybe don’t grow up to do that.
0:17:50 What do you have to plan right now that every person who does what you do has to grow up and f*** up that way?
0:17:56 And you have to plan it so that you don’t get hate later when you do it because when you were younger you said you wouldn’t.
0:17:59 You know, why are your parents with you all the time?
0:18:09 I mean, you’ve got a whole army of people trying to help you not decide to destroy your life like people in your shoes have done before.
0:18:15 So are we going to literally not release something for fear that later she will do that?
0:18:29 When you’re that intimately involved in a family, in this case, or a scenario of any sort, how concerned are you that your presence is influencing events?
0:18:37 I’m not concerned that it’s influencing events, in large part because I don’t think of myself as a camera.
0:18:38 I think of myself as a person.
0:18:45 And I don’t think of myself being there as a film crew or as a fly on the wall.
0:18:49 One of the great misperceptions of what we do is that we’re flies on the wall.
0:18:59 You’ve met me, I’m six foot one, I’m no fly, I’ve got red hair and a beard, I come with a guy with a microphone and a woman with a camera.
0:19:04 We’re people, we’re people in a room and we’re in a dynamic, we’re in a relationship.
0:19:10 And like all good relationships, the relationship thrives if there’s trust.
0:19:14 If we feel like we’re impacting the environment, we get out of there.
0:19:20 I’m always saying, let’s stop shooting 15 minutes before they ask us to stop shooting.
0:19:22 Talk to me about editing.
0:19:25 I want to know who does what and how big your team is.
0:19:33 I’m also thinking about what Sean Baker, the director of Enora, said when he won the Oscars.
0:19:37 He won for direction and editing and something else.
0:19:38 And producing.
0:19:40 Right, best picture and best screenplay too.
0:19:49 Anyway, in his acceptance speech for the editing award, he said, if you saw the footage, I saved this film in the edit.
0:19:56 Trust me, that director should never work again, which was funny, of course, because he was also the director.
0:19:59 So in your case, how does it work?
0:20:02 What kind of team do you have and what does everybody do?
0:20:07 Well, I have a very small team and it includes two editors in the case of this film.
0:20:15 Greg Fenton, an editor who I had worked with since 1999 and who had edited many projects that I had done.
0:20:20 And Lindsay Utes, the brilliant editor who I had never worked with before.
0:20:21 They were my editing team.
0:20:29 And Jonathan Ruane, who is a producer and a researcher, was a post-production story producer for the project.
0:20:31 And the four of us were the team.
0:20:33 And you’re starting at the beginning.
0:20:37 You know, you have hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of hours of footage.
0:20:44 You’re identifying first everything that you have and then everything you think you need to look at.
0:20:51 And we spent a month every day just looking at what we considered to be the golden scenes.
0:21:00 And then we met for several days and then we talked about it and added some scenes and removed others.
0:21:06 And then the editors worked for another couple of months and then they had a 27-hour cut.
0:21:10 And we watched the 27 hours.
0:21:13 Is this part of the process enjoyable at all?
0:21:14 Because it sounds…
0:21:15 Of course, of course.
0:21:16 It’s fantastic.
0:21:22 If it’s not enjoyable, maybe consider a different line of work, I would say.
0:21:25 But for us, yes, it’s enjoyable and it’s illuminating.
0:21:30 And sure, there are moments where your mind wanders, but that’s illuminating too, right?
0:21:35 And then there are moments where you’re riveted and your heart is pounding and that’s illuminating.
0:21:43 We discovered story and we discovered character and we discovered journey and we discovered how long the film wanted to be.
0:21:46 You know, it’s a two-hour and 20-minute film with an intermission.
0:21:54 And when Billy saw it, she said that she didn’t think it was possible for anybody to see her the way she saw herself.
0:21:57 It’s a film I’m incredibly proud of.
0:22:08 Coming up after the break, from a teenager who’s about to be a pop star to a superstar who’s about to get busted.
0:22:11 Guilty, guilty, guilty on all these talents of whatever.
0:22:41 Thanks to streaming services like Netflix and Amazon Prime and Apple TV+, documentary films are no longer confined to the art house theaters where R.J. Cutler used to see them.
0:22:45 Let me read you something from a recent piece in New York Magazine.
0:22:51 Between 2018 and 2021, demand for documentaries on streaming services more than doubled.
0:23:01 And films that once had hoped to eke out a couple million bucks at the box office were now selling to streamers for $10 or $15 or $20 million.
0:23:11 When Cutler was coming up, deciding to make documentaries for a living was like taking a vow of poverty and probably obscurity, too.
0:23:13 But that is not the case today.
0:23:17 Consider Cutler’s 2024 film about Martha Stewart.
0:23:21 I’m told between 30 and 40 million people saw that movie.
0:23:24 Stewart has been called the original influencer.
0:23:29 She was also the first self-made female billionaire in American history.
0:23:41 Cutler’s film tracks her life from her childhood in New Jersey to a couple of early successes as a model and a stockbroker to the creation of her lifestyle empire.
0:23:51 And then a conviction on felony charges related to insider trading that sent her to prison for five months and bruised her brand badly.
0:23:55 But she has been rehabilitating herself ever since.
0:24:01 Cutler’s film is a chronicle of that comeback and to some degree a part of it.
0:24:04 I asked Cutler how this project happened.
0:24:11 That film came about because my wife Jane and I, we go to Montauk, Long Island.
0:24:17 We’re both from Long Island and we love to go back to Long Island a couple of weeks every year and we bring our kids.
0:24:19 And we were having dinner with our friend Alina.
0:24:23 And that afternoon, Alina called and said, would you mind?
0:24:25 Martha Stewart would like to join us at dinner.
0:24:28 And we both said, that sounds terrific.
0:24:30 Let’s have dinner with Martha Stewart.
0:24:31 Wait a minute, wait a minute.
0:24:35 Did it not make you a little bit nervous about what you were serving and maybe how the house looked?
0:24:40 I’m very confident in my cooking, but we were going out to dinner.
0:24:41 Oh, good move.
0:24:46 And out to dinner we went and I sat with Martha and what a lovely evening we had.
0:24:50 We talked all about her upbringing and her background and her family.
0:24:59 And I learned that counter intuitively, she was not a child of privilege, but one who came from a working class background,
0:25:09 one of six children who herself had to go to work as a teenager to feed her family because her father had a hard time holding down a job.
0:25:18 I learned all sorts of things about her and I learned all sorts of things about her and I also got the strong sense that she was interested in having a film made about her.
0:25:20 Is that why she invited herself to the dinner?
0:25:25 It seemed very clear that that’s why she invited herself to the dinner.
0:25:29 And so a conversation began because I was certainly intrigued.
0:25:31 I didn’t know a lot about her going in.
0:25:37 Of course, I knew the fundamentals, but I wasn’t somebody who subscribed to her magazine.
0:25:43 I was not somebody who watched her show on a daily basis, but I was aware of her.
0:25:46 And then at dinner, I became incredibly intrigued.
0:25:51 And in subsequent meetings and conversations, we decided to make a film together.
0:25:57 A lot of documentaries, including biographies, use talking heads to fill out the story.
0:26:01 Friends and family of the subject, maybe a rival or critic.
0:26:06 And you do use talking heads in Martha, but we never see them.
0:26:08 We only hear their voices.
0:26:11 So was that something that you did from the outset?
0:26:14 Did you shoot them on film and then only use audio?
0:26:18 Or did you decide early on to only record audio?
0:26:22 And I’m just curious how much of the vision of the finished film was made as you were producing.
0:26:36 Yeah, that’s a great question, because in this case, it shows how the form and content in post-production can interface and get you where you’re trying to go, but don’t know how to get to.
0:26:39 I knew that we wanted to interview Martha on camera.
0:26:45 She’s Martha Stewart, and I wanted her to be at the center of her film.
0:26:49 Her story has been told so many times before, but never by her.
0:26:56 I knew that I wanted to interview Martha on camera, but I’m always looking and I’m always open to alternatives.
0:27:01 I don’t want analytical talking heads that pull you out of the moment.
0:27:03 I want you to be in the moment.
0:27:13 In this case, I nevertheless started interviewing people on camera, and we would edit them in, and I just, I didn’t like it.
0:27:15 Did it take you out of the flow?
0:27:17 It took you out of the flow.
0:27:24 I didn’t understand why I was looking at people in their living rooms talking about something that had happened 30 years ago.
0:27:28 It wasn’t the cinema that I felt this story needed.
0:27:33 One day, we said, let’s take everybody off camera, but keep Martha on camera.
0:27:46 Martha emerged as a complicated central character in a way that she hadn’t been quite as much before.
0:27:55 The fact that she’s kind of an unreliable narrator became more of the, and that’s a literary construct, but a very revealing one.
0:28:00 People reveal themselves in the things they say and the things they don’t say.
0:28:06 They reveal themselves in the truths they share and in the mistruths that they share.
0:28:17 So you could use that audio documentary, the voices of the people who were with her, but you would use them sometimes to challenge or to expand the version of reality that she’s giving.
0:28:22 As you’re putting that together, how concerned are you about offending her?
0:28:29 I remember one time you asked her about her feelings and she says, you know, I’d rather do things.
0:28:33 Have you had any relationships where you talk about your feelings?
0:28:44 No, and that’s probably why I haven’t had very many personal relationships with men, for example, because I couldn’t care less.
0:28:54 I don’t know what the real reason is, and it doesn’t interest me so much to know, you know, oh, Charles, you know, how do you feel this second?
0:28:56 I don’t care, actually.
0:28:59 I do care about, Charles, what are you doing?
0:29:00 What are you thinking about?
0:29:13 So I sort of gravitate towards people who are doing things all the time, and I think more about everything that I’m doing, things that I’m working on, things that I’d like to work on, things that I’d like to accomplish.
0:29:15 That’s where I’m best.
0:29:25 And it’s so revealing about her, but it also is a little bit of a slap, like, you know, hey, we’re doing this in a certain way and not that way.
0:29:32 I’m curious, when you’re editing that, do you think about that as slightly hostile testimony in a trial kind of voice?
0:29:36 Are you thinking about how she is going to respond to it?
0:29:38 Honestly, I’m just thinking about making the film.
0:29:54 I hear what you’re saying, and clearly I’m including those moments in the film because I want you to understand that it’s very difficult for Martha to open up in this way because it has to do with who she is as a person.
0:30:00 And that’s great that I can be the foil because that illuminates who she is.
0:30:03 And that’s what I’m thinking about is clarity there.
0:30:05 And same with the other voices.
0:30:13 I’m looking for clarity and complexity and, you know, a journey towards truth on your behalf as a viewer.
0:30:21 I found one of the most powerful pieces of that film was around a series of letters that she had written to her then-husband.
0:30:26 You’re interviewing her about this marriage that ended up going bad.
0:30:31 At one point, she basically says to you, RJ, you know, like, I gave you the letters.
0:30:34 It’s hard for me personally to talk about it.
0:30:36 Some people revel in this.
0:30:39 Self-pity, et cetera, et cetera.
0:30:40 I just don’t.
0:30:43 I handed over letters that were very personal.
0:30:45 So, guess what?
0:30:47 Take it out of the letters.
0:30:52 Dearest Andy, I cannot sleep.
0:30:54 I cannot eat.
0:30:59 My skin is worried and many lives that were not there are now there.
0:31:08 Talk to me about those letters, about what it’s like to come upon material like that and how you think it through.
0:31:13 Well, it’s a great resource for a filmmaker who’s looking to tell the truth in the moment.
0:31:19 Letters are a verite element and they’re better than someone describing what they remember or what they said.
0:31:26 It’s as valuable as a piece of film and I was incredibly grateful to her for trusting us with them.
0:31:42 And by the way, there’s a 45-minute audio edit of the full length of letters that she gave us that is riveting and powerful and very emotional because it’s the letters written during a divorce, you know?
0:31:50 Talk to me through the completion and release of that film and especially Martha Stewart’s reaction.
0:31:57 Anyone who’s read the media a little bit about her response will have, I think, a misperception of the reality according to what you’ve told me earlier.
0:32:12 A person who’s in a film like this, especially somebody who’s used to controlling their image and their narrative for their whole career and who’s had some ups and downs and difficult times is going to be very vulnerable seeing the film.
0:32:17 I mean, if I made a film about you and showed it to you, it would probably differ than the film you would make about you.
0:32:21 If you made a film about me and showed it to me, it would differ than the film I would make about me.
0:32:26 It shouldn’t surprise any of us that Martha Stewart would have made a different film than I did.
0:32:39 In those early days, she was public about the fact that she wished I had used different music and there was a scene towards the end of the film where she felt it didn’t depict her as flatteringly as she would have.
0:32:44 Right. She said she just had an Achilles injury and it made her look older than she actually is.
0:32:45 Yes, yes.
0:32:46 More fragile.
0:32:48 Believe me, empathetic.
0:32:56 And we might not have used the footage she was referring to if it wasn’t also incredibly beautiful and powerful and poetic.
0:33:03 And if it didn’t show her extraordinary landscaping abilities, which was a central metaphor in the film.
0:33:06 It’s not that I minded her having the criticism.
0:33:14 It probably, you know, suggested to some people that they would want to see the film to see what all the hullabaloo was about.
0:33:19 Martha continues to be incredibly supportive of the film and we speak all the time.
0:33:33 What Martha has told me is that everywhere she goes, young women come up to her to tell her that her story of overcoming adversity has inspired them and adversity at multiple times in her life.
0:33:38 Coming up after the break, who wouldn’t R.J.
0:33:40 Cutler make a film about?
0:33:46 My mother used to say, don’t do anything you don’t want to read about on the front page of the New York Times.
0:33:47 There’s a version of that here.
0:33:48 I’m Stephen Dubner.
0:33:50 This is Freakonomics Radio.
0:33:50 We’ll be right back.
0:34:07 The latest release from the documentary filmmaker R.J.
0:34:09 Cutler is called Fight for Glory.
0:34:12 It’s a three-parter about the 2024 World Series.
0:34:18 Cutler and his crew were down in the dugouts of both the Los Angeles Dodgers and the New York Yankees.
0:34:21 Spoiler alert, the Dodgers win.
0:34:27 Cutler is a lifelong and hardcore fan of the other New York baseball team, the Mets.
0:34:36 His brother used to take piano lessons from one Mrs. Cohen, who happens to be the mother of the Mets’ current owner, Steve Cohen.
0:34:45 Cutler is very much hoping that the Mets make it to the World Series this year and that Apple asks him to make that version of Fight for Glory.
0:34:49 I will do anything to make the New York Mets film.
0:34:56 Baseball is a beautiful game that has so much to teach us about life and about overcoming adversity.
0:34:58 It’s a game of failure.
0:35:01 A success rate in baseball is 30%.
0:35:10 That means 70% of the time you’re Juan Soto grounding into a double play with the bases loaded like he did yesterday at a critical moment.
0:35:15 You know, R.J., when you describe baseball as an exercise in overcoming adversity,
0:35:22 it strikes me that every film you’ve ever made has had overcoming adversity at the core of the people you’re following, no?
0:35:24 This is life, you know.
0:35:25 This is life.
0:35:38 It’s certainly something that attracts me to the subjects I’ve made films about, and everybody has adversity that they’ve had to overcome, and it’s the way who we are is defined.
0:35:43 We might think of you as celebrity-adjacent, right?
0:35:45 You’re not a celebrity quite.
0:35:49 You’re well-known, but you’ve spent a lot of time with people who are really famous.
0:35:54 So I wonder if you could just talk for a moment about fame and the costs especially.
0:36:00 I think a lot of people think that being famous is mostly wonderful because it also comes with wealth and power.
0:36:02 I would argue wealth and power are kind of separate.
0:36:06 If you could have those without the fame, it might be better.
0:36:18 I wonder what you can tell us that you’ve seen about fame per se, having spent time with a number of people in a very intimate way, people who are famous and who have to deal with the upsides and downsides.
0:36:31 Well, I guess I will answer that by saying that I try to impress upon my kids that fame isn’t what it looks like, and that from what I’ve seen, it’s certainly a double-edged sword.
0:36:33 It’s a culture that worships fame.
0:36:37 Sometimes I’m not quite sure I understand why.
0:36:55 I get asked about fame as a subject, and I understand that it has become a subject of some of the films that I’ve done, but I don’t really see that as what has attracted me to the famous people I’ve made movies about.
0:37:01 I see their greatness as the thing that attracts me more than their fame.
0:37:06 I mean, what you’re pointing out about greatness, most people get famous because they’re great.
0:37:14 The problem is the thing that made them great at the thing they do has nothing to do with the ability to be famous.
0:37:25 And indeed, even among some performers who set out to perform in public, they seem really overwhelmed if they happen to become famous and then they have to deal with that.
0:37:30 It just seems like it’s a condition, a side effect of greatness, maybe, as much as anything.
0:37:38 If you were around before People magazine, which I was, you’ve seen the culture change.
0:37:49 Remember when People was just a column in Time magazine, and then it became its own magazine, and you’ve seen the culture change, and of course the internet changes it.
0:37:56 I remember meeting a famous person in my early 20s and thinking, oh, she’s famous for being famous.
0:37:58 Now, that’s the culture.
0:38:01 The culture is people who are famous for being famous.
0:38:05 We have to understand fully what the real value is.
0:38:06 Let me ask you this.
0:38:20 I can go to Netflix and watch your documentary about Martha Stewart, and I appreciate that it’s a real piece of documentary work and all the things that that entails.
0:38:21 I believe it to be nonfiction.
0:38:24 I don’t think anybody’s making up stuff.
0:38:27 I don’t think anybody’s leaving anything substantial out, etc.
0:38:32 So, to me, it’s not journalism, but it’s a cousin, at least, of journalism.
0:38:49 But then I can also watch a lot of other docs on Netflix or Amazon or elsewhere about well-known people that are made to feel and look pretty similar to, let’s say, a Martha Stewart documentary, but I know are made with a very different level and type of cooperation.
0:38:52 They’re essentially commissioned portraits.
0:39:02 And I, as both journalist and as a consumer, I’m not super thrilled about that, and I’m curious to know your take on this topic.
0:39:11 I think that it is absolutely critical that, you know, viewers have a sense of who’s making the films that they’re looking at.
0:39:13 I’m a big proponent of media literacy.
0:39:18 I think you should have a strong sense of what you’re looking at and who the sources are.
0:39:24 I think if you’re watching one news service, you should know the difference between it and another news service.
0:39:29 I think if you’re reading a tweet online, you should know the source of that.
0:39:33 I think that if you’re looking at a documentary, you should know the source of that.
0:39:39 And I can only speak to my own work and the rigor with which we pursue truth.
0:39:41 But we’re filmmakers.
0:39:41 We’re artists.
0:39:51 We’re looking at the more poetic mysteries of life and its complexities rather than the journalistic facts of the matter.
0:39:57 As much as we are equally obliged to the truth as journalists, what we do is very different.
0:39:59 I assume no money changed hands.
0:40:02 Martha Stewart does not commission you to make a film about her, correct?
0:40:03 Oh, no.
0:40:04 Of course not.
0:40:09 Would you ever accept a commission if Bill Gates or someone comes and says,
0:40:11 R.J., I think your films are great.
0:40:16 I want you to make an honest film about me, but I want you to make a film about me.
0:40:19 And here’s $5 million, $20 million to make it.
0:40:19 What do you do?
0:40:22 Well, those are two different numbers.
0:40:27 So that means 20, yes, five, no.
0:40:32 Let’s just say I call some people to talk it through and they make sure I make the right decision.
0:40:38 I’m very blessed in that I have wise counsel from my partners.
0:40:45 I thought you were going to say you’re blessed in that you’ve been able to make the work that you want to make without strings and get paid for it.
0:40:46 That’s also true?
0:40:48 Yes, all of that is true.
0:40:50 That’s an even better answer.
0:40:56 What’s the difference between or where is the line between access and approval?
0:41:03 The line between access and approval is a conversation that I try to have with everyone as early in the process as possible.
0:41:06 And that is the line of final cut.
0:41:16 I had that conversation with Martha that very first evening, and she embraced it the way that Billie Eilish embraced it and her parents embraced it,
0:41:22 the way that Anna Wintour embraced it, the way that everybody who I’ve worked with since the beginning has embraced it.
0:41:24 Define final cut for those who don’t know.
0:41:28 If the director has final cut, the director is making all the decisions.
0:41:33 That doesn’t mean that I don’t respect the fact that the story belongs to the subject.
0:41:38 It doesn’t mean that I don’t share the film beforehand and hear their feedback.
0:41:39 But final decisions are mine.
0:41:43 Tell me about a project that you’ve been offered and rejected.
0:41:45 Oh, goodness.
0:41:46 I don’t know.
0:41:56 What if, for instance, in November of 2023, Hamas came to you and said, you know, RJ, we think we’re being misportrayed here.
0:41:58 No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
0:42:02 But we’ll offer you a full embedding, full access to everything.
0:42:04 I mean, it depends on the circumstances.
0:42:06 That doesn’t sound like anywhere you should.
0:42:09 Anybody who loves me would advise me to go.
0:42:12 My mother used to say, bless her memory.
0:42:17 My mother used to say, don’t do anything you don’t want to read about on the front page of the New York Times.
0:42:20 But but, you know, listen, I made a movie about Dick Cheney.
0:42:22 It’s called The World According to Dick Cheney.
0:42:29 He is somebody with whom I have absolutely no political common ground, but I was fascinated by him.
0:42:37 Here’s perhaps the single most powerful and impactful nonpresidential political figure in American history.
0:42:41 And he agreed to let me make a film and sat for a deep interview with you.
0:42:42 Yes.
0:42:44 Five days of long interviews.
0:42:46 And I’m really glad that I did.
0:42:51 So I’m not saying I always would need to agree with the subject.
0:42:59 But, you know, there’s we get into all sorts of complexities and I’m not going to make a propaganda film about anybody.
0:43:07 Tell me, with the Cheney film, how did it change you or what did you learn about yourself?
0:43:19 Not about him, but, you know, I think the reason all of us who write or make stuff do it is because it’s thrilling to put yourself around people that are unlike you,
0:43:22 to put yourself in situations that are unlike yours because it changes you.
0:43:25 So what happened in that case for you?
0:43:37 Certainly talking with him for those five days, eight hours a day, required an intellectual rigor and a level of engagement that was very satisfying.
0:43:40 I mean, Dick Cheney is a remarkable figure.
0:43:46 And what was very interesting to me was how he had changed over time.
0:44:04 He was the youngest presidential chief of staff in American history as Gerald Ford’s chief of staff and somebody who had started his life, you know, his adult life as a drunk, forever dropping out of school and not really having a promising future until he got his alcoholism under control.
0:44:10 And then focused on his education and then on his career in Washington.
0:44:14 It sounds like what you’re saying you learned was that you could have afforded to drink more in your youth.
0:44:25 I learned a lot about him, but I also learned a lot about the conflict between duty and honor, which is something that he and I spoke about and differed on.
0:44:28 And the film differs from him on.
0:44:34 He felt that duty outranked honor, and I think it led him to do some damaging things.
0:44:41 So, RJ, you’ve made a number of films about politics, politicians, the electoral process.
0:44:44 I want you to talk to me about Donald Trump.
0:44:49 What do you see when you see him on TV?
0:44:56 How do you think about him shaping his image and influencing the public?
0:45:00 Who does he remind you of, etc.?
0:45:10 Well, I see a man who reminds me politically of Oliver North, who is the subject of A Perfect Candidate.
0:45:15 The film that David Van Taylor and I made in 1994 about Oliver North’s Senate campaign.
0:45:27 I see a playbook that’s very familiar, a playbook of grievance, and one that taps into a kind of dark side of American history and identity.
0:45:30 I see a master media manipulator.
0:45:36 Those of us who grew up in New York and are New Yorkers know we’ve seen Donald Trump our whole careers.
0:45:42 We know his playbook, and we know Roy Cohn’s playbook, and we see it in action.
0:45:51 What Oliver North didn’t have, and Donald Trump does have, is an incredibly powerful media machine in Fox News.
0:45:59 And I see that as a difference maker, a very, very powerful difference maker in its impact on his political success.
0:46:12 I don’t think that the anger that Trump taps into is not genuine, but the manipulation of the truth becomes a lot easier in the culture that we’re in right now.
0:46:14 Have you thought about making a film on Trump?
0:46:16 No, no.
0:46:18 No.
0:46:26 I mean, I would always be curious to film in a verite environment that involves the government of my country.
0:46:31 Honestly, I would be very curious, but do I get final cut?
0:46:35 If the answer is no, then no, I’m not interested.
0:46:37 What if you did?
0:46:40 If I were invited to film for 10 days in the Oval Office?
0:46:41 Yeah.
0:46:43 Sure, I’d be honored and curious.
0:46:47 So, we do have a lot of listeners to this program in the White House.
0:46:49 We hear from them, you know, now and again.
0:46:56 It sounds as though if an invitation were extended, you would accept chief condition being final cut, correct?
0:46:57 Yes.
0:47:01 And I’m grateful to you for negotiating this on my behalf.
0:47:02 You’re welcome.
0:47:07 I can get one of those tiny, tiny, tiny co-executive junior producer credits when it’s on.
0:47:08 No problem.
0:47:13 Tell me about your Greenland film project, what it is, and the status.
0:47:16 We’re just beginning, and it’s incredibly exciting.
0:47:36 In the wake of the Second World War in the early 1960s, during the Cold War, the United States built an underground city in Greenland that was ostensibly meant to monitor environmental issues and demonstrate survivability in Arctic areas.
0:47:51 What the U.S. government didn’t tell the Danish government was that it was really a military base for nuclear armaments pointed at the Soviet Union.
0:47:59 We invaded Greenland in the early 1960s, and we didn’t tell the Danish government that we were there.
0:48:03 Just to be clear, the Danish government is the official keeper of Greenland, correct?
0:48:04 That is correct.
0:48:21 And by 1966 or so, the U.S. government abandoned the project, sent everybody home, and got rid of the nuclear reactor, but left all the nuclear waste and just assumed that it would remain buried under the ice forever.
0:48:22 And guess what?
0:48:25 Guess what doesn’t happen when you bury your secrets?
0:48:27 They don’t stay buried.
0:48:32 And they especially don’t stay buried with global warming and the polar ice cap melting.
0:48:35 At what point did the Danish government make this discovery?
0:48:42 They discovered that the U.S. had put missiles there right around the turn of the century.
0:48:47 So it wasn’t until around the turn of the century that the existence of the base was even known outside of the military?
0:48:54 The existence of the base as a nuclear arsenal, that didn’t get revealed for many decades.
0:49:13 And then it wasn’t until 2017 that a glaciologist revealed a study that this nuclear waste was, at the rate that the polar ice cap was melting and the ice around Greenland was melting, this nuclear waste would be exposed in a dangerous way within decades.
0:49:25 And as you get into the history of this, you realize that the United States has had designs on Greenland for decades, in fact, for more than decades, for 150 years.
0:49:27 And that’s what this movie that we’re making is about.
0:49:35 I mean, plainly, this intersects with your professed willingness or appetite to make a film about the Trump White House.
0:49:43 What do you know about the U.S. government’s current level of concern about the situation under the ground there?
0:49:48 In other words, to what degree is this being factored into the Trump administration’s ideas about Greenland?
0:49:52 We’re going to find out, and we’re going to look to tell that story.
0:49:55 I admire your craft and your craftiness.
0:50:06 You asked if, out of the blue, I was to receive a phone call inviting me to film in the Oval Office for a period of time, would I accept the invitation?
0:50:12 And I said, under any circumstances, I would accept that invitation, because it’s true.
0:50:19 And then later in your interview, you referred to my desire to make a film about the Trump administration.
0:50:23 I think I maybe amended desire with appetite or something like that.
0:50:26 Appetite, even, which is a more ferocious desire.
0:50:36 I would like, for the record, to clarify that it is not part of my current plan or appetite to make a film about this administration.
0:50:41 I’m experiencing it as a citizen, and I’m pursuing my art in other ways.
0:50:41 Noted.
0:50:49 However, short addendum, I learned my craftiness by watching documentary films.
0:50:50 If we’re being honest.
0:50:55 I know no craftier storytellers than my colleagues in the documentary world.
0:51:00 It’s an extraordinary community with amazing work being done every year.
0:51:08 New films that push the form and are rising to the call of the popular success of the form.
0:51:18 And the challenges are greater now than ever because of the challenges in the entertainment industry and the fact that the bubble burst a few years ago in terms of peak programming.
0:51:21 So craftiness is called on even more.
0:51:24 We’re just about at time.
0:51:29 I have another 1,800 questions I could ask you, but I’m just curious.
0:51:37 Is there a film, a topic, an idea, a person, a family member, a pet, anything you do want to talk about that I haven’t asked about?
0:51:40 No, I’m grateful that you’ve covered so much.
0:51:42 My dog’s name is Dexter.
0:51:50 He gets very little attention in these interviews, but he taught my wife and I about how to raise kids.
0:51:55 He teaches us every day about love and empathy, and he’s a good man.
0:51:58 So since you gave me the chance to sing his praises, I will.
0:52:06 That was R.J. Cutler, also known as Rob Cutler, briefly, a long time ago.
0:52:11 I’d like to thank him for the conversation today and the films he’s made over the years.
0:52:15 He’s got a dedication to storytelling that I really admire.
0:52:17 I would love to know what you thought about this episode.
0:52:20 Our email is radio at Freakonomics dot com.
0:52:25 And if you have any ideas for Cutler, we’ll be sure to pass them along.
0:52:31 Coming up next time on the show, baseball is not the only way to learn from failure.
0:52:37 One big reason we don’t learn enough from failures is that we don’t share them systematically enough.
0:52:40 That makes it look like maybe you were incompetent.
0:52:44 The brain just knows that you’ve been abandoned.
0:52:49 Part of my problem was I did not ask enough questions.
0:52:52 I think that was my tipping point where I just went, I’m done.
0:52:53 And it broke me.
0:52:56 But we don’t want you to be broken.
0:53:05 We look at failed relationships, failures of the imagination, failures of determination, and how to overcome them.
0:53:11 That’s next time as we revisit and update our series, How to Succeed at Failing.
0:53:13 Until then, take care of yourself.
0:53:15 And if you can, someone else too.
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0:53:54 As always, thank you for listening.
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0:54:05 Yes, you do.
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It used to be that making documentary films meant taking a vow of poverty (and obscurity). The streaming revolution changed that. Award-winning filmmaker R.J. Cutler talks to Stephen Dubner about capturing Billie Eilish’s musical genius and Martha Stewart’s vulnerability — and why he really, really, really needs to make a film about the New York Mets.
- SOURCES:
  - R.J. Cutler, filmmaker.
- RESOURCES:
  - Fight for Glory, documentary (2025).
  - Martha, documentary (2024).
  - “Reality Check: The Boom—or Glut—in Streaming Documentaries Has Sparked a Reckoning Among Filmmakers and Their Subjects,” by Reeves Wiedeman (Vulture, 2023).
  - “Inside the Documentary Cash Grab,” by Mia Galuppo and Katie Kilkenny (The Hollywood Reporter, 2022).
  - Billie Eilish: The World’s a Little Blurry, documentary (2021).
- EXTRAS:
  - “Ari Emanuel Is Never Indifferent,” by Freakonomics Radio (2023).
May 2, 2025

Kelly Roach: The 5 Pillars of Conviction Marketing | Marketing | YAPClassic

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0:00:13 Hello, young and profiters.
0:00:16 Most businesses fight for attention,
0:00:19 but the most successful ones command it.
0:00:21 The secret is conviction.
0:00:23 In this Yap Classic interview,
0:00:26 I had the pleasure of sitting down with Kelly Roach,
0:00:28 a powerhouse marketing coach that I look up to
0:00:30 who knows exactly what it takes
0:00:33 to make a brand truly stand out
0:00:34 in today’s crowded marketplace.
0:00:36 Kelly has helped countless businesses
0:00:39 break free from generic cookie cutter strategies
0:00:42 by embracing bold, authentic messaging
0:00:43 that commands attention.
0:00:46 She believes that the secret to powerful marketing
0:00:49 isn’t just tactics, it’s conviction.
0:00:52 In this episode, Kelly shared some actionable strategies
0:00:54 for infusing emotion into your brand,
0:00:56 creating marketing that deeply resonates
0:00:58 and building an audience
0:00:59 that’s not just engaged,
0:01:01 but fully invested in your mission.
0:01:04 Believe me, you don’t want to miss this conversation.
0:01:08 Here’s my interview with the amazingly talented Kelly Roach.
0:01:13 I want to take a step back
0:01:16 and really talk about your childhood and your upbringing.
0:01:17 So my team did some research
0:01:20 and they told me that you were raised in a family of five.
0:01:23 Your family was basically on the poverty line.
0:01:26 You were always working to make ends meet.
0:01:29 You were cleaning toilets to pay for dance lessons.
0:01:31 After high school, you attended a local college
0:01:35 and continued to work while you studied and danced.
0:01:36 So let’s talk about this
0:01:40 because obviously hard work was instilled in you at a young age.
0:01:43 So talk to us about the value of hard work
0:01:44 and who you are today
0:01:48 and how putting in the reps really helped you as an adult.
0:01:49 Yeah, absolutely.
0:01:51 Well, I mean, the number one thing that I learned,
0:01:53 you know, in my life is that
0:01:55 if there’s something that you don’t like, change it.
0:02:00 And that hard work makes absolutely any dream achievable.
0:02:04 And, you know, growing up, I had lovely parents.
0:02:06 My parents are wonderful people,
0:02:08 but my dad worked for a nonprofit.
0:02:09 My mom was a stay-at-home mom
0:02:10 because there was five kids.
0:02:13 It would have been more expensive to put us in daycare
0:02:14 than it would have been, obviously,
0:02:16 to have her home with us.
0:02:19 And my dad really had a false belief system
0:02:20 that in order to make a difference
0:02:21 serving for this nonprofit,
0:02:25 you know, that we basically had to struggle.
0:02:27 He couldn’t give back and make great money too.
0:02:31 And I believe that that was a false belief system.
0:02:33 And I decided to set out on a course in my life
0:02:36 to both do good and create wealth.
0:02:37 And that’s what I’ve done for myself
0:02:39 is what I teach other entrepreneurs to do.
0:02:42 But, you know, not having a fallback position,
0:02:45 not having, you know, wealth in my family,
0:02:47 getting a lot of no’s growing up
0:02:50 actually was the greatest service I ever could have had
0:02:52 because it really taught me the importance
0:02:54 of not giving up
0:02:56 and being willing to work towards goals
0:02:58 over a period of years.
0:03:01 You know, I think one of the biggest misconceptions
0:03:03 that really holds people back
0:03:05 from accomplishing their dreams
0:03:07 is this perception that success happens quickly
0:03:09 or happens overnight, right?
0:03:10 And I always say, you know,
0:03:13 every overnight success is 15 years in the making.
0:03:14 It doesn’t matter whether you’ve been working
0:03:17 towards that particular success for 15 years.
0:03:19 There were so many things
0:03:22 that you were working to become as a person
0:03:24 that led you to that success.
0:03:26 And that’s why we have to make sure
0:03:27 that we don’t get caught up
0:03:28 in people’s highlight reels.
0:03:30 We need to like run our own race,
0:03:33 you know, own the lane that we’re in kind of thing,
0:03:33 you know?
0:03:35 Yeah, 100%.
0:03:38 I love what you said around your mindset around money
0:03:41 and how you kind of broke that generational curse
0:03:43 that your, you know, your parents had.
0:03:44 They meant well,
0:03:47 but they just didn’t have the right mindset about money.
0:03:49 And a lot of people think money is bad,
0:03:50 but money is good.
0:03:51 You know, the more money you have,
0:03:53 the more you can give and help the world.
0:03:54 Yeah.
0:03:55 And I mean, that’s not,
0:03:57 that’s just not a nice saying
0:03:58 that you and I are tossing back and forth
0:04:00 because we run successful companies.
0:04:01 I’ve actually researched it.
0:04:04 I actually own my own philanthropic foundation
0:04:06 that I use to give back
0:04:07 that I’m able to now.
0:04:09 You know, when I was growing up,
0:04:11 we were on the receiving end of charity all the time.
0:04:12 We didn’t have any money,
0:04:15 so we couldn’t do anything to help anyone else.
0:04:17 Now I get to be on the other side of it
0:04:18 because I’ve created wealth for myself.
0:04:19 And if you research,
0:04:21 it’s the wealthiest people in the world
0:04:23 that do the most good.
0:04:24 Why?
0:04:25 Why is that?
0:04:26 Because they’re the people
0:04:28 that have disposable income
0:04:29 that they can use to give back
0:04:31 and do things for others.
0:04:33 If you’re using every dollar that you make
0:04:34 just to get by,
0:04:36 then obviously it makes it
0:04:38 pretty much impossible to do for others.
0:04:41 And so we have to really shift
0:04:42 this paradigm around money
0:04:45 and we have to really break this silo mentality
0:04:47 of like you can do good
0:04:49 or, you know, you can give back
0:04:50 or you can have a lot of money.
0:04:52 You can focus on being a good person
0:04:53 or you can focus on being wealthy.
0:04:56 You know, I believe that our generation
0:04:57 is the first generation
0:04:58 that is really showing like
0:05:00 these entrepreneurs
0:05:02 that are so dedicated to philanthropy,
0:05:03 to giving back,
0:05:05 to creating positive change in the world.
0:05:08 But again, the reason why we’re able to do that
0:05:10 is that we’ve been able to create wealth
0:05:11 for ourselves,
0:05:13 which enables us to then serve
0:05:13 and give back
0:05:15 and be, you know,
0:05:17 on the giving side of philanthropy.
0:05:19 One hundred percent.
0:05:20 I totally agree.
0:05:21 So let’s fast forward
0:05:23 to you graduating college.
0:05:24 You landed a job
0:05:25 at a Fortune 500 company
0:05:27 and then you quickly rose up the ranks
0:05:29 and became one of the youngest VPs
0:05:29 of the company
0:05:31 or the youngest VP
0:05:33 to ever work at that company.
0:05:34 So talk to us about
0:05:35 your experience in corporate,
0:05:37 how you rose up the ranks so quickly
0:05:39 and why you decided
0:05:40 to eventually start
0:05:41 your side business,
0:05:42 Kelly Roach Coaching.
0:05:43 Yeah.
0:05:44 Kelly Roach Coaching.
0:05:44 Sorry.
0:05:45 Yeah, for sure.
0:05:46 Yeah.
0:05:48 I mean, graduating from college,
0:05:48 I had no idea
0:05:49 what I wanted to do.
0:05:50 I was like,
0:05:50 I don’t want to sit
0:05:51 in spreadsheets.
0:05:52 I love people
0:05:54 and I wanted to get
0:05:55 into a big company
0:05:56 because I wanted to create
0:05:58 financial freedom for myself
0:05:58 and I knew
0:06:00 I had the work ethic
0:06:00 and the hustle.
0:06:01 I knew I could learn.
0:06:02 So I was like,
0:06:02 I’m just going to,
0:06:03 you know,
0:06:03 join this company.
0:06:04 I started in that
0:06:05 entry-level position
0:06:07 and I was literally
0:06:07 the first one in
0:06:08 and the last one out
0:06:10 every single day.
0:06:11 I showed up for work
0:06:12 even in my most
0:06:13 entry-level job
0:06:13 with no money,
0:06:14 in a suit,
0:06:15 hair and makeup,
0:06:17 like ready to take on
0:06:17 the world
0:06:18 every single day.
0:06:19 And, you know,
0:06:21 over a period of years,
0:06:21 I was promoted
0:06:23 seven times in eight years
0:06:24 and I ended up building
0:06:25 a team of a hundred people.
0:06:26 So I started off with,
0:06:26 you know,
0:06:27 one branch
0:06:28 with zero staff,
0:06:29 zero database,
0:06:31 complete turnaround,
0:06:32 hired one person
0:06:33 and then ultimately
0:06:34 built a team of a hundred
0:06:36 across 17 locations.
0:06:37 And, you know,
0:06:39 we broke every record
0:06:39 for growth
0:06:40 in the company’s history
0:06:43 and I have never claimed
0:06:43 and will never claim
0:06:45 to be the most talented.
0:06:45 I’m certainly
0:06:46 not the smartest.
0:06:47 I was like a B student
0:06:48 and I tried really hard.
0:06:49 I know a lot of
0:06:49 cool entrepreneurs
0:06:50 are like,
0:06:51 I never showed up
0:06:52 for class
0:06:53 and I was a horrible
0:06:53 student and blah,
0:06:54 blah, blah.
0:06:55 I actually tried.
0:06:56 I just wasn’t very smart.
0:07:00 I did math tutoring
0:07:01 and like getting up
0:07:02 at five in the morning
0:07:03 to study.
0:07:03 I just,
0:07:04 some people
0:07:05 have book smarts.
0:07:06 Some people
0:07:07 have street smarts.
0:07:08 I was always more
0:07:09 of a common sense
0:07:10 type person,
0:07:11 but that has actually
0:07:12 served me really well.
0:07:15 So I rose through
0:07:15 the corporate ranks,
0:07:16 you know,
0:07:17 did that whole thing.
0:07:18 My big dream was like,
0:07:19 I want to be this
0:07:20 corporate executive.
0:07:21 I want to be in the boardroom
0:07:22 and on the planes
0:07:22 and, you know,
0:07:23 running all the things.
0:07:24 And, you know,
0:07:25 it was an awesome dream.
0:07:26 It was a great ride.
0:07:28 I went through a lot.
0:07:29 I had a lot of people
0:07:29 that were like,
0:07:31 who is this young kid
0:07:31 that thinks she’s
0:07:32 going to come in here?
0:07:33 So that was,
0:07:35 that was very interesting.
0:07:37 It was not an easy rise.
0:07:38 I went through a lot,
0:07:39 including people
0:07:41 that I personally like
0:07:42 mentored and promoted
0:07:44 and really cared for,
0:07:45 like turning on me
0:07:46 and stabbing me in the back.
0:07:48 And that’s all par
0:07:48 for the course, right?
0:07:49 We all go through that stuff.
0:07:51 But, you know,
0:07:52 I got to the top
0:07:53 and I had met Dele,
0:07:54 who is now my husband.
0:07:55 We’ve been together
0:07:56 for 16 years now.
0:07:57 And, you know,
0:07:58 we really started thinking about,
0:07:59 like, what do we want
0:08:00 our life to look like?
0:08:01 You know,
0:08:02 what do we want our priorities
0:08:03 to be as a family?
0:08:04 And, you know,
0:08:06 I got really clear,
0:08:07 you know,
0:08:08 I wanted to have
0:08:09 financial freedom.
0:08:10 I wanted flexibility.
0:08:11 I wanted to be able to travel.
0:08:12 And, you know,
0:08:12 I wanted to be able
0:08:14 to put my family first.
0:08:14 And I was like,
0:08:15 that’s not happening,
0:08:16 you know,
0:08:17 working in a job,
0:08:17 right,
0:08:18 for someone else.
0:08:21 So I decided to really look at
0:08:22 what skills did I possess?
0:08:23 What was I good at?
0:08:24 You know,
0:08:25 how did I feel like
0:08:26 I could make a difference?
0:08:27 And the number one thing
0:08:28 that I had learned
0:08:30 during my time in corporate
0:08:32 was business growth strategy.
0:08:32 Like,
0:08:33 I really understood
0:08:35 better than anyone
0:08:35 I had ever seen
0:08:37 how to look at a scenario
0:08:38 and identify
0:08:38 the fastest,
0:08:40 most efficient way
0:08:42 to take a losing situation
0:08:44 and make it a winning one.
0:08:46 And I was really passionate
0:08:47 about helping people
0:08:48 reach their potential.
0:08:49 It was really just
0:08:50 those two things.
0:08:50 And I was like,
0:08:51 I’m going to go
0:08:53 and bring this business education
0:08:55 to small business owners,
0:08:56 right?
0:08:58 Because 85% of businesses
0:08:58 still fail.
0:08:59 Why did,
0:09:00 why did they fail?
0:09:01 Not because the business owner
0:09:02 isn’t working their tail off,
0:09:04 not because the business owner
0:09:05 doesn’t have a great idea,
0:09:06 it doesn’t have the energy,
0:09:07 the passion,
0:09:09 but because most small business owners
0:09:11 have no business education.
0:09:12 And I’m not talking about
0:09:13 going to business class,
0:09:13 okay?
0:09:15 I’m talking about
0:09:17 real world business skills,
0:09:19 the ability to understand
0:09:20 the mechanics
0:09:22 of how a well-run
0:09:24 company operates.
0:09:25 And so I was like,
0:09:25 you know what,
0:09:27 I’m going to do this.
0:09:28 So I went to my boss
0:09:28 and I said,
0:09:28 listen,
0:09:30 as a top performing executive
0:09:31 in the company,
0:09:32 and I said,
0:09:32 hey, listen,
0:09:34 I’m not making enough money here
0:09:37 and I’m going to start
0:09:37 my own company.
0:09:39 And I said,
0:09:40 I’m going to do it at night
0:09:41 and I’m going to do it
0:09:41 on the weekend.
0:09:42 And I said,
0:09:43 I’m going to continue
0:09:44 to be the top performing
0:09:45 executive in the company.
0:09:46 And I said,
0:09:47 you can fire me right now
0:09:47 on the spot
0:09:48 if you want to,
0:09:49 because I understand
0:09:50 you have the right to do that.
0:09:51 I’m not going to hide anything.
0:09:52 But I said,
0:09:53 this is what I’m doing.
0:09:54 And he said,
0:09:55 okay.
0:09:57 So I stayed there.
0:09:59 I built my business at night
0:10:00 on the weekends,
0:10:02 built a business
0:10:03 to pretty much
0:10:04 the million dollar mark
0:10:05 while still working full time
0:10:06 as a corporate executive.
0:10:07 And then,
0:10:07 you know,
0:10:08 eventually made the leap
0:10:10 once the business was,
0:10:10 you know,
0:10:11 really successful
0:10:12 on a staff and all of that,
0:10:12 you know,
0:10:14 now a multi-figure company.
0:10:16 But so many lessons.
0:10:17 I mean,
0:10:18 I think the biggest thing
0:10:18 is just,
0:10:19 you know,
0:10:19 for anyone listening,
0:10:20 you know,
0:10:22 if you’re willing
0:10:23 to work at something
0:10:24 over a period of years,
0:10:25 you can accomplish anything.
0:10:28 patience is the number one thing
0:10:29 that kills people’s dreams.
0:10:30 They’re not willing
0:10:32 to work hard enough,
0:10:32 long enough
0:10:33 at the same thing.
0:10:36 We expect overnight sensation,
0:10:38 overnight success.
0:10:39 I had someone say to me
0:10:40 the other day,
0:10:42 I’ve been working at this thing
0:10:43 in my business
0:10:44 for three months
0:10:46 and I’m just not getting traction.
0:10:48 And I actually started laughing.
0:10:49 I was like,
0:10:50 and?
0:10:51 talk to me
0:10:52 in a year and a half.
0:10:52 Like,
0:10:54 what are you talking about?
0:10:54 Right?
0:10:56 And it was one of the things
0:10:57 that really shocked me
0:10:57 when I entered
0:10:58 the business coaching space
0:11:00 because I saw that
0:11:01 there were so many people
0:11:02 promising to teach people
0:11:04 how to start and grow businesses
0:11:05 in like three weeks or less.
0:11:05 They’re like,
0:11:06 six weeks,
0:11:07 like laptop lifestyle,
0:11:08 like,
0:11:08 you know,
0:11:09 whatever.
0:11:09 And I’m like,
0:11:11 I don’t think
0:11:12 that’s how it works,
0:11:13 building a company.
0:11:14 But yeah,
0:11:15 so that’s just a little bit
0:11:16 about my story.
0:11:17 Oh my gosh,
0:11:18 so inspiring.
0:11:20 And we have so many parallels
0:11:21 to our story.
0:11:21 I mean,
0:11:23 my audience knows my story well,
0:11:23 but I mean,
0:11:24 I also,
0:11:25 you know,
0:11:25 went to corporate,
0:11:26 rose up the ranks,
0:11:27 started my podcast
0:11:28 and my business,
0:11:31 didn’t quit my corporate job
0:11:33 until I had 35 employees
0:11:34 and was making 80 grand
0:11:35 in revenue a month,
0:11:35 you know,
0:11:36 same thing,
0:11:37 like just waited
0:11:38 until there was absolutely
0:11:39 no risk
0:11:40 and worked morning nights,
0:11:41 weekends,
0:11:42 lunchtime,
0:11:43 anytime I could.
0:11:44 But the key is,
0:11:45 and you said it,
0:11:46 is that you’ve got to work
0:11:47 both jobs just as well.
0:11:49 You can’t go start a side hustle
0:11:50 if you’re going to,
0:11:50 you know,
0:11:51 slack on your day job.
0:11:53 That’s not how it works.
0:11:54 You’ve got to do both equally.
0:11:55 And to your point,
0:11:56 if you’re not willing to sacrifice
0:11:57 in the short term,
0:11:58 it’s not going to work out.
0:11:59 You’re going to have to sacrifice,
0:12:00 put in the time
0:12:01 if you do want to go
0:12:03 this side hustle route,
0:12:05 which is like the least form of risk
0:12:06 when it comes to starting
0:12:06 your own business.
0:12:08 So I’d love for you to talk about
0:12:10 that time sacrifice
0:12:12 and how you managed your time
0:12:13 working in corporate
0:12:15 and building this huge business
0:12:16 that you put together.
0:12:17 Yeah, absolutely.
0:12:18 And I just want to circle back
0:12:19 on your point there really quickly
0:12:21 because, you know,
0:12:22 there’s this huge idea
0:12:24 in the personal development world
0:12:25 of like burn the bridges,
0:12:26 quit your job,
0:12:28 like look what’s happening right now.
0:12:29 The great resignation,
0:12:30 everyone’s quitting
0:12:31 and no one has a job
0:12:32 and no one has a plan
0:12:33 and everyone’s going to go
0:12:34 spend their life savings
0:12:35 and they’re going to be broke
0:12:35 and they’re going to be
0:12:36 even more depressed
0:12:37 and they’re going to be
0:12:38 starting their life over
0:12:39 because they didn’t put the thought
0:12:41 into what’s my plan.
0:12:42 the best thing I ever did
0:12:44 was keep my corporate job
0:12:45 while I built my business.
0:12:47 It’s why I have this beautiful,
0:12:49 robust, amazing company
0:12:50 that I have today
0:12:52 because I didn’t have a sense
0:12:54 of this desperation
0:12:55 that you see
0:12:56 in the online marketing world.
0:12:58 I mean, people are so desperate.
0:12:59 That’s why they can’t build
0:13:00 a great company.
0:13:02 It’s like this has to work.
0:13:03 This has to be like
0:13:04 I can’t tell you
0:13:06 how many people I come across
0:13:06 that want to come
0:13:07 into my programs
0:13:07 that are like
0:13:09 and this has to produce
0:13:09 and I’m like,
0:13:11 no, no.
0:13:14 Like, don’t bring that energy
0:13:14 up in here.
0:13:16 Like, you are responsible
0:13:17 for setting up a situation
0:13:18 in your life
0:13:19 that you can sustain.
0:13:20 So I just want to point that out
0:13:21 because you mentioned that,
0:13:21 Hala,
0:13:22 and I think that’s really important.
0:13:24 Like, smart people have a plan.
0:13:28 Smart people have patience, right?
0:13:29 You don’t need to go
0:13:30 burn the bridges
0:13:32 and, oh, oh, and by the way,
0:13:33 and I’ll mention one more thing.
0:13:34 I am going back
0:13:35 and facilitating
0:13:38 as a guest trainer
0:13:40 for the Fortune 500
0:13:41 that I worked at for 10 years
0:13:43 and now bring me back
0:13:45 to literally do trainings
0:13:47 for their entire leadership team
0:13:50 on the East Coast
0:13:51 from, you know,
0:13:52 the most northern point
0:13:54 down into the Carolinas.
0:13:56 So isn’t that full circle?
0:13:58 So don’t burn the bridge.
0:13:59 Don’t burn the boat.
0:14:00 Have a plan.
0:14:02 Be patient, right?
0:14:02 So you asked about
0:14:03 how I spend my time.
0:14:04 So basically,
0:14:05 I would do an hour to two hours
0:14:06 in the morning before work.
0:14:08 I would go out
0:14:09 on my little Jeep Liberty
0:14:09 on my lunch break
0:14:10 and I would literally
0:14:12 make my sales calls
0:14:13 on my lunch break
0:14:14 and then I would do
0:14:15 my client calls
0:14:16 at seven and eight o’clock
0:14:17 at night, every night
0:14:18 and then I would work
0:14:19 on the weekends
0:14:21 and it’s the best thing
0:14:21 I ever did
0:14:23 because it actually taught me
0:14:24 how to build
0:14:25 a million dollar business
0:14:26 while only working
0:14:27 in my business
0:14:28 about 20 hours a week
0:14:31 and it really taught me
0:14:32 to be disciplined,
0:14:33 to be focused,
0:14:34 to understand
0:14:36 where I should
0:14:36 and shouldn’t be
0:14:37 spending my time
0:14:39 and it’s really such a gift
0:14:40 because now I have
0:14:40 a family,
0:14:41 I have a seven-year-old,
0:14:42 now I run a multiple
0:14:43 eight-figure company
0:14:46 and I have so much
0:14:46 time freedom
0:14:47 with my family
0:14:49 because I built
0:14:50 a business
0:14:51 where I have
0:14:51 and you’ve done,
0:14:52 our stories are like
0:14:53 eerily similar.
0:14:54 Very similar.
0:14:55 You have a very large team,
0:14:56 I do as well.
0:14:57 That was also
0:14:59 a very intentional part
0:14:59 of the design
0:15:00 of my business
0:15:01 and my brand,
0:15:02 I’m sure with you as well
0:15:03 but like I start my calls
0:15:05 at 11 o’clock every day,
0:15:06 like I can take off
0:15:07 when my daughter is off.
0:15:08 I go to the beach
0:15:09 a couple of times a week
0:15:10 with my family.
0:15:11 Now I work my tail off,
0:15:12 I’m not going to pretend
0:15:13 for a single second
0:15:14 and I don’t want anyone
0:15:15 to misinterpret
0:15:15 what I’m saying,
0:15:16 I work my tail off,
0:15:17 okay?
0:15:18 But what I’m saying is
0:15:20 is I have discipline
0:15:23 around where I spend my time
0:15:24 which allows me
0:15:25 to be intentional
0:15:26 and allows me
0:15:27 to put my family first
0:15:29 and I was able
0:15:29 to design a business
0:15:31 that worked that way
0:15:32 because I was working
0:15:33 full-time in my job
0:15:34 and because I sustained
0:15:35 the position
0:15:36 as the number one performer
0:15:37 in my company
0:15:39 while I was building
0:15:39 my own business
0:15:41 which was a huge
0:15:42 integrity thing for me
0:15:43 to make sure
0:15:44 that my results
0:15:45 in my full-time job
0:15:45 didn’t suffer.
0:15:48 Let’s hold that thought
0:15:49 and take a quick break
0:15:49 with our sponsors.
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0:15:56 You’re working that
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0:15:58 and then you’re five
0:15:58 to midnight
0:16:00 building that dream.
0:16:01 That’s how I started
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0:17:42 Yeah fam
0:17:43 spring is just
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0:17:45 and I’m already
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0:17:46 getaway
0:17:46 and that’s
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0:17:48 for my best
0:17:48 friend’s wedding.
0:17:49 Now I’m paying
0:17:50 for this one
0:17:50 out of pocket
0:17:51 because it’s
0:17:52 not for work
0:17:52 it’s a vacation
0:17:53 and so I love
0:17:54 for my vacation
0:17:55 trips to feel free
0:17:56 and I love
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0:17:58 and I’m always
0:17:59 looking for ways
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0:18:02 I’ve been using
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0:18:10 than ever
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0:18:12 have already
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0:20:58 oh my gosh
0:20:59 so many lessons
0:21:00 that you’re pouring
0:21:01 out right now
0:21:01 the one thing
0:21:02 that I really hear
0:21:03 is that
0:21:04 you sacrificed
0:21:05 in the short term
0:21:06 for the long term
0:21:07 and you created
0:21:08 freedom for yourself
0:21:09 and you still work
0:21:10 really hard
0:21:11 but the difference
0:21:12 is that you can decide
0:21:14 I’m going to take a vacation
0:21:15 I’m going to work here
0:21:16 I’m going to start late
0:21:16 I’m going to go to my
0:21:18 daughter’s dance recital
0:21:20 you don’t have anybody
0:21:21 kind of telling you
0:21:22 what to do
0:21:23 and you’re in control
0:21:24 of your life
0:21:24 and you did that
0:21:26 through sacrifice
0:21:27 and calculated risk
0:21:28 you didn’t just
0:21:29 jump the gun
0:21:30 and just go for it
0:21:31 and have no plan
0:21:32 and also the fact
0:21:33 that you built a team
0:21:34 I’m sure
0:21:35 even in that
0:21:35 side hustle
0:21:36 period
0:21:37 you were building
0:21:38 your team
0:21:39 and scaling
0:21:39 and figuring
0:21:41 all that parts out too
0:21:41 so I’d love to talk
0:21:42 to you about
0:21:44 how you built that team
0:21:44 even when it was
0:21:45 just a small business
0:21:47 oh I started right away
0:21:49 very much like you
0:21:50 I think I had
0:21:51 like over 30 team members
0:21:52 while I was still
0:21:52 working full time
0:21:53 I don’t even think
0:21:53 they knew
0:21:55 but you know
0:21:56 because I was
0:21:57 so structured
0:21:58 and so disciplined
0:21:59 with how I was
0:22:00 doing things
0:22:01 and just so
0:22:02 intentional about it
0:22:03 but to your point
0:22:04 about sacrifice
0:22:05 so much sacrifice
0:22:06 and the thing
0:22:07 that’s so interesting
0:22:07 is people
0:22:09 see people like us
0:22:10 I came from a family
0:22:11 with no money
0:22:12 nothing
0:22:12 right
0:22:13 I came from nothing
0:22:14 Billy came from nothing
0:22:15 my head has been
0:22:16 so we’re like
0:22:17 this like phenomenon
0:22:18 in our family
0:22:19 and people look at us
0:22:20 and they’re like
0:22:22 people change
0:22:22 how they see you
0:22:23 friends
0:22:23 family
0:22:24 colleagues
0:22:26 even your clients
0:22:27 as you rise
0:22:27 through the ranks
0:22:28 and they
0:22:29 make these assumptions
0:22:31 about what your life
0:22:31 is like
0:22:32 or what your life
0:22:32 must be like
0:22:34 and you know
0:22:34 it’s funny
0:22:35 because I’ll hear
0:22:36 Billy talking to people
0:22:36 all the time
0:22:37 and I’ll be like
0:22:38 no you don’t understand
0:22:40 like she was working
0:22:41 at 5 o’clock
0:22:41 in the morning
0:22:42 every day
0:22:44 for 15 years
0:22:45 like this didn’t
0:22:46 just like happen
0:22:48 yes exactly
0:22:49 exactly
0:22:51 this is 18 hour days
0:22:52 there was no
0:22:53 spontaneous combustion
0:22:55 like this was sacrifice
0:22:57 over years
0:22:57 and years
0:22:58 and years
0:23:00 because I had my eye
0:23:01 on the prize
0:23:01 and I knew
0:23:02 what kind of life
0:23:03 that I wanted to create
0:23:04 and build
0:23:05 and Billy sacrificed too
0:23:06 I mean he’s been home
0:23:06 with Madison
0:23:07 since she was born
0:23:08 so we’ve been a one
0:23:09 income family
0:23:11 you know since Madison
0:23:11 was born
0:23:12 because our priority
0:23:13 was we wanted her
0:23:14 to be home
0:23:14 we didn’t want her
0:23:15 in daycare
0:23:16 and it’s amazing
0:23:17 because even that
0:23:18 sacrifice
0:23:19 of like him
0:23:20 like really
0:23:21 he’s a musician
0:23:22 he completely
0:23:23 put his career
0:23:23 on hold
0:23:24 has been totally
0:23:25 focused on Madison
0:23:26 since she was born
0:23:27 and the payoff
0:23:28 from that sacrifice
0:23:30 has been massive
0:23:31 because I see her
0:23:32 and she is like
0:23:32 confident
0:23:33 she is like
0:23:34 she’s a leader
0:23:35 she speaks articulately
0:23:37 like you can just see
0:23:37 in everything
0:23:39 about her being
0:23:40 like yeah
0:23:42 that sacrifice
0:23:43 is going to pay off
0:23:44 for the rest of her life
0:23:45 so you know
0:23:45 I just want to encourage
0:23:47 everyone that’s listening
0:23:48 like you know
0:23:49 it can be terrifying
0:23:51 and it can also feel
0:23:53 it can feel discouraging
0:23:55 to make these sacrifices
0:23:57 knowing that there’s
0:23:58 no promise of reward
0:23:59 in the near term
0:24:01 and the biggest thing
0:24:02 I want to say to people
0:24:02 is like
0:24:04 these sacrifices
0:24:05 that you make
0:24:06 in the short term
0:24:07 the payoff
0:24:08 is so much bigger
0:24:09 and so much better
0:24:10 than you can ever imagine
0:24:12 like looking back
0:24:13 on my life now
0:24:14 at the sacrifices
0:24:14 that I made
0:24:15 to get to where
0:24:15 we are today
0:24:16 I would do it
0:24:17 a hundred times over
0:24:18 I would not change
0:24:19 a single thing
0:24:20 every sacrifice
0:24:21 is worth it
0:24:23 the times in which
0:24:24 it’s not worth it
0:24:25 is where you start
0:24:26 down the path
0:24:27 and then you quit
0:24:28 because you just
0:24:28 threw it all away
0:24:32 and that’s what happens
0:24:33 with a lot of people
0:24:34 it’s like they’ll sustain
0:24:36 for the short term
0:24:37 but not the long term
0:24:38 and then that little bit
0:24:38 of progress
0:24:39 that they had made
0:24:40 goes away
0:24:41 and it’s like
0:24:42 you start over
0:24:43 from nothing
0:24:43 right
0:24:45 so these are
0:24:45 the distinctions
0:24:46 like you have
0:24:47 to think about
0:24:47 your life
0:24:49 in the long term
0:24:49 of what you want
0:24:50 your life to be like
0:24:52 in 5, 10, and 15 years
0:24:53 and you have to be
0:24:55 making decisions today
0:24:56 for 15 years from now
0:24:57 you know
0:24:58 and I know no one
0:24:58 wants to hear that
0:24:59 but I’m a truth teller
0:25:01 and I’m going to be
0:25:01 the one to say
0:25:02 no you really
0:25:03 you really do
0:25:04 because there’s
0:25:05 nothing you’re going
0:25:06 to do 15 years
0:25:07 from now
0:25:08 that’s going to
0:25:09 dramatically change
0:25:10 what your life
0:25:10 experience is
0:25:11 in that moment
0:25:13 those decisions
0:25:14 are happening now
0:25:16 and that’s
0:25:16 what we all
0:25:17 have to recognize
0:25:18 oh my gosh
0:25:19 amen
0:25:20 I totally agree
0:25:21 with that
0:25:22 so let’s get
0:25:23 into your new book
0:25:24 Conviction Marketing
0:25:26 because I loved
0:25:26 your book
0:25:27 I you know
0:25:29 just ran through it
0:25:30 I’m a marketer myself
0:25:32 and so I
0:25:32 when I like
0:25:33 marketing book
0:25:33 I feel like
0:25:34 it means a lot
0:25:35 because I consider
0:25:35 myself to be
0:25:36 a great marketer
0:25:37 so great job
0:25:38 on the book
0:25:39 it comes out
0:25:40 February 22nd
0:25:41 and what was
0:25:41 the genesis
0:25:42 of the book
0:25:42 why did you
0:25:43 decide to write it
0:25:44 yeah I decided
0:25:45 to write the book
0:25:46 actually and it’s
0:25:46 so interesting
0:25:47 I started writing
0:25:47 this book
0:25:49 before the pandemic
0:25:50 and things got
0:25:50 so crazy
0:25:51 the last couple
0:25:52 years actually
0:25:53 that we had to
0:25:53 push back the
0:25:54 launch like twice
0:25:55 we actually
0:25:56 our company grew
0:25:57 quite a bit
0:25:58 over these last
0:25:58 two years
0:25:59 and so I needed
0:26:00 to really focus
0:26:00 on the team
0:26:01 and the organization
0:26:02 and everything
0:26:03 but I saw
0:26:04 that there was
0:26:04 just a crisis
0:26:06 going on online
0:26:07 with online marketers
0:26:08 like an identity
0:26:08 crisis
0:26:10 and I started
0:26:11 to see a lot
0:26:11 of business owners
0:26:12 just kind of
0:26:13 flailing
0:26:14 like just flailing
0:26:16 not knowing
0:26:17 how to anchor
0:26:18 in to building
0:26:20 their own brand
0:26:21 and that’s a really
0:26:22 dangerous thing
0:26:23 because you’ll
0:26:23 take yourself
0:26:24 out of business
0:26:24 right
0:26:26 there’s a million
0:26:27 people that can
0:26:28 put up a bio
0:26:29 in 30 seconds
0:26:30 and say they do
0:26:31 exactly what I do
0:26:32 they can do the
0:26:33 same with you
0:26:34 and with every
0:26:35 person listening
0:26:36 and so I saw
0:26:37 business owners
0:26:38 really falling
0:26:39 into these like
0:26:40 dangerous traps
0:26:41 to try and stand
0:26:42 out whether
0:26:42 it was like
0:26:43 copying other
0:26:44 people’s brands
0:26:45 or just following
0:26:46 the latest trends
0:26:47 and fads that
0:26:47 they’re seeing
0:26:48 on TikTok
0:26:49 or Instagram
0:26:49 or whatever the
0:26:51 case and I
0:26:51 really want to
0:26:51 emphasize like
0:26:52 there’s no right
0:26:53 or wrong like
0:26:54 in however you
0:26:54 want to do the
0:26:55 marketing for your
0:26:56 brand I’m not
0:26:56 here to tell
0:26:58 anyone do this
0:26:59 don’t do that
0:27:00 what I am here
0:27:01 to say is
0:27:02 you have a
0:27:03 unique calling
0:27:05 you have a
0:27:06 unique why
0:27:08 don’t go
0:27:09 position yourself
0:27:10 as the second
0:27:10 best version
0:27:11 of someone
0:27:12 else
0:27:13 that’s the only
0:27:14 thing you can
0:27:14 do wrong
0:27:15 is not honoring
0:27:17 the DNA
0:27:18 of your own
0:27:18 business
0:27:19 not honoring
0:27:20 the DNA
0:27:20 of your own
0:27:21 brand
0:27:23 and so I
0:27:23 wanted to help
0:27:24 business owners
0:27:25 to understand
0:27:26 how they could
0:27:27 identify their
0:27:28 core belief system
0:27:29 their convictions
0:27:30 how they could
0:27:31 really get clear
0:27:33 on how am I
0:27:34 different and
0:27:35 what makes me
0:27:36 different and
0:27:37 how do I share
0:27:38 that in an
0:27:38 authentic and
0:27:39 meaningful way
0:27:40 that builds my
0:27:41 legacy body of
0:27:42 work versus
0:27:43 doing stupid
0:27:43 crap that you’re
0:27:44 going to regret
0:27:45 later right
0:27:45 I mean just to
0:27:46 be completely
0:27:47 transparent and
0:27:48 you know obviously
0:27:49 there’s a huge
0:27:49 what’s in it for
0:27:50 me because I
0:27:51 teach business
0:27:52 owners how to
0:27:52 scale their
0:27:53 brands online so
0:27:54 I want my
0:27:55 clients and my
0:27:56 audience to be
0:27:57 more successful
0:27:58 at understanding
0:27:58 how to build a
0:27:59 category of one
0:28:00 brand I saw
0:28:01 that pretty much
0:28:02 everything that
0:28:02 people were doing
0:28:04 was great for
0:28:05 short-term clicks
0:28:06 and short-term
0:28:07 conversions but
0:28:08 not great for
0:28:10 actually building a
0:28:10 business of
0:28:11 substance and
0:28:12 significance that
0:28:13 will stand the
0:28:14 test of time and
0:28:15 so the goal of
0:28:16 the book is to
0:28:17 give a framework
0:28:18 that people can
0:28:19 follow to not
0:28:20 build a brand that
0:28:20 looks like mine
0:28:21 not build a brand
0:28:21 that looks like
0:28:23 yours to literally
0:28:23 walk away from
0:28:24 the book like
0:28:26 holy shit like I
0:28:27 have a unique
0:28:29 calling a unique
0:28:30 set of DNA a
0:28:30 unique set of
0:28:31 beliefs and
0:28:32 convictions and
0:28:32 I can do this
0:28:33 my own way
0:28:34 without compromise
0:28:37 I have to say I
0:28:38 was reading your
0:28:38 book and I was
0:28:40 like yes yes yes
0:28:41 everything that I
0:28:42 was reading I was
0:28:42 like you are so
0:28:43 right I never
0:28:44 thought of it you
0:28:45 know in the way
0:28:46 that you outlined it
0:28:47 in your framework
0:28:48 but I agree with
0:28:49 everything that you
0:28:49 say and I can’t
0:28:50 wait to dive really
0:28:51 deep on some of
0:28:52 the steps you know
0:28:53 to get to be that
0:28:55 category of one so
0:28:56 let’s talk about the
0:28:57 five essential steps
0:28:58 that you outline in
0:28:59 your book can you
0:29:00 walk us through them
0:29:01 at a high level yeah
0:29:03 definitely so I mean
0:29:04 let’s start at the
0:29:05 very beginning a very
0:29:05 good place to start
0:29:07 right the first thing
0:29:09 is you know I think
0:29:11 you have to step away
0:29:12 from a copy paste
0:29:13 trap and you have to
0:29:14 put yourself in a
0:29:16 position to really
0:29:17 say I am going to be
0:29:18 the best version of
0:29:20 me and only me versus
0:29:21 the second best version
0:29:22 of someone else so I
0:29:23 would say like first
0:29:24 things first let’s just
0:29:25 like set a baseline
0:29:27 of like we’re going
0:29:28 to go to market in a
0:29:29 unique way that
0:29:30 represents who we are
0:29:31 and what we’re called
0:29:33 to do and as a part
0:29:35 of that foundation it’s
0:29:36 really about identifying
0:29:37 what your core
0:29:38 convictions are you have
0:29:40 to know what you
0:29:41 believe in order to
0:29:43 make every decision in
0:29:44 your business about how
0:29:45 you’re going to stand
0:29:47 out and what you’re
0:29:48 going to do in order
0:29:50 to achieve your
0:29:51 financial and impact
0:29:52 goals and I know
0:29:53 everyone listening has
0:29:54 money that they want
0:29:54 to make and a
0:29:55 difference that they
0:29:56 want to create and if
0:29:57 you don’t know what
0:29:59 your anchors are those
0:30:00 those things that you’re
0:30:00 going to burn up a
0:30:02 stake for are you know
0:30:02 it’s going to be really
0:30:04 hard to do that so the
0:30:06 foundation is identifying
0:30:08 and deciding that you’re
0:30:10 going to build your own
0:30:11 brand not someone
0:30:13 else’s right and then
0:30:14 marrying that with
0:30:16 identifying your
0:30:17 beliefs your convictions
0:30:18 and you know I think
0:30:19 then people always have
0:30:20 the question right about
0:30:22 there’s things that
0:30:23 people do and don’t
0:30:23 feel comfortable
0:30:25 talking about online
0:30:26 and so I just want to
0:30:26 address that really
0:30:28 quickly I am a hugely
0:30:30 private person I don’t
0:30:31 share my opinions about
0:30:33 a lot of my personal
0:30:35 belief systems online I
0:30:36 don’t share a lot of my
0:30:37 personal life online I
0:30:38 have a seven-year-old
0:30:40 daughter you know my
0:30:41 family life is like my
0:30:42 everything and I’m not
0:30:43 the kind of person that
0:30:45 like documents my lunch
0:30:46 and like does all that
0:30:47 stuff not that there’s
0:30:48 anything wrong with it
0:30:49 but I’m sharing that
0:30:50 because I think that when
0:30:51 people hear conviction
0:30:52 and when people hear
0:30:53 beliefs they’re like but
0:30:54 I can you know and
0:30:56 it’s like no you can
0:30:57 have very deep
0:30:58 convictions that are
0:31:00 specifically related to
0:31:01 the way that you do
0:31:03 podcast production you
0:31:04 can have very deep
0:31:05 convictions specifically
0:31:06 about the way that you
0:31:08 teach people to position
0:31:10 their podcast you can
0:31:11 have very deep beliefs
0:31:13 about any area of your
0:31:15 business right that does
0:31:17 not put you in a space
0:31:18 of being controversial or
0:31:19 being afraid you’re
0:31:19 going to get your
0:31:20 account shut down or
0:31:22 talking about things
0:31:22 that you’re uncomfortable
0:31:23 talking about so I do
0:31:24 want to put that out
0:31:25 there because I know
0:31:26 that’s always the
0:31:26 question that people
0:31:28 have and you don’t
0:31:29 have to be controversial
0:31:31 in order to stand out
0:31:33 you don’t have to be
0:31:34 controversial in order
0:31:36 to be convicted but you
0:31:37 do need to have a
0:31:38 belief system because
0:31:39 otherwise why would
0:31:40 someone choose to work
0:31:41 with you versus choosing
0:31:42 to work with someone
0:31:43 else and that’s the
0:31:45 problem everyone wants
0:31:48 to say me too every
0:31:49 marketer wants to say
0:31:51 oh yeah like everyone
0:31:52 in my space is doing
0:31:53 this yeah we do that
0:31:54 too and we do it
0:31:55 better no one wants to
0:31:56 hear that like everyone’s
0:31:57 heard that a million
0:31:59 times like don’t tell
0:32:00 me that you do that
0:32:01 too tell me what you
0:32:02 do differently tell me
0:32:03 what you do that is
0:32:04 completely unique tell
0:32:05 me what your thought
0:32:06 process is that’s
0:32:07 actually different than
0:32:07 the rest of your
0:32:09 industry that makes me
0:32:10 say oh hey like yeah
0:32:11 I want to have a
0:32:12 conversation and check
0:32:13 out what you’re doing
0:32:15 right let’s pause
0:32:16 there because I know
0:32:17 I just kind of covered
0:32:18 a lot no I think that
0:32:19 totally makes sense I
0:32:20 feel like a lot of
0:32:21 people don’t understand
0:32:22 that you need to
0:32:23 differentiate if you
0:32:24 want to succeed and you
0:32:25 need to be the solution
0:32:26 for what people are
0:32:27 looking for and if
0:32:28 you’re out there saying
0:32:29 me too then you’re
0:32:30 just copying everyone
0:32:30 else and not really
0:32:31 differentiating yourself
0:32:33 so totally agree there
0:32:34 yeah and then you have
0:32:36 to really identify the
0:32:37 gap right this is
0:32:38 something that I have
0:32:39 been teaching for years
0:32:40 and I will tell you
0:32:40 that the business
0:32:41 owners that really
0:32:42 understand how to
0:32:43 identify the gap in
0:32:45 their industry they
0:32:46 become multi-million
0:32:47 dollar successes very
0:32:49 very quickly in every
0:32:50 industry there is a
0:32:52 wide open gap right
0:32:53 the best example that
0:32:54 I can give that
0:32:55 everyone can identify
0:32:56 is the taxi industry
0:32:57 right the taxi
0:32:59 industry was like off
0:33:01 the rails with so many
0:33:03 issues for decades no
0:33:04 one did anything about
0:33:05 it right it was
0:33:06 inconvenient you could
0:33:07 never get a taxi when
0:33:09 you needed it right we
0:33:10 could go on and on and
0:33:12 so in came uber they
0:33:13 filled the gap and it
0:33:14 was just like spontaneous
0:33:16 combustion right and
0:33:18 now look at that
0:33:19 industry and people are
0:33:20 even starting their own
0:33:23 private car fleets where
0:33:24 they have their own two
0:33:25 three cars that they’re
0:33:26 running out almost
0:33:27 similar to like the
0:33:29 airbnb vrbo industry
0:33:30 where they’re literally
0:33:31 like running out their
0:33:32 own cars right because
0:33:33 there’s there’s a gap
0:33:35 and now especially in
0:33:36 like the luxury space
0:33:37 like people want to you
0:33:38 know they’re going on
0:33:39 vacation right you go to
0:33:41 normal car dealership
0:33:42 you’re like I don’t
0:33:43 really want a jeep
0:33:44 liberty on my vacation
0:33:45 I want like a ferrari
0:33:47 right so right so
0:33:48 that’s like an obvious
0:33:49 thing but the thing
0:33:51 that’s so interesting is
0:33:53 that there is a gap in
0:33:55 every industry there are
0:33:57 big issues that no one
0:33:58 has taken the time no
0:33:59 one has taken the
0:34:01 concern no one has
0:34:02 taken the money to
0:34:03 innovate and create a
0:34:05 solution to I saw it in
0:34:06 the coaching industry I
0:34:07 looked at every single
0:34:08 one of my peers and
0:34:10 what did I say they
0:34:11 were all running these
0:34:13 like massive programs
0:34:13 where they’re dumping
0:34:15 people into a Facebook
0:34:15 group they didn’t have
0:34:17 any team to support
0:34:18 them people couldn’t get
0:34:19 their questions answered
0:34:20 someone would post a
0:34:21 question in the Facebook
0:34:22 group and there would be
0:34:22 a hundred comments that
0:34:24 just said F I didn’t know
0:34:25 what that meant and
0:34:26 then I found out that
0:34:27 meant following so it’s
0:34:28 the blind leading the
0:34:29 blind no one has any
0:34:31 answers everybody’s
0:34:31 looking around there’s
0:34:32 no coach to be found
0:34:33 and then we wonder
0:34:34 why people are spending
0:34:35 a hundred thousand
0:34:36 dollars on coaching for
0:34:37 their business and
0:34:38 they’re right back where
0:34:38 they started so what did
0:34:40 I do I said I’m going
0:34:41 to build a full-time
0:34:42 team of 30 support
0:34:43 members I’m going to
0:34:45 have every single person
0:34:45 that goes through my
0:34:47 program have one-to-one
0:34:48 support in addition to
0:34:49 the group program that
0:34:50 they’re going through
0:34:50 they’re going to have
0:34:51 accountability they’re
0:34:52 going to have
0:34:53 accessibility I took the
0:34:54 whole model flipped it
0:34:56 on its head my business
0:34:57 exploded there’s a gap
0:34:59 in every industry it’s
0:35:01 not hard it’s just
0:35:02 instead of you saying
0:35:04 how do I replicate
0:35:05 what my industry is
0:35:07 doing you say what are
0:35:07 the issues in my
0:35:09 industry and how do I
0:35:10 step up to fill them
0:35:12 or to fix them I love
0:35:13 that so let’s move
0:35:15 into your pyramid if
0:35:16 you wouldn’t mind
0:35:17 because I feel like it’s
0:35:18 a good place to talk
0:35:19 about it so your
0:35:21 pyramid is made up of
0:35:22 three levels the first
0:35:23 level is how-to
0:35:24 marketing and then it’s
0:35:25 hope marketing and
0:35:27 conviction marketing so
0:35:27 from my understanding
0:35:29 the how-to marketing is
0:35:30 really the foundational
0:35:31 piece that you got
0:35:31 to start with to
0:35:33 command credibility and
0:35:34 authority talk to us
0:35:35 about this how-to
0:35:36 marketing and how to do
0:35:38 it effectively yeah
0:35:39 absolutely so how-to
0:35:40 marketing is the most
0:35:41 basic element of
0:35:42 marketing and it’s
0:35:43 typically the way that
0:35:43 people enter your
0:35:45 ecosystem it’s simple
0:35:47 it’s easy to do anyone
0:35:48 can do it cost you
0:35:50 nothing record a quick
0:35:51 video on your iPhone
0:35:52 pop it on your stories
0:35:53 pop it on your page
0:35:54 share it across
0:35:55 different profiles boom
0:35:56 you’re doing how-to
0:35:57 marketing this is
0:35:58 literally a transfer of
0:35:59 knowledge it’s where
0:36:01 I’m showing you hey
0:36:02 Hala I know how to do
0:36:03 something that I know
0:36:04 you’re interested in
0:36:05 in doing I’m going to
0:36:07 be your teacher so all
0:36:08 of a sudden Hala watches
0:36:10 my video she spent two
0:36:10 minutes with me she’s
0:36:11 like damn I like this
0:36:12 girl she just taught me
0:36:13 how to do something I
0:36:14 didn’t know how to do
0:36:14 all of a sudden she’s
0:36:16 like cool okay this is
0:36:17 someone that I like this
0:36:18 is someone I trust you
0:36:19 know whatever the key
0:36:21 so how-to marketing serves
0:36:21 a really important
0:36:22 purpose because when
0:36:24 people are scanning the
0:36:25 airwaves and when they’re
0:36:26 looking for new accounts
0:36:26 to follow and they’re
0:36:27 looking for new people to
0:36:28 learn from they want
0:36:30 quick digestible instant
0:36:33 tips easy okay the
0:36:33 problem is that’s where
0:36:36 most people stop now the
0:36:37 problem with this is just
0:36:39 like people are scanning
0:36:40 the airwaves looking for a
0:36:41 quick easy actionable tip
0:36:43 they’re doing that all day
0:36:44 every day it’s called
0:36:46 escapism right that’s why
0:36:47 people go online and
0:36:47 scroll and scroll and
0:36:49 scroll it’s escapism so
0:36:50 it’s kind of like you got
0:36:51 the girl she said yes to
0:36:52 the date and now you’re
0:36:53 like cool I already had a
0:36:54 date with that girl let me
0:36:55 see oh she’s really cute
0:36:56 over there right and
0:36:58 then someone right so
0:37:00 the problem with how-to
0:37:01 marketing is it’s a great
0:37:03 way to get people in your
0:37:06 ecosystem it’s not a great
0:37:07 way to keep them in your
0:37:09 ecosystem and we have to
0:37:10 remember what’s the purpose
0:37:11 of marketing the purpose of
0:37:14 marketing is to attract so
0:37:15 that you can nurture and
0:37:17 finally convert people into
0:37:20 paying customers well if you
0:37:22 miss this middle section of
0:37:23 nurture they never make it
0:37:25 over here to conversion and
0:37:26 that’s what’s happening to
0:37:27 a lot of marketers they
0:37:28 pump out this how-to
0:37:30 marketing and this is you
0:37:31 know a lot of people are
0:37:32 doing their pointing and
0:37:33 they’re dancing and you
0:37:34 know their lip syncing and
0:37:36 all those things and that’s
0:37:39 fine do you have a way to
0:37:41 then bring them through that
0:37:43 process and finally get them
0:37:44 to convert okay so how to
0:37:46 get some in it doesn’t keep
0:37:47 them there we want you to
0:37:49 not just do how to but we
0:37:51 want to elevate from okay I
0:37:52 see you as a credible
0:37:53 teacher I see you as an
0:37:55 authority wonderful now
0:37:57 let’s elevate let’s figure
0:37:58 out how are we going to get
0:37:59 people to keep coming back
0:38:02 well if you notice in the
0:38:03 conversation that we’re
0:38:04 having here today Hala we
0:38:06 talked a lot about stories
0:38:08 right we talked a lot about
0:38:10 experiences that I had
0:38:11 experiences that you had
0:38:12 ways that we resonate with
0:38:14 each other we talked about
0:38:15 failure we talked about
0:38:16 setbacks we talked about
0:38:19 patience and sacrifice what
0:38:21 did we just do bring out
0:38:24 emotions exactly so the
0:38:25 people that are experiencing
0:38:27 this show are going to say
0:38:29 you know what I’ve only been
0:38:30 working at that goal for a
0:38:31 year I think I can keep
0:38:33 going Kelly kept going
0:38:34 Hala kept going they both
0:38:36 run these wildly successful
0:38:37 companies now maybe there’s
0:38:38 nothing wrong with me that I
0:38:39 wasn’t an overnight success
0:38:41 in six months maybe if I
0:38:42 stick with it I am going to
0:38:44 achieve my goals after all
0:38:46 okay now we’re on to
0:38:48 something right and this is
0:38:50 why of course podcasting is
0:38:52 so powerful it’s such an
0:38:53 amazing medium for hope
0:38:55 marketing so hope marketing
0:38:56 is the biggest chunk of your
0:38:58 pyramid and this is where
0:38:59 you really connect with your
0:39:02 audience in an emotional and
0:39:04 a sensitive way where people
0:39:05 are like you’re not just a
0:39:06 teacher you’re not just an
0:39:07 authority figure you are my
0:39:09 friend you are my
0:39:10 convident you are my
0:39:11 cheerleader you are the
0:39:13 person that has been in my
0:39:14 shoes you understand
0:39:15 everything that I’ve gone
0:39:16 through you understand
0:39:17 everything I’m going through
0:39:19 now and you cross the bridge
0:39:21 the other side so hope
0:39:23 marketing is really about
0:39:24 reaching down grabbing your
0:39:25 audience and like wrapping
0:39:26 your arms around them and
0:39:28 saying like no you’re not
0:39:29 quitting you’re coming with
0:39:30 me on this journey I’m going
0:39:31 to support you every step of
0:39:33 the way I’ve been there you
0:39:34 can get there too and hope
0:39:36 marketing is really what’s
0:39:37 going to keep people coming
0:39:38 back I call it like the
0:39:40 sweetness factor of your
0:39:41 brand it’s the thing that
0:39:43 really makes people feel
0:39:45 deeply connected to you as
0:39:47 a person not just as a
0:39:48 marketer that can give
0:39:50 instruction but as a human
0:39:52 being that has feelings that
0:39:53 has emotion that’s been
0:39:55 through some things right
0:39:56 does that make sense oh my
0:39:58 gosh totally makes sense and
0:39:59 I can attest to this I mean
0:40:01 when I go on a podcast for
0:40:03 example and share my story
0:40:04 that’s when I get all these
0:40:05 people like you know hitting
0:40:07 me up asking to do business
0:40:07 with me and things like that
0:40:08 because they feel so
0:40:10 emotionally connected they
0:40:11 could see any sort of
0:40:13 PowerPoint slides about my
0:40:14 results or whatever but
0:40:15 that wouldn’t seal the deal
0:40:16 it’s about liking the person
0:40:18 and feeling connected with
0:40:18 the person that you want to
0:40:20 work with which is so key
0:40:21 so what are some other
0:40:23 actionable ways that we
0:40:25 can bring this emotion to
0:40:26 our branding aside from the
0:40:27 obvious ones which is like
0:40:30 social media posts and you
0:40:31 know having a podcast where
0:40:32 you tell your personal
0:40:33 story it’s literally you can
0:40:35 do it with anything I mean
0:40:38 you can tell stories I mean
0:40:39 for me a lot of times even
0:40:40 when I do like Instagram
0:40:41 stories or Facebook stories
0:40:42 like I’m literally just
0:40:44 giving like encouragement
0:40:46 it’s encouragement it’s
0:40:47 it’s you know it’s
0:40:49 sharing mistakes it’s
0:40:50 sharing setbacks that you
0:40:52 work through I think one
0:40:53 of the things that’s most
0:40:54 endearing when you’re a
0:40:55 teacher that you know
0:40:57 wants people to want to
0:40:59 work with you is not when
0:41:00 you just show your
0:41:01 highlight reel of all of
0:41:02 your greatness and all of
0:41:03 your wonderful
0:41:04 accomplishments but
0:41:05 instead when you say
0:41:06 listen I felt at this and
0:41:07 I felt at this and I felt
0:41:08 at this and this is what I
0:41:09 learned from it and this
0:41:10 is who I became and this
0:41:11 is why I’m successful
0:41:12 today and these are all
0:41:13 the things that you can
0:41:14 skip over that you don’t
0:41:15 have to go through because
0:41:16 I did and I’m going to
0:41:16 tell you what to do
0:41:19 instead so I think it can
0:41:20 be in podcasts it can be
0:41:22 in live streams it can be
0:41:23 in videos it can be in
0:41:24 emails it can be in posts
0:41:26 on social media stories
0:41:27 right it can be from the
0:41:28 stage it can be from
0:41:29 behind the microphone
0:41:31 anywhere that you connect
0:41:32 with your audience it can
0:41:34 be in a in a book right
0:41:36 and you know in a book
0:41:38 any way you want but the
0:41:39 bottom line is it’s going
0:41:42 from transaction which is
0:41:44 not emotional and it
0:41:45 doesn’t have staying power
0:41:49 to relational which now is
0:41:50 what once creates that
0:41:51 desire that stickiness
0:41:52 factor in the brand for
0:41:53 people to want to stay
0:41:55 with you yeah and then I
0:41:55 think there’s another
0:41:57 mistake that people make
0:41:58 in all this is just
0:41:59 focusing on hope marketing
0:42:02 alone and not doing any of
0:42:03 the informational how-to
0:42:05 stuff so talk to us about
0:42:06 that amen and
0:42:10 all the time and well
0:42:11 and that’s why I wanted
0:42:12 to actually give the
0:42:13 illustration and the
0:42:15 exercises in the book
0:42:17 about the pyramid because
0:42:18 it’s not about swinging
0:42:20 the pendulum from one
0:42:20 side to the other it’s
0:42:22 about understanding how
0:42:23 these things work
0:42:25 together right there’s so
0:42:26 many people that it’s
0:42:27 like their entire brain
0:42:29 is just fluff and it’s
0:42:30 like what do you even
0:42:33 do like why are we
0:42:34 even like get out of my
0:42:35 feet like why are you
0:42:36 even here like what is
0:42:37 this I don’t understand
0:42:39 what the context of this
0:42:41 soft like just fluff is
0:42:42 all the time so I
0:42:43 completely agree with you
0:42:45 like there has to be an
0:42:46 intelligence to your
0:42:48 brand like what is it
0:42:49 that you teach what is
0:42:50 it that you do there’s a
0:42:52 lot of people that go so
0:42:53 deep in the wrong
0:42:54 direction that literally
0:42:56 you don’t even know what
0:42:57 their business is right
0:42:58 if I go to your social
0:43:00 media and I don’t even
0:43:02 understand what your
0:43:03 offer is what your
0:43:04 business is what it is
0:43:06 that you do like that’s
0:43:07 a problem right so
0:43:10 again the pyramid is
0:43:11 about you know think
0:43:12 about it like Maslow’s
0:43:13 hierarchy of needs
0:43:15 right like you work
0:43:15 your way through the
0:43:16 pyramid you don’t say
0:43:17 oh I’m going to pull
0:43:18 out this one piece of
0:43:19 the pyramid and that’s
0:43:20 going to make me happy
0:43:22 and fulfilled no right
0:43:23 each of the pieces of
0:43:24 the pyramid go together
0:43:25 so I’m really happy you
0:43:26 brought that up Paula
0:43:28 totally one more thing
0:43:29 about how to marketing
0:43:29 that I think is
0:43:31 important if you’re
0:43:32 going to do how to
0:43:33 marketing isn’t it true
0:43:34 that you should really
0:43:35 focus on a couple things
0:43:36 and not just do like
0:43:38 how to’s about everything
0:43:40 in your industry because
0:43:40 then nobody’s going to
0:43:41 know what you’re really
0:43:43 about yeah thank you
0:43:44 for bringing that up I
0:43:45 mean this goes back to
0:43:46 what we were talking
0:43:47 about you know at the
0:43:48 beginning of the show
0:43:49 where this lack of
0:43:51 patience is the number
0:43:52 one saboteur for small
0:43:53 business owners I mean I
0:43:55 see so many businesses
0:43:56 that one day they’re
0:43:58 marketing this and
0:43:59 then the next day you
0:44:00 see them marketing
0:44:01 something that has
0:44:02 nothing to do with that
0:44:03 other thing and you’re
0:44:05 like so now you’re
0:44:07 expert of nothing you’re
0:44:08 literally expert of
0:44:09 nothing the more that
0:44:10 you keep changing your
0:44:12 messaging over and
0:44:12 over and over again
0:44:13 we’ll talk about this
0:44:14 also with the
0:44:15 conviction the top of
0:44:16 the pyramid but you
0:44:18 keep changing what
0:44:19 you’re talking about all
0:44:19 the time and you’re
0:44:20 doing how-to marketing
0:44:22 on things that have
0:44:23 nothing to do with the
0:44:24 core anchors of your
0:44:25 brand of course that’s
0:44:26 going to create a
0:44:27 confused mind and a
0:44:28 confused mind always
0:44:30 says no right so
0:44:31 that’s a great point
0:44:34 I totally agree she is
0:44:35 dropping bombs right
0:44:36 now I would advise
0:44:37 everybody to go rewind
0:44:38 that part back and now
0:44:39 we’re going to move to
0:44:41 the top level of the
0:44:42 pyramid which is like the
0:44:43 elite level you can’t
0:44:44 get to it until you
0:44:45 finish steps one and
0:44:47 two how to and hope
0:44:49 and then you can be you
0:44:50 know top of your field
0:44:50 if you can get
0:44:52 conviction marketing right
0:44:53 so talk to us about what
0:44:54 that definition is and
0:44:56 what that is yeah it’s
0:44:57 absolutely true so the
0:44:58 way that you want to
0:44:58 think about it is at the
0:44:59 bottom of the pyramid
0:45:01 you’re a teacher right
0:45:02 you’re giving tips you’re
0:45:03 giving strategies you’re
0:45:05 giving how-tos you are
0:45:06 demonstrating that you
0:45:07 have knowledge and
0:45:07 expertise that your
0:45:08 audience does and
0:45:09 therefore you’re in a
0:45:11 position of authority in
0:45:13 the second category now
0:45:14 you’re their confidant
0:45:15 you’re their friend you’re
0:45:16 someone that they want
0:45:16 to hang out with they
0:45:17 want to have a glass of
0:45:19 wine a cup of coffee you
0:45:19 know they want to have a
0:45:20 beer with you there’s
0:45:21 someone that you like so
0:45:22 they know you now they
0:45:24 like you right and and
0:45:26 you’re kind of like that
0:45:27 cheerleader that friend
0:45:28 that they kind of want to
0:45:30 stay connected to but let’s
0:45:31 talk about how we get from
0:45:33 the friend category right to
0:45:35 the mentor the trusted
0:45:37 advisor category because
0:45:38 you’re just going to give
0:45:39 your friends money right
0:45:40 you’re going to give your
0:45:42 money to the mentor that
0:45:43 you believe is going to
0:45:45 change your life and when
0:45:46 you asked earlier about the
0:45:47 people that are just
0:45:49 focused on hope marketing
0:45:50 marketing that’s a big
0:45:51 problem that’s why a lot
0:45:51 of people struggle to
0:45:52 convert because they
0:45:53 literally put themselves
0:45:55 square in that friend
0:45:57 category you’re not going
0:45:58 to go by from the person
0:45:59 that you like the most
0:45:59 you’re going to go by from
0:46:00 the person that you think
0:46:01 is going to change your
0:46:02 life that’s going to solve
0:46:04 your biggest problem that’s
0:46:05 going to make the biggest
0:46:05 difference that you’re
0:46:06 going to get the biggest
0:46:08 transformation from so
0:46:09 conviction marketing is
0:46:10 about stepping into that
0:46:12 role of trusted mentor
0:46:13 it’s about stepping into
0:46:15 that role of your greatest
0:46:18 advisor right when you think
0:46:19 about the category that
0:46:20 you’re in you want to own
0:46:22 that word in the mind of
0:46:23 your audience you want to
0:46:25 own that category in the
0:46:26 in the mind of your
0:46:27 audience and conviction is
0:46:28 the only thing that’s going
0:46:29 to do that for you
0:46:30 conviction is what’s going
0:46:31 to lead to conversions I
0:46:32 would write that down
0:46:33 conviction equals
0:46:34 conversions what does it
0:46:36 mean to be convicted it
0:46:39 means to be so strong and
0:46:40 so powerful in a set of
0:46:42 beliefs right it’s about
0:46:44 beliefs and when you think
0:46:45 about conviction why is
0:46:47 conviction important and why
0:46:48 why do so many marketers
0:46:50 struggle to convert because
0:46:52 they’re not convicted because
0:46:53 they’re so worried about what
0:46:55 everyone else is doing and
0:46:56 the things that they’re
0:46:57 saying aren’t really their
0:46:59 authentic message there’s
0:47:01 someone else’s message that
0:47:02 they’re trying to make their
0:47:04 own it’s very difficult to
0:47:05 have conviction when you’re
0:47:07 saying things that aren’t
0:47:08 grounded from like your heart
0:47:10 and your soul that aren’t a
0:47:11 part of who you are that
0:47:13 aren’t so deep in your belief
0:47:16 system that every area of your
0:47:18 business from your messaging
0:47:20 your marketing the way that
0:47:21 your offer is delivered the
0:47:22 way that you service your
0:47:24 clients the focus of your
0:47:25 programming the result that you
0:47:27 provide conviction marketing is
0:47:29 about taking a set of core
0:47:31 beliefs and infusing them in
0:47:33 every single element of your
0:47:35 brand so that when anyone
0:47:37 interacts with you they
0:47:39 understand that you believe
0:47:41 above all else that these
0:47:43 elements must be present and
0:47:44 that they expect a certain
0:47:46 experience they expect a
0:47:48 certain result they feel
0:47:50 confident that they are going
0:47:51 to achieve a certain outcome
0:47:53 when they open up their wallet
0:47:54 and give you their credit card
0:47:57 because you are so convicted you
0:47:59 have such a high level of
0:48:01 belief about the result that
0:48:02 you’re going to provide and the
0:48:04 why of how you provide that
0:48:06 result and this is why in the
0:48:07 book we start off with
0:48:09 identifying your belief system
0:48:10 and then talking about how
0:48:12 that materializes in your
0:48:13 brand identifying the gap in
0:48:15 your market and then really
0:48:16 getting clear on how you’re
0:48:17 going to fill the gap in the
0:48:19 market like these are actual
0:48:20 exercises that you do in the
0:48:23 book because you might have to
0:48:25 do a little self work to do
0:48:27 this this is about slowing down
0:48:28 and peeling the idea back a
0:48:31 little bit and I think that you
0:48:32 know and I know I felt this way
0:48:33 when I first started in the
0:48:35 online space I felt a little
0:48:38 scared to lead with conviction
0:48:41 because I was no one and I had
0:48:43 no clients and I didn’t really
0:48:45 know how the heck am I going to
0:48:46 get someone to want to buy from
0:48:48 me when I’m a nobody when
0:48:50 everyone else in my space is over
0:48:51 here talking about this and doing
0:48:54 this but it actually doesn’t work
0:48:56 that way it actually works when
0:48:59 when people interact with you the
0:49:00 number one thing that they’re
0:49:02 saying is do I believe this
0:49:05 person like do I believe this
0:49:08 person like do I trust you do I
0:49:10 trust that linking arms with you
0:49:11 is going to make my life better
0:49:13 do I believe that by giving you my
0:49:16 money this result is going to
0:49:17 happen it’s all about
0:49:19 believability so if it’s all about
0:49:21 believability you better know what
0:49:23 your convictions are and you
0:49:24 better be able to say those
0:49:26 convictions with a level of
0:49:28 confidence and certainty that is
0:49:31 going to go from this warm and
0:49:32 fluffy brand that people think oh
0:49:34 I learn a lot from this person oh
0:49:36 I really like this person they’ve
0:49:37 been through a lot they really
0:49:39 inspire me to know this person is
0:49:40 pretty certain that they’re the
0:49:41 best in the world at what they do
0:49:43 and I believe them so I’m going to
0:49:45 pull out my credit card and spend
0:49:46 my money to work
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0:54:53 what keeps floating in my head every time
0:54:56 while you’re talking is that if you’re
0:54:58 going to move to the conviction marketing
0:55:00 you really actually have to be an expert
0:55:02 of your industry because it doesn’t allow
0:55:04 you to not be an expert i see too many
0:55:06 people for example trying to like make it
0:55:08 in the podcast industry and they don’t
0:55:10 even know how the podcast industry works
0:55:12 and i’m like how are you even trying to
0:55:14 succeed in this industry if you don’t even
0:55:16 take the time to understand it and to
0:55:18 your point understand the gaps and how
0:55:20 you would fill them so it forces you to
0:55:22 really know your industry and really know
0:55:25 your stuff whereas the other things you
0:55:26 could get away with like learning one
0:55:28 little thing and like seeming like you
0:55:31 know your stuff you actually need to know
0:55:33 your entire industry and the ins and
0:55:35 outs of it to be good at conviction
0:55:36 marketing and then i think a lot of
0:55:39 people if they are experts they might go
0:55:40 about it in the wrong way where they just
0:55:42 keep shouting from the rooftops what’s
0:55:45 wrong instead of shouting what they
0:55:47 should be doing to make it right so talk
0:55:49 to us about that i want to peel that back
0:55:51 a lot because those are really great
0:55:53 points so number one this is what i love
0:55:56 about conviction marketing you can’t do
0:55:57 conviction marketing if you’re not an
0:55:59 expert so you better either become an
0:56:01 expert or you better get yourself into a
0:56:03 business where you are actually an expert
0:56:04 i mean just like you said you see that
0:56:06 with podcasting i see that with business
0:56:08 strategies there’s like teenagers that
0:56:10 teach business coaching now and i’m like
0:56:14 oh god help me but i’m like it doesn’t
0:56:17 worry me because when you’re talking
0:56:20 about using this pyramid to create
0:56:23 marketing that leverages all three of
0:56:26 these capacities you simply can’t execute
0:56:29 on what i’m talking about if you don’t
0:56:31 have the skill set to do it it will show
0:56:35 through it will be so obvious right so
0:56:37 it’s beautiful because it forces you
0:56:39 either to get better or to understand
0:56:42 why you are better right one or the other
0:56:43 one or the other you gotta do one or the
0:56:45 other so i i definitely agree with that
0:56:47 and then yeah i did address that in the
0:56:49 book and i do have a concern about that
0:56:51 you know i see a lot of people kind of
0:56:54 get bitter um about you know the
0:56:56 competition in their space or about what
0:56:59 they see going on with other people or
0:57:00 about trends that they see in their
0:57:03 industry and they kind of have a lot to
0:57:06 say about like what’s wrong and you know
0:57:07 i talk about this in the book there’s a
0:57:09 whole chapter about this but like this
0:57:12 isn’t about like complaining and like
0:57:14 shouting from the rooftops about what’s
0:57:16 wrong this is about like get off your
0:57:18 butt and do something about it like this
0:57:21 is about calling you out and saying okay
0:57:23 you believe it can be better you believe
0:57:25 it can be different how are you making it
0:57:27 better how are you making it different
0:57:30 what are you doing that’s addressing
0:57:32 those things when i saw the coaching
0:57:33 space and i was like this isn’t fair and
0:57:35 this isn’t right that these people think
0:57:36 they’re going into these coaching
0:57:37 programs and their life is going to
0:57:38 change and then they get in there and
0:57:40 they’re totally lost there’s no one
0:57:42 accessible there’s no one available
0:57:44 there’s no one to help them i didn’t
0:57:46 start creating all this content talking
0:57:49 about like the coaching industry sucks and
0:57:51 there’s no support for people and i
0:57:53 didn’t say a word i literally was like
0:57:55 here’s what i’m doing about it and i did
0:57:58 it and then i sold what i was doing
0:58:02 and our business exploded so this isn’t
0:58:05 about pointing out or calling out what
0:58:07 other people are doing wrong this is about
0:58:09 identifying well what do you think could
0:58:12 be done better or different go and do it
0:58:15 and don’t run your mouth about it you
0:58:17 know share what you’re actually doing and
0:58:19 it is about critical thinking and it is
0:58:22 about going the extra mile and i say this
0:58:24 all the time that the extra mile is so
0:58:27 not crowded it’s crazy like it’s not
0:58:29 crowded so it’s really really busy down
0:58:33 here but like as you climb the ranks it
0:58:35 becomes easier and easier to stand out
0:58:36 because people are like there’s nothing
0:58:39 that compares because most people aren’t
0:58:42 willing to go the extra mile right i
0:58:45 totally agree so okay let’s talk about
0:58:47 how to actually come up with our
0:58:48 convictions and talk about some
0:58:50 actionable strategies to do that because
0:58:52 from my understanding it’s really about
0:58:55 identifying the gaps then figuring out
0:58:57 what’s wrong and then reframing that to
0:58:59 how you’re going to make it better so can
0:59:00 you kind of just walk us through some
0:59:01 steps we should take
0:59:04 yeah the first thing to do is to really
0:59:06 take yourself all the way back to the
0:59:08 beginning of when you decided to get
0:59:11 into business and the most important
0:59:14 thing is hopefully you are a consumer in
0:59:16 your own space or have been at some point
0:59:19 right so go all the way back to the
0:59:21 beginning of your experience doing what
0:59:24 you do and really ask yourself what was
0:59:26 the thing that compelled you more than
0:59:28 anything to kind of throw your hat in the
0:59:30 ring and say i’m going to start a business
0:59:36 doing x right typically when we decide to
0:59:38 go into a certain space there’s something
0:59:40 that we believe to be true there’s
0:59:43 something deep that’s driving us that makes
0:59:46 us feel that we can do something better or
0:59:49 different or at least that can compete with
0:59:51 all of the millions of other people that are
0:59:53 doing the same business we’re doing and in
0:59:55 their own way right and so it’s really going
0:59:57 back to the very beginning and saying well
0:59:59 what compelled you to even start this
1:00:02 business what made you to decide that you
1:00:04 are going to dedicate your life to doing this
1:00:06 thing that you’re doing and that’s a great
1:00:08 place to start because there’s usually a
1:00:11 pretty deep why there for people but what
1:00:12 happens is we get into our business and
1:00:14 we’re like starry-eyed and we’re so excited
1:00:16 and we’re so optimistic and we have all
1:00:18 these big ideas and we have this grand plan
1:00:21 for what we’re going to do and then life
1:00:23 like hits us like a map truck right because
1:00:27 we realize oh my gosh this is hard and when
1:00:29 when we realize this is hard that’s when
1:00:32 people start to push aside their their
1:00:35 deep passion their deep conviction their
1:00:38 big why and they start scrambling to kind
1:00:40 of like keep up with and do what’s being
1:00:42 done already because they want to be
1:00:45 competitive so you need to kind of like
1:00:49 almost like clean your palate I’ll say let
1:00:52 go of those things and return to the very
1:00:54 beginning of what compelled you to get
1:00:56 started in the first place what was your
1:00:58 big why what made you say I’m going to
1:01:00 dedicate my life to doing this thing that
1:01:01 I’m doing that’s your foundation
1:01:05 beautiful so I want to move on to the
1:01:06 third step of your framework which we
1:01:08 haven’t talked about at all and that’s
1:01:10 building your tribe so I know we only
1:01:13 have about 10 minutes left or less so tell
1:01:15 us about building your tribe and what are
1:01:18 the components of that yeah absolutely so
1:01:21 when you think about stickiness which
1:01:23 stickiness is the only way that you’re
1:01:25 going to get from the attraction all the
1:01:27 way over to the conversion again so what’s
1:01:29 the point of all of this the point is we
1:01:31 want to help you to be more effective at
1:01:33 attracting attracting people into your
1:01:35 ecosystem and ultimately converting them
1:01:37 into paying clients we want to help you
1:01:39 make your dreams come true that means that
1:01:41 you need to be really good at creating a
1:01:43 stickiness factor because it can take
1:01:44 people sometimes three months six months
1:01:47 nine months a year a year and a half to
1:01:49 work their way through your ecosystem some
1:01:51 people are going to buy in a day some
1:01:52 people are going to buy after studying
1:01:55 you for years at a time right so there has
1:01:58 to be a stickiness factor the stickiness
1:02:00 factor a lot of times is the tribe that you
1:02:02 create it’s the community it’s the brand
1:02:05 and this is about having common beliefs
1:02:08 common language common ways that you
1:02:11 think about the world common values right
1:02:13 which again of course go back to
1:02:16 conviction so you want to think about how
1:02:19 are you creating community what is the
1:02:21 belief system of your community what’s
1:02:23 kind of the code of ethics how do you
1:02:25 interact with each other what’s the
1:02:28 language that you use what do you believe
1:02:30 in your community and what are the pillars
1:02:32 of this community right and when you think
1:02:36 about that usually in any really tight
1:02:37 knit community there’s something that
1:02:40 people are raging against and there’s
1:02:41 something that people are fighting for
1:02:44 right and so what you want to think about
1:02:47 is what’s the common language that you’re
1:02:48 going to create that you’re going to get
1:02:50 everyone to kind of use and operate with
1:02:52 so it’s like we have this thing between us
1:02:56 that is common and sacred what is it that
1:02:59 you’re going to be rallying against and
1:03:00 what is it that you’re going to be
1:03:03 fighting for and again we’re not rallying
1:03:06 against people we’re not disparaging other
1:03:08 brands right we’re playing nice in the
1:03:11 sandbox you know but but you have to
1:03:13 understand what it is that you’re trying
1:03:16 to create a distinction around you have to
1:03:18 be really really clear when I launched the
1:03:21 live launch method and I started teaching
1:03:23 that what I really was rallying people
1:03:26 against was the complexity of technology
1:03:28 I said look I’m going to teach you how
1:03:31 to launch from your phone with no tech
1:03:34 tools no slides no outside tech team no
1:03:36 pre-reporting none of that stuff you’re
1:03:37 going to throw it all out the window and
1:03:39 you’re just going to show up live for
1:03:40 90s and you’re going to convert a million
1:03:42 dollars and and that’s what we were
1:03:44 rallying people against is this this
1:03:47 complexity that was standing in the way
1:03:49 of people being able to actually focus
1:03:51 on connecting with their audience which
1:03:53 is why they couldn’t convert because
1:03:55 they’re managing web slides and pre-record
1:03:57 and doing all these other things so
1:03:59 again this is we’re going to keep it
1:04:01 clean okay we’re going to keep it clean
1:04:03 you always want to think about building a
1:04:05 legacy body of work that you’ll be proud
1:04:08 of 5 10 15 years from now but you have
1:04:10 to understand the operating reality of
1:04:12 your people what are you fighting
1:04:14 against and what are you fighting for
1:04:18 right and make that a common language
1:04:20 and a common energy and you know get
1:04:22 everyone in a space where they don’t
1:04:24 want to disconnect from you and they
1:04:26 don’t want to disconnect from your
1:04:28 community because they feel a sense of
1:04:30 belonging they feel a sense of shared
1:04:34 values they have common language and
1:04:36 again they feel like their life is going
1:04:38 to be enhanced as a result of staying
1:04:40 connected to this community
1:04:42 could you just give us a few examples
1:04:44 of this language aspect that you’re
1:04:45 talking about because I just want to
1:04:46 make sure that’s clear
1:04:49 yeah it can be anything it can literally
1:04:51 be anything so like for me I picked the
1:04:53 word unstoppable and I literally
1:04:56 defined the word unstoppable and like
1:04:58 people will refer to me and they’ll say
1:05:00 she’s the unstoppable girl right because
1:05:03 I started so many years ago talking
1:05:04 about this word unstoppable and I
1:05:06 defined it as you know you’re
1:05:09 unstoppable if you’re a person that
1:05:12 despite setbacks and challenges and
1:05:14 chaos and turbulence and every reason
1:05:16 that you can make an excuse to fail
1:05:19 that you decide to keep fighting for
1:05:21 your dreams anyway and you don’t stop
1:05:23 taking action until you accomplish them
1:05:25 and I literally talked about this
1:05:28 hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of
1:05:29 times I wrote a book named
1:05:31 unstoppable I built the names of my
1:05:33 groups around it I built the name of my
1:05:35 program around it so it literally
1:05:37 created this tribe mentality of people
1:05:41 that suffered setbacks went through the
1:05:42 challenges went through all these
1:05:44 things but believe so deeply in their
1:05:46 goals and dreams that they’re making
1:05:49 them come true anyway you can pick any
1:05:52 word you can pick any language you can
1:05:54 pick anything you want but again this
1:05:56 is about taking a step back and not
1:06:00 trying to be or do or compare or compete
1:06:03 with anyone it is literally what are the
1:06:05 words that you want to build your
1:06:07 ecosystem around what is the mentality
1:06:10 that you want to have as a shared
1:06:12 mentality amongst you and ultimately
1:06:14 your clients what do you want that
1:06:17 relationship to be yeah and I think it
1:06:19 also kind of makes it like exclusive
1:06:21 because it’s like only if you know you
1:06:23 know like for example all my listeners
1:06:25 are called young and profiters and so
1:06:26 it’s like you only know that if you
1:06:28 listen to the show and all the other
1:06:30 young and profiters know that they’re
1:06:31 young and profiters you know so I feel
1:06:33 like it’s also that common language
1:06:35 that kind of bonds everyone in the
1:06:37 community so that it really feels like
1:06:39 a tribe so whether that’s like some
1:06:40 framework that you came up with that
1:06:43 has a specific name or phrase so I
1:06:45 totally agree there even your word
1:06:47 conviction marketing is is like one of
1:06:50 your tribe words I think so we don’t
1:06:51 have time to get into steps four and
1:06:53 five of your framework so everybody out
1:06:55 there make sure you go grab conviction
1:06:57 marketing February 22nd is there
1:06:59 anything you want to round out before
1:07:01 we move on to the last question of the
1:07:04 day no I would just say yeah absolutely
1:07:06 if if standing out and becoming a
1:07:08 category one brand is important to you
1:07:11 know that there’s a framework to do it
1:07:12 it’s going to take a little courage
1:07:14 right but it’s accessible to everyone
1:07:17 love it okay so the last couple of
1:07:19 questions that I ask all my guests is
1:07:22 first what is one actionable thing we
1:07:24 can do today to become more profiting
1:07:27 tomorrow connect with a human being
1:07:29 about your business I have too many
1:07:31 times to ask business owners that tell
1:07:32 me that they want to grow and I’ll say
1:07:33 well how many prospects did you actually
1:07:36 get on video or send a message to or
1:07:38 connect with this week and it’s like
1:07:40 zero so just go talk to another human
1:07:43 being love it great advice and what is
1:07:45 your secret to profiting in life
1:07:49 alignment it’s doing what I say I’m
1:07:51 going to do and acting in alignment
1:07:54 with what I want to experience very
1:07:56 clear crystal answer thank you so much
1:07:59 Kelly I loved this conversation I
1:08:00 admire you thank you so much for your
1:08:03 time it was an awesome conversation and
1:08:05 you guys can get on the waitlist for the
1:08:07 book at conviction marketing.com thank
1:08:08 you so much for having me hello thank you
1:08:15 thank you so much Kelly.
1:08:15 you

Marketing and social media weren’t part of Kelly Roach’s world when she grew up just above the poverty line in rural Pennsylvania. She cleaned toilets to pay for dance lessons and learned early that hustle trumps circumstance. That same grit propelled her from an entry-level sales desk to the youngest vice president at her Fortune 500 company in just eight years, landing the “impossible” accounts her peers had chased for years. Instead of settling, she rose at 5 a.m. to build a coaching side hustle that became an eight-figure enterprise guiding founders from six to seven figures. In this episode, Kelly unpacks her five-step Conviction Marketing framework and three-tier pyramid that turns ordinary how-to content into a category-of-one brand.

In this episode, Hala and Kelly will discuss:

(00:00) Introduction

(01:11) Kelly Roach’s Humble Beginnings

(05:20) Rising Through Corporate Ranks

(09:27) Building a Business While Working Full-Time

(10:16) The Importance of Sacrifice and Patience

(20:19) Conviction Marketing: The Book

(29:35) Identifying Industry Gaps and Building a Support Team

(30:10) Introduction to the Marketing Pyramid

(30:36) How-To Marketing

(32:57) Hope Marketing

(39:40) Conviction Marketing

(51:05) Building Your Tribe

Kelly Roach is the founder and CEO of Kelly Roach Coaching, creator of the Unstoppable Entrepreneur Program, and host of the top-20 marketing podcast The Kelly Roach Show. She is a bestselling author of four books, including Conviction Marketing. A trusted expert featured on ABC, NBC, Fox, and The CW, she equips entrepreneurs with the Live Launch Method, content marketing playbooks, and influencer marketing strategies to scale sustainably. Her work bridges the gap between Fortune 500 strategy and entrepreneurial agility, drawing from her background as an NFL cheerleader turned corporate executive.

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